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| 6 | Divorce costsUnlike many other areas of law, family law is a special type of machine. There is literally no definitive end to family law litigation. Although with children out of the equation it can help. There are so many different tools to string out litigation that it only takes one side to not cooperate and things will get drawn out. Also depends on the judge in your case. For example, once divorce is filed, you’ll normally get a couple of dates and deadlines as to how thing “should” proceed. Things like… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/23 07:14 PM |
| 3 | How do y’all deal with your ex wife spreading mess about you to everyone and anyone?How about you share these pictures that you speak of and let us be judge. You know for scientific and supportive purposes lol. Honestly, this is like middle school drama antics. She tells you she’s doing better but has the time of day to send you pictures of herself? Most people are intrigued by this during the early stages of a new relationship not after it has ended. That tells you where her head is at. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/23 08:47 PM |
| 3 | How to go about getting a lawyerI would recommend that you try to learn as much as possible about the laws relevant to your specific case. Learn how your current state of residence determines alimony, child custody, child support, division of property, and then the you can consult with the attorney. Otherwise you’ll just be wasting the consultation to learn about these items for the first time. The first initial consultation is a bit of a sales pitch and for them and a match finding process for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 04:43 PM |
| 5 | Simps with no PRENUPIt’s like you don’t even comprehend the meaning of the words you throw out there. But worst you have some of the worst reading comprehension. Premarital and during marriage are mutually exclusive lol. “The prenup is most beneficial to the young man that has no assets…” LOL With the attitude you e presented yourself here with and looking at your profile history, I think it’s safe to assume you’ve never been divorce because you’ve never even been married in the first place. Be humble or you will c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | How fucked am I?Its not clear to me where you are actually living at the moment. It’s also not clear how long has your spouse been at the other state. I would imagine you would have to report it in MN as that’s where you guys last lived as a family unit. Following this train of thought your motives for filing the report would that your spouse left the state with the child and is refusing to return the child and you have been informed that she intends to file for divorce in her other state. You might get a diffe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 12:15 PM |
| 2 | How fucked am I?Document everything and get copies of police reports to fight off claims of abuse or violence. Calling the cops is a common tactic to obtain a restraining or protective order before filing for divorce. That’s how they get the upper hand. Document the last time you had any contact with your kids. Only communicate via text/email, conduct yourself as if your messages will be presented to the court the next day. Do not agree to anything. If possible consult with at least one attorney from each state… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 10:38 AM |
| 0 | How fucked am I?Kidnapping normally requires standing orders or in the absence of orders to abscond with the child without an order and without knowledge/permission from other parent. In this case, OP followed her to the new state already so technically he waived that claim. I’m not a lawyer but that’s the main gist of it. OP must consult with an attorney first thing tomorrow. There is usually some verbiage in the law about moving away from an area for the purpose of avoiding jurisdiction, but that comes after … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Mother waived her own visitation because child diagnosed with COVIDI think you should roll with the “or what” option my dawg! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 11:17 AM |
| 2 | Wife's income - questionSomething else to consider about alimony is that the spouse can also argue that her and the child they’re accustomed to a certain lifestyle and alimony should be used to help maintain it. So if she’s used to being a SAHM they can play that angle. Also, I would tread carefully about mentioning her mental health issues and how they’ve limited her ability to work because that opens it up for her to argue that she can only work part time or prevent her from higher paying jobs. All the more reasons w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Wife's income - questionWhich state you live in plays the most important part, most are pretty consistent with California, Texas, and Florida being the outliers. In California couple don’t even have to be married for alimony to be awarded and I believe it has the most lenient guidelines for the length it should be paid. Texas and Florida have a set time for alimony, meaning they don’t award for it indefinitely. There might be a few other states that follow similar guidelines but for the most part the factors that are c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 06:03 PM |
| 4 | Rant.I would say you should serve her first to secure she doesn’t try to leave the state with your child or somewhere far where it would disrupt your visitation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Ex monitors my phone calls with our kid...deal with it or address it?I think the most important thing here is to know where you are in the divorce and custody battle? Have you completed everything and already have a divorce decree and custody order? Or are you still in the middle of the process? My ex did the same thing during the first few calls but then I had my attorney stipulate with her attorney for specific guidelines when I had virtual visits with the kids. I asked that mom not be present in the room and allow the kids some privacy, that no other electroni… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 07:01 PM |
| 16 | Relationship - Bday party with ex - what would you do?Don’t go. This can only go bad and not provide anything positive. By not showing up it will show your new gf that you are committed to her, it will make it clear that YOU set the boundaries around your ex not the other way around, and you get avoid any possible drama with your ex. I think it will also help your friend group know that in the future they should take more consideration into their plans. As much as it sucks for them and you, this is a break up, and there will be collateral damage. I… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 01:25 PM |
| 3 | How to start a new relationship with a women when you have to keep paying your ex wife child support and alimonyIt’s definitely an issue to think about at first. Probably just your mind playing tricks on you along with other insecurities from ending a long term relationship. Reality is that you have to come to terms with it. If your ex is high conflict it will haunt you because the moment you start dating and spending money on the new lady friend, high conflict ex might come asking for more child support or alimony or accuse you of hiding assets. After a divorce battle no man wants that drama. At the same… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Living a nightmareCan you ask your gf and cousin not to come around the restaurant for a few days while you sort this out? You have a child to look after and that should be your reason to fight through this and become a even stronger individual. It’s natural to feel the way you are feeling but I don’t think YOU should be the one who has to tun away and start life over some place else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Living a nightmareTake the weekend to deal with the situation from an emotional side. On Monday try to speak with a family law attorney about the situation. You have several legal matter to take care of and the sooner the better. Depending on your state you have to establish paternity of your son since you guys aren’t married, next is the business, then the house, and other property issues. Again this will a vary based on your state and its laws around unmarried couples with children. Sorry to hear about your sit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/23 05:14 AM |
| 1 | I know what to do need to prepare firstCouple of other things you should be aware of that are not directly financial but could wreck havoc to your finances. It sounds like she’s going to be high conflict by her recent antics. You should be aware of abuse claims. It’s very easy for one party to allege abuse and get a restraining order. That would force you to stay away from the marital home and continue paying the bills and mortgage while the order is in place. To combat this you might want to keep a voice recorder on you or install s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 04:19 AM |
| 1 | I know what to do need to prepare firstTexas is one of the states that puts limits on alimony and since you’re both working it might not be awarded at all. Kid is over 18 so child support claims either. From a surface level the only financial loss you face will be splitting everything 50-50. Hope you’re not in Dallas or San Antonio as those two have the worst reputation for divorce attorneys. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 03:39 AM |
| 3 | What is the benefit to marry? What did I do to myself?You need to consult with an attorney who specializes in family law in your area ASAP!!! Any actions by either spouse leading up to the divorce will be scrutinized by the court. Let’s focus on your actions for now. It’s typical that as part of the initial proceedings in a divorce for you to have to disclose all of your finances for 6 months prior to being served. If it shows that withdrew money from the account or made large purchases, it will be perceived as hiding assets or marital waste of com… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 03:26 AM |
| 9 | Crazy or just manipulative?I would start leaving sexy lingerie around along with my clothes covered in womans scent/make up. Forget to put away the tripod set up by the bed. Leave a “used” condoms in places she’ll definitely see them like the shower, the closet, and the forget to flush the one in the toilet. Pinch your neck to make it look like a hickey next time you see her. I’m talking the whole nine yards lol. You could also make a point about bringing new sexual partners around the children, some courts do not view th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/23 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Going through the second oneI'm not sure we have the same definition of entrapment. I'm not the most familiar with Arizona laws, but they appear to be inline with other the other State's, however, nuances exist and that's why it's recommended to always consult with an attorney for clarification. There are separate recording laws for in-person communications such as the ones you are physically in the presence of, and for other communications such as telephone calls. You are typically allowed to record the general common are… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/23 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Going through the second oneNothing is ever clear cut in family court. Always expect the unexpected. The family court also takes into consideration if the moving child would benefit or suffer from the move if there are other siblings in the picture. In this case, there are and you can tell the court your current wife does not want to allow the two siblings to interact, she wants to damage the relationship before it even really begins. Same with your father, the child’s paternal grandparent. She doesn’t have a job and you d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/23 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Going through the second oneI copied the following from some law firm in Arizona… Can I relocate my child to another state? Yes, it is possible. A.R.S. § 25-408 requires that you seek the Arizona court’s permission before you relocate, which means you must also notify the other parent. As the custodial parent, you are under a custody order. You cannot simply decide to move away — the child remains under the continuing jurisdiction of the court until age 18 (or until emancipated). Furthermore, if you intend to relocate 100 … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/23 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Who has found getting back into dating difficult in this climateI hear this argument on both sides but I don’t understand it. I’m still in the middle of a contested divorce battle. My attention is focused on the case and same with my finances. It’s not like I’m out here trying to date. But even before I got married, this argument was made by people all the time. Could you describe “the climate” you are referencing? As I understand it from my point of view the economy is shit, the political climate is shit, Covid fucked a lot of things, social media has conti… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 02:33 PM |
| 8 | Lost and need to vent.It’s normal to go through the grieving process, everyone has to do it, but depending on your history you’ll do it however you’re built for it. Once you are able to see things differently you’ll come to realize how there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel for you. I also believe we all have to go through some sort of a midlife crisis to continue growing who we are as individuals. So, if this is your midlife crisis you are in a relatively good spot. You have learned who this person really … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Pretty sure my ex ruined herself financiallyRemove your feelings from the situation and focus on the legal and practical aspects of her actions and how you should react. Forget “getting back” at her for the cheating and “burying” her even more. Those feelings a for you to deal with outside of the courtroom. She has violated a court order and it has resulted in financial burdens for you. You must inform the court immediately by filing a motion to show cause. What happens when the next month she cancels the children’s insurance and tells yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Need divorce adviceActually you might come to find that you may have more valuable and uninterrupted time with you child if you divorce and are able to obtain a favorable physical custody order. When you’re married both parents are considered to share legal and physical custody and the police will not interfere. Once divorced, you will have a custody order. If the mother refuses to allow you to see your child during your scheduled time then you may file motions to find her in contempt which can result in fines and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/23 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Discovery is the next step.There are general and location-specific rules around discovery. You should be able to look this up for your local area. Know that you may object to some discovery request or limit what you provide as part of a request. Always try to cooperate in good faith while also aware of not disclosing info you are not required to do so. If you can, consult with an attorney. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 07:48 PM |
| 1 | If you move out.. but cant afford a lawyer..Ideally she would have filled out an address change form and filed it with the court. What you don’t want is a “he said she said” situation and the cops refusing to take action by stating it’s a civil dispute between the two of you. It’s better to be proactive than reactive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Filing without a lawyerLook into retaining an attorney in an unbundled capacity. Usually the initial forms are not that expensive and they do have waivers for that. I do not want yo appeared biased or jaded, however, after reading the countless stories in which the women took this route without justification I’m inclined to say just do it. What if the tables were turned? Something that you’ll come to learn is that the woman you are divorcing is not the woman you married. Once the divorce proceedings begin there is no … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/23 03:45 PM |
| 1 | If you move out.. but cant afford a lawyer..I think it would also be useful if you can actually provide evidence that she no longer lives there and hasn’t lived there for an extended period of time. A home owner cannot just legally walk into a home they rent just because they own the property. Obviously there might be a lease contract in this case but the point is that she can’t just walk in out of the blue. I would try to find evidence that she has a new residence and has no business at your home. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 10:04 PM |
| 2 | If you move out.. but cant afford a lawyer..Are you sure that’s for in person recordings and not phone calls? I’m not a specialist but lived in several states and the only one that changed was recording phone calls not in person recordings. One way to work around this is to put up a sign in your home office and make it clear that there are recording devices in action. As long as you don’t place camera in a place like the bathroom or the closet it might be okay. Wear a bodycam and put some tape on your shirt that states the camera is recor… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 10:01 PM |
| 3 | You Don't Get What You Deserve, You Get What You NegotiateAwesome suggestions! On the subject of emotions, there was an interview with a female attorney posted on here recently, she goes on to say “emotions win cases for women, whereas emotions loose cases for men”. Always keep you cool with your ex, the Judge, opposing counsel. When it comes to negotiating and settling, never agree to anything before consulting with an attorney. Even if you are representing yourself, always consult with an attorney about what the offer that is being presented. Underst… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/23 06:36 AM |
| 4 | Statistic: women more likely to marry for money than loveAlso worth considering the reasons both sides decide to file for divorce. I read a comment somewhere on this sub or a related sub that read “The difference between the woman you married and the woman you’re divorcing is the following. The woman you married had something to gain from marrying you. The woman you’re divorcing has something to gain from divorcing you.” My take is that it’s not hard to understand human behavior and these statistics are to be expected given the rules of the game. We h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/23 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Ozempic, weight loss and divorceIf I were you I would start to consult with attorneys in my area to get their opinions and start to plan an exit strategy. Start eliminating any financial responsibilities as soon as possible, stop investing to any community assets, do not take on any new large expenses, etc. Courts will usually try to maintain the status quo at the start of the divorce. This usually means that if you have been paying all the bills, then you will continue to do so while the litigation plays out. You want to be c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/23 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Ozempic, weight loss and divorceYou say your income supports you both, guessing she does not work. Since she added to the family monthly expenses by her decision after hearing your objection, this would be a good point to have her start earning some income to help supplement the additional expenses. From a practical standing, you are not in a good position to divorce as you’ll be responsible for alimony and child support since she doesn’t work (assuming this is the case). At the same time, pushing her to work might send her ov… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/23 03:19 PM |
| 16 | Help - Wife wants to reconlice marriage and doesn't want a divorce anymore BUT...It will definitely impact your chance at custody. Custody timeshare has a direct impact on child support. I suggest you consult with a couple of attorneys as soon as possible. Like yesterday! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/23 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Thots don't understand the meaning of independence.Yep yep, but I also usually think more of my base salary when I think of income. No way I’m thinking daily income lol | /r/PussyPassDenied | 21/03/21 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Thots don't understand the meaning of independence.It’s a typo, it should be “Miss I’m Dependent” | /r/PussyPassDenied | 21/03/21 03:18 AM |
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