Tushie77 Archive

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12	How to refute the redpill argument that adult men are having less sex? ... But adult men (and women) are both having less sex? Someone can correct me, but I think this is pretty well established. Compared to prior generations, young people are getting into fewer relationships, having less sex and also spending less money on alcohol/nightlife than prior generations. Curious about why this factoid is sticking this way? I'm not sure if I understand your thought chain. Could you ELI5 for me?	/r/ExRedPill	17/07/26 07:06 PM
9	There is a phrase that resonated with me—which I saw in the comments on a video by a "red pill" content creator—that went: "The male psychiatrist falls in love with the female patient, but the female psychiatrist does not fall in love with the male patient." This refers to hypergamy. I think the better question is, "Do we tend to see hypergamy as much as we see positive assortative mating?" And, the answer to that question is well-established: people largely pair off within their own social class (positive assortative mating). So throughout history -- and this still occurs today -- powerful men (i.e., those with resources) marry women from powerful families (i.e., those with resources), whether or not they have discrete power themselves (and vice versa). This idea of women "…	/r/ExRedPill	02/07/26 10:37 PM
5	I can’t escape Therapist here. (I'm also a female therapist who is very familiar with the Incelosphere). Normally I'd suggest someone in the Incelosphere see a clinician who (a) knows about digital cultures, and (b) is trauma-informed. I'd be less concerned with a specific therapeutic modality as long as you connect with someone and they're well trained and they can see you for the full you. (I also say this because you mentioned that you clam up around therapists.) BUT, from the little you describe about your…	/r/ExRedPill	10/04/26 03:09 AM
3	Advice how I can help un red pill my boyfriend IRL therapist who works with people who become aligned with internet communities and see the world in a very set, specific way. You really can't "un pill" someone or change their beliefs. I hate to break it to you, but you can't. TRP is currently explaining something about the world to your boyfriend. It's doing so in a way that feels like it makes sense to him. It's solving for some question, or problem, or concern, or whatever that he didn't have before. You can use socratic questioning (open-…	/r/ExRedPill	03/06/25 07:20 PM
1	Calling men incels as a common insult is unproductive. Important point: Lots of Incels aren't bitter sexist virgins. Sure, they're virgins, but they're also good people who are frustrated and lonely and feel life has shortchanged them. Sexism has nothing to do with Inceldom, and a fuckton of people are bitter. That being said, 100% agreed that using Incel as an insult is unproductive. It's also cruel.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 11:52 PM
3	Is the use of makeup deceptive? If makeup is deceptive, facial hair is deceptive. So, no. This is such a sad question :(	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/24 08:59 PM
5	A certain type of account of having sex seems to get quite a lot of attention is RP spaces. Thoughts? Absolutely brilliant comment	/r/ExRedPill	07/08/23 11:52 AM
–	Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s? This isnt how traveling or sex works. People travel to the same spots over and over again. Its literally why people have vacation homes. If your theory were true people would never travel to the same spot they visited before, and only people who traveled the same number of times to the same spots would travel together. This is confusing and not how being a human works. How exactly is travel like sex? I genuinely want to know how this is a valid analogy to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 11:39 AM
3	Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s? This is fascinating because it assumes men and women sow their wild oats when they are young, and become vanilla boring partners as they age. This is so, so, so incorrect. Young men and women are inexperienced, insecure and unsure of themselves. Teenage and twentysomething sex is awkward, anxiety-inducing, sloppy, and possibly half-forgotten if both parties are under the influence. As people (men and women) get older they gain maturity, confidence and self awareness. Sex gets better with age, be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/23 08:58 PM
1	Modern Western Women Are a Historical Abomination Fascinating. It sounds like you have the soul of a Spartan. Ironically, the city-state of Athens didn’t have an attitude of ‘pain begets success’, and they were pretty successful until a war with Sparta, which led to the decline of the Greek empire. There are many roads to success. If yours works for you, great. I will point out it seems to be an emotionally difficult one, driven by pain to motivate your success. Sending an internet hug to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/23 11:42 PM
1	Modern Western Women Are a Historical Abomination IF -- and this is a big 'if'.... IF the things you just mentioned about women and men were proven false, what would that mean about (a) the world; (b) your place in it; and (c) your journey as a human? I won't comment on the veracity of your statements because, ironically, that's not really the point here. The deeper conversation here is about how your beliefs about the world are "serving" your needs. What would happen if you believed there were kind, nonjudgemental women in the world? And what …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/23 11:02 PM
2	Modern Western Women Are a Historical Abomination Here’s an observation: When you’re hard on yourself, you’re likely to be hard on other people. And most people don’t like being judged. Masculinity is an interesting concept: Its something men think about to judge themselves and other men. Women definitely don’t think about it: We just want someone nice, fun, honest and reliable. Some people don’t, of course, but they have their own issues. Healthy nice people want healthy nice people. And, you can become healthy & nice at any age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/23 10:35 PM
1	Modern Western Women Are a Historical Abomination Happy to chat about this. :) Also — thoughts re: differences between blaming yourself versus acknowledging your innate ability to make changes in your life? I wonder if you’re hard on yourself. You deserve compassion & understanding and as a person its guaranteed you won’t be perfect. All of us are works in progress throughout our lives. (It feels like this reminder could be helpful right now.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/23 03:05 PM
2	Modern Western Women Are a Historical Abomination Are you looking for a partner but can’t find one? Lots of people here are telling you to ‘work on yourself’. I have another idea: What do you want right now that you don’t have? A girlfriend? A wife? A family? A good job? Are you happy? It sounds like you jumped to an easy conclusion (women are the cause of your issues) before really understanding the real issue you’re dealing with, which I would guess is loneliness and a lack of personal fulfillment. I think you need to understand why you’re in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/23 01:28 PM
3	Detoxers, what are quality ways to tell if an online self-help or dating coach/influencer is legit or a grifter? This is simple. None of them are legit. Please see a real therapist. Sending my best to you :)	/r/ExRedPill	19/11/22 07:56 PM
1	men who care about a women's body count, how would you even know what it is? Wait let me get this straight... How she behaves during sex is indicative of body count? So -- let's say you have a phenomenal connection with someone. You love the way she smells (pheromones), you make each other laugh, and you feel safe and protected with her (and vice versa). The sex will likely be amazing because you're so compatible. So if she's confident, and is enjoying herself, and is good at pleasing you (and receiving pleasure), you're going to assume she's a ho? I hope you see this ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/22 12:42 AM
1	Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of men Your empirical studies are lacking. The first is a sample of 650 college students in the Netherlands (which, by the way, has the highest mean height of any country), and the second is a data table with no sources & no context. Do better please! This stuff matters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/22 12:12 PM
2	Do women ever think that the high value dude they are going for can pretty much leave at any point for someone better? Jumping in…. No way is that “successful” because mating habits are not indicative of “success”. Happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults engage in romantic and platonic relationships because this is the foundational element of the human experience. That’s it. There is no “success” metric involved. When people try to become “successful” in relationships, its because they weren’t successful before, and this causes them pain. They think the solution is to gamify or mechanize the human-to-human connecti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/22 07:31 PM
1	Do women ever think that the high value dude they are going for can pretty much leave at any point for someone better? Whoa whoa whoa…. Its time to get past the ‘high-value-low-value’ trope. People leave people all the time. Period. There’s no possible way to quantify or explain this is any meaningful, accurate way — period. What is considered optimal, or adaptive, or even noteworthy differs from (a) person to person; and (b) time, place, context and culture. These communities have to stop bastardizing and miscontextualizing social science research: hypergamy is an anthropological concept from 1880 used to descr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/22 07:19 PM
3	Both a conservative think tank and a progressive college institute discredit major tenets of TRP. So why is TRP still a thing? You've nailed it.	/r/ExRedPill	01/06/22 01:54 AM
1	Sitting on the fence 49 yo male living in a very leftist city & state, starting to dislike wokeness & political correctness, tell me why the red pill is wrong & bad for me ?? Its SO good for you to post here. The biggest problem, as I see it, is that you’re looking for a single ideology to fix the pain and frustration and anger you’re feeling. Red Pill offers an easy answer to what you’re going through. The hard truth, however, is that no easy answer exists and anyone who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something. The Red Pill js heavily sold // marketed online by other men (and women) who can make a lot of money off of seminars, classes (etc). Its fundamen…	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/22 08:24 PM
1	explain why i am wrong(actual redpill) Red Pill is wrong because it bastardizes scientific research that is meant to explain very specific phenomena in very specific contexts (often of animals & not people). It doesn’t “translate” to a different audience. For example — “alpha” studies of wolves have been debunked. Its a made up concept. Within human studies, men who are collaborative & helpful are most respected by their peers. Bullies don’t get ahead. Another great example of this is hypergamy. Its a made up concept. The super-rich …	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/22 06:56 PM
1	Hypergamy on Display You’ve got to be kidding…. “Elites fracturing society” doesn’t result in women wanting to marry up. “Elites fracturing society” eliminates our middle class. Don’t blame this on women. Blame this on elites, and leave the blame there. Period.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 09:05 PM
2	Do men prefer women without much of a sexually promiscuous past? A thousand people? Come on. Thats such a high number it's effectively impossible. You'd have to find a new sexual partner (nightly) for three years straight. Unless its your profession -- which I'm not judging, btw -- it's just not going to happen. "High" (average) is probably between 20-70 people, which, if it's broken down by sexual-partner-per year at the high end, would average only 3.5 new partners each year within a 20 year span. Let's say you have your first experience at 15 and never mar…	/r/ExRedPill	19/01/22 10:14 PM
12	Do men prefer women without much of a sexually promiscuous past? I think this is the wrong question. Here's a better one: Why do some men obsess over "body counts"? And can any man with this obsession ever expect to enter a healthy relationship? I'll now answer my own question: Men obsess over women's sexual promiscuity -- or lack thereof -- because they're allowing their (internal) thoughts/feelings to be overridden by (external) sources of [incorrect] information. Healthy, confident, successful, emotionally stable women will run for the hills if a potential…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/22 11:55 PM
8	Question For The Men: Would you date or marry or even consider a relationship with an FDS woman? Yeah don't let this guy get under your skin. Who in their right mind cares that much about appearance?!? Doesn't he have hobbies? Or people he cares about? Or things he wants to do? He likely wouldn't look at a 40+ woman, but it's likely a 40+ woman would find him vain and vapid and boring.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 12:19 AM
1	Modern dating and the Laffer Curve. Whats so funny is we don’t actually know the Laffler Curve is true! So there’s really no point in acknowledging the theory-ness of one component of all of this without acknowledging the theory-ness of any other element. Editing: We know, from prior history in the US, that significantly higher tax rates at close to 70% were sustainable and didnt support these claims. I also hope you’re really fucking rich, like you & your kids & grandkids don’t have to work a day in your lives rich, because those…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/21 11:37 PM
2	Modern dating and the Laffer Curve. This is a controversial theory that is heavily pushed by Conservative economists, and was heavily favored by Dick Cheney and Donald Rumsfeld. This is not an economic theory that is widely taught or disseminated. Moreso, it's understood that the US tax rate could be at or above 70% before this theoretical principle is applicable. Consequently, it feels very problematic to use within this context. For those who need a primer on how we're taxed: Every increment above X is taxed at Y rate. These #'s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/21 07:01 PM
3	Is FDS a good way to weed out redpillers or other sexist men? You didn’t find the right therapist! So — A good therapist will recommend you ‘try out’ 2 or 3 (or even more) therapists before settling on the person that you best connect with. Within the field, its known that literally the most important factor is the relationship between the client and the therapist. It doesnt matter if the therapist practices CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), or old-school psychoanalysis (what Freud did), or anything else. What matters most is the true & genuine connectio…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/21 04:38 AM
3	Is FDS a good way to weed out redpillers or other sexist men? Have you read RedPill content? Both are pretty awful & denigrate people (everyone here we’re talking about is a person) into an object or tool.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/21 04:32 AM
2	Is FDS a good way to weed out redpillers or other sexist men? I…. am at a loss for words here.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/21 01:17 AM
2	Is FDS a good way to weed out redpillers or other sexist men? Sluts? Do you realize you’re talking to a woman? You’re also using the same pejorative — even derogatory — language that I was talking about in my original comment, ironically. RedPill and FDS are equally cesspool-esque and radicalize male:female dynamics.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/21 01:05 AM
4	Is FDS a good way to weed out redpillers or other sexist men? FDS is a scary place. Community-sanctioned use of pejorative language (e.g., "scrotes"), is a great indicator that there's a lot of latent (or outright) hostility and anger towards [x] group, and it's a great way to decide not engage with that community.	/r/ExRedPill	08/10/21 08:36 PM
2	Is FDS a good way to weed out redpillers or other sexist men? I think therapy is the best option at this point. You may be engaging in patterns without realizing youre doing so, or you may be giving off the 'wrong' signals... anything is possible and we could speculate. BUT, if you see someone, you'll be able to figure out what's going on. Note: If you go this route, don't see a 'dating coach!' Work with an actual licensed professional in your state who takes privacy laws (HIPAA) & informed consent very seriously.	/r/ExRedPill	08/10/21 08:33 PM
1	Curious about the manosphere in other countries How do you define ‘masculinity’ and how is it linked with conservatism?	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/21 11:59 AM
2	What is actual "alpha" and "beta" behavior? THIS!!! Beautifully said.	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/21 09:17 PM
2	What is actual "alpha" and "beta" behavior? Heiraerchy isn’t a binary alpha/beta. Society actually doesn’t blindly follow that which animals do, we are significantly more complex. For every ‘rule’ you cite, there will be outliers, which thus invalidate your aforementioned rule.	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/21 09:17 PM
19	What is actual "alpha" and "beta" behavior? It means nothing, literally nothing, because the original wolf studies that oriented ‘alpha’ and ‘beta’ terminology were discredited. So, since ‘alpha’ and ‘beta’ don’t even exist in wolf populations, they definitely don’t exist in human populations, either. In human groups, leaders of prosocial, well-adjusted and happy communities (i.e, the ‘good’ communities) tend to be collaborative, humble and give credit to those in their ranks. They are not driven by power/grandeur, fear or hierarchy. Plea…	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/21 12:22 PM
6	how many women in this sub? Im a woman working to develop interventions that help people leave problematic online communities. RedPill is one of these communities. Feel free to DM me if you’d luke	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/21 01:11 PM
1	Help me change my mindset towards my husband They’d be permanent renters in areas that are considered poor (Van Nuys, Pacioma), or they’d live so far outside LA proper they’d be in a different county (like Riverside County or Ventura County). Even then, there are still pockets/enclaves of wealth in those areas. Calabasas, made famous by the Kardashians, is in Ventura County. A family of 4 living in Los Angeles on 80k a year would likely rent a 2-3 bedroom in a roach or rat infested building in a dangerous neighborhood. Im being dead seriou…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/06/21 04:40 AM
2	Help me change my mindset towards my husband Respectfully, please move to LA and then comment. In a middle-class suburb like Studio City (we’re not talking about a wealthy community like Brentwood or Beverly Hills), a run-down 2 bedroom bungalow on a postage stamp lot is 1.2 million. CA gas is exceptionally expensive CA state taxes are super high CA car taxes are 2x what you’d find in PA (as an example). Because the public schools are so bad (the only thing that isnt pricey in CA are property taxes), very few people send their kids to publ…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/21 06:21 PM
18	Help me change my mindset towards my husband Hey! So, I do not ascribe to redpill beliefs (I conduct research in this area), but your post really struck me as important. So, if I were to reframe your issue very simply, it sounds like you're saying it really upsets you that your husband just isn't that into you & your child. You're saying he focuses on his work at the expense of you and your family. It sounds like you're carrying resentment because you followed him around the country. And, you didn't mention anything, but the subtext is tha…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/21 12:07 AM
-6	Finally embracing red pill ideas and all the low quality woman are vanishing left and right. Agreed. Its my opinion. In that vein, it’s also not up to you to decide what makes a woman of value. She gets to decide that herself. ****Edit: For all the lurkers, all the young men (and women) who may not follow this ideology yet, please note that this comment has been downvoted. There is NO logic to this whatsoever. If women can't define men, doesn't it follow that men cannot define women? Please visit ex red pill subs to learn more. There's a lot of great info out there, and there ARE ways t…	/r/TheRedPill	30/05/21 12:43 AM
1	Finally embracing red pill ideas and all the low quality woman are vanishing left and right. I ADORE Bill Burr. Have followed him for years. I noticed he has really mellowed out since he had his kid(s). He recently spoke about how an experience with mushrooms (I believe) helped him get to the root of his anger. It was a longer segment with Conan O'Brien, you can find it on YouTube if you're interested. BUT - I love him most because of a visit to Joe Rogan's show: He completely shut Joe down when he (Joe) asked him (Bill) his opinion on COVID. Bill responded and said that neither of them…	/r/TheRedPill	30/05/21 12:03 AM
2	Finally embracing red pill ideas and all the low quality woman are vanishing left and right. Why are you lurking on my profile? Feel free to share your story. If you're not interested in doing so, no worries & best of luck to you. I genuinely hope you find the love and validation you're looking for.	/r/TheRedPill	29/05/21 11:39 PM
4	Finally embracing red pill ideas and all the low quality woman are vanishing left and right. Oh my gosh of course not! Healthy women won't a) use you for attention; b) force you to bend to their will; or c) reduce you to your role as a provider (i.e, a source of money). The reason this makes me so sad is because when male/female dynamics are re-defined via utility (i.e., can I fuck this girl or can this guy pay my rent), then those aforementioned men & women ironically find each other. Healthy people of both sexes "see" through a lot of that stuff, so you're weeding out the potential pa…	/r/TheRedPill	29/05/21 10:33 PM
-2	Finally embracing red pill ideas and all the low quality woman are vanishing left and right. I'm studying RedPill in a graduate program. It's academic, but sometimes I read posts & they make me so sad. Adding to my comment -- what led you to red pill?	/r/TheRedPill	29/05/21 10:30 PM
1	Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional society Wow, Im mightily impressed — truly, you conceded your point when new info was presented. That’s a major rarity online (and in real life), and it show’s youre flexible and not driven by ego. Im sorry I was so aggressive — in convos like this Im used to responses like, “well [x] study says this and anything else is wrong”. Edit — also good job w/not falling down the RP/PUA hole. Its a cesspool.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 06:39 PM
1	Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional society See my other comment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 06:09 PM
4	Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional society Its tragic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 06:08 PM
2	Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional society But partying & drug use — unless you’re a methhead living on the street — really don’t cause the issues you’re claiming. There’s a well-publicized phenomenon called the “French Paradox”, which has shown that the French, who drink red wine & eat saturated fat, have lower rates of cardiovascular disease than their drink-free, saturated-fat fee American counterparts. Moreso, things like hair shaft diameter & texture are largely inherited. It’s why if I say “picture black hair” or “picture asian hai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 06:07 PM
8	Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional society You’re using one fictional movie from the 90s to extrapolate women’s genital wellness? Doesn’t sound very logical, buddy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 04:17 PM
2	Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional society So you need to learn about epigenetics, telomere length, thyroid & hormonal conditions, skin barrier function and xenoestrogens. All of this aforementioned stuff actually impacts wrinkle development, weight gain, lackluster hair etc....	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 04:16 PM
10	Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional society Wait do you really believe what you’re saying right now? Dry skin is because of lax sexual standards? Why don’t you go to your dermatologist and ask her (or him) if that’s true? And why not head over to a hairdresser and ask why having sex makes people’s hair bad? And, general unhealthiness is a result of sexual activity? Wow, so then doctors as a whole aren’t needed, I guess the world’s population should just engage in sexual activity once or twice in a lifetime for procreative purposes? Edit —…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 04:12 PM