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| 3 | Most people need to experience casual sex, especially men.Well I think j that’s what men do too. But I don’t like the vibe of being someone’s itch that they scratched lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 05:45 PM |
| 8 | Most people need to experience casual sex, especially men.A lot (maybe most) women cannot emotionally handle casual sex. A lot of us end up feeling used. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/26 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Cold Approaching, myths and experiencesYes maybe it was something I subconsciously taught myself to do. But idk i feel like back in the day men alwaysssss made more than woman so maybe that made women more able to focus on looks. Now I can run into so many men who make less than me and never further their education but are “cute” like no thank you. Don’t get me wrong I still notice good looking men and they do get my attention but if I find out they don’t make good money it’s an instant turn off and a no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Cold Approaching, myths and experiencesI’m not saying this to sound good (also how does even saying I care about money make me sound good if anything makes me sound super bad I would never ever tell a man that). I would never ever date a broke attractive man or even let him hit. However I am in my early 30s and now when I think about it looks was kind of big factor for me when I was in my early 20s but by mid 20s I was already prioritizing money. Not saying I don’t care about looks at all but for me a decent looking man with money is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 02:17 AM |
| -1 | Cold Approaching, myths and experiencesTrue. I will say most women I know care much more about income over looks. Like much more. We aren’t particularly high earners tho (60k - 110k) so maybe that’s why idk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Cold Approaching, myths and experiencesI find it so weird that these days men talk so much about look maxing and there’s so much focus on their looks. Ofc men always wanted to be seen as attractive but it was never this emphasized until recently. And I find it even more so confusing that the red pill men are really into this because isn’t lookmaxing and focusing on your looks considered feminine 😭 I feel like men back in the day cared equally about their looks, making money, and having charisma. Now the main focus is about look. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 11:13 PM |
| 6 | Cold Approaching, myths and experiencesRight I don’t get this as a woman I would actually rather meet a man through friends so I can have some background info about him. I don’t mind being approached but it’s kind of risky to give random men a chance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 11:00 PM |
| 63 | I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes.This response is too mature and rational for Reddit lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoesHoes have a TON great qualities. They have good social skills, great at sex, confident, pretty, the list goes on and on. Hoes have a ton of experience in how to make a man happy and keep a man. They are legit experts 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 07:16 PM |
| 3 | If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates.Yep I can see that. I said in a few other comments on this post that now that I think about it I do think we naturally surround ourselves with people with similar values and hang out around environments that fit who we are. So in my circles and environments- the man always pays for the first few dates. That’s the norm. It’s not controversial. There’s alot of discourse about this online but I think in real life, not really. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 06:27 AM |
| 2 | If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates.Yep esp if you’re younger. I think younger women are actually more relaxed about this topic as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 04:02 AM |
| 2 | If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates.Possibly. I feel like some women exaggerate how much money a man/boyfriend has spent on them. Idk about dates though. I commented somewhere else on this post that I truly believe that women who expect for a man to pay on the first date, are environments where men naturally would just pay on the first date. And I truly do believe that if you’re the type of guy that will not pay on a first date, you’re probably going to be around women that would not be too upset about it. I think people’s backgro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 12:44 AM |
| 3 | If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates.Yes I agree. I date men with profession careers and they are not going to be financially hurt for paying $50-75 on a first date for me. Also the dates tend to be nicer because that’s the places we naturally frequent. But I agree for like college student aged people the expectation should not be the same, when I was in college men would still pay on the first date but the date would be like chilis or Applebees and maybe during happy hour. But that was the late 2010s and social media was not as hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 10:57 PM |
| 6 | If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates.I agree with this. I think it’s wrong to use men for free food/dates. However I don’t know many women who do this but most of my friends have well paying jobs so it’s not worth it. Now using men for free drinks happens all the time but that’s something else. IDK sometimes I feel like this conversation is unnecessary like I will never pay on a first date but that’s normal in my environment and normal for the men that I date. I keep seeing this discourse about who should pay on the first date, but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 08:52 PM |
| 10 | If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates.I don’t have any friends that would be fine with a guy not paying on a first date. I’m an American woman living in a big city. It’s seen as odd in most cultures (American southern, Asian, African, Hispanic, Arab) I think it’s even seen as odd for devout Christians as they are traditional. Even if the guy is “hot” its still not seen as a good thing for that man’s character culturally I’ve heard that in Scandinavian countries that going Dutch on a first date is normal and common but I don’t think … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 08:47 PM |
| 1 | "Missing out on being a hoe" - is this real?Oh ofc it is not ideal but I struggle for what’s more degrading for a woman - sleeping around for “fun” or sleeping around strategically. I had a fwb many years ago and the guy was clearly using me and I clearly liked him and thought it would eventually go somewhere . On the flip side I have friends who will sleep with a guy they kinda like but also constantly spoils them with gifts and things like that. I can’t help but to feel like my fwb situation was way more “shameful” than my friend’s situ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 09:44 PM |
| 1 | "Missing out on being a hoe" - is this real?Yes you get it! I think a lot of women who sleep around now are getting something they deem worthy out of it. It’s strategic. I don’t think causal sex the way men have it is beneficial for most women at all. Women are getting smarter lol idk if it’s morally right but it deff smarter than a friends with benefits or a one night stand situation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 06:38 PM |
| 3 | "Missing out on being a hoe" - is this real?I see what you mean but I still see both sides. But I don’t agree with experience does nothing but a disservice. That’s too extreme. I think there’s some loss there but i agree probably not worth it for most people including myself. I’m not very religious but transactional sex (like escort adjacent activities) feels extremely sinful to me as a Christian. That just feels too far. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/26 04:53 PM |
| 3 | "Missing out on being a hoe" - is this real?Yeah everyone is different for sure. I think there’s a financial transactional aspect to it too. Most of the women I know that hoed around were getting spoiled by multiple men simultaneously, also getting flown out and having a chance to travel. I live in a party city in the US where men have money and the girls who are hoeish are having the time of their life. However it’s a bit escort adjacent I just could never morally sell body even indirectly but I wish I could it seems so much fun ngl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/26 04:45 PM |
| 6 | "Missing out on being a hoe" - is this real?Lmao men wish this was true. Lots of women keep men in rotation for gifts, dates, nightlife plans, etc. And sometimes they aren’t even sleeping with all of them. Women don’t keep a roster of men for sex but yes usually sex is involved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/26 04:01 PM |
| 5 | "Missing out on being a hoe" - is this real?I understand how you feel about it “morally” but take out religion and morality you have no idea how your husband compares to other men. This is why I feel like women regret “not being a hoe” I understand both sides - I personally could never sleep around because I did indeed feel like an object and I could never get past it. But at the same time I wish I didn’t feel like that and could be a hoe because I feel like I never got the chance to explore sexually | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/26 04:53 AM |
| 5 | "Missing out on being a hoe" - is this real?Sexual experience for sure. Not having fun crazy sex stories. Never having a roster. That kind of thing. I don’t deeply regret it as I know it wouldn’t have worked for my personality style but I do kinda think about what it would’ve been like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/26 04:50 AM |
| 1 | The man paying for the date is a status symbol to womenNo. If anything I feel like it makes women feel more valuable (or a status symbol) to the man they are on a date with. Men paying for dates has always been the norm (especially in early dating). When a man breaks the norm and only wants to pay for his part, I think it can signal to woman that he doesn’t see her as someone to impress/valuable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/25 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many young men think they shouldn’t be grinding for professional success and for women in their twentiesLmao that only works if 1. The woman is unattractive 2. The woman just likes to sleep around. 3. The woman is under 25/young | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/25 02:18 AM |
| 12 | Why do so many young men think they shouldn’t be grinding for professional success and for women in their twentiesI think most women expect men to cover the cost of dates and things like that. But I think there’s also a lot of women who would be fine with cheaper dates. People have different ideas on what is considered an acceptable date. There are dates you can afford. Don’t got for women who make more or look luxurious they will expect more expensive dates and gifts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 08:44 PM |
| 9 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’Literally shows that they have bad social skills. Don’t they talk about in those podcasts about social skills too 🙄 no way they told them to directly ask women that they date that lmao They don’t even ask directly liek that in work interviews lmao | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 01:02 AM |
| 20 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’That question is so corny and podcast coded. I always respond sarcastically | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 12:47 AM |
| 8 | if men dislike high maintenance women then how come they are still pursuing them?Very accurate lol Most of the time, looks trumps all for men lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Why would single and childless women be happier and live longer than married women and those in relationships and those with children?Um also child rearing is a lot harder these days as well. Back in the 20s the kids used to just play outside and do their own thing and walk to and from school. It’s too dangerous nowadays now you also gotta car pool to extra curricular activities. Due to safety, parents have to be way more involved these days. Kids used to do their own thing until like the 2000s I do think in the younger generations (some millennials and younger) husbands have become helpful but boomer wives had to do everythin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 03:08 PM |
| 6 | Why would single and childless women be happier and live longer than married women and those in relationships and those with children?What other choice do women have? Most men cannot afford a stay at home wife. On the other hand I keep seeing hypergamy content from women (where to find/how to get a rich man). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 08:46 PM |
| 7 | Why would single and childless women be happier and live longer than married women and those in relationships and those with children?Right, most married women are working 40 hours a week and doing a huge majority of the domestic work in the household. I think this is the reason why there are so many single women now that women can afford to live alone and take care of themselves. Also why I feel like I’m seeing a lot of hypergamy content. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 08:32 PM |
| 8 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingI didn’t even downvote and I am a woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 03:04 AM |
| 12 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingMaybe in small towns. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 02:15 AM |
| 89 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingMost of these women are just picky or just enjoy being single. Most women can be in a relationship if they wanted to be in one. I don’t think these women you are thinking of actually want to be in a relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 01:50 AM |
| 15 | Man I’m talking to says he picks personality over looks for me.I would never want to date someone who would not consider me being their “type”. Also doesn’t sound like things are that serious right now, is he actually going to stick around or leave for his type and waste her time ? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/25 05:07 AM |
| 7 | Man I’m talking to says he picks personality over looks for me.I would personally stop talking to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/25 04:47 AM |
| 1 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedThe spend the night thing is kinda of a long story, it was more of a very causal situation anyways where we were not in contact very much but I could tell he found it unusual that I wanted to leave so that’s why I included it in this post. Also my friends seemed stunned I didn’t want to cuddle with him very long as well Yeah the talking everyday is very tough for me 😭 I was honestly expecting more people to agree with you on that part. That does seem to be the norm with my friends as well Also s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 01:07 AM |
| 0 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedI agree with what you’re saying. I think I may came off a bit too rigid. Also agree with the spend the night and parking thing. I had my reasons for not wanting to spend the night (sleeping problems and work) but I can see how it doesn’t come off very nice | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 10:13 PM |
| -1 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedOk I agree! I just asked because I wanted to make sure I’m not actually being too closed off. I will say these men im referring to are actually successful. They are also just extremely social and maybe attention seeking like you mentioned. To be fair I think I am a bit too reserved (which I can work on) but these men are actually overbearing so it’s a bad mix | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 10:04 PM |
| 0 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedThese are my thoughts too! I keep meeting men who want to fast track to acting like we are in a couple when we only just have met. But when I’m resistant they hint I’m masculine but I think it’s maybe because most girls love to get loved on and a lot of attention? It does make me feel manly that I keep turning down affection and attention but idk these men like that and I’m already introverted | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 09:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedlol I always related to that song too! What are some boundaries you were able to let go of when dating your husband in the early phase of dating? I think my issue is my boundaries are pretty strong when it comes to personal space and the pace of dating. I think it’s because I find dating a bit nerve wrecking and I don’t have the energy to deal with it everyday 😭 examples multiple dates a week - not enough outfits, FaceTime - gotta make sure I look nice my background looks nice, multiple phone ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 09:41 PM |
| 1 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedOkay I think your on to something with there’s more to come if the right conditions are met and the hard to get but easy to be with vibes How can I make this happen? I think I really struggle with this. I have a bit of an issue with physical touch when I don’t know a man well and I am not great with banter. I think I am personable but I think it comes off more as just being polite. I can flirt (usually only if I had drinks) and then I can be a bit touchy but I feel like my personality still stay… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 09:33 PM |
| 5 | Crying ‘used’ means you know deep down you didn’t pass the test every other woman cleared.This is a bit dramatic. I wouldn’t call these men predators more so players. Calling man that used you for sex is a predator is very chronically online | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 03:01 AM |
| 5 | Crying ‘used’ means you know deep down you didn’t pass the test every other woman cleared.Well women tend to be more sensitive about sex. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong but this is really why women tend to feel used or say they were used. Yes they are being naive not arguing with that but I think they genuinely feel used. I have been there myself but learned quick | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 02:40 AM |
| 8 | Crying ‘used’ means you know deep down you didn’t pass the test every other woman cleared.Women tend to be more hopeful, read into signs, get excited over little things. Some men know this and then breadcrumb to create confusion and keep the girl around for whatever. Yes these women tend to more naive but the men are not completely innocent either and know what they are doing lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 02:35 AM |
| 5 | Crying ‘used’ means you know deep down you didn’t pass the test every other woman cleared.You’re kinda only thinking about the male perspective in this. Men and women are different and think and feel differently. It’s kinda how a man feels when he thinks he was just used for a free dinner just the opposite lol A lot of inexperienced women feel or get used because they are not great at noticing signs (before sex) when a man is not serious. They don’t understand how dating or men work. Inexperienced women will also think sex will make the bond stronger and solidify things. Lots of wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 02:27 AM |
| 19 | What does an average woman look like?Lots of women are single these days. I barely know anyone who’s recently just got into a relationship within the past few years. Most ppl I know are late 20s- early 30s | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/25 10:45 PM |
| 41 | What does an average woman look like?Celebs and influencers tend to be above average naturally and with help of cosmetic surgery,makeup or whatever. I would consider the average woman to be slightly overweight for sure atleast in USA | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/25 09:57 PM |
| 14 | Want to marry rich? Consider these things first.People who marry poor have the same issues and on top of all this they have financial issues Broke men cheat too and some are still controlling | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/24 07:16 AM |
| 21 | Really drawn to RP and "traditional" lifestyles, feeling conflictedHaving a career is undoubtedly important in this economy. It’s important to do well in work especially with all these layoffs. Having a stable good career does not equal girl boss. You don’t have to have a demanding job but it doesn’t sound like you do. Once you’re married you can decide whether your family can financially handle you being a stay at home mom. But as of right now as a single person a good stable career is important so it has to be a priority. So I wouldn’t stop prioritizing your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 11:45 PM |
| 7 | Should a second chance be given to men who “cancel” on first dates by not texting you the day of the date or canceling last minute?No no usually it’s undefined plans! Something like: they say earlier in the week let’s go out on Saturday but don’t specify a time or exactly where. Then Saturday comes and I don’t hear from them. Then on Monday they will try to schedule another date but at that point I’m usually over it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/24 01:29 AM |
| 30 | As a single woman, is this normal? Wondering if I have high expectationsNo I don’t think this is normal. I’m not in a relationship but my father would never let me or my mother walk home at night because he didn’t want to get stuck in traffic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/24 05:55 PM |
| 1 | How do you act around your boyfriends/husbands male friends/relatives?I am the same way. My parents were strict Christians and they kinda did not approve of me being friends with boys or even affectionate to boy cousins as a child. Then as an I entered my teens/adulthood I found that men often sexualized me which made me feel uncomfortable. So I think these things made me feel awkward around men and kinda treated them like aliens. Lately I’ve been treating men the same way I treat my friends but ofc respecting my personal physical boundaries. Even when I was awkwa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 09:12 PM |
| 3 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?Thank you this was helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 09:49 PM |
| 4 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?I don’t have male friends I do think my personality is to blame a lot unfortunately. I find I click way better with women. I always found it very hard to relate to men idk why but very easy to click with women. My interests and conversations maybe too feminine and silly for men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:34 PM |
| -4 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?I try to convince myself I’m okay with it and I’m benefiting from it too. Then I feel horrible about it later but then I get attached and keep doing it and the cycle continues basically | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:27 PM |
| 2 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?These men are rarely attractive but they usually have lots of money (due to the city I live in and the places I go) but I get your point although I’ve been treated badly by a man that I made more than as well | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:25 PM |
| 4 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?I have curves but I think my face might be average | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:21 PM |
| -2 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?It’s because I’ll usually just settle for sex then I get attached and stick around even when I’m getting treated bad. I know I shouldn’t have casual sex and I rarely do but it’s only because I’ve been single for so long that I just give up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:17 PM |
| -5 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?For the casual sex? Always since I’m naturally shy and I know I’m being used which makes me act even more awkward. I don’t rlly like the idea of causal sex at all but I end up settling so I have to get drunk to do it | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:13 PM |
| -10 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?Yeah I figured your first point is accurate. So how am I supposed to know who actually is attracted to me or not? Is it by how much effort they put into dates and stuff? It rlly makes me feel ashamed to think I’ve slept or entertained men who don’t even find me attractive 😭 | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:05 PM |
| 3 | How do I get over what I think are intimacy issues? I cannot be vulnerable around anyone but especially with men that I’m dating.Thanks for sharing this. I really understand the whole not making eye contact the first time you said I love you. If I am ever verbally affectionate I can’t look the person in the face either. I think the way I show love is acts of service too. I am also emotional and sensitive as well. Most people can sense that as my face shows everything but I just never know how to verbalize or physically show anything. My friends and family understand that I am this way and don’t take it personally but I th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/24 04:35 AM |
| 2 | Do men intentionally look for a wife like women look for a husband? Is this rare? What age are these kind of men?This is what I have observed too! Most serious men who want to be married found their wife in college years/20s. Then the early 30s men tend to not want commitment and most are players. I think I will have to date late 30s which is fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/24 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Do men intentionally look for a wife like women look for a husband? Is this rare? What age are these kind of men?What is your opinion on never been married men in there 30s? I’m kinda confused on what age most men want to be married. I am trying to date 35+ now it seems like early 30s they are still wanting to go out all the time and not settle down | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/24 12:03 AM |
| 3 | Do men intentionally look for a wife like women look for a husband? Is this rare? What age are these kind of men?Where are these “most men” located because this has not been my experience and all my single friends. I don’t know many people who found a relationship after college. Also to clarify my question was more about are men ACTIVELY looking for marriage or a serious relationship . Because usually when they are “casually dating”they want sex with no commitment while we are casually dating that is the issue I keep seeing again and again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/24 12:01 AM |
| 11 | Do people really go to clubs primarily to get laid?Most woman I know do not go to the club for the potential to get laid. It’s more so to have a reason to dress up and drink and socialize. We do hope to meet men that we like to build a relationship (stupid I know) but very rarely do any of us go home with them after the club. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 05:01 AM |
| 3 | What do HVM want? I need a women’s perspective because what is said in those male podcasts is not what I’ve observed in real life.I deff think lawyers and doctors are HVM but I just haven’t met a lot of them so I can’t rlly say what I’ve observed they like Thanks for the link, it’s spot on for exactly what I’m talking about! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/23 04:28 AM |
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