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Do you think love us supposed to be earned?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 05:10 PM
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It depends on the person and context of what they define as jealousy. I had one male friend I knew through the local arcade gaming league who would bet rounds of shots on team vs team games. We usually ended up as teammates at times and I would be captain. Well sometimes I would choke on a round and just cause us to lose horribly and cost a round of drinks on his tab. I would feel terribly for losing so for New Years I made him and for other people in the arcade scene some sweet tamales. He was …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 12:41 AM
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There is excitement going into the first time and exploring each other's bodies but unfortunately there wasn't enough connection established to sustain us after initial curiosity/relieving the sexual dry spell. But that was me personally. I think it really depends on the individuals in the couple. But I've lost interest in a relationship when waiting for too long too. So make of that what you will. Edited: To correct my butchering of the English language.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 09:14 PM
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Yeah just build up those feminine relationships and to be honest I know how you feel about being backstabbed. My family was no help at all both male and female but I was able to make a solid circle of friends that helped me detached from the toxicity of my family and the internalized toxicity from that relationship. We are not islands we need a variety of relationships to help us feel good in life.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 09:22 PM
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Oh then build up your surrounding social circle where you don't feel so alone. No wonder you cling if you don't have alternative relationships to get fulfillment from
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 09:17 PM
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Well to be honest go on as many dates as you can and learning to observe others in detachment. I never slept with the men but I really got it down pat where if the first date wasn't a certain feeling I let it go for another a potential second date with someone that felt good. And just developed it that way.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 09:06 PM
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Lol so you have 2 things you need to develop organizational skills and whatever is the source of your self confidence. From my own experience I had to invest into ridding of the source of self doubt. Are there any events or people that affected you when you were young or just lack of experience that's intimidating?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 09:03 PM
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This stems from self confidence issues. And possibly not good at multitasking. So depends on the source for you? If it's self confidence issues it depends on where they stem from.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 08:59 PM
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He's mentally abusing you and gaslighting you about reality. Pleas watch the relevant videos from this chanel about emotional abuse. https://youtube.com/c/DoctorRamani You have no need to feel guilty about his horrible coping mechanisms and the problems he created by himself. Also the 6 year age gap is a fairly big red flag if he cannot maturely move on from the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/21 05:33 AM
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Yes but according to stats I had more n partners than average. But despite number of partners he was more fixated on the one long term partner than the short term partners and even 1 night stands.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 09:40 PM
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Really depends on the income level imo and lifestyle. I personally for myself wouldn't subject myself to one. Legal contract would have to be something redone over and over again. The first draft would be old due to situations changing like children etc. I can see the use for one but it should definitely be discussed and redone over the years imo. Kind of like renewing contracts.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 06:05 AM
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In my culture parents try to minimize themselves to the point where it's a bit unhealthy. They don't ask for help so you gotta impose on them. Which is what I'm doing now with the animals at the house.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 09:14 PM
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Just try it out. Seems like if it doesn't work out you'll find out soon enough.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 01:52 AM
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It's not going to be easy and I wish you both the best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 06:05 AM
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When I realized the control wasn't helping me at all. It was making things harder and worse and I just had so much fear that was making me tired. I just realized I couldn't see myself living for so long and being so miserable. I eventually got diagnosed with BPD and PTSD and got to work. After recovering I looked back and realized my coping mechanisms that helped me survive my childhood became obsolete and cumbersome in handling adult life. They weren't helpful. I also harbored a fear of rejecti…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 05:39 AM
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Bingo! My dad was an alcoholic and it was very difficult. I've grown incredibly independent and for me it's hard to date because I lack femininity for most men due to me trying to solve all my own problems etc without asking for help. Besides the point it's very likely it's residual fear of how that relationship went. And may need counseling for help. To really get to the core you really need to ask questions about what she expected from the marriage. People who exert control do it to ease their…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 05:20 AM
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Current guy I am dating said he didn't care about how many men I've slept with and was candid about how many he has. It's definitely over twice the amount I have slept with. Thing is he knows that I was faithful to one horribly abusive guy for 10 years and the rest were either badly chosen short lived boyfriends or sexual encounters while trying to recover my sense of power in the bedroom. He was more alarmed about the 10 year relationship than the other handful I slept with in either one night …
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 05:03 AM
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It's completely possible. Some of my closest male friends are the friends of my gal pals and former classmates that I admired their artwork etc. But alas they themselves have spouses in their life. My second closest of male friends are work friends that I have traveled and had dinners with in group hang outs with other co-workers. So if more organic the ones that stick to being platonic have been ones already together and from those I met at work who have an incentive to keep it platonic. The us…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 06:45 AM
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Over 50% of people in software development are self taught. College isn't the only gateway to have a well paying job etc. It's just the most common means to get one though. You are blowing it out if proportion but you do you. Edit: Had more to say about the situation. Most websites don't give the option of having certified or what not on their profiles. I know men who are in well paying jobs who did the necessary certification and courses but didn't have degrees. They are professionals in their …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 05:15 AM
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Lack of intimacy is incredibly painful and most likely was going on for years.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/20 10:19 PM
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I am very picky I don't go even on a second date. But physical attraction isn't my primary criteria. I'm on the spectrum so lust doesn't actually happen to me like other people.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 11:35 PM
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Tightly knit fishnets look better than loose ones imo and can be nice paired with tasteful outfits. It's all about the whole look imo.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/20 08:35 PM
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Just leave he's manipulative and compromising you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 07:36 AM
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I don't. But please realize she's a control freak and trying to control your love life as well and should be interpreted as her over stepping a boundary. Nothing is wrong with your preference.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 08:58 PM
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Just date with intention. If a guy likes you he will stick around just don't wait til 27 that's where I was after a narcissist relationship and it doesn't get easier with that anxiety.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 01:43 AM
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Why are you even posting here? Are you just actually insecure about yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 08:01 PM
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It's either I'm getting stood up or there aren't second dates. I don't know what else to say about that. Chat just fine and then well those results after getting to the point of a date. I have gone through my all the potential sides of what I could be doing wrong but tbh nothing sticks out to anyone or my gal pals. I've tried talking to my male friends and they can't point their finger on anything.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 10:45 PM
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I don't know. I can't help but feel like my ability to have a healthy relationship with someone has been robbed from me due to time. I was truly in love with a narcissist and that was over a decade long fiasco, stealing my prime. I am now in a healthier state of mind and body. Age feels like a hurdle. I will have to adjust my plans from here. Ideally I would like to be a wife and a mother. I will just have to look at other plans for the future. At the end of the day I'm responsible for my own ha…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 04:24 PM
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I too find myself in such a situation. I've decided to go extreme disciplinary water fast for 3 days and I have realized this is what drives my unhealthy relationship with food. I don't know what to tell you tbh as you are well aware a therapist is necessary for this. I just wanted to share that essentially you are not alone.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 12:28 AM
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You aren't just drinking you can compete and socialize at these places. A number of them can have leagues for certain arcade games. CoughKillerQueenCough. Now if he doesn't want to play a game and just sticks at the bar I would raise an eyebrow. Especially, if he isn't showing you his favourite arcade classics or new arcade cabinets he likes or isn't apart of a league.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 08:43 PM
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I remember there being a blog post that broke down the superficial beauty stuff men pay attention to into a pie graph. Anyone with a link to that?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 03:15 AM
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Look I was in the same boat. I had extreme mental issues though with self image etc. The most nagging feeling is the feeling of vulnerability for me due to trauma. But obesity is as much a physical issue as it is a mental issue. Please speak with a therapy group or a therapist for those moments you are feeling down. It's a journey of a thousand steps and sometimes you need a companion to help.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 07:26 PM
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Yeah I have the same issue. It came naturally to me when I realized my father has an mental issue. BPD and just well understood how his mental state worked. He can't think logically etc because his mind doesn't due to unresolved issues etc. It out him in a light of pity and could easily predict his reactions.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 07:47 PM
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Ok straight from the get go it sounds like you have issues with self worth. And the thought pov mood swings reminded my fucked up mental routine I would go through and the fact you say that medication doesn't help with your depression makes me think you may have a mental disorder. Mine was diagnosed as borderline personality disorder and I had cognitive behavior therapy which led to a much more stable sense of self. Please consult with a doctor about that but ultimately to have a stable relation…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 08:22 PM
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Posture posture posture! You can also try seeing if they have etiquette/charm classes near you. I fortunately had a few lessons provided free of charge when I was a kid through my second grade teacher whose mom was a charm school teacher. She gave them to our whole class for a tax ride off but man did she school me. I was never quite dainty like the rest but she did make me aware of what I was doing wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/20 09:24 AM
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Urgh why can I not find a man who would want this? I guess I'm not attracting the right men. Maybe if I focus more on my figure I'll do better on what I attract.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/20 09:20 AM
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