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Top-Worker4497/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 01:50 PM
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Top-Worker4497/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 08:12 PM
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Top-Worker4497/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 09:30 PM
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I hear what you are saying. We can choose to say no child support if we want. I feel secure in the pathway we are taking. It’s all in the best interest of the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 12:04 AM
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That house is what’s keeping me from paying child support, which would crush me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 05:38 AM
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That house is what’s keeping me from paying child support, which would crush me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 05:38 AM
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Trust me. I thought about going back and telling her i wanted to work on it again. But then I thought do i want to be doing this still in 3 years, 5 years, 10 years. And I don’t. I am terrified about it all. I can accept that. But I just don’t think we are good being married. I do think we are good parents to the kids though, so i am a little hopeful moving forward. I do cringe when i think about the money I am taking away that everyone could be using instead of starting over on my own. That is …
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 12:37 AM
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I have been talking with a therapist for about a month know. She has been really helpful to me. There is part of me that feels it’s not fair that i am grieving this. Because i put this in motion. But I DO feel terrible about it. I’m crying almost all day every day right now. I go to work and hope no one sees me. It HURTS. But I know that it couldn’t just continue on like that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 03:28 PM
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I think that it something that i didn’t consider. How rough it feels. I know that it’s the right thing for both of us…and she may not feel that way for a long time. But only being able to go over and see the kids for a short period of time is heartbreaking to me. Thankfully things have gotten more cordial between her and I over the last 2 days, so that has been helpful. It was funny though. I went over last night and did bedtime with the kids and hung out with them for a little bit. But as I was…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 03:24 PM
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I’m here for you. Feel free to message me. I have been dealing with all those same feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 06:32 AM
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I am talking with a therapist. I asked for her to do couples therapy many years ago. She had no interest. She does now since i told her that I wanted to end things. And just when I think about it, that doesn’t sit well with me. It shouldn’t have taken this long to get to that point with her. I tried before to make things work and was met with resistance. I just didn’t like the feeling that it gave me. I need to find a place to live. I can’t live on the street and she doesn’t want me in the house…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 10:59 PM
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She already told me that she can’t have me in the house. I slept in my car the first night and at a friend’s last night, where he is gracious enough to let me stay for a bit. We talked about things a bit last night and here we can file without any lawyers, so we both want to do that. We have agreed on some things already so that’s good. I’m hopeful it stays that way once we put pen to paper.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 10:53 PM
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I tried with her for years, always trying to figure out what was wrong. She decided to not be intimate anymore with me. We never did anything together without the kids. I always felt as my opinions didn’t matter. I was grilled over insignificant purchases. Everything was my fault. I asked years ago about marriage counseling. I got myself into counseling about a month ago. My therapist has helped me see things that I should have before. I found have tried more now I guess, but i can’t get over th…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 10:50 PM
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I’m getting there. But the thing is i don’t and will never wish ill will on her. And i will always love her in the aspect that she is the mother of my children. I will always want the best for her. And i think in the long run this might be the best.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:08 PM
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I am in the process of moving out. I’m not living there right now, staying with a kind friend in a spare room, which i hate doing and imposing on his family. But they are kind people and truly want the best for us. I can have the keys for an apartment on Monday. I don’t know why, but I’m scared to sign the lease agreement. It’s like, once I do, it’s the end for sure. I feel a bit frozen in place. I’ve been trying to tackle one thing a day, and this is today’s things and I’m just stuck.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:07 PM
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This is exactly my fear. Other peopel have told me that she is a narcissist and I’ve finally seen it. I was blinded to it because we were married and because of the kids. She won’t take the blame for anything that lead up to this. And not get me wrong, i am not saying everything was her fault. I know I played a part in it. We are just both unhappy all the time and live like roommates. I am still mad that she told them without me, and I know I’m going to hold onto that for a long time. Because I …
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 05:46 PM
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This sounds just like my situation and i feel stuck. I’m glad that you have been able to get out and start to move on. I hope i have the courage to do so soon. I don’t make a ton of money and that’s what really scares me. My wife will be totally fine though. Born with a silver spoon.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 10:25 PM
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If you can file outside of CA, do so. CA is the worst for child support. They add 10% compound interest, so you better never miss a payment. They absolutely suck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 10:23 PM
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Ok. So you need to see if the order is a per child order or a class order. That should be your starting point. And then see if there is child attending school language in the order. Follow-up: In Wisconsin, child support obligations typically end when the child turns 18, or age 19 if the child is still in high school or pursuing a GED. However, even after the age of 18, there may still be circumstances where support is owed, especially if there's past-due support.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 10:06 PM
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This is exactly the situation. She has no friends because they have seen who she really is. And they have told me that they wouldn’t blame me at all for divorce because they know who i am.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/25 04:28 PM
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I am still in the home. She pretends like everything is fine to everyone else. I don’t hide what’s really going on and she clearly doesn’t like that. I ruin her portrait of perfection.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/25 04:28 PM
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Well, i think possibly as she has narcissistic personality tendencies. Everything is my fault. Nothing is her fault. Guilt tripped constantly to come home or stay home. The worst, meanest tone to me in texts. It’s just goes on and on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/25 12:52 AM
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This is my inner struggle. I know leaving would be healthier for me. I’d be broke as hell, but I’d feel better personally. But then i look at my kids and wife and see what she has been trying to do to set up the future for them and I feel like a real a-hole for wanting to leave. I’m just so unhappy and hate being home with her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 08:46 PM
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