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Actions speak louder than words, that's what matters! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 06:13 PM
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I understand your perspective better now, thank you for explaining. I think a lot of religious men see their authority as power rather than the submission to God that it is supposed to be, and the discipline it takes to overcome that ego is christ-like. I just have to get over enough ego to say that I was wrong and I understand that now, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 05:31 PM
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Serving is different from slavery, even biblically. Jesus did not prostrate himself to others desires powerlessly, but he did turn the other cheek and treat everyone compassionately. He may have served but he also taught, counciled, and was harsh when it was called for. He took responsibility for everyone. That's not slavery that's accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 05:04 PM
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'slavery' is going way too far in the other direction, he is still in charge, and also misses the spiritual burden of the father. He is the head of the family because he is responsible for guiding everyone in the family to salvation through his decisions and guidance, and yes, sacrifices.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:46 PM
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Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:09 AM
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As In you think women in relationships treat their partner like they're replaceable?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:02 AM
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That's not reinforcement at all. I'm not arguing that it can be a positive way to engage their interest but it isn't the same as a reward system like praise or accolades are. Reinforcement is the OUTCOME of behavior you want to encourage, such as praising the boy after he takes the bins out fast, or the high grade you get on a difficult assignment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:26 PM
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Positive reinforcement is effective regardless of gender, because it strengthens the reward system everybody has. It comes after the prompt and after the behavior. It doesn't compare to having to prompt things in a manipulative way to get cooperation in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 10:41 PM
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So by accountability you mean that the stakes for women (at least in the beginning of dating) are so low that they have no pressure to self-improve and instead just move on to another dating prospect?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:29 PM
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How are men socially punished? You mean the judgement for being single/ not being able to get a gf? I agree that the pressure is unevenly on men to initiate and 'earn' the relationship early in the dating process. I'm just not understanding how you are equating it to an 'accountability' Not trying to debate a point trying to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:42 PM
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I didn't mean it as a reframe, you can only be held accountable for the things you are responsible for in my understanding. It's a responsibility to treat one another with basic decency for example
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:30 PM
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What? In that case the one doing the praising is being immature
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:29 PM
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Devils advocate here but isn't that last bit of 'advice' evidence of immaturity? Needing to manipulate an emotional reaction to get the intended outcome instead of being able to just request directly?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:25 PM
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What are the responsibilities of dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:21 PM
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Women are constantly threatened with 'hitting a wall' and growing old alone
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:20 PM
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Not at all. That's the worst thing about love. You can't manifest it on your own no matter how badly you want or deserve it. The premise of the post is just to see if men have that fear at all the way that women are encouraged to have
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 01:53 AM
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You have that backwards. I'm saying that you can romance your partner without hotel rooms and dinners, you're the one who is coming across completely against doing anything special or novel for your partner that is selfless
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 01:29 AM
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Being frugal is an attractive quality to some women, myself included. Using frugality as a reason not to romance your partner is not
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 01:15 AM
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Not free doesn't mean financial burden. Planning and saving for a fun trip IS PART of the thrill and the bonding. Day dreaming about what you will do together, celebrating your progress towards making it a reality, practicing making goals and seeing them come to fruition and having a blast doing it is how you know you want to spend your life with that person. Your bitter gripes about how much having a relationship will cost you and all the prepared resentment is so self defeating
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 01:06 AM
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I get it man. You just want to relax and that's fine. There are women homebodies too, who also want to go on adventures infrequently. When you find one just don't tell her what you really think of women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:59 AM
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If you can only imagine showing effort in the form of spending a lot of money then I see why you feel so strongly against sharing experiences with someone you love
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:51 AM
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'to an impractical degree' lol. The most practical thing is taking care of your own sexual needs alone. If you want to share that with someone else though, you're going to have to meet their needs too, despite the inconvenience
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:45 AM
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If that's genuinely fun for you then go ahead and enjoy yelling to anyone that will listen that you don't care. I just can't imagine being happy at the end of my life without feeling truly seen and loved by another person before I got there, it's hard for me to imagine that that's because of my gender and not a thoroughly human desire
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:39 AM
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Reframing women as children because you only care about how hot the sex is and how irritating it is to do anything outside of your comfort zone is a lot more telling
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:33 AM
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You very clearly see women as vapid, manipulative and selfish. Your generalizations make that obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:30 AM
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I just want to point out that of course it's not as often. Women are rejecting multiple guys in favor of the one they take a chance on that then rejects them when they are much more vulnerable after intimacy. Quantity and quality should be taken into consideration
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:29 AM
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Not sure where most of that came from, but it's clear you just don't like women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:24 AM
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You could also just pay for it too. But I wonder if you are afraid of lacking actual companionship with a peer that understands and loves you at the end of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:22 AM
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I don't think someone has to be unique to maintain a relationship, that might be good for grabbing attention early on But totally unique people are usually not stable either, and stability is also an ingredient for a relationship to work
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:11 AM
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I've been in an age gap relationship before. Even still it doesn't bother me when people online express discomfort or even discussed with age gap relationships. People can't help what grosses them out, and it is truly a recipe for abuse whether or not it happens every time. Op thinks he is calling out people being overly sensitive while being overly sensitive himself
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:01 AM
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Even though you get it, the language you use still shows such a male thought process on it, lol. That is not a critique by the way, That effort and consideration alone is attractive, and will make the relationship more successful. I say male thought process because of referring to it like "leveling up" which makes sense because that is a relatable concept of constant improvement. It's just that I would have never seen it in those terms, I would have called it variety, spontaneity, or sintering t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:56 PM
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Agree 100% I think it's one of the ways that the difference in genders is a blessing rather than a curse
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:20 PM
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Yeah, you started in the extreme In summation, women need a chaperone that provides them with entertainment on a regular basis. If this is your partner then yes that's incompatibility at best, and toxicity at worst. But this last comment was much more reasonable. I'll agree that I think women tend to favor new experiences more frequently than men, And so even if you take into account all the generalizing that you're going to end up with more women pushing for novelty, and more men begrudgingly f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:16 PM
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Women give a damn about flowers, because it's an expression of love. I'm not saying there are no dommy mommies out there but in general women don't want to have to coordinate you showing them affection, if I have to ask you to buy me flowers then those flowers are worth $24.95 and nothing else. The fact that you think this is a dominance and submission thing is so wild. Your example is a bit hard to relate? Validation external to the relationship shouldn't have anything to do with it. Men very m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:54 PM
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Again, you're missing the difference between being entertained by your partner and being entertained with your partner. If you're with somebody who stirs up drama everyday just to get a reaction out of you, then yes you have a toxic childish partner. If you don't want to be bothered with someone's thoughts or sharing experiences with them, then just get an FWB, it sounds like you don't have any interest in actually sharing a life with somebody
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:27 PM
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It's not an act of service, it's an act of consideration. Showing your partner that you see them, you appreciate them, and that you think about them in a selfless way. We don't care that you stopped at the grocery store and sacrificed $24.95 for us. We care that you care enough about us that you did something just to make us happy. That is far more valuable than $24.95 And it is wild to me that you think women like flowers because it represents a power dynamic??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:21 PM
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Not a lot of women enjoy watching the same crappy TV every evening, duty sex, and miserably resenting every social obligation with other people. Women want an exciting life "with" their partner. If you can't even muster up enthusiasm during the early part of the relationship women know it is only going to get worse and more stale from there
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:03 PM
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Attention from a man that is not a threat is easy to get, even for an objectively unattractive woman
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 05:09 PM
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I think I was underestimating the level of support you intended to convey. I think there are a lot of women who would not condemn sex workers for choosing to survive that way, while simultaneously condemning the men who purchased them without it being cognitive dissonance. If you are talking about women who uphold sex work as a boss girl sexual liberation And yet still condemn the men who purchased them, then yeah I would have to agree they are hypocrites
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:58 PM
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So you really don't think there are any women who believe that women who do sex work are not immoral, but the men who buy them are?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:46 PM
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You're missing the proportion of women who are put off by men who buy sex work because of not believing consent can be, or should be bought, or that it's objectifying and bad for the emotional and mental health of one or both sides. There's also plenty of women who don't see sex work as sexually liberating or that prostitution is often self-abuse or a result of abuse. Men who don't care about these concerns are not worth getting involved with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 08:38 PM
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Thank you for doing the work and calling out the bs. I don't understand the impulse to claim that women at large are attracted to abuse. It seems so obviously unlikely that common sense would refute it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 07:50 PM
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Oh no I agree with that, that users comment was sarcastic I think and meant to belittle men for being desperate for attention. It's a privileged position since a straight woman can easily get attention and validation when she wants it with little effort and no commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 07:30 PM
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Women do. Validation feels good even from men you don't want to go any further with. To be clear I think it's a selfish problematic impulse, but it's real
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 07:05 PM
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I'm not disagreeing but isn't this an effect of misogynistic WOMEN who accept that treatment?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 05:45 PM
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