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I was married 43 years when she cheated. I understand your pain
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 11:54 PM
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Your experience mirror s my so much its uncanny. The only thing that's different is the numbers. 42 year marriage, 3 adult daughter s and 4 grandchildren. Thankfully they stood by me through it all.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 02:03 PM
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Don't give up. Focus on being the best version of yourself. Work out, hobbies, maybe volunteer work. You feeling like a lost cause, and you're not, but may be projecting that out to potential relationships. Best to you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 01:29 PM
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I gave my ex wife half my pension check monthly until legally divorced. At tax time I got hit with paying taxes on the full amount instead of half. To give her credit she did reimburse me ,but I still payed the bunt of the taxes. Best consult a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 03:26 PM
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Yep. The old grass greener on the other side of the fence. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 01:22 AM
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Happened to me. 42 year marriage. Facebook.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 08:01 PM
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Found out my ex wife,now was cheating. 42 year marriage. Divorced her and split everything 50/50. I didn't want to drag it out in court so I suggested it. Oh well. But I'm doing great.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 11:58 PM
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I do regret it happened. But a marriage has to be built on trust. But I did have 3 daughters that I would not have had if not for that marriage. Unfortunately, its the only positive I can look back on now. Moving on at my age is difficult, but I have.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 02:39 AM
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I adopted a senior dog when I got divorced after 44 year marriage. I truly believe he was heaven sent. I finally feel unconditional love. Plus I have to get off my ass and walk him .
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 11:15 PM
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Best to move on. I was married at 21. We got 43 years before shit hit the fan. But that being said you are already having different options on what you want. Not a good way to start.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 11:01 PM
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And it is like a death. At least it felt that way for me. At least physical death you know 100 percent why .
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/25 06:33 PM
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There's probably good people doing on line dating. But lots of crazy and scammers too. Personally I found it depressing. Finally met a nice lady did work for.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 09:55 PM
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After my 41 year marriage ended due to her betrayal. I still have my wedding ring. It's in a safe so I just forgot about it. Probably put it in a salvation army bucket this Christmas.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 09:34 PM
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That's as cool and as badass as it gets. Thanks for your service
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 09:32 PM
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Anger gone. Still deal with disbelief that she'd betray me and our family. Takes time to get over it,at least for me. It was a long marriage, 42 years.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 12:53 PM
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Thanks. It will be tough for a while. Been 3 years since my divorce. Started dating a nice woman 8 months ago . Hadto learn to be me again before getting involved with someone.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 01:11 AM
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I was married 42 years when my ex cheated. Go figure. Anyway you got this. This is your time to live the life that you gave up being married. It's going hurt for a while though.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/25 10:22 PM
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Any family that s had a suicide knows it's a life sentence for those left behind. Question s of why , why did we miss the signs. Why didn't he say something. This to shall pass. Get consuling. Don't let your legacy to your sons that you took yourself out. It will warp them for life. Get help.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 12:25 AM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 02:42 AM
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Take care of yourself. Do things that are healthy for mind and body. Don't jump into a serious relationship for a while. Takes time to heal so you can't rush it. You'll be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:43 AM
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Thanks. Been 3 years. Doing good.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:27 PM
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Cheated. After 42 year marriage
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 07:29 PM
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I guess being there for her and our girls. Holding down a job for 40 years. Working overtime so we could have vacation s and decent cars. Try to find ways to help with her health issues. Never cheated or ever wanted to. You'd better ask her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 06:59 PM
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So sad. I was cheated on by my now ex wife of 42 years. Lawyer up for sure. Your a adult and will be able to weather this storm . But my advice is make sure your son is OK. I can't imagine anything more devastating than a child seeing something like that of their mother . Get him consuling if you feel he needs it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 12:45 PM
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I deleted and trashed every picture I had of her. 42 years worth. Not just nudes but any picture she was in.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 03:37 PM
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It's a confusing situation for you. I got divorced after 42 year marriage. For me there's no coming back from that. Can't and won't live with betrayal. But if she didn't cheat on me. I would have done my best to work it out. Only you know what's best. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 12:26 AM
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I was married 42 years. I'm now 67. She cheated on me 3 years ago for reasons she only knows. My advice. First, get a lawyer. Try to make your separation as equitable as possible. Get your own place. Focus on your well being and physical health. Forgive. And do not make any life changes for the first year on your own. You ll get thru this. Going to suck for a while. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Best of luck for you. Be strong. Take care of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 09:49 PM
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Facebook was a catalyst for my ex wife to have a affair. She reached out to a old boyfriend from high school. She might have cheated anyway but Facebook made it easier. In my opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 12:42 AM
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Infidelity. She could have by not cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 12:22 AM
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Believe me when I say I understand. I do. Went thru the same thing you are now. It's a rough road ahead. But keep plugging away . Keep busy , mentally, physically, and spiritually. I read you should not get involved in a new relationship or make any big decisions for a year. I feel that good advice. I can actually say when I got divorced at 65 it was the first time in my life I was alone. It gets better every day. I'm traveling, hitting the gym and actually going on my first date this weekend. Y…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:14 AM
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Thanks wasn't easy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 09:28 PM
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No. Last I heard she moved in with her new soul mate. Last time I talked to her, couple years ago, I told her not to contact me unless it was a family emergency. They do both have adultery in common. Maybe it will work out for her. I don't care anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 09:12 PM
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It definitely change my ex wife relationship with her daughters.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 08:13 PM
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Yes. It effects the whole family. It effects your friends as well. Divorce is one thing. Betrayal and infidelity is another. She has to ask herself was it worth it. And has to live with it as well.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 07:59 PM
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My marriage was alot like yours in many ways. Married high school sweetheart. Raised 3 beautiful daughters and have 4 grand children. Things went good for the first 30 years. Then life hit. She had chronic pain from car accident, both her parents came down with dementia at the same time. I went through it all with her. Trying to help out and support her anyway I could. But she started drinking alot more than ever. I kept thinking she was still dealing with the loss of her parents. 3 months befor…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 07:55 PM
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I thought about that many times. But didn't want to use the house of the Lord as a dating tool. Better to be alone than burn in hell for eternity. Lol 😆
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 10:01 PM
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I told my ex to never contact me unless it was a emergency.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:23 PM
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She was.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:40 PM
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Facebook was no doubt a major contribution to my divorce. We had difficulty last few years dealing with aging parents, chronic pain with her. She reached out to a old high school boyfriend 4 state s away. No doubt he said all the right things. They hook up. Commit infidelity on their marriage s. Divorced her. At least they have adultery in common.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 01:41 AM
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There's truth to that. I was married 42 years. The last few years we delt with her chronic pain from a car accident, her folks coming down with dementia at the same time and her brother and sister basically dis owning her because she had full power of attorney. I went through it with her. But I feel that since I was part of that time I became collateral damage. She found a old classmate on Facebook and had a affair. So we divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 01:02 AM
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God gives us freewill to make our own decisions. She decided to commit adultery. But my belief in God helps me get through it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 08:18 PM
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As long as my ex wife is with the p.o.s she cheated with I won't be anywhere she is. We were married 42 years. Our daughter s are all grown up with children of thier own. My grandson graduate s from high school next year. Hopefully she will have the morals to not bring her new soul mate to his graduation ceremony.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 06:24 PM
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Agree 100 percent. I got divorced after 42 years due to her infidelity. She got 50 percent of everything. No way I would risk losing what I have left on a second marriage. I do have 3 grown daughters. I know they will be very supportive if I ever find a companion.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 05:08 PM
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She'd been acting differently for a while. I choked it up to dealing with aging parents and family drama. Can't remember why but confronted her about it. She let me look at her phone. And there it was. Indisputable evidence. Think she wanted to get caught. 42 year marriage over.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 12:32 AM
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Was married 42 years. Can't say she's in my dreams but think about her every day. Probably will the rest of my life. I don't dwell on it anymore. She made her choice s.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 02:20 AM
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I was married 42 years. The first time the wedding anniversary can around naturally I thought about her. We had 42 of them . But listen to the advice your getting. No contact unless it involves children. Going to suck for a while. You have to create a new you. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 09:25 PM
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Sucks. Not a club we thought we'd ever join. Oh well. Let's make the best of what we have left. Best to you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 09:51 PM
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I felt embarrassed at first. Was married for 42 years. Everyone who knew us was shocked. I was too when I found out she was cheating. I still just shake my head when I think about it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 04:24 PM
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Was married 42 years. She cheated on me. I couldn't ever take her back even if she wanted that. But damn I hate that not a day goes by since I was 16 I don't think about her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 12:20 AM
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It takes time. I was married 42 years. High school sweetheart. She cheated on me. I too thought she was my best friend. The betrayal I thought she would never do. But she did for what ever reason. I've thought about her everyday since I was 16. I'm 67 now. I still think of her on a daily basis but as time goes on I don't dwell on why. I'm starting to do things on my own for probably the first time. Traveling, hitting the gym and working part time. I hate what she did. But can't hate her. This is…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 02:23 AM
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Exactly. The only thing I would add is a good therapist if you don't have one already. You'll need someone to talk and vent to. Also add in a form of exercise. I did alot of walking when I went thru my divorce. It helps. Best to you. Hang tough.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 05:04 PM
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Same
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 03:30 AM
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About as cold as it gets.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 02:33 AM
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No. They and my parents passed before I got a divorce. That's a good thing. I loved them very much.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 07:55 PM
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My 42 year marriage ended. She was the right person for most of those years. 3 grown daughters and 4 grandchildren. But she changed. Cheated on me. Basically left our family for his. I don't believe in marriage anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 07:39 PM
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Actually I don't know how my ex is doing. She cheated on me after a long marriage and after the divorce moved in with her fellow adulter. I've heard over the last couple years that she didn't look very good. Like she's aged. She has alot of physical issues and pretty sure emotional ones too. I hate what she did but could never hate her. It does make me sad that she gave up so much. As for myself. I'm doing ok.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 03:49 PM
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Good advice there. 👍
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 07:26 PM
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You ll be better off. Going to suck for a while, but you're going to be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 10:11 PM
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Divorced after 41 years. Now 67. Makes it easier being my age and not having sex. But I do miss it. Maybe I'll someday meet someone. Maybe I won't. There's still a ember in the furnace.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:32 PM
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I'd love to someday find love. But no way I'd ever get married again. Especially at my age. My ex got half my 401k, pension and half the value of the house when it sold. She's the one who cheated. But I would be willing and able to commit to someone if I fell in love. Can't afford to lose half of everything again. No way will I get legally married.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 06:36 PM
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After divorce, she moved in with fellow adulter with in 2 months
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 01:33 AM
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The constant worry about her. To the point it effected my health.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 11:42 PM
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Didn't see it at the time. Couple heart issues that life squad took me to hospital. She didn't come until the next day. Go away for a weekend and she'd get drunk and belligerent. She'd always go in the bedroom to watch TV say we didn't like the same show s. She'd be on her phone texting with someone. One day broke down and said she was a terrible person. I consoled her telling her that wasn't true. She was cheating. I was too stupid or trusting to think she'd ever do that. We were married almost…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 09:59 PM
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💪
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 07:30 PM
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Her adultery. Won't live with someone I can't trust
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 10:03 PM
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Like alot of us I understand and went thru alot of what your feeling. I was married 42 years. She cheated. Divorced. But I can look in the mirror and know I keep my vows. I still have my honor. It's hard to let go of the past but it's necessary. Be strong. Don't let this define your life. Going to suck but you ll come out stronger .
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 10:02 PM
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65
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 07:35 PM
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John Mellencamp. Between a laugh and a tear. Pretty much sums up my feelings since divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 11:19 PM
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Yes. Trying to justify thier actions.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 11:31 PM
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One of my last few communication s with my ex wife. She made the statement " I won't tell anyone the truth about you". I'm thinking what in the hell are you talking about. We were married 42 years. She committed adultery. Typical deflecting on her part. Never talked to her again.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 08:34 PM
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I believe taking the high road is always the best option when kids are involved. They'll remember that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 01:24 AM
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I had 42 year's in when mine ended due to infidelity. It sucks. So much for death due you part. Moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 12:02 AM
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Taking it one day at a time. All my plans and hopes for the future disappeared. So trying to build new goals and focusing on what I'd like to do before it's too late and I'm to old. Can't say it's been easy. It's not. We were high school sweetheart s. But life happened and she made her choices. I'll always care for her. We have 3 adult daughters together. Any way, starting to travel ,which feels weird being by myself. Trying to hit the gym 2 or 3 days a week. Definitely helps with the stress. No…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 09:46 PM
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Expert in gray divorce. Was married 42 years. She decided to cheat. Yes old people do that sometimes. Anyway won't live with betrayal. Even split on all assets. Figured she'd get it anyway. It sucks. Never thought she'd do that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 11:09 AM
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My marriage was 42 years. Living like a monk myself now. See you at mass. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 05:53 PM
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Great advice
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 05:52 PM
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You're thinking wisely.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 05:49 PM
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No. Went on a couple meet and greet type dates about 6 months after my divorce. Wasn't ready mentally yet. 2 years later still haven't dated. Not that I don't want to just don't go places to meet women. Mean while my ex moved in with the pos that she cheated with. Bless her heart.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 05:48 PM
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Once I found out my wife betrayed me. The ring has zero value to me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 12:34 AM
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Try being 67. Most are dead now.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 08:22 PM
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Got divorced after 41 year marriage. Gave her half of everything. Even though she committed adultery. I was shell shocked. Been renting 2 years now. Just no housing in my price range. It sucks. But lots have it worse than me
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 12:59 AM
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