Tjamandearl Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
27	College game vs. Adult game		Tjamandearl	/r/seduction	25/11/13 12:18 PM
16	[FR] From Tinder to first date, then real emergency to F-close!	Field Report	Tjamandearl	/r/seduction	20/09/13 08:27 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Would you rather smash or be in a relationship? I don't believe in looking for relationships; the best ones just happen and always go faster than you had planned. I fell into a relationship pretty soon after getting out of one recently (after a few weeks of hoeing). I hadn't planned it, and hadn't expected anything more with the girl. I wouldn't describe myself as a relationship person, but I prefer great sex with 1 person to okay sex with many. And that's not mentioning the emotional benefits. I haven't been seeing this girl for long, but I …	/r/seduction	04/04/17 07:03 PM
2	My simple guide on how to meet a girl on Tinder. Nah, I was doing well off tinder at 17/18 in the UK just after it came out. In fact, I think tinder was better then, as people truly used it as a dating/hookup app instead of a self esteem boost and attractiveness indicator.	/r/seduction	10/09/16 06:54 AM
2	What is a teen to do when he no real friends or social outlets during the holidays? You are fucking set. Keep plugging away at all that shit and you'll be a more complete man than me. Assuming finger picking refers to guitar, it will be an awesome way to meet girls, as well as demonstrate value. I don't know how lax your parents are, but if they're chill then choose a gig to go to yourself with a couple of friends. It will be so worth it. German is a great language to speak and opens a whole world of hot girls. Save up some money and take a trip around Germany and Austria with …	/r/seduction	18/06/16 01:04 AM
3	What is a teen to do when he no real friends or social outlets during the holidays? Hey man, I understand where you are and what you're trying to do. I was there once, and in some sense still am. What do you truly enjoy doing? What are you excited by? What are your dreams? Places to go, languages to speak, gigs to see, instruments to play, gym goals? Start from here. Work out who you want to be; not what but who. Find hobbies that interest you and meet girls through them. I wish I had followed through with more hobbies when I was younger. It's the best way to meet people you ca…	/r/seduction	17/06/16 02:48 PM
1	Tinder and you: a brief guide to success I am going to disagree with the shirtless photos. As a 20 year old with a decent body (post history), I have had girls say they matched me for my body/ they loved the abs picture. These same girls required very little effort to lay. In fact, even the girls I've seen multiple times from Tinder mention their enjoyment of the photo. Having said that, the write up is great. I'd advise all to download 'Everywhere for Tinder' and use it to preselect girls for areas before going on holiday. It has work…	/r/seduction	22/02/16 10:15 PM
3	[FR] Went out picking up girls alone after being out of the game a while, multiple rejections of one girl and a # close of the other. Absolute shout on the jealousy. Why would a girl put any effort into someone they don't care about? She wants you to pay her more attention, whether that be with your penis or with your affection.	/r/seduction	23/01/16 05:52 PM
1	Looking for a complete guide As mentioned by others: Models by Mark Manson Book of Pook Check out the sidebar and the wiki. The newbie threads are awesome and I still go back to them for motivation and recaps.	/r/seduction	25/09/15 07:45 PM
6	Good spots in London As a successful uni student now in a relationship, I hopefully can give some good recommendations. I generally got numbers at a club and laid on the first date, but my day game was pretty active too. This may not all fit your request, but I hope it can be put to good use, as I'm out of the country for the year. Pick-up Hyde park + Regents park are perfect day game spots. As for bars, cruising around Soho and East London (Queen of Hoxton went well for me. Clubwise, student clubs are your best bet…	/r/seduction	08/09/15 07:29 PM
2	Handsome guys of Seddit, can you easily get girls just by your looks? I believe I am an attractive man (physically and otherwise), and hope that my looks do count - the biggest sign that looks must matter is Tinder. Tinder matches prove that girls do differentiate on looks; I have had a few girls match with me, chat for a little bit, and then have bootycalled them or taken them for a single drink and back to theirs. On the other hand, if you yourself are a shop, your physical attractiveness is a window display. A beautiful and well thought out display engages cust…	/r/seduction	06/07/15 09:23 PM
1	How to deal with a girlfriend who accidentally leads people on? This guy has it right. You are the prize; her workmate is just a toy. Even if your girlfriend knows he likes her and that she is flirting, she is with you and that proves you are better. Keep playing your game, keep talking to other girls (don't make her the only part of your life), and don't show her you are jealous.	/r/seduction	30/06/15 04:10 PM
1	How to respond to "I have a boyfriend" when she likely actually does and it isn't just a random girl who you will never see again? Completely with you there. 'I have a boyfriend' is a 'no, thank you', whether it's true or not. How many girls who cheat bring up their boyfriend early on in the conversation?	/r/seduction	27/02/15 06:16 PM
2	Exchange Student from USA in Europe--Tips? Hadn't read; is it a school exchange? If so just chill with the person and be gregarious. Meet all their friends and all their friends' friends. You are the exciting new person.	/r/seduction	27/12/14 08:37 PM
1	Exchange Student from USA in Europe--Tips? Dance and use stupid german. If you're having fun it doesn't matter what happens and she will be more receptive. How good is your german?	/r/seduction	27/12/14 08:36 PM
2	How to get confident sexually? A German friend said to me that sometimes you just have to 'Genieß es' (enjoy it). Enjoy her body and yours, the sounds, and the sensations sex provides. Immersion is what makes great sex, when you are so into it that nothing else matters and you become part of each other. That is intense. Maybe you need more foreplay, maybe you need to be teased before, but I think you just need to find a girl you want so bad that you don't care how she sees you, you just have to have her	/r/seduction	15/12/14 06:07 PM
31	Fuck Yes or No (xpost /r/how not to give a fuck) One of my favourite articles to date. It really sums up Mark's ideals, that game (and life) is about what you truly want, not what others want you to want.	/r/seduction	15/12/14 06:02 PM
1	How can I be more polarizing and lead a more attractive lifestyle? Studies show that sleeping in multiples of 1.5 hours (so 4.5, 6, 7.5, 9 etc) is far more effective as you don't wake up in the middle of a sleep cycle. Apparently you should set your alarm for (1.5x + 0.25) hours (e.g 9.25 hours) away from when you get into bed, as the average person takes 15mins to properly settle down.	/r/seduction	06/11/14 11:05 AM
7	acne in certain areas on my body are making me insecure about having sex Don't worry about it. If she's come home with you and you are both taking your clothes off, it's almost certain. I am a pretty vain guy, but I'm slowly realising this myself; if my body is out, I'm either at the beach or I'm about to fuck. However, it obviously affects how you look at yourself, and so I'd recommend doing something about it, whether that's accutane or major hygiene and diet changes. Best of luck! Edit: just read that you are in fact doing something about it. Sozboz.	/r/seduction	05/11/14 08:12 PM
20	Sedditors who have improved. What have you done or changed that has had the most positive impact on your game? I love the gym. I weightlift (olympic) and so it isn't a grind, but a daily release and challenge I look forward too. In the last week I slept with 3 women. 1 I had never met before, one who recognised me from social events, and one who's heart I broke and who I am kinda dating atm. In all of those cases, the secret was pulling the trigger. Don't be afraid to leave the club, tell her that you (plural) are going, and she will follow. Finally, a quote from my favourite poem: Walk like a God, and y…	/r/seduction	06/10/14 02:15 PM
1	Hi /r/seduction. I'm wondering: How much the "game" changed yourself, and how much do you regret it (if you regret it at all) ? To echo Daygamecoach, the game allowed me to express my true self better. Who we are changes day by day; I am certainly not the same 'me' as when I was 13, but my core values and core attributes shine better when presented with the confidence game has given me.	/r/seduction	30/09/14 03:18 PM
1	How often do you go out? And how many hours per night on average? I sleep for 12 hours on weekends. But sleep is traded off for better times when awake; read chaos and pains 'gains on a slave diet' (or similarly titled article) on how we need less than we have. (Too lazy to link on mobile, sorry!)	/r/seduction	30/09/14 01:50 PM
1	How often do you go out? And how many hours per night on average? High school or college football? I lift 5 days a week and still get 1sts (I guess that translates to a 3.8+ Gpa?) I just don't have down time. I don't see myself looking back fondly at watching reruns of friends, but instead remembering competitions or fantastic dates. Mostly I plan ahead a lot. This week I know exactly when I am training and what I am doing, then what bus I am getting back and when I'm going out. I cooked all my lunches on Sunday and make my rice while I shower and dress to bri…	/r/seduction	30/09/14 01:23 PM
2	How often do you go out? And how many hours per night on average? I agree wholeheartedly. I have the theory that you can only ever be good or great at 3 to 4 'things" in your life, and if you want to succeed in those you must focus. I have chosen my studies, social life, and weightlifting. Hopefully I can fit in everything else, but game seems to slot nicely into the university lifestyle and doesn't require much effort.	/r/seduction	29/09/14 10:14 PM
2	How often do you go out? And how many hours per night on average? I am a student in London, but also a keen weightlifter, so it varies. My housemate loves the sarge, so we often go out together to pick up girls. I also run a society and so go out with them as well as with my friends. I go out 3 times a week (clubs) and date 2 times a week on average. They can last from 2 to 5 hours depending on location. However, I am both worried about time commitments and I am interested in one particular girl at the moment so that may all change.	/r/seduction	29/09/14 06:58 PM
1	Club promoting tips? I know it, don't go often but it sounds like you offer good deals. From what I've heard from other promoters, you have to be shameless in your pursuit of clients to make good money.	/r/seduction	05/09/14 09:05 PM
1	Club promoting tips? Hey, London student here. Which club and what do you 'offer'? This will make a big difference to who you ask and what you do. Girls. Girls bring girls to clubs. Girls bring guys to clubs. Girls want a club full of girls, so do guys. Become friendly with mutltiple large circles of girls, approach attractive girls on the street and befriend then, and then you're golden.	/r/seduction	05/09/14 04:49 PM
1	What do you think is more important, a car or your own place? Having my own place was the big step for me. It gave me the freedom not to worry at the end of the night, not to have to find a hotel or take the girl to a park (classy I know.) Fortunately I am a student in London in term time, so almost no girls or guys have cars and public transport is the norm. However at home there are neither 24/7 buses nor a private room and therefore f-closing without massive prior planning and star alignment causing an empty house is hard. I understand the US is differe…	/r/seduction	31/08/14 08:53 PM
1	Heard of Ikigai? This is the reason that makes you wake up in the morning. And makes you attractive. Incredible book! It could be recommended (light)reading for the subreddit.	/r/seduction	05/08/14 08:45 PM
7	19yo British Guy heading to the States for 3 months. Could use a few pointers from the Americans! As an 18yo British guy who has spent a reasonable amount time with American girls from 18-21, they seem to expect a lot more direct approach than the English norm. Having said that, they are much better dancers than our girls.	/r/seduction	24/05/14 10:50 PM
-2	[FR] First date. Lost a bet and now I can't touch her for a month. Please give me your advice! Fuck dates; do what you want, not what others expect you to do.	/r/seduction	27/02/14 02:57 AM
1	College game vs. Adult game Just to clarify, I have heard back from f closes - one I dislike and am out of contact with, one I still hook up with. I meant girls I text and ask out for whatever activity.	/r/seduction	25/11/13 03:35 PM
3	College game vs. Adult game Like all men I would love to say that I am great in bed, but I am in contact with both (one I dislike and one I continue to link up with) and so hope that, although improvement should always be sought, that isn't the root of my problem. The first bit was what I truly was looking for, I guess an affirmation of my guess that I should seek more casual game in uni and not more formal dates. Thanks for the advice.	/r/seduction	25/11/13 03:33 PM
1	College game vs. Adult game That fits the template text for me: A joke that we share, suggestion of drinks/coffee then the demand of place and time. No questions included of course.	/r/seduction	25/11/13 03:28 PM
1	College game vs. Adult game Sadly that may be true. Coffee didn't happen with 2 girls, but managed drinks then k close with different girls. I question whether it is just the numbers game aspect that I'm unduly worrying over, some girls may not like me and if so we wouldn't have got on anyway.	/r/seduction	25/11/13 03:27 PM
1	What is your biggest fear or sticking point currently? For me there are two, somehow smelling bad? I have never had a BO problem so it's really irrational. Secondly falling for a girl and her rejecting me.	/r/seduction	30/10/13 01:34 PM
2	How old are you guys? I am also 18, and I am glad you made this move. I think the techniques you can learn here affect far more than just how many girls you lay and could really land you a better job through improved interviewing and so on.	/r/seduction	25/09/13 05:48 PM
2	Common mantras list. I am clever enough. I am attractive enough. I am the prize. 3 repeats of this and it kills my AA, I find self-assertions really help me get into 'state' and ready for action.	/r/seduction	10/09/13 04:33 PM
1	What to do when you forget her name I may be late to the party, but what I've always done is: Me: "Sorry, I can't quite remember your name." HB8: "It's HB" Me: "Haha no, cheeky smirk I meant your surname!" HB8: "Oh... that's 8" You shouldn't lose face, and you get both names.	/r/seduction	13/08/13 09:30 PM