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It really depends on my mood and on the bill. If I don’t like the guy and it took me an entire meal to figure it out, I’ll pay. Usually they insist and if I really don’t like him I’ll let him pay because I find the song and dance of it all annoying. If I think he’s a good person but just not for me, I’ll pay the bill. I usually go to the bathroom in the middle of the date and pay the bill without them knowing to, again, avoid the song and dance of who is gonna pay. I don’t expect men to pay the …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 12:45 PM
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I’ve never been tricked into sex, never felt used for sex. I’ve had casual sex and also a few short term flings/fuck buddies and they were great from the start, that’s why I slept with them and enjoyed it so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:39 PM
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“I can change him” and “I’m special enough for him to change for me” is something of the last generation for the most part. Men today have to lie about their true nature and intentions primarily because women are unwilling to see if a man can change or be different half the time. The only time women fall for it is when they’re naive and believe in potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:27 PM
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My point is literally that this cute little pissing contest of who benefits from the war is immature and all wrong :) one doesn’t benefit more than the other, it’s literally a tragedy. It’s pathetic and frankly disgusting to think of the “beneficiary” :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:33 AM
1

It varies on where someone is in life, not their actual age. If someone is happily married for 60 years they probably don’t care about the opposite sex at all. They care about their partner. If someone became suddenly single at 60 and they want a new partner, they will care and make an effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:24 PM
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No, I love the way I look
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 02:11 PM
1

Being a front person for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:16 AM
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Most women watch and enjoy lesbian porn. Personally I used to do homo stuff with other girls at parties because it was exciting, fun, and funny. It was also a safe way to explore my sexuality without all the risks I felt were associated with doing so with men. I can’t go up to a guy, dance, kiss, and hype him up and then leave without him expecting more, following me, etc. Girls are fun and don’t expect anything from me. It’s really just fun and exciting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:55 AM
1

I don’t mind waiting. Depends on the person I’m with
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:36 AM
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If that’s what he wants
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:34 AM
1

He should do what he wants to. If that means move on, then move on. What’s the drama
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:32 AM
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Easy. She should only have sex when she wants to
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:22 AM
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Pilots who are cheaters have entire families in different countries lol it’s wild
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:07 PM
4

Horrible schedules and also they tend to be hoes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:28 PM
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Why are you taking my preferences as a rule for what dating will look like for you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:30 PM
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Their schedules are wild, especially emergency room docs and surgeons.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:29 PM
4

Pilots, armed forces, doctor, anything social media related, and no career.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:25 PM
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I’ve read all of Robert Greene’s books. Not really dating advice but lots of fascinating ideas and concepts. There are a lot of fun relatable historical stories in each of his books, makes for fun conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 12:54 AM
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Its still is catfishing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:32 PM
2

Lying about your age is also basically catfishing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:48 PM
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I wonder why
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:51 PM
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Is it that you don’t care or that you don’t feel like you have the option to care?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:25 PM
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That’s sad to me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:18 PM
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Contributing to the oppression Olympics is silly to me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:13 PM
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But men do seem to care when women lead them on or have them pay for everything and then don’t have sex with them. Attention from an insecure older guy is easy to keep and use! Especially if you want concert tickets and the like. it doesn’t always stop at the group chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:05 PM
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Sounds like your personal feelings. I can’t invalidate that you feel that way, all I know is that when i would encounter men who lied about their age online, my friends and I would have a field day making fun of them. It all works out in the end. Women who accept liars will accept you if you’re a liar, make of that what you will
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:52 PM
2

See? You get it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:43 PM
4

Populations of people don’t benefit from war themselves. The people in power do, the economy might, the country (abstract) might. But there is a human cost to war that is inescapable. That’s just the bottom line.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:42 PM
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You think op is getting laid? I’m going to need hard proof of that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:41 PM
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There are benefits to winning, of course. This is basic math, right? That doesn’t negate my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:14 PM
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Look, I do think you need to lie about your age personally. I think it’s best for everyone involved that you continue to do so. You don’t need to justify your lying to me lol if you continue to lie and act as you do, it will work out for everyone involved :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:12 PM
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I specifically said the man that win benefits most. You keep thinking about all men or all women. That’s really besides the point :) Ukrainians and Russians as individuals didn’t decide to go to war. Putin did. So either he wins or loses. Benefits or downfalls outside of that are subjective
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:01 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with makeup :) you considering makeup a lie is just your personal feeling. All feelings are valid but they are just… feelings :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:57 PM
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war ultimately benefits the man that wins. So. Make of that what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:37 PM
5

Your personality blossomed? 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:14 PM
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Let him lie about his age lol. It’ll keep him single in the long term and ultimately that may be what’s best for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:13 PM
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Honestly? Please keep lying about your age and talking the way you do :) it’ll work out for everyone, don’t sweat the haters!!! 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:11 PM
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Equality doesn’t always mean sameness. We revert back to what we are used to and what we know to work. No one has resolved the issue of human violence and that has a human cost. No one has devised an alternative for reproduction. And like you said, there are a lot of reasonable reasons to keep human reproduction safe. Even when the ratios and results don’t work in your personal favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:07 PM
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Go visit those cities and see how little it matters to the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:29 AM
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It’s legal in a lot of places and things are mostly the same. No hate yo sex worked but it’s not a flex to have access to SW compared to having access to a date you need to pay to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:41 AM
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FBI watchlist material
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 06:02 PM
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I mop every day. I have a dog and live in a filthy city. not a germaphobe just clean and organized
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:05 AM
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I’m fine with drinks, lunch, and confiding in each other. Not ok with over nights or private vacations. This is assuming everything else checks out. So that I means I know her personally, have gone out with them before, he is not secretive or oddly protective/defensive of her, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:17 PM
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Not in our lifetime. And it certainly will not exist without new concerns for ethics in relation to literally everything
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:37 PM
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Fantasy is not real life. Did you know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:13 PM
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I do hang out with a lot of hockey players, gym rats, and engineers. Too many other Eastern Europeans lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:55 PM
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So 12 - 21 got it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:54 PM
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you can google it yourself, women get more horny with age. I don’t need to worry about a safety net lol I’m rich and attractive. Taken by a heart throb too. Maybe no one chose to be with you at a young age because of your personality, which I’m sure is lovely :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:54 PM
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I love that song!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:28 PM
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Depends on what you’re looking for lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:28 PM
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Plenty of people get catty sometimes, it’s ok I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:20 PM
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they want a circlejerk with their homies, it’s not gay if you say no homo 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:10 PM
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How old are you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:01 PM
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I have a lot of male friends but I don’t hang out with their guy groups. They’re usually boring or pissing contests. It’s honestly like they don’t like each other and they just make passive aggressive digs at each other. It’s kind of a weird competition thing I usually find sad, there’s always a runt of the group I feel bad for lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 02:44 PM
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holding a grudge seems is catty. Don’t get me wrong, I love drama. Js
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:23 AM
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Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:17 AM
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Preferences change with time. It’s not just social media imo. As I get older I get more interested in men, I felt pretty neutral towards guys growing up. I liked some attention but disliked most of it and I didn’t even like sex til I was in my mid to late 20s. At 30 your hormones make you hornier than before. My mom warned me, friends warned me, I don’t think I believed them lol. Apparently it gets worse for us at 40 lol so…. Invest in some good toys! To be fair to you, I’ve never found Johnny D…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:14 AM
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Once a month…. I clean daily. I don’t have clutter or anything that requires “deep cleaning” aside from the oven. Moping, disinfecting, and dusting should be done daily…. Laundry can suck it tho
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:04 AM
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I’d love for all my clothes to be folded and put away. That’s sexy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 02:54 AM
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Most women don’t. There are plenty that do, but even then, they don’t necessarily resent younger women they just resent getting old. Men struggle with this too, especially in their midlife crisis times. Men especially regret “wasting” their youth and not doing all the things they “missed out on.” But traditional women are another story because they do have a different experience When I was younger, older women always protected me and lifted me up. They really nurtured me. Did they criticize what…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 09:16 PM
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I do think women would benefit the most from having bots. They’d be safe, reliable, and pleasurable. If he can do household stuff like laundry I’d get one for sure. I’d do a lot of things to never have to do laundry again 😪
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 07:50 PM
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He was really into me and a total romantic even though I didn’t want anything long term. He would give me massages, take me to Home Depot, cook for me. He was like a foster boyfriend. We didn’t want the same things so that’s as far as it went
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:06 AM
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Seriously. I don’t understand the obsession with forcing things that don’t work. Be yourself, if they leave you’ll find someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:54 PM
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Sex isn’t bad, you’re probably approaching it in a toxic way which is what receives criticism
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:14 PM
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You’re ignoring the fact that there is still love in the mix. She still loves her husband, she is using sex as a way to find intimacy in a time where she cannot receive the love she needs from her husband. But all the same, she still has love for her husband and is seeking a way to feel that. That’s similar to breakups and why girls have hoe phases. They still have love for someone but nowhere to put all that love, nowhere to get it back. Sex is an easy way to feel intimacy. The desire, connecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:51 PM
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I’m fine with either but prefer women as friends. They’re better friends overall in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:16 PM
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If you act like a little bitch when you’re rejected, that’s because acting like a little bitch is in your nature. Don’t blame women for your nature. They can’t fix you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:44 PM
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Becoming better looking can help, it’s no guarantee. There are no guarantees in life. You’re not even guaranteed to wake up tomorrow. Plenty of average guys have casual sex. That’s half the scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:08 AM
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Depends on what’s reasonable for him and what he chooses. If he’s not monogamous, I don’t see why he should have to concede that. There are plenty of non monogamous women (and other genders). He should look within that pool and focus on what he wants. Just because it’s hard, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. But if he is lazy and just wants to complain, I’d argue he should continue doing what he’s doing so he doesn’t waste anyones time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:32 AM
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How can men have the love life they want without conceding? By not conceding and making an effort to build the love life they want. Masturbating is not conceding… it’s a natural thing. What can men do to have more freedom on the nature of their relationships? Get bigger social networks, better yourselves, be focused on pursuing what you want What can women do to help these men? Why would women want to help these men? I’d argue women should do the same things for themselves. Focus on what you wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:16 AM
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When I was 21, I saw 30 as old. It’s one thing to be attracted to older guys and then to be attracted to them after you get to know them. I guess I still expect guys older than me to be more experienced in sex and relationships, I’ve only ever wanted them when I felt they had their life together and could better mine. It would be embarrassing to introduce an old guy to my friends unless he was a heart throb
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:28 PM
2

Yeah, I’m picky lol but it pays off!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:22 PM
2

It’s real for people who want it for the right reasons. There are many kinds of love, some love lasts for now, others last forever. If you approach it transactionally, the only love you can develop is one that pays that price.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:15 PM
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They find people they connect with and fall in love. It sounds impossible but it happens every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 12:08 PM
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Don’t expect anyone to participate in your own personal masochism, if you have any. Just move on
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 12:03 PM
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This is proof you can’t handle honesty. You are looking to make her a villain because she doesn’t want you lol. You’ll be cursed with “I’m busy” until you grow out of that, I promise that much
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 12:00 PM
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Lmfaooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:56 AM
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If men prefer brutal honesty, they should make women feel safe to provide that. Men should also learn that a rejection is a rejection. I’m not looking good something is a no. Next time tell women “I’ll understand if you’re not interested, I won’t take it personally”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:52 AM
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I meet guys on Hinge. I’ve dated maybe 30 guys over the past 3 years or so. A lot of first dates. I don’t pursue, I have a very relaxed approach until I find someone I really like and then once I get to know them a bit I tend to be more on their level of involved in pursuing. I’ve been taken since 2021 so no more dating for me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:25 PM
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Depends on how complacent or desperate someone is and also how incompatible the other person is. Everyone likes different things. Perfection isn’t real but incompatibilities are
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:53 PM
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Being born into a religious or conservative family doesn’t mean you will be religious or conservative. People who have kids don’t have a responsibility to populate the next generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:21 PM
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OP asked and I answered :) if you don’t like the honesty, go elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 11:44 AM
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I’ve got nothing to prove to the internet. I’m an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 11:35 AM
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Who says I don’t provide that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:06 AM
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I do expect a lot. I’m not ashamed of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:45 AM
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Honestly? Men are whining more than ever and it’s exhausting. They are very much defeatists, most aren’t curious about the women they date, they just want easy and guaranteed sex. I see most single men I’ve met as passive, lazy, complacent, and traumatized by the world not falling at their feet. Physically, some men seem to become exhausted at the thought of making an effort to look good (so they don’t make an effort), others make so much of an effort that they expect their feet kissed. It’s har…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 10:37 PM
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Not really, it’s just not appealing or worth the time if that’s not what I want
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:36 PM
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We can have sex with almost anyone. If that’s not what we are looking for, we will see you as a nuisance. That is just as logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:04 PM
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How so
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:03 AM
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Letting go of the outcome allows you to be more flexible and to enjoy life. It doesn’t need to happen perfectly, when you need things to happen people can sense that whenever we like admit it or not
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:20 PM
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No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:10 PM
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Weak men and women respond very well to being treated like shit. They feel like the person being a little bitch is very exclusive and hard to get. It’s sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:39 PM
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Yeah I don’t see how sex can be a morality issue at all. It’s silly isn’t it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:37 PM
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That is fine but know many women won’t date a guy with views like that, even with a low n count. It makes men seem weak and insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 02:28 PM
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There is nothing immoral about having sex. Unless you’re religious or something weird
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 02:20 PM
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There’s no science to that. You can talk to a doctor and they will tell you the same thing. This is very common sense and simple to comprehend honestly I don’t see how you can think what you do without evidence. It’s just your feeling I guess……??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 05:01 AM
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That could have also been the reason why they don’t have kids to begin with. So I don’t see the value in stating that. It’s also possible they would have been more depressed with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:28 AM
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They’re human like anyone else. No need to make it complex. Humans have biological functions, the only biological destiny we have is death. That’s a fact, denying it is an emotional issue to speak with a provider about
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:26 AM
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They do just fine. In many ways, they can have a higher quality of life. Studies show they live slightly shorter lives but it’s by just a few years. Hardly a big deal imo. But this is likely do to a lot of reasons, including lifestyle choices. Evolution isn’t sentient, it is a result of heritable traits and genetic variation. People who don’t have kids don’t genetically contribute to evolution. Evolution doesn’t care about what you do with your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 03:09 AM
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Don’t forget pp size and girth. And also wrist width!!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 10:29 PM
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Sure but it makes it easier to find someone you’d actually like
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:40 PM
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I’ve definitely read about racism hurting white people. I don’t think it’s a common topic, but some easy examples are that white people have fear and hatred of others. This results in fear and anger
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:34 PM
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It’s really hard to say. Do I love him? Am I happy with him? Will he go back to normal one day? I don’t believe in opening up a relationship when it’s weak. I respect myself enough to not cheat on someone. Id want him to tell me honestly what he thinks. I could go a month without if I’m busy. After that I think if I loved him and understood the situation I could wait 6 months. But only if the situation is serious and he is working through it. If it is unknown and he doesn’t see a doctor at all, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:39 PM
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We don’t owe each other anything. If you feel like women need to control their n count it just means that you feel entitled to control their bodies. The issue is actually control issues and entitlement. I’m glad women won’t listen to this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:31 PM
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It really depends in my opinion. I found it unattractive for a very long time. Now I see it more neutral since it happens to many guys as they age, hard to escape that reality. We all age and tastes change in age. I’m more understanding of that as I get older. But a lot more guys are doing laser therapy now to keep their hair for a while longer, so that’s cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:18 PM
1

Nope. I’m opposed to drafts and required service.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:11 PM
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I like getting to know someone new over text for a few days before the first date. After that I like when they text a lot, even when I don’t text much back. I am not a big texter, I’m very lazy and would rather see them in person. But when it comes to dating I can forget about a guy very easily and lose interest. If you’re not popping up on my phone frequently in an engaging way, I might accidentally ghost you for a few days or move on. I get so many dms and texts, I tend to avoid them because i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:15 PM
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It’s been a long day. I think you should spend some time offline
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:41 AM
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I’d be hot but gay, it may actually work out fine still.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:04 AM
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At this point, this whole sub is using this guy’s profile for entertainment. Personally, I don’t think he asked for this or would be okay with all the attention and frankly, disrespect, in these posts and comments. He does promise entertainment, he says he’s looking for someone who is spontaneous and who likes to adventure and travel. That’s really appealing to people who enjoy that. About your conclusions… What other people think of you doesn’t define who you are, it defines what they think of …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:41 PM
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his profile he specifically promises “spontaneous” adventure and travel. That’s pretty entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:29 PM
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No periods is a big one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:23 PM
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5’9
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:21 PM
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I like being a woman. It wasn’t something I chose, but I couldn’t imagine wanting to choose anything else. I think if I were somehow to be born a man, my life would have been very different. I’d make a hot guy though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:47 PM
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It doesn’t sound like no nonsense works in your favor. I can’t imagine why working out would matter in a fling where you’re seeing each other a few hours a week to bang tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:30 PM
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These kinds of details don’t matter in flings. The busier the guy is, the better because he won’t blow up your phone while you’re seeing other people. So I don’t think you need to continuously bring drama to your life by lying about something that doesn’t matter. But I’m a no nonsense person, i know a lot of guys prefer the dramatics lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:15 PM
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Sure, if you are a drama person and need to lie to get what you want then lying is central to your plan. My point still stands, if it’s a real issue for the other person you are causing drama. Some guys are just dramatic tho, so it’s not any better or worse than the other dramas they bring to a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:02 PM
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I feel kinda proud about this post :) If you tell someone something innocuous, they have no reason not to believe you. If you say you only go to the gym an hour a week and have abs, what the other person hears is that it’s easy for you and not something I need to worry about. If you say you go every day for an hour, that’s also a non issue because who cares? If you say you spent 20 hours a week in a gym, that’s a part time job lol. Still doable depending on the other aspects of your life. So you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:48 PM
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I don’t see the big deal in him losing but if he’s upset then that’s just how he feels. I have no problem comforting him. I don’t like mma in general, I don’t want a guy with too much brain damage. But that’s a separate conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:13 PM
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I don’t feel he is intimidating, I feel he is high maintenance. I’m intimidated by other engineers who also have active lives. A grad student with an active life is just a lot of work. If that clears it up for you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:11 PM
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Also, he’s not sure about kids at 28, which is pretty normal but unattractive all the same. and he is in grad school. So between fitness, travel, and school yeah I definitely feel he would be high maintenance. Whether that’s true or not is irrelevant since I wouldn’t match with him based on that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:57 PM
5

I don’t know what fitness you’re into that would make his body and hobbies not high maintenance. The amount of calories needed alone exhausts me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:53 PM
0

I don’t really care. What matters to me is who is he now, what does he want with me, and do our values align. What matters to me more would be number of relationships and understanding how they started and ended from his perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:46 PM
11

His pics and profiles are all about doing big things that take a ton of preparation. These are things that take a ton of time and consistency on his part. I know what it takes to build serious muscle and it’s a lot. he then says he wants someone who is spontaneous who wants to adventure. There’s nothing wrong with needing to do something all the time, that’s just not my type. I like guys who are in the gym or who have active hobbies, but not to an extreme. I figure skate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:43 PM
1

Totally agree lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:36 PM
28

He looks like the kind of guy who would judge you for wanting to stay in bed on a weekend. He strikes me as high maintenance. Even though he is attractive and has a great body, I don’t think we would have much to bond over. For the record, I am an athlete…. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:31 PM
1

Sure, some people “can’t” that doesn’t mean I should make room for those people in my own life. They should find someone who accepts them, I’m not that person
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:26 PM
1

I didn’t say that, though I’m sure it will be true for some. Someone who doesn’t have the opportunity for sex, who then goes to pay for it, instead of finding opportunities strikes me as in pain and in desperate need of sex. If they can’t go without it in a dry spell, I’d need to understand why that is. No one dies from not having sex, even though it makes someone very sad. So to cure his sadness/loneliness he turns to sex work? On an ethical level we just aren’t compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:40 PM
1

That’s very clear lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:13 PM
1

It’s actually more of an emotional and ethical issue that I would leave him for. But you can call it what you want, I know it makes men on here feel better to pretend to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 02:07 PM
1

I’ve left men I’ve loved, got no issue starting over lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:47 PM
1

If he saw a hooker because he couldn’t connect with women otherwise, that would be a red flag to me. I’d probably leave him
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:45 PM
1

The guys I go for wouldn’t have that issue so if he felt he couldnt get that chance… odds are he would have major emotional issues imo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:24 PM
1

Those women are saying what they want now. It would be a stretch to call it a mistake lol. It’s not wrong to get played by someone, it’s wrong to play someone. But I can tell you’re not going to get it, I will never understand why but my money is on you being very run of the mill and blaming women for the actions of men. Which is a cultural feeling most people do not challenge lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:01 PM
1

I don’t have solutions for you but it sounds like whoever you’re going for isn’t working for you anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:38 PM
2

Lying creates distance in a relationship. That being said, your past is your own and you don’t owe anyone anything. Be honest about who you were/are, you don’t need crazy specifics p
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:32 AM
1

I’m not confusing them, I don’t see anything inherently wrong with lots of sex, lots of partners, or lots of sex with lots of partners. I certainly would not call it a mistake to do, an individual can view their own choice as a mistake but they’re the only valid judge of that. Anything outside of that is just your own personal feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:25 AM
2

I’d want to hear the story of why he made that decision. I’d also want even more transparency in his test results. It would really depend on the situation and how he feels about it now, if I don’t like the answer I’d likely end the relationship Like why could he not just keep a fwb, one night stands, or short flings? What made him choose that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:14 AM
1

Is sex a mistake to you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:11 AM
1

You call it damage but relationships are a part of life, however short. You can hate when people have experiences outside of you, that’s a personal problem. You have your own issues, like anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:00 AM
3

I don’t really get why you’re replying to me. It’s annoying. Good for her
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 08:53 PM
1

Being horny and not wanting to be involved or vulnerable with a man. So 2. Not more gratifying, just more like eating comfort fast food.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:22 AM
7

I imagine it would be popular for women who don’t like to be desired, ones in the closet, asexual women, etc. That’s still a very small percentage of women overall. That being said, it would be great for women in poor countries who have to marry even when they’re unwilling
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:27 PM
1

You’re allowed to feel whatever you want. Everyone is. Feelings are valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:46 AM
0

Insecurity is just not attractive. It is a sign you need something from others, like validation, reassurance, special treatment, tiptoeing, etc. it shows that you are fragile. This is unattractive to anyone, regardless of gender. Men are more forgiving of insecure women they’d like to sleep with but that’s pretty much it. Some men see it as a plus, it makes it easier to sleep with a woman who is insecure. You can read about this in Robert Green’s laws of human nature The only people who love ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:57 AM
1

I have no issue when men twerk at the gym. It’s funny
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:54 AM
-1

If you’re not comfortable with something, say something. This goes both ways. You can’t escape the responsibility you have to yourself. Twerking in a fitness class isn’t inappropriate and likely does not violate the gyms TOS. And poor social skills definitely leads to mansplaining, needing to look at the sky/floor, and unintentional advances. As you can see by all your examples…. Many people have poor social skills. Being unable to say “stop” and “that makes me uncomfortable” or talking to hr ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:51 AM
1

Maybe guy 2 if he approached me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:49 AM
1

I see. I’m glad you clarified. It sounds like you understand that people find themselves as they age and that is probably better for both people
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:03 AM
3

What does age have to do with how she treats you lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:55 PM
7

Oof 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:52 PM
1

Because you are still entertaining the thought of “what if I did married her” when she was an age you liked. When that’s completely irrelevant. If it is relevant, please explain because it does not make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:51 PM
1

I was assuming you had enough self esteem that if someone cheated on you, you’d leave and not marry them. I assumed that would never be an option so that would be the end of the convo. But it sounds like I was wrong? Since you’re playing with the idea like it was a possibility. You’re making this about age when it’s about character lol. Do you see why that makes your argument weak and hard to understand? You should marry someone you like and who won’t cheat on you…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:49 PM
1

Ofcourse it isn’t, my highschool sweetheart Cheated on me when I went college and is now a overweight lesbian. Why would I want to be married to her now? Why ask this when she never wanted to really be with you…. Marrying her was never an option….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:54 PM
9

Lmao dont burst his bubble 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:50 PM
7

Don’t worry about decent guys, worry about yourself lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:49 PM
2

Don’t worry about what we expect from you, we are already disappointed so you are welcome to do as you please
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:44 PM
15

You don’t have to be okay with it. You could cry, for example, if that helps you. There are other things you can do to deal with life not being “fair” as well :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:38 PM
13

Men also have tits and ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:54 PM
1

No one told us anything. You’ve said nothing at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:17 AM
1

What
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:16 AM
7

Do you wanna vague it up for us some more
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 12:08 AM
1

What
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:53 PM
3

Such is life. Pain is not avoidable and it can be managed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:31 PM
1

Yeah I agree. No one fucks just anyone for no reason. There’s always a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:59 PM
3

It’s not really anyones responsibility to cure you of your feelings tbf. Volunteering only helps people who like to help people or people who like to be useful. Feeling better comes from self esteem, which is built through your own efforts on things you value. Which could be circle jerking, ig lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:58 PM
2

I don’t know that guys like yourself are going to make you feel much better. But I could be wrong, circle jerks are popular
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:46 PM
0

He would be delivering a fantasy. That’s in the op’s statement that he shouldn’t have to delivery anything.. No need to get aggressively defensive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:43 PM
2

I don’t think this is the same as what op is talking about. She had sex with those guys because she was into gangbangs and weird shit. I don’t think she would fuck anyone, but she would fuck anyone who would complete her fantasy and kinks. If guys put themselves out there, they could probably make a girl like her happy often
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:24 PM
–

Sounds like you’re taking a funny trope personally and are reacting to it because it makes you defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:21 PM
9

Go crazy. I think most people shouldn’t be parents do I think it’s a great idea
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:53 PM
17

I act like I don’t have a life 😭 istg this is my toxic trait
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:49 PM
8

It’s great. Divorce should not be used to punish someone for not being willing to commit to a relationship for life. While there may be other obligations that require adjustments, like property, finances, and kids, those can be determined fairly by a court without punitive judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:37 PM
78

I saw a really dumb comment on a relationship post, so I stalked his comment history and got introduced to this mess. It’s addictive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:29 PM
1

Yeah, maybe she’ll want to study.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:59 PM
2

Yeah, I’ve done this for friendship. But it could be more or lead to more
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 08:07 AM
-2

Idk it all looks pretty preschool to me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:21 PM
-5

It’s so cringe that they’re like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:18 PM
3

What the fuck… do you feel this way because it reflects your own control issues or is it from insecurity? Trying to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:18 PM
1

If you are acting like yourself and someone likes you, they like you for you. If you act like an ideal lover, you will attract people who like your act as an ideal lover. The advice to be yourself is assuming you want someone who will want you for who you actually are, not who you pretend to be. It doesn’t assume there is someone for everyone, it assumes that if you are able to attract someone, they will be attracted to you and not your mask. If no one likes you as you are, you can accept that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:35 PM
2

Oh god please no. I’m going to have nightmares
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 08:00 AM
2

I don’t think I could hate anyone for life lol. I really don’t think there’s anything a man could do, friend or potential love interest, to make me hate them. If they go ghost I’m sure I’ll feel confused but ultimately I’d be happier now that I’ll have more time to devote to someone else or myself If they go cold I would eventually assume you’re passive aggressive. If my partner cheats, I’d get over it. I don’t own them, so it’s not a big deal. Life goes on. If he’s dumb or ignorant or aggressiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:58 AM
9

I don’t see men as a monolith but I do try to learn from my own mistakes. Never considered “giving up” but I did consider the possibility that I might not find anyone I could love and be loved by. It’s a great exercise of maturity to feel happy and comfortable being alone. Some of my fondest memories were made when I was single and not entertaining anyone, it was really nice focusing on myself, friendships, family, and my pet. I have tried gay stuff but it wasn’t out of trauma lol it was out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:47 PM
16

I think your friend is in the closet. sounds like he’s only straight because that’s the default. Anyone can sleep around, even hot girls
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:06 PM
1

Oh so you can assume mine and I can’t assume yours. Very cute :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:35 PM
0

Hot guys aren’t all cheaters and bad guys, tho I’m sure you do believe they are. They’re just like ugly guys and average guys. But unlike desperate men who have never had options, attractive guys at least know they’re not missing out on a once in a lifetime opportunity
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:11 PM
0

You asked a leading question, it would be bad faith to answer a bad faith question :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:15 PM
1

Hot guys are used to having options. In my experience they are more comfortable rejecting women they’re not interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:31 PM
1

Maybe at first but once you’re actually over your ex, there’s no reason to be mad at them unless they hit you or something. I’d say most people, including men, have the capacity to be mature after they gain control of their emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:08 PM
5

Key word is might. What happens when your ugly guy finds another option in the wild? He may not be able to resist
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:58 PM
1

Look, the red pill is immature and useless. That’s really the bottom line. If you think you need it, know that it’s a crutch lol and walking without crutches is much better :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:15 PM
6

I was single for the past 3 years. There is no shortage of attractive men looking for relationships. It’s hard to find an attractive guy who is also compatible with your own personality and life style, just because someone is attractive and in want of a long term relationship that doesn’t mean they’re automatically going to be compatible with you. Some may still engage in casual sex but they’re still looking for more than that as well. The ones that aren’t interested in casual sex usually strong…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:09 PM
0

Red pill principles are useless… they should learn to be reasonable adults
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:02 PM
2

Take it on whole or not at all. You don’t need the red pill to have boundaries and self care, that’s called being an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 02:00 PM
27

The whole thing is dumb and useless. People use it as a self fulfilling prophecy and coping mechanism. They hide behind it, knowingly and unknowingly, because they think it helps them understand the world around them. It gives them a sense of power and also powerlessness, ultimately it’s a distraction from reality and doesn’t bring men happiness. They think adopting this will bring them some kind of joy and yet… they all admit one way or another that they are empty. It’s sad to me but denial is …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 07:11 PM
1

I wouldn’t mind, I’ve dated a single dad. But most “single dads”, including the one I dated, aren’t very involved in their kids lives. It was so disappointing to me I had to leave him. My preference is men without kids but for the right person I would have reconsidered. I’m taken now, by a man without kids
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:16 PM
4

have you ever heard of cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:46 PM
10

shhhh no science allowed, you’ll kill his kink
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:29 PM
12

Are you concluding that because you don’t see it, it doesn’t exist lmao that is so cute. It’s like when babies learn to play peekaboo, they truly believe the person disappears when they can’t see their face :) Yes, single men are thirsty. They’re in dms. Married men and taken men are thirsty too. That also happens behind the scenes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:22 PM
4

physical attention with no pressure for sex- think cuddling, making out, playing with my hair, massages, etc with no hint of him initiating or asking for sex. Just personal attention towards me to spoil me because you like touching me. That’s hot Idk how you expect anyone to be specific in one short sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:10 PM
1

I think both partners should work and clean. That being said…. my partners usually spoil me. My current partner cooks and does most of the cleaning, he also pays for everything and does all the driving lol. I help but I have to be sneaky and think ahead or else he will beat me to it. We are both really generous so we spoil each other and I hope that never changes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:50 PM
1

No one has interpersonal anything with chad. You don’t care about his opinion or feelings and have no real responsibility to him. As a woman you have no reason to be mad at chad either. He takes you out, buys you dinner, says pretty things to you, and leaves when you ask or pays your Uber home. Maybe more marriages would be happy if they were perpetually that superficial but then what’s the point of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 02:15 AM
1

Ah, I can see that. I’ve seen people date people they would never be friends with lol. I have one ex I don’t see myself ever being friends with but that’s because we dated as kids and I only liked him because he was there at the time. It would be interesting to catch up with him tho, but we have nothing in common lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 10:36 PM
0

Why do you feel like it’s a let down?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 10:24 PM
11

It depends on the person and the situation. I’m a very nostalgic and family oriented person. Once the romantic feelings are gone they feel like family to me so it’s purely platonic. So someone like me is not at risk of getting sneaky with an ex or being hurt by seeing an ex. But if I was someone who carried pain, unresolved feelings, or anger towards my exes then it would be for the best that we not speak again. Or if your ex is harmful to you then obviously not a good choice either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:10 PM
2

So you understand the fear now? Or?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 09:01 PM
2

You’re just stomping your feet saying NAH UH. Good for you, honestly. Let me know where you got your rose colored glasses from king
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:03 PM
1

Sorry again can you clarify your point? Is it that you believe men should have this fear too? If so, why are you telling me. I’m not a man, alert your bros
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:53 PM
1

If only I could buy dates at my local gun shop too.... Damn, you can’t pay someone to date you? 😔☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:53 PM
2

These guys don’t realize that they are down bad for their homeboys…. 🥺 one day their wedding vows will be a quote from a Hannah Montana song: “If we were a movie You'd be the right guy And I'd be the best friend That you'd fall in love with in the end”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:51 PM
6

I'm a guy, and during stressful moments in my life, such as exams or results, I basically became asexual and wouldn't get erections for days on end. You’re missing something here. I know this is a very hard question to answer :) but… what if the state of the relationship is the stress in her life?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:13 PM
2

if she married a loser i don’t really know what to say. there must have been something she loved him for that they could bond on
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:01 PM
3

You seem to believe women are shaking and throwing up out of fear lol. That’s hilarious. Women are afraid but are dating all the same (despite most men here having no success even finding a date lol) It’s not fear mongering to have a fear :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:58 PM
1

Sorry can you clarify your point? Is it that you believe men should have this fear too? If so, why are you telling me. I’m not a man, alert your bros
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:56 PM
2

I mean, I was going to say stop being a loser. But if growing 5 inches is easier than that, do you king :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:54 PM
2

Fears are a natural response. They do not need to be rational to exist. All feelings are valid because they are feelings. You stomping your feet will not change that.. but your feelings are valid too :) Let’s go with your lightening example :) let’s pretend there is a thunder storm in your area. You don’t need to go out but you are bored at home. You suddenly get the urge to take a walk for exactly 90 minutes outside. It is at this point where you decide to risk going outside or not. Lightening …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:52 PM
3

I’m just stating the facts. You can say it doesn’t matter but clearly to women it does matter. No amount of incredulous foot stomping is gonna change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:38 PM
4

Spoken like a true quitter “Arousing women is so hard! They’re basically asexual!!” Sex drive after marriage does down on average because of interpersonal issues within the relationship. In case you do not know what that is, one example could be a woman feeling a lack of emotional satisfaction with their husband because he grows to be lazy and unhelpful. Perhaps he stops engaging in foreplay, for example
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:34 PM
1

Your point is actually pointless. You are just wagging your finger. Women are afraid of harm from men in general, sorry you don’t like that lol but that’s the bottom line. And you can cry about it being wrong or right or pretend to be a good judge on how fears should be properly expressed but it’s silly and off topic. These are your feelings and what you think should be the case. It clearly is not the case. And it is off topic, women do fear harm from their dates, it is well documented and a fac…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:29 PM
1

That’s funny you say that because i saw in the news the other day that some lady in Connecticut named Lauren Smith-Fields was found dead after a bumble date. It’s sad that you’re wrong, we do wish you were right tho. Lmk what brand of rose colored glasses you use
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:21 PM
-1

Okay, so you’re changing the topic from women having fear of being harmed by a date or partner to men experiencing violence in general? Not interested in staying on topic at all huh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:03 PM
4

Men die and go missing after a date or new relationship? Hmmmmm that’s a new one… :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 05:34 PM
4

There are a lot of dead and missing women who would disagree with you. But… I guess your opinion is important…. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 05:21 PM
2

Yes, you are right that they didn’t reveal that for comedy, they were detailing the assault. I was more making a statement on how we can all make fun of the fact that 1) he’s a loser & violator and 2) he wanks into plants. Ultimate degenerate. Dark comedy for sure lol And yes I do get all the violators confused
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 05:11 PM
4

Yes, we absolutely would care. It would be great gossip if he was not only a liar but also into weird shit?!? Oh man. That’s like when women were revealing stuff about that red headed comedian I forget his name lol. That info was gold. He came into a plant pot lmao. THAT is comedy. When you objectify a person, that means you see them as an object. Their humanity, which as you state cannot be changed, is at a personal level disregarded. Because the person doing the objectifying sees them as an ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 04:38 PM
5

Trust me lol, we would know. Girls love to reveal that kind of stuff :) compliments on appearance aren’t the same but I’m sure you have the common sense to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 04:02 PM
5

Not true lol. If west elm was a foot guy we would have all heard about that. And caleb had a system which did not involve being creepy or objectifying that he would copy and paste.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:46 PM
0

I’m here to laugh and be a pest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 01:53 PM
1

It doesn’t matter in most cases. Either the case makes it to a judge and it’s their judgement based on law or your lawyer talks to their lawyer and fires the harasser or makes reasonable adjustments (like scheduling diff working times or giving separate offices). They have an obligation to comply in any case. But you have to actually hold them to it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:51 AM
2

The company itself doesn’t have a conscious. It’s made up of individuals that advocate for it and act on it’s behalf. But that’s not really the point or the issue. The people who work in hr and on their team are rarely there to prove some kind of point. They are there to represent the best interest of the company. They do not care about you. So why should anyone care about whether they acknowledge that sexual harassment is more commonly a woman’s experience? Hold them accountable. That’s your ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:19 AM
3

I’m a woman in tech… so, I am all too aware of the importance of optics. But you all seem to think women are just believed and cared for in the workplace, which in my experience is not true at all. Your struggles are different from mine, but neither of us are taken seriously and any claim would be a nuisance to any company. That’s just a fact. Early in my career no one cared. Now I know how to lawyer up and to not care when HR thinks I’m being dramatic. Frankly, I don’t care what they think. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 12:32 AM
2

Companies are legally obligated to a certain standard. It’s your responsibility to hold them responsible if they are not. You can’t weasel your way out of that fact
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 12:05 AM
2

The law is the law, opinions should not stop you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 11:45 PM
5

I’ve thought about this a lot. It could be someone I know, someone with either hidden beef or someone who is envious for some odd reason. But I would have no idea who or really why. It’s a little disturbing but it’s not impacting my life so it’s not too much of a big deal for me anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:20 PM
1

With so many people working from home I’m sure it is less common now, I hope
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:16 PM
1

I’ve experienced enough to be an expert :) I got u
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:13 PM
1

I wouldn’t count harassment as genuine interest, they just prey on people they think are weak or are acting out of obsession.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:11 PM
1

My point still stands. You need to log off and get a lawyer. Unless you’re just here to complain lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:09 PM
1

That must be nice 😩
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:08 PM
1

You do have a choice and a lawyer would tell you that, it goes through a private arbitration. But again, that’s not why you need a lawyer. However, if this is what you need to believe emotionally then that’s different but the law allows for options
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:03 PM
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The second one has plenty of links for you to go through from govt agencies if you like… read it :) And I’m saying you don’t need arbitration. Again, not. rocket. science…..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:55 PM
1

Of course you have boundaries, maybe you haven’t needed to enforce them. An example of a boundary is that your boss can’t pee in your seat. Will you ever need to enforce that? Prob not
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:52 PM
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If ur not in the US there’s not much I can say. I imagine most places have more reasonable lawyers than we do but it depends on your country. To be clear, the objective isn’t to win a case against your employer lol… a good lawyer will give you advice that will get the harasser fired or will get you a settlement. A case like this rarely goes to court. Even if you don’t go to court you need a lawyer…. But it sounds like your first time so I’ll cut you some slack…. Here are some links. I’m curious …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:46 PM
1

You don’t need to get a 4K lawyer… I’m going to give u the benefit of the doubt and assume you’ve never actually needed a lawyer enough to do any research at all. lawyers get to set their retainers and many have free consultations. lawyers that handle labor and work regulations, and especially ones that handle assault in the workplace have reasonable rates. “Seems like” doesn’t have the same resolve as “the data shows” p
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:30 PM
1

That’s why you file a report first. This is not rocket science. I get that you guys don’t need to deal with this often enough to know this stuff but follow the procedure and see a lawyer when you are not able to resolve individually
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:28 PM
1

That’s not a reflection of society. Your company was clearly very shitty. Lawyers aren’t expensive, especially ones for jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 09:19 PM
1

You report it to protect yourself legally. The stats help reveal a larger problem but if you just use common sense, you can at least cover your own ass if you do end up in an altercation so you don’t have charges pressed against you. If that was your first time dealing with that, I get why you don’t see the utility of that but you’ll just have to trust my lawyers on that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 08:42 PM
3

Yeah, they did on the first account. On the second one I was renamed to Meghan
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 08:36 PM
0

It wasn’t taken seriously. That’s a fact you can deny as much as you want but I’m just stating the facts
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 08:35 PM
3

They couldn’t find the account, the guy didn’t give me a link
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 08:34 PM
1

Why didn’t you sue. Unwanted touching is sexual assault, not even harassment anymore. What did your lawyer say And statistically women don’t do that at a high level, if they do then men need to report it more. Otherwise nothing will be done
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 08:34 PM
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I got the first one removed because he linked the acc to me and I went through the process. The second one I couldn’t get taken down. I’m still out there apparently lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:59 PM
2

He or legal action. You can’t avoid the drama, you just have to have persistence and a good lawyer even if you don’t decide to pursue formal legal action
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:58 PM
2

Yes, that is a risk and toll everyone has to deal with. It’s part of the process, that’s why people try to avoid court drama
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:44 PM
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The first time it happened I was seeing someone and he was really upset, the thought I had multiple accounts and was trying to be sneaky (we weren’t exclusive). The second time someone reached out to me on Instagram claiming to have met me on tinder and I didn’t have tinder at the time, so I told him that wasn’t actually me. He watches all my stories now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:43 PM
2

It is likely, it happens and the company is legally required to follow policy or you can sue. And that is a pretty penny.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:40 PM
3

No one takes women seriously. That’s why me too and all that stuff was started.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 07:39 PM
5

That’s what hr and legal action are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 06:06 PM
3

I am a woman. If someone doesn’t respect your boundaries, you have to use your big kid voice and uphold your own boundaries. Whether that’s by talking to hr or the person, that’s your responsibility
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:49 PM
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yes it is. I don’t understand what you’re trying to say in relation to the convo tho
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:35 PM
13

It’s so funny you say that because I’ve had my pics stolen for fake profiles twice now lol. I’m convinced it’s a guy stealing my pics for attention on tinder. This is why I stopped adding my socials on dating apps lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 04:37 PM
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No one that goes to hr is ever taken seriously at a personal level, but at a policy level they have to be. You have rights, don’t let peoples opinion of you keep you from them. You could bring things up with her in a straightforward manner, or ask her why she comes to you instead of someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 04:16 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with rejecting someone giving you unwanted attention. Be straightforward and respectful, save everyone the headache. It’s unclear to me how your office manager is taking so much of your time and you’re not enforcing your boundaries, “Sorry OM, could you get someone else to help you? Im busy” and when you feel she’s being creepy, tel her to leave you alone or tbh just go to hr. Rejection is a part of life. I’ve been rejected and it wasn’t a big deal. I hardly remember the si…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:49 PM
8

He can’t hear you rn, he’s trying to do hot girl shit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:42 PM
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I already said nothing. I didn’t mean you literally, I meant in general from the start. Nothing gets women to act like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:36 PM
8

What about them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:30 PM
13

Nothing gets me to act like you. I’m not you and don’t act like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:28 PM
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Omg the guys posing as women in comments is always GOLD. Pure gold. There are some guys that are really into acting like a woman online, it sends me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:24 PM
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Is your question “what makes women act like men”? Or are you actually curious about what/who/how we get “our motor running”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:20 PM
8

No thanks. I click with most guys I meet, no need to put myself in a bad situation for some fleeting chemistry
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 11:41 PM
3

…. i mean the obvious answer is that they’re broke and also lazy. Some don’t even really like girls, they just wish they could fit in
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:02 PM
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Um no, she is for captain only. He’s been fired several times for being “incompetent” and he deserves to take it out on another woman with low enough self esteem to entertain a rp man like him 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:00 PM
3

Literally all men do this. None of that works at my age. Young girls are better targets for those strategies for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:41 PM
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You get a consistent form of drama so you don’t need to watch reality tv ever again! Oh, and you get to hang out on red pill women subs and say stuff like “I love that my captain never goes down on me!! I’m so totally in love.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:36 PM
1

Matthew McConaughey, The Rock, Chris Evans, Justin Baldoney, Mike Colter, and ofc Jason momoa
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:07 AM
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It doesn’t take years lol. It takes a few minutes, maybe a few hours. Red pill is transparent and also very low effort in dating since they are oh so very scared of being used by women :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:35 AM
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M: 116 F: 134 Plotted in androgynous upper right at those coordinates of (116, 134) I’m a woman and I think it shows that I have a balance of masculine and feminine traits. I think it makes me interesting, I’m an engineer so it really does make sense. It could also explain why I dislike anyone too feminine or masculine in a relationship, I’ve got enough of both so I prefer someone with a balance
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:14 AM
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I’d never consent to that. There’s nothing to be done, live and let live (far far away from me).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:38 PM
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You can’t make someone cheat, they have to want to step out of their relationship. It sounds like the woman you had that experience would have done what she did with you to literally any penis available except for her mans. No need for you to feel bad, you didn’t know. She did.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:36 PM
0

Touchy touchy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:46 PM
0

I think the saying is dumb, it actually makes no sense. Hookers are different from women who are looking to hook up… literally, very different. Hookers loathe men most the time. Women looking to hookup are looking for something, that something is sex and validation. Sometimes getting that will lead to other feelings for them, other times the guy they slept with just becomes a fun/funny story they tell their friends and they go on to forget the guy existed. I think your friends should continue pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:24 PM
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I never understood that saying. Hookers are usually relieved when a guy pays them and doesn’t want sex. they would end the interaction immediately if they could still be paid. Even strippers wish men would just leave the money and not say a word lol but ofc that’s not a fair deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 05:56 PM
1

I have. I’m a flirt, I’ve gone on a lot of dates. They don’t go beyond a date or two tho
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:25 PM
2

Pump and dumps aren’t personal. It’s just sex. Anyone mad about a one time fling after a few days is just having bad luck finding someone worth keeping around. Most women I know hardly remember their pump and dump lol. It’s disappointing but if you’re having sex with women who feel “debilitated” by this… you have a type and that type is crazy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:06 PM
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Addiction is definitely a disease. Understanding addiction is a disease can help heal the trauma of loving/losing someone to addiction. But to the ones they abandon, it probably feels like that to them. It’s more of an emotional statement rather than a statement on addiction itself
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:53 AM
1

Why not? What’s the purpose of this… besides granting excuses for a lazy doomer to keep being that way ofc
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:32 PM
2

If they only would. It’s wild how much money some of these company owners have
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:20 AM
2

Depends on how we handle those changes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:05 AM
1

we have options, we choose to not explore them. sounds like you’re set on finger pointing tho
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 12:54 AM
2

Most people don’t participate even when it is legal. And men think they can practice sex but sex and sex work are quite different. In sex work you usually sit back and relax and when you choose to not sit back, she will rarely ever reveal if you’re doing a good or bad job. And you don’t learn the more important things, like what women actually want in bed
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:30 PM
1

Italians are gross to me for the most part. They have nice hair tho. Greek guys are hot but a pain. French guys are at the very least not sexually repressed as others
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 07:49 PM
3

France is gorgeous and the guys are hot. What’s not to love
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 07:28 PM
2

I specifically said loneliness and I am staying on topic. If you want to go off topic you can, I’m likely to ignore it tho. Just saying. But I’ll bite… Depression is a condition that women are biologically more prone to, we handle it differently. And you can read why and how here https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4478054/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:39 PM
3

Automation and ai to the rescue
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:34 PM
1

Ok then tell that to your friends above lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:34 PM
2

I can’t imagine all men are so easily mentally destroyed by women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:33 PM
4

Most people would agree it’s better to be depressed on your own than depressed in a relationship you don’t line with kids you never wanted. For everyone involved. At an individual level, nothing can change that. If your concern is at a higher level, that’s between you, your government, community, kids, and self To change that you should make having kids more of a benefit by making it easy and worth it. Good schools, affordable child care, health care, better tax incentives, and protections for w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:32 PM
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Retirement is a massive issue in general. It has little to do with having kids or not having kids. Kids, childcare, and college are so expensive in some places that it is financially more advantageous to not have kids and invest the money over 30+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:48 PM
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people experience these feelings even when they grow up in cultures where polygamy is practiced. There are even shows and documentaries that show how these people are impacted by infidelity or other associated feelings to feeling cheated. Even in poly relationships in the west they react similarly to being cheated on. So perspective and social constructs don’t determine anything for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:24 PM
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do you somehow believe feelings aren’t real or something, I’m curious If you have been in a relationship or if you grew up in a home with a good family, then I imagine you know how love works. Sometimes people are born with mental limitations or defects, in which case I would understand why you’re confused and it’s not your fault. Love and relationships create physical reactions in our bodies. Your brain helps create and regulate these feelings. These are human responses and you may not see them…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:58 PM
11

Careful, if you’re too smart you’ll break the simulation they live in and they will revolt
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:35 PM
7

Majority of studies show that men 16-24 report being the loneliest
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:27 PM
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Pretty sure studies show that long term single women are happy. Women don’t suffer with loneliness in the way men do. We are just different
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:54 PM
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Women are very adaptable and will likely make life choices you cannot imagine. They will not center their lives around men or children, they will not count on kids in old age, they’ll just make other plans. I doubt there will be a rise in female only retirement homes lol. Old women love sex so I’m sure they’d like to continue to tussle. Also, I think your take is dramatic. A big portion of people are in relationships and even with fluctuations that will likely continue at an average rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:39 PM
1

Hookups and casual
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:11 AM
6

Image is important to you so be straightforward and say that early on to avoid drama
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:24 AM
2

Depends on how much, how it impacts their life, and how I feel about them and our relationship. If he’s “unable” to do activities they enjoyed in the past that can mean anything. I’m an athlete and many male athletes get injuries that keep them from their sport for life. If he’s suddenly so fat he cannot run? I don’t know. It’s not the most important thing tho. I don’t find fat guys 100% unattractive. But not everyone carries it well. I think if he gained 50 pounds that’s fine. If I love him and…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:22 AM
2

It’s just another way to say no hookups, not interested in casual. That’s all
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:49 AM
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It’s legal in a lot of places and things are still the way they are.. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:34 AM
0

When I was 18 I wouldn’t date someone older either. It’s not personal, it’s just weird. It’s not like she rejected you for your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:09 PM
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She rejected you for your age… I was being specific that you should find someone actually interested in dating you. She was not. Not really making a statement on age, I’m saying you should date people who are not going to reject you because of your age
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:01 PM
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If someone assumes you’re trying to relive your youth, and your response is why is that wrong, do you see why they’d assume they are right? It’s because you gave them a question instead of a correction. Saying “why is that wrong?” kinda confirms what they’re saying and it’s different from saying “i like her” Maybe you did lose out on milestones but it seems unlikely you will catch up if you’re going for girls who aren’t into you because of your age difference. It’d be better to find someone more…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:41 PM
1

I’m just telling it like it is. Preferences and fetishes aren’t the same thing… :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:05 PM
1

What people assume your intentions are is just their assumption of you. Why do you think they’d assume this about you? Maybe it’s your delivery or your actions
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:04 PM
1

black and white thinking confirmed, ty I was curious
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:00 PM
4

Do you think you feel this way because you have black and white thinking and can’t see the nuances of varying situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 05:09 PM
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No one is flexing, you are being sensitive because you feel criticized. A 25 yo virgin dating a 32 yo single mom are indeed in very different places in life. It’s a yellow flag and the relationship may not last, that’s just a fact of life. The issue really comes in when someone has creepy intentions. Date who you want but dating someone for their age or race or whatever is not the same as dating someone because you like them as a person. If you date someone because you fetishize them, and they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:34 PM
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There’s more than one way to find who someone is seeing. Us women are very skilled at this. And dating around is definitely the norm but what he did is not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:04 PM
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I’m in nyc and his behavior is atypical. His behavior is compulsive and definitely greedy. But even if he found women online, don’t forget that once you give out your number you are very easy to find online and your contacts are easy to find online as well. Even if he did all this in person, it would have come out. The only difference is that in person he would have gone a lot slower, online dating provides instant and 24/7 access
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:50 PM
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If woman want equality, why woman exist?? If woman no want patriarchy, why woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:23 PM
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I loved the tiktok trends as a result. But what everyone is missing is that this guy has his own issues and it makes no sense to even spend time mad at him. His actions weren’t personal, they were thoughtless and it sounds like it was almost compulsive behavior. It’s sad, I feel sad that he has to make this much effort to trick women in order to get women lol. The reason why it worked for him is because: he’s not hot but not ugly, so no one pinned him as a fuckboy. So the women were unsuspecting…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:19 PM
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I’m not worried about him finding out. I don’t go out of my way to talk about my past in numbers. No one has ever asked. If someone did ask I would wonder why and question my own judgment on them and make a note of how they handle the conversation. This is assuming I care enough about him to consider answering at all. I’ve lied about my past before, but I also ghosted that guy after a few days. Not proud of it but it happened and I think I’d do it again, all things considered :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 12:32 AM
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You’re really funny. Never make another post again
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:27 PM
2

I’d leave it up to my partner. I don’t care, I don’t have a penis. If I ended up a single mom I wouldn’t get it done for them because that sounds like a lot of work to deal with. I do prefer men who are circumcised but I’m sure my kid will be fine. My partner now is circumcised and against circumcision.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:26 PM
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I think you add a lot of unnecessary fluff to your replies. There might be reasons why people cheat and why they don’t tell. You can have dozens. That still qualifies as being cowardly in my book. Most people would agree, even when they would make an effort to empathize with the cheater because we all make mistakes and use excuses. But that’s what they are, mistakes, excuses, and avoiding the problems
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:14 PM
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Wait so why have the discussion about whether cheating is wrong or not if this is all you wanted to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:11 PM
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What you’re missing is the plain fact that we don’t agree. You think cheating and not telling is fine. I think it makes you a coward. Those are just the facts. You can compare it to whatever you want, it doesn’t change the bottom line that it would make you a coward to try and avoid the conflict when couples move past cheating all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:29 PM
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It’s not vague but I’ll help you out. The definition of a coward is a person who lacks the courage to do or endure dangerous or unpleasant things. Your poor argument for not being honest after cheating is that “if you do it right” you face “absolutely no sacrifices.” You refuse to be honest because you lack the courage to endure the sacrifices that you’d have to make as a result of your actions. That makes you a coward. Like I said, people are allowed to be cowards. But don’t pretend that’s what…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:18 PM
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Okay, it sounds like you agree cheating is wrong but you just don’t like people telling you what to do…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:12 PM
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How is all of this not being a coward using excuses?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 02:15 PM
2

You tryna found out or what
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 01:06 AM
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If your concern was damaging the relationship and family, you shouldn’t have cheated in the first place. You knew your partner “couldn’t handle it” before it happened. What you’re describing here is called “excuses” and excuses are for the weak. If you think your partner cannot handle the truth, that really just means that you cannot handle delivering the truth because you’re afraid you’ll hurt their feelings and that they can’t handle it. That’s called being a coward. Which is fine, if that’s w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 01:06 AM
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Who said I told them before we had sex? Have to make a guy feel special
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 01:02 AM
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That is outside of the scope or your op, isn’t it? Op was a bunch of why questions. you’ve stated and even conceded to many of the answers, you’ve confirmed reasons, risk, and I’m assuming you understand logically why most people today expect loyalty in a relationship, whether they are monogamous or polyamorous. So you tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 10:49 PM
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That is outside of the scope or your op, which doesn’t explore true or false. It’s a bunch of why questions and you’ve conceded to many of the answers and confirms they are reasons why cheating is wrong, risky, and why most people today expect loyalty. So you tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 10:20 PM
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You can say that about anything, so is this a cop out on your part to avoid challenging your own view or not
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 10:03 PM
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Still you use the word might, not a lot of conviction or much of an opinion there. Is it so you don’t need to challenge your own view or something
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 09:53 PM
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You used the word might previously. Which one is it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 09:24 PM
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You being unable to accept that there are many things objectively wrong with cheating is strange. Can I ask your age
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:29 PM
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Sounds miserable lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:24 PM
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I pretended to be a vaginal virgin a few times :) men can’t tell the difference and will believe what they want to believe lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 07:35 PM
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This is such a silly argument. Remembering the past doesn’t mean they’re living in your head. Sorry to those of you with early onset dementia, most of us are able to retain information on our experiences for more than 5 minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 06:55 PM
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They won’t have kids and their line will cease to exist. We will just have to manage :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 06:15 PM
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Sex is a risk even with protection. You can get a number of infections just by kissing someone else. Your partner did not consent to that risk entering the relationship, so on top of hurting their feelings, you’re putting them at risk of physical harm. Unless you are pretending there are no real dangers to sex, in which case we can end the discussion here because you’re prob not old enough
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:20 PM
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If you tell someone the truth and they can’t handle it, that’s on them. If you refuse to tell the truth because you’re afraid someone else can’t handle the truth, you’re the coward
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 04:48 PM
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It sounds like a real challenge for you to accept that other people just don’t match your view. Which is why you say they’re insecure or socialized to be this way and disregard the reality that we all are the way we are because of a combo of natural instincts and socialization. And the expectation is largely exclusive because that’s where most people on earth most commonly feel connected to their partners and safe in their families. You can judge that all you want, it doesn’t change that this is…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:50 AM
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Because that’s what they’d prefer. If I prefer to be monogamous, why would I go against my own desires out of fear of being disappointed?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 02:43 AM
1

The lying. There’s nothing wrong with sex and multiple partners
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:56 AM
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I’m just answering your questions honestly. Just because you don’t like them doesn’t mean it’s personal
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:10 AM
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Pity isn’t particularly helpful and it is not my place to hold anyone accountable for who they are or who they have been. But if they’re a friend I can show sympathy and be there for them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 12:59 AM
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No, you’re being very unreasonable to think you can say anything about my own standards. To call them dumb says a lot about your ability to argue too lol. And no, there’s no way to be with me and cheat on me and not hurt the relationship. Maybe your partner can cheat on you and you wouldn’t mind, but that’s… your business :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 12:35 AM
1

Makes you a shitty person to your partner and anyone with common sense and basic decency. It also shows you’re a coward because you lack the courage to live in the life you want. If you want a poly relationship, you can do that without judgment. That’s all
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 12:33 AM
1

There is something wrong with having multiple partners if the relationship does not allow for multiple partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 10:16 PM
1

It’s about why we expect loyalty when history shows that this is hard. My answer is because we set our own expectations on what we want. There’s no science or math to this, it’s… really… that… simple….
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 08:22 PM
0

It sounds like you’re looking for a toxic relationship. Explains a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 08:20 PM
1

Ya
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:34 PM
3

It sounds like you believe opening up to someone means they “could help you.” Get a therapist. You open up to your partner so they can understand you better as a person, not to fix you. Not to have power over you. Relationships become boring when people are boring together. Conquered or not. People push their partners buttons often without even trying. It’s not a nefarious thing most of the time. No one expects you to be born a Greek god and the expectation is that you change for the better over…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:34 PM
1

They’re not subjective in this case. What’s objectively wrong with cheating is that one person did not agree to it and it does not meet their expectations of the relationship. Pretty simple to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:27 PM
2

I think you’re missing a basic understanding of expectations in relationships. To water it down for you.. any expectation I have in my relationship, is my expectation. This is how we all work. If my expectation is that we will be exclusive and you breach that, that means you failed to meet my expectations and I am allowed to feel however I want to feel. I’m allowed to react however I want to react, short of causing harm. I am allowed to have whatever expectations I want to have. You’re allowed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:14 PM
12

The best thing to do is to look your best and develop a good social life
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:20 PM
20

Women trigger my object impermanence issues 😵‍💫 they exist when I’m not around?! Their thoughts… exist?!??? They’re supposed to stay in the same place and be the same forever
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:00 PM
1

That and I’m not a depressed person
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:15 AM
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I don’t feel regretful. I’ve never felt ready to have kids, better to wait to long and miss my chance than to rush into a lifetime commitment I’d regret. I fit into my family and friend group just fine, no one is condemning me. If I could go back, I’d do exactly the same thing. I’m proud of my decisions and have enjoyed the rewards
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 02:26 PM
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It’s not absurd to want to live. It’s not absurd to want to die. But wanting to live is reason enough to continue living. Basic logic here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:29 AM
1

Just take responsibility for your life bro
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 12:58 AM
7

It just sounds like you make bad decisions in your workout before your body is ready. Not really related to inflammation discussed in the study
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 12:14 AM
-7

Being alive is plenty reason to live… having a bad mindset is usually a personal choice that spirals when you don’t correct it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 12:12 AM
20

The article says they basically dispose of themselves through life choices when they’re single
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 11:55 PM
6

A+ I’m very happy. If I died today I’d be proud of my experiences so far because I’ve enjoyed it, been happy and sad, felt love and fell out of love several times. I cherish the good times and bad times, I’m better for it. And now I’m seeing someone I really have something special with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:27 PM
0

Why not? Just don’t watch stuff you don’t like. The market didn’t have a lot of stories like these from these perspective so there’s a new demand for them. People get bored and storylines and trends change. I don’t see the big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:25 PM
10

They say this because it’s their knee jerk way to blame women for the actions of men. Just another way to escape responsibility and punish her for not dating them or some perfect idealistic guy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:19 PM
2

Listen to the sex with Emily podcast!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 05:33 AM
1

You have to teach him. That’s the point. If you want him to learn, he’s going to need to be taught by someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 05:31 AM
2

He’s not gonna read your mind. I definitely think your orgasm is your responsibility and that’s my hot take. Tell him you want him to bring out the magic wand or whatever it is that you want. It’s not a movie… I say this as someone who couldn’t finish with a guy and now finishes in command
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:42 PM
2

Your problem isn’t fds… it may actually be that you’re not assertive. If you’re concerned you’re investing more because you initiate more, tell him or initiate more and what it would mean to you. If you want more orgasms, have more orgasms. Just tell him what you want (it sounds like you don’t know how to orgasm with a partner tho or you would already be doing this. You prob need to do some personal research) Stop caring about what other people think and just be assertive about what you actually…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:26 PM
8

The guys at the bar are the guys on tinder. Meeting in person is always easier because I’m a horrible texter and forget to reply to more than half of my matches lol. Also, you get to test chemistry and actually get to know them better in person. Any talking online or by text is fantasy imo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 02:40 PM
10

Girl… you do not want the guys on here. Don’t take these responses too seriously. They do not reflect reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:41 AM
2

I have one right now lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:59 AM
1

You have ideas of what you’d want already. Now you have to actually explore your options. You don’t know who will actually stay with you long enough to be taken seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 07:23 PM
1

It’s silly to plan your life on hypotheticals. Meet someone you love who is a good teammate and dedicate yourself to your joint goals and relationship. No combination of imaginary list of traits or things will guarantee you a happy and successful family
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:54 PM
3

If I match with someone I’m always polite to them because I like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:46 PM
1

It sounds like I’ve been incredibly lucky. Most guys I’ve talked to online have been a perfect gentlemen. But it’s also true that there is no one nicer than a man who wants to fuck you. The only shitty guys have been the medium ugly or shorter guys after things don’t move forward, or the anxious guys if I don’t reply when they want. Hot guys are very sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:09 PM
4

I don’t think it’s true. Dating at 30 is fun, just like my 20s, just as many options :) my anxieties are different than when I was in my 20s but it’s not because of the judgment of others or because I’m treated differently. I’m hotter than ever and so are my friends honestly. We have money, got fit, more fashionable, and more confident. I’m happy with my options and I honestly… may have found the guy recently :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:10 PM
2

I have no virtues you’d appreciate to signal for :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:54 PM
2

It’s crazy people don’t make their own original clothes from scratch!!! Oh my god!!! Sheep :) :) :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:39 PM
2

That’s what a piece of meat would say 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:53 PM
3

It’s almost as if… different people have… different preferences. Who knew that was possible
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:51 PM
1

Yeah you’ve clearly got bigger issues to handle, I get it lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:15 PM
1

Everyone doesn’t fit that’s just a fact lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:15 PM
2

OOF that solidifies it my guy. let me guess, you’re excited to be forever alone
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 04:01 PM
0

maybe you’re just very easy to please and it makes you lose objectivity. Anyone can be unattractive. Most people can’t become a 10 with makeup. Maybe with surgeries, filters, hair extensions, chemical maintenance, Lipo, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 04:00 PM
6

Who would want that. Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:55 PM
1

Everyone doesn’t fit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:52 PM
2

Accept the title king
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 02:24 PM
1

You’re not an expert and that’s very clear here. Again, you’re projecting because this is what you feel and believe
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 02:22 PM
6

lol you’re a bad translator. c for effort
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:45 AM
2

it’s… not the same :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:45 AM
3

In my opinion, you’re projecting what you would do and feel if you were a hot girl
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:44 AM
2

I like the number 6 so maybe 6,666? 😍🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:44 PM
9

All violent crime gets worse in the summer. It’s because more people are out of their homes and for longer hours. Here’s an easy google search, first result. I didn’t read it but I’m confident I’m right https://www.vox.com/2014/6/17/5818432/lock-your-doors-crime-is-worst-in-the-summer
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:43 PM
2

I want it from you, specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:32 PM
2

Money
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:30 PM
15

You can’t see women dressing in things you would feel too sexualized in without feeling uncomfortable in. Sounds like projection to me. But you do you sis🥰🎀
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:58 PM
14

She’s a ⛏ me. It’s too late for her lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:56 PM
11

Male attention is given to us whether we want it or not lol. We don’t have to try hard to get it… if you leave your house looking bad, you still get looked at lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:51 PM
13

Shhhhh no big brain energy allowed 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:40 PM
5

You’d feel more comfortable, but would you actually wear them? Odds are that these fits just aren’t your style. So maybe you just cant relate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:38 PM
7

The girls that get it, get it. The girls that don’t, dont.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:36 PM
10

We dress like that at an all womens gym too. Lol and even at dance and Zumba classes where there are only women. Don’t take our vanity personally, it’s not for you. It feels good to look good. The girls that get it, get it. The girls that don’t, dont.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:36 PM
4

If I wanted that, I’d do that. But I don’t. All that to say, I don’t think you’re able to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:32 PM
6

Well, do you feel like you understand it to a degree
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:21 PM
14

Then you can’t begin to relate ig
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:14 PM
9

Looking good makes me feel good. I don’t care if someone thinks that’s vain. I don’t gawk at hot guys in the gym. I expect the same courtesy. I have no problems reporting men who make women feel uncomfortable and no issue confronting anyone being an ass at the gym. I’m not going to chastise someone for looking in my direction, even when I go into the gym looking like I’ve escaped Guantanamo. Don’t be a weirdo and we can all be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:11 PM
9

We don’t want bums. That doesn’t mean we want providers. Imagine being 50 and having a husband who stays home scratching his balls all day because he hates working and doing chores. No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:33 PM
2

I don’t think so. Once you open that box, he’s going to ask again and again. Maybe if we were in our 50s and really bored or something
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:29 PM
2

An average number of women would intentionally go out with an average guy. To improve his odds from average, he would need to be above average in some way or ask an above average amount of people out. For every 100 matches I get, I’d say I go on maybe 5 dates. So 5-10% but who knows. I’m not really average
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:32 PM
21

Hygiene Stubborn/doesn’t take feedback well Has kinks or fetishes I can’t tolerate Not passionate, too aggressive, or not attentive Too anxious or sexually repressed If he doesn’t love to eat I usually know after the second or third time. I actually usually decide when we are just making out before we even start having sex. Never had to leave someone over sexual incompatibility after we started having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:09 PM
1

Precisely
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:55 PM
5

Knock yourself out :) it’ll work out really well for you, I just know it!!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:15 PM
1

It is annoying lol. Just don’t reply at all, pretend they’re really dead
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:13 PM
1

I’m fine either way. I’m pretty prideful so when I don’t hear from a guy after 2 days without warning I replace him. It’s annoying when they then try to add me on social media to contact me after I’ve blocked them tho
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 06:50 PM
2

Ghosts come back for easy attention, not to rub your face in it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 06:44 PM
3

It has different problems, but if it’s what you want then that’s what you want. What you do with your body is your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:57 PM
6

Life isn’t perfect. If you’d rather be a woman, we live in a time where you can explore that through cross dressing or transitioning. There is no way to do “everything correctly” in life, even though there are wrong ways to do things. You’re still young and immature, sorry to be harsh. You’ll figure out in time if you spend less time envying women and focusing on yourself, don’t focus on what you want from others only on what you want from yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:51 PM
8

Wishful thinking. It can also help escape any accountability. “I’m single because women are not traditional women anymore!!! Not because I am disappointing and smell bad”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:46 PM
1

From what I see here, men don’t really have friends. And this post and sub is proof you yourself are in an echo chamber lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:44 PM
1

If you’re ugly, acting like chad isn’t really going to help you. Women who like chad just for his looks, will like him for just that. they don’t like you just for your looks because of your looks. That option is off the table for you. If you’re ugly and have nothing going for you, not even a tolerable attitude or a decent life, why would we like you…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:41 PM
2

Broken hearts are most quickly healed by taking responsibility for your journey and feelings. You have to accept that no one else is going to fix your life. You have to accept that what you’re feeling is not required and it is not helping and you need to stop feeling that way. How? Learn to gain control of your own mind. It is so hard to do and that’s why people become addicted to feelings of sadness, outrage, resentment, anger, etc. At first those feelings are natural and happen on their own. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:11 PM
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I’ve got a good thing going rn. I’d keep him
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:07 AM
2

Maybe it’s because you self identify as a pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:05 AM
9

A brain cell
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:04 AM
1

What do you mean? I don’t care what other people do in their spare time. Some people sleep around because the like it. Others do it to fill an emotional need. Everyone makes their own choices. Life isn’t perfect, people get hurt, people get toxic, people self harm, people are wronged. That’s just life. Everyone should live the way they want to live. If you get hurt, you’ll just have to heal. Big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 09:41 PM
28

I get approached almost every time I leave my house. Stats show that people everywhere are struggling with anxiety at alarming rates. Our culture allows for people to be very removed from others. It hasn’t been my experience but I’m not surprised many men, especially socially anxious or socially inept ones, have anxiety approaching women. But I think it’s just temporary, there are cultural changes at a pace we have never seen before and a lot of forced isolation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 10:53 PM
1

Tldr why doesn’t he go to therapy and take happy pills like everyone else…. We all make mistakes, but apologize and do better. Edit: I read he punched near her face. Lmao he’s a closet abuser and this post is him trying to save his image to himself as a means to justify his lack of emotional control. If he loves her for real he should leave her and go figure his shit out. “Ooo I woke up in a bad mood 😔😔😔 wahhh” Grow up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 01:58 PM
2

She’s not having sex with them at all lol. There is one guy she liked but she struggles with perfectionism and jealousy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 10:10 PM
1

She’s a little toxic and has a few “commitments” lol. She complains about no one being good enough but my take is that she enjoys being single too much, being with just one person wouldn’t satisfy her. But I hear you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 05:57 PM
3

It’s okay, it’s kinda cute
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 03:30 PM
12

Idk about that. I recently met a woman who is a mutual friend who is openly fds (eastern european too) and she gets as many matches as I do across all apps. she doesn’t even work out
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 03:28 PM
2

There you go again assuming intentions by assuming I’m being dishonest. Again, without contributing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:31 AM
2

You’re just making personal assumptions and not contributing at all lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:27 AM
3

That’s not me condoning it. That’s just part of having a discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:23 AM
3

Where did I say I condone it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:20 AM
2

And where did I say that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:07 AM
3

I didn’t say anything about anyone being scummy or not
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:57 AM
2

I don’t disagree with that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:31 AM
1

Most people don’t know what they’re talking about tho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:30 AM
2

I assume people do things for many reasons, ones they don’t understand, ones I don’t understand. People say a lot of things, what people don’t share is often the real truth. But that’s just my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:14 AM
6

Maybe with more experience you’d understand
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:39 AM
1

I don’t understand what you’re sacrificing to begin with. A failed date isn’t a sacrifice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:38 AM
2

I’d argue if someone goes on a date for a free meal it’s because they have to prove something to themselves. It’s like a power play. But you shouldn’t take that personally. Some people are just toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:35 AM
2

Some people never change. Some really… race to the bottom forever :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:34 AM
4

I really doubt they’re doing it to fuck them over. I think it’s more likely they are hoping to change their minds but then feel disappointed they didn’t change their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:33 AM
2

Half of those women are hoping to feel differently when they are on the date. No one is perfect, sometimes people think things that aren’t functional. That’s just life
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:23 AM
3

Me too! I don’t remember it at all lol. Sometimes I wonder if it happened!! But my family says it did
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:09 AM
1

Maybe not at first but everyone learns their lesson at some point
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:08 AM
4

Sure, but that doesn’t mean she actually owes him. A lot of women go on dates hoping they’ll find someone they want to sleep with. But then they get to know the guy a bit and get turned off. Both leave disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:08 AM
8

Sometimes sex is just sex. When anyone feels led on, that’s a result of unmanaged expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:47 PM
6

I think it’s be smarter for men to be upfront and say I’m only paying if you sleep with me. Or they should manage their expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:46 PM
10

Can you clarify what you mean? Men feel owed sex because women are happy to get attention, drinks, etc from men they don’t plan to sleep with?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:25 PM
1

Traditional men proposition for sex too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 10:32 PM
1

What makes you think I’m joking
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 10:23 PM
1

Only one way to find out. Transition today, even if it’s just cross dressing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 10:17 PM
1

You’d be better as a girl too tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 10:14 PM
1

I work from home cutie
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:43 PM
1

So you’re not gonna try it??
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:40 PM
0

Try it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:36 PM
6

So does your post history
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:26 PM
3

idk why any woman lives in Texas.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:26 PM
1

Have you considered transitioning
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:25 PM
2

You won’t know til you try
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:07 PM
-2

You can move at any time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:07 PM
-6

You can find relationships everywhere. Maybe you’re just picky
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:43 PM
1

Yeah send me your card.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:43 PM
3

How much you got
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:29 PM
11

The key term is want Women don’t want to have sex with most guy and they don’t want to be used for sex. You don’t want to go gay or to be used for gay sex. So you do respect what a person wants but only if they’re a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:28 PM
2

Men aren’t children and don’t need permission to express anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:26 PM
1

Go somewhere where it’s legal. No one is forcing you to stay where you are. Take responsibility for your life…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:25 PM
4

Go gay and you’ll experience it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:23 PM
1

They sure do talk a lot. I guess they’re obsessed with themselves or something
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:22 PM
5

You also can prostitute yourself for sex and can be used for sex. Go gay. Easy fix, my guy Oh that’s not what you want??? Lol stop complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 06:43 PM
4

+1 They’re so in denial of how badly this trauma impacts them…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:37 PM
15

I was briefly kidnapped from school at 5. So 5 He made it to the front of the school grabbing me by the arm and I was throwing a fit trying to get away. A security guard recognized me and scared him off
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:30 PM
2

So many people are high achievers across multiple industries. Oprah, Jlo, shakira, Selena Gomez, Rihanna, Ellen degeneres, the kardashians, etc. It’s basically industry standard at this point. Good luck, you’re not gonna get there by hanging out with us tho lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:11 PM
2

These guys think working out is too much work, they’re lazy so they assume anyone who has muscles is on drugs
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:00 PM
1

Pretty boys are talkers ime
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 01:32 PM
5

oof facts
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 05:44 AM
2

They want vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 05:40 AM
0

They approach me more persistently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 05:27 AM
2

Muscle heads and roided out guys are persistent. I use my coldest glare towards them, inherited from my Eastern European family. It makes them stutter. Pretty boys expect me to do some of the work. I’m too prideful for that. So even tho muscle heads aren’t always the best for me, if that’s what I lure that night, I’ll work with what I’ve got
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 05:15 AM
2

Is this post your coping mechanism for how envious you are of these women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:12 PM
3

We do realize this. Now that we don’t need to stick to that formula, we would rather not. It’s anti feminists who are demanding women stick to trad life. Which doesn’t really work for most people anymore. Not advantageous for women, at least and it’s financially risky too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 07:38 PM
2

Love is a feeling. Happiness is a feeling. Sadness is a feeling. Anger is a feeling. You can be a slave to your emotions if you’re not careful. If you’re an emotionally immature person you cannot control your emotions to any degree, you can’t even fathom controlling them at all. You feel how you feel and that’s that. Many people, most people I’d say, are slaves to their emotions. They’re impulsive. Even fearful people who do not cheat because they follow the “rules” act impulsively but in ways t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 05:37 PM
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It’s normal to teach kids about their own safety and the world around them. My mom listened to me gush about my teachers and would remind me without shaming me that he’s an adult and my crushes were just crushes to enjoy on my own and amongst friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 03:26 PM
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+1
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 03:02 PM
2

Do you think your dad will ever be really proud of you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 12:01 PM
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Ew, none. My teachers weren’t pedos. They were smart, well adjusted people. Kids have crushes on everyone, especially the boys who were Gaga over our math teachers and art teachers. Our teachers were full adults who never violated us as kids. Pedo free campus
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:59 AM
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Tall, smart, stronger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:12 AM
0

A lot of women who cheated to hurt their partner will be very happy you think so. I kinda agree tho. A lot of men who cheat do so mindlessly. They “can’t help” themselves because they’re hormonal and don’t have he self control to stop it from happening. A lot of women who cheat could stop it from happening but don’t because they feel like they can disrespect the relationship because their man has disrespected them (through neglect or something else) But for point 3, I think that’s how men think …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 01:55 AM
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I’m attracted to men I’m attracted to. I don’t respect men who are red pill or whatever, I find it pathetic. Sorry if that’s not pc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 01:49 AM
2

Not possible. I’ve tried
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 01:16 AM
2

Ew, I’d never consent to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 12:58 AM
2

I’m not traditional. No mystery here
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 12:00 AM
2

Pro abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 11:30 PM
2

you’re closer to your finish line than you think lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 09:00 PM
2

I never said you could or couldn’t say anything :) I’m assuming you’re in a free country and acting on your own free will… you’re the one making it seem like you’re playing at monkey see, monkey do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:49 PM
2

ohhh so feminists are responsible for your words and actions. you’re easily controlled then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:42 PM
2

It really is isn’t it lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:35 PM
2

it’s weird when you talk like this. do you think it’s indicative of your level of maturity or something else
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:32 PM
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Grew up in a traditional Eastern European family. Parents are happily married, big stable family. Grew up poor but I’ve got a great career making 6 figures now. I’m 29 now, lots of happy and stable relationships. A few under 1 year, most over 2 years. I don’t want a traditional relationship for myself, my parents are happy but I wouldn’t be happy in that same dynamic. My mom went to law school when she was 50 and now she is a divorce lawyer so that has changed their relationship into something I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:53 PM
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That’s not an absolute truth. Plenty of losers are having sex and in relationships lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:34 PM
2

Huffing and puffing on the internet about it is one way to make a demand
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:29 PM
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If I smile at a guy he assumes I’m interested. Don’t take it personally, women are probably avoiding unnecessary drama. Or maybe they are not big on compliments. Or maybe they don’t feel like complimenting you. It could be anything. Compliments are validating but the prob with wanting compliments is basically screaming “notice me senpai, I need the validation” when in reality… you can’t demand validation from strangers. That’s just a fact. If you have someone in your life who you want validation…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:08 PM
2

A lot of people miss the obvious lesson in this part of the text that she does talk about in the book. When you’re dating, let go of perfectionism up front. Think long term but enjoy the present. She says date all these guys because the fact is that, like it or not, you will date all of them in some form. Mostly without realizing it. You are drawn to people for many reasons and many of us have our judgment clouded by feelings of love, especially at first. But don’t marry the first person you hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:09 PM
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I watch too. As long as I’m getting the attention I want from you, and you’re not becoming some weirdo addict, I don’t care. If I know you’re watching porn and I’m home and I’m bored, I’ll be annoyed you didn’t ping me first. I’m very spoiled and require constant “attention.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:54 AM
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Sure sure
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:16 PM
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That’s easy to say when it’s not even a possibility lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:13 PM
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that’s a cover story for wanting your homies to respect you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:06 PM
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No she gots prognot
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:59 PM
2

It’s also about bragging rights and impressing men. Common sense
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:58 PM
2

If you’re asking the answer is: not with you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:56 PM
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They don’t want the responsibility of husband. They want easy vagina right this second. They want to be Casanovas and used for their body. They don’t even like girls, they just are too stubborn to go gay. They want to impress other men, but not in a gay way
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:56 PM
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Because it’s not that time yet. In a matter on time tho
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 05:19 AM
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No, I’m saying men who are not suitable are using impossible standards as a “reason” for why they’re still single. In reality no one is looking their way lol. We all know there are more women in college than men. It’s only a matter of time before women out earn men across the board tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:45 AM
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Wow yeah… that’s a lot of dependents. Did you plan it that way or was it an oops
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:43 AM
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It’s easier to say “no one meets my standards” than to admit “I cannot connect” or “no one wants me.” Just another cope tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:39 PM
2

How many dependents do you already have
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:33 PM
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The quote itself doesn’t give you her reasoning. She feels it killed the extra excitement of it happening irl and having an excuse to be able to talk to people. She’s basically saying it removes a natural “in the wild” connection. ”And I hear the romance of dating where you can meet somebody in a supermarket, on the subway or in the park has gone. You can’t go up to somebody and start talking to them. Whereas in the past, you could walk up to somebody in New York, and talk.” But this is a hot gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 04:53 AM
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Everyone learns their lesson either way. If that’s what happens, that’s what happens. Expecting perfection and no conflict in every relationship, casual or not, is immature smelly pp energy. What’s the worst that happens? A breakup? Some sad feelings? Lol whatever, they will get over it. everyone does
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 01:04 AM
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I’d be proud that he’s not a doormat. How is having boundaries treating me badly? I don’t let men post about me online anyway, I like no one knowing if I’m with someone. If he never gets me flowers that would bother me tho. I like when a guy buys me flowers. If he doesn’t like to, I’d be okay with him buying me food or doing something else to surprise me every so often. If he doesn’t like to surprise me with gifts at all then yeah, that’s a dealbreaker so I’d leave lol. But that has nothing to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 10:58 PM
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Lots of people just don’t know how to communicate and have a lot of bad misconceptions about feedback in sex. A lot of women are shy and don’t know if they’ll be judged for saying what they like, or they don’t know how to say what they like without sounding like she’s complaining about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 02:05 PM
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Men materialize in my apartment. If I’m lonely I’ll call a plumber or electrician. I’m a renter so when they show up they already know they have to leave their wives when they walk thru the building. /s Ofc everyone needs to try to find someone they like and try to be appealing to them. I’ll get some attention if I’m out in sweats but I’ll get more attention if they’re sexy sweats or if I wear false lashes. And yes you have to still use apps…. The men you meet on the street and in life are hones…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 10:36 PM
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I’m older already lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 09:56 PM
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Never. I’m spoiled. If he’s not all about me, I’m not interested. If it’s between me and the next bitch, pick the next bitch. If you steal my man, he was never really my man. I got cheated on once and I shrugged and told him thanks for telling me and never spoke to him again lol. He had to show up at my house to talk and even then I told him there was nothing to talk about. He said he still loved me and I just didn’t care lol. And that was me at 16, and I was in love with him before it happened.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:16 PM
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We all get to set the rules for FWB but a mature person will create reasonable boundaries. It sounds like he has no boundaries, will treat anyone like a girlfriend because maybe that does it for him. And it sounds like he picks women who also have no boundaries and accept boyfriend treatment from an unavailable guy. It’s not wrong. I do it too. But I’m straight up about it. “I’m really romantic and physical, I love spending time with you and having a connection but I don’t see myself wanting a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 05:31 PM
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I don’t find alternative men or alternative lifestyles attractive. I like people who are individuals, who aren’t following niche trends, people who are themselves and whose values and lifestyles align with mine. I like guys with big arms who like to read books and make money. Basically, I want to date someone like myself but with a penis and big arms.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 04:58 PM
1

My hinge age range is 27 - 38, I’m 29. Most of my favorite matches are 32-36
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:42 AM
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A lot of things attract me to men I’m just meeting for the first time. In the cases that I’m just attracted to one thing about him, that’s usually when I lose interest pretty quickly. If he looks good and is funny but it too negative or insecure, I’d lose attraction to him because I find that annoying. If he looks good and is good with his money but is boring and a control freak, I’d lose attraction because I also find that annoying. If I find you good looking, funny, and you have a good attitud…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:38 AM
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With the right effort and time anyone can have options. But the level of effort required will naturally different for different people. So no they can’t have it “just like” women. Only women can have it just like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 12:53 AM
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And you need to be hot enough for both. It’s not like most women date guys they don’t find fuckable just because he has a nice personality. That’s really really rare…. very few personalities are good enough to make me want to have sex with someone I’m not attracted to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 08:34 PM
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That’s what I’m disagreeing with tho. He doesn’t need to be 3 points more attractive for me to want to have casual sex with someone. That’s a cope imo. I’d be open to a relationship with any guy I’d find fuckable. The big goal is always to find a guy you find fuckable who you want to keep around. But that’s harder and requires more than looks alone. He still needs to meet my physical standard regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:13 AM
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A guy doesn’t need to be Chris Evans for me to want to sleep with him. He doesn’t need to be the perfect hot guy. He just has to be hot enough and available at a time where I want to sleep with someone. Everyone seems convinced that if a man was hot enough he would trigger this spontaneous desire in all women. That’s a male super power fantasy. I either want to sleep with someone or I don’t. If Chris evans caught me at a time I didn’t want to have sex, I wouldn’t have sex with him. I have to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 02:27 AM
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We are all conditioned to do things. Knowing that doesn’t change anything
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 01:20 AM
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You see that as having standards but that’s really not how I see it. If all I want from someone is sex then all that matters is that he’s hot. For a relationship he has to be hot and I have to like him. But ultimately, if I want to sleep with someone random I’d have be to turned on by him in some way. And odds are I’m not going to randomly sleep with a guy I’m not attracted to and I don’t know. You wouldn’t either probably, unless you really don’t respect yourself and are desperate enough to sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 12:20 AM
0

Dating is fun if you have a good attitude and know how to protect yourself from common bad experiences. Even when dating doesn’t go my way, I still love dating. Sure, I’ve been “stalked” twice this year but thankfully things did not escalate because I caught the red flags in time and the stalking was a result of me dumping them after a few dates. You have to set yourself up to be ready for these kinds of challenges in dating so you’ll know what to do if it happens to you. So if you know you have…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 09:27 PM
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Some do find someone to settle down. Others prefer to stay single and have flings
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 03:41 PM
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Sounds like they don’t respect men but want one anyway. Just like a lot of guys here, they don’t respect women but want one anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 12:01 AM
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It’s unreasonable to think there’s one point of blame. Patriarchy is a word to describe a system. Systems are by nature complex and have many parts, they’re sometimes circular. This can be true for any system. For example. Your body has 11 organ systems which all work together to keep you alive. Each system has many players and processes that keep things in check
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:22 PM
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My dating pool is blessed, tbh. Not a rarity at all And there’s nothing wrong with having dealbreakers. That’s really the bottom line. It’s too bad if you don’t like it tho. It’s just further proof to look somewhere else for love, you’re not gonna find it with people like me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:33 PM
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I don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 05:38 PM
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Maybe that’s why so many men are single lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:05 PM
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The only women who want guys that sleep around a lot are women who are pretty rare. They’re usually into some really freaky stuff, like orgies and dungeons, but are too chicken to go live that life so they find a guy they trust who does all that and does it alongside him. But ultimately the fact is that a persons n count doesn’t guarantee you whatever it is you’re looking for. It can help you guess what they’ll be like in the relationship, it could help you understand their sexuality and attitud…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:03 PM
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You’re just one person with a finite amount of experiences. All the women in your life could be like that and it still wouldn’t make it true for everyone… :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:53 PM
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One person did it so it must be true :) good work detective. Think of all the hot women who capture Mr Tesla’s attention and how many nope the hell out of there because he’s weird
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:51 PM
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There’s no shortage of handsome men who have their lives together. Why settle for someone I could never accept? I think religion is silly so I can’t pretend to understand what religious people may feel in regards to their dealbreakers. I don’t owe any man fairness. I owe them honesty and respect. It would be disrespectful to date someone I don’t respect politically, I wouldn’t be good to him lol I’d always want someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:49 PM
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Sounds like wishful thinking on your part. Stats show that’s not accurate, women stay pretty liberal globally regardless of age
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:08 PM
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they are looking to place the blame of them not getting dates on women instead of taking responsibility and pride in their beliefs and situation lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:40 PM
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I know, I do that too. It might suck but it’s not actually a bad thing. If they didn’t reject you they will always be disappointed in your beliefs and that creates resentment and she will not respect you anyway. So take the rejection like a champ and keep looking for someone you align with
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:33 PM
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I’m pretty assertive, if I can tell you’re dodging questions I’ll stop seeing you lol. It’s better to be honest about political beliefs because you may be able to get dates by withholding it for a while but they’ll just leave if it matters to them anyway. No need to prolong it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:19 PM
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It’s true that I would never date a republican, conservative, libertarian, etc Our values don’t align. That’s why. Most women who are similar to me would agree, your stats emphasize that. I wouldn’t date a red piller. That’s why they have to conceal their red pill ideologies in dating so often lol. Don’t know many women who would. That’s just how the cookie crumbles
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:03 PM
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Fair enough but it does weaken your last point that personal experiences don’t change the discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:33 AM
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you say the reason, not one of the reasons. so i don’t really get your point unless you just weren’t clear
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:23 AM
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Sure, I get turned on when I see a hot guy. Especially in a date. Doesn’t mean I’ll sleep with him or do anything about it. And how cute you think it would cause less misunderstandings if we were consistently one way lol. Very healthy mindset you have there :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:41 AM
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I used to slap my ex during sex. He asked for it. Not my thing but if someone asked I’d do it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 01:54 AM
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Yeah it’s assuming honesty is the best policy. It definitely can be if you want a man you can be 100% honest with, but you have to accept it’s possible that he’s just not that guy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 10:51 PM
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I think you’re bad at navigating this too lol. The most strategic answer is “I’m not interested in anal/threesomes/etc” If they ask directly if you’ve ever done it just look at them weird and ask why they’re asking weird questions with a laugh and accuse them of watching too much porn. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 10:48 PM
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Are you using low desire and low libido interchangeably? Because they’re not the same thing…. So you might wanna reread your source and understand what it’s talking about……….. If you are concerned about low desire in women, I’d say you’d have to actually listen to women about why they don’t desire sex. You can have a normal libido and low desire… had to say that just in case that common sense point is not obvious…… As a woman I can tell you this. Women don’t just want a meat stick. Our nature an…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 10:39 PM
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Living in the suburbs with a minimalistic and child free lifestyle without AirPods is not alternative. Sounds like you’re just a frugal guy living outside of a city who likes to sit on his money and is afraid of failure. Pretty normal to me Alternative is more like if you were a traveling comedian or artist, you would have to be unconventional or creative to be considered alternative in my view. I wouldn’t be interested in you based on your overall lifestyle, there’s not much flexibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:44 PM
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People aren’t robots and don’t owe you sex. Get over it or move on. It’s called being an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:18 AM
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… this is what it looks like to be a good colleague and friend lol. I do this stuff for my friends and colleagues who I enjoy, they do it for me too. It’s called friendship……… lol……….. :) It sounds like you want to be the woman in a dating dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:22 PM
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You get to decide your own dealbreakers, even if it’s unreasonable. If you’re keeping a scorecard I’d argue you’re not mature enough for a relationship. But there’s no authority on who gets to date or not. If I were someone with your logic, I’d find someone with little to no self respect who accepts you as someone who competes with and is jealous of her past (failed) relationships. imo no self respecting person would accept that lol. So, take what you can get in a case like you’ve mentioned beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:09 PM
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Things clearly didn’t work out with their exes so maybe they’re more cautious and experienced now. At the very least anyone should be less impulsive as they get more experience. This is common sense and to fight that is pretty unreasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:05 PM
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I’m not so entitled and needy that I need my partners to give me everything they’ve ever given anyone. But if they don’t like what I like, we just aren’t compatible Obsessing over someone’s past in the way you’re talking about is immature. Who cares what they did with so and so, I only care about whether we are compatible. Giving their ex something and not giving it to me doesn’t mean they treated their ex better. They did something with them and they didn’t do it with me. These things are liter…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:37 PM
1

Sincerity
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 02:19 PM
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Yum
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:49 AM
1

I haven’t found someone I’d like to stay with yet
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:49 AM
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It doesn’t matter whose fault it is, it’s not about fault. Either someone likes you or they don’t. That’s it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:48 AM
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I don’t chase, I attract. I feel like a lot of women act like spiders, we see what we catch and take it from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 04:49 PM
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If I don’t know him much, it’s SO easy to get the ick. But it’s not personal, a guy can look great but then you just see something about him you don’t like and move on. It’s the same as seeing a hot girl and then seeing her picking her boogers
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 02:52 PM
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Know and accept people for who they are, not who you want them to be or who you hope they’ll be. Stop fighting reality and living in your own pain and miseries, stop walking around with a delicate ego and face the realities of life. Don’t be mad when someone doesn’t comply to your world view. No one exists for you but you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 05:30 PM
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I wouldn’t want kids with someone like that. I come from a traditional home and I don’t want that for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 10:07 PM
12

I look at that stuff to learn about what kind of men I can avoid. I find subtle ways to test if he believes in all that jargon and use soft red pill language to goad and eliminate him from my dating pool. We’re incompatible if you’re red pill so it works for both of us
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:22 PM
1

Quality over quantity
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 01:17 AM
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People can want transparency all they want. You get what you’re given. It’s your responsibility to decide what to do with the information you’re given. Relationships run a risk of getting hurt. Get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:55 PM
1

Do you usually overcomplicate basic things or is it just this
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:53 PM
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It’s not confusing at all. How is it confusing that someone wants a nice guy that they desire. This is so… common sense… people are not so one dimensional that “nice” describes their whole personality and all they have to offer lol. Watch this at 7:57 for why guys who are too nice are red flags https://youtu.be/AyQV3n4D_tg
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:13 PM
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Why are you so fixated on your friend’s dating life… why is it wrong for her to have preferences beyond just a nice guy lol. I think it’s unreasonable to choose a partner just because they’re nice. Being nice is not enough. Most people are nice at a superficial level. Most people are nice to their friends and to people they want to have sex with and to strangers and servers and acquaintances Every guy that hits me up is nice. They’re sooooo nice. Should I have sex with every single nice guy or m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:35 PM
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It depends on how much I like him and what his reasoning is. I have a high sex drive but I also take care of myself. if I feel we are becoming too emotionally involved and he’s still waiting to have sex with me, I’d really need to understand and believe what his reasoning is. Because to me this screams fear of intimacy, fear of sex, and highly self protective behavior, maybe even over correcting for a past traumatic experience. Which is fine but I do have my own limits and preferences as well, c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:28 PM
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it really depends on the guy. I prefer guys that don’t care too much about the specifics but instead care about how I’m following my dreams. Your partner should be your cheerleader and biggest fan, that’s how I feel about my partners anyway. Intelligent men usually only connect with people who are within arms reach of where they feel they stand. unless they have baggage, massive character flaws (like wanting a doormat), or have mental health issues. Men who seek the most intelligent women while …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:11 AM
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Most men will ask for a low key first meet and then the second date is a proper date. But every guy who has liked me made efforts to treat me and impress me. I’m always grateful and feel really special. They don’t need to spoil me endlessly, but wanting to treat me and experience the excitement of something new with me is very much something I cherish
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:50 AM
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Yeah I’m a bit more strict online than irl on some things. If I meet a older guy who I actually am attracted to I wouldn’t be opposed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 02:10 AM
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Not everyone thinks like you do. Crazy, I know
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 02:08 AM
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It’s only a problem if the other person makes it a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:17 AM
1

If that’s the case, it hasn’t been true for me at all. I’ve had to sadly break things off with several guys because they wanted to define the relationship too soon or right after sex. Maybe it’s the pandemic or the guys I attract but everyone’s looking to settle down fast and get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:15 AM
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Yes! If a guy doesn’t ask me what I’m looking for I always ask what he’s open to because it’s a much better question tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 01:04 AM
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Most dating apps filter out men over 35 if you’re under 30. I went on a date with a 41 year old at 28 and when I told my girls they were all grossed out. So I’m happy you found someone but i think it’s increasingly becoming more and more uncommon
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:11 PM
2

Or what
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:05 PM
2

I think you think this because you’re not a woman dating men. Men ask me on every first date what I’m looking for. Pretty sure everyone does ask this but idk how often you date or if you’re taken so maybe you just don’t know. It’s an honest and straightforward question. To be clear, 1)What you’re looking for isn’t the same thing as 2) what are we, or 3) what do you want with me? Question 1 is general and states the persons goals in their search overall. So it’s not personal, its to understand wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 10:16 PM
1

That’s right, there has to be an effort to make these changes part of your real life. A lot of people get comfortable and stop doing what they originally did to capture the other persons attention. This can be because they’re taking the connection for granted or because the front they put on had no substance behind it to keep those efforts in place
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 09:38 PM
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You start by saying people can be looking for more than one thing and end with saying men can be looking for more than one thing. This can be true for anyone. It just depends on how much risk and time the person is open to. When women say they don’t know what they’re looking for, this is really what we mean. I don’t know what I want (from you), could just be sex, company, a rebound, attention, validation, or a real connection. If I like you I’m going to want more from you. But until then… I’m op…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 08:19 PM
1

How weird
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 06:23 PM
0

You’re confusing people who are improving themselves with people who aren’t improving themselves. Some people don’t understand that fake it til you make it involves consciously learning from their default original responses and their chosen responses. That’s why people slip back to their “original” behavior, because they were faking it and not embodying those changes. Once they have what they want, fakers fall back to what is comfortable if they get lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 05:39 PM
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If you’re not attractive to someone, you’re usually not in the running at all so your personality isn’t going to matter much unless someone is seeking or attracted to your personality so much that they don’t care what you look like. Which is very uncommon
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 04:31 PM
2

Sounds like what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 04:08 PM
0

Not really. If you have a partner who is unlikable to others that doesn’t mean they’re unlikable to you. And if you keep someone you don’t even like that’s a reflection of your own lack of self respect or self esteem lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 03:49 PM
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The only time that doesn’t work is when you’re not a likable person. But even so, it’s better to be yourself and unlikable than to attempt to be someone else and then fail because no one can hold up an act like that for long. Because then you put in effort and still failed even tho you would have failed anyway, so it prolongs the issue lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 03:41 PM
1

I only match guys I feel actually attracted to. Whether I want to actually sleep with them will depend on our chemistry and if I liked him enough personally to sleep with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 10:17 PM
1

Ironically mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 09:59 PM
1

It’s a good question. What makes this difficult is realizing bitterness, anger, and resentment are all a choice. What helps is to recognize that there are billions of people on earth and one person not being “the one” is just putting you one step closer to finding someone who is. Do not take early stages of dating personally. If you date someone for 3 months and it doesn’t work out, remember they don’t really know you for who you are. Their decision to not see you anymore is not personal, there’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 04:42 PM
0

Like I already said, practice and consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:34 PM
0

Confidence is for you, not for the outcome. If you’re confident in yourself and your mission, you learn from failure instead of being ruined by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:27 PM
1

why is everyone here obsessed with comparisons for everything
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 07:48 PM
-1

You can gain confidence from success. You get success through preparation and practice. You don’t wake up confident in your ability to successfully fly a plane. You can fein competence and confidence but it’s not the same. It’s not rooted in anything real without preparation and practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 07:09 PM
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Fake it til you make it sounds like learning from thin air to me. I’m saying learn to cook, as in learn to be confident. It might sound impossible, especially if you’re a weak and undisciplined person naturally. But it’s really not impossible it just takes practice and consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:30 PM
1

Parenting is hard but if you raise your kids right and you’re a strong person it’s not too bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:29 PM
0

Why do you care about what kids think of adults… seriously??? Kids think Santa is real and that monsters are under the bed and that you can’t get pregnant on top. You can’t really be out here getting your feelings hurt by kids…. Cmon guys
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:17 PM
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From my perspective, guys in relationships who “act carelessly” and come off as confident to other girls are seen this way because he engages with you without expectations of you giving him anything in return. It’s like being a waiter and talking to a hungry customer versus talking to a happily fed one. The hungry customer wants something from you, there can be consequences if they don’t get what they’re looking so you tread lightly and just get the job done with a mask of pleasantry. Once they’…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:15 PM
2

I’m just stating facts and you’re getting personal. Why does this bother you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 04:18 PM
3

Quality and ability to actually get someone pregnant decreases as well https://extendfertility.com/male-fertility-decline/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 04:17 PM
2

I’m stating the fact that male fertility also declines. Inside and out men age like anything else on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 03:42 PM
3

It is very normal for humans to take things for granted. When something is guaranteed or given without being earned, people tend to take advantage of it or don’t appreciate it. More is never enough. And men are just people, and people are naturally inclined to having emotional connections unless their trauma responses see connection as something to fear or avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:41 PM
2

It exists when you marry someone you love who loves you back. I know many people like to say oh it’s temporary, it will get ruined, blah blah. In the same way we are born, we eventually die. Does that mean we were never alive? Does that mean life doesn’t exist? No. It just means nothing lasts forever and we should grow to appreciate what we have while we have it and accept the impermanence of life and love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:34 PM
3

Well we have already established you don’t live in reality. So… okay :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:14 PM
-1

People forget old guy sperm isn’t great… sperm quantity peaks 30-35 and then declines dramatically. Similar to how women peak sexually at the same age. Almost as if nature is saying “it’s now or never” for both parties lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:12 PM
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Insecure people are more easily intimidated. But anyone can feel intimidated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:01 PM
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It’s plenty coherent you’re just not addressing reality because your ego cannot handle the truth. Men being intimidated by women is normal. Anyone can feel it. The only reason to deny that is likely tied to some weird emotional reason. Like being emotionally weak, for example :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:00 PM
4

That’s not true. They’re intimidated, it’s a normal feeling. Why does that trigger you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:48 PM
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Men have told me they’re intimidated of women. And your view doesn’t need to be changed imo if you want to live outside of reality maybe we should let you And I found this on a lazy google search. Written by men for men lmao https://www.themodernman.com/dating/intimidated-by-beautiful-women.html
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:28 PM
1

You tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:49 PM
4

That’s not evidence of every dating situation ever. So do you have any?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:49 PM
5

Evidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:45 PM
10

Feeling intimidated is a normal feeling everyone feels. The idea that you think it’s somehow a lie is silly based off that fact alone. Seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:41 PM
2

This has nothing to do with “what children will think” of their parents. This is society punishing people for showing their pp on the internet. Which is also dumb. Who cares really
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:05 PM
2

They don’t do that on tiktok…. And plenty of people have porn star parents. Why is everyone so dramatic oh my god it’s just sex dude get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:02 PM
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Does literally anyone care about this now? I cringe at half the stuff my parents do but that doesn’t mean anything, they’re still my parents and they’re not going to completely die if I cringe or laugh at something they did “in their time” Who cares what anyone thinks, even your kids. Kids eat their own boogers and lie about finishing their homework.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 04:41 AM
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You can’t time travel. So just stop caring about what anyone thinks about your life and live your life. No one is stopping you from anything and no one is controlling you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:46 PM
4

Comparing dating sites to water and insulin is a little dramatic… don’t you think? I don’t know, to me it sounds like you started dating with reasonable expectations, became disillusioned, and now you’re kinda asking the online dating gods for quality control. People aren’t scammers, they’re just not self aware or perfect for you. You just have to keep meeting people is all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:15 PM
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No one is forcing you to pay for these apps, most of them can be used without charge. I’d argue everyone pretends to be better than they are to a degree, the people with the most to hide will pretend the most. But this is in all areas of life. If you’ve ever done any hiring, you understand this. If you’ve ever caught a 6 year old in a lie, you understand this. When it comes to dating, I go into dates with confidence that I can learn about who this person is beyond the profile. They’re not just 6…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 06:22 AM
2

I don’t believe in the friendzone. That’s my whole point. Either I want to have sex with someone or i don’t, friend or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 10:53 PM
2

Definitely. I’d rather have sex with a friend than a stranger when I’m in need.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 10:03 PM
1

I’m at a solid 7. I have everything I’ve worked for and everything life has given me. My family showed me how to be strong and resilient, I stayed true to that. I could definitely be happier but truthfully I don’t know for sure what would make me happier. I imagine once I know what I want with life I’ll be able to figure that out better. I’m almost 30, I’m happier than I was in my 20s but unfortunately not as naive. Which is a blessing and a curse, ignorance being bliss and all. Female happiness…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 02:59 PM
2

The truth is that every job is just a job. People like to pretend you have to be a genius to have a job in tech, for example. But in reality they’re just jobs. The only ones who need to use their brains are people saving lives (drs, engineers, etc) everything else is fancy advertisement and paper pushing. Every job is necessary and there is no shame one way or another. When we tie ourselves to our jobs we are going outside of ourselves to describe who we are as people. Don’t let dating get you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:45 PM
1

It’s because of how you frame it and how you yourself see the situation. “I failed school and now I work at a store because I wasn’t invited to interview anywhere else.” That’s different from “I work at this store, my life goals are (to pay off debt, to try this or that, to go here and there)”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 01:09 PM
1

I haven’t really been interested in having sex with my friends. I’ve thought about it but I’m not interested in the friends I have atm like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:42 PM
1

Failure can be unattractive. If failure made you lose yourself and your purpose, or if you stopped exploring your purpose then it just looks like failure kicked you down and you stayed there. I get that maybe this is just where you are in life but based on what you wrote here, it sounds like you have low self esteem, which humans are conditioned to find unattractive especially in men. Dating isn’t easy. If you can’t repackage your failures or find the silver linings then no one else will either
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 11:33 PM
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Nope, if I’m interested I’m interested. If I’m not I’m not. His friend status is irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 09:39 PM
2

Not at all. I have a handful of hot guy friends who I’ve known for years. I usually meet guys through them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 08:03 PM
2

I don’t want to have sex with every attractive guy I meet. I’d be his friend but if I like him even a little it might be a problem lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 07:51 PM
2

Not really. Don’t take it so personally, you’re just a person like anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 05:35 PM
0

We see you as people, you see us as vagina. That’s the difference lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 03:28 PM
2

😍
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 12:43 PM
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Because it’s not the same for women. We don’t have the same friendzone outlook. If you’re in the friend zone I was never going to have sex with you and never will. In fact I’d say I almost never even considered having sex with guys I keep as friends. I forget they have genitalia
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 06:20 AM
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I’d argue that if you get truly friendzoned it was because she was never going to do you anyway. That’s why I say the friendzone doesn’t really exist. If a woman wants to sleep with you she’d “ruin the friendship” a la Demi lovato song That being said, desire is an odd thing. It’s more than carnal or visual or emotional. Friendship gives you long term intel and access to others
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 05:20 AM
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They weren’t her friends, they were trying to bang. Sometimes men know that if she won’t have sex with him because she’s not attracted to him he can connect with her on another level and increase his chances. It can work sometimes but most men find it to be too much work and emotional labor. I’ve definitely been close to “phoning a friend” but the issue is that these “friends” usually end up wanting more than just sex or they want it more than once and truthfully, once may be all she wants to gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 09:10 PM
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There are so many reasons but here’s what I’ve seen the most from men they don’t want to make the effort or see relationships as work. They just don’t value relationships they’re emotionally damaged by an ex or by past rejection they have low self esteem so anyone interested in them will be seen as desperate they have a fragile ego and feel they can always do better and believe they should always do better mommy issues daddy issues afraid of someone else’s expectations generally lost in life, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 07:16 PM
3

Hush and let the depressed badger complain lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 06:28 AM
1

Nope, I left him. I didn’t want to tho but we just weren’t compatible in the end and he was never gonna go back to the guy he was when I met him with me around
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 07:25 PM
4

Too fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:45 PM
4

A guy who is sleeping around and with anyone isn’t going to settle. I feel pretty neutral towards these guys because I can spot them really easily after one date. When I first became single I felt so very overwhelmed by all these hot guys doing and saying anything to spend time with me. But it’s very easy to get bored with these guys because all they can think about and talk about is sex lol. They like to pretend they’re Casanovas and that they have me under a spell, I’m guilty of playing along …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:43 PM
3

… why are you taking validation from strangers on the internet lol. I hate it here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:24 PM
5

My instinct is you have questionable instincts
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:18 PM
8

Lol I’m not dating a guy who never pays for me. I’m spoiled and I’m spoiled for choice. Plus I’m not afraid I’ll be used for just sex. If I have sex with someone it’s because I want to have sex with them, not because I’m expecting a relationship. I don’t treat sex like a bargaining chip to get commitment. If I have sex with a guy and never see him again, oh well lol at least I had a good time. Guys who disappear after sex have nothing else to offer anyways, or they would be offering it to you. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:10 PM
6

Asking for commitment early on is a red flag. This is common sense. Sometimes men ask for commitment too soon because they are anxious to lock it down. But if it’s too early, I don’t know you. Why would I commit to someone I don’t really know…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:58 PM
4

It explains itself. You’re gonna have to ask a more specific question instead of being cryptic
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:36 PM
1

Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:33 PM
4

No one lol that’s why they’re mad 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:12 PM
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I find a variety of guys on online dating. But it’s very true that any guy who is a bit good looking or who works out or is over 6ft is a total slut and simp for pics and sex. They lead with sex and i know they’re like that with every girl who gives them attention lol. I don’t mind, I usually want to sleep with them too. But if I slept with every guy I thought was sexy…. I guess that wouldn’t be too bad lol but it would definitely distract me from finding someone I can connect with. Then there a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:03 PM
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No, this is just all you care about. You don’t care about women in their 50s or who they are or who they’ve become, they’re beyond dead and irrelevant to you. So who they really are doesn’t matter to you. And women in their 20s make you feel so inadequate you build them up to be these masochistic chad addicts who only look at the average guy later on to use them. One day you’ll look back and cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:01 AM
1

oh wow, you care about a person not caring about another person on the internet. Wild
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 08:46 PM
0

It really depends on the guy and the situation. I like when a guy goes to therapy or has gone to therapy but only if they seem stable and overall happy with themselves and their lives as it is. I have a new friend who I was interested in but I noticed a lot of yellow flags on our first date. I then learned that he was in therapy so I was like… okay, he seems self aware enough. Later on he showed that he was very anxious about me and was worried if I liked him or not… which is a normal anxiety to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 07:50 PM
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Lmao damn, call him out sis 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 06:17 PM
1

We are definitely better apart. It’s very hard to let go even when knowing that. Life sucks!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:14 AM
8

I do this. They were a part of my life for a long time. They know things about me no one else does, I know them in a way no one else ever could. I loved my exes. I still care about them as people, they were a big part of my life once upon a time. Our time here is short. There’s only one ex I would “take back” in a way but he’s the one I don’t talk to. Because if we spoke again I might say yes and I couldn’t handle having to say goodbye to him again. So we don’t talk anymore and I watch his life …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 06:42 AM
1

There is no euphemism when someone is pro choice. There never was. You pretend there are smoke and mirrors because you’re a control freak on the topic. It’s confirmed on your other posts as well
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 12:46 AM
1

Unfortunately I did. If it helps I do feel bad for you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:28 PM
2

And who are we? Not people? You shouldn’t keep it to yourself tbh but stop being jealous of women because you think it’d be easier to be a woman. You’re never going to be a woman unless you transition. So figure your life out dude
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:25 PM
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The only company you need is a therapist. Your pity parties are keeping you pitiful. Sorry for the tough love, few better soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:23 PM
1

You like the exchange because you like to use guilt or shame to try and control how people see the issue lol. Or you would have never brought this up to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:21 PM
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You’re the one adding stuff to it. Being pro choice isn’t a mysterious thing where we pretend a fetus isn’t a fetus. It is a fetus and if you don’t want it to be born you need to abort it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 09:41 PM
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You’re misunderstanding me. To be perfectly clear, I do not care. Abortion is a human right. If that means we are killing unborn babies, then that’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:12 PM
0

Any man can bring these things. This is not really impressive….
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:09 PM
0

Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:17 AM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:16 AM
1

And we use it differently now, don’t we
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:16 AM
0

Because we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:05 AM
1

Yeah, I think so. We’ll see :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 11:09 PM
3

I’m hoping he wants more than platonic but he kept his cool when asking. I actually don’t know for sure. Which is still a good strategy because if I didn’t like him I could believe he meant to be my friend and that he wasn’t giving unwanted attention. And I’m not sure he realized that I did like him because the other guy followed me around like a dog all night. So to me, I’m assuming he likes me. I’m actually hoping he likes me. Not knowing if he does or doesn’t actually increases my thoughts of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 11:03 PM
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I meet a lot of guys irl and I’ve had a very mixed experience. This weekend for example I met two perfect examples at the same party My favorite pursuer from the weekend was friendly and curious about me. We made jokes and spoke briefly in a group and then just to each other. It was natural and no pressure. He then went back to his friends and didn’t actively pursue me until just before he left. He asked me for my insta and it felt platonic, not like “hey baby let me stalk you online.” I’m actua…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 07:50 PM
2

Doesn’t really matter, does it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 03:32 PM
2

Their human fetuses before :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 03:32 PM
2

Because he’s not the one carrying the child. Parental rights and responsibilities can be removed or adjusted by court.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:55 PM
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If women are using abortion to avoid consequences then good for them :) children are not punishments, they’re people once born. Abortions are good for everyone. Even the aborted benefit by not being born into a home that doesn’t want them or into the system.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 04:54 AM
1

Just hold a drink. What’s the big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:21 PM
5

Exactly. Learn about her while keeping what you value in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:19 PM
3

I don’t ask those. You learn if he will do those things by patterns of behavior and then you state your expectations. Then you negotiate. If I’m not satisfied or if I feel uncertain, I leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:18 PM
1

She was bored because they weren’t right for each other. This is a good reason to divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 03:54 PM
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I don’t answer it. If a man asks me that question he’s not interested in me. If he somehow is interested in me, him asking the question will make me lose interest in him
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 03:52 PM
3

All of hinge is men eat, pray, loving around the world. Everyone rewards men going to find themselves. No one encourages casting off obligation. Eat pray love lady was in a divorce, she has no obligation but to herself at that point. Her ex husband didn’t need a mom. We like men who have found themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:54 AM
8

Speaking for myself, between 18-28 I was always turned off by any guy 5 years older than me. None of my friends ever dated someone off campus or much older than 5 years. But I went to a big competitive school in a big city and was a student athlete. So my experience is different. Myself and the women around me were similar, we wanted a hot guy with drive and a lot of potential, someone everyone wanted, someone we could show off. That’s hard to do in your 20s if you’re dating an older guy. Like y…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:28 PM
2

It depends on how the pursuer manages their expectations. If you’re my friend just to convince me passively that we would be good together, that’s fine. But recognize that because it’s passive I still may not get it, like you, or see you that way. If that will cause drama on your part, then don’t bother taking this route. If you can’t accept rejection (not to say it’s easy) then don’t take this route. If you focus on your expectations you’ll be let down by the reality of the situation when it di…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:19 AM
8

It’s the same thing. I can have sex with a guy and feel excited about him and not want to keep him. I can also want to keep him but not want to sleep with him. Depends on how I feel and what I want from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:11 AM
2

That’s also true. Probably related to them feeling emasculated or something
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:48 PM
6

It depends on the level of fear dude. This is common sense. It’s even true for rats lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:28 PM
8

That’s not true at all. You just don’t understand women is all. Just like men, if you know someone’s gonna reject you but the chance at the fantasy has a higher personal reward, that means your perceived reward is above your level of fear. So you act towards the reward. If your fear outweighs the reward then you don’t act. In this case, she feels like he’s not gonna pick her but she’s got nothing to lose by asking, she could be rejected OR chad could be gotten somehow. In some cases, delusions o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:26 PM
1

I figured you were him on another account. All of the guys here have at least 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:15 PM
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Going after chad has nothing to do with self esteem, it’s about pleasing the bean sir… lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:14 PM
1

Your title literally says “Women play a numbers game”. So yeah, you did say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:14 PM
1

What I’m saying is you have a warped perspective. It is warped because you “see it as a game” and you’re saying women are playing a numbers game… but they’re largely not. But you see it as a numbers game because you are the one seeing games
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:00 PM
1

So you treat it like a game, therefore everyone else does?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:53 PM
19

Women in general have low self esteem, about half in surveys report feeling low self esteem. That’s just what it is. Not sure what the percentage is for men but women at large aren’t seeing themselves as a VS model. Men are naturally desperate. They’re literally designed to want to jizz in every wet hole possible lol. By nature of design, men are thirsty. That’s not a social media issue. In fact, social media has given a lot of loner men access to women they wouldn’t have otherwise. You think Su…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:51 PM
2

So you’re saying through a man’s perspective you only see number games
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:54 PM
3

You seeing it as a numbers game is part of the warped perspective I’m talking about. Knowing that “leaving your house” to meet people makes it a numbers game to you and that’s really weird. It’s not a game… it’s life to leave your house for a mate lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:19 PM
3

We can take it but all I’m saying is we don’t need to lol. I don’t always
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:40 PM
8

What a warped perspective. Most women aren’t playing numbers games, they’re finding someone they look forward to being with for years to come. Believe it or not, that’s hard to find. Women aren’t sitting here like “let me text these 10 guys and see them for weeks to decide who I can settle for” lol. That’s not only a crap dating strategy, it’s exhausting and not gonna find you the man your heart desires. When a woman is dating many guys and she isn’t just using them for sex or meals it’s because…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:33 PM
5

Okay but I don’t know anyone using the full 7 inches of their toys lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:05 PM
3

A man is more than his body. A persons value is not tied to their body imo. If you love the person, their biology is pretty irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:01 PM
3

Your partners are not entitled to know every single thing in your past. You don’t need my guest book.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:59 PM
1

The fact is that if you like sex, you’re going to want someone who matches your view. If you’re afraid or resentful of sex (because you can’t get it easily or because you feel “used”) you’d be better off with someone who has those same issues. It’s all about alignment. I would never be with a man who is inexperienced AND who is negative about sex (as in he dislikes women who sleep around or sees women who have consensual sex as being used) because I find that mentality pathetic. An inexperienced…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:57 PM
1

They’ve probably been on the rocks for a while. It only takes a moment for the relationship to end but 2-6 weeks for a person to feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:18 PM
2

Lol she had someone else she liked more and it didn’t work out so you’re a secure option for her to redirect all her feelings at. Women don’t ghost because they “can’t express their feelings” unless it was a breakup. They don’t ghost on a relationship high. When you really like someone they’re like a drug and you physically cannot stay away. Take her back if you want. Now that the other guy that she was really feeling is probably gone, your path is clear
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:10 PM
2

43 is too old. 38 has been my max from 25-29 Dating apps also default to exclude men 40+ for me Maybe if I met him irl but online I’m filtering him out by default
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:38 PM
2

I’m not reading all that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:15 PM
16

A red pill man is actually a loser. I’ve gone on a lot of first dates and many of them admitted to being red pilled once I asked in the right way. Also I bring up controversial topics in dating and note where and how he reacts. Men are easy to bed and easy to understand. They’ll tell you exactly what’s on their mind if they feel reassured that you’re interested and won’t leave. The desire to be accepted is usually stronger than the desire to manipulate :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:01 PM
13

Immediately no.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:14 AM
3

It hurts their feelings and tests their entitlement. It’s not about seeing life from an objective perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:37 PM
3

It’s pathetic to me but some people just need to believe in something.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:18 PM
2

Right now at almost 30 Right now because I’m single. But I prefer recurring partners, not into one night stands. I was never single till recently so I only had my one partner for a long time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:06 PM
2

It’s not in their nature to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:49 PM
1

People who respect their past lovers don’t kiss and tell with the important info. They had sex in private. If they had sex in public that’s different
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:29 PM
1

That information wouldn’t be honesty. It would be tmi
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:28 PM
3

She doesn’t owe him that information. Some people don’t kiss and tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:44 AM
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Not at all :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 10:35 PM
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:) don’t shoot the messenger, they’re the ones with a the opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:31 PM
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They would be losers to me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:31 PM
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It’s never come up. Probably for two reasons. 1) I don’t date losers and 2) Men think I’m hot so they assume I’ve slept around
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 07:54 PM
2

They can do almost all the same things. Look better, smell better, seduce me better. Most women fall in love through their ears so if you can step up your flirting, romance, and positive qualities we will be more attracted to you. Fitted tops with big arms. Fitted pants with strong legs. Fresh haircut. Acts of service.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 03:49 PM
1

Some people have nothing to admit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 02:38 AM
3

Not admitting something is omission.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:54 PM
3

How do you know that women here aren’t being honest about their feelings? women in the wild act differently because maybe they feel differently
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:46 PM
1

Now we’re on the same page lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:45 PM
1

We can tell lol no worries
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:38 PM
1

We can tell lol no worries
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:38 PM
5

I’m also blonde so it checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:36 PM
1

Sounds like you think you know and you get laid for other reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:33 PM
4

Of course you believe you are right. Again, this is what I’m talking about. There’s nothing anyone can say because you believe you’re right. There’s more wisdom in being open and curious instead of assuming you know everything
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:01 PM
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Of course you believe you’re right. That’s part of the complex I’m talking about lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:57 PM
13

The problem with men on ppd is that they act like know it alls. They all swear to know how women feel and that’s why most of them are single, lonely, and repel women and friends naturally. It’s a massive character flaw but I’m here for it lol. Makes this place entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:37 PM
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Depends on how I feel about him. If I have high interest levels in him, I will actually get turned off. I’m not usually a jealous person but I’m human and I can become jealous. My reaction to jealousy is to leave because I associate it with me not trusting him. I always trust my gut before I trust anyone else, I trust my gut more than I trust the benefit of the doubt. If I wasn’t really sure about him then maybe seeing him be a friendly and good person to other women may actually make me feel li…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:27 PM
2

Thats how they get their discount at jiffy lube 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:47 PM
1

To me that means you’ve never been with a person who became needy over the course of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:45 PM
9

My assumption is based on your replies.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:58 AM
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It does not lol. I’ve seen grown men cry, some vulnerable and some toxic. They may look the same if you have poor people skills or are a bad listener, but if you’re a responsive partner with basic social skills it’s clear to see. That’s when people run
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:30 AM
9

Just based on your response
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:28 AM
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You’re enabling dysfunctional people who have unhealthy attachments to people. I think you need to do some soul searching. I know I sound snide but I’m serious, you don’t know how to express your emotions in a healthy way and healthy people are repulsed but that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:06 AM
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This is just your own observation. You don’t understand the difference between being emotionally open and vulnerable versus being needy and clingy. One is done with intention, it’s controlled by the person and has a purpose (to explain, to express, or to meet a human need). The other is someone who is not in control and who needs help. Everyone, including myself, has been both situations where they are in control and not in control of their emotions. This is normal. What you’re missing is the fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 09:48 PM
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One where everyone gets therapy and works on their issues. Too many broken people are looking for someone to fix them with validation, love, and attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 08:40 PM
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Why do you care so much. Get over it. People want to post what they want to post. If they felt that they wanted to share a pic of their ass and a passage of their inner reflections, who cares? How is that toxic lol. It’s just ass dude. Maybe you don’t understand the hot girl aesthetic from the female perspective. Really, you seem to be overreacting to something very basic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:46 PM
1

Not seriously. I’m playful
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:52 AM
1

He can be honest to a fault and she can still have trust issues. It can ruin the relationship even if he is trustworthy. It actually happens a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 10:31 PM
2

I’m emotionally unavailable and no man can change that. I have to change myself. A man can inspire me to get myself together, but that usually only happens when the guy leaves me because he wants more lol. That’s why leaving an emotionally man APPEARS to makes him emotionally available. Because he faces the consequences of losing someone and missing having someone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 10:13 PM
0

Money is not more important than your kids. That’s really the bottom line. If your parents didn’t teach you that, then it’s very unfortunate
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:22 PM
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Money isn’t real. People are. If you can afford it, stay home with your kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:51 PM
1

An actress wouldn’t have time to become buff. The few on screen who are get plenty of attention. But even they aren’t super buff. It takes a lot for women to build muscle on our frames and bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:10 PM
1

It’s hot on both. Celebrity trends are not the only things that can define what’s hot
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 06:49 PM
1

Biology. Tldr but Muscles are hot. Strength is sexy. And muscles on women are hot too. It doesn’t need to be tv perfect to look good. Just because we believe muscular guys are more likely to be aggro weirdos doesn’t mean we think all of them will be. It’s not toxic to be attracted to someone who is strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 06:42 PM
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Yes, I feel personally rejected when a man does not bow to the bat of my luscious lashes. Lmao On a more serious note, maybe. But there was no real attempt made. It’s not necessarily a rejection, it’s more like you didn’t show up for the tryouts so you counted yourself out. Most women are kinda oblivious to the guys around them too, we don’t look around for single guys we want to bang or ask out. Sure, we notice when a guy is hot or fun to be around, but if he doesn’t make an obvious move I see …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:35 PM
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I love meeting guys irl, I prefer it over the apps. It’s rare to find a guy who isn’t a creep in sheeps clothing tho. Can’t tell you how often I meet a guy irl and then all of a sudden he’s trying to add me on every social media platform and texting me obsessively. I do get lucky and find great guys irl tho. Just not often
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 04:42 PM
3

2
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:02 PM
1

If I am on tingler can I go outside of the relationship? We could just have a poly relationship. One person for love and my roommate for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 09:21 PM
7

Why are you caring about what others think about you. Get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 07:27 PM
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Working in the service industry can leave women feeling pretty powerless to stop the advances of men they don’t like. That’s what the issue is here. When I worked at a restaurant, a comment like that wouldn’t bother me. The problem starts when you laugh it off and they feel enabled to make more comments and you’re just like… cash out and leave, grandpa. Ew. Even multiple comments from different guys can be annoying. In my opinion the issue is that these guys don’t know when to stop because they …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:10 PM
2

Not stiff for long tho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:33 PM
1

Mainstream society? Accepts without question? Where are you getting this. Like, what is mainstream society to you because i don’t really get it. Sounds so weirdly conspiratorial in a kinda cartoonish way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:16 PM
1

So your opinion is a retaliation? I’m not following
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:07 PM
1

So your opinion is controlled by their opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:05 PM
1

It’s not a worse harm. Why is everything about oppression Olympics
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:50 PM
2

Not really lol. Women are rarely alone. When they are it’s usually by choice
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:29 PM
1

I don’t see that perspective of yours is relevant or of any real importance on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:22 PM
1

A pump and dump isn’t personal. It’s just easy sex and leaving. Divorce is always personal :) people don’t divorce for no reason lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:11 PM
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That’s quite different if she knew you already
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 09:48 PM
2

It’s definitely taught. Biologically almost everyone wants sex and pleasure
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:41 PM
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I don’t think so. It’s a fear most women carry. You’d have to say some really idk feminist stuff or make her feel really safe if she’s carrying that around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:36 PM
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Don’t take it personally, sometimes girls are bored and just want sex lol. My friends usually sleep with guys fast when they don’t want a long term deep emotional or intellectual connection with him. This may not make sense to guys, but when you find a guy you really like who you’re intimidated by it’s kind of hard to bring yourself to sleep with him. It’s a bit of a risk because even if you want to theres a risk him thinking less of you. Or worse, you don’t want him to think he doesn’t need to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:50 PM
1

Sounds like you’d enjoy to cross dress. It’s very common, you may enjoy it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:28 PM
5

People who fart in elevators
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:35 PM
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Men make this post every week and somehow are not considered hiveminded. Crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 03:08 AM
1

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:32 PM
2

Self loathing, low self esteem, insecurity. Depression is a big one too. Chronic nihilistic thinking. Negative outlooks on others. Entitlement Religion. Lazy thinking. Doesn’t like to read ever. No work ethic. Boastful. Fragile ego I could go on forever Yes I’m single lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:29 PM
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Do what you’re comfortable with. I have foodie in mine and guys invite me to fun spots to start. I like funky coffee shops where they make lavender lattes and stuff. Hipster snacks are a plus. Hipster dinners and cocktails. Fusion foods. I love all that stuff. If he invites me to a unique place I like him more
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:56 PM
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What we say and what we get can be different things. This is not build a bear. We cannot build the perfect man or order him on Prime lol. We aren’t coddling anyone. You are just picking and choosing what you hear and assume you understand what’s being said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:26 AM
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Many actually do it to protect their families. If they start sleeping around with normal women, those women may look to ruin his life if they want to keep him. Sex workers would rather he continue to hide the infidelity so they have steady income. These men want to live a double life, whether it’s out of obligation, attachment to their partner, guilt, etc. it’s just better for them to cheat this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:21 PM
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I don’t want to change for someone so I avoid the drama all together.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:18 PM
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I’ve rejected guys who look too well put together. If he wears very expensive clothing and spends a lot of time on his appearance I sometimes assume he’d expect that from me. I dress up often but I prefer to keep a low maintenance daily routine
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:03 AM
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The longer he makes up stories in his head about who she is, the harder she will fall from the pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:28 PM
1

Women are very different, maybe you haven’t considered that in your thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:30 PM
1

Cheating chronically like you were saying early is definitely rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:22 PM
1

Shame is an expression of fear. You have to regulate the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex to manage emotions like fear and anger. Science shows meditation, therapy, journaling, and exposure help strengthen the prefrontal cortex and make the amygdala smaller
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:21 PM
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It is rare statistically. You can try to disprove that if you want. With stats or something
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:49 PM
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Describing thought as pills is juvenile to me no offense And statistically the type of person you’re describing who cheats often is pretty rare so my point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:37 PM
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I don’t believe in the pills, I think they’re immature thinking. If someone enjoys cheating, then they enjoy cheating. Doesn’t make me wrong or disprove what I’m saying at all. So idk why you’re typing paragraphs here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:19 PM
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I mean, it’s true that if I’m dating someone and I don’t get enough attention when I ask for more, I’ll definitely lose interest and move on if I’m not crazy about you. If we were together and I wasn’t getting enough attention after asking for more, I’d probably make an effort to push for more to give him that chance. But even that is a short window of time for me. When I like someone I want their attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:15 PM
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And other stimuli will result in new actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 06:21 PM
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Most women don’t sleep around forever. Yeah, it happens - it can be fun. But it gets boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 06:21 PM
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That seems unlikely. Maybe that’s what you and the other men would hope but that’s closer to a revenge fantasy than a reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 05:31 PM
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Honestly this reeks of insecurity and jealousy of hot guys you feel like you don’t measure up to. We all know women can upgrade at almost any time. If she’s choosing to be with you it’s because she likes you more than the hot guys she can pull. If all she wanted was to slam chads every night she probably could. But that doesn’t satisfy most women. So stop being insecure and jealous. It’s a weak disease
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 03:43 PM
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They’d be adults and get over it. Or they’ll stomp their feet and possibly not reproduce, allowing for other men who probably got over it to reproduce
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 03:05 PM
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Not that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 03:00 PM
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i can’t control how you interpret things idk what you want me to do about your interpretations lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:48 PM
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uh no lol that’s just your interpretation
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:35 PM
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It’s human to react strongly to shame. Some repress it, some are drowned in it, others address it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:29 PM
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50 years is hardly any time at all. Compare men 100 years ago to today. Big differences
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:28 PM
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If they could control their anger, they would. But they can’t so they’ll just have to justify it so they don’t feel shame
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:19 PM
1

MGTOW doesn’t exist. Single people exist. Some people stay single forever and that’s fine. If anyone judges you for that, that’s just their opinion. What do they know, anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 01:08 PM
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It would normalize sex. Men would be jealous at first but they’ll adapt like they always do
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:43 PM
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I love sex. Hate drama. I have no problem leaving a relationship doesn’t satisfy me if I feel like I’ve tried to get the sex I want. no need to cheat and put someone through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:09 AM
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You can have sex with someone and not see them as an object. Being the object of someone’s desire does not make you an object. big brain energy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:09 PM
0

Some examples are a strong jaw, defined cheekbones, defined angles on the face, strong brows
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:51 PM
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Not sure but to make makeup appealing you have to use the power of illusion and skill to replicate and enhance the features people like
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:18 PM
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Like I said, make it so women do like it. Maybe you guys just don’t know how to use makeup to your advantage. It’s a tool.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:55 PM
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Makeup is for everyone. Just wear makeup and make it popular in men if you’d like that advantage. Culture changes one person at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:36 PM
3

If we aren’t exclusive why don’t you just go suck a dick? You don’t need your hookup’s permission
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 12:54 AM
1

You’re being unreasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 11:25 PM
3

That’s what I’m thinking too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:59 PM
1

Can you give an example
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:58 PM
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Define what “opening up” and “pouring his heart” means.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 10:46 PM
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I don’t want to perform anal on a guy. If he’s a top then I’ve got no qualms. Even if I had a straight bf who wanted anal I wouldn’t be into it. Fair or not, it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 07:32 PM
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No and I don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 05:54 PM
10

I don’t want to be put on a pedestal. I certainly don’t want him to see me as mediocre either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 03:10 PM
1

I can’t control anyone’s feelings and I certainly am not gonna judge him for a reaction or a lack of reaction. If I want to know his true feelings I’d ask him. I’m not gonna guess or assume his feelings for me. I’m not a teenager… we are adults lol Not at all. Why would it hurt me that he wasn’t jealous? My past has nothing to do with him. I can only know what I feel and what he tells me. I honor their word and don’t create problems where there are none.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 02:59 PM
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Get hobbies where you meet people, practice connecting to people, learn to actively listen, take feedback without internalizing negative thoughts, be self reflective, learn to stop being critical, drop the perfectionism, work on your ego. It takes years to change a bad habits in your personality. be consistent, those years will pas anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 06:21 PM
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Your own perspective and stubbornness prevents that. You think you’re being gaslit - that’s a big feeling. It shows you take it very personally. Sure, a confirmation bias is one way you’ll be filtering and interpreting information. But ultimately you said you wanted to do this to understand, predict things, set expectations, avoid disappointment, and build trust. This whole men being more romantic than women thing won’t help you do any of that. Because you are trying to prove one is more than th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:07 PM
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Not at all lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:51 PM
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You can’t be objective in understanding the world if you’re trying to prove that people are gaslighting you. That’s called having a cognitive bias going in. Which is fine but not really helpful to “understanding”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:51 PM
1

So what you’re saying is you just want bragging rights and there’s no practical need for the discussion you’re having?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:33 PM
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There is truth in his joke: that’s how he would feel if his partner left him. If you relate to that, then sure that’s true for you too. But that’s also not proof of anything outside of that. Men do fall in love more quickly, I’m pretty sure studies show this. And they do take more time to recover but I’m pretty sure that’s because they get stuck on the denial stage of grief for longer than women do. If you want to be loved in the way men love, go love men. If you do not want to accept the love w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:23 PM
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You can feel however you want, it’s a free world.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:00 PM
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Not really the point. My point is you disliking someone’s choices doesn’t mean their dignity or body is actually for sale. Objectively, it’s not. You can feel like if you were to do that then you’d be selling your dignity and body. But that’s how you feel. That’s not the objective truth
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 08:40 PM
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It sounds like your love language might be acts of service. And you can be dominant and enjoy things being done to you. Things like Dom worship or whatever. So… idk maybe take a bdsm quiz if you’re over 18
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:37 PM
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I don’t think you do understand but that’s fine. I’m not a scholar either. You have evidence for that last point? Or is that your feeling? And how does this relate to the video you posted, which is the opposite in many ways of what you’re expressing now? Or is this an admission that your opinions have changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:45 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. Appreciate the clarification
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:24 PM
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So are you saying you are not romantic because you’re an exception? I’m confused
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:11 PM
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you don’t seem to be saying things that align with OPs original point. Which was that men are more romantic because they would be hopeless without the love of their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:04 PM
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What would happen if she stopped giving or taking? And what if she wanted to leave you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 05:59 PM
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I think the issue here is you think unconditional love is romantic. If you do have unconditional love for someone, that is something you give and they owe you nothing in return. So they can leave you today and you will not be hopeless. You will still love them. But if you need someone to feel that same intensity… that’s literally a condition you are demanding. Do you understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 05:35 PM
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It literally is a feeling. Even if 100% felt that way it’s because they feel that way :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 05:33 PM
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Sure thing. How much do you know about codependency? And what was your family like growing up?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 05:22 PM
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That’s codependency. It makes sense you think that it’s smart, it’s a dynamic that you cannot love without… which is part of the problem. It’s like a blind spot if that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 05:04 PM
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That’s really sad. Have you talked about this in marriage counseling? It doesn’t have to be this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:29 PM
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So you’re in a codependent relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:25 PM
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Why is an unhealthy relationship dynamic romantic to you? Healthy romance involves trust, respect, and open communication between all partners. They involve collaboration and compromise from all partners. They respect and value each other's independence. You should be able to see your partner making their own decisions without fear of toxicity, retribution, or retaliation, etc. they share decision making powers. I think you’re confusing relationship dynamics and romance. A romantic gesture is mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:20 PM
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Exactly. It sounds like a lot of these men come from dysfunctional families and genuinely cannot understand what real love looks like. I hate to be that person who sounds judgy but as someone who came from a very happy home…. It’s is so concerning to see!!! Red flags for days lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 03:47 PM
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Your lover is not the same as your parent… oh my god….
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 03:09 PM
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Have you been evaluated for codependency?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 03:08 PM
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What It’s almost always a dismissive/intrusive question any time someone asks that to a stranger Anyway Who hurt u
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 03:06 PM
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So… if I decide that I don’t like you anymore. What will happen? I’ll be guilted into staying because you’re hopeless without me? That sounds like codependency to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 03:04 PM
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???? Lmao You think it’s romantic to say you can’t live without someone???? That without that person you’d be useless and nothing matters??? Sorry, that’s hopeless romance. To each their own. Some people like that I guess. But it’s a form of extreme dependency made to sound cute :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:50 PM
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No, I haven’t. Fear is a turn off is what I said. I don’t care what fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:45 PM
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In my own experience there is nothing you can say that is truly helpful to people who have these big issues. You cannot help them, the problem has issues that are beyond what the observer can see. Giving advice from the outside isn’t helpful. Sympathizing isn’t enough. And when people feel hopeless, encouraging them to do better for themselves or to push them to talk to doctors, leave their partners, get new work skills is seen as an attack on the suffering persons adequacy. They often don’t eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:24 PM
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Women cheat as much as men. Women are poly as often as men. Most women in their 50s could get a dozen guys in their 20s much more easily than a man in his 50s could get a single 20 year old women. And women can do that for free. My mom is almost 65 and if you change her age range to include 18-76…. She could have a harem of men today
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 01:24 PM
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Um no. I’d also love to have a hot and sexy pool boy waking around my mansion ready to please me at all times :) I would love to have sex with dozens of Chads on my own terms too :) I think a lot of women just don’t entertain unrealistic fantasies at the same rate that men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 01:21 PM
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It’s a common and warped perspective to think that taking pics of a woman’s body somehow means her body and dignity are for sale lol. But that’s all it is. A perspective. A woman will still always have her body. A woman will still always have her dignity. Just because you dOnT aGrEe doesn’t change anything - that’s just your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 01:18 PM
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I always like your answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 01:10 PM
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Because women like sex and we don’t care who knows. And enjoying sex, enjoying being a slut, enjoying being modest, or sexually reserved are all choices that should be celebrated. Freedom of choice in all things is what sets everyone free. Men aren’t turning women into sluts. Women like having sex lol. But as you can see, while men call women sluts all the time y’all are still not getting laid. So the choice is ultimately hers. There is nothing wrong about being a single mom. It’s not the mother…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:56 PM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:39 PM
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What a pathetic question. No, women don’t like having sex with men they feel are losers(even if they love and are emotionally attached to said losers). Yes, women enjoy having sex otherwise. Either solo or with someone who turns them on either physically, mentally, or emotionally. Women have evolved to be able to enjoy sexual pleasure multiple times a day. Our pleasure can even be separated from the need to reproduce. Ours is actually for pleasure lol. We have the ability to orgasm on command fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:32 PM
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Yeah that’s what I’ve been saying. Fear is a turn off. It’s actually you who said something about my vagina having fear sensors and over complicating stuff. It’s been fun lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:04 PM
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Men do cooperate all the time. They just pick and choose when and how. Because they’re people. Like the rest of us. Also, worth is determined by need. We don’t need men of war rn. So if you’re a warrior, you’re probably underemployed and undervalued in most western places… Keyboard warriors aren’t warriors. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:22 AM
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It can matter for as long as you want it to. It can also not matter at all. It’s really dependent on you and your partner. If all you want to do is cuddle, you can find someone like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:23 AM
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Happiness is an emotion. Emotions come and go. But if you are only happy when you get something from someone else, then you can never be truly be happy. All you can be in that case is dependent. If you learn to build your own happiness you can be happy even when you have no one to depend on. We should not aim for hyper independence; you can only be so happy on your own. If you love others and others love you, accepting their love will make your own happiness even stronger. But because you have y…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:10 AM
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I don’t mind that. There are a lot of guys who turn me off that I don’t sleep with, it’s no issue
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:26 AM
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Same actually. I’m supposed to be moving soon and I wanted to buy. Haven’t been able to put bid anyone and they go so fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:10 AM
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When it came out years ago so I don’t remember much
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:03 AM
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Hi mr right. I’m tired from the gym. Wyd
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:02 AM
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They say when you know you know
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:39 PM
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I love being an attractive woman. I’m plenty happy as I am. Still looking for Mr right tho
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:02 PM
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Yes. People are looking to understand where they fit in. They’re looking to control their future and others. They’re forgetting how to interact with people and relying on pills to “guide” them and affirm their insecurities and worthiness. It is fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:01 PM
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Eh. It really depends on a lot of things. But my point still stands, he’s still replaceable if that what she prefers. She is too. You can’t own people. I swear… some of the topics here are so weird
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 07:46 PM
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Men with money are easy to come by if you’re not picky. If your only way to survive is to have a man with money you’d just have to find his replacement if you want to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 07:27 PM
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First of all… huh? Based on what I think you’re saying…. People have agency. If a woman decides to be with you for your money she can still wake up tomorrow and decide it’s not enough for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 07:22 PM
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It’s unlikely but not impossible “Herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV2) is one of two types of the herpes virus and is rarely transmitted orally. However, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. As is the case with other medical conditions, people with compromised immune systems are at a higher risk for acquiring HSV and developing more severe infections.” https://www.healthline.com/health/can-hsv2-be-transmitted-orally
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 07:07 PM
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It’s a figure of speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:34 PM
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Herpes is really not a big deal but contracting it as an adult is different than getting it as a child. Because symptoms can start off very strong people really suffer getting it as an adult. But as time passes outbreaks become less severe and sometimes you basically go into remission. You can get tested for antibodies with almost a 90% accuracy with an igG test, this can tell you if you have had hsv 1 or 2 in the past. But yeah you can’t determine when you got it, just if you have antibodies fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:31 PM
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I don’t think that’s the case for herpes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:23 PM
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It’s his responsibility to be honest about his insecurities or overcome them on his own. Not mine to guess or resolve his feelings. The same would apply to me. If I’m anxious because I’m insecure about my vulva and he says hey you seem anxious what’s on your mind? I can either speak up and talk about it or say oh, nothing…. And continue being anxious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:23 PM
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Yup I’ve never caught either, I’ve been lucky because I used to share drinks with friends (even tho my mom always told me not to). Dating is a little spooky honestly. Herpes is very manageable and not a big deal honestly but if I can avoid it, that would be great lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:17 PM
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a formal registry doesn’t guarantee anyone will be honest about it either :) because of privacy laws it would be illegal anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:10 PM
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It’s actually a myth that you can’t catch it in both locations. While it is very uncommon it actually is possible. It is even possible to catch both hsv1 and hsv2 https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/stds-hiv-safer-sex/herpes “When you get either HSV-1 or HSV-2 on or around your genitals (vulva, vagina, cervix, anus, penis, scrotum, butt, inner thighs), it’s called genital herpes. When you get either HSV-1 or HSV-2 in or around your lips, mouth, and throat, it’s called oral herpes. Oral herpe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:04 PM
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It’s all the same virus, no shame in it! The stigma does suck for sure. But everyone has the right to make conscious health decisions which is why honesty is important
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:40 PM
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A registry is a registry. Honesty is honesty. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:38 PM
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I’m not a man so the title doesn’t really apply to me. And I prefer people to porn
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:37 PM
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Y’all better start sending letters to Santa so you can get your lil setup going!!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:00 PM
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I don’t think so. It’s treatable enough and can be prevented with some care and honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:30 PM
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Ah yeah that’s annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:17 PM
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Fun reminder for everyone Herpes is highly contagious even when someone is not symptomatic. Legally people aren’t required to self report they have herpes so if they knowingly give it to you, you can’t sue lol. Most people don’t even know they have herpes! So when someone doesn’t make out with you too quickly it could be that they’re waiting to have that talk :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:38 PM
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I don’t believe it’s a suppressed desire. Every person has needs but when women turn to sex workers it’s not to be objectified by the sex worker (I’d argue a better term would be object of desire). It’s to feel physical sexual fulfillment or to receive a sexual experience. Male sex workers who specialize in women can elaborate on this more but their business relies heavily on meeting the inner desires of women. Which include a need for safety, desire, and connection. We don’t use our vaginas the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:53 PM
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Personally, I think I see a few things here he says he’s happy with where he is but has trouble setting boundaries. I think it may be time to respect your friend more and only help when asked. he wants someone to love him as he is and isn’t very open to consider loving others as they are (since you say he says his “equivalent” as beneath him). This sounds like a mother/father wound or a worthiness wound he thinks self improvement is a rejection of himself (since you mention his reaction to a cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:45 PM
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Interesting theory. Can’t say I agree much
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:35 PM
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exceptions doesn’t mean I’m wrong lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:29 PM
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Like you said, we don’t want a fuck toy. Desire and connection are a part of the female sexuality. There’s an episode on A girlfriends guide to divorce on Netflix about the main character sleeping with a male prostitute. It’s a fun episode!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:47 PM
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Women didn’t have much freedom of choice in the times you’re referring to. Whether it was for economic needs or by mandate, women were with older men but it was rarely out of real desire lol. Now that women do have freedom of choice, they rarely go that route. I’ve never been attracted to older men. Everrrr lol. My parents have a 10+ year age gap and that was always kinda gross to me. I’ve always been attracted to men who are in their 20s. Even now I think they’re the hottest. Guys my age are re…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:14 PM
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I’d ask him to be an adult and compartmentalize or talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:53 PM
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It’s a messed up city tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:12 PM
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People in my city are struggling. It’s a real problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:56 AM
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Just because you don’t like it, doesn’t mean it’s not true :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:37 AM
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The brain and eyes can observe and process that info. Idk if you’ve ever seen an anxious person before it you don’t get it………
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:35 AM
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That’s your interpretation of my perspective. If you wanted me to elaborate you can just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:07 AM
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Insecurity is an emotional turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:50 AM
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Do what makes you feel good. If being open more often feels too emotionally risky for you right now then don’t. You’ll feel resentful of you give more than you’re ready to
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:59 AM
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can you clarify… I do not follow
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:21 AM
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If you’re not preparing for retirement you’re probably not old enough for me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:42 PM
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Brb suing my parents for being broke af
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:36 PM
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for now! Might be moving soon
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:19 PM
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I think what you listed are the “fantasy” things we want combined with the idea that all these things are so impossible. And thinking we want all of these in combination to the maximum level possible is also a stretch. Plenty of guys meet my standards. That’s why I date them. I don’t want someone who works 50+ hours a week and spends 30 hours in the gym a week. A guy with a good job and work ethic who lets his investments do the heavy lifting is great. If he works out even half as much as I do I…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:57 PM
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Not really. Many are very subtle. So subtle you have no idea people are using them, even you think it would be obvious but they’re not at all. Dramatic ones require work but video editing is quite easy and editing yourself to have a 6 pack, big butt, or small waist are pretty automatic Here’s one example I found too lazy to list software https://www.instagram.com/reel/CMCkzCDqtZZ/?utm_medium=copy_link I worked for a company that develops apps like this :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:14 PM
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Yeah, you’ll be fine. But fear is a turn off. Nerve endings inside the vagina are not as sensitive as the ones on the vulva and clit, we also aren’t old mattresses that keep the shape of where you sleep forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:43 PM
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You can still hide filters. Create a draft with the filter, turn on screen recording, open the draft, go into full screen, record the vid and boom. Your username and filter choice do not show in this mode. Then post the video as a new one after cropping it Also, professionals use other apps for filters on their body and face for videos. All media influences our views of ourselves and others. There’s definitely no going back unfortunately. All we can do is be reasonable, encourage body neutrality…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:37 PM
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Average guy I know in his 30s will have 2-5 interests a month. 40+ it’s maybe one a month or every other month. 20s is probably 1-3 a month. Interests to me means a match who they talk about maybe dating. I think I’ve heard most average men I know saying they go on maybe 2 to 3 dates a month when they are single and lucky. But hot guys don’t talk about their dating in numbers to me so who knows how many women they see, really. Only average or below average guys talk about it to me Women in their…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:39 PM
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Women don’t rely on men for emotional support. That’s called being needy or nagging. We get it from community, not our lovers. Unless they are married and isolated with kids or something
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:21 PM
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Not for me. If I want to sleep with you, I want to sleep with you. I’m not thinking of my past lovers at all. I forget my own name, how am I to remember what anyone looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:00 AM
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There are a lot of complaints in the gay community about unrealistic body standards, age gaps, and selectiveness for relationships. The older attractive men go for men that are way too young for them. There are men who are pressured to be extremely thin and feminine. And then masc men who are pressured to be extremely buff and manly. Bears have to be tall and mostly masc. then there are men who cross dress who are not trans, they really struggle to find partners. There is a big complaint of “mas…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:57 AM
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I’m not brushing over anything. I’m saying stop expecting that from women. Maybe ask your male peers for support more if that makes you more comfortable. Or find a male therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:14 PM
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That’s horrible, I’m sorry that happened. I went to a few group sessions and kept up with some of the women over the years. If you keep going to therapy and meditating your brain will adapt and the fear responses almost go away. They live normal lives and some of them were in those relationships for 10+ years!! There is help when you’re ready
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:34 PM
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I used to volunteer at a domestic violence shelter. The fear of violence, even when they aren’t violent (yet), is a really hard thing to cope with. Abuse does scary things to people, the threat of abuse is just as bad
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:01 PM
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Does this mean less street harassment? I actually prefer a well timed compliment from someone I like than a random compliment from a stranger who is only telling me because he wants me to let him touch my butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:48 PM
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I imagine it’s a little different for everyone. If you want sex just for sex that’s different from wanting to have sex with your friend who you’ve had chemistry with, maybe longing for. And that’s different from sex with the one you cannot see yourself without. Sex when you’re in love is wild and unlike anything else imo. But you can feel different parts of the connection in sex. When you’re in love sometimes it’s like they understand you so well that sex is more of an expression of yourself. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:27 PM
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What a weird thing to say lol what do people wear on the beach besides a bikini??? Lmaoooo weirddddddd
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:41 PM
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It sounds like you don’t know what friends are. I have plenty of friends I wouldn’t want sex with. Nothing wrong with them, I love them. Just not like that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:30 PM
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Or maybe I don’t sleep with randos on the beach lmao wild right??? Tiktok summarizes it well https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM88PW8cA/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:29 PM
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The truth does :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:20 PM
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I’ve never had any of my girls sleep with a man on spring break. Lol what a weird thing to say
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:19 PM
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I imagine it hurts a lot to have valued someone’s opinion of you so much and then in the end they were a complete loser the whole time. It makes sense tho! There’s wisdom in old sayings about not valuing what others think of you much. I’m fascinated by this
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:12 PM
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That’s really your own belief. Validation is nice, don’t get me wrong. But I don’t want average Joe panting over me while I’m having my Miami spring break moment. That’s why girls roll their eyes when guys come talk to them. It’s annoying. Looking hot on social media? Sure! Then my friends and crushes can see me looking hot
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:59 PM
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:( so sad!!! Ugh that must be really hard. My parents were really no nonsense kind of parents, the whole idea of expecting anyone to even help me feels completely foreign. I’m grateful but I imagine it’s really hard to be waiting on something that can never come
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:20 PM
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Oh wow, this is a really self reflective response. I can’t tell you how disappointing it is to go on dates with guys who have not reflected on their childhood programming. I sometimes feel like I want to help them understand that they will never be happy until they address that programming but even typing it makes me sound condescending so I just smile and nod and find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:13 PM
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I think the issue is that people expect women to be compassionate in a way we do not expect from men. Maybe that’s why it hurts so much - unrealistic expectations of expecting comfort Btw only made it to the 5th paragraph so…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:00 PM
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Your whole thing is “I’m right ur wrong!” Maybe posting some vids may be helpful
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 12:28 PM
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But only your perspective seems valid to you so maybe you’re the one who is no fun :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 12:18 PM
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Sorry, can you explain like I’m 5 how change over time is surprising
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 12:13 PM
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I don’t understand your point. Different women are different? Times have changed? Wild
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 12:10 PM
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Spring break is for girls only ❤️ we only involve men if we are bored or broke. Been that way for years, no shame in it, we just wanna party with our friends while looking hot
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 12:02 PM
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I cared about my fwb plenty, I liked him! But not like that :) he did a great job and we had a lot of fun together but he wasn’t for me. It was hard to stay sexually interested in him because he wasn’t someone I could see myself with. With the right person anything is possible. But most people aren’t the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:40 PM
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From what I’ve seen on here, it’s only considered wrong when women do it consciously or unconsciously :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 07:13 PM
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Like what you like and don’t try to control people. Easy. Stop caring about what other people think, there’s no sense in ruminating over how you should feel about how others feel about your preferences or feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:39 PM
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Is Reddit a fantasy to you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:38 PM
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Sounds like a waste of time to me. Which is fine
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 03:02 AM
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We are on Reddit. We already don’t value our time
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:36 AM
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How is it your business to tell them anything Let people live, life will show them what’s available to them. You don’t know their future and you aren’t the boss of the sexual market
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:35 AM
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Not for me, I like the chase and being chased. also I’m very passionate. I don’t want a doormat who wants to do what I want exactly, I want them to want me and have desire for me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:33 AM
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RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 09:29 PM
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it certainly wouldn’t be a man who didn’t eat!! lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:24 PM
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If he doesn’t eat me out then he wouldn’t have become my boyfriend. I’d never be in this situation lol His past isn’t my problem. If you’re not the man I desire that’s fine, not every guy is my soulmate
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:00 PM
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They’re basically trying to get us to understand their own jealous habits. They ask questions like what did you do with your ex or they use information women share about their sexual past and then they feel hurt over it. Basically saying why did you do this for him and not me? They don’t like that she’s already done something and doesn’t like it. They want her to do everything they want for him. Or else they get mad. I don’t think women can relate to this. I definitely can’t. I wouldn’t be mad a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:32 AM
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What’s the issue? He tried something and decided he doesn’t want to do that anymore. I would only ever peg a guy if he really wanted it, I’m not really into that at all. So… who cares? If this is what he wants, then I would support him. Let’s maybe try a better example… say he used to eat his ex out and won’t do that for me. Then that to me would be a deal breaker because I really enjoy that but still respect his decision. It’s a sign we aren’t compatible. No one dies from a breakup. It’s not a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:15 AM
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Managing expectations is really important. We’re all single for a reason!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:22 PM
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It sounds like you’re not gonna be able to. Good luck tho!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:26 PM
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She’s the only one who would be able to say either way. All I’m saying is women are different from men when it comes to opportunities we have versus opportunities we take
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:38 PM
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Right but your perspective is always your perspective, even if it’s ever changing. It comes from you and is always yours. Only you are in control of your perspective. Same as your body
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:37 PM
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You’re still annoyed by me. In the same way you said men don’t just want me for my body because my body is me. My perspective is also me. So maybe I’m your blessing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:51 PM
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Not to discredit the guys experience but I wonder how much of what he’s saying is performative, sometimes when you need to affirm your gender you say things that you feel are in line with that gender. Everyone does that, not just people who are trans. Really interesting either way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:32 PM
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Lol not really. Speaking from experience here
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:50 PM
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Good enough is rarely good enough if we’re not desiring them or sex. Ofc there are times women do just want sex and “good enough” is fine, but from what I know it’s not common… that’s why so many decent looking guys end up in dry spells. We don’t have sex just because you’re good enough and available at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:26 PM
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That’s really interesting. I have a few ftm friends and they haven’t expressed having these feelings. But I guess hormones impact everyone a little differently, or maybe they didn’t want to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:15 PM
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Lol but we don’t want it so easily. We’re not men. Just because we have penises flying at us doesn’t mean we are trying to catch them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:13 PM
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I don’t think it’s a red flag. You’re allowed to make whatever choice you want with your body. Anyone who judges that is honestly weird to me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:11 PM
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No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 02:03 PM
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Oh damn!! In that case, maybe it’s just me lmaooo But yes be flattered 😏 you’re hot mama
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 02:02 PM
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I can have sex without an emotional connection. But that’s something I have to be wanting ahead of time. A random guy isn’t going to make me want to have sex with him by just being hot. Not sure if that makes sense because I think you’re having trouble seeing this from a woman’s perspective. I have to want sex without connection and then find my prey. Otherwise he’s just some hot guy offering sex and that’s eh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:52 PM
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Yes! The way he gently touches me, trying to get closer. You can tell he wants you but he’s holding back, he’s consciously aware that you have to let him in for him to get closer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:50 PM
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I find them sexually attractive. I just don’t want to rip my clothes off and bang them on the spot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 12:59 PM
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I’m single and idk that I’d agree to have sex with a stranger on the spot even if they were really hot. I’d say maybe and see if we could explore our chemistry. My desire and sexuality is usually tied to teasing and seduction, otherwise he’s just a hot guy. Idk maybe if I was starved for sex, if it was the week before my period, the third day of my period, or when I was ovulating. Otherwise eh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 12:32 PM
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Honestly I was referring to cels, half aren’t even that ugly they’re just annoying and mean. Some are violent. And they use dehumanizing language like fem0id. You can say I’m wrong all you want but it’s a little weird when you know I’m right :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:48 AM
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There’s nothing shameful about sex. I’ve been in a relationship with a man who was a slut before me. Never had a worry in the world and he gave me no reason to worry. If he wanted to fuck around, he would still be doing that because he has options. But he chose to be with me People who make confident decisions in their life are in control of their life. If you lack self discipline you pretty much see everything as a drug, if you don’t have experience with sex you will see sex as a drug. Stop fea…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:59 AM
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I don’t know any women or men who do anything vindictive after the breakup. Sometimes women will move on faster and the men will take that to heart, but in reality it’s just a rebound to numb her pain and isn’t to get back at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:54 AM
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I’m annoying you right now aren’t I? And I don’t feel annoyed all the time. Just the really aggressive or inappropriate guys. Which there are a lot of
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:45 AM
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I wouldn’t like that at all, solo is fine tho
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:44 AM
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I’d be worried if it was a LTR (no marriage for me). It makes me anxious because I don’t understand the market or the workload. How much time is he gonna be doing this? Is it secure for him? Is he being smart about investments? I feel like I’d feel weird about it at first but if I really liked him, as long as it didn’t take up an unreasonably amount of time, idk that I would care. I’d want boundaries and separation from it (the less I know the better). He would be wanking off on camera for cash,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:14 PM
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I don’t think I used the word ugly once.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:08 PM
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Mhm totally :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:58 PM
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Straight to insults lol gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:54 PM
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What I’m saying is that I don’t have to like that or share that perspective. In reality we don’t have a choice, we are dealt our cards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:13 PM
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Dating can be a numbers game but you can also go out with the first person you match with and meet your soulmate. Also when there are too many choices it messed with your head, this is true for marketing, sales, decisions, etc. So we don’t all need 100 options, we really just need that one person. That’s kind of what everyone is looking for. Ultimately, I don’t like the attention and that’s really just my feelings. Maybe you’d like it, but I’m not a fan. Not like either of us get a choice lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:11 PM
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Right, life isn’t perfect. Maybe from my perspective, if a woman matches with you maybe the privilege is that she’s more likely to actually be interested in you and not just your body. However rare that may be. There are downsides to everything, really. That doesn’t mean anyone gets to control how I feel about the cards I’ve been dealt. I don’t get to control how you feel either. What’s annoying to me could be what you’re looking for and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:59 PM
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I’d rather just have the one good match a week :) life isn’t perfect but just because you dislike your options and want mine, that doesn’t mean I should feel blessed to have mine. Did you know that people can want different things? And like… think differently? I know that’s wild
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:46 PM
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you did the same so really we’re both full of it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:33 PM
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Not at all, I’ve had a casual relationship with a great guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:20 PM
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I like my opinion better than yours tho so I guess that’s that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:12 PM
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I don’t consider men with low standards matching everyone for puss to be good men lol. Cmon now
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:12 PM
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How so
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:35 PM
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Hmmm I’m pretty sure I have my own experiences to count on at least. Anyone can be lonely, I’m not talking about lonely guys in general. I’m referring to the loneliest which imo are cels. Who develop low empathy for others as a coping mechanism, in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:35 PM
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Exactly. They’re so jealous they see our burdens as benefits lol. They really think we wanna be on the mind of bozos 😪
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:32 PM
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Yeah those guys are fine, but I want the weirdos off the streets and in their rooms, you know? I feel like they’d be happier that way too
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:20 PM
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I have no experience or evidence showing they do see women as people. You can share that info if you want
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:41 PM
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I think the men who are the loneliest actually will benefit from AI bots. Some don’t see women as people and will likely respect and value a bot more. They don’t actually care about other people so the bot will be perfect I think if society keeps valuing women as a status symbol and object it will be a challenge but as women are seen as individuals more and more, men will seek the symbol and object. Also, never forget that these men are usually emotionally immature and if they could enact any re…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:55 PM
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Sounds like a fake story lol. Yeah it’s manipulative but if it happened it happened. I’m sure it may have made them sad for a few days but they’re fine now. They didn’t need you before and they didn’t need you after, at this point they won’t even remember you. How you chose to feel about is really a conversation to have internally with yourself lol. I don’t think anyone really cares about how you feel; finger wagging is not gonna change your poor character. That on you and your parents
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:07 PM
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It is important to me. If our values don’t align you won’t get my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:52 AM
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Yup. They’re negative, rude, easily wounded, disregard mental health support, don’t regulate their emotions, are superficial as a coping mechanism, etc So many reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:31 AM
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We are honest about what we like. It’s not cels. Men just hate our answers and do not understand them, you continue to see our answers from a male perspective because idk maybe men lack the ability to empathize easily. Many men do get it tho lol and they do well We do help men become more attractive. Disagree all you want but again, you probably can’t understand our perspective and this is related more to the stubbornness of the masculine ideals. Between pride and ego, men do not take advice fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:29 AM
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The post amounts to “everyone is keeping us down!! We are great and need compassion!! Do we give compassion? Lol no that’s for girls to do only!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:39 AM
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Question. Do you think it’s possible that there are other reasons why people don’t like cels and trp? Like if you had to guess ANY other reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:38 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:55 PM
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Who says I don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:54 PM
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