TubbyMink Archive

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1	If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't. Please. The only one putting arbitrary checklists for other women is you. I was pointing out nuance within and you’re going to go with the “cool girl” insult? Sounds a bit insecure, watermelon. Celebrate Valentines Day if you want to celebrate. If you don’t, it doesn’t mean you have low standards or need to break up with your current boyfriend.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 06:39 PM
1	If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't. And that’s totally cool. You both want to celebrate it. I don’t believe it’s a thing for me, and to be expect something on The Principle of it isn’t what my character is about. My preferences aren’t a reflection of what anyone else wants to do or celebrate.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 04:57 PM
0	If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't. Yes, you’re right. A holiday which historically starting off by doling out women to men by means of a lottery and drawing names, is a holiday about spoiling women. It doesn’t matter how many ism’s you can name and claim it’s fighting against these things. (It’s not) Modern day, it’s a day for lovers. It’s fine if you want to celebrate the holiday. It’s fine if you communicate that. Because I choose not to celebrate a commercialized holiday does not mean I have low standards. If you have to dicta…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 04:19 PM
-9	If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't. Disagree. Valentine’s Day is just a way to get you to spend money. Don’t focus on one trivial day as a make it and break it. I only care about birthdays. It would by hypocritical to put a different standard onto someone else.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 11:18 AM
23	He doesn't have time = he doesn't want to make time Yeah I thought it sounded a little suffocating. What do you talk about when you’re face to face if you can’t go 7-12hrs without an update	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/20 11:23 PM
8	Facts. That’s essentially r/truerateme in a nutshell	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/04/20 01:26 AM
4	In 2020, the pickmes are... uh, I guess bragging about how their husbands never wear their wedding bands? I feel kinda complicit in a similar situation. Went away on a work trip. Boss man, male coworker whom I hated, and my other male coworker who is a good friend of mine. Also friends with his wife. Boss man cheaped out and friend and I shared a room. Honestly not a problem for us in that scenario. We lived in a crew house together as well. I’m not sure how it exactly fits in the FDS principles; but I can find myself being sympathetic to a man with friends whom are women. Mostly because I have a ma…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/20 05:40 PM
10	On practicing aloofness. Love this post. I also love the philosophy behind stoicism. The idea of stoicism is to reach for the ideal sage-like mindset; but also allows for the realism that you will likely never reach the sage level. As someone who is naturally very tightly wound I’ve found it immensely helpful. Emotions are powerful, but emotions are often a choice. Feel it, recognize the cause, and move forward. It’s about not dwelling on the negative, but to choose and foster the positive. Op, it’s not all about just b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/01/20 08:07 PM