ToxicElitist Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Do you still keep your ex pictures together? When my ex filed the pfa against me for calling her out for gaslighting me... I deleted every picture of her/us.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/26 11:57 AM
9	How soon is ‘too soon’ to start ‘exploits’ after telling your husband you no longer wish to be married to him? She is probably trying to get you to do something stupid so she can get whatever she wants in court. If you have kids then check up on the silver bullet method of divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/26 06:19 AM
2	Child Support Reality I mean they both make 6 figs and the lawyer probably used the state calculator to come up with the numbers. Why would you tell him to go to trial when you don't trust his attorney.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/26 05:15 AM
8	Wife Says She Doesn’t Know If She Wants the Marriage, Says Nothing Has Changed After a Month. How Long Do I Wait? Go get a lawyer now. No need to wait. She told you. You found proof she is done. Sounds like you actually lost your wife before the wedding honestly. You were just available and her coworker wasnt. You were the safer option. She is taking zero accountability and blaming you for everything. She resents you for what. Seems like you just existing. She resents you for before you were married. Its. Just ways to make herself feel better for. Ruining the marriage.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/26 09:20 PM
6	Ex-wife's boyfriend causing problems. Don't hit him. He wants that. This might sound paranoid but it could be a plan to make you lose custody. Try to get you to lose your temper and then take it to court and boom you lost your kids. Just respect the boundary if she is dating a POS like this don't worry he will eventually do something that will give you some leverage to possibly take your kids away from her.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/26 08:10 AM
1	Good experience with female lawyers? Yeah there is definitely some unresolved trauma. Anybody going through this... Just know it is possible to beat it. Just stay positive and you aren't alone.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/26 05:29 AM
1	Good experience with female lawyers? No. It ruined my job. We worked in the same building and she wouldn't negotiate at all about that during the initial mediation. She is now acting like nothing happened and I shouldnt be upset about her wanting to try and get me in private spots... Like her trying to get me to drop offs and stuff and the house. Everything in public. Everything. She has already tried to make up more stuff. Dude these women can be insane.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/06/26 04:32 PM
2	"Look at this painting mom painted for Dad." Growing up my step mom made sure my sister and I never called her mom. It was always her first name. I would never let my son call my partner mom. Some people like to use the child to stab and twist the knife. I'm sorry you gotta deal with that bro.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/06/26 07:35 PM
8	Good experience with female lawyers? Yo my lawyer is a woman. She destroyed my ex in the PFA hearing. Straight up eviscerated. It was pretty magical. I am one of those lucky few who beat the silver bullet. I would recommend my lawyer to any man going through divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/06/26 07:21 PM
5	Mediator is suggesting that I accept 6.8% from the total marital estate. You have the answer. In another comment when you mentioned the "her notes" when referring to the mediators notes. She saw the false allegations and lost any sort of objectivity. It's going to happen with other things too. Get a good attorney. In the name of Mr Biggs. "take that shit to trial"	/r/Divorce_Men	08/06/26 07:17 PM
3	Mediator is suggesting that I accept 6.8% from the total marital estate. Dude me too man... Get a good attorney and take that woman to the cleaners. That mediator should be barred from working.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/06/26 07:14 PM
4	Is marriage dead ? No purpose for marriage but having a partner is nice. If you can find that one that provides a place of peace in exchange for a feeling of safety. You don't want one you have to support. You want one that is cool with you staying up to do whatever with your guy friends if you want and doesn't make you feel guilty about it Or lets you lay on the couch and scratch your head after a long day of work. Or lets you make her dinner and doesn't instantly criticize the meal. One that doesn't do a ton of …	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 08:56 PM
3	Breadwinner Wife Get a lawyer. You got a good shot at alimony and child support. That is what it is for... So that the kids keep a standard of living between parents when 1 is drastically less well off than the other.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/26 02:05 PM
8	Handling Ex Contact Yes it's manipulation. My ex did this with my parents. Its to try and turn people to "her side". Thank God you don't have kids. Until your ex finds someone else to provide her constant emotional attention you are stuck. She will keep doing this. Probably going to start sending emails to you. Just be you and stop reacting at all. That smear campaign is rough and designed to further her victim mentality. She sounds like she would have hit you with that silver bullet if you did have kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/06/26 05:27 PM
7	Ex proudly claims life is so much easier / better now She knows it bothers you and says it to do so. Just assume she's miserable and wants you to be miserable too.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/06/26 04:52 PM
4	Crazy number? There are calculators for each state. Use that	/r/Divorce_Men	01/06/26 05:34 AM