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| 2 | "Liberal feminism" subsidizes extremism, claiming that feminism wants equality is fraudulent, and if you associate all men with violence, you are hypocriticalYes, this is the case for hyper-capitalist Neoliberal sects of Feminism which go hand with increasing socio-cultural hypergamy-inflation, stronger enforcement of traditional gender roles onto men despite they are disadvantaged at pursuing education/career compared to women-only scholarships and DEI. These specific sects of Feminists are not true Egalitarianists to associate oneself with instead. The M&M analogy being inspired by WW2 Germany rhetoric is unacceptable for Modern day extremist Fourt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/26 12:34 PM |
| 1 | 🔵BP/Feminism pushes for equality in all aspects of society, EXCEPT dating, (where it arguably matters the most), shows that its destructive for societyBecause they are still the highest earners. This data is changing real time. Fair enough, I stand corrected. In the logic of this sub, it is biology disadvantaging men whereas society has, at least until very, very recently, very much advantaged men by imposing heteronormative pair bonding with male dominance physically, religiously, and legally imposed. I don’t agree with those people on this sub, but I do agree with some of them that the pendulum has swung too far the other way in some aspects… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/26 12:41 AM |
| 1 | 🔵BP/Feminism pushes for equality in all aspects of society, EXCEPT dating, (where it arguably matters the most), shows that its destructive for societyYep, the fight for equality is inevitably linked to one’s dating success. There’s plenty of privileged western women growing up who are born in car/city-centric Metropolitans, women scholarships and DEI and expect men to overcome every disadvantage and still succeed and earn higher than her, and Capitalism has also inevitably raised the bar higher for any average man to have to work harder than in the past to be appealing to the average woman. Men are the net highest tax payers and have to conti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/26 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Sex is a reward (and men know it)Disagree, I’m gender non-conforming, but even if I wasn’t, advise healthy values of sex to be a form of mutual affection and bonding. The desire gap between men and women will always be the case, and the man adapting to mutual minimal satisfactory intimate acts and frequency is the ideal to strive for, rather than sex being used as a reward that often results in objectification and lack of mutuality for the woman and men not feeling appreciated by her mutual attraction and affections in return. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 02:08 PM |
| 1 | I think men are gonna have more standards placed in them as time goes on and it will just break them and most people don't notice it.This is already looking to be with the case, with the 45% of Gen Z men who haven’t approached a woman, and the more recent online dating stats indicate that they have every reason to believe that the standards are too unrealistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 04:58 AM |
| 22 | SwipeStats data from 2026 demonstrates that Hinge is mathematically non-viable for the average male userAdding onto your point, even the culturally Normie men are pointing this out more and more to women who are used by the top 20% men, on the dating advice and dating app subreddits, but such talk is ban-worthy on r\dating for being “Inkcel content”. Normie subculture keeps trying to downplay and mislead about what’s becoming increasingly obvious based on real data. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Do women have safe space to have "honest conversations" about attraction?Fémcels on Reddit do, because official policy is that Caucasian men cannot be discriminated against, and the ones that espouse sexism against men are allowed to remain up and active, while the Inkcel equivalents are taken down (quick example: SikeOrPsyche while it’s Fémcel equivalent which occasionally posts sexist meme content against men PsycheOrSike remains up). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 05:04 PM |
| 1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThe patriarchy caused Compulsive heterosexual subcultures and media even for recent generations, worsened by Covid, social media and dating app addiction, etc. to support the women who are Bisexual, have low attraction to men, Demi-romantic/sexual, Lesbian, Asexual, Aromantic, Trans/Non-Binary, etc. to discover so for themselves before accidentally taking out any confusions or frustrations of low and/or no attraction to the caring male friends they attempt to date, discussing and moving forward … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 12:26 AM |
| 1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI am a part of several statistical minority groups, including LGBT and Autistic, but perhaps even if I wasn’t, perhaps would have chosen and preferred as a gender non-conforming male anyway. I’m likely compatible with a 1% or less of Bisexual and/or Neurodivergent women globally including my own country, and so I socialise with any women, most likely straight or not, platonically community friendly as a heteronormative socialising Bi male, first to discover their personality, but am physically a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 12:07 AM |
| 1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADIndeed, Dick size as a looks topic is always too subjective and vulnerable to leading to misunderstanding debate topics between users. And focus on the utility of its functions in the sexual health topics, and same with regards to the woman’s genital topics, all egalitarian, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 12:02 AM |
| – | Q4W: Why do doctors and medical staff take women’s ailments less seriously?While many western men anecdotally report doctors rushing and ignoring their medical needs being under-reported, it is still statistically highest for women especially due to law changes in certain U.S states, etc., due to sexist wilful ignorance of providing care to the woman and breaking the Hippocratic oath, or due to the costs of the Medical and Insurance systems, etc. We need to advocate for healthily egalitarian societies and voting and protesting to, which of our personal western governme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 11:47 PM |
| – | It's not a hot take to say that most women (doesn't matter if they conservative or liberal) don't like pegging, feminine men, or bisexual men.Women on Reddit are more likely to be Queer themselves and/or Neurodivergent (especially here on PPD). A lot of the time it isn’t intentional gaslighting but apparently wilful ignorance. I see many Queer/ND women give dating advice to heteronormative men as if they aren’t the exceptions that prove the rule, and even here I’ve had to tell at least three Queer/ND women that they are significantly more likely to be attracted to average-looking men and feminine traits in men (and empathise with aver… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 04:01 PM |
| – | It's not a hot take to say that most women (doesn't matter if they conservative or liberal) don't like pegging, feminine men, or bisexual men.Nah, we do seem to prefer dating other Bi folk, both due to Biphobia being common amongst straight and gay people even after entering a relationship with them, due to straight people being more likely to be heteronormative regarding gender roles, due to other Bi people understanding what it feels like, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Basing off the 80/20 theory- for those of you in the 80% would you rather not have sex or be alone?Why does this topic come up so much? Because it is incredibly common for women to settle for men they have low/no attraction to and they’d still be satisfied with such a relationship (but I assume you already know this). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Basing off the 80/20 theory- for those of you in the 80% would you rather not have sex or be alone?I’m fine with dating an Asexual person, but I’d want even them to be mutually aesthetically attracted to me and willing to engage in the chore of sex with me once a month out of their love and commitment. You haven’t been answering if she would have had sex with other men and if she is physically attracted to you or not. Those things do matter to most men, including myself, since if she was attracted to and had sex with other people then I wouldn’t be with her if she doesn’t want to with me (and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 03:27 PM |
| 4 | Men not approaching: Why Self-Respect is the Ultimate "Win"Well it appears to be the cherry on top for most women, due to the desire gap, and even OP agrees with this, because he’s posted on the /WomenAreNotIntoMen subreddit. But yes, men may have evolved differently to much more strongly desire romantic relationships including due to finding romantic fulfilment through sex, and now also have to evolve to have a much lower interest in women now that much less of them want to pair-up with their freedom. It would have been nice to evolve into a species wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 02:50 PM |
| 7 | Would you leave this woman?Irregardless of it being the anal sex example or any other example for a reason, and she enjoyed it due to an understandable body difference, that is still at least equal in attraction towards me, and fulfilled equally as much in different manners instead, then I would remain with such a woman. I am Monogamous and this would also counts for people capable of both Poly- and Monogamy who enjoyed different past sexual partners in equal but different manners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 11:43 PM |
| 1 | The manospheres biggest lieI agree. The gender role for men has certainly shifted: now many women who were dishonest that men could do anything to change themselves to become appealing enough to women, are taking the mask-off that they were never attracted to the majority of men, these men could have never become appealing, it was an unrealistic pipe-dream from the beginning, they should have apparently knew all along that they were being gaslit, and must endure women mocking them over it without a hint of natural disappo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 02:24 PM |
| – | Do most men here come from married two parent homes?My father cold approached my mother when she was 14 and he was 17 at the shopping mall, when cold approaching is already an anomaly, was back then as well, and such an age gap would be frowned upon today. Both through observation of media, and most older adult generations being paired-up, it was a wake-up call for me and many other Gen Z males that it turns out most women aren’t attracted to most men, and most women were actually married due to Compulsive Heterosexual societal pressure that cont… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:04 PM |
| 5 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Women generally don’t care about the negative experiences of us LGBT men either. 63% of women don’t want to date a Bisexual man (sometimes due to simply not being attracted to it, but also due to negative stereotypes), Trans-men report feeling spoken over in Trans spaces, and Non-binary males are excluded from “Women and Non-binary groups”. Many Inkcels are actually Bisexual, Trans-women, and gender non-conforming males (femboys/etc.) and feel neglected by left-wing spaces due to being male as w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 08:29 AM |
| 1 | You are not entitled to a relationshipA consensual sexual act needs to be defined by the mutual goal of the social relationship, including if you do not want to be in a romantic partnership with them. It is acceptable to change one’s mind after sex due to sexual compatibility, but this should also honestly be communicated as a possibility beforehand and clarified afterwards rather than causing unnecessary mental distress after what should a healthy mutual bonding experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/26 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Should women reject men that don’t treat them like they would a top 1% Stacy?Personally some of us males do our best to date anyone with equal care and attention, no matter how different a gap in attraction is between more than one dating partner, and allow the attraction to grow at an eventually equal and balanced rate. This is what I am selecting for: any partner who is capable of the same, and likely also has very diverse and open standards for physical attraction (or I’m their niche type). Top 1% treatment is subjective between the couple, for instance even I wasn’t … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/26 10:21 PM |
| – | Why are women so sexually passive?And then wonder why there is an orgasm gap. If you treat yourself like a prize to reward a man to indulge in, you shouldn’t be surprised that this is how he treats the situation, and finishes the act when he finishes his personal indulgence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 10:51 AM |
| – | Why are women so sexually passive?Surprised I haven’t seen any other men also mention that many women settle for men they have low/no attraction to, so why would they be an active participant appreciating the man’s body when they just straight-up don’t? I also wonder how much of the orgasm gap is by women who are starfishes who don’t equally actively participate to help get themselves and him off nor communicate their desires (because they often don’t have any). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 09:47 AM |
| – | Alpha or BetaIt’s pseudo-science, but plenty of men use Alpha as a shorthand for “a conventionally attractive and masculine-faced, tall, naturally and chosen physically fit, charismatic, extraverted, financially successful, mentally stable, intelligent man who is successful in dating and general life” rather than having to type that out every time. I prefer “a top 20% man”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Why aren't more women happy that men are analyzing human attraction and trying to figure out women?There’s also the fact that not only is neurodivergence easier to detect now, but the hypothesis that PFAS in the environment are endocrine disrupters and literally increasing the rates of Neurodivergence. So we get the benefit of society removing those filters at exactly the time people need them more than ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: Would you consider this settling or a relationship deprived of lust?What lead you to believe he was gay? Us Neurodivergent Bisexual males seeking males/females who are similar, have to carefully do our best to display our gender non-conforming femininity to them without misleading to them that we’re gay, and because of gender stereotypes, people are more quick to assume a gender non-conforming male is gay than androgynous women. It would suck if our dating pool will tend to assume we’re gay because of that, when we’re trying to select for those who wouldn’t assu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/26 08:07 AM |
| 5 | Q4All: Would you consider this settling or a relationship deprived of lust?I accept that most women have responsive desire, but the idea of it activating in such a manner is a turn-off, because it feels as if I “have to prove something” before a woman can find herself feeling that way. Rather than her attraction simply gradually building from mutual aesthetic attraction-capability, then getting to know me, and building from both a combination of responsive-desire after learning my personality, life values, hobbies, goals, and from me displaying confident enjoyment, com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/26 05:14 AM |
| – | Q4M: what are you visually communicating to others with your style?I openly cross-dress in alternative-style fashion, and specifically seek-out males and females who also cross-dress/present Androgynous. I’m able to attract stares, compliments and people approaching me to socialise first, even at more artistic social groups/events, so I think that’s a good sign, it’s just a matter of meeting the right tiny percent of, most likely other Queer and Neurodivergent, people who would both appreciate it but also be attracted to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 04:23 AM |
| – | Men and women would be better if men were AroAcePartly disagree, not quite, because a large motivator for average men to build civilisation was the promise of a wife who would birth and care for their children. This is what the elites used to motivate men, and excessive single young men who didn’t like it left to explore and build their own societies, or burn it all down. To be direct, we wouldn’t have even gotten here to this globalised world without it. And while it would certainly be beneficial for many men today, the lack of such a motiva… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Why do (some!!) men that sex robots/robot gfs will be a legitimate replacement for real romantic relationships with a human women?I don’t think they’re a replacement, but similar to creative story-writing, AI chat bots are a tool to assist with self-love and fulfilment like any other. Android “girlfriends” would be something similar but on a more intense-scale - a tool for self-love and physical masturbatory fulfilment. I don’t think women should be jealous (but a large amount of young men giving up on dating for AI would reflect an unhealthy dating culture), and with more recent studies indicating that most women aren’t a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/26 04:31 PM |
| – | Young men should consider alternative options if failure loomsIt’s usually Inkcels who: A: believe that it’ll be easier to date the Bisexual and Lesbian women who date Trans-women. Rather than how difficult it would be for a below-average Cisgender Heterosexual male to date a straight or Bi- woman. Or B: Bisexual, and believe that it’ll be easier to date Bi/Lesbian women, and Bisexual and the minority of straight men who date Trans-women. Rather than how difficult it would be to date straight and Bi- women and gay and Bi- men. They’re pretty much wrong, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/26 02:24 PM |
| – | Young men should consider alternative options if failure loomsTransmax While some people are capable of doing so, plenty of Trans-maxxers go on to develop actual dysphoria from it and have to De-transition. And then ya’ll can either date each other as man and woman or T4T. Most Inkcels who Trans-max are attracted only to Cis-women, so they’d have to navigate the much smaller Lesbian dating pool, and then the smaller percent who’d date a Trans-woman, the smaller percent who’d date a Trans-woman who doesn’t actually want to socially transition, and the small… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/26 03:07 AM |
| 4 | I think a large percentage of men are dropping out of dating because there is no love at the end of the tunnelA good point of evidence is how common people are seeking “the spark”, when actual research indicates that it’s often a result of trauma. Now while it’s true that plenty of people actually mean the “spark” to be compatible personalities and attraction in general, even if it grows at a slow, steady and peaceful rate, that’s not usually what the term is conceptualising (hence why it’s called a “spark”), despite the fact that for many this is how falling in love actually feels like and would be ide… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/26 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Why do men accuse women of having high standards, then the same men proceed to shame women for marrying guys they aren't attracted to?We know from research that women trend towards the mean/average and are more likely to be conformist. It appears that the elites used enforced monogamy as an at-the-time progressive method to guarantee every man would be granted a wife so long as he contributed to building civilisation, and women went along with it for the survival of the species; because who wants to be the minority of women standing-up to the oppression, if taking things to their final conclusion would cause their country and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/26 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Telling men not to attach their worth to dating women is a tall ask when women collectively act like it IS about men's worth.True, but “Misogynist” already exists and is also the more accurate term than calling people like Jeffery Épstein an “Inkcel”. If Inkcel remains a common slang term insult, it’ll continue sending the wrong message that being a virgin is a bad thing, especially to younger people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/26 04:49 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice to gen Z men ?If the wage gap isn’t a myth, then corporations likely (even if subconsciously) favour hiring women so that they can get away with paying them lower wages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 12:41 AM |
| 1 | What is your advice to gen Z men ?Not only that, but like many skills people learn, once a lot of women learn how to, it’s harder for them to conceptualise what it’s like for people who have to cultivate those skills from scratch. Some Autistic women become bitter because they believe Autistic males had it easier because of this, despite males are both seen as more of a threat in general and they have to start dating at a social skills disadvantage. People in general definitely need to be more mindful about such factors when giv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Women have male-like sexuality when they attracted to other womenLesbian women having “male-sexuality”? In my experiences and according to the women responding, and the studies that they have less sex, no. But Bisexual women? Yes! Studies indicate that Bisexual women have actual brain differences, and so do Neurodivergent women. In my experiences it’s the minority of Bisexual and/or Neurodivergent women (who are over-represented both on Reddit and here) who are significantly more likely to experience moderate attraction to average men (and empathise with thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Cold approaching?And cold approaching is not a "preferred taste" - it's a sign of desperation But hasn’t OP outright stated themselves that it’s their preferred method? “I think it’s more productive to shoot my shot respectfully at the risk of being politely being turned down…” He’s certainly not the only one. Unless your argument is that OP is not being fully honest with us (or even himself)? If so, why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Cold approaching?It’s always been niche, but will inevitably become more common once declining third spaces and increasing social media usage cause people to become more desperate to meet others in real-life in what few remaining manners they can. Aside from social groups and events, Cold Approach is also one of my few methods and I’ve done so before. Some of us wouldn’t be here without it and that also applies to how my parents met. The best method is through natural conversation and observation, then shooting … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 01:41 PM |
| 4 | How does a relationship look like for you?I’m a part of several statistical minority groups, to the point every person I’ve told my story agrees I’m a severe outlier. Theoretically every human gene pattern eventually repeats, and thus there would be someone with similar enough brain neurological makeup to be compatible, even if they have incredibly different life experiences - but it’s statistically unlikely I’ll meet them in my or any local area. I’m a male with a Transgender identity (He/She/They/Them) and would only truly feel compat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/26 11:20 AM |
| 11 | It's Currently 2026. Predict What Dating Will Be Like For Both Men And Women In 2040.The West follows Japan and South Korea’s trajectory. Despite modern Academia avoiding “controversial” studies about dating and attraction, as has already been the case, more and more gradually come out to help paint the picture that women’s attraction is far more limited and contextual than men’s, helping more men realise that no matter how hard they try, many men won’t make the cut. The decreasing rates of men approaching women already reflect this, but it’ll get worse. Marriage rates significa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/26 03:33 AM |
| 3 | Teen boys are choosing AI girlfriends over real ones for 'maximum control, zero rejection'—experts say it could make them unemployable | FortuneThis is just natural selection, men leaving women alone and going their own way as bad-faith Progressives demanded. Since a recent survey showed young women have a more negative view of men, why wouldn’t lonely young men prefer Bots when the real women are so culturally hostile that a machine is doing a better job at helping men feel fulfilled? The article’s research is a 1 in 5 stat used to push it as a bigger deal than it is to slander young men’s loneliness as only being an issue because it’s… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/04/26 12:32 AM |
| 11 | What would you call the emotional male monologues on this sub and why?Societal critique through monologuing essays. But men are not a monolith, and there’s a mix of both insightful, poorly-constructed, and outright disturbing posts here that bring in a mix of men agreeing and disagreeing for various reasons. My belief is that the motivation of most male Posters, whether regular or not, is critique, argument for debate, and often also venting. Rarely there are hostile male users who are clearly trying to rage-bait and/or are emotionally immature and angry at the wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/26 06:20 AM |
| 1 | As a women I'll never understand other women's obsession with marriageThey were saying: “Surely a woman would rather be cheated on someone with a different sexed body entirely, rather than with a woman with a better female body than her.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/26 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Failed approaching in friends/hobby/work circle poisons this circleYep, plus a lot of the women disagreeing are misunderstanding how men’s standards work differently, which some men are pushing back on. I’ve earnestly had an equal attraction and connection to several female friends in a group, and wouldn’t have saw any of them as a “second-choice” if I asked any of the individual women out and was rejected by the first (but that doesn’t mean I would have actually equally been compatible with any/all of them), but that doesn’t change that this is generally how w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 06:05 AM |
| -1 | Do straight women exist?Yes. But many women are Compulsive Heterosexual (societally conditioned), Lesbian, Asexual, and Autogynephiliac (attracted to their femininity being desired, not the man himself). Both the increasing research on women’s sexuality and an increasing amount of men’s anecdotal experiences make it clear that this population of women may be a lot higher than most would think. It’s best for all that we help these women discover this so that they don’t take out their confusion/frustrations onto men the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/26 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Men are panicking more about being unmarried and childless than womenAgreed. Because women having freedom, there being less Compulsive Heterosexual social pressure in the other recent generations that paired-up, and increasing social media and dating app addiction also effecting dating, means that Gen Z young men have every right to feel concerned that they won’t make the cut now that a significantly higher number of women are happily single. I’m glad women have their freedom, but why wouldn’t Gen Z men naturally feel concerned, when this is completely new territ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/26 09:14 PM |
| – | Average men don't struggle in datingThe men who are most successful with women usually have the most common Neuro-types, cultural values and low standards. Average men are statistically most likely to fall into this category due to being closest to the mean. But plenty of the men here do point this out, due to the fact most men here are Autistic and/or other cultural minorities. In those cases, their reasons for being single often really are align with reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/26 11:35 AM |
| – | Have you ever realized that it's better for you to be alone than in a relationship? (if that's the case for you)No worries, so that I can still participate in the “question for men”-only threads, to bring attention to the difference between my experiences of when I still thought I was a Cisgender male, compared to the present. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/26 06:19 PM |
| – | Have you ever realized that it's better for you to be alone than in a relationship? (if that's the case for you)I’m Autistic and very Asocial. While a good romantic partner would be a nice bonus to my life like any other, whether we live together or not, I require a highly independent relationship that is more than what most people would be capable of dealing with. It’s easier because I’m child-free, marriage-free, and would be fine living near each other but never moving in together, so a compatible partner would also be more likely to be someone else at a similar level of Asocial, but it does inevitably… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/26 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Sex isn't a "need". Men just want to have sex because it'll give them status among other men.Humans are a social species. Socialising is a “need” in the sense that we “die” without it, just much slower than without the other core needs - due to the severe negative effects on mental and physical health significantly shortening a human lifespan. A human in solitary confinement with zero socialising will eventually suffer a nervous breakdown, after all. And you can die from a heart-break, so theoretically a human in solitary confinement will likely eventually experience a similar death. Se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/26 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone else (particularly Millennial men) feel men were told for a long time to critically examine their looks standards for women, only for this messaging to suddenly and silently disappear when it was discovered circa 2012 that women are no less looks-focused than men?I’m Older Gen Z, and yes. While it usually wasn’t specifically targeted towards men, there was public campaigns in school, in advertisement and government campaigns, about the unrealistic standards that extremely thin female models in magazines, on Television, in movies, and Barbie dolls, that placed unfair expectations on young women. The body positivity movement and push for Plus-Size models is one example of this. Now that recent research indicates that young women are just as shallow as youn… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/04/26 01:27 AM |
| 2 | Many women have a parasitic approach to relationships.It’s the minority of Queer, Neurodivergent and/or Trans women who are significantly more likely to care less about those things, which is the exact issue. I regularly see Queer/ND/Trans-women on Reddit give dating advice as if they’re not the exceptions that prove the rule, even here, you're the third one here I’ve indicated this to. Most Neurotypical Heterosexual women care a great deal about these things as indicated by these studies: This registered report—partnered with the Psychological Sci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/26 10:08 PM |
| 3 | Many women have a parasitic approach to relationships.Devil’s advocate: There are definitely people critical of the idea of owning pets at all, and especially see it as wrongful the extent that people anthropomorphise their pets. Women are more social in general and thus perhaps more likely to do this than men. The purse chihuahua stereotype began due to young women doing so the most, after all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/26 09:58 PM |
| 13 | Feminist student organisation made SoCal gym inclusive - by banishing men - so that "women and non-binary students can exercise with a sense of ease"Correct. Not only is what they’re doing wrong, but 99% of “women and non-binary” spaces are talking about Non-binary females, who they treat as “woman-lite”. Non-binary males are almost always implied to be excluded from these spaces irregardless of the fact they may have the Trans condition that causes them to want to also be a mix of a man/woman or Agender too. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/04/26 12:47 PM |
| 9 | Feminist student organisation made SoCal gym inclusive - by banishing men - so that "women and non-binary students can exercise with a sense of ease"Nope. Not only is what they are doing wrong, but 99% of “women and non-binary” spaces are talking about Non-binary females, who they treat as “woman-lite”. Non-binary males are almost always implied to be excluded from these spaces, irregardless of the fact they may have the Trans condition that causes them to want to also be a mix of a man/woman or Agender too. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/04/26 12:44 PM |
| 3 | Feminist student organisation made SoCal gym inclusive - by banishing men - so that "women and non-binary students can exercise with a sense of ease"Not only is this wrong, but 99% of “women and non-binary” spaces are talking about Non-binary females, who they treat as “woman-lite”. Non-binary males are almost always implied to be excluded from these spaces irregardless of the fact they may have the Trans condition that causes them to want to also be a man/woman/Agender too. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/04/26 12:43 PM |
| 1 | What do you feel like hinders you most in dating?I’m a part of several statistical minority groups, to the point every person I share my story with agrees I’m an outlier. Even if I wasn’t Transgender and only compatible with Bisexual people, I’d still be a low income, disabled, level-2 Autistic, child-free, marriage-free, half-Indigenous, Pantheist, average faced, average height and average obese weight male (while working on the latter). All of that combined means I have a very small dating pool in my or any local area, and women’s biology of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 10:49 AM |
| 0 | Men are non chalant bc of womenEven if I wasn’t LGBT, I’d be an Autistic, disabled gender non-conforming male with attraction to women. Personally I believe that the internet and research has revealed a much higher percent of men and women are incompatible than what the previous enforced monogamy pairing rate was. 99% of Heteronormative dating and many progressive and Bisexual women and men still enforce traditional gender roles onto men and I socialise as an egalitarianist with the rare other egalitarianist LGBT people I can… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Men are coping too much about women who don't desire themThey never did, they were just forced by societal conditioning to be with average men. It appears that enforced monogamy was actually an at-the-time progressive method of marriage, in which instead of women going for the top 20% men who don’t commit to them, they’d instead be encouraged to marry their Looks match so that every man could attain a wife, children and purpose to contribute to society with the advent of agriculture. Personally I prefer for women to have their freedom now, but we have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 11:41 AM |
| 2 | Men are coping too much about women who don't desire themIndeed, but Hyper-capitalism is certainly making attaining a successful education, career, housing, income, and expensive hobbies increasingly out-of-reach, which is also part of the reason why people are feeling more lonely; because they have less other life goals and hobbies to pursue in self-love, and desire a relationship more strongly because of that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 11:34 AM |
| – | Does the female PPD community actually represent mainstream women?No. Reddit tends to skew above-average income, left-wing, introvert, Neuro-divergent and Queer. I’ve had to indicate to more than one woman here that by being Queer and/or Neurodivergent, she is already significantly more likely to be much more open-minded than the average woman about men’s dating (and life) struggles in general. What’s surprising is how regularly I see Queer/ND on Reddit who give advice about dating but don’t seem to take into account that they are the exceptions that prove the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/26 11:23 PM |
| 1 | I think people should lay out all their cards on the table before they enter into a relationship.Agreed, but for a whole lot of people it “kills the magic”. I’d go even further and say that you should do so to skip a honeymoon period entirely and instead directly fast-track to the feeling of a secure long-term commitment if you’re compatible, otherwise you risk a honeymoon period that was built on a facade. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 05:35 AM |
| 1 | Men are less emotionally open and more prone to bottle things up because women are not ready to see some parts of men and straight disagree with some of their feelings.What do you think confidence is? I expect it from both genders. It's just basic eye contact, hand shake etiquette, decent pace and volume pretty much. In “normie” western cultures, confidence for a man is used to actually describe social dominance, extraversion and charisma, while reserved men with quiet confidence are still mistaken as being shy or stuck-up. The advice for men to be confident is also commonly being paired with encouraging him to approach women, because they tend to not make the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 05:31 PM |
| 3 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Yep, but incredibly common. If anything, it’s a good filter; personally if a woman assumed I was gay just for having a group of female friends, then discovered I’m not and was interested - then I wouldn’t be interested in her for being so quick to make such stereotypical assumptions about other’s like that anyway. I’d suggest for OP u/tin8374 to have similar principles if he wants to filter for an open-minded woman in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 05:16 PM |
| 2 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Project masculinity if you want to, not because you feel you have to. And if you do, your deep voice is another natural strength that will help you with this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 05:11 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?If you ever do have opportunities to express interest in a woman you meet through your friends, you can definitely play to that as a strength if you wish to, because height is considered attractive, especially nowadays. “You look cute down there from all the way up here” etc. But that wouldn’t be me if I was your height and it’s up to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 05:08 PM |
| 4 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?If any of his female friends were attracted to a man, then surely the fact he doesn’t give off sexual energy, is feminine, doesn’t initiate, and doesn’t wait longer than her ideal to initiate, wouldn’t be issues at all because she’d make the move for both their sake. It’s definitely a factor for some men with female friends who expect him to enact traditional gender roles to confirm their interest. It just means they aren’t compatible anyway, but definitely something that more men and women need… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Why do you think so many of you guys fall for the "just world" fallacy?While I believe that there is some truth to the Blue, Red and B-pill depending on the areas of culture, when it comes to the Blue pillers who do believe in the Just World Fallacy, it’s quite clear that they were privileged in dating, usually due to being a part of the most common appealing demographics in their culture (including potentially Neurotypes, common interests, middle-class income, religious and ethnic groups, and tendency towards traditional gender roles) and thus lack relationship ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 10:30 AM |
| 1 | Women need to embrace, modernity all the way.Yep, 45% of young men have never approached a woman, because they determined that the only winning move regarding hypocritical modern women expecting traditional men, is not to play. And if modern western women want to continue being used by the top 20% of men who won’t commit to them (as the statistics indicate) then so be it. They’ll grow from their mistakes and seek a more equal partner in-time to have children or they’ll out themselves from the gene pool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:49 AM |
| 5 | "The Red Pill takes advantage of lonely men", yet you don't show the same energy for dating apps, the porn industry, sex workers, twitch thots, etc. who all primarily target lonely men to make profitsMen’s groups being shut down. No programs to help more men attend University when it was considered a problem to help women with when the imbalance was the opposite of what it is now. Lack of government regulation for dating sites being owned by monopolistic corporations. Lack of government regulation for corporate-owned websites with policies that straight Caucasian males cannot be discriminated against (including Reddit). The UK government continuing the Duluth model that men cannot be legally… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:28 AM |
| 2 | "The Red Pill takes advantage of lonely men", yet you don't show the same energy for dating apps, the porn industry, sex workers, twitch thots, etc. who all primarily target lonely men to make profitsThere’s some good ideas in here that are based on real science, but may you please edit with a summary of your views at the bottom and what specific disagreements you’re debating with OP on? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:14 AM |
| 0 | What kind of women usually date autistic men?Other Neurodivergent and Queer women, but the statistics of how many ND women are in relationships versus men indicates that ND women tend to also “date-up” socially, likely because they’re taught to mask better from a younger age and already have a social advantage over Autistic men because of that. This also causes some of them to become resentful they had it harder, despite Autistic women are seen as less of a threat or even cute for the same quirky behaviour due to not being seen as a physic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 11:07 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Most guys don’t fail in dating because of looks or status.. They fail because they don’t understand banter.Nah, even after passing the Looks threshold, while above-average social skills can enhance attraction if they have a compatible neurology/personality, but societal norms, pre-vetting and indicators of social status are also highly influential. And some men prefer more minimal amounts of banter but are still able to healthily openly communicate conflict resolution and subtly express this enough through open discussion, consideration and respect in their words, tone and decisions when agreeing to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/26 12:48 PM |
| 3 | Women are entitled to sexual equality tooAdditions Going by this I could expect the man to do a 3some if he did it with another woman even if he hated it. EqUaLiTy Also I'd expect the man to agree to try whatever I want that other men did with me before. If a man let me put a probe up his dick the new guy should let me do that too or he isn't as attracted to me. EquAliTy. Honestly I wouldn't date any man with this mentality lmao fuck offf. Sexual entitlement is not a turn on. Then what are you even arguing? This post looks to be a sarc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/26 08:24 AM |
| 6 | It isn't fair to think autistic men have it worse than autistic women in dating or any part of lifePartly disagree. Statistically while Autistic females are vulnerable to abuse in relationships, so are Autistic males (despite ending up in less relationships as well). Aside from romantic relationships, Autistic males are more likely to be at a disadvantaged masking/social skills level to have to work harder to compensate for. And even if that wasn’t the case, the stricter enforcement of gender roles onto men, tend to particularly effect Autistic males who are much more likely to be more gender… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 11:34 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of venting subreddits banning posts about dating voes?True, and that’s a good sign that healthy discussions between men are needed, because those discussion posts that try not to do that, are also going to become rarer if they are also censored (which they are) - which leads to more young men visiting the more extreme Inkcel and Redpill forums instead. Reddit is making things worse in their attempts to fix the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/26 02:39 AM |
| 3 | What do you think of venting subreddits banning posts about dating voes?This has already been the case several times before on social media, especially Reddit, which official policy states that Caucasian men cannot be discriminated against. Most recently, the male Inkcel focused r\SikeOrPysche was banned while it’s Fémcel equivalent (r\PsycheOrSike) remains. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/26 02:26 AM |
| 2 | Genuinely, if a good portion of women fear and dislike men as a whole, why should men interact with women?I don’t disagree, but it’s the men that our current hyper-capitalist, hyper-individualist, social media addicted society is creating, and calling them “very weird” when they already feel alienated enough is part of the problem; because if they’re already very weird to “social normies”, then eventually, why would they care anymore about being “normal” (I’m also responding to your other comments in this thread generally)? OP is just yet another man who has clearly reached that point, but there wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 07:36 PM |
| – | Why are so many men here proponents of cold approach?I don’t think a lot of men here are advocating for it. With that said, at a certain point it becomes many men’s only option, especially due to declining third spaces and increasing dating app addiction. Even many Universities now are profit-driven businesses and pass students who barely speak English. In some Australian classrooms, English-speakers are the minority. And many workplaces are dominated by gynocentric HR that is extremely cautious about any social interactions between men and women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 08:09 PM |
| 9 | RP men are not viewing women’s experiences on par with their own.And the Feminist spaces are not only more numerous, insulate their discussion from men or “Pick Me” women who disagree with the majority, (4th wave Fem and Rad Fem subreddits) are hostile to Trans-women, and openly discriminate against Caucasian men (because Reddit policy is that they can’t be discriminated against) - but also are made default subs such as TwoX. Meanwhile every Askmen related sub is open to both men and women and even allow female moderators. It’s almost as if Reddit reflects re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Politics absolutely do matter with who you’re dating. Not so much the content of it, but rather, alignment between yourself and your partner(s)Unless you’re primarily referring to the Caucasian majority in western nations, or perhaps post-Civil rights movement, it’s more-so that we’re exposed to it more due to the internet. Even then there were Caucasian people with minority family/friends and learned from them firsthand how politics affected their lives or Caucasian people who had to observe segregation despite wishing it could change, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Politics absolutely do matter with who you’re dating. Not so much the content of it, but rather, alignment between yourself and your partner(s)Agreed, but Centrism can also ironically be extreme, as indicated by the “enlightened centrist” meme of people who try and force devil advocate nuance into clear-cut issues of one group oppressing another, Centrist neoliberals who bend the knee to rising fascism because it’s “good for the economy”, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Is there a way to make dating fair for men ethically - without reducing the rights of women, or challenging the autonomy of others?Do you personally think that Option 1 is generally the case for women in media, while Option 2 is already becoming the case for men more than for women? Just recently there was an example of women and Queer folk, including journalists, openly sexualising video game protagonist Leon Kennedy of the latest Resident Evil, in the very same manners that were considered “problematic fanservice for the male gaze that sets unrealistic expectations” when fanservice female characters were still popular bef… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 05:24 PM |
| 0 | Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to himIf your argument only relies on non-Child-free folk and folk who haven’t already had enough children, then you’re applying a single bubble demographic (single and child-less but wanting them) too universally. And considering the global birth rate drop is actually largely because of many more women just not wanting any, that bubble demographic is smaller than you’d think it is. So a lot of childfree men and women are going to continue the cultural rise of splitting the bill and your argument is f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 04:28 PM |
| -1 | Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to himI’ve read your comments elsewhere on the thread. If your argument only relies on non-Child-free folk and folk who haven’t already had enough children, then you’re applying a single bubble demographic (single and child-less but wanting them) too universally. And considering the birth rate drop is actually largely because of many more women just not wanting any, that bubble demographic is smaller than you’re acting like it is. So a lot of childfree men and women are going to continue the cultural … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Dating is random/messy and cannot be predicted by either Red or Blue pill approachesThey do if you’re Polyamorous or settle for Poly. Monogamous people who try and date in these spaces are unsuccessful. It goes back to OP’s point that the people who are conventionally “attractive”/popular based on their communities standards are the most successful, and those whom aren’t inevitably struggle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 04:37 PM |
| 2 | "Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts?You’ve mentioned before that you’re Neurodivergent. I also saw another ND woman here mention that she found 70% of men visually attractive on sight. In my experiences it’s the minority of ND and Queer women who are significantly more likely to be capable of experiencing strong attraction to average men in general. Most Heterosexual Neurotypical women experience low attraction to average men that spikes in the honeymoon phase (after he earned her love through proving he can be a Provider, Protect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/26 07:08 AM |
| 1 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?The only example I can think of is the men who say they would date “any” woman, only to realise the reality, that if they end up dating just any woman that there is plenty of things they end up not liking about her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/26 04:36 AM |
| 2 | "Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts?Statistics and the shifting modern dating environment make it clear that average women not only experience spontaneous desire less often, but that their attraction is more context-dependent, easily impacted, and sexually fluid. Women rate most men as below-average, because women’s sexual selection isn’t to want to choose the average in reality, but the ideal male genes for what they wish average to be for the next generation. I.e. if the average is a 5, women want the men who are 7s so that the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 02:29 PM |
| 11 | "Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts?Do you agree with its message? The opposite sub, r\menarenotintowomen , are generally happy to not be into men, and the positive r\womenareintomen is dead. I don’t agree with the extremists on that subreddit who claim all women are Compulsive Heterosexual (mistaken about being straight due to societal conditioning), Asexual, lesbian, or Autogynephiliac (only aroused by their femininity being desired, not the man), but I do think all of the above are more common than you’d think, and studies pain… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 02:23 PM |
| – | "Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts?Edited: I misinterpreted OP, but keeping my core arguments open for debate. There are studies that suggest a high percentage of women are “Autogynephiliac” (aroused by their femininity being desired by the man, not by him), and this along with Compulsive Heterosexuality (outdated societal norms and conditioning that most men and women are “supposed” to find someone to pair-up with) has left many young women confused about their attraction to men, not realising that their actual desire to be with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Women Aren't the great Communicators They Think They AreHeight and body size subconsciously help politicians persuade voters with their rhetoric, otherwise most male politicians wouldn’t be taller-than-average, and male politicians who are subconsciously aware of this are also more confident. A lot of people would respond less positively to a female politician projecting her voice and speaking assertively even if it’s in the exact same manner that a tall Caucasian man would. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Do you find maintaining interpersonal relationships to be easy? Hard? Necessary? Unimportant?Equally as important as a romantic connection, difficult to maintain for anyone, especially for Men since we are more harshly judged for social behaviour due to being seen as naturally more threatening. I’ve already been excluded as an LGBT male with the Trans- mental disorder at groups that only allow Non-binary females (and treat them as “woman-lite”), and am more vulnerable to experiencing homophobia for being a cross-dresser compared to women wearing men’s clothing. Most of my extended famil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/26 06:28 AM |
| 1 | A lot of guys here endlessly whine about dating, but only give the most lukewarm effort into actually doing itSome of us have to be cautious by necessity. Even if I wasn’t several minority groups including Transgender, and experienced past bullying for being Autistic, I’d still be a socially isolated disabled young male. I do my best to healthily socialise at social groups and events, but some of us have experienced genuine discrimination and social exclusion even when not dating, and so have to do their best to tread dating carefully and cautiously with healthy patient social understanding and empathy,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 03:14 AM |
| 2 | A lot of guys here endlessly whine about dating, but only give the most lukewarm effort into actually doing itSurprised to see this from a Bluepiller, and perhaps that’s the exact issue. The increasing general loneliness epidemic and obesity indicate how much everyone is being pushed to their limits in our hyper-capitalist society, so even if some changing yourself to be more attractive is what we evolved for, we’re not doing as well at this, and research indicates humans are evolving faster than ever, so we need to determine healthier more honest social dynamics as well to evolve our instincts for inst… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 02:59 AM |
| 1 | What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument?While some traits are appealing cross-culturally, plenty of other’s are historically proven to be highly culturally malleable as humans are highly adaptive, social, creative and curious animals. Biologically is unchangeable, but all of that is part of our biology of which instincts we can indulge in and also alter, based on the limits of our Neurological makeup and what those limits are based on which aspects our mind is able to adapt to with another compatible human. Neuro-plasticity remains hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 09:57 AM |
| 3 | Horny men pretend to care about romance so they can justify being selfish.She’s already gotten away with the 12-hour post frequency rule before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/26 07:00 AM |
| 2 | Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far.Even more women are starting to call-out her relationship with sex being unusual and speculate that she may be Asexual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Everyone wants validation, but the redpill and their ilk take it too far.She’s been able to get away with the selectively enforced “12-hour frequency” rule. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 06:11 PM |
| 14 | Men need to stop making everything about themselves.Imagine if you told women this during the first waves of the Feminism movement. Now men are rightfully bringing up the imbalance of University attendance when the same imbalance in the opposite direction was considered a problem to help women with, the male suicide rates, men’s groups being shut-down, men being told to open-up but then the latest Feminist “experts” writing articles about “Mankeeping”, how many Inkcels are Autistic, Trans-women and Bisexual men (63% of straight women don’t want t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Group Houses Can Dramatically Improve DatingYep, I’m personally getting tired of “Polyamorous Pick-Me’s” who simp and White Knight for any criticism of our modern dating culture. A lot of them settled for Poly- and think they have a say on modern dating when they don’t understand how difficult it is to date as a Monogamous person in a high Poly- community at late-20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/26 05:42 PM |
| 2 | GenZ women's "icks" are just a manifestation of their innate preference for rigid gender roles and archetypes.Agreed, but then it’s better to remain single for life. Let those women learn they need to evolve too, or die single. It’s their choice! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 01:37 PM |
| 2 | GenZ women's "icks" are just a manifestation of their innate preference for rigid gender roles and archetypes.I’m sure you’d already agree, but because male sexuality is as inclusive as possible, and women’s as exclusive as possible, due to biology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 01:33 PM |
| 3 | Honesty is ruining romanceThis tends to change during a relationship or if the woman puts the man above her. Or if he selects for a woman who wants an equal partnership from the get-go, no matter how culturally or biologically uncommon that may be (or remains happily single for life). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 10:07 AM |
| – | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.The fact that this post hasn’t been removed for OP abandonment suggests yet again that there is moderator bias in favour of Lilith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 08:45 AM |
| 15 | Honesty is ruining romanceI’ve seen some here argue that hiding some information was a necessity for cohesion between the sexes. Well, if it lets most romances die, then let ‘em die I say. Humanity has formed relationships based on misleading, lying, secretly compromising, and lying by omission, for too long. The 50% divorce rate indicates that it often doesn’t out anyway. If zero men and women wanted to reproduce and we’d be at risk of extinction, then that’d simply be natural selection and us failing to evolve our inst… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Your values and goals affect your type and who you surround yourself with.No, it depends on your society/culture too, and you’ve been explained that this is a factor countless times. For the easiest example relevant to me, I’m gender non-conforming and the ideal place my family are living (cost/closeness to family and other cities) is the most conservative city of my Australian state, and the LGBT, but also nerdy and alternative, population are particularly small. I do my best to socialise at which related events that I can, but it’s inevitably a factor for everyone i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 05:51 PM |
| 1 | You're single until you're married.Guess marriage-free people who have the same life partner for decades are single now, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 06:50 AM |
| 2 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownSure, but it’s also important to set expectations if you want equal give-and-take and gender roles/sexual dynamics in the bedroom in general, and what you suggest can give her the wrong idea. Many hetero-normative roles also end up transferring into the bedroom, including to the point many men feel pressured by women to be the Provider and have to prioritise her own pleasure in general and especially while being on top. I feel like this is along the lines of what the people advising you are tryi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 06:45 AM |
| – | A lot of women talk about their dating experiences in very casual ways if the context isn't arguing with men, which makes it look like they indeed have it pretty good.What’s your point? I’m not even jealous of how dating is for women, I’m just jealous of the basic social norms of women being able to wear men’s clothes and act masculine, with significantly less risk of experiencing homophobia and harassment, compared to me being a male who wears women’s clothing and is openly gender non-conforming. Is there a reason why we shouldn’t wish society treated men better too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 01:58 PM |
| – | "If monogamy didn’t exist in society, wouldn’t most women end up pairing only with the most attractive men, creating a large underclass of men with no hope of dating prospects" what do you think?I don’t disagree that a lot of other LGBT folk settle for Poly, but what makes you think they’re particularly uglier than the average? Because many of them lower their hygiene standards and settle? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 09:22 AM |
| 3 | Heterosexual women almost always want the dominant, masculine man.Social status/fame elevating attractive men who happen to be feminine. Average men who are feminine don’t appeal to them. I’ve even seen some of the women here who like feminine men specifically say they only like the tall, skinny ones, aka the top 20%, which is so unrealistic that even they can’t maintain that look after 30ish due to “twink death”. The bottom 80% of feminine men tend to be unpopular in dating and end up attracted to the online feminine male subcultures (sissy/femboy/etc.), posi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 06:38 AM |
| 2 | Heterosexual women almost always want the dominant, masculine man.The trick is to move in artsy and/or activist circles and date only bi/trans or non-binary women. You’re not wrong, but not every Bi-man likes those types, and even for those of us who do? At late-20s, 90% of those folk are Poly, and finding a Monogamous partner amongst them is still finding a needle in a haystack, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.and there is nothing wrong with that I don’t agree with the person you’re responding to, but there is a problem when Lookism is so prevalent that politicians attain power due to being taller, fitter and more attractive than average, rather than merit. And we can see how well that’s going based on the state of global politics in 2026. Societal change to help reduce Lookism-based discrimination starts at the personal level, and our elected leader’s reflecting Lookism is genuinely problematic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man.Nah, many Polyamorous people are open to Queer relations, but whether male or female, many of them settle for each other especially in late-20s to compensate for failing to achieve a Monogamous partnership. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.Personally as someone with uncommon life goals and romantic/intimacy gender roles and tastes, including pegging, Dom/Sub, a verse/switch, masculine and feminine terms of endearment, and more, flirting in such manners is a part of healthy bonding time enjoying each other’s company like any other. You’ve been explained this countless times by other user’s who feel similarly. I’d be willing to date an Asexual person who wants sexual intimacy for my sake to fulfil my kinks a minimal amount, but disc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 07:01 PM |
| 2 | women on reddit are very much part of the problemNot to mention that every major women’s subreddit is censored and over-moderated, while every men’s space is open to both sexes and even have female moderators. And Reddit policy that white men are the only group that can’t be discriminated against (and the only group not in the U.S. Democrats “who we fight for” section). It may reflect gyno-centrism in many aspects of western society, and what are socially isolated young men who also see it in real-life in the form of DEI, the UN’s “HeForShe” c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 08:19 AM |
| 0 | I disagree with "there is someone out there for everybody"Maybe. Theoretically speaking, every pattern of genes, including the brain’s neurological makeup, eventually repeats, so you’d meet a match with similar enough neurology to you, to be able to relate to you, even if you both have incredibly different life circumstances that influences your brain’s new personality neurons. Personally as PPD’s token multi-minority, I’ll use myself as an example. I’m a Transgender identity, Bisexual, a racial minority, Autistic, disabled, child-free, marriage-free, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Women tend to be more selective in partner choice than men — and it’s not a moral failingWhat’s demonic about their preferences? The fact that, as the sexual selectors, statistically most women are not attracted to men of a different rácé, most are not attracted to a Bisexual man, most not attracted to a man opening-up to her emotionally to a reasonable extent based on common experiences of the human condition, that most are not attracted to kind-hearted Neuro-divergent men, that most are hypergamous for a higher-earner even in an equal pay society, that most don’t want a Stay-At-Ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Women claim to be into personality but judge everythingThey do judge personality - but very strictly. In general, when they say they want a man with a “good” personality, they don’t mean morally good - they mean “makes them feel good”. When they say they admire “confidence”, they usually don’t mean quiet confidence from a reserved man, but a very narrow range of masculine charisma, domineering and extraverted. They usually see a high education and income as reflecting of ambition and hard work, but disabled men who volunteer and donate to charity ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 10:02 AM |
| 1 | What's something you find attractive in men that you think men wouldn't find attractive in women?It’s bad for an individual’s environmental carbon footprint, especially cruise ships. With that said, it’s the 0.1% who are to blame for the vast majority of emissions, but an extremely environmentally-conscious individual may be turned-off by high income wealthy people who engage in extremely frequent cruise ship and yacht vacations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/26 07:06 AM |
| – | Feminist online spaces are increasingly unable to take critique.Agreed, but the balance is still skewed. Why is every men’s subreddit open to women, even women moderators, while every women’s sub censors and insulates discussion (r\askwomen, even r\askwomennocensor, r\Letgirlshavefun, r\AskFeminism, etc.) Redpill was banned but Female Dating Strategy and TwoXChromosomes are allowed, and Reddit policy means that straight white men “can’t” be discriminated against. Is it possible that this is simply a reflection of wider-scale gyno-centrism in some areas of we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/26 12:22 AM |
| 18 | Feminist online spaces are increasingly unable to take critique.But that’s the issue. Why is every men’s subreddit open to women, even women moderators, while every women’s sub censors and insulates discussion (r\askwomen, even r\askwomennocensor, r\Letgirlshavefun, r\AskFeminism, etc.) Redpill was banned but Female Dating Strategy and TwoXChromosomes are allowed, and Reddit policy means that straight white men “can’t” be discriminated against. Is it possible that this is simply a reflection of wider-scale gyno-centrism in some areas of western society, wher… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/26 12:18 AM |
| 0 | Hypergamy has historically been common in women.That doesn’t make sense with how common it is for women to also uphold traditional male gender roles. The top 20% of feminine men, aka twinks, are successful, but that’s so unrealistic that even they can’t maintain that look after 30ish. I’ve even seen the women here who like feminine men say they specifically only like the tall, skinny ones. The remaining bottom 80% of us feminine men tend to be Inkcels in real-life, causing us to end up becoming more vulnerable to excessive internet usage and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/26 10:15 AM |
| – | Average Men are Definitely Benefiting from Men Being Radicalised.And also how we evaluate women. A woman who is a healthy weight is automatically above-average, and so is the man in the video. And he also has clear skin and pearly white teeth. But yes, I agree with you that women in general will rate him as average due to having different criteria, whether that’s generally seen as positive, neutral or negative to the men here. To me it’s surprising that is the case, and not something I can agree with, but neutrally understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Would you marry a woman who would not take your last name?I don’t believe in marriage, but if I did, yes, I’d be fine with her not taking my last name, and also would not want to change my own. I do find it uncomfortable how strongly some western cultures encourage women to feel as if they “have to” give-up their name for marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/26 11:33 PM |
| 3 | Women set standards based on men they’ve never met.It depends on the person, there are many men and women who decide their preferences in a romantic partner based on both personally chosen whims, and also how real people they meet help them determine what is most closest aligned with human nature. It’s possible that western societies encourage women to select their preference traits before meeting real men, more than men are encouraged to do the same - I agree to some extent that this is the case, but as someone who has enjoyed reading your pers… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/26 07:42 AM |
| – | Genuine question , what do men get out of this sub or subs similar to this.Personally I enjoy discussing modern dating social dynamics and how they effect our social cultures in the general loneliness epidemic in our western societies in general. While this sub is for debates rather than advice, the debates also naturally to some extent help me socialise in my real-life social group and events as well. It is a hobby interest for fun and intellectual stimulation. I also enjoy providing my Unconventional perspective of Heterosexual dating dynamics due to being a part of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/26 07:36 AM |
| – | It's generally not as good to socialize as a man than as a woman.While statistically it’s due to women making more of an effort, do you personally think that it’s also because women are generally more welcome to social groups, when they do the same social behaviours that men are not welcome to do? For example many people find Autistic women stimming to be “cute” because women are more smaller and more neotenous, while men are naturally seen as more of a threat, and so an Autistic man stimming is seen as an indicator of unhinged behaviour. And there are “women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/26 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Is Vetting Seen as a Red FlagHealthy vetting of compatibilities through open discussion and questions are necessary, “shit tests”/social psychological “games” are unnecessary, emotionally immature and unhealthy. The lines are somewhat subjective depending on comfort levels, but generally earnest open questions at a healthy pace building-up in depth while checking-in on them, are ideal cross-culturally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 10:21 PM |
| – | Why do you think money dosent matter in Dating?Define “broke”. Statistically 57% of Americans are one pay-check away from being homeless, and that’s on top of many being in debt. Would 57% of Americans choosing not to date be sustainable for the declining birth rates? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Men underestimate how bad some guys are doing in term just being a normal competent person.And the fact it apparently doesn’t break the posting frequency rule for Lilith suggests moderator bias. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by womenBut there are many men who receive the same type of advice from their longtime female friends who know him well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/26 03:39 PM |
| 5 | Men would have a much better time dating if they believed that they were actually the prize.Young males exposed to such content by women during puberty is actively preventing their healthy development into men who don’t care, as shown by the growing percent of men who’ve never approached a woman to ask her out. This behaviour by those women online openly practising misandry and social media corporations not dealing with it, isn’t sustainable, and any healthy patriarchies are being destroyed in the process. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 11:45 AM |
| 5 | Dating women is SIGNIFICANTLY harder than dating menThose are not tests to see if men will lie, they're tests to see if he can read between the lines and affirm her feelings in that moment. Emotional IQ. Tests to re-affirm securities are a sign of low emotional intelligence. If you really don't get why "no, I wouldn't love you if you were a worm" isn't an acceptable answer, you have some stuff going on. Which just might be how you are, but is still gonna make her feel shitty if she's the kinda girl to ask that. Probably Neuro-divergence. You're n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Courting's not a scam, its an effective strategyJust because it’s common doesn’t mean we don’t find it to be an emotionally immature behaviour that we are filtering for. There are a minority of women and men with the self-awareness and self-control to do their best to actively not treat their dates with bias due to Looks in general. This is an important trait that many men are filtering for to avoid being settled for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 10:12 AM |
| 4 | Aight what should be the solution for gender wars ?Some methods of improving general social relations in our hyper-capitalist, hyper-individualist western societies experiencing a general loneliness epidemic would be: Government funded third spaces and cultural events of a variety of ages and categories, with activism signs that only a small percent of men and women commit crimes, but to seek assistance if needed. The London tube has the opposite with signs telling men not to look at or speak to women. Government funded dating sites using Census… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Its not biphobic to not date bi menTo clarify, I meant that men who are verse-, bottoms, and feminine are an equal amount amongst straight, gay and bisexual men - but straight men are less likely to discover they are a verse/bottom/feminine due to being more likely to feel pressured to conform to gender norms, which is what most straight women prefer. Bisexual and gay men are more likely to have discovered they are a verse-/bottom/feminine, and those who are, would not be appealing to most straight women after they get to know hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Its not biphobic to not date bi menTo clarify, I meant that men who are verse-, bottoms, and feminine are an equal amount amongst straight, gay and bisexual men - but straight men are less likely to discover they are a verse/bottom/feminine due to being more likely to feel pressured to conform to gender norms, which is what most straight women prefer. Bisexual and gay men are more likely to have discovered they are a verse-/bottom/feminine, and those who are, would not be appealing to most straight women after they get to know hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Its not biphobic to not date bi menSo long as it’s not due to judging him based on actual stereotypes rather than the individual, it’s not (which is what I’ve seen as the stated reasons by women most often). Otherwise, I fully understand that many women have preference for a Heterosexual man for non-bigoted reasons such as: wanting a man who is only or almost entirely a top, and Bisexual men are more likely to be verses and bottoms. wanting a traditionally masculine man, and Bisexual men are more likely to be gender non-conformin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 06:56 PM |
| 4 | If you want to sleep with a woman you are attracted to you might have to do things to woo herMeaning that if she made it easier for him, yeah she was more attracted but that doesn't mean you can't inspire the same in her. Of course, milage may vary. Then men may as well not settle for less and go for initial visceral attraction or be happily single for life. Or at least only date a woman who actively chose not to treat other men more favourably despite her stronger attraction, which would be a good measure of a healthy level of self-awareness and self-control anyway. Anything otherwise … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 03:53 PM |
| 5 | Being successful at dating in 2026 requires MUCH more than looks and skills most men cant even fathom yet.Because he was the one leading and carrying the development of the relationship, became burned-out from in the process, and finally felt able to relax and match her effort once the relationship was secured. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 07:13 AM |
| 5 | Why do women friends share sexual encounters so freely with their sexually frustrated friends?At least when it comes to these types of women who see virgins as losers in general (unfortunately more common than you’d think), the one’s on this sub are willing to say the quiet part out loud of what men have noticed for ages, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 11:21 AM |
| 1 | Men need to drink to get casual sex, but it’s for the woman’s comfort, not theirsI agree with you - but that’s the exact issue. You do you, but research indicates that it only takes 3% of a population to cause societal change. Personally I’m going to be the change I want to see, stick to my principles (because I’d rather be single for life than sacrifice them), and only seek the tiny percent of other’s who will. With that said, I’m also coming at it from an alternate perspective because I’m LGBT and Child-free. In my experiences it appears that the majority of heterosexual m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 06:22 AM |
| 3 | When Does Male Virginity Become A Red Flag?It’s not a “red flag”, but it’s a cause for caution by many people. Unfair? Yes, but not necessarily unreasonable. Why? Because according to research, people with mental illnesses are genetically predisposed to be more susceptible to developing a mental health condition both due to their natural brain chemistry, and in response to life stressors. So someone with a genetically “healthier” brain would be less likely to develop, or redevelop, a mental illness in response to life stressors than some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 05:38 AM |
| 1 | 🤔 Quick question for the Guys in This Sub: How Many of you Are Actually in a Relationship? 👀I had two short-term girlfriends in high school but haven’t had my first kiss and I’m a virgin. But the romantic validation of being desired barely counts, if at all, because afterwards I learned that I’m a Transgender identity, Bisexual, Child-free, and marriage-free, so neither relationship would have lasted and I don’t feel either of them got to know my “true self”. All of my experiences in attempting to date other Bisexuals in real-life and online, has lead me to believe that there is some t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 05:42 PM |
| – | Why do men think there are so many good menmonogamously oriented Can you elaborate on this? Are you really saying that consensual Polyamory between men and women means they are not good people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Women don’t give good advice on dating and it’s obvious why.Because NT people are the one’s with the social skills, that Autistic people have to manually learn, similar to asking someone in a wheelchair to learn to crawl up stairs. You’d think the “socially skilled” person would be capable of describing their own social capabilities, I’d argue that if an NT person cannot do so at all, then they likely lack emotional intelligence - and I wouldn’t disagree with you that this is the case for most NT people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/25 03:53 AM |
| 3 | The days of men cold approaching random women in streets, malls, and grocery stores left and right are long gone and will never come back.It was always uncommon, but some of us wouldn’t be here without it, and with the increasing loneliness epidemic, declining third spaces and Enshittification of online dating, people are going to become more desperate for whatever methods to meet other’s that they can, and so the social norms are going to eventually shift and it will actually become more common. It’s certainly still taboo, but aside from many people becoming increasingly isolated, it’s going to eventually cause some people to be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/25 03:03 AM |
| 8 | The days of men cold approaching random women in streets, malls, and grocery stores left and right are long gone and will never come back.Much rarer for Gen Z, and plenty of sleepovers now involve them staring at their phones silently in the same room. It’ll require larger social changes over the course of generations since Gen Alpha are on an even worse trajectory. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/25 02:53 AM |
| 3 | When guys who say “I want to be TRULY desired” or “I want to be wanted for who I am, not what I can provide” they mean they want to worshipped.It’s what I’ve noticed is unfortunately all too common. Many men have to prove he can be a successful Provider, Protector and Parent - all for her to compromise by settling for him, having low attraction to him from the start that declines with age, always expects him to initiate/plan dates, he can’t open up to her nor speak to her the way she does to him, and overall she runs the relationship. This appears to be what a lot of “happily married” men on Reddit chose, all so they can “succeed” at h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 08:10 PM |
| 1 | The bigger obstacles to male rights are simps and conservatives, not womenI would partly disagree, in that privileged western Caucasian women, who have the most control over our dating culture, and uphold discriminatory social communities, are also a major factor. Meeting the decent, co-operative people who want healthy social communities from all three groups, are all we can do our best to filter for when developing healthy social communities with other’s. I am a gender non-conforming egalitarianist male doing my best to be the change I want to see in these regards a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 01:31 PM |
| 7 | Should men be openly critical of women who are bad or boring in bed ?No, but women sharing intimate partner details being normalised, in a sexist culture that wouldn’t support it when the genders are reversed, becomes difficult to avoid when even the women who are normally emotionally mature and mentally healthy are also doing the behaviour - after all, those women would want to know if they might accidentally be engaging in a behaviour that most of the men they be with would find uncomfortable. When a form of sexism against women becomes common, Feminists fight … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Saying “it’s not a gender thing”or it's rare is lazy thinkingAnd if anything, people downplaying these differences just causes more confusion and difficulty for people who attempt to approach befriending and dating either sexes, because they find it obviously requires different approaches. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/25 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Men who ask out a female friend 9 out of 10 times naturally developed feelings for her and didn’t put her in the “fuck zone”True, many women eventually settle for a man who proves he can be a Provider, Protector and Child-carer, for him to compensate, and her to compromise by choosing to be with him, despite having low physical attraction to him and running the relationship. The amount of men on Reddit who claim to be “happily married” despite low attraction from her, always having to initiate plans and choose where they go out, can’t emotionally open up to her, or speak to her the way she does to him, and 50% divorc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 08:41 PM |
| 7 | Men who ask out a female friend 9 out of 10 times naturally developed feelings for her and didn’t put her in the “fuck zone”Even if they felt “betrayed”, that sort of reaction is also a betrayal, and them willing to “retaliate” so extremely just ends up showing their true colours. That’s when you know the friendship has run it’s course and it’s time to walk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 08:37 PM |
| 9 | Men wouldn't complain about "modern women" or feminism if both sexes were equally attracted to each otherIt’s biological for every man and woman to want to procreate, but every other mammal species has had to accept that large portion of males don’t reproduce since females select the best genes - it’s only humans who wanted to overcome this aspect of our reproduction and enforce Monogamy to “make things fair”. It’s going to be difficult to undo literally thousands of years of cultural conditioning since the beginning of civilisation, but men who attempt to revolt and change society to enforce Monog… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:18 PM |
| – | What do women think when men say "women don't take accountability"?To be mindful of how the researched in-group bias amongst women, and out-group bias from men towards women, naturally grant them many affirmative action efforts to compensate for the disadvantages that women experience in society, such as DEI programs, and to take responsibility for the ways in which their changeable standards effect our overall dating culture and objectively also partly contribute to the general loneliness epidemic. And how the general culture reflects this, and some men have i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 07:13 AM |
| 2 | In a societal level, no one is going to grant you freedom from oppressive structures and roles. If you want clemency, fight for it.Yes, at a certain point you need to stand by your beliefs, agree to disagree and defend yourself from bullies who attempt to socially exclude you, and move on to socialising with the friendly people at the same location, that you can meet in your communities instead, to develop what healthy communities and movements with those you can. As a gender non-conforming male I be the change I want to see in this regard and do my best to filter for the much smaller dating pool of women I’d be compatible … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 07:29 AM |
| 2 | Men misinterpreted “I choose the bear” because they’re media illiterate or so defensive they chose willful obtusenessI am a social Progressive and egalitarianist, and while studies do indicate that males are biologically more likely to be violent or sexually violent, it remains a small percent of the general population, that according to the data, you are over-estimating as a risk due to your collected evidence being both anecdotal and the high crime cases only. I continue to advocate for and support which Men’s organisations so we can to help raise healthy generations of men to prevent these crimes and rehabi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 02:10 AM |
| 1 | What is stopping men to be hypergamous like they claim women are?Most average, healthy Neurotypical hetero men who want to marry and have children, are slaves to their libido and biology of being the Pursuer and women the sexual selectors, and end up compromising by proving to be a Provider, Protector and Parent due to lack of options, to a woman who will settle for an unhealthily unbalanced relationship with him. Healthy social community movements, and Trans-humanism through technology and therapy are the only solutions to this for those men and women who ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 01:59 AM |
| – | What romantic gestures would you like to receive from a person you're dating?Besides the basics (mutual open communication, respect, taking an interest in each other’s lives, hobbies and other social relations), I’ll list things I’d be willing to also do myself, as someone who is gender non-conforming and wants the same for a relationship. The first two are requirements for me: Initiating and planning dates at an equal rate Both paying for each other for every date And at least some of the rest would place a woman in the top 10% for me: Gifting flowers Gifting an occasio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 04:48 PM |
| 7 | Guys should be a bit gayer if they wanna get laidYeah, it’s as easy as not wanting casual hook-ups with men and most straight and Bi women not wanting a Bisexual man. Bisexual men are more likely than not to be Incels if there is a lack of quality LGBT men to date in their area. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 04:37 AM |
| 5 | Guys should be a bit gayer if they wanna get laidPartly disagree, all one has to do is look at how many women don’t date Bisexual men and why they also tend to end up being Incels if they do not want casual sex with men only: 63% of women would not be willing to date a man who has had a previous sexual encounter with a man. That's not even if he's bisexual, just if he had a past encounter in his life. (https://bi.org/en/articles/bi-men-are-not-considered-attractive-new-study-says) Further, only 19% of women are willing to date a bisexual man, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 04:33 AM |
| 2 | The number one problem with lonely guys is not cultivating a social life and social skillsMostly disagree, because it’s no longer a matter of social skills, because the recent generations are more atomised from declining third spaces and inflation, and less social in return, giving you less opportunity to meet and practice with new people. Autistic people in particular experience extra burnout and fatigue, and society being less patient of differences in socialising mean that Autistic people with good social skills, are quickly judged as uninteresting due to the low attention spans o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 04:07 AM |
| – | For women with sexual experience, it is more probable that their best sex would not be with their partners but with some toxic guys.This shit isn’t talked about enough and PPD is finally bringing it all to light. Evolution is neither moral nor immoral, but it isn’t perfect, and can make “mistakes”, aka illogical markers of attraction, where sexual selection now, can lead to sexual selection that is unhealthy for our species later on. Unfortunately the research suggests to me that since the dawn of our species to today, that this already happened, and that evolution sexually selected for markers of personality and physical at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/25 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Female sexuality is the ONE human impulse where society collectively pretends that the instinctive preferences are perfectly optimal.This depends on your culture, and in less socially open ones such as the U.S, it can be challenging to navigate a situation where such a thing occurs, but as any mature adult you need to stand your ground, ignore attempts at social ostracism and exclusion by these unhealthy and harmful people, and continue to pursue your social goals and look and speak normally to the other’s you can, after you have negative initial experiences. Unfortunately our declining, increasingly stressed and more sociall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 02:24 PM |
| 3 | It's really not that challenging to get a girlfriend“Have your own place” is an unrealistic standard and was, since “the American Dream” of a person having the means to live with roommates while working and save for renting alone and/or buying an apartment and/or saving for a house, always an unsustainable luxury built on the tanked post-World War 2 economy. I agree with you that Millennial and older Gen Z men and women were culturally-conditioned to expect this to be the norm - but it was always a false dream they were being sold. But now it is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Bear in the woods - let’s revisitWhen I say that we should start seriously considering a world where all males take feminizing HRT people get angry. While I can’t see why this is relevant to the main topic, if there is a way that you can relate it to the topic, I’d be interested in hearing you elaborate on why so. I’m familiar with “Trans-maxxers”, and while some Trans people claim they are a myth, there are actual Trans-maxxers who answer that they are when asked, but personally a lot of their arguments haven’t been good and m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/25 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Why do some women like to play the field with top men before settling down with their match??Human nature of women being the sexual selectors and preferred gender role instincts of selecting the males with the best social skills, physical fitness and child-care abilities, as humans are most similar to Bonobos and Chimpanzees which are matriarchal. Some women make mistakes, other’s get to know multiple romantic partners before choosing a father, other’s compromise/settle for a beta provider who compensates for her, etc. Personally I do my best to date which open-minded women of average, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 09:03 AM |
| 1 | Why do men need women?Due to the research and anecdotal experiences suggesting most western women and men are culturally checking out, people are searching what other healthy coping alternatives they can. Therapy, other healthy community socialising and trans-humanist goals and pursuits to self-fulfil our instincts instead, including through sex Androids, AI chat bots, creative and exercise pursuits, etc. can be emotionally beneficial. Just a shame to the extent that hyper-capitalism is exploiting and monetising it, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 08:57 AM |
| – | Q4M: When dating, do you only spend money if there's something in it for you?I do not follow traditional gender roles and wouldn’t even if I wasn’t also LGBT, and do my best to be clear about this from the get-go. I want a partner willing and able to Provide and Protect for each other, and step one of proving this would be me buying them a gift coffee and them equally willing to do the same with me at the same time. I’m disabled, but I help my family and have given back my time and money volunteering for and donating to charities, and in Australia all money is cycled bac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: why do you no longer court women properly?Because compared to the past, a larger amount of us modern western males want Progressive gender roles (even if I also wasn’t LGBT), take the modern western cultural values of actual gender equality very seriously (even if most women and men do not and hypocritically only apply it for women), and are seeking partners who are able to, willing to, and prefer to Provide and Protect for each other and switching social dynamics of equal initiating, receiving, give-and-take, and are filtering for wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 06:02 AM |
| 2 | Men have absolutely no legitimate reason to be angry at womenPersonally I don’t fault people for their natural preferences, but I do fault people who are aware of when their preferences are societal/cultural, they can change it, know that it may have negative consequences, but refuse to consider changing because they don’t care. We are more similar to Chimpanzees and Bonobos, and recent research has found that they are most likely to live in matriarchal tribes where the males compete and the females sexually select the males who prove the best social skil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Whereas male attraction is largely amoral, women’s attraction seems actively immoral and sex itself is therefore bad for either genderPartly disagree, because you’re taking some of the potentially negative aspects of human sexuality and applying only the most extreme examples, when there are many variations before that point, plenty of examples when human reproduction and family formation can be ethical and beneficial for humans, I.e. families forming tribes together, and morality to some extent is subjective depending on the situation (but objective when innocent people are unnecessarily mentally/physically harmed). Now, what… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 05:20 AM |
| 2 | What is your goal in dating?I am a part of several statistical minorities, even more-so than most males here according to everyone I share my story with. I’m Transgender, Bisexual, Autistic, child-free, disabled, low income, racial minority, anti-marriage, Pantheist, and Monogamous LGBT when most at late 20s are Poly. I’d be a dedicated House Partner and support myself, and as long as we are compatible with all of that, and also basic shared morals/politics for human rights, and at least some hobbies, I am capable of datin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them.Unconditional love is biologically impossible, since even Dogs feel social isolation if you don’t have as much time for them in increasingly job hour-occupied societies. Men and women generally have most common studied patterns of traditional gender role desires and attractions with a minimal of niche outliers, whom are best to seek each other. And everyone to seek which compatible life goals and values you share with life partner, of your own incomes, cultural groups, Neurodivergent or not, LGB… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 06:53 AM |
| 8 | It's not going to get betterThe collapsing birth rates are a bad thing for hyper-capitalism, and thus just end up proving what an unsustainable pyramid scheme the entire system has been on a global level for our species right from the start since the Industrial Revolution, and why an overhaul was always necessary, but is now reaching it’s breaking points (in many more ways than just the lower birth rates). It’s not going to be easy in decades, but governments and corporations are simply delaying the inevitable (including w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Men are delusional about how many bad men are out thereExactly. Men and women who grow up believing in fictional media and end up falling for such manipulation tactics are emotionally immature and lack life experience, and this is what leads to them being more susceptible to being manipulated. They are deserving of empathy, but also need to prove that they accept responsibility for their own mistakes and grow from them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 07:00 AM |
| 1 | The world does not cater to male sexuality.It depends, and so I have both agreements and disagreements. Disagreed; there is a lot of exploitive porn and prostitution to serve the criminal demand for so, and in western regions with poor enforcement of laws regarding so. Prostitution is legal in Australia and some other western nations as a legislated service in a free country. Agreed; partly due to women being the sexual selectors, partly societal, as there is a general lack of sexualisation of men and male fanservice characters, and most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 01:26 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I disagree. There are plenty of women who would say they admire confidence, only care about income to the extent he can financially support himself, and some asking for a provider for children, and “you aren’t competing with other men - you’re competing with my (mental/emotional/physical) peace” - which implies that mental/emotional stability is a particularly desired trait because it adds to a woman’s life without disrupting her peace. Combine all that and you get something along the lines of u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 12:53 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Welcome back. Yup, the same repetitive discussions, especially from a select few users who post daily. While this sub isn’t about advice, personally it can still have some use in the ways in which Debate has naturally ended up advising people for their dating online and in real-life, including for myself - but is increasingly rare results from here nowadays. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Would you prefer if men put as much effort into their looks as women, or if women put as little as men?Personally as someone who does skincare, healthy eating and exercise, and dresses in detailed cross-dressing fashion outfits and light makeup, I prefer a society where people don’t feel the need to utilise actually unhealthy methods to look good, I.e. excessive makeup, teeth whiteners, steroids, women feeling pressured to wear high heels and damage the feet, tight clothing and sports body compressors, etc. I definitely think hyper-capitalism and social media, especially influencers who engage in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/25 11:57 PM |
| 1 | When men say they cant be vulnerable, they mean they cant wallow in self pity 24/7 and get pity sex as treatment.And this post hasn’t been removed. Selective moderating, much? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 10:01 AM |
| 5 | When men say they cant be vulnerable, they mean they cant wallow in self pity 24/7 and get pity sex as treatment.Yup, this very thread is evidence in itself of the double-standard that men can’t emotionally open up to the same extent as women, to the point that it even applies on this subreddit. Men who try and make high effort posts following the rules are held to a higher standard than Lillth’s repetitive points. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 09:43 AM |
| 7 | Certain parts of female sexuality give men the ickThis. Many women’s kinks reflect our unhealthy gender roles culture of sex being seen as something done to a woman by a man, and that the man must provide his full effort while only she gets to be the object of desire and passive receiver. CNC doesn’t have to be a man being unable to keep his hands off the woman and her being the full focus as the object of desire for him to devote all the effort to, but in practice this is what 90% of women who enjoy CNC are referring to. And indeed submissive … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Certain parts of female sexuality give men the ickYes definitely, it’s a part of nerd/goth/metal/punk/raver/hippie/Alt. culture. The raves, metal shows, festivals, Comic Cons, etc. naturally result in people getting sweaty and dirty from their costumes, smell like cigarettes, alcohol on their breath and/or weed, dancing, camping and hooking-up, and thus have lower standards for hygiene because of that - a self-perpetuating cycle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 07:13 AM |
| 1 | What do men mean when they say women's standards are too highExactly, this is why Feminist’s argue that women also uphold patriarchy. You didn’t answer with any solution for what men can do, but still justify outdated sexist standards for men instead of egalitarianism and outreach like Zohran Mamdani is doing. Your mindset is perpetuating the very patriarchy you complain about and part of the problem, there are many sexist women who simply want to use the patriarchy to justify sexism and pretend that they don’t want to uphold it, otherwise they’d care mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 12:43 AM |
| 1 | What do men mean when they say women's standards are too highShort of revolution and activism over the course of generations, how can men do this? Even politicians aren’t as powerful as corporations anymore and still have to work within the existing patriarchal hyper-capitalist system. Just look at how much propaganda was against Zohran Mamdani, all for his slightly left-leaning values during his NYC Mayor campaign, which were slandered as “evil Communism”. He started an all female team, and in general the Republicans want to deport him even after he fair… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe your life holds value simply because you exist?Scientifically speaking, while we use more resources on a global scale than the environment recovers from, all humans eventually return nutrients to the biosphere after death and many countries pay General Service Taxes that technically contribute to the global economy. I believe every innocent human being deserves basic daily food, water and shelter rights as outlined by the United Nations and emergency Universal Basic Income would be the ideal as we may eventually reach a global automated econ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/25 07:44 AM |
| 1 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.I’m fine with romance novel content, but not with the sexist double standard. Feminist’s have pushed for the alteration of media that traditionally appealed to males. Anita Sarkeesian, considered a mainstream Feminist critic at the time, specifically falsely equated (primarily male) gamers enjoying fan service of female characters with being more likely to be violent, and we see the effects in the industry today; with less fan-service, even for major remasters and remakes such as the Elder Scrol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 11:15 PM |
| 2 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.Impossible, because Feminist’s have pushed for the alteration of media that traditionally appealed to males. The Feminist’s from the Gamergate movement specifically falsely equated (primarily male) gamers enjoying fan service of female characters with being more likely to be violent, and we see the effects in the industry today; with less fan-service, even for major remasters and remakes such as the Elder Scrolls: Oblivion, changing female character models to wear more modest clothing. We’ve see… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 11:12 PM |
| 9 | What do men mean when they say women's standards are too highPersonally I only think a person’s standards are too high, when they are specifically unaware of how uncommon their particular combination of standards are, and refuse to adjust their standards when they can. They can have whatever combination of standards they want, but should be aware of how rare they are and adjust what they can accordingly. For example if a woman strongly prefers men who are 6 foot, as long as she’s aware they are 14.5% of the US male population, is fine with that and can su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 10:56 PM |
| 9 | Men hate women who like bad men but don't care about those bad men. And that means they hate women not for "bad choices" but for not choosing them.I empathise with abuse victims. But women who continue knowingly choosing to be with bad men over long-term spans of time, are often bad women themselves. But it can be difficult to determine if/when a bad person can be helped down a path of redemption and healing. A man can’t confront a bad man without risking his life, and while it would be wrong of him to only advise a woman to choose better simply because she is not a threat to him, it’s understandable that she is the only person he can safe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 03:44 PM |
| 2 | When People Say "Confidence" Is The Most Important Thing for MenConfidence is too often conflated with charisma and extraversion. You can be quiet confident (me) due to naturally being a reserved person, and this still can be mistaken as shyness. I simply prefer to speak when I have something meaningful to say, do not find silence awkward even if the other person clearly feels that way, and remain silent if I don’t have anything in particular to talk about, which is often when socialising with Neurotypical “social Normies”. I don’t intend on changing and I’m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Beware of people who give you sob stories that explain that everyone else is the problem.Generally true, but even in diverse multi-cultural western societies, there are plenty of common examples of sexism, racism, xenophobia, classism, ableism, lookism, ageism, etc. and the male Inkcel users on this subreddit tend to skew as being part of those discriminated groups. They usually are in fact socially excluded and discriminated against for being Neurodivergent, a racial minority, low income, religious, short, ugly-faced, a young man, feminine, Bisexual, etc. And remember that differen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 08:35 AM |
| 0 | Men need to go their own way until women fix themselves.Most Heterosexual Child-desiring men are slaves to their libido. 50% of marriages end in divorce and most men on the r/Askmen subreddits claim that their “happy” marriage means they can’t open up to their wife, can’t speak to her the way she does to him, always have to initiate, are low desired by her, etc. and the divorce rate just shows how many of them are with the wrong person in the first place and have to be a Beta provider for her to settle for him. My difference might be that I’m Bisexua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 06:49 AM |
| 2 | I’m convinced that the only reason men want women to be more involved with fixing the “male loneliness epidemic” is because they genuinely do not care about one another’s problems. Thoughts?Adding onto your point, there’s also the women who say to any man criticising a woman, “If you hate women and love men so much, then be gay!” or criticise men who say “If you want to know how to attract women, ask the fisherman, not the fish.” Now, I personally don’t like the metaphor of that second analogy, but it’s another example of some women shutting down men discussing how to help other men even when they’re trying to earnestly give well-meaning dating advice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 06:38 AM |
| 6 | I’m convinced that the only reason men want women to be more involved with fixing the “male loneliness epidemic” is because they genuinely do not care about one another’s problems. Thoughts?Dating advice encourages men to be confident, approach women first, and learn healthy social skills to respectfully do so. And many women are turned-off by a man not expressing any sexual attraction (including subtly through flirting) at all during dates or even when first approaching her to gauge if there is a mutual attraction. As much as many men need to learn the appropriate ways to do this without harassing women, it’s going to be inevitable that even Normie men without disabilities are goi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 06:34 AM |
| – | Men and women are not getting along and it unfortunately makes sense.Partly disagree, because statistically many men and women are still ending up together, and while the 50% divorce rate may be partly due to many humans preferring multiple partners over life rather than only one and also societal factors in a more divisive society, it may also be evidence of men and women generally having more incompatibilities than once thought now that women are no longer oppressed, and that the rise of social media has helped make more clear. The worst case scenario is that i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 06:50 AM |
| 2 | Guys should become FeminineYou need to define masculinity and femininity more clearly. If by “masculine”, you mean women pursuing more higher education/careers - I disagree that this is masculine, but for the sake of the argument we’ll specifically talk about the women who would define it as a traditionally masculine behaviour and societal role that they are choosing to undertake. With that all taken into account, I disagree, and these are my arguments: Most women who pursue higher education and careers do not see themsel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Low status men like high status men are their allies but but they are notIt’s definitely true, the women here are more self-aware of their standards and what they bring to the table, but even then, the ones who say they like nerdier or more feminine men then say their husband is skinny and tall, aka a top 20-10% man. It’s just a microcosm that reflects the wider population trends that most women here claim to be above, but participate in just as much, they’re just actually self-aware of it compared to the average woman. And notice how despite this, 90% of the women a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 12:59 PM |
| 1 | An hugely understated "purgatory" for men is being stuck in the "zone" between average and the top 10%It’s due to women being the sexual selectors, and so the balance may always be skewed on the biological level, even if societal norms can influence this to an extent. I agree that we really need dating culture to start being clearer to men that women in general are hypergamous and that a man has to accept that due to this, and how much more desired women are, that his match on paper isn’t actually the case in reality. A man who is a 5, has to prove he can be successful at being a provider and/or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 11:17 AM |
| 8 | Dating hasn't become worse; it's just the internet that has exposed all the lies we were toldWhile dating was always shit and many marriages’ were based on utility and the “love” was a farce, I disagree, in that I believe the past problems with dating have actually become even worse due to social media and dating app addiction. Now we are both exposed to the truth, but also have to see the existing problems with dating actively become even worse at the same time, and recent generations being over-exposed to this information actually makes their existing mindsets towards it even worse th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 01:12 PM |
| 4 | Hollywood and Pop Culture in general RUINED dating culture!It’s definitely a factor, especially since the rise of social media and smartphones, but I disagree that it’s the biggest or ultimate factor. I think that social network and dating app addiction is the bigger influence more than Hollywood and celebrities themselves, but indeed many influencers share their content on social networks, and many of them engage in guerrilla marketing and don’t openly state when they are using cosmetic/makeup/gym/diet supplements that they are marketing and how this e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Do women like both masculine and feminine traits in a man ?So yes, some women do find sex-stereotype-nonconforming men hot. But they're very much a minority Not only that, but most of those women usually only like the top 20% of feminine men - the twinks who could pass for women, which is so unrealistic that even they can’t maintain that look after 30ish due to ageing. I’ve seen this even here (where women are more self-aware of their preferences) amongst the women who like feminine men and then say they like the ones that are tall, skinny, and/or twink… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Do women like both masculine and feminine traits in a man ?Generally women want a masculine man with just a light touch of feminine traits that help him better understand and connect with her, and also because this would help him as a father to a potential daughter. Many women who claim to find a moderate or high amount of femininity in a male attractive underestimate how far that goes. Feminine men have niche appeal to a minority of women, however, most of those women only like or strongly prefer the top 20% of feminine men - the twinks who could pass … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Your age-appropriate date has a collection of romance novels, fanfiction, and Disney Princess stuff. Red flag? Or no big deal?Mainly that it’s a commitment to the horse, caring for it’s needs back and forth to the stables, the amount of socialising at the Country Club/etc., to the extent that it’s seen by many as on the level of a lifestyle they wouldn’t be compatible with. I’d date a horse woman though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Your age-appropriate date has a collection of romance novels, fanfiction, and Disney Princess stuff. Red flag? Or no big deal?Perfectly fine with it so long as it doesn’t give them unrealistic expectations. Erotic entertainment, whether that is porn and/or romance and smut novels, is a matter of compatibility like any other for the two individuals to determine together. Personally I enjoy writing and reading such content myself and would love a partner to bond over creating and enjoying such content together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 01:01 AM |
| – | Men, what is something unique you expericne as a result of your gender often that you wished women understood?How much more strongly men are judged for breaking traditional gender norms even a little, whether that be your typical Autistic man who significantly struggles to fit the male gender roles irregardless of his efforts to learn to mask - because it’s usually due to his actual, core personality differences. Or if you’re an openly cross-dressing, makeup wearing male such as myself who is at significantly greater risk of experiencing sexism and homophobia for it compared to no one caring about women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 10:12 AM |
| 1 | The worst thing about modern expectations is that women roles and social duties have been eased while men roles and social duties have increased or stayed sameWhile I agree that the balance sucks, especially when it is due to societal and not biological reasons, remember that it’s a filtering method the same as any other, and even though a male being gender non-conforming will turn away the vast majority of women, it is what it is and better to determine that you are not compatible and that they can not or do not want to compromise on it sooner rather than later, so I advise that gender non-conforming men commit to it and defend your values in respons… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Male lonliness is self inflictedI am so tired of every guy in this sub going around being like women are evil for not dating men or any other bs and it's because of that men are not "progressing" these days Some of those women are genuinely behaving in an intentionally socially discriminatory manner in general towards men who struggle with dating. This sexism deserves to be called out and is contributing to men struggling. Most single women don't feel might feel negative effects like loniliness but they will push through it an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 05:57 AM |
| 1 | The “Innocent Privilege” Women Have Enjoyed for decades Is Fading As Technology EvolvesYes, but life experience is something Gen Z are receiving significantly less of until later ages, and the media shows Gen Z males that: Men commit gendered violence more than women - but partly because the number is skewed due to a man being made to penetrate not legally counting as rape or gendered violence in statistics. The UN believes “HeForShe” is the campaign that has to be prioritised for gender equality. The US Democrats “Who we stand for” section specifically listed every women and mino… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 03:58 AM |
| 1 | The “Innocent Privilege” Women Have Enjoyed for decades Is Fading As Technology EvolvesExactly, all of this is how patriarchy harms men too, and clear evidence that modern Feminist’s aren’t doing enough to dismantle the patriarchy because many of them benefit from it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 03:33 AM |
| – | Literally every male in the history of existence has wanted to have sex. Women should stop acting like a guy it’s disgusting for wanting to have sex.Yeah, it’s a shame that mainstream journalists pushed Anita Sarkeesian as a major feminist critic at the time, who linked video games with violence, which were predominantly enjoyed by males at the time, and also arguing the fanservice enjoyed by those males was sexist in general, was the start of far-left politics taking over and altering the game’s and other nerdy male hobby industries, and remove that form of gender non-conforming male sexuality, for the men who were unable to be selected for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 02:08 PM |
| 3 | What is your ideal partner like?My difficulty with finding a partner is that I fall into several statistical minorities, to the point that every person I tell my story agrees that I’m an extreme outlier even amongst the other (primarily Autistic and/or short and/or racial minority and/or conventionally unattractive faced) males on this subreddit. I’m average faced, average height and weight, but require someone with the Neuro-chemistry to be capable of dating an outlier such as myself since I’m Transgender, Bisexual, Autistic,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 03:04 AM |
| 7 | Q4M: if you refuse to approach, does that help or hurt the loneliness epidemic?People are approached when they are willing to be socially open and welcome an approach, otherwise common courtesy is to allow people to do their business and thus they are the one who is contributing to the general loneliness epidemic, if they choose not to be socially open even in a situation they normally would be, but opt for using their phone, only talking to their friends, etc. The social culture in western nations by many Gen Z have been hyper-individualistic and socially reserved, I’ve r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 01:29 PM |
| 3 | What would your perfered insult be?That’s why we should also call minorities who are being rude slurs, because it touches on their insecurities based on the fact they directly openly experienced discrimination for it in the past! /s Oh, wait… I don’t see what’s different about those immutable traits versus other immutable traits such as height, or changeable ones such as weight, etc. Either all are acceptable or neither. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 12:36 AM |
| 1 | What would your perfered insult be?Some Feminist’s reclaimed “slut”, similar to how some gay men reclaimed “Queer” and black people reclaimed the “N-word”. It already appears to be just that for many incels; we get to use that term amongst each other to describe each other, but recent social internet culture has turned it into an insult, which Incels continue to reclaim as “our word” we may only use between each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Men should increase thier standards and be ready to be single if they dont get what they want.Yes, definitely. Even if I wasn’t also Transgender, I’d still be a non-conforming male turned off by the strict enforcement of gender roles in 99% of dating It’s unbelievable and disgusting how high it is the amount of men on Reddit who claim to be in happy relationships, yet say they can’t open up to her, can’t speak to her the same way she does to him, are low desired by her, have to be the one’s to always choose where to go out and make all the effort in courting, etc. and just makes most men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 07:39 AM |
| – | Women are not repulsed by men opening up about their feelings, they're repulsed by incompetenceOne of the mental health advices that is becoming more common is the reminder that “Sometimes it’s okay to not be okay”, which is supposed to be a shorthand for how, at times in life, a person is going to be overwhelmed and need time to recover - death of a loved one, a traumatic life event, etc. Everyone, men and women, have these moments of mental and emotional “weakness”. As one of the other commenters said, I also thank you for being honest that in general, most women are emotionally immatur… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Would you date a very attractive girl who doesn't like sex?No sex at all? Because it’s not like if she enjoyed affection that she couldn’t hug and stimulate my body in ways that would be done intimately during sex, but without penetration. Also, I would enjoy being pegged, so… I’d be fine dating an Asexual woman willing to engage in a minimal amount of sex, I.e. once a month, and fulfil my kinks, but a woman who wants no forms of intimate affection at all isn’t enough for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 12:55 PM |
| 2 | Men need to stop being logicalDisagree, men and women have comparable levels of emotional and logical reasoning. Intelligence is generally a matter of compatibility like any other. While it is the case that a person with compatible life goals who is more intelligent than their partner, can complement their partner’s lower intelligence as a “flaw” like any other that the partner can equally complement with a different strength, mental and emotional intelligence still generally effects two individuals capacity to understand ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 05:45 AM |
| 40 | Do your feelings towards women come from jealousy or genuine disgust?Personally I believe that our unhealthy hyper-capitalist, hyper-individualist car-city-centric, social media and dating app addicted society is negatively exploiting some of our worst instincts that may have been beneficial in the past, but are more detrimental since the Industrial Revolution. I have a love of humanity and the tendencies that make up men and women’s nature. But I have issue with the women and men who are fully aware of what some of the negative consequences of modern life may be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 07:27 AM |
| 10 | The average man is not below an average woman.Partly disagree, because due to women being the sexual selectors, the balance will most likely always be skewed, even if today’s balance may or may not be too much of a pendulum swing to the opposite issue due to societal factors. The next factor is the lack of social acceptance for men to enhance their appearance through makeup, shoe lifts, plastic surgery, etc. compared to women. Generally speaking in modern western societies, the average male has to also offer provider and/or child-care for h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 10:20 AM |
| 7 | Traits that are associated with attractiveness (humor, kindness, charisma, etc) are (mostly) irrelevant to success with dating or sex.They do not create or increase physical attraction, but are personality traits that can enhance it. Yes, people with Unconventional phenotypes, be it less common facial shapes from genes, heritable health problems, Autism phenotypical development, LGBT people, racial minorities, etc. simply meet significantly less mutually attracted or potentially attracted other people at their social groups and events. This is why despite one’s best efforts, someone who is Unconventional could simply statistic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Women asking about your job isn’t sign of being gold diggerIt's a culture thing. The ability to socialize with the upperclass or lowerclass is something people are either born into, or learn over time. For both my husband and I, knowing which fork to use (for example) , how to socialize, dress, etc in settings outside our ordinary were something that we valued in each other, and got to learn about each other early on in our relationship. When this is done for family/friend/community/co-workers approval, it is a social status related element of culture. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 08:42 AM |
| 3 | Women asking about your job isn’t sign of being gold diggerThis sounds like social status. That your social status with your co-workers is also partly determined by your partner’s social status. I would define someone who doesn’t care about any of this to be someone who doesn’t care about the social status that comes with approval from high income co-workers in a high income socio-economic class. It’s okay to have such preferences but people need to be honest about so as soon as possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 08:38 AM |
| 3 | Women asking about your job isn’t sign of being gold diggerYour reasoning sounds like it could be gold-digging. And unfortunately the word “ambition” is often used as a dishonest smokescreen for income, because you can be ambitious in ways outside of your career. Hence why disabled men who are frugal with their income, volunteer and donate are still seen as a “low social status” despite it literally not being their choice to be disabled. It’s okay for people to require a partner with a certain income and certain future income prospects, because both par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 08:33 AM |
| 1 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.And if too few people wanted to reproduce to the point we would be at risk of extinction, then it would simply be natural selection; however, natural selection can be influenced by unhealthy evolutionary behaviours, based on our worst impulses and increasing mental illness being actively encouraged by our unhealthy hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society, that some people may be self-sabotaging their community socialising in general and should be supported by. It’s important to discuss … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 02:46 PM |
| 2 | "Women are just as horny, they just have safety/shame issues" doesn't check out with women not being tormented by sexlessness.I’m surprised only one other person has mentioned Testosterone and how it affects libido. I think women can be just as horny as men within relationships with a man they love and trust. I don’t know how common that is or if many women still have lower libidos in the end. But generally speaking, aside from women already being more socially fulfilled in general compared to men, which helps them prevent and relieve any feelings of sexual frustration - they are also less horny outside of relationship… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 08:34 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: when was the last time you were too intimidated by a woman's beauty to approach?Never. As an average faced, average weight, average height, racial minority male, I’ve approached people that are “out of my league” at social groups, events and markets before, so long as they are socially open. I’m aware that my chances are lower the more attractive the other person is, but don’t care because: They are the usually the first person who caught my eye that I’m both physically attracted to, but also determined that I would be potentially compatible with personality-wise, based on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 12:18 PM |
| – | Women like masculinity because it is deeply homoeroticWomen prefer masculinity due to a combination of nature and nurture. Most Yaoi content uses one of the males as a submissive male who is a surrogate for her in the girl role. Similar to how most women don’t require a romance novel man in real life, they also don’t necessarily crave femininity in men in reality at all, and statistically 63% of women would not date a Bisexual man, despite Yaoi being a popular homosexual content niche. Typically, the women who do enjoy it due to enjoying male homos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Why do you feel pressured to pursue women?I do, yes, from those who would attempt to socially discriminate and exclude me from social groups and events, of which I’ve already directed experienced. I’m gender non-conforming and filtering for someone who would at least try and show my Autistic self more visibly noticeable signals but be willing to approach if I simply don’t notice after they’ve already tried a few times, as I’d require someone patient and understanding. And not succumb to the tribal groupthink social dynamics and be willi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 02:11 PM |
| 4 | Women judge men for promiscuity!As someone who doesn’t care about body count for women or men, the common hypocrisy in dating culture is clear as day. 30% of Gen Z women are LGBT but 63% of women wouldn’t date a Bisexual men. It’s misleading to say “Body count and the past doesn’t matter (unless you’re a virgin, slept with one man, or slept with one Trans person)!” Replace “one man” or “one Trans person” with “one Neurodivergent person”. Why? One, because LGBT people tend to also be Neurodivergent. And two, there’s even some s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/25 07:13 AM |
| 3 | Why are men here surprised that women give attention to men they like?Or be grateful that I got someone who has a lot more options than me and take what I can get. The same goes for men Most women have a lot more options than most men. An equal partnership means disregarding that completely to instead focus on being capable of seeing each other equally as past partners, irregardless of how the current partners strengths and flaws actually stack-up. It’s healthiest not to compare past experiences and focus on the here and now with their current partner instead. Aft… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/25 04:23 AM |
| 1 | The gender war epidemicNot to mention the reduction in strong male protagonist’s, and forced “diversity” that is ironically phenotypically homogenous. For instance every companion in Microsoft’s upcoming The Outer Worlds 2 is ambiguously coloured, and thus there is a lack of any Caucasian or Asian characters. “Diversity” my ass, and more evidence of Horsehoe theory regarding Far-left politics in action. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 02:26 AM |
| 5 | The gender war epidemicThis. Many Caucasian Feminist women grow up from wealthy families within the city-centres, attend University based on gender scholarships, and attain their career through DEI. And then they socially uphold and politically vote against measures to help overhaul our hyper-capitalist car-city-centric designed societies (because they benefit from it), despite it continues to perpetuate racial segregation through economic gentrification, and other minority groups also live in the lower income neighbo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 02:05 AM |
| – | “Women always choose bad boys” is a pretty bad exaggerationAgreed, it is usually women’s instinct to practice solidarity for social cohesion as a survival instinct. But like other past behaviours we evolved for that are now unhealthy in the modern society (i.e. for men one of our’s would be our tendency to be more violent), this is also something that our culture needs to encourage for women to work on so that they speak up when other women behave sexist towards men or practice Lookism by not speaking up the truth when ugly men are lied to. It’s cowardi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 12:28 AM |
| 1 | I'm starting to believe that the "women are only attracted to the top 20% of attractive men" rule is only true for Autistic malesThey aren’t welcoming enough, since there’s even the online meme of the “incel to transgender” pipeline - many left wing Autistic incels who are victims of sexism, ableism and homophobia for the same behaviours accepted in women, cause them to mistake how it worsened their gender Dysphoria and jealousy for how biological females were treated as a dislike towards them, but in reality it was dislike towards society for genuine discrimination that they misdirected towards women. It wouldn’t be such… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 12:19 AM |
| 1 | The gender war epidemicI’ve witnessed both plenty of times… and it’s all kind of meh What some of us Progressives are trying to argue is that this attitude of casual dismissal, just because casual sexism is so rampant in our society and doesn’t hurt everyone’s feelings such as yourself, is still the exact issue, because it eventually leads to bigger problems of sexism, that we are trying to make the effort to help change. We can agree to disagree about it but us Progressives certainly aren’t going to stop pointing it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 12:00 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵A “good” therapist can help you set specific goals to work towards regarding mental health, I.e. a step-by-step sheet to mark down your progression, exposure therapy, etc. But good therapists are rare, and the bigger issue is, due to the whole design of the system to attain the profession, just how many of them were sheltered from many of the difficult circumstances their patients come from (poverty, generational trauma, being a discriminated minority group, etc.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 04:39 AM |
| 1 | I'm starting to believe that the "women are only attracted to the top 20% of attractive men" rule is only true for Autistic malesYes, most of the manosphere and incels are Autistic. It just goes to prove how much more Autistic males, even LGBT ones, are socially excluded in general that many of them feel they have nowhere else to turn to for answers except for the manosphere, because many Social Progressives are actually virtue-signalling hypocrites. They took over the game’s industry through DEI and reduced fanservice content and White heterosexual males as an example of strong healthy masculine representation. Heck, the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 04:29 AM |
| 1 | I'm starting to believe that the "women are only attracted to the top 20% of attractive men" rule is only true for Autistic malesYeah it’s obvious. For example an average height, tall or short woman is still appealing, an average man is neutral (at best) and a short man is not. A slim man who is a healthy weight is not appealing while a slim woman is. Makeup and heels are acceptable for women and not men. Etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Dead bedroom discourse explains dead bedroomsI think it would be better to just utilise it as a filtering method like any other - how resilient a person is to life factors effecting their libido. Men should avoid women (and women should avoid men) who can’t maintain mental, emotional and physical health and stability to keep their libido as high as possible in response to life stressors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 03:19 AM |
| 3 | Women support patriarchyIt’s generally what men and women want, a partner who has pursued similar social roles in education, career and/or community social status, and as a disabled Child-free person I’d be glad to be a dedicated House-Partner, financially support myself with my own income and providing for each other by splitting the bill on dates on top of that. Being socially progressive on gender roles means accepting the consequences of so and doing one’s best to meet one’s matches in compatible life values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 01:58 PM |
| 2 | How has the success of the Netflix series "Adolescence" helped men?The series executed some aspects regarding mental health and youth outreach horribly, such as the teen girl going home without punishment after bullying the protagonist, and the UK government supporting it due to it’s function as a propaganda piece compared to the actual crime statistics that paint current levels of immigration in a bad light, simply means that it sent the wrong message to most audiences and was quickly forgotten about anyway for wider societal discussion and changes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/25 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Is it common for men to fantasize about being with a billionaire?I do fantasise about the power fantasy of highly physically fit and well-groomed partners whom I would do my best to match, yes, and both read and write romance fantasy stories of powerful characters, i.e. Princesses, Queens, tribe Chieftain warrior woman, etc. And wealth assists women to attain similar high beauty and health standards, but in actual real life I don’t care about income and also fine with dating someone who also has many debilitating health issues as myself despite my moderately … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Women bully each other into hypergamyI do think this can subtly be enforced in some more group-oriented conformist cultures, becoming increasingly common within our unhealthy hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist societies, but these bullying types and the pushovers who allow their friends to influence their hypergamy levels are too immature and unhealthy to date anyway, because with hypergamy-inflation comes financial irresponsibility to always seek the next best competitive moneymaking schemes, including men and women using ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 03:21 PM |
| – | Expecting autistic men to mask and upgrade their entire lives, especially dating, while not even giving them a chance or ever trying to approach them is hypocritical and illiberal.Exactly this, considering the same behaviour and personality by a Non-binary Autistic male will be socially excluded compared to a Non-binary Autistic female, yes, it is usually active, intentional discrimination against Autistic men due to: Men being seen as more of a threat in general Plenty of people are aware that Autistic women are seen as quirky and had more social opportunities to learn to mask, so it becomes a re-enforcing pattern - that Autistic men are usually pre-judged to be socially… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 10:00 PM |
| 7 | Gen Z men's life choices are the primary reason they're much more single than gen Z women; gen z women are finding equitable partners outside of heteronormsGen Z men who want a gender non-conforming relationship also count as them trying to find equitable partners outside hetero-norms, it’s just that, as you clearly argue yourself, it’s far less acceptable for men to do so than for women, because men are seen as significantly less attractive if they try and date women who are higher educated and earn more. With the increasing amount of men who are single and who don’t approach women anymore, they are also refusing to submit to traditional gender ro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you want dating to cost less? Or do you want a traditional woman?I openly cross-dress in combinations of women’s clothing and wear makeup as well as the standard skincare, dieting and gym, and would be fine being the only one dressing-up nice for a date. So I’d want to prove we can provide a gender non-conforming relationship and equal incomes, house-partner and errand labor (as child-free folk) for each other, and step one would be providing each other a coffee and our equal gratitude. This is my personal filtering method including to filter-out hypocritical… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 11:34 AM |
| – | Women preferring to date tall men is not a bad thing. It's actually somewhat selfless.In some women’s cases it is only preferences and in other’s it is a requirement. For the women for whom it’s a changeable preference, I don’t care if they filter out the majority of men under 6 foot including myself as an average 5’9” in Australia and open about it on dating apps - that just means we aren’t compatible anyway. And strongly prefer for those women to not mention when rejecting a man for his height, but also be honest if asked how tall their boyfriend is and including it as a factor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 07:43 AM |
| 3 | Let's be honest: men also have different rules for the women they're attracted to.No, and similar to u/XanTheLastMan, I would also pick a 5 who knows what it’s like to be average and have to put a good deal of effort to be attractive, rather than a 10 who is far more likely to have experienced far less rejection they had to grow from, far less general social discrimination, and thus most likely less struggle in life in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 12:36 AM |
| – | Can someone explain what “dating inflation” even is?Firstly it’s economic, for instance how much of the “average Suburban lifestyle” from media that was always an unsustainable luxury from the Boomer generation after the post-WW2 U.S. economic might and how much of it is increasingly inaccessible now. Millennials in particular felt the rug pulled out from them but social media and dating app addiction and car/city-centric societies caused that ideal to still be culturally “average” for Gen Z and younger and increasingly out of reach due to growin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 01:17 PM |
| 3 | Males should be told to dress betterIt works if you like popular men’s fashion, significantly less-so if you deviate from that and the strong gender roles coded into most men’s fashion. And good luck if you dress ethnic or cross-dress like I do, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 04:46 AM |
| 11 | Why do so many men here keep demanding empathy ?Simply to understand how an average man’s dating struggles inevitably leads to more difficulties socialising and social exclusion in general, and open their mind to possibly giving average men more general social grace in platonic/community ways, to help balance it out because they are usually given less on average than women. With young women being more highly desired, a young woman trying to join a stranger’s group at a social event is more welcome than not, a lone man with the same personalit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Young women aren't going for the top x% of men and ending up in situationships with the same manStats show most LGBT people aren’t Non-monogamous, but they are over-represented since Poly people remain on the dating market. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 01:35 AM |
| 1 | We need to stop comparing sex with money, these are not great trade offs to begin with.If men genuinely did respect and cared for women then why are men so against paying for a simple date? Why are men so against paying for anything let alone providing for women genreal, isnt that concerning? Because some of us are socially progressive and not interested in traditional gender roles, whether they are Trans like myself or just a gender non-conforming man. I don’t see why men need to “prove” their willingness for commitment through paying for dates with a woman who earns her own inco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone ever changed their mind or their side as a result of this sub?I have always believed there is some truth to Blue, Red and B-pill depending on the cultures, but other’s perspectives and studies both help me understand my own perspectives better but also change my mind on some things that I wasn’t aware of. This sub is still the best resource and discussion hub for modern dating dynamics and how this effects our western societies in a critical and factual lens without being as suppressed by censorship and sanitisation as most other internet spaces in recent … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 03:30 AM |
| 1 | People angry at the term “Emotional Labor” have never cared for people.Support towards partners is important, as well as doing each other’s best to understand when certain elements of your mental health are not fully able for your partner to assist you with yet until you both seek extra guidance from therapy. But all things in moderation, including moderation, and some partners may personally feel their venting that is mentally dwelling on the situation is simply emotional labor when it is causing extra distress and inability to help one another for both partners. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 07:29 PM |
| 0 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.There can be an appeal to playing dating on hard mode, yes, but there are also other tradeoffs to consider. Due to women being the sexual selectors, they are more highly desired and thus able to experience the bonus to one’s life of romantic and sexual partnerships, and also are able to choose which men they approach and are likely to receive a high positive response rate from. But, in my case, being one of the less desired sexes, Neurological groups, cultural groups, and LGBT, I filter out inco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 07:35 PM |
| 1 | You're not an "average" guy if you struggle in datingThis was true in the 1990s-2010, but in hyper-capitalist societies, the bar for “average” goes up based on cultural conditioning rather than reality. For example an average income from an average job was acceptable, then the bar was raised due to inflation and degree/job requirement-inflation meaning objectively average/the majority, isn’t good enough for an average lifestyle anymore. Apply this to every aspect of society in a hyper-capitalist society, worsened by Covid and social media addictio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Going dutch on dates is the best way to weed out women with a parasitic mentality.If I was just a gender non-conforming man and not also LGBT on top of that, I prefer diverse and non-typical gender roles, and want to both prove that we can provide for each other and that we both want a gender non-conforming relationship, so I’ll offer to provide for their half and buy them a coffee, and also request they buy me a coffee to provide for my half in return and be clear that I would be grateful for it. Splitting the bill is just step one of this filtering process by me. I can unde… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 02:34 PM |
| 9 | Introverted men or asocial men are far more likely to have odd interactions with women, due male gender expectations.Even just being reserved but still quietly confident is actively unattractive to most people. It’s far too socially acceptable for people to intrude onto quieter and less social people’s lives. “Why are you so quiet?”, “It’s always the quiet ones you’ve got to watch out for”… “What are you thinking about?” “Nothing.” “Is something wrong and you’re trying to hide it from me?” “Awkward silence” being a thing at all… Mandatory social bonding exercises in white-collar government work wasting taxpaye… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 11:20 AM |
| 4 | Introverted men or asocial men are far more likely to have odd interactions with women, due male gender expectations.You're wrong. There is no logical jump from having the ability to recognise someone is asocial or introverted to then finding it off putting. That doesn't make sense, which is why that person is an arsehole Agreed, but it’s unfortunately all-too-common and even socially acceptable in many social circles to intrude onto introverts and less social people. “Why are you so quiet?”, “It’s always the quiet ones you’ve got to look out for…”. Men in relationships commonly being asked by their girlfriend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 11:13 AM |
| 8 | Introverted men or asocial men are far more likely to have odd interactions with women, due male gender expectations.Are you trolling? Why are you directing the “he is quiet, he must be a school shooter!” bullying stereotype towards OP in what’s supposed to be a civil debate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 08:47 AM |
| 0 | What kinds of social media habits are red or green flags for men?Social media usage between couples can be a form of social compatibility, that is culturally and individually subjective and how that particular extravert/Ambivert/introvert uses social media and prefers the level that their partners does the same. Personally I casually use multiple social media with Reddit being the primary, then Facebook due to legacy friends/family connections, Discord and the three major online dating apps (Tinder/Bumble/Hinge). I prefer other’s who prefer to minimise their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 03:16 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Deadbeat dads shouldn't be allowed to pay child support up front in a lump sumThis, and ultimately if basic protection such as condoms is used but fails, that’s still a risk the man and woman both wilfully took in the end. As an aside to the primary topic, does recent research suggest the pull-out method is actually effective, or it’s not, but commonly attempted, which is why you listed it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Men: how do you feel about traditional gender norms?Points to flair 👆🏼 Even if I wasn’t Transgender, as an Autistic person I’ve always found gender roles for both men and women to be extremely restrictive and would feel as if I’m only expressing half of my personality if I didn’t fully engage in both the masculine and feminine behaviours that I enjoy. I openly cross-dress and wear makeup, I enjoy both masculine and feminine terms of endearment, I’m a switch in the bedroom, I would enjoy being the only one who dresses up nice as the object of desi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 08:03 AM |
| 2 | I don’t see any good reason why men and women, regardless of how they look, can’t have meaningful, lasting friendships with one another. Also, having friendships with different genders can be a very good thing.Personally I’ve been attracted to every female friend I’ve ever had, even if they weren’t usually my type and I was focused on meeting and dating other women, and even though my crush usually fades, my physical attraction I developed does not. Whenever I do have a partner, my attraction to anybody else completely fades…before returning in full force if we break-up. Considering that it is good advice for your romantic partner to be your best friend, it’s clear that I would be capable of doing tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Why do you think women attracted to majority of guys?Combination of nature and nurture. Nature being men producing thousands of sperm to fertilise every one egg, women are the sexual selectors of the best genes for the next generation, and require a committed man for his provider, protecting and own child-raising roles because of the effort she has to make in pregnancy/childbirth. It is slightly less justifiable however for child-free women to expect the same standards as women who are seeking a man who is a good father, but biological instincts b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 01:18 PM |
| – | Men and women (but especially men) aren't aware of what league they belong toI openly cross-dress and wear makeup in detailed, fashionable outfits and am also well-groomed, hygienic, eat well, sleep well and exercise, financially and shelter secure. Are traditionally masculine men who dress badly, have poor hygiene, extremely obese, have bad teeth, skin and bodies from meth, homeless and financially unstable, still a “higher league” than me just because their traditional masculinity will still mean they appeal to a higher percent of women within my culture than me, becau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/25 06:09 AM |
| – | Men and women (but especially men) aren't aware of what league they belong toYou apply to jobs you're not qualified in. Define “qualified”. For example a lot of Eurocentric people in western cultures enforce their subjective cultural standards (including beauty standards) onto us racial minorities as if we are of an “inferior league” for subjective lifestyle choices and alternative beauty standards, that are simply a different culture that’s just as valid and equal, but simply different. Submitting to those types of ideas of leagues makes dating worse-off for everyone an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/25 05:39 AM |
| – | Men and women (but especially men) aren't aware of what league they belong toThe only league that exists is immune system genetic compatibility, including epigenetic traits (i.e. how your grandparent’s lifestyle compared to the other person’s grandparent’s lifestyle), and is determined through body odour and saliva exchange in kissing. Cultural factors on top of that are purely subjective hogwash and while some people may feel another person is incompatible for cultural reasons and claim it’s because they are “different leagues”, it’s actually most likely that they simpl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/25 05:32 AM |
| 7 | There really isn't a correct way to approach womenWomen aren’t a monolith, plenty of women express wanting men to approach and/or asking for advice for how so, to the point that it’s becoming a more regular topic on the r/Askmen, r/AskmenAdvice, r/dating, and r/dating_advice subreddits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 07:07 PM |
| 8 | Do you all think dating was easier before COVID or even before the rise of dating apps as the main source of meeting people?Covid was just the straw that broke the camel’s back of many existing issues in our hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist western societies that were already increasing since the 2000s, and already beginning to reach a breaking point, including but not limited to: Racial segregation through economic gentrification (including immigrants given their own neighbourhoods), immigration shifting culture, rise of far-right politics, declining education systems, social media and dating app addiction, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menNot to mention some of these spaces can’t even claim to be welcoming to all Queer people either. There’s been a rise in spaces that are open to “women, Transgender and non-binary people” when they mean Non-binary females only and Transgender women only. As for Non-binary males and Transgender men? Shit out of luck and actively excluded when they attempt to attend. Discrimination only goes one way for those feminists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 08:18 AM |
| 4 | Men: tell me about your fatherHe was an abusive alcoholic and my mother separated from him when I was 12. He is now very regretful of the past and continues to do his best to atone for it through his time and effort to support me as a disabled adult and my siblings (whom also have disabilities) but is a half-assed father at best, due to both flaws that he doesn’t take the responsibility to work on and flaws that he is clearly unable to change. I realised I was Transgender when I was 14, and I don’t know if his abuse and negl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Many men’s dating problems come from expecting women to act like men.Life is meant to be challenging, it's the whole point For 95% of history our ancestors only spent 15 hours working a week. We grew up and died in communal tribes of a few hundred that cared for one another across families. The human mind didn’t evolve to face thousands of rejections (some men on dating apps receive over 1 million rejections). Existence was never supposed to be this challenging, and a whole lot of modern challenges are man-made. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Men love women for who they are. Women love men for what they can do.Most of my LTRs after that were a mutual friend setting us up. Specifically, that FWB setting me up with various friends of his. Did you ever have the experience of having to set out to meet and approach other people for friends and/or LTRs within your local communities at social groups and events, aka the other one’s outside of the “most”? Since I don’t have other LGBT friends and most LGBT folk are Poly, I’ve always felt Shit Out Of Luck aside from online dating and the rare times I was able t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/25 07:06 PM |
| – | “Just date women in your social circle” gives men the wrong idea and benefits womenI can relate as a person who is an outlier and the minority within every social group - I’m Transgender, Bisexual, Autistic, monogamous (most LGBT people are Poly), mixed race and Pantheist, disabled and low income. And this: the women who are adjacent to your life will have lots in common with you ie. career, income level, education, belief systems. …is insane to me as well, since it doesn’t even apply to every minority group I am a part of, so I’m always an oddity in one way or another. But as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 01:44 PM |
| 2 | What exactly is a Chad?Someone who fits most-to-all criteria for “Conventionally attractive and gender-conforming” male in your society and culture. Both of your example men could be Chads, depending on how much being short holds the second man back, Your Mileage May Vary depending on the culture. Sure there is nuance, but generally there is criteria which can be used to determine where a man stands on the Conventionally Attractive scale. Some methods would be if they have more sexual partners than the average, receiv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 01:49 AM |
| 3 | Would you be better than women at vetting guys?Most women are skilled at vetting. I’m confident in saying that I’m able to effectively do so for myself as well, yes, despite being Autistic and lacking much relationship experience. Here’s my arguments: I am low income, and was already exposed to low income cultures and navigating the increased rates of mental illness, drug abuse and crime within those populations including when dealing with family/friends who were. It makes it easier and quicker to detect those red flags in other’s. Us Autist… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 01:27 PM |
| 0 | 'Tea App' rage just proves men cannot handle being treated like women.I’ve been trying to confront these people as well, and several of these users are continuing to dodge the ultimate question I’ve tried asking them. Here’s how I’ve phrased it for them most recently: Let’s test a hypothetical. A woman dates a man on Bumble, and he abuses her at the end of the third date. She posts his public photo used fromBumble, and his publicly listed locationfrom Bumble, and states what happened to her. Not much different to the Facebook crime pages reporting someone. If that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 04:06 AM |
| 0 | 'Tea App' rage just proves men cannot handle being treated like women.Alright, I’ll ask you directly again, one more time: Let’s test a hypothetical. A woman dates a man on Bumble, and he abuses her at the end of the third date. She posts his public photo used from Bumble, and his publicly listed location from Bumble, and states what happened to her. Not much different to the Facebook crime pages reporting someone. If that woman wasn’t aware of the Tea App doxxing, and wasn’t aware of the lax security, and thought that any doxxers are trolls who should be banned j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 03:39 AM |
| 0 | 'Tea App' rage just proves men cannot handle being treated like women.Sure, but I’m trying to narrow the question to confront the OP. spread gossip If a woman interpreted the app to only be used for this reason (to genuinely talk about someone who abused them during dating and warn others), and due to ignorance, didn’t know about the doxxing, or just seeing the doxxing as trolls who mis-use the app and should be moderated, just like on 4chan or Reddit, do you think those specific women, deserve to be doxxed? If so, why? Because they failed to read the terms of ser… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 03:30 AM |
| -1 | 'Tea App' rage just proves men cannot handle being treated like women.Sure it’s fine to see the Tea app as not ethical in general, but it’s a slippery slope. If you made a comment here and someone decided you were being a bully, does that give them the right to look up your IP address right now in 5 minutes, and post it to the Reddit front page to doxx you? Because that’s what’s happening to plenty of those women who didn’t share any man’s real face or address at all. I’m trying to challenge you about if you think those women deserved it just for using the Tea soc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 03:21 AM |
| 3 | 'Tea App' rage just proves men cannot handle being treated like women.Sure, but what u/Makuta_Servaela is trying to tell you is that anybody’s IP address being connected to their real address and the name of the person registered for it, is public information that anyone can find for anybody with the right websites within literal minutes, including you or I. You can be against that in itself, but it is what it is, perfectly legal, and Tea had one of those websites built-in as a search tool but wasn’t advertised as a primary feature. I do think that extra checks an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Polyandry is the answer to male lonelinessThis is a compatibility matter on the level of children vs. child-free, and most people can’t change their core value on the subject, period. I don’t care about the stigma of body count, I don’t care about body count at all and would date a safe prostitute or OnlyFans producer so long as they’re shelter-secure, private about it and romantically monogamous. I’m also LGBT and most LGBT are Polyamorous. If I could change myself to be open to Poly, I would, but I can’t, so as a Monogamous LGBT perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Why are you in this sub ? And what make you stay there ?To be as appealing as possible within one’s “niches”. For the nerd, or goth, etc. to lean into it. I’m Autistic, Transgender, Bisexual, and Black, but I don’t fit the stereotypes for any of those categories. I’m also Monogamous and most LGBT people are Poly. No matter what social groups and events I attend, I’m always in the minority in some way and that makes me easily stand-out. I also openly cross-dress in alternative goth-sporty fashion and wear makeup and colourful Queer-coded accessories a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Why are you in this sub ? And what make you stay there ?Discussing and debating socio-cultural gender dynamics and roles, including how they are connected to wider western cultural practices and the socioeconomic model, to better understand and deepen my own views, but also have my mind challenged and changed on the topics I didn’t view enough studies for, didn’t consider in a certain way or read other’s experiences that add to the diverse range of experiences out there. As someone who significantly struggled with Heterosexual dating due to being dis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Women do want a good man, just not enough.Define “niceness” though. Because while I get where you’re coming from - a person can be a little rude with their tone and phrasing if they are standing-up to you for a reason that they mean well, as an acceptable character flaw that they make-up for in their care, sure. But you can still disagree and confront them and still be genuinely kind yet also brave and honestly critical about it though, and being even a little dickish isn’t necessary at all. I’d argue that reflects good social and diplo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 04:37 PM |
| 0 | Women do want a good man, just not enough.You’re correct, but some of the ways that women can make themselves look better are socially unacceptable for men. Examples would be high heels vs. shoe lifts, makeup, having well-groomed long hair, a man being skinny instead of built-fat or muscular, etc. Men being able to do the same as women and actually socially be seen as more attractive would balance those differences out more. I don’t personally give a shit since I openly cross-dress and wear makeup and accept that it turns most women off… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinityDo you think “Don't hit a lady” sounds sexist, and if so, is it just the specific phrasing, which still means that it’s still a common issue in western social groups, or also for other reasons? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinityInteresting, I’ve seen you argue before that the biological differences between men and women and how if there is a strange noise at night, the largest and strongest human should investigate, and if a man is present then that would be the man. Personally I would argue that morally “Males shouldn’t hit females” is a kind of reverse form of that; that the largest, strongest human, typically the average male compared to the average female, with the easiest capability of accidentally killing someone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Responsive desire is not sincere and is completely transactional, unlike spontaneous desire.Personally I don’t think it’s unreasonable for the person with Spontaneous Desire to discuss when they tend to experience it, and for the person with Responsive Desire to be able to compromise by initiating half of those times, knowing that they may not be experiencing desire yet, but for their partner’s sake, and see if the SD person responding back does help the RD person’s desire build-up. As long as both parties can accept if the RD person’s desire doesn’t build-up in return, then the effort… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 12:43 PM |
| 1 | People are so naive thinking Tea app will hinder dating lives of men posted thereAs a non-American, I don’t care if it doesn’t affect me personally. But it’s just yet another reflection of our unhealthy western dating cultures that other western countries such as the UK, Canada and Australia tend to follow suit on. The Tea app was already illegal in the USA but managed skirt around the legal rules and become the #1 app. Even if the recent data leak causes Tea App to fail, there will certainly be another successor in the future now that there is a cultural demand for it, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Reddit women are a minority the basic "normie" girl is pretty darn patriarchalCan you expand on how the men on sports/outdoor/fitness subreddits tend to be more hyper-masculine and dedicated to it? I can see that making sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 03:56 PM |
| 1 | How important is status to women?In some capitalist societies, social status is directly correlated with high incomes and access to any and all categories of social events and groups to pay-to-win your way into. Personally in Australia, there are hotel rooftop parties, golf tournaments, elite hotel parties, yacht parties, hotel package food/wine festivals, fashion socialite and entrepreneur meetup conferences, etc. with tickets I’ve seen that cost anywhere from $100-$1000s of dollars. That’s personally not my cup of tea, but ce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Would you date an actress who does or has done nude scenes?I’d date an ethical and safe erotic content actress, stripper and/or prostitute so long as they are shelter-secure, private about it and romantically monogamous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 07:26 AM |
| 1 | A noticeable amount of women care more about hating men than they do about helping womenIf someone makes a claim in a debate post, it is almost always a general claim. There's not really a way to have any honest debate with absolute claims. No one can claim to know or speak for literallyeveryone. We're all just here discussing patterns and likelihoods. Of course, although it’s unfortunate that many other people don’t debate in good faith and speak far too absolutely on far too many things, even if they actually are speaking generally without even realising it themselves. You’ve nev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 06:43 PM |
| 1 | A noticeable amount of women care more about hating men than they do about helping womenThe only "feminism" that is mainstream, is the defanged one that prioritises giving men more access to sex and silencing women who question oppressive things like makeup, shaving, or porn. Are you speaking generally here or absolutely? While I’ve only read the broad strokes of their initiatives, I would define the UN Women as mainstream, and wouldn’t say either of those apply, maybe the campaign for South African men to be more welcoming to women in taverns as one of possibly more exceptions, ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 06:03 PM |
| 3 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?Do you happen to be neurodivergent? Because this is how a lot of human interaction feels for us a lot of the time, including Autistic women as well, especially if you’re above-average intelligence. It almost sounds arrogant but it’s not, it’s just that the majority of socialising, at least with average intelligence Neurotypical people, feels like the painful reminder of how we are apes, many of us driven by instinct the majority of the time, who have to play make-believe social games instead of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Why are you still single?Yeah, it’s an interesting paradox for those of us who feel similar and in my case the main potential solution I aim for is to be seeking the minority of very patient and independent oriented potential partners, and good luck in general with your own life goals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?For some men it’s one of their few or only options, due to several reasons. Some of the main ones would be car/city-centric design and inflation causing people in general to have less time and money to date or visit third spaces, a declining amount of third spaces, and western societies shifting to a more individualist and impersonal social culture, including neighbours being less social, partly due to social media and dating app addiction. For example I’m disabled and not in education or workin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 03:22 PM |
| 2 | *If you think* there’s anything condemnable about childless men ruling out single mothers as potential partners, do you think it would be reasonable for a man to expect potential partners to accommodate other interests of his choosing, to the same extent that children interfere with singles datingSex cultures tend to be niche because they consist of niche groups. Examples would be furries, BDSM practitioners, LGBT clubs, swingers, and Polyamory groups. There tends to be a high amount of overlap between these groups. What OP didn’t mention is that these groups also have their own social boxes that they fit each other into, usually kinky, LGBT, Neuro-divergent, furry, Polyamorous, and just by being Monogamous, you will feel like an outsider in these spaces even if you fit every other categ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Why are you still single?but it's so hard to find the motivation in the here and now, when every individual thing I do while getting to know a partner would be much happier to do alone. May I ask, do you think that you may have already met some potentially compatible partners before but just couldn’t reach the point with them to determine that? I’m just curious since, theoretically one would want to sacrifice some of their personal time for the right person, and people who discuss when they met their partner tend to sta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 03:19 AM |
| 7 | CMV: men's failure to approach women is ruining datingIt’s 2025, studies suggest 25% of Gen Z are LGBTQ+ and Autism rates have risen due to better diagnostic tools. There is no social contract, and trying to maintain one is not feasible when 1 in 4 people you try to date may not even be of a compatible sexual orientation (including Demisexuals). Modern women also need to continue to accept that there are less social rules to play by in modern dating and adapt the same as everyone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Women should approach moreYes and I think a lot of average men would appreciate average women who are young or middle-aged approaching them even if they weren’t interested but would politely reject. I’d be fine with being approached at the café, grocery store, gym and in the streets (large, open streets during the day with people around) as long as I’m trying to appear socially open, and the ideal would be a five to ten minute conversation first to at least assess basic compatibility before exchanging numbers. Personally… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know.It wasn’t brave that he didn’t stand by what he said, but unfortunately he was at least honest enough to say what plenty of ordinary men and women secretly unironically believe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 01:50 PM |
| 1 | You can't argue for a female hivemind and conformity to the societal expectations and insist that women are just as deviant as menBaby murder (mostly female perpetrators): gets classified as infanticide and is blamed on SIDS or PPD. Do you have a recent source article that I could read more about on? This is interesting to hear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 05:38 AM |
| 3 | Let's say what it is, Men are in their princess era, and it's okay ❤️I disagree with your explanations as to what men are looking for, and believe most of them simply want an equal effort compared to the traditional gender roles of men leading courting. Look, I’m willing to take your word for it that you’re not being condescending towards men or trying to shame them as some of the other commenters are suggesting, but please be aware that you’ve phrased this in the worst possible manner if that isn’t the case. Many men do not want to be called feminine terms due t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 05:29 AM |
| 4 | Like where are young people meant to meet & find dates offline nowadays, in a respectful manner?While there has been a declining number of third spaces and social media addiction has caused many in the population to be less socially open, all you can do is be the change you want to see in the world. There is nothing wrong with being on the more social-than-average side towards other people in your community within your society, and doing your best to appear socially open and politely and respectfully approach people who appear to be socially open at social groups and events, while leisurel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 06:08 PM |
| 5 | Why are you having trouble dating, in your earnest estimation?OP is most likely referring to being high in Neuroticism, which isn’t “feminine” for a man but is usually conventionally unattractive for men (this also applies to me) compared to lower Neuroticism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Why do women seem to dislike men who like fishing?What did they say? And was it OP of this comment thread or someone else? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/25 06:37 PM |
| 5 | We should start sexualizing menWhile men are already sexualised, as someone Bisexual I fully support men being sexualised more in media, instead of the annoying recent trend of female characters purposely being designed uglier or in more modest clothing. Let’s design more male characters and have more male actors willing to be fanservice as long as it fits the story (just like female fanservice characters should) and especially make it an option more in RPGs. The Saints Row series has often been the best at male and female ou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/25 01:26 AM |
| 2 | I don't get why men are surprised with womens behaviors or actions.Men protect and provide because if they don't then you men may as well not even exsist, it's that simple. This is sexist, would you say this about disabled men who can do neither but show their love and gratitude to their family who love and support them? What about LGBT men? Or just voluntarily single-for-life men? All life has inherent value to our global ecosystem and all humans do as well. Even economically since, in Australia for example, the General Service Tax means everyone’s money event… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 10:56 PM |
| 5 | The take that women are conformists by default is one by made my men who are conformist themselves but are compensating due to itThis. The average Redditor pretends to be diehard left-wing, but much like most of the modern Democrats, they both fully support and politically uphold our hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist western societies that enforce traditional gender roles onto men as the only way men should date. For example recently I’ve even been seeing the popular men’s subs give the advice more and more for men to wait until their 30s to date because then they’d be established in their education and career, aka… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Why do you want to be in a relationship?I am living well with my existing family/friendly/pet/community relationships, but a romantic one would be a nice bonus like any other for my life and goals. I had two short-term relationships but haven’t yet had a long-term in-person romance and haven’t had my first kiss and am a virgin. I am seeking someone compatible as a life partner and on the different intensities of the equal but different best friend along with romantic relations with one person. While I would date a partner without any … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 07:53 AM |
| 4 | Most people, regardless of political affiliation, believe men who date trans women are gay or bisexual.The science is in it’s infancy, but if someone insists to me that they are straight and likes Trans people, I’ll take their word for it. Personally I agree with the current scientific consensus that it’s essentially a birth defect due to the brain-body mismatch and that is not a mental illness, but can cause and/or worsen the mental illness called gender Dysphoria. Gender transition including social transition is the most effective treatment we have at this point but changing biological sex is i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 03:14 AM |
| 1 | I don’t think men are “intimidated” by strong independent womenIt can be true in many African American and Mexican American cultures, and many parts of Europe (and Australia) are high in Western Asian and Eastern Asian immigration culture now as well, and so these traditional customs of women being encouraged to be less successful than men is still alive for a notably large percent of the population, even if it’s still minority cultures and mainly only because they are bringing their traditional culture to the West. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 01:42 AM |
| 1 | I don’t think men are “intimidated” by strong independent womenI do "intimidate" women though by being less than 5'10, not being white and not being wealthy and by being neurodivergent. Just wondering what do you mean by that? As in they don’t know how to go about treating you in general because you’re not their typical dating pool? An example would also be good to contextualise how so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 01:32 AM |
| – | Men being single isn't a problem to be solvedRecent research suggests social isolation can cause and/or worsen depression and anxiety and even trauma (especially if related to social exclusion/discrimination/oppression from society) and be as damaging to health as smoking and obesity. Personally I equally advocate for healthy changes for what I believe are unhealthy western societies and cultures that we live in to help with the healing, recovery and growth of family/friendly/romantic and community relationships specifically and in general… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 01:23 PM |
| – | Women Have it Easier in Dating Than Men.I’m specifically referring to situations where neither person of any gender is vulnerable as prey to a harmful person, but just that it’s okay to acknowledge some aspects of human nature suck (i.e. naturally conventionally unattractive people), and to feel empathy for those who experience negative mental health effects from social isolation, and also acknowledge that some aspects of an unhealthy social environment cause even more social isolation for these disadvantaged folk - even if we don’t w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Women Have it Easier in Dating Than Men.It can definitely be argued that women receive far more empathy for their dating difficulties in western societies by comparison. Let’s be generous and say average women in dating are equivalent to the top 25% in wealth. Even then, in some cultures average women receive even more empathy than innocent incel men - which would be comparable to people empathising with the top 25% in wealth more than the innocent homeless. It’s baffling to say the least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 03:17 AM |
| 2 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Yep, it doesn’t help that YouTube for example specifically pushes right-wing content more and even demonetises left-wing creators who criticise them. I have no doubt this shit also applies to TikTok, Instagram, etc. specifically trying to push Gender War content now that Andrew Taint/Adolescence/etc. have attained mainstream media awareness and thus monetary success. Always follow the money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 02:15 AM |
| – | Apparently women just magically turn “demisexusal” around average menI’ve seen some users on PPD bring this up in the context of women who reproduce with criminal men and as single mother’s are supported to raise criminal sons by the state through tax-paying single men. Would something along those lines be an example that you agree needs to change, and irregardless if that’s a yes or no, I’d also be glad to hear what examples you’d have in mind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 10:51 PM |
| 1 | It's bad when people try to justify women preferences with morality or connecting their preferences to being a good human being.OP was being snarky about it, but it’s true that there are progressive men who are pro-BDSM and strangulation in a consensual manner (but aren’t using the woman when they do so). If anything it’s even more progressive for a man to believe a woman can have the sexual agency to consent to hardcore BDSM that she wants to safely and consensually do with a man she trusts. I’m assuming OP’s skepticism is that, for example, women would not take it well hearing those things from a male best friend they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 09:28 PM |
| 1 | It's very rich that women expect guys to make the first move at all times yet they should be under no obligation.Sometimes you also just get lucky. As a teenager I had a handful of other young women flirt with me. One approach was for direct conversation at a public free pool on an Esplanade, the other three were them looking and calling out with interest (in front of my house when I got the mail and their group passed me, at a local swimming pool, from the street when I was riding in the car) I’m average height, average-faced, mixed race, was a healthy weight at the time, all of the girls were also part-b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 05:45 PM |
| 1 | It's very rich that women expect guys to make the first move at all times yet they should be under no obligation.Sometimes you also just get lucky. As a teenager I had a handful of other young women flirt with me. One approach was for direct conversation at a public free pool on an Esplanade, the other three were them looking and calling out with interest (in front of my house when I got the mail and their group passed me, at a local swimming pool, from the street when I was riding in the car) I’m average height, average-faced, mixed race, was a healthy weight at the time, all of the girls were also part-b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 05:45 PM |
| 1 | It is not “just world fallacy” to believe that anyone who is chronically unable to have anyone ever desire them despite trying, is unattractive in some way.I prefer the term “Unconventional”, since, for example, I’m Non-binary, Bisexual, mixed race, child-free and anti-marriage. I’m average looking but clearly would be incompatible with the majority of the population for immutable traits that don’t make me “less attractive”, just “different”. Because within my extremely rare niche, I’m pretty much exactly what they’re looking for. Some other reasons a person would be unconventional and thus unappealing within the pre-dominant culture would be being… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 01:19 PM |
| 12 | Psychological closeness is extremely important for compatibility - so if you’re psychologically a mess, you might want to dig into that and figure it outPartly disagree, because it can’t always be changed. Personality is to some extent genetic, and some psychological profiles are more conventionally attractive and find it easier to attract someone similar than others. Men high in Neuroticism for instance are typically considered conventionally unattractive. Some of us have generational trauma that is more likely to occur when you come from poverty and while it can be managed, it can’t be cured and thus may always be an incompatibility through im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/25 01:59 AM |
| 3 | How Is it possible to get married as a woman if your already pregnant visible by another man?There are many willing would be step-dads who would or raise the child as their own but not bio-related. I’ve seen examples of a man who even helped his female best friend raise her children when they weren’t even dating, you can bet there are male friends who would also help their pregnant friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 09:34 PM |
| 3 | Despite what women tell you they are the biggest enforcers of stereotypical masculinityIt’s a meme that incels started to use specifically because of how much normies would mention something similar to “I know this guy who’s a 5’2” Indian janitor and always has a girlfriend because he’s confident, bro!”. I agree with you - if what these normies say is true, where are they? It’s more likely they are gaslighting the incels that Looks, including height, “don’t matter at all” to prove a point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 02:18 PM |
| 3 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵coughThe Bachelorcough. Yeah, the popularity of romantic relationships in our culture has always been a reflection of how important to people it is and continues to be including also in love songs, the commercialisation of Valentine’s Day, etc. It’s always been obvious and staring us in the face but people still like to deny it, and women are still just as focused on it in society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: If you only got 80% of your ideal traits in a mate... You would view that as settling, right?No, please don’t make that assumption/generalisation. As others say, it depends on what that 20% is. And it also depends on if we are counting un-changeable compatibility standards. If so, let’s assume necessary compatibility standards are 50% on average, even though it would of course in reality be highly subjective. If the extra 30% is simply shared hobbies, then for me, the remaining 20% would just be some other hobbies and/or religious/spiritual beliefs that we do not share but are able to r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/25 07:28 PM |
| 9 | The Power of Being InterestingNo way! Men with a dedicated passion for video games, anime, D&D, card games, cosplay and political science have traditionally always done well with women and this passion is highly valued by social normies. /s Now to return to my passion of creating custom AI chat bots (which is actually true) which currently have the stigma as being for weirdos as those other hobbies did before they became mainstream, which I’m sure wouldn’t at least give some normies the side-eye. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/25 07:18 AM |
| – | Why do some ladies do this?I’ve seen such phrasing commonly used by African American people, it’s less so intentionally poor grammar and more so “African American Vernacular English” to skip over certain words with the AAVE accent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Why does it seem like women very rarely lust over a guy? How does a guy go about getting a woman to lust for him?Some of the “basics” during a coffee date when sitting across from each other would be to at a gentle pace in a calm and confident manner with a soft smile: Gently grasping her hand with both hands when you introduce yourself with a handshake. Deep, intrigued eye contact during deep conversation (easier said than done for us Autistic folk, but if you prefer to look away in deep thought, then don’t change yourself and just try to rub your chin or such to indicate that you are) Observing a woman’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Why does it seem like women very rarely lust over a guy? How does a guy go about getting a woman to lust for him?It’s surprising that as a Pansexual Autistic person, you seem to believe that men are by nature the sexual leaders. Surely you’ve had the experience of meeting LGBT people in your community and come across both Neurotypical and Autistic Bisexual men and Non-binary Assigned Male At Birth folk who disprove those traditional gender roles always being an absolute biological reality? Otherwise, can you expand on why your experiences have lead you to feel this way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Why does it seem like women very rarely lust over a guy? How does a guy go about getting a woman to lust for him?While I agree this would genuinely be something that can be beneficial and used in a completely healthy and ethical manner (for instance athletes tend to be horny and can mute it as a distraction during their training), what a dystopian time we live in that many young men online want to get rid of these natural urges, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Most stuff women put up with in relationships is only worth it if the guys richSurprised to see this from a Blue Piller, I’ve been seeing more and more BP men who do call out the unhealthy aspects of modern dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Men being thirsty is the reason women have so much leverage in the dating gameThere are scientists who are optimistic that we will survive, but with many great costs. But yep, modern dating is already a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist shitshow that will be far worse from the increased economic strain from the climate refugees. We’ll be seeing in if the theories are correct that climate change, social media and AI are “the great filter” that brings about an intelligent species collapse before they can become space-faring. Even people happily single are going to ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 03:26 PM |
| 0 | Men being thirsty is the reason women have so much leverage in the dating gameIn the hopes that something better (socially/culturally) may be able to be created in its place? Yes. It’s not the ideal solution but it may be the only feasible one if too many of the majority refuse to be open to any change or compromise. Let’s allow them to cause society to collapse and hope enough people can rally a pro-active 3.5% minority (research indicates that’s all that’s needed to change a society) who want to be the changes they want to see in the world can assess the damage before g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: to What is on your list of requirements for a wife?I do my best to be direct as soon as possible when meeting new people in general because I’m an unconventional dating prospect filtering for similar. My requirements for a romantic partner would be: Bi-romantic, because I’m Non-binary Monogamous Mutual attraction (including aesthetic attraction if they are Asexual) Child-free Is okay with Pets Mutual compatible life values, for me that would be living a peaceful life as a left-leaning Centrist… …and anti-marriage… …and frugal. Fully open to and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 10:24 PM |
| -1 | What do you think about the idea that most women won’t date a bisexual guy? Do you think it’s true?Many times are due to biphobic reasons but when it’s not, it seems to just be neuro-chemistry and biology that heterosexual people tend to be attracted to other heterosexual people. Considering both Bisexual and gay men and women actually have some measured brain differences, and male homosexuality may also have a genetic basis since the more older brothers a man has, the higher likelihood he is gay, and twins tend to both be gay or Trans, etc. it’s likely some sort of biological mechanism at pl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 08:04 AM |
| 16 | Why do men interpret women’s disinterest as hostility?For those of us searching for a life partner, we want to approach and socialise with another person to see if we are compatible to form a connection equally for ourselves and for them, because if we are mutually attracted and compatible, then naturally they would have appreciated someone making the first move, for our and for their sake, to show how we want to and can add to their life. While this isn’t the case when the feeling isn’t mutual, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to at least hope (but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 01:11 AM |
| 2 | You cannot make comparisons between sexual autonomy and freedom and taxation/monetary system/currency/resources. They are morally unbound and any attempt to compare them is sickI agree with you, but I also believe that you know that OP is not speaking against societal changes that would benefit a wide variety of people. In general? Sure. But OP has been insistent in their post history about the personal responsibility of one’s dating failures (which I agree with), that it’s unreasonable to advocate for societal changes that would force people to date people they don’t want (also agree), but in not only this post but other previous ones, frequently state they are adaman… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Until men care about men’s mental health, women shouldn’t care about it either.Exactly, and this is literally true for people with treatment-resistant depression. Therapy and antidepressants are just most effective of solutions that are ineffective overall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/25 09:48 PM |
| 3 | You cannot make comparisons between sexual autonomy and freedom and taxation/monetary system/currency/resources. They are morally unbound and any attempt to compare them is sickPartly disagree, because while they’re not the same, dating and romantic relationships are still a part of and connected to the wider surrounding culture and economies. For instance a Socialist Utopia with gender, social and cultural equity and a Universal Basic Income would naturally have a more positive effect on dating than the hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist, racially segregated through economic gentrification (including immigrants being given separate neighborhoods) western model w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/25 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Stop the "emotional labor"According to the statistics most of women’s higher spending is for the family…but it can be called into question if the woman is the one deciding if something is important for the family that may end up not being used or unnecessary. The trillions of dollars of profit for the globalisation of capitalism and a large percentage of it ending up in landfills at least points to a culture of over-consumption by families, which may or may not be partly driven by women in western cultures being the deci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/25 08:53 AM |
| 2 | The internet has enabled men to listen in on female spaces, and men don't like what they hearThis, and even then the mods have their biases, such as the recent post about men ageing poorly after 30 that wasn’t removed for being about Looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/25 08:16 AM |
| 0 | The internet has enabled men to listen in on female spaces, and men don't like what they hearReddit seems to reflect western social values regarding the sexes quite well. Every men’s space (r/askmen, r/askmenover30, r/askmenadvice, etc.) is open to both sexes, even when it’s common for the men in those spaces to be annoyed by the behaviour from certain problematic women who engage in those spaces, while every women’s space is insulated and ban any discussion they don’t like (r/askwomen, even r/askwomennocensor, etc.) Reddit rules state that every group can be discriminated against excep… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 10:23 PM |
| – | Participation trophies were never a problem. Thats a conservative myth.She has posts going back for several years and seems to return occasionally, and when she does, will post a large amount of polarising opinions over a short burst of time, especially topics related to nice guys, bad boys and right-wingers and their defenders under a critical lens. These posts attract a lot of attention, and she is highly responsive to debates. Personally I don’t have strong feelings for her posts but a notable amount of this community has deemed her infamous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 01:13 AM |
| 1 | It’s a good thing that women are being more selective and choosing less men to be in relationships withAs someone who does their best to live healthy and well, happy enough with my existing family/friendly/pet/community relationships, is child-free, desires and seeks diverse and equal switching gender roles and dynamics including us both being a provider for each other, and anti-marriage and being a dedicated house-partner and life partner for and with them, I mostly agree that you are correct. Although it’s okay for me to acknowledge that it is unfortunate that due to my brains neuro-chemistry t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/25 08:12 PM |
| – | It is entirely on men to meet women’s expectations. Women should not have to lower their standardsWell, some of us feel that hypergamous modern dating standards reflect an unhealthy hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist car/city-centric racially segregated through economic gentrification (including immigrants given their own neighbourhoods) society in general, that is discriminatory in particular towards low income men, and other low income groups who live in poorer neighbourhoods such as racial minorities, disabled, veterans, homeless, LGBT people, etc. that the current unhealthy dating … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/25 07:42 AM |
| 1 | "Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit.Sorry I was being sarcastic and trying to demonstrate why I agree that gendered insults are problematic and why hypocrites would complain if it was towards women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 10:39 PM |
| 1 | "Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit.Sounds like you have small tits energy to me, no offence to women with small breasts, who I’m sure wouldn’t find that offensive at all, especially if she actually visibly has small breasts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 10:17 PM |
| 1 | This Sub is an Echo-Chamber, That Doesn’t Advance Anyone.There’s been plenty of times here that I’ve seen people offer a perspective or experience that I didn’t consider, or help me expand on my existing views (without being an unhealthy echo-chamber influence). It’s only the minority of commentators and usually from the non-pillers more often than not, but while many of my views have not been changed and it’s mostly entertaining it has in some small ways been beneficial. For example I agree with you about women in western cultures generally having da… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 09:09 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Being a SAHM is easily one of the hardest jobs in the worldIt can be mentally, emotionally and physically tolling, but not as much as the past due to evolving technology. Stay-at-home partners with disabled children and family to care for and criminal family members to socially navigate often truly do have it hard including the long-term mental and physical health effects of carer fatigue. Stay-at-home partners with good mental and physical health and healthy children are usually able to do well for themselves as a moderately difficult daily job over a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/25 01:17 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of women who ask men out, propose to men and pay for men in the first dates or in all dates?As someone gender non-conforming seeking same, I find switching gender roles and dynamics to not only be fun bonding, but a necessity for gender, romantic and sexual acceptance as a compatibility whether my partner is a woman or other. It’s difficult to find due to a lag in progress of more open gender roles for men, but plenty of those who feel this way can find their niche. And while it’s not to my usual preference, I’m fine with a potential partner completely paying for me for something to pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/25 07:28 AM |
| 1 | What would BP advice be to a man with a disability?I enjoy reading your perspectives, and while it could be said to be partly off-topic, I would be happy to hear your expanded thoughts regarding this part: I also think all of the progress that women have benefited from is causing them more problems than they care to admit or even realise. Even people on the right recognise this. But that's another subject. In some ways I agree, but would be glad to hear your thoughts as to how so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enoughThere can be many reasons besides standards that a man or woman is single. I may be an exception to the rule, but I’ll still comment to prove a point. For some of us, it’s not that our standards are high but have to be specific, I’ll explain why. Statistically speaking most people don’t date Transgender people, Bisexual men, Autistic men, interracially, and most people aren’t child-free and anti-marriage. I would be incompatible with the majority of the population if I was just one of those thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Porn watching is more morally wrong in men than it is in womenResearch on porn addiction is ongoing but in its infancy, but I don’t see any harm with consuming custom content by amateur adult couples and porn caption/video editors in moderation, plenty of both men and women enjoy it in a healthy manner as a hobby and source of sexual self-fulfilment like any other, and are searching for a partner with similar values whom would enjoy shared tastes in porn as a couple together to better understand each other’s specific desires they can help their partner ful… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 08:07 AM |
| 3 | The biggest reason dating & relationships are broken today is because men are comparing themselves to HOT men, mistaking how women interact with them as true measure of attraction, and giving up when their own experiences don't matchI agree, but in my experiences most people on Reddit who post on the Classifieds subreddits about being lonely and open to messaging a diverse range of people from around the globe for friendships or more, still don’t respond 9/10 times even if you try and send photos and be open to video-calling to confirm your identity. It’s understandable since most people aren’t compatible, but some of those people certainly shouldn’t continue to post about having “no one” to message when they do, just not p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 04:56 AM |
| 4 | Have you ever received unwanted attention from a woman you found attractive?Yes but only in high school. A girl who had an obvious crush on me and while I liked her back, as someone who was shy at the time and has Autistic sensitivity to noises, she was far too loud and over-bearing in how strong she came across and would mention watching me walk to my home (it was a small town, but still creepy of her). If she was gentler in her approach than I would have tried dating her. Personally it absolutely disgusts me how some people straight up admit that they welcome the same… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 04:37 AM |
| 4 | The biggest problem in dating is not dating apps or generalizations, it’s that bad men get with good women and bad women get with good men.There is definitely some truth to this, especially due to increasing mental illness in the population and other factors increasing mental illness such as pollution, increasing crime rates, political corruption, racial segregation through economic gentrification (including immigrant groups being given their own neighbourhoods), increasing wealth inequality, declining education systems, social media and dating app addiction, declining third spaces, and car/city-centric design adding to social isol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Thoughts on these common dating profile lines?I swipe left on anyone without a basic bio. It can be hard to think of a decent bio but I appreciate an awkward attempt at expressing themselves over no attempt at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 02:36 AM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on the toxic narratives around men opening up to women?While I understand where you’re coming from, u/BCRE8TVE is correct - a recent common saying about mental health is that sometimes it’s okay to not be okay, which is used to summarise the fact that sometimes mental illness can inevitably be severe through no fault of your own and you need time to recover rather than acting like it’s just a blip you’re able to carry-on from. Marriage and committed relationships are about “in sickness and health” and mental illness is a sickness afterall. A person … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Thoughts on these common dating profile lines?Well I find any/all common phrases in online dating to be plain, boring, unoriginal and uncreative. While I don’t require someone who also pursues a wide variety of creative hobbies, they’ve got to at least be passionate about life and successfully able to convey that in an interesting manner since I do my best to do the same on my profiles. It’s also an easy filter since I’m an unconventional dating prospect seeking same and a person who is so conformist right down to primarily using common phr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 01:40 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men pretend to not notice hints so they can continue putting in the bare minimumBecause some people are more passive and less affectionate in relationships in those ways you mention (even if it’s uncommon), I wouldn’t expect it and would communicate that those are important for her to do in our relationship, just as she should if she likes occasionally being gifted flowers, rather than leaving wilting flowers on the table and not communicating it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/25 05:12 AM |
| 10 | Men shouldn’t be blamed for not having good social skills and outlets when a society like ours isn’t built to value them.We’re also living in a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society. Universities are now designed to get you in and out with your degree as fast as possible, and people can’t choose to stay after class and chat because they have to commute in congested traffic for an hour to get to their third part-time job. Gen Z’s attention span is also fried so you have literal seconds to impress someone before their brain will want to return to their addictive phone screen for their next hit of dopamine… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Would you date asexual person?Yes, so long as they are mutually aesthetically attracted and willing to fulfil me in other ways such as roleplaying within intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/25 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you date a woman who was not romantic at all?May I ask you to expand on how so? I can see why it would be ideal if your love language is an active role that complements the passive role the woman in the OP would take to romance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/25 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you date a woman who was not romantic at all?There’s a saying that “romance is something men do, and that women experience” to summarise that in some cultures men are expected to lead the vast majority of romantic courting before and within a relationship and women are only on the receiving end of it. And some argue that this is also why women love romance novels and movies so much, while from the man’s perspective it’s just work/a chore. It’s not universal and not a relationship I would be interested in myself but in some cultures it can … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/25 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Only Women, Children and Pets Are Loved Unconditionally.Unconditional love is biologically impossible since even Parental-Child attachment is based on proximity and level of affection, and we know that Dogs will become lonely if they don’t receive time and affection by their owners. Men can be loved just as much even if they are unable to contribute to society and have to be cared for by others, just look at disabled men who have family who love and accept them. I do think that in some cultures, the old saying that “romance is something men do, and w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/25 10:15 PM |
| 5 | Why do women not work out as much as men?Obesity rates are usually almost equal between the sexes, and the differences are mostly: men having more general stamina in daily living and extra exercises on top of that, and while plenty of women can strain themselves with full time care of children and disabled family, men do hard labour jobs at higher rates. Exercise classes skew women so they may often prefer it for safety and social reasons while there are also plenty of men-only gyms. But it’s possible more women are social exercisers a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/25 02:31 AM |
| 4 | DatingWalk in the park, because as someone Autistic, it’s easy to talk without noise, people and other sensory distractions. And talking to determine compatibility is key to get out of the way. It’s also good exercise and we’d be exposed to nature, both things that significantly help my mood and would ease my social anxiety. And as someone frugal, it’s cheap aside from travelling to and from the park and filters out people who specifically see a walk/coffee date as “low effort” as those whom I’d be in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 11:17 PM |
| 3 | I think there is something that needs to be said about how many men approach dating: the “be as appealing to as many women as possible” approachThis. I’m average but multiple niches so my options are vastly more limited. Statistically speaking most people do not date Trans people, Bisexual men, interracially, Autistic men and most people aren’t child-free. Each of those things alone already make me incompatible with the majority of the population, let alone all of them at once. I see non-disabled, Caucasian and Neurotypical LGBT people find the most success. I’m also Monogamous and most LGBT are Poly so even amongst LGBT people I’m the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 08:40 PM |
| 1 | I think there is something that needs to be said about how many men approach dating: the “be as appealing to as many women as possible” approachI’ve seen men who have had that experience, and say often it’ll be an issue regarding how long the woman needs to get ready, when she get stares in public or children excitedly calling out that the woman in the blue princess dress means she’s dressed as Disney princess Elsa, it’s usually along those lines of issues some men have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 02:22 PM |
| 0 | Why Are Women so Defensive When Men Complain About Dating AppsNot only that, but they’re both immigrants, adding to the reason that he shouldn’t assume she’s a part of the culture when she could have migrated to distance herself from it. OP definitely hasn’t provided a sufficient answer as to what the issue with men being direct with their intentions are just because some women don’t like what those intentions are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Why Are Women so Defensive When Men Complain About Dating AppsSure, but returning to the main argument, you haven’t answered why those men aren’t successfully listening to women who tell men to be direct about their intentions, even if they just don’t like what those intentions are (which is fine of course)? And I definitely wouldn’t make cultural assumptions about someone I met just because they originate from the same culture, especially if they’re both immigrants. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 04:02 AM |
| 2 | "I'm overwhelmed by matches on dating apps" so stop swiping???They can still limit their swiping while their account is new though… 2 right swipes a day and if on average 1 swipe right back, that’s 7 people to talk to for one day of the week. Keep doing that consistently and mathematically you’ll never have more than one person to talk to a day, if you’re serious about dating… Sure, swiping right on a handful of dudes when you’re drunk one night will ruin that, or you already swiped more liberally in the past and can’t reset your account…I suppose somethin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 12:20 AM |
| 3 | "I'm overwhelmed by matches on dating apps" so stop swiping???Agreed, it definitely encourages unhealthy swiping habits for the users that they are responsible for doing their best to overcome, or not use apps that they know will effect their worst impulses in those regards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/25 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Men who complain about being friendzoned mostly just find women boring and annoyingGood answer. I completely agree, although it was difficult to figure that out as an Autistic adolescent, especially when some of my female classmates did allow me to join them solo for lunch as acquaintances/friends, and do think social skills classes would be good even for Neurotypical children earlier on in the public schooling system to help kids figure this stuff out sooner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Men who complain about being friendzoned mostly just find women boring and annoyingHow could an emotionally developing young man learn about or determine this being the case though, if he genuinely believes he has a mutual friendship with his female friend and believes her returned kindness is genuine? Also it wouldn’t be a healthy mindset for him to have to be skeptical/untrusting that any kindness when socialising with his female peers is only out of politeness, when some of them may genuinely enjoy his company and he would be driving them away. And it would be impolite of h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/25 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Any truth to the "Nose Ring Theory"?Reminds me of how some LGBT, artistic and neurodivergent folks may wear furry tails, cat ear headbands, fashion collars, claw rings, etc. to imitate those animal-like features and a cow nose ring isn’t really much different. And for a lot of these folk, it’s a filter like any other to those whom are put-off by it. The replies on this post suggesting alternative fashion hobbyists are narcissistic aren’t a surprise to me at all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 07:42 AM |
| 0 | Do you think men who can’t attract women are losers?Alright, I’ll bite. I want to ask, are you talking about heterosexual cisgender men only? Because this certainly doesn’t apply to LGBT men who try to date women, I can provide myself as an example. I’m Non-binary and so would only truly be compatible with a fellow Bi-romantic person who can see me as both genders (a statistical minority), I’m also mixed race (only a statistical minority of people date interracially and mixed race people are often seen as the other race by the majority of people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 11:10 PM |
| 1 | The "No True Good Guy" FallacySame with socio-economic status. As a lower income person, statistically speaking people in my dating pool are more likely to be criminals or abuse victims who were mistreated by a criminal they dated, and this remains true at any age. It’s difficult to avoid and if I also date someone low income they’ll mostly have baggage I have to navigate. There isn’t any good advice given for those of us in this situation besides “You wouldn’t want to date them anyway” which we know isn’t always true as tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 07:52 PM |
| 1 | The "No True Good Guy" FallacyAgreed, but part of the reason that men who watch the bad boys succeed have issue, is that there is a lack of good advice for us men of a lower socio-economic status who’s dating pool is more likely to be the bad boys/girls and the people who dated them and became damaged from their abuse. The only advice usually given is “you wouldn’t want to date them anyway” which isn’t always true since some abuse victims were mislead and dated someone who turned out to be a criminal. There isn’t good advice… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Why Do Unsuccessful Men on this Sub Focus So Much On Women They Don’t Want To Date?That’s what I thought you may have meant, and sure, I agree, and I’m assuming you agree that every woman commenting here is also participating in the manosphere. While I think this community has a lot of extremism, I believe it’s not necessarily always unhealthy or leads to baggage to discuss dating and gender role dynamics in one of the few online spaces that allows it in a balanced manner (multiple pills and no pills rather than the Red pill and B-pill only websites) and also allows more contr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Why Do Unsuccessful Men on this Sub Focus So Much On Women They Don’t Want To Date?No but I’m questioning what you consider about what I said to suggest I’m drawn to the manosphere. For relevance to this post, I still disagree with almost everything the Redpillers are saying elsewhere about the subject. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Why Do Unsuccessful Men on this Sub Focus So Much On Women They Don’t Want To Date?Or the bleaker situation - that they are a perfectly decent person who is being mislead/abused or making an unhealthy decision due to previously coming from an abusive family background, which is quite common in the lower income social classes that criminals tend to be more common in. It doesn’t necessarily mean they would be interested in or compatible with me if they were single, but as a low income person it’s okay to acknowledge that it sucks knowing other low income people in my dating pool… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 02:05 PM |
| 9 | "Everyone is entitled to their preferences so men can't blame women" is a red herring. It all comes down to the perceived validity of the critiques of a gender.Problem is the solutions they have just seem to make them more miserable. Can you expand on some specific examples of how you believe modern women are adapting to modern times in ways that aren’t healthy/sustainable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 09:12 AM |
| 5 | When men face any problems disproportionally, It's framed as being their own fault. Whereas with women, it's always "systemic"Trans-Exclusive Radical Feminist’s want to enforce male gender roles onto Trans-women and refuse to also be willing to accept them as fellow women who choose the woman gender and gender roles. The UK supreme court just in April declared that legally being a woman is only based on biological sex. It’s an accurate conclusion based on the existing laws but many Trans people believe it would be better that those laws are changed so that Trans women have the same legal protections as Cis-women. Celeb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 06:54 AM |
| 5 | Dating men are NOT better people than VirginsAnd it’s just the case that even for Autistic people who mask well, for 90% of NTs just being on a different social wavelength is a social incompatibility and can be quickly felt. That would be fine if Autistic people weren’t socially excluded irregardless of how polite, kind and socially confident they are but usually is the source of why they are excluded. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 10:25 AM |
| 3 | Dating men are NOT better people than VirginsYes it’s extremely common for Autistic people. Even Autistic people who are good at socially masking can still struggle with sensitivity to lights/sounds/smells, multiple people speaking, auditory processing disorder (hearing information accurately but the brain struggling to interpret it), etc. and all of this naturally effects a person in social situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 10:21 AM |
| – | Would You Date A Woman With The Following Qualities? Part 2Would you date a woman who uses cocaine at least once a month? No, due to addiction risk. Would you date a woman who doesn't like drinking alcohol? Yes Would you date a woman who doesn't like doing physical activity? Yes so long as she’s not Class 3 obese and is fine with being active. Would you date a woman who voted for Donald Trump? No. Would you date a woman who voted for Kamala Harris? Yes 6. Would you date a woman who openly dislikes religion? Yes as long as she’s accepting of my spiritual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 08:02 AM |
| 1 | What are you looking for?I’m an unconventional dating prospect seeking same. Non-binary in that I’m Bi-gender/mentally feel both man and woman, so I’d require a partner who is Bisexual or at least Bi-romantic and able to see me as so, which also means open and diverse switching gender dynamics. I’m also Pansexual, child-free, anti-marriage, Autistic, disabled, would be a dedicated house-partner. Politically I’m a left-leaning Centrist and would be able to date anyone Centre or Left and be friends with right-wing people.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 07:52 AM |
| 1 | Would You Date A Woman With The Following Qualities?Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes I’m child-free so I couldn’t relate to a woman with children. A rarer compatibility than many of this list. Yes Yes I’m not interested in marriage, another rarer compatibility like 9. Yes. Yes. Child-free, but I would date someone who also wants to be a house-partner since I’d have to be one since I’m disabled, yes. Yes Yes Yes Child-free woman is my goal Yes as long as she doesn’t judge me for playing video games Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes As I’ve mentioned, the fact I’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/25 09:14 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Agreed, research suggests humans are evolving faster than ever, and city/car-centric societies, dating app and social media addiction, global warming, etc. are our environmental stressors that we are adapting to in-real time that would evolve in the next generations since individuals adapt, generations evolve. And modern dating is heavily effected by our rapidly changing modern western societies and creating new challenges, that many in some way are clearly having difficulty adapting to. I perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/25 03:00 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Hello again, I’ve asked you about your experiences from the UK before, and would be glad to hear your thoughts about why and your prediction on social changes if so. From what I’ve read Keir Starmer is similar to something akin to a classic centre-right UK conservative in the modern era, but do you believe his current Administration is leading to a further drift to the far-right for UK citizens and other Parliament politicians? The UK riots at Muslim communities in recent years were certainly al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/25 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Would you date an alien?If intelligent aliens made direct first contact, and had a physical energy form even if they could only communicate through a type of psychic energy projection into my brain and did not physically exist in the world, then I’d be open to an equal relationship with them as much as any human if we were compatible, after being long term friends first. But it would be a cautious temptation if they were essentially better than any human at romantically and sexually fulfilling oneself. Naturally it’s s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Red pillers don't understand the "female gaze" at allMale and female gaze are both cultural and biologically influenced, with some aspects having extra wide appeal due to being found to be cross-cultural according to research. Redpill is just a set of interpretations of the existing cultural beauty norms within their society, particularly the US and other western nations. I do believe that women’s tastes can be varied depending on other factors (shared race, facial features, etc.) but there are certainly popular women gazes within western societie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Turns out the "female gaze" is not that different from what redpill claims women wantAdding onto the other commenter who shared an article, it’s actually rather common in niche online spaces for Transgender people to be Incels to the point there is a meme about it called the “Incel to Trans pipeline”. Transgender incels usually eventually realise that the fact they don’t fit their assigned sex’s gender roles was always a massive contributor to their social isolation and in some cases that their negative feelings towards women, were actually gender dysphoria that manifested as en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 02:46 PM |
| 7 | Turns out the "female gaze" is not that different from what redpill claims women wantAgreed, I actually think most of incel men’s dating struggles are directly linked to them not fitting the traditional masculine gender roles, since Incels have higher Autism rates, tend to be poorer and have smaller social circles, nerdier hobbies, etc. and a more socially egalitarian society would be at least somewhat effective at changing things. Plenty of Incels can’t or simply don’t want to fit the traditional gender roles and are heavily socially ostracised for it. Recent social movements h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 12:57 PM |
| – | Men need to work on being attractive as much as women doMen can’t always do this due to the lack of more open gender roles for men, so it’s less socially acceptable for men to groom themselves without being socially ostracised by both men and women for it. The past term for it was “metrosexual” which was usually derogatory; often a man is suspected to be feminine or gay. Personally I’m going to continue to openly cross-dress in my fashionable women’s clothing and wear makeup and do my best to meet those whom would be accepting of this about me. But m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Women advise men to be confident, but also get annoyed if a guy has the audacity to think he has a chance with themYes, but not necessarily unreasonable when (so long as he isn’t underweight) slim men are still stronger than most women. Average men have stronger grip strength than even elite athlete women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.This. I’m literally Autistic and personally think many people in society over-complicate meeting new people for friendships or more in general. I’m not saying to give literally any stranger the time of day, but if you share a hobby then at least getting to know them to determine their values would be nice if it were more common outside of specific hobby spaces or designated social spaces (bars/etc.). At worst you have an awkward but short meaningless conversation with a stranger. People generall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 05:22 PM |
| 7 | It's very dangerous seeing all these female dating experts using male loneliness as a way to bash men when there's literally no co-relation that lonely man=bad men.Indeed, I remember seeing a man on r/Askmenadvice who mentioned dressing up in a nice suit and going to a wedding with a female friend. She received dozens of compliments about him being dressed sharply, but the man himself didn’t receive a single one. It’s little things like this that result in a culture of men almost never receiving compliments and what compliments people do want to give, they feel hesitant to mislead the man that they are flirting. But it’s clearly a bigger cultural phenomeno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 08:06 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themAlthough I agree with the message, it’s the process I do not, because personally I haven’t been able to have a female friend I didn’t end up eventually developing feelings for, even if they weren’t usually my type and I was focused on meeting and dating other women, and even though my crush usually fades, my physical attraction I developed to them does not. Considering that it is good advice for your romantic partner to be your best friend, it’s clear that I would be capable of doing that if I h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 11:28 PM |
| 4 | Women tend to greatly underplay the validity of men's worries about being seen as a creep.Particularly for Autistic men, since more and more recent research is indicating that Neurotypical people make thin-slide judgements of Autistic people and that Autistic people can be seen negatively for not saying anything at all just because their body language and mannerisms are difficult to read, which can cause the “Uncanny valley” effect no matter how well some Autistic people mask, and thus cause them to be seen as “creepy”. This is especially true for Autistic men because they tend to re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Do Android phones really make you less attractive?Some people use phones and consumer tech in general as a proxy for income and how much they care about what lifestyle their potential partner can support for themselves and as a couple, this is just one of many examples. I don’t think this particular example is particularly common outside of the business and elite social strata, but can impede some in their dating, especially by those who are dedicated Apple users and prefer someone as deep in the ecosystem with phone/computer/smart house tech r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/25 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Fierce Competition Is an Underrated Reason Behind Modern Dating StrugglesPartly disagree, not with the concept but the cause; in my experiences it’s primarily due to an unhealthy hyper-capitalist hypergamy-inflation dating culture that effects everyone, but women are able to particularly uphold and some fully engage in so for themselves and those men and women who do, raise the bar for the standards of expecting above-average of everything to be ever higher in our western societies. All we can do is be the changes we want to see for healthy social changes and meet th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Fierce Competition Is an Underrated Reason Behind Modern Dating StrugglesSure, but it’s due to an unhealthy hyper-capitalist hypergamy-inflation dating culture that effects everyone, but women are able to particularly uphold and some fully engage in so for themselves and those men and women who do, raise the bar for the standards of expecting above-average of everything to be ever higher in our western societies. All we can do is be the changes we want to see for healthy social changes and meet those we are compatible with as those hyper-capitalistic types aren’t wor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 01:28 AM |
| 0 | Female Sexuality: The Power Nobody Wants to Admit Exists (Until It Stops Working)Indeed, hyper-capitalist corporations have clearly created corporate office women marketing campaigns that are increasing in prevalence within media, including due to DEI hiring and the growth of LinkedIn and other entrepreneurs, mean plenty of corporate women in particular take advantage of it monetarily in these of our modern western societies and contributing to social divisions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 09:06 PM |
| – | If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same argumentsMentioning the r-word is against the rules in this subreddit, when it’s obviously a factor in dating and attraction including based on discriminatory ethnic stereotypes, and the statistics show most people do not date interracially. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 09:39 AM |
| – | If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same argumentsWhat isn’t talked about enough is how many men also find that their tiny number of matches aren’t good matches of high quality compatible people, anyway. Men also have to sort through the swamp for clean water, their swamp is just a lot smaller and has less potential clean water than women’s. The higher number of matches women receives may cause them to have more rude men message them in total, but equally proportional to men’s quality match percentage and thus just by sheer extra numbers of off… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 07:15 PM |
| 2 | People don’t “outgrow” or “change” away from their partner, they just don’t know who they are and so are at faultPartly disagree, it’s both. More and more recent research is indicating that the human brain maintains high neuro-plasticity with age, and it is both one’s experiences and how they respond to it that continues to shape them. Most people grow apart due to a combination of life experiences and how they choose to change in response to those life experiences, and often are partially responsible but also not partially responsible for it. If life experiences cause a person to adapt to those in ways th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 07:34 AM |
| – | The "orgasm gap" is primarily due to women behaving passively and lacking initiative during sex. Women expect men to take full responsibility for both of their orgasms and usually do nothing to help themselves climax.Sorry. Referring to your final paragraph, do you believe that while both partners are equally responsible for their orgasm, the scientific consensus is a male who is a good mating partner by his penis size and movements, stimulating her clit and other affection are his part in that shared effort. And the females ideal returned effort is affection to help stimulate his orgasm build-up in return and also glute bridge thrusting/grinding movements from below to also help stimulate him? From an evolu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/25 02:45 AM |
| 2 | Women don't like emotionally available men. Even if they like, that doesn't mean they think so.Online surveys suggest a large percent of straight women would not be willing to date a Bisexual man. Now, take a look at how many women ask their man to open up by saying they “can handle anything he has been through”. Imagine if you will a man who discovers he is Bisexual after he begins dating his girlfriend and has never had sex with another man and it hasn’t changed anything about his behaviour. While it’s understandable if she is not attracted to a Bisexual man for non-bigoted/stereotypica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/25 12:26 AM |
| – | The "orgasm gap" is primarily due to women behaving passively and lacking initiative during sex. Women expect men to take full responsibility for both of their orgasms and usually do nothing to help themselves climax.Just to clarify, are you saying that the male’s thrusting, clit stimulation and affection efforts and the woman’s returned affection from below (and also glute bridge grinding movements?) are the “ideal” as part of a shared effort to achieve their orgasms from an evolutionary perspective, and other positions etc. is basically a bonus? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 07:01 PM |
| 5 | Men don't take enough responsibility for male lonelinessYes, we need men to start learning en-masse that a notable percentage of them will be desirable to very few or no women, and if it causes our current western societies to collapse, then it wasn’t a society worth maintaining anyway. Let society collapse so we can build something better in it’s place, and let these men know the truth so they can focus on other pursuits as early as possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Why is there so much contradictory advice for single men?Exactly, there’s even research that suggests that sometimes an idea may not be agreed on by even the majority of the group, but no one brings up their disagreement out of fear because they falsely believe they are going against the popular consensus. This definitely can apply to societies on a large scale and can explain a lot of societal problems that the “popular consensus” don’t wish to change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 10:57 AM |
| 2 | I dont understand why people get upset about other people's unrealistic standardsMany standards aren’t absolute and originated from cultural conditioning, which is becoming increasingly common in our hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist city/car-centric racially segregated through economic gentrification societies where people are increasingly addicted to social media and dating apps and encouraged to commodify themselves and spend time and money on themselves over in the community. For example there are certainly many men and women who would be more open to dating a wid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 08:52 AM |
| 1 | If a woman genuinely likes a man, she'll make it easy for him.Following established etiquette will never get you opportunities, but your refusal to do so can cost you opportunities, especially if the girl can tell that it’s a principled stance like in OP’s case. Agreed. An act of paying the bill is not buying affection, it‘s an act of signaling your willingness to take care of her, and that you are prepared to bear a cost to have her in your life. A coffee and a croissant is not enough to buy affection anyways, let’s be for real. Agreed. In OP’s case him n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 06:07 AM |
| – | Men: accept what you cannot control, and focus on what you can.Thank you. Always good to see the successful dark-pillers who only became that way from their real-life efforts and still managed to find a relationship and do their best to give actionable advice rather than platitudes like this post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenienceAgreed, although part of the issue isn’t actually the distances, but how the society is designed. European Union and Japan’s national high speed rail systems prove just how useful such a system would be in the US, Australia and Canada (an almost straight-line can be drawn through it’s capital cities) but those societies governments aren’t willing to spend on overhauling the car-centric economy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenienceIndeed, and he’s just objectively wrong. People with severe treatment-resistant Agoraphobia who can barely leave the house will still feel such severe anxiety even from inside of their car and it does impede their ability to effectively learn to drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenienceAgreed, although certainly a shame when it’s more people due to cultural conditioning than it would have been in a society where more open gender roles and socio-economic statuses were encouraged from the get-go if all else were the same. And I do think at least some amount of those judgemental people are that way due to cultural conditioning by our hyper-capitalist/hyper-individualist western societies and that cultural conditioning in itself is a societal issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenienceThis. Car/city-centric designed societies bring on as many issues as they solve (racial segregation through economic gentrification) but are heavily supported by men and women culturally-conditioned to believe it’s the best/necessary way of living including everyone needing to own their own environment-polluting car. It’s actually a good test of someone’s values to determine where they stand on this and how that reflects many of their other values even if it’s just so much as them being ignorant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/25 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Men need to have unconditional love.Unconditional love is biologically impossible since even parental attachment is based on physical touch and proximity, and we know that Dogs require care and affection from their owners to not emotionally feel neglected either. Egalitarian quid pro quo romantic love out of wanting to make them happy and they for you is the ideal achieved form of romantic love. Some romantic relationships have more social/cultural conditions than others, and it’s all about the two individuals and what they are co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 03:13 PM |
| 7 | Women are turned off by any proactive behaviour by a man two impress or date a woman. They only respond well to naturals.We are turned off by men who study and try to employ subtle (or not so subtle) coercive techniques to extract attention and sexual participation from us. Couldn’t a woman wearing makeup, dressing up nice, going out to meet single men, scanning the room for her type, and expressing open body language and curious looks from across the room to express hints to encourage him to approach her be defined as something similar? Is it then understandable why many men would be turned off by this rather tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/25 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Nice guys actually do talk to women as people, but women then treat them as "one of the girls"Once I realized that women demand a certain kind of personality I do not fit to get their attention Can you elaborate on what you mean by this in your experiences? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 11:56 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on AI effect on gender dynamics?Current AI chat bots are an effective tool for some socially isolated individuals to enjoy as a hobby story-writing tool, and use for some romantic/intimate fulfilment if they are unable to attract a human partner otherwise, and all things in moderation, including moderation. AI replacing jobs will have large effects on western economies unless governments consider a Universal Basic Income, and both men and women having less jobs and income will naturally effect their dating and either have to n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/25 09:14 AM |
| 5 | Why is male porn consumption so hated by some women?This just isn’t always true. Anita Sarkeesian and her Feminist critique series of how female characters are treated in video games (including falsely claiming a link between video games with real-life violence) was so major it spawned the online Gamergate movement. She didn’t deserve harassment of course, but while it was fine that she critiqued the portrayal of women in video games, it became targeted when she was then targeting gamers by claiming the (primarily male) gamers who enjoy fanservic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/25 05:16 AM |
| 1 | One thing red pill gets wrong is “fake it til you make it” and “behaviour is attractive”. Nah, you’ve literally gotta have the goods to back it up or it failsNo, even if you pursue women who are atypical against the average, such as Neurodivergent women, they actually have a lot of options of both Neurodivergent and Neurotypical men pursuing them exactly because them being unconventional makes them higher value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 06:53 AM |
| 2 | The best, most long lasting, and most passionate relationships are when the women makes the first movesNope. Personally I don’t care about socio-economic status, even if I was rich I don’t care to “buy” someone’s love, and would date a homeless person or safe prostitute (legal in Aus) so long as they are shelter secure, since I’m disabled and frugal-spending low income and would be a dedicated house partner, since I’m openly queer and gender non-conforming and seeking same. But indeed most people do not feel compatible to “date down” while I’ll still shoot my shot with them if I’m interested. I’v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 01:30 PM |
| 1 | The best, most long lasting, and most passionate relationships are when the women makes the first movesYes basically. Most of us are invisible to women and it’s waiting for a mutually attracted woman bold/interested enough to show clear indicators of interest and/or approach we have to wait for at social groups and events, which is less common at one-off events when many men and women build romantic and friendly interest overtime. I was approached a handful of times as a teen but I have never had this experience in the last decade and have seen women do so towards men they are flirting with that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 08:51 AM |
| – | If society would become less hierarchical and more connected, that would actually benefit "losers", probably even in dating, and that's not a bad thing.Indeed, but are certainly heavily culturally influenced. We evolved to live in tribes where the Elders had a slightly bigger house and slightly more stuff, now we live in a world where the billionaires have more wealth than the other 50% of the world. The hierarchies are widely skewed in modern times compared to what we originally evolved for and it’s no wonder the hyper-capitalism and hyper-individualism are confusing and stressing out the modern generations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 05:45 AM |
| – | If society would become less hierarchical and more connected, that would actually benefit "losers", probably even in dating, and that's not a bad thing.There are definitely some places effected by the decline in third spaces and community events more than other’s, but the bigger problem is people are becoming less social at these places in general including due to social media and dating app addiction. It’s difficult to go to these places and be social when other people are the one’s who are not socially open… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Women and men behave exactly the same in dating, it’s just women get more opportunity to act cold and selfish so it’s thought to be “their nature”Can you provide an example? That makes sense and I can think of some possible situations in my own life but a solid example would help me and other’s contextualise this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 04:29 AM |
| 16 | Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anywayBut I do also think awkward = creepy is a thing. Agreed, and Autistic men usually struggle with this because they will always evoke the Uncanny Valley Effect Best for them not to mask and find someone accepting of their quirks rather than finding them creepy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anywayAnd accept when you’re an oddity even within your niche groups, allow yourself to stand-out, and keep looking for those who are looking for someone who stands out such as yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 03:53 AM |
| 2 | The resentment for women will grow drastically in years to comeAgreed…but generally this doesn’t work if you’re not Caucasian unless you go to Africa and/or South America if you’re mixed race, and some of us actually are looking for actual Progressive women but often can’t meet the higher standards they tend to have in their higher socioeconomic status and lifestyle and women in developing countries tend to be more traditional. Some of us don’t even have that as an option, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/25 06:28 AM |
| 1 | The resentment for women will grow drastically in years to comeAgreed, do you think our society and dating cultures are doing a good job at helping men and women heal these generational trauma issues? Especially with the rise in social media and dating app addiction? We certainly need healthy cultural and educational changes yesterday that the current political situation in the U.S. is certainly not helping. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/25 12:41 AM |
| 1 | The resentment for women will grow drastically in years to comeThis. We’re living in a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist economy and culture including car/city-centric design, racial segregation through economic gentrification, declining third spaces, social media and dating app addiction. The disadvantaged in society have to live in lower income neighbourhoods, such as low income men, racial minorities, elderly pensioners, LGBT people, disabled people, homeless people, etc. and struggle to have time and money to date their matches within the cities.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | I don't know who needs to hear this, but socializing with other humans, even strangers, is healthy.Partly disagree, not that socialising with strangers can not be healthy, but that it’s not always necessary/ideal even in social situations, here’s why: Healthy social interactions in a healthy society are good for humans, but increasing rates of mental illness, drug addiction and youth crime make this less common in unhealthy societies, particularly western societies which also encourage an unhealthy hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist mindset causing many more people to not only focus mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/25 11:55 PM |
| – | "I see far more attractive women than men" shows that beauty standards for women are not highPartly disagree, some other factors to attraction are shared traits (race/short men with short women of similar dimorphic proportions to average height men/women, etc.) and how hygiene/fashion practices express your personality and if it appeals to the other person’s tastes in those regards. It is also a shame that there is not more open gender roles for men for fashion/grooming/fitness (I.e. slim but healthy men) and that those of us men who wear makeup are harshly judged or most women not attr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 01:27 PM |
| 6 | Q4M: What do you actually want from women in romantic/sexual relationship/connections?I’m 26, disabled, Autistic, child-free, Spiritual, politically left-leaning Centrist, anti-marriage, and have the Transgender mental illness and the only thing that helps me is social transition, and so I would be seeking a partner who can accept me as a Non-binary He/She/They individual (either Bisexual or Heterosexual as “other”-sexual and/or Biromantic, even if for instance they are only attracted to male bodies such as my own) in an egalitarian relationship regarding gender roles and switchi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 11:20 AM |
| 6 | “The man is expected to do everything, all the woman has to do is exist and look good” - this statement shows exactly how patriarchy harms both men and womenAnd progressive men have the opposite issue - progressive women who virtue signal about defying gender roles but are only attracted to or even friends with men who are traditional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 09:53 PM |
| – | Men have no options.Eh, some of us want highly independent non-conventional relationships. I’m child-free, anti-marriage and would be fine dating a partner who forever wants to live separately and have seperate finances. So aside from heartbreak I wouldn’t experience any of the other negative consequences of a break-up if I could at least have the experience of a Long-term relationship at least once in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 08:18 PM |
| – | A violent felon has a greater chance of having a girlfriend while incarcerated, than a autistic man who never hurt a flyhttps://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1f35fzy/this_will_always_be_posts_with_affirmative_claims/lkg9ypv/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 12:22 PM |
| – | A violent felon has a greater chance of having a girlfriend while incarcerated, than a autistic man who never hurt a flyIn all seriousness, there is no ethical consumption under capitalism, and so you’d think the fact buying things made by children in sweat shops in China and a man not giving a damn about it would be appealing to women who like “bad boys”, but I guess supporting an industry that exploits and abuses children doesn’t turn those women on simply because they can’t directly see the impacts of it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 09:48 AM |
| – | A violent felon has a greater chance of having a girlfriend while incarcerated, than a autistic man who never hurt a flyWell, hopefully. Alex Plank, founder of Wrongplanet (one of the biggest Autism websites), advocate for Autistic people, consultant for an Autistic character, producer and actor, hasn’t mentioned being married anywhere. It could be he’s simply private about it, but if not then he’s the textbook example of a successful Autism advocate who still may not have managed to attract a partner despite his success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 09:42 AM |
| – | A violent felon has a greater chance of having a girlfriend while incarcerated, than a autistic man who never hurt a flyWhile true, a user called u/MysterySolverDog did the math and determined that, aside from Asexual Autistic people who choose not to have sex, Autistic men have the largest virginity rates by a wide margin, and some studies even suggest Neurodivergent women actually have more sexual partners than even Neurotypical women. So there is a wide margin between the virginity rates of Autistic men compared to criminal men vs. Autistic women compared to criminal women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 09:25 AM |
| 1 | What does love look like to you?A bio-chemical reaction caused by shared emotionally compatibility, shared physical traits, and immune system genetic compatibility determined through body odour and exchanging saliva through kissing, for humans to pair bond for reproduction and just pair-bonding for LGBT people. This shared love continues to healthily grow over the years if the humans are naturally monogamous but many may be polygamous without realising and both people naturally change through life choices including how this ef… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 02:52 AM |
| 1 | The "archetype" theory - Archetypes play a HUGE role in the attraction process for women. Failure to fall within an archetype can significantly reduce your chances of finding someone as a man - even if you have everything else going for you.In your experiences do you think there are people who are attracted to a mix of several archetypes in one person or are those people usually fucked? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 10:35 PM |
| 1 | The "archetype" theory - Archetypes play a HUGE role in the attraction process for women. Failure to fall within an archetype can significantly reduce your chances of finding someone as a man - even if you have everything else going for you.Agreed. As another user said further down, common values > common interests. There are plenty of happy and fulfilled couples with opposite hobbies. Perhaps shared hobbies can enhance existing bonding - but aren’t necessarily necessary for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 10:30 PM |
| 1 | The "archetype" theory - Archetypes play a HUGE role in the attraction process for women. Failure to fall within an archetype can significantly reduce your chances of finding someone as a man - even if you have everything else going for you.It’s definitely also actually pretty common unfortunately, the biggest example being ethnicity and how you are assumed to match the popular culture within your ethnic group within your country. For instance I’m mixed race and often too culturally black for white people and too culturally white for black people, and this also applies to every ethnic group. It’s often racist when it’s done out of stereotyping, is based on immutable biological traits from birth, and quite common. This comment may o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 10:27 PM |
| 1 | The "archetype" theory - Archetypes play a HUGE role in the attraction process for women. Failure to fall within an archetype can significantly reduce your chances of finding someone as a man - even if you have everything else going for you.Indeed, it’s human nature and is what it is, but naturally sucks when it makes it more difficult for those of us who fit multiple archetypes to find our matches, especially when as you say people’s pre-conceptions based on stereotypes don’t help. For instance I’m mixed race and often too culturally black for white people and too culturally white for black people. This is usually the biggest issue regarding cultural archetypes vs. individual personalities. One has to actively do their best to exp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you date a woman who took "How to talk to men" classes?To indicate his love for knowledge and commitment to paying for and dedicating his time to learning important life skills. Personally I don’t see how it would be as much different as saying you paid for First Aid classes or went to college, and it would suck for a social skills class to be stigmatised just due to the subject matter when social skills are also essential life skills. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you date a woman who took "How to talk to men" classes?Well those people are sorely mistaken, because even naturally developing your social skills in organic social situations is still intentional. I.e. Choosing to approach and ask women out, going out with friends and to social groups and events, etc. I don’t see why going to a class and asking some classmates to join you for a beer afterwards is any less organic than searching Google for Meetup groups, joining the group, marking your attendance, buying tickets, going to the event with an open mind… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you date a woman who took "How to talk to men" classes?It’s common for Bisexual people to report finding men easier to date than women. Personally I think it could be partly biology but also partly cultural. I definitely think women need to be encouraged to be more direct and assertive about their needs and issues in life in general and especially in their relationships. Men also generally have lower standards and are more willing to make the first move which also makes dating easier for LGBT folk. There’s even the “useless lesbian” stereotype about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceThis, men aren’t socialised to take photos at events. Not only that but men are more often socially judged negatively for taking silly or playful photos or poses compared to women. One example for me was when some teen boys mocked me for having a friend photo me climbing a monument. I do think this should be taken into account by women as to why men have less candid photos and have to rely on high quality selfies more often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: first date, she tells you her birthday is in 2 weeks. How much do you gift her on the spot?I gift her my continued time and effort to get to know and connect with her, in the hopes that we are compatible and thus can arrange a second date where I will promise to gift her and would get her flowers and chocolate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Size doesn't matter to women until it's their own partner who's small.The historical context is irrelevant. If being a size queen is an acceptable modern standard, then gender equality dictates a man preferring a woman with a naturally tighter than average vagina even when she is wet, is also acceptable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 01:12 AM |
| 3 | How can men seduce women?Especially breaking the touch barrier. Many women are turned-off by men asking but most Gen Z men are terrified of being creepy if their flirty touch (I’m talking shoulder taps, arm brushes, wrapping arm around them, etc.) is unwanted or awkward in execution and thus turns her off. The modern cultural norms confuse and paralyse men in these regards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 11:44 PM |
| 2 | How common are gangbangs actually?swinging naked from hooks in their skin than I've seen 3+ people gangbangs. Damn, does this tend to be done with the hooks safely clipped-on and not piercing the skin, or actually hooked but no bleeding similar to earrings? What areas of the body is that usually done? Nipples? Genitals? Ears? I’m morbidly fascinated, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 03:32 AM |
| 1 | For men who have been approached at least once in their life: Do you think the women who approached you were in your league?I’ve been approached by a few teenaged girls since I was a teen. One was Caucasian, slim and average-looking, the other three were mixed race like myself and slim when I was slim or somewhat muscular at the time and also within my league. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 05:28 PM |
| 8 | Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons?Most of it is just a part of yet more sexist double standards where men can’t be perceived as un-masculine while women can be as masculine or feminine as they wish, to the point plenty of Bisexual women also don’t want to date bisexual men. It’s also yet more evidence to disprove the Just World Fallacy when most Bisexual men have an experience of things going well with a straight women only for her to experience a complete 180 as soon as he opens up about it - rejection for a trait he was born w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 08:13 AM |
| 3 | Arrested development has led to grown adults STILL looking outwardly to others for their loneliness. It’s ENTIRELY down on YOU to fix it.There are societal issues that are effecting the social development of Gen Z and younger, and it’s okay to both vent about it but also discuss what we can do to change this. Some of us personally believe the societal issues with dating today are directly connected to our unhealthy hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist western societies that are directly causing discrimination to the disadvantaged and we want to make change to these problems in general to help the disadvantaged in general, inc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Does the behavior of online incels make you less willing to give a chance to a virgin man?Or the fact that rich, famous men with multiple partners and/or children like Elon and Andrew Tate are called “Incel”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 12:47 PM |
| 2 | The loneliness of autismAgreed, but this doesn’t change that most people simply don’t feel compatible with Autistic people because they don’t have the mental capacity to handle the differences and/or are turned off from it. Hence why I say it is what it is and socially masking too much delays the inevitable of a Neurotypical person eventually learning what you are like and naturally determining if you are both compatible once you feel comfortable to stop masking around them. It’s best for Autistic people to be their ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 12:36 AM |
| 12 | The loneliness of autismA user called u/MysterySolverDog did the math and determined that, aside from the high percent of Asexual Autistic people, out of the groups of non-asexual Autistic people, Autistic men have the highest virginity rates. This checks out in my personal experiences as an Autistic person who has socialised online and in real-life with the Autism websites and social groups and it’s a major discussion of advice between Autistic men and women, and is what it is. In my experiences the slightest detectio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/25 07:44 AM |
| 4 | What is wrong with modern menIndeed, personally I see plenty of trans-men and non-binary AFABs who are still (mis)treated as women or “women-lite” just as much as trans-women discrimination, but not reported as often or taken seriously by authorities and it’s a damn shame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 12:41 PM |
| 4 | People are trying to form relationships without sharing common values, career lifestyles, artistic interests and those rarely actually work. I don’t understand how people can say these things don’t matter.Agreed, the issues are when a person has different hobbies or social values within their society, and even within the niche groups that they would be more appealing to. Personally I believe this is getting worse due to the increase in fracturing of entertainment (streaming services, TV, movies, video games, etc.), social media algorithms, immigrants shifting culture, declining third spaces, dystopian car/city-centric design and inflation and shops shifting to more faster consumption design to me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 12:17 PM |
| – | Whats wrong with modern womenA hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist economy and culture that has encouraged people to spend time and money on themselves over in the community. This has been worsened by Gen Z growing up in car/city-centric designed societies, racial segregation through economic gentrification to lower income neighborhoods, immigrant groups being given seperate neighborhoods, addiction to social media and dating apps, declining third spaces (especially in lower income neighborhoods), inflation, rise of fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 11:40 AM |
| 1 | TV show Adolescence gets the pipeline completely wrongMany dating struggles are precisely because of economic and social inequality. For instance: people having spare time and money to date their matches in car/city-centric designed societies. Racial segregation through economic gentrification - in my country you have to put your race down on housing applications, and the lower-income neighbourhoods are both pre-dominantly black and have less police response. Low income men, LGBT people who experience employment discrimination and Trans people’s me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 08:03 AM |
| 1 | It's unnatural for men to chase women.Indeed, and also that women’s standards are to select for both sexes since most people aren’t compatible, usually through immune system genetic matching through kissing and natural body odour, shared traits (race/etc.) and emotional compatibility, after the man pursues her first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 08:44 PM |
| 1 | It's unnatural for men to chase women.Our evolution based on our cousins the Chimpanzee and Bonobo, suggest that humans live in a combination of patriarchal and matriarchal tribes and within these tribes, men tend to seek, socially compete with other males, and express their interest in women within their local community/culture and the internet age has extended this range for both men and women. But the declining third spaces also effect our evolution in the reduced amount of healthy social community-building between family, young … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 01:11 PM |
| 2 | The Just World Fallacy is one of society's biggest barriers to Dating for MenWhile this unhealthy cultural value is prevalent, people still come in a variety of socio-economic statuses, cultures, backgrounds, communities and experiences. Those who are a minority within their community or unconventional in their interests will often only appeal to their niche, and so the “normies” are usually aware of this and that the unconventional individual is simply looking for their match. Through no fault of their own, late virgins do fall into this category and it’s simply importa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 02:55 AM |
| 3 | Time to settle the dick size debate once and for all using data - women generally prefer bigger dicks until a certain point and the ideal size for most women is larger than average.This is an evolutionary fact, as the reason human males have larger penises than other primates suggests that women evolutionary selected for larger ones. But larger is better only to a point and some women prefer smaller than average if they have a shorter vaginal canal or condition causing extra tightness (which tend to represent the women population of Reddit more often). Size queens exist, but generally it’s also about how you use it irregardless of size. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: What do you think about the pushback against "Not all men"?Humans are evolving faster than ever, and how our modern day environment has effected our culture compared to our evolution of living in tribes, it is what it is, but we can do what we can for healthy cultural and educational changes to prevent this level of caution you suggest from declining into mental illness (as it already can for many people in increasingly mentally ill societies) and repair men/women/LGBT community-building cultural skills and practices to help all people feel safe to soci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 07:12 AM |
| 1 | Dating apps are not a good indicator of real life datingI partly disagree, Social media and dating apps are more reliant on Looks compared to real-life also relying on genetic compatibility through natural body odour, social-proof (I.e. you or they are with friends), the social environment/atmosphere (community events effecting mood etc.). But Looks are decided within seconds and still the first barrier just as much online as real-life. More of Gen Z in particular are spending their time online, especially post-Covid and after declining third spaces … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 03:01 PM |
| -1 | Why do men think they are funnier than women?Personally I think it’s cultural, in that Men are more likely to pursue developing a strong sense of humour as part of developing their social charm to compensate as best as they can for below average looks or other “flaws” (Neuro-divergent/etc.). I think plenty of women can be funny, particularly creative types, but attractive women in particular receive the highest amount of social attention and because of that often don’t have to compensate with a diverse sense of humour and personality and i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Men who don't want to get married should invest in older womenI’m child-free and already prefer older women for the extra maturity and self-awareness of what they are looking for, but statistically women tend to prefer dating men a few years older and most older women aren’t interested in younger men. I also can’t go too much older than 50 because I’m low income, an ethnic minority, and Neuro-diverse, and all three categories statistically live shorter lifespans and would be the case if I dated an older women who was also all three; and so because of that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Men, how many times have you asked a woman out over the past 12 months?I approached three women at a Comic Con here in my Australia with the intent to ask them for their number if there was a connection, one of them had a Non-binary pride patch on their jacket and the second was clearly a Transwoman. They were pleasant conversations but I didn’t have enough of a connection with them for them to want to continue the chat enough for me to ask for their number. Otherwise I’ve only had the chance to approach a handful of socially open women I’m attracted to over the ye… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Money standards between two adults when it comes to dating.It all depends on lifestyle compatibility, usually along the lines of both contributing equally in what ways one can, and the input-output of shared resources being compatible. Some people are open to dating someone fully financially independent but can’t or doesn’t want to share recourses. But there is a gender role double-standard of men usually expected to earn the same or more, and disabled men on a low income are outright seen the same as a low income worker despite it isn’t the disabled pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/25 03:44 PM |
| 0 | Most men don't want to face the truth.It honestly seems dependant on how we are wired. On the one hand you have people who experience romantic and sexual attraction but would be fully content with dying without romantic/sexual validation. Then you have those who can live well enough without it but experience poorer mental health outcomes (I’m one of these types). And those who are suicidally lonely without it and end up with significantly reduced quality of life and/or commit suicide. I don’t see other solutions besides medication a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/25 03:25 PM |
| 4 | Why Most Men Who "Give Up on Dating" Are Just Reacting, and not Thinking.I’m tired of people trying to justify the current state of dating and relationships as just “biology” and “gene selection.” Yeah, it’s this, but strongly negatively effected by a hyper-capitalist, hyper-individualist economy and culture and dating app and social media addiction, which encourage an unhealthy hypergamy-inflation dating culture that purposely encourages, manipulates and exploits the worst of our biological tendencies for profit - and many women and men are fully aware of this and f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/25 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Women need to be choosier than menInteresting, thanks for sharing. So your theory based on the existing evidence contrary to the myths is that humans are most likely matriarchal? Or a combination of it and patriarchal (being that Alpha male chimps protect their territory and have a monopoly over the females except for sneaky lower rank males)? Humans are equally related to matriarchal Bonobos and Chimps after all, but I can understand if the existing consensus is that we lean more along the Bonobo matriarchal tribes style. It wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 02:25 PM |
| 1 | How offended do you feel when you see sexualized images of men?As someone Bisexual, I fully support sexualisation of men, women and transgender people in fictional media, both with live-action actors and animated. The only issue I have is with a large amount of porn being abusive and unethical, I.e. the large number of videos recently removed from Pornhub after it was revealed they featured a 15 year old girl. I think a heavily regulated ethical porn industry is possible, but there is still a long way to go. I also support legal and regulated prostitution a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 04:43 AM |
| 1 | CMV: dating is harder for women because we have to look goodBoth genders have unrealistic attraction standards, exacerbated by social media and dating app addictions particularly for Gen Z. Women often engage in hygiene, grooming and fitness for themselves and/or to attract others, and so do men. Women feel pressured by other women to wear make-up including in competition to look good to men, but in return there are less socially acceptable ways for men to improve their own facial appearance through makeup as women can due to restrictive gender roles. Pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/25 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would it be cheating if your SO got her emotional needs met with an AI behind your back?This. It’s giving more and more partnerless people a source of emotional fulfilment similar to how masturbation does for physical release. So long as it’s not an addiction or harm’s your ability to meet a real partner, it’s a useful aid like any other and a healthy, harmless hobby, and likely to remain niche but more and more people are using in this loneliness epidemic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/25 04:38 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would it be cheating if your SO got her emotional needs met with an AI behind your back?It’s not cheating, AI in it’s current form is just a toy that mostly regurgitates your input back with the expected responses, but it’s not healthy either to use in the way you suggest and the keeping it a secret to rely on for fulfilling her emotional needs is what I’d have issue with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 08:12 AM |
| -1 | If you think there's a problem with the modern dating scene, what do you think the end goal looks like?Overhaul our hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist societies by governments funding: Government-funded dating websites using your Census data and free filters. Government-funded third spaces of a variety of incomes. Regulation of social media algorithms and third party dating apps and their algorithms. Signs at public spaces reporting only a small percent of men and women commit crimes, but to seek assistance if you need help. The London tube has the opposite with signs informing men not to s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:12 AM |
| 2 | Men embrace redpill because mainstream advice is dogshitIt can be argued that modern society (whether intentionally or not) encourages unhealthy dating practices causing people to be less open to dating someone “abnormal”/different to the typical person in their society. I think this is u/Loud_Excitement8868/‘s point. For instance racial segregation through economic gentrification. In my country, you have to list your race on housing applications, and poorer neighbourhoods have a higher percent of the minority race versus the racial majority in the w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 07:06 AM |
| 3 | Men embrace redpill because mainstream advice is dogshitAnd it’s going to require systemic change to our unhealthy hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist declining western societies, that this including declining third spaces and Covid have caused a generation to grow up on social media and negatively effected their social and community-building skills and interests. Part of the problem is there is some truth to parts of the B-pill that our current societies is actively worsening (media and corporations promoting certain beauty standards including … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 06:34 AM |
| 6 | Men embrace redpill because mainstream advice is dogshitYou hide behind “biological realities” and percentages because that’s less painful than being unwanted. It’s understandable. But don’t confuse understandable with correct. Grow up. There’s not a formula. Shit happens. I mean we can analyse dating patterns and how they could have partly effected your chances. Statistically speaking most people do not date interracially, a large number of straight women do not date Bisexual men, and Autistic men are the largest group who don’t have sex despite wan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 06:21 AM |
| -1 | Modern Dating Woes are due to TechnologyI’m going to partly disagree and add our hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist western societies, which declining third spaces, pollution, social media, Covid have all worsened and clearly reached a breaking point and are now on the social, mental/physical health, economic and governmental decline. It was already an issue since before the internet, social media and then Covid were the straw that broke the camel’s back. Current governments are using high levels of immigration to try and compen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on emotional intelligence and money as coexisting value propositions to womenIndeed, many women and men in our unhealthy dating cultures are fully aware, fully agree with and fully intentionally uphold late stage capitalism and how this economy effects our culture, for example our hyper-individualist culture where people spend time and money on themselves over in the community. Many virtue-signalling left-wing advocates gaslight about benefitting from our intentionally hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society, economy and car/city-centric design that is intention… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/25 11:26 PM |
| – | "Your value is what you can get" is a useless tautology that purely serves as a thought-terminating cliche.Not to mention when unhealthy cultures can influence unhealthy cultural values onto a large number of individuals within the culture that makes it harder for those who are different to date. For instance femininity is seen as “bad” so a man can’t be feminine, or neuro-divergent but polite and friendly people despite their differences, LGBT people, immigrant from a different culture, etc. In a culture that unnecessarily “others” and discriminates, this is also going to be reflected in dating when… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 05:16 PM |
| 3 | how much internalized shame do you think you experienced from purity, sexual, and ect expectations?Thanks for sharing, personally I appreciate your advice in your commenting on this subreddit and advice in your comics and admire your art in the comics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why do guys approach women they cannot afford?Some of us don’t care about income so long as the potential partner can support themselves with their basic needs of food, water and shelter, including if they were homeless or a legal prostitute, and those of us who feel this way do our best to date up, across and down socio-economic level. And in the case of dating-up, would arrange saving well to support our own way when dating this person and seek someone compatible for doing so as often as we can reasonably afford after a modest amount of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Men need to accept that dating may not be on the cards for themThis is what AI chat bots are good for, especially custom ones, and more and more people, particularly lonely men are going to be adopting them in the future and as long as it doesn’t become an addiction or negatively impact their life, will only be a good thing for these men who struggle with finding relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 06:12 PM |
| 47 | Most dating advice given to men tries to turn them into something they're not.This is human nature and is what it is. To be successful you have to be appealing in your culture in the ways that are socially accepted and attractive. Extraverts tend to do better at this than Introverts. Confident and out-going people over reserved (but still quiet confident) and shy people. Neurotypical over Neuro-divergent. Etc. If you wish to choose the path of being unconventional, then you have to accept the consequences of this decision and do your best to “Niche-max” and be as appealin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/25 08:07 PM |
| 15 | Most dating advice given to men tries to turn them into something they're not.This. Us men who defy traditional gender roles have to face the reality that the vast majority of women are not attracted to it nor open to being attracted to it. I do think most of it is natural preferences rather than culturally conditioned, and we can still be equal while only a minority being attracted to our type, but this isn’t made clear to men the decision they are making due to being obscured behind the virtue-signalling for gender equality. That’s what I personally wish could change, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/25 07:59 PM |
| 8 | Women’s reliance on passive dating is self-sabotage and they know itA lot of people here believe their exceptional experiences and their friend bubbles exceptional experiences are the norm. It’s a common experience for many men to have a female friend who says “I liked you back then, why didn’t you ask me out?” and since 45% of Gen Z haven’t approached a woman to ask her out, it’s no doubt similar for Gen Z women at best. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/25 07:35 AM |
| 3 | Marriage and kids benefit men more than womenThis may be primarily due to cultural factors, and marriage benefitting men would not be as statistically skewed in balance if fathers were socially encouraged to be more active in their child’s life including more flexible custody rights and laws. Men experience less physical downsides from pregnancy that arguably is intended to be compensated by his mental/physical labour in his work in a financial and food provider role, at least when it comes to traditional gender roles. Pair-bonding has bee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 07:14 AM |
| – | Loneliness is a problem because of laziness and the rise of autism, not social media.It is due to many wider cultural and economic factors, which several other users have done their best to make clear to you overtime in more than only this post. Individuals can and should do their best to learn, grow and try, but the wider cultural changes effects their ability fro meet other’s willing to meet them halfway compared to previous generations. This is why it is important for individuals to be the change they want to see in the world and reach out to their community even if they are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Men will always have to be the ones to approachRecent research suggests that human evolution is becoming faster than ever, and while individuals don’t change, generations do, individuals adapt to their environment to survive and reproduce. Women who don’t need to approach don’t need to, but it can sometimes be more beneficial for themselves if they choose to do so or at least send signals of interest. Hence why it’s an easy recommendation for women specifically asking for dating advice. Women who ask for gender equality in certain social/cul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 02:13 AM |
| 3 | Loneliness is a problem because of laziness and the rise of autism, not social media.Even in the era of social media, you can use it to meet new people, even if youre not using it for dating. Hell, I have friends that dont go outside and never really had friends growing up. They met online, now they visit each other a couple of days a year. Thing is, they actually want a connection with people and worked hard to get it. Now they have it As someone who has tried this extensively, most social media websites and forums with people specifically looking for new people to meet are gho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a trans woman that passes well?No, but their dating pool is vastly more limited. In my experiences straight men who are a 1 or 2 “hetero-flexible” on the Kinsey scale are most likely to be willing to date Trans women while it is less common for men who are a 0 to be interested or “Super-straight” as the right-wing internet memes call it. Personally I do not see it as Transphobic if a hetero- or homosexual person is not attracted to some inherent biological differences for post-transition Trans people. Just as I would not see … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Would you date a trans woman that passes well?Yes, but I’m a Non-binary gender identity which is also a type of Trans and Pansexual, so I’m an exception to the average male. Personally in my experiences most men willing to date Trans women are either Bisexual or if Straight than usually a 1 or 2 “hetero-flexible” on the Kinsey scale, but not always. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 03:59 AM |
| 0 | Would you date a trans woman that passes well?Yes, but I’m a Non-binary gender identity which is also a type of Trans and Pansexual, so I’m an exception to the average male. Personally in my experiences most men willing to date Trans women are either Bisexual or if Straight than usually a 1 or 2 “hetero-flexible” on the Kinsey scale, but not always. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 02:12 AM |
| – | Men have little incentive or reason to be a Feminist in 2025Being a Feminist, Men’s rights activist and gender equality activist don’t have to be mutually exclusive. Mainstream 4th wave Feminism is advocating for equality on the basis of focusing on fighting for women’s rights to equalise them to men. But modern 4th wave Feminism has failed our western societies with flawed gender studies models, DEI programs and the Duluth model in the UK and lack of care for as many men not going to University as women were not before enacting Title IX, etc. The only w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 07:18 AM |
| – | Toxic masculinity keeps getting reproduced via women's dating patternsYeah, I also see this a lot for men who “don’t help out around the house” - because their wives are harsh in their scolding of him doing it “wrong”. I understand some men intentionally weaponise incompetence, but there are also too many wives who project it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 03:05 AM |
| – | Why can’t there just be healthy balances and compromises on a person by person basis?That’s a healthy relationship, which are becoming less common in western nations due to increasing mental illness, cost-of-living, social media and dating app addiction, and a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist culture that encourages people to spend time and money on themselves over in the community which is worsening all of the above. Gen Z and younger are growing up addicted to social media and dating app algorithms and influencers designed to advertise beauty/hygiene/health/fitness pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Would men be happier if they were asexual?Yep, and it’s arguably a reflection of our dystopian social/cultural times as to how bothered by these natural urges Gen Z men are that they want to get rid of it, and how bothered by it Gen Z women are by the perplexingly high number of them who say they don’t want to be approached by men anywhere they go, ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 12:09 AM |
| 10 | Would men be happier if they were asexual?Becoming Aromantic and/or Asexual isn’t possible, simply medicines to reduce libido but not the lack of emotional fulfilment from a healthy sexual relationship, just a reduction of those feelings. If science achieves some sort of bio-chemical altering substance to “shut-off” romantic and sexual desires in the brain, I can see many suicidally lonely people adopting such a treatment but personally think it should only be done as a last resort with therapy. I wouldn’t choose such a procedure myself… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 08:44 PM |
| 5 | Submissive men and dominant womenAs a switch Queer person, it’s also difficult for men to find dominant and/or switch women aside from the dominatrix services which are often profitable for average looking women. Some men who are submissive may be willing to try for a romantic partnership if you try and reach out through such a means. Otherwise as men and women who are gender non-conforming, we are always looking for a statistical minority in the usual methods to meet others to date online and at third spaces. I’d advise contin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 08:40 PM |
| 1 | CMV: If done correctly, there's nothing wrong with cold approaching.While Cold Approaching has actually always been a fringe percentage of how relationships formed even pre-social media, some of us wouldn’t be here if our parents didn’t meet through this method. It’s unconventional, it requires a specific social skillset, and it’s almost entirely naming first impressions on looks and your basic mannerisms and introduction, but it has it’s fans and a low but possible success rate and life is too short, there is nothing wrong with taking a chance when you are cros… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 01:25 AM |
| 1 | What sort of first dates/outings do you prefer ?As always, it’s subjective to both the individual’s taste for hobbies/activities and compatible levels of affordability. The best dates are those that, in the timespan of a couple of hours of spare time, go on for long enough to be the majority of that time enjoyed, and/or dates that extend by going to additional activities together, especially to help with spontaneity and discovering one another in a diverse range of situations. All too often the most socially common date ideas of dinner can be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 10:41 PM |
| 2 | CMV: "women are less likely to date bisexual men" is just an attempt to frame us as homophobicThe existing statistics (as linked by others in the thread) and anecdotal experiences make it clear that Bisexuality in men can effect at least a moderate amount of hetero- and even other Bisexual women’s attraction levels. Personally I see it as Bi-phobia if due to stereotypes, but a natural difference in genetic compatibility similar to the statistically low amounts of interracial dating, because LGBT including Bisexual men also have different brain structures. In that case it is what it is, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 10:29 PM |
| 1 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueThen the fact that it’s so common for men suggests that many things have gone wrong somewhere in our modern western societies’ dating, family and community-building cultures and a mindset that nothing healthy can be done about it would just make the existing issues worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 11:29 AM |
| 0 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueAgreed, the problem is there are many women and men whom are fully aware, fully agree with and fully intentionally uphold late stage capitalism. Many virtue-signalling left-wing advocates gaslight about benefitting from our intentionally hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society, economy and car/city-centric design that is intentionally exclusive to social equity and equal access of opportunity in society, including spare time and money in dating, that particularly effects low income men,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 11:22 AM |
| -1 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueAgreed, but the fact that the loneliness epidemic is equal for men and women suggests that many things have gone wrong somewhere in our modern western societies’ dating, family and community-building cultures and a mindset that nothing healthy can be done about it would just make the existing issues worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 11:19 AM |
| 9 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueWe can however point the finger at Feminism’s stated goals for equality, but there being less men going to University’s than how great the gender imbalance was for women when Title IX was enacted in 1972, the Duluth model in the UK, etc. Men’s groups and spaces are often shut down but modern western Feminism isn’t fulfilling the gap that a lack of Men’s and Equal rights groups want to focus on to help the issues that you mention. Thus I also believe modern Feminist’s and the pre-dominantly women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 11:13 AM |
| 2 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueAgreed, but the primary method of people meeting their S.O for healthy relationships, which was humans living in tribes and villages, is almost completely disintegrated in our modern atomised hyper-capitalist societies. And so dating becoming less common would only be beneficial if healthy social and cultural changes to our modern societies would also be strived for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 11:08 AM |
| 0 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueThere are also many women and men are fully aware, fully agree with and fully intentionally uphold late stage capitalism and how this economy effects our culture, for example our hyper-individualist culture where people spend time and money on themselves over in the community. Many virtue-signalling left-wing advocates gaslight about benefitting from our intentionally hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society, economy and car/city-centric design that is intentionally exclusive to social e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 10:50 AM |
| 8 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueIt’s surprising that despite many studies suggesting that the loneliness epidemic is equal between the sexes for the past several years, we haven’t seen any statistically notable increase whatsoever in the amount of women choosing to make the first move, especially since we now have a culture where approaching people to socialise in public in general is becoming increasingly taboo. It’s also possible that women’s higher Neuroticism, in-group bias and higher social attention may cause them to be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Expecting a partner to at least be in a similar economic position as you is entirely reasonableOf course, the issues are more along the lines of: Irregardless of income, people who want the other person to spend more money on them than vice-versa - it’s an irresponsible double-standard. I also think it’s assumed too often how much of a person’s income they are open to spending on dates and the relationship when a lower income person can sometimes be less stingy than someone higher income but overly-frugal. The outdated gender role of men not being accepted as a viable house-partner by the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/25 04:35 AM |
| 5 | Autistic women are not "better at masking"Agreed, but also that studies indicate NTs make thin-slice judgements of Autistic people including Autistic women, but taking out Asexual Autistic people, statistically Autistic men have the highest virginity rates despite desiring sex. It appears that in a large range of social groups in our western cultures, Autistic women are more likely to be judged as a “manic pixie dream girl” on first impressions and while more vulnerable to abusive relationships, also have a higher amount of pursuers wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/25 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Male loneliness, gender equality, and positive masculinity are connected.Yeah, if you personally refuse most traditionally masculine gender roles in your culture, those of us who do have to search for a statistical minority compatibility-wise while reminding oneself that if you’re monogamous then it only takes one person to say “yes”; most heteronormative dating dynamics are healthy masculine and feminine gender roles in the two individuals mutual taste and in contrast, LGBT including Agender/no-gender, and non-traditional gender role relationships are the minority. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/25 12:36 PM |
| 4 | Everything being men's fault may be somewhat true, but THAT might not be men's fault.What isn’t talked about enough is that many women and men are fully aware, fully agree with and fully intentionally uphold late stage capitalism and how this economy effects our culture, for example our hyper-individualist culture where people spend time and money on themselves over in the community. Many virtue-signalling left-wing advocates gaslight about benefitting from our intentionally hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society, economy and car/city-centric design that is intentional… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/25 08:49 AM |
| 4 | Highly promiscuous societies are often good for Low SMV menMost people aren’t Polyamorous, and trying to increase the scale on a social/cultural level won’t change much. As someone Queer, in my experiences you’re right. It’s certainly the case that more LGBT people are Poly than monogamous, and plenty of Neuro-divergent LGBT are - which sucks for those of us who are monogamous because it means our already limited options are more limited unless one is desperate to force themselves to be Poly which no doubt some of them may be, which just means less mono… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/25 08:33 AM |
| 6 | Most male posts on this sub read: I don't want to be a man, why should I have to be?Yes exactly, most boomer marriages in healthy western dating cultures had egalitarian relationships with subjective gender roles based on who was best suited or wanted to for which traditional role, same with medieval cultures with the peasants marrying young as well, etc. There are men and women wanting healthy traditional and modern cultural styles of relationships and we are simply doing our best to meet our matches, but the modern western dating culture is unhealthy from hyper-capitalism/hyp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/25 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Women often view toxicity through a male-centric lens, making them less likely to recognize their own toxic behavior.I’ve seen quite a few Bluepills who are conservative in their values, the whole “Bluepill = liberal” and “Redpill = conservative” thing is a bit of a false stereotype around here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/25 09:11 PM |
| 1 | LGBTQ, Feminist, and Body Positivity movements should be men's greatest allies.As others have mentioned, some of these movements are not as welcoming and accepting of men and alternative feminist or other gender roles for men as you make it seem. Some of us are trying to make the efforts to join the LGBT and feminist communities we can, but some of these communities are still exclusive of accepting alternative gender roles for biological males, including for Transgender women (such as Trans-Exclusive Radical Feminist’s), and Non-binary males with an M/F gender identity, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/25 01:33 PM |
| 1 | What is the desired financial status women want?Nah, that’s the format for default Reddit usernames. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 04:33 AM |
| 6 | As a bi woman, dating women is way harder than dating men.Agreed. Adding onto what you’ve said, government dating apps should allow connecting your Census data and offer free filters. And also layout people on a Google Maps style screen people can opt-in, and you can select for your specific filters and account for distance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/25 02:35 AM |
| 8 | As a bi woman, dating women is way harder than dating men.It’s difficult because it’s highly subjective. Most women say they wouldn’t want to be respectfully approached in the street, at the gym or grocery store for instance, but I actually have seen some who say they would welcome it. Body language and behaviour is also difficult to parse because one woman’s friendly is another woman’s flirting and some shy women straight-up say they may be attracted to a man but feel too shy to express it besides curious glances but would welcome an approach. And any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/25 02:29 AM |
| 0 | What's YOUR experience with dating apps?I’m 26, Autistic, Disabled, Bisexual, a Non-binary gender identity, average Australian male weight and height, Child-free, and live in a small city close to one other small city and two other major cities, one being my state’s capital. All within my 100 mile range. I use the free versions of Hinge and Bumble. In my profile, I do my best to be detailed, have photos of me with my dogs and cat and doing various activities, and my overall dating strategy is confidently “nichemaxxing” to those who wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/25 11:04 AM |
| 8 | As a bi woman, dating women is way harder than dating men.There is a clear lack of Bluepillers commenting who are usually quick to disagree with and debate men who post about common men’s dating problems in today’s societies. Their silence is very telling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/25 10:46 AM |
| 10 | Q4A: "If men did more [of women's thing] they would get more of [women's results]" - why do you think they don't?In my experiences most average men make a solid effort with most of this, but we are living in declining western societies including a housing crisis in UK/Canada/Australia, increasing financial difficulties for most people, increasing mental illness youth crime rates, and over-filled medical systems. Paternity leave is inadequate in many countries for men to have enough mentally/physically healthy vacation time, but it’s still important for a man to do his best to recover and also care for his … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 01:03 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Dating apps work perfectly fine and the way they should; there is no actual way to improve them.Personally I believe in advocating for government-funded free dating websites with free filters based on connecting your Census details, and be able to view a gallery layout on a Google-style map so you can select people who choose compatible options to account for distance and attraction. The current monopoly by dating websites is a lottery-like algorithm that doesn’t have to legally reveal it’s algorithm and so they often show you less compatible matches based on your Yes and No swipes and sho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 08:57 AM |
| 1 | The Male Loneliness EpidemicMany women and men intentionally uphold late stage capitalism and how this economy effects our culture, for example our hyper-individualist culture where people spend time and money on themselves over in the community. Many virtue-signalling left-wing advocates gaslight about benefitting from our intentionally hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society, economy and car/city-centric design that is intentionally exclusive to social equity and equal access of opportunity in society, including… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 09:09 PM |
| – | How often do you date outside of your race ?In recent times in many western countries, there are increasing rates of economic gentrification which is intentionally done by governments to split neighbourhoods by income, which pre-dominantly effect minority groups for them to be kept apart from wealthier neighbourhoods which mostly consist of the majority race. Aka a more subtle form of segregation. This is true in US and my Australia and housing applicants have to put there race on application forms and this and racial names encourage disc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 11:18 AM |
| 2 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.For the average man, yes. But with regards to the topic at hand, just look at the comment by u/MysterySolverDog up thread for evidence of how Neuro-divergent men objectively struggle the most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 04:31 AM |
| 5 | Q4M: Why are you not hypergamous?It’s based on my lived experiences, nothing more, nothing less. But like I said I do still try with an open mind if they appear to be of a higher socio-economic status, which is the majority of people as I’m of a low income . Another thing I’ll mention is that as a disabled person I’d gladly be a dedicated house-partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 12:37 AM |
| 20 | Q4M: Why are you not hypergamous?I don’t care about socio-economic status, and I’m not one of those men who claim not to but actually do - I’d be willing to date a safe prostitute (legal in AUS) or homeless person so long as they are shelter secure. Now, I’d also be perfectly willing to date someone who fits some or all of the above in your post, but they are far more likely to want to date someone on their own level or date-up. I don’t actively seek them out but I do shoot my shot with them if I’m attracted to them, but 99% of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 05:24 PM |
| 5 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.Glad you mentioned Wrongplanet, what you say is true. And that female user who hated Autistic men was still around trolling from 2012-2016 because they kept making new accounts when they kept getting banned. And we also now have studies that NT people make “thin-slice judgements” of IQ-equivalent Autistic people, so being one’s self does more likely mean you’re going to be judged negatively. It’s also true that there are far less Autistic women and it effects them differently. As for social acce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 04:51 PM |
| 12 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.They are most often “Type A’s” who are highly education and career-driven, and thus want to date a man equal or higher-earning and usually don’t date down to Autistic men who are more often under/unemployed/disabled. Personally I actively seek out men and women who are extremely atypical and diverse regarding gender roles but it’s very rare to find leadership types who aren’t Type A’s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 01:39 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Would you say you are a natural provider?Yes, but I desire an egalitarian relationship and would want us to both be capable of providing for and supporting ourselves and each other. And not a person who asks for money except in an emergency situation. But irregardless of feeling a natural-born provider, I am socially seen as less capable of doing so due to being disabled, when I would provide in other manners as a house-partner, frugal saver, and emergency housing with my inherited family home, but not as a traditional working breadwin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 10:08 AM |
| – | Don’t women not really care about how a man dresses & isn’t wearing nice clothes just something guys y’all aren’t as physically attracted to can attempt to use to add points?Clothing, cosmetics and hygiene do not make someone attracted to you who doesn’t feel the same, but it improves your personality (fashion, self-expression, well-fitted clothing symbolising income/craftsmanship) and physical attraction (well-fitted clothes emphasising certain body areas) to those who are. Both men and women are willing to compliment well-dressed people in non-flirtatious manners, and generally express subtle flirting with their selection of words to those they are attracted to (“… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 10:50 AM |
| 1 | If people actually followed the “just be yourself” advice, many of our dating issues would go awayBeing your best self is key, but even if everyone does it’s not going to change culture due to the influence of social media and economic factors in dating. And yourself may be unpopular in your pre-dominant culture and confidence will make you more appealing to your own league and niche, but not much more than that - coming from someone mixed race, Queer and Autistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Actual good men dont envy scumbags and felons. Nor do they want the women these men attract.Not to mention the fact criminals who reproduce are either producing more bad people with the immoral values they raise them with or through abusive/broken families. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 02:44 PM |
| 0 | What type of feminist are you? Marxist/Socialist Feminist, Liberal Feminist, Radical Feminist, or something else?As a male feminist and men’s rights advocate and intersectional rights advocate, I’m a mix of Lib and Socialist Feminist and opposed to some sects of 4th wave Radfeminism, especially TERFs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Where did the whole “women love bad boys” thing even come from? How true do you think it is?Personally my theories are: Teenagers and young adults are sometimes socially rebellious, and so attractive bad boys and “bad girls” are highly appealing to rebellious types at these life stages. Confidence is attractive for those within your league/niche and assholes are often confident. These factors usually decreases as young adults mature and their brains fully develop. A possible survival instinct that is a part of our DNA is seeing a romantic partner defend your life in violence. Bad boys/… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 04:17 AM |
| 1 | What do you assume to be the normal rate of matches the average guy on a dating app receives?One-three matches a month depending on their culturally pre-dominant charisma/personality and socio-economic status within our western cultures and potentially compatible with 1%, one who continues to reply and agree to date among the statistical minority of average women within his league and niche who swipe Yes on him. I use Hinge and Bumble and as someone average faced, average Australian male weight and height, mixed race, Queer, Autistic and disabled, this is also the case for me as someone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy/women's nature falsely seen as the problem with online datingMany men and women who type detailed first messages eagerly asking about shared hobbies as an icebreaker receive short, rude, disinterested replies. It’s definitely a shame how difficult it is for compatible conversationalists to match with one another. However a pickup-line/joke within a detailed first message with questions and/or sharing a short story is also some men and women’s attempt to flirt and demonstrate their sense of humour for compatibility. Definitely subjective to message those s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:48 PM |
| 3 | Hypergamy/women's nature falsely seen as the problem with online datingYes, research indicates attraction is decided within seconds and non-negotiable, based on genetic compatibility and health/fertility markers, this is true for online dating and women swipe Yes on a statistical minority, because most people aren’t compatible and women’s filtering is supposed to account for that to narrow down matches for the two genders, but is also heavily culturally influenced particularly from hypergamy inflation in our western cultures. It is more restrictive standards women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Hypergamy/women's nature falsely seen as the problem with online datingIt is a cultural factor, caused by the design of online dating and social media addiction, that is one of many factors, influencing the unhealthy dating app cultures. And the apps are also a monopoly designed to monetise rather than help it’s users, but paid features are sometimes effective depending on luck and the lottery-like designed algorithms even when you are shown to more people. The gender ratio is imbalanced, and both hetero- and LGBT filters and dynamics are also factors highly-imbala… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Men typically have an external locus of control mindset when it comes to dating and generally underestimate the effectiveness of working on themselvesIt’s possible to commit no mistakes and still lose due to luck. There are socially skilled people who don’t reproduce, there are physically and mentally ill who do. Attraction is based on genetic compatibility, determined at birth through kissing to exchange saliva and body odour, shared traits (race/etc.) and health/fertility markers, which are half in your control through fitness and hygiene but half out of your control from your family genes. Statistics support that Interracial dating is rare… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 09:28 PM |
| 2 | You need to practice being friends with people of different genders, including your own.Not to mention that what you are saying also worsens other forms of social connection for these people such as religiously/culturally/LGBT/racially/etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 08:08 AM |
| 2 | You need to practice being friends with people of different genders, including your own.Friendly and romantic socialising are different skills requiring different practice for learning both, and one’s ability to learn romantic skills from observing their friends flirting first, may still get the wrong idea due to social, cultural and economic differences. It is best to both learn from observing friends and other people in your community, and to also practice these romantic skills yourself to learn your own preferences, ideals and values for your potential future partner to meet and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 06:56 AM |
| 4 | You need to practice being friends with people of different genders, including your own.This, and many of us know highly social men with diverse social circles who still struggle due to unconventional looks, because confidence can only get one so far, to be extra appealing in one’s own league and niches mostly, but much less so compared to conventionally good looks in the pre-dominant culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 06:38 AM |
| – | Q4M: A well-traveled adventurous woman? Or sheltered homebody?I’m a homebody, but I do enjoy trying new activities and exploring new places. I already have the issue of my friends never wanting to try any new experiences. I couldn’t date someone like that. So I would prefer Woman B as long as she is still willing to try some new outdoor hobbies/activities even if she prefers staying home. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/25 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Feel like corporate influence isn't talked enough hereDefinitely, for instance younger Gen Z are growing up entirely on social media from childbirth, and also get sucked into addition to social media gender war algorithms, including content pushed by influencers to sell dating marketed hygiene/fitness/fashion products, and dating app addiction. I strongly believe a large portion of Gen Z may have developed false ideas of what the average person looks like due to this and the time they spend going to school/work/in public and seeing actual average p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 08:23 PM |
| 1 | You Can Never Trust a Woman Who Doesn't Have Intense Lust for You Nearly ImmediatelyNo, there is plenty of both anecdotal and statistical evidence this isn’t the case, for instance people appear to usually prefer their own race as interracial dating is rare. Now, I do think it’s possible that, within the range of women that a man is attracted to, the average male may be attracted to 90% of women of a similar age range and younger adult women, possibly due to higher sex drive. But still most of the time only compatible attraction and emotionally compatible with 1% of women or le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/25 07:44 AM |
| 2 | You Can Never Trust a Woman Who Doesn't Have Intense Lust for You Nearly ImmediatelyThey’re a minority, but I’d be willing to date a Demi- or Asexual woman but I’d still want to be her “type” with regards to Aesthetic attraction. I personally don’t want to risk dating someone who has zero aesthetic and sexual attraction to me from the start to see if their attraction builds or not. So if they are Demi- then I’d want them to be Aesthetic attracted from the get-go, with the expectation that sexual attraction would grow as well, and aesthetic attraction-only from start if they wer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/25 11:22 PM |
| 1 | You Can Never Trust a Woman Who Doesn't Have Intense Lust for You Nearly ImmediatelyIt’s about compatibility, irregardless of how common or different visceral attraction vs. built-up attraction is between the sexes. As someone Queer and Autistic, my standard is mutual attraction after first introduction because I want to filter-out women who would be turned-off by my Autistic and feminine gestures immediately and while other’s are fine with a partner who’s attraction may grow overtime, I’m not taking that risk by settling for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/25 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Social Media Teaches Women They are Better Than MenSocial media most likely effects the sexes equally, based on higher Neuroticism in women (that culturally healthy coping mechanisms haven’t been developed yet like magazines/TV/ radio/etc. did in the past) and men due to their variations of mental illness rates. But Gen Z and younger in particular are more vulnerable to developing social media and dating app addiction due to growing up on internet, especially to social media algorithms. This may be having consequences for recent social and polit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/25 07:04 PM |
| – | You can't complain about women not being nice to men and then justify men being creepy to women that are nice to them.Adding onto what akosgi said, there was also the Duluth model, and the Grievance studies, where fraudsters submitted multiple false studies, including one of Mien Kampf written in a feminist-framing, and the studies were successfully peer-reviewed. Not to mention TERFs seeing Transwomen as males and the sexism they display against both Transwomen and Trans-men. Modern Feminism isn’t doing a good enough job to deal with these effecting their goal for equality rather than hate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/25 02:41 PM |
| 12 | Are men actually putting in effort when it comes to dating, or do they just think it should be easy?It’s increasingly difficult for Gen Z to put the same amount of effort as previous generations, due to increasing work hours, cost-of-living, car/city-centric design, declining third spaces, and declining birth rates causing there to be less young people of dating age. This also has made it more difficult for Gen Z to develop large and diverse social circles which also consist of friends who are also highly social and know a diverse range of people. I do my best to go out for sports, to social e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/25 07:01 PM |
| – | Today's gender war is a natural consequence of the philosophy of "anything goes", and maybe that's ok.Recent research suggests the increasing widespread adoption of social media has had negative mental health and emotional development for Gen Z and younger growing up addicted to it, and gender war algorithms have caused a statistical minority, but still concerning number of hundreds to thousands of citizens, to be effected in western societies. These issues can and need to be treated through therapy and legislative/cultural changes, especially to help prevent it happening to the more vulnerable … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/25 01:44 PM |
| – | Today's gender war is a natural consequence of the philosophy of "anything goes", and maybe that's ok.It is partly this, and I agree with your advice, but also want to add some advice of my own in the last two paragraphs for a summary of my views, due to the fact I believe it is also partly that most of Generation Z have grown up addicted to social media from a young age, and this along with gender war algorithms, and dating app addiction, and late-stage capitalism encouraging a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist economic culture that encourages people to commodify themselves and spend tim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/25 01:39 PM |
| 4 | Vast Majority of Women are Landing Men Who Were In Romantic Exile, and They Know ItAs other comments have mentioned, Gen Z socialise significantly less. There are Gen Z “parties” and “sleepovers” where they literally stare at their phones and text their friends within the same room. Another factor to consider in my Australia and many UK/Canada/US universities is the high number of immigrant students who stick to their own language and ethnic groups, so your average Gen Z native student is actually the minority within their classroom and have classmates who are passed (because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/25 09:46 PM |
| 10 | Maybe fewer relationships are the way of the future, and we're just in a transition period...I’d agree if not for: Statistics report Gen Z have fewer friendships in general. Statistics report a loneliness epidemic. Now, I do think most of the loneliness epidemic would be from lack of healthy family/community/friendly relationships, but romantic relationships are a part of that - familial being having children, community being the case of friendships with other couples and families, and platonic being your partner being your best friend. I think we’re in a transitory period that has gone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/25 09:21 PM |
| 6 | Most men don’t really have an effective way to quell loneliness outside of a romantic relationship.This is what I don’t understand either when it comes to people who argue against it. Everyone has different levels of social need (for instance Autistic people tend to have lower social need), and for the people who feel content with having only one friend, then naturally their romantic partner also being their best friend would fulfil that need for them? It’s obvious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/25 02:01 PM |
| – | In heterosexuality, feeling lesser is an important theme. For both genders.We are in a rapidly changing society, especially economically and culturally, due to hyper-capitalism, hyper-individualism and social media addiction in the recent generations. The concept of “leagues” is culturally dependent, and all innocent human beings are equals in the end of basic human assistance and respect in a civilised society. Our car/city centric designs, hypergamy inflation and cultural hyper-individualism and hyper-capitalism have also heavily effected dating, and it is hypocritic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/25 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Why do men avoid any firm statements on dating apps?how character-less and bland most men’s profiles are. This is equally as true for a large percentage of women’s profiles. It’s also possible that because women have a much larger amount of attention, they can more often rely on their looks and minimal profiles and still find dating success irregardless. They’ll fill out a few “easy” prompts (f.e. height) and copy-paste some cringy one-liner in the bio and leave it at that. Either completely skip the “hard” questions (politics, religion, wanting … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/25 09:57 AM |
| – | Women don't make real dating goals they make fantasies.most women judge the entire potential of a relationship on the first kiss. That depends on if you mean technique or emotions in response to the kiss. If it’s emotions you mean? Then it’s for good reason. From a biological perspective, attraction is based on a combination of health/fertility markers, shared traits (race/etc.), emotional compatibility, and genetic and immune system compatibility for healthy offspring, which is determined through natural body odour and kissing to exchange saliva. A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/25 07:44 AM |
| – | Often the same women complain about men giving advice when they want empathy are the same women who can’t tolerate hearing men complain about life without him telling her how he’s going to fix his problemsThis, a good First Mate (spouse) knows the Captain isn’t perfect and requires their assistance with handling the safety and security of the crew (children) and cargo (household). A woman who vents without seeking solutions and doesn’t allow the same from her man, is like a first mate needing the Captain to take time away from steering the ship to console her, because she is proving unable to handle her role as first mate, while expecting him to still remain steering at all times and also doesn’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/25 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Why don't men just hang out with each other more to solve the "male loneliness epidemic"?Also in some cases it’s that we do want deep and emotionally intimate friendships but these feelings are one-sided with our current friends and we are unable to meet new friends who feel the same, although I may be an exception compared to the average male due to being Queer and Autistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 12:39 PM |
| 3 | Why don't men just hang out with each other more to solve the "male loneliness epidemic"?And also too expensive, and people have longer work-hours. Late stage capitalism be a biatch like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Why don't men just hang out with each other more to solve the "male loneliness epidemic"?In my experiences, it is more difficult to develop social connections through a screen. Even people who say they are looking for friends or more and open to DMing with a diverse range of people, 90% of the time do not reply when you slide into their DMs. I’ve also seen it been semi-commonly said that many people would have swiped-No on their S.O. if they saw them on a dating app. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/25 12:33 PM |
| 2 | Why don't men just hang out with each other more to solve the "male loneliness epidemic"?Some of us just don’t have the option despite trying. My three close male friends are all extremely introverted and not open to trying new experiences or exploring new places. It gets old playing the same video games all the time. I also live far from most of my family and most of the ones who live nearby want nothing to do with our side of the family. So I’m doing my best to seek new friendships and a romantic connection not to fill a void, but to add to my life, but even just a romantic relati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/25 11:35 PM |
| 1 | The Reason Getting Dates is So Much Harder For Men Is Women Won’t Look Past Any FlawsYes, exactly. They are not worth dating and filtering themselves out as quality partners for quality people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | The Reason Getting Dates is So Much Harder For Men Is Women Won’t Look Past Any FlawsMost people are incompatible, and romantic love is based both on genetic compatibility (based on health/fertility markers and shared immune traits through body odour and saliva exchange through kissing for healthy offspring) and emotional compatibility. As we know, women have to instinctively select for a man who would be a suitable provider and protector for off-spring. It can be argued that most of the filtering women do is to narrow down genetic and emotional incompatibilities and only some a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/25 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Friendzone complaints mainly come from guys who dont value friendships.The vast majority of women cannot relate to this whatsoever. As we have seen, even the women who had a crush on a friend must’ve had a moderate crush they were able to easily move on from. It’s incredibly rare for a woman to have a strong crush on a male friend at all, who they also in some cases have to see enter a relationship with someone similar to you and who enters the social circle and becomes popular and beloved by everyone (speaking from experience); and in my experiences, it is extreme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/25 06:42 AM |
| 14 | Friendzone complaints mainly come from guys who dont value friendships.Research suggests Men are significantly more likely to be attracted to their female friends than vice-versa (I.e. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/ ) So it’s genuinely the case that many, possibly even most women, simply can’t relate to this experience and it’s only a minority of women who have a “friend-zone” experience and can better understand where men who talk about their own experiences are coming from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/25 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Seriously, where do people meet?Hinge is the best feature and healthy community-wise but all of them including Hinge are designed to result in improved results from paying the heavy monetisation prices but in some cases ineffective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Seriously, where do people meet?One factor for some adults trying to socialise is legitimate social discriminations from an unhealthy social group of people and hence why some people are private about their socio-economic status, but of course it’s still best to make the initiative to share your personal experiences to filter out those who are incompatible including such bullies, to also continue boldly expressing yourself to find those you are compatible with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 06:02 PM |
| 0 | Seriously, where do people meet?This. Be the change you want to see in the world in our increasingly socially isolated societies and accept the social criticism of choosing non-traditional but healthy social ideals even if they are different to the pre-dominant culture. It already proves your confidence and emotional resilience in the face of others when you commit to this strategy and will help you find the right person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Seriously, where do people meet?It seems so from what I’ve read of statistics and students anecdotal experiences. Personally I think it’s a larger part of education, career and housing all being hyper-individualist in our western cultures because that’s what’s encouraged to succeed in those areas, and we can see how it’s made dating more “capitalist exclusive” and less accessible statistically for men, lower income and disabled people in increasing numbers to have the means to afford to date in cities and within this “hyper-ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Seriously, where do people meet?As a left-leaning Centrist, I’ve been baffled and disgusted by pretty 90% of the left, centrist and moderate right parties decisions in EU, US and my Australia for several years now, as they’ve spinelessly failed against the far right parties methods and their influence spreading to our citizen populations. It’s looking like Australia’s moderate right Labour Party will lose to the hard-right Liberal party and Peter Dutton would co-operate as a PM under Donald Trump, and one of Dutton’s allies st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 05:14 PM |
| 6 | Seriously, where do people meet?Western Governments have begun panicking at the cratering birth rates and are rushing to replace it with immigration, but it seems very plausible they have now intentionally converted to it as their primary strategy, for an immigrant voting population more align with their hyper-capitalist economic interests for election outcomes. I believe this is exactly what Australia’s two major parties are doing and also several EU nations and now the US with the H1B Visa issue. And discredited through Disi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Seriously, where do people meet?Less couples meeting in college and our western cultures discouraging it is insane. For instance Australian Universities also have more immigrants in closed social cliques, and students more cold/awkward and focused only on minding their business and studying. And College towns statistically helped foster large, diverse and healthy social communities for the young adults in that area in the 2000s. Now Colleges also reducing the size and scope of College towns and Campuses are making the individu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 04:31 PM |
| 0 | Seriously, where do people meet?Statistically speaking, more couples now meet online (not exclusively dating apps) than in-person. The most common places for people to meet in-person are still studying/work and friends-of-friends. Late stage capitalism including inflation, longer work hours, car and city-centric design, global warming, pollution, obesity, declining third spaces, etc. have made it more difficult for people to meet each other. Dating website are a monopoly owned by Match.com designed to monetise rather than help… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 04:22 PM |
| 7 | Seriously, where do people meet?Not intentionally, but hyper-capitalism unintentionally did so through inflation, longer work hours, car/centric city design including suburbia and ethnic group based gentrification, declining businesses and third spaces after Covid, megacorps buying-out smaller independent businesses, some places reducing seating to encourage customers to leave quicker to meet daily customer quotas, global warming making it harder to walk through cities, pollution, stricter loitering laws, social media, online … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 03:53 PM |
| 1 | A man has been dating a woman for years before telling her he's into crossdressing. What are your thoughts?Cross-dressers need to be open about it as soon as possible to filter out partners who would be turned-off and to find a partner who does accept it. It’s the omission of information that’s the biggest deal, because our clothing selection reflects our personality and also beliefs and values, cross-dressing is also a part of that. It’s also best for cross-dressers to focus on meeting Queer women or straight allies. As for myself, I openly cross-dress in outfits that could still pass as alternative… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Straight men and women generally cannot be friends.Partly disagree - some men and women, irregardless of orientation, can be friends, but many other’s cannot. In my experiences 90% of heterosexual friendships have at least physical attraction if not also a romantic attraction, even if both will outwardly deny it. As for myself personally, I’ve developed feelings for every female friend I’ve ever had even if they weren’t my type, as long as I’m single, even when I try to focus on meeting and dating other women. Even if the romantic feelings fade,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Do compare against the actual past or the imagined past?That’s fair, but an incompatibility in intimacy is an incompatibility, irregardless of the cause. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:31 AM |
| 3 | How can we try to solve the Male Loneliness Epidemic? Let's come up with some ideas together and discuss them.We can advocate for activism for written legislation for government and economic changes to support a more social culture again such as government funded third spaces of a variety of categories, dating websites with Census filters, overhaul car and city-centric design, increase wages, and a Universal Basic Income. It is also important that these spaces encourage healthy open gender roles for both men and women and campaigns that only a small percent of people are going to commit a crime but to s… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/01/25 04:28 AM |
| 2 | Dating is 50% biology 50%social conditioning, and they mix together:Most of this hypothesis is pseudoscientific and lacking sources of evidence. I do think the statistics are pointing to increased rates of poverty, obesity, pollution, and mental illness, and declining third spaces and car and city-centric design, are all negatively effecting dating for the recent generations, and it’s especially worse for Gen Z due to increasing dating app and social media addiction. And dating websites are a monopoly owned by Match.com designed to monetise rather than help it’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/25 05:11 AM |
| 2 | Dating is 50% biology 50%social conditioning, and they mix together:Yep, Canada/UK/Australia are experiencing housing crisis and those countries and US are experiencing stagnant wages, increasing pollution, poverty and mental illness rates. Some middle and upper class citizens, due to their privilege have no idea what life is like for the average citizen and are more difficult to relate to for dating because of that. It’s partly why Gen Z feel bleaker about their educational and career prospects and why that is adding to their dating struggles because of that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/25 05:03 AM |
| 1 | What kind of porn would make you uncomfartable knowing your partner is watching them?Extreme hentai would make me cautious because while for many it is only fantasy, for many other’s it is something they want to do in real-life. I’m a kinky person myself but extreme BDSM, exhibitionist, Consensual Non-Consent, strangulation, blood/scat/urine play I would be highly cautious to what extent they enjoy it and if they would be incompatibilities because of that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/25 04:56 AM |
| 4 | Q4M: Are you okay with your gf/wife watching porn?Don’t let anyone downplay the fact that stereotypes and racism are major factors for dating in declining western cultures such as US and Australia, where many ethnic groups mostly keep to themselves and racial segregation through economic gentrification is worsening it for recent generations. As someone mixed race and often too culturally black for white people and too culturally white for black people, it’s a factor for the minority groups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/25 11:05 PM |
| 2 | The Struggles of Dating as an Average Man: Redefining Goals in the Modern LandscapeThat all checks out with my experiences as another Aussie. A few years ago the fade haircut was also popular, black sunglasses, streetwear, lace-less canvas shoes or the only other option to look fashionable as a young man being the “beach-bro” look (hip-hop style baseball cap, singlets/sleeveless shirts, cargo/board shorts, flip-flop shoes, crocks in recent times, etc.). So it’s annoying and limited. You do get the alternative/progressive types (that probably are most of reddits aussie user bas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/25 12:20 PM |
| 5 | Why do y'all think there are only 2 sex'sExactly, even true hermaphrodite Intersex people are able to produce sperm or egg but never both, so it’s clear they aren’t a “third sex” that is “both sexes combined” as argued by the OP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/25 11:18 AM |
| 2 | Why do y'all think there are only 2 sex'sThere are two sexes, and Intersex is a male or female with some traits of the opposite sex due to chromosomal variations. Even the rare cases of true hermaphrodites with both functional genitalia are not able to self-reproduce, thus they aren’t a “third sex” that is a hybrid of the two sexes. As for gender identity, personally I don’t know if any more than Man (including Transgender), Woman (including Trans), Non-binary being a mix, and Agender being a lack of gender, as the only identity possib… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/25 11:12 AM |
| 1 | The APA's guidelines on men and boys that were published in 2019 encourages therapists to violate the modern interpretation of the Oath of Hippocrates and suggests that American men are largely justified in distrusting therapy/mental healthcare as they don't have their best interest at heartI definitely see it used more often by people to discredit an opinion they don’t like when they have no good counter-argument and in bad faith, especially towards well-written and evidence-backed posts such as this one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/25 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Do men prefer no makeup/surgery, and should women tell when they've had surgery?I can’t always tell when a woman has had surgery done, and natural looking is ideal enough, and my feelings are not effected by it actually being unnaturally attained through a surgery, if it helped her enhance her body image, confidence, and gender euphoria for herself. It’s difficult without a close-look to determine if a woman is wearing “natural makeup” and it does still look nice and appealing to me, and I enjoy some colourful makeup styles, but “cake face” is unappealing and I do prefer wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/24 03:27 PM |
| 1 | TRP is basically mainstream and most men are waking up to reality, despite women claiming it is still some fringe minority of embittered rejectsYep, I’ve also heard “sigma male” quite a bit. It’s become a part of regular Gen Z TikTok brain rot slang, but did have it’s origin in manosphere spaces that mention Red Pill, Alpha/Beta and Sigma males. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/24 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Males like women who stress them out?To emphasise my point that people want a partner who adds to their life rather than disrupts their peace and effects their mental health. Grifters benefit from sabotaging their clients’ relationships for profit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/24 10:13 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Desire is not binaryNo, but some of us prefer to filter out those who are not on a higher-end of mutually viscerally attracted after first introduction as a standard and trying to build attraction from a low-base foundation is not worth one’s time pursuing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/24 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Males like women who stress them out?I’m disabled, Autistic, Queer, mixed-race and low income. I’ve experienced enough traumatic events for one life and thrive in peace with my family. Many young men and women in western countries have experienced worse than me, including from their relationships, especially with increasing poverty and mental illness rates. It’s ridiculous that you’re even questioning this when this is clearly another dating coach grifter like most other’s and not worthwhile content for PPD-level discussions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/24 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Women's Sexual Fantasies More Self Focused Compared to Men'sPart of it is cultural, as women being an object of desire from the male gaze Point Of View being more common and appealed to by media and society and the female gaze not as prevalent. This cultural conditioning can even cause confusion for LGBT women which is called a “Compulsive Heterosexuality” experience. Media being more gender and attraction diverse for both men and women would be a potential solution. There are also men who enjoy being the object of desire and many men and women feel thes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/24 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Men who say they don't careI’m disabled, but even if I wasn’t, I’ve always been the type of person who would preferably work as little hours as possible for as much leisure time as possible and also agree with the concept of a Universal Basic Income as automation replaces skilled labour. I’m also highly critical of our hyper-capitalist society and the rat-race treadmill that strongly pressures people to attain the most expensive degrees at the most expensive colleges for the highest-earning careers and to trade the most e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/24 06:57 PM |
| 1 | It’s unhealthy for someone to never having someone else be romantically interested in them.Most people aren’t compatible, including those with Autism. So we still have to seek out an often high number of people within our league before we can find success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/24 12:00 AM |
| 12 | It’s unhealthy for someone to never having someone else be romantically interested in them.This. As someone mixed race, Queer and Autistic, some of us get the short end of the stick genetically and statistically, but we can still have healthy social lives and romantic relationships still have an element of luck for everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/24 11:56 PM |
| 23 | It’s unhealthy for someone to never having someone else be romantically interested in them.But it’s also just a matter of luck. You can do everything right, irregardless of your circumstances, and still lose. There are neurodivergent and physically disabled who reproduce, there are successful neurotypical men and women who do not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/24 11:53 PM |
| 5 | A Woman’s Age Is an Important Metric for Stable Men To Consider For A LTRI’m child-free, so youth and fertility are far less important for me than always preferring older women for the extra emotional maturity and patience, and it’s easier for them to both understand and communicate their own values so we can quickly determine compatibility. As for your example successful man, if he continues to look unconventional at his age, then it’s still best for him to balance dating a woman both youthful but also mature enough to communicate her values effectively to help you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/24 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Unconditional love doesn't existsYes, it’s biologically impossible, since even Parent-Child attachment is based on amount of physical touch. Romantic love is a bio-chemical reaction caused by mutual attraction, which is based on visual health/fertility markers, shared traits (race/etc.), genetic and immune system compatibility based-on natural body odor and kissing to exchange saliva, and emotional compatibility for humans to pair bond and reproduce. And LGBT people a natural exception with a possible partly genetic basis, sinc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/24 04:22 PM |
| 7 | Would you date someone from the purple pill debate reddit ?If we were compatible, sure. Aside from the regular names there are plenty of No Pill users who pass through and share their thoughts and aren’t negatively impacted by this community like some may be. And the average PPD user may be more self-aware of their standards and dating behaviours that it would be easier and quicker to communicate our relationship desires and standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/24 01:16 PM |
| – | Is a lot of this stuff an American cultural problem?100%, this is also true how American culture has effected Australian and UK dating culture due to imported American social media trends effecting people’s expectations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 03:46 PM |
| 18 | Q4A: How is the Gen Z social and dating experience?It’s bleak. I do my best to socialise normally with other young adults at social events and in tourist cities, but they are generally cold, impersonal and awkward from under-socialisation from Covid and declining third spaces and increasing social media usage. Older adults are most likely to speak to me first and have normal interactions with. Dating apps are owned by a monopoly by Match.com designed to monetise rather than help it’s users. Finding other people who are open to messaging with oth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/24 09:32 PM |
| -2 | Let's talk about age gap relationships, specifically when the woman is the younger party.Yep, find someone compatible in life experiences and attained shared wisdom and values from them, that’s all you need to figure out. Statistically more and more Gen Z men and women are growing up in increasing rates of poverty and crime and have to emotionally mature faster to adapt to their experiences. This makes the age gap less of an issue from shared experiences maturing them on an even level. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/24 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Let's talk about age gap relationships, specifically when the woman is the younger party.Depends on the age gap and stage of life I suppose. I got comments from my first girlfriend’s family when I was turning 17 and she was 19. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/24 04:57 AM |
| 2 | People are so weird when it comes to the porn industry and it just makes them sound weak or insecure about sex and their own sexualityEverything in moderation, including moderation. With that said, many parts of the porn industry are exploitative, a recent example being a report that a 15 year old young girl was involved in many porn videos by a specific company, causing Pornhub having to take down a the videos which were a large amount. That’s why I’m supportive of legal and regulated porn, prostitution, and believe porn with fictional characters and AI generated porn of fictional people who look real are ideal use cases. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/24 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Why are so many men in their 30s and 40s single, childless, and dissatisfied with their dating prospects?I’m 26 but my ethnic group live a shorter lifespan on average along with being low income and Autistic. It’s several factors depending on the country and regional area, but what I would personally argue are the biggest factors according to the research I have read, it is a combination of city and car-centric design, and also increasing cost-of-living, poverty, mental illness, pollution, social media addiction, obesity, declining third spaces, and Covid making all of the above worse, and governme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/24 11:32 AM |
| 6 | Women see men as a kind of machine.Some hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist cultures are encouraging and worsening existing unhealthy narcissistic behaviours especially in the recent younger generations, especially from dating app and social media algorithm addictions. This is causing some young men and women in western cultures to have unrealistic standards that also may cause them to have unrealistic standards than what is average physical and health fitness and educational/career attainments for people of dating age who a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/24 09:27 AM |
| 2 | Liberal/Progressive women do not actually want feminine men.Most people desire a partner who fulfils their gender roles. Some people value some healthy femininity traits from men and some healthy masculine traits from women for them to better understand how their partner feels in comparison and contrast to resolve situations together and bond and connect. These are biologically, socially and culturally influenced with some trends being cross-cultural. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/24 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4A: What are you looking for in a partner?A long-term relationship with someone whom we are attracted to each other after first introduction and compatible with each other’s values for living well. I’d want them to be accepting of/compatible with my brain’s particular Autism traits, my spiritual beliefs, child-free, politically at least a left-leaning centrist like myself, open to drug and alcohol use, not engage in traditional gender roles and would be fine with me being a full House-partner and in intimacy, a switch and Dom/Sub and ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/24 06:28 AM |
| 8 | Telling women that they’re not entitled to protection or human decency shows a sense of entitlement.In an equal society, individuals are entitled to services by law enforcement when they are a victim of assault. If an assault occurs publicly, anyone with the means to help should ideally call the police, and alert others to ask for assistance to restrain the assailant. Most people are not trained combatants and if they are alone should not risk their own safety or else they can also end up injured by the assailant. If no one else is helping, a stranger also can’t risk being the only one to atte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/24 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Progressivism has failed men by treating them as scapegoats rather than partners in the pursuit of equalityBeing for equality doesn't mean that you are gonna fight for dudes who are really down on their luck. This has not only things to do with equality but also just not the things they want to combat. Which is fine. It's not really their responsibility to begin with. Many of men and women’s dating struggles are directly caused by or adjacent to other rights issues. There are less men in university now than when Feminists saw the lack of women in college an issue. There are more men in poverty and hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/24 04:49 AM |
| 4 | Which is more attractive ?Personal bias: In my Australia and in the USA, statistically speaking, higher socio-economic status families tend to be either religious conservatives or leftist/progressive in values. Lower social classes tend to be more religious conservative and have higher poverty, obesity, crime and gang rates. You’re going to be more likely to meet people with progressive values in the large, high population density major cities in Australia and US, and they are more likely to be of higher income and healt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/24 06:26 AM |
| – | We can at least agree that that too many women are addicted to taking pictures at the expense of ruining a momentAgreed, sliding into DMs on social media and having a profile with highly appealing photos of travelling, social hobbies and with friends are a highly effective method to meet new people for average men and especially average women, especially amongst Gen Z and Alpha who have grown up influenced by social media and is replacing real-life interactions for many people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/24 06:14 AM |
| – | We can at least agree that that too many women are addicted to taking pictures at the expense of ruining a momentIt has definitely played into effecting some people with addictive personality types where film cameras and even digital cameras with limited storage back in the day did not. Now some influencers obsessively take hundreds of photos and poses for a single day trip and is especially effecting Gen Z and Alpha growing up on social media. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/24 06:12 AM |
| – | We can at least agree that that too many women are addicted to taking pictures at the expense of ruining a momentBoth genders may be equally susceptible to social media addiction due to different reasons, in men’s case, higher rates of mental illness and in women’s case higher rates of Neuroticism (that recent generations haven’t developed as many coping mechanisms for as past issues that effect women’s higher neuroticism) and in-group bias. Social media and algorithms are psychologically designed to exploit these aspects of our instincts for monetisation and keeping people hooked and this is worst for the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/24 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Many Men Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting.Interesting is subjective, and often depends more on how you present it and make the other person feel versus how interesting it actually is. But even then it’s subjective in the end. The dedicated gamer who knows every trick and tip and can go into detail about it and even present it in a fun and confident way may still be less interesting to the crowd than the guy who has casual interest in a few party tricks. The Halo effect also often carries a person’s “interestingness” to help somewhat com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 09:31 AM |
| 1 | A large reason for men's dating struggles is simply the lopsided gender ratio within the dating pool.Most of it is just that it’s more commonly accepted and some people who wouldn’t have realised in the past now are able to better understand their feelings and pinpoint the specific label/s to describe themselves. But there’s also certainly a vocal minority of Trans-trenders who do it to find an in-group, or as Gravel_Roads says, as a quick and easy label for gender non-conformity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 03:51 AM |
| 1 | The only real form of love is unconditional love.Seemingly the same thing but as a natural exception and with a possible partly genetic basis (since the more brothers the higher likelihood the youngest is gay and twin studies also show both to be) and only to pair bond. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/24 02:28 PM |
| 1 | The only real form of love is unconditional love.Unconditional love is biologically impossible, since even attachment bonding between Parent and Child is based on amount of physical touch. Romantic love is a bio-chemical organic form of love that develops when people match in attraction, DNA and immune system through body odour and kissing to exchange saliva, and emotional compatibility, for humans to pair bond and reproduce. All relationships by nature have some level of transactional elements, some more than others for personal/cultural/econ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/24 12:25 PM |
| – | Young men are turning to right wing and manosphere ideologies due to being shut down and treated terrible in mainstream/progressive spaces, not from being brainwashed by "Redpill gurus" or "right-wing media".I’m going to partly disagree, and also add that the statistical declining education and increasing mental illness, poverty and medical issue rates, particularly in the US, are massively contributing factors, and are effecting an increasing number of vulnerable populations who are also more susceptible to social media addiction and thus being more easily influenced by social media algorithm bubbles that grifters are exploiting to profit and this is all effecting recent social and political moveme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/24 01:48 PM |
| 1 | When single... Did/Do you care about what the opposite sex finds attractive?Of course. I be my best self and care for feeling attractive (clothing style, hygiene, actively confident mannerisms) both equally for myself and for attracting others. I only care about fitness for myself however. In my case I’m no pill and take the Sigma path by necessity to Nichemax to my niche due to being Queer and Autistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/24 09:33 AM |
| 3 | There’s a relationship drought for dating age people but half of us are in denial about it and don’t think there’s a problemAdding onto what OP has said, the birth rate has cratered in US/Australia/South Korea/Japan/etc. Not only do people have more options than ever in the modern dating landscape, but there are literally less young people of dating age today than there was pre-online dating, so we have less new young people to meet from at the get-go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/24 01:25 PM |
| – | Why is there a disproportionate amount of vitriol toward female gym goers/content creators?Many women can wear loose men’s tee-shirts and pants and many cross-dressing women find that men’s clothes are actually extra modest, looser, and comfier due to the size difference (and better quality material). I understand though that some women are too small even for small men’s sizes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/24 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you date an attractive "loser"?Yes to all of the above except I’d want her to be able to acknowledge and actively be trying to learn and grow from being lazy and pron addicted. I also don’t think most of those things make her a loser, there is a difference between an ambitious person who failed and someone with simple life goals who has achieved them like this example woman. It’s quite telling that you think of these types of men and women as “losers”. Messy room is tolerable so long as it’s clutter and not unsanitary (spille… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/24 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a broke woman?I’m disabled and live at home, and would be willing to date a woman who is broke so long as it’s not due to irresponsible spending putting her into debt, and she can be unambitious but not if she depends on me rather than us both able to pay their own way. I’d also be fine with dating a homeless woman but I’d want her to still stay at a women’s shelter and move-in after a healthy timeframe, after we earn each other’s trust, and not rush to move-in to depend on me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/24 02:38 AM |
| 1 | How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough?It’s difficult sometimes to feel like I can be in a “provider” role when I’m disabled. I would be fully dedicated to being a hardworking stay-at-home partner but it’s far less socially acceptable for men than for women. Otherwise I feel confident and comfortable in both my masculine and feminine sides and any person who doesn’t consider me masculine “enough” I’m not compatible with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/24 10:46 PM |
| 2 | How do you feel about the average person?I’d be friends with them, and date the few Queer average people whom I’d be compatible with. I’d also hope they have the interest and are able to afford reasonably trying new things and exploring new places, since I already have the issue of my closest friends being the opposite. I couldn’t date an average person like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 08:20 PM |
| 85 | Women who get the ick = porn brained menThe phenomenon needs to be researched, because as it stands it’s a highly subjective matter ranging from personal dislikes, to being off-put by socially awkward, culturally different or neuro-divergent gestures, or legitimate red flags or issues. Social media addiction and algorithms may certainly some young people to confuse personal minor dislikes with feelings of discomfort or red flags for compatibility, and may cause those people to stand in their own way in an unhealthy manner for their re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 02:28 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wivesIf your agreed marriage or relationship vows are to share and accept receiving affection, then while consent is necessary and can be revoked at any time, an individual should feel free to share their affection at any time without needing to ask, and accept no for an answer. With that said, an individual is not entitled to a long term lack of affection and (asking first for) lack of sex to not naturally effect their partners feelings of feeling mutually loved and desired, and it is reasonable for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 02:22 AM |
| 2 | How would you feel if the guy you're dating was much more romantically/sexually enthusiastic with his ex-girlfriend?“Alpha Fucks Beta Bucks/Bux” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/24 09:04 PM |
| – | Literally no man is “mad that women can choose their partners now.” This has absolutely nothing to do with TRP or men’s frustrations whatsoever and needs to stop being used as a deflection.No, not at all. The statistics are supporting the fact that 2/3 of women in the US are happy being single, birth rates have cratered in South Korea, Japan, US, and Australia. The past stereotype of women in their 30s settling as they become closer to menopause is over. This is the western society we are living in now that is partly collapsing due to a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist culture that social media encourages hyper-inflated standards for it’s people in (amongst many other reas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/24 07:02 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on why men aren’t attending singles events?Juice isn’t worth the squeeze, due to low numbers and an even lower number of compatible options even for average to high quality men and women. Especially in the online dating and hyper-capitalist/hyper-individualist age where standards have increased. These events also generally attract “the leftovers” and the top 20% always receive the most attention. For those who are Queer they’re especially not viable for those reasons even when they’re LGBT-friendly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/24 08:23 PM |
| – | The lack of FPOV content highlights a critical flaw in either narratives regarding female sexuality or shows feminist theory on repression of female sexual is correct.Thank you for the data, it appears that’s still the case then. Like women aren't just incapable of logically recognizing that a fantasy scenario would be incredibly immoral and undesirable in reality. No, but some women and men are or are lead to believe it’s the case, especially among Gen Z due to them growing up influenced by social media, including romance and smut stories and porn and marketed products for sex appeal that are shared across them, it’s effecting our increasingly hyper-capitali… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/24 07:40 PM |
| – | The lack of FPOV content highlights a critical flaw in either narratives regarding female sexuality or shows feminist theory on repression of female sexual is correct.It appears they’re talking about popular romance and smut, which definitely has the popular appeal to women’s desires and standards that’s most financially successful. But yes I agree, what’s popular and financially most successful isn’t necessarily the majority of content, especially since romance/smut stories dominate fanfiction websites, which actually have balanced gender ratio of users, and those stories indicate a wider diversity in taste amongst men and women than what just the popular st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/24 07:14 PM |
| 6 | Heterosexual relationships with reversed gender roles are hardly recognised by society.They’re simply extremely uncommon. However, the amount of difficulty and lack of social acceptance towards stay-at-home husbands is quite a shame and in some cases it feels as if women in western cultures are given more freedom to choose which gender roles suit them compared to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/24 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Do you genuinely believe feminism is for equality of the sexes? Or just helping women?In my own personal experiences, it’s only a vocal minority of Feminists who are Radical, but a high number of Radicals occupy high positions politically and in expert fields and are negatively impacting policy that’s effecting egalitarian and men’s rights activists such as men’s shelters or spokespeople who were protested and shut down. While some sects of Radical Feminism may have been and still are necessary to fighting for women’s rights to change society for the better, many Radical Fems are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/24 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Why do you think so many women have the same dating issueIt appears to be a common issue on the dating subreddits - women dating men who don’t want to commit and ghost after sex, and men receiving little to no attention in return from the women they want to commit to. It very much appears to be the 80/20 rule at play and it was fascinating to see it reflected even on the general dating subreddits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/24 04:37 PM |
| 4 | Men who fail at patriarchy and capitalism are eliminated from the dating poolTribal cultures tended to share recourses equally besides the elders having a little extra. Research suggests that historically the larger, agricultural societies tended to conquer them and enforced the newer model of slavery and wider-scale agriculture and civilisation that lead to the economic systems and cultural standards we have today. I wonder sometimes how things could have gone differently if tribes established civilisation with their model first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/24 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Question For Women: How often in your entire life would you say you saw a guy that you were attracted to whose number you would’ve liked to have, but he didn’t make a move/direct IOI and you also didn’t with him?That’s one, although I’ve also seen some recent Psypost articles mention women also tend to measure photos of men more often for indicators of resource earning potential, which health and clothing would certainly reflect those socio-economic status factors and be heavier factors for visceral attraction more for women, I’ll try and have a look for the link. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/24 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Question For Women: How often in your entire life would you say you saw a guy that you were attracted to whose number you would’ve liked to have, but he didn’t make a move/direct IOI and you also didn’t with him?I’ll never under that mindset, personally. If and when I have the time, if I see opportunity, I pursue it even if the situation isn’t ideal; perfect is the enemy of good enough, life is too short, and there may never be the right time unless you be the change and create it, especially in our increasingly atomised and isolated society. Your Mileage May Vary of course, I suppose many women often have just that much extra opportunity and choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/24 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Question For Women: How often in your entire life would you say you saw a guy that you were attracted to whose number you would’ve liked to have, but he didn’t make a move/direct IOI and you also didn’t with him?Research and statistics from some scientific studies and from online dating studies support the idea that visceral attraction may be less common on first sight for most women and that most women rate most men as below-average. However, visceral attraction by compatible women and/or men, can occur in response to style, hygiene, natural body odour from sweat if genetically compatible (and saliva when kissing if genetically compatible), behaviour and gestures. As someone Queer and Autistic and whom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/24 01:08 PM |
| – | If You’re Unsuccessful With Women, Many Times It Can Be One Thing That Set Off Her IckNeurotypical people often make thin-slice judgments of people with Autism according to research: https://idp.nature.com/authorize?response_type=cookie&client_id=grover&redirect_uri=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nature.com%2Farticles%2Fsrep40700 It’s possible this can be extrapolated to people who are socially awkward due to other neurological disorders and/or due to social/cultural factors (immigrant, grew up homeschooled or same-sex school, etc.). It’s true that people determine by natural looks, body odou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/24 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Love doesn’t really exist and it’s detrimental for most people to seek after itUnconditional love isn’t biologically possible, since even parental-child attachment is based on physical presence and care. Romantic love is real and caused by a bio-chemical reaction in response to the exchange of saliva determining immune system and genetic compatibility for humans to pair bond for genetically healthiest offspring. There is also partnership for economic, social, cultural, and child-rearing benefits. Our modern dating cultures and western societal collapse have made organic ro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 01:25 PM |
| 7 | Most men and women are cowardly in dating and relationshipsYes, it is reflecting the western societal collapse in recent years and how that has naturally effected dating and birth rate behaviours in the recent struggling generations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 10:25 AM |
| 2 | Most men and women are cowardly in dating and relationshipsIt’s indeed questionable, due to increasing loneliness, suicide, mental illness, poverty, homelessness rates, lowering birth rates, in Canada/UK/Australia/USA/ South Korea/Japan. That are worsening since Covid, inflation, declining third spaces, educational decline, dating apps being owned by a monopoly, pollution, etc. and governments and corporations benefit from it economically, but now have to resort to immigration to maintain stable economies. It’ll be definitely interesting to see how thes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 10:23 AM |
| 3 | Most men and women are cowardly in dating and relationshipsAgreed. I’d also add that cheating is cowardly because cheater’s often don’t communicate issues in the relationship and/or are too afraid to end the relationship first. And that 24% of relationships with infidelity stay together. Some may be due to forgiveness but other situations would be due to both being afraid to end up alone despite the relationship has been tainted. “A 2021 survey by Health Testing Centers polled 441 people and reported: a little over 46% of respondents in a monogamous rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 03:47 AM |
| 1 | You've just been appointed "Minister for Relationships" and have UNLIMITED political/economic/financial power to make any changes to the dating world EXCEPT obligating anyone to date anyone else.I would also add: Government owned and operated dating websites that focus on giving users free filters and options over monetisation and monopoly by Match.com. Social awareness campaigns of men and women being equal and only a minority of men being dangerous. For instance the London tube has the opposite with signs telling men not to speak to/text women. Overhaul car centric city design. Alter the economy to give everyone a UBI and raise wages to give more opportunity for people to spend money … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/24 05:59 PM |
| 5 | You've just been appointed "Minister for Relationships" and have UNLIMITED political/economic/financial power to make any changes to the dating world EXCEPT obligating anyone to date anyone else.Government owned and operated dating websites that focus on giving users free filters and options over monetisation and monopoly by Match.com. Social awareness campaigns of men and women being equal and only a minority of men being dangerous. The London tube has the opposite with signs telling men not to speak to/text women. Increase in government sponsored third spaces of a large variety of categories for communities to meet other people for friendships/other. Overhaul car centric city design. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/24 05:58 PM |
| 0 | Women do not have high standards. They just look for someone who is better than themselves and a lot of women are doing better nowadays than men. That only leaves a small amount of men for them to choose from.Arguably this is the definition of a high standard. The “American Dream” of acquiring a degree, attaining a career, owning a suburban home, two cars, 2.5 children was always an unrealistically unsustainable luxury built on the tanked economy of former world powers (Japan, Germany, etc.) after World War II. However, this is the ideal that was sold to us as people from other westernised cultures. Now Canada/Australia/UK are having the worst housing crisis in history and birth rates have cratered i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/24 08:18 PM |
| 3 | The Hypergamy Myth. How Narratives Distort Human Connections.Yeah, it’s an extremely privileged point of view, when Canada/Australia/UK are having the worst housing crisis in history. The data supports there aren’t enough rentals for people, more and more families are living in tents, and immigrants being given housing/jobs is the only thing keeping the economy/populations stable. It’s a privilege to live alone/with roommates in Canada/Australia/UK and also the US due to it’s recession, and it’s definitely true many successful people, some of whom were wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/24 03:40 PM |
| 1 | As a red pill or purple pilled man, what do you think about feminism?In my own personal experiences, it’s only a vocal minority of Feminists who are Radical, but a high number of Radicals occupy high positions politically and in expert fields and are negatively impacting policy that’s effecting egalitarian and men’s rights activists, such as the men’s shelters that were shut down due to harassment. While some sects of Radical Feminism may have been and still are necessary to fighting for women’s rights to change society for the better, many Radical Fems are takin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/24 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Does the average guy have low standards?Yes. Average people are average in most ways and usually pick the first or second best option of who they know amongst their family/friend/co-worker/acquaintance group. Statistically and anecdotally this checks out for me, and the amount of couples who baby-trap and remain in a relationship that turned mediocre at some point but are more afraid of being alone appears quite common, perhaps even the norm. If you’re higher-than-average intelligence, EQ or in other areas then it’s also just easy to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/24 01:57 AM |
| 1 | A vast majority of behaviours that give women the ick are things men would’t be doing if they did the basic work on themselvesEffeminate physical gestures This applies to men who want to be attractive to women in a traditionally masculine manner, but some men are feminine or Bisexual, it’s best for these men to non-verbally communicate that as early as possible to filter women out who find it an “Ick”. Most of the rest is common sense, but research suggests Neuro-typical make thin-slice judgements of Autistic people, and it’s possible the same applies to social awkwardness, whether it’s natural or due to life circumsta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/24 09:56 AM |
| 0 | Why is men’s dating advice “you are wrong”, and women’s “he is wrong”?Before social media this was a more feasible possibility, but in a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society it’s now all about going home and using social media instead for a hollower experience with the illusion of being the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Why is men’s dating advice “you are wrong”, and women’s “he is wrong”?And if anything, as you touch upon in your other comment, we live in a hyper-capitalist and hyper-individualist society, so even when self-improvement is encouraged, it’s mostly within the framework to do so only for yourself and if it benefits yourself, which would be fine, if it also didn’t go hand-in-hand with earning and spending money being the process that is heavily encouraged to do so over connecting with the community. Or self-improvement only encouraged with a capitalistic framework, s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 07:36 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Pick 1 - great sex + bad relationship OR no sex + great relationship?Well I’m willing to date Asexual women so long as they’re willing to fulfil my desire for intimacy through other methods I.e. personal photos for me to use. So I’d pick Option A, but in my experiences there are plenty of people in once healthy turned toxic relationships that at some point turned into Option B and they choose to continue staying in it. I don’t understand it myself… However, if she wasn’t Asexual and didn’t want sex for other reasons (medical condition or religious) then we wouldn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Would you date an absolutely mediocre person?25 Y.O Male, Non-Binary. Yes, but with the exception that like me they are motivated and ambitious enough to be interested in learning and growing as a person to make positive changes to their life in certain areas, those being: health/fitness, because maintaining strength and cardio health is necessary for healthy aging and preventing themselves from gaining weight and becoming overweight/obese. I’m from a low income background and my ethnicity already have shorter lifespans so I’d want someone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Being friends with women is a great way to get a girlfriendThank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/17 07:32 AM |
| 2 | Being friends with women is a great way to get a girlfriendHonestly? I'm incapable of being friends with women without being or becoming attracted to them. I like being friends with them, I like the dynamic and different perspectives. But my attraction to them, sexual, or emotional and sexual, comes back to bite me in the ass, makes me uncomfortable and constantly second guessing myself, trying to hide evidence Im attracted to her because I genuinely wanted to be her friend and don't want to 'ruin the friendship' since the feelings are never mutual. I c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/17 01:04 AM |
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