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I made a commitment and I've never felt that looking around is a healthy mindset to have, though I'd concede that there have been people in life who have found something "better" when they've looked around but it also has a proclivity to turn into worse disaster than if they did things a healthier way with a healthier mindset. I ask them, read their expression and tones. As well as assess their background and what they have now to see if what they expect is in line with what they can realistic m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:43 PM
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You... work... on it? Spending time intentionally doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:12 PM
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5 mins would be a gross exaggeration. The reality would be more like falling head over heels with someone while getting to know them over three to six months and then you see if that person can keep up with who they say they are and can prove that they can bring to the table what they say they bring to the table. The alternative is two people vying for dominance over who is more non-chalantly and more subtly conveying genuine interest over time but also while striking a balance of time spent wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:09 PM
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They don't decide it. They work on it being for them because they've already decided they want to try out something serious with that woman and she meets his minimum standards. But in my experience people don't like talking about standards and screening questions on the first date either which is bizarre. More often, they're motivated to get to "fun" parts of dating as fast as possible. Often expecting the other person to be "fun" before they even get to know the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:02 PM
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Don't worry, that person doesn't argue in good faith anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:36 PM
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Actually, it's which men and which women. Everyone's different but they all do follow averages in behavior. But when you say all men or all women, you look like a dunce. It's those men. Those women. So shallow women and shallow men...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:18 PM
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So... you do go for shallow and easily disposable relationships? Not my style but I've always focused on the overall quality, integrity, and mutual motivations of the person as opposed to, y'know, they were hot or they have this great job that makes a lot of money. But if I was a woman I guess I'd find it hard to not get addicted to shallow relationships too just like a lot of men seem to be addicted to porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:08 PM
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It's surprising that women don't understand a lot of those men see women the way men see women seeing them these days, as disposable. Unjust but it is unsurprising overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:00 PM
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A lot of them actually just don't give a single fuck that some random woman got breast reduction so. You're seeing the dumb monkeys not only out themselves but you're ONLY seeing the ones who do. It's a bias good men are exhausted hearing women tout as the "gotcha" for the average man when women don't even want average men. Flush those men down the toilet, except a lot of women don't. They often stick around with those guys commenting on Twitter because those men have something those women want …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:36 PM
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Neither was I. Who I was talking about could even have a low n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:25 PM
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They're not villainized. They're told to not put up a shocked Pikachu face when they hit a hard wall of good men not being attracted to them for baggage they chose to pick up and carry in their life. Now women like that are mad a decent man won't pick up her baggage for her or are telling her what her and boys were told in sex education and by their parents all those years ago. If you have sex with someone, you better be prepared to deal with the consequences of it. Whether people with a high n-…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:16 PM
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Yup but they never respond to valid criticism like this and men are always losers for giving women any criticism when it comes to separation. The sentiment is always "You should just be happy it wasn't worse 🤷‍♂️" in any court. Furthermore, there will always be something to find about you that's wrong with you because they "have something you want" and therefore any attempts you make to find a normal relationship are you just being desperate, not seeking something normal and important in people'…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:04 PM
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They have nothing to say about what you said my man, well done. Very well put too I'd say, very much lines up with my experience as well 👏👏👏
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:57 PM
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Maybe they're pitching a fit because women, in this thread, STILL aren't listening and STILL aren't providing space for men to be listened to about their emotions and their experiences. Women are, again, still shitting on how men feel, even in this thread where the purpose is to talk about men's feelings and experiences, women STILL sheepdog how men should feel. It's fucking exhausting and you have no idea how much men take on for everyone else. The genuinely stupid ones, yeah, sure, women are r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:34 PM
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Yup, typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:11 PM
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Right, and what frustrates women is "I did x and have y and z, why won't a man I want make a commitment to me?" Both people wonder why they can't find what they want, not knowing they aren't compromising or making an effort for people that are actually about equal in circumstances/attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:32 PM
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This is the advice to listen to. You want a decent woman this is how you attract them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:33 AM
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Then you should reject those women instead of complaining about it. If more men did reject those women, women might start to realize they can't just coast. But part of the problem is also that men tolerate terrible behavior from women just to have someone. High quality women don't want to tolerate terrible behavior from men anymore. But if a lot of men are tolerating it, including men who you're afraid of, who can easily manipulate women into sex by being attractive, wealthy, or tall, things don…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:26 AM
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Complaining and whining about the reality of attraction is unattractive. Some people don't have to work as hard as you but that's not their problem either. Nor do they have to date someone they don't want to. Accepting it is hard at first but leads to more happiness overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:16 AM
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A lot of men and women don't actually care about body shaming. Your body, face, or health being shit just isn't their problem and they don't need to shame you to reject you. They choose to actively improve those things and still be educated, have careers, a social life, etc. Why shame you when they can just ignore you? Besides claiming body shaming is weak nowadays when it's more like you being accountable and responsible for how you look whether you believe or accept it, or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:13 AM
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Yup this person's on the right track.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:07 AM
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They don't have access to money like I did, a milenial, is the real answer here. Partying goes down. Dating goes down. Sex overall goes down. A lot more of these activities get more concentrated to the top of income and attractiveness as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:06 AM
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A third want to be, a third just wish they could be half as much a Chad to just have a option, let alone in their formative years be able to have had options on their own time, say after healing from a breakup after 3-6months and easily get back into a relationship and quickly. Last third rejects the Chad and wishes for other people, women, to accept that there's something off about their standards. Last 10% is usually a mix of extremism and unicorns.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:23 AM
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That's what I find funny about people knocking women for dating rich dudes. There are tons of women out there who wouldn't go for those dudes. Dudes like that have so much access to stimulation and can easily boot anyone from their lives it makes them fickle and unpredictable. You'd be hard pressed to find a man in those income circles who don't secretly cheat. Hell, it sounds hard enough to find a guy who won't cheat in any tax bracket. But the same could maybe said for women too. Either way yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:46 AM
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Women having options is only as good as the options they actually have access to. I imagine for a huge chunk of women, just like men, it's not as rosy of a story as men tend to think it is. It might be worse for men to find an equal or even attractive woman but again, I think "women have options" isn't enough of the story. Women who are 6+/10 overall maybe yeah but even then getting down to that part of scale makes it difficult to have "options" for men and women. I mean you may be a woman but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:36 AM
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Not at all. I'll be talking to my psychologist about it. It'll probably be one of my last sessions coincidentally. Makes it feel like it's all coming together and I finally get to see a complete picture. I can totally understand your skepticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:05 AM
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Thank you, that particular piece that I can wait to tell someone until I feel I can trust them about as much as I can, is one of the key parts of why this feels so validating. Thank you, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:03 AM
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Oh my God I've never felt this valid and seen in my entire life thank you so much!! 😭😭🥺😵‍💫🫣 I'm super embarassed thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:58 AM
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Oh my God thank you so much for your advice. So many comments tell me the same thing has been incredibly shocking and I feel so vindicated! Thank you for your time, patience, and understanding with my unecessarily defensively worded OP! Edit: Also I am so sad and disappointed in people, especially men and with particularly intense anger, powerful men, but none of them matter. I knew people would judge me sure but i didnt know it wouldn't matter. I never knew I was valid for not wanting to share!…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:54 AM
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No no! I refuse to be a victim! It's been an incredibly horrific journey the past few years, so much therapy, so much fear and horror and for the first time I'm feeling outside permission to break free from chains and weight I unknowingly self imposed because I autistically and compulsively feel sick to my stomach when I lie about serious things, or when I feel I may be lying for more "malicious" (I'd never!!) or selfish reasons to act in a deceptive manner about important topics. Thank you so m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:49 AM
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Really??? Oh my gosh I'm overwhelmed and extremely affected by the amount of comments not hating on me for it so far. I was just obviously so emotional and afraid I'd have to live under it for the rest of my life I was being rude and defensive but I'm balling crying feeling reassured, thank you for commenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:45 AM
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I don't? But why do you feel that way? I thought this would be completely the wrong mentality to have?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:41 AM
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I have a question! I am currently trying to expand my options in dating as well as do a lot of science when it comes to online dating. I have a profile on a dating app that is generally considered for more serious, and am looking more seriously on there. But on Tinder I'm only matching with women, and have platinum so otherwise I'm not seen, who are also looking for short-term fun. Now, I'm actually monogamous as well. So if I did find someone on either side, I'd be either ignoring or shutting d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:51 AM
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I guess, to be more clear about what you're asking, I would absolutely sleep with, and wife up a woman who checked a lot of my boxes, but was considered unattractive. To me, growing up, looks were never as important as who you were as a person, and that lesson was reinforced to me at a very young age and on an ongoing basis whenever me getting older and dating was brought up. So it likely has something to do with being pushed to value who someone is, not how they look. But I like that I'm that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:36 AM
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This is absolute bullshit as a general rule, but I'll even admit, this thought, this feeling has crossed my mind. But I never validated it. Always felt it was horrifically wrong to feel so I just pushed it deep down inside. Now I'd never feel, think, or even do such a thing. Experience, not mine, but others, have taught me that that's an easy way to ruin your life. Either by ruining your reputation, losing a lot in a separation, or just straight up would make me a real piece of shit to think and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:24 AM
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Disagree. For me, it's more like, "I'd rather give a really good, kind, ugly person a chance than possibly only ever find women who are real toads." But I have been told regularly by all my friends I tend to be a unique case lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:19 AM
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Actually that's not true! I may have only had a small pool of data from which to draw from but I can speak on this through personal anecdotes! I once had a one night stand with a woman who was severely obese. Normally, a disqualifier and a qualifier for "ugly" status. But she actually had a very beautiful face. She was also the co-host of the party I was at. We were both, very drunk. She gave me some attention and by the end of the night was giving me some physical affection! So when she asked m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:14 AM
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That's what I would call the hypergamous creep. Men want higher status women these days too. Especially the most attractive ones. Men who are used to wealth are going to look for an equal too, not a significant downgrade, or if he does, he expects her to be at his beck and call, which may still not be realistic for her working full time making $80-$100k. But a "rich" or "elite" or "high status" man making $200k a year wouldn't want someone making that little, and accept she has so little time to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:18 AM
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Boss babes should date down a little and find partners who are willing to work part time, but who are also similarly educated so that part time income can really contribute to yearly income meaningfully. They get someone who can support them. They get someone who can take care of the home. As long as the arrangement is respectful, of course, it sounds like a fantastic choice. At least on paper, it does, I guess. That would push more women and feminists into, and have access to, power, I would th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:11 AM
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Bro you have to fake it til you make it. Don't complain about it, just weed out the genuinely fake ones. PURSUE THE GOOD ONES. PURSUE, PURSUE, PURSUE. But be chill and cool about it at all times and don't show your cards until you're in intimate, private settings with women. Like being able to talk about who you really are in private settings like a quiet dinner out. Ask women who they really are in a way that doesn't seem confrontational or accusing them of being bad or slutty. We've all been v…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:42 AM
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His problem, if it's real, is that he's now getting attention from people he's not looking for and it's overstimulating, unfulfilling, and not what he wants. He's looking for x but now only getting overwhelmed with attention from y. Which is similar to what women experience. And if you're really well built it gets you totally the wrong attention and less attention of those you're actually looking for because usually the people you're looking for won't try with you either. It's the hot girl parad…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:28 AM
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HAHA! Yeah you do buddy! I'm so proud of you! But I also don't care bc I've pulled my fill and I can easily tell there's nothing of value from us knowing each other 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:37 PM
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Also who are these men? Are men within that bottom 50% even using dating apps? I imagine not! I imagine they just accept their fate tbh. I've met mountains of men like that. Literal mountains of them. And some are semi-normal they just can't do it, they just can't talk to women, too much anxiety, too many horrific experiences! You have to pay attention to details like that or else the data doesn't tell you much. Have you deep dived into the data? Cause I sure don't care to! Either way, if it's t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:31 PM
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Only if you're not bright enough to see it's just all noise pushing an agenda. Same with men "gaming" women. We know women fall for the gift of the gab.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:33 AM
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It seems to be. If women's body counts on average are going up, but men's are roughly staying the same, it can be argued that some women are in a way, "sharing" all the same attractive men. But maybe not in the way you think. It's not that they know that they are, that can be one scenario. Guy they're in a situationship with IS sleeping with other women and those women don't know or don't ask or dont care (all different "types" of women and a mix of different "types" women who dont care, women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:31 AM
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Right, we never matched people prior to now based on mutual circumstances, income, preferences, characteristics. No woman has ever tried to match their below average girlfriends with an above average man before. Never happened /s lol Maybe it hasn't happened to you, but in the early 2010s this still happened, and in the early 2000s was when this behavior started to decline. Arguably it was in the 90s when women were just starting to ramp up major career positions. Now you hardly see friends matc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:19 AM
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Pretty sure reasonable men are asking for a balance, not one or the other. We want average, balanced, and stable. Men you're describing want the women you're describing. Men you're not describing just want someone average. Anywhere from 5-7/10 and those numbers are all around based on education, career, even attractiveness, yes, but personality is a big one too. Decent men don't want women stuck in the loop of online dating or stuck on this guy or that guy, just like women don't. What gets lost …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:15 AM
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Don't forget, those are bad men just as there are bad women. Just because there's stereotypes doesn't mean there aren't men out to beat all the stereotypes. Same with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:09 AM
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This is true. Men do underestimate facial attractiveness. I recently had a friend of mine who I was fooling around with size up my height quite clearly while she was drunk and upset her tall, apathetic situationship wouldn't marry her. She said I was more handsome than him. She was also fucking around with me behind his back. It was gross when I pieced it all together what was happening. She kept saying it was over but she'd always come back with a new thing he did like talking to girls on fb or…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:55 AM
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Women have a hard time when they're below average and they can't find a man who's 8+/10 who won't cheat on them or get bored with them 🤷🏻‍♂️ Obese women have a hard time not being obese and that's not men's problems 🤷🏻‍♂️ nor is obese women entitled to a normal, relatively healthy man. Women aren't entitled to men who earn $50k a year minimum when they can't even make $40k. Let alone a man with $80k+. It's just feminism dude. Equality and equity was what women wanted. Now you have it. You have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:47 AM
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Lol he gotchu though lol we're all here to yell in the ether ok? Stop pretending nobody here isn't yelling into the ether lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:35 AM
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This goes for men and women! Great advice/perspective. Men get so worked up about it but honestly, there's a sea of women out there who's expectations and lack of caring for themselves get them consistently zero matches. Just like there is a sea of men in that situation too. At the end of the day, it's only like, the top 20-30% of men and women that are vocally complaining and that's the 4-8/10 crowd. I suspect the last three complain, but they know how it is, they've experienced it most their l…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:32 AM
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Tamper your thinking a little bit. Data is data, not reality. You're probably not entirely wrong, just more wrong than you think. Lots and lots of men out there who don't feel this way, even feel revolted at the idea of dating women under 25 or even 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:09 AM
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This gets lost in the weeds. You can't rely on the TOP of data. You have to account for mistakes and just plain reality. Yes men and women go for the top. But it's about HOW MANY men will still go for a wide range of women, vs women feeling like they should only go for the top 10% because of entitlement yes, but also because they're attracted to those people, same as men are. The difference that we have to pay attention to, the reality we have to find is, how often are women lowering their stand…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:00 AM
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Walk away is the best for this. Don't gaf and just walk away to find someone else. There is no other advice you need on this subreddit to address these types of issues. Move on. Find someone else. Yeah it can take time but you're already spending your time ruminating and being miserable about it. Just do work to find someone who's not. That's all you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:53 AM
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I don't agree with some of your post but what I most agree with is that women complain men are promiscuous, but take no accountability for their own promiscuity nor do they seem to value men who arent promiscuous, or if they do, they certainly dont look for it because ive never seen a woman ask for a guy without too many partners. Actually its rare, but I have seen it once or twice, but I attribute that mostly to women who seem emotionally disturbed just like guys who demand the same thing with …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:51 AM
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I don't get why it does. It's supply and demand, and its entitlement, just like what women tell us about wanting a stable, normal relationship with someone of relative equality and equitability, is apparently also entitlement. Doesn't track but I suspect a lot of women are making excuses for behavior just like men give excuses for cheating and being promiscuous. They just don't talk about it, like rich people dont talk about their finances, and avoid it and put the blame on someone else who was …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:30 AM
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This advice goes well for everyone, men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:22 AM
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That's some women. And sometimes in some circumstances. Men do it. Women can too. I'm not saying it's a good thing I'm saying it's pointless for you to be bitter about it instead of moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:19 AM
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That's how an economy works, honey, not relationships. Supply and demand are cold, economic terms. Not how we should be viewing relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:16 AM
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Would they be willing to try and find it like a lot of men are willing to try and find theirs? Or are they putting their filters set to 6'2" only, min $80k a year, and only 8+/10 when she doesn't work out, makes $43k a year, is 5'3", doesn't eat well and has two kids. That's kinda moving into delusional territory especially when women can't take the fact that that guy, if you entice him with sex to stay with you, will still try to sleep around, and label their relationship a situationship. Shes …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 06:31 AM
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Because it's not true. You need to understand dating is an ocean. There are thousands of diverse types of people out there and there are sooo many men who feel this way and I meet them because me and them get along with each other and don't get along with men who are like that. It's all cliques. Always has been. You're just not finding those men who think, feel, and back up their actions to prove they are that way. We may be a minority but we're out there and begging to find someone just as stab…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 06:19 AM
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No, noooo this is a negative stereotype about men. There are lots of men like me out there who don't feel this way, we just might be a minority just like women who also feel this way may be in the minority. Don't mislead or try to speak for everyone, you moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 06:14 AM
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Who are you talking to? Lol those were all different people?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 06:12 AM
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I've gotten this a lot from women as well. Especially ones I've had to reject. I've even had a recent story. An acquitance of mine recently became single. She's my height, around a 6 regularly and a 7 on a good day. I can be anywhere from 6-8/10. Maybe chubby at most, like me and we both workout a little. Pretty much a very equal match. Has an administrative job and I have a job in trades, so I'm doing a little better than her financially. I liked her, texted her once every day or so, not clingy…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 05:50 AM
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I've experienced this honestly until my most recent relationships. In my recent relationships I've been able to last a lot longer in bed and the relationship I had was the most sexually fulfilling one as a result. Plus the most romantic, loving too. In the end, it's all hit or miss. Everyone is looking for something. Men are all flipping out because a lot of them are feeling left behind but they wouldn't be because as a lot of people have pointed out, they could start exercising regularly and in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:13 PM
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In contrast to how much women and attractive men, even from a young age, are given lots of attention and affection. In contrast, a lot of men experienced a sharp cutoff of, or never really experienced, healthy, let alone enough, affection and emotion in life. They're just abandoned and were told to "man up" to be whatever that ended up being.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:05 PM
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Yeah, and what percentage of men on this earth are rich, handsome, and powerful? At least 5% and a bit more to make it matter right? What are you complaining about? Some monkeys get more bananas?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:35 PM
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Sex work does not inherently involve promiscuity. People see sex workers for many reasons, some of which inherently have nothing to do with promiscuity. Yes it can be because a man just wants sex, that can be promiscuous behavior but I'd also submit this doesn't qualify either. It may be compulsive sexual behavior like compulsive masturbation, and just as negative, but not promiscuity. Promiscuity I believe involves someone sleeping amongst more of a peer community and doesn't involve business t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:01 AM
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Yes, both men and women are allowed to set boundaries about the person they're sleeping with's sexual history. No it doesn't justify you getting mad she won't date you because of it. She's allowed to say no to a partner who has slept with prostitutes. He's allowed to say no to promiscuous women. What I think you're concerned with is trying to shove it in women's faces they'd be hypocrites in doing so, but they wouldn't be. Nor would they be wrong for seeing their boundaries, because if you want …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:24 AM
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The point women are making bud is that you're allowed to not like women who have a high body count. She'll just find a guy with a higher body count than you who doesn't care because he's been through what she's been through. This thinly veiled, "I'm mad I haven't had access to sex like women have" is pathetic. Men accepting this are getting laid and you're busy getting upset on the internet by it. I'll tell you a secret you don't want to accept. There are many women out there who absolutely feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:09 AM
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Knowing someone's sexual history is baseline knowledge about a person I'm about to have sex with. If I can't ask you their sexual history, especially their recent history, that's a huge red flag that tells me I'm at risk for an STD by sleeping with that person. Anytime someone says your count or your sexual history doesn't matter, I'm baffled.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:02 AM
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It's the hypernormalized violence against and deprivation of a boys need for physical and emotional affection that starts at a very young age. It's around the same time that they're taught they're inherently bad human beings and need to make up for other men hurting women. I grew up with that message from my mother with her unironocally telling me that she was going to find a tall, handsome, rich man to fulfill her romantically. That was her only prominent description of what she wanted in a par…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:44 AM
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