TweakerTheBarbarian Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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11	My STBX wife is moving a “room mate” into our once shared home. The strategy of “don’t move out” frequently advocated for in this sub really only applies to an owned home or if kids are involved. If you’re not on the new lease, and you shouldn’t be, getting your own place sounds like the healthiest thing for your sobriety.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/10/24 10:54 AM
13	Final stages of my divorce If you don’t have it written down with all the financial details and her signature on it, you don’t have an agreement.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/24 12:29 AM
7	Just got the divorce papers sent to me. Really is hitting hard. How to cope? It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass. Biking saved my health (both mental and physical). Find something that works for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/24 11:56 PM
3	Equity Payout If she pays you out from other sources, such as her parents, she ends up with a smaller loan payment on the new loan. So I don’t think there’s any benefit for you, just for her. She doesn’t want to refinance because rates are terrible right now and she’ll end up with a higher rate. Do NOT let her leave you on the current loan. Just make sure all the financial details are described in excruciating detail in your settlement agreement.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/06/24 06:48 PM
6	Equity Payout You need to get your name off the deed AND the loan. Getting off the deed isn’t too big of a deal. Getting off the loan is virtually impossible; no bank wants to let someone off the hook for a loan, hence the need to refinance. Do NOT agree to not refinancing, the bank can come after you if she defaults on the loan.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/06/24 06:20 PM
2	Divorced Men: With what you experienced, would you ever remarry? If you could go back, would you have ever married knowing what you know now? No and also no.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/03/24 09:12 PM
5	One year on since being told she wanted a divorce Maybe don’t lie to people? 🤷‍♂️	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/24 07:44 PM
1	Men in your 40s dating younger women, what are you guys doing? https://youtu.be/H_Bvyr8FnYk?si=f0sAxkWwnwazhfng	/r/Divorce_Men	30/09/23 06:09 PM
6	Getting a divorce. Wondering about others experiences when there is a high disparity in income and kids involved It’s going to feel unfair, you’re going to feel like you’ve been taken to the cleaners. You’re going to lose a lot of what you feel is yours and that you’ve built. You need to mentally square with that and accept it, move on, and make a plan to rebuild financially. Marriage is a state enforced financial contract where the person with the least income and assets wins. Keep that in the front of your mind if you ever consider marrying again.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/09/23 02:23 PM
1	Marriage is not a word. It’s a sentence. It’s the longest sentence…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/23 01:30 PM
2	Going through an “uncontested divorce” and on 3 it states “This marriage is irretrievably broken” and I don’t agree with this. Can the wording be changed to reflect that she believes this but I don’t? Or is this just standard language that’s needed to file an uncontested divorce? If you disagree, then it’s probably not an uncontested divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/23 12:23 AM
7	Basic advice If you care about her as a person and you care about your kids, don’t surprise her with divorce. Good communication is key, explain why the marriage will no longer work for you. Maybe you can go your separate ways amicably. People change or come into who they are; relationships run their course. Don’t drag her and the kids through a hostile divorce if you don’t have to.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/22 10:38 PM