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Todd-Valentine/r/seduction06/12/17 08:02 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate it. Will definitely check back in and answer a few more when I have time. For anyone whose question I don't get too, please don't feel neglected. There are lots of places around the internet and in person where I'll be available for questions in the future.
/r/seduction10/12/17 12:07 AM
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It's high risk, high reward... but it's also a "leveling" behavior. Leveling is a complicated topic, but it basically means it will tend to work well with girls of a certain caliber by not so much with girls of a higher caliber. You could argue that high risk/high reward is worth it, but I would disagree on the grounds that the girls that respond to the gimmicky high/risk stuff would have ALSO responded to "solid" high percentage game in virtually all cases.
/r/seduction08/12/17 05:12 PM
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That's a really long answer. I once created a whole product about that, which was recently taken away from me. If you can get your hands on a copy of Text and Dates Machine, I highly recommend it. This video from my old YouTube channel that a fan saved is a good primer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=duS5Ppb39T4
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:29 PM
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Be super social and open for adventure. Say yes to the random, unpredictable, situation. That said, don't get dead... there are fewer safety nets in that part of the world and I saw some scary stuff when I was there.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:27 PM
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I think there are a lot of guys who did things they shouldn't have... and there's been a backlash of some girls making some wild accusations... that said... I barely follow the news, so I'm getting most of this second hand. The power women have over men by making an unproven accusation is very scary. I think we need ACTUAL gender equality, rather than policies that favor females based on the argument that we need to make up for the past somehow. You can't cast men as guilty by virtue of having a…
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:25 PM
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I was a good athlete, and I wasn't popular, but I was "respected". People knew I was smart and good at things. I had girls into me, but it was because of things they'd seen me do, rather than interactions I'd actually had with them. I was a little socially hindered by the fact that I went to a small private school that was a 20 minute drive from where I lived and about 40 minutes from where my classmates lived, so I never really hung out with anybody outside of school events.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:21 PM
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I think the mixing of structured and unstructured game is a big one. There are a lot of solutions in terms of creating premises for the approach and handling logistics. There is also a lot of psychology that has never really been applied at all.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:18 PM
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No idea... apologize or claim that she misheard you??? Hard to do if it's "or two". Stop using racial slurs.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:16 PM
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It would be pretty lame. I talk about the epic ones. Actually one I've barely ever shared... I won an AMOG battle by suggesting we all have a threesome and making the other guy sexually uncomfortable so he gave up and I took the girl home.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:15 PM
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It's in the 300-400 range, but I haven't had an accurate count since about 60 because I've never considered the number all that important. That's actually pretty low for someone of my skillset because I have always tended to keep girls around and have semi-long-term relationships (albeit with multiple girls at the same time).
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:12 PM
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10 years... hopefully Todd has brought some rationality to the whole thing. 50 years... who even knows what the world will be like at that point?
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:10 PM
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You're the same age (approximately) as all the other freshmen, so get that out of your head. You can do an Immersion program at 18 (I've had many happy 18-year-old clients), but we do go to bars for the night game sessions, so that's less than ideal in terms of getting the full value for your money. If you're interested in coaching, contact me at [email protected] and we can talk about something more customized to your needs and age.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:09 PM
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Awesome man. Glad to hear it!
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:06 PM
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I don't understand why it's "a rock in your back". The process of rationally considering alternatives is a good one, but don't belabor the process to the point that it becomes painful. You don't have to get every decision perfect and not every decision is even that important. Try to focus on the ones that are... lots on this in my FREE course https://toddwinnergame.com
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:06 PM
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So so many. The biggest one probably isn't even a 'change' because my dad taught it to me so young. That would be the mindset to trust my own judgement and believe I could learn anything with the right resources. Having a default belief of competence rather than helplessness (which a lot of people have) is huge in life.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:03 PM
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Opening and hooking. You can't even work on anything else unless you do those first.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:01 PM
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Change your criteria for short-term success. Note the "term short-term". I'm not saying to settle for less in the long term or to give up on your goals... what I am saying is understand that major progress happens in minor steps. So focus on the small steps as victories.
/r/seduction07/12/17 05:01 PM
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Don't try to solve everything overnight. Just get 1% better each day. If you look super young, consider dressing "older" or growing facial hair. Definitely keep hitting the gym. As far as social action... start small. Just start saying hi and bye to everyone, but ESPECIALLY to girls you like. And then... and this is important... EMBRACE EVERY VICTORY!... if you stay in conversation for 20 seconds with a cute girl... VICTORY. If you were scared to approach and did it anyway... VICTORY. Start the …
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:59 PM
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Answered elsewhere in the AMA I think... I meditate, and I think it's a good habit, but I do it as a "secular" thing and I don't think it's changing my life in some mystical or spiritual way... just a physical and practical one.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:55 PM
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Yes, it can help with all of that. Just remember that there is a context for everything so not everything is globally applicable. Check out my approach anxiety course inside my FREE course winnergame: https://toddwinnergame.com
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:55 PM
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May as well stay close and see what happens, I'd be open to seeing other girls in the meantime though, given the distance. As far as how to actually do it... Skype/Facetime or phone is your best friend. Doing long distance via text is not a good plan. Also, get your social media up to snuff... great way to remind her of your value from afar.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:52 PM
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Do a mix of just relax and "go for it" and trying to add some technique/theory. Add 1-2 little bits of theory at a time... don't try to do it all at once and don't try to be perfect.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:51 PM
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I might one day. Let me rebuild my dating business first though, okay? ;)
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:45 PM
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Bootcamps aren't bad (if taught well). As someone mentioned below, I prefer the Immersion model: http://toddimmersion.com but the coach matters more than the structure. If you're growing ONLY through shifts in mindset, you're missing a lot of possible growth. You should be growing by mindset and technique SIMULTANEOUSLY.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:44 PM
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Technically no, I only approach attractive ones, so it's not "completely random". But yes, they are total strangers. And most of them appreciate it... and some of them sleep with me and become my girlfriends etc. For getting over approach anxiety check out my FREE course http://toddwinnergame.com There is a huge segment on approach anxiety and an action plan for conquering it.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:41 PM
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I wish the world knew the whole truth. Fortunately the court records are open here: https://www.pacermonitor.com/public/case/22296890/VanDeHey_v_Real_Social_Dynamics,_Inc_et_al Unfortunately talking about things publicly is not wise during the lawsuit.
/r/seduction07/12/17 04:38 PM
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Hey guys... these questions have been amazing and extensive. I will get to them all over the next day or so, but I have an urgent matter to attend to RIGHT NOW. If I haven't gotten to your question yet, please be patient. I will answer it.
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:55 AM
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see my most recent video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0KmrAwHiWM&t=2s Basically keep growing in areas outside of game, and stay generally social even if you're not actively "closing".
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:37 AM
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I'm in favor of having them... just use a condom and don't stick your dick in crazy ;)
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:35 AM
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Yes to all three questions... with the caveat on #3 that you still need to be somewhat consistent and you need to make your practice time effective.
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:35 AM
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I can't answer the court questions, but I will post the link here for anyone who wants to follow the case as it unfolds: https://www.pacermonitor.com/public/case/22296890/VanDeHey_v_Real_Social_Dynamics,_Inc_et_al All of the different programs you suggest have appeal and are something I may consider in the future. I may release something more along the lines of a structured game product, but I do want to be clear that I'm not a proponent of game based exclusively on canned routines. I think stru…
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:34 AM
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I look at the overall situation and try to ask myself, based on experience, why she's not responding. Then I try to ping texts specific to that. So if I think she is worried about being slutty I might text her more friendly and less toward making plans, and I might make the plans in a public place with a group. If I think I messed something up and she lost some attraction, I might be more flirty and build tension instead etc.
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:27 AM
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The goal was to grow the dating business and start a new investment fund, raise my child impeccably and keep learning everything I can about the world. Recent events have forced me to focus more on self-preservation than self-actualization, but I hope to be able to take a more expansive view again in the near future.
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:23 AM
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Upright Citizens Brigade for Improv... For going out by yourself, try to take the pressure off. Just say hi to some people you aren't sexually attracted to and start talking. You'll either get warmed up or bored. Either way you'll be ready to talk to someone you are attracted to next.
/r/seduction07/12/17 12:00 AM
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BOTH. Either model (as currently understood) has both strengths and weaknesses. Learn the best of both!
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:55 PM
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Yes. I plan to teach ALL aspects of game. Both structured and unstructured styles. My best tips for grooming and fashion is to keep your eyes open for what the guys who are getting laid are wearing/doing and be willing to ask them about it. In particular, pick guys who are similar demographic to yourself.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:55 PM
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Not married just very serious long term girlfriend with child... but yes I did game her.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:53 PM
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seed, frame, qualify, lead... 4 step process
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:52 PM
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That's a long answer but... Stay out of the customer frame (ideally without just appearing cheap), give them a strong reason to see you outside the club (even if it's not entirely "alpha"), avoid things that are red flags for them or could get them in trouble.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:51 PM
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Well, I destroyed my GPA in college by gaming too much, so do as I say, not as I did :P With everything you do. Try to find ways to work smarter rather than harder. Find better study methods and save time. Make your game practice focused, so you learn more in fewer hours. Integrate dating with your life... bring your girlfriend to the gym with you, for example. When you're outside of school and in the business world, you can go further by outsourcing your work to others... but in school that's a…
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:50 PM
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http://toddimmersion.com or [email protected] for customized or 1-on-1 coaching interest
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:46 PM
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Yes, exactly. That's an excellent understanding of the model.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:46 PM
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I'm not experienced enough with them to give an expert opinion.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:45 PM
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Lots of stuff in that... but the biggest thing I'd suggest to you is sit down and EXPLICITLY WRITE OUT what you want out of game and life. Then the answers are a lot more simple. If it gets you closer to what you want, do it. If not, don't.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:44 PM
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It depends how much connection and commitment there was in set (and how much you like the girl). If the set was very intimate, you're right that talking to other girls in front of her could be an issue. However, on the other hand, if it was that intimate, why aren't you still talking to her? :P
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:43 PM
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I'll answer 1,7,10 briefly. The current political correctness trend scares the shit out of me. Not just for pickup... for the world. It's one of the most dangerous things I've ever seen and nobody takes it seriously as a threat. Yes, you should personalize your style to who you are and to who the girl is. Massive parallels to what Waitzkin teaches and game. Are of Learning is an amazing book for game.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:41 PM
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MAKE A MOVE. Ideally though, not a HUGE move. Make a small move and gauge her reaction... then go from there.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:38 PM
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Take a small risk. If it works, you haven't crossed the line. Take another. If it works, you haven't crossed the line... repeat. Once you figure out where the line is (by crossing it a couple times with previous girls) stop crossing it. If/when you cross the line, apologize and move on. If you barely crossed it and the interaction was good before, you're still probably in a good situation.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:37 PM
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My dad had some videos when I was a kid (I found them lying around)... better sex series or something like that. I'm sure there are plenty of similar programs with good advice. Beyond that, listen to the woman and be receptive to what she likes and doesn't like.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:35 PM
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You have to approach indirectly if you're an outsider, because a lot of (most) guys will kick you out of their table if you come hit on their girls. I'd try to figure out a way to get invited to the table, OR to get a girl's attention from distance or when she leaves the table. Best is to befriend the guys if possible, though. If you're in those environments often, you can play the slow game. Meet the guys (and girls) over time.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:33 PM
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Lol... do you want me to ask it and also answer it? :P Improv and dance are huge, any hobby is good. I don't play music or do art, but if you do, it's cool. Playing sports is definitely underrated for personal growth in general.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:30 PM
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In general, people will be more friendly on a campus than in the real world (due to assumed commonality), so your opener can be more casual. It doesn't have to hit as hard or get to the point as quickly.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:29 PM
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Get hobbies, say hi and bye to everyone, say yes to social invitations. Take an improv course if possible. Be willing to be an organizer of events and do favors for people (without being walked all over, of course).
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:28 PM
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Talk to MORE girls, and talk to guys as well. If you only talk to the hot girls, you'll get a reputation. If you talk to everyone, you'll be fine. Also don't use the same lines on every girl.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:25 PM
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Answered this elsewhere in the AMA, but I was NOT good at that age at all.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:24 PM
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I don't have a lot of personal experience gaming in Latin America, but my friends who have been there say it's amazing. I think most of the pickup guys don't speak Spanish, I do, and my coaches do, so maybe we'll be there soon ;).
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:23 PM
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Get better logistics. Pull to her place. Ask a friend to use his place. Can't recommend public sex due to legality and the fact this is in writing. Do day 2s.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:22 PM
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That's not a question, it's a statement... actually it's a complaint ;). You said you're scared to approach. Fix that. You're annoyed you have to work hard in the gym while those guys have it naturally... don't be. In 10 years they'll be fat and you'll be in shape. Also, how do you know they aren't working out also?? I'm sure you have some advantages they don't. Like access to me and my videos for example ;). Rather than complaining about what you don't have. Make the most of what you do, and co…
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:15 PM
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Just do it when you can. On lunch break, on the train, on the weekend, 30 mins/day after work... etc. It doesn't have to be A LOT, but it does have to be somewhat regular.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:12 PM
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For figuring out what a girl wants in bed, your best bet is "trial and error". Do something, and if she seems to like it, do more. Of course, with experience, you'll have a much better idea of which things to try. The thing about the date (I think) was the idea that girls don't notice the "absolute" feeling of the situation so much as the "relative" feeling... so it's actually better to start your dates lower energy and a little awkward, so that the feeling the girl gets is one of feeling better…
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:11 PM
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Unfortunately, this is a really difficult question to answer without seeing you in person. My best guess is that you need to learn to flirt better, and that you may come off as slightly needy or having an agenda when it comes to escalation. I promise I'll make a flirting video soon. Sorry I can't point you to it now, I had a really good one, but it was taken down :(.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:07 PM
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Bootcamps are decent... I like this structure better: http://toddimmersion.com The reason is that over a week, and 15 training sessions there is a lot more time to work on individual sticking points and game tweaks and get ongoing feedback. I've found students get better results this way.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:02 PM
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Can't answer this at the moment, given the legal situation between myself and RSD. Once that's over, I'd be glad to.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:00 PM
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I have a list of intentful lines sitting around somewhere, since that's one area people struggle with. I probably have a similar list of disqualifiers, and pulling lines etc as well in my head. Here are the intent lines (in order from "softest" to "hardest"): You seem… interesting… You have the silliest/funniest/most adorable expressions You’re trouble You’re actually kinda cute (optional… “but…”)(cute…ish) … can be done in middle of sentence You’re actually pretty okay… I didn’t expect to like …
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:59 PM
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NP. Glad you're liking the program. For the rest of you, it's FREE https://toddwinnergame.com
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:56 PM
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I'm writing one soon. I also know Mystery has one, and is a good source for structured game material in general... don't know if his book is good though, as I haven't read it.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:56 PM
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Got asked the same question at my live event recently: https://youtu.be/iz9d4AV7WvA?t=7242
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:54 PM
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In game... remember you don't have to do the world's best approach to have sex, you just have to do an approach that is above a minimum threshold. There is no one right answer or one right move... there are hundreds of things you could say and do that will end in sex. Also remember the 1000/100 model from the Winner Game videos https://toddwinnergame.com... it's not about how little you do wrong, it's about how much you do RIGHT!
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:53 PM
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Bring up sex early "in the negative" or in a disqualifying way. Once the girl likes you, screen for adventurousness and willingness to move physical distance away from her friends. Structure you pull and how you present it... it matters a lot.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:49 PM
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I was a virgin who had been kissed once and barely ever done a cold approach. I was smart and hard-working and I knew how to teach myself things though.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:46 PM
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That's a lot... As to the college question. Join lots of clubs, say hi and bye to everyone, flirt a lot but keep your sex discreet. The "subtle brag" will eventually be a video on my channel for sure. https://www.youtube.com/ToddValentine?sub_confirmation=1
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:45 PM
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Drink a coffee... seriously. Or get more sleep. For me personally. I take energy from the interaction. Even if I'm in an awful mood, attention and flirting from a girl brings me to life. So I just need to start gaming and muddle through until something starts to go well, then I'm set.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:41 PM
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Don't try to figure out the whole interaction in advance. Just do the next ONE RIGHT STEP. Much easier... and even if it's only "nearly right" that's fine too. There's a time for both. My next opening video will definitely cover this.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:39 PM
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When I'm rich and retired, I actually would live to do psychological research (of course there are about 50 other things I'd like to do when rich and retired as well). In any case, hopefully my videos will do a good job of documenting my work.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:37 PM
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Read. Go to the gym. Do things you're passionate about. Get a good job. Learn to be good in bed. Work on storytelling and becoming more interesting. Get a hobby.... or failing all this, convince yourself that you're on the path toward these things.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:35 PM
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That's enough information for an entire online mini-course... I'll refer you to this part of my recent video on the topic though: https://youtu.be/iz9d4AV7WvA?t=4521
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:32 PM
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Kind of too many questions. If I could go back and do the pickup journey differently, I would have spent more time being a student of game and less time being a teacher or guru of game. You don't grow by thinking you know a lot.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:30 PM
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Teach her things, give her new experiences, help her develop good habits and have success, give her good sex. ESCALATE.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:29 PM
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At this point it's generally small tidbits I pick up. For example, I had a student a while back who had the best attitude of wealthy entitlement I'd ever seen. I "borrowed" a few lines and frames from his conversations to add to my own game. I also really like getting things from movies and TV... the producers paid people a lot to write that material for you ;). You can learn tidbits from ANYONE though. They don't even have to be good at game. They just have to do something that strikes a chord …
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:28 PM
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Meditation is not part of game. However meditation is a useful habit that will help your performance across many areas of life, including game.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:22 PM
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In light of the price of the book. #1 thing... ASSUME THE BURDEN. The conversation won't stop if you JUST KEEP TALKING.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:21 PM
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Read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Making-People-Talk-Conversation-1987-06-23/dp/B01NGZR8B8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1512598722&sr=8-1&keywords=making+people+talk I swear, it didn't used to cost that much. It's old and probably out of print and I've been recommending it to too many people... LOL
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:20 PM
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Reframing and misinterpretation are HUGE. I'm making a note right now, to do a video on reframing soon on my YouTube channel.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:16 PM
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I have no idea the specific pattern or patterns I used that long ago. Plus, the way I learned SS was kind of about taking the elements of patterns and stringing them together in any case. The main thing is talk like a romance novel and bring up sex in ways that "aren't your fault."
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:14 PM
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Answered earlier in this AMA
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:12 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iz9d4AV7WvA For examples of plotlines. And yes, I'll be releasing infield. There is bunch of infield in my new FREE course Winner Game, if you haven't seen it: https://toddwinnergame.com
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:12 PM
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Yes it can happen regularly and it's a decent strategy. Yes... learn to dance or learn to open STRONGLY and get the girls' attention. Go to high end venues where you don't have to worry about physical violence. Not worth getting stabbed over a girl.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:10 PM
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Maybe. There are a lot of projects me and my team can do, but we want to do one at a time and do it well, rather than do ten at once poorly. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:06 PM
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If you actually have perspective on this rather than oneitis... The best thing is to just be your best self around her. Let her see you with other girls, but don't flaunt it. Let her see you doing things you're passionate about and do well. Have open communication with her, and you can flirt, but flip the script, "She has to earn YOU back" not the other way around. Don't make it impossible for her to earn you back ;)
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:05 PM
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Stop worrying about "giving your power away" or "giving your value away" thinking like that is a great way to have very little power or value. You know what you need to do. Just stop giving yourself excuses.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:01 PM
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https://toddwinnergame.com It's FREE. Watch and implement the approach anxiety action course
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:56 PM
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It's all in how you frame it... had a couple videos on this, but they were taken down. Will make a new one here soon https://www.youtube.com/ToddValentine?sub_confirmation=1 Generally. You need to 1. Be high value, 2. Make it a win for her, 3. Be congruent with the lifestyle
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:55 PM
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Wait and see ;). I'm sure my competitors are reading this, so I'm not going to give my plans away here.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:52 PM
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Learn push pull. Learn to flirt. I had videos on this on my previous channel that was taken down. I'll make more soon here: https://www.youtube.com/ToddValentine?sub_confirmation=1
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:51 PM
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too much here for a short answer, but here's a general test: If you're acting differently than you would around friends, or girls you're already dating, think twice.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:50 PM
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Game as normal with three HUGE exceptions: Don't open in awkward situations... you'll see the girl again in a better situation. Don't force a close if it's rushed or awkward... you'll see the girl again. Don't use the same lines over and over. But be social, be alpha, do open, do flirt, do be somewhat polarizing (you can be less polarizing than in cold approach).
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:48 PM
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It's complicated... but with HSE girls, let them talk more and give them a chance to win you over. There was a lot of great material in the program "Women" about that, but there's no good way to access that now. I'll do a future product addressing these sort of "blueprint" issues at some point.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:46 PM
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Awesome to hear it. Thanks!
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:44 PM
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I know Mystery has a book and I know he knows game. I don't know if the book is good though. Jeffy's book is good, but even more of a "novel" rather than pickup manual. I'm working on a book, so hopefully there will be a good one soon. Must reads for pickup: Sperm Wars -Baker Influence -Cialdini The Moral Animal -Wright or The Red Queen -Ridley Making People Talk -Farber
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:44 PM
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Messi at his peak is probably the best player who's ever lived. But I respect (and like) Ronaldo more overall and I think he'll stay good for longer.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:40 PM
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email [email protected]
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:39 PM
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Wrote this before I read the comment above, but I'll c&p since it's already written: Yes I'm doing Immersions and yes I'm coming to Europe: http://toddimmersion.com Me and my coaches are great at teaching beginners (in my opinoin we're the best ;) ), but a lot of other companies can teach beginners pretty well. Where me and my team excel is at teaching intermediate and advanced guys, because most pickup coaches flat out CAN'T do that. Some aren't advanced themselves, and some can pick up, but ca…
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:39 PM
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Ahh... vegas game. Get way more sexual (note I didn't say "physical") early in the conversation. Start screening and seeding the pull from like the 3rd minute (might be later for you... my sets escalate fast) and ping for her willingness to leave the friends (even briefly). For me, opening is harder in vegas, attraction is easier, pulling and logistics are easier but definitely different.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:34 PM
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You're very welcome. By the way... one thing I made sure to say in Winner Game before the section about revealing the truth about pickup is that it's generally good to criticize ideas rather than people, and just because someone is wrong about one idea doesn't make them wrong about EVERY idea. I want to IMPROVE the pickup community, not divide it. Btw. if you don't have https://toddwinnergame.com ... it's FREE
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:29 PM
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Yeah... he won, unfortunately. My girlfriend and I were picking up a girl for a threesome and it was going well, but Owen Wilson snagged her when we walked by his table :(... Can't hate though... Wedding Crashers was a hell of a movie :) I have a few other celeb stories, but they're mostly long and not that educational.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:26 PM
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email [email protected]
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:23 PM
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One at a time. And make sure that each girl you add to the "rotation" knows what to expect with you from the outset. You can set just about any reasonable relationship frame as long as you're honest and up-front about it. But once you start violating promises and expectations, you're in trouble.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:23 PM
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Don't want to talk about people behind their backs... but from what I know about those guys I'd say my general comments on them as people are much more good than bad.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:22 PM
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I don't think "jealousy" is good... but I also think it's paramount that you have standards and know when to put your foot down. So I'd just tell the girl that I don't condone her behavior, not in a jealous way, but in a matter of fact, loving way. Of course this only works if you have high value in the relationship to begin with...
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:20 PM
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Best way is to structure your game to hear it less often in the first place. There are some lines you can use: "I've spoken to him and he said he understands if you upgrade", "That's okay, you can tell him I'm gay", "I won't hold that against you as long as you're interesting and fun" etc... Those are fun to use, but the better approach (if you hear the bf thing) is generally to disregard it altogether and continue just being amazing so that she wishes she didn't have one.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:18 PM
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Yes. Outer game is SUPER important. One of the main reasons I released Winner Game https://toddwinnergame.com (a product with an inner game focus) is that I had largely NOT talked about inner game in my previous company. The reason I'd avoided inner game was that I disagreed strongly with some of the concepts being taught, but it's not a good look to have people in the same company openly contradicting one another. I didn't want to go along with the "party line" because I felt that would be lack…
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:14 PM
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I'm trying to not say anything about the people of that organization while I'm suing the organization in court. That's just being prudent on my part under the circumstances. Once the whole legal matter is settled I'd be happy to address such questions.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:06 PM
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Patience and frame it as win/win.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:04 PM
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Be more specific as to genre. Do you want novels or books for learning game/psychology or...?
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:03 PM
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If you're having trouble with what to say on the open, you can have a stock opening line AS TRAINING WHEELS UNTIL YOU GET MORE COMFORTABLE The goal is to eventually just go off the top of your head, but if a canned opener helps you get experience and good reactions, I think it's fine as a short-term crutch.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:59 PM
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If she's texting, you're emotionally relevant to her (at least a little bit). Pass the shit tests and good things could happen.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:57 PM
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FALSE.TIME.CONSTRAINT... this is the exact scenario it was designed for... "yeah, I'm meeting friends in a minute as well, but anyway." It's actually even better if you time constrain BEFORE she says she has to go. For now work on being happy and chatty and willing to carry the conversation (meaning keep talking) for the first 20 seconds if necessary. Don't worry too much about intent, until you can just get into conversations consistently first.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:57 PM
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my contact email for internship/employment requests is [email protected] I get a lot of applications, so please don't take it personally if I don't end up bringing you into the team. But we are looking for good people from time to time, so there's always a chance.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:54 PM
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If this is actually true, I'm very much down to go there... I've never been to India.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:52 PM
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First question I don't want to answer because that's RSD's business, not the public's, second question I don't understand. Everyone decides things logically more than emotionally, not just women... however from an evolutionary psychology perspective (based on my own derivation from things I've read, not what anyone explicitly wrote that I'm aware of) women (in general) have a greater incentive to care about the social aspects of life, while men have an incentive to care more about the material a…
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:47 PM
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Get involved in as many activities as you can. Say hi and bye to everyone... ESPECIALLY girls. Be patient. You don't have to change your whole life overnight, just get 1% better at a time. That will help get you generally social and making friends... and it may even get you girlfriends... and then when you're ready to put it on turbo, go to my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/ToddValentine?sub_confirmation=1
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:39 PM
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When I say "there were things I couldn't say before". I don't mean that anything I said before was "wrong"... I just meant that there were certain topics I felt it best to avoid at the time because they conflicted with the views of others in the organization.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:37 PM
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You should have BOTH motivations. Though rather than "sense of lack" I'd say "desire to improve". WORDS MATTER, ESPECIALLY THE ONES YOU SAY TO YOURSELF. When you approach a girl you shouldn't be 100% out for yourself and looking to take value. On the other hand, you should be looking to derive some value in your own life from the relationship too. It's like a business deal. Both sides need to benefit, or the deal either won't happen or won't last.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:33 PM
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Daygame works just fine when you're younger and college is actually the BEST time for it. As far as your issue with seeming superficial in daygame, basically you're lacking a PREMISE other than physical attraction. So let's try to change the perspective you're entering the conversation with. Instead of thinking, "I want to meet you because I want something from you," how about thinking "I want to meet you because I MIGHT enjoy knowing you." So you're interested but not totally sold. AND YOU'RE C…
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:30 PM
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For content, check out my youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/ToddValentine?sub_confirmation=1 For programs, Winner Game is FREE, so everyone should get it: https://toddwinnergame.com and for coaching, the only program currently available is here: http://toddimmersion.com/
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:23 PM
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The two skills you should focus on are opening and flirting. Normally I'd direct you to a video on those, but my videos were all taken down recently. Here's one on opening that WAS backed up by a fan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ww32LWba51g ... and more will be coming soon on my YouTube channel which is here: https://www.youtube.com/ToddValentine?sub_confirmation=1 As to your question about self perception. Think of yourself as a "10 in progress". If you're on the right life path and improvi…
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:22 PM
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I'm really into finance as well as game, and actually make more money investing than working in the dating industry. So I'm a huge Warren Buffett fan and I have an investing coach who I talk to and work with also. I'm also a huge fan of good coaches of professional and college sports teams. I think sports are a great metaphor for life and great coaches can be great life teachers.
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:15 PM
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Don't EVER refer to yourself as a 7 AGAIN! If you think of yourself as less than a super high value guy, how is anyone else going to see you that way. From this moment on... you're a 10 in progress! About the specific situation: Just get her in a one-on-one conversation (even a friendly one) and you can flirt and convey your personality from there. If you can't do it in person, a phone call is the next best thing. But focus on getting a good conversation and vibe going before you start making pl…
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:12 PM
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Replied to someone else on a similar question. http://toddimmersion.com or email me at [email protected]
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:08 PM
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For a beginner any of those cities will be great for daygame. Although LA will far better in the winter than either of the others. But yes, you can still do daygame in the winter. Girls need guys year round. Glad you're enjoying Winner Game... for others reading this, it's amazing and FREE. Not gonna pump coaching or products too much in this AMA, but since you asked, for live coaching, go here: http://toddimmersion.com or email [email protected]
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:08 PM
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