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Question For WomenTurbulent-Company373/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:22 PM
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The question on here is usually: "Why is this guy getting action while I am not?" There is no real answer to this question since anything that you think would badly disqualify one person doesn't necessarily always disqualify someone else. Everyone is different so that which works for some doesn't work for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:29 PM
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The same can be said regarding those who want to see a SW. Who am I to judge anyone since life isn't fair to everyone. One has to do what one has to do. I would do the same in their shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:12 PM
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The key word here is "choose or choice".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:14 PM
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It should not be surprising but expected that women would advocate for women's issues first because it affects them. Where are the men advocating for other men? I have received as a guy a lot of confrontation from guys just for wearing shorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:35 AM
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Porn is all about the money rather than the sex. Sex work is all about the money rather than the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:51 PM
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Even more so when you're the only male on my dad's side of the family. You are told how special you are in that you will continue the family name, etc. Maybe in the past it was like this but not always now. I was the last to lose my virginity. I was the last to marry. My wife kept her last name and she can't have any children, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:03 PM
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What works for some doesn't work for others. One has to find what works best for them in life and this can apply to anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:05 AM
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It comes down to learning through experience (trial and error) what works and what doesn't work for the individual since it can differ from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:47 AM
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Game works for those that have it and use it but not for those that don't. You have to find out what works for you through experience, trial and error.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:41 AM
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Fear of rejection is a big killer of men taking any risks at all to meet women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:28 AM
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The good, the bad and the ugly have and have not gotten laid. They don't call it "getting lucky" for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:22 AM
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True. Life is about the good, the bad and the ugly. Nothing surprises me about life anymore. Sometimes life feels like an abusive situation that alternates between polar extremes/opposites.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:45 PM
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Yes, there can be some level of primal attractiveness as a fantasy or kink of sorts that one can have about them. The closest I came to this was with someone who worked in a jail. Most killers don't have any inhibitions or fears regarding most people which makes it easier for them to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:36 PM
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It is what it is and even if one doesn't like it one has to play the game because life isn't going to change just for me when it is the way it is which is not always good in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:20 PM
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I was in a similar boat until I was almost 30. Both the loss of my dad before and the loss of a young cousin right afterwards made me have/develop a tougher/thicker skin in order to deal with life better so that what used to bug me before didn't bug me as much later which helped with improving my prospects much more. In this life, you need a thicker skin to get what you want out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:13 PM
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However, constantly getting rejections doesn't help and can get one to this point/predicament.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:00 PM
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It is understandable that one would feel upset and jealous about this especially if one feels left out of having any attention, connection, relationship, etc. I have been there before. For all of our teenage years and most of our 20s, my sister and I had different experiences and they were both not so good. I was lonely and was with no one. She was with someone but in an abusive relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:54 AM
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Fear of rejection is why they don't approach, but by not approaching they have already rejected themselves first.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:48 AM
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Some narcissists are good at doing this at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 06:39 PM
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No. A friend of a friend who knew her told me about it. Nowhere did I write that she deserved abuse especially if she is in an abusive relationship. Maybe I should have said that people misjudge other people over the most superficial things. I am just stating what happened and I didn't cause any of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:30 PM
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There are those who are shown the door/exit and those who are shown the bed/room.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:12 AM
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Is this a case of this woman liking this man who doesn't like her and you liking her but her not liking you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:06 AM
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Some women (or men) put up with a lot of shit from some men (or women) eventhough these men (or women) do not like them. Why? Because those women (or men) putting up with them like them more than they like themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:38 AM
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Someone once told me that she was scared of my legs when I was wearing shorts. Ironically, she ended up with an abusive guy who has broken her arm several times.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:15 AM
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During our teenage years and our 20s my sister was in an abusive relationship and I was lonely with not even a single relationship during that time. Both of us were suffering in different ways. It was brutal. "Ain't life grand?" (It would make for an interesting play.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:48 AM
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Many aren't even able to get their so-called looks match.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:05 PM
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What's interesting is that there are men who don't care about the women they are with but they are still getting what they want from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:00 PM
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It's really bad when they love those that hate them and hate those that love them. Like choosing to be or remain with those who harm them the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:47 PM
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Also do not give what is sacred to dogs and do not cast your pearls before swine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:02 PM
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It probably feels that way to involuntary virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:22 PM
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It could look and feel that way to someone who is inexperienced and who is an involuntary virgin and who feels rejected and overwhelmed by feeling that they are the only person around who hasn't had sex compared to others their age. They may be thinking what bad did they ever do to deserve this loneliness. Thus, sex could look like a reward and no sex as a punishment to them. This is something that those who have had sex early, easily, extremely and abundantly will not understand. (I was 10-15 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:18 PM
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All of these men seem to have had dark triad traits like narcissism, psychopathy, etc.,
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:03 PM
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I think that the line should be drawn a little more specifically between virgins and non-virgins in addition to lonely and non-lonely. Also, abusive cheating womanizing narcissists/psychopaths tend to be more successful with women and have more children than other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:59 AM
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So were you told by someone that she did that sex act with her ex? In other words, how did you find out about it? I am sure that my gfs must have done things with others that she didn't do with me. I guess that I never asked or cared to ask. Instead maybe do something that she never did before that you did or could do. I know that I was the first to do some things like take someone's virginity or to be the first one to give someone else oral even though they had given others oral before.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:25 PM
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I remember during my teen years my sister and all her friends were dating guys who were not very nice to them. Meanwhile I was the guy who ironically asked himself, "What bad thing did I ever do to deserve this loneliness?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 03:28 PM
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Just like in a sci-fi dystopian future utopian society for women where some men are sex slaves and the rest of the men are castrated work slaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:56 PM
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For the same reason that abusive men treat women badly especially given that they have a woman who loves him more than anyone or anything. It's like why spoil/ruin a good thing that they have going by treating them badly. I'm assuming that it has to do with them getting women very easily that they don't care because there is always someone else to replace them after they are done with them or while they are with them. Abundance for some means being wasteful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:39 PM
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Some are men using AI to trick other men. Others are men somehow forcing or coercing their wives or girlfriends to do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 03:29 PM
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Given how things in general both socially and economically can be not so good, sometimes it feels like the world hates one for just existing. This is probably something people sometimes feel because life can be difficult and not so good at times. However, some wrongly resort to blaming the opposite sex for their life problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:02 AM
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It can be easy for men to fall for the naked pictures of some women online especially when they are very revealing. There are elements of teasing, exhibitionism, showing off, attention seeking, etc. being involved. However, most of these women are attached and are trying to direct attention and traffic to their pay sites. Hundreds and thousands of men who are attached or single are attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:45 AM
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I have gotten attention but I didn't know what to do with it. There have been days where I got a "hi or hello" first from several others of the opposite sex several times in a day out of nowhere. I was just dressed in summer clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:29 AM
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I was reading how many sw online are greatly turned off by the rude and crude sexual comments that many men make and feel that sw want to hear when in fact they are not impressed by them. It actually makes many of them not want anything to do with them. Instead, an ounce of respect goes a long way which is unfortunately lacking these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:22 AM
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Positive bonding is very important to many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:13 AM
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The mask usually falls after they move in together or they move away from her family or friends or she leaves her job or she gets pregnant, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:05 PM
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It is important to make background checks on people who one would like to be in a long-term relationship with so that there are no surprises later on in the relationship. Unfortunately, some ignore previous bad behaviors from abusers regarding how they badly treated their exes which is known by their present partner but which they chose to ignore. Being in an abusive relationship is no picnic for the abused person who is suffering from abuse and hatred from their partner who is supposed to love …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 06:52 PM
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A lot of these men are very successful in the dating and cheating departments and they do leave a trail of many women whose lives they have negatively impacted so that some women ignore the red flags of what they have done to other women before them thinking that they will somehow treat them differently than all of the others before by them. In most cases, their treatment will be worse instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 10:24 AM
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I like pillow princesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:39 AM
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When they start to see sex as some sort of reward to those having sex and some sort of punishment to those not having sex then the fact that those who are seen as undeserving/abusive are getting it screws/confuses things up in their inexperienced lives and minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:31 PM
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Me and my sister had totally different lives as teens, etc. I was a lonely guy and she was in an abusive relationship. We were both suffering in a different way socially. It sucked for us. What was interesting was that most of her friends were also in abusive relationships and most of my friends were also lonely guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:02 PM
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Narcissists and psychopaths can be excellent manipulative charmers in order to get what they want. These men are great at attracting and tricking women into abusive relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 05:26 PM
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Men tend to see violence as mostly physical where as women see violence as covering many more other things in addition to physical violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:32 PM
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I knew a guy whose name was Chad but he was considered a Chud by most.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:28 PM
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I have read about others being very insensitive when someone's partner or friend was dying. I remember reading even 20 years ago online about a woman who was visiting a male friend (not a bf) who was in the hospital who was dying from cancer. Some were saying some nasty things to her and about him. Reading between the lines, it appeared to me that some were very lonely and were upset/jealous of the attention that this lady was giving her dying friend and it felt very personal to them as if she h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:12 PM
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I have heard that around 50000 women are killed worldwide every year from domestic/abusive relationship violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:50 PM
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It seems like it's someone that the woman chose first. However, it is more someone that the man has chosen first to take advantage of due to certain characteristics that the woman has such as young, inexperienced, innocent, vulnerable, virginal, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:46 PM
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More about some attached men. Not all abusive men are chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:31 PM
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All forms of misogyny (hate of women) are bad whether intellectual, written, verbal, emotional, physical, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:27 PM
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Sex appears to be more of a reward and/or punishment these days. However, how one is rewarded or punished has nothing to do with any merit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 03:08 AM
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Sex feels like a reward or a punishment to some, especially to those who feel that they are somehow being deprived of it in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:20 AM
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Some see sex as a reward and a lack of sex as a punishment. Thus, some feel that others are being rewarded for their bad behavior and that they are being punished for their good behavior. However, that's how some of the gatekeepers of sex makes it feel like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 09:29 AM
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That's an interesting idea. However, people are more selfish than selfless.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:46 PM
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Let me spell it out. Shitty men are getting sex all the time while non-shitty men aren't. That's it plain and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:42 PM
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I have a feeling that some very good women are very easy targets of some very bad men. These women are young, innocent, vulnerable, inexperienced, virgins, etc. These men know how to go after them in order to use and abuse them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:33 PM
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It's more like that chicken and egg question of which came first.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:28 PM
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It is all about sex mostly. Who's getting it and who isn't. I do see this as an issue as a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:23 PM
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What it boils down to them is that these guys are having sex no matter how bad they are or how bad they make things and they are not having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:18 PM
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There is also the myth that they're having sex with 101 different people 24/7 non-stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:14 PM
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When a guy isn't with someone almost all guys who are with someone appear to be assholes in his eyes. In reality, some are and some are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:12 PM
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Being aware as a man that men can make women feel many times much more uncomfortable than the other way around is a very important thing to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 11:57 AM
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What can be frustrating is that these guys have many chances at love and are blowing it every time but they never seem to run out of these chances either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 11:03 AM
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What it is is that you could be a man who does none of that and never did any of that yet still remain feeling somewhat disliked as if you were one of these perverted creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 10:57 AM
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Generalizing, hating, prejudging, scapegoating, etc. These are features of both misogyny/misogynists and misandry/misandrists. When dating and/or relationship dynamics are compared between men and women there can be the following: 1) They both treat each other well. 2) The man mistreats the woman. 3) The woman mistreats the man. 4) They both treat each other badly. Three of the above four (3/4 = 75%) already have a negative component.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 10:16 AM
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It seems like reverse psychology because a lot of these guys are very disrespectful to women while the women are very respectful to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 11:36 PM
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There are so many attached women posting naked pictures of themselves online just to get the attention of many men on here in order to get them to their content pay sites. They like to act like they are unattached in order to get men more freely interested in following them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:55 PM
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Sorry, it was placed in the wrong spot on here. I will remove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:46 PM
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There was a guy in HS who had a following of several girls. It started with his gf and her friend. Then more women friends of both girls got together, etc. It grew to where they hung out and went out with him with around 5 to 10 of them at a time. There were also rumors of orgies around him with them. Also, some of the women may have been bi. Many guys were somewhat jealous especially those who didn't have anyone. Also, most guys thought he was the one pulling the girls in while I figured out th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 11:42 AM
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Me and my mom pulled/pried her away from her ex fiancee and she married someone else who treats her better and she now has kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 11:29 AM
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Choose wrong and these men become a millstone around their throats.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:14 PM
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That's social neoliberalism/libertarianism. Economic neoliberalism/libertarianism is already affecting many. Welcome to the world of social and economic inequality by the social and economic rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:10 PM
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If my sister wanted help in dealing with an abusive boyfriend should I have done nothing since I was one of those less desirable guys in women's eyes to even bother? So are the women getting badly beaten or raped by their abusive boyfriends part of natural selection by these women in selecting them? Are the rest of men just useful/useless idiots?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:48 PM
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These men have absolutely no inhibitions regarding women so that they are constantly putting themselves out there without any fear of rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:34 PM
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I was invisible to women until I hit my late 20s. Sometimes I wondered why and what you wrote answers some of my question. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 12:32 PM
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Yes, women do get a lot of unwanted attention from men which makes them feel uncomfortable. For men it's the opposite. If they get any attention from women, they feel great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:39 PM
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Who are the men who are paying the price for abusive men? Other men. I remember as a teen that my sister and her friends all had abusive bfs. However, I was the one who was sadly asking himself "What bad thing did I ever do to deserve this loneliness?"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 02:31 PM
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I guess if they have a prior history of abusing women before. However, these guys with this kind of predatory experience know how to find their victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 02:25 PM
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As a guy, I can concur/agree about this being true. However, many women will say the opposite in that a guy must be a POS if he's not liked by any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 02:21 PM
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The so-called good men are out there pining since they are mostly invisible to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:13 PM
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With permission/consent of course. What is interesting is how some fantasize about things that others have experienced it in real life that have been destructive/catastrophic to its victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:11 PM
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It is bad when women treat you bad when you're not bad to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:28 PM
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They usually say this after a bad date or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:25 PM
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Women like to ask where have all the good men gone. However, men could also ask where have all the good women gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:48 PM
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I have always wondered why I was invisible to women until I reached around 30. Those missing years before 30 still upset me because they were so lonely feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:23 PM
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OTOH, what is a man who always has women to abuse? A serial abuser?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 12:54 PM
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For those non-virgins who easily lost it and have had no problems ever having sex, most will never understand what it is to be on the other side as a virgin. They will say that sex is not a big deal while they are unable to live without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 12:49 PM
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The thing being is some of the worst men who treat women the worst even killing them are easily able to continually have women in their lives even if women know how terrible they have been to other women before them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 12:37 PM
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I didn't lose my virginity until after I developed a thick skin in life after my dad died and a young cousin died afterwards. I felt that life was too short for me to let everything bother me anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 12:26 PM
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However, it also depends on the person and whether they can be/get detached from someone that they have had sex with only once like in an ONS. Some of my hoe phases were more like FWBs which had more of a repeated connection. What can suck sometimes is when one may want to have sex with someone more than once and they are more into only having sex only once with others in order to avoid any attachments.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:50 PM
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I don't regret my hoe phases and I still fondly remember some of them. (I am currently married.). I sometimes miss them. It felt like they were what added spice to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:07 PM
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At that age, there are those who are in an exclusive relationship, those who date casually, those who sleep around with many others, those who don't have anyone, etc. I have always admired those who have been together for some time, especially when many are the opposite. These usually start as teenage sweethearts. The definition of good girls usually implies someone who men ideally want to settle down with which is different than the definition of good guys which usually implies a guy with no se…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 11:46 AM
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It's because we are being told that Chads have all of the advantages that Chuds don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:14 AM
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What is different is that men who hate women and who are abusive act out abusively and violently against women so that misogyny is not only verbal. It doesn't look like you are referring to these men. BTW, these men are not affected by what women say against men. These men are usually able to find women to abuse because they feed on their vulnerabilities. The men who you describe as hating women more or less verbally rather than in deeds/acts tend to be so called "incels". Thus, you are trying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:24 PM
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From my experience, women generally do not like nice guys with regards to sex and dating. Thus, I didn't have any sex or relationships when other guys were having it as assholes. My break came after I didn't let this get me down anymore. She was a bad girl in that she had a high body count. Thinking about her still makes me shiver. Also, she was cheating on her bf when she did it with me. I didn't know about this until much later. Also, it seems that none of the guys she was with before ever wen…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:23 PM
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It feels like they're showing off or bragging. However, sometimes it felt like they liked to complain a lot after the fact which was confusing like they had sex with someone they didn't really like or they had sex they didn't like because it was so bad, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 05:47 AM
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To a guy who doesn't have a woman in his life and who is not having sex, he will tend to generally see all other men who are as assholes and women will tend to see him as an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:44 PM
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Some are confused between being ugly versus acting ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:18 PM
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Because they don't know how to love bomb like the others do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:16 PM
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Remember reading that someone tolerated an abusive relationship because the guy was handsome and the sex was good. However, eventually things got so bad that she had to overlook the looks and sex in order to leave him. She is now wondering if she should warn his new girlfriends about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:13 PM
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There are two kinds of men generally: Those who dominate over women and those who don't. It is those men who dominate women who get what they want from them through hook or crook.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:06 PM
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Before I was able to have any women in my life, I had to develop a thick skin so that I wouldn't feel hurt by any rejection, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:00 PM
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I did but only because she liked to be sexually explicit about her sex life and I wasn't comfortable knowing all of the details about what I was missing out on. Thus, it was a self-preservation thing. It also didn't help that she complained about how shitty she was being treated by some of them who she was having sex with no matter what they did to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:21 PM
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Patriarchy tends to work best mostly for those men at the top of the system itself who control it to their benefit both socially and economically.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:18 PM
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Many more get injured and maimed daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:12 PM
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It probably deals with the whole world rather than the West in that it occurs mostly in countries where women's rights are non-existent such as in third world countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:45 PM
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12 years (I am around 58 years old.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:34 AM
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Getting married does not always guarantee constant access to sex. I found sex to be more constant with girlfriends before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:16 AM
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If one is a devoted bf then doing these things is not something that one avoids doing for her. However, if one is a simp who is being taken advantage of, then that's a different story/thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:51 PM
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Once I lost my virginity, everything changed for me regarding women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 02:48 PM
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When one is a single lonely man, it looks like women have all the advantages.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:32 PM
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They have lost all inhibitions regarding women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 10:04 PM
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Women who have been abused are usually surprised at how fast after they dump an abusive guy that they guy is able to get another girlfriend/wife. They are also surprised how the new girlfriend/wife usually do not heed any warnings that they may pass about the guy to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:47 PM
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I do remember as a teenager that my sister and her friends were all with abusive guys who treated them badly while I was the guy who ironically asked himself "What bad did I ever do to deserve this loneliness?"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:58 PM
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I am a nice guy because I never broke up with anyone first.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:04 PM
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Eventually, most of these women get hurt by these men and end up leaving them. However, these men just move on to their next victim and repeat their abuse all over again. They are the abusers/wreckers/ruiners of many women's lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:20 AM
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I now separated the first sentence from the other sentence in order to express them as being different. Some people are overall nice and didn't just change to be nice in order to attract someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:14 AM
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There was an a study where most men were looking for a nice woman. OTOH; however, it was found that most women are not necessarily looking for a nice man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:06 AM
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1) Being very nice through love bombing is one of the ways in which abusive men get women. They are not in any way really nice but put on a great act of trickery. 2) Dark Triad characteristics of abusive men attract rather than repulse those women. (Egotistical/narcissistic is such a dark triad character.) 3) Some guys can even murder women and other women will still fawn over them. Many women make the same mistake regarding these abusive men many times over.They either have a soft spot or blind…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:37 AM
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More like that is who they really are rather than putting on a nice show. However, most guys who abuse women usually love bomb them first which means that they know how to act super nice when they are really not and they do successfully attract them in order to trap them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:22 AM
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"Since I don't get laid, then women must be bad." Isn't this a prevailing mentality/attitude online these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 05:39 PM
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This reminds me of a girl who has had sex with anyone and everyone except one who happens to be the only one who really likes her. It can be devastating. And this has happened to some. Others have been after a girl who they like and are trying to have a relationship step by step with only to have the girl go behind his back and sleep with a random guy as a flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:28 PM
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I just remember a scene with a young gal lying in a bed with her hands both holding a cover over her. All one could see was her head. There were several guys circled standing around the bed whom it appeared she already had sex with. There was an overhanging lamp/light behind on the bed's headboard. She appeared to be a fraternity's easy go to girl. I remember that she objected to sleeping with one guy because she considered him to be too good/pure. I remember thinking what did being good have an…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 09:51 AM
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Mass consumption/materialism is promoted as a way to deal with unhappiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:44 PM
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I remember as a kid of around 10 in the 1970s seeing this as scene of a show on TV that stuck with me for years. It appeared to be a British show and there was a girl lying in a bed covered in a sheet. She had a group of guys who were having sex with her one at a time taking their turns. They appeared to be private school teen guys in their school uniforms. Then, when it came to one guy she refused saying something along the lines that he was too good. Of course this confused me at the time but …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:08 PM
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I didn't lose it until my very late 20s. Thus, all those years before starting from my teens has a gap in it of inexperience which still makes me feel like it's missing/empty. Then to be plunged into it big time from my 30s to 40s instead of 10 to 15 years earlier can be shocking like experiencing going from poor to rich, night to day, darkness to light, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:50 AM
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For some there is a PTSD feeling related to losing it later in life. There is a definite empty gap/hole that even much sex later can't make up for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:07 AM
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Even if some are upset at being a nice guy and want to become an asshole, some will not have the heart to really do it. It will conflict with them. Some just see the sex benefits that manipulators get while ignoring all of the damage that they inflict on others. They have the ability to go from one extreme to another when they need to. Because their behavior is part of their personality/who they really are, one thing those who fall for them cannot understand is that they cannot be changed and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:43 PM
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Sometimes one feels like rebelling if things haven't gone the way we wanted them to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:42 PM
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There are nice men, in-between men and not so nice men. My general impression/observation as a man over the years has been that the not so nice men are usually the most successful with women. I am sure that many men would agree with this while many women would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:35 PM
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Then what's the point of being human and being different (civil/civilization) unless it's just an invented construct for some very few people to control/rule over so many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:29 PM
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You should post this is r/abusiverelationships since it's very informative.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:22 PM
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It's like calling oneself rich when one is not rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 12:41 PM
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Sometimes if you give someone your hand, they end up taking your arm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 12:37 PM
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It seems like nice guys is a general term for men who aren't getting laid these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 12:11 PM
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Things would appear this way to those who feel like they are not part of it in that they're not getting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 12:00 PM
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If I am in any way so-called nice it's because that's who/what I am and not because I expect to be rewarded with anything from anyone. One shouldn't do something good and expect to be rewarded for it. The reward is usually personal and altruistic. In most cases, doing something positive is its own reward and it's usually not appreciated by others. The interesting thing is that men who later end up not being nice to women usually first start out as being super nice to them by love bombing them in…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:57 PM
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Some men may feel uncomfortable seeing this if they are jealous of such contact between women while other men would find this to be appealing/hot. I wouldn't mind it if my SO's friends did this to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:05 PM
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Whether they like it or not, shitty men will eventually end up treating women like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 05:15 PM
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Some men go from blaming one woman to wrongly blaming all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:15 PM
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When my sister and I were both teenagers around the same time, I felt bad because I was a virgin and had no girlfriend. She felt bad but for a different/opposite reason in that she lost her virginity to an abusive boyfriend within an abusive relationship that she was in. We each felt like losers in our own different and difficult way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 10:56 AM
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I don't feel good about it. I can have kids but she cannot. I feel stuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:24 PM
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Body/anatomy can trump looks for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:24 PM
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Either you are liked or not liked at first sight or at first impression for the most part. Some people are liked no matter what they do or say even if it's detrimental to the liker.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:54 PM
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Yes, abusive guys can start out as nice guys by their love bombing, etc. in order to lure someone in. However, since they are abusive that is not their real personality and their masks eventually slip off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:42 PM
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Unfortunately, there isn't much support between people in the same or similar boat on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:39 PM
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I remember during my teenage years when my sister and her friends were dating abusive assholes, I was the guy who ironically was asking himself, "What bad thing did I ever do to deserve this loneliness?" Can anyone relate to feeling this way?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:57 AM
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I have heard that boyfriends have their girlfriends do porn online for money. Many women are killed each year worldwide by their intimate partners. Many more are abused, injured and maimed by their intimate partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:30 AM
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IMO, at minimum, a real nice guy is a guy who does not hit or abuse women these days. Even this bar is something that many guys fail at. However, it doesn't matter to them or bother them at all because this failure doesn't prevent them from being successful with women. They always find someone to abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:19 AM
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You can add how many women are victims of abusers that they have fallen for.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:53 AM
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Had parts of # 4 for almost 30 of my first years. Then for 15 years had parts of both # 3 & # 2. Currently have had parts of # 1 for around 15 years. Never thought that I would have gotten out of # 4 when I was in it. Thus, I have experienced a bit of everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:18 AM
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I have always liked and appreciated the beauty, softness, meaning, love and caring that they give to life. (I also remember being lost as a very young child and feeling lonely and helpless, then my mother found me and at that moment I thought that whoever made mothers knew what they were doing.)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:10 AM
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You're right. I don't like it that some think that just because a guy likes overweight women that there's something wrong with him. Some guys like fat women from the very beginning starting at a young age of them liking women and not because they are somehow settling downwards for them because they are lowering their dating standards, etc. The guys who don't like overweight women have somehow made them to be very undesirable which they are not and the guys who like them to be losers which they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:55 PM
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"Think of it this way a woman is a bike and you are a rider..." "Rider would prefer a new brand bike without issues and a bike would prefer an experienced rider..." A bike is an object that is cold and hard while women are humans who are warm and soft. Are you saying that men prefer virgin/lower BC women and women prefer non-virgin/higher BC men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:18 PM
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"Unfortunately, for men, sex is seen as proof that they are good enough to be in society. A sort of stamp of approval." "A sad state of affairs that we have collectively conflated what women find sexually desirable with who is worthy of belonging." A man who has sex with the same women does eventually get her genital scent on his genital. It is a type of marking/bonding as if she is making him as hers. Her scent becomes his scent down there. Some women can detect the scent of another woman on a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:28 PM
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Some women only want sex with men. Other women want more than just sex with men. My experiences with women include from virgin, moderate to very active women. Never did I judge any of them for their prior experiences. Otherwise, I would be a hypocrite since it takes two to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:13 AM
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It is sad when women who are looking for someone to be with are only getting responses (DMs) from many men who are only looking for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:56 AM
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Both for men and for women? If one sex stopped wouldn't the other sex want it more?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:50 AM
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Most men who say these things are usually having either no sex or one way sex with women which means that they are not usually orally pleasuring women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:41 AM
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You are right. After examining all of my relationships, they were all ended by the woman and not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:24 PM
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While it makes sense that similar attract, many are confused when opposite attract which is where much of the online railing/ranting occurs over like smart educated women going after dumb idiots instead of smart educated men, very short women going after very tall men instead of short men, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 11:38 AM
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Aren't they excluding a large percentage of women? Unfortunately, there is a lot of fat phobia in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 06:02 PM
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Sometimes you become this way through no fault of your own like by getting bullied in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 05:52 PM
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even murder...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:08 PM
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They're left to chasing their own tails instead of chasing tail.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:06 PM
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Same with being a virgin is punished worse than being a criminal. For some, even being a virgin is criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:06 PM
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Do men have a different sense of morality than women do?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:04 PM
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They don't understand that the abusive guys who do treat them like shit start out at first by not treating them like shit in order to lure them in. These other guys have the incorrect order. Instead, they start out treating them like shit which repulses them from ever coming near them. Such observed subtleties are missed by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:00 PM
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Women may like to entertain fantasies about certain dangerous situations but they probably would not like any of this occurring to them without their permission and without the right approved man doing it IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 08:56 PM
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Anyways, who or what decides one's number?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:07 PM
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Maybe because I am not near the top.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:02 PM
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Some may be stuck on that women can get away with some things that men can't. It's like them complaining that a so called 5 man can't get a so-called 8 woman, but a so-called 5 woman can get a so-called 8 man. (BTW, I don't believe in numbering people by their looks, but they do.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 05:54 PM
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Not getting what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 05:46 PM
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There's this guy on another sub who is handsome, well-endowed, tall, thin, etc. He says that sex is easy for him because he gets attention from women and men. He has to do nothing. They just throw themselves at him. He is choosy because he has a lot of choices and he rejects more people than he accepts. However, he is not happy because he draws shallow people who only want him for sex and nothing else. Meanwhile, his greatest desire is to find someone to be long term and to connect on many diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:46 PM
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There is someone with a preference for the unconventional. However, they can be hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:39 PM
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For some men, even an ugly woman with a good body still attracts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:34 PM
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Some people are pure assholes with nothing redeeming about them and they do well and others just like that who are the same don't do well. Thus, it appears to be based on chance/luck like most other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:32 PM
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Some women like to chase men who don't give them the full attention that they desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:29 PM
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Yes, I get it that some of us men are upset and jealous that many men can get laid even though they are bad men and bad abusers of women while all you get from women are rejections, excuses, barriers, etc. This is something that has been noticed and that gets repeated on here a lot. My belief is that life is evil on so many different levels of which this is one of them. I don't really think that ranting/venting on here will change anything. Also, while it may seem that these women are on a great…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:22 PM
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You have made me see it differently than when I first started above.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:07 PM
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True. Except for those who don't have a partner and don't know why they don't. This is one of the biggest concerns on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:53 PM
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Is this some kind of sexual tease where all one can do is only look at them like most online ones? I am thankful that there isn't someone who I wanted to have sex with badly who had rejected me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:48 PM
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Why should I be responsible for the bad things that these bad men do when women have already rewarded/given these bad men anything and everything? Yes, it is mostly the fault of these men who should be blamed for lying to and abusing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:37 PM
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The fact that I am not such an abuser and never have been is part of the equation. That is the part that I can control. I don't like what other men do such as being abusive to women. These men should be responsible/take responsibility for their behavior. However I cannot really affect how these women choose these men and what these men choose to do to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:14 PM
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We can see that women are the choosers of men for the most part. No matter what a man does, if a woman doesn't choose him, then there's no woman. Some men have no sympathy for those specific women who they feel have rejected them for someone else who is actually very much worse than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:49 PM
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Since my partner makes more money than me and pays for more things, she calls the shots mostly. Some women like to wear the pants in the relationship and some men don't object to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:02 PM
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Sometimes one feels the earlier and/or the more, the better, even though that's not always the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:05 PM
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I can relate to the same as you since I lost it in my late 20s just around before 30. I was the only male out of all females in my family such as siblings and cousins. I was supposed to be the family's last name carrier. Anyways, my sister and all of my cousins lost their virginities and married many years earlier. It seemed like I was the last in many things. They all have children, I don't. Even my cousin's children were ahead of me. I guess I am more upset with my family dynamics than with sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:59 PM
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Bullying in school resulted in social difficulties during my school years and beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:00 PM
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Add bullying which can ruin and/or delay one's social development. This affected me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:53 PM
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Have you ever been rejected by a woman only to see her end up with someone badly abusive? "Your (muscular) legs scare me. Never mind that my boyfriend has broken my arm several times."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:45 PM
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Since women can have many more continuous orgasms than men, does this mean that they can enjoy sex more? However, women tend to want more quality than quantity in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 06:00 AM
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I remember that being intelligent in some classes in grade ten made some girls sit next to me to be friendly to me and to talk to me. However, I was not intelligent enough to realize that I should have pursued much more with them further, now that I look back. At the least, they did consider me as a kind of friend of sorts for starters.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:13 AM
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Is it exact good looks or the image that one gives off? To me, nice means someone who is not abusive, but even that is something that is not always appreciated given that abusive means success at attracting in order to abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:04 AM
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"This is mostly men's fantasy of what THEY would do if they were a woman or could have sex as much as a woman can." At first, the temptation would be to take advantage of the situation and have as much sex as possible as soon as possible, but this is from a man's perspective while being in a woman's body. However, after much further thought and coming to my senses, it may be the opposite if I were actually a woman and I would not really want most men even near me since I really wouldn't want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:19 AM
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Are you a woman or a man speaking from experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:15 PM
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The virgin is being shown the street door and the criminal is being shown the bedroom door.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:01 PM
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It could be a ptsd kind of shock of a person going from living in a poor desert condition for many years into a rich fertile field condition on the other side. Truly a shocking world of abundance from poverty. A difference between night/darkness to day/light. Many have it happen from early on and don't experience the same late shock.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:57 PM
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IMO, a nice guy is a guy who doesn't abuse (physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, sexually, etc.) women. Even this is something that some men are incapable of even minimally being. Once an abuser, always an abuser.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:29 PM
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Women hate incels because incels hate women. Incels hate women because women hate incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:17 PM
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incels = involuntary celibates
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:10 PM
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The virgin is raising eyebrows and the criminal is raising skirts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:00 AM
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Do incels = virgins? Do mysogynists = non-virgins?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:53 AM
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It seems that by reading different things online that the worst men to women are those men who cannot get laid or have sex because they haven't been vetted/approved by women. However, somehow this cannot be reconcilled with the fact that thousands of women are killed every year worldwide by men who are their sexual partners. This was always puzzling to me more than ever, especially when as a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:41 PM
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Somehow, men with no sex experience are seen by many women as the worst of men even though thousands of women are killed every year worldwide by their male sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 01:21 PM
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Are the worse men those who can't get laid? (Nevermind that thousands of women are killed each year by their male sexual partners.)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:39 PM
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It's like a guy getting kicked in the balls or getting punched in the nose. All bets are off and everything changes after that. The strong becomes weak after a key vulnerable hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:34 PM
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As the innocent party, denial of the truth can be a form of defence in order not to try to let something bad affect one, especially when something is truly very shocking. However, sooner ot later the truth seeps through. People are easily manipulated when they are used by someone because they like them so much more than the other person likes them. This is how many women easily get used and abused by their so-called loving partners. They can put up for years with bs by thinking/accepting as if i…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:21 PM
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I was in a similar situation since I didn't lose it until my late 20s as well. Let's just say that not losing it can make it feel like your life is nothing without sex. Then I had ten years (wish it could have been more) where it was more sex than ever before. Then, there was a settling down to just one person after that. However, even though I have sex, I feel like I never have any and even though I am married, I feel like I am not at all. I don't know why I suffer from such sex deniability and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 01:52 AM
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I think that part of it may have been word of mouth of friends of friends and I think that Turkey is also a destination for sex tourism for single women, especially Istanbul. It surprises many on what others consider attractive and/or ugly. Sometimes men with high body counts are sought by women for being studs. Also, one can have everything going for them (physically, socially, economically, etc.) and have a very hard time finding someone and one could have nothing going for them and have a ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:44 AM
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You: "As someone who has seen these guys quite a bit,...." On the other side of the table. Me: "As someone who has been these guys quite a bit,...."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:28 PM
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I just mentioned it in response to/in contrast to the sexual drought some Turkish guys like the OP are experiencing while this other guy has a sexual flood.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:07 PM
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I guess that they were throwing themselves out at him. Look up Sarper Guven.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:49 PM
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I don't think that he was the first to deflower most of them. I like Turkish Delight.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:08 PM
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Celebrities and porn stars appear to be interested in money more than sex. Do men value sex more than money? Do women value money more than sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:32 PM
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Once women feel comfortable to open up, they can have very surprising high sex drives given that they can orgasm more times repeatedly than men. If one goes by the sex industry as well it can be seen. However, money seems to be the overall motive rather than pleasure in that industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:28 PM
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Many young virgin men were sent out to die in wars who never experienced any sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:17 PM
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Also, the men at the top are looking to thin out the number of men at the bottom as cannon fodder in order increase their prospects by there being more women than men left.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:15 PM
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It means being ready to travel at night many miles out of town for a booty call.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:11 PM
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Some guys are allowed to get away with more than others guys are. I remember one woman who I had casuals with complaining to me how some guy had a condom on, came, withdrew and then slung the condom with its contents on her face without her permission. She was not amused and this was the first and last time that she had sex with him. OTOH, she never asked me to wear a condom when having sex with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:01 PM
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On TV there's a Turkish guy with a body count of several thousand women and most may have been Turkish women. I guess that him being a fit personal trainer for women and a male model may have helped.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:25 PM
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If it's specific guys that you don't feel are getting back to you the same way as they have/did before, then it might mean that they are in other situationships or relationships currently that are keeping them busy or distracted. Some people are always after new dick/pussy so that they don't always go back after sometime no matter how good it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 03:37 PM
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Are you saying that if they like you they will forgive you and if they don't like you they won't forgive you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:19 AM
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Maybe yes for some men, but no for me since I am more than just my dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:09 AM
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I served/serviced pillow princesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:51 PM
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OTOH, some men consider loneliness as being the same as not having/getting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:48 PM
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For many men, not having sex means being/feeling lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:45 PM
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Does that make men melt in your hands?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:43 PM
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Is it about "ego stroking" the man?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:41 PM
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"Honey Pots" have led to the downfall of many powerful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:39 PM
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For men, being lonely means not having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:36 PM
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Since there are more men than women actively looking for women than women are actively looking for men, this gives women an advantage of having more choices available for them to pick and choose than are open to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:20 PM
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Some do know how to tease/to tempt men online. I remember even when I was in elementary school that some girls knew early on how to get boys to do what they wanted. We do have a soft spot for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:21 PM
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At one time, women were also blamed for the sex of the child when it was the man's sperm that determined it. Wonders never cease.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:53 AM
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OTOH, I have read about the complaints that many women have regarding dating. Many can find men who just want sex since many men mostly want this. However, if they want more than just sex then they find it more difficult to find someone compatible. To them, it appears like quantity verses quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:44 AM
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Sex when viewed for reproduction is the closest thing to possible immortality in that one has off springs to hopefully survive oneself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:36 AM
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It is upsetting to see others suffer and I did ask my sister if she wanted help, but she said that she didn't want to make things worse. However, my mother and I eventually managed to rip/peel her away from him but it was very hard. (BTW, even if the police or others step into breaking up abusive situations, they have many times been attacked by both partners.) The abuse of my sister got worse after my dad died. I was feeling mostly down as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:04 AM
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It is easier for women to hook up, if that's what they want, because there are so many men who are waiting, willing and able to do so on the sides. Why do men fault women when they don't get a hook up if a big part of it has to do with there being so many more men (much more than women) who are looking for the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 01:02 PM
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It's easy to sink into a hole where one feels stuck and many others are constantly flooding one with negative messages about how bad are those who one wants which doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 12:48 PM
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You did get a taste of how it is to be male somewhat through testosterone but had some control that some others don't have as well as not having sexual contacts. When male sexual urges are great, some men who weren't able to find women have resorted to other men instead even though they were not gay. I don't know if a man on steroids has an increase in their sexual libido while a woman on steroids may due to clitoral enlargement, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:01 AM
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Aren't male and female brains somehow wired differently? Thus, it's not just about different hormones.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:43 AM
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Reminds me of when my sister and her friends were with assholes who abused them while I was the one who asked himself, "What did I do to deserve this loneliness?" To me, it's one of my life's many ironies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:20 PM
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If money is no object, they can get escorts who are also porn stars. They can also get videoed having sex with them if they want like if they're starring in a porno themselves. These days having money can get you almost anything if you know how to do it. My best friend is a 65 year old virgin who has inherited a lot of money. He sits at home all day alone complaining that one day he's going to die. However, he does mostly nothing with it. Meanwhile, his friends who don't have as much, can think …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:17 PM
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It can also be seen that some will make big profits by keeping men and women apart. There are already guys that are making hundreds of thousands of dollars through AI. They post pictures/videos on reddit that direct people to OF pages of their AI models. They also hire an agency to look after live chats, etc. They are using a certain scalability to have several AI porn models with big boobs as the attraction draw. They are also emphasizing that their girls are single and looking. Guys are alread…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:11 PM
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Maybe it shows that that they miss having someone. Sometimes there is some projection/deflection involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:00 PM
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I am all confused now because others have been saying all along to take note of what women do rather than what women say. Women can be confusing to men and men can be confusing to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:06 PM
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Are the only guys who women want to have sex with so-called "Chads"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:30 AM
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Some men will beat up on women whether they are sex workers or not. Even some married men hit their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:19 AM
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There are even famous porn stars that also do escort services but this is very expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:27 AM
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I have never had sex with a sex worker, but I assume that someone would have to weigh the pros and cons to come to such a decision. Sometimes, something is better than nothing even if one has to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:20 AM
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Some men hire sex workers to lose their virginity. They don't always want to go this route and many resist it until they cannot hold it off anymore. I would have gone this way if I didn't lose it before 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:56 PM
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Don't some men want to lose their virginity?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:53 PM
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What about porn? Porn actresses are also getting paid to perform sex acts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:47 PM
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"Prostitutes protect real women." (can't find the exact quote right now, but it's along that line) As in, men will beat and use prostitutes, and that will prevent them from feeling the need to beat and use "real women". Unfortunately, many women in relationships are still also badly abused by their intimate partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:46 PM
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It's like a free for all and the wild west out there. The problem is that the rich in anything don't care about the poor in anything. It's every man and woman for themselves. I have noticed/feel life and people are getting more desperate and I don't/can't blame them. The world is a shit show and the shit is hitting the fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:06 PM
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In life, no one really understands how someone else feels about something unless they have also experienced the same thing themselves. If things were difficult for me many years ago, I can only imagine how much worse things have gotten now. (I didn't lose it until almost 30 almost 30 years ago.) Today, many are worse off socially and/or economically than ever before.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:00 PM
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It's an erogenous area of the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:20 PM
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It depends on whether the guy wants the humiliation and gets off on it or not. Some don't care if they get any attention whether positive or negative. But it does feel like it's open season on men who are short and/or have small dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:18 PM
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Height and penis size can be an insecurity for many men. There are tall men with big p's and there are tall men with small p's. There are short men with big p's and there are short men with small p's. With p's being equal, would a big p look bigger on a shorter/smaller man than on a taller/bigger man? With p's being equal, would a small p look bigger on a shorter/smaller man than on a taller/bigger man?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:06 PM
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Let's not forget that there are also big clit admirers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:00 PM
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Now, some can get the biggest of both worlds in transgender.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 02:45 AM
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It's called goldilocks when the girth is slightly more than the length.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 02:39 AM
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They seem to consider it average if the girth is more than the length on an average one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 02:35 AM
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It is assumed that big dick is not as common as/rarer than average and small.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 02:28 AM
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I was never asked my dick size before I had any casual sex and no one seemed to care at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:55 AM
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However, it is most likely that these same women also fucked other guys unless they all exclusively just fucked him and only him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:41 AM
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Ironically, most size queens that I knew felt tight when they were expected to feel loose.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:36 AM
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One should only be worried if all women only wanted to have sex with well-endowed men or if only well-endowed men are the only ones who are able to have/get sex just like is shown in porn. What's next only tall and well-endowed men get women only according to what's discussed on reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:28 AM
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Is OP proposing this even though he has never used such services because he supports men who may need this to help them with sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 11:28 AM
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Let's not forget domestic violence also exists where men are getting sex while women are getting abused in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 02:40 PM
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At that point, they must have burned all of their bridges with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 02:36 PM
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There are women who do and women who don't act like that. Many men lined up and/or paid to have sex with porn star Bonny Blue. If appears that if given the opportunity many men would line up to have sex with the same woman if she offered.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 01:19 PM
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I have heard someone say that for the most part these days how successful one is depends a lot on how successful one's parents and/or grandparents were.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 12:04 PM
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For some it's a reset in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:54 AM
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They have forgotten that charity means more than just money. "Caritas" is a Latin word meaning charity, love, and selfless compassion, encompassing deep kindness, generosity, and a selfless spirit towards others. While kindness is a significant aspect, caritas is a deeper, more encompassing concept, especially within Christian tradition, referring to a divine or unconditional love and a commitment to the well-being of all people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:49 AM
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There is always a price to pay for something. The richest nation also has the biggest debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:43 AM
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All it takes is one person, a relative to inherit and/or make money. All it also takes is for that relative to be generous with their family. There are plenty of number # 1s in my family but not any # 2s in it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:39 AM
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Aren't there laws against usury in the bible? Doesn't usury equal misery? It is/will be the undoing of most Western nations.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:36 AM
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Do these women know about the other women or not? If no, it's on the guy. If yes, it's on the gals.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:28 AM
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Force never solved anything since innocent people always get hurt by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:23 AM
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Most human constructs exist so that a few can rule the many such as laws, money, politics, religion, jobs, weapons, etc. In many Western countries women have more choices/options to choose from/available to them than ever before. Most young men were used as cannon fodder in continuous wars throughout history. This was done in favor of the more elite men who ruled, had power and had money.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:19 AM
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When I was a good man in my teens and twenties nobody wanted me. I was asking myself, "What bad thing did I do to deserve this loneliness?"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:43 AM
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Some may want to DM someone but may be afraid of being misunderstood by a guy thinking that it's an invitation to jump their bones when it's not. Women just being socially friendly to men have been seen by men to be more when it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 05:51 PM
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I meant worldwide because there are some countries where women are badly treated as second and third class citizens which might allow ipv to be more common and accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 05:46 PM
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It's more about what they might say or do and not who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 05:43 PM
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I guess most men never get any DMs from women. (I know I haven't gotten any from them.)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 02:52 AM
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Women can get a lot of attention quantity from many men, but the quality of that attention is usually not very good substantially. Take for example women getting a lot of DMs from men on reddit. Most of the DMs seem to mostly be similar sexual propositions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:10 AM
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It may have to do with missed or delayed parts of one's social experience stage. For me, the 20s stage started in my 30s, etc. For others, it is missing altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:20 AM
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"They're keeping with the occasion."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:09 AM
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Aren't there many cougars at those older ages?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 02:30 PM
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They are always on the ready for a booty call even if it means traveling out of town to get it. It helps to have one's own means of transport in order to be able and ready at any time. Been there, done that in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 02:28 PM
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Notoriety/popularity attracts different people to them. Even different people on reddit have some followers. Most of these guys are in jail. They're not going to be allowed to kill more women. It does seem ridiculous/silly/shocking that some women like men who have killed other women just like some women are attracted more to men who are already with another woman. Some women just know how to push buttons that get some men confused/teased/upset, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 02:16 PM
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Women are attracted to men that other women fall for and fall in these cases may also mean died for/as a result of being killed by them. Don't try to figure women out. You either go with the/their flow or you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 02:05 PM
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And the winners are the men who get dates and who don't commit because they are constantly and easily humping, pumping and dumping women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 12:43 PM
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Some bad men are also sexual deviants, pedophiles and criminals even though they may also be married family men and even so-called community pillars who are looked up to and trusted by many others including women. There used to be a tv show where an adult posed as an underaged minor in order to catch, film and arrest people who wanted to meet up with them. Surprisingly, many were in trusted community positions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 10:25 PM
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If I had known that most of my relationships would have ended with breakup heartaches, I would have preferred them to have been casuals instead. I had many relationships with casuals in between them over a period of only 10 years before a long term relationship leading to marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 08:35 PM
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Unfortunately, some community/family men who are supposed to be content and fulfilled and not supposed to do evil things are abusive to their women partners and/or children physically, emotionally, verbally, sexually, etc. Something like 20,000 women a year are killed by them. This does not include more who are injured, maimed and abused.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 07:55 PM
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I wouldn't mind being sent off like a male bee drone as long as I would get to fulfill one final last wish. However, it is interesting that a man has posted this. Thus, I assume that it's relating to men who don't harmoniously fit into the social/societal fabric. However, I do find that women make life worth living and interesting no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 07:26 PM
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Even if one has had 1001 different people one is always thinking about the next one and/or the one who got away. The married guy is thinking about casual sex and the casual sex guy is thinking about long term attachment. There is a difference between thinking and doing which are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:16 AM
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I am also aware myself since I have had both relationships and had casual hookups in between them. I remember being told that I was different in that I cared somewhat more than the other guys they were also screwing. This made me feel like I was on thin ice. I was somewhere between the guys who didn't care that they were fucking and the guys who cared that they weren't fucking. If they were trying to make me feel special, it sure made me feel the opposite. There was someone who I had casual sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:41 PM
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My friend has slept with many but finds it hard to find the one to be with. He would prefer just having one gf so that he doesn't have to go chasing after sex and/or feeling lonely afterwards. Meanwhile, other guys who have a stable gf wish they could fuck around. Thus, most are looking at what they don't have and it upsets them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:38 PM
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Some are able to draw instant attraction/attention to them when they enter a place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 07:14 PM
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I have heard that bars, alcohol and after midnight has helped some lower their inhibitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:30 PM
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Thanks for answering my questions, it is really appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:34 AM
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This sounds like a lot are seeking from a father or mother figure so-called "parental approval" that they may have wanted but never got from their fathers or mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:28 AM
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Maybe you can state this outright somewhere in your dating profiles, if you have them. However, would this mean that you might get less people interested in you or it wouldn't matter? Since you said that many women want this from you, is there anything about you that somehow attracts those women who want this to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:19 AM
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So are there pretend sadists and real sadists? Do women have a masochistic streak?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:16 AM
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Interestingly, they have to like and to trust the person who they want that from especially if it is a kink that requires pain/humiliation and dominance/control within certain permitted/consented limits. I never ever had any woman want any of that from me whether casual or relationship wise. "For context. I’m a 5’7 high functioning autistic guy that has been with over 32 women and have had 3 past relationships. I’m 29." Thanks for sharing this personal information for background context. In cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 10:08 AM
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To me a bad girl is more of a fantasy kink. Most women I have been with were not so-called bad girls. To me, I would think of bad girls not only saying naughty things but also mostly acting them out too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:59 AM
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In a "bumfuck town" where most know you, you're either fucked (negative) or you get fucked (positive). There is no escaping the first part unless you leave town for greener pastures somewhere else and even that doesn't always guarantee that things will change for the better for someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:44 AM
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Men like me who have had positive interactions with women would be more concerned about the second part. One's experience or inexperience with women will affect how one sees things relating to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:39 AM
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I like the words "chewed" and "cable" in the same sentence. Also was it a "cable guy" since who would trust them with their reputation within the vicinity of one's wife? LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 01:14 PM
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There are two different dynamics at work between men and women. There is the part of opposite attracting. This can be inside and/or outside the person. There is the part of similar attracting. This can be inside and/or outside the person. Everyone can be different with regards to this combination. Some like people who are similar to them and others like people who are different to them. There can even be a mix of both regarding different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 05:37 AM
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"-like one thread where nearly all the commenters agreed it was hot when a CEO husband chewed someone out over the phone." I remember my father telling me about his boss saying something similar and me also hearing my boss talking to his wife on the phone and saying to her "Shut that fucking cunt of a mouth of yours." (I guess her mouth is OK to him when it's sucking his dick.) Technically, I don't really care if other men are overtly masculine or not as long as I have options in my life. It wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 05:21 AM
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What bugs some men is that these women aren't fucking them but are fucking these abusive guys. However, don't forget that these women are suffering, getting abused, beaten up, insulted, raped, killed, etc. by their abusive male partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 03:08 PM
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It's like you're already being judged and told that you are terrible when you don't even get a chance to show that you're great.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 02:49 PM
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The way they badly treat others also serves to put those close to them in their subservient place. Someone I knew a guy who beat up his younger brother just to intimidate his girlfriend. It's not like it's scott free for them since they do suffer under such abusive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 02:31 PM
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People are chosen according to the whims of the chooser. On one day you fit the bill and on another day you may not fit the bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 02:29 PM
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Most things are all about the few ruling over/controlling the many.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 02:24 PM
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It's not all about physical attraction. It can be that they're attracted to sadists.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 02:15 PM
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Men know from experience that women could be badly complaining about a guy on one day and on the next day she's fucking that same bad guy. My sister and her friends all had abusive boyfriends and they were so loyal to them eventhough these boyfriends didn't give a fuck about them except getting fucked by their girlfriends. This got me thinking that they must have a masochistic streak/thing about them. However, they were all badly suffering one way or another under their abusive boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 02:10 PM
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A friend of mine who was a woman made friends with a very attractive woman and was shocked to find out on one of her outings with the attractive woman in her car that she had visited three different guys in one day. Each guy did not know about the other guys and each guy thought that he was the only one. However, it didn't look like the attractive woman was happy but bored because it was all too easy for her to do this. Interestingly, my friend was a virgin who had no such experiences and was sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:21 PM
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For her to make good money, she would have to be a high end agency escort who is also a well-known pornstar. Also, many sex workers are fleeced by pimps who take a cut of what they get.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:13 PM
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Probably whether they are having sex with them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:06 PM
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Same goes for short women preferring tall men over short men. Same goes for fat women preferring thin men over fat men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:56 PM
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As said many times by short men, no one bashes short men harder than short women lmao As said many times by fat men, no one bashes fat men harder than fat women lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:55 PM
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I ride on pubic transit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:52 PM
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I was dating her a few times but got put into the friend category afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:02 AM
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I do remember having to break up my friendship with someone whom I knew because she kept telling me about her sexual exploits which I didn't want to hear. I didn't need to hear that she was going to lose her virginity with someone and any of the details that went along with it and about the sex she was having with everyone else but me after that. I wasn't going to be a party to being privy to stuff that had nothing to do with me. Thanks, but no thanks. I don't like feeling less than a man in her…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 02:15 PM
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Because being turned on by or not feeling affected by someone's misdeeds can give one a sense of power. It's also known that men are turned on by women inmates, if they work at a woman's jail. If you like someone, you will overlook a lot of negatives. Hopefully, we can ask them/find out (as a psychologist) what turns them on.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:43 PM
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With the prevalence of porn, many may be upset when they have a partner that doesn't anymore do what they see others doing. It would be upsetting if one had a very active sexual life before marriage only to be railroaded into a marriage where sex has drastically decreased over the years to next to nothing anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:46 PM
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<image> Talking about Walmart....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:28 PM
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"It has been revealed by new york times,...." Just noticed that it said "New York Times".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:22 PM
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It would help but some men may misinterpret it as the woman showing sexual interest in them. Since it is rare for some men to be shown any concern by women they do not know, many women will avoid doing so in order for their politeness not to be mistaken for romantic interest by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:15 PM
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"I will admit one thing - a lot of the times height will do it. It will. Although, there is a very earnest short king niche out there." This is what many men have been saying for a long time, especially shorter men. Just like in life having a lot of money can cover a multitude of sins, so can being tall as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:02 PM
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The unfortunate part is when his female looksmatches overlook him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:59 PM
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Isn't rent very expensive in NYC?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:57 PM
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She's hot and he's not, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 11:34 AM
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You like the pic?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:58 AM
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Especially if she works at a bank, she may be exposed more to some rich guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:14 AM
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Some guys have complained that their ex girlfriend's friends resulted in them influencing her in somehow dropping him because they didn't like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:12 AM
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It's usually what one doesn't get rather than what one can get that sometimes occupy one's thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:08 AM
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True. Sometimes all it takes for a man to be liked by many women is for him to be liked already by many other women. It seems that popularity helps to attract. It seems like there is crowd following copycatting involved. In other words, for some people it can go viral in their being found attractive by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:04 AM
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Some already give up after their first rejection as a 15 year old. 😥
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:13 PM
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In most things, there is always the most successful 10%-20% at the top. Sometimes some people who are successful at one thing wish that they were successful at something else instead. (Sometimes in business someone could be doing well at one thing but thinks that he has the Midas Touch. He goes and diverts resources from his success into something else and ends up badly losing everything.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:10 PM
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I drew the line between virgin and non-virgin. For 10 years after losing it, being on the other side and romping around was a real eye opener. It was the total opposite and another world where I had the most that I ever had. After that came a settling down in a very serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:03 PM
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Potential danger/risk/sneakiness can add excitement to some sexual situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:55 PM
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In order to get what you want you got to know what you want. However, what makes the difference between being successful and being unsuccessful in getting what you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:50 PM
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It seems to be a viral follow the crowd thing. They may like to follow the crowd of other women just to avoid looking like being/fearing being different/contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:40 AM
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Different people see things differently. Bad boy is very different from abusive guy. An abusive guy is a man who abuses (physically, emotionally, verbally, sexually, criminally, etc.) women such as his partner, girlfriend, wife, etc. This is where the red line can be drawn. My sister and her friends had boyfriends who abused them when they were teenagers and in their 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:34 AM
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Some men did.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:26 AM
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Oversaturation of pornography online giving inexperienced men the wrong impression of women doesn't help things. It can create unrealistic expectations that are misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:18 AM
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Interesting that the men are more attractive than the women they are with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:56 PM
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Interesting that the women are more attractive than the men they are with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:55 PM
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Divide and conquer. Most human endeavours throughout history have been so that the few can control the many. Laws, politics, money, power, religion, jobs, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:48 PM
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Is this from a facial/physical sense or also from an agreeable/pleasant sense as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:44 PM
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It's more about sexual selection rather than natural selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:00 PM
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Looks like men have to be perfect in other men's eyes in order to attract women. Many men with the worst appearance and character have women. I don't think that there is any magic bullet. Women can be rather whimsical in general. Today it's one thing that catches their eye, tomorrow it's something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:35 PM
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Are they ugly because of face or body? There are some who would favor body over face. A nice looking body over face.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:19 PM
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Sometimes it's knowing what/who you want and going unapologetically/unhesitatingly after it/them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:39 PM
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Funny thing is I made someone clit centered because she was so used to giving bjs that no one ever bothered to give her any oral before.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:30 PM
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Are they a throuple?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:16 PM
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"They're too dick centered."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:12 PM
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I have always put their pleasure ahead of mine so that they thought of me as "caring" more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:10 PM
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I had gfs who were more sexual and those who were not as sexual. It can vary from person to person. However, once a women finds something sexual that she likes/wants and gets it, the sky is the limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:07 PM
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"Women’s sexuality will never be on the same level of men’s." Hence the sexual disconnect between men and women. Male virgins feel the urgency to lose their virginity more than female virgins. If men weren't more sexual than women there wouldn't be as much prostitution, pornography, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:57 PM
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I have noticed that it has been mostly one body type and race for me that I have had the most success with. Wish I could also try other body types and/or races too but it hasn't happened that way for me. It also seems that they are of the same body type and race as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:50 PM
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Sounds similar to women in abusive relationships. They will usually stick with their abuser to the bitter end. Do women have a slightly masochistic streak when it comes to their long-suffering under such bad men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:42 PM
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Blaming women for their problems. Blaming their height or baldness for their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:27 PM
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Generally, most fear some but not others. Also, people act worse in groups or behind some barrier like their computer or car than without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:18 PM
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This hasn't been a barrier to all men being liked. Some don't play the blame game.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:15 PM
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Let's not forget that women also give birth to men. (I don't like the veiled threats against women here.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:53 PM
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I don't think that both sexes really understand each other. I think that they may be trying their best in many cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:29 PM
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Understanding women can be one of the most confusing things for men while understanding men can be one of the most confusing things for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:44 AM
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I always thought that successful sales had to do more with liking the person than the product.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:41 AM
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Psychopaths are also smart but on the opposite side of autistic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:37 AM
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Why be all riled up about women liking some men over other men when men also do the same thing about liking some women over other women? Maybe it appears to be about non-hot men not getting the hot women that they want while they feel that non-hot women can get hot men more easily. There is a likeabilty factor regarding most people and/or things. Usually, we relate likeability to comfort, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:34 AM
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There are some people that you would buy almost anything from them due to their likeability. There is a likeability factor at work for many different people and things.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:24 AM
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OTOH, psychopaths are good and successful at pretending/faking to do/feel these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:16 AM
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I learned the hard way a long time ago that doing something usually gets better results irl than overthinking something too much which can sometimes paralyze and defeat one's ability to act.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:07 AM
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Some may complain that most women are only into looks while these men are unsuccessfully looking for supermodels themselves and have ignored non-models. Their premise is that since most non-hot women according to them are mostly getting hot guys, why can't they as non-hot guys get hot women? Improving dating for most comes from being somewhat flexible in one's preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:59 AM
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Does this not make the old commandments against adultery make even more sense in such a polygamous society? (If one has 10 wives, what is he doing having sex with someone else's wife?)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:29 PM
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There is no logic to anything when it comes to attraction. You will see tall people with and without partners. You will see short people with and without partners. You will see good looking people with and without partners. You will see bad looking people with and without partners. The first person who was ever attracted to me out of all things was attracted to me because I reminded them of a dear friend that they lost many years ago. It was not only in looks but in many other ways as well. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:59 PM
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For those men who are living in harmony with women, they don't feel any reason to throw this all away by supporting other men who are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:28 PM
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Sorry, I am too serious. (Some abusive local guys have no problems attracting local women. However, it's these other guys who get all the flack.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:09 PM
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It seems to be more about group think/peer pressure. Many young people are afraid to be individualistic and to express how they really feel about something and are more into following the group out of fear of being labelled different and treated like a pariah by their group of so-called friends. Many young women and men are stuck in this. There is also a lot of misogyny and misandry, especially online due to mistrust, misunderstanding, miscommunication, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:41 PM
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It's understandable that people will gravitate/go to where they are appreciated/liked more.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:32 PM
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Isn't payment for sex prostitution or is it a donation or charity?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:24 PM
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"an ugly foreigner" Is this the worst thing about a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:21 PM
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I have seen the flight videos, all British women in their 40’s and 50’s, looking to find a young man in return for “monetary compensation”. Are these women mostly single, unattached, divorced, widowed, married, or attached? I remember stories of married women friends who went overseas together without their husbands and got drugged and raped by hotel employees who spiked their drinks which they delivered to their hotel room. When the women were knocked out, they took advantage of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:14 PM
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When all other questionable character things seem equal, it may have to do with the physical such as face/looks, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:08 PM
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Do men value sex more than money and do women value money more than sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 09:51 PM
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I would think for a women to dress herself in a very revealing way tends to show confidence in how she sees herself as sexy, desirable, etc. It does take guts to show off what one has especially to others both female and male. IMO, it does take guts to show oneself especially naked online.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 09:43 PM
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Some guys are not likeable, don't have good looks and are broke. Yet, they are lucky with women. It's hard to pinpoint one thing because everyone is different and what might work with one person might not work with another person. Usually, some guy who can sweet talk/ear tickle a woman is already ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:42 PM
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Knowing how to talk to women sure helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:37 PM
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And I thought "CAPITALISM" meant capitalizing all the letters in a word.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:08 PM
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Trying to date for some men is like making a phone call where there is no one to pick up and answer their phone call on the other end. Things are very exteme these days. Some have many dates and others have none. People who get easy sex are trying to make a buck off of it through selling their amateur porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:01 PM
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We all have our good and bad sides. No man or woman is perfect. A big part of a successful relationship is balancing both parts within ourselves and with each other. The problem occurs when one is hurting the other person to a point where it is destroying that person. In any abusive relationship, there will usually be a point where the abused will have to leave their abuser for their own self-preservation. However, the sooner this is realized the better. Serial abusers never change and they go/m…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:37 PM
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To me, a real asshole is a man who abuses a woman whether physically, emotionally, verbally, sexually, etc. One shouldn't really think of a guy as an asshole just because he is more successful with women than one is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:09 PM
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I don't know why they wanted to tell their problems to me, a lonely guy at the time, about how shitty the guys that they were fucking were being to them. This felt so inconsiderate to me. 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 06:18 PM
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It looks like OLD (on line dating) has now become old for most.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:03 PM
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The funny/sad part about this is that they (my sister and her friends) would complain to me about how bad their boyfriends were treating them even though they stuck to them like crazy glue. That's how I knew about what was happening to them. However, it felt like they were somehow rubbing it in that I was alone. I asked my sister if she wanted me to do something about it for her. Her answer was "No, it would only make things get worse."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:47 PM
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They guy she married has no money and is much younger than her. They even have a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 01:21 PM
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Are you a baby boomer?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:17 AM
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Seem to remember that my sister and her friends dated assholes for many years. These assholes shitted on them, mistreated them, slapped them around, etc. OTOH, it seemed like they were totally devoted/loyal to their uncaring asshole boyfriends. The irony was that I was the one who asked himself many times during that time, "What wrong did I do to deserve this lonlieness that I was experiencing?"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:10 AM
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They will even have children thinking that it could save an already bad marriage and they are usually wrong. I knew someone whose marriage was bad and right after they had children, they got divorced anyways. She thought that it could save their marriage, but it didn't. Ironically, her parents died so that she was left with a lot of money. Her ex-husband profitted from the divorce which was when she got the money. Her parents died under suspicious circumstances. Some believe that he was hanging …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 02:50 AM
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I know someone who went through a bad marriage and had a messy divorce. She ended up with a big settlement from her rich husband. Then, instead of taking her time to give herself a break from relationship drama, the first thing she did was find someone else and marry him as soon as possible so that she is now in a worse marriage than even previously that is also heading for a divorce. When will she ever learn? It's like she went from out of the frying pan and into the fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:53 PM
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I had someone once steal something that I was selling and I knew about it. She thought that I didn't see her pocket it but I did. I didn't say anything about it because there was more fun in me knowing that I knew what she did and her not knowing that I knew what she did instead of calling her out for it. Instead, I kept a conversation going with her and let it go. However, there was some thrill about it. She was bad and I knew about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:43 PM
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There is nothing to cackle about by the fact that men are physically hurting women in this way. However, while incels may be getting a lot of the attention as mysogynists, they are not the most physically dangerous ones. (I am considered a so-called beta man who has been with so-called beta women. Thus, I wouldn't insult so-called other beta men/women.)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 02:19 PM
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If they weren't jealous, then they wouldn't be spewing such vitriol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 01:06 PM
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Assholes do shit on others, especialy their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 01:01 PM
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It's because they outright say/vocalize/spew things that don't make them attractive to women. Others who do get women, keep to themselves these same mysogynistic things when around women. However, their true colors will eventually show by how they treat women in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:54 PM
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The world is a place where anything and everything can happen/exist. Thus, no one should give up on anything one wants since there are always exceptions to everything. There is no one universal formula for attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:50 PM
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Every year over 20,000 women are killed by men who are intimately involved with women. (It is unlikely that any of these men are incels since by definition incels are men who are not intimately involved with women.)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:44 PM
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So if some guy loses his virginity at a later time than others or doesn't lose it, does it mean that he wasn't such a nice guy due to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:39 PM
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Many assholes are unattractive in many ways (physically, personally, etc). However, they are very manipulatively savvy regarding women's vulnerability/gullibility. They sweep them off their feet and then push/crush them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:27 PM
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Manipulative men know how to get laid. It's their speciality. My sister and her friends all had abusive boyfriends. Meanwhile, I remember being the guy who used to ironically/wrongly ask himself, "What did I ever do wrong to deserve being/feeling lonely?" I am sure I am not the only guy who ever felt this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:20 PM
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Do VIP seats cost much much more?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 05:00 PM
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It does, but that's the impression/contrast from the image of how men vs women generally see each other overall. A lot of guys drooling over the gal, but very few gals drooling over the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:47 PM
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Is it that men are more attracted to women than women are attracted to men or have women become more fed up/disappointed with men these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:20 PM
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Everyone has their own unique beauty and it's not always the same kind/type of beauty. It's what makes you, you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:02 PM
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<image> I think that I get what you are saying. But does feeling beautiful make you beautiful or does being beautiful make you feel beautiful? Is there a difference between being and feeling beautiful?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:46 PM
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True, most women will be sexually frustrated if they don't have any good sex (quality). Most men will be sexually frustrated if they get little to no sex (quantity). If a man is able to sexually satisfy a woman first and foremost, she will usually be very very grateful to him for this. It would appear that many women are looking for quality sex and many men for quantity sex. How will this gap in/of different sexual expectations be bridged? However, most casual hookups seem to be about quantity o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:26 AM
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It would probably depend on who is doing the looking. You (someone) can look, but you (someone else) can't look. I remember watching a documentary about a woman who was biking naked. I also remember her telling some guys to look away but not telling other guys the same thing. There is wanted attention from some and unwanted attention from others. I guess that some want to make money off of everyone who may be looking. That's already happening online with some websites.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:25 PM
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If the husband puts in more effort in pleasuring his wife in the way that she likes it, it will most likely turn into more enthusiastic sex. Many men want a bj and piv sex first. Then, they are too tired to do anything for the woman after this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:48 PM
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Something can sometimes be better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:32 PM
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Ideally, isn't there nothing wrong with a beta bux male and beta bux female being together if they desire each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:28 PM
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There are some guys who have a wife and children along with a mistress. I am assuming that in situations like this the guy has to spend a lot of money to keep his mistress and to keep her happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:15 PM
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As they say, "alpha fucks, beta bucks".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:06 PM
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Look at what infanticide of females did by disfavoring women. In a country like China where it was done, there are less women than men now which has produced an imbalance. Also, for a long time, women were blamed for the sex of the child when it was actuallly due to the man. It was discovered that sex is determined by the specific "x" or "y" sperm whereas the eggs are all "x". I knew someone whose sister's religious fanatical extremist husband divorced her because she had two daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:14 PM
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At such a point, everyone would be at each others throats for anything and/or everything they could get by using any kind of force. It would be anarchy/chaos/war where all laws are thrown out the window. Unfortunately, it sometimes feel like we as a society are being led to fall over a steep cliff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:03 PM
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The duality of man/woman. We can fuck/horse around doing nasty/dirty sexual stuff and/or we can have children who we would die for. (Same genitals for different purposes/things, unless we forget.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:52 AM
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I mostly know some old rich guys who after their children have grown up and left that they divorce their old wives in order to chase after young women. He thinks that as long as he pays his ex-wife off, he is free to chase younger women. Many of these old guys are over 65 years old. Some with a lot of money believe that money can cover a multitude of sins.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:39 AM
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I know some women who had a kid with a hot guy who ghosted them after finding out that she was pregnant. Then, the same woman found someone else and married them. They also have a child together and he looks after both kids (hers and theirs). (It's upsetting that your previous post on here got removed.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:30 AM
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I know several people where the guy impregnated the girl and disappeared afterwards. Then, the girl marries another guy and they have a child together in addition to her child which the guy also supports. I also heard of someone who was about to marry and called it off because if she married her bf who is also the father of her many children she would lose access to single mother child support benefits since the married father would have to pay split things. Also, it's not only pregnancies that …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:47 AM
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https://www.allohealth.com/blog/sexual-education/sex-facts-and-myths/benefits-of-sperm-in-a-female-body
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 01:11 PM
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Sex is a desire/want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:53 PM
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Who really needs sex more? Someone who has never had sex before (virgin). Someone who has already had sex before (non-virgin).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:36 PM
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air, light, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:35 PM
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I remember in the 1990s that I was using a dating service. It consisted of two books of pictures and profiles. One had all of the men in it and the other had all of the women in it. Depending on which book you wanted to see, you would choose from it who you wanted to meet. The person chosen was then told and was shown the profile of the person who wanted to meet them. If yes, a contact phone number was released. I remember talking to some women and they all were talking about this one guy who th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:28 AM
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Already, many attached women are showing some skin online and there are hundreds/thousands of men on here following them. One woman can rope in many many men in this way even if she is not single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:11 PM
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Who didn't already know that men may like a virgin to marry but may also like loose women for casual sex before marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:48 PM
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Dreamy to be in that state.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:01 PM
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There is going to be someone to replace them. They say that there is someone younger and prettier to replace them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:34 PM
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Are you speaking about gigalos/kept men that some women want to look after/simp/sugar mama in order to have/keep them? Usually, the guy looks better than the gal and the gal wants him badly to be with her at almost any price/cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:30 PM
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Isn't this what many single unattached men have been saying all along? Some guys have several women on the side and other guys have none, not even one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:16 PM
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Isn't there an advantage dominating over being dominated in getting their way with them?(Whether they like it or not, this is the message that they are really sending out in this way.)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 03:14 AM
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One should not express outright hatred against those whom they would like to be liked by. It doesn't make sense and is self-sabotage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 07:01 PM
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It is easier to judge what can be seen more easily than things that are hidden and gradually come out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:47 PM
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It's like asking, why the fuck are some fucking fuckers getting fucked?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:43 PM
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"It's more like the men you people connect with tend to be the opposite of what you preach about." Is this not them being hypocritical (hypocrisy) when they say one thing and do the opposite?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:56 PM
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So are you saying that they have to stop pretending that they want one type of guy when they actually/really want another opposite type of guy? (Reading that list reminds me of the guys that gals like to complain about, but who are also the same guys who those same gals have kept choosing over and over again.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:50 PM
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One could actually be the opposite of much of this and still have no one in their life. There are many men who don't even do/move an inch for women but still have women. There is one thing that some know, it's that there is no rational logic to what attracts one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:46 PM
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Very true from my own personal experiences since I am more in the second category as a man. The fat acceptance movement seems more to have much more helped women than men. Also, see the following: https://people.com/fat-women-dating-hot-guys-tiktok-video-exclusive-8767616
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:17 PM
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"90 Day Fiance" has such examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:41 AM
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Sex is used as a trap. It's all about the money. Someone I know went to Cuba to get a girlfriend. I was able to tell that his girlfriend's so-called brother was really her boyfriend. However, my friend didn't want to listen to me. Eventually, she was able to empty his bank account and disappear.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:31 AM
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There's a news story about two already married women who went on such a trip and both ended up getting drugged and raped by hotel employees.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:25 AM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:18 AM
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Just getting some women's attention is more of a "Hi" or "How's it going?" from women who I don't know. It doesn't necessarily mean that they want to jump my bones. I do not know what I did last summer where I got a lot of this that I am not getting this summer. OTOH, for women getting men's attention may make them feel uncomfortable if they keep feeling its only motive is about getting their bones jumped mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:10 PM
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How about a man trying to live as a woman undercover?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:03 PM
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You can feel that way if you see others getting something that you want but aren't getting. However, it is more about feeling left out which could make one feel lonely. Unfortunately, many virgins are/feel lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:26 PM
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They may get a lot of attention, but they may not always like it because they may feel like a visible target.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:18 PM
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Yes, it seems that we are generally advocating for women's safety for the most part, except for the part when it could potentially interfere with us (so-called non-Chads) personally getting a casual hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:25 PM
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Maybe patriarchy does give it some subtle permission. Most violent crime is seen as blue collar anti-social behavior. Could it be due to white collar male control over blue collar males who burst out in their own petty little rebellion against the system but end up hurting other people who are innocent in the process?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:40 PM
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Controlling their testosterone (outbursts) can be more difficult for some than for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:37 PM
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But, even the strongest guys can also be afraid. Fights aren't just fist fights. Tough guys can get kicked in the balls or head, stabbed/knifed or shot just like anyone else no matter how strong they are or think they are. Even two or more guys against one guy can work against him. Some avoid going out at night to potentially dangerous places.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:24 PM
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Other men cannot win because of these so-called "bad" men. Why, because despite their bad acts against women, there are still women after them that the poor non-offensive guys don't ever have sometimes, not even one. I was reading about the guy who murdered his pregnant wife and killed his two little daughters. Despite all of this, his only pleasure/preoccupation in life now is his many girlfriends that write and visit him in jail including conjugal visits.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:21 PM
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Seem to remember being asked as a man what I would do in a woman's body. At first thought, it would probably be anything and everything that one would loosely desire from her. However, on further thought, it would probably be the opposite and to not let any man use me as such. Thus, it is hypocritical of me for wanting women to be a certain way from a man's point of view but then wanting the opposite while being from a woman's point of view. But this difference of view is helping me to understan…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:12 PM
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Maybe. However, I remember these pretty girls in school who used to choose a different boyfriend every year and would never ever talk to their former boyfriends ever again. They knew how to use them well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:18 PM
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Yes. I remember someone rejecting me for something physical (limbs) only for them to end up with someone who was really physically abusing them by breaking their limbs. How ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:50 PM
2

Does joining a frat/sorority increase one's chances of having sex in university due to popular group social dynamics?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:46 PM
1

Then there are also some men slipping date rape drugs into drinks of unsuspecting women. Women have to be very careful of men trying to do this to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:43 PM
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Many people who have made it big usually made it big outside of the place that they were born in. The search for greener pastures socially and/or economically is something people have been doing for a very long time. Sometimes one can feel hated the most in the place of their birth and this is a very bad thing to experience. Not being liked/feeling alienated by one's very own people or community can suck bigtime.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:41 PM
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Big cities can be very lonely for some and very socially connecting for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:37 PM
2

Selling? Some even provide it for free in attracting those addicted to it for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:35 PM
4

It also appears that drinking alcohol can lead to less sexual inhibitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:33 PM
2

Yes/True. There is also no logic to passions, emotions, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 10:55 AM
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Some people feel disliked/unwelcome in the place of their birth. Thus, they leave and go in search of greener pastures elsewhere. Many people who have made it big did so somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:14 AM
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Lust is a part of physical/sexual attraction. Nothing wrong with feeling that way sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:30 PM
2

OF = Only Fans
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:16 PM
2

Treating but not curing since the treatment could last in very long term consumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:37 PM
2

These problems wouldn't exist if someone wasn't making money off of them. In a neoliberal economic system/society, "profit" is considered its most sacred/holy goal/thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:34 PM
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For some very special men, women do act like men. They are attracted/drawn to them. They chase/approach them. They are sexually interested in them. They have instant sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:08 PM
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Women show pussy pics and men fall all over begging to see more. Men show dick pics and women go what the fuck is wrong with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:03 PM
1

You're right, haven't had any casuals in many years now. Maybe it's to get them to their OF's page.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:37 PM
1

School can be one of the best or worst experiences in one's life. Some get all the social perks and others get bullied. Those in the top social groups/circles/connections have a great time. Those at the bottom have a bad time there. In a way, it is a reflection of the larger society where the people at the top benefit at the expense of the people at the bottom. These hierarchy/clique divisions start at a very young age.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:12 PM
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Some even have boyfriends on the side who they might introduce as their brother to hide it. They may use the PB for everything that their BF cannot provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:12 PM
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Some may just find women from other places exotic. However, it appears to do with them "getting more bang for their buck" somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:08 PM
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It can even come down to whether a condom is requested of one to be worn or not. I knew someone who never had me wear one but that she made others do so. She confided in me by telling me about some of her other hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:05 PM
1

Sometimes just being able to smile is a form of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:56 AM
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It's more of a tease that takes advantage of men's natural/biological attraction to women. They know that almost any one woman can attract hundreds/thousands of men online who are single, attached, married, etc. OTOH, most men unless very very exceptional cannot do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:47 AM
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Also, people tend to spend more impulsively when they are feeling down. Both men and women do silently suffer. Sometimes eating and/or buying things seems to be the go to for people feeling down, depressed, lonely, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:44 AM
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As usual, some are profitting from the pain of others. Thus, they don't want things to change for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:41 AM
1

It would have to be a society with a better social-economic balance for all (both men and women). We don't always treat each other very well because we all have different problems affecting us. Wish there was more mutuality between fellow citizens.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:55 AM
2

The most successful social people are usually those who are liked the most by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:50 AM
1

There is a game being played out there that either you know how to play or you don't. If you know how to play it then you're mostly in it. If you don't know how to play it, you're mostly out of it. It appears that looks may have to do with it, but it probably helps to know what one wants and how and/or where to get it, especially for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:49 PM
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It is interesting how one can have sex with guys one doesn't really care for except for instant lust while on the other hand, things are taken much more slowly regarding sex with guys whom one lovingly cares for. Some might be confused by this while others may not be, especially if they have been there and done that. Yes, we do have a duality in our nature of lust and/or love which is usually approached differently. (There are some who might be raving and raging about how unfair they may find th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:42 PM
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Are you saying that once they get a little bit of "Chad" they try not to go back to "non-Chad"?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:12 PM
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Most single women that I know seem to be content being/staying single these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 09:08 PM
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Especially if one keeps oneself open to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 01:44 AM
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What I have found by reading some postings by women on this group topic is that there are some guys who are accepted just the way that they are by women. They didn't have to change a thing about themselves to be liked by women and they didn't have to go to jump through endless hoops. They were just liked for who they are and it also didn't have to do with looks. It had more to do with their heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 01:42 AM
1

The nerd will burn whatever bridge(s) he has by being an asshole. OTOH, the same will not usually be the case for the badboy being an asshole. However, it would be interesting and an eye opener to film a real life badboy in action and to see what he does and what he gets away with. I am sure some will go "ga ga" with their jaws dropping.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:48 PM
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Who ever said that the world was made for only so-called "beautiful people"?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:34 PM
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How do we determine who/what is and is not ugly? Do we vote on it? Does majority vote count? This seems to be more subjective/relative that objective/absolute. Different people will see things differently. Also, who am I to think that I am "Mr. Perfectly Handsome" and that I should judge other people based on looks according to how I see them? The worst thing to get into is to feel that oneself is ugly no matter what. Some people have this inferiority complex/stigma which is very detrimental to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:07 PM
4

Those who do not understand this are missing a whole big world of possibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:55 PM
2

It's too bad that some think that the only people out there are totally superficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:51 PM
2

Feeling comfortable with someone on many different levels helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:46 PM
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Very true. It isn't always "love at first sight" for many people. It's more like a gradual attachment where one finds the other person attractive in many different ways as time goes on. It's like they can grow on someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:44 PM
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Is someone attractive because they are popular or are they popular because they are attractive? Sometimes this is hard to figure out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:39 PM
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It varies from people to people what they are capable of doing to protect themselves and others. Some who look like they are strong might not be strong in certain situations and vice a versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:46 PM
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If that's the case, they should just go and get a bodyguard. Generally, one fights fire with fire. If certain guys are intimidating to them, the irony is that they would probably need someone who is just as intimidating to counteract them. Thus, it probably falls on looks at that point to make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:37 PM
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In other words, she needs a guy of similar physicality to potentially counter another guy of similar physicality. For example: She likes some buff guys but does not like other buff guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:33 PM
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You are young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't get boggled down by negative things. Love oneself first. Do things that make you happy. Don't give up on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:17 PM
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Yes, generally, men do lust after women, especially those showing themselves off naked/nude online. About married men being many of those doing this, one could also surmise that married women are also posing nude as well even with marriage rings on their fingers. In a perfect world, perhaps, it would be only single men lusting after only single women posing nude but we don't live in a perfect world/society.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:04 PM
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Whenever I hit the home icon on reddit, I get different pictures of nudes appearing daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:06 AM
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Aren't most women posting nude/naked pictures online attached/married instead of single?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:10 PM
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Why do women who are attached/in relationships or married post naked/nude pictures of themselves online? Does it give them some sense of attention in being able to attract hundreds/thousands of men? It looks like it is more the attached women rather than the single women who like to tease/show many others who are single as to what they are missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:49 PM
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Maybe we tend to like promiscuous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:44 PM
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There is an imbalance between the sexes here. There seems to be more men after women online than there are women after men online. One woman can get thousands of men admirers/followers online just by showing naked/nude pictures. Meanwhile, these women appear to be mostly attached in a relationship or married rather than being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 08:42 PM
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It can work both ways. If you eat her instead, things can turn out differently, especially if she is used to the opposite. Too many guys only want to be serviced first and foremost. A little TLC goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:12 PM
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I know what you mean. They really know how to please one without one having to ask them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:07 PM
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It tends to reinforce in the minds of some men who are not getting attention from women that women have bad judgement and/or taste in men since they are with toxic/abusive men whom women like to complain about but still go/fall for.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:06 PM
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If others had the same publicity/notoriety/exposure around them, they would attract more people. If one was in the news for the right or wrong reason, they would get people's attention some of which may be romantic. Some people are attracted by how popular someone is since they also crave the limelight/attention. However, I will say that I am somewhat attracted to the "rawness" of some women who are. The closest that I have come to this is someone who worked at a jail. We all have different fant…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:32 PM
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Some try this with a succubus.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 12:32 PM
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Some are now even debating on other subs how they should deal with not wanting anyone under 3" in p size even though they are saying that this accounts for most of their clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 12:26 PM
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SWs have existed for thousands of years. It looks like the need for SWs is increasing over time. It looks like some things have never changed. For some, going to a SW for their first time could be one of the hardest decisions for them to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 12:20 PM
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I used to have these puritanical ideals about sex. If I had stuck to them fully, I believe that I would have still remained a virgin. Just before I lost my virginity, my dad died. This shook me up and made me question my values. I did not wait to have sex with a virgin after marriage. I believe that I was hiding behind this as a cope/excuse for my virginity and lack of sexual success/experience with women. Anyways, the person who I lost it to was someone with a lot of experience who was not a vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 08:28 PM
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If money is no object, even some porn stars are available: trystagency.com
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:56 AM
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Some have already spent thousands on porn over time, yet they wouldn't spend a few hundred on an escort.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:48 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:56 PM
1

Are you saying height has its attractive advantage? Yes, height does draw one's attention to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:02 PM
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It's more a likeability factor and how one can benefit from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:01 PM
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It will vary depending on one's "fuck luck" factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:00 PM
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Women don't understand how men see things and men don't understand how women see things. It did feel that way to someone who was a virgin at the time and who didn't know any better. BTW, I didn't approach her for anything. She passed by me at a distance and said something that felt like a rejection of sorts. Anyways, I later got to hear about her folly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:52 PM
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It hurts to be rejected. It hurts to be rejected by someone only to have that person fall into abusive hands. Someone rejected me because she was afraid of how my legs looked. Then through friends of friends, I have heard that her bf has broken her arm several times.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:47 AM
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Are you saying something like, "Someone who plays with matches should not complain if they get burned by them?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:06 AM
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They both seem to be reactions to each other. Anything that blames a whole group for the bad actions/sins of some in the group doesn't help in dealing with such things. I don't think someone should hate women just because they are women or men just because they are men. People have bad experiences with other people whether they are of the same sex or of the opposite sex. Neither sex is perfect. I wish that people didn't hate each other so much, especially when our earth/ship is sinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:03 PM
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Getting a car can also help since one can get somewhere within a moment's notice, especially if one has to pick someone up to meet them and go to their place or bring them to one's place. Sometimes, one has to travel a little outside town to meet up with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:30 AM
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A fight was set up between a very strong body builder and an average boxer to see who would prevail. The boxer easily won because he had the skills of knowing where to hit in order to get his opponent out fast. He mostly went for the head. The bodybuilder wasn't even prepared with any basic head protection techniques.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 01:30 AM
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It would be interesting to make a skit/play based on these two different reactions by one person. A youtube video?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 09:18 PM
1

One can have lustful/dirty/kinky sex, mechanical/meaningless/empty sex or loveable/passionate/affectionate sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:13 PM
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With regards to men not supporting men, non-virgin men are some of the worst bashers of virgin men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 12:55 PM
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I guess that they are also more receptive to getting unsolicited random dick pics than unsuspecting women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 07:24 PM
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When I posted pics on reddit, I got compliments from men. Thus, I deleted most of my pics on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 07:08 PM
1

Around 20,000 woman are killed worldwide every year by men who are close to them such as husbands, boyfriends, etc. Many more are also being abused physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, sexually, etc. This is very sad and upsetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 05:11 AM
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Surely, I don't want to be sitting on my hands and doing nothing to help and protect myself. Being nice is a luxury that you can give to others, it you really want to, but it is not something that you should expect back from others by doing it to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 05:05 AM
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Everyone (male and female) should at least try to have some form of protective mode of survival operation for if needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:55 AM
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Then he can afford to get all kinds of protections like body guards, security, weapons, fight training, strength training, etc. Are you also taking any fighting defence classes? Everyone should get/be prepared.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:51 AM
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Yes, it is best to avoid them at all costs unless one has no choice or is left with no choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:47 AM
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Are you a very beautiful women who he is trying to protect because there are 1001 different guys after you that you don't like at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:40 AM
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My rich Russian friend feels this same way. However, something like 20,000 women a year in the world are killed by men who are close to thems like their husbands, boyfriends, etc. I can see why an attached guy may be worried that he and his girlfriend may be mobbed by 101 unattached guys wanting to kidnap/take her to get a piece of her, especially if she is very attractive and gets too much attention from many single lonely desperate men. This may be the future where roaming groups/gangs of desp…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:31 AM
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Isn't there a saying that we all have a fighting plan in our heads until we really get punched in the face and then it all falls apart? Fights are very unpredictable. Protecting the head is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:18 AM
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A real problem occurs when the macho/alpha/tough guy starts to focus on his gal and starts to turn on her by being abusive to her because he isn't able to deal with the all of the 101 other tough guys that he see as threats. Thus, the easiest target is the one closest to him. Unfortunately, many guys have hit their gfs because they couldn't take it off on other men so they went after a more easier target like their gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:14 AM
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It also scares most women away because of his mood swings but he doesn't see it that way and only gets more upset at not always being able to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:07 AM
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My friend who is super on roids usually thinks like this. He sizes up and cannot trust most men. He is always on the defence/offence and thinks that everyone is out to get him (paranoid). He even wants to fight everyone over any perceived but not necessarily real slight. Thus, he's overly aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 03:47 AM
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Height and good looks seem to trump everything else these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 05:51 PM
3

I once read a book on sales and its conclusion was that someone (like a conman) can sell you almost anything if they get you to like/trust them. Even if people don't like the product/service, but they like the person behind trying to sell it, they are usually successful in their sales. Other times, even if you like the product/service, if you don't like the salesperson, you usually will not get the product/service. Dating is a form selling yourself in order to make others like you. Sometimes the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 01:07 PM
3

The mid 1990s was when things really changed for me around 30 years ago. As with many different social and econimic problems people face, it seems that over time they have gotten worse for those who are affected the most by them. Since there are also more people, there tends to be more things/problems affecting them. Now, some are even panicking that they are still virgins at 19 years old and are even feeling that they will be this way for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 10:00 PM
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In order to get an edge over others, would there be more steroid use than ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 09:42 PM
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You're right. It's reverse socialism which is capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:34 PM
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Feels more like I got some socio-economic ptsd.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:49 PM
2

for the well-to-do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:41 PM
4

the romantic Robin Hood idealism of it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:15 PM
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cuts that mostly benefit the wealthy at the expense of everyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:14 PM
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no friends, no partners, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:42 PM
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The smart guy who knows better cuts his losses asap and goes in search of greener pastures. He knows that legs open more and faster for some guys than for other guys. Simping is like wishful thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:26 PM
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The sky is the limit once you are accepted on the other side. Difference between day and night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:24 PM
2

They are way more open and less inhibited.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:21 PM
1

I like pillow princesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:17 PM
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Some people (more men than women) are being cut off both socially and economically. Also, what we call a society today is anything but positively social. In the past, socialism was about taking from the rich and giving to the poor. Today, it is all about taking from the poor and middle class and giving to the rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:48 PM
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In order to acheive these changes, they would have to do some very radical social engineering. Currently, there is much social and economic poverty going around. Many don't have much of anything anymore. These cities would be linked by armoured trains and secured train routes between them. Anyways, the very rich currently have fortified shelters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:30 PM
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There are many movies showing such a future where the very rich live in exclusive isolated cities and the very poor live outside in the dumps far from of these cities. There is intense security guarding these cities like armies. Also, in the past, the men who guarded the rich man's herem were castrated as eunuchs. They will probably sterilize the men that they don't deem useful. There are too many different independent countries in order to implement this. However, if certain countries unite and…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:20 PM
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What if one's wife cannot have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:31 PM
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Women can get overwhelmed if they get too much interest, especially if 80% is unwanted. However, to be unwanted it seems more like it's from men that the women don't like at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:08 PM
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Yes, some men do put in the effort to keep their women happy. That's how it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:37 PM
1

What about those cavemen who as a group invaded other groups and killed the men and took the women captive against their will, etc.? Surely, things like this happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:53 PM
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In the dating online market, there are more men than women. There is greater demand for women than there are women. Thus, the women have the advantage of having more choice and being more in control of choosing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:46 PM
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Some people work harder and get worse results. Other people work smarter and get better results. The clever people know what assets/cards they have and know how to use/flaunt them to their advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:42 PM
3

Some feel that the goal posts keep getting moved on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:38 PM
1

Are we only as good as who we are able to attract?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:36 PM
2

The guys are broke? Yes, money can also help.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:28 PM
1

The internet has given both young males and females certain unrealistic expectations/images of the physically desirable perfect/ideal male and female. Since both are mostly looking for them, the females are going to be having greater successes at attracting these "hunky" guys who are not in the majority. OTOH, many of the guys looking for "sexy" gals are not going to get them since they are not in the majority and are mostly already taken and are good at gathering followers/fans online who stay …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:09 PM
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OTOH, there are jacked up guys complaining that they are still invisible. The thing is trying to find out the right thing that works for one that makes that special different difference/edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:01 PM
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In the neoliberal economic system which most of our capitalist society is currently based on, the most important thing in it is called "profit". The most succesful in this market are those who profit the most in it/from it by making the most profits. With regards to dating, those who get the most success from it are profitting from it the most. Like in any markets some will win and others will lose. Sometimes it has to do with things that they can control and other times with things that they ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:53 PM
4

There are two different images one can see in a mirror. One's real/true image and one's imagined/wishful image.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:45 PM
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Unfortunately, if wild men did run rampant and uncontrolled like in wars some men and many more women would be victims of physical violence and/or sexual violence. Thus, we don't really want the law of the jungle. Some say that things are based on natural selection. Isn't it more based on what females fancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:42 PM
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I would have thrown in the towel down years ago since there are guys who are handsomer than me, taller than me, richer than me, smarter than me, stronger than me, more endowed than me, etc. However, I also realized at the same time that there are also others who may have less than me as well in those areas. I am sure that the same thing applies to women. Thus, people shouldn't get so hung up looking for perfection when no one including themselves is perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:37 PM
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If one's thinking/doing is in tune with the world flow, one usually succeeds or has it easier. If one's thinking/doing is not in tune with the world flow, one usually fails or has it harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:27 PM
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One day an ex of mine who is now married emailed me wanting to have sex with me. I was single but I said "No, I don't do adultery." and she was somehow surprised. I guess she saw it more as a "I am surprised that you didn't go for me." It might be that she was more inclined to do it because she was mostly always with this guy and married him. I was the first and only other guy that she ever had inbetween when she once broke up with him and later got back with him. However, sometimes I think abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:23 AM
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It is interesting how we can say we would never do it. This can apply to many taboo things. However, if the temptation irl came knocking on one's door what would one really do? One can say/think one thing and do/act the opposite. So, I can never really know unless I have been in their shoes. Short term gain verses long term loss. Temptations, temptations, temptations.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:14 AM
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We can be ingrates one way or another. Sometimes, we don't always appreciate what we have until we lose it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:10 AM
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Isn't Keith super tall?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:20 AM
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The good things in life don't usually come easily for most people. One can get upset because we see others get things that we want more easily. Yes, it is harder for many people to get things that others take for granted. In dating, one has to go through many people until they find someone compatible. Had many many more rejections than acceptances and these can be very hard. What keeps one going is the hope of eventually finding someone. Giving up is easier than not giving up. All one really nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 12:50 PM
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A relationship should ideally be a 50/50 thing and not one person overshadowing/controlling the other to one's detriment/diminuation. It can be frustrating when one is not getting what they want from a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 04:57 PM
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Women will notice it more than men because men make it more obvious when they do it to women than the other way around. Sometimes, it's just about getting some "hellos" out of nowhere from different women you don't know in the same day. (Then, trying to figure out why one doesn't get them all the time from them.)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 04:21 PM
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If one wants something irl, then one has to go out irl to get/find it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 03:58 PM
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It takes two to tango. You can't have one without the other. It's a two way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 02:20 PM
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They may also feel that everyone else has it better than them which may make them upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 02:18 PM
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Generally, fat men don't have an advantage over fat women in dating while old men may have an advantage. I know this old widower who has a lot of sex with old widows. Why? Because there are many more old woman compared to old men at his age. Thus, there are more old women than old men. He even said that he has a much more varied sex life now than he ever had as a young guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 02:13 PM
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However, there are younger guys who are also interested in older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 01:58 PM
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As they say, "Don't judge others if you don't want to be judged." Life isn't perfect and neither are people perfect. No one is perfect. Since these women account for over 50% of women, cutting them out greatly narrows the women who are available.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 01:48 PM
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I have never missed the tuna with the mayo in it but I may have missed the added butter to the bun with it. Now, I can see why not providing the mayo for the tuna could be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 04:56 AM
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Some people struggle socially and other people struggle economically in life. There are people on both extremes. I remember reading about a guy in another sub saying that he easily attracts women but that he doesn't have much money at all. This is what bugged him the most. Now, I am reading on here about having money but no woman/women. I seem to recall that when I had more money was when my dating life was non-existant and the opposite when it was. For someone with money, sometimes one is conce…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 03:47 AM
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Are some attached men these days a social and/or economic burden to women? Are some unattached men having social and/or economic difficulties in their lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:06 PM
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Know some women who have separated and divorced. They can find guys to go on dates with but so far they haven't found any guys who they really like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:02 PM
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For very minor things, would it be overreacting to leave someone? I was reading somewhere that someone was leaving someone because they didn't make them a sandwich with mayo in it. On the other hand, for more serious things like abuses (physical, mental, emotional, sexual, verbal, etc.) the abuser mostly never changes and can get worse. Thus, leaving them makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 11:52 AM
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Thanks for your redo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 11:44 AM
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Because the man is getting what he wants from the woman first instead of the woman getting what she wants from the man first.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:34 PM
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All it really takes is to be liked/loved by that one special somebody. However, it is not easy for some to find each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:11 PM
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Surely, everyone/everything has their/its beauty/glory one way and/or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:09 PM
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Men aren't meant to be beautiful unless women want such men which some do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:03 PM
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<image> Stereotypical guy vs stereotypical girl
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:24 PM
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Just by reading things on here, what seems to be the gripe/complaint is that so-called average and below average men see so-called average and below average women being able to attract/pull so-called above average men more than so-called average and below average men being able to attract/pull so-called above average women. I guess that they think that this is very unfair. However, there are so-called average and below average men who are very happy to be with so-called average and below average…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:17 PM
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I guess that being tall and handsome doesn't always guarantee any success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:05 PM
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I like different women and that also includes fat women. It's not new for me. Do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 06:58 PM
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Nope. The truth from her friend was not something that she wanted to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 06:08 PM
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The height of tall men appears to be a bigger deal for shorter women. My sister married a guy at least a foot taller than her. She couldn't help talking about his height to us when she met him. She was gushing all over about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:58 PM
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I had a cousin who was the tallest and most handsome in my family. He never married or had a girlfriend. Unfortunately, he died in his 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:49 PM
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It doesn't negate the fact that fat women have it easier than fat men in attracting the opposite sex. Most fat men are told to lose weight in order to be attractive to women. OTOH, it doesn't appear to be the same regarding fat women due to the fat acceptance movement advocating more for them. See this interesting article: https://people.com/fat-women-dating-hot-guys-tiktok-video-exclusive-8767616
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:37 PM
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I do not believe in kissing ass no mater what. Some are into group things because they are looking for a lay/sex. Being one's true self is always the best. Who really believes celebrity endorsed products on TV? They are saying what they are being told to say/do because they are being/getting paid to do it and not because they really like and/or use the product. It all feels so fake. The same can be said about porn and those acting in it. Take away the money and would they be doing the same thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:25 PM
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It's like the woman who complained to her lady friend that all men are assholes. Her lady friend answered back and said how can she complain when the only men that she dates are assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:10 PM
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It actually depends on who does it. Guy A does it and he gets shown the door. Guy B does it and he gets shown the bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:07 PM
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It actually depends on who does it. Guy A does it and he gets shown the door. Guy B does it and he gets shown the bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:06 PM
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Basically, the choice is/was always in the hands of the women. So is it due to what women value more at an older verses younger age is what changes the prospects of many men with regards to women paying more attention to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:02 PM
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For starters, to me, it's a guy who would never abuse/hit a woman. This does seem to be very basic, but many guys do abuse/hit women. Also, guys who do this abuse usually never change and/or stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:49 PM
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Being very picky does not mean that they are very good at picking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:44 PM
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Bad guys get the attention/humping from them while good guys get the complaining/dumping on from them for what the bad guys did to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:34 PM
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Many appear to be attracted to so-called "bad guys" while also complaining about how abusive they are. Some make it look like that they are the only guys available in existence and that they really have no choice but to fall for them over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 02:00 PM
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It had more to do with seeing abusive jerks with my sister, her friends and others and me usually being the one sadly/ironically asking myself during my teen years, "What did I ever do wrong to deserve this loneliness?"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 01:54 PM
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I was more in the #2 group and the ratio was around 10:1 for me whenever I tried such casuals. When it's something like this, sometimes I wonder/think/fantasize more about those who I didn't have anything with than those who I had something with due to the fact that there were many more of them who weren't Thus, I can understand how some feel if they may have to go through many many more to even just only meeting (nothing more) those can be hard to even get.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:17 PM
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I think that she is just voicing some of her concerns about what she sees/reads on here, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:06 PM
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Self-love is actually the most important love because it can put in perspective and place all of the other loves. If one doesn't have it, one cannot properly deal with the lacks of other loves.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:29 AM
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Wars are known to throw everything out the window. However, I never advocate for violence against anyone. Unfortunately, many are in abusive relationships. However, this does not mean that they are holding back from giving their abusers love and/or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:21 AM
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First rule is to love oneself; otherwise, how can you love your neighbor as you love yourself or if you don't love yourself? Unfortunately, many people who seek love from others don't love themselves first so that they do have a hard time getting love from others. However, who else is going to love oneself if one doesn't already love oneself? At the end of the day, there is just really me (you), myself (yourself) and I (you) whether you have someone else or not. Loving oneself is not selfish. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:11 AM
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I remember the posting of a similar thing on whether sex should be a human right in the r/virgin subgroup. Overall, the response from mostly all virgins there who responded was a definite "no", especially from male virgins who were the majority there. There was even opposition expressed for the posting of such a thing there which made the post eventually get taken down. The "no" response was surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:44 AM
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It would be interesting to do a documentary/film on guys who easily pick up girls and to show them in action because it will show an interesting aspect of the hookup culture. I am sure that many would find this interesting, especially those guys who struggle in this area and others. It may help to answer questions like "What are they doing that I am not doing? or what do they have that I don't have?" etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:05 AM
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Yes. Many feel that the system is rigged on so many different levels. Someone always gets the short stick in something whether it's social and/or economic. There is so much inequality/inequity/unfairness in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:32 PM
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Unfortunately, in many countries/societies women still do not have the same rights as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:16 PM
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There's a lot of media and ideals about who the beautiful people are and who are not the beautiful people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:13 PM
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Throw porn out the window too while you're at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:10 PM
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It is not unreasonable to expect a positive ROI when one invests in something. I saw this societal dilemma coming 30 years ago when I was experiencing a social rut back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:09 PM
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No. It's more a general observation about society as a whole. I guess that the haves are always afraid of the havenots taking what they have away from them. This can relate to almost anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:59 PM
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However, there is an inequality regarding sex which I consider it to be under the social category.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:41 PM
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desperation
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:24 PM
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"and even abuse it while being constantly reminded of (what) you don't have?" Sounds like in your face teasing porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:20 PM
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Why does it feel like those who have it easy are mostly the ones who fight the hardest against those who don't have it easy and have it the hardest?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:15 PM
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Meanwhile some of these criminals have killed/murdered people and thus denied their innocent victims a life of marriage, sex, children, etc. In other words, they have exterminated their victims along with any further progeny. So the criminal is given the rights to the very things that they deprived their victims of and which some law abiding citizens also do not have access to (sex, marriage, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:11 PM
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Almost everything is mostly set up for the few to control the many through different means whether through society, economy, countries, money, laws, power, jobs, weapons, politics, religion, wars, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:07 PM
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Since when have the haves ever been able to really sympathize with the havenots? Usually, the people who are able to understand one the most are those who have gone through the same and/or similar experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:04 PM
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It's easy for those who have it to easily dismiss the social concerns of those who don't have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:00 PM
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There is too much hate and selfishness between people out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:55 PM
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At some point the havenots (for whatever it is that they don't have) may start resenting the haves and things might go down from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:50 PM
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Are you saying that everyone can try pursuing "the persuit of happiness", but no one is guaranteed it (wealth, health, love, sex, etc.)?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:47 PM
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It can happen when one feels being taken for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:55 AM
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It is interesting that no matter what it is, we usually always want what we do not have enough of. Relationships are great if one is getting a steady stream of companionship, intimacy, support, understanding, etc. from one's partner. If not, then it is difficult. I have had an about equal amount of relationships and casuals. Relationships last much longer in time and take more work than casuals. I could also say that casuals mostly came first and then relationships. Casuals felt more like castin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:28 AM
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Yes. There are some guys who are so attractive/charismatic that even if they just get one date with a gal, it usually results in sex (1 date : 1 success). On the other hand, it is the opposite for other guys in that they have to go through something like several first unsuccessful dates until they eventual get a date that pans out (10 dates : 1 success). Can anyone relate to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 03:26 AM
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I had a 10 year stint of several short term relationships and casuals. Then it was one very long term relationship which turned into marriage. However, I still sometimes long for those years of different partners (casual hookups). I am assuming that some who get hookups might want relationships and some who get relationships might want hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:16 AM
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Is it any coincidence that there are a lot of movies with female bots that men in them are romantic with? Aren't there some countries where the government has legalized SWs and even pays for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:48 PM
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Popularity attracts. Notoriety attracts. Success attracts. Physicality attracts. Looks attract. Superficiality attracts. Sexiness attracts. Fame attracts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:36 AM
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If the sex does not result in the women getting pleasured to orgasms then it cannot be considered a success. It's not only about men getting bjs and pivs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:11 PM
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Seems to be two different sets of standards for men. One has no barriers for some men and the other has many barriers for other men. It seems that there is a layer with men on the top. Then another layer with women below and then another layer with men below. The men in the top layer have much more advantages regarding the women in the middle layer than the men in the low layer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:01 PM
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Some say one thing but do another thing usually the opposite once they open up/are buttered up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:51 PM
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Most women who want casual sex can have several men on the ready for her choosing to do it with. Having such options is a benefit, if that is what they are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:49 PM
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Sometimes having too much of anything like sex can make it feel more mechanical, empty and meaningless. However, it depends on the person and what they are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:15 PM
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I guess they might mean the woman breaking away from her abuser. However, this usually doesn't mean irl her running away with another man. She may find another man who doesn't abuse her after she gets help in dealing with her situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:29 AM
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It only tends to attract other like minded men more. Reminds one of dick pics and gym pics also attracting many more men than women on reddit. Usually what attracts men doesn't attract women in the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:55 PM
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Yes, once you overcome some barriers, then it can get easier as a man. Sometimes just getting one's foot in the door can be hard for first timers. The easiest, most abundant and successful time for me was the 10 years in between my late 20s and my late 30s. For most it would appear to be at least 10 years or more earlier. Like with anything, it is easy for some and harder for others depending on their positive versus negative experiences. Until I hit my late 20s, it was all generally not so good…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:38 PM
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What some don't realize is that they can be fickle/whimsical. Thus, sometimes one can catch them in one of those phases/moments and suddenly you're in their "in".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:30 PM
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Reverse psychology and they can be fickle/whimsical.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:25 PM
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Remember how I went out to an event and someone started to make fun of me by saying that I was a virgin. I didn't know her and I was not a virgin. Other women who knew me there said I wasn't to her. Anyways, I didn't let it get to me. Maybe it helped that I wasn't and it would have hurt more if I was. I took a good look at her and said, "You have nice looking legs." I guess that she was floored and she didn't expect me to say something nice to her after what she had said. Anyways, I got to sit n…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:41 PM
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Since we learn from our experiences certain life lessons, some may think that it is gloating instead of using/telling our experiences to relay/convey a point, especially if one may feel they lack in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:34 PM
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Don't they say that women use a different side of the brain more than men do? I forget which side (right or left).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:47 PM
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Is it a difference between a literal verses figurative understanding of things? Are guys more figurative and women more literal or could it just be an individual thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:27 AM
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There appears to be two types who may feel like giving up on women. Those who have had their fill and may want to take a break. This appears to be rarer. Those who have not had much and have given up. This appears to be more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:59 AM
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It is great that you found things different and better/easier after covid. Even though it looks like women may have it easier finding someone, it takes two to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:12 AM
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We also tend to listen more to what other men say rather than to what women say eventhough we may be trying to get female attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:58 AM
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Either they like you (hi) or they don't like you (bye).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:28 AM
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For me, it was three different ex-gfs who did it. One ex-gf was with me and she had cheated on her bf. I didn't find out until later that she had a bf. Another was an ex-gf who cheated on me and confessed to me about it because it was bothering her. To make it up, she said that she would do anything I wanted. I didn't take her up on it. Sometimes I regret that I didn't. Another was an ex-gf who was married and wanted to cheat with me. I didn't do it eventhough it was tempting. The fact that ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:27 PM
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Like you said, it doesn't mean that only the attractive men are abusers. Abusers come in all different shapes and sizes which makes them hard to detect and weed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:46 PM
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If she can do it to other guys, there is nothing stopping the very attractive guy from also doing it to her if he sees a more attractive woman than her. Seems everyone is passing the buck on someone else that they can do it to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:41 PM
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It doesn't feel good to be rejected by someone for someone who is abusive. This happened to me. Since they made their bed, let them lie in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:31 PM
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Isn't the opposite also true with women listening to what men are saying online and they don't like what they are reading/hearing such as mysogynistic stuff, sexist stuff, etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:45 PM
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Older women can be attractive with their fuller life experiences and sexy mystique/mysterious allure.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:32 PM
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I was told by several women that I was different because I cared. To me it felt like I was that rare only guy who was somewhere in between those who didn't care but who they had sex with and those who cared but who they didn't have sex with. In other words, it felt like I was the only one who cared and was having sex with them. It felt like I could easily be put/placed into the second group at any time, but I wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 06:48 PM
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As a man, I believe in a women getting sexually satisfied first. Either the man delivers or he doesn't. If he doesn't then he should expect that she may look to someone/somewhere else in order to get satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 06:38 PM
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I would prefer the 42 year old woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 06:20 PM
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It can also work the other way around in which they are missing the good old days of sex when they were younger and had more relationships and casual hook ups instead of married sex on an irregular/infrequent basis which can bring problems in their marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 02:54 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 12:25 PM
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This is the most ridiculous rejection I ever got.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 12:19 PM
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Some once rejected me over something superficial (intimidating legs that scared her as she put it) and then ended up with someone who has broken her arm several times, requiring hospitalizations. How do I know this. She is a friend of a friend of a friend. However, this hasn't been enough for her to leave him. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 11:53 AM
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<image> Generally, this is how most men see most women overall verses how most women see most men overall. It's very different. In general, most men tend to see most women in a much more attractive/desirable way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 11:02 AM
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<image> In general, men see women differently than women see men. Thus, the inbalance in attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 02:48 AM
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Instead, what I have seen is women have to go to work in order to pay for the things that they want/need for themselves since their men are not providing them with any such allowances.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:15 PM
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In other words, if women have to put up with so much BS in their relationships, they might as well get compensated/paid for it very much in order make it worthwhile, especially by a rich guy financially providing for them. (Is this the correct understanding?)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:05 PM
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Thank you for pointing all of this out. I don't always get to see things from their point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:52 PM
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It depends on how much of an emotional bond the woman has to the man. This is apparent in abusive relationships were the victim finds it very hard to let go/leave their abuser because of such emotional bonds that are love/hate yo-yo manipulated by their abuser. Are most men who have women in their lives ingrates who take them for granted? (If I were a single guy, I would mostly agree by saying "yes".)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:39 PM
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Yes, but he said that this was possible because he was in a big social circle with friends of friends, etc. It may be related to belonging to the right popular fraternity/sorority. The right social/economic connections may go a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 11:38 AM
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For some women online, they just have to post a nude picture and they instantly get hundreds or thousands of likes by men on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:02 AM
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I read in another sub about how a guy who was in university was going to different university bars/clubs had a different girl almost every week. This guy seemed to have been very favored and was under the impression that all guys had it this easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:56 AM
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Yes, there can be this rejection hostility like "How dare you think that you are even worthy to try asking me out on a date." Sometimes something like this is said and other times it is implied by the silent threatment of getting totally ignored. Funny thing is that this has happend to me at singles events of all things. You would think that some could be a little more diplomatic especially at such social meeting singles events.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:40 AM
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These days what may not be something personal is usually taken as personal by the more emotional, sensitive and inexperienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:22 AM
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<image> Generally, men see/view women differently than woman see/view men. (Overall, more men would be attracted to the woman in the picture than women would be attracted to the man in the picture.)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:34 PM
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<image> Generally, men see women differently than women see men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:49 PM
1

Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words. <image> Generally, men see women differently than women see men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:28 PM
1

How could it be so since it's not a body part that I myself already have in/on my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:18 PM
1

Is it not being dominant just doing it to them without them even asking for it or is it intrusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:14 PM
1

A lot may have to do with porn. Something like 75% fellatio verses 25% cunnilingus is shown.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:11 PM
2

Always best to have the guy go down first. Otherwise, if he gets his first, he might not reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:08 PM
1

Wouldn't the same thing apply to fellatio where the woman may be sucking a dick that has been inside other women's vaginas? Also, there is usually a distinctive type of odor marking on one's dick that is from one's latest female partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:05 PM
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Very well said. One of the best that I have read on this. Why should anyone hate women when one is trying to attract/to interest them? Whether we realize it or not porn is also an old part of this grift.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:44 AM
1

Do you mean social and/or economic connections?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 02:23 AM
2

What I find interesting online here on reddit is that all almost any woman of any type has to do is put out online just a nude picture of themselves and hundreds and even thousands of men go "ga ga" over it. That is the power of attraction that they have over men. They don't even have to be single and many are already attached or even married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 02:15 AM
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Depends on whether the man likes obese women or not. I guess the key is in finding those who you like and those who like you. As they say, "Different strokes for different folks." which is what makes life interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 06:06 PM
4

I wouldn't even mind big strong women in the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:58 PM
2

For me it's shorts season.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:57 PM
4

"Chads can be choosy" because they get a lot of attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:51 PM
1

If it's from unwanted/undesired people then they may not want it, but if it's from wanted/desired people then they may want it. If someone is hit upon much, they more likely will get fussier in their choices because one only has a certain amount of time in their day to indulge in it. Thus, the attention recipient can be choosy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:43 PM
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Many women know how to get a man's attention while few men know how to really get a woman's attention. What's a man to really do?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:37 PM
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I have been a kept man at times. I do not consider myself a chad or an alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:24 AM
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It can also alternate for some men depending on how the women sees them. I have been in both alpha and beta positions. For some it's absolute and for others it's relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:22 AM
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Men and women both want TLC from each other. Why should women be insulted as a result?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:05 AM
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Are men experts on women or are women experts on women and men experts on women? I assume that some men who have high BCs with women might consider themselves successful experts on women. Do women with high BCs with men consider themselves successful experts on men?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:53 AM
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The 5" length guy is a goldilocks. In order for him to be such, he would have to at least also have a girth of +5"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:48 AM
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There is such a thing as a "goldilocks" dick. It is not too small and not too big. It's just right. It feels good and comfortable. This is something that many women report on but that very small and very big sized guys don't believe as being true.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:45 AM
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This is referred to as a "goldilocks" dick. Usually, not too big and no too small. Just right. Comfortable and pleasant for mostly all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:31 AM
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It may be most true regarding someone who has never had sex before such as a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:53 AM
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unnatural
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:53 AM
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They just got to show some nudes and most men on here go "ga ga" and upvote like crazy on Reddit, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:48 AM
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True. Used it sometimes for self-stimulation even if in a relationship especially when sex has been infrequent. Being with someone doesn't always guarantee having a lot of sex if their partner is not up to it as much as oneself. However, I am also thinking about whether the people doing porn like it or not, like the person they are doing it with or not, do it for the sex or for the money, are they doing what they want or are they being told what to do by others, how does it feel to have someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:16 AM
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Not small doesn't always mean big since he's average. This might make more sense now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:50 AM
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In a way, they are getting one man in order to offset/protect against other similar man. So there is some favoritism as to why one guy of similar build is preferred/chosen over another one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:28 PM
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However, there is the blind spot over domestic violence raising its ugly head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:27 PM
1

I don't know whether to cry or laugh anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:10 PM
1

From a very early age, most males are attracted to the esthetically pleasing (beautiful) female body form (curves).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:09 PM
2

I know someone whose ex called him small (he's not) and ever since he's been a total wreck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:58 PM
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I know a guy who has fallen apart because his ex said he was small. They had a bad break up and it had nothing to do with his dick size. Also, he isn't small, he's average. Thus, some men are fragile in this department. (Also, relating to this topic are dick pics and why most women do not like unsolicited ones from random strangers. Many men seem to think that women like getting them. LOL.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:50 PM
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We are always comparing but maybe it has to do with how in porn it looks like it pulls very attractive women. We forget that in porn behind the scenes, it's the money of getting paid to act that really pulls these women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:25 PM
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It probably has more of an impact on guys who think that they will never be able to get anyone because their dick size is not like those in porn. Then, there are those guys who have someone and all they are worrying about is that their dicks are not like the porn stars. It's like they can't get a break from worrying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:15 PM
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The more he dwells on it, the more his new gf might get turned off by him. When I'm with someone, I am happy to be with them in the present and I am not thinking or care about who they screwed before since it's a two way street. Who cares about them since they're an ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:08 PM
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I think that it has more to do with the bitter ending of a relationship and the woman uses this against her ex just like some guys use revenge porn on their gfs by leaking out private pictures of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:06 PM
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Let's just honestly ask the women. It seems that many men fight what the women say on many different things. Just make the most out of what you have. There will always be bigger and smaller than one's own.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:55 PM
2

For all mamals, the female produces breast milk for feeding their babies which defines what a mammal is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:48 PM
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Yes, the female is already born with a predetermined number of eggs for life and has a specific reproductive window. Males can overall produce sperm to replace any used and can do it over a long period of time. I thought chimpanzees were more like this than bonobos.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:42 PM
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Women have to be more guarded than men do due to their physical differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:40 PM
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Contrary to porn, I have heard that irl SWs do not like it very big. It makes their job much harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 12:40 PM
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Are people just swiping based on pictures rather than the whole profile. I am guessing that most swipe just based on looks and almost nothing else. There should be more to a person than just looks, shouldn't there be?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:29 AM
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There's a reason why the word "fans" is in OF. It's a way in which fans can support their favorite CCs with money, requested gifts, loyalty, followings, supportive direct messages, chats, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 01:47 PM
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Is this big amount the total of all monies that go through their website to the CCs and OF or is it the percentage part that OF receives from its CCs? Are there so many lonely men who are desperately pining for women that they can only see but not touch on there? It is most likely that many CCs have their own loyal fans who support them through subscriptions, tips, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 01:12 PM
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Due to their many sexual successes with women, these men believe themselves to be superior to women (and other men who are not as sexually successful).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:15 PM
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They do tend to have a natural barrier but some guys know how to eventually break it by trying. They may at first appear reserved, but all breaks out once they let loose.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:05 PM
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I thought it was more the "hots" than the "looks" but I think it's all about the "hot looking" guy. Isn't there a guy on a TV dating show whose BC is around 2500? Seemed like a lot of gals found him hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:49 PM
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Who ever said that being a nice guy ever gets you anything? The less a guy cares about them, the more they seem to care about him. I remember some girls that I hooked up with saying that I was different because I cared compared to all of the guys that they were sleeping with. What to me this meant was that I was somewhere in a unique solitary situation between the guys they were sleeping with who didn't give a fuck/rats ass (love the puns) about them and the guys that they were not sleeping with…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:45 PM
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Perhaps more different women are having flings with hot men while different men are not having flings with hot women. Yes, hot men are treated differently/better than other men. Hot men would not concern me unless they were getting all of the women and all of the other men are getting almost none. Online it sometimes feels that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:37 PM
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There is also a lust factor involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:50 AM
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Sex is not only about experiencing/exploring the same/familiar (oneself) but also the different/unfamiliar (the other person). The hetero appeal is the attraction to/curiosity of the opposite sex and everything that comes with that sexually, physically, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:30 AM
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Because at the end of the day, all we really have is ourselves (me, myself and I) when all is said and done. This is the base to have and to build up ourselves from. A lot of people, have self-loathing/self-hatred which is not helpful in attracting others to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 12:48 PM
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I guess that I am not into it. I did break off with her right after I found out. On the other hand, I also passed on another ex who was married and wanted me to fool around with her. I am sure some who are into this must think I wasted some good opportunities. When I think back about it, maybe I should have gone for it. It's the opportunities and people that one almost had but didn't that sometimes occupies one's mind (fantisizing) more than those that one actually/really had/did.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:41 PM
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Some are pillow princesses who like to get served/serviced. It has helped that I have been willing and able to serve/service pillow princesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 12:21 AM
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Especially young inexperienced virgin women. Some of these old guys just pop their cherries, run and disappear.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:33 PM
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Some are attracted to bad girls/boys. Bad girls can be a turn on until one gets badly burned by them. Some like to cheat a lot. Got cheated on. She freely confessed out of the blue after sex. She said that she would do anything I wanted to make up for it. Later, I realized that she also cheated on someone when she got with me. Didn't take her up on her tempting offer. Maybe I regret it, seeing how she temptingly offered herself up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:18 PM
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Seems that the difference between some successful and some unsuccessful dating men is that the successful ones are good at hiding their negative traits at first for as long as possible while the unsuccessful ones tend to reveal their negative traits very early on for all to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:34 PM
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I have always wondered whether the women who do porn do it for the money and/or for the sex? From what you have written above from a woman's perspective, it seems that if they are getting paid for it then they are not usually enjoying it. Also, money can make people do things that they wouldn't otherwise do. (Thanks for making clear how real sex is not porn to women irl.)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:54 PM
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As they say, "One shouldn't shit into the water well that one drinks water from."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:42 PM
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As the competition gets stiffer, steroids get into the picture. Then they get more aggressive/roid rageous and scare off women who they intended to attract in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:11 PM
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I am guessing that some male body builders may like to find females who are also body builders.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:05 PM
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Exactly. What's important is that she's happy with herself and what she does. (I don't think that she goes out of her way to do this in order to attract anyone.) You have to do things for oneself first and foremost. Then, if they are looking for someone, they will be attractive to them in many different ways and not just by muscles only.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:54 PM
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I have a feeling that some males who work out are doing it in order to become more attractive to females. The question seems to be a reverse of this. However, does one not also notice how many other great things (besides muscles) she has going for her by what she says she does?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:54 PM
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"If a man sleeps with a lot of women, men feel like he's deserving of respect. If a woman sleeps with a lot of men, men see her as a slut, a hoe and someone with low/no value." This is so hypocritical by these men because you can't have one without the other. It takes two to tango. Anyways, I see the sexually experienced woman as someone who is desired/desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:34 PM
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I used to be a transit buff in the 1970s-1980s. I collected pictures of transit vehicles. Also, maps, timetables, tickets, transfers, models, tours, etc. Some people have suggested that I may be slightly autistic. It could explain a lot of how I have dealt with things in life. Thanks for pointing this out. I will look into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:14 PM
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It would be nice to be invited to the kind of party that you wrote about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:08 PM
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You have to at least try. Those who succeed think it's easy and those who don't think it's hard (because it really is hard). Those few have a certain set of favorable circumstances occur for/to them. The don't call it "Getting lucky or getting a (big) break." for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:04 PM
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It is no coincidence that most teen movies have these house parties that balloon into anyone and everyone being there. Just having fun/getting distracted and not thinking about one's problems helps at times, especially through house parties, etc. On the other hand, I have been to singles events that were anything but singles events. Entrance fee was high. Food and drink was not included and expensive. Attached couples were dancing, making out and showing off. Hunks had women lining up at their t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:51 AM
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Friends and family used to be the way in which most people met in the past and it worked. Thus, parties of friends and/or family would help. Connections are very important, especially today. Those who have them seem to do better than those who don't have them both socially and economically. I have read that someone just making a speech to a large number of people helps to put that person out there more greatly. There is location, location, location. There is also connections, connections, connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:30 AM
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It is also in the interest of the top guys to have as many other males (competition) as possible out of the dating game/scene in order to give them a bigger numbers advantage/odds with females. There is a social kind of layering/triangle where the top guys are on top, the females are in the middle and the bottom guys are on the bottom. Thus, the bottom guys have been divided/separated from the top guys and conquered/disempowered.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:17 AM
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For some, taking what they can get and not being fussy can make things easier in a tough environment. Stopping the chase, may not guarantee the results that some may be looking for, especially if all are not doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:14 AM
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From the above, it appears that when someone is looking after you, you sometimes take them for granted and go looking for other kinds of attention elsewhere from others. There is a guy I know who gives women a small taste of his attention and then he withdraws it. Then, he has the women hooked on him and chasing him for his attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:58 AM
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I knew someone who was my gf and I was the only other guy that she has been with. She has first and foremost been with her long term bf. I got into the picture when she broke up with him for her very first time. After me, she got back with him and married him. Anyways, I got an email from her after she was married in that she wanted to fool around with me. Though I was tempted, I did not do it because they were married. Anyways, if she wasn't happy with some parts of him physically, why did she …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:49 AM
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I have never been one to rate anyone on a scale of 1-10 as is common online. I am not a pretty boy. Everyone has their own beauty and it is not always something physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:58 PM
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I have always felt that the very attractive ones were more for show than for action. If they are attractive to sterotypical social standards then they are too delicate for my tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 12:56 PM
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If a guy was with her, wouldn't it mean that he didn't find her ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:59 AM
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#1 has been the main determining factor. I was never disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:56 AM
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I agree. Generally, I have liked those women who have liked me. Did it matter how they looked? Mostly no. Being too fussy cuts down on the numbers of those who may be available for dating, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:45 AM
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I think some would say "no" on paper. However, if the opportunity came knocking in real life they might say "yes" instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:34 PM
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Usually, they would appear together with female OF content creators in collaborations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:27 PM
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Believe that most OF models are attached. Thus, don't think that they are using OF to find someone/anyone. OF appears to be used by many to show off their body sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 05:00 PM
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Thank you for making life more interesting, wonderful and beautiful. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:43 AM
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There are instances where virgin women say that they would like to meet and marry a virgin man and lose both of their virginities together. However, virgin women on here who have lost their virginity seemed to have painfully lost it to some much older uncaring stranger/dirty old man that they hooked up here with who really didn't care about them and dropped them once they took their virginity because they were only interested in "popping a young woman's cherry". Also, virgin men who also express…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 11:20 PM
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A lot of people, especialy kids, learn things from tv and the internet which affects what they like and don't like, what they do and don't do, etc. Entertainment influences a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 09:30 PM
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In other words, the serial killer can kill many women who are denied living life, finding/having someone, having sex and having children while the serial killer gets women who are willing to give him what he denied/destroyed for the other women and their partners/lovers. Sounds like something is very seriously fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 09:20 PM
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They tended to be captivated by those guys who were very good at having been able to string them along for some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:10 PM
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What can they say if they haven't exprienced something similar? Men have their own issues that only other men can understand, especially those who have gone through similar things before.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:04 PM
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But if you aren't any of these things naturally, you suffer, suffer and suffer silently while feeling helplessly overlooked. However, many now are voicing it outside instead of silently sufffering it inside. I remember how I used to feel like I was drowning/choking/withering on the inside in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:21 PM
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I sort of couldn't win. I remember that in different grades I had to eventually beat up my bullies such as twice in grade seven. There were no girls with me. Others who won fights had many girls after them. Even the bullies that I beat had girls supporting them even though the bullies were using and abusing them. I won the fight but lost the battle to loneliness back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:06 PM
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Are you saying that men with the opportunity will cheat; whereas, men without the opportunity wished that they could? I am assuming that if attached men cheat with attached women then both are cheating and it becomes a free for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:58 PM
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An interesting aspect that is forgotten about not commiting adultery (biblical ten commandment) was that it may have been issued at a time when and in a society where polygamy existed. Does this make it any different? It seems that even with 10 wives some men were still cheating. Thus, polygamy did not solve this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:41 AM
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What I find interesting is that in the summer when I wear shorts women in general treat me differently (like more friendlier like they will say hi or hello out of nowhere) than when I don't wear them like in the winter. So yes, women are looking at how men look and not just at the face only.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:49 AM
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It's a big world out there full of possibilities and potentials for anything and everything. A big part of it is trying to find what you want and/or are looking for. A positive mindset that it is out there helps in finding/getting it. Never give up no matter what. Sometimes it is easier said than done.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:16 AM
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