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To be honest I simply believe there are different type of charisma and James Bond type is one of them - possibly best for more introverted/shy guys. Outgoing and confident guys should use their abilities and traits to have more outwardly-oriented charisma (if it makes any sense). Exactly! As long as you're comfortable and true to yourself, the feeling of authenticity will help you go through sets and your own life much easier and you will feel much better about things in general. Why Gordon? Off…
/r/seduction08/06/18 09:40 PM
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Being "mysterious" because you think it makes you more attractive to women is reaction-seeking and weak and not true to yourself. Learn to give without expecting anything in return. Accept yourself and accept that you are passionate about your life. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't pace an interaction and slowly let the girl into your world. But I have a feeling that you already know that. Being true to yourself is way more important and attractive than pretending to be Mr. James Bond wh…
/r/seduction08/06/18 09:17 PM
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You know, I used to be intimidated by tall, good looking guys when I got into the whole game thing. Time and again has proved that a lot of these tall, good looking guys are like you and all the intimidation is gone. You need to take control of your life. That is all. Nobody will come fix things for you. Nobody will come make you feel that you're good enough. Nobody will save you. You need to do that. You need to learn how to do that. I think being attractive has become a curse for you because s…
/r/seduction08/06/18 08:41 PM
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I was in a relationship with this amazing girl for 2 years and then it went to shit. I thought I had oneitis because I couldn't get over her at all. I felt helpless. The most common advice is obviously to go find other women (which is great and you should do it) but what you wouldn't hear mostly is that you need to find yourself too. Your mental state isn't right and no amount of pussy is going to fix it (at least for the long run). Spend a little time with yourself and realize your worth and wh…
/r/seduction08/06/18 08:23 PM
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I love how he said you can see 8s as 6s because you basically see yourself as a few points above in that scale when you have "value". So he's not just judging others but himself constantly. The problem with this thinking is that at the core he believes that he's "beneath" inherently and needs "value" to compensate for it, which is stupid because unless you accept yourself, you can never love yourself or anyone else authentically.
/r/seduction15/10/17 02:15 AM
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The process isn't to sulk alone. It is to strive to be the best you and create the best life for YOU. Focus on that shit.
/r/seduction13/10/17 11:25 AM
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Okay so, firstly, you need to realize that having a girlfriend won't complete you. Nothing will complete something that is already complete but you need to realize that on your own and you will eventually. If you are new to this then yes, it is painful to go through rejection but remember why you are doing this. Sure, finding a girlfriend is a good goal. But understand that it is you who you are doing this ultimately for. Focus on the process, on the changes taking place within you. See how you …
/r/seduction13/10/17 01:18 AM
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Okay here is what's up - Most of these situtations usually happen beacuse you build up a mental image of a person and you prematurely idolize them. When you do that, you put pressure on yourself because this idolized person is someone you really want to be with and if you screw up, you think you would lose this idolized version of her. However, the fact here is that you're fearing losing something which potentially doesn't exist. The girl in your head has no other function but to serve your ego,…
/r/seduction28/07/17 08:59 AM
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So the good thing is that you know where you're going wrong. That's usually the first step and many people don't make it here. So relax. Now, of course you would fail, dude. Everybody fails. But that doesn't mean you're a failure. The more you do it, the less you fail because the better you get at it. That's the way life works, right? Pivot your mind into think that trying and failing is normal and will happen from time to time but not trying at all is the real failing and should be avoided. Als…
/r/seduction11/06/16 05:56 PM
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Just understand the fact that you're blaming the wrong person for your failure with girls. You were the problem, and now you're working on fixing it. What's there to be bitter about?
/r/seduction11/06/16 04:31 PM
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Darts on the wall approach. Just start talking about random shit until something hits. And don't do it obnoxiously, like "DID YOU SEE THE MOVIE?! NO. FUCK. UMM SKYRIM!" But just talk about things that are happening around you, like the weird drink at the bar, the weird guy at the bar and then you can pivot into something universal like why would she want to be a astronaut stripper as a child (doesn't really matter if she does or not) and bam you're talking. Keep throwing darts and one of them wi…
/r/seduction11/06/16 04:23 PM
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I used to struggle with this a lot until I learned the power of sarcasm. For example, if you want to kiss a girl but don't know if she wants to kiss you, the best way is just go like, "Yeah, we shouldn't really make out right now at all..." and see her reaction. Basically it -> Plants the idea of making out with you and states your intention You get to know where she's at by watching her reaction Is far less creepy than trying to read her mind with a marshmallow. Again, it takes a time to get us…
/r/seduction11/06/16 04:20 PM
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Do you think life is a fucking rom-com? Dude, she probably will never date you. Accept that and understand it's not a bad thing. Sometimes we never really get some girl we like, it's not a big deal, don't go all Gatsby on her cause The Great Gatsby dies like a bitch. Let her go. Focus on other women. If it didn't work out before, most likely nothing is going to make it work out again. Learn to be okay with that.
/r/seduction21/03/16 04:41 AM
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I make my intentions clear in the beginning Well if they wait 2 hours into a date before telling you they have a bf, then you really haven't made your intentions clear. I always say the faster you get to "I have a bf" the better it is, since you know you're not wasting your time and her time. Calibration and escalation only lead to good things.
/r/seduction09/03/16 05:30 AM
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This feeling of guilt probably comes from your social conditioned belief that "players are evil". The thing is though, what you're doing is completely fine. As long as you're not committed and the girl knows that, you and the girl should be free to talk to anyone you want. That's the healthy way of doing things if you think about it because when you have options, you make better choices.
/r/seduction04/03/16 12:09 AM
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Make your intent always clear, some girls will ofcourse reject you but they will at least respect you for being honest with them and not bullshitting them like most men who are now their so called "friends".
/r/seduction04/03/16 12:01 AM
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Wait a second. How do you know you don't want a girlfriend if you never had one? Do you think you might have some misplaced beliefs about having a girlfriend since you never had any firsthand experience? Also it is natural to like girls or guys if you're into that. What's not natural is pretending you don't like them because you don't think you deserve them and hence you rationalize that its not even worth trying. All I'm trying to say is that dude, be honest to yourself. Why are you even thinki…
/r/seduction03/03/16 11:57 PM
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The problem with oneitis is that we attach our ego too much into this shit. You feel personally rejected and almost humiliated because she chose some other guys over you. It hurts you. It hurts your ego. That's the problem. Abundance mentality, to me, doesn't mean knowing there are basically unlimited number of girls out there but that you shouldn't attach your ego to a particular one, especially so prematurely. You're focusing too much of your energy on her and that's why your body is doing eve…
/r/seduction26/02/16 04:45 AM
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She was probably just messing with you and wanted you to kiss her, you donkey.
/r/seduction26/02/16 04:39 AM
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Dude, rejection is going to happen. It's inevitable. You can do everything right and it still just doesn't work out sometimes. And it's okay, alright? Not every girl you approach is going to accept you and the same goes for everyone living in this world. But some girls will like you and you won't meet them if you're scared of rejection. So essentially, the only right thing to do is to try. If it works, we got dis and if it doesn't work, then who cares? At least you tried. That puts you above mos…
/r/seduction24/02/16 02:58 AM
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Okay, this is not much of a guide but here are some pointers -> Lower the fucking bar. Most people who have trouble with conversations think that everything they say should carry meaning/be funny/be witty, what have you. The truth is what you say doesn't really matter much, what matters is the vibe you're giving or the "feel" of the conversation. This doesn't mean say obnoxious shit all the time but rather stop censoring yourself. Body language and Vocal tonality. In order to have a conversation…
/r/seduction24/02/16 02:51 AM
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Giraffes, bro. Giraffes are really really awesome if you research about them. They are my spirit animal and they fuck 12 months a year.
/r/seduction30/01/16 03:43 PM
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THREESOME TIME! But seriously tho, she matched with you on Tinder, right? That at least shows some level of interest. I think she's just trying to be nice to her friend (like you wouldn't bang a girl your best friend is trying to bang, right?). So just wait and keep on doing what you're doing. If you really want to be with her, just keep her around (DONT BE FRIENDS IF YOU WANT HER). At some point, her friend will probably be "over" you and then she'll come to you on her own... most probably.
/r/seduction30/01/16 03:41 PM
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Practice makes perfect but practice is not doing the same thing again and again. Evaluate where you're lacking and improve on that and keep on practicing.
/r/seduction30/01/16 03:37 PM
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Here's the thing though - are you anxious just talking to attractive girls or are you anxious escalating and being sexual with them? Because sure being friends with quality girls is awesome but it's a different dynamic when you're just friends with them v/s when you're fucking them, right? The police officer thing works because your ultimate aim isn't to fuck the police officers. So, in my opinion, while in theory your idea is great and again, girls can be amazing friends but the best way to cur…
/r/seduction30/01/16 03:00 PM
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Bro, use your alt.
/r/seduction27/01/16 01:34 PM
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I'm losing my fucking confidence now because I can't figure out what the fuck I'm doing wrong. DUDE. You're not doing anything wrong here. You're doing everything right, you're approaching. It's not your fault that girls you approach are in a relationship. (As a side note - my personal advice is to just authentically befriend these girls cuz hot girls know hot girls.) Just keep on approaching and having fun. Fuck, you could use that as a opener. "The last 7 girls I asked out were taken. How abou…
/r/seduction27/01/16 12:48 PM
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You're overthinking this, buddy. It's natural to show affection through touch. Hug her when you meet her, put your arm around her shoulder, when walking put your hand on her lower back. Your problem here is that you don't feel confident enough to touch her, that's why you think it's kind of awkward to do it. But trust me, it'll be okay. Just don't overthink it.
/r/seduction25/01/16 09:29 AM
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So it's clear as fuck that your main problem is escalation, which many people who are new to this face. Just read up on dicarlo escalation ladder and try to incorporate it until it becomes natural to you. Also, be confident while escalating and know when to back out if your advances aren't well received. It's not that complicated really.
/r/seduction25/01/16 08:20 AM
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My assessment is one of her being a girl who's brainwashed by online dating and believes she's worth more than she thinks. Dude. Chill. She's just not into you and the more you'll try, the more you'll dig yourself into this hole. One of the benefits of approaching a lot is that you don't get hang ups over rejections anymore because everyone gets rejected from time to time and it's okay. Just keep approaching and don't overthink it. Also if you don't like online dating, don't fucking do it. If yo…
/r/seduction25/01/16 08:16 AM
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Not "perfect" but this comment I made sums up my advice on it.
/r/seduction20/01/16 01:38 AM
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You're a stupid, stupid man. Grow the fuck up already. This is the exact opposite of abundance.
/r/seduction20/01/16 01:37 AM
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Any thing doing worthy is hard, just like my dick.
/r/seduction18/01/16 04:13 PM
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I don't understand what you're trying to say... why do you feel like you're going backwards? Just go out and keep meeting people. If your "this girl" was a serious thing, of course it'll take time to get over her and you wouldn't just fucking do it quickly but gradually, time will take care of it and you'll be okay. The important thing right now is to stop reading, learning and improving yourself and get out there and talk to as many girls as you can. See how many different kinds of people there…
/r/seduction18/01/16 03:08 AM
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Okay, a couple of things going on here: You're looking at this from a wrong point of view. Your aim should never be to "make" a girl invest in you. Your aim should be to become worthy of investing in general. The idea of withdrawing yourself to get her to chase you is kind of a scam if you think about it. Sure, you need to have boundaries and self-worth but playing games to make the girl chase you is going to end up hurting your self-worth eventually. Think of it this way, Apple doesn't need to …
/r/seduction18/01/16 02:58 AM
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How exactly seductive do you have to be? Like do you have to be clear of sexual content, or can I go up to a girl and talk about literally anything, like a class or something? After some small talk, get the number and get to know each other more that way? As far as I noticed that's the basic gist In my personal opinion (which is kind of on the extreme side) you should never be thinking about anything and especially any of this when you're approaching a girl. I always prefer going in with an abso…
/r/seduction17/01/16 10:20 PM
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"Happiness is contagious and so is my dick" - me
/r/seduction17/01/16 10:14 PM
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i don't think I really care since it was just a test, but lesson learned. You did ONE approach and you gave up? Dude, there's no magic pill that's going to work on every fucking girl in the world. You're going to keep on getting rejected quite a few times if you approach a lot, it's just how it goes. Also, the entire seduction thing is much more about practice. You won't magically get good at this shit. You gotta keep going out and approaching and trying out new things and you will slowly but st…
/r/seduction17/01/16 10:11 PM
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First of all, be glad that you're having a quality problem. Secondly, I think what's happening is that you're giving too much of a fuck. The problem here isn't the fact that "these hoes ain't loyal" but more along the lines that "these hoes ain't loyal and mah heart breaks." It sort of tells me that all the dates/funny things we say/etc. don't mean anything. It tells me that it was all a farse, or that "I'm just someone else". Which you were and you need to be okay with that. Life is a funny lit…
/r/seduction17/01/16 10:05 PM
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you used to call me on my cellphone
/r/seduction17/01/16 10:00 PM
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She using you for the attention void left by the boyfriend A.K.A its probably "he's just a friend" thing for her
/r/seduction11/01/16 08:08 PM
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My high score is 15 lizards, currently at 1.5 t-rex. If I had better skincare, I would be at almost 3 t-rex
/r/seduction08/01/16 09:59 PM
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Also it works the other way around - OP knows more about the girls so he tries to overthink his game which is always a bad idea.
/r/seduction08/01/16 09:57 PM
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Then google that shit. As per my personal opinion, as long as you're decently hygienic, your facial skin care thing doesn't matter in game.
/r/seduction08/01/16 09:55 PM
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Giraffe cum. Trust me, it helps. Also if you want to know how to look better, find a grooming sub or something.
/r/seduction08/01/16 09:53 PM
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Just look into my eyes bby. Also, I think this is the wrong kind of sub to ask about this and you should seek medical help if you're really having some issues down there.
/r/seduction07/01/16 11:11 AM
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Dude where you went wrong is that you just gave up after she called you a dick. You reacted to her so strongly, why? I get called dick on a semi-regular basis, often by girls who I'm fucking. What you should have done is just looked at her eyes and told her that she's disqualified and walked away. Never be reactive in the game or you're completely fucked. If you want to be a jerk, fucking be a jerk and don't lose your personality the moment anyone challenges you and then cry about it on the inte…
/r/seduction07/01/16 11:09 AM
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Dude, this is a really bad way to go at this. Sure, the idea of demography exists, right? That's okay. But think about what this means for a second - you're willing to change your personality, your identity and everything about you because you want to attract a "cool type" girl. That should never be the goal of this. Don't base your identity on what you think might get you laid. Base your identity on what you want to be and that should be coming from inside yourself. Girls are attracted to all t…
/r/seduction07/01/16 11:06 AM
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Okay buddy, being someone's friend v/s being someone's romantic interest is completely different. Sure, you'll find tons of people saying "BUT MY SO IS MY BEST FRIEND!<3 #unicornbutterflies" but the truth is a woman always knows if a guy is just a friend or a potential romantic interest. So, what is the real difference? You need a bit of conflict. When you're friends with someone, this is precisely what you try to avoid, right? But conflict is really important in the sense that it's challenging …
/r/seduction07/01/16 10:59 AM
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Dude if you're not getting laid, of course you can't stop relying on female attention and sex for your happiness because that's what is lacking from your life. The point of "happiness coming from within" doesn't mean you should be okay not getting laid. That's the next stage when you're getting laid but you still find something lacking in your life. That's where you start finding happiness in yourself. For now, shut the fuck up and keep on approaching until you're getting laid on a regular basis…
/r/seduction07/01/16 10:45 AM
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Or you know, just let her go and keep on living your life without all this pathetic need for "revenge" inside.
/r/seduction01/01/16 11:05 PM
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Dude, your balls are not in her court but in her purse. You shouldn't back off to be non-needy but you should back off because if she hasn't even kissed you by the 3rd date, she's not into you. Don't be a parasite.
/r/seduction01/01/16 07:42 PM
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How would I go about changing something that has always been a characteristic of mine? Being a "slacker and a lazy punk" (your words, not mine) were also your characteristics, right? You're trying to change them. Similarly, you need to work on your skills with women. And if you do not work on this front while you're fighting the other battles, you'll keep on getting flanked here and having the shit kicked out of you declining the quality of your life. Also, not getting "attached" too quickly is …
/r/seduction31/12/15 08:56 PM
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The way I see it, you learn more and more about the overall concepts of the game from individual experiences, right? Every time I see a post like that, instead of skimming it over, I try to provide the solution which will help the OP with the long-term journey instead of the short-term journey. But I do agree that asking for specific text advice is stupid.
/r/seduction31/12/15 08:49 PM
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You'll never be complete. Instead of leaving romantic interests altogether, learn how to deal with not getting attached too quickly, otherwise you're just avoiding a problem. Your problems with being attached way too quickly wouldn't go away once you're good with Fitness, Diet, hobbies or your career and you need to work on it too ALONG with the other things. In fact, that way, you won't even get attached too quickly because you have all this other shit going on in your life, right? If you're de…
/r/seduction31/12/15 08:45 PM
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that weird guy who doesn't even realize how awkward he's being. AKA Micheal Scott game
/r/seduction31/12/15 04:15 PM
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That's how you keep calm, bro? You're so funny, it's adorable, like a retarded baby eating his poop.
/r/seduction31/12/15 04:12 PM
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I read your entire post, found no practical advice. Then I watched the video, and found it was the same shit. Shitpost
/r/seduction30/12/15 08:53 PM
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Bad game is Micheal Scott game, which is a complete lack of self and social awareness. The solution is simple. Slow. The. Fuck. Down. You don't always have to say something, you don't always have to keep the conversation moving. Stop being so afraid of the silence and use it in your benefit.
/r/seduction30/12/15 06:10 AM
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what a world we live in where we have to choose between being a numb man and being genuine You don't. It's really, really juvenile to think of the world divided into clear cut models of "bad boys" and "good boys" and "beta" and "alpha". Sure, you can be a complete asshole and get girls, big deal. However, as you said, it will just leave you feeling empty inside eventually. The trick is find a way to connect with women in a way that makes both of you feel good and if you're connecting with them i…
/r/seduction30/12/15 06:04 AM
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Happiness is contagious and so is my dick.
/r/seduction30/12/15 05:49 AM
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Open your mouth, really stretch that jawline, then move your head forward and backward and do this unless someone asks you while you're giving a ghost blowjob. Then tell them it's because you think improving your jawline will you get laid.
/r/seduction28/12/15 07:50 PM
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Wow, the self-hate is strong in you. Get some real help, bro.
/r/seduction28/12/15 07:48 PM
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Short men are the equivalent of fat women. Except they can't change their height while fat women can change their fat. Also, dude, there are millions of short people that get laid all the time. It's not the shortness that's the problem, it's the lack of self confidence and hate towards the self which is the problem.
/r/seduction28/12/15 07:38 PM
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I never know what to say to you
/r/seduction27/12/15 04:52 AM
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What are you even trying to say/ask here? Shitpost.
/r/seduction27/12/15 04:50 AM
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Shhhh.
/r/seduction27/12/15 04:47 AM
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If you're thinking about how to keep her interested, you've already lost the battle. The impulse to want to keep her interested is a very unhealthy form of neediness. If this is a pattern, then that's your sticking point. You want it to happen too badly and you end up trying to force it which will never work BECAUSE you want it so bad. My advice to you would be to stop wanting things to happen so badly and relax a bit. Sure, closing is important but you can never really force a close and the mor…
/r/seduction27/12/15 04:35 AM
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You should always play to your strengths and the situation. One of my strengths is my voice and most girls I know (so far) love my voice. So if the situation is appropriate for calling, I always call. And you're right - there's no solid cut rule regarding texting or calling. It's a case by case thing and should be approached as such.
/r/seduction26/12/15 01:14 AM
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I kind of hate phone calls. ...with your ex-girlfriend, and most form of communication with exs suck unless it was a truly great break, but even then they might suck.
/r/seduction26/12/15 01:09 AM
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You're obviously new to this shit and probably young. When you're just learning about all this PUA shit, you starting taking these terms too seriously. First of all, chill. Secondly, again stop thinking of her as your oneitis because when you think of her as your oneitis, you're basically reenforcing the idea that she means something to you while in reality, you don't want that, right? So for the next few months, there's nothing called oneitis for you. She was just some girl who didn't want to b…
/r/seduction25/12/15 11:40 PM
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Have any PUAs here encountered the same problem? How did you handle it? By not shitposting on a sub and feeding more into the drama. Grow the fuck up and learn how to handle your relationships better.
/r/seduction25/12/15 10:02 PM
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The golden rule at the 3rd General World Pick Up Convention was that the number of flakes should be 4 before giving up. So I suggest you follow that. But on a serious note, dude chill. She could just be busy. If you feel like giving up, give up or if you feel like she's worth the wait, do it. Or if you want to have other options, go approach other women. IT IS YOUR DECISION TO MAKE, so make it.
/r/seduction21/12/15 08:41 PM
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If you're worried about being an asshole, you're not an asshole, you are just having an identity crisis. The situation here is that as you're transforming from your past self ("the nice guy"), you've created this extreme opposite image as the ultimate goal ("the asshole"). However, the sweet spot is always in the middle, right? To get to that, you need to realize that being the extreme opposite of a nice guy is also as shitty as being a nice guy. My advice to you would be to stop thinking about …
/r/seduction21/12/15 08:33 PM
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Here's the deal dude, generally being successful with women is a bit harder when you're quiet and low energy. I mean there are obviously girls who love "chill" guys but if you're not communicating with them in the process of being chill, you won't get anywhere, right? And to communicate you need to be not quiet and high energy. However, does that mean you should change yourself for the sake of getting laid? Does it mean you have to give up your chill identity to get girls? Not really, because th…
/r/seduction21/12/15 08:21 PM
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"Oh I never had a girlfriend in my life before, I have only had sex with prostitutes" Still better than being that guy who totally has a girlfriend but she goes to a different school. You don't need fake stories to have "value" and you don't need to lie to have "value".
/r/seduction21/12/15 02:47 PM
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This is a pathetic approach to getting laid. You're being inauthentic by "making up stories for preselection" and most people, let alone girls, will see through your bullshit. If you keep going down this road, you'll end up on a path to self destruction because you'll always think that you're getting laid because of your made up stories and end up hating yourself. Stop it. Learn to accept yourself and communicate authentically.
/r/seduction21/12/15 02:38 PM
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If you're worried about how to keep her interested then you're already fighting a losing battle because in a way, you're valuing her more than you when in reality, both of you should be equal. My advice is to keep it simple, maintain polarity and not be insecure. Because the moment you start projecting your insecurity, you are fucked. Also just because you're in a relationship now, that doesn't mean you don't have a life. Maintain an individuality and keep on developing yourself.
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:04 AM
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I'm working hard to be a confident alpha over here eh. Dude, chill the fuck out first of all. Like relax. You've done good, you've made progress with your life and now you have a crush. Calm down, it's not the end of the world. Have you approached her yet? Have you talked to her? Does she know you exist? My advice, even though it is kind of not a popular one among the guys I know is simple when it comes to oneitis, just go for it. You know your emotions telling you that she's awesome, she's grea…
/r/seduction10/12/15 01:25 PM
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Here's the thing, bro - you can be the most non-needy motherfucker in the world but if you don't provide value, then nobody would really give a fuck about you. However if you do provide value AND are non-needy then you'll get what I think you're wanting to get. The trick is to provide value without expecting anything in return, or if you want to sugarcoat it, loving for the sake of loving. Be open, be fun, talk to girls, connect with them but come from a place where doing that makes YOU happy an…
/r/seduction10/12/15 01:13 PM
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I personally think you should always be honest with the girls you're dating and not lead them on and make them think you're going to commit when you're not going to commit. And my advice would be to keep running on with this until you ACTUALLY WANT to be exclusive with someone. It's not bad to date multiple people if that's what you want, as long as you're honest with every one of them.
/r/seduction10/12/15 07:24 AM
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"Hey, do you remember me? I don't either. No seriously, I have amnesia. Anyway, hi." Don't overthink it. It doesn't seem like you people were that close either. Just start talking to her. It's even better as you can tell her what you went through and she can tell you what she went through and build some sort of connection off that. Again, don't overthink it and shut the fuck up and approach.
/r/seduction10/12/15 07:22 AM
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Why do you give a fuck? She doesn't want to talk, don't talk, go out and do some awesome shit with your awesome life. Reading into things too much never leads to anything good.
/r/seduction10/12/15 07:20 AM
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That's the question I'm going to ask you - why do you have a feeling that most men here hate women? Provide some sort of body to hypothesis first. Anyway, on a personal basis, I'm here because I love women and I want to do my best to understand and connect with them and I want to help other people do the same. However, does that mean there's NOBODY in this whole PUA thing that hates women? Not really. A certain percentage of people are always going to be there but you have to understand that the…
/r/seduction10/12/15 07:19 AM
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Adding on: It is not needy to tell someone you like them. What is needy is expecting them to like you back just because you like them. If you're not one with your emotions then you're not being congruent.
/r/seduction06/12/15 11:46 PM
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Aw. This is one of the sweetest posts on here. However, that can also be one of your problems here. Does she even know that you see her as more than just a friend? I'm not trying to be a dick here but guys with less experience normally suck at making things sexual with a girl and end up in the "friendzone". I think the first step in your case should be gauging her interest in you. Start small and drop hints that you actually want her as more than just a friend and see how she reacts. The sooner …
/r/seduction03/12/15 05:47 AM
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I think a large thing that a majority of people in this thing miss out is challenging their beliefs. They stick to models and methods and generally accepted beliefs and never really cultivate and test what they can be and what "pick-up" can be.
/r/seduction03/12/15 05:43 AM
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Neediness is bad because it implies you NEED something to feel good. Being overtly affectionate can be seen as a negative thing because people who are generally overtly affectionate rely on the response of the subject of their affection to make themselves feel nice. This is why neediness is bad because it is not the act but the intention behind the act that is pathetic. What you need is a shift of perspective. The world doesn't run on clean, border cut models of "nice guys" and "bad boys". Being…
/r/seduction03/12/15 05:40 AM
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And the only way to get rid of that is by practice. So talk to as many women as you can and over time, just like any skill, you'll get better at this. You can't except to be Van Halen the moment you learn how to play guitar, right? Same principle here.
/r/seduction02/12/15 02:56 AM
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Alright buddy. Now this is not exactly a how-to guide but more like some general principles which I follow. I'm going to try and explain exactly what they are to the best of my abilities but you need to go out and practice it if you want to be good at this shit. NOTHING IS SERIOUS Flirting should never be serious. You can't flirt with someone when you're talking about Geo-politics or computer algorithms. Flirting should be playful, fun and relate-able. As you said, many guys just suck at flirtin…
/r/seduction02/12/15 12:58 AM
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Sure. But the purpose is still to get home with a shag, right? For me, game is just a part of my life and that part is about women. All the self-improving shit is also another part of my life. However, I take care that I don't merge the two of them together because honestly, in my opinion, they're both different aspects of my life which need their different separate identities.
/r/seduction28/11/15 01:46 AM
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Buuut it is primarily about being able to connect with the kind of women you want in life. If you broaden the definition too much, you lose the primary motive and hence the real meaning.
/r/seduction28/11/15 01:39 AM
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each time you meet eyes you feel something and you know she does too. Nope, you don't. You assume. That's part of the problem. The real problem here is that you aren't making a real connection with the girl and most probably she's ACTUALLY not interested in you. Work on yourself and stop reading too much into situations.
/r/seduction28/11/15 01:36 AM
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To add on to this -> I still kind of am bad at that but that doesn't mean I will just give up and be like "IM BAD AT TYING SHOE LACES. ITS OVER". Instead, I keep on trying, sometimes it's good and sometimes it's bad and sometimes it's fucking perfect. And now I actually enjoy the process of tying it and it makes me happy.
/r/seduction27/11/15 10:09 AM
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And you would keep on looking until you find one which is "good enough" for you and guess what? None of them will be good enough. The only way to get good is by practice, so go out and approach. Don't waste your time in finding mantras.
/r/seduction27/11/15 10:03 AM
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Your need for a mantra is an excuse. Shut the fuck up and approach.
/r/seduction26/11/15 03:59 PM
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Two things you're doing wrong -> Not communicating with her friends. Make it your own party and let them in. Don't be something they have to "drag her away" from but be something they want to be a part of. Making her invest in you. She doesn't continue the conversation because she's not invested because you didn't really connect with her. I would say you need to practice being social with everyone and also learn how to create a real connection with the women you're talking to so I would suggest …
/r/seduction26/11/15 03:58 PM
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Game them but don't escalate. Treat them as a friend, you know, however don't become their emotional tampon and try to be the cool, amazing guy they know and introduce you to their friends. However, don't just use them to get to their friends. Girls can be really cool as friends, you know.
/r/seduction26/11/15 03:53 PM
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"What's your name?".... "WHATS YOUR NAME?!"
/r/seduction22/11/15 02:25 PM
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ESCALATION, YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG SON. You don't straight go for the kiss, you build it up. It's simple stuff really. Read up on how to escalate properly. Going for the kiss isn't that big a deal but going for the kiss at the wrong times consistently probably is.
/r/seduction21/11/15 04:01 PM
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Oh boy, okay so here's the shit -> she's just fucking with your brain and the other guy's brain. Why? Because it's fun for her. Why is it fun for her? Because drama. The problem here is that you're "developing feelings" for this girl and you're letting her affect your game. Also, the entire thing could also be her "plot" to make you jealous, which is clearly working. Anyway if I was you, frankly I would really stop paying attention to this girl. BUT WHAT ABOUT MUH FEELS? Yeah, well, save them fo…
/r/seduction21/11/15 03:55 PM
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As long as I'm not cheating on someone, I don't really see how I'm ethically wrong. Abundance mentality is good and all but you should try to close as much as you can. Again I do not condone going after girls with boyfriends and shiz but I don't really think its "unethical" if the girl is down with it.
/r/seduction17/11/15 01:14 PM
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No, in the 22nd convention of Elite PUAs of the world, texting law was decided. It prohibits texting before a date and hence if you try that, your dick will turn green and fall off. And yeah, man, just fucking text her to see if she's down or not. These are not the questions you should be asking. Have fun and may the close be with you.
/r/seduction17/11/15 07:04 AM
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don't fuck up other people's relationships Dude, the girl has at least half the responsibility if she's cheating. If it wasn't me, it would be somebody else. Either way, I wouldn't really condone getting into that shiz because it's too much unnecessary drama.
/r/seduction17/11/15 07:02 AM
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Just wondering why does it take so much time and effort for a girl to go out with you? Because choices and "male friends" and guys they like, basically the texting herd. Make the time you spent together so much fun that it makes you stand apart from the texting herd she has on her phone who are constantly demanding her time.
/r/seduction17/11/15 06:52 AM
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Lately ivr been ignoring her in the hopes of getting her jealous LOL Also she is a year older and i still feel it's a big barrier. Bigger LOL In all seriousness, dude, she probably just sees you as a friend. Also things don't escalate, you escalate. Does she even know you see her as potentially more than just friends? Because honestly, it feel like she doesn't. What you should do is learn how to communicate man to woman. As for now, stop freaking playing mind games with this chick and go and tel…
/r/seduction17/11/15 06:48 AM
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I told her that it was a guy from her lunch period and she replied with "Ohhhh". Wrong answer. The right answer is always "pappi". I've told her "I'm probably not the first person to say this, but you are very attractive" Eh, dude, that's not how you make your intentions known. Also, dafq, damn right you ain't the first person so why you say it man? Like just because you're saying it differentiates you from the rest of the chumps? The problem here is not one word replies. The problem is you stil…
/r/seduction17/11/15 04:43 AM
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Dude this is not "controversial", this is straight up shitty advice.
/r/seduction17/11/15 04:35 AM
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I don't remember what we were talking about. But I remember enjoying it Again, proof that what you talk about doesn't really matter as long as you have a "good" vibe. Also, holy shit man, start learning to assuming attraction and don't doubt yourself.
/r/seduction17/11/15 04:28 AM
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I want this to work so I can't fail again. Mistake numero uno, mofo. Not that you shouldn't want her but never be afraid to fail. You can fail again and it's okay. Don't hype this ship up so soon. because she's everything I look for in a girl so I want to make everything right but this is fucking me up. Numero duos! Never aim for perfection, never let your game change for any girl. If she's the "perfect girl" for you, she'll be attracted to you the way you normally are. STOP FUCKING UP YOUR GAME…
/r/seduction16/11/15 05:45 AM
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In the PUA community, most people just outright denounce oneitis as an illness and it's right in a way because it can truly be devastating. However, we are all merely humans after all, right? It's completely normal to think about your ex from time to time. She (I hope) was quite an important part of your life at one point and it's not a bad thing to think about her IF it doesn't affect other areas of your life. As for shaking oneitis, I think you need to approach new girls with the belief of cre…
/r/seduction15/11/15 02:29 AM
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I am super nervous. Yes. Not in love but nervous. Go out and approach more and you'll not be nervous. Trust me, the more you do this, the better you'll get at handling your emotions.
/r/seduction15/11/15 02:24 AM
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Once you meet new girls you'll forget about this one you "fell in love with". And then he'll "fall in love" with the next one. The problem that he has is his inner beliefs about "love", which as long as he doesn't face, he'll keep running into the same problems and in the worst case, start blaming it on the girls and turn into a jaded person.
/r/seduction14/11/15 04:39 AM
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You need a serious bitchslap. Dafaq dude? Love isn't fucking chasing after people who don't want to be with you. That's called being obsessive. Do you get that? You're not in love. You don't even know what love is, bro. The real thing here is -> YOU LIKE THE WAY YOU FEEL WHEN YOU'RE AROUND HER, because "I felt like we instantly clicked and we worked great together." And it felt great, right? That feeling like you can just be free and open and fucking fireworks going behind you as you say somethi…
/r/seduction14/11/15 04:37 AM
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All excuses. Shut the fuck up and approach or just pussy out. Don't waste your mental energy on the game of what if.
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:24 AM
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She is the type of girl that would want to take things very slow. Really? Or is it you just projecting that onto her to justify to yourself that the lunch was indeed a "date"?
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:21 AM
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You're being too logical and too boring really. You start off like a typical AFC. You're "stunned"? Really? Then all your texts were question-based bullshit that's boring as fuck, dude. If she hasn't met you yet and this is the only interaction she's having with you, can you blame her? The simple truth is that she sees no point in investing in you. Now you could see it as her fault or your fault and the way you see it and work on it will decide how far you get with this seduction shit.
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:19 AM
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we never actually went out because of schedule conflicts. Fix this. Call her, set up a date and then go on the said date. And then screw it up because you're so invested into this that you're screwing up your mind over some chick who you haven't been out with yet. And then, learn that lesson.
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:11 AM
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This is your problem. Individual text messages don't mean shit. You're doubting your own value based on her reaction which translates into you being insecure. Stop thinking so much about it and stop estimating your value based on other people's reactions.
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:09 AM
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She fucking with your brain, bro. However, one of the main reasons girls will pull the friends thing is because you don't communicate with them man to woman. This means two things -> a) She's trying to play mind games with you to see how much you'll persevere. b) She's not really attracted to you as a man. Either way, letting her go is the best solution in both cases. Don't invest your mental energy into her game of hot and cold because it'll destroy you.
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:07 AM
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Exactly. As an addition to this, I would say talking about things you're doing really helps. "BUT I'M NOT DOING ANYTHING!" Then fucking do something. One of my favorite conversation topics these days is Giraffes because I saw a fucking documentary once about them. They're really fascinating and they are in heat for 12 months a year, which is inspirational.
/r/seduction12/11/15 03:01 AM
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Manage expectations. Make sure she knows you're not looking for anything serious too. Try to kiss her again and see where things go from there. However, again I stress, manage the fucking expectations. Always know the time you'll have is short and it can still be fun.
/r/seduction12/11/15 02:59 AM
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I don't like my spontanous comments. This is the real problem. You don't like what you say. Fix this and you'll see it's not that hard to be spontaneous. Lower the bar of what's good spontaneous and what's bad spontaneous. Say what you really think and feel and completely own it.
/r/seduction12/11/15 02:56 AM
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Shut the fuck up and approach. If it works, it's good. If it doesn't, it doesn't matter. If you keep on waiting, you'll keep on waiting.
/r/seduction12/11/15 02:54 AM
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And I am fine with being ugly, the only thing that bothers me is that I know I can't really get an attractive girl If you're fine with being ugly, it shouldn't bother you because it's bullshit. I don't even understand what you're trying to ask here. Look buddy, you only get what you feel entitled to so I can't understand why there would ever be any possible reason to lower your standards.
/r/seduction06/11/15 12:52 AM
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But, around girls I'm attracted to This right here is your problem no. 1, girls whom you're attracted to are just girls. There's no reason for you to behave differently towards them than you do towards normal girls UNLESS they give you a reason to. I recently discovered that I feel like a fraud. This is your problem no 2. You have gone through a massive change in identity from being a "loser" (which I don't really think anyone is) to a decent man. However, the shift in identity is not yet intern…
/r/seduction06/11/15 12:48 AM
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Dude, here's the thing - this entire pickup thing is just like any other skill, the more you do it the better you get at it. This is why guys who get laid keep on getting laid and guys who don't, don't because they don't even start. How can you get better if you don't even start? You're fucking 22. You have two options -> A. Don't approach, stay a pussy and keep on living in fear. B. Start approaching, get rejected and mediocre results for MONTHS, and keep on improving little by little with each…
/r/seduction04/11/15 03:12 AM
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As an addition to this, the key here to what makes it work is not the line itself but the calibration behind it. The eye contact, the calmness and congruence is much more important than the words. Also look at this mofo being smooth - Relax, let the tension build for a good five seconds, then continue on with the conversation like you never said it. THEN Grab her by the back, get very close to her, hold your lips next to hers, pause, build the tension, she'll start to move closer and bam!!! make…
/r/seduction04/11/15 03:08 AM
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Dude, first of all don't be so hard on yourself. You did what most guys would never do. Secondly, trust in the process. Your approach to this problem shouldn't be "do women even like to be approached?" but "what am I doing wrong?" and work on improving yourself. Also never say you have tried your "hardest". You can always do better, this is a journey with no end.
/r/seduction28/10/15 08:31 PM
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Dude you're just one month into this shiz and you're comparing yourself to someone who seems like a true natural. It's like you start playing guitar for a month and you start wondering if you would ever be as good as Eddie Van Halen. That's stupid. The important thing is that you know you have to get better and you're willing to get better. Give yourself props for that and keep taking action. Secondly, this guy is your friend right? He thinks you're cool enough to hang out with so you can't be a…
/r/seduction22/10/15 07:56 AM
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