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I feel ya on this. I'm currently cohabitating until the divorce is finalized (7 months in, another 8-10 to go) and if there's one thing this divorce has been helping me control is my anger. She was done with us when I wanted to fix things and it absolutely devastated me. The feeling of betrayal hurts so bad. However, in this 7 months I've managed to build up quite a bit of resiliency. I don't think she would ever be stupid enough to think we could be friends after this but if she did I'd shut th…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 10:53 AM
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Thanks bud 😁
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 10:33 AM
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Damn, that's a tough one. On one hand you might have something special here and on the other it doesn't sound like you're fully healed which could end up ruining the relationship. You could always lay it on the table for her on how you feel and see how that goes. She might be receptive to taking things slow and working with you but it could backfire and end things right there. Personally I'd go for dating her and taking things slow. Either way good luck and I hope things work out for you bud.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 01:50 AM
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This, this right here is the correct answer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 10:06 PM
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This right here.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 01:24 AM
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Funny you say that because I'm pretty sure my STBXF made a throw away and hit up my DM. Funny what they'll go through to try and incriminate you. Be careful out there fellas.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 05:36 AM
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Great to hear this and I'm glad you're in a better place. I hope this will be me in a year.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 09:15 PM
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I'm in the same boat. Not so much happy about the decision I had to make but 6 months in, still cohabitating and let me tell you it's rough. The longer time goes by the easier it gets. But when I say this, I mean it only gets easier little by little. In this much time I've learned a lot about who my Wife truly was, who I am and who I want to be. I keep reading this subreddit and watching videos on divorced men "XYZ" explanations. They help quite a bit but some days I fall into a very dark place …
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 08:11 AM
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Yeah I have no intent on getting married again but ya never know. After 19 years being flushed down the drain I'm kind of jaded to the idea. I also prefer a connection with someone so I don't want to go around smashing everything but we'll see how bad the drought gets lol. Definitely want financial stability and peace and having my kids #1 above everything.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 07:17 PM
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This will be my main focus, not settling. Definitely setting some boundaries and standards this time around.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 06:22 PM
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This is almost exactly what I'm going through: "They went from healthy body weight to athletic/ changed their wardrobe/high maintenance beauty routine/friend group/dead bedroom etc. She waited for optimal timing. The way my ex said it I knew we done and didn't question it. I'd never seen her utter something so cold and emotionless. I'm still grieving and she's 100% moved on with new glow up boyfriend. " 19 years down the drain. I'm 6 months in the divorce process cohabitating and we still have r…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 09:44 PM
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That's so fucked up, I'm sorry to hear that.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 03:43 PM
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Sex is definitely an important part of a relationship but it certainly won't keep it together if both people can't work out their differences. In my case I wanted to continue to work on our marriage however my Wife was done with working things out. Looking back I'm pretty sure she was emotionally engaged with someone else for the last year, but that's another story.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 01:53 PM
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And I assure you I will be exploring that option once I'm finally divorced. Unfortunately that won't be for another year if I'm lucky.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 01:35 PM
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I felt the same way about my ex before my current STBXW. Then I met my STBXW and it was better. I have the same concerns you do however when I think about our bedroom activities, it was me who is putting in the work to make it exceptional. My STBXW was amazing only because she was willing to do certain things but by no means did she do anything that another willing partner couldn't. Chemistry also has a lot to do with it. I'm more worried about finding someone who has that same sex drive as I do…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 08:03 AM
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Yeah unfortunately I am still cohabitating with her as we work out all the details of the divorce. We also have two kids so unfortunately I will have to still see her from time to time for at least another 11 years. I'm in a pretty good place right now for the most part but I know things will be much better once I get my own place and I'm not around her on a daily basis. I'm definitely purging the last 19 years of memories with her despite many of those years being great.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/25 06:30 PM
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This was me just a few nights ago. 6 months in and I feel like I'm getting to a good point where I don't always feel sick to my stomach. Then I had a dream the other night. Nothing sexual, just her and I talking like we did when we loved each other or should I say when she still loved me. The rest of the day sucked and I felt horrible. Fast forward to 3 days later and I'm good again. Sometimes you get punched in the gut and you just have to focus on breathing and working through it. Stay strong …
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/25 05:16 PM
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Can confirm. I'm almost 6 months in and everyday feels like I'm reopening a wound. Focusing on the kids definitely helps but there are days when it feels like the walls are closing in and I'll never find peace. I'll get there though. Only another year.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 04:58 AM
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Yup same here.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 05:00 PM
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This sub has been amazing. Just hearing other mens stories makes me feel like I'm not going through this alone. Keep sharing fellas and please, when it's all over and things have gotten better, post it. It's a relief to see people who have suffered through this come out of it and still be ok or even happy. Thank you all.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 09:23 AM
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That's terrible man and so rediculous.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 11:00 AM
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Yup, sound similar to my situation. Check all the boxes but the "emotional intelligence" and all the sudden you're not enough. Take solace in the fact that you were a good husband and father. Work on getting through this and move on to someone who will one day appreciate you. Or stay single and have your peace, either way you have a new beginning. Good luck buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 10:08 AM
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Excellent advice!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:11 PM
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Seriously, this dude just laid it out perfectly!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:11 PM
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Yeah no kids is a plus and no contact is the way to go if possible. I wish I could go no contact, unfortunately we will be co-parenting for the next 11 years at bare minimum. Good luck with everything though and I wish the best for you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 05:55 AM
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Most of us miss the red flags until we reflect after or during the divorce process. My STBXW just admitted today that she emotionally detached earlier this year...before the divorce talk was had. Meaning she has been processing this whole thing and planning, at least mentally, for this divorce. Looking back the signs were there but I just thought it was one of our tiffs. Don't beat yourself up and just work on healing and getting through this. Good luck bud.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 05:04 AM
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My family told me it needed to end because of the way she treated me. I never wanted to leave because I loved my Wife so much. I'm learning a lot now through this process and where I need to be as a person. As far as giving advice I'd have to take into consideration the situation in the marriage. If cheating isn't involved and both parties are unhappy I'd say go to counseling and try to make it work. It seems like people are too quick to call it quits not realizing that love and marriage takes e…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 01:30 PM
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Sounds like your marriage is over. Don't stay for the kids as that will only make things worse for them over time. If you truly can't fix this through counseling or have no connection with her anymore then it sounds like you're done. It pains me to say this because you sound like my Wife with the emotional affair and "love but not in love" parts but don't drag each other through more years of difficult marriage all to come to the same conclusion of divorce. Either way good luck to you both and I…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 12:32 PM
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Brother I'm right there with you. Keep being there for your kids and being a great Dad. It sucks that we don't get that reprieve from dealing with the loneliness and pain like our spouses because they already have a new person they've move on with but trust me when I say, being there for your kids is way more important and something they'll remember. I feel for you and hope you have brighter days to come bud.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 11:06 AM
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It's tough man. Even when you follow all the advice here or online sometimes nothing cuts it. One thing I've noticed helps me when all else fails, find a place where you can let it all out. When I do everything I can to fight the emotion and nothing works, I'll get in my car, find a secluded place and just let it go. I hate crying. I did it as a little kid quite a bit and so I have a deep hatred for crying over little things. This isn't one of those things. The more you bottle it up the worse yo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 05:54 AM
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Sorry to hear this man. This is almost exactly how the conversation went down with my Wife. Good luck man and if you or anyone in this sub ever needs to chat or vent, hit me up.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 05:19 AM
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4 & 6 sit heavy with me. I always felt like a piggy bank. My value as a husband disappeared years ago despite the time and effort I put into our house and marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 09:47 AM
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Good luck bud
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 08:49 PM
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I wish I could circle the day. We have two separate pretrial dates next year and then a final. She wants to keep the house but also wants my pension and primary custody of the kids. The greed with this one is real.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 06:33 PM
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I feel you bud. I'm constantly reminding myself that I wasn't perfect but I certainly didn't deserve this. I've been hitting the gym as well and I'm in really good shape but mentally I still have issues thinking about her and her potential AP. Shitty thing is I'm having to live with her for potentially another year.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 04:31 PM
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We are unforgiving living together and our pretrial isn't until around same time next year.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 10:17 AM
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I really hope I feel that one day. My STBXW just got back from a last second business trip in which she just so happened to go to a concert while she was there for the 3 days....I have another year of living like this at best. I really I hope I'm the one making these posts in a year.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 01:21 AM
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Funny. Reading this and I feel I could've written this word for word almost. I've personally learned that I've been co-dependent my whole life. I've never been happy by myself and needed a partner to make me feel whole which is not a good thing. My advice to you is take a break from dating and make sure you are good yourself. I myself want nothing more than to be with another woman but know I need time to heal and fix myself. Good luck in the future bud.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 05:28 PM
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Yeah I've heard similar things. Like the other guy in this thread said once you're healed and over your ex or at least happy with yourself and where you're at, then you can move on. If you want to make it a casual thing that's different but if you're going for a serious relationship definitely don't dive into one while you're still healing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 04:00 AM
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Exactly
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 09:47 PM
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When we went to counseling she said she wanted me to ask more about her day, work and the shows/books she reads. It didn't matter if I understood what she was talking about she just wanted to be able to have a conversation about something. So I started doing those things for about 6 months from the counseling session we had and I thought things were going well. Alas, we got into another fight and she was done. From what I've read I think she was done well before the counseling and me finally bri…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 01:15 AM
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Yeah I can't do the "emotional man" type stuff and honestly I'm still not entirely sure how to connect more on an emotional level. I just know I loved my Wife very much and I showed that by telling her that and physically showing it. Hugs, butt grabs her n there to be funny or cute with her. Those things meant something to her for most of our marriage but towards the end something changed. I still believe she emotionally connected with another guy and so what I did really didn't matter anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 11:57 PM
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Funny because my Wife had Cart Blanche on being serviced. I enjoyed doing it so I was always down to go down lol. But again, I mistook being there for her physical needs and thinking like a guy would think. Not realizing that sex and physical affection isn't even in the top 3 things most woman want 🫤.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 11:45 PM
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Thinking that giving my Wife physical affection and compliments about how I still find her beautiful and sexy even after 19 years of marriage was enough to keep her happy. Despite also being the provider and helping out around the house, it still came down to emotional intelligence. I realize now that woman needs to connect more on an emotional level than physical. Next relationship I will be sure to include more emotional connection while maintaining a physical love for said woman.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 11:08 PM
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This is me right now. I have another year of this and it kills me every time she "goes for a drive". Coming back at 1am from a 5 hr drive is not convincing me of anything but cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:46 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Posts like these give a lot of us hope for the future. I currently won't see things finalized until next August or September and until then I'm having to cohabitate. I know what you mean by the dark thoughts but my faith in God has been getting stronger with each day. I keep telling myself life will be better once I'm finally out of the house and that helps a little. Stories like these from this sub though are very helpful so thanks again for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 02:53 AM
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That's how my first divorce went. We didn't have kids and agreed on everything. I was young so I went out and partied and got laid. Sadly it didn't fill the hole in my heart. I realize now that I need time to heal and I never did that. This time is much different though. Ive matured emotionally and realize I need to be alone for a while even if not by choice. It sucks because I know my STBXW is seeing someone else during this divorce process and I'm still living with her. Probably the hardest th…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:23 PM
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I want to get back out there now however I'm still going through the divorce and healing process. I won't be officially divorced until next September at the minimum so I'll have almost a year and a half under my belt. I'm a pretty active person with a high lebido so I'm definitely looking forward to getting back out there however unlike my 20's I'd like go for a connection rather than a random hookup. We'll see how it goes though.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 05:28 AM
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I really hope it's not a train. I'll find out next September.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 11:28 AM
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I checked all the boxes except for having "emotional intelligence", fuck me right? Whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 06:28 AM
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Brother you are an inspiration lol. Seriously though happy to hear there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Currently 5 months into the process and still live with the STBXW along with my two kids. We have until May next year for the pre-trial. God help me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 01:09 AM
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I'm excited and terrified for this.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 03:06 AM
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At least you still get them half the time. That's what I'm hoping for
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 02:56 AM
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Thanks bud
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 02:55 AM
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I'm in the same boat. Currently 5 months in and my pre-trial isn't until May of 2026.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/25 07:33 AM
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Thank you for this. And to all the others who share their stories. I'm going through it right now and I'm going on 5 months of the divorce process and still living with the STBXW. On top of all that I suspect she is cheating (even with us in the process of splitting up it still sucks). It's good to hear that it will get better though. Currently fighting for 50/50 but she wants primary custody for no other reason than "control". Thank you for sharing this, it definitely helps.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/25 07:32 AM
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STBXW and I had a conversation about where our marriage was going. I thought counseling was working but she felt differently. I finally told her I can't live in limbo and asked her what she wanted. She couldn't say anything the first time so I specifically told her "I don't want a divorce I want to fix this". Her 2nd response to me asking was "I think we want the same thing". I told her "no because I don't want divorce". 3rd time I asked she said "how can we fix this". It was at that point I tol…
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 04:52 PM
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Thats good to hear you have a solid plan and your kids. I myself am still going through the process and the Wife has already stated she wants primary custody so we'll see how it goes. I'm currently stuck at the house until my attorney and I figure some things out. I honestly think I'd be much further along in healing if I didn't have to live with the woman who's done a complete 180 from who she was as a Wife. For now it's the gym and spending what time I have with the kids that makes life good. …
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 01:32 PM
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I know it might not be what you want to hear but best thing you can do is work on yourself. Hit the gym, read, walk, work towards a hobby. Some sort of self improvement. You need to learn to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. This is coming from someone who is going through the same thing and I have the same fear however, I realize I can't force something like a relationship or love. I'm turning 39 this year and my divorce probably won't be finalized until I'm 40. …
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 08:01 AM
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Not getting lost in your head is the hard part. I can't tell you how many days I was feeling great only for my brain to throw me a curve ball and ruin my day.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 06:25 PM
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I do have a plan and having short term goals is definitely one of them. Right now we're in limbo waiting for the attorneys to finishing gathering what documents we've both submitted.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 06:22 AM
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Right there with ya brother. I looked at our wedding photos for the last time today and it's probably the hardest I've broke down since this whole thing started. We can't get back what we had. All we can do is move forward. But man, it's hard not to think about the good times.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 04:35 AM
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I'm about to be in the same boat in a year (when divorce finalizes hopefully) and I have no idea where to start. I used to hit bars and clubs but being 39 and no longer drinking like I used to it feels weird. I figure the dating apps are where it's at but I've also heard those can get pretty tiresome with the guy to girl ratio and woman being a lot more picky than guys. We'll see what happens though.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 04:32 AM
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Losing my kids. Currently fighting for 50/50. Also getting financially fucked. My whole life I've been responsible with my money and now this divorce could put me in a position of serious debt, which I've never been in. Probably one of the few things that sends me into a small panic attack.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 09:19 PM
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Damn man you sound like what I'm currently going through.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 09:16 PM
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So sorry to hear that. Some of the people in these comments are right, she's been doing this longer than 7 weeks. I'm going through something similar right now. 19 years of marriage and for the last year something seemed off. We get divorced and she goes on "errands" or has an "appointment" and disappears for half the day. Even bought a hotel room for the night because she said she was scared to be in the house despite the fact she had no problem sleeping here before that and now after it. She j…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 09:44 AM
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Oof, that's rough man. Yeah not sure how she can expect to be mad at you when she was screwing you over. Sorry to hear that.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 07:35 AM
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Glad to hear it bud. Your post gives me hope for the future. My pretrial date is mid next year unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 04:52 AM
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We're all right there with ya brother. I'm sorry this happened. It's gonna be a long road to walk but you'll get where you need to be. Ask the questions and reach out if you need to. This sub has been great for me from just reading other peoples comments and stories. Good luck bud.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 04:43 AM
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You say months after divorce court but how long was the entire process. Because as it stands right now for me, I likely will be in the process for almost an entire year in which I would say it's ok to start a relationship again. I think it also depends on you and how you've healed. Starting a relationship while still broken could be bad for your next relationship. If you are in a good place then I say go for it and enjoy this relationship. Just make sure to leave the past behind and look at what…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 10:07 AM
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I'm 4 months into mine and my pretrial isn't until 2026. This woman is manipulative and controlling. Good luck fellas.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 01:41 PM
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I can see how some woman would be like this however in my situation my Wife turned into a feminist at some point in our marriage and our ideologies were skewed so far from each other that having a conversation about anything usually led to an argument. This was not the woman I married. She is night and day different than the woman I fell in love with. If I sparked up a conversation to the woman I know now 19 yrs ago, I would never have married her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 03:22 PM
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I think death would be easier to deal with in terms of closure and moving on. Divorce sucks because some people will always wonder if it could have been fixed or still can be. You can end up dwelling on a person who is still around, especially if you had kids with them. With all of that being said it is highly dependent on what your marriage was like and what kind of person you are. Some people can pick themselves back up and wipe away the tears and move on, others will be stuck in their memorie…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 08:54 AM
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Sure is. That's why I'm so bitter that she feels entitled to it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 02:39 PM
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Military. Retiring after 22 years in 2028. My wife was also military for 11 of my 22 years and I've fully supported her and our kids. But somehow after 19 years of marriage she's entitled to my pension. Despite the fact that a year and a half ago she was damn near making more than me but decided to quit because she didn't like her boss.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 10:44 AM
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This right here. Pensions shouldn't be considered. It's messed up someone works their whole life to get a pension and the other person, man or woman, can get a piece of it through divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 03:41 AM
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19 years going down the drain and honestly if it weren't for the kids I'd be ok with never hearing or seeing her again. She gave up on our marriage and I suspect has already moved on to another guy. I hope there will come a day when I can look at her and feel nothing but I know that won't be anytime soon. We started our divorce 4 months ago and taking a step back I hadn't realized how much my Wife has changed. I'd wager she's been done for years now and was waiting for her career to take off bef…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 02:31 PM
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You're not being too blunt. Although i would say maybe talking to a therapist could help him with some of this. With that being said I'm going through a divorce right now as well and I too have come to realize I am codependent and have been my entire life. Hardest thing to do is realize you need to step away from relationships for a bit and work on yourself. You need to find your self worth and value or happiness with yourself before you can jump into a relationship. Attaching yourself to anothe…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 10:14 AM
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I provided everything for my family. I was constantly meeting my Wife's physical needs, even going as far to do sexual favors prior to me heading out to work that I knew would not get reciprocated. I was happy to do so. I was there and still am for my children. I never went out to bars or got drunk. I stayed fit (still have my 6 pack). In the end I was told that I did not meet her emotional intelligence.....it feels like you check every single box but you miss one and that's it. Fuck marriage an…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 01:47 AM
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Regardless if it was written or refined by AI, everything that he wrote is literally what's been going on in my head for the last 4 months. I have what I would consider a successful life and yet so many days I can't find my worth or value. I feel like a failure as a husband and a human being. Whomever or whatever wrote this post is spot on with what I'm dealing with and trying to conquer. Seeing posts like this make me feel like I'm not crazy or the only one and makes me feel like I'm a part of …
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 09:34 PM
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You Sir have hit the nail so hard on the head it drove the nail through the 2x4 and out the backside. I've been struggling with the psychological side of things since we started our divorce. Ive always been a person who works out and stays fit and recently I've up'd my game to a point where I feel like I'm in my early 20's again. With that being said, I can have a great day going and the good times of the past will creep in or I think about what I could have done differently. Thinking logically …
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 09:26 PM
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It's crazy because my Wife who I'm divorcing now did the same thing. Started I think 2 years ago and sadly, looking back, it when I think she was done.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 01:10 AM
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I'm sorry to hear this. Your story sounds very similar to mine. Chances are she's moved on with someone else either physically or emotionally. Shit sucks man and it's going to get worse before it gets better. Get yourself a lawyer and buckle up because it's gonna be a rough road. I'm only 4 months into it now and looking back on the last couple years my Wife no longer loved or cared about our marriage. We've been married for 19 years now and it's all coming to an end for me. For her, it was done…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:44 AM
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When I asked my Wife 3 separate times what she wanted and she couldn't give me an answer. I told her "let me be clear, I don't want a divorce, I want to fix this but I need to know you still want to be here". Each time I was met with a different answer. First response was her putting her head in her hands and shaking her head. Second time was her saying "I think we both want the same thing". I told her I don't think so because I don't want a divorce. 3rd time was "I don't know how we can fix thi…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 07:39 AM
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Thank you for sharing. This gives me hope for the future.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 01:03 PM
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Dreams are weird my guy. They can cause you to have such strong emotions over them especially when you first wake up. The feeling will fade with time. As to not being sure about loving your current gf. I felt the same way about my soon to be Ex wife when I met her 19 yrs ago. I told myself that I don't think I could love her because I don't have butterflies in my stomach with her all the time. However I've come learn that finding a woman that you can build a strong friendship is much better than…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 02:39 AM
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This is where I'm at too. I'm pretty sure my Wife is cheating (constantly disappearing throughout the day for long periods of time) and I've told myself I want to confirm it so I can stop thinking about it. But honestly, it will only make things worse knowing and none of it matters. Do your best to clear your head and move forward. I know it's easier said than done but there's no other option. Good luck bud.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 12:42 AM
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I'm in the same boat. I have hobbies that I enjoy like hockey and hiking however I want to get out and meet new people but I have no idea where to start.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 07:46 AM
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My guess is as soon as she heard 50/50 she wanted that lawyer. I'm currently going through it right now and my Wife was down to mediate until I told her 70/30 doesn't work for me, 50/50 or bust. Good luck bud.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 07:41 AM
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Man, this hits home.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 05:03 AM
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I'm glad you said it. My soon to be Ex wife is asking me if I'll be at the house for birthdays and holidays ...I was like "no that would be weird and not healthy". We'll end up celebrating everything separately.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 12:57 PM
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I go for a walk or run. It's super tough when those times come up but you'll get through them. Sometimes I got a tell myself "it doesn't matter, it's over, move on". Sometimes it works, other times I end up in my car praying and holding back tears. In the end, we'll get through this. Good luck bud and hope this helped.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 08:46 AM
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I feel ya on that. I'm working on myself now and trying to find inner peace before I even think of starting another relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 02:07 AM
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I'm was/am in a similar situation. I've always stayed in great shape. My Wife had kids and let herself go. I still supported her with compliments and tried to encourage working out. One day I had the conversation that I'm worried about her health and that she's getting bigger. She took that as me calling her fat and would never let me live it down. Despite that I still complimented her, called her beautiful, sexy and tried to make her feel attractive. In the end she said I couldn't meet her emot…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 02:06 AM
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Doesn't it suck that they only give a shit about getting back in shape once it's all over. Is what it is though. The longer I go through this divorce process the more disgusting she becomes.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 09:52 AM
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This is me right now. Well said.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 09:48 AM
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Do it!
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 10:10 AM
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Glad it's finally over for you and that you're in a better place. I just started the process a month ago and I'm looking forward to that light at the end of the tunnel. Posts like this make me look forward to better times, so thank you for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 10:03 AM
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Damn, this was on point.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 01:11 AM
3

Definitely needed this today. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 08:46 AM
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