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You’re going to struggle for a while, especially trying to make it all make sense. It will all become a sad memory for you, a memory that will make you stronger into the future. Start your journey by looking after yourself and learning to heal yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 10:04 PM
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Mine kept saying, apparently in a joking manner, “You couldn’t afford to divorce me!” As Robin Williams said, divorce is expensive because it’s worth it. She honestly thought she’d be entitled to a helluva more than she actually got. I’m certainly happier now !!
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 08:12 AM
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Funnily enough I had a somewhat reversed conversation with my Ex along these lines. I was clearing out the garage in the former family home, and whilst doing so she saw me getting my 2002 1600cc Yamaha Roadstar ready for me to ride to my new place. She started going off at me, about how the motorbike was an asset and needed to be included within the list of communal property BLAH BLAH BLAH. Now, at this stage in our relationship, I was prone to only giving very short, curt answers and basically …
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 06:58 AM
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The brevity of something is the fact that it is short or lasts for only a short time. Hence my use of the word little, and the fact it was meant to bring a small amount of humour.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 07:00 PM
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Your mind, body and heart will thank you for leaving almost everything behind, and there is good out there. It will find you. You will be whole again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 10:02 PM
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Luv ya work brother. Keep on keeping on and living that best life. They hate it when you're happy and they're not!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 11:57 PM
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No gifts. A nice “Happy Birthday <NAME> 🥳” is all you need to send. No card, no bells and no whistles!! You will feel no guilt or remorse.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 10:18 PM
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Brother, it does get better. Not right away but time will help you heal. Give yourself that time, don’t rush into doing something that will hurt your kids. They will miss you far too much and will not get to know the true father you are. Hold strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/22 08:09 AM
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I’m doing great now, thanks. I’m even dating again, but definitely never, ever cohabitating again. I’m loving the single life, and enjoying someone to have dinner and fun times when I want.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 08:01 AM
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I put my kids and my wife ahead of me and “stuck it out” for 21 years. I honestly think the kids have mentally suffered because of it. My boys both went through shitty relationships with girls / women who used and abused them for what they could get out of them. My daughter lives with her Mum and can be a little bitch to me, manipulating me to try and get things, lack of communication etc. I honestly think it’s my fault. They saw how their mother treated me, and I let her do it. I was always the…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 04:05 AM
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Take care of you and your kids. That’s all you need to think about now.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/22 02:26 PM
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There is nothing stopping you living with a lady for a few months, to see if you like it. Just check on the minimum number of months before a “live in” girlfriend becomes a “de facto spouse”. That’s when they suddenly have legal access to your money, for the apparent “hardship” of living with you. 1) Don’t put all your money into a joint account. The joint account is for bills that you “both” have to pay out for. 2) Do NOT take on more than you can chew financially. If you can’t afford it on you…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 07:01 AM
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Not enough is always a bad thing, and when it was instigated it was ALWAYS on her terms. Had to be in the morning as in the evening she would be “too awake” afterwards. Not being truly happy for 21 years tends to lead one to think being unhappy is the norm. I was so happy when I had the balls to say enough was enough.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 09:04 AM
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No strategy my friend. We separated at the end of April 2021 after 21 years together. She did the dirty just before getting diagnosed with breast cancer on Jan 1st 2020. Yours truly stayed and got her through the cancer and was rewarded by her getting back in touch with her fling. Thailand was an opportunity to get away from all the crap. I’d moved away in September 2021 where no one knew me, but I could have stayed where I was as I knew no one there either. A very good friend of mine offered me…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 08:11 PM
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Enjoy this Friday bud. Just try to think about you and go with the flow. My only real advice would be to mention divorce once. You’re done with the ex. Now’s it’s you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 12:58 PM
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I am envious of you bud, but I can only think how lucky you are to have those buds. I had no-one (not looking for pity) but I’m spending my current time riding and enjoying Thailand. Been here 2 months so far, and just extended another 2. Meeting new people and making good friends along the way. Lots of ex-pats who’ve divorced and giving unsolicited great advice. Good friends are hard to find. Enjoy the time you all have together and keep those relationships fired up even if you do find love aga…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 11:47 AM
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This. I was having a great wine, dine and fahook scenario with a nice (and naughty) lady that I met through Tinder whilst separated from the Ex. As far as I was concerned things were great, then one night, post coitus, she asks me if I’ll ever marry again once I’m divorced. I physically laughed out loud and said “Nah, not a chance in hell that I would go through that crap again!” Apparently, those were NOT the words or reaction she was hoping for. HAHAHAHA…. Dodged a bullet there methinks!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 04:43 PM
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Thanks brother, I might just do tgat
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 12:45 PM
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I’ve just booked myself on 2 months R & R over in Thailand. I fly out Thursday evening and come back in February. I’m picking up a friend’s motorbike and just fucking off into the wild. Wish me luck, fellas!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 05:28 AM
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Listen to your head this time, brother. Your heart will mend with time. If you're enjoying the single life, and more importantly more "peachful (sic) and stress free" then I think you already know the answer. I've been separated from my Ex since April, and only moved away in Sept just before we sold the marital home. The peace and stress free lifestyle has often led me to feelings of guilt, that I shouldn't be enjoying my life away from her, that I should be enjoying it with her..... and that's …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 12:53 PM
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Cry all you want, brother. There’s no shame in expressing your emotions. LET. IT. OUT!! Bottling it up hurts. It churns away and makes you bitter. F*ck that shite. Live your life and screw the haters. If you feel the urge to cry, let it out. If you’re with good friends, those boys KNOW your hurting. If there’s a man amongst them, he will stand up, grab you and hug you SO tight you can’t breath. Fuck, I’m currently sat in a bar writing this and I’ve got tears in my eyes. Dude, I’m hugging you tig…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 07:00 AM
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Happy wife, Why the strife??
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/21 01:30 PM
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Sorry to hear that, bud. I was living in the same house as STBX so she had to pay the bills with me, otherwise I’d have just walked away and we both would have suffered financially.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/21 02:58 AM
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I hear ya brother. Just try to take care of yourself and hopefully it will all work out. I’m now in my new place, on my own, and far from the drama. STBX just sent me a bill for a bond clean that’s gonna be done on Wednesday to the house we’re selling. I found an email I sent her back in June that she never responded to, where I detailed 40% of bill I paid that she still owes me. It will work out better for you, brother, and you will look back and smile. One day. Just look after yourself and kee…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/21 08:36 PM
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Thanks brother, and if I was in Canada I’d take you up on that offer. I’m in Australia and moving from the Gold Coast up to the Sunshine Coast. I’ve just only thought of this: Gold Coast = Gold Digger Sunshine Coast = Sunshine for the rest of my life!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/21 10:44 PM
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Thanks for the words of wisdom, they’re appreciated!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/21 06:57 AM
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Cheers bud. I hope it goes well for you
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/21 06:55 AM
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Thanks bud, it’s greatly appreciated
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/21 06:54 AM
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Congratulations on getting where you're at, brother!! Well done and may you carry on living your best life!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/21 10:28 PM
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No, it’s how she’s justified it all in her head. She even told me how the bloke she started this all with, at her workplace, actually stuck up for me when she was having a moan about the fact I gave our solicitor (dealing with the house sale) both our tax file numbers. I don’t need to hear anything about that prick, you conceited whore!! Roll on 20th September.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 08:18 PM
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This is going to be hard to hear, but it's time to think about you, brother. Focus on getting yourself into a better mental state and stop letting her keep renting space inside that head of yours. The therapy you're receiving is a great way of getting the help you need within that head. A lawyer is a great way of getting the help you need for everything else. They're expensive, yes, but sounds like one is very necessary in your instance. Find time to get to the gym, or out on a bicycle, or walki…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/21 10:30 PM
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Haha... no alimony here in sunny Australia thankfully
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/21 03:36 AM
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Well done brother!! Great choices!!
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/21 11:42 AM
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As a guy doing it on his own with no family or close friends around, the biggest thing you can do is be there for him. Hold him. Hug him tight. Be present. He’s probably gonna be hurting and knowing he can vent to you, without judgement, is priceless. Help him through.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/21 11:58 PM
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Well done brother. I’m just starting that same journey at 50 and looking forward to lots of me time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/21 03:38 AM
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If you’re not happy at home or at work then something has to change for you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/21 11:19 AM
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Totally understand. I’m thinking about putting up my story as I am currently going through separation and it is going to lead to divorce. Fortunately I only have one kid left at home, and she’ll be 16 next month. Not a problem about custody as daughter pretty much does her own thing at weekends anyways. The hardest thing for us is splitting the assets, which includes my superannuation. I’m not happy about that as most of it was accrued before we got together. Then again, I’m living in Australia …
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/21 12:19 AM
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Vent all you want, brother. We’re all here to help each other. It’s time for you and your daughter!!
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 10:51 PM
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Take solace in the fact that this will make you a stronger person. You will look back on your time with her, and may possibly even smile one day. Take care of yourself and your dog. Focus on mending you. Take a bit of time away from social media, and meet with your friends and family as much as you can. Don’t let her take up time in your head anymore. That space is for you now. Crack open a nice bottle of whatever you like and start to live your life. Enjoy it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 11:48 PM
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