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ComprehensiveTosACoinToYourSwitch/r/seduction01/12/20 07:50 PM
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You hold yourself back. The funny, flirty, and laid back is your persona that you wear, its probably an idealized version of yourself rather than like fully genuine, the wasting time so you cut off contact is a huge clue. Like I cut off flakey women as well, its not out of fear its just analysis, if you flake you're not interested enough, I move on. You wanna keep a girl around you need to figure out what kinda girls actually wanna date someone like you, or figure out what kinda girls you wanna …
/r/seduction20/02/21 09:09 PM
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You're projecting again. I never talked about "The one" at all, you're arguing against points I have not made. Your view isn't uncomfortable for you, I'm engaging with you "unpleasantly" because I simply have no respect for your simplistic viewpoint and am tired of wannabe gurus with no understanding of the human mind or actual human nature pretending they know shit. Ideas like yours keep men stupid.
/r/seduction06/01/21 09:18 PM
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Now who's not engaging?
/r/seduction06/01/21 08:59 PM
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"Highest quality mates" The highest quality mate for any person is someone who matches them. And if you match that person, that means you do not match the majority of the rest of the world. And everyone who's not looking for an actual personal match hasn't figured shit out yet. And if a woman is not looking for a personal match, it's because no one's figured out how to connect with her yet and show her what real connection and interpersonal emotional chemistry is. All you gotta do is be the firs…
/r/seduction06/01/21 08:41 PM
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You're projecting anger and combativeness when I'm just being condescending. Projection is indicative of a weak mind.
/r/seduction06/01/21 08:39 PM
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See? I am the next comment after mine. Did you not see my reply? Are you hallucinating?
/r/seduction06/01/21 06:50 PM
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Dude there is no comment in reply to my long comment to you. Can you read? Did you forget? Like there are not that many comments on this thread are you ok? Hit your head? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/kjjvau/be_unapologetically_competitive_get_what_you_want/ggxsmkw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 There are no further replies to my comment
/r/seduction06/01/21 06:50 PM
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I literally replied in detail to you, do you not know how to read or not know how to use reddit properly to see it?
/r/seduction06/01/21 06:41 PM
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The difference between whining and relating, though. Its all about confidence. If you're relating troubles you've thought though, got a plan for dealing with, are already like you don't need advice, you don't need motivation from someone else, you've got your shit handled but handling shit takes time and handling shit is not always easy. You miss the point cause you're thinking about someone to share in problems and lean on. You're not thinking there's nothing wrong with talking about the shit y…
/r/seduction31/12/20 08:09 PM
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Telling someone they do not understand the concepts about which they talk is correction, not competition. As I am now correcting you, not competing with you. My ideas are better than his, that's not competition that's comparison. Lots of C words, I imagine vocabulary can be hard sometimes. Nah I am not competing with him. I'm not selling a product here. He is. And yeah I am putting myself forth as an authority. If he was an authority too, if his ideas evidenced comprehension or complexity, I'd a…
/r/seduction25/12/20 11:41 PM
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Nah you're not I like questions. Here's my basic philosophy. Yeah, I can turn a no into a yes potentially. I don't want to. The only resistance I like overcoming is my submissive's resistance in a brat/tamer dynamic where we have explicitly discussed what resistance I'll get offered, what I'm allowed to do to overcome it lol. Because no you cannot guarantee she'll have a genuinely enjoyable experience. I consider getting told no and trying to change her mind to be pressure and I do not do pressu…
/r/seduction25/12/20 07:58 PM
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Pretty much yeah. If I'm not getting actual positive reactions I stop engaging 100% of the time.
/r/seduction25/12/20 07:31 PM
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If you're talking about like getting all the way into bed, verbal consent will be involved before we get there. Like, if it's us talking, no I just engage, am clear, and see what reactions I get. I get direct explicit consent to go from talking to touching.
/r/seduction25/12/20 07:26 PM
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I cannot say I have ever had someone "silently go along with it" generally the entire point of being transparent is to invite them to make their own choices about interacting with you. If you are pressing buttons telling the girl where you want to take the interaction and she's engaging with you knowing what you honestly want out of interacting with her, that's not silently going along with it at all. Same way, if a woman is like not responding to me, that's a pretty clear no. If you wanted the …
/r/seduction25/12/20 06:53 PM
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Consent is active in the moment. Its not like asking permission. Transparency creates consent by giving people the opportunity to check out of interactions they don't like or don't want to go where the interaction is going.
/r/seduction25/12/20 06:46 PM
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I'm super up front about what I am doing, the intended effects, and where I want it to go. And I'm honest. I pursue women I actually like, I bring out things I actually think and feel, and I apply them effectively to get emotional reactions. I question and explore and learn what buttons an individual woman has and I press them liberally, but do so in an open and transparent way so that they know what I'm doing and what the effect I intend is. Doesnt make it even marginally less effective in prac…
/r/seduction25/12/20 06:32 PM
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If you're not being deceptive about anything then manipulation isn't unethical. Giving someone a compliment is manipulation. I'm a dominant. I engage in all kinds of positive manipulation all the time, pushing psychological buttons to get specific responses to a very detail oriented degree. If I were lying, yeah, it would be fucked. If I'm telling the truth I'm doing literally exactly what subs who date me seek me out for. People want to be made to feel good. But if it doesn't come from a genuin…
/r/seduction25/12/20 05:29 PM
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Pretty much yeah.
/r/seduction25/12/20 11:20 AM
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Game amounts to emotional manipulation. If it's transparent and honest, coming from a genuine place, it's a great way to create chemistry with someone you have shit in common with. If it's bullshit, it's narcissistic manipulation and exploitative behavior and super unethical.
/r/seduction25/12/20 11:09 AM
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Clearer photos, got covered. Of the pics you posted I would put the beach one as your first pic. Why the fuck are you talking about not being in debt in the opener to your profile? You are not a baseball card. The first thing they read should be a glib teaser of your personality, not a list of stats about you followed by "grandma would love me" Swipe right if "You're awesome and valid" makes no sense. This is a profile not a motivational page for damaged people. The pic with your lanyard is terr…
/r/seduction25/12/20 10:48 AM
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Nope
/r/seduction25/12/20 10:36 AM
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Have something in common with her that you can start a fun conversation over and draw out her emotions talking about safe topics like work, family, nonsexual life experiences, perspectives on politics, pretty much anything you both feel the same about and can relate to each other. Humans are humans, if you get them relating their emotions to you and relating to you throwing yours right back, you can flirt as normal. Breaking the ice doesn't change just because it's thicker.
/r/seduction25/12/20 10:33 AM
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Yep.
/r/seduction25/12/20 10:30 AM
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Can we make like a free porn sub and permaban any account actively advertising pickup products? I feel like it would be a massive benefit to the sub to get the shills out. The video is pretty much nothing but a long commercial.
/r/seduction25/12/20 10:30 AM
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LMAO Dude I am a dominant in the BDSM community who's spent the last 15 years actually getting people laid irl. I have less than no trouble finding relationships or casual sex as I desire. No you don't get it. I am someone who knows 50x more about women and dating and sex than you informing you that you do not understand nearly as much as you think you do. Check my post history. I'm a regular advice giver on /r/bdsmadvice and /r/sex. You made a whole ass post that amounts to "don't act anxious" …
/r/seduction25/12/20 10:18 AM
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There is no given hierarchy. You should stop talking about status.
/r/seduction25/12/20 10:11 AM
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Fun conversation and compliments of a non sexual nature dude. There are 4 kinds of interest you can really show in someone that are relevant to this sub. -Interpersonal interest: This person is an interesting person with interesting things to say worth talking about -Friendship interest: This person is someone you can feel comfortable around, hang out with, shoot the shit with, talk about personal things with -Romantic interest: This person is someone you find appealing for romantic feelings, da…
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:37 PM
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Wrong. Girls are not primarily attracted to status. That's laughable. I live in the US, most of my generation lives paycheck to paycheck hence the rise of shit like onlyfans because sex work is straight up one of the more effective ways to get paid with a decent money/effort ratio. Status doesn't exist in lots of manifest ways. Then you take signs of social anxiety and assign it to status like people of high status never exhibit social anxiety, also wrong. You're basically talking about how to "…
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:33 PM
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Kissing is like dancing. Someone has to lead or you step all over each other. Either person can lead a dance, kinda the key to it is figuring out who is going to lead and who is going to follow the lead and either taking a lead when there's space to, or letting her take the lead when she steps into it.
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:29 PM
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Nope. I play 0 games. But I do baby step emotional escalation. I don't show a girl how interested I am until I see her showing interest back. That's not a game. I'm honest 100%. Fake nothing. But I also match investment and responses and stop talking to anyone who doesn't match me. If I find that I'm responding instantly all the time and she's always taking a minute, we aren't going to be talking long. I also only date talky women who respond fast when a real conversation gets going. If I start …
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:20 PM
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It is the holidays and covid and shit. Give her one more shot. When the holidays are over, set a meet. If she flakes, stop talking to her.
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:17 PM
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1) Break up questions with other responses. If you are just sitting there quizzing a girl about herself, it gets repetitive. Ask a question in a direction that you can get a reply that you can respond to with your own self and thoughts and emotions. I will ask a girl what shows she likes, pick one that I like and ask her what she likes about it, who her favorite characters are and why, etc. Then I will relate to it. "Yeah I love that character, no I don't like that about it, damn I loved this ep…
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:16 PM
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Bad advice. I'm kinda done with casual sex as a person if there is not a big kink element involved. If it's not BDSM, casual group sex, something of that nature? And even then, one night stand shit is no longer worth it or fulfilling for me. Even in a casual realm I am "relationship focused" in that if someone is worth my time to fuck once, they're worth fucking more than once, so I want a FWBs arrangement and to fuck them a while. But my overall desires are towards relationships and intimacy an…
/r/seduction24/12/20 11:11 PM
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I am exactly the same and women do not see me as a friend only because I am very (respectfully) up front about my interest in them. I'm clear enough about it that at some point they're expected to respond. If my interest gets ignored, I have my answer. If it doesn't, again, I have my answer. I'll put it this way, if you want more than casual sex you WANT to be her friend. The best relationships are with people you are both friends with and sincerely sexually attracted to. If you want to not be o…
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:11 PM
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Dude this is like me talking to a girl I am interested in literally Day 1.
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:11 PM
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HA I have gotten the "You're not gonna kill me, right?" line from girls on multiple occasions. Its a good sign. It means they like you enough to be worried about getting close, cause they want to get close.
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:06 PM
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In scenario one "We're thinking about it" with a smile would probably be my goto. Something positive in tone but noncommittal in content. If I was out with a group with a girl I like and haven't made moves yet depending on the interactions I might try something like "Actually I'm planning to ask her out one on one later tonight" and just then straight up continue as normal and ask her out one on one later that night.
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:04 PM
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Lmao so apparently I am a bad boy and I never even knew it. Good post. My entire schtick is "Trustworthy with an edge" I'm a legit feminist. I get the boundaries, I respect women, I have paid enough attention to understand female perspectives pretty well. But I'm not afraid to take a risk interpersonally now and then. I just respect the response, not all risks pay off or hit right, sometimes you fuck it up, sometimes you misjudge your audience. But that bit about not judging women. Whooooooo doe…
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:00 PM
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Honestly? I start at conversation. I'm actually entertaining as fuck to talk to. And I seek the same. I want a woman who can and does make me laugh, who can tell me a good story like I tell her, who can match me and have me enjoying myself purely because of the conversation as much as I can have her enjoying herself. Its a real equalizer for me. No matter how pretty, how anything any woman is, if we're just having a conversation, there's fundamentally no inequality in how well we can talk to eac…
/r/seduction24/12/20 07:54 PM
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lmao. Constantly. I'm talky and seek women who are the same. The very first test of compatibility for me is "can we talk for a solid 2 hours and both want to talk more at the end of it without sex coming up at all" There are no rules here. How often do you WANT to text between dates? There are women who match it, seek them.
/r/seduction24/12/20 07:46 PM
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I wanna stress the first two points. While I do succeed with women, my personal life is still somewhat of a mess because I spent too much of my 20s focused away from my own individual personal life. Do not neglect your own life. It sucks down the road if you do.
/r/seduction24/12/20 07:44 PM
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This is a good post overall. Practice conversation yall. When I was younger, I spent time thinking my way through threads of conversation. What questions could I ask, where could I take them, how could I ask. Working out ideas for word choice ahead of time that express you how you want to express you helps tons. You dont have to have a plan for conversations, you need to have an outline for a choose your own adventure where you've got openings that are neutral but friendly and move towards perso…
/r/seduction24/12/20 07:43 PM
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Go in for your appointment, chat her up without proposing anything, have your appointment come out. Then drop something like this on her. "I've really enjoyed the conversations and I'd like to continue them over dinner sometime. But I don't want to step out, I know this is your job. So I'll ask this once, and if I get anything other than a yes, I'll pretend we never flirted. Do you want to get dinner? If so, give me your number so I can text you and set up a date." Shoot your one shot. Set the c…
/r/seduction24/12/20 07:39 PM
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You are so beyond off base dude. Society demonized this behavior because testosterone does not mean you view all men as competition or the enemy and women are not on the whole sitting there trying to make men compete for them. Your brain is stuck in dating dynamics we've been trying to leave behind since the 50s. Transactional relationship models. No criminals are not often seen as attractive by women you're severely overgeneralizing like incels who think that because Ted Bundy got some attentio…
/r/seduction24/12/20 07:24 PM
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Practice dude. I literally just went out and started talking to girls. Seeking one on one conversations about personal lives that I moved into discussions about dating and sex. My way in is I get to know a girl, talk to her about herself, and transition the conversation towards sexual topics in a non sexting way. By the time I start talking about sexual topics, I'm also flirting. If I don't get a good response I go find someone else to talk to, but I also try to figure out why I didn't get a goo…
/r/seduction11/12/20 09:58 PM
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Niches. Like ok. Basic fact about humans. Human traits absent conditioning not only has a very wide range, but within that range humans are fairly scattered in distribution. Behavior does not follow the bell curve, small differences in personality and perspective, locality and culture, can result in massive changes in behavior. So in the world, there are a fair few people who are super shallow, a fair few people who are middling, and a fair few people who are very not appearance motivated. For t…
/r/seduction11/12/20 07:37 PM
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This. Context is important. She's been sick, give her some time. This was a cancellation for reason. Flaking is blowing you off last minute. I'd say the second reschedule is a sign, but this first one seems reasonable.
/r/seduction05/12/20 06:19 PM
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Right? Like I don't have to spend a dime, I just take a shower, trim my beard, put on some nice clean clothes, and start talking.
/r/seduction05/12/20 06:17 PM
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Aww lookit the little toxic PUA who thinks he knows how dating and sex work. "IF YOU DO NOT DO WHAT I DO MY EGO TELLS ME I AM BETTER THAN YOU" Talking about how you gotta pay for shit to get laid cause thats what a "Man" does and thinking you get to call someone else a simp lmaoooooooo.
/r/seduction05/12/20 06:16 PM
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Games suck. If you are easy, own it. If you're not, own it. Find guys who like how you act when you're being you, cause whether a guy likes easy is an individual question. I personally don't date women who aren't slutty. I'm a slut, I need someone who matches. Are you a slut? No? You probably wouldn't like dating me either lol.
/r/seduction03/12/20 05:43 AM
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If you're looking to date and conversations are running their course that to me means you're not yet meeting the people and having the conversations you want. I talk to girls I'm interested in pretty much daily. Text is a convenient way to have random conversations.
/r/seduction03/12/20 05:31 AM
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I've actually got the start of an outline already. At the beginning of the "serious research" phase where I cobble together a massive source list to make the book not just me rambling on about my opinions and perspective for a few hundred pages.
/r/seduction03/12/20 03:13 AM
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Absolutely encourage you to supplement
/r/seduction02/12/20 09:40 PM
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I mean, if you want to consider the lesson incomplete, sure. I definitely understand that. I wouldn't say it does a disservice because the focus on this (being /r/seduction) was specific to dating and like your personal life journey in finding yourself absolutely has a massive impact on dating, but as you said it is not something you do FOR dating. This guide is absolutely not meant to be a one size fits all solution to dating. This is a comprehensive guide over a specific aspect of dating. I al…
/r/seduction02/12/20 09:35 PM
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lol I have two answers to this The first answer is that these days I date submissives looking actively for doms, sex is a part of the introductory discussion and if they actually come over to my house we've already talked about boundaries, BDSM, the possibility of a scene, etc before they come over. I know when they show up if I'm getting laid that day. The second answer is in the past when I was not seeking partners who are actively looking for a BDSM sexual lifestyle, I would invite girls over…
/r/seduction02/12/20 09:24 PM
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I definitely understand this. My perspective on getting personal is that its also a compatibility test, at least for me personally. I'm a very open person. If I ask questions about personal stuff and someone gets uncomfortable, that tells me something too. That this person has very different interpersonal boundaries than I do that marks a point of potential incompatibility. To each their own, but that's how I see it when it comes to me and my needs and interactions in dating.
/r/seduction02/12/20 09:01 PM
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I definitely understand your perspective, but I wasn't going so deep into it to write a guide for finding yourself. That's an infinitely more complex topic, would require multiple posts, and tbh I'm not far enough in my education towards being a therapist to write THAT part yet.
/r/seduction02/12/20 08:59 PM
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Np lol
/r/seduction02/12/20 08:50 PM
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36 and still dating. Made a few bad choices, had to learn some self respect and to not put up with abusive behavior, also took a while to really figure myself out so I could start looking for people fully compatible with me. Keep at it.
/r/seduction02/12/20 08:49 PM
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I get girls talking about emotions and I do not stop. Factual conversations can be fun, but they do not form chemistry. No one sitting with you having a factual conversation with you feels closer to you, normally. Certain outliers do exist, people who like being taught or who are turned on heavily by intelligence in an area they're personally interested in (some girls have an "I wanna fuck your brain" complex it's fun) But for the most part, you want a girl to feel closer to you, talk about feel…
/r/seduction02/12/20 06:10 AM
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Honestly, I found out I was a dominant for real when I had a submissive partner who got me into BDSM. My first foray into the kink community was swingers, not BDSM. Due to an abuse past I was super wary of BDSM for a while, it took dating a serious masochist who wanted me to hurt them and leave bruises and like watching them very proudly take naked mirror selfies of themselves covered in marks and making it their phone lock screen to really wrap my head around exactly how much some subs like wei…
/r/seduction02/12/20 05:59 AM
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You don't know much about autism if you think I'm autistic.
/r/seduction02/12/20 05:55 AM
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Don't wait on anyone without a manifest connection that is worth waiting for. It boils down to, you have to set standards for yourself. Part of self respect is not chasing where you are not desired. Lots of women like to keep me around. I make friends with some, the rest happy trails. I don't stick on a woman until I see that she shows interest and puts energy back. Its literally the first test. I'll walk up to someone and show them some good energy. If I do not get that energy back, I go find s…
/r/seduction02/12/20 05:06 AM
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If you can build trust up to voice and video quickly, just to have voice tones or face to face conversations, it helps a ton. Over text, you fish. You lightly confirm reactions with probing questions, and get to know the individuals response patterns over time as best you can. Text is a limited medium, and if that's what you're using to communicate you do your best to be expressive and you learn to fold probing questions about mood and reactions into conversation. I fall back to asking people wh…
/r/seduction02/12/20 05:01 AM
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Probably, but I am a brat tamer so I look for brats
/r/seduction02/12/20 04:53 AM
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Unfortunately nah I'd have to like go look up all the psych textbooks I've studied and alot of it comes from personal experience and learning. I might write a book some day though.
/r/seduction02/12/20 04:14 AM
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There are more 95s in the sea.
/r/seduction02/12/20 02:13 AM
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Yep. The real trick is to invite consent rather than attempt to escalate. I don't ask women if they want to do things anymore. I never ask if someone wants to have sex. I ask what their boundaries are and stick to them. Boundaries respected turn into comfort zones. Bigger comfort zones expand boundaries.
/r/seduction02/12/20 02:11 AM
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Take longer and spread sex through the day. Anxiety comes most easily when you have like "normal time" and "sex time" and your brain can compartmentalize sex time into like a period when anxiety is expected and normal, kinda. The therapeutic approach to anxiety is gentle counter conditioning. In practical terms, spend the day with her. Stay in, order pizza, put on a movie, interrupt the movie with sex, stay naked the rest of the day and just play on and off. Give each other access and ease the b…
/r/seduction02/12/20 01:54 AM
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Most of the women I date are early to mid 20s because of the already partnered up thing. Pretty, intelligent, kind, sarcastic asshole hypersexual submissive sluts (in the sex positive "call me that in bed plz" kinda way) are my type. Those women are all fuckin married by 30 and I'm 36. But yeah this post was specifically crafted towards the people reading this who have no fucking clue what to look for in dating to make themselves happy and how to look for it. Sorry I came in late for you bro.
/r/seduction02/12/20 01:50 AM
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Nah dude, you have very unspecific standards and kinda view women as interchangeable. My relationships even on a casual sex level is deeper than that because I do not engage in casual sex without a kink component and communication is required for kink. If you want Tinder hookups, yeah this post has little to no relevance to you. The vast majority of sex and relationships in the world casual or not are not tinder hookups. These standards are not far fetched at all. Most people want something more…
/r/seduction02/12/20 01:47 AM
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People feel pressure when you pursue the same agenda past their desire for you to. When you ask the same question repeatedly spaced out over time, you can make people really uncomfortable and start violating boundaries. Not respecting the intent of the no is like, bargaining for sex. "Do you want to do this? No, well how about this? No? What about that? Or trying to convince someone their no should be a yes. Respecting the intent of the no is like, if you ask someone if they want to sleep with y…
/r/seduction02/12/20 01:43 AM
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One final fun tip. If you accept no graciously the first time and know how to respect the intent of the no, not just the explicit statement, you would be amazed at the shit you can get away with asking once.
/r/seduction01/12/20 08:05 PM
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I gotta say, 10 years ago I was this subs enemy. I remember quite vividly all the date rape advice that got passed down here. And lo and behold, here's a post I could have written myself for an advice sub talking to men about not having low as shit standards for women's personalities and not tolerating the same kind of self centered narcissistic abuse women have been teaching each other not to tolerate from men for years now. Kudos yall, it actually changed around here.
/r/seduction01/12/20 06:11 PM
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Your luck is better than you think. Make friends. Pump her for information. Take her shopping and have her help you pick clothes out. Come to her to talk about girls and treat her like a dude you can talk to girls about. Listen to what she says about girls. Female friends who are this level of off limits are an amazing resource for information to like get to know women better and get a female perspective injected directly into your regular life.
/r/seduction01/12/20 06:05 PM
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