The first one... i feel it in my soul. When feminists(real ones) say that for example prostitution is exploitative(fact) we get accused of denying agency to thise women when in reality its the patriarchy, their pimps, johns, human traffickers who are doing that.
Dump him. Theres an expression in my country: with who you are with, is who you are roughly translated basically meaning if his friend is a terrible person he probably us too
