Trazyn_of_Infinity Archive

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1	What is your experience chatting with women? Women love conversations with me because I have schizo energy. But, I got something “off” in my head (no, this is not observation from a 3rd party, this is me describing myself) that makes connecting on a particular level really weak to nonexistent. I‘m a bit aromantic, tbh. Definitely not asexual. I’ve had a mix of 1 and 2. Here’s the thing, though: barring the fact I am not sexually attracted to men, men give the exact same problems (as friends): they either message you without needing to be p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 09:55 PM
6	Being slightly neurodivergent is more of a dealbreaker for most women than being a complete scumbag On the whole, most autistic men (assuming they’re not being assholes intentionally) should use matchmaking services. It’s probably better for someone to be autistic and be a Mormon or part of Orthodox Judaism than otherwise, considering their whole culture around pairing people up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/24 01:16 AM
1	In order of preference, how would you rate these 3 things in a partner? (confidence, kindness, intelligence) Kindness > Intelligence = Confidence. A woman that treats others (and/or me) like shit is not someone I want to be around. That said, after that, I want her to be intelligent but not timid, but I don’t want her to be overconfident and end up doing stupid things. It has to balance, hence the equal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 08:54 PM
3	In which situations does the dating dynamic change in favour of men ? I agree with you. Answering your actual question in a similar manner, however: it’d have to be a scenario that displaces or, honestly, just kills off a lot of men. Only then would I say that the remaining men have the advantage in the dating dynamic on a society-wide level without needing to put in any additional effort to be rich or whatever. The only real example I can think of is how Russian men were killed off in such large numbers during World War 2 that, in 1950, the gender ratio was 76.6 …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/24 01:38 AM
11	What is your solution to the issues in dating? For people who are well-adjusted and actually touch grass often enough (going to concerts, bars, that sort of thing): No need for a solution. They’re probably getting into relationships. For the people that aren’t complete schizoids but may need help because they find dating tiresome: we need a “singles wards” equivalent. How that looks without a religious context, I don’t know. Feels like it’ll turn into a sausagefest, tbh. For people with mental disabilities: matchmaking services. Seriously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/24 08:36 PM
23	Apparently women in your "friends circle" really dislike you hitting on them One other thing: If you have a conversation, she’ll ask you questions and listen intently. If you’re finding yourself steering the conversation 99% of the time, and it’s you asking things all the time, she’s unlikely to be interested in anything about you. I know that’s obvious to people who touch grass, but you can also see this behavior emulated on online dating app convos, too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/24 04:54 PM
-1	Do you feel like a lot of redpill or jaded men have undiagnosed neuro conditions? You can actually see this in action with baldness: women say they have nothing against bald guys (which is true), but MOST women will not actively chase a bald man, because most bald men, compared to when they had actual non-thinning hair, look less physically attractive. Women want eye candy, just like men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 03:07 PM
3	What have you guys learned from this subreddit? Nothing. The men here offer nothing of value to me, really. The only thing that has remarkably improved my “market value” (not just sexual) is getting more muscular and taking care of my skin. I will say one thing that I found bothersome from women (when the topic comes up) is that they say “bald men are super sexy.” If that were true, we’d have more than just the edge-case fetishist-types chasing bald men. Most women that aren’t here in this subreddit don’t actively chase bald men and are, at b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/24 09:38 PM
6	Why do men crave a stay at home wife so much? I think the point you made in the OP was clear, and a lot of the men who want a stay-at-home wife (not those that already have one) are not willing to actually share the truth of why: It’s because they can control her more easily. Barring the woman desiring to be a stay-at-home wife without needing to be coerced into it and/or the woman being exceptionally lucky that her husband is kind and willing to create a sizable fund she can tap into any time without him being able to withdraw from it, t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/24 01:56 PM
9	How low would autistic guys have to set their standards, if women only date up? Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on your perspective), most autistic men have a very hard time dating because they give off “bad vibes” or act a bit too stiff with conversation. How low they’d have to set their standards depends on the autistic guy in question. An overweight, balding autistic man of average or above-average height? He’s gonna have a very bad time, but not impossible—just has to ask out enough people and push past all the rejections. Muscular, well-groomed, acceptable hei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/23 05:49 PM
1	Whats the most attractive thing a man/woman can say to you? NSFW remark: Acknowledgement of how she likes how dirty I am. SFW remark: “Your taste in music is good.” Or “You’re so muscular, I like that a lot.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/23 01:24 PM
6	As a male you won't know your true league unless you quit online dating Explain to my stupid, dumb brain: as I am a gymbro, I cannot see how I would get a date from a woman at the gym unless I was going to the regular yoga / spin-cycle classes that it hosts every other day. I talk to people, yes, and I’m not like those cringe YouTube commenters who think they’ll get cancelled if they stare at or talk to a woman for 5 microseconds, but I figure most people at the gym want to get their exercises in and leave. This is on the general gym floor, not the classes: I suspec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 10:08 PM
–	People of PPD: To what extent would you blame the rise of celebrity/influencer culture on the hyperinflation of dating? And, if it is one of the more important factors to take note of, what should the average young man and woman do to adapt to these circumstances? The only thing I’d blame male celebrities for is the unattainable physiques they sport around that none of them are willing to admit comes from steroid use. Young men who don’t know better see them and say, “Yes, I can be just as muscular as Chris Hemsworth if I work out hard enough!”	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/23 05:16 AM
7	There is roughly a 50/50 gender ratio so why are so many men having trouble finding a SINGLE girlfriend ? You’d think something like ballroom dancing would be better for men at a public uni, but it’s not. Not only is it fairly niche, but a lot of men go there thinking “alright, this is the place I’ll finally get some action” and leave disappointed when they realize the women there are either (1) fairly passive and disinterested in you or (2) are learning how to dance only for fun, not because they’re touch-starved and dying to find a man. The other issue is it’s been advertised as the one remaining …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 01:02 PM
2	How hard it is for you all to be social? I like getting to know people, but actually getting them to stick around requires a far greater effort than I sometimes can exhibit. I social dance at uni, so, I get to be treated to all different kinds of women as we rotate partners. Some will never open up to me, and some are quite personable. Generally, the trick is for me to ask a question along the lines about “what thing can you not shut up about?” and prod further questions from that to keep them talking. Getting them to want to hang out …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 01:55 AM
22	Q4All: What's the biggest lie you were told about the opposite gender that you discovered was not true as you got older? That women will chase after bald men. Okay, well, maybe some edge cases will, but typically, those bald men can sport great facial hair and, in general, look good because of it. My dating life improved 10x after I just decided to put money down on a hair system. Good hair did so much for my physical attractiveness. The difference in the way I was treated was night and day. My point is: most women will regard bald men as uglier than their full-hair counterparts, and if you want to maximize how ph…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 12:48 AM
1	What's wrong with average men? Socially low statused and not in a cool punk renegade way, but just literally like no one (myself included) wanted to be friends with them In college, we call this “you aren’t able to entertain me like a court jester”. So many women (and, to be fair, a lot of men) expect me to ask them hundreds of questions before they go “oh, wow, never had someone that interesting to talk to in a while”, or they write me off as tiresome. I mean, thanks for helping me be a better conversationalist, but god damn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 05:03 AM
6	What would happen if OF, all dating websites, and all social media sites suddenly disappeared Hahahaha, this is the best comment I’ve read in a long time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/23 05:22 AM
2	How would you rate your looks? To women from 18-29 years old: probably 3/10 naturally (i.e.: if I elected to stay bald instead of using a hair system, despite being 6’2”, about 165 lbs. (give or take), muscular, and taking care of my skin, having great teeth, etc.). I don’t care how much women say being bald can be sexy: 95% of women in that age group will never actively ”hunt down” bald men for dating and consider you uglier for being bald. It is a massive detriment if I wish to maximize my reach based on my looks alone. Wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/23 02:33 AM
6	As a plain looking/unattractive guy, what to do to find women interested in you? Yeah. My argument is that if you’re going to be “hobby-maxing” (ugh, terrible term), you need to become great at a hobby that has a practical use to people. Shift away from getting strong at the gym so you can lift heavy boxes for a moment. Become an expert car mechanic, or know how to fix various things in your home, or carpentry, or paint beautiful artwork, or be a really, really good cook, etc. The bell curve of most women would prefer this. The edge cases don’t care and/or care about weird, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 10:35 PM
1	Q4All: Has anything you have read or discussed here actually changed your mind? If so, what was it? Can I admit I was one of the dumb men out there that didn’t think looks mattered enough? It’s helped to learn that, no matter if I’m late to the party or if it was supposed to be something I should have known based on using my own damn eyes. Which goes to my next point… Autism is only a “death sentence” (even I find that a bit exaggerating) if the man doesn’t take care of himself and his looks (i.e.: takes care of his acne, exercises, etc.). Social skill fixing for autists requires drugs, I feel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 07:36 PM
2	CMV : The reason you think lots of average men are in relationships when actually they’re not I mean, sure, but if you don’t display assertiveness as a 6+ ft. tall dude, women will not suddenly throw themselves at your feet. If you’re a 6 foot 6 shy nerd that can’t socialize well, for instance, you’re not getting a girlfriend, period.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/23 04:30 AM
6	Men who are outspoken women's movement defenders: Are you rewarded with hot sex for it? No, I’m not “rewarded” with sex for it. I simply don’t see the point of treating women as inferior beings or second-class citizens. I think them having bodily autonomy, access to healthcare (i.e.: birth control, abortion, etc.), and not treating them like chattel is its own reward.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 12:47 PM
2	This is all my knowledge from dozens of Hinge dates I've been on. I wish I could have told my younger self this. You’re right. For black men, losing their hair isn’t that big of a hit on their physical attractiveness. I’d argue, though, that muscular, bald white men with beards (if they can grow a good one) still outclass the chubbier ones who can do the same. I’m one of those “unfortunate” souls with clean-shaven looks (I can’t grow a beard that isn’t a neckbeard, so I just shave everything), but I got the muscle and the height, so it’s not that bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 04:53 PM
26	This is all my knowledge from dozens of Hinge dates I've been on. I wish I could have told my younger self this. Purely from online dating? A lot of men take shitty pictures, so the fact I had a friend actually take photos of me smiling genuinely, out and about, doing the things that I like to do and not looking like I just plopped out of bed and took a mirror selfie did wonders. That said… I decided to do a little experiment on myself where I took the photos I had when I still had hair and the photos of me now that are me with my bald Mr. Clean look to test out how often it felt I was swiped right on. Tur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 03:23 AM
1	Nightclubs are not the right place to meet women Social dancing is good… in college. Only there do I find an equal amount of men to women. Heck, my social dance class right now has more women than men! I’m in a top 10 city for population that isn’t in California. HOWEVER! If you try to go to the social dance studios around the city (and you have to pay stupid steep prices), you’ll find way too many leads and not enough follows. If your goal is to learn to social dance and you lead, I hope you enjoy spending $20+ dollars dancing with the air ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 01:42 PM
6	Being neurodivergent is a death sentence for men I’m pulling this out of my ass, but I feel like if you’re afflicted only with ADHD or bipolar disorder (and have lots of mania episodes), it probably won’t fuck you up too much due to risk-taking behaviors being more amplified. Am I wrong?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/23 11:50 PM
–	Debate: Would you rather be physically attractive + mildly autistic or physically unattractive + neurotypical (non-autistic) Again, sample size of 1 here, but Business_Window is correct. I’ve actually done this whole infodumping routine on women when I was a skinny-looking skeleton of a man. They didn’t find it endearing. So I got muscular because bodybuilding is fun. All of a sudden, any dumb topic I wanted to talk about would interest women because I looked more handsome. Even topics that could be considered controversial/negative (or, at least, having both good and bad aspects to it), their attention would stick. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/23 02:18 AM
4	Earning more and getting fit isn't always the solution for romantic relationships.. understanding a woman's emotional needs is." The only thing I feel are absolutely important for the vast majority of women (that includes the majority of women that aren’t on Reddit or in this subreddit proper) is that the man is taller than her and isn’t mentally disabled. Read that again: I’m not saying all women find this important (there’s always exceptions everywhere), just a great majority. So, emotional intelligence is really just code-word for: don’t be autistic and a schizoid, but either way, practice and improve your social skill…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/23 07:36 PM
2	CMV Face matters the most for your Physical SMV I agree with this. Any mental disability that impairs your social skills and drive will screw you over in the dating game unless you’re so well-endowed in other areas of your life to extremes. The #1 most important thing in maximizing your reach in the dating market as a straight man is being neurotypical. After that, the other characteristics can be argued. If you’re autistic, good fucking luck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/23 08:02 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? At the same time that autistic men give women the ick, ultimately, I believe 99% of women will not date autistic men who don’t have language or intelligence impairments because if said woman wants to have kids of her own, there’s a greater risk of her kids being autistic. Basically, she doesn’t want to reproduce with “genetic garbage” if she can help it. I know most women will refrain from saying that, but that’s ultimately what most of them think of autistic men subconsciously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 10:46 AM
1	do you feel like your relationship with your parents has effected the way you date/view dating? I want both, yes. Current living situation is what you’d describe as lonely isolation. It’s not healthy. But I am just so tired of the whole game. For the sake of argument, I’ll imagine the whole debacle about “people eventually settle down with people that are similar to them in looks and interests” is true. Well, I’m a dictionary definition of a gym rat (not to the point of making it my religion, but it’s what I revolve my life around). There’s nothing wrong with that, but women who love the g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/23 12:45 AM
1	do you feel like your relationship with your parents has effected the way you date/view dating? My parents and I are on good terms, but they are extremely concerned about my lack of relationships, actually, due to my autism. They don’t have autism (they have a LOT of friends, and I mean that). They’re at a point where they think they need to find me a matchmaker or set me up with a friend’s daughter. Fortunately, I take care of myself in terms of my physical health and my physical appearance (thank goodness my esoteric interest was natural bodybuilding). It’s just, for me, both men and wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/23 10:35 PM
–	Why are "happily married" people browsing these subs? The men who have always had some or a lot of success with women without needing internet people to tell them how to approach or whatnot don’t typically fall into the red-pill/black-pill ideologies. But, that’s kind of obvious, isn’t it? It’s like someone who easily makes money and gets rich not likely becoming a communist, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/23 10:06 PM
5	Discussion: Men and women who say looks dont matter in the dating market are attractive themselves I recall an article that says a majority do want to get partnered or, at least, entertain the idea of a romantic relationship, but there are issues that cause that singular outcome to be quite complex to achieve. Here it is. I think the biggest issue for their dating prospects is that a great majority of them lack autonomy and that the autistic population are generally much more likely to be unemployed/underemployed than neurotypical people. I cannot speak on how that impacts autistic women’s da…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/23 03:12 PM
1	I’m starting to think Most men who blame their looks are usually nowhere near as ugly as they think. I started balding at 24-25 years of age. I’m pulling numbers out of my ass here, but at that range, I’d wager that only 15% of men or less are balding/bald. Good hair really bumps your attractiveness. I‘m embracing my baldness by just keeping myself clean on the top of my scalp with an electric shaver and staying clean-shaven. It is what it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/23 08:53 PM
0	I’m starting to think Most men who blame their looks are usually nowhere near as ugly as they think. See, I can get matches on Bumble and Hinge (I don’t use Tinder), but I am way above average in height (6 foot 2), am white, and have high-quality photos taken by a professional (call it sad if you want, but it helped). However, my biggest disadvantage for my looks is that I’m bald at a young age. Thing is, I have before-and-after results on my match rate. The professional photos were me when I was skinny looking—not stick-figure skinny, just skinny. Nothing fancy, but nothing making you go “…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/23 04:01 PM
–	Bodyfat Percentage Is The Single Most Important Controllable Factor That Determines Your Attractiveness Something to ask you: I’m a bodybuilder. My BF is 18%-20%, but I have abs somehow (they’re not chiseled, however). I train them directly every workout day. I eat when I feel like there’s a need to. Healthy body weight (160 lbs.). Very muscular, but not roid-level muscular. I can’t see myself ever hitting 12-15% BF without using drugs like Ozempic or something. Cutting weight just drains me of energy, so… what do you do?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 06:43 PM
1	Women, is the 2x sub a representative sample of women? That’s why I didn’t remark about the assault part. She has every right to be wary of men for that. But as to how people treat people differently due to weight loss point: Yes, it’s a normal thing. But just because something is normal doesn’t make it morally right. Women and men are both guilty of treating people differently due to weight changes. Men are just a bit more on-the-nose with it, hence why we attribute them, typically, as the shallower gender.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/23 04:37 PM
1	Women, is the 2x sub a representative sample of women? Call me unable to see, if needed, but I genuinely can’t process this person’s emotional anger: Seems the biggest remark she repeats, from the original post to this comment, is that people treat people differently if they lose weight (or gain weight, if severely underweight) and end up looking better for it. This is a human problem, not just a men issue. Understandable that this might make her depressed—I had the exact same reaction when I went from looking like a literal POW to my muscular self …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/23 03:48 PM
34	Approximately how much or often do you agree with the takes of posters of your gender here? Almost never. I’d say 15% of the time. The only thing I agree with is looksmaxxing (bodybuilding, etc.) and figuring out (even if you need to take drugs to do it) how to be more energetic and willing to go out and socialize. The whole alpha/beta talk is so cringe. No one talks like this IRL. As for me: I believe men can have friendships with women without wanting to have sex with them. Feminism is good for society. Women’s rights should be protected. Successful women are good. Etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 07:58 PM
3	Men who work out - what is your opinion on this article? "I was rejected by a girl. It led me to change my body" Thank you. I’m going to get help from social workers to figure out what more I can do or what circumstances about my life just aren’t a vibe. I’ve remarked in other posts how women give me more leeway to “fuck up” before they decide “nah, this guy is just weird, not feeling it” after becoming more muscular. Part of not fucking up is me not acting like some guy who won’t interact with people. I have to open up and ask people how they are, etc. I think there will come a threshold, eventually, wher…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/23 12:59 AM
9	Men who work out - what is your opinion on this article? "I was rejected by a girl. It led me to change my body" I suppose I took the “how‘s it turning out for you?” question differently, but if outcomes regarding dating or relationships are part of this, before: I had 0 relationships. After: Still 0 relationships. But that’s because I have high-functioning autism. Whether that makes me an incel or not, I just let my emotions channel towards the gym instead of going off on how women are the literal worst or something like that. The gym hasn’t made me less spiteful of people who stand me up or ghost me,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/23 12:34 AM
13	Men who work out - what is your opinion on this article? "I was rejected by a girl. It led me to change my body" Despite what certain people who unironically state “personality is everything“ might claim, lifting made me much more physically attractive, even if my face is Chernobyl tier (not great, not terrible). Consequently… It led to men treating me with a lot more respect and thinking I’m some sort of leader material, etc. It led to women actually enjoying my company, at the very least, to outright remarking that I look good, and that feels good. My personality didn’t really change. Since a lot of men …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/23 12:20 AM
1	Ladies, what percentage of men that have a problem finding a woman that likes him romantically are overestimating how much that problem has to do with his natural appearance? Most women and men are shallow, yes. As I’ve gotten more muscular, my face hasn’t changed (not saying I’m ugly, I’m just nothing special), but the fact I fit into a more masculine frame of what a man should look like has gotten people to treat me way, way better. Looks are #1 from both men and women. They’re not the only thing (for relationships, jobs, whatever), but they are the most important thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/23 03:08 PM
4	Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given? OP, is the assumption here that the woman I’m talking to is someone I find physically attractive and on my wavelength in terms of similar hobbies/interests? If so, then #1, easily. I don’t see what point you’re trying to make here. I sincerely doubt if you flipped the genders here, women wouldn’t also pick #1. No one wants to make their dating lives harder or more frustrating, even if they’re already successful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 07:47 PM
1	Should men be offended if they have to get get money first before you date them? This is the toughest pill for me to swallow in terms of my dating experiences. Women value what my life can bring them (duh, who doesn’t, men think the same). They don’t value “my personality” unless it’s one that has showcased itself to bring some manner of value, whatever that value is. Once the relationship is established on more than barebones dating, then, maybe the personality is valuable. I could go learn finance at a top-10 school, but if I end up doing the bare minimum and make only $30…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 02:15 PM
1	In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want? I’m gonna be honest, chief, the issue for me (and this has been corroborated by my own personal lived experience) is that men and women liked my presence more and more after I got muscular. Hence, whether this is an unhealthy mindset or not, I am working on just getting more muscular and stronger to become even more of a positive anomaly amongst the general public—bodybuilding is my thing. If I’m currently in the top 30% of men or something when it comes to physical health, I want to keep going …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 08:22 PM
4	In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want? As a fellow gym rat, I hope you find that love that you seek. Stay strong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 04:51 AM
2	In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want? I just want a woman I’m physically attracted to, where we can go up on a hill or cliffside and stare at the ocean waves together and just enjoy the scenery and the sounds and sights, lost in our thoughts together as we watch the water move back and forth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 04:25 AM
2	The majority of younger women (18-24) are NOT attracted to old men 30+ I’m not sure why being bald is seen as a negative? I’ve embraced shaving my head due to defective hair genes (thanks, mom and dad). Whatever, can’t fight nature. I don’t get why the bald point keeps popping up over and over again. Are the people arguing about ”bald = difficulty finding love” arguing about a typical overweight American man that looks like “le redditor” but with no hair (or thinning hair)? I’m muscular and don’t have an egghead, and women literally don’t care that I have no hair, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/23 03:02 PM
4	Do men actually have it better dating wise ? Sure, if the man in question is attractive and neurotypical. To be honest, the neurotypical part could probably be overlooked if the man was way, way above-average in physical attractiveness, but I’ve never seen that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/23 01:30 AM
1	If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better. I don’t understand. If someone (man or woman) displayed schizoid-type behaviors and wondered why no one wanted to date them or be in a relationship with them, would it not be in their interest to change their behavior and become more social and less hateful of social interactions with other people?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 06:46 AM
2	Rizz (charisma and game) is the vast majority of what men need to date successfully True, I agree on this. Looks and charisma together are the biggest factors when succeeding with women. Money and height? Unless you’re on extreme edge cases (millions of dollars of wealthy or extremely short, like 5 foot 3 as a man), they will not mean much. Doesn’t hurt to have both, though (as in, be rich and tall, too).	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/23 01:35 AM
37	Here are my dating hot takes. What are yours? I agree on the last 2 points. Outside of the gym, my hobbies would bore the average 20s college woman to sleep. They want a guy who is a bit stereotypical in extroversion: “loves traveling / bar-hopping / concert-goer, maybe is a music player himself / etc.” Nerdy shit might interest a few attractive women, but they’re quite hard to find. Neurodivergence seems more of a death sentence since you can’t spot flirtation or understand how to do it without seeming like an alien puppet in a human meat …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/23 04:54 PM
1	Do average women really have it easier and better? I doubt city is the reason. However, high school kids are weirdos. Wait until college (or real life work, if you aren’t going to college—it’ll change things). If a woman still has a hard time getting a guy to ask her out, it’s because she isn’t physically attractive to them, even if she believes otherwise. That’s it. I can’t figure out what else would be holding you back. There’s also the case that the newer generation of men have the social skills of a potato and the confidence of a wet noodle,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 04:54 AM
2	Do average women really have it easier and better? I won’t talk about online dating, because that isn’t what you asked. I assume you’re in college, OP? If so, then truthfully, if what you say about yourself is true, then it’s probably just a matter of waiting. Now, if you really want a specific guy, just ask him out yourself. There’s also the possibility you are underselling yourself and you’re more attractive than you claim to be, and some guys may decide not to ask you out because they’re afraid you’re already taken, but who knows, college men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 03:27 PM
14	Which countries/cities have the highest dating standards at the moment? If you want specific cities that I can think of (in the USA only): San Francisco, San Jose, Las Vegas. I don’t know what else comes to mind. Basically, any cities that have more men than women will lend to higher dating standards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 03:48 PM
5	I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically online Yes, high-functioning autistic male. I did a little more “research“ (Google searching), and there are studies who looked only at high-functioning autistic adults and romantic relationships. It still shows them in that % range I talked about when it comes to “currently in a relationship”. From what I gather, most neurotypical people are in a relationship (61%, counting both romantic partners and those who are married together, according to Pew).	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 05:22 PM
6	I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically online That’s not true. However, studies bothering to figure out the relationship statistics for autistic people lump autistic folks who need caregivers with high-functioning people. That said, on a breakdown, high-functioning autistic women were more likely than high-functioning autistic men to be in an intimate relationship. What is true is that, of those who can get a romantic relationship, most of them are satisfied with their partners, and there’s little to no difference in the length of time of t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 04:40 PM
3	I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically online What bottleblank said resonates most with me in terms of explaining the underlying dynamics, but I’d like to add on that, most women seem to want a man who has had a lot of cool, interesting lived experiences. Maybe that lived experience is “oh my god, this dude has been to a lot of concerts and met and interacted with a lot of cool people, he always has stories about those events”; or, maybe the man isn’t a concertgoer, but he’s done a lot of outdoor hiking and going to cool, exotic places, whi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 03:19 PM
10	I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically online Therapy doesn’t help me. I think therapy can be useful only if you have the innate resource/capability/skill inside you. For example: if you have the ability to hold conversations with people normally and are good with leading conversations and all that, but feel it’s tiresome, therapists can analyze and recommend things. Or, perhaps you possess millions upon millions of dollars in your bank account but have financial anxiety: then the therapist can help you work out how to calm down and worry…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 02:48 PM
23	I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically online It’s all good. It’s a bit depressing to know that the key to many successful romantic relationships is social and emotional intelligence and that I‘m unable to appropriately provide either. I just appear stoic naturally. At least physical activity allows me to get over my grudges. Thank goodness that bodybuilding gyms exist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 05:39 AM
40	I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically online Nah, OP. The majority of women want a man who isn’t a schizoid and/or autistic. That’s #1. After that, there are definitely preferences, but looks will always be the primary difference between severe struggle and ease. In any case, I have literally all the traits people here espouse as advantages: extremely tall, white, muscular, deep voice, etc. etc. Turns out that having a non-neurotypical brain (like is my case) that results in weird, atypical behaviors makes all those supposed advantages abs…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 05:24 AM
2	Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single? Because I’m autistic and somewhat aromantic (oof) and make being a gym rat my entire personality. That’s it. I can socialize fine, but being aromantic is seen by women, at best, as rather awkward to, at worst, something being (genetically) wrong with you… or if you’re hiding your true intentions. Would I love having a gym-rat equivalent of a GF? Of course. Matching hobbies/interests are a vibe, but the competition is stiff. For the record, I do social dance frequently for the fun of it, not to h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 03:12 PM
3	What are some double standards you’ve noticed with men and women’s standards/preferences for one another I won’t make comments on your situation, but same for me. Unfortunately, height doesn’t do shit for me in bumping me up 1 or 2 points because I’m autistic, and neurotypicals can pick up on that even if you don’t showcase the stereotypical symptoms. I think being neurotypical and not a withdrawn, awkward schizoid is always going to be #1 on most women’s lists (I said most here), then the rest of the package.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 11:25 PM
4	Obesity has absolutely nuked the chance to go on a date with even regular women I agree. The biggest killer for the dating game is always going to be social awkwardness, which usually means lack of charisma / being fun to be around. I’m a muscular dude—a literal gym rat, if I may so. But because of literal autism (not the one that leads to mental breakdowns or me being just unbearable to be around, it’s not that bad, but it’s still bad in social situations due to me appearing a bit stoic and uninterested), neurotypical women will notice something off about me quite quickly.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 08:44 PM
23	Are there men in your life who are good overall but fail at dating? What does this say about modern dating? I‘m going to argue that being a high-functioning autistic male is a death sentence for dating and getting women to be interested in you. Hell, even if you can mask well (like I do) and not think about it too much, people can sense there’s something “off” about me. But this is just a hunch. I’m sure there are high-functioning autistic men who are married or in relationships, but they’re a minority. Also, I gym-rat-moded to a better physique, and women do think I look aesthetically pleasing, but t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 01:43 AM
7	How were you treated differently when you got fit? (men and women) Definitely better once my body got nice and muscular, but if you’re thinking I got more dates or women were attracted to me enough to approach me, the answer is flat no. I have autism, so my ability to read body language or understand flirty behavior is basically non-existent, and my social skills are that of a potato. I’m going to pull this out of my ass, but I feel like if your brain is stunted in the body language department, getting women to go out with you is still going to be supremely dif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/22 03:18 PM