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Ideally, find some places locally that teaches improv. You'll meet a ton of people who are in the same boat as you starting out and you'll learn and grow together. Have fun with them, hang out after class, get to know them and you'll be more immersed in it. If that's not an option, try to find any sort of local group that improvises. Maybe one that's beginner friendly. Don't be afraid to just jump in. Get to know people, make friends, and have a good time.
/r/seduction14/08/14 12:24 AM
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It's amazing how much it helps too. You don't immediately realize the benefits, but after several weeks of taking the class, I'm noticing how much sharper I am in conversations with people. I very rarely encounter anymore of those freakout moments where it's like "Oh no! I don't know what to say!" and everything just flows so much better.
/r/seduction13/08/14 04:18 PM
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I just started taking improv classes. I loved it so much, I'm taking the next level of courses. I was surprised to see how much of it overlaps with social skills, communication, mindfulness etc. and I made a ton of friends and had a blast in the process. I really recommend it to everyone here. I went into it expecting a lot of people who wanted to be actors and feeling awkward because that wasn't me. I came out of it finding it more like therapy. Everyone was there for similar or otherwise uniqu…
/r/seduction13/08/14 12:00 AM
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To be fair though, those are fairly common rules of improv.
/r/seduction12/08/14 11:56 PM
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I want to second and expand on this. I started taking Improv classes and I noticed how much easier conversation flows with everyone I interact with. I rarely find myself worrying anymore about how "I don't have anything to say!" and instead just say stuff. There's so many valuable lessons in improv that relates to social self improvement. Expressing yourself, communicating with others, relaxing your mind and letting thoughts come forth naturally. Not to mention it's really fun once you get past …
/r/seduction09/08/14 04:32 PM
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I agree with your sentiment, but I definitely think some guys need it bluntly stated that they have a problem. It's very easy for guys with this mentality to rationalize "There's nothing wrong with me, there's just something wrong with every girl I've ever met!". Acknowledging that there is a problem is the first critical step. Beyond that little branch though, I'm with you. A lot of stuff is really overanalytical and unnecessary and doesn't get to the root of the problem.
/r/seduction06/08/14 03:56 PM
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SenorWiggins pretty much hit everything. For emphasis, do not be the over protective douche. Nothing screams insecurity more than that. I was out the other night and this girl was dancing by herself and every time a guy would dance with her, (Not even anything sexual. Arms length spinning her around) her guy would just come out of the shadows, pull her away from him, and then return back to the shadows to watch her possessively. It was just awful. Approach it from a place of confidence. If you'r…
/r/seduction03/06/14 02:57 AM
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Good for you man and props for realizing this at 18. You're definitely on the right path. Make sure you stick to it. There will be ups and downs and it's easy to get caught up in both of them (Maintaining yourself between them is a good mindfulness exercise :p) but always keep pushing. Whether it feels like you're not succeeding, or whether it feels like you reached your current goal, keep striving to become better and live a more fulfilling life and step by step, day by day you'll see it all fa…
/r/seduction24/04/14 08:48 PM
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Not necessarily. There are tons of girls 18-early 20s that come out to 80's nights in my area.
/r/seduction18/04/14 10:26 PM
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Some clubs do things like 80's night. In my area I know a club that has nights for 60's-90's and they even do more modern stuff like indie rock, indietronica, etc. I usually avoid the generic club stuff.
/r/seduction18/04/14 10:25 PM
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Find music that you can groove to. Go to places with songs that you recognize or beats you can dance to. Everybody can feel the music. It's not hard to do and just takes some practice. Crank up music you like, don't think about anything, just move to the beat. Listen to the different elements of the song and play with them. Do it in front of a mirror and see how you look. You're already working against yourself mentally by categorizing yourself as "not natural" or as a person who can't feel the …
/r/seduction18/04/14 10:22 PM
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If you're serious about actually learning dance, find the styles you like, find people in your area to dance with, learn on Youtube, and practice. That being said, the expectations for dancing in a club is nowhere as high as that. The key thing I've noticed is even if you don't know anything about dancing, all you have to do is be on the dance floor and move to the beat. Everybody can do a basic two step and rock back and forth on beat so I always tell people who are intimidated to start there. …
/r/seduction18/04/14 09:11 PM
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Wow, and I thought I was bad with my crazy dancing because I knocked a persons drink out of their hand once. That definitely takes the cake. Glad to hear it ended well :)
/r/seduction18/04/14 08:53 PM
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I've always wanted videos like this. Thanks!
/r/seduction04/04/14 11:33 PM
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You'd be surprised how friendly people are when you randomly approach them. And I say that as a dude. I'd imagine as a girl initiating the approach, most guys would be extremely receptive and friendly. Just push yourself to seize the opportunities when you see them. Think about how you feel bad later when you don't try and aim to make your future self happy. If you worry too much about the interaction, just keep it simple until you get comfortable. Smile and say "Hey, I know this is random but I…
/r/seduction31/03/14 04:21 AM
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Good move or not it gave me a huge laugh imagining that situation. Congrats!
/r/seduction19/03/14 12:35 AM
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A little bit. I hear so many good things about it as an industry but I'm still not really into it yet so I can't speak with certitude :p
/r/seduction19/01/14 06:16 AM
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I'm so glad I switched to a CS major :)
/r/seduction18/01/14 07:52 AM
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Sounds exactly like my situation as well. It's rough but if you went with your gut you most likely made the right choice in the long run. Just know you're not the only one!
/r/seduction16/01/14 05:12 PM
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I don't even understand the point of using numbers if you're already classifying them as a HB. The metric should be a simple yes or no: "Are you attracted to her?"
/r/seduction04/01/14 06:47 PM
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This thread and this comment is pretty much everything people need to read in regards to dancing at clubs. People are so worried about opening lines and approaching girls on a dance floor. Just get out there and dance. Learn some moves or at least pretend you know what you're doing and have a good time. It's exactly like you said. When I started going to clubs just to dance and have a good time, girls started to approach me. All you really have to do is stick your hand out and smile when they ma…
/r/seduction01/01/14 09:41 PM
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Yeah I'm not sure why some people were misunderstanding the OP on this one.
/r/seduction01/01/14 09:27 PM
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Yup. I used to hate going to clubs cause I was always that creeper guy trying to talk to girls. Nothing ever came from it and I always left feeling miserable. The moment I decided "screw it I'm just gonna rock the dance floor and have fun" not only did I really start enjoying myself but as you said, girls started approaching me. I love how it completely changes the dynamic. The funny part is, I don't even really know how to dance either. Just learned a few random things on Youtube. I think I'm g…
/r/seduction27/12/13 05:43 PM
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If she rejects you, but is still around dont stop. You still have a chance, it may be that you need to build more attraction or she may want to save face, figure out which it is and act on it. This is very important and always worth remembering. I had a very similar situation when I first met my ex girlfriend. I went in and tried to kiss but she pulled back the first time. Then later on we were still dancing, I tried again and then we were kissing all night. She later confided in me that she wan…
/r/seduction27/12/13 05:05 AM
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More people have come up to me when I was dancing like an idiot by myself than I've started conversations by just randomly going up to people and saying hi. This has also been true in my experience. Whenever I went to clubs just to meet and talk to women, it sucked. When I started going just to dance and have fun is when I actually started meeting girls ironically
/r/seduction18/12/13 06:23 PM
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I think you're overlooking his point. I agree women have a higher barrier of entry but I think his point was that women enjoy the actual activity of having sex possibly even more than men do. That doesn't have to indicate they are constantly and overtly horn dogs. It means that when they feel they are with the right person (and if that person is good at sex) it's a more enjoyable experience for them than it would be for a man.
/r/seduction15/12/13 01:07 AM
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True I totally understand your reasoning, but you'd be surprised. Not long after I posted this initial comment, I actually met an incredible girl at a club and we're currently dating. This came really from my perspective shift in just going to dance and have a blast. Asked a girl to dance, and the rest was history. Give everything a shot man.
/r/seduction27/06/12 06:24 AM
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Ah I see that now. Man, now I'm having nightmares. It's really a shame. The have always had a decent message that semi-aligns with the message here, but their presentation of the information is so bad.
/r/seduction24/06/12 12:17 AM
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If this is the same website that I think it is, then it goes to show you guys were right about their intentions. While I did gain a lot from some of the perspective on there, it definitely seems like they've abandoned it to pursue their own thing, while trying to drag the following they built up with them.
/r/seduction23/06/12 09:28 PM
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I agree. Rumor was that it was traceable all the way to the mods/admins of the subreddit, but even then, there was a pretty solid community forming underneath them. I was subscribed to both as well and gained a lot from both communities. I can't speak for why this happened the way it did.
/r/seduction23/06/12 09:22 PM
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Yeah it got banned for all the spamming messages. While I haven't recieved any of this particular spam, based on the previous ones, I would guess that the site they were linking to is their personal website, and the spam is probably just mentioning seddit like "The site /r/seduction doesn't want you to see!" or something similar
/r/seduction23/06/12 09:08 PM
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I think having future goals and potential for your life gives you more purpose and passion. Honestly, while it will also make you more appealing to girls I think that's arguably more important for you personally. To be living your life and doing things you love, and feel passionate about. That all being said, right now not much is going on for me in that area. I'm studying in college, but I'm an unemployed 21 year old living with my parents. My thought process is overwhelmingly positive and opti…
/r/seduction20/06/12 05:43 AM
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All I can say is if your story is truly legit and you decided to come here for legitimate help and advice, then welcome and I really hope for the best for you. Im sure as many others said, start on the sidebar, work your way through that. You'll get a feel for a lot of the stuff here. Some of it might be up your alley, some of it might not be. Either way, the material here can be truly beneficial to everyone. Find what's right for you and I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
/r/seduction27/05/12 05:03 AM
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Yeah it's probably not very consistent at all. I'd only do during night game in a club like this where communication is literally a joke. In an approach during the day I wouldn't normally do something like that cause you actually have an opportunity to communicate and build some attraction/comfort and plan a date to make the number mean something. But yeah, it goes to show how easy the number part is. Many guys hype it up like it's this big step, but really girls give it out like candy.
/r/seduction22/05/12 03:33 AM
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Thanks! It was a night club. Loud, and noisy as usual.
/r/seduction20/05/12 09:17 PM
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Most guys just don't approach. That's really the sad truth. Especially not during the day or in normal situations. Night clubs are different circumstances with a set context so it's much more likely to happen if you go out consistently. Even then though, a lot of guys are scared to make a move. What context are you usually in for this? The only cues are really just if I think the girl is cute. I don't really look for much else other than her being on the phone or if shes with dude who could be h…
/r/seduction20/05/12 12:47 AM
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Yeah definitely. Always interesting to hear these things from the female perspective as well.
/r/seduction13/05/12 05:19 PM
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The only issue I find with indirect is that the woman constantly will have no idea why you're talking to them. You need to demonstrate on some level the attraction otherwise she just won't really know why you're there just cold approaching her by herself. I believe direct helps bridge that gap but like you said it's high risk high reward. It's tricky I guess but just go with the context of what feels right.
/r/seduction13/05/12 07:53 AM
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Probably the most insightful comment ever posted on Seddit lmao
/r/seduction13/05/12 06:01 AM
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Yeah this is exactly what I've picked up on as well. As men we're all structured and logical so my original mentality was "Go downtown. Talk to girls, get them to dance" like most guys. I would hate it every time. Constant rejection, girls wouldn't even look at me and I was still constraining myself a bit on the dance floor as well. It wasn't fun, or enjoyable in any capacity. The first night I went downtown and said "I really don't care if I talk to a single girl tonight" and just let loose and…
/r/seduction12/05/12 11:27 PM
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Oh wow, didn't expect this comment to blow up like it did. Damn The enjoyment mainly comes from just having fun moving to the music. I legitimately think we are hard-wired to enjoy music and dancing from our human ancestors long ago. It's such a primitive source of enjoyment you know? It just feels so right once you let go of social pressure. On top of that, it's even more enjoyable when you're letting loose with a huge smile flashing at everyone, you'll see how positively people respond to you.…
/r/seduction12/05/12 10:58 PM
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The appeal I think for a lot is the ease at which you can get with girls in a club and how quickly in can escalate. I can sympathize with you. In a lot of ways I'd prefer to actually get to know a girl instead of having music blasting, she's drunk and it just being insanity. That's the appeal of day game in my opinion because it really subtracts all of those elements and just gives you a raw interaction. Honestly though, I've come to really enjoy going to clubs, and this is coming from an identi…
/r/seduction12/05/12 08:38 AM
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This is very true. I said maybe 1 sentence to this girl the other night, handed her my phone, and went in and got a kiss goodnight. Granted she was drunk and the number was dialed in incorrectly, but it fits into your point. A pattern I'm starting to notice with a lot of game ranges from the ease of the situation is. "Cold approaches" during Day Game are called that for a reason. They're freezing. There's nothing at ease for many of us starting out. It's just me and a girl in an unusual circumst…
/r/seduction11/05/12 07:55 PM
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Exactly dude. You want to strike a balance. Once you relax and can just do it for your enjoyment, you'll feel more at ease opening. Especially cause when you're having so much fun, people just start opening you. You've got it made at that point. I originally never liked going to clubs, to meet people, and just thought of it as "Well if you want to meet girls you NEED to go to clubs" but when I went downtown focusing on that mentality I sucked! People eyed me down, if they even paid attention to …
/r/seduction11/05/12 07:29 PM
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TofuTofu stated in another thread to go out for the lulz, but how do you go about doing this? I did have fun tonight, and danced solo all night even the cute girl eying me dance all night You have all the keys bro. Don't put this pressure on yourself. You know how to go out just for the lulz. If you're feeling some anxiety about it, just go out, dance solo, and have a BLAST. Don't feel like you NEED to open everybody. Just go to enjoy yourself. As you've already noted, girls will be eyeing you. …
/r/seduction11/05/12 07:42 AM
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Bro, all I can tell you is that girl seems totally into you, and while that may feel dirty, something about this clicked with me: I had forgotten how sweet this girl is- she just graduated and she’s training to becoming a school teacher. She also has a really soft and kind voice. Don't let the sexual act cloud your vision here. Sexual urges are normal, and so is acting upon them. Maybe it's a bit offputting in public, and hard to really enjoy it because of your stress of being seen by other peop…
/r/seduction10/05/12 06:50 AM
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Seddit is one of the few subreddits I legitimately enjoy the circlejerk on, because it's so positive and upbeat. We're all guys just trying to improve. We'll have little and big successes. There's moments of weakness but we all help each other out. It's amazing what it helps do for people and I know I personally love the person I've become since stumbling into this community. Congratulations on your girlfriend dude. I hope for the best for you two!
/r/seduction09/05/12 11:55 PM
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I would say that's a bust dude. Especially considering she called off the relationship and said she just wanted to be friends. Going to Prom with you might've just felt like an obligation at that point. It's hard to say without further knowing the dynamics. If she's still showing interest in you after all this, who knows. Otherwise, move on to other girls. Live and learn. There are plenty more to come.
/r/seduction09/05/12 11:50 PM
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Fantastic post. Really fits in well over here. Not so much the rest of Reddit haha
/r/seduction09/05/12 11:10 PM
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Hell yeah. Going up to someone anywhere can pay off in the end!
/r/seduction09/05/12 09:04 AM
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Dude great job! You're on you way :) Baby steps but you did really well for your first time. Putting yourself into the situation will teach you more and more than consuming all this wonderful information. So good for you man! As far as "I don't give my number out" goes, if the girl seemed cool, friendly, and receptive, I follow it up with asking for a Facebook and the girls all obliged. At worst, I kept a connection with them, and at best I've actually made a really good friend this way. Girl I …
/r/seduction09/05/12 08:21 AM
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My heart skipped a beat for a moment bro. I know a girl who looks like Zooey Deschanel who I believe is from your area of Florida. But upon reading your FR, it's definitely not the same girl haha :) Are you ever going to be coming into the downtown Orlando area?
/r/seduction08/05/12 05:20 PM
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Haha I feel you on the Roger Love thing. I've been trying it out but it's hard to take him seriously.
/r/seduction07/05/12 11:35 PM
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It definitely seems like, as TokyoPickup said, that you have to make some serious life changes. Especially if you were serious about the suicide threat. If you were serious about that, then you definitely need to find someone professional to help bring you out from there. If you're really in a dark place like that, picking up girls should be put on the back-burner until you get that sorted out. Suicide is NEVER the answer, and does more harm for everyone. Also, girls may SEEM like a solution, bu…
/r/seduction07/05/12 01:37 AM
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Solid post and nice job on your success! By weird, I'm trying to understand what you mean. Do you mean weird as in isolating the girls from you with strange conversation topics they can't relate to, or weird as in being creepy with your behavior towards them and just everything associated with that. (Or both!) Also, I Hate online dating lol. I would go insane if it was my only primary way to meet women. Been trying everything with it for a few years with barely any real success. I blame not bein…
/r/seduction05/05/12 04:23 AM
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I agree, I'd love to see this!
/r/seduction03/05/12 02:38 AM
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Yeah, I don't have much to say for the rest of the original post, but I think you're both right on this. You should at least take care of yourself in the looks department. As you said, don't dwell on what you can't fix, but DO fix what you are capable of fixing.
/r/seduction02/05/12 02:10 AM
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Real simple post with some really solid advice.
/r/seduction29/04/12 10:03 PM
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Honestly man, don't take it personally. We have no means of knowing why people act a certain way, and maybe it has nothing to do with you. The only thing we have any real control over is ourselves and how we act/react to situations. So this was only one approach, and it hit you pretty hard. But you can't be certain enough to claim it was a "rejection" of you. She doesn't know you. Hell, all you did was make an indirect friendly comment about the weather. If anything her reaction indicates she's …
/r/seduction29/04/12 06:16 AM
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I don't really get why he hates on cold approaches. Maybe it's not the most constructive way to meet women if you just stand outside all day and try picking them up. But what if you're just doing it while going through your normal every day life? Last semester I did a ton of day game on my college campus in between classes cause there wasn't much else to do. I'm still new at this so I wasn't terribly successful. I did however have some really pleasant conversations, met some cool girls, even bec…
/r/seduction27/04/12 11:09 PM
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This is pretty much where I stand with him. He does make some valid points but then he ends up publicizing his own stuff and essentially ends up doing similar things.
/r/seduction27/04/12 10:58 PM
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Very great advice. You're absolutely right. My parents have always been loving, and supportive though. I can't fault them on that. Maybe they were kind of strict, but even then, they weren't THAT bad. I think my fears of doing wrong by them just blew things out of proportion in my head. It's something I'm working on overcoming though for sure. It's insane how many things carry over with us from our childhood.
/r/seduction25/04/12 07:23 AM
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I can't speak for ThatZBear specifically, and I certainly don't want to divert the subject off of him, but I definitely relate to this. I get like this with my parents mainly and it stems from having grown up wanting to be a "good kid" and being fearful of doing wrong by them, so it feels like opening up or being more natural might make me vulnerable to that at times, even if it's completely irrational. I think what it comes down, and ThatZBear, feel free to correct me if I'm way off, but perhap…
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:21 AM
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Wow man, sounds like we're going through the same stuff. I totally sympathize with both your OP and this comment. In response to this, because I'm still struggling with your OP on my end: I've found that if you do chill out a bit in conversations, it's interesting how it effects your interactions. You pretty much put that feeling of needing to add to the conversation on other people. If you toss out your need to do that and relax more, you'll see how fast someone else's mind might react to the p…
/r/seduction25/04/12 12:54 AM
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Wow, more power to you man! And again, great post!
/r/seduction24/04/12 08:31 PM
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Forgive me if this question is too personal but you mentioned in your post that you are old. Just out of curiosity how old are you, or what age range are you in? I'm just genuinely interested in knowing the range of ages floating around Seddit. Beyond that, great post and you make a very valid point. Also, flossing is something many people take for granted but serves some really healthy benefits! You all should definitely turn that into a habit.
/r/seduction24/04/12 08:17 PM
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Yeah this is a good clarification. Always mind the context.
/r/seduction22/04/12 11:52 PM
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This is a fantastic post and I definitely think it deserves some credit. I think to some degree, in regards to physical fitness, we get into "Looks don't matter" and some people take that a bit too far to where they don't want to take any responsibility for it. Realistically though, something like physical fitness can only serve to benefit you regardless of where you already stand. Like you said, it also has a wonderful logic train of "I look good, I feel good, I game better" This stuff is defin…
/r/seduction22/04/12 11:46 PM
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There should be a feature for people with Approach Anxiety where the phone detects when a hot girl is around and it denies further access to any Seddit content until you approach and input her phone number into the your phone ;) Jokes aside, the app look great so far :D
/r/seduction22/04/12 11:30 PM
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Great job! Always love to see people who are dedicated, motivated and succeed with this stuff. Gives me motivation to keep pushing myself as well. Keep it up! :)
/r/seduction21/04/12 03:53 AM
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Thanks man but I still have quite a long way to go myself. I constantly fall onto the interview mode crutch. I do find that joking around with stuff like that can definitely make the conversation more fun (I like to say I'm a super hero) but I also worry that it doesn't build enough comfort because then the girl doesn't really know anything about me. I'm still some random dude she met. I don't know, maybe I'm missing something lol
/r/seduction20/04/12 02:56 AM
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Makes perfect sense and totally understood. I just like trying to understand them for no other reason than my own intrigue haha
/r/seduction19/04/12 03:24 PM
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I think the OPs point is that as she develops the Yes-Yes Relationship and more respect for you through doing this, then in the long run, it will become a more mutually respectful relationship. She won't remain a child basically. The other point is probably that you shouldn't really feel the need to want to cling to her that badly. It's understandable that you'd want to see her, but if she chooses to hang with her friends once in a while instead, you shouldn't take it personally and it shouldn't…
/r/seduction19/04/12 02:02 PM
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I absolutely agree. Just let her enjoy those moments and don't feel tied down to her or get offended by things she might/might not do. Like you said, if the attraction is there, she'll naturally fall back to you, like in your situation, and if it she doesn't after many times then the attraction is probably not there. I wasn't trying to frame that last paragraph as right or wrong behavior though. I totally agree with what you're saying from our perspective to genuinely want her to have a good tim…
/r/seduction19/04/12 05:08 AM
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Be very careful with this. Being too cocky can borderline on arrogant and that can be really bad.
/r/seduction19/04/12 04:12 AM
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Dude thank you so much for this and thank you for further following up. Really great stuff in all of this. I've even been able to draw parallels between you rekindling with your ex and one of my relationships that bombed. I went through a lot of the same stuff that you said would upset you like not getting a kiss or her hanging with friends on the only night you were available. It made me realize that the times I did let go more were the times she would start coming back, and the times I got mor…
/r/seduction19/04/12 03:58 AM
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It's never really done bad for me on it's own. If anything I use it after I already know the thing has gone cold just cause I stopped caring. The most I'll ever do is joke about an awkward silence. I don't go too far with it.
/r/seduction17/04/12 11:22 PM
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Damn, I think you're right man. It's kind of obvious in retrospect but I put so much emphasis on needing to meet girls, and granted that has been the whole point of this journey, I need to loosen up the reigns a little bit and just enjoy the ride. Thanks for this, it kind of got me into the right headspace today. I wrote this post early in the morning and I was kind of emotionally doped out, but I'm doing fantastic now.
/r/seduction17/04/12 11:04 PM
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I do stuff like this quite a lot. Always good to acknowledge the awkwardness and just own it
/r/seduction17/04/12 09:38 PM
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Thanks man. I have very similar plans for the summer, and want to just completely solidly my foundational stuff much like you are. As far as AA goes, I'm actually okay with that. I don't have problems approaching and talking to people randomly and I have a fairly high level of courage and confidence. I can go into situations outcome independent and I won't dwell if something bombs or anything. It's just every now and then after nothing really seems to come to fruition I get like this. Its like a…
/r/seduction17/04/12 05:50 PM
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My question is where should I go? Like I can go downtown and enjoy nightgame but I feel I meet more quality people during the day. I mean should I just go and hang at malls and parks or something?
/r/seduction17/04/12 05:44 PM
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I'd tell you not to give up completely but don't get so hung up on just one girl either. Use of the word pursue put a bit of a strong emphasis on your action, but more or less, yeah keep trying, but preoccupy yourself with other girls as well. I've had a tendency to think once it sinks, it's under the ocean for good, but I've come to realize that's a limiting belief as well. I think these things can be re-sparked. Just throw a line out there every once in a while, eventually she might bite. Ther…
/r/seduction14/04/12 08:47 PM
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Bro, you'll learn infinitely more and infinitely faster if you grab this opportunity by the horns and live it, rather than if you try to put it on hold until you're "prepared" for it. Most of my own personal self improvement resulted after failed relationships. I would be a horribly naive son of a bitch if I didn't have my heart completely shattered in my first relationship. I wouldn't have given two craps about improving myself if my second relationship didn't deteriorate to the point where I r…
/r/seduction14/04/12 07:26 AM
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Wow dude. I think one thing you can easily take solace in is that there's a ton of things you got handled that other people don't have to worry about. That's a great start. As far as why things aren't working on, it might just be that you are playing it too safe. I hate to sound preachy and too inner-gamey but maybe you haven't really built up your core confidence and it shows. Perhaps you can run us through some more specific situations that bombed on you and we can get a clearer picture.
/r/seduction14/04/12 03:27 AM
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This is all you need man. Don't be nervous about anything. Be the life of the party and your number one priority is to have a good time :) Have fun!
/r/seduction13/04/12 09:06 PM
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This was possibly one of the best daygame FR 's I've read. There was a few points where I literally lol'd and said "damn this guy is good" So good in fact my normally cynical self actually appreciated the website plugs at the end of the post. Impressive my friend.
/r/seduction13/04/12 06:20 PM
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Haha man don't worry. Take your time. I need to get through all these other books first :p
/r/seduction13/04/12 03:39 AM
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Oh wow awesome. Ton of the books I've been interested in checking out all in one place. Thank you!
/r/seduction13/04/12 03:11 AM
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Right on bro. I know that feel and I'm in the same boat. God speed :)
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:47 AM
3

"Oh me? I'm a pickup artist"
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:21 AM
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Haha welcome to my world dude. Getting numbers that just kind of fizzle. But you've definitely got the right mentality which is great. You made progress and that's all that matters :) Soon enough you'll see numbers are easy to get, the real challenge is making sure you've built some solid attraction foundation before getting the number to ensure it actually means something. It's something I've still got to work on myself. But something will stick eventually with enough motivation, for both of us…
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:04 AM
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Good job man! Sounds like a great start. Hopefully those numbers will lead to something for you. :)
/r/seduction13/04/12 01:43 AM
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I think what's interesting about this is how you can have the exact same desired intent, but your method of conveying it makes all the difference. If you just go direct but have confidence (and obviously don't go stalkerish like this dude) it seems to work in your favor, whereas if you go direct, but it comes from a neediness perspective, it chases girls away. On paper it looks like you're doing things identically but in reality, you're conveying two completely different messages.
/r/seduction13/04/12 01:35 AM
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Saved as well. This is actually exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you for bringing this over. :)
/r/seduction13/04/12 12:46 AM
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Yeah this is something I need to be doing for sure, just with my life in general. I have vague ideas where I want to be headed but just nothing concrete.
/r/seduction12/04/12 03:16 PM
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When I say this, I don't mean that I don't take any initiative. Not at all. It's more in the push and pull dynamics after I take initiatives. Like if I say "okay, don't send her a text, let her come to you this time" or something, it'll rarely if ever happens. I definitely need to be doing more captivating things though. There's a lot I want to do, but I also feel like I need to be doing a lot more career oriented things as well. I'm kind of caught in a weird lag phase between a lazy teenager an…
/r/seduction12/04/12 03:15 PM
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I do this quite a lot. Sometimes I think maybe spending too much time on myself might be the problem haha
/r/seduction12/04/12 03:09 PM
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I usually do this all the time. Many of my conversations consist only about talking about the other person. It just never really delves deep into anything memorable I guess. It's not about emotions, or motives, but it usually stays on surface level stuff that doesn't really engage either party. I try to engage deeper but it rarely seems to work. So as a result, they talk about themselves with very little investment, feel no strong connection to me as a result, and then they barely know anything …
/r/seduction12/04/12 03:08 PM
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I don't because the opportunities never really present themselves to me. Never been much of a partier and nobody really invites me to any. The obvious solution here is to make your own I guess or just be the party. The latter I'm definitely trying to make happen, the former is a bit more work, especially for 1. My situation and 2. Being someone who isn't a big partier to begin with. I actually don't drink at all, just cause I like to be in mental control. That might sound like it makes me more r…
/r/seduction12/04/12 03:03 PM
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Very true. What would be new and dangerous? I constantly try to break out of autopilot conversations but can never seem to transition it well into results. Like many times I'll say things like "Yeah but I talk about boring stuff like this on a regular basis. I want to know who you really are as a human being. What are you philosophies on life?" or whatever, and I get "uhhhh idk"
/r/seduction12/04/12 02:59 PM
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Possibly. There's many fucks I don't give, but I think there's some my subconscious is still holding onto.
/r/seduction12/04/12 02:57 PM
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If anything else, this definitely ramps up your sexual desires. I can't really speak for it in terms of getting into state, but in the few experiments I did, it's incredible just how much more incredible women look when you stop doing this. That alone is a strong motivator.
/r/seduction12/04/12 02:56 PM
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I feel like I can totally relate to what you're saying on "Staring into a screen" all the time. It truly has a tendency to get you more ingrained inside your head. I definitely understand the need to unplug and just push myself out there. The effects of that and the difference in myself are somethings I've been picking up on much more lately. I think our past definitely does a lot on shaping who we are and there's certainly nothing cliche about going back to that to better understand yourself. I…
/r/seduction12/04/12 07:37 AM
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Just added both of these onto my tablet. Will totally be reading them. Thank you :)
/r/seduction12/04/12 07:25 AM
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Yeah I'm glad this is the top comment cause I'm not even sure what is going on.
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:21 AM
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Awesome. I'm definitely going to look into Dale Carnegie. That app sounds killer. I feel like I understand these things in my head, but I have a hard time implementing them into actual situation. I've definitely become more focused on the other person and less on myself. That's definitely been integrated. Beyond that, I guess I struggle finding the way to really get people to open up. I'd love to form those connections, to see things from their perspective and sympathize with them. Like I know e…
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:19 AM
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I know who I am, and can be comfortable for sure. Sometimes I think it's debatable how interesting I really am. With other people I always feel the need to talk about important things I guess, but I personally can find anything stupid minuscule thing fascinating. But yeah, there's definitely still a filter to some degree. It's slowly eroding away bit my bit. I get caught up in a lot of autopilot dialogue when I talk to people though. Sometimes it's just unconsciously filtering me. I sometimes do…
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:44 AM
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Yeah some of my close friends I've said expressed this too quite bluntly and said how I need to change. I can get close to being this person with those friends, but I still don't quite get rid of the filter completely. Like I don't even know how to explain it, but even friends I'm really comfortable around, I still feel slightly constrained around. One thing I notice is by myself if I'm talking I'll never misspeak or stutter or anything. Words flow out of my mouth perfectly. If I talk to someone…
/r/seduction12/04/12 05:41 AM
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Enjoy spending time with yourself. It know thats pretty cliche, but if you're not someone you want to hang out with, how can you been someone other people want to hang out with. I see what Grid1roN is saying in relation to this and think he has a point. I think my problem is that I can absolutely enjoy hanging around myself, I just have problem conveying that exact same person to everyone else. It's weird. When I'm by myself, I feel like I know who I am at my core. I'm completely comfortable and…
/r/seduction12/04/12 04:44 AM
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It's actually pretty amazing how much of this stuff lines up together. Seduction really is an art form all of it's own. Trying to crack it down into a scientific formula that works 100% just makes people more rigid and makes them go against their natural behavior. This desperately needs more attention. This was a fantastic post and I'm saving it because it really puts things into an awesome framework.
/r/seduction12/04/12 02:57 AM
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Thank you :) Bro you want to know something even funnier? I go with the mentality that approaches aren't happening, because that's what pushes me to stand apart from the crowd. Then yesterday after I approached a girl, this dude saw me and came up to me and said "I think we're doing the same thing" Turns out he was a SimplePickup fan trying to do approaches on my college campus. I was kind of shocked. I introduced him to Seddit so he could get some more tips. Moral of the Story: Approaches reall…
/r/seduction11/04/12 06:21 PM
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I love you man. Great post. I look forward to your guides :)
/r/seduction11/04/12 07:23 AM
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This is more or less the TL;DR of everything on Seddit
/r/seduction11/04/12 12:34 AM
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Brother, this is you trying to rationalize yourself into not approaching. I'm going to throw this at you from two perspectives. Hopefully one or both will help you. Approaches are happening all around you, you just don't witness the moment. The people walking alone, by themselves, in the typical fog of their life? They just left from a spontaneous approach. Or they get approached minutes after they walk past you by some other dude. That was an opportunity of your life you could have gripped by t…
/r/seduction10/04/12 01:17 AM
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Same here. I always prefer daygame to night for this very reason. At the very least girls are infinitely friendlier during the day then at night. Night game is much more shallow, no real room for conversation, and intentions and motivations are pretty clear from the get go. Daygame allows you to make stronger connections and meet some better quality girls who might not generally like going to clubs.
/r/seduction08/04/12 06:26 PM
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Every time you make a comment on threads, there's a joke about your username. Without fail. Every time. I don't think I've ever seen one without it. I always wondered if that started to become frustrating after a while lol
/r/seduction08/04/12 05:42 PM
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I've done the mysterious thing my whole life. Don't do it. We might think it works, but it doesn't.
/r/seduction08/04/12 07:40 AM
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Thanks man! Actually I think you came up with the line yourself and I might just use that "I'm seeing someone" "Oh don't even worry, just seeing your gorgeous face makes my day"
/r/seduction07/04/12 07:26 AM
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Absolutely. I guess I just feel weird trying to work on girls who are already taken (If they are telling the truth) but whatever, I'm going to try it next time it happens. :)
/r/seduction06/04/12 11:29 PM
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Ah yes, I've seen Sasha do this quite a lot. I've always wanted to try. Gotta balls up for that one hahaha
/r/seduction06/04/12 11:24 PM
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Exactly. I came to this realization a few weeks ago and it's completely changed not just trying to get girls, but me as a person. I used to think "myself" was the introverted quiet type who didn't want to talk to anybody, and the extroverted open me was just me putting on a fake persona. Then it occurred to me that often when I'm by myself, like when I'm driving, I tend to just talk to myself to verbalize my thoughts, and I realized just how often I did this. I realized how under no social press…
/r/seduction06/04/12 06:38 PM
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I can definitely relate to "yourself" changing based on who you're with. Based on what I have gathered, that's your mind seeking to maintain a sense of identity that you have created for yourself. For example, you peg yourself as being awkward around people who have known you for so long, and you feel that altering that changes who you are and even if it's ruining you, you'd rather do that than risk improving things. Trust me, I'm still like this at times and it sucks. You have to tear down the …
/r/seduction06/04/12 07:16 AM
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Yeah that makes sense. In the past, I'd have a tendency to be really blunt with dates and it would completely ruin the natural flow of things. It would work, but I definitely realize how much of a boner killer that is for women now. That being said though, I think this worked for the context of the situation. And yeah, the other girl was just a bonus story I wanted to share for anybody who might have thought the same thing as me. Man she was cute though.
/r/seduction06/04/12 04:38 AM
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At my campus a lot of girls sit in the grass. I've done approaches where I end up sitting on the ground with them.
/r/seduction05/04/12 01:03 AM
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I'm glad you stopped viewing this stuff under the science framework and decided to be more natural about it. Be true to who you are and don't focus so much on the technical aspects. They're good to know but only when you're ready to use them, and even then they're tips that should flow naturally and not make you more rigid. This is as achieveable as you make it to be. If you stay dedicated and don't let discouragement tear you down, you WILL succeed. Good luck bro
/r/seduction04/04/12 02:22 PM
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This is so fantastic. Makes me want to read through all this stuff again :)
/r/seduction04/04/12 04:13 AM
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Definitely keep us updated. Would love to hear your progress!
/r/seduction03/04/12 08:20 PM
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I'm convinced you can do anything on the dance floor if you have rhythm, confidence and a big ass smile. I've gotten complimented on how good I am at dancing when I honestly have no idea what I'm doing.
/r/seduction03/04/12 12:35 AM
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Don't put yourself down man. I know the feeling, I've been there, and this is a low point for you but realize this is the beginning of your climb back up and you'll be stronger than before. It's all part of the growing process. Don't forget all the stuff you learned. Just try and separate the stuff that doesn't help you from the stuff that does, and keep the good stuff more in your subconscious rather than your primary focus. I basically took on more natural game because I felt a lot of the thin…
/r/seduction02/04/12 07:01 PM
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I think your mind is so consumed in pickup/seduction material that it's breeding over-analytical paralysis in you. I think the best thing you can do is take a step back. Take a deep breath, and relax. I've been in a similar boat recently, and the best thing I've done is essentially toss all of this stuff, which has been at the forefront of my mind and my motivations, onto the back-burner. Stop putting insurmountable amounts of pressure on all these things and realize what you want to achieve isn…
/r/seduction02/04/12 04:45 PM
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Oh yeah, I think that was on my list of things to watch. Thank you and will do!
/r/seduction02/04/12 04:23 PM
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Bro, you're a trooper. I wish I had friends like you with this level of dedication and motivation.
/r/seduction02/04/12 03:51 PM
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