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A lot of girls liked me in the past and i pushed them back even if i like them because im fucking scared. After last girl i lost because of nothing i could not get my shit together. Sounds like a nice guy syndrome maybe. Don't forget: Women love sexual men because they want their sons and grandsons to be sexual and successful with women. Genetics. Could also be that the girls you were with were not really good enough for you.
/r/seduction07/03/15 05:52 PM
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Why are you depressed? Because you're not as good looking, suave or tall as others? You know what? None of that really matters. You will never become the best man in the world. Just like me or anybody else here. We just aim to be the best men WE can be. You can be a fun, optimistic, and self confident man. Just what the women want. But you have to forget all the stuff you cannot change and only focus on the things you can work on. It's only about what people see in you. And if they see an unhapp…
/r/seduction07/03/15 12:27 PM
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Don't force it, let it flow.
/r/seduction11/01/15 09:49 AM
5

Don't you make fun of us airline pilots.
/r/seduction21/12/14 12:48 AM
8

Walking through the ghetto after midnight.
/r/seduction08/12/14 07:14 PM
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The only way to prevent the friendzone is kino, kino and some heavy kino.
/r/seduction06/11/14 12:31 AM
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Didn't want to sound like a hater but I don't want people to see this and copy it because it seems to work. He did great but not because of his body language.
/r/seduction25/10/14 03:01 PM
3

Yea, awful body language.
/r/seduction25/10/14 01:05 PM
1

Beautiful.
/r/seduction29/09/14 07:32 PM
10

I mean...there are so many...
/r/seduction28/09/14 12:45 PM
1

feels kinda uncomfortable Then practice until it doesn't.
/r/seduction18/09/14 08:50 AM
0

No. John was never my type.
/r/seduction05/09/14 05:05 PM
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I recommend you always follow this rule: If she sleeps in your bed, there will be sex (or she's going home). Otherwise, you'll likely end up in the infamous friendzone. This is nothing that you should talk about. Escalate and if she stops you get up, get dressed and tell her that 'It's time for you to go'.
/r/seduction30/05/14 11:46 PM
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Believe what you want.
/r/seduction20/05/14 11:54 PM
0

Bullshit, if you have high standards tinder is a joke.
/r/seduction02/05/14 05:03 PM
2

Then why do you need to read anything about tinder on /r/seduction if it's such a small part of your game? Can we not get an /r/onlineseduction ?
/r/seduction02/05/14 04:56 PM
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That's a pretty good reframe. But I doubt you'll find any HSE 9's there either.
/r/seduction02/05/14 04:55 PM
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Not everyone is able to make the leap into bar hopping Everyone is able to learn it. Having a comfortable alternative doesn't help at all. Yes, it gets you laid. But you won't get any experience. Someday you'll find a girl to have sex with you, you stay with her because she's there and willing, and one day you decide to settle for her. Compare that to actually mastering your fears, your body languange, your frame, your comfort building abilities. If you want a HB6 as your future wife, use tinder…
/r/seduction02/05/14 02:26 PM
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You will never seduce high self esteem 10s with this attitude.
/r/seduction02/05/14 02:21 PM
3

Everybody who downvotes you has a long way ahead. What do I care? Stay in your comfortzone, guys, you won't reach shit.
/r/seduction02/05/14 02:19 PM
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Very interesting talk. But the questions he gave as examples (When were you most depressed? e.g.) shouldn't be used until further into the conversation. Focussing on the nice things first (when were you the freest / happiest / most optimistic?) creates positive emotions instead.
/r/seduction30/04/14 01:22 AM
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Definately. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ovaar/since_seductionreview_went_down_i_thought_id/
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:23 AM
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See if this helps: http://de.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/229dia/how_to_get_better_at_conversations_like_to_get/cgkoi6p
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:05 AM
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no idea what to talk about problem See if this helps you: http://de.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/229dia/how_to_get_better_at_conversations_like_to_get/cgkoi6p Forget online dating, you have to display the qualities of an attractive male. A popular guy has neither the need nor the time for online dating. Go out, start plenty of conversations, start kino early and learn to appear more self content and optimistic.
/r/seduction21/04/14 04:08 PM
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Good luck!
/r/seduction15/04/14 02:43 PM
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I SAID DOES SHE LOOK LIKE A BITCH?
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:25 AM
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How big would an umbrella have to be so that she would not feel like latching on? 10 ft?
/r/seduction09/04/14 07:07 AM
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Only if you let people take advantage of you.
/r/seduction09/04/14 07:00 AM
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Just giving you my opinion.
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:49 PM
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"Wow, I would feel [emotion] in this situation" makes the other feel understood.
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:34 PM
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This is the best subreddit ever!! THANK YOU GUYS!!!! Edit: Yes, I've been sarcastic. An umbrella is such an obvious answer and smaller is surely not better. You always have to stand extra close under an umbrella and make sure that she stays dry. The bigger the umbrella the easier you can keep your own head shielded.
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:24 PM
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This note is now in the 50s Don't ever say this again. This number doesn't say anything about quality, so most people here will not be impressed. And yes, everybody counts sometimes but I sure don't have a note.
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:23 PM
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Ask more questions about her personality. http://de.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/229dia/how_to_get_better_at_conversations_like_to_get/
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:18 PM
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Only focus on the things which you can change.
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:14 PM
1

Catholic school girls can be hot too. And now?
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:13 PM
2

Why do you think she is a whore?
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:11 PM
1

Try a happier / friendlier frame maybe?
/r/seduction08/04/14 11:04 PM
10

I am a champion
/r/seduction08/04/14 09:35 AM
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I'm talking about this bullshit: No women do not like to dominate men.
/r/seduction07/04/14 11:03 PM
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and the woman loses attraction Have you ever heard of the friendzone? She's still interested even if not attratcted.
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:55 PM
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Women like to be dominated, not to dominate. They like both, hence the shit test. To see which kind of fun she can have with you.
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:47 PM
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Why should she have to test him then?
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:00 PM
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and that old dead guy. Mystery is dead?
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:30 AM
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ignore them or answer with: 'unsubscribe'
/r/seduction06/04/14 08:28 PM
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When chatting to a hot girl you don't know you, the most important thing is attraction. What I am describing is a technique to create comfort and rapport. Without proper attraction you will not get enough attention to keep her interested in talking to you. To keep this example simple, we will have to assume that she is attracted to you the entire time. "Wow, is this place always this crowded?" [...] "Reminds of the 'whatever' bar in 'spring break resort'. What was the best bar you've ever been t…
/r/seduction06/04/14 06:13 PM
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Sure, just tell me what situation you're thinking of.
/r/seduction06/04/14 01:52 PM
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True words. It's important to understand that failures are always part of the game. No matter how tall or good looking you are, girls will turn you down, again and again. But it doesn't matter if it takes 10, 100, or 1000 approaches. Only that one successful time counts. That one night that you will never forget.
/r/seduction06/04/14 04:11 AM
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Depends on the fedback you get. The more iois you receive the more you may lean in.
/r/seduction05/04/14 08:56 PM
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Get to know more girls.
/r/seduction05/04/14 04:34 PM
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I've never been and probably never will. Limiting belief. I realise fully how stupid this sounds but in terms of looks I have not won the genetic lottery, Look, your subconsciousnes is resposible for how you feel. It won't punish you for looking ugly. It's not your fault. Only the things that you can change decide how happy you may feel. Let go. You cannot change the rules of nature. But you can accept the world the way it is and change the things you can change. This is all your subconscious mi…
/r/seduction05/04/14 03:50 PM
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Sounds like the quality of the girls could be a little higher, huh? 7s, 8s and 9s are rare. And it's even rarer to seduce them successfuly. I'd guess that's what you're missing: Doing the really hot girls. The good news: Just practice your game and you will get there. You're young, age matters and things will not get worse for you.
/r/seduction05/04/14 03:39 PM
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Before you can find friends you have to understand what other people care about and how they decide. If you imagine a beautiful woman. You maybe see a flat belly, a cute ass, some tits, long blond hair, whatever you personally like, the images are pretty similar along men. Now other people do the same thing when they decide if you are interesting or boring. They compare your appearance with the models of attractive men they have in their heads. Once you understand what attributes people care abo…
/r/seduction05/04/14 03:26 PM
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Don't call, don't text, just play it cool. You will see her again. And it will be another good oportunity to have some fun. Just try to ignore her when she's with her friends but go for it once the two of you are alone (aka kino - hugging, sniffing, kissing). Show her that she can have fun with you whenever she wants to, but try not to appear needy. Behave as if you had plenty of other options but know that she will like it.
/r/seduction05/04/14 03:10 PM
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Then you should try new things until you find something that gives you hope again. And when I say 'try', I mean 'try', not 'thinking about trying'. Take little steps and only focus on the things that you can change. You cannot change the way you look but you can learn to act confidentially. You can learn to understand how people move and behave that are confident. You can start copying them and make other people feel that you are confident. Because this is how you make people react positively to…
/r/seduction05/04/14 03:03 PM
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Take little steps. Get used to chatting up strangers and making small talk. If girls are too difficult to approach you should start with people who have less 'social value'. Old women are always happy to have somebody to talk to. Go to a retirement center and talk to some nearby grandmas to get used to small talk and to develop you conversation skills. Then increase the 'social value' of the people you apprach step by step.
/r/seduction05/04/14 02:53 PM
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Just laugh about it. She likes you and these tests prove it.
/r/seduction05/04/14 02:48 PM
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I follow the this structure when talking to other people that I don't know well. Presence - What's going on? What is this? Who was that? Perfect Past - When did you have the most fun in a similar situation? Perfect Future - What would make this situation perfect? Perfect present - Look at us talking so nicely, maybe everything is alright already. The trick is to create positve emotions by asking other people about situations when they felt good (to show what they enjoy). Then ask them how they i…
/r/seduction05/04/14 01:36 PM
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"Id rather have dependability then sparkles and flashes." You advice is good but I wouldn't say this. There's no need to justify anything. Just reframe the situation. I'd just smile and say something like: "Yeah, great, huh?", "I once pushed it to 72 mph", or "Yea, for some reason girls love it." Your reaction to every shit test should be a happy smile because you know what she's doing. She's shit testing you because she likes you. So a flattured (? no speak english) smile is the only proper res…
/r/seduction05/04/14 09:46 AM
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You know about kino, you know how to be attractive and you feel that girls seem to like you. But you don't want to bother girls with inappropriate approaches. You don't want to make them uncomfortable. You've seen other guys act like this and noticed that the girls didn't really seem to enjoy it. But you're not them. You're not bothering them. You are different. Girls want men to act sexually. Girls love sex. Girls want you to make them want to have sex with you. Just act the way you always act.…
/r/seduction03/04/14 09:30 PM
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Other girls are also cute and have nice legs as well. It's a matter of options. But you are right, i would try to change your mind and make you find out what you really want. I am interesting for women who are looking for freedom, fun and excitement. If you are a woman that is looking for security and a more serious relationship, I wouldn't be the right man for you. And I would understand and respect that I cannot change your mind about this. And more importantly I wouldn't pretend to be interes…
/r/seduction02/04/14 08:21 PM
1

Probably not since I couldn't give you what you are looking for, anway.
/r/seduction02/04/14 05:54 PM
1

Happy: leaving a good impression, being interesting, showing potential for a long term relationship, being a good match alltogether Happy: blowing your mind, being self-confident and positive like no other man, showing that I believe that you're my perfect match (even if it's just for one night), making you feel better than you ever have before, making you feel alive and in love like you're 15 again Nr. 1 is the standard. Nr. 2 is my standard. Obviously, I wouldn't fake this behaviour if I don't…
/r/seduction02/04/14 05:49 PM
1

Well, if I don't manage to make you happy, I shouldn't expect you to have the urge to make me happy in return. Since this appears to be the case there's no one to blame but myself. It was fun spending my precious time with you.
/r/seduction02/04/14 05:29 PM
1

You got to put your arm around me and kiss me a little- not a total waste of the evening. Well, that would be my decision if it's a waste of my time or not. But I guess a lot of guys could live with that on a first date. So you would better off with those guys. It says "I like you but let's take our time here and feel this out". And my reaction says: "This is a waste of my time. What I really want is sex. And there are lots of girls who want the same. Either I get to touch you the way I want to …
/r/seduction02/04/14 03:22 PM
1

Now, I am horny. Well, obviously I have my own image of acceptable boundaries. If our views don't fit, we obviously won't make a good couple anyway. If you want sex right away I will have to believe you're a slut, if you won't let me touch you at all I will assume that you're not into me or define your boundaries according to the rules of the catholic church. I am just making clear that I am asking for something in return. That's my rule. That's what worked for me. If you can't accept this rule,…
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:08 PM
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Maybe I'm looking for something long term and trying to decide if that's you. Why would you not let me put my arm around you then?
/r/seduction02/04/14 12:43 PM
1

Why do you want to be close to a guy? Because he's interesting? Because it feels good to be around him? Because he likes you? Why do you not want to be close to a guy who touches you? Because he's not interesting enough? Because it doesn't feel good enough to be around him? Because he likes you more than you like him? Why would a guy that is not interesting enough, doesn't make you feel good, and likes you more than you like him want to spend time with you? Let them find out how you feel about t…
/r/seduction02/04/14 12:24 PM
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No, just go if you don't like to be touched. :) I am not telling anyone to follow you.
/r/seduction02/04/14 11:53 AM
1

but a lot of us aren't ready to have sex with guys right away either Then why should it be wrong for a guy to spend his time with the girls who are?
/r/seduction02/04/14 11:21 AM
1

You should make it clear that it's either touching or nothing. She is programmed to friendzone boys, you are programmed to touch girls. Why should her needs be more important than yours? If she doesn't want to be touched she is welcome to leave, so you can spend your time finding a girl who enjoys being touched. There are lots of them. That's how you make yourself happy.
/r/seduction02/04/14 10:49 AM
1

Right. Don't ask or warn her. If she doesn't kiss back and reacts in a challenging way just smile and be confident that she will kiss you next time. Then try again after 20-60 minutes. If she still doesn't kiss back, smile and repeat. If she never kisses back, spend your time with somebody else.
/r/seduction02/04/14 10:42 AM
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What exactly do you want to know?
/r/seduction02/04/14 10:35 AM
2

There's a technique called 'shock and awe'. It's very inspirational. You cold approach an attractive girl and instantly start heavy kino (hug her, sniff her neck, feel her hips, ect.) while blaming your actions on her: "Stop being this hot." "You gotta gain 20 pounds right now, or I don't take any responsibility" "What are you doing to me? Stop looking this sexy." Somehow, women can accept this. But you really have to mean it.
/r/seduction02/04/14 10:33 AM
1

A short freeze out. Just stop giving her attention (e.g. check your phone or emails, talk to somebody else, call a buddy).
/r/seduction02/04/14 10:20 AM
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You make this sound a lot more difficult than it really is. Just start touching her more and more intimately until she stops you. Then wait one minute and continue. If she keeps stopping you, it's time for a mini freeze. Women love men who don't ask for sex (friend zone) and will usually not initiate any sexual contact. These men are the best thing that can happen to a girl as they provide security without asking for anything. On the other hand women have to feel attracted to men who show a lot …
/r/seduction01/04/14 08:49 PM
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expanding on this; when you start talking to her just stand still. Don't follow her, don't make her stop, just stop walking and talk to her (hey, who are you? where's a good place to get coffee around here? let me ask you a question? ect) and don't move. She will first walk past you but once she sees, you're not following her, she will turn around and walk towards you. Obviously, body language is the key to success.
/r/seduction31/03/14 12:21 PM
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If you can fake to be gay you can also fake to not care about her before getting to know her personality. Search for tyler durden's secret society. It's about being happy, relaxed and not looking at/for hot girls. The female mind comes to one conlusion: you must be acting like this because you have plenty of hot girls available already you're gay. To get girls interested in you act like a sexually optimistic man, e.g.: a gay man. No need to lie and actually say you're gay, in my eyes.
/r/seduction31/03/14 12:11 PM
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you should post this over at /r/depression
/r/seduction31/03/14 10:47 AM
1

"Nobody ever makes the first jump."
/r/seduction31/03/14 10:20 AM
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no.
/r/seduction30/03/14 05:08 PM
1

Yes, sorry, I didn't mean to phrase it like this. I wrote a longer comment which I deleted by stupidity. I missed the disclaimer in this post. Which read something like: Depending on how much time you've actuall spent talking about personal stuff...
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:17 PM
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just straight up say you feel the same Successful men don't confess they have crushes before sex. They want to find out "more about you", "what's important to you", or "if you are as interesting as you seem".
/r/seduction29/03/14 12:55 PM
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Well, maybe they were friends with you because of how easy you were to 'control'. /thread Women love orbiters = men that provide "security" without asking for sex.
/r/seduction25/02/14 07:06 PM
-3

Consider getting a coach. He can see any weak spots instantly and can tell you what to focus on.
/r/seduction10/02/14 03:29 AM
4

"Damit Deine Brüste größer wirken." no vielleicht = maybe.
/r/seduction22/01/14 03:55 PM
2

Dancing is not about dancing well or not. It's about not giving a fuck and having a good time. Even if you're not a dancer you can still use this trick: Just lead her off the dancefloor after she takes your hand.
/r/seduction01/01/14 10:30 PM
3

"Are you hitting on me? Because if you are, I'm not that easy." kc
/r/seduction07/11/13 04:44 PM
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Smile, break the eye contact and don't look down afterwards.
/r/seduction23/10/13 04:55 PM
9

a self-confident, happy, optimistic mood
/r/seduction10/06/13 09:36 AM
1

How many of these titties do you know in real life. Makes a difference to me.
/r/seduction03/05/13 04:07 PM
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At least looking at titties.
/r/seduction20/04/13 08:08 PM
2

Is this supposed to be a tl;dr?
/r/TheRedPill04/04/13 09:21 PM
1

Not sure if you got what i meant. To your subconsciousness "hooking up" is the same as "a potential baby".
/r/seduction24/02/13 12:18 AM
1

Do you really like her? Maybe your subcosnciousness is trying to tell you that her genes are not good enough for a potential baby.
/r/seduction24/02/13 12:01 AM
1

The picture routine works great nowadays with smartphones/digital cameras.
/r/seduction10/01/13 07:33 PM
10

Shut up and upvote!
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:58 PM
3

"How did last night go?" "Good I kissed her." "And? Did anything else happen?" "How did last night go?" "Good, KC." "Cool"
/r/seduction21/12/12 04:45 PM
0

"The game is won in comfort" - PU is about emotions. Get into the topic. You got it all wrong.
/r/MensRights16/12/12 11:16 AM
1

True. This is so full of limiting believes. I couldn't watch it entirely. You definately don't have to wait for an approach invitation to be successful.
/r/seduction28/10/12 10:58 AM
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Everybody above this line is gay.
/r/seduction23/10/12 07:59 PM
1

Other than going to a gym, what would be a good start? (books, websites)
/r/seduction11/09/12 08:25 AM
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Oneitis means you are giving her more value than yourself. Why? What's your weak point? Work on yourself. Improve. Forget her.
/r/seduction23/04/12 03:38 PM
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