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That's indisputable. However, she is 16 stone, blue-haired, bespectacled and ugly as fuck. She has no other options. This is what puzzles me. She's not some slim beauty who can get another guy. So why behave like this? Why give up her best option? My mate's main flaw is that he is directionless and does little. It is possible she felt used, no?
/r/askTRP11/07/20 08:40 PM
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Yes, he is lazy. She may have seen herself as a replacement mommy, I guess. 'Friends' for a couple of years in spite both being single, only moves in cause he can't be asked to sort out new accommodation. Maybe she has a point. And yes lightswitch effect happens but maybe she is right to feel abused in some way. No mission, no direction. Sums him up.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 04:52 PM
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I know about lightswitch effect. But I am curious enough to wonder if he had indeed been abusive in some way here. I am utterly on board that even with guys who do things right get accused of abuse. But in other words was my mate being a bit of a user here?
/r/askTRP11/07/20 04:35 PM
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Your situation is different admittedly as you are going places but a friend of mine was still at home in mid 20s. He had charm, played guitar, good-looking but no drive and was an unemployed bum. He got the girls, though, cos women can brush that aside when a guy's in his 20s. Fast forward ten years, he's STILL unemployed at 34 and living with mom. He meets a fat, ugly single mom who is willing to let him move in and she is now his mommy replacement. Ten years ago, he was banging hot girls now t…
/r/askTRP28/04/20 01:52 PM
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To expand a little on the wise advice here about not going through trash: Scenario 1, YOU ended it: You must remember that women never ever forget you dumping them. I know a couple who dated in their twenties. The guy ended it. Twenty years on, they start dating again. His attitude was that past was past. His youthful cocky attitude had gone and he was now much more beta through the knocks of life. That is the way of all superficial alphas. She slowly but surely started messing him around. Ended…
/r/askTRP18/03/20 09:36 AM
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I don't think there is anything creepy at all about a 28 year old guy pursuing a 20 year old young woman. It maybe that she wishes to party a bit while the guy wants to settle down but creepy? No not at all. Not one bit.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 07:06 AM
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I've nothing to add to the already ( mostly) wise comments here but one salient point: Either be a full-on alpha or a full-on beta. Halfway is destined to misery. A beta is like a little puppy in a woman's eyes: clingy, desperate for his master's affection, attractive enough to cuddle but of course not sexually attractive and does what she wants. If she grows bored, she will either discreetly cheat with Chad or, if overwhelmed with tingles, will let her puppy/ beta down 'nicely'. There may be di…
/r/askTRP06/03/20 08:02 AM
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The whole kneeling down thing is nauseating and not really romantic at all. A woman is happier being proposed to with a dollar shop ring by the man she really loves than one that cost a man three month's of his wages she's not into, so if you're going to propose be all casual about it. Yeah some may say it's trivial but to see a man kneeling like that is viscerally nauseating.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 06:35 AM
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Going to lunch with a male co-worker is hardly in same league as going for drink with him outside of work. Nor is an occasional dance that much to worry about. In a good relationship you don't have to be explicit, it's just understood. It's all about actions and implicit cues. I think all this talk of you will do this or that a sign of a poorly functioning relationship. It's like all this b.s.about 'upgrading' fwb to ltr- if you're doing things right as a man, these things just progress naturall…
/r/askTRP02/03/20 07:36 AM
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I don't know if this is question or statement but I do know that lying there thinking I must get 8 hours caused me more stress not less. I'll add this while it is fresh in my mind: other night bed at midnight FELT like I barely slept all night. I guess I must have, though, cause I felt great next day.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 07:14 AM
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This is so right. So so many women like what their particular alpha male likes in terms of culture et cetera. OK to a certain point if two people are getting along in a relationship liking one or two things is to be expected but when it's same movies, bands etc it's eyerolling. 'Wow I love Metallica, too!' Bullshit.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 07:00 AM
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Think about sleep in terms of cycles not hours. Each cycle being about 1.5 hours. It's perfectly natural to wake up briefly. I've felt more energetic after 6 hours ( 4 sleep cycles approx.) than 9 straight hours. Maybe because I'm waking up at wrong time sleep cycle? I've had trouble sleeping and these are things I've observed. Slept 'well' eight hours straight like the textbook : like a zombie next day. 6 hours: bright as a button. Your mileage may vary of course but the eight hours sleep or 'y…
/r/askTRP29/02/20 06:33 AM
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He's gonna find it hard when older though. Guys like that attractiveness to hot girls -or just average-does not last past 30. He's in loser territory after that point.
/r/askTRP18/02/20 07:58 AM
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Depends. Thing is having money is usually linked to drive which is attractive. OK there are men who work hard and are still broke but that's not usually the case. Guys who are broke but sexy who sit around strumming guitar while half-heartedly doing some project can usually do OK in their twenties with women but no just average woman will touch them after he reached 30. As for the above average ones, no chance! So money=drive=sex drive. The cool bums who can get hot girls in their twenties usual…
/r/askTRP18/02/20 07:48 AM
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This is interesting. Again I am guessing you are from USA? See I'm from UK and like that 7 year gap at your ages is not noteworthy.
/r/askTRP16/02/20 05:54 AM
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I've got to say that while I appreciate that women of that age might care be bitter but I don't think anyone else would. I am guessing you are in the states? I am in UK and I can honestly say nobody would think anything of a 25 year old dating a 35 year old man. Certainly not immoral or any of that kind of thing.
/r/askTRP16/02/20 05:49 AM
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I'm not sure about this: 25 year old girl with 35 year old man isn't really any cause for raised eyebrows in normal people but, yeah, if a 35 year old woman wants you then it could be a cause for bitching for sure. That said, the ten years between a 25 girl and 35 man is totally socially acceptable. 25 year old dude and 15 year old girl on the other hand is not.
/r/askTRP14/02/20 02:00 PM
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Firstly the idea of having a 'best' friend as a man is silly anyway. Let alone it being a woman! Sure you can be colleagues, be fond etc but not proper friends. This chick has never been your friend; she's been playing all cool this time like one of the guys, hoping you'd screw her. Now you have, her true colours are coming out. I hope you used a condom cos pregnancy 'scare' awaits you. I've two pieces of advice: 1 Use a condom 2 Make yourself as unappealing as possible. Don't wash, turn beta. W…
/r/askTRP12/02/20 10:57 AM
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I know this doesn't apply directly to you but general advice for a guy who may wish to 'try again' with an ex many years later. Generally speaking, twenty two years is a long time in a man's world and even though a guy may have changed, sowed his wild oats etc, and he may think it's OK to reprise the relationship it's always a no-no if HE did the dumping. Women never, ever forget being dumped and you can bet your ass if SHE is the one who gets bored THIS time she will brutally and utterly cut yo…
/r/askTRP12/02/20 10:30 AM
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I am not sure if it's delusional or she just doesn't realise it? Or only a little bit curious. In other words so-so about him. Or, more interestingly, he makes her like him through sheer demonstration of confidence.
/r/askTRP11/02/20 09:12 PM
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It does happen. I have observed women who've had guys chase them relentlessly with them being at first 'meh' be absolutely broken hearted when it ends at the guy's request. And these are young women who are nowhere near the wall or yet in need of a provider.
/r/askTRP11/02/20 08:46 PM
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Not necessarily, though, sometimes the whole dynamic flips and it happens in young women who are nowhere near the wall.
/r/askTRP11/02/20 06:45 PM
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Oneitis.
/r/askTRP06/02/20 12:48 PM
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It's not about periods of weakness, it's about being weak all the time. If you are still essentially strong in her eyes, she'll support you but if you continue to be weak and the balance tips from essentially strong to essentially weak she'll walk eventually. Just carry on getting stronger and I see no reason why things should go South if you want to be with her. But, remember, there is a limit; if you're not improving after a while she's out.
/r/askTRP05/02/20 08:06 AM
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The knife IS the issue! She's still only slightly overweight, not a landwhale. To be honest, if a guy was working and travelling an hour's commute each way would HE appreciate his childless, unemployed wife telling him HE was slightly out of shape? The OP is not leading by example, is he? The knife thing is a shame because once OP got a job things would've improved.
/r/askTRP05/02/20 06:58 AM
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I think they shit test their sons, too. They'll say things like 'don't go doing that dangerous thing!' but are really happy when son defies them. So many mothers say ' then he went and did it anyway!' with smiles on their faces. It's always the son who follows his own path that's the favourite. And just because a son is alpha, doesn't mean he won't look after his mother. It's not about her wanting a compliant beta. An alpha is more likely to keep the daughter-in-law in line and that daughter-in-…
/r/askTRP04/02/20 07:59 AM
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I would NOT repeat this brilliant analogy without permission (suppose I could but that would be rude) but, Fereallyred, this is brilliant. Absolutely spot on.
/r/askTRP04/02/20 06:49 AM
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I'm not saying some ex-es don't come back, just that I think it won't happen here.
/r/askTRP02/02/20 08:56 PM
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No after a year she's probably past the point of going back now. Found a bigger guy, become a blue-haired lesbian, I dunno.
/r/askTRP02/02/20 08:41 PM
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She was obsessed with you - and that doesn't last forever. Simple as that. Be grateful she didn't pull unusual trick of women Who are obsessed with guys and get pregnant.
/r/askTRP02/02/20 08:31 PM
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In addition to this, you are probably NOT going to be in the 1% category where you live happily ever after. Somebody ended it. If her, she'll get bored again and you'll be left upset a second time. Being red pill isn't about being an emotionless automaton. If you ended it, either she gets bored and ends it this time - in which case she won't be nice about it like she is when she breaks it off with a beta she's been casually seeing for meals etc. Not at all, she'll justify any manipulation, lies,…
/r/askTRP31/01/20 08:26 AM
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All this converting ltr's to plates or fwbs to relationships is nonsense. Put fwb/ plates in one box and girls you are into/date in another and don't get them mixed up. I've already explained why bad idea to 'convert' ltr to plate. As for ltrs who started off as fwb, once she senses a window of opportunity to have the upper hand, she will give you shit about 'why' you treated her like a convenient hole for a time.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 07:58 AM
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Short answer: No. Long answer: what's the point? So she's just a plate to you. Have you not got more plates? It becomes a 'relationship' again. Never works out. You are going to get bored pretty quickly as you know each other well. Either she gets bored of you - and believe me if YOU dumped her- there will be zero compassion shown towards you if she dumps you cause of this. No nicety that she reserves for betas she rejects. No bland compassion. You'll 'deserve' being messed around, cheated on et…
/r/askTRP31/01/20 07:48 AM
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Well she either is or is not. You may well just be being paranoid but then maybe not. What is your evidence? More info needed. Spending a lot of time with another guy as 'friends'? Talking a lot about this new 'friend'? All points to cheating. Whatever she tells you if she is cheating will be a lie. It's easy to say just dump but she then again she could be innocent. You gotta snoop I guess. Without further info it's impossible for anyone to pass judgement. Oh and if course dump dump dump!! if s…
/r/askTRP07/12/19 11:38 AM
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Pictures taken 25 years ago show my sister as being slim and pretty. She's still slim and has taken care to look as best as she can given age. No woman is going to look the same at 40 as 20 that's just reality but she's done her best not to turn into a landwhale. The fwb he wifed up has always been fat and unattractive.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 09:27 AM
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I would never ever intervene, however, this is family not some random person so it's something to be concerned about for me. I don't hate him. He seems OK. It's just that I thought there might be a RP theory on all this is going to go down and this is ask trp. Cos my gut says this is going to be a disaster.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 08:04 AM
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'Win some lose some it' s all the same to me'. Ace of Spades - Motorhead. One of the most RP lyrics ever.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 08:21 AM
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Wishful thinking. If a woman is much lower smv than you, then she doesn't remain grateful at all. Far from it. She deduces there's something wrong with you if you're with her - which is OFTEN true- so she acts up thinking she's invincible. Also, hot girls don't develop the same bitterness as the uglier ones, though they can be conceited. If you're going to base anything on looks, go for an average looking woman. Be better looking but not too much so that she starts thinking you're weird for bein…
/r/askTRP02/12/19 07:01 AM
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'Pig' is strongly emotive language=she's still got the hots. Generally speaking, the words you want to hear from a woman's mouth about an ex is 'nice guy' which means she dumped him or he dumped her but she didn't care cause he was a stopgap boyfriend. The smarter more devious females do not ever slag off an ex; they just utter bland statements. Whatever, LDR's are just daft.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 09:44 AM
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He's obviously got some kind of mental issues. Needs mommy whatever. He's an outlier when it comes to beta/alpha red pill/ blue pill. He's just not normal. End of story. She's behaving like this because she thinks she's freaking invincible for snagging such a higher value guy. But he isn't really all that great, of course, he's retarded. Which probably also makes her feel cheated out of a true alpha- hence scrummy behaviour. And before the looks aren't everything crowd get involved, she sounds u…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 09:29 PM
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If her response to this is to sleeps with another guy you're obviously not high value enough in her eyes. If she is not currently sitting there thinking 'how can I improve to keep him?' then you are not high value enough in her eyes. There is nothing really wrong inherently in wanting a ltr but, by god, you either have to be a goddam natural alpha or learn the hard way in how to deal with women. I wish you well but sometimes a man has to get knocked about emotionally to learn the reality of inte…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 03:36 PM
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Disagree. VasiliyZaitzev seems the sort of person who is high value enough to say it out aloud but that doesn't mean that other guys shouldn't ALSO give the impression more covertly that they've other options. Really upset? Over what exactly? That other girls like her boyfriend and want him too? Pfft. That if she doesn't keep in line he'll be off? And why shouldn't he have that attitude? She'd be off let me tell you if higher value man came along. It's hysterical bullshit. Save the comfort for w…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 03:14 PM
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The way I see it is that if a guy is very high value he can say it directly because it's true and she knows it. There's really not much she can do but accept it if she wishes to be with him and by definition she does because he is high value. But if a guy is just average and doesn't quite have his shit together( which no disrespect to the OP but he's a lot to learn) openly saying it is just gonna be met with 'who the hell do you think you are?!' So he's got to be clever and show her that other w…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 09:27 AM
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I think that maybe men who are very high value can get away with SAYING this openly. I totally agree with the sentiment but it has to be done covertly not overtly. Show don't tell.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 08:10 AM
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You just say that you and this girl are friends. Play the 'why can't a man and woman be friends?' card and act all butthurt if she gets angsty. Your girlfriend will not believe this of course and will be feeling the dread. The 'friends' thing is bullshit that women use to describe beta orbiters who'll bang them in a heartbeat so turn the tables! (And you're not really lying , anyway, you're talking to her only - how are you NOT just friends at the moment? So think of that if your acting skills n…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 07:43 AM
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Good for the guy for turning this around. The guy in my contribution here has also met a woman who seems to be helping him turn his life around somewhat: he's got a talent in a certain area that she's encouraging him with that is proving lucrative. She seems smart enough to bring out the best in him. She's also -while no great beauty- is compariatively much better looking than the ex (a 6 compared to a 2) which is no doubt really pissing off his ex who has gotten even more massive than before an…
/r/askTRP29/11/19 05:37 PM
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Exactly what I mean. The very worst example of this I've witnessed is an acquaintance of mine: good-looking, irreverent- all the surface alpha qualities but he has mental issues. Meets a really fat ugly single mom who is besotted by him. Owing to mental issues, he moved in with her ( unable to cope alone, and no woman with options wants an unemployed guy who never worked). Of course, his mental issues reveal themselves once the besotted stage passed and reality kicks in. He's basically jelly and…
/r/askTRP29/11/19 03:34 PM
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Amen. And, I might add, IF she at first believes you're NOT a loser and you turn out to be one and you've not the balls to leave cos of kids etc, being extra nice and promising fidelity will only make her hate you more. This is the time to get dread going on and self-esteem improvement not b.s. Like 'never' cheating. Being nasty to you if you've always been beta in her eyes would, unless she is really evil, be for her like kicking a puppy- very few people want to do that. Being a constant alpha …
/r/askTRP29/11/19 07:52 AM
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Can't upvote this enough. THIS, gentlemen, is amongst the wisest advice you'll ever read here. Never, ever, ever give a woman the impression you will be faithful no matter what.
/r/askTRP29/11/19 07:41 AM
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By knowing your own mind/feelings. By being able to differentiate between girls who you just view as a friendly fuck and those you feel deeper for. Experience! Whatever, the notion (not you, the notion) that you can turn a fwb into a ltr is retarded because women resent the fuck out of it. That's all you need to know. You know when you are into a girl and she you. You will date from the off. We're human, after all. The difference between a blue pill chump and a red pill man is that the latter wi…
/r/askTRP28/11/19 09:12 AM
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I think that the woman in a fwb turned more serious always feels resentful that you weren't dating from the off. It's like she wasn't good enough or something. You can logic this away by saying that you needed to get to know her first but her emotions will say I was only good enough to be a friendly cum dumspter. THIS is why any man foolish enough to turn a fwb into ltr is asking for trouble. I ain't saying this is right or logical, just how it is.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 08:35 AM
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Yep. She'll 'accidentally' get pregnant and having the kid will soon take the gloss off for her. God, childbearing puts the pressure on full whack for 'proper' couples who do courtship right let alone these two. People are right, though. Leave 'em to it.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 12:41 PM
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I agree that he is short-term, reactionary and he hasn't actually considered this through fully as an actual strategy. It's like he's using her but too dumb to see that if she turns he'll be out. He doesn't even realise that gigolos (which he will defacto be) have to work at it- working out, good sex game etc. You can't be attractive as a man without some effort especially as father time creeps in. Not easy to keep a woman always interested if you are a top guy! Minute she gets bored, extra cash…
/r/askTRP26/11/19 11:49 AM
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I am not getting involved. But he's convinced he's got it made and I'm thinking 'no you haven't.' I'm just asking if this is wise sexual strategy on HIS part from a rp perspective.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 10:20 AM
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Disagree. Women do not need to be compensated in any way for being short. It's short men who go after short women, a woman doesn't think 'I'll have to go for a short guy to feel better'. They want a taller man. They enjoy the feeling of protection and it makes the feel feminine to be gazing up at a guy.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 08:04 AM
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Firstly, a woman's confidence is not related to her lack of height. More that she feels less confident if she is too tall. I have never in my life hear a guy say ' I do not want this woman she is only 5'2,8 stone and looks up at me'. Ever. It's perfectly natural that women want taller guys. They like looking up to a man. They sure as heck don't want to be looking down on him. The guys you see with women who are much taller are usually exceptional men i.e. Rock stars and the like. But the idea th…
/r/askTRP25/11/19 07:42 AM
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There is nothing wrong at all with an otherwise loving husband having bits on the side. That's the alpha style of cheating. Doing it because you're an indecisive pussy who can't 'choose' between two women is pathetic. Of course, when women cheat its always it's Because you're not good enough so you always drop her. Unless a guy has got a penchant for sloppy seconds in that case the cuck sub is that way 🔝
/r/askTRP24/11/19 09:29 AM
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I'm actually going to give advice here that I'd give anyone- male OR female- who wants to turn a 'FWB' into a LTR when the other person isn't keen- FORGET IT. If you are both single why aren't you actually dating and not 'just' FWB? There seems to be a idea here that you can suddenly feel romantic towards a girl you're just hanging out with and banging- that's retarded. Now there ain't anything WRONG with feeling lovely dovey towards a female but it's how you DEAL with it that matters ie like a …
/r/askTRP24/11/19 08:21 AM
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Best answer. You are clearly a prized male if you're that upfront AND they still hang around and because you know your own mind, probably are not a mean-spirited bitch when it comes to saying goodbye. You leave them with fond memories.
/r/askTRP23/11/19 11:05 AM
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Well he's certified autistic ( not obviously so and good looking guy ) so no offence to autists but they ainn't normal so I just think he was having some kind of a crisis when they broke up. She OTOH is just reacting like a normal woman and using this as an opportunity to fuck HIM over/revenge. It's not nice to do this to an autistic guy but it's his fault for being such a c*nt in the way he ended it. At the time, I witnessed the stuff he said and while I'm no white knight, I felt bad for her. H…
/r/askTRP22/11/19 03:19 PM
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Best thing you can do to avoid the guilt when you are no longer feeling it is to act with compassion. THIS is an occasion where being beta is best way. You need to be kind and let them down gently. This is no time for nasty comments or jerk behaviour. Actually beta/ weak men can be the biggest bitches there are when it comes to breaking up with a chick, whereas alphas owing to mastery of their emotions know how to handle things and don't take it out on the girl. True story: a friend of mine dump…
/r/askTRP22/11/19 07:46 AM
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No woman accidentally keeps a baby. I feel sorry for those who are mentally retarded/raped who get pregnant, but ALL else is blatant manipulation on the 'mother's' part to entrap a guy who otherwise would not want her. Obviously, IF actually in a ltr/ marriage it would be totally reasonable for partner to get pregnant but otherwise? No. Manipulation- pure and simple. Best thing to do with manipulative sluts is either manipulate them better or refuse, refuse, refuse, to wife them up. Co-parent if…
/r/askTRP19/11/19 01:22 PM
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I think where the trp part comes in here is the wisdom of doing stuff with a fwb that people do while in a relationship. Going away on weekends together is relationship type activity. Because it is clear that she is interested in him as more than fwb. She may pay now but he'll pay later when the bawling over 'I thought we were something more!!' starts from her. Not worth it. I totally agree soft nexting is stupid. He should just come up with an excuse not to go.
/r/askTRP19/11/19 10:55 AM
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Bad idea. You risk entering relationship territory by stealth. She obviously digs you a lot- don't kid yourself she wants to be just a plate if she's suggested this. I always think that IF you really like somebody (goes for both men and women) you date from the off. Difference is blue pill men go all in while red pill men date very, very carefully. There's nothing wrong with feeling strong romantic pull towards a woman at all if you are red pill but it's how you deal with that that matters. She'…
/r/askTRP19/11/19 07:55 AM
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Of course not. Go find yourself a landwhale, spectacle-wearing but intellectual single mom then see how worthless you seem to other chicks. Lol. Dump her if she gets on your nerves, but frankly, you're also being a bit autistic retard yourself by thinking this an an issue as regards your smv. You think having Marilyn Monroe* lowered JFK's smv?! Now I am not saying that you are retarded- don't get me wrong- but the question sure is. Probably not that dumb but appeared that way.
/r/askTRP19/11/19 06:20 AM
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Whatever happens, don't rush into 'wifing' her up because of this. Truth is women ( I am assuming she is not mentally retarded in some way) do NOT accidentally keep a baby. You were moronic to not use protection but she's the one with full control here. If you want to support her and the kid, do so but be in no hurry to move in. You ARE being manipulated already! Accidental pregnancy. Pfft...You.say she's in love with you! No accident. Once she realises that you will NOT be a couple, AND you sti…
/r/askTRP18/11/19 08:01 AM
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Well it's not going to lower it that's for sure. There's no straightforward answer to this one. If it makes you more confident generally then that can only raise your smv. If you're highly qualified but still a gibbering wreck, then no. Many a guitar playing bum with reasonable good looks gets hot girls in his 20s but finds at 30 the hot girls don't want to know and in desperation to not live in squalor/ at home finds himself in the 'loving' arms of a fat single mom. Unless a guy is exceptionall…
/r/askTRP18/11/19 07:45 AM
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Look there's so many holes here in your argument I genuinely don't have the time to point them out right now but, suffice to say, IF you are a 'god' like figure smart enough to pull this off you won't WANT a ltr. You'll want to have a harem. There's so many 'ifs' here. It's like 'yeah I could just get in my car and drive to the supermarket but IF I buy a lottery ticket I might be able to buy a helicopter to take me there.' Just take the car. Lol. I like your inventiveness but don't let it stop y…
/r/askTRP17/11/19 09:30 AM
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It only works if guy is allowed other women, NOT the woman allowed other men. Because the smarter of the fairer sex won't take it personally. Once your woman has SEX with another guy (key point here) be it dishonestly or honestly, the relationship is dead. They know on some level that it is truly disgusting to any man with self-esteem to lick a private part that another man has been inside earlier in the day. She won't WANT to cheat if she values you, don't you get that? With respect, you're try…
/r/askTRP17/11/19 08:42 AM
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No it's not a good option. Women who cheat do it because of lack of respect for you/boredom/ hate. Men usually do it for sex only and may be no reflection on his wife. I think you do not yet fully appreciate how different men and women are.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:22 AM
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You know that anytime a woman cheats, you dump. You know that a man can have side chicks and this may have nothing to do with his wife ( this is why the smarter wives stay). You know that when a woman cheats it is always-ALWAYS- a sign of lack of respect for you thus you end it. And THIS is what separates the men from the boys: a red pill man knows that things will get worse if he forgives his wife as forgiving such a disgusting thing will make her lose even more respect. So he suffers short ter…
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:06 AM
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Women THINK they want to control you but, as soon as they do, they hate you for it. You really need to get out of the binary alpha/beta mindset, though. I'll give you an example to illustrate my point. A friend of mine is a mix of alpha/beta traits. To an objective observer, this is obvious. Meets fat single mom who in HER head is alpha (she either could not see the beta traits or ignored them). At first, they are 'drinking buddies' (his words, not mine) and fwbs, she gets pregnant. He gets all …
/r/askTRP16/11/19 09:45 AM
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First off, 'alpha' describes behaviours/ traits than an actual men (Rollo Tomassi). Most men are a mix of alpha and beta. But IF a woman has built you up in her head as alpha, and through devious ways has got you to commit -e.g. 'accidental' pregnancy, you had better bloody be alpha and one step ahead of her. Always. Women are crazy when it comes to what THEY perceive as alpha. They lock him down but here's the thing: ONCE he's locked down and he submits, they HATE it. Most of them loathe themse…
/r/askTRP15/11/19 07:47 AM
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It's easier. Making decisions can be difficult for them. Hormonal? Possibly. At certain times of the month, you'll notice them be quite decisive but unlike men this is not their constant state. You utilise this by leading. Think of it as leading and not dominating as that word gets mixed up with abusive connotations. Example: Girl says she is going home to spend night with parents (she lives alone) not you but can't cos of reputation and other b. s. You say when dropping her off. 'OK. Give me a …
/r/askTRP14/11/19 05:31 AM
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This is not about evil. Or about good or bad. This is just taking a cool look at female nature. What type of guy would get back with a woman purely to dump her again? A sadist. Sadists have no need for the red pill!! And that's another reason not to get back with an ex; sooner or later you might get fed up again. And how are they going to feel about being dumped again?
/r/askTRP12/11/19 05:52 AM
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This is actually one of the saddest posts I've read here. I am of the opinion that good parents want their kids to flourish. Please, please get out and on with one life.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 05:40 AM
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An friend of mine broke up with a girlfriend 20 years ago. He is mentally ill and has been all his life. That's abundantly clear now to everybody who knows him. He bumps into old girlfriend and they begin an affair. Her husband is either beta in letting them be 'friends' again or just doesn't give a f***. My friend is in a very bad place, he is vulnerable and scared. The affair's been going on two years. She has told him she plans to leave her husband, friend's even offered her a spare room as s…
/r/askTRP11/11/19 11:30 AM
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Yep. They'll never forgive you for dumping them. Ever. You can give them a perfectly reasonable explanation for it: nothing to do with her , you had issues etc but now you want to try again that may even make sense to them, however, emotionally you will always be resented and the egotistical need for revenge against you will always be present.
/r/askTRP11/11/19 10:08 AM
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You broke it off with her? That's all I need to know. They NEVER forgive you for this. The female ego won't allow it. It doesn't matter if you broke it off because it was about you, not her, that you were having a breakdown of sorts and you lived like a depressed monk for a year post break-up, it doesn't matter if SHE realises this as truth in her head, her emotions will not accept it. You dumped her. That's all that matters. They won't be happy until you're on your knees. Scrap that. Her need f…
/r/askTRP11/11/19 10:01 AM
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And whatever you do, don't befriend a woman who you are not attracted to. She WILL be attracted to you. You'll be drinking one night as 'buddies' and suddenly she's not that unattractive and oops she's pregnant!! Don't be a fucking idiot.
/r/askTRP11/11/19 09:26 AM
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No I don't think so. The only scenario would be if you'd HAD a sexual relationship which ended cause one of you went to college or whatever and kept in contact now and again AND you were both happy in other relationships. ALL these conditions would need to be met. What's the odds of that?! Maybe then a friendship of sorts could commence. A friend of mine-at an extremely low point- bumped into an old girlfriend he'd dumped 15 years previously. He trusted her, overshared everything about himself. …
/r/askTRP11/11/19 08:52 AM
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This depends. First off, a guy's alphaness depends on the woman's view of him. Not you or I's. If he is the very best she thinks she can do, and underneath his coolness he is just a man child who got with her cos mommy issues, she WILL hate him when he appears beta. She will feel robbed/fooled. She will play up /throw shit tests left right and centre in the vain hope that he will show some balls again and like an idiot he will give in. When it's at this point he should Not (NOT!!) give in. Makin…
/r/askTRP06/11/19 09:43 AM
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Slept on it. On one hand it's best to let it be, in the other, somebody made valid point about family issues. From a red pill perspective, what are the odds of it NOT being his kid? I think good chance. There is nowhere else in a bp world to ask this. How to approach it anyway? I'm the only other person outside the fiasco who knows this. I cannot believe he's never considered this but he is not normal!
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:35 AM
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My opinion is that his now ex- gf and his best friend NEVER stopped banging. He was cool and aloof and She carried on the sex with other guy for validation and some warped revenge for them 'only' being fwb UNTIL she got pregnant. You're right; I care for him but why spoil his delusion? Let's face it, if he had any sense he wouldn't have made a sloot and the guy she was cheating with his girlfriend and bestfriend, anyway.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 04:58 PM
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There's no chadlightenment: only the realisation that women are all the same and that if one fucks off you either don't give a shit or find another. In other words, independence mentally or abundance mentality. The only way to happiness regarding women. With respect, your post suggests neither.
/r/askTRP02/11/19 02:38 PM
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Yeah. Lol. It's like he found a beta provider in her after his 'pussy carousel' years. And I thought it was only WOMEN who did this!!
/r/askTRP01/11/19 04:43 PM
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You shouldn't. You cannot demote a ltr to a plate: you cannot magically erase the past. It's folly to think a woman will take demotion well. She may act cool but will be seething inside. You are just opening yourself up to future trouble. More importantly, why when there are other women out there?
/r/askTRP01/11/19 04:32 PM
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Definitely possible. Dominant mother, submissive father. Actually, these girls are the biggest sluts and absolutely epitomize af/bb. Girls brought up in an environment where there's alpha behaviour tend not to so slutty. Can you imagine what a turn on it must be for those girls brought up with submissive men to hear a guy say no? Whereas girls brought up with dominant men usually want one guy who teases them and knows the score. Bear in mind though that alpha/ beta are personality traits and beh…
/r/askTRP26/10/19 06:10 AM
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During college I worked for a spell as an auxiliary nurse in a psychiatric hospital. An absolute education in how little people care about each other. I mean I was paid to care but I'm talking about so-called family and friends. My tip is to socialise and be kind to others if you can but don't take friendship too seriously. Better to have 20 acquaintances who you help out and vice versa than one so-called friend. It's naff as fuck, anyway, the notion of ' best friends' in men. That shit's for wo…
/r/askTRP25/10/19 05:22 AM
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There's nothing at all wrong with that in itself. In fact, it's the way it should be. Women ARE supposed to pair bond at that age when they are young. It's probably true that they'll move on but you've no way of knowing if it's true or not. Just wish them well and move on. You don't seem to have much abundance mentality of you're trying to get with taken women, anyway. Why bother yourself with this phenomenon otherwise?
/r/askTRP24/10/19 06:36 AM
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True but mentioning men cheat is a non sequitur. If a man cheats, it may NOT be any reflection on how he feels about his main relationship. It's emptying his balls, pure and simple. Smart women with an otherwise good husband will forgive adultery for this reason. Women who cheat always-lways!!! -have lost respect for their man and all kinds of shit flows from that. F*** love. Love in a woman is a fickle thing. It's her RESPECT you need to maintain. Some men do this through fear; others through j…
/r/askTRP22/10/19 06:54 AM
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BETA or males who are defective in some way never control their relationships.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 05:56 AM
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Absolutely.
/r/askTRP18/10/19 11:38 AM
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What you're describing as an alpha female is the blue pill, feminist definition i.e. behaving like a man. A TRUE alpha female is one that is beautiful and young. Her career or her ability to shoot her mouth off and have balls like a man is NOT part of the equation. Personally, I think a man being passive is not the best situation for him to be in - especially when Ms 'Hear me roar' has had enough and moved on to more alpha cock that doesn't put up with her shit or taken your beta bottom to the c…
/r/askTRP18/10/19 11:36 AM
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But why don't they ALL claim abuse then? Much as I believe in the red pill, not all women claim abuse. What's so 'special' about the failed relationships where false accusations are made?
/r/askTRP18/10/19 07:59 AM
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Those who DO drive a car until the wheels fall off do so because they usually cannot afford another car. Just as those who continue with same woman who has ALREADY let them down have no other female options. Or life options - I know of an attractive but autistic guy who is stuck with a single mother hambeast because of his condition. The entire idea of driving a wreck you know is faulty is absurd when you've other vehicles! Taking back a woman who has dumped you previously doesn't make her more …
/r/askTRP18/10/19 05:25 AM
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You're blunt and not sugar coating it but probably accurate just the same. Unless he is widowed of course. It's probably that he has money/she has daddy issues. Good on her for realising that her youth is limited, though. Not many women have that insight.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 01:22 PM
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To be clear, I'm not just talking about good-looking guys with average looking girls here- that happens a lot and that's not really strange. I mean good looking guys with really obese, ugly girls that are like that when they FIRST meet! They're clearly mentally ill. Lack balls? Need a replacement mommy that they know will be grateful and not abandon them? Usually the case. Such guys are analogous to women in this regard. Get good looking girls when in 20s ('alpha' girls) then settle on a much, m…
/r/askTRP28/09/19 02:57 PM
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A few non sequitirs here. Nobody is saying that having a hot woman under 25 is the SOLE reason of a man's existence at all, however, there is clearly something deeply, deeply wrong with a man who picks way below his SMV and it's obviously so. I mean a man who is an 8 picking a 4 - he's obviously plagued with mommy issues or whatnot. Of course women age but to pick one that is way way below your smv when you FiRST meet is a clear sign of mental illness.
/r/askTRP28/09/19 08:02 AM
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Because they DON'T 'have it all', do they? Superficially they do but clearly there's something amiss with them. Mommy issues, fucked up childhood, who knows? Things that make them go against the natural order of things. Once knew a guy who was good-looking; tall, blond- real male model material if he'd worked at it- ended up with ugly, single mom hambeast. Why on why? You'd think. Once you got to know him guy had fucked up childhood coupled with deep need for a mommy replacement.I You're not loo…
/r/askTRP28/09/19 07:24 AM
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While I agree that there should be a firm date of marriage in future while cohabiting, I think the dead on 6 months rule is perhaps not meant to be taken that literally. What about 8 months? The point is, I think, that there should be a firm commitment and not just sliding into it. Many a man ( or to be fair women too) end up living together in an airy fairy way and oops she gets pregnant also it's hard to extricate from the slow build up of stuff that comes with cohabitation without being reall…
/r/askTRP26/09/19 11:27 AM
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I will add that it's not just about her or you. We don't exist in a vacuum from other people. You don't know what her SO is like. It's possible that he's mostly alpha too but no longer alpha enough. No man is completely alpha or beta. Which would be good because if he found out he may just leave you alone and move on. But what if he's 99% beta and buys her story of you being the bad guy who turned her head? Also, don't underestimate societal disapproval of men who 'steal' other men's women. We l…
/r/askTRP26/09/19 05:21 AM
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With the focus here on not being beta (rightly so) it is easy to forget that it's possible to be too alpha. Simply put, a woman needs comfort too. You don't have to be all romantic in a beta hearts and flowers sort of way. Tease her gently. Be silly in a ' nice jerk' sort of way. She'll love it. Being too cold causes them to become withdrawn and miserable. Seen many a relationship fail because man just too masculine i.e. cold and logical. The idea that a man has to be hardass constantly is nonse…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 07:17 PM
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Yes romantic involvement will make other women think that there must be something amiss with you even if you are superficially alpha. Also, having a woman MUCH less attractive than you are can be downright dangerous for you for SHE will also think there's something wrong with you, too, (she's right) and look down on you. (I feel a bit bad about writing this but weight IS not the same as butterface- it can be controlled.) Be prepared for massive strops when other women say as much as say 'hi' to …
/r/askTRP18/09/19 10:50 AM
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Jealousy IS good but it has to be just the right amount. A woman who is indifferent to other women paying attention to you has checked out. Indeed, a lot of them actually WANT their man to cheat. Seriously, they do. It makes divorce easier. Too much, though, is poison. It indicates that SHE believes her smv is MUCH lower than your's. So it will go like this: 'Why's he with me? I must be really special/he must be retarded/mental in some way'. She will feel superior and the backlash will start... …
/r/askTRP18/09/19 05:18 AM
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Yes. SMV is only part of a man. If say you're a man who has good looks, charm etc but in a bad place for some reason and you take the easy way out of letting a woman of say MUCH lower smv to take care of you, then she will feel that she is invincible and start playing up. She will come to view you as a loser for being with her; why would a man who is say an 8 be with a 4? This is why it is important not just to be a superficial alpha- cocky, arrogant and funny on outside but screw up on inside.
/r/askTRP15/09/19 07:31 AM
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Quite a bit to unpick here but I'll start off by saying that male cheating is not the same as female cheating. The phrase bit on the side can be literally taken as just that: a guy is content with his meal but just wants something to spice things up. Like ketchup on fries. So it's perfectly reasonable that a man can live his wife and cheat. But it is NEVER the same for a woman: a woman who cheats is giving a big ' fuck you' to the man's she's with. She's saying the meal itself is no longer to he…
/r/askTRP14/09/19 12:11 PM
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If a football team is in the Premier League is it pleased to be relegated to a lower division? Of course not. A woman is not happy with this demotion either. Why hang as plates when there are other options for her to someone's number one. Being fwb sucks for a woman if she is really into a guy. So she must really want to be boyfriend/girlfriend again. Watch out for 'accidental' pregnancies.
/r/askTRP14/09/19 08:38 AM
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Putting aside YOUR morality for a moment, if she has sex with you then she is a proven liar. Therefore may make up allegations of rape act of caught. So so many single guys convince themselves that their married woman is a nice girl. One guy I know has been having an affair with married woman for a year, but he says it is not sordid! A while year of sneaking behind her husband's back and she's STILL a nice girl that he can make his confidante/ depend upon. He needs to wake the f*** up. He's eith…
/r/askTRP14/09/19 08:09 AM
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My reply's tongue in cheek and obviously there has to be a spark as well as recommended good qualities to even TRY a relationship in the proper manner. But sometimes what guys call a spark just means they get off on being treated badly. Not necessarily case with opening poster, of course. Guess I just riffed on that.
/r/askTRP13/09/19 04:26 PM
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I think you should dump her and go out and find the nearest 20 stone, 'strident' single mother welfare queen ( herself from a broken home) you can (blue hair optional but always desirable-and don't forget the tatts.) Accidentally knock her up while drunk, give up your job, move in with her, and patiently wait until your smv plummets bit by cheeto-driven bit and you are dependent on her for everything. Thoroughly enjoy the sparks that are created while she returns from her umpteenth 'girls' night…
/r/askTRP13/09/19 03:09 PM
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In my experience, it's not that guys with autistic tendencies CAN'T attract women- many have qualities that make them stand out. Always a bonus. They tend to be very logical and don't worry like a beta does about social nuances. They say what they think, call people out on what they see as injustice. Calling out a woman in bad behaviour turns them on. Especially when nobody else is due to beta diplomacy etc. For example, a lot of autistic guys are non-plussed by women's more manipulative behavio…
/r/askTRP13/09/19 09:17 AM
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It depends on HOW they got the money. For a man to make serious money, he has to have self-assurance, be different in some way (good musician, businessman etc) confidence and take risks- very attractive qualities in a guy. If, however, he's some average beta Joe who wins the lotto then It's safe to say the sex is transactional. Now some might say that this doesn't matter as long as they are getting laid which is fair enough but it won't be mutual desire.
/r/askTRP13/09/19 07:53 AM
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You can't restart a relationship with a woman and erase your past with her as if it never happened. Women never ever forget. Lip service will be paid and she will be cool but it's not real. Friend of mine who is in a low point has got back with an ex. Made her his confidante and emotionally dependent on her. He dumped her 20 (twenty!!) years ago. It's a clean slate to him but you can get your ass it is not to her. He continues being the beta wreck he has become ( still alpha in her eyes but I ca…
/r/askTRP12/09/19 07:02 AM
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He's always found it easy to get them as he is good-looking, irreverent and a bit different but underneath he has no clue. A weird mix of naivety and arrogance. Surely even the most beta would have reservations over getting involved with an ex.? But she is sweet and lovely in his eyes. He hasn't a clue.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 06:03 PM
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So not only has he made the mistake of: A, Oversharing B, Being emotionally dependent But with an ex, too! Who let's face it even if she started with 'good' intentions may begin to hate him for being a 'false' alpha, too. She's probably sick of hearing about the ,'later' ex, too. He should have just shuttup about it. Or say something bland like 'mistakes on both sides' and left it at that It's entirely probable that even if she WASN'T going into this with revenge on mind, she is now.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 05:20 PM
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Can't argue about that. But, regardless, he has helped me in past and he deserves my loyalty. I know he is just making things worse.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 04:14 PM
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Will you please elaborate? Studying RP and even if not for RP I would have an instinctive reaction of ' hell no!!'. Way I see it there's at least three glaring errors he's made with this woman but interested in others' views.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 04:10 PM
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The reason why I've been able to articulate this so succinctly is that I've got a friend who is behaviorally purple pill. He is highly intelligent, good-looking but when you really get to know him quite autistic. Because of this, he is what I call a 'paper alpha'. Being autistic, he says what he thinks, stands out from the crowd, irreverent, appears confident and is good-looking. Catnip to women. But, being autistic, he also has no understanding of them. So this woman gets her claws into him. Co…
/r/askTRP07/09/19 05:06 AM
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To add to earlier comment: don't learn the hard way how much sheer contempt women have for men who tolerate being cuckolded. Not just your girlfriend, but all women who hear that a man has tolerated that. The difference is that 'all' women won't harm you, while your girlfriend will up the ante and her behaviour will get worse. She won't be grateful you've forgiven her. Far from it. And you're suffering from scarcity mentality, too. Statistically speaking, she is not the only good lay out there. …
/r/askTRP06/09/19 08:00 AM
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This is the problem with being purple pill. A deluded blue piller would just forgive and forget and in his own way be happy. A red piller would say 'fuck it' , dump and go looking for fresh. Again, happy in his own way. You're currently in limbo. Because the obvious answer from a red pill perspective is to dump and move on. It's not about how much you like to fuck her. Once you let a woman get away with you tolerating having another man's cock in her, she WILL feel empowered to do ANYTHING, no m…
/r/askTRP06/09/19 07:16 AM
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Well now that is excellent advice from a Machiavellian perspective and truly cannot be faulted on that level but he has 'morals and shit'. So he should stop being a pussy and learn how to say no to this cute puppy of a girl for HIS own good.
/r/askTRP06/09/19 07:05 AM
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Just tell her it's not working for you as it's long distance, let her cry for a bit, and walk out the door. This gives her the perfect 'it's the situation NOT me' reason to feel better when she calms down. And that's the truth anyway and sometimes you can be straight up honest with a woman and get a mutually agreeable result. That is, you get out of it and she doesn't turn into a fruitloop because it's the situation NOT her. Not every interaction with a woman has to be a chess move. I think you …
/r/askTRP06/09/19 06:46 AM
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Yeah dump her. That's what you can do.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 09:59 AM
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Unless he is gay, he clearly has some romantic/sexual interest in her and she him. It's a one-on-one date between a man and a woman. The lunch thing is just a subterfuge to make it look more innocent and offer plausible deniability. Why alone, OP? Why not just hang out with a group of their colleagues? This is how blue-pill guys get cucked. An innocent lunch date, a later in the day date, dinner. And then it's 'Oh come on. You know Chad and I have a friendship now! Why can't I go to this overnig…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 09:58 AM
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It's actually worse than being blue pill. Known a lot of purple pillers; they're nowhere. At least blue pillers have a chance of ending up with something: nice house, frumpy but know-her-value wife, kids. Purple pillers know just enough to get laid by hot girls by pulling the correct moves but no clue what to do with relationships. So they come across as simultaneously bastardish and stupid when it comes down to it. Be a nice blue pill guy or a smart red pill guy who some would regard as a cleve…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 06:47 AM
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No. To add to all the good advice here, it could be used against you at a later date. Say you've got an ex who for whatever reason you fancy getting back with, so you dump current girlfriend to go back to her. Don't forget that even the seemingly nice timid ones can be mean when dumped. Last thing you need is her revealing all that intimate 'special' stuff that you did with the video camera back to her out of spite. Or spreading rumours about you. Really, keep your mouth shut. Women be bitches w…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 02:02 PM
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The less you say in any situation is a good thing imo! But piece of advice: never ever bitch/reveal information other than trivial stuff about exes to a date. For example : ' My ex liked Slipnot' is fine. 'My ex made me tell her I loved her more than anyone else' is not. Women can be seriously bitchy when dumped. You don't want your business spread about. You're just giving her ammo when you really don't need to. And the thing is the girls you feel you can open up to - understanding, quiet types…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:37 PM
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There's always the genuinely heroic single mother whose ex was a shit but most of them are there as result of bad choices. But it's not about THEM, it's about you. Why on earth would any man with options saddle himself with the offspring of another man's orgasm when there are better options? It's like You can take from a pile of gold or a pile of shit that may have some good in it if you look hard enough. Which pile do you take from? And if they're a single mother with kids by more than one fath…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 10:38 AM
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Also remember word gets around. You forgive this and those in your social circle will forever have you pegged as a chump/weak/cuckold/pushover. The relationship will stumble along until she ups the ante and eventually she breaks it off because SHE is thoroughly disgusted with your tolerance of her shit. You get with an attractive girl, you tell her you tolerated being cucked or word gets to her. Instant turn-off.I Doesn't matter how jacked, charming you are, a timid little beta who DOES actually…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 09:22 AM
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Once a woman is cheating, planning to cheat you dump her. Simple as that. It is a clear, unequivocal sign that she has gone off you and no longer loves you because she knows that it will hurt you badly. It is one of those situations where you have to pick the lesser of two evils. Sure you will miss her but she WILL lose any respect for you if you take her back having had another man's cock in her. So you choose temporary misery over a lifetime of viciousness, shit tests and downright depravity. …
/r/askTRP04/09/19 08:33 AM
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Women definitely develop sexuality as a survival technique. Maybe not related to your specific example of the streets but I witnessed this in action a few days ago. Single mother has failed through bad time management to write an essay for her college course. Goes to bar where she knows there is a guy who likes to boast how clever he is, pulls the damsel in distress card, is mildly flirtatious and gets him to agree to write this essay while he is drunk. Bold as brass, she shows up at his house a…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 06:44 AM
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Good answer.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 08:01 AM
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