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Talk to you lawyer first.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:46 PM
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Been there, done that! Whats hilarious is some of these women are kind enough to raise the red flags on their dating profiles. The my love language is gifts is a major one I regularly see.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 04:31 AM
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Its not the first time I have had someone mention how long it will take. Its a long fucking road man
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 02:13 AM
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Just did the math, it’s been 550 days since she said she was leaving. Finalized in court earlier this week, Monday I finally got what one may call closure. She has a boyfriend, which I believe she has been seeing since the beginning based on what I can tell. I can honestly say I don’t give a fuck who she fucks, I know I wasn’t a cheater. Monday was shitty, Tuesday I finally felt the weight lift after court. For some reason, the events of this week lit a fire inside me and now I am even more dete…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 02:06 AM
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Almost a year since she moved out. My resting heart rate on apple watch dropped from previous year. It was crazy to see, because it’s clear as day which month she moved out on the graph. Now its sporadic nonsense over the phone, but its even more jarring.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/25 06:01 AM
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Do you have kids?
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 06:17 AM
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Two young kids. It’s sux. Everyone tries to act supportive but were never divorced. They have no fucking clue how difficult it is flying solo.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 06:04 AM
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In my case, I probably would have had more than 50/50 if we went to court. The kids need both parents, so I wasn’t going to push the issue. I wanted what is best for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 05:58 AM
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Lawyer up if you havent. Your ex may end up on the hook paying you alimony before its all done.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 10:52 PM
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My soon to be ex wife just pulled this shit, moved out two months ago. We have two young kids and she did maybe 30% of actual parenting. It took me months to finally see she is a selfish spoiled brat. I say this because you probably cant see that yet. It gets better, but now is the time to lawyer up and focus on you and kids if you have them.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 12:21 AM
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Dude should make her ass sleep on the couch.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:25 AM
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WTF man? He doesn’t need to worry about finding a place to live until his lawyer tells him so. You are out here giving shit tier advice.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:23 AM
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She served him, so he needs a dawg not a time to play nice.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:22 AM
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My stbx moved out. At one point she said she knew I wouldn’t have or some shit..
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:21 AM
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Thats your house!! Don’t fucking leave! Lawyer up, see a therapist and hit the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:19 AM
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She will go back to her old ways.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 02:28 AM
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Girlfriend?!!! Nice joke. Honestly, it will be a very long time (many years) before I would ever consider bringing a partner around. I know first hand, as the child of divorced parents that it will screw with their headspace.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 06:05 PM
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The average male IQ is like 99, only 1-2% have a 130 IQ or higher.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:29 PM
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Tell her to go take her date someplace else and lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 12:05 AM
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What goes around, comes around.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 12:02 AM
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Its hard because you want to believe that certain acquaintances you gained through marriage wouldn’t believe the lies. Truth is they take sides, then you get to see them for who they really are. I’ve taken the position that if someone really believes what she says, then they are not worth my time. Fuck em
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 09:24 PM
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Currently in the thick of it and I am learning how to truly not give a F. I see it as a gift of divorce, learning to no longer care what other people think.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 12:59 PM
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My therapy experience was similar, basically she took no responsibility for any of her actions and anytime I even mentioned those items she would freak out.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 06:20 PM
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I recall a few times where she asked me some random question, then I realized it was related to some ticktock nutjob.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 06:16 PM
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This notion that women can just walk away and its the mans fault if f’ing bullshit. If the roles are flipped, the man is a deadbeat and shunned by society.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 06:07 PM
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“We attract partners of comparable physical and mental health.” This translates to working on yourself, go to that next level in health so you are attractive to the future partner you desire to meet.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 06:03 PM
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Mine flat out makes sure I know she talks shit. I figure eventually people may pick up that she is batshit crazy. If anyone believes that bullshit she says then they can fuck off.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 04:07 AM
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The batshit crazy shit on ticktock is part of the problem. My stbx is glued to the screen watching self help and relationship bullshit created by someone who may not even be a therapist. She also sent me some garbage blog post written by some feminist author, who wasn’t a therapist. This blog basically said couples therapy is male centric.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 04:04 AM
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I am currently in mediation, its been around 6 months since she said she was planning a divorce. Since then, the veil has been lifted and I see clearly just how much bullshit I have been putting up with for almost two decades. In my case she is moving out, I look forward to changing the locks when my attorney gives me the go ahead.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 03:59 AM
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Stay strong ✊ Going through a similar situation, except she is moving out.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 03:52 AM
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I feel that! Our therapist was waaaaay too sensitive for us, pushing us to use that “i feel” speech. Well it wasn’t until our last session that she finally flipped her technique but it was too far gone.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 08:51 AM
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Thats when you take her ass back to court and fight for a greater portion of custody. I put my stbx on notice already, if someone other than her starts spending a significant amount of parenting time, then it comes back to me. I’ll gladly have full custody if needed.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 08:46 AM
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This is the hardest part, creating a unified front for the kids. Meanwhile this selfish loon is the reason for the ensuing financial and mental pain everyone is about to experience. Frankly, our society is fucked up. Women get a pass on divorce. My stbx has been a part time mom at best for the last year, racked up tens of thousands in hidden cc debt, then blames me and takes zero responsibility. She is out doing victory laps with her friends while my kids and I are at home wondering where the fu…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 08:43 AM
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I grew up with this dynamic between my parents, it backfired on the parent that did it. My sister and I resented them for a very long time. I have been seeing a similar pattern with my stbx and I started calling her out when she does it. I will not stand by and allow that nut to craft a narrative for my children.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 07:22 AM
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Therapy showed me that she is unable to take any responsibility for her own actions. Every session became a run down of why I am to blame for all her issues. I think our therapist wasnt up to the task, but I realized my stbx has zero comprehension of my issues with her. i.e. massive hidden debts, shit communication, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 01:23 AM
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This is why I f’ing hate my stbx. She cant even do part time mom, let alone a couple days. We are trying 50/50 to start, but I am prepared to take her ass back to court if my soon to be ex inlaws become caregivers. Fuck her
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 05:51 AM
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If it doesn’t feel right, then cut the cord and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 04:26 PM
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I already did my part for the continuation of the species, so got ✂️✂️ With no plans to reverse. So if someone wants me long term, then they will need to understand: (i) My kids will always come before them. (ii) I expect the same from them if they have kids (iii) They will never be my kids “mom”
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:08 AM
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Needed this today. This was her idea, she wanted the divorce and has made the last several months a living hell for me. Reality must have hit hard, because today she was playing the victim and absolving herself of her reckless spending. I feel bad, almost like I should ease up on my position. Then I realize, my kids need at least one parent that is financially responsible.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 06:50 PM
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Reading all of your responses makes me feel better. I work in sales, so income fluctuates significantly. I would be lying if I didn’t say this looming divorce has me terrified, specifically for my kids. I don’t think they should suffer because their mother is selfish and decided to have a midlife/narcissistic crises.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 03:46 AM
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I am currently dealing with a similar situation, there is nothing I can do to turn around the ship. Frankly, she has transformed into someone I I don’t know anymore. Everything I do is for my wife and kids. If you add up the hours, I spend more time with my kids than her. I pick up/drop off pretty much everyday. I make dinner every night, she might make dinner once every two months. I clean, do the laundry and put the kids to bed. Doesn’t matter, if I slack off even the slightest she makes it mi…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 09:56 PM
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It’s millennial feminism, a 180 reversal of the roles of man/woman in the 1940’s/1950’s. It’s not feminism, it’s not about equality it’s an excuse to absolve yourself of accountability. However, thats not all cases as there are men responsible for their own behavior and divorces.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 09:48 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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