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I’m not saying a man should be “cool with being betrayed,” it’s just that what sets a strong man apart from a weak one is how he deals with it. A strong man knows he will find another woman who will give him what he wants (he has that abundance mentality). Contrast that with how a weak man would react. Either way, how a man reacts to being cheated on is different from the concept of whether he trusts a woman in the first place. Look at it this way—I trust you to drive my car to the store and bac…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 05:53 PM
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not caring if a girl cheats on you basically means that you don’t fully trust her from the start no—whether you trust someone or not is a separate concept from how you react when someone betrays you. for example, by the time you become exclusive with someone, you should have already vetted whether she’s trustworthy or not, but later on if you find out she cheated, then it’s your decision whether to make it a big deal or not.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:11 PM
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Read it again. That is literally the title of one of the sections. The cold hard truth is, you cannot build attraction over text. You see, the problem is until you’ve met her in person, you’re just one out of all the countless guys vying for her attention. Assuming you’re matching with these chicks on swipe apps, you need to understand that from the moment you match, the clock starts ticking and time is not your friend. Set a time and place before you stop messaging her on that first day. If you…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 01:25 AM
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I realize I’m late to the party, but you need to read mallard cove’s you’re not her top option.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 12:50 AM
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I would definitely read the New York Times best seller “Red Pill Guide to the Bible” by women_deserve_love.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/21 05:12 AM
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Check out r slash theXeffect. Your first goal is something basic like “go outside everyday.” Yes, literally just physically open your door and step out into the sunlight. May seem trivial, but those small victories give you momentum, and then you build on top of that. You’ll get used to setting goals and meeting them.
/r/askTRP18/03/21 04:28 AM
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Couple points to ease your troubled mind: It took me several “failed attempts” before my first successful conquest, so you’re not special in that regard. Even after losing my virginity, I’ve gone through periods where it was difficult to stay hard, and then I’d worry about it, which created a feedback loop and only made it worse. It’s usually stress induced (changing jobs, death in the family, etc). The irony is the way to fix it is to not worry too much about trying to fix it. Since you said yo…
/r/askTRP26/01/21 05:33 PM
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Besides your first sexual experience/failure from a few months ago, how many other failed attempts have you had?
/r/askTRP26/01/21 02:28 AM
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If I now go along with this alternative time it makes me look too available. You’re overthinking it. Start with telling her a date and time that works for you. If she suggests an alternate time, it means she’s interested and shows she has at least half a brain (some bitches won’t even go that far, they’ll just decline without suggesting another time). If her alternate time could also work for you, then take it or don’t - it’s up to you.
/r/askTRP29/09/20 11:04 AM
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she’s on birth control still, be careful with that... rule of thumb is always maintain control over the birth control situation.. it has never happened to me personally, but you don't have to search too hard to find stories of "she was on birth control and still got pregnant wtf??" come to find out, oh she had to stop taking it for a week while she was on some other medication or some bs.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 02:40 AM
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You won't knock her socks off, and that's okay. It's normal to be nervous for your first time, but you've gotta push through it because the sooner you get it over with, the sooner you'll realize you're making something out of nothing. Someday you'll look back on this and laugh. It's kind of like being afraid to go down the really steep water slide as a little kid. Everyone who's already gone down it is telling you it's no big deal, but it looks scary af from the bottom. As you're climbing those …
/r/askTRP26/05/20 02:32 AM
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No, you should not text or call her. Read mallard cove's you're not her top option and it'll all be crystal clear.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 01:54 AM
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Stop worrying about what she thinks about you because it’s water under the bridge. You think it’s the end of the world and there’s no one else like her because she’s the only one you’ve been with. You need to rewire your brain from thoughts of “why doesn’t she like me,” to more healthy thoughts like “oh well, I’m gonna go for a jog.” Start living for yourself. Think of women like an accessory to your life, they’ll come and go, that’s just a part of life. For future reference, once you’ve lost fr…
/r/askTRP24/05/20 10:26 PM
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If it helps OP get out of his own head so that both partners can enjoy the experience, then it’s good advice.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 11:27 AM
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“You should see my other head.”
/r/askTRP17/05/20 07:57 AM
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Given you’re on the ask trp sub, my first suggestion is to ask an actual question. If all your photos suck, then go do more awesome shit and get photos of yourself doing it. Typical advice around here wrt social media is that it’s a waste of time. Use this time in quarantine to focus on yourself. What to do during quarantine has been asked and answered a billion times already, just search this sub for the word “quarantine.”
/r/askTRP17/05/20 01:21 AM
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be prepared always that she may leave you The whole “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn” thing, and the “glass is already broken” story where the glass falls off the counter and the monk says, “of course.” they will remember you not for the orgasms you gave them, but for the way you made them feel afterwards. Light switch effect. Also, this is not specific to women. It’s the same reason why people have DNRs and shit like that—they don’t want their friends’ and families’ final memories of them …
/r/askTRP14/05/20 05:32 AM
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shoot from the (expanding) hip lol nice
/r/askTRP05/05/20 01:49 AM
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First there must be good behavior in order for positive reinforcement to work. EDIT: You’re right, though—add this to the list of examples where OP tries to implement the more “mainstream” advice by going the verbal communication route, unfortunately (and unsurprisingly) with no results to show for it.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 01:39 AM
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Some combination of denial and knowing OP won’t leave her... until OP leaves her, which will shock her back to the reality that she won’t be able to attract anyone of high value unless she gets her shit together.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 01:38 AM
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Mallard cove has an excellent write up on this topic, search the main sub for you’re not her top option.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 02:26 AM
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It was a very abusive relationship, she punched me in the face every night when we fucked and told me to punch her back or she couldn’t orgasm. lol sorry you’re dealing with this, but gd if this isn’t the textbook definition of don’t stick your dick in crazy, I don’t know what is
/r/askTRP19/04/20 08:12 AM
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RP is a toolbox - take what works for you and leave the rest. There are two ends of the spectrum: On one hand, some guys insist on never picking up her tab; on the other hand, if her tab was expensive and you pick it up, you’re crossing the line into nice guy / beta provider territory, which isn’t attractive. You probably want to be somewhere in the middle. As with everything, context is king. Do what works for you. Personally, when it comes to the check, I treat it the same way I would if I wer…
/r/askTRP15/04/20 11:17 AM
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Read mallard cove’s you’re not her top option. TLDR: When you’re her top option, you’ll know. And when you’re not her top option, the only thing you can do is withdraw; otherwise, every time her phone vibrates, she picks it up hoping it’s her top option, and gets pissed that it’s you.
/r/askTRP30/01/20 06:15 AM
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If you text her a bunch, you’ll probably fuck it up before you have a chance to meet her again. Unless you’ve already fucked her really well or she’s just really interested based on the first time she met you, going a long time with no contact is also a nail in the coffin. She’s probably a goner. Oh well.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 09:44 PM
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It’s easier to game new women than to rebuild your value in the eyes of someone you’ve already fucked up with. That said, if it means that much to you, I see no reason to assume you can’t turn it around in your current LTR as long as you quit your bad habits and start acting correctly.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 07:19 PM
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Tell us about the last time you were hanging out with a girl you knew liked you but you didn’t make a move. Where were you—at a party, out in public, or at your place? And how do you know she liked you—was she flirting with you?
/r/askTRP27/01/20 06:57 PM
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It depends on the politics of your work place, and how your compensation is structured. For example, I’m constantly reading literature from leading authors in my field, and even paying my own way for learning courses that will help me advance my career, but I have no problem sharing my learnings with others. I don’t go out of my way, but if someone specifically asks me for help, I don’t mind it. I view it as a personal marketing opportunity and expect nothing in return other than that a few of m…
/r/askTRP25/01/20 02:27 PM
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Don’t sit across from each other at a table, sit next to each other at the bar.
/r/askTRP23/01/20 01:15 AM
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Fully agree. I was lol’ing at the terminology, not the move itself.
/r/askTRP21/01/20 10:30 PM
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then just pull your hammer out lol nice
/r/askTRP21/01/20 04:42 AM
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This question reminds me of a oneitis from around this time last year. Initially, we met for a few drinks, after which she followed up to confirm we’d hang out again that weekend. Fast forward to around midnight on that second date, we’re at a bar and I invite her back to my place. Her response: “I could’ve gone home a long time ago.” Touché. That night was the best sex I’ve ever had. I’m like holy shit, this is what it’s like when a girl is legitimately into me. After making out a little bit, s…
/r/askTRP21/01/20 01:11 AM
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proceed
/r/askTRP14/01/20 06:54 PM
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Search YouTube for James Marshall - he has some good material on handling uncomfortable or high pressure situations. It can be learned or practiced by pushing outside your comfort zone, but a lot of it comes down to knowing who you are and just remaining calm even in those high pressure moments. If you practice meditation, which I highly recommend, you’ll learn to notice when your anxiety is being triggered, which helps you introspect on why you are feeling uncomfortable in such a situation, whi…
/r/askTRP07/01/20 03:37 AM
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JFC, I feel like I’ve been kicked in the balls just from reading this, but I can’t say that I’m surprised. Glad you seem to be doing better. Thank you for sharing your story.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/19 07:03 PM
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According to her I’m the only one she’s been hooking up with, besides a guy she got with just once a couple months ago. Lol!!
/r/askTRP18/11/19 03:02 AM
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First off, understand that everyone starts somewhere and TRP is like a video game with unlimited levels—the journey never ends. Consider yourself lucky that you had this epiphany when you did instead of later in life after you were married/divorced, etc. Second, keep in mind that Rome wasn’t built in a day. This stuff takes time and practice. Your dad was right about studying hard and setting yourself up with a good career. Take care of your mental health: Read, meditate, find a mission you actu…
/r/askTRP31/10/19 04:44 AM
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Girls 2 and 3 are already giving you head, sooo what’s the problem?
/r/askTRP31/10/19 04:31 AM
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I also have this problem. When I’m meeting someone or going out later, watching Liam McRae’s talk “Sexual Escalation Mindsets” beforehand helps get me in the right headspace. He talks about common limiting beliefs like women don’t want to be touched, and then proceeds to dispel those myths. Just being aware of when I’m having one of those limiting beliefs is a powerful tool for me to overcome them. Watch that video next time you’re going out if toxic shame is an issue for you.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 11:31 AM
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It’s not binary. For those who are already in the top 1% and have women lining up, then sure who gives a fuck; for the rest who are working their way up, not disclosing too much is still a valuable strategy.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/19 11:09 PM
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There could be a billion reasons why you have a hard time staying hard when you’re with a girl. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. First couple times I tried to have sex, I couldn’t keep hard enough for it. Performance anxiety, nerves, etc. Also I watched a lot of porn when I was younger, which fucked me up because I didn’t know how to get turned on with a real girl. Once I figured that out, my subsequent sexual encounters became much more enjoyable. I’ve had other streaks where I couldn’t get …
/r/askTRP06/10/19 04:10 AM
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You said (emphasis mine): For me it had to have been that women will never love you, and that even if you think you’ve built a “connection” with her, it will always fizzle out. So there is just no point. I disagree with you on there being no point in building connections. Sure, now that you’re TRP aware, you see the world for what it is, but don’t throw the baby out with the bath water. Seeking and establishing these connections with women can still be very rewarding—it’s one of the things I liv…
/r/askTRP24/07/19 03:09 PM
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As with everything, context matters. I was responding to OP’s question about how to avoid slipping back into his old beta habits and increase his odds of reaching his goals. He posted here presumably because he’s not satisfied with his progress, so I was trying to help him. If a girl is taking care of your needs adding value in your life and that is working for you right now, then I wouldn’t recommend just blindly following the advice from some internet forum. If it ain’t broke, don’t try to fix…
/r/askTRP23/07/19 10:53 AM
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Both sex and masturbation temporarily reduce my energy levels, but sex affects me differently. I chalk it up to the fact sex is far more gratifying (most of the time anyway), which offsets the energy dip a little bit.
/r/askTRP23/07/19 10:40 AM
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Couple things. Don’t put women on a pedestal. They’re people just like you, with their own set of problems (also just like you). What happened a couple months ago that could have triggered this anxiety to crop up? Did you go through something really embarrassing? Some sort of public humiliation? What are you so worried about that will happen if these women notice you or whatever? Are you physically deformed or is there something else going on? Whatever your concerns, keep in mind that most peopl…
/r/askTRP23/07/19 04:09 AM
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How often do you masturbate? If more than once a week, then try dialing it back. For me my energy level is night and day difference depending on how recently I’ve masturbated. Right afterward, I’m such a beta fag; if it’s been more than a few days, I have a lot more energy; more than a week, and I’m like the fuckin’ Terminator—I will destroy anything that gets in the way of reaching my goals.
/r/askTRP23/07/19 03:52 AM
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Your mind is clouded right now because you’re going through some shit—totally understandable, happens to the best of us. If you frequent these forums enough, you’ll read about how women don’t want to listen to your struggles unless you are talking about how you are overcoming them. If you need someone to talk to about circumstances in your life, that’s what bros and therapists are for. In your case, it’s possible she hasn’t processed it yet and doesn’t know how to react, but don’t expect her to …
/r/askTRP08/07/19 12:20 AM
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unless they are baseline unattractive to each other. +1 for acknowledging this key point right here. I’ve never met a woman who had no guy friends. As with all things, this shouldn’t be taken as absolute black and white - we can and should make generalizations because they make it easier to explain a concept, but in real life we have to account for the contextual clues. For example, if the guy is a long time friend of hers and they have no romantic history, that’s a lot different from some bro s…
/r/askTRP03/07/19 05:01 PM
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Search for Liam McRae Rapid Escalation Mindset. This should surface two different videos of Liam at 21 Convention - both are excellent for getting into the right mindset and actual technique.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 05:53 PM
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Yes and no. There are two parts to learning. One part is reading the material and studying the theory. The other part is putting these concepts into practice. If all you do is read, but you never go out into the world and try new things, then you'll never make any progress. For example, I reached a point where I could predict when the top answer to a question would be to start lifting, but it took me a little while longer to get my lazy ass off the couch and into the gym. By now it has been two …
/r/askTRP25/02/19 05:11 PM
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Do you ask the women if there's anything you should know or just yolo it?
/r/askTRP16/02/19 02:35 AM
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I don't know why you care so much if your rents find out. If you got a DUI, that'd be one thing, but this is just hey man, I'm in college, and I fucked around with some chick who gave me some shit, what do you expect? Not surprised if she let a dude raw dog her. I've had multiple women just throw it in during the heat of the moment. In both cases they had IUDs to protect against pregnancy but I still was like whoa killer jfc let me put on a condom lol. Just goes to show as the man you've gotta b…
/r/askTRP16/02/19 02:31 AM
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I know $200 is no pocket change when you're in college, but big picture, this is not a big deal. Consider this a very important lesson learned and be glad it's not something more serious/life threatening.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 01:26 AM
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Find out if there's a free or low cost clinic near your college campus where students can get tested. Worst case, so what if your parents find out? Not the end of the world - I can think of way worse things. She prolly fucked more than just one other guy, but oh well. Were you using a condom with this girl or no?
/r/askTRP16/02/19 01:18 AM
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I've seen other people on these forums mention that, but I've never done that myself, at least not intentionally. Usually my 30-minute text gets a response of "okay see you there" or "okay I might be 5 minutes late." If I change the time it's because I legitimately need to.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 08:16 PM
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Whenever I review old texts I am reminded of the old saying "less is more." My texting game is not as good as I think it is, and this is probably the case for most guys who aren't naturals. With that in mind, radio silence is probably your best bet unless she messages you first, in which case throw her a few scraps but don't get dragged into a texting marathon. Regardless, I always break radio silence 30 minutes before the first date: "I'll be at the bar."
/r/askTRP15/02/19 07:03 PM
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The general advice around these forums is that any one on one meetup with a guy is a date, women know what they're doing, and a quality woman will not even put herself in such situations. If she were going out to bars and getting hammered with another guy, that'd be a huge red flag. Personally, I wouldn't worry about your particular situation this time but I would make note of it and reconsider if it starts happening regularly. I wouldn't mention anything about it to her, either, because if she …
/r/askTRP15/02/19 05:57 PM
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I prefer first dates be grabbing a drink on a weeknight because it's low investment of time in figuring out if she's fat or ugly, and if it goes well then it paves the way for the second date lay on the weekend.
/r/askTRP13/02/19 06:34 AM
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Do you collect red flags as a hobby? LOL, just found my new life mission.
/r/askTRP13/02/19 06:14 AM
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There was another post yesterday or the day before about handling when a girl threatens suicide. The top responses were she's not your responsibility, but if you want to earn your gold star, contact her parents and one of her good friends about her suicidal tendencies and explain the situation. It sounds like your end game is to break things off with her, which is your decision, but given the gravity of the situation I would not recommend spinning up other plates while keeping her around, you're…
/r/askTRP13/02/19 06:12 AM
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Ah, okay - I read your OP too literally then. Asked her twice where she wanted to go
/r/askTRP11/02/19 10:58 PM
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Women are fickle af because they act based on how the feel, which can literally change from one second to the next. Get used to it. For future reference, reframe your dating requests from asking where she wants to go to leading her by suggesting somewhere yourself.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 10:54 PM
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How can I be happy with the fact that it will take years. I see two self defeating factors going on here that I also used to do until I realized how much they were holding me back: Wanting instant results - it'll be months or years before I start to see results, but I don't want to wait that long. I want instant results right now. Scarcity mentality - I don't know how long I'll have to wait for another woman to come along and show me some affection - it could be weeks, it could be months, but I …
/r/askTRP11/02/19 09:59 PM
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If I sell it, I'll have to move north 20 miles to my one of my parents rentals. Puts me at an hour drive to my job each way. Why would you have to move into your parents' rental? Would they allow you to live there rent free? Can you not afford to rent another place that's closer to your work and school while you rent out your current house and manage it yourself? I'm constantly debating on selling my house or not. To get away from her. I see her probably 3 to 4 times a month and it all comes cra…
/r/askTRP11/02/19 01:11 PM
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Last time a FWB (oneitis) and I were out having burgers and drinks, she casually mentioned that her ex asked her out that night and she told him she already had plans (with me). Internally it annoyed the fuck out of me; externally I said nothing and took another bite out of my burger.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 03:22 AM
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Paging u/fixyourselffirst.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 08:13 PM
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Shaving then going in the shower saves clean-up time for all those hairs on your face and body from the shave. Exactly. I tend to just sit in bed and listen to my talk-radio... it gets me all caught up on the news but I don't feel productive. I understand the temptation to continue lying in bed after waking up. Due to the nature of my profession, I go through weeks at a time without having to report to work, and I fall into this trap often, especially on weekends or in between assignments. I've …
/r/askTRP08/02/19 08:02 PM
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Most of what you see in shows and movies is Hollywood. You are right - no one has time for all the things every morning. So what do you do? You prioritize. In my case, I shave my neck hair every morning before I shower (takes two minutes). I trim my beard twice a week because that's all it needs. When I'm going through a tough time in my life, morning meditation helps, but I don't always give myself time for it, and that's fine. Not all those things you listed need to be done daily (e.g., trimmi…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 06:18 PM
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I misunderstood the intent of your original post. I read it as, "how can I find the energy to go out," like an advice thread, but really it's a discussion thread. Since you're saying you have no desire to go out, you have everything you need at home, how do other people have the energy, I'd reply that it comes down to different strokes for different folks. Some people spend all their energy during the day at work and have nothing left in the tank when they get home; others have less stressful jo…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:17 PM
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There is already some good advice around do what you want - if you don't feel like going out tonight, then don't. If you really want to go out but you just don't have the energy after a long day, consider other factors like how much sleep you're getting, what you're eating, and exercise. I've noticed night and day difference in my energy levels since I started hitting the gym even just 2-3 times per week (I also play hockey once a week), eating not even that great but better than the shit I used…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 04:32 PM
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but my only concern is how can I prevent this now. Not a damn thing. You can't control what other people do; you can only control yourself. If she wants to fuck her ex, she's gonna fuck her ex whether you like it or not. At this point, you have the advice of everyone in this thread. Now it is up to YOU to decide what YOU are going to do given these facts. And this doesn't mean trying to find the right words that will convince her not to fuck her ex. I'm talking about whether to keep her around o…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 04:11 PM
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"theXeffect"
/r/askTRP08/02/19 11:50 AM
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Yeeaah I get it, but you'll be thanking yourself later for keeping those other ones around when your favorite plate breaks.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 02:42 AM
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One way to look at it is having multiple options serves as a sort of insurance policy against oneitis or becoming needy toward any one woman. Sure, you prefer one or some over others, but maybe your favorite plate is out of town this weekend or you just hung out with her last night and you don't want to be too available, so tonight you hit up somebody else.
/r/askTRP06/02/19 05:10 PM
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for my emotional tampon (yes, men need tampons too) what? Question: How should I approach? You should probably ignore her out of respect for yourself, but that's up to you. If you entertain this bitch, then be judicious with your time and attention because she'll probably just talk to you for a while, be all flaky/ambiguous af, and then ghost again. If I were in your shoes I'd cut out all small talk and only send short messages for logistics, like "my place tonight" or "meet me at X bar at 7." I…
/r/askTRP01/02/19 08:28 PM
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If you truly have no intentions of allowing her back into your life, then it really doesn't matter. The fact that you're thinking this hard about it means you think there's something in it for you if you "make the right move." You just need to decide for yourself what you want, then act accordingly.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 04:22 PM
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Pick a location that has both coffee and beer. Sit next to each other at the bar or on a couch. Do not sit across from each other at a table as it's damn near impossible to break the physical touch barrier in that case. I've had this problem recently - had a girl say to me "I'm not available tonight but I'm free for a coffee on Saturday." Thanks to my BP programming I almost replied "never been on a coffee date lmao what time do people even do coffee dates on a Saturday rofl" but fortunately I c…
/r/askTRP01/02/19 04:15 PM
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I'm just curious to see how long it took some of you to transition yourself from that blue pill mentality to the red pill way of life? The journey never ends. There is no point where you'll cross the finish line and suddenly you're red pilled. There are so many facets and you're more likely to succeed if you focus on one area at a time. At least that's how it has been for me. I'd recommend working on your mental health first, then moving on to other areas. Start meditating, journaling, getting e…
/r/askTRP01/02/19 07:43 AM
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Not Give A Fuck
/r/askTRP29/01/19 10:36 PM
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Something that helps me whenever I find myself suffering from confidence issues is I think of all the other times when I royally embarrassed myself. An example is one time I farted in music class in elementary school. My face turned red as a tomato and everyone knew it was me (even though I tried to blame it on the kids next me LOL). At the time I wanted to crawl under the floor and die. Looking back, it's one of my favorite stories that I love telling when I'm hammered with my homies. On the fi…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 08:58 PM
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I told the story incorrectly. She initially put up some resistance and I pushed through it. I'll edit my post to reflect that. Regardless, it was pretty unenthusiastic sex at that, which indicates other issues like loss of attraction. I had multiple points of failure with this one.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 02:52 PM
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They were such harmless examples, can't even believe you remembered them? Ugh, thanks for your honest feedback. There were plenty of others, these are just the ones I remembered while posting. Your reaction helps me put things in perspective. I think I was so in my head because when we first started hanging out, she showered me with affection to the point where I could do no wrong. I got waaay too comfortable. Then, the shit tests began and I passed a few with things like "oh you're just being b…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 01:41 PM
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Could it be that you're the one who's overly sensitive or misinterpreting? Seems unlikely but have to ask.
/r/askTRP25/01/19 11:48 PM
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Your situation might be a good thing. If these pieces of shit in the parking lot and at the cash register notice you, then maybe the ladies notice you, too.
/r/askTRP25/01/19 11:45 PM
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You have a point, but you might want to consider reframing the title. It sounds like you're arguing the community should do this or that, but then the rest of your post goes into more detail around why it's important to have your own voice, which is really useful advice IMHO, especially for real time, in-person interactions. The flip side to that is, I can think of many times where reading other people's examples of reactions or real life text conversations has helped me frame my own thoughts be…
/r/askTRP24/01/19 06:58 PM
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What has helped me is to consume as much info as I can in spurts, and then take short breaks. Over time, I notice the same questions popping up again and again, and I'm able to predict what the top responses are before I scroll down to read what people said. That's how I know a particular topic is starting to click for me. As for how to recover after my oneitis goes to hell in a hand basket, I try to find ways to keep myself busy. Moping around thinking about my oneitis? I have about seven shirt…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 08:27 PM
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It probably depends on how attractive you are. I'm about a 6/10 on a good day and for me, I'd say about half of them instantly look away. The other half smile back and half of those will actually say hi. I'm in this situation a lot right now because I just started a new job, so these are pretty fresh anecdotes. Edit: If you want some low stakes practice, go to the mall, Target, or Wegmans. The perfect scenario is when you're walking toward each other and if you fuck it up, you just keep on walki…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 08:11 PM
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For physical attractiveness, it depends on the girl. When receiving head, the longer the better so I can grab it and hold it out of the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 08:06 PM
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I was responding to your question of how should you respond if she asks "what happened to us?" If the problem is that you want her to stop sending you memes/texts, then keep ignoring her and she'll stop bugging you. You could also just tell her you're not interested in a platonic friendship. If the real issue is you want to get out of the friend zone, all I have to say is good luck. The only thing you can do is make yourself scarce and game other girls.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 07:54 PM
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Tell her you've been busy.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 07:37 PM
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If you were going to a bar/restaurant, I'd say sit next to her at the bar instead of across from her at a table. Since you're going to the dining hall, not the bar, maybe you can grab two corner seats or something. The reason for sitting next to each other is it's really hard to escalate kino when she's all the way across from you, but when she's next to you, it's super easy to "accidentally" bump elbows, legs, etc. Super easy to overtly touch her on the arm, hand, or thigh.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 07:34 PM
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In addition or as an alternative to (however you look at it) the other responder's advice to get into their social circle and join online dating app, consider just focusing on killing it in your STEM degree so you can land a sick ass job and set yourself up for long term success after your degree. I certainly understand the desire for immediate results, but you've also gotta play the long game.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:35 PM
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As long as she's not showing up in public and crashing your dates, I'd ignore it.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 11:30 AM
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I read it as he initiated the breakup - maybe I misinterpreted it.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 11:28 AM
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Those texts were probably her roommates trying to make her feel better by seeing if they could get to you. Either way, take solace in the fact that you still have such power over her this long after the breakup. Don't give her the same power over you.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 03:23 AM
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Do you have ED history? No, I don't think so. What? Have you ever had trouble keeping it hard while you're trying to fuck a girl or not? Either way, I know the feeling. On one hand, sometimes I get to the point where I can't concentrate on anything else until I get that release. On the other hand, fapping always diminishes my desire to escalate on a chick.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 05:38 PM
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Last time I was vetting a girl for LTR, this happened to me, too. She hadn't been with any of my friends (at least not that I know of, lmao), but this girl had been with a lot of dudes. What made it easier for me to accept is that someone on these forums pointed out that every girl has a sexual history. And guess what: It only gets worse as you get older. Even the ones that seem like innocent little virgins have extensive rap sheets. Maybe your scenario is different from mine because her former …
/r/askTRP22/01/19 05:31 PM
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You can be overly available, and wonder what happened in a month or two. OP, listen to this. I learned this lesson the hard way - don't be me. Over the holidays I matched with a girl who was on winter break while I was in between jobs. I already had another job lined up, but my start date was more than a month out, so I had way too much time on my hands. Things started out great - she came over multiple times a week and we fucked passionately every time we hung out. Very strong attraction at fir…
/r/askTRP22/01/19 11:47 AM
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If a girl really wants to meet up with you she will Yup. Once you've asked enough women out, you'll have run the gamot of those who are interested and those who aren't. The ones who are interested will either make time or offer up several options. Those who are not will either dodge or be perpetually "busy." Here are some real examples of both scenarios from my personal experience (please feel free to critique). All of these are matches from online dating apps. Examples of high levels of interes…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 01:19 PM
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there was another thread earlier today called feeling suicidal with lots of good advice check it out
/r/askTRP18/01/19 10:38 PM
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Whenever I'm in doubt, I re-read /u/mallardcove's post on the main sub "you're not her top option" and everything in the universe makes perfect sense again.
/r/askTRP18/01/19 07:50 PM
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Hey man, don't ever apologize for reaching out. You did the right thing by asking for help. Life is a wild ride with its ups and downs. Sometimes the ups feel pretty good and the lows feel downright shitty. A few months ago I met a cute girl, we went out a few times, I brought her back to my place and we had the best sex of my life. For the next several weeks she showered me with affection and I caught mad feels. Fast forward to today: I'm a week into a new job that I'm not super thrilled about;…
/r/askTRP18/01/19 07:23 PM
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Basically, the mostly-normal girl I had known years before was an act performed in response to my betaness, and her true self was a sexual monster. Frankly I could hardly believe such people exist... Uh huh, go on...
/r/askTRP17/01/19 08:09 PM
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In case anyone is like me and has to remind yourself why "just being yourself" is a hindrance to an abundant sex life, google Rollo Tomassi's article "Imagination." Paraphrasing: You must continuously stimulate a woman's imagination to maintain her desire and arousal; as soon as you overtly confirm your character, you become comfortable and boring to her. This is a hard truth for me to accept because I'm one of those guys who ultimately wants to "just be myself," and Tomassi's words really expla…
/r/askTRP15/01/19 12:16 PM
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At least you can safe yourself the hassle of vetting her for LTR. That's off the table now. Why does a plate's hooking up with other guys disqualify her from future LTR status? Isn't it assumed that we are not our plates' only source for dick?
/r/askTRP14/01/19 07:34 PM
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/sarcasm
/r/askTRP14/01/19 06:30 PM
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Thanks for sharing your experience, and you're right about maintaining frame. Also, good point about bringing our attention back to our priorities (self/health, job, family, friends).
/r/askTRP14/01/19 03:42 AM
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In order of impact: Sitting next to each other at the bar instead of across from each other at a table. Crucial because of the next point: Using kino to break the physical touch barrier. If I'm getting at least a neutral vibe from her, then I'll touch her on the arm. Of course, touching her is impossible when she's all the way across the table from me, hence sitting at the bar. Being able to detect more subtle IOIs has given me more confidence in moving on to touching her hand, her thighs, or an…
/r/askTRP12/01/19 10:16 AM
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Not a direct answer to your question, but this is why I avoid Friday for first dates if I can. What has worked well for me is doing the first date on a week night (say, Tuesday): Keeps it short because most people (myself included) have to get up early in the mornings for work. A short first date minimizes time investment in confirming if we vibe in person and gives me less time to fuck it up. Buffers against the problem you mention in your post: I want to see her again but we just hung out yest…
/r/askTRP12/01/19 09:50 AM
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She wrote the paper, I turned it in. The teacher pulled me aside, during class, and walked me down to the counselors office. I hadn’t even read the paper at this point. I looked at the paper. Holy shit. *slow clap*
/r/askTRP02/01/19 03:41 AM
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I mean putting my hand on her thigh. I keep it there for a second or two, and then move it off. A couple more points of clarification: I only go there after I've already broken the physical touch barrier with something more innocent like touching her arm with the back of my hand. Touching her thigh works best when you're sitting close enough to her that it's not much of a reach. It's always going to feel like a little bit of a reach by nature of not having gorilla arms, but it shouldn't require …
/r/TheRedPill27/11/18 07:43 PM
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This is a great post because it doesn't just simply state that kino is the key, it also explains how to do it (e.g. touching her shoulder to show approval). Kino has been the single biggest game changer for me in my quest for success with women. Another key factor has been sitting at the bar instead of a table or booth on the first date. I was aware of the concept of kino long before I figured out how to do it. I used to think the proper way to date was to get a table and sit across from each ot…
/r/TheRedPill27/11/18 12:41 PM
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Search for Liam McRae on YouTube. He has some good material - in field and lecture style - on overcoming limiting beliefs and escalating properly. Rapid Escalation and Escalating Mindsets are two of my favorites. For example, one of his pieces of advice for when you're at the club is to literally stand closer to her while you're talking to her so it's easier for your arm to "accidentally" brush up against hers. Sounds super basic, and that's because it is, but for a lot of us it's the most basic…
/r/askTRP10/09/18 03:20 AM
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I, too, have been blessed with a nice ass and received many a compliment. The times when I wasn't autistic, I shot back with something like "thanks, I like your smile." Kinda cheesy but it doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. All the better if it gets her laughing, which if you're standing next to her at a bar or a party is a perfect opportunity to reach out and touch her on the arm. Whatever the case, she's basically saying hey, I like you, come talk to me.
/r/askTRP08/09/18 01:20 AM
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Is this your first time typing?
/r/askTRP12/07/18 02:59 AM
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^ This is the answer. OP, you keep copying and pasting the same exact question in response to every comment. What we're trying to help you understand is that it doesn't matter what or how you tell her because even if she verbally agrees to use the morning after pill, once you get into that situation where your condom has broken and the morning after pill is the only option you have left, you are fucked because you cannot physically force her to take it. So the question you need to ask yourself i…
/r/askTRP01/07/18 08:11 PM
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He already said he's doing nofap, but this is still critically important for anyone else who's reading because if there is one thing that nukes all desire to talk to women (and being fun in general), it's fapping.
/r/askTRP29/06/18 11:21 AM
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Sometimes I have this problem as well, and I'm working on it, but change doesn't happen overnight. Search for James Marshall and Liam McRae on YouTube. They have lots of videos on social freedom and getting into the right mindset for opening women. Some of the points that stuck with me are that the majority of women are bored AF, and when you approach them, you're giving them excitement by breaking the monotony of their dull lives; most women actually want to be approached by men but are powerle…
/r/askTRP29/06/18 11:12 AM
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I'm in my mid-30s, became RP aware right around the same age as you are now, and know how it feels. Whenever I find myself regretting past decisions or missed opportunities, I remember the following pieces of advice that I've seen in various threads on these forums: Time is always going to keep on passing, no matter what. In that way, time is a bitch. Some day, tomorrow is going to be today. Same with next year, and same with ten years from now. When that time comes, do you want to look back on …
/r/askTRP28/06/18 11:11 AM
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Physical touch is probably your single most powerful weapon. Use it. Look up Liam McRae and James Marshall - both have excellent videos on getting into the right mindset for kino escalation, overcoming limiting beliefs, and conveying sexual intent. My personal favorites are Liam McRae's "Rapid Escalation" and "Sexual Escalation Mindsets." Some tips I've seen on these subs, in those videos, and elsewhere: When you go on a date, sit at the bar instead of at a table. This one is absolutely key. It'…
/r/askTRP28/05/18 02:39 PM
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I read it as "Let's Cuddle First."
/r/TheRedPill11/04/18 10:23 AM
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For as long as I can remember I’ve wanted to be loved (to the point of being worshipped like one of those popular kids you see in the movies) by absolutely everybody I come across. I almost can’t accept someone not liking/hating/not caring about me, which unfortunately seems to be the reaction of the vast majority of people towards me nowadays. You might benefit a lot from reading No More Mr. Nice Guy. One of the primary points in that book is to stop trying to please others at your own expense.…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 06:28 AM
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Journal, meditate, to do list Can do wonders for inner game. I recommend you look into that concept before you detract from the discussion with any more low value responses and ad hominem attacks. Is this redpill or the day of a strong independent woman These two things are not mutually exclusive.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/18 12:26 PM
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Talk to her and tell her you wanna be there with her and have fun with her, make it seem like you are missing out of the fun instead of you being jealous or worried. This. There's a lot of passive aggressive advice in these forums. So what if you fucked it up when you had the chance because you didn't want to seem butt hurt? Own the fact that you effed up and take steps to correct that. Have a conversation with her about it. "Hey, I know earlier I said I wasn't interested, but after thinking abo…
/r/askTRP26/12/17 03:59 PM
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Follow up question: Would a soft next be appropriate in this situation?
/r/askTRP14/12/17 02:34 PM
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The only prerequisite is having the desire to improve oneself. Try not to think of it in binary terms. It's not like you must reach Level 10 before you can start practicing these principles in real life, and eventually you'll reach Level 100 and then you're done. It doesn't work like that. There is always room for improvement, no matter who you are or where are you on your life journey. There is nothing wrong with wanting to learn more about a particular topic before you begin practicing it in r…
/r/askTRP14/12/17 02:18 PM
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If the problem is you tend to want to avoid conflicts and please others at your own expense, then you might have Nice Guy Syndrome. Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy."
/r/askTRP13/12/17 04:00 AM
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Look at her and say something along the lines of "I've never actually kissed a Psychologist before" I will try this the next chance I get. I like it because it can be adapted to anything... "I've never kissed a girl from Florida before." Edit: I tested this line tonight. It worked.
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