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See a lawyer. Without a prenup you might be screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 01:50 AM
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Most courts have a “self-help” department where they will guide you through the forms.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 10:09 PM
13

I had wild success dating after divorce. In hindsight I was way out of my wife’s league based upon the women I dated afterwards.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 09:27 PM
1

Exactly. Feminism is the greatest thing to happen to men. Men got liberated from the duty to provide for women when they got liberated to enter the workforce.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 04:08 PM
1

I don’t get married anymore. I learned the first time. But, if I’m in a relationship now I make sure they pay their way. Women work now and are “strong and independent.”
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:43 PM
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100%. No sex means you’re just roommates who don’t get along.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:30 PM
6

Document it. When you have to repaint and lay new flooring down make sure the cost to do so is part of the settlement.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:16 PM
2

I would just so it’s public record.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:08 PM
5

Then file for full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 04:07 AM
1

You mean go up to him and tell her what a great catch she is?
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 03:18 PM
1

48 Laws of Power
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 05:03 AM
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next time she does it go up to the guy and, right in front of her, tell the guy “I’m her STBXH. Call me and I’ll let you know what you’re getting into.”
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 05:00 AM
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Don’t blunt your long term care over a temporary situation. Think about it like compound interest.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 12:11 AM
2

He took all of the old vids down from his original channel and hasn't added them all to the FAL channel. I asked him via Superchat.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 10:23 PM
6

I was about to mention the same. He used to have a better version up so now you can only find his old school white board version.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 08:56 PM
0

Not OP. But, you might as well ask if ice cream is supposed to be cold.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 03:34 PM
2

They work well as casual play things on their non-custodial days.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 02:58 PM
11

Agreed. I had a LTR with a divorced mom. I have kids, too. Ultimately, it was the kids that was the undoing of the relationship. You will be expected to care for them while not having any authority over them.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:06 PM
19

If you date her just understand that you will be the least-important person in her life.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:04 PM
1

That's how you have to think. She was a chapter in the book of your life. You've passed that chapter and a new one is coming up.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 07:44 PM
2

It sounds like you had some good times with her. Remember, you weren't her first or last. She was never yours. It was just your turn.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 07:40 PM
2

Well, at least you know you're the problem. She is probably already sucking another cock.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 07:28 PM
4

It's a decision. You fill your mind with other shit. Find a new girlfriend if you want.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 05:33 AM
8

I think you said it all, brother. r/againstmatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 07:19 PM
8

Just keep her out of your mind. She no longer deserves your mental headspace.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 06:16 PM
2

How about just don't talk, or give personal info, to random strangers you don't have a relationship with? Internet 101 shit here. I mod a sub at r/AgainstMatrimony. I've talked, on the phone, with the main mod and we still keep it light. Btw, hit up our sub for reasons why men should not get married today.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 06:14 PM
1

Never forfeit BJs. Suss that out early like I do. I usually get a solid BJ on the second date. Full sex on the third. If you are going past those numbers you're letting her simp you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 01:43 PM
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I can use porn and be done in 5 minutes or I can think about that chick I fucked in high school and take 20. What's better? More research here is needed. Btw, she was a great lay and I bet she rubs one out to me still. If only I told you that story.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 01:41 PM
1

It's written into the FRCP here.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 03:15 PM
1

A lot of states, mine included, mandate CS until 18 or graduation from HS. If not graduated by 19 they end there. But, they end at graduation if already 18. If they graduate at 17 you still pay until they're 18.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 06:39 AM
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Not my divorce. But, my ex-LTR who was a lush. Once I broke up with her a lot of the stress and friction went out of my life, along with her having alcohol around and drinking all the time, so I just began drinking a lot less. I'm now almost fully sober and feel great. My kids are much happier with me now.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 04:20 PM
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I went through similar. Our situation was that my ex and I both came from broken homes and we agreed to break the cycle. Well, after we had children she threw it all to the wind and wanted to go party again. She didn't give a shit, all of a sudden, about how a broken family would negatively affect our kids. Typical solipsistic narcissistic.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 08:04 AM
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If you have a lawyer then use them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 08:02 AM
3

This is silly. A cuck is a guy who lets his wife sleep with other men.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 07:57 AM
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Scientific literature says men who orgasm less than 21 times a month are at higher risk for prostate cancer. Use it or lose it. https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 07:53 AM
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That's dating a single parent. It's why I don't recommend it nor do I participate in it myself. Stand firm. Let her know you won't roll over.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 01:19 PM
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Welcome. r/againstmatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 06:27 AM
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I always said yes and what it ended up being was her destroying my post-divorce life. I would say yes. If I asked her to do that she'd say, "it's your day. Figure it out." What a cunt.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 01:11 AM
1

Haven't decided yet. SE Asia is fluid. Somewhere in the Golden Triangle. Might go somewhere lesser known like Laos.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 12:16 AM
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Sounds like it's working fine as long as you don't commingle finances. Draft up a cohabitation agreement. Neither of you are going to file for a modification of custody if you are living together. Do not remarry her. Why would you? Also, no child support should be paying by, or to, either of you since you live together with the kids. That's the only thing I would seek to change. If I was paying her CS while we are all still playing house that would be patently unfair.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 11:53 PM
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They definitely tend to go wild now that they're "free" and also since they've usually disconnected from their husband months, or years, before actually filing for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 09:32 PM
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He's probably helping her with the bills. As for your confidence goes... get in shape, eat and sleep well, take up outdoor hobbies, and go ravage the ladies.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 05:25 AM
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She's probably getting wrecked in gangbangs post-divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 05:23 AM
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Single for the past 5 years. Focusing on my own life, stacking cash, and moving overseas within 3-4 years is the goal.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 10:29 AM
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She wasn't yours. It was just your turn. The best lessons in life are hard and expensive.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 10:10 AM
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I worked through it by being a single father, working out, mountain biking, building a new community, etc. The rest took care of itself. No "therapy."
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 11:53 PM
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I didn't. You didn't. The spouse who divorces cannot remarry. The divorced spouse is free to. Learn how to read scripture. I spent decades on it. And, don't use the NLT. It's the most watered-down translation ever to make it palatable to modern culture. I'm surprised it doesn't say, "sucking dick is not adultery."
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 08:45 PM
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If she makes 2.5x you then go for alimony AND custody. Your kids need a father. She'll probably end up paying CS, too. You'll be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 01:43 PM
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Congrats on the sobriety. I gave up a drinking a while ago, too. Major good life decision. You have the lawyer. Forcing the sale of the house will get you 50% of the equity so you'll have money to move on. Most important thing is getting custody so she can't withhold your kids from you. They need a dad.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 01:37 PM
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Get a lawyer, 50/50 custody, force the sale of the house, and move on. You can't start over until you do this.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 01:21 PM
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You need confidence. Just hit the gym, eat well, take up outside hobbies, make new friends, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 01:20 PM
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Your first wife fucked you up mentally and now you have attachment issues. Took me 3 years after divorce to start dating and, once I did, I was with women that outclassed my ex in every way. Take your time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 12:57 PM
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Meanwhile, he's just having fun with a single mom and will bounce when she asks for any type of serious commitment unless he has kids himself. Seen it way too many times.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 12:46 PM
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Exactly. Once the bills pile up she likely will.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 12:45 PM
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Maybe we have to give cheating women some more respect.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 05:41 AM
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Avoid the papers and get an attorney in place first. Let him know you're getting served. He will get ahead of this thing way faster than you will and it has to be dealt with. Once you retain him, and he files a Notice of Appearance then all service goes to him. Pay him to work.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 09:39 AM
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My ex wife went on mission trips, we moved to another city, she found a new guy and rode the CC. So, she had to abandon the faith, ghost all her friends and most family, to not be an adultereress (which I still call her from time to time because she remarried and made my sons bastards). I no longer believe. But, it's fun to say sometimes since she was so devout and comes from a devout family. Money and dick beat Jesus in their 30s 100% of the time 90% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 03:57 AM
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The Bible says not to divorce. If a person divorces the spouse they are not allowed to remarry or they are in adultery. The abandoned spouse may remarry. https://biblehub.com/bsb/1_corinthians/7.htm I'm no longer a believer as I think it's ancient wisdom that applied to the time. But, if you and her ascribe to it them those are the rules in your playbook. Who filed?
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 03:53 AM
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Appreciation, acts of service done happily and willingly. Enjoys your company. Eager and enthusiastic BJs are definitely a sure sign but not all woman enjoy that. But, in general, if she's happy to see you that's a good sign.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 03:10 AM
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Are you really surprised by this? It's the rare 10% of women that don't try to use the kids and weaponize time with them in order to clean your wallet out. File for 50/50 custody.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 11:22 AM
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That I could find another job.... despite it being lockdown pandemic because I had a lot of experience.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 02:33 AM
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When I got laid off during COVID they didn't adjust my support at all. Essentially I had to drain my retirement to keep paying and survive. I've bounced back and that layoff was a huge blessing in disguise. But, never underestimated the disadvantage of being a man in family court.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 11:14 PM
3

I'd fight for full custody based on her having a RSO as a boyfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 11:13 PM
2

Watch this. It will answer all of your questions. Divorce Corp.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 08:30 AM
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Don't give too many fucks about anything in life and you'll be happy. https://youtu.be/lz8sUiXAnbs?si=qjAo8LtVG6bXiOwJ
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 08:44 PM
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Clean diet, gym, no booze, plenty of sunshine/outdoor activities with fresh air will help.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:33 AM
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Don't worry. Your son will remember it and your ex will pay another way... diminished relationship with her son. But, if she already moved away across the country for some other dude it sounds like she won't care.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:27 AM
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Should've stopped paying any discretionary bills for her (cell phone, hair salon, shopping, etc) and spent that money on restaurants. Call 30 minutes before leaving work and pick up on the way home.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:56 AM
3

Be better off switching to water from DC. How big is this fig bar? Add some quality vitamins and electrolytes. Consider a fish oil supplement, too.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:54 AM
1

You don't need permission to record in public.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 10:17 PM
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My ex moved in with a guy within months and my kids would go to visit. She proceeded to have 4 different live-in dudes within 2 years.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 09:49 PM
3

People are crazy everywhere. You decided to put your dick in one. 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 08:49 AM
3

All she needs is your SSN. This is why gold bullion and crypto are king.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:56 AM
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Same with single moms. Nobody wants to jump into a ready-made family unless they missed their window of building their own. I was a single dad for years and had no shortage of interest. Some had kids and some didn't. A single father telegraphs to women that you are stable, responsible, loving, and reliable.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 12:03 AM
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If you want to date then you need to looksmax. Get in shape, groom, wardrobe, etc. I think it's all a waste of time. If it falls in my lap I'll take it. But, I'm not going out of my way to find it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 11:54 PM
2

YMMV. I was just at the corner store and this young (mid 20s) chick was eyeballing me. I'm almost 50. But, she was with her boyfriend 😂
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 11:46 PM
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I've learned that your money + a new dick usually takes priority to women over their children's well-being.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 07:03 AM
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Difficult spot. If no kids were involved I'd say to not go back. But, having children makes it a lot more complicated. You're going to have to put her on an accountability system with defined rules, markers of progress, etc. She will literally be on probation with you. In the meantime assume it won't work out and start making your exit plan. If she does live up to it then you can always abandon the exit plan. But, if you don't have one you could get caught with your pants down.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 08:07 PM
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File divorce. In your filing mention your suspected issue of her prior marriage. Take all of your shit and bounce. https://youtu.be/ABXtWqmArUU?si=gdNCZMIjlzgdsYbz
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 03:39 PM
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Well, that's called bigamy and it's a felony. So, not sure what your goal is here. If you aren't paying her child (mom) support or alimony then just divorce her and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 04:30 AM
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She doesn't know what state she "allegedly" got divorced in? The burden of proof is on her. Either way, sounds like you're walking away clean. Rejoice! Don't do shit. Move on with your life. If she comes back then fight that battle then. Right now you're in the driver's seat.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 01:38 AM
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Establish 50/50 on everything going in from the beginning. If she balks then she wants the comfort of his provision more than his company.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 09:52 AM
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Dating, period, is an expensive endeavor. And, single moms are bad endeavors multiplied by the number of kids they have. So, if female companionship is absolutely necessary for you then just know you'll be dropping fork loads of cash for the experience. And, it'll most likely end, too. Right now you should focus on yourself and your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 09:50 AM
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Better outcome than most. If I were you I'd have itemized all the expenses, loans you had to take, CS and alimony you paid, and ask for a larger sum over 6 months. You were in a favorable place to negotiate seeing as she was already losing. Especially document her degenerate lifestyle during those years with social media. Women just can't stay off it. But, either way, she beats the $100k's I've had to pay over a decade. Also, why no
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 03:24 AM
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We aren't here. Come on over. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:18 AM
2

If you go on a female-centric sub and tell them the truth they won't like it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:13 AM
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You pretend she doesn't exist. Don't let her continue to control you even after she's gone.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 01:11 AM
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She wasn't yours. It was just your turn.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 09:24 PM
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One and out for me. No way will I ever allow a woman that power and leverage over me again. You're signing your future away to her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 07:32 PM
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Why enter into a second contract (prenup) when you can just avoid the first contract (marriage) and quash the whole issue?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:39 AM
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https://www.fixfamilycourts.com/divorce-child-custody-blog/single-mother-home-statistics/
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 04:05 AM
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I struggle with this. Usually they will ask if anyone in the audience objects "or forever hold your peace." I certainly do object to men getting married.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 04:52 PM
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Probably BPD. $50 says she has a nose ring and tats.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 04:34 PM
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Ever thought about a surrogate? They won't have a mom, so to speak. But, if you get married they likely won't have much of a dad within a few years. Children do much better with a single father than a single mother. Statistics all lay this out. A surrogate is cheaper than a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 04:16 PM
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It's exactly correct. The problem is that women always backburer the husband as soon as children arrive. Also, if what she said is true, and it is, then why is she stupid?
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 03:14 AM
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She's upset her tactics aren't working on getting a response from the guy she probably screwed over so she's here to try and spew her venom here.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 12:55 AM
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I just have them read 2 verses. One in Isaiah and one in Mark. Both in the NWT.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 07:32 AM
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Yeah, JWs are so isolationist from "the world" and I feel the kids must be very lonely and feel left out of so much normal stuff kids do in childhood. I know a lot about The Watchtower B&TS. Fucked up bunch. Glad you were able to get out and hopefully, as you said, you can break the cycle. It's all BS anyway. They keep changing the info in the WT and Awake magazines because all of their end of the world predictions didn't come true which makes them false prophets. So, they had to rewrite their o…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 03:57 PM
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💯 And, god forbid you have something else planned you wanted to do and a full argument ensues, coupled with the silent treatment and pouting, etc. Then, if by chance, you have a day open, like Sunday, where you just want to relax and watch football or something,she'll inevitably drag you out to brunch for a $35 omelet while she has endless mimosas.... on your dime, of course.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 03:51 PM
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When you have them on your time just take them outside and do memorable things with them. Beats knocking on doors.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 05:12 AM
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I'd stay mum about the divorce if she isn't aware of it, move your family to the other state, get settled, then divorce if you still want to. If the divorce is only in your head, and not hers, you have time to do this and set yourself up for a good outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 01:45 AM
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Same. But, my refusal to leave led to her getting me arrested on a false DV charge and a TRO keeping me out. It was eventually dismissed. But, the process and cost to get it dismissed was harsh. Of course, nothing happened to her for filing a false police report or perjuring herself.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 01:08 AM
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ROFR usually has a timeframe attached to it. Such as if she'll be unable to exercise her time for 24, 48, or 72hrs or more.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 01:07 AM
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Yeah. My divorce is far away in the rear view mirror. But, in the first 6 months I hit the gym hard and got in the best shape of my life. I started playing sports again and all kinds of shit I shelved sue to marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 01:03 AM
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Truth. Every time I walk out of the gym it's like I won another small victory. And, they build upon each other to the point where your confidence and spirits are lifted. If OP levels up his kids will notice and start giving him the respect he deserves. Respect is earned from kids as they get older. You can't demand it like when they are little.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 12:58 AM
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Seriously. Once I got to the point where I realized that doing my own thing every day was better than being beholden to the whims of another I became much happier. Now if I date I do so strictly on my terms. If they don't like it then it's no sweat off my back.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 12:52 AM
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That's definitely a given. But, the longer he stays the more of his future she'll get eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 06:51 AM
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Judges hate seeing couples continuing to come to court over and over for petty things. They deal with 20+ cases every day. This same judge did hold her in criminal contempt though on a charge I filed, and prosecuted, on my own.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:47 AM
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You're free to suggest he live a life of slavery and misery. I'd suggest he divorce and go for split custody. Women use children as pawns against men all the time. Why? Because they can. And, it's because of attitudes like yours. Trust me. I held on in a miserable marriage for the kids. In hindsight, I should've left her years before the divorce. But, it all turned out well. I ended up with full custody through some strategic legal maneuvering. You give up too easy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:44 AM
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My ex took half of my retirement on top of a lot of other stuff. She could probably get an amount equivalent the time you were married. But, after the divorce is final she is off of your tit.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:38 AM
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Yeah, I should've known better. But, I was just exactly your age when I fell for the trap. We didn't have the info then like young guys do today. Now, it's all over the internet. We have a sub where we catalogue the types of things guys go through in marriage. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:33 AM
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Da toy. She'll have 2 choices. Get a yob and earn her own money or monkey branch to another guy to support her - which, is close to prostitution as you can get.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:29 AM
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Ah... either way, the rest of what I said was true. Once you get the Judgment of Satisfaction on the $4k the AG office will adjust your account. So, depending on what you are ordered to pay they will essentially give you a $4k credit. I was paying my ex by check directly. She took me to court saying I didn't pay her. I filed the motion, attached a copy of the check that she cashed, and she was all embarrassed trying to lie to the judge that "she just forgot."
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:28 AM
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It's those types of opinions that allow women the courage to continue pulling this shit. Men need to grow some balls.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:25 AM
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My ex did everything except try to change their last names. She knew I'd bleed every dollar we both had in court over that battle and she knows she would easily lose.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:23 AM
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100%. I went through the same thing. But, I was a single father for years. Best years ver with her out of the way and it was just my kids and I.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:21 AM
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This is family abandonment. She got bored of being a mother and wife, as did mine, and wanted to go live the single life. Pretty common. Be glad you have your daughters still. When my ex abandoned our family I retained full custody of all of our kids and she didn't even show up for Mother's Day.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:20 AM
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The AG doesn't collect CS (mom support). The child (mom) support office does. You need to file a Motion for Satisfaction of Judgment for the $4k and "for any other such remedy as the court deems just." You need to request oral arguments unless you're good about writing and filing your own motions. Otherwise, if not, you'll need an expensive attorney to do this.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:18 AM
2

I disagree that he's the asshole. She full on gave him a manipulative, and strategically-planned, bait & switch.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:14 AM
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You have to cut bait. You will eventually get divorced and the longer you're married the more messy and expensive the divorce will be with a woman like this.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 03:13 AM
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A possibility if you made the mistake of dating the devil. But, it worked well for me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 01:28 AM
2

You explained it perfectly. It's not according to law. It's according to the whims of the judge no matter the merits. I won in the end. I got her evicted and gained full custody while she rode the CC.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 12:32 AM
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That comes in the Motion. She has to defend the motion. The judge can still rule she has lack of evidence. BUT, if you didn't specifically ask for the TPO to be dismissed, or add language in your prayers such as, "and other such remedy as the court deems appropriate" then they won't dismiss it. You didn't ask them to. Court, and the legal world, is very specific. The judge may well say, "I don't believe enough evidence exists to support the TPO. But, you only asked her to produce evidence. You d…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 10:03 PM
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I've been in and out of family court for 10 years. I've had 2 attorneys and did half of it myself. I know the judges and their clerks. I've read the entire FCRCP. I sort of do know what I'm talking about.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:49 PM
4

Keep wearing the bodycam. Find a way to pay the attorney. Borrow from family if necessary. What you do now in the initial stages will affect you for a Very long time.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 01:03 PM
3

BS. All it took for my ex to get one was an accusation that I "bumped her." Meanwhile, 2 weeks prior she bloodied me, I called cops, they did nothing to her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 01:00 PM
4

Fuck that. File a Motion to Dismiss TPO. Maker her defend the TPO in court.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 01:00 PM
3

I have an idea. Skip the marriage counseling and just fuck your husband every day.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:29 PM
9

If she's suggesting counseling then she's already checked-out. r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:29 AM
5

That's exactly it. And, if you do move her in make sure it's Your house so you can kick her out if need be.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 11:28 AM
3

You're referring to the old subreddit and not the philosophy, itself.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 11:27 AM
3

There are different levels of MGTOW. It's not a one size fits all philosophy. I simply do what I want now without regard for the demands, or limitations, or a woman. I would still date. But, it's on my terms. That is MY OWN WAY.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 11:26 AM
2

I date periodically. But, I do so with the intent for casual relationships. Make them pay their way. Don't promise too much.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 09:28 AM
2

You can find a better job than you had. I just left my career of 25 years for something fresh and new and will easily make 2-5x what I was before.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 11:58 AM
3

Hit the gym and sleep with chicks on Tinder.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 09:24 AM
2

It's customary to ask for legal fees. Boilerplate language. I did it in every motion, as did my attorney eye. Ask, but not receive. Dint let it scare you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 03:01 AM
2

If she makes over 100k any sane judge wouldn't put her legal expenses on you. Play it out.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 03:00 AM
1

Yep. If you already fucked up and got married then unfucking yourself isn't as easy as just getting divorced sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 02:49 AM
1

r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 09:53 PM
1

Not how it worked with me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 08:12 PM
1

Fuck that. Hire an attorney and let him deal with her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 07:39 PM
3

Exactly. Look into an annulment, if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:11 PM
2

Hire a lawyer. Keep the house and you child. Throw her on the street instead.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:10 PM
0

Someone's new around here.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 11:45 AM
0

She's not yours. It's just your turn.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:31 PM
7

Or she just wants to not be a mother anymore, pretend she's 22 and start bar-hopping, and go back on the CC - as was the case with me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 12:13 PM
0

Why would you go for prostitutes?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 12:14 PM
2

It's a bad gamble unless you move to SE Asia and stay there. Moving a woman here will surely get her "Westernized" and she'll figure out she can stay and fuck you over, too. She won't need you past the green card.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:51 AM
1

Should've just kept her on the side and made it clear that's all it was. Casual FWB.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:49 AM
9

No. You'll end up on child support and not seeing your kids much if she has anything to do with it. She'll drag your reputation through the mud to your kids, too.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:42 AM
1

r/AgainstMatrimony
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:41 AM
3

You're not in contempt since it didn't happen in August. You could be an asshole and send her a notice to get the stuff, supervised, within 30 days or you will put it on the curb. Your best bet is to play with kid gloves and offer a time for her to come WHILE YOU ARE THERE and request a civil standby from police. Follow her and record her the entire time in your home. She does not live there anymore. If her attorney files a motion for contempt simply file a motion to dismiss motion for contempt …
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 12:18 AM
1

Put it in the petition so at least it's public record.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 11:56 AM
2

More like 75%. She'll take 50% in the divorce and another 25-50% of your ongoing earnings through child support and/or alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 12:42 PM
5

Don't ver, as a man, expect equity in divorce court even though it's considered "a court of equity."
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 01:56 AM
1

Just scoff at her with a "pffft."
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 12:07 AM
1

You should come hang out with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:53 AM
1

It's Sunday night. I had a fanciful week. I'm drinking and winding down while, at the same time, ramping up for the morning. What are YOU doing, kiddo?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:51 AM
1

They're all fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:06 AM
1

Haha, no, I don't. It's a simple equation. Giving for the sake of itself. If you don't do that you're alone or on a transactional relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:22 PM
1

You just contradicted yourself. mic drop
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:13 PM
2

I like to think I am. But, finding women of this quality today is difficult l find that they are all "boss bitches."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:05 PM
1

I'm not a "retired Chad." I don't even use that term really. All it means is you are decent looking and have charisma. You can be a rich stock-broker or broke musician to get laid. This sub is full of men who can't get laid and like to take shots at guys who have no problem with it. Take ownership of your life instead of pointing fingers and having a pity party. You'll get a lot farther.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:24 PM
1

All relationships are transactional in some form or another. I have 30 yrs experience in relationships. Trust me. Something doesn't come for nothing. That's just a general rule of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:22 PM
1

I'm a successful guy and when I look for a woman I look for a few things. Does she have a loving, kind, and forgiving heart? Is she a nurturer? Is she a homemaker? Is she great in bed? If she has those 4 things I'll do the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:19 PM
0

That's why I said BUILD IT. I was a dumb 9th grader, too. Build your life. Don't blow it away because "I can't do it."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:20 AM
4

The universal language of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:55 PM
-6

Create your own life that you love to live. If that's video games then find a gamer girl. For me, it was a lot more so I had a lot of options. Still do at my age. They never go away. Women, now, are almost like flies I have to swat away. Create something they want. But, do it FOR YOU. Not for them. They can sense false ambition.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:52 PM
1

Men keep their emotions in check. Women pour them out. That's the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:26 PM
-7

My sons are both Zoomers and have women throwing themselves at them. It's attitude and lifestyle. Create a life for your own and women will want to join in. Nothing has changed. I'm Gen X. It was the same for me. I didn't chase. I was chased.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:24 PM
8

Why can't you just decide to be alone now?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:22 PM
1

As long as she knows it was being recorded.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 09:52 PM
1

That's what I did. I traded it for some things of hers, release of liability, and she put it in her name. Done.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 05:01 AM
1

Lying who... I mean, "adulterer" will be on there.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 01:00 PM
2

This is true. This is how I got custody. My ex played a dirty trick (false DV allegation and jail) to get herself custody. So, I said "fine." I rented a nice house for myself and stopped paying her rent. She got evicted and I got the kids while she had to me in with AP.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 12:58 PM
0

Just remind her whose last name they have.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 12:42 AM
1

CGA is still king of infotainment.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 12:13 PM
16

Well said. I'm 10+ years divorced and I fucked my wife plenty during our marriage. I wouldn't fuck her now for anything unless it was up the ass without lube.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 12:31 PM
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