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Lol you go straight to insulting, aggression, and name calling, i.e. a freak out. And by the way you don't even know what happened in my family so trying to defend people you don't know doesn't make sense. But that's you in a nutshell isn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:18 AM
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Lol you're literally freaking out because I'm a man. And you're over here trying to say men aren't dramatic which is the really funny thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 04:45 AM
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Lmao you're excusing abuse based on nothing but age and size. Hypocritical bullshit like that is why I haven't talked to most of my family in years. I would gladly avoid you IRL as well. Edit: and of course you accuse me of being gay or trans. Typical. I don't need to prove anything to you but rest assured I'm a normal enough guy, I just don't look down on people just because they're younger, smaller, weaker, or a different gender than me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 11:08 PM
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Women don't need drama. They just talk about other people more than guys do. Like the stereotype of women asking men where their friends are and the men saying idk i haven't talked to him in weeks. Women think that's weird because their lives revolve more around social bonds so they spend more time hanging out with and keeping up with their friends. I've always had problems with guys who take offense over the slightest thing and then make a big deal about it, often trying to fight me over it or …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 07:35 PM
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I lived with my brothers all my life. Nothing but petty arguments and aggression. If I disagreed with my brothers they would attack me. My dad thought it was fine. I moved out of my brother's house that I helped him buy and moved into a rental with all women. Let me tell you, it was amazing. 0 drama. 0 aggression. Arguments were settled peacefully and without aggression or anger. Literal opposite scenario from living with men. Then the roommates changed. One woman had problems with everyone and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 07:28 PM
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How long do they stay around for? Attracting them is one thing, but keeping them around long term (without just being a sugar daddy) is another thing altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 11:19 PM
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Have y'all seen euphoria? Shit was almost a documentary. These kids are ruthless. I remember in high school there was this girl who was... developed. Every boy in the school my freshmen year was drooling over her. She was gorgeous. Still is tbh. Anyway sophomore year she switched schools to one in a nearby town. The next year she was back. Apparently at the other school she went to sophomore year some guy recorded her while she was going down on him. Then he sent the video to everyone in the sch…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:48 PM
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25%? Where tf did you make up that number?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:37 PM
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Yeah dating always felt like a full time job. That's why I quit. That and I wasn't getting what I wanted and neither were the women that I cared about so I think I just give up lol. I'm gonna be like those women who are single and just live their lives without dating. Idk how long I'll last before I give up on that too but that's where I am now. I don't have to energy to keep trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:23 PM
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I think there's some truth in this even if it's not the only reason why women don't usually approach men. Some women can easily tell that the guy they like is shy. One woman told me "I knew I was gonna have to make the first move with you" and it was no issue for her. Others have acted similarly to me in the past. Something else I've heard from women and noticed myself is that they don't usually go out looking for a guy or guys to meet. It's not something they really think about but instead just…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:51 PM
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I literally just don't want to date a fat or overweight person but that takes out 60% of the women in America :/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:16 AM
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Religion mostly and traditional ideas of modesty. An evolutionary or cultural theory could be that a promiscuous woman is easy while a promiscuous man is successful because of dating dynamics. Another evolutionary theory could be about male feelings of controlling a woman/ harem or that a virgin is the only woman you can be sure is only giving birth to your children so women closer to being a virgin is more desirable. Or it could be about averages where men seek women with average, boring dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:21 AM
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Online dating isn't real life. Most apps have much less women on it than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 03:14 AM
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Yeah it's usually more like the tie breaker, the cherry on top or an ideal scenario. It can add or subtract 1 or 2 points on the scale but not immediately as you have to get to know someone to see their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:40 PM
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Every other sub I've been in has said that FDS is crazy. So there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:35 PM
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I would say it's at least 50/50 with a big gray area in the middle but that's only based on my anecdotal experience. That being said, I think the arseholes are over represented in dating because they try the hardest to meet women and get laid. They talk to as many women at a time as they can and go on as many dates as they can. And they're dishonest so it can be understandably hard for a woman to tell what they're up to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:34 PM
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Hell yeah they are (humans are one of the great apes and we didn't descend from apes or monkeys but are related to them) and apes have dominant males who take all the available females into their harem. For many male mammals, if you want to mate at all, you have to kill the local dominant male, steal his harem, and kill every other swinging dick that wants to kill you and steal your harem, which is almost all the other local males. Modern human males have it on easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:23 PM
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I agree. The red pill, black pill, alpha, sigma, Chad grind bro messaging is all about taking away the romance from dating by making women seem like the bad guys who only deserve to be used. Well, imagine what happens when you treat a girl like that who doesn't have a bunch of issues? And imagine what happens when you treat her nicely? One time in my whole life has a girl not wanted to see me again because I was trying too hard. And I was out of my mind tbh acting foolish. All the times I've bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:43 AM
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In that paragraph I was talking about genuine compliments and you're right about cute not really being sexual. In some of those cases the girls were trying to flirt with me, shoot their shot with me, etc. Good for them and it made me feel good even if I wasn't interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 04:25 AM
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I can completely understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 04:18 AM
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men and women voted both ways...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 04:16 AM
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My opinion: just because I condone or even support something doesn't necessarily mean I want to be a part of it lol. Too high of a body count and sex work make people feel like that's how you'll be forever, or that something happened to you during all that sex and relationships that has made you less desirable. Some of that logic makes sense, some doesn't. Everyone wants to play it safe with relationships and find the best possible "candidate" to date and go from there because no matter how put …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:20 AM
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It depends on your definition of feminism. Feminism largely just means women's rights. If you support women's right to vote or participate in society at the rate they currently do then it could easily be said that you yourself are a feminist. I'm a feminist. In my own way. So are a lot of my friends. In their own ways. We've all had plenty of girlfriends and my two closest friends are currently in long term relationships. I don't know where this idea came from that the only men that are feminist…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:59 AM
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Well I don't want kids because I have personal issues that preclude being in a relationship. I'm all screwed up in the head so I took myself out of the game like a month ago. And i agree the stone age DNA had a purpose and our culture accommodated that but now our progressive culture and our natural impulses are at odds. This isn't new though. The Christians called it carnality. I agree that we're going through a cultural shake up that is affecting birthrates but I don't think that forcing peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:50 AM
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Everyone is an option and that's what we all gotta accept but that's not necessarily a bad thing imo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:44 AM
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If I got more sexually charged compliments from attractive female peers growing up it would have done a lot for my confidence. It also might have turned me into an arrogant prick. I think if I had some role models, peers or otherwise, to keep my ego in check it could have been very good for me. The few genuine compliments I've gotten from women I'll remember forever. Even the ones I wasn't attracted to, when they showed interest in me, called me cute, it helped my confidence and I never had a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:27 AM
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So I've been in a relationship where long story short it got to the point where I didn't want to have sex anymore but my girlfriend did. I would still do it sometimes but other times I wouldn't and sometimes that led to arguments. It was a big reason why we broke up. There was no more romance or intimacy and sex felt like a chore so there was no point. I don't think anyone should be able to guilt anyone into sexual experiences no matter what. I would never try to pressure my women into having se…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:50 PM
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Everything started to make more sense to me when I stopped thinking of people as rational actors and started thinking of them as common mammals. I even understand myself more now. We all have ancient thoughts, feelings, and reactions buried in our DNA that helped humanity get where we are today. Human culture outpaced human biological evolution and we're still trying to catch up to a 21st century society with stone age DNA. Think about how dogs and other mammals court, date, mate, have sex, choo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:20 PM
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I got approached several times in high school and a couple times in college. And they usually saw me around once or twice before they approached but not always. In high school it was like half and half attractive or not. The one in college was very cute. Outside of that, one time when out with some people, someone else's friend liked me and my friend got her number from someone else and sent it to me lol and we briefly dated. That's about it but I also was homeschooled before high school and nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:06 PM
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Sometimes, but not often. And usually they're not so cute, that's why they felt the need to approach me because they knew I wouldn't approach them. It happened to me many times in high school, though only a few times with girls I liked (pretty, etc). It happened a few times in college too with mostly women I liked. Since leaving college, I haven't been approached at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:07 PM
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"Anything where the woman makes an effort with the first move. Not necessarily being obvious about it." OP was talking about this and so were you. You both have different definitions of "approached" but from OPs perspective you did get approached many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:03 PM
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For sure! Do you know about how many women you approach before getting one number? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:44 PM
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Good shit man! When you say "action" what do you mean? Are you hanging out with women, which is cool enough, having sex or getting into relationships? I've approached women a lot before but usually don't have success even if i get their number/ Instagram/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:00 PM
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You're dumb. Stop blaming women for being single. Stop getting angry at women for not wanting to talk to you or anyone else. News flash. Women don't owe you or anyone else anything lol. Stop acting entitled. Most guys are creepy as fuck. What makes someone creepy is whether or not the woman is interested for the most part. If she's not interested, take the hint and fuck off. Guys like you are why women choose the bear. Bears won't rape you and usually leave you alone anyway. A guy will never lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:53 PM
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Damn just like Andrew Tate
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:28 PM
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Stealing passports is so messed up. The sex industry is notoriously shady and every time I look into it I become more disgusted with it than I was before.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:39 AM
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They're all sharing each other. There. FIFY
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:49 PM
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I think a lot of guys are also jealous of not being horny all the time and envy being able to just live life without being shamed for not having a lot of girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:29 PM
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When I went to San Diego state I would say I was attracted to at least a third the women my age there. When I went to sacramento state that went down to like a quarter. I'm still in the central valley and I feel like it's still about the same around a quarter or a third. I'm not super picky when it comes to looks I'm just not interested in women who are kinda bigger but my excuse for that is because I'm skinny lmao. But whenever I go out, even just to shop or buy food, I always see beautiful wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:26 AM
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Huh. I always thought that appearing to try to not look desperate was just as bad as being desperate. But I guess not. Edit: i thought that appearing to attempt to mask your desperation seemed manipulative *
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:17 PM
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Thanks! It's slowly getting better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:10 PM
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I think about women every day. Every time I see a woman a think about my dating life. When I see a college aged woman I think about how I was sheltered growing up and didn't have a social life or a dating life during my teens and college. When i see women around my age I think about whether or not I have a chance and also all the women I've met and mistakes I've made if they remind me of them. Every time I see a couple on TV or in a movie, commercial, podcast, etc. I think about how I'm alone lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 11:24 AM
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You're describing objective truth vs subjective opinion while I'm talking about dictionary definitions
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 05:38 PM
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Nah haha you're describing attraction, not confidence or arrogance. Some people don't care what you are if they're attracted to you. An example of low confidence being unattractive would be if you're anxious, nervous, awkward, creepy or weak due to a lack of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:46 PM
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Good explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:25 PM
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Confidence vs arrogance. There's significant overlap. Also, many women are flawed. They either don't see the red flags or don't care because they have problems of their own. And I don't know who said there's no such thing as a bad boy but try not to assume that just because a few people said something that anyone else will know wtf they're talking about. Confidence comes from self esteem, so try to get some of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:24 PM
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All I'm saying is that holding out for a rich guy who doesn't get bored of people will be like trying to get the last piece of cake at the buffet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 08:01 PM
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This is also true though less likely due to less options in my opinion. Charisma and other factors matter too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:10 PM
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The 5 women I've been with in the last few years would disagree, though they would all say that I am flawed :/ I'm not bragging or anything. I'm currently in a period of reflection and not actively trying to get with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:27 PM
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I understand. I don't agree to everything necessarily but I get it. Every man is a man and will probably have many of the common problems men have. Might as well find a rich one. For guys it's like every woman is a woman and can provide basically what every other woman can, so I might as well try to get a really attractive one. The thing is both of those are not completely true and you'll end up with issues if you only focus on wealth or attraction. However, if you're saying that given a baselin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:35 PM
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I disagree. I think it's a mix. I myself will admit that younger women have lower standards and are less intimidating. They have less money, education, resources, and are less likely to judge you or have a problem with your way of life, more trusting, etc. But... the most naive woman I ever dated was a year older than me (I was 25, she was 26 when we met) and when i was 26 I briefly dated a 21 year old who was much more confident, mature, and with higher standards than the 26 year old. So it doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:02 AM
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Yes, trying too hard comes off as weird and makes the woman uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable for me when a woman is trying too hard to get with me as well. It's like, "what's the rush? Why do you need to be with me so badly? Why are you so desperate? What could be wrong with you that you devalue yourself so much by treating me like I'm better than you, too good for you or out of your league? I'm starting to believe it just based on how you're treating me" That's what I've thought the few times …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:23 AM
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You don't know that for sure. Some people aren't taught much about relationships and have to learn the hard way and others are deceived by seemingly decent people. I don't know why you want to frame every woman who's going through problems as a deserving of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:30 AM
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I've been harassed by a few feminine gay guys and even one masculine one (although I'm not 100% sure what happened that night). The big guy made me feel completely helpless but thankfully my friends were there to make sure he left and I was ok. If all guys thought of me that way I shudder to think about what my life would be like. And I'm a guy who's 5'10" 160lbs so not super small but even i make sure i stay safe around other men. Having older brothers does that too i guess lol. I know how quic…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 03:29 PM
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I feel like this was worded in a way that is hard to support but if you said something like "Women have to stand up to their man to get his respect and to move the relationship along or else if they're too understanding and patient they could end up in a relationship that goes nowhere for years just to get dumped." then people would be more receptive to the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:34 AM
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Someone you shouldn't be with does not fill your needs, mistreats you, or lets you down in some important way. Someone who does not quite check off all your boxes can still fill your needs, treat you well and be there for you. That's my opinion on that interesting question.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:16 AM
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Yes. Some people can't tell the difference apparently. More money is better, just about always. But a lot of guys don't want their woman to make any money or have any freedom or independence lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:10 AM
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ok I guess I meant who wouldn't mind having a rich partner? I provide for myself but wouldn't mind dating someone who makes 6 figures, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:08 AM
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who wouldn't want (Edit: who wouldn't like having) a rich partner? maybe someone who is insecure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:17 AM
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"all women but not all men" lol it makes no sense. Men and women are just as good/bad as each other in general. We're just built a little differently and have different cultural expectations so it comes out differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:17 AM
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Lol maybe sometimes but saying every woman does this is lunacy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:52 PM
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What happens that no one mentions for some reason is that women's standards drastically increase from age 18 - 28. A 21 year old will be immature, put up with too much and try too hard for the wrong person. A 26 year old will be wiser and over the novelty of relationships. She'll typically be more realistic at this point and realize that looks aren't everything but she'll also have higher standards and more boundaries when it comes to how she's treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 11:49 AM
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It might be less, idk, but enough to make a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 08:12 AM
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Ha I met someone a year ago but they were unavailable for a while and then they were single again but I was unavailable for a few months during which time she gained weight. Then we were both single and hung out and the fact she looked different bothered me a lot. But we've been hanging out more and I've been caring about it less. It's a trip. The difference 20 pounds makes and how i have to think about whether or not I'm shallow and whether or not that's a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:59 AM
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Lmao the hypocrisy knows no bounds. Women are wrong no matter what, no wonder they stopped trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:05 PM
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Go for someone in the middle or hold out for a highly attractive woman with a more tasteful social media presence, would be what I would say. Edit: if you're into it, religious women exist, although the attractive ones usually marry young.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:57 PM
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It's not my experience or the experience of many of the commenters here... edit: also, jokes make bad arguments. Why do you use a joke as evidence when joke is a word for something that's not real.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:03 PM
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Maybe you pick bad women to date...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:41 PM
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Well then, maybe there's no pattern. Maybe men and women are equally shitty and it varies across space and time....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:40 PM
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Believe it or not. Men and women have more in common than you think, and generalizations are not always true. However, in my experience with American culture, men are less likely to admit fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:39 PM
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LMAO this is such bullshit. Most men I've met will rather fight you than admit they're wrong. They could give a fuck about truth or progress as long as they have social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:10 PM
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Men usually don't have the emotional intelligence or social skills/ experience that women have. (Imo) Women typically have more friends and focus on their relationships. Men typically have less friends and focus on activities. (Imo( Men are not as good at navigating relationships in general because of what I said above (in my opinion and there's more to it obviously). Marriage: you should study tort law. Contracts are easily gotten out of especially those regarding marriage. Women can claim anyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:41 AM
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Not true lol. Women have different genitalia that are more complicated to get off. That's all. There's just more to it and most guys don't know much about pleasuring women besides to just stick it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:56 PM
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Good poo analogy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 02:00 AM
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Not true. I've seen many good looking guys strike out or get called out because they had no confidence, charm, and knew no one in any of our social groups. Creepy means unknown and acting strangely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:58 PM
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"Creepy" guys are usually just guys with low confidence, no social life, no friends, hobbies, or anything else. What they need are friends and interests or hobbies. Things to be excited about and busy with that put them around like minded people so they can become friends. Once you have friends who respect you, you get confidence as well as advice and support from your friends. You get invited places and you show up with your group of friends which makes it easier to meet more people. Creepy guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:10 PM
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Sure some are but a lot of those people just don't have a lot of confidence. If you didn't have much of a social life growing up it can be an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:10 AM
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I would agree that most men don't actually want to put in the work for a relationship while still wanting all the benefits that come with it. And what you're saying is that you can come close to getting what you get from a relationship from just being single. I'm with that. Men can definitely be happy while single and we should all be trying to do that before dating. Dating someone you don't want to be with just so that you're not alone is not a good idea and is worse than being single in the lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 06:57 PM
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So many facts and "women have children with men who they are sexually attracted to" same largely goes for men so it just is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:55 PM
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these are really good points. especially 2 and 5 in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:29 PM
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You're right i gotta start framing it that way more. Thanks for that!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:12 AM
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Yeah i don't want to judge her too much but it hurts to think about and single moms around my age remind me of her which bring up all these feelings lol. But thanks for the vote of confidence! I've been a lot more gloomy in my mindset since this happened around 9 months ago lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:23 PM
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Also she said things like "at least now i get to have a baby" and "i was getting scared I would get too old to have a baby so now I'm not worried about that" but she's in her late 20s still and seems to be more worried about herself than the child. Also, her younger sister had a baby with her boyfriend who she has a toxic relationship with (constant shit talking, threats, fights, arguments, and petty slights) because she also didn't want to get too old before having a child (she may have had a h…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:18 PM
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Thanks, it was complicated and that was partly my fault but yeah, thanks. And yeah i tried to tell her how sketchy it seemed and how weird it was and how this guy was trying to take from her and use her but she just kept worrying about her baby and how the baby will need a father and that she could take care of herself. She kept saying she would never date him and then she goes and starts dating him just like I feared she would. If she unblocked me and tried to get together, even if the child is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:07 PM
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So, for myself, the situation you described wouldn't make me less attracted to the woman, but her having a child means the whole thing just became more serious so I would be more careful. That being said, not every single mom is the way you described. Here's a story: I was seeing a woman last year. She was amazing. Everything I've ever wanted. But i was immature and she lost interest and distanced herself. We weren't ever officially together. We hung out a few more times after having a really ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 06:16 PM
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Unsolicited flirting or complimenting can be uncomfortable if unwanted. How would I know if a random woman wants a compliment or not? And why would I care? If we got into a conversation then sure, but just walking by? I'm gonna mind my own business unless you give me that "come talk to me" look.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:46 PM
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Single, 27 M, looking for something long term and someone who is kinda well read, intelligent, open minded and able to think critically and without bias or at least acknowledging their bias. I just want someone to hang out with and love whose opinion I respect. Most women like this who are attractive have a lot of guys going after them so the competition is tough, especially if she's really smart or selective. I'm looking for a mental and emotional connection where we are both authentic and hone…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 07:01 AM
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In general, fawning over women is seen weak and naive. Like a little boy who thinks his mama is perfect. Also, saying something mature instead of making a joke makes you look like a nerd. It can be hard to maintain a manly tone while lecturing people about being respectful. But yeah, a lot of dumb guys call every guy a simp who has anything decent to say about a woman or if they're defending the one they're attacking. It's like simp = "you're only saying that because you wanna fk her or because …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:52 AM
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