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TitanUranus_88/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 02:49 AM
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TitanUranus_88/r/askMRP25/08/23 08:01 AM
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What’s keeping you from experiencing yourself ‘firing on all pistons’? Low sleep definitely not helping, but primarily one thing: Not leading my life. I saw it at work. Though feeling really low when I step in to lead what there is to lead and say what there is to say, the best of me emerges: power, freedom, engagement. I am who I love being, my best self. And I realised that with my wife I'm not leading, I'm not going for what I want and I'm not owning how much I love her. I'm trying to learn t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 01:15 AM
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Thanks, you are completely right and honestly I've been struggling. Got out of my funk now and it's been a bit of a yoyo.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 01:00 AM
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OYS #18 39YO, 1 Kid (9), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 199 Pounds, Squat: 190 x 12, DL: 252 x 12, Bench: 110 x 13, Press 77 x 13, Row 100 x 12 Current objectives 1) Learn to live for me and be my own judge 2) Develop my standards and stick to them 3) Develop a powerful frame Gym I switched to 70% 1RM and high rep count. The exercise and type of strain feels different (more burn) but the form is really clean and no pain. I will continue with this and progressively lower the rep count as I…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 11:05 AM
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All right. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 12:59 PM
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Thanks. There is one more thing you said I'm curious about: "Stop protecting your ego, be vulnerable". What does that look like to you? I'm not clear what you mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 09:49 AM
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This is nothing more than a Nice Guy’s shame and rationalisations. My instinct is to ignore this and I'll take your advice instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 03:52 AM
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Correct
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 03:39 AM
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u/Newfamilyia first, my apologies to you. Big time ego trip on my part and being a little bitch when you dissected my post. And yes, it was all validation seeking, thank you for calling it out. Second, let's go back to this: Dude, shut the fuck up about your moratorium. I have failed, there is no question about this. Up to now I have failed to grow fully into a competent man that goes after what he wants and does the work. A man who owns his shit consistently and is un-apologetic about how he li…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 03:38 AM
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Correct
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 02:54 AM
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Either way it’s 100% validation seeking garbage. Just shut up and do the work. Correct, and thanks for calling me out.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 02:50 AM
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Clear
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 02:49 AM
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If you want to be less of a simp then ACT like less of a simp and see how it feels. This is good. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 02:48 AM
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Well yeah, I dodged that slap in the face for months, and now that I allowed my self to receive it, it's quite the wake up call.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 02:47 AM
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Game that's coming from attraction and abundance works. "Game" that's coming from neediness, covert contracts, validation sucks and does not work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 02:57 PM
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Good effort, and really buddy, you put a good effort to show me how clever you are. Well done. Now go fuck your self. There is value in many of the things you write, thank you for your effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 01:59 PM
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Your reading comprehension skills need work, AND you are accidentally right about one thing: I have been a coward, the nice guy, try to manoeuvre my wife into having sex with me with disgusting covert contract "Game" is what a hopeless coward does. Not doing that any more. Besides, it does not work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 10:59 AM
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Well, fucking, deserved. ?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 10:59 AM
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OYS #17 39YO, 1 Kid (9), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 199 Pounds, Squat: 220 x 5, DL: 285 x 8, Bench: 140 x 5, Press 94 x 5, Row 140 x 10 Status Long story short: I have an hyper active fucking hamster and I’d do anything to not do the work for the exclusive reason that DOING THE WORK IS HARD. IT REQUIRES EFFORT, IT REQUIRES DISCIPLINE and most important IT REQUIRES CHANGE. Details down below for further discussion and they are not that important. The vets say: *Get ripped; *Have frame;…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 09:54 AM
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Copy, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 12:55 AM
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u/threekindsoflucky I'm looking at this and figuring out what's the bullshit that you see. Is it this: "but her libido for me has gone."? Or: "I’m a stay at home dad, I freelance part time so she is the breadwinner."? Or the overall pretence of a strategy to justify his shittiness? I see my self easily making a similar mistake and this is why I'm asking.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/24 08:41 AM
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I wouldn’t extrapolate your still-early individual MRP journey to explain the overall failure rate. Very good. I have just realised I have barely begun to open my eyes. The curtain is falling. what happened in your childhood that you needed to resolve? My father died when I was a small child. My mother went through a difficult patch between my 10th and 14th Years and I was terrified of her. Nothing over the top, but to a 10 YO a mom that goes from warm and couddly to unpredictable, protracted an…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/24 02:38 AM
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This is the way I am pursuing and I know from experience that experience truly changes perception fundamentally. I.e. what u/colderthandryice advocates has value because experiencing abundance would be very different from strongly believing I could experience abundance. This is a true dilemma for me as I really see value in being true to my word and I also see value in not doing that. For now the preference remains with staying true, besides I have serious work ahead of me, I've barely, barely b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/24 02:30 AM
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Yeap - I've been ridiculous about it. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 03:40 AM
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Now there may be many reasons you may not willing to cheat or leave, maybe you are not prepared if marriage ends, maybe its still the nice guy programming. Whatever it is fix it. If you are not prepared for divorce, prepare for it to the last letter. If you have some moral qualms to infidelity or divorce then get rid of them. If you have some misplaced oneitis to a woman who does not add value to your life, get rid of it. Dig deep and figure it out. Let's get real. There are two parts to why not…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 12:59 AM
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I think you are right about this. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 12:22 AM
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Don’t surrender to anything. Excellent reminder on the distinction, thanks. What I really surrendered was my shitty point of view to get closer in alignment to reality. Victim mentality. Knock that shit off. I am with you that playing victim never helps and I imagine that through sheer will one can just choose to not engage with that, and for me that did not work. I resolved my deep sense of insecurity and started to develop a positive self image and lost my neediness for sex and butt hurt at my…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 12:21 AM
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The point about marrying a woman who won't fuck me is very good. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 12:10 PM
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Thanks for the input. I hear what you say about congruence. For me, be clear, for me, not for you, cheating sucks. Like really sucks. It is what it is, no big deal, and for me it's a human failure. For me, my code. Not saying yours or anyone else's. And I've asked my self why I did not, perhaps with a different girl it would be a whole different story. If I was completely checked out of my marriage it may be a different story too, who knows. I didn't cheat. No big deal and I like it that way. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 12:06 PM
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OYS #16 39YO, 1 Kid (9), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 199 Pounds, Current focus is cardio and weight loss. Current objectives 1) Learn to live for me and be my own judge 2) Develop my standards and stick to them 3) Develop a powerful frame Eating my pride When I see a professionally unsuccessful man, someone scraping by, clearly unhappy, I often think something along the lines of: “With all the information available on-line, all the opportunities in the world, and the willingness of the…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 08:24 AM
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This is seriously excellent advice. Thank you, I appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 09:16 AM
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All on point and nothing to add. I will add less introspection to my objectives.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 02:53 PM
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Well right now the objective is a good physique, not outstanding, and even a good physique is not defined. I imagine it as significantly more mass and I don't know how much, and body fat around 15%? It's pretty vague. My point is that I want to start to clearly know and imagine what I'm working towards, rather than the vague "Hit the gym".
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 02:51 PM
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Everything you say is the truth, this is simple and straight forward, and I've noticed a certain fuck arounditis and I looked at what's missing and that's what I noticed. No big deal about it, just an un-helpful idea I am going to throw away.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 02:43 PM
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OYS #15 39YO, 1 Kid (9), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 200 Pounds, Mission Overarching mission: Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything it has to offer and sharing my self fully. Get up too cool shit with people I like. Have adventures, have fun. Current mission: My main mission is to create a highly successful business. Developing my self as a phenomenal entrepreneur and administrator, creating wealth for my self and my family. Securing my financial future and that…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 12:37 PM
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Try to separate lifting from cardio as much as possible. You mean as many hours as possible in between correct? I run in the morning. Gym is evening. Protein intake is always high. I have carbs but very controlled.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/24 07:59 AM
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My frame is shit, that's what it means. Thanks, this was helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 05:24 AM
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OYS #14 39YO, 1 Kid (9), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 200 Pounds, Greyskull LP Mission The mission section is under construction. Current objectives Learn to live for me and be my own judge Develop my standards and stick to them Develop a powerful frame Physical 25K trail race coming up in two months. Switched to weight loss and cardio for that. I’ll do my best to maintain weights in the gym and no more. Will be a better baseline to get back to full on lifting focus in March. Running 5-…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:57 PM
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She, she, she. Post in OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/24 07:54 AM
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Congrats on dropping 85lbs, well done. Honestly you have a very long way to go, you can divorce and that will simplify some things and complicate some other. Overall I think divorce will set you back, and that's my reflection given my own experience. Most certainly you do you and when you write: "Her rejecting me feels as bad as if she cheated on me. It’s really unforgivable for me." this indicates your wife not wanting to have sex with you is the least of your problem. If you don't solve this, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/24 02:26 AM
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The fact my wife does not want to have sex with me is not bad, she just does not want to have sex with me. It was bad when I was depended on the sex for my self worth, and it was bad when I believed my wife owed me sex. Look you are mad as hell, I get it, and that really does get in the way of thinking straight and making progress. You are mad things are not the way you thought they should be. Well that's exactly right, things are not the way you thought they should be. OYS every week for 1 year…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/24 02:08 PM
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Funny, same thing happened right this morning, she said no as we were waking up, and I was chilled and after a while I said: "I'm going to take off your clothes now." Then I did that and we had sex, and at the end she thank me. What I did not do was jump out of bed and say: "I'm hitting the gym, bye" though if that is what I really wanted to do without being butthurt it would have been OK to do so. I tried doing MRP for years without really dealing with my butt hurt and resentment to my wife, it…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/24 06:37 AM
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I accept the no, she does not owe me anything, really. For me that was critical and it took me a very long time to really get that. I can be with the no and I can still enjoy her and I can still seduce her. Her no does not have to stop me. Mind you I'm not being forceful, I'm just doing what feels natural. That evening after she was a no we were just lying together in bed. After the no we stayed there, I accepted the no and kept hanging out, I was enjoying her. Then I started to unbutton her top…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 06:24 AM
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It also helps to really notice complaints are absurd, and primarily a mechanism to soothe your self. There is nothing wrong with them, and they do not really serve you. They only keep you safe in the comfort zone with something/something to blame. Even if you STFU notice the ones inside your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 03:29 AM
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OYS # 12 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 205 Pounds, Squat: 220 x 8, DL: 285 x 10, Bench: 160 x 8, Press 94 x 8, Row 140 x 10 Greyskull LP Mission Live well for me. Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything its got to offer and sharing my self fully. Do what I want with the time I have on this earth and enjoy it. Contribute to the people I love. Current objectives Learn to live for me and be my own judge Develop my standards and stick to them Develop a …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 10:03 AM
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I have been learning to train my attention. It was an amazing discovery to realise that most of my life I've not really looked, or listened to just about anything, now you made me think about feeling. There is a difference between awareness and reaction. Being grounded in my experience is best and noticing without reacting/over reacting to the other is the part I am developing (Frame). In a practical sense what there is for me to do around sex is to be with my experience and also be with my wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 03:43 AM
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Really good. Cheers.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 01:59 AM
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Good, clear and simple. The part about looking for comfort is what I noticed too. Why do I look for comfort? It does not change anything besides soothing me, and if I train to respond to adversity with soothing I'm just training my self to indulge my weakness and avoid improvement. At some level I embraced my weaknesses and made them a virtue, and I did that so I could put the consequences of my shit onto other people ("Mommy wife, soothe me, I acknowledge I am weak, I'm so honest see? That mean…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 02:38 AM
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OYS #12 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 205 Pounds, Squat: 220 x 8, DL: 285 x 10, Bench: 160 x 8, Press 94 x 8, Row 140 x 10 Greyskull LP Mission Live well for me. Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything its got to offer and sharing my self fully. Do what I want with the time I have on this earth and enjoy it. Contribute to the people I love. Current objectives Learn to live for me and be my own judge Develop my standards and stick to them Develop a p…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 10:43 AM
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"You are trying". So long as you try you won't do it. Commit. If you want the shortcut: doing it is the answer. Because if you commit and do it, you will uncover what is not working and correct that. Ultimately commitment is always the answer for everything you want to accomplish in your life. Consider that 99% of the words you use to describe what is happening and why it's happening is just a mechanism to soothe your self from the fact you won't commit. -------- Personally I took a very long ro…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 01:33 AM
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Very good pointer. Re-read that and all the references, it will take some time to internalise this. Starting now.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 01:22 AM
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Tidy up the format of this illegible blob of text. Develop some standards for yourself starting from this. Part of me doesn't even want to go to the gym or eat healthy or write these posts You don't give a shit about yourself and it shows. Think about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 12:36 AM
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39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 205 Pounds, Squat: 220 x 8, DL: 285 x 10, Bench: 160 x 8, Press 94 x 8, Row 140 x 10 Greyskull LP Mission Master living. Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything its got to offer and sharing my self fully. Do what I want with the time I have on this earth and enjoy it. Contribute to the people I love. Current objectives Learn to live for me and be my own judge Develop my standards and stick to them Develop a powerful fra…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 02:24 PM
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My chest is underdeveloped and that's the primary reason for me still being fat, build that up and then cut, while minimising overall weight gain. The gym and the concept of proper form extended to all areas of my life, including my mental form, had a big impact for sure. I'm very grateful to this place, first time in 10 years my life has real direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/23 05:27 AM
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You had me at Serial Killer Board... I know what I'm going to say if this shit comes up again LOL. And u/HornsOfApathy is correct, this is just her dreading me / displaying options.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/23 05:03 AM
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Good question, and I see you have a view, please share it, I can only guess it from the punchline. I am not repressing the desire, it's there and I don't let it run me (like I used to). I'm curtailing the expectation of that desire being fulfilled in the very near term given the constraints I place my self under and my current circumstances. I'm not going to cheat, I'm not at a point where I want to divorce, though I am ready for it. My wife is not attracted right now, sex between us is very neg…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 03:06 AM
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Thanks, I got your encouragement.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 03:15 AM
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Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 03:15 AM
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I don't know what is a Dateline episode and it's something that comes out of her work set up. It's a corporate environment where she has a public profile and also deals with betabux clients. She gets this stuff because clients talk about her to her male colleagues and they send each other stuff like that. Do you remember how in highschool commenting on chicks is all you did with your buddies? This is it, just 50 - 60 YO betabux men and more retarded. This is not North America, so PC refrains do …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 12:45 AM
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OYS #10 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 205 Pounds, Squat: 210 x 8, DL: 265 x 12, Bench: 155 x 8, Press 91 x 7, Row 132 x 10 Greyskull LP Mission Live well for me. Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything its got to offer and sharing my self fully. Do what I want with the time I have on this earth and enjoy it. Contribute to the people I love. Current objectives Learn to live for me and be my own judge Develop my standards and stick to them Develop a p…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 08:52 AM
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You won't care, because you just want to feel good about them. What do you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/23 06:55 AM
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I'm doing that now. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/23 04:21 AM
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It means what it says. It's an experience. I am the centre of my life, me. I'm not living for something, I'm living for me, and from that all sorts of things emerge: I'm attracted by stuff, I'm committed to stuff and these things do not define me, they are just parts of my life. I don't need a higher purpose, me and my life is enough.* \And starting from this, I can even do some great things.*
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/23 04:09 AM
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Carrots... sticks... man we're fixated. Thank you for the encouragement.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/23 03:57 AM
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This does it for me and I appreciate your concern it's vague. I have direction and drive in pursuing what I care about now, it may change tomorrow and I may move the goal post if that is what I want. I'll take your encouragement to put measurable goals at the lower level, it's good to keep it honest, at the highest level there is no goal that is ever going to define me. There are no idols, life is ever changing and the goals too. I've made idols and suffered the pains of hell for that. Not doing…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/23 03:54 AM
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Thanks. Completely quit porn about 1 year ago and tapering off for 2 years. No masturbation either for similar timeline, and I'm thinking of re-introduce it to train my self around PE. My PE is almost certainly me getting tangled up in my wife's head and messing my experience for hers. I'll discuss with therapist and see. My guess is that if I go fucking completely for me and not with a target to please and my get validation/satisfaction through hers, there will be no PE. In previous LTR I also …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 09:40 AM
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Further notes on my meltdown Over the past 20 years I have built my whole life around LTRs. I could not see this. In hindsight it’s blatant, but I avoided seeing this while attempting to do MRP because my ego had something to cling to: I have business success, I have money, I have hobbies, I have a loving extended family, I have many friends, hell I look good etc, etc, so I’m good, just gotta learn some monkey skills. But all I really wanted was to have a woman validate I’m worth something, prim…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 08:38 AM
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OYS #9 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 204 Pounds, Squat: 205 x 8, DL: 245 x 12, Bench: 150 x 6, Press 85 x 9 Greyskull LP Objective Live well for me. Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything its got to offer and sharing my self fully. Do what I want with the time I have on this earth and enjoy it. Contribute to the people I love. Reading Ordered paper bak NMMNG. I’m going to read through and do all the exercises. I always skipped them, I have a big eg…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 08:36 AM
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"Put your plan into words and actions on who you want to be and what you see yourself becoming." This is what I don't know how to do. I'm going to learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 10:20 AM
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Thanks for not banning me, I had to crunch through this, it was eating me up inside. The honest way to make it about me is: "Wow, I really fucked up. My wife is ready to fuck another guy. I really don't know how to make an LTR work for my satisfaction. I'm not sure what to do about this. I don't know if it's too late to turn it around, I think I want to and I also don't want to obsess with it if in reality it's done. I really have to learn how to do things differently."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 10:13 AM
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This is the heart of the matter of what I am going to sort out.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 09:47 AM
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What stopped her does not matter, and if you care to know it was lack of time and opportunity. I have paused the downward mental spiral. Now I've stopped trying to avoid the pain that comes from seeing what I saw, and when the pain has settled I'll get to work. And thank you for your encouraging words, the first thing I'll do is just that, an honest assessment.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 09:35 AM
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I have read NMMNG several times and now I have the motivation to really internalise it at a deep, core level. I had a meltdown after writing this OYS. It was a necessary meltdown to see that while I've made some significant improvements at the surface level, at the core there are some ideas that really undermine the quality of my life. Intellectually I know that everything is 100% fair, I am 100% accountable for the results I have. In practice seeing AWALT with my own two eyes after 13 years of …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 09:27 AM
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But yeah you are right, I have nothing left to loose and there is something to be said for that. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 09:39 AM
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Thanks, I injured my shoulder 2 months ago and going for volume rather than load. I'll transition to weight as it heals, right now it's still not 100%, and yes, I'll fix it. My default is stay plan is go plan, and I need to be careful that that is really what I want to do, rather than another covert contract. With eyes open there is a strong argument for just killing it, what is against it is the high likelihood I'll just play the same tape all over again.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 09:38 AM
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OYS #8 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 203 Pounds, Squat: 230 x 5, DL: 245 x 5, Bench: 135 x 12, Press 65 x 12 Greyskull LP Gym Two weeks of international travel, jet lag and being sick, nothing happened at the gym. Did what I could where I could. Now back home and focussed again. Tidying up my shit This OYS contains stuff the may come across as messy, victim puke. I’m doing the work to tidy up my thoughts and put together a congruent plan, and stop ignoring the monstrosit…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 08:39 AM
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Interesting. I'm skewing to avoid negging / requesting compliance as she moves to late in her cycle as it avoids the drama, but I see the upside of strong emotions / strong attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 01:32 PM
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Shit tests: copy. When you say "Authentic", do you mean spending too much time thinking and bullshitting my self as opposed to just getting it done?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 01:30 PM
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OYS #7 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 204 Pounds, Squat: 230 x 8, DL: 265 x 8, Bench: 145 x 10, No press - injury. Greyskull LP Reading NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, RMY1, TWOTSM, Current: TRP Sidebar. Gym I have dropped the weight on bench press and increased reps to give time for my shoulder to fully recover. At lower weight form is very clean and no pain. It feels a lot better, I’m doing the physio work and it’s not 100% recovered yet. I wanted to start OHP again this past we…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 10:25 AM
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"All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 08:56 AM
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I definitely don't think the girl "wanted" to fuck him, she was just strongly attracted and had no control whatsoever over that. Part of the point is they have no control what so ever over what they are attracted to, though that offends our sentiments and hard work. This matter is no big deal, I wrote this simply because I'm disabusing my self of what works.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 04:35 AM
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I'm not throwing the word "Narcissist" around casually and this is why I bothered to write this FR. This was really something else, something I don't remember experiencing before. I have two data points that just don't match my wished for model. His wife was completely incongruent, completely. The reaction of the girl next to me was unmistakeable, she was attracted, strongly. Make what you want of it, personally I'm using my eyes and disabusing my opinions of what fosters attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 04:04 AM
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Clap, clap
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 03:53 AM
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And the guy did not impress me one bit, but the reaction he got, sure did.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 04:18 AM
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Could be: Really leaning forward, maintaining eye contact, repeatedly brushing hair in fast sequence, light blushing, re-initiating conversation after he dismissed her husband. The leaning forward was really interesting. The guy was loud, if anything you'd want to back off. She leaned in. Most of all it was the difference in behaviour between that and what she was like when having a regular friendly conversation with me. Pretty stark.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 04:17 AM
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Lol, this guys was Irish.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 03:10 AM
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OYS #6 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 204 Pounds, Squat: 230 x 8, DL: 265 x 8, Bench: 155 x 8, No press - injury. Greyskull LP Gym Really good progress healing my shoulder. No pain after 4 weeks non stop pain. One more week of recovery and strengthening and then back on program. Still doing DL and SQ. Relationship Good. Really looking and bringing to the open all my butt hurt has made a huge difference in my ability to be with my wife, I noticed a much better level of con…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 02:36 PM
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Re-defining terms I love my wife and don't want to blow up my family. My wife has a lot of training that I'm not great, because let me be honest, I have not been great. So this takes some time for both of us. If I jack up expectations suddenly, without the value to back it up, she will tell me to get fucked (and good for that, I have a wife with standards). So now I'm building up my value and I am giving her my value. Giving her my value is just me being around and being awesome, or for example …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/23 01:57 PM
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Thank you. Expectations in my marriage have been non existent and as I start to re-discover my value they are emerging of their own and something is starting to shift.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 01:45 AM
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I'm not tracking you. I'll give you a couple of examples: I bought my wife flowers for the birthday. I wanted to do that. She did not say a word about it. It's irrelevant, it's what I wanted to do. I got value, not sure she did or did not. I coached one of my guys at work, I gifted him my expertise. The guy got it and he got value, great. Had he not gotten it I would still be satisfied because I did what I wanted to, but I would still look at what at would need to do differently so it lands next…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 02:12 PM
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Really depends, all sorts of reason: gratefulness, this is fun, this will bring value, I will get value. The main theme I see is value, we will get value.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 11:26 AM
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Interesting question, what comes up is: "nothing really" and next time I'll feel like giving something I'll give it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 11:01 AM
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OYS #5 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 204 Pounds, Squat: 230 x 8, DL: 265 x 8, Bench: 155 x 8, No press - injury. Greyskull LP The Value of OYS This OYS was gold for me. I got one massive breakthrough in doing this, discovering, really seeing that I have ideas and mindsets that are not aligned to my objectives and that I can really throw them away, as opposed to pretend to Physical Progress at the gym is mixed. I’ve been going consistently, almost daily and I have develop…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 01:45 PM
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OYS #4 No OYS this week. I did not do the work, I got lazy. Back on track, update next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 05:58 AM
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Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/23 01:41 AM
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Game doesn't mean shit if you still reek of beta nice guy. Good summary. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 08:03 AM
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OYS #3 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 202 Pounds, Squat: 187.5 x 8, DL: 200 x 12, Bench: 145 x 8, Press 110 x 8 Greyskull LP Reading MMSLP Fitness Gym on track, like clockwork. Diet: now protein intake is fine, calories too high, what is missing is a clean breakfast. Too many calories eating crap take aways in the morning . All my other meals are clean. Mission In short: Have a grand time with this life I’ve got. Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everythi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 03:03 AM
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Thank you for your questions. Why do you think you’re not good enough? What qualities about you make you worried? Put your energy into fixing those things. I handled the issues of self worth pretty comprehensively in the past few years, primarily through personal development. I still react to some stuff and when it happens more and more the answer is to simply say "Fuck this" and just not get caught up it. When I wrote this post I was caught up into something, but I was really just grappling wit…
/r/askMRP28/08/23 05:05 AM
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/r/askMRP28/08/23 04:46 AM
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/r/askMRP28/08/23 04:45 AM
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/r/askMRP25/08/23 10:03 AM
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The STFU part is the difference. Thanks
/r/askMRP25/08/23 08:38 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 07:01 AM
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You mean it’s not “congruent”. This is helpful. Thanks ​ Try this with zero game and you’ll find out what a real covert contract is. This I don't get. Say more. I'm looking at my bullshit around seduction, there is some bullshit going on. I'm not clear yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 01:27 AM
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OYS 2 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 201 Pounds, Squat: 175 x 8, DL: 210 x 12, Bench: 135 x 9, Press 90 x 10 (Greyskull LP) Reading No More Mr Nice Guy Fitness Gym on track, like clockwork.Diet no. Need more protein and better calorie control. Mission In short: Have a grand time with this life I’ve got.Live my own life fully, without constraint, taking everything its got to offer and sharing my self fully. Do what I want with the time I have on this earth and enjoy it. Co…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 09:59 AM
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This is really useful. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 03:22 AM
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At the Gym it’s Greyskull LP Don't obsess over the 15 lbs, if you "only" drop 10 but gain 5 lbs of muscle you're way ahead of simply dropping 15 lbs of fat. The online consensus seems lean gains are difficult to accomplish and standard suggestion is cut or bulk. My problem is I don’t have experience, I simply need to do anything with discipline and course correct from there. What do you suggest in terms of macro targets stay at TDEE and simply ensure 1 G protein/pound? Stop doing that. Stopped a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/23 11:59 PM
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OYS # 1 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 200 Pounds, Squat 200, Deadlift 250, Bench 160, Press 100. Status My whole life for the past 7 years and longer has been a giant cover contract that says: “If take the correct actions to get my wife’s pussy, I’ll get it, and then I’ll be happy and my life will make sense.” I attempted MRP 4 years ago and failed utterly and miserably for two reasons: I resisted it; The giant covert contract is what tried MRP. I’m coming back here beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 02:44 PM
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OYS 1 39YO, 1 Kid (8), Married 10 years, Height 6’2’, Weight 200 Pounds, Squat 200, Deadlift 250, Bench 160, Press 100. Status My whole life for the past 7 years and longer has been a giant cover contract that says: “If take the correct actions to get my wife’s pussy, I’ll get it, and then I’ll be happy and my life will make sense.” I attempted MRP 4 years ago and failed utterly and miserably for two reasons: 1) I resisted it; 2) The giant covert contract is what tried MRP. I’m coming back here …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 02:35 PM
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