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Tramelo/r/ExRedPill26/03/20 11:16 PM
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Same, but I feel obliged to work with my hair while I still have it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:27 AM
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The only way I can see myself dating or socializing is by not being myself. That has to be the premise, because I would have to do things that feel unnatural to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:57 PM
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What does meditation do for you that you can't get from working out, reading or doing a hobby?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 02:27 PM
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At this point I should pretend to be a woman and sell AI content
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:50 PM
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What age do men tend to be most physically attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 11:38 AM
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Being fat shamed was the best thing that happened to my fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 09:04 AM
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I used to feel exactly the same for not being able to parallel park. The feeling went away when I realized that it was literally just about practicing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:45 AM
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It's hard to draw the line between improving social skills and masking (not being yourself, so not sustainable).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 08:31 PM
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What is that? Someone who makes people feel worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 10:46 AM
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Agree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 05:29 PM
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Fat shaming was one of the best things that happened to me. Fueled me with insane motivation until I got into the habit of exercising everyday and eating healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:12 AM
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Giraffecel
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 07:50 PM
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Do you feel life has been unfair to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:48 PM
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Are there actual exercises you can do for your facial attractiveness? (Other than reducing bf)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:25 PM
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Yeah I guess it's worth the hassle
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:47 PM
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Influencers should start making motivational videos of cleaning instead of working out. Exercising everyday is easy, but cleaning... I fucking hate cleaning
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:40 PM
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As a classical pianist...yeah I do
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:45 PM
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This is chubby?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 08:38 PM
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Imo the big problem with being autistic is not just a lack of social skills. Those can be learned. The problem is being too different from others and not fitting in anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 07:54 AM
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Ring pushups are the only ones I do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:21 PM
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I'm italian, the only girls I kissed weren't italian
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:26 PM
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Smoked salmon is the best thing in existence
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:06 AM
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If you want something different: Gorecki symphony no.3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:25 PM
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Fat shaming has worked great for me. It pushed me to seriously diet and exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:22 AM
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It seems that low bodyfat trumps everything else looks wise, unless you look very malnourished. Low bodyfat with no muscles > overweight with muscles
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:06 PM
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Yeah I actually have a master's degree in piano and give lessons
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:35 AM
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Perfect pitch, can play piano easily by ear... but I can also read music very well and learn hard pieces
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:22 PM
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I don't know what it is about women, a little dirt and next thing you know they have a dustpan and broom and are cleaning. I can never compare myself to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 02:26 AM
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If not approach you, she will at least drop you indicators of interest. That's why I believe the saying that women do the choosing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 10:24 AM
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I don't like the term social skills. I think social adaptation is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 11:02 PM
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I've heard some red pill gurus say that women will start fights just because they're bored, or they want to shit test men. Don't know if true or bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 09:29 AM
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oot
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 07:57 PM
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That singer should just find a teaching job, or sing in cover bands
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:37 AM
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But at least playing them will ensure you a wealthy income /s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:35 AM
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I can't believe that many years ago I had a random girl from my university hit on me online and I did nothing about it. Jfc, autism and insecurity really fucks you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:18 PM
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In Italy we have a great culture of songwriters
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:06 PM
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Shoot your shot
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:47 PM
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Seems like maturity isn't a requirement for getting a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:04 AM
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Never been in a relationship. Do women actually do that thing where they ask you if you'd still love them if they were a worm? Or is it just an internet meme?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:05 PM
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Romantic love is something that I just don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:44 AM
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Refreshing point of view, I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 11:04 AM
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Depends on what you mean by self improvement
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:37 PM
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I only found out who she was a few weeks ago, she is gorgeous
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:05 PM
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I like him
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:04 PM
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Sleep
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 07:59 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 01:12 AM
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I habituated after a month of panic, now it doesn't bother me as much but I'm still hoping that it goes away in the future
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 01:12 AM
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Man I have a huge list of reasons, but I'll try to sum it up. He was adopted at 5, and presumably because of that he saw the bad in everyone. He would start fights with people for silly reasons (like smiling at him, or turning their backs to him). Then he would try and convince me that people in general are bad, arrogant, self centered. Going out with him was stressful. He approached girls and didn't know when to take no for an answer (he got kicked out of the gym because of this). I believe he …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 01:10 AM
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Some highlights from 2023: - Bought a bicycle and started riding - Made one friendship which I decided to end - Tinnitus from headphones usage - Master's degree in piano
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 12:26 AM
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Lmao then everyone just gives up on their new year resolution
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 11:38 PM
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Could be worse, his hair could be sticking out at the sides
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:37 AM
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I thought about that too. I would really like a book with chapters and stuff, something that guides you and gets progressively harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:50 PM
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The Raimi Spider-man movies were great, but I can't take these new superhero movies seriously. Too many jokes and plot holes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 10:43 PM
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For those who believe there's someone out there for everyone. Are we talking about someone who likes you without it being reciprocate, or do you also like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 10:41 PM
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I'm literally living my life without worrying about dating
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:52 AM
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Literally every professor in my conservatory (music uni) is married to another professor or musician. Goes to show just how much compatibility matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 06:57 PM
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He was just missing that one piece of the puzzle that a random stranger gave him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:11 PM
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I thought about this too and I think I agree. As long as the relationship is bearable, maybe it's better to have company.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 08:59 PM
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Yeah, I feel that would only be acceptable if you were also ugly, otherwise it's showing everyone how low value you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 07:52 PM
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How do you go about dating someone you're not attracted to? Do you just force it during the first period, then with time you get habituated to their ugliness until you find them ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 12:54 AM
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To one day find the magical answer that will solve my problems
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:53 PM
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Approach minors at the gym. Make them feel harassed to the point that they ask the gym coach for help. Go out at night, find the girl you were harassing at the gym and talk to her for one hour, telling her that you are sorry that she misinterpreted your actions and that there's a connection between you two because you both like art.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:58 PM
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Looks wise he's meh to me but I could see him fitting someone's niche, also he has status and is insanely skilled at the piano. Is it his looks that you're into? Or the fact that he plays the piano? Do you assess your level of attractiveness based on how good someone can play the piano? What if someone play the piano not as good as him but they are conventionally better looking? What if they play keyboards in a band?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:27 PM
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If I had to say what my biggest struggle is socially, I never know what the hell to talk about. I feel like I lack information about what most people talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 08:41 PM
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I get that some people are amputees or have diseases, but unless that's the case, wouldn't you have a better life by dieting and exercising rather than preaching body positivity? That seems easier to do compared to fooling yourself into believing that being obese is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 10:45 PM
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What could be the female equivalent of a man who opens up emotionally to a woman (e.g. crying)?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:47 PM
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Everyone blames social skills but nobody looks at the reason why autists lack social skills. It's because we're fundamentally different people who like doing different things. So even if we learn social skills, we will struggle connecting with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 08:00 PM
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Underrated trinity...looks, money and status can help, but that is the engine
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:39 AM
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I don't think you heal, you just find ways to live with it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:37 AM
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Plenty of fucking nutcases out there
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:03 PM
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I mean, my dad is neurotypical and I'm not
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:55 AM
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Damn this pill is blacker than a black hole
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:37 PM
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How do you explain men without legs getting girlfriends who aren't even ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 04:25 PM
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Is there going to be a self improvement thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:13 AM
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You're going to join da navy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:12 AM
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You can't do anything about it, so why don't worry
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 09:18 PM
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One of the things I feel stops me is if you approach too many women and get rejected, you start becoming known as "that guy". Especially if you live in a small town.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:38 PM
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I can understand working out, grooming, dressing better...but I have no idea how to become more charismatic, have social status, have cool friends. And unfortunately these last things seem very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 10:26 PM
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Feels good right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:31 AM
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What's the matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:17 AM
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Just saw a post about two conjoined twins who got married. This type of stuff makes me think that there really is someone for everyone and that inceldom is something self-imposed, that anyone can get a relationship if they fix their issues. Or maybe not, maybe they got lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 10:43 PM
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It seems that the thing that motivates me the most to improve is not wanting to be inferior to others
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 08:54 PM
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A friend of mine left the gym because he was accused of harassing a particular girl (this girl felt unsafe and talked to the gym instructor). He told me, and he seemed very genuine, that he just wanted to socialize and was just being friendly. Then one saturday night we met that girl with a friend of hers, he approached her and spent one hour saying that he was sorry, that he is very extroverted and was just trying to be friendly, that he did not expect her to react like that, that he thought th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:16 AM
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I have a friend in his 30s who doesn't have a job or money, isn't good looking, doesn't have charisma, and thought he had a chance with a 20 year old hot bartender. I guess shooters gonna shoot and he chose to play that lottery ticket anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:53 AM
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Would a therapist or someone working in the field of psychology be expected to have some life experience? Particularly, would he be expected to have had past relationships and not be an incel?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:03 AM
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I have experienced that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:18 PM
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He said he at least received some positive feedback from latina women online, but for the rest he's always been rejected. I would say he's a bit ugly, but how am I to judge. Thing is, we live in a small town in Italy. You always see the same people when you hang out. Imo it's a numbers game and there just aren't enough numbers. I presume it would be much different if we lived in a big city. It would be more acceptable to not have a preexisting group of friends and there would be more people to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:23 AM
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Nothing to do with internet culture. He just doesn't date and doesn't get laid (like me). If I had to give a reason, I'd say because he's latino, not so great looking, and has had a difficult past. Whereas me, I'm super insecure and avoidant. We both hang out together in our small town, and meeting new people (be it friends or dating candidates) seems extremely hard because everyone wants to hang out with their preexisting group of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:10 AM
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I was with a friend and told him "Oh that girl used to take piano lessons from me. And that other one too". He said "Why don't you go talk to them?" I didn't because I felt embarrassed. But also because I am just not used to approach people. He literally went and talked to them himself so that it would be easier for me to talk to them. Another time, while we were sitting at a bar, he told me "Since you like the bartender, why don't you at least make a joke when she comes here?" It made me realiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:03 AM
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It's crazy how many things you learn about yourself hanging out with other people. I didn't know I was that shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 03:36 AM
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When I die I hope to be reincarnated in a universe where resting on a woman and be caressed is a feasible thing for me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 02:07 AM
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Yeah I thought about this too, I just don't understand obese women. Looks are your most important feature, just diet and exercise and your attractiveness will skyrocket. Imagine if men could improve their charisma, status or financial situation as easily as working out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:58 AM
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Peeing yourself in public
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 10:15 PM
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Because women only need looks for men to approach them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:10 PM
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I don't have social circle
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:48 PM
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I mean I want to experience what happens to myself if I don't nut for a month
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:48 PM
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Sounds at least 10 times more unhealthy than NNN
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:34 PM
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DDD has to be fake though, like, does anyone actually do it? 31 nuts in a single day?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:32 PM
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Fuck I regret finding out about NNN, but I still want to do it for the experience
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:27 PM
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It's harder to be happy with a redpill mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:09 PM
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Something I've noticed, musicians tend to marry other musicians. Literally ever music professor in my conservatory is married to another music professor
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:44 PM
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75% of my enjoyment of music is based on cool harmonic progressions and good melodies
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:29 PM
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I want to elaborate on what I wrote yesterday. It's like competitive pride motivates me to do stuff (especially working out), but it pushes me to hate people in general and now I see everyone and everything as competition. So yeah, I'll workout more, buy better clothes, jack off less, all so I can tell myself I am superior to those "stinky normies" (they are not, but my brain tells me that to motivate me, maybe I'm somewhat narc), but now I am less chill and more depressed thinking everyone is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 11:41 AM
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I also find myself trash talking and insulting people in my head. Like, thinking stuff "How dare that stinky bastard achieve that" and I don't even know the person and they never did me wrong. It's like someone said, it's not enough for me to succeed, others must fail
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 01:39 PM
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To me it's more like "other people shouldn't dare to be superior to me", which is why I suspect to be somewhat narcissist, or maybe it's just inferiority complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 10:50 AM
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Negative self talk is very good at motivating me to do stuff (like working out). Usually I tell myself that if I don't do a specific thing, then other people are superior to me because they're already doing it. But this way of thinking also makes me angry and depressed, and makes me compare myself more to others. It pushes me to see everyone as my enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 10:05 AM
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I've noticed that I can't be happy with a "redpill" mindset. By redpill, I mean telling myself things like men aren't loved unconditionally, most people are wolves in sheep clothes, nobody really cares about you but only about their agenda, stuff like that. Instead, I need to believe that people are at least chill, and despite being selfish they still care about you on a human level. One year I was deeply into Robert Green's books, and it was the year I was the most suicidal. But maybe the redpi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 09:53 AM
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Oh, I just realized I made a typo. I meant "not dying alone"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:07 PM
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“figuring out what’s really important to them” Like not doing alone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:00 PM
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This is probably an autistic question, but when you find someone who has less than 50% of the qualities you were looking for, do you have to "fake" being more interested than you actually are?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 11:27 AM
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Is "settling* actually a thing? How can you be with someone and not genuinely desire them? I understand that some people decide it's better than being alone, but I assume the other person wants to at least feel "wanted"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 11:10 AM
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Regardless of whether you will have her?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:14 AM
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Sounds reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 04:09 PM
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The way I act with people irl is different than how I act somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:03 PM
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Yeah, I think it came from someone who was trying too hard to be a manly man. I personally don't play videogames even though I used to. Have you seen the new trailer for Tekken 8? Graphics are incredible. Makes me want to buy a PS5.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:59 AM
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The stereotypical idea I have of bisexual women is that you don't have to be masculine with them. They'll be ok to be the ones asking you out, driving you to places and you can be vulnerable to them (in general, it seems you have to do less work). So, if being a gamer means being less masculine, I can see why it's not a problem for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:56 AM
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One of the most boomer advice I had heard was to drop videogames completely to be more of a man and become more attractive to women. It didn't match what I was witnessing. I couldn't understand why so many men playing videogames had a girlfriend/wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:43 AM
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I'd fuck the tooth fairy, no question
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 03:00 PM
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There's nothing wrong with them, but NoFap and Cold Showers are two things that many people think are bullshit for self improvement. But maybe for some people they actually work
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:37 PM
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Serious?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:22 PM
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Srs?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:08 PM
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What if there's actually a subset of people for whom NoFap and cold showers significantly improve their life for misterious reasons? I guess the solution is to try and find out for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 12:33 PM
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How does a man get a fwb? Does he have to be much more attractive than her? Does he need exceptional social skills and so men in the asd are cut out? Does he have to live in a open-minded culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 12:08 PM
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Interesting perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:54 AM
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But this seems to be the experience of some people
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:49 AM
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Sometimes you see reddit posts or even rl situations that make you question everything that's taught here or in the coloured pills subs. It seems you can just be yourself, stop searching for love, and you'll find someone you'll want to be spend your life with. Is this survivorship bias? Or maybe the single greatest reason people don't find someone is because of some mental block or they need therapy or stuff like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:33 PM
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rip freddie mercury
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:27 PM
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I want to find an intelligent woman who says silly shit all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:26 PM
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If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. But those people in the room aren't gonna tell you, because they want you in that room.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:33 PM
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You harm kidneys right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 10:00 PM
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But I think it's not for everyone. I used to train soccer but was always the one who was yelled at by my teammates. At that point, it's much better for me to just lift or do an individual sport
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:23 PM
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Sport guys usually have more confidence and charisma than gym rats
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:10 PM
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While lifting weights is a great activity, I don't think it's that much of a landmark of masculinity like some men think. I'm talking about the ones who say "Men aren't masculine as they used to be! They need to hit the gym!" Honestly I consider activities like hunting or manual labours to be more stereotypically masculine. Not that it matters or that you should do shit that you don't want to do. It's just that I don't think lifting weights equals manliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 10:23 AM
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Women want to fix men but only the dark triads, not the nice guys or sensitive men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 12:56 PM
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As soon as I saw her, I just wasn't attracted to her
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 12:51 PM
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Sounds fair
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:12 PM
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My dad managed to find himself a partner living in a tiny village of 200 people. So Idk, either he got lucky or he thought that he had to do anything to get the only woman available Edit: not even 200 hundred, maybe more like 150
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 03:42 PM
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Or the Grinch...he is a true villain
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 04:08 PM
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At least try, that's what I plan to do
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 11:17 AM
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Mmh true that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 09:07 PM
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What type of people get in relationships that make you think "Damn, there really is hope for everyone?" Examples I can think of: People who have no limbs, people who are very obese, people who are short, bald and ugly, people who are in a wheelchair, people with weird fantasies (I saw a program where someone was acting like they were a horse or a unicorn or some shit like that, can't remember the name). If all these people are able to not be incels, then it seems that, as long as you can even sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:45 PM
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I agree, which is why that is one of the only things I am going to lie about
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:07 PM
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Not the very first time they meet you, if you are good looking
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:05 PM
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He said he's 18
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:52 AM
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Q4All, is this guy really that attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:33 AM
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I used to train Shotokan as a teen, it was good exercise but there were only kids in my gym and I felt like I wasn't really learning to fight (back when I was obsessed with becoming a fighter). Now I do bodyweight training and I am planning to buy a MTB and maybe start archery (it's the only interesting activity they do in my small town)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:27 PM
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You sound like me, one of my biggest dreams was to do combat sports but it stopped being one when I found out about brain damage. I assume working the pads and bag is still great cardio, but then I wonder if it would be best to dedicate to another activity in which you can actually go all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:43 PM
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Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 07:27 PM
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Opinions on Player Supreme (aka The Real Mens Channel)?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:53 PM
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Favourite pizza topping?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:33 PM
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Yes. That's one of the only things I would lie about and even a therapist I was seeing recommended me to lie, saying "In general, you should never let people know that you are a loser". There's a saying, "Trusting is good, not trusting is better". Maybe someone will not mind that you are a virgin, but I don't want to run the risk. I could always say that I met one girl in the past who really fancied me, approached me and did everything herself, she was drunk etc... some shit like that, it doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:57 AM
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Looks open the door but being neurotypical is what will make women give you sexual gratification and companionship
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:34 AM
2

based
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:58 PM
0

What? I'm just asking a question
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:18 AM
1

Which of these two men would be considered most attractive by the majority of women? 1) Has lifted for 6 months, but has low bodyfat, hollow cheeks and 6 pack 2) Has lifted for 5 years, but is slightly overweight, his belly sticks out just a little further than his chest
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:15 AM
1

Let's say 5'9 and an 8/10 face
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 05:16 PM
2

In a man, is low bodyfat percentage more important than having muscles? Low bodyfat with hollow cheeks and visible abs > 5 years of lifting, but dad bod
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 05:08 PM
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I had a passion for combat sports but it faded when I found out how hard they are on the body, especially with brain damage, and if you want to learn to fight you necessarily need to fight/spar and that means getting punched in the head. Also I don't care how good you think you can fight, you should never fight against a knife
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:05 PM
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Any autistic men who mask hard and have success because of it? Do you recommend masking?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:55 PM
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Do I really have to do the fight thing? I am not getting in a fight anytime soon, avoiding it is always the best option
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:54 PM
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I get what you're saying, as a man who's likely in the spectrum reading these comments isn't too fun, but I try to remind myself that "autistic" is a very wide spectrum and I might be completely different from some of the men described. Also this is a place for discussion, so you can't really except people to refrain from saying what they think
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:06 PM
6

I work as a bartender and whenever I got hit on by a gay man I'd act especially autistic to fend off his advances, they were almost unbothered by it and still down to fuck. Not women tho, they were outta there asap. This is because men, in general, are attracted to looks, whether they are homosexual or heterosexual
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 09:37 PM
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How do you define success?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:09 PM
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Is confidence half nature and half nurture?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:49 PM
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Yeah this. I thought I had become more confident when I started getting mad at people teasing me, instead of being quiet. Turns out that the most confident thing you can do is not think much of jokes and teasing. But then, if you're always the only one who's being the butt of a joke... that's a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:49 PM
1

Yeah I wrote it poorly. Men get 20 lbs fatter. How is he perceived by women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:55 PM
1

For men, does getting 20 lbs fatter make a significant difference in attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:50 PM
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Because they will pop up in conversations and I won't know about them and people will act shocked and I will feel inferior to them. Why can't I be the one who calls them out about something they don't know, instead of the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:31 PM
1

I'm either lazy af or lack multitasking
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:03 PM
1

Being yourself sometimes is not okay. For instance, I haven't read a full book in years. I can cook a couple dishes but not as many as I should. I don't know the main artists/musicians of my country , I don't follow the news. This is what happens if I act like myself but it's not okay, so I should force myself to do all of these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 12:53 PM
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That I remained alone, and I am more insecure to go out alone (might be a cultural thing as well). If I could give my younger self any advice it would be to do everything you can to have some social circle, even if you don't necessarily like the people, because it will make going out much much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 12:36 PM
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Based comment
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:50 PM
1

Same bro
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:14 PM
2

Yeah it's a generalization, but I thought I could purge here
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:56 PM
3

All these people who are incels in their late 20s and are not ugly are clearly in the autism spectrum and nobody seems to realize
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:52 PM
1

Usually what happens the vast majority of time, I will feel panic and need to go for the first ten minutes, then it will pass, and I won't even need to go later. I believe there's a psycophysical mechanism that makes me wanna pee if I know I can't pee, or it will be socially unacceptable to pee. When I first developed this issue, it was mainly physical. It healed a bit, but stayed. Suppose I were to do a trip on a bus with a bathroom in it. I'd feel 100% comfortable, and most likely I would only…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:08 AM
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Usually I need to pee when it's cold and when I'm anxious. I have zero pain, I don't go at night. All those times when peeing would be seen as socially unacceptable, that's when I suffer the most: for instance, in a bus, at the dentist, while performing (I am a musician) and it doesn't go away even after I release. I think it's a psycophysical condition. I even were a diaper for some things because it makes me feel secure, I never actually wet it lol and I would still leave and find a bathroom i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:18 PM
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Curing my urinary urgency (hypertonic pelvic floor) Becoming less socially anxious and more confident Increasing my social and communication skills to the utmost Getting in some social circle Finding as many opportunities as possible to approach women Developing a solid habit of cleaning Doing everything I can so I can be 100% sure I don't stink Learning how to cook Doing many interesting things so I have more to talk about Not being ignorant af idk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:42 PM
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Considering the effort and time it takes to build a good physique naturally, I'd say being "too muscular" is a non existent problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:34 PM
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Do individual sports or martial arts do anything to make you more attractive? Say, compared to lifting weights
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 09:44 PM
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Judging by the way some of them speak to me, no, they never struggled seriously, otherwise they would give me a good strategy of what they did in order to improve. Instead their advice is something along the lines of go out, learn to deal with situations and talk to people, join the gym to meet people, you need to get wasted/drunk... When I say that I am scared of going out and meeting people from my past, nobody understands. When I go out, I usually end up feeling like worse. I got wasted sever…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:53 AM
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Rejection will evoke feelings of shame, which will be painful
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:21 PM
2

So are you saying therapy doesn't work? Do you want to explain why?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:19 PM
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Lmao, but seriously many people said they benefited from it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:08 PM
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Even though taking a shower does make you feel better, it's such a quick and superficial fix that doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of deeper problems you need to work on, even if it's a cold shower.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 09:20 PM
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🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 09:18 PM
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I find it spooky how a normie just can't relate to an incel or someone with mental issues. Sometimes they give completely useless advice that would only work on someone who wouldn't need it to being with. Goes to show how much they have never struggled in that area. Sometimes they say reasonable things, like when they advise you to go to therapy, which is what I am going to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 09:00 PM
1

I don't think the keytar takes any additional skill if you can play the keyboard. But doesn't it look a bit cringy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:03 PM
3

What about keyboard players?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:24 PM
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Browsing this place looking for dating advice is like reading books or articles on how to learn the piano, coming up with theories, but never actually touching the instrument (which is literally the only thing that's gonna make you good at it). Does this comparison make any sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 09:59 AM
1

But still, there are people who find someone later in life
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:04 PM
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🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:49 PM
2

Nah, you still have to be interesting to some degree
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:47 PM
2

So what is the best course of action for these men to take?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:37 PM
1

But those platonic interactions open doors for meeting potential partners and just going out in general. What can you do if you have no friends? Go out by yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:58 PM
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Is dating and relationship a secondary step to being able to have conversations with people and make friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:16 PM
3

You prefer child rapists to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:08 PM
1

If you laugh you are a bad person
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 04:49 PM
1

Might be true, but not a good reason to feel shitty about them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 04:33 PM
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Do they not? I mean, it happened to me twice. Is it really not that big of a deal? Do people not change the perception they have of you? enlighten this poor autist
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:39 PM
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Whenever virgins ask questions like: "What should I say when people ask about my sexual past?" Everyone answers that you're not obliged to tell people anything, or you can say that you're not comfortable talking about your sexual past. Imo if you answer like that, you're straight up telling people that you're a virgin. Otherwise, why hide it? Who would hide the fact they are not a virgin? Plus, people will want to dig and find out if you're actually a virgin or not. These things naturally come u…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:29 PM
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I don't know, pistol squats and (well executed) pull ups are freaking hard for me. I could probably train a good couple of years or more before they become easy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:21 PM
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I only want to pay for one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:09 PM
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Do calisthenics at home and join a Muay Thai gym or just join a weightlifting gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:58 PM
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Yes, but steps towards what? Sometimes I even have trouble figuring out what people are talking about, and even if I do I wouldn't contribute much because I lack information and experience on the topic. It all seems too complex unlike bulding muscle, which is as easy as workout and eat right
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:42 PM
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I just wish there was a surefire way to improve social skills and charisma as an autist, but it seems so dependent on your brain wiring and your past experiences. I am always the least talkative one in any group.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:58 PM
1

Damn am I early
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:01 AM
0

So if you feel you have nothing in common with anyone, should you, how can I say it...let your dick dry?
/r/ExRedPill24/05/22 12:50 PM
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There are people who don't have the natural capacity to learn some things intuitively
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 03:59 PM
1

I did
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 10:28 PM
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I attended group acting/drama/theatre classes for some one-two years as a hobby, but I got a bit fed up in the end. When you learn a musical instrument or begin a new sport, you can feel that you're getting progressively better at that. Maybe you're learning to play harder pieces on an instrument, or you're improving your technique and agility at a sport. With acting classes it's hard to pinpoint what you're getting better at and in the end it doesn't feel as rewarding.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 09:03 PM
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I have a huge inferiority complex that seems to be triggered everytime I interact with another human being. It's like literally anyone knows more things than me, can do more things than me, has more life experiences. Is the only solution for me to make some time everyday to always study and learn new things, the same way a school student would? Other people don't have to do this because they are already good as they are, but maybe I should do it. But shit, that would be a time vampire
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:54 AM
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I think it could also be that the internet collects together all the "1 in a 1000 people" who are bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:42 AM
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I've just read a post about a guy looking up a girl's interest on social media, becoming knowledgeable about them and managing to get a date because of it (supposedly because of it). Many people in the comments said it was a bad move, that he should have been himself and that he should gradually start to show his true self. The guy had trouble getting dates, he took action and did something that worked. Plus he also learned something new. It may not last, or maybe yes. Everyone is quick to devel…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 07:05 AM
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I agree with what you said except when you said it's not that hard. For who? Everyone is different and has different levels of looks, social skills, charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 11:02 AM
1

Woah buddy, quit drilling, you already struck oil! (As in suicide fuel)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:29 PM
1

Wdym by neurotypical social skills? Is there such thing as neurodiverse social skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:01 PM
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With neurotypical referring to the idea of a properly socialized person. It goes deeper than that, neurotypical and neurodiverse are about your brain wiring, but yeah, that will generally lead the NT to have much more social skills and experience. But other than that I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:48 AM
1

I guess you could take rests here and there and not be too much fake to the point where it drains you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 11:05 AM
3

Is it worth it to not be yourself in dating and relationships? By not being yourself, I mean things like pretending to be a little more asshole than you are to attract women (but not so much that the mask falls off), giving fake compliments to people or liking their stuff on social media, just so they think they are important to you and they will like you more. Pretending to be interested in their hobbies. Forcing yourself to be knowledgeable about things you don't care that much, so you have mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 10:26 AM
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In couples who share the same passion/profession (for Instance, they are both musicians or actors) is the man usually better or more skilled than the woman? I seem to be noticing that pattern but I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:12 PM
2

That what I thought, because that's where it's REALLY necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 12:40 PM
1

I'm curious if anyone here acts or has acted in a way they would describe as "not being themselves" and has gotten positive results. Would you say it's worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 12:28 PM
1

Which came first, virginity or low self-esteem?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:04 PM
2

I don't think being a fighter has much to do with it, unless a woman herself has a passion for that type of stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:01 AM
1

I disagree. If you can't be yourself, what the hell can you be? What can work? Wearing a mask? Happy you if you can manage to pretend being someone else, but for me it's unthinkable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:42 PM
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What pisses me off about this is that then in real life you see people in happy relationships who do the complete opposite. Only on the internet they teach you this bull crap
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 07:25 AM
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Even if that was true (and it isn't)... So what? So what are you going to do if I am an effeminate man? Because I really couldn't care less and I don't live my life trying to prove everything I do is "manly"
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 08:05 AM
1

How do you define incels in your post?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:19 PM
1

No, but if someone were to ask me I would lie about it for the sake of my mental health (no need to send the next ten minutes talking about it). And, if saying the truth, someone were to shame me, that would be that time I deal with them
/r/ExRedPill28/12/21 10:00 AM
3

Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 02:30 PM
4

The worst one I ever read is plates. Jesus, they're human beings
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 09:52 PM
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That is my dream, teaching piano. I already do in a private school but it's part time and half a year. Not sure if I'll ever be able to get a stable job with it
/r/ExRedPill08/09/21 12:34 AM
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Even close family members will take some kind of distance from you if you act too whiny. It's a bit unfortunate because life can be really hard for some people.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/21 12:25 AM
4

This is interesting. I was wondering whether or not I could manage teaching music in middle school, but my fear is that the kids will eat me alive and that I can't do anything about it because that's my personality.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/21 12:22 AM
1

I need to adopt this mindset and make myself more attracted to fat women. Who gives a shit if she looks ugly, you can suck her big tits and she can suck your dick. But how? Increasing testosterone by working out? Masturbating less?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 11:20 PM
1

Do you know a way to make yourself more attracted to less attractive women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 11:10 PM
4

In other words, they are offensively normal and well functioning human beings
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:06 PM
3

It's PPD reddit. FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 08:36 PM
0

I agree, I posted on r/unpopularopinions two years ago saying that there's much more you can do to change your looks that you can do to change your personality. It seems that personality pretty much depends on your genetics, your brain wiring, and how you experienced the first years of your life. You can probably learn social skills and language, but can you really change the core of who you are? I don't known. And don't bring up things related to masking because, well, that's just masking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 08:00 AM
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I wish I had found resources on how to grow as a person instead of some weirdo's opinions on how to attract gjrls or become an "alpha male" bullshit. Nonsense. I just needed a school of life.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/20 11:43 AM
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I don't know how they are ok with calling another human being "plate", what the hell
/r/ExRedPill03/11/20 06:15 PM
2

I mean, I could pet my cat the whole day and he would let me, it's just I have things to do.
/r/ExRedPill15/10/20 10:15 AM
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But the real question is how many women simply wont want to deal with you for having never dated? Edit: Downvotes for a harmless question? Stick them up your asses.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/20 10:51 AM
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I'm interested in this too (25 y.o.)
/r/ExRedPill07/09/20 10:01 AM
2

Yes but OP doesn't seem to be shaming on virgins
/r/ExRedPill29/08/20 09:11 AM
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Every normal guy I met has female friends, it's only on the Internet where I see people saying it's effeminate or beta or whatever
/r/ExRedPill28/07/20 03:27 PM
9

I have never actually been into redpill stuff, it never really convinced me. Why do they think so negatively about women? I have 0 experience with women but I had some interesting and friendly conversations with them. I found out they are cool people and they care about you. But I could be wrong, afterall I'm aspie and probably somewhat asexual..
/r/ExRedPill06/07/20 04:32 PM
5

So far, Rom Wills is the best one I have found
/r/ExRedPill29/01/20 06:07 PM
2

Eh, I'd say at least a year of calisthenics
/r/askTRP15/01/20 08:38 PM
15

Mother Theredpill
/r/askTRP01/01/20 12:20 PM
1

Non ci credo, li mortacci de Cristo dei sandali della stella cometa di Gesù cristo della paglia del bambinello
/r/askTRP22/12/19 02:15 PM
1

Porno Dio? AHAHAHAHAHAH
/r/askTRP21/12/19 11:37 AM
3

AMS, Player Supreme, Rom Wills are some of people I watch
/r/askTRP29/09/19 03:13 PM
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Just lift bro
/r/askTRP28/09/19 10:15 PM
1

Call it spending time together
/r/askTRP15/09/19 12:11 PM
1

How does she already know?
/r/askTRP15/09/19 12:04 PM
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"When i walked out, she had peed herself"
/r/askTRP28/06/19 10:46 AM
1

I don't see how being a stereotypical retard would have benefited him
/r/seduction26/06/19 12:20 PM
1

Damn, that's good advice
/r/askTRP26/04/19 03:31 PM
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