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9

Speed up the divorce. Give her what's due to her and tell your family to keep a lid on this great news.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 04:12 AM
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Sounds like neglect. I'd discreetly take pictures while she's lying in bed scrolling tiktok. Doesn't hurt to have something in one's chamber because she'd do it to you if the roles were reversed.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 04:09 AM
3

Wrong sub dear
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 07:31 AM
3

And this sick society we live in now expects you to be supportive of her "bravery to embrace her authentic self". This epidemic of sudden coming out spouses, breaking up families and leaving trails of pain & betrayal is somehow celebrated and if you feel any other way about it, you're a "bigot"
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 04:29 PM
2

This one's delusional.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 05:04 AM
10

This isn't a relationship drama sub. If anyone should be asking advice here and getting support from other men, it's him. Not you. There are plenty of other platforms exclusive to women to support each other. No father here is going to condemn an involved father in your favour. Case in point, you've only started talking for 3 months yet here you are complaining that he hasn't put you ahead of his kids.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 04:28 AM
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Well it turns out that breaking up your family as a feminist protest because some tiktok & female bloggers have convinced you that your normal masculine husband is oppressing and holding you back from exploring your "authentic self", which is a euphemism for "discovering my lesbianism", is not the best thing after all. Reality of being a middle aged, single mother is a lot harder on the gals. They regret it but won't outright say it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 08:59 PM
6

This post is making me think of this recent case of the ex-husband & father who went online cautioning men to really think about whom they marry and / or have kids with because the woman he married when they were on the same page, turned out to be a woke, gender activist and subsequently took his twins away HELPED by the justice system because she wants to trans one of the boys into a girl. I am sure that a lot of men took his warning to heart and are now moving stealthily when it comes to formi…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 09:50 AM
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The good thing is that men no longer need to use the process of elimination, it takes care of itself. Leaves more room for sane women
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 03:53 PM
13

She's just one of the nutjobs going around social.media since yesterday vowing to go no contact with everyone in their lives because of the election. Give these lunatics time and in 3yrs, most of them will realize how lonely and bitter they are but by then it'll be too late and the ex husbands like you, will have moved on with more mentally stable women. God, I don't know how I'd survive in the States right now as a man
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 03:46 PM
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Just yesterday there was yet another woman on this sub posting about her marriage drama and I asked what she's doing here. I was told that it's ok to have women on this men's only space. You see now fellas? This sub is quickly descending into an "Auntie Grace" space where women are uploading their nonsense littered with buzzwords. So where exactly should US men go to express ourselves and commiserate? This is BS.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 09:26 AM
21

"While his mother sat in the front sit" Ummm OK. That's weird
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 09:16 AM
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It's like a concerted effort to invade and dismantle all men's spaces, even online. Of all the relationship drama and female commiseration subs on this platform, she just had to come here and whine about her relationship issues. This isn't the space for that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 03:21 PM
1

Why are you here?
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 02:56 PM
2

This belongs in the relationship advice subs. This is a men's forum where pre, current and post divorce is discussed from male experiences. Relationship dramas are of no interest to anyone here. Pls have some respect for this space and go to relationship threads
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 06:34 AM
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Is this a joke? This is a men's forum to support each other through divorce and after. You need to take this to some relationship advice platform. If he was making this post, there'd be some constructive advice from those who've lived it and what the consequences are. You on the other hand are just coming across as a gf / mistress who's looking for advice. Nobody has one for these melodramatic stories here. Pls respect this space
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 07:50 PM
6

Is it not obvious to you that she needed a man, any man, to make a baby because of her age and now that you've served your purpose, you're not needed? Move out and stand on your own.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 07:00 AM
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This is not a relationship advice sub, for God's sake. This space here is for men reaching out to other men about their impending or current divorces. It's more like a support group. A "safe space" according to women lingo. Pls take this someplace else. Nobody has time to psycho analyze your feelings and suspicious here. Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 08:21 PM
13

Bet she wasn't "afraid" of you before she got that all important ring, wedding, security and home for her and her kids, was she? This is a game to these people
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 04:44 AM
11

You're talking about a cheating floozy and here you are acting pathetic? Man forget what I said and just stay with her. Beg her to love you and pity-fuck you since you're so determined to be around her constantly.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 04:38 AM
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Your lesson for the next relationship. Don't take on a "project" to revamp someone from what they are. It has to be their initiative and you just be there to support. Its clear what happened here. You dug her out of the hole. She's at a place now where she can feel independent and desirable again, therefore your usefulness has expired. She's ready to explore "better" men than you. It's not your fault and she'll realise this at some point but by then make sure you're as far away from her as you c…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 04:34 AM
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If I married a woman and she went and let another man penetrate her, I'd find her repulsive afterwards and there's no way I'd even consider putting my hands on her again. No matter the desire to have my family back, it just wouldn't be the same because I'd always know that she's not truly mine
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 03:57 PM
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She'll probably end up giving him sole custody when she fully realizes that she's a new single parent and can't always be moving up ladders or having nights out with new bf.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 07:18 PM
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You should have left 19 yrs ago.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 03:21 AM
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But you were there to pick up the pieces. She had a "safety" net in terms of not starving and being homeless. Now, the pic is different. She's really literally alone and having to adult without a partner. Shocking
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 05:24 PM
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This is not a relationship advice forum.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 05:27 AM
9

Because society is built around the expectation that men put and keep shit together, like a marriage. It has not yet factored in the new age system where the wife is also pulling, but in the opposite direction by trying to be a man as well in the relationship. There's no partnership anymore and men are dealing with combative, hostile scheming spouses. The responsibility is placed on the man but all the benefits are geared towards the wife. So you are seen as a loser and deadbeat if you walk away…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 04:58 AM
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A 32yr old woman should be old enough and experienced enough with life to know that it takes more than just "fighting" for a relationship to make it sustainable. Don't let her guilt you into staying. She's a grown woman, you've raised her and now it's time to live your life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 06:20 PM
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Most have been brainwashed and conditioned to 100% believe this popular narrative that "being a SAHM is THE hardest job in the world and your spouse should be on a perpetual gratitude journey to worship you everyday by taking on all the household duties, continue to be the breadwinner, never ever ask or initiate sex, never require his own child free time on weekends or evenings, be constantly at your beck and call and he mustn't dare complain because men will never know the pain of carrying a fu…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 06:40 AM
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"Satan's vagina" "Devil's vag"...ok 😂 Man this woman did a number on you lol
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 06:40 AM
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Man i read your post from 2 months ago and you wrote that "she was shocked at how the numbers looked for her on paper" after a potential divorce. She's not begging to stay out of love and contrition. She's afraid to compromise her current lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 03:43 AM
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Ok Sis, it's quite clear that you are not listening and are determined to be spoonfed info or advice that you want to hear. Let me MANSPLAIN it to ya.... You are not unique. Being the higher earner is something men are doing everyday of their lives supporting whole ass families and still being faced with ungrateful spouses. Yet when these men cut loose, they are expected to give half of their hard earned assets to their spouse because that's just how it works. We've all been conditioned by the l…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 09:18 PM
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When judge put it into context....."he takes 2 steps towards you and you claim he chased you" This is what usually gets lost in the hysteria when they are making up stories. They magnify everything until they meet a judge with common sense and experience with Karens
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 02:43 PM
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Why come to a men's support group forum if you are unwilling to understand that everyone's experience is different? That's the point of the group, to support each other through it all, whether it's anger, bitterness or thankfulness that your particular divorce is going smoothly. It's not "depressing". It's active and it's effective to those who take away from it what they need at the time. This judgement isn't cool man.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 06:42 PM
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I'm willing to bet she used these words...."I'm ready to come home so we can fix US, we can go for couple's counseling and I'll go for therapy to work on myself"
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 08:47 PM
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As a non-Westerner, this is one of the most baffling issues I've ever seen with you guys. I just do not get it, never have. The way people, particularly women complain about the basic life skills of cleaning up your environment as if you're being asked to clean an entire town is something that will always be a mystery to me and my side of the continent. You are a housewife. Your ONLY responsibility is to tidy up your space. Put things away and yet it's the most "traumatising" act that could be a…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 05:51 PM
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Simple. Most of them are hunting for their next 🏧 / victim. What's the point in sitting around and being self sufficient when there are desperate men out there wanting to get laid? They want step dads for their kids. They want someone to pay or share household expenses with and for them. The "strong, independent woman" trope is just that, fiction. They say it but they can't live it. Men also advise each other this because we know that many need that period to recover financially from the divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 04:51 PM
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Most of them deliberately isolate the men from their independent support groups. You have to be really aware and strong from the time it starts while you are dating and draw a firm line that she's not to interfere with your friendships. Then they move on to emotional neediness and manipulation that if you spend time with your friends = neglecting the relationship. Some men just give up too easily because it's too much. Then they suffocate the guy with their family members and get togethers. You …
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 09:48 AM
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I hate TT with a passion. This disgusting addictive shit needs to be banned permanently. Even at work, middle aged women are hypnotized by it. Life, parenting, marriage, financial advice is where they get it from. Posts by bitter childless women boasting about how good they have it without kids and recruiting young women and wives to forgo motherhood for early morning mimosas and late nights. It's evil
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 04:47 PM
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This is so prevalent. A look at just 5 posts on Reddit about parent/child issues and the loudest opinions are always the ones advising the kid to "cut your parents off" because if they don't agree with you, they are causing you mental issues. It's so popular and it is definitely pushed by this generation of know-it-alls
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 12:10 PM
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I read that and someone schooled her quite well but she wouldn't have it. I replied to the other person and said "she's in denial". She then ( OP) replied to me and told me that all women are reading what we wrote. 😂 I had no clue what her point was. She was angry and bitter for choosing to stay with a non productive man, he leaves and suddenly the world is coming to an end
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 04:34 AM
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"Home" 🤣😂😭✌️
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 05:27 PM
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This is because she has reached all her goals and milestones for her life. She's done Wedding....check House....check Kids.....check Future secured child support and or alimony...done Your usefulness has expired. Stop trying to make something happen because at this point she'll lose all respect for you. Take back the reigns of the marriage and your life and serve her with the papers. That will snap her out of this delusion that she holds all the cards.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 07:40 PM
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Depends on how reasonable she gets when there's conflict. If you fear a screaming meltdown + false accusations, do it in the presence of someone else or record the entire episode. If she's a calm person, private is better
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 06:03 AM
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44yrs old and still refusing to get a job. Even if she was a SAHM and doing the majority parenting, the husband was still also providing for that lifestyle. So it's equal and she should now get her ass up to work. These lowlifes are all over the place. Another one just yesterday was angry that she (47) would not be inheriting the house that she and her husband (65) live in upon his death because the house actually belonged to the husband's late wife who had inherited it from her own parents but …
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 06:12 PM
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Hidden cameras in the main areas of the house might be a good investment right about now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 04:32 PM
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She tried the alt lifestyle, didn't work and now she's wanting back into a normal relationship with someone she cheated on. It's probably time tlfor her to get supervised visits. Can't you get an attorney and report her to the courts for fear of traumatizing your kid?
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 04:49 PM
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Why are you still giving her money?
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 04:39 AM
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I KNEW you were a woman. This sub isn't for you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 04:38 AM
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Now you know what red flags to avoid in future. As soon as they start treating your relationship with them as a competition with your family's relationship, let her go. If you find yourself giving her the benefit doubt just because she's hot, you're in danger of letting your dick do your thinking. Plenty of homely looking women with good character and splendid personalities. Women who understand the value of money because they actually know how to earn it. Women who'll work WITH you instead of a…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 10:22 AM
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If they use the word "narcissist" to describe their ex, walk in the opposite direction. It's like women have been hypnotized with this word. They'll use it for anything male related that does not adhere to their bs feminist drivel.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 01:50 PM
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"She won't sign the prenup". So she's already running the show before you even walk down that aisle. This definitely won't last.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 03:23 AM
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Hi....You must be new here. Let me tell you about this place. If you go through most posts, almost all of them will describe the exact same attributes that you've mentioned about this woman. These were the huge contributory factors in their divorces. A selfish person escalates until you find yourself 10yrs down the road having zero claim of anything in your relationship because she's taken over absolutely EVERYTHING. You are just the dick-holding provider. If you say these are not deal breakers …
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 03:58 PM
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Next come the inspirational, girl power posts on IG about "self love" and body positivity. Those are to justify the fatness. Those are meant to warn men that "approach at your own peril because this weight is staying". She'll do the usual brainwashed feminist nonsense of 'I can do it alone without a man, all I need is my queens and several Margheritas per week on girls nights, life is good'. She'll perform for the world and your benefit while slowly dying inside waiting for another sucker to fun…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 03:24 AM
3

Another risk now with in-person approach is being accused of harassment and creepiness
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 04:49 PM
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🤣😭😂🤣
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 08:31 AM
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Post history says it's a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 10:52 AM
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Wrong sub sista
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 04:14 AM
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Man maybe you need to be objective about this. You got married too early. She's outgrown you. She's trying to make educational progress and with that comes new people, new perspective. You shouldn't blame her for wanting a better life. You should look at both of your lives as a young married couple and see if you are happy where you are economically. It looks and feels like a betrayal but the original mistake here was getting married too young. She's doing now what you both should have done 2 - …
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 03:03 AM
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I read that tripe just today. I laughed out loud. Apparently, according to the author of that post, Reddit is full of men who hate single moms and see them as trash. It was a pity fest in the comments.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 04:56 PM
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This is why you never fall for the "I'm saving myself for marriage" bullshit. A healthy couple should explore each other before making things legal. This selective religious-ness has ruined many men who find themselves stuck with a sexless, dry as hell roommate. You were baited and switched. Good for you for making the jump now. NB.....don't become intimate with her again, she could trap you with a "surprise" pregnancy
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 05:51 AM
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The Important thing is to set your boundaries straight from the beginning and don't concede just when they get comfortable in the relationship. Don't let them move in with you, don't get a place together or let them keep too much shit at your place to resemble a cohabitation situation. Go 50/50 on everything from the beginning. Don't pay for their kid's shit. Don't pick them up from games or take them places. She must see from the get go that her kids are just that, hers. Don't entertain any tal…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 01:34 PM
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Reach out for what exactly? To sit there and listen to her self pitying nonsense while scarfing down double cheese burgers? While she asks you trappy questions about why you are screwing less when she KNOWS the answer? She's given you a way out because she knows she has no intention of losing any weight.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 12:35 PM
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🤣😭 Dude is hallucinating. I just had a good laugh at this tripe
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 12:05 PM
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I understand this. You don't ACTUALLY want her back. What you want, to feel complete is to know for sure that she went out there to explore and failed. Crashed and burned. What you need to know is that at some point her conscience and lucid mind will snap out of Disneyland and face reality that she had a good man and she let him go. That is the satisfaction you are looking for. It's pre schadenfreude. There is a part of you that wants to see her fail and regret her decision at which point you'll…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 04:01 PM
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I got the same vibe. He's waiting for her to regret her decision and her home will be ready for her to move in and then she'll bone him again
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 02:55 PM
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They often do after they've been on their own for a while getting fucked around by young men who aren't interested in playing house with a divorced single mother. Then they are able to separate reality (which was their marriage) and fiction ( which was in their head about being a boss babe, strong independent feminist sista). It's better to just laugh and walk away whistling towards your very active sex life with women who are gymnasts in bed because they too are angling for a proposal which wil…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 03:08 PM
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She's a liability to you, your life, your finances and your child. She's got to go. Sooner than later. I can't imagine myself living day to day with a lazy, entitled, non contributing but crazy, screaming hyena while I'm doing everything to keep a roof over her head. Get rid of her. Some of these women get spoiled by guys like you who won't let them grow the fuck up and face life head on.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 07:31 PM
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You always was with her family while still only dating. She was already isolating you from yours and you went ahead and married her. Dude?....
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 04:03 AM
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She wanted a divorce over this one thing? Do you hear how ridiculous that sounds? You should have let her go that 1st time. You allowed her to put monitors on your devices like you are a child? What the hell is this? Man, you really need to have a hard look at yourself
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 06:40 PM
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Your fixation with screwing white women is undermining all the good points you are making. It's ok if you are a white woman worshipping brown man but don't conflate issues man. I want to support your stance but your anger fuelled rant is hard to overlook
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 04:46 PM
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Lol...Bro is a glutton for punishment 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 05:14 AM
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Not sure man. I 1st read it on Reddit some time back but I came across it on Instagram by chance and it was in one of those narrated recordings. Ask someone on the Best of Reddit sub. They are normally good at digging up old shit. I can't because I'm banned from there. EDIT....I have checked and the post from from 2 yrs ago and was eventually deleted.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 04:01 PM
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I read in this very Reddit a post by a father who did the exact same thing. Just saw it on Instagram as well. He grew tired of being 'allowed' by the court to only see his kids temporarily on certain weekends. The kids were clearly being coached by the ex. After 2 yrs of doing this, he dropped them off and said goodbye. You could feel the emotion in his post.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 05:47 AM
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They can be more dangerous and conniving than your locals. They want the life that they see on TV. They aren't as ignorant as they would seem. Not bringing her back to the states just means you'll be seen as a cash machine in her country and be expected to pay for the entire family
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 05:39 AM
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I was lambasted a few days ago on another sub because of this precise point. The op was conflicted bcoz his wife wanted him to herself all day for MD and no one was to leave their home. So he didn't know how or if he'd be able see his own mom. Most people were on the wife's side. My point was that he should spend the morning to mid afternoon with her and kids doing all the good stuff and then depending on whether she wants to be alone or not, he could then go see his mom and bring her gifts. She…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 06:50 PM
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"I'm at a loss on what to do". Why? Why should you 'do' something? For 13yrs you've indulged this cancer to infiltrate your life even though she cheated on you. This is on you. Walk away from this nonsense. Your gf should leave you just to teach you a lesson. She's putting up with your BS for what?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:43 PM
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This is because she's filled her 'life quota' of: Date Get a sucker to marry and put up with his groppings Have kids >> Done From now on, you're on your own. There's nothing wrong with her. Her 'expert' friends on blogs will have her believe that it's some deep mental issue caused by you and your shortcomings as a husband and that's why she can't have sex with you anymore. It's a scam. All of them do it. They use their bodies to secure a responsible hard working man to reach their milestones lik…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 07:21 PM
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Your opening statement. Everything in brackets gave me a vomit-induced stroke.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 06:14 PM
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It's very satisfying to watch them eventually open their eyes and face reality that life on a single income, partially furnished "apartment", lack of masculine support unless they pay for it ( plumbers, electricians, car mechanics, light bulb changers etc )....is tough. This life is so much worse despite being a "strong, independent woman" LOL
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 02:28 PM
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Fancy word for Nanny. They normally come through an agency, most are foreigners but they go through all the legal verifications.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 02:24 PM
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This is Divorce_Men. It's for men to support each other, not women like you to lecture fathers about the dynamics of their marriages without knowing even a 1/4 of what's happening behind closed doors. Go to relationship advice subs if you want to feel "useful"
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 11:12 AM
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33yrs old and living like this? Man, get the fuck out of there. Why you wasting your life on this control freak? What a miserable existence this is.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 05:00 PM
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American women have been enabled and spoiled rotten by the family courts. This is why they pull this shit. At my place this would NEVER fly.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 08:27 AM
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Famous words said right before disaster... "I don't care about the money"
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 05:58 PM
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What's truly funny is how they never realize that the more angry, belligerent and delay-ful they are about things, the more the lawyers are enjoying it. Even encouraging them to "make it as painful as possible on your STBXH" These brainless bimbos have no clue that they are the punchline and the lawyer's kids college funders.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 11:01 AM
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This isn't a relationship advice sub. Move along
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 04:39 AM
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I also completely lose interest in any woman with no job, career, education or ability to be self sufficient. I don't want or need a self appointed SAHM. I don't need someone to do my laundry, cook, clean or any domestic duties on my behalf. I did those things and managed while I was a bachelor and at no point will my life be enriched if I have a permanent, Netflix watching, daytime napping, sweat pants wearing slob who "manages" things at home. Nope sister. Get a job like the rest of us. Move t…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 07:35 PM
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Take this tripe to dating or relationship advice subs. This isn't the place and nobody cares here. This is for men supporting other men through challenging times of divorce. We don't have "Aunt Cecilia" type advice for lonely middle aged women looking for love. Leave now
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 06:49 PM
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Most probably not. His post history is littered with info about this divorce and his finances. I think he's in a mid life crisis and dude just doesn't know what to do with himself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 09:46 AM
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He needs therapy or something. His posts are mostly about running away to another country, avoiding paying anything while simultaneously talking about his wife's complaints about his gaming habits. It's all very rambly like someone on the verge of a meltdown. He's too panicked and afraid to make a firm decision. I mean 5 yrs is not long enough to pay lifetime alimony but somehow he's convinced that she'll clean him out. Dude needs help
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 01:32 PM
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Dude.....Leave this woman already. Your entire post history is about how miserable you are with her. You have fixated on the financial repercussions of divorce for months and you've only been married 5 yrs. At some point you'll have to accept that you have to pay her something in order to get her out of your life. There's no way around it. This song and dance about babies, fear of alimony, fear of child support is only prolonging the inevitable. She will get pregnant now that she's decided she w…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 01:07 PM
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If I were an American man, I wouldn't even entertain the idea of marrying someone. You guys are really screwed. On that post I literally saw a comment that began with "Take. The. Money". Shit....
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 11:06 AM
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This is exactly what you should do. Don't ignore it just because it doesn't affect you NOW. It will sooner or later. Also the single moms. Too much baggage there
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 07:40 AM
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Because they've conditioned themselves that having a pussy is the getway to ongoing adoration, security, stability and perpetual male ATMs
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 05:22 PM
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Until it's time to pay their own bills. Oh yes....we are "equals" LOL
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 05:19 PM
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Dude, no offense but I'm picking up on bad vibes from you. Why are you being deliberately obtuse in your replies? You can't understand what's being said or are you high?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 04:34 PM
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Which one if you went in the work function? If it's her, she cheated on the "trip". If it was you, she still cheated in your absence. That's why the silent conflict escalated right after this trip. She's gone man. She also never "lost" the 1st ring. She's hidden it. She has already been preparing and putting assets away to sell after your separation. You are 5 steps behind and your emotions are clouding your ability to see her for exactly who she is.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 11:33 AM
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Lol....well someone is finding out the hard way just how hard it is to be a single parent in a one income household. She was hoping Mr New guy will absorb her and the kids and become a family. That didn't happen. He was playing around. So now it's back to old reliable you. Stop telling her you still love her. As a woman she's programmed to hear that differently to how you hear it coming from her. She imagines reconciliation and all that while you are not. You are able to separate loving her whil…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 03:11 PM
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No of course not. However every family, whether together or apart has unique dynamics. Sometimes the divorce and new blended families has invisible effects on the kids which manifest in self destructive ways later on. In this case the OP has the blessing of being told by the kid up-front just how unsettled he is. Not many parents get that and so clearly articulated. If I were him I'd put off the wedding for the time being and place focus on grounding my child and get him to a place emotionally a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 11:46 AM
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Man, is it really necessary for you to get married? 3 kids? Whose house will you be living in? Will your son have his own sleeping space when he comes over or will they need to make "room" for him? Financially, will you still be able to do things for just your son or will it be a stretch? One thing I can tell you is that if at 7yrs old he's verbalizing this, that means he is already feeling pushed to the side in favour of the new kids.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 07:57 AM
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You need to leave this sub. You have no business here. Nobody here needs or appreciates your "advice". You've just proven exactly why you don't belong here with these "relationship-advice words of the day" like "misogynist, insecure, immature" when guys are just trying to discuss what matters to them, not you. Take your shit input somewhere else.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 01:46 AM
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You are the girlfriend of this loser trying to figure out his psyche from strangers instead of facing the truth and handling your relationship. This is NOT a relationship advice sub. It's not a parenting or stepparenting sub either. I suggest you take this tripe there. Here MEN lend support to one another in the difficult stages of pre, during and post divorce. We do not solve riddles of deadbeats and their desperate girlfriends. Please remove this from here. Maybe try femaledatingstrategy
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 04:21 AM
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Toxic masculinity 😭🤣
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 09:31 PM
2

I asked myself the same thing. What kind of man would even CONSIDER another option?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 04:56 AM
2

The same unhappiness you are experiencing withing yourself and the marriage is the same unhappiness that she also going through. The only difference is that she and you have allowed her to take it out on you because she knows the law is on her side against you. Make haste and put a stop to it now to mitigate the long term damage to your health and finances.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/23 08:01 AM
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Keep the kid full time and argue that she's never around to actually raise the girl. You may avoid child support altogether with this strategy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 08:40 AM
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With all due respect and consideration to your situation but honestly lady, there are several subs specifically for relationship advice that you could and should have gone to for this. This is not the place for dispensing couples therapy and all these intimate things. Here men gather specifically to support each other by giving divorce related tips and just male comradery in tough times. This post is inappropriate and I can't believe there are people here actually entertaining this soap opera. J…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 07:48 PM
23

🤣😭 This is exactly how they rope men in to unwise marriages. They feign some new found innocence and religious righteousness because the og baby daddy skipped town and time is running out for them to lasoe a new dad for their kid.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 02:47 AM
1

Don't forget Toxic masculinity & invalidating my feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 03:32 AM
2

She's abusive. Everything you described is abuse. If she had made this post in the other women-biased subs, she'd be told to make a getaway plan and yank the rug from under you. Lawyers, police reports, friends etc. When you married her, did you know she was like this?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 09:44 AM
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Most of these gals have a tendency to report false assault on their husbands. If you are both alone, she may very well instigate a fight that she will then record and present as you "threatening" her. They use this to get men out of their homes because they are "scared". Watch her actions as much as her words. If you can get into her phone, do so and screenshot any useful info. Be proactive
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 05:18 PM
2

Communicate by text as much as you can. Don't make false promises. Be aware of your surroundings, on the lookout for false accusations. If you don't have a ring camera, install one.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 05:07 PM
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She married you to have kids and tick off a box. Your usefulness has expired yet you are prepared to suffer in silence. People who do this don't realize it but the anger and resentment manifests itself in other spheres of your life. Addiction, anger issues, infidelity, emotionally closed off, over spending etc. Don't fool yourself, you WILL act out in some way at some point when your mental capacity is fed up of being sexually frustrated and not getting your other needs met.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 07:45 AM
1

A person who quits their job in anger is immature and selfish. If you have kids you stick it out until you secure something else. She's deliberately doing this because she knows you are there waiting to baby her and take the fall for her. People who have no choice do what is best with the situation they are in. I don't get guys like you honestly.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 09:30 AM
4

Nothing new here. Most of them simply don't want to work and that's why they get married to begin with. They envision a life of leisure. Napping, Netflix, tiktok with an unlimited credit. The really smart women know how to play the game. They do their part, even if it's basically being useless but they contribute in other ways and not only hide behind the SAHM title as if they should be thanked for being a parent. It's the impatient ones who do this shit. Don't fall for it. Let her ass get up an…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 04:02 PM
3

Tell them they are not the ones that have to live and sleep next to her 24/7 and your self worth getting chipped away at everyday. It's like a spouse who insists that you stay at a job that is literally making you sick and unhappy but pays well enough to afford a nice lifestyle for them. They are not the ones that have to spend 9hrs a day in misery.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 02:57 PM
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She's snapping out of it and realizing how much work and money it will take to raise her own kids by herself without her current walking atm. This isn't about working shit out. It's become about economics for her. It's ok for her to berate you in front of them but she's suddenly feeling protective of them when you threaten to leave?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 01:25 PM
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It's ok for her to be on tinder but I guarantee you, when she sees that you are also casting your net wide, she'll get jealous and then vengeful. The whole "I don't want your money" BS will change upon further instruction from friends, family and lawyer. Get off dating sites, keep being civil and feeding her ego until those papers are signed and processed. Can never trust someone who's capable of yanking the rug from under your feet like this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 04:23 AM
30

This is what you get for keeping a whore as your wife. Fucked 3 men that you know of in a single year and yet you still STAYED? Dude??....
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 06:42 PM
8

I don't know how far into the gutter I'd have to fall in order for me to reconcile and lay down with an unfaithful whore who has become another dude's leftovers in my marriage bed again. How much self respect and dignity did you lose while standing next to her listening to her break up with her lover? C'mon man. You want to reconcile because you love her truly or because you want to avoid the divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 12:14 PM
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This isn't the sub for this kind of whiney BS. Go to relationship advice subs for that. Here we support men going through divorce, not guide them into new relationships. Pls remove this as it's of no interest to anyone here
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 06:41 PM
3

If a man wants jump off a bridge despite knowing what's on the other side, who are we to stop him? Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 02:46 PM
11

Get out now before the years accumulate or she gets pregnant. Start taking charge of your life and emotions man. Everything you wrote is about "them" doing this and that to you. Take the lead. Draw the lines and for God's sake stop acting like a teenage girl who listens to any bullshit that is blown in her ear by a love interest. Women can't provide happiness for you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 09:52 AM
9

Immediate cancelation Name calling Some loser from when he was 20yrs old would probably come out of the woodwork and claim "he breathed in my direction while at a party in college and I felt violated, then he invalidated my feelings". She'd get support also.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 04:52 AM
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What do you mean "I miss her and want to see her often"??? This is your chance to excise her from your life and you still engage in petty arguments with her? Oh man. Please stop.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 05:37 PM
3

What the fuck is this? Take this shit someplace else. This is NOT your dating site.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 10:11 AM
12

Classic case. Together 7 yrs. Get married and BOOM, no more sex. She just wanted the "wedding" where all her friends could celebrate and fawn all over her. Leave now man. It's over.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 04:20 AM
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A pathetic 40+ yr old spinster who's trawling men's online forums looking for a sympathetic wallet to lean on is calling me "bitter".....right ok lady 😂. Are you sure you've posted this tripe on enough subs?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:09 PM
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This isn't the space for whiney, lonely women. It's for men's solidarity and support during divorces. Take this to some relationship advice subs pls.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 12:51 PM
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Have you learned nothing from your 1st marriage? If you start letting them dictate from the beginning, a pattern will develop and you'll be right back here in another 5yrs with another divorce under your belt. Go to Xmas, she can sulk all she wants but it's not her call
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 06:40 AM
1

Why are you here?
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 05:13 PM
10

I would have left her just for the fake suicide threat. I hate these manipulative people who think holding someone hostage like this is acceptable. They have no self love. A self respecting person would not feel good sleeping next to a person whom they know wants nothing to do with them. It just adds to their damage-ness. You've enabled it once and now she knows she can use that weapon anytime you even breathe in the opposite direction.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 12:36 PM
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Be extra careful with the 'fights' she's randomly picking. It may be a trap to record you being "violent and threatening". A lot of women advise each other to bait and record any arguments where they can make themselves look, sound good and all victim-like. Just always remain calm in whatever argument she instigates.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 03:42 AM
12

Get a surrogate to carry your kids. No fighting over custody with anyone. You can afford it at your own pace. Do all the legalities to cover yourself. Raise your kids. Enjoy your life.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/22 07:41 PM
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Wrong sub dude
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 05:22 PM
3

Next she'll "come out" and you'll be expected to celebrate her "bravery". She's cheating man. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 05:48 AM
13

Desperate losers trawling men's divorce forums looking for suckers to reel in to their web. Ignore all of it
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 05:13 PM
10

They don't miss you, as a person. They miss what you provided for them, they miss the power they had over you, they miss the status. Their eyes and reality is now open to the truth that they simply can't cut it out there as single people in the world and having to pay their way through life.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 06:11 AM
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My man, you married a serial bride. One who probably knows how to walk away from all husbands with cash & assets in hand. This is a strategic, calculating woman especially given that she's an attorney. She's building those college funds for her brood from all the husbands. You really should have known better. The verbal vomit, internet-trendy you are invalidating my feelings is an often used tactic by people who refuse to be held accountable for their actions. It's the line they use to shut down…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 06:57 AM
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Be glad you haven't been married too long. You can make a clean break and make better choices next time. When your mind is clear, you'll probably think back and SEE all the red flags you deliberately neglected because you thought marriage would fix it all.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 01:16 PM
9

You had all the leverage and you squandered it because "I love her, she's a good mom"....What the fuck? NO...SHE'S NOT. She's trained you to fear her while simultaneously being loyal to her at your own expense. Well, it's no longer at your expense but your son's as well. Wake up man and ditch this bitch and clean her out.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 12:29 PM
58

Wait until you are done with the divorce, then do it. Right now it may affect your wife's emotional response to the divorce and give you a hard time. Burn them afterwards
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 04:06 AM
5

Female wedding guests are some of the worst thing to happen. You are absolutely right about the fairytales they weave in their minds, the rush home to start pressuring their partners about rings. It's like the wedding celebration induces something in the ovaries that floods the brain and demands that they overlook any problems in the relationship because they will be fixed by a wedding. Oh and...it's "marry"
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 12:57 PM
2

Sound advice. "She was fat" 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/22 01:38 PM
1

Oh.my God. Great time to get laid without the guilt. Do it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 01:25 PM
10

Is this a joke? 2-3 times a year?
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 04:09 AM
1

I loved the ....."while you're at it"....👊😂
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 06:43 AM
1

Can you believe her? What the fuck?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 06:18 PM
12

She can't even pretend to write this using words that convey true remorse and actual real love for him. It's all about the lifestyle. Suddenly she misses their family. I wish someone would find him an show him this post.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 04:23 PM
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It's one thing for her to attempt reconciliation but what is she doing to address the issues that brought you here to begin with?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 02:41 PM
3

Some people, yes especially w***te women are determined to change their kids genders regardless of who says what. These people are dangerous and at some point the law has to be involved. I read a post 2 days ago by another guy whose pregnant wife is determined and promising him that the kid WILL be gay and transgender. She has pre decided this before the child is born. This is becoming a societal problem because I for one will not allow anyone's kid to rename my kids at school and address them i…
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 05:37 AM
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