I dont have a daughter, is it weird to think your daughter is hot? Not be sexually attracted to her, mind you, but just to look at her and think "damn"? Obviously admitting it publicly is the wrong way to go, no arguement there, but surely hot girl dads have to realize their daughter is hot.
Having a pole and working as a dancer are separate. My wife works as a tech writer, she had a pole for a hot minute because it's a good exercise, and she enjoyed it.
The man provides and protects the woman. He goes out and collects the resources, the really dangerous part. Brings them back and lets the wife do what needs to be done with them.