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Not really. If it’s said with love it’s a reminder that fortitude is a virtue and the ability to withstand life’s challenges is a measurement of our value as men. Challenges are opportunities to men who are in their element. The vast majority of men benefit more from tough love than from endless coddling. That doesn’t mean we can’t gripe and talk about the insanity of our situations. It just means at the end of the day we need to deal with it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 07:58 PM
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What story did I make up lol? If you believe anyone’s sob story 100%, especially in a breakup, you’re a goof
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 01:01 AM
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Except one of those things is a verifiable, quantifiable claim. We can KNOW if he’s the breadwinner. We KNOW if she hasn’t held a job. We have no way of knowing whether he’s abusive and she has every incentive to lie about that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:50 PM
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Why would you just take it on face value that she was abused because she said she was? That’s insane. Are you incapable of contextual reasoning? The dude is the money maker. She wants to leave the relationship. What women is going to publicly admit “yeah, I’m just getting tired of the relationship and even though I’ve been goading him and making life as miserable as possible he still hasn’t ended it yet.”? There’s no way you’re an actual man commenting like this.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:46 PM
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Lmao where am I? Oh she SAID he was abusive? Have you seen the posts here? I’m pretty sure like 90% of men - divorced, married, single, engaged - are called “abusive” for simply having the most basic backbone. Often even if they don’t. If a woman is actually being abused and posts about it online, she doesn’t spare details. If you ask “how” their husbands were abusive, they won’t respond with examples or actual behaviors. They’ll say “emotionally, verbally, financially”. In other words, in ways …
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:42 PM
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Living your life as some martyr in opposition to your divorce is worse than moving back to your home country. An idol worshiper and someone who lives their life in opposition to idols are both idolaters.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 12:55 PM
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Now you’re just being smothering. A form of manipulation. Manipulation is abusive. See step 1
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 06:19 PM
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Try to get to a place where you don’t care to hear about her or what people are saying about her. That’s the only advice I have. Any attempt on your part of dig up info on your STBX will be seen by other women especially as pathetic. Gossip is womanly.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 11:26 PM
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You do too but at least I caveat my beliefs by recognizing not every woman is like that. And at least my beliefs make sense.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 09:35 PM
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You’re missing the point. The point is it ISNT the chores. “Chores” and “mental load” are excuses used to validate the innate sense of unhappiness many women have in their relationships. Because of the social conditions and social media, a large percentage of western women have been warped into believing that a relationship with someone needs to be some complex, robust source of personal fulfillment and “growth”. Lacking any appreciation for the attributes that actually cultivate fulfillment and…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 06:01 AM
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They absolutely do put ideas in your head dude. You have no idea what you’re talking about. The number of men and women I’ve seen come out of therapy and diagnose their partner as a “narcissist” or use therapy-language to accuse their partner of “gaslighting” is actually insane. There’s obviously other issues in any marriage that falls apart and to blame it ALL on therapy is probably not the healthiest mindset. But the therapy-funnel of relationship problems is very real.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 10:30 PM
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Since when do you have to be a Christian family bot in order to recommend someone seek happiness through the fulfillment of their role as the head of a family he willingly created himself? Why do you think someone has to be religious to see the meaning in not destroying your family?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 06:47 PM
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Yes, and eating provides serotonin. Can also cause diabetes. Yet it’s an integral part of staying alive. What’s your point? You sound like an idiot.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 08:37 PM
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You’re comparing finding another partner to heroin. I guess I’d ask you to think about who the unhealthy one is in this conversation.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 08:33 PM
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I’m saying that what you call a “coping mechanism” is just the natural desire for affection and love in a relationship, and there’s nothing wrong with it or negative about it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 08:31 PM
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It’s kind of an important human commonality that we find purpose and meaning in our relationships with other people.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 08:28 PM
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Excuse me, I’m trying to stew in misery. Get this positive learning shit out of here
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 08:29 PM
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Why not fix your marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 07:46 AM
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I don’t get how this is the case. I dated, it was fine. Went through the existential crisis of finding all the women I dated insane or sex-crazed. Reverted back to depression and then recouped. Feel like it’s more a right of passage that you’ll have to get through at some point anyways. I dated like 6-8 months after we split.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 07:46 PM
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Jesus Christ, no. “The patriarchy” was the only thing holding this social system together. The trends for divorce and claims of abuse directly coincide with women’s increased presence in the workplace and a decline in actual domestic violence. The more free and prosperous women become, the less happy they are it seems. If anything we need a return to patriarchal society.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 03:29 AM
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One more thing - you will not be alone. You have no idea how many women out here are going to be all over you if you make yourself available to them. It should honestly be the last of your concerns. Get through these months. Let yourself grieve. Then plan.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:27 PM
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Work on yourself and go out with intention. Intention to meet PEOPLE. Work out. Get your money up. Get on the dating apps and make a profile that you think the types of girls you want would want to see. Become the type of man who would attract the women you want.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 09:16 PM
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Why do you need to gather solid evidence?
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 07:07 PM
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No one can help you through this process. That’s what I’ve found. Many will disagree, but no one can fully understand what you’re going through. It’s a spiritual war - every day. But the beautiful part of it is that victory is guaranteed by survival and time. Every day you just wake up, you’re winning this. It’s the hardest thing you’ll ever go through. Guys on this subreddit talk about being in literal combat at war and compared to the pain and agony of this, they say they’d prefer to be back i…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 05:04 PM
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The first I met on bumble, the second I met at a bar near my place.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 12:48 PM
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Lol been there. Listen to the gut saying dopamine detox. Calm tf down. Get off the adderall for a bit. Get in a routine that insists on going to bed/getting up early. You’ll bounce back. Take a break on women, but keep the gym up. I was there on the “disgust” thing after I slept with two women in the same day, and the second woman knew about the first. It’s not the standard thing. I kept high standards, and still felt disgust. Swearing off women only works if you also keep your gym/routine stron…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 06:24 PM
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That’s definitely true but the same cultural origins of those tendencies is what leads everyone towards labeling their exes as narcissists. It’s an inability to simply have a bad relationship with someone - to have a negative experience without the entire person you’re feuding with being defined by your perception of them. I can acknowledge that my ex is a bad person to me, without necessarily being a bad person.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 01:17 AM
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People are bitter. Congrats man. 80 women sounds like a fucking nightmare but you’re absolutely right that - once you’ve done the work - dating and seeing how emotionally available women are willing and enthusiastic to treat you is a huge eye opener.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 04:13 PM
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Such a great comment.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 04:28 PM
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You’re the one who isn’t understanding what he’s saying. 80% of women do not initiate divorce. 80% of marriages don’t end in divorce. Of the ones that do, 80% are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 05:05 AM
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I buy my ex gifts for Mother’s Day because she’s the mother of my children. Not nearly as great as they were when we were together, but I do - with a card “from” my 4 & 2 year olds. I gotta say it’s kinda messed up that she even asked you. Either do it or don’t. Putting the ball in your court for your own gift seems disingenuous. What would she expect you to say? “Yeah I want you to buy me presents”? Lol. But yeah. It’s sad that she feels that way, especially if you didn’t want the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 06:39 PM
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Striking that balance between no ego and confidence is incredibly important and probably the hardest thing I’ve seen dudes struggle with. I think being short has actually helped me tremendously in that regard, and I think a lot of it comes as a result of living/acting in the moment and not in your head.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 04:28 PM
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It’s essential. The truth in what the more cynical people here are saying is that these girls are getting INUNDATED with messages from men. I think I read once that it’s like an 80/20 split between men and women on these apps. So the numbers might seem against you - but when I tell you, this last girl I’ve met is out of my league… you gotta move quick. The apps are a gift and a curse. Most of us didn’t find our exes on the apps. We did things the old fashioned way. The apps take away that initia…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 02:17 PM
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I’m just as cynical on the apps as anyone - but there are absolutely some women who aren’t just looking for validation on there. The key is to quickly meet. You should be scheduling a date within the first 4 messages. Women will want to “talk” as long as you let them in the app. The longer you “talk”, the less likely you are to actually meet. When I first started using the apps, I was actually only interested in talking to them at first. I’d meet girls at bars, the gym etc. for the more organic …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 02:00 PM
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It’s not as “long shot” as you think. I’m a video editor and I can help you if you want. I have a lot of insight into YT. DM me if you want.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 12:02 AM
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Pretty sure you can’t just up and take the kids away from one of the parents that way, even in Canada.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 09:46 PM
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I got goosebumps reading this man. Dreams are so beautiful and powerful.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 08:53 PM
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What does “we do not marry the woman, we marry the family” have to do with matriarchy vs patriarchy or anything I or the OP said?
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 04:16 AM
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I guess I kind of agree that women “run things” in the house currently. Women do seem to be steering relationships and marriages, for the worse in my opinion. I’m not sure what the second half of your comment is relating to with what I said.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 03:33 AM
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I disagree with nearly everything you wrote. Women and men shouldn’t have equal roles in society because men women are not “equal” across multiple categories of behavior, tendencies, competencies and dispositions. Women have roles to fill in functioning societies that play to their strengths - and a proper society will restrain the more toxic elements of each of the sexes. Laws that prohibit violence, wife beating, physical coercion, burglary were implemented to constrain the “toxic masculinity”…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 01:40 AM
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Why don’t you neuter yourself? Because you may want to have children again, and vasectomies are not guaranteed to be reversible. And even if you don’t, it’s incredibly weird when there are so many forms of birth control to intentionally take away your biological ability to father children via surgery. It’s also a very unattractive thing to a lot of women, even ones who don’t want children, that a man is so determined to avoid having children that he would intentionally neuter himself.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 04:51 PM
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I’m curious for the part where it’s based on “half the length of the marriage”. You’re talking about how long the alimony is to be paid, correct? But what the OP seems to be asking is - what is this “difference in income” based on? Is it based on an average of the previous 3 years tax returns? Is it based on CURRENT wages and nothing more? How do they determine differences in income as it relates to a period of time.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 01:41 AM
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Dumb rage bait. There’s a problem with “about women” right now. They’re on historical levels of drugs and are historically unhappy. This is not the problem facing white women lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 09:26 PM
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Going to the bar downstairs from my apartment that has a pool table worked for me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 09:23 PM
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Yeah they’ll almost always recommend immediately leaving your spouse - but the degree of animosity they show is absolutely gender specific.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 07:04 PM
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I feel like we’ve developed a society that just brings out the worst in women. Like if we could hand tailor a society that maximizes the toxic tendencies of men, that’s what we’d get. Get rid of laws against assault and theft/coercion. Legalize wife beating. Idolize soldiers and strong men. That’s what we’ve done to the feminine in our society. We’ve maximized and incentivized the worst elements of feminine behavior. I have 2 little sisters (adults). My ex had 2 little sisters. I have 2 daughter…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 04:27 AM
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Who filed for the divorce between you and the father of your child and why?
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 10:02 PM
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You’re a complete nut being played by a Simp. It doesn’t really get much worse. Enjoy your spiral. You earned it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 09:52 PM
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What’s the issue here?
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 09:38 PM
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He needs to start making payments because he’d be charging the retainer on a credit card
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 08:16 PM
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Here’s the good news. You’re literally at rock bottom. There’s literally no way to go but up. You lost a driving job. No offense, but you’re smarter than that. I can tell by how you write. I’ve said it before. What helps me is polarizing my thoughts. I think in the very small and the very big. Not in between. The very small is every individual action I need to take. Not “go to the gym”. Not “look for jobs.” I’m talking “get one foot off the couch. Stand up. Go to the fridge. Drink a glass of wat…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 03:25 PM
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Dude wtf are you talking about? Are you lost?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 05:44 AM
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Why are you stalking a men’s divorce subreddit? Talk about needing therapy. You’re actively outrage-shopping on Reddit and don’t even have the emotional discipline not to comment in it. Jesus, get a clue. Edit: LMAO look at her post history. Literally the stereotype. “Narcissistic ex husband! I found out too late!” 🤣 Can’t make this up.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 12:37 AM
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Because part of this is the same exact response, verbatim, I got when I asked a somewhat similar question on the app.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 01:24 PM
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This copy/paste advice is not universally applicable and should be taken with a grain of salt.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 09:35 PM
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Men Going Their Own Way. It’s a doctrine of single male living that basically advocates you not prioritizing women, but instead focusing on your own needs and goals. I’m a hopeless romantic and a cynical asshole at the same time, so a lot of the advice I hear from “No more Mr nice guy” and the “Rational Male”/Red Pill crowd doesn’t really land with me. I’ve never been a pushover or a totally toxic guy, thought I found a pretty good balance in my demeanor and frame of reference - but divorce and …
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 09:34 PM
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Why are we posting chatGPT responses as though they’re thought provoking topics here? This was literally copy/pasted from chatGPT.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:18 PM
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To add on to the comment that was just left - you need to think in immediate terms. You’re over thinking - which is understandable - but you need to reorient your brain to IMMEDIACY. Time and space need to shrink in your mind. You need to do things as soon as you think of them. Do not mull anything over. You consider getting up and going to the gym? Don’t think. Do it. Thinking of seeing a movie? Don’t think - go do it. Place needs to be cleaned up? The second you see it/feel it - do it. Operate…
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 05:15 PM
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Stick to your arrangement and don’t take on additional weekends that aren’t part of it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 06:20 PM
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LOL yes let’s set our standards even lower for women than they already are. Are you serious? Not doing drugs as a standard for a girl you’re having sex with is too “judgmental”? Wtf?
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 05:41 AM
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If you Jill yourself, your ex is going to feel nothing, move on quicker, and relish the moment as the victim in your suicide. Just a thought. No one wins by you doing that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 10:16 PM
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2-3 women out of 30 people spend the last 20-30 minutes taking Sounds like their idea of divorce recovery is reenacting marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:36 AM
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Man… of all the stories I’ve heard on here this one actually made me legit sad.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 08:53 PM
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Yes! Treadmill is great - but trust me - NOTHING beats resistance exercise for calming your nerves. Push-ups would do the trick but I guarantee if you try a bench press (you can even use the smith machine without the free-weights) at a heavy weight, the effect will last days.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 02:20 AM
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How old is your daughter? She’s gotta be old enough to be in the house alone until you got home so probably old enough to tell you her mom was in the car with another dude. Same concept applies.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 02:11 AM
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Try weight lifting. Seriously. Do me a favor, next time it happens - drop and do 20 push ups. Lmk what happens. Same exact thing happened to me. Resistance on my muscles literally fixes it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 02:09 AM
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Those are emotionally abusive downvotes.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 09:07 PM
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Oh dude I can only imagine. The good news for you is that this is the last emotional shoe left to drop. Once that bridge is crossed, you know there’s no more “what ifs”. No more torture. She knows it too. All the bullets are spent. The absolute BEST thing you can do at this point is to radically reframe this in your mind. Be this relationships biggest cheerleader. Watch how quickly she loses interest in a post-divorce relationship with no drama. 2 months after divorce and she’s pulling this?! Pf…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 12:43 AM
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Ironically the fact that you’re emotionally unavailable and don’t gaf enough right now to try makes you insanely attractive to women. The best nights I have out are when I’m emotionally spent. Also, Tinder sucks. You’ll be shooting way under your actual weight class so to speak (or over your weight class, come to think of it) in OLD. It’s like 80% dudes on those apps and the 20% of women often have something wrong with them. But they’re swamped with attention so they’re picky. Go to bars. You’ll…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 12:29 AM
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I went to a bar last weekend and just sat there and had the hottest girl I’ve ever slept with on my Johnson 3 hours later with her friend blowing her phone up because they were fighting over me. I’m 5’7. Life is good single and in your 30’s as a man.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 12:17 AM
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Mine hasn’t had a new guy around yet - but when it happens, I plan to be hyper encouraging of it and them as a couple. Partially to save face, partially for the benefit of my children, but also because I’m fairly convinced that a big factor in how long that first post-divorce relationship lasts is how much drama the ex-wife feels she can create from it. They feed off of it. It gives them endless satisfaction to know that you’re thinking about it, wondering if he’s X Y or Z. I think if you had re…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 12:13 AM
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phone shut, thrown in wine bucket Let’s go. FRIENDS reference. I’m here for it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 10:03 PM
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It is lonely. Even if you do everything right, it’s still brutal and sad and lonely.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 04:36 AM
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I’m so confused. Who has your house now? Who’s listed as owner on your county’s property appraisal website?
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 02:05 AM
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Did you make her your power of attorney?
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 02:03 AM
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Dude do you work for Rollo or something? It’s the same copy/paste advice on every thread and you’re in every thread. There’s not even a hint that she’s threatening a DV charge against him…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 02:02 AM
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