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I recently went no contact with my mother. It’s been a peaceful 3+ months. I have not regretted my decision in any way. With time, you will feel calmer and more resolute in your decision. You’re doing the right thing to prioritize yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:59 PM
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I’ve noticed that when men do something wrong they also diffuse responsibility by saying “we”. Men have no qualms about taking credit for things they had no part in either. They’ll happily bask in the rewards of a woman’s thoughtfulness, the way she plans ahead, the way she remembers important dates and what someone likes or what they’re allergic to. I say, take all the credit for yourself. And don’t offer any to him in return. Don’t even give him a chance to be “in” on it. He didn’t remember? T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:10 PM
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This is incredible, thank you. Buying them for my friends now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:26 AM
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Came here to say this. He is definitely not a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:09 PM
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The opposite of love is not hate, but disgust. And the cure for love is indifference. For right now you need to trust the sick feeling you have of the person he actually is, and realize that you cannot love him, when things about him are so revolting to you. Then, one day, you will feel nothing at all towards him. And that will be a day of peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:54 PM
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I’m blown away by this woman, and this clip is my first encounter. Thank you for posting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:43 PM
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Unfortunately, this sort of infiltration is common in any type of trauma or grief support group. People really get off to the attention, and rubbernecking at survivors. Counselors and therapists are always on the lookout for the signs that someone is getting off to the content, has a hokey story, and/or attempts to make personal relationships inside of the group (preying in vulnerable people, who just want a friend or a confidant).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:38 PM
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I prefer “Sex is like art. Most of it is pretty bad, and the good stuff is out of your price range”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:12 PM
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Notice how the older man only remembered the husband’s name, rather than the sister Sue. So he held onto a dude’s name in that empty space he calls a brain, but not his wife’s sisters name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:59 PM
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Let me get this straight 1. He impregnated a young woman, left her and their daughter to pursue college, and gloats about not having to pay child support. 2. He’s dating her now, 5 years later, but is keeping things hush hush while they figure out if they’re “compatible”..... yet wants to be patted on the back for living with her? I mean, you’re so compatible you’ll shack up with her, but won’t make your relationship more official and serious? 3. He wants to be congratulated for “visiting” durin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:55 AM
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Please, download a copy or buy a physical one of “Leave a Cheater: Gain a Life”. You will devour it and it will give you a strength and hope you don’t even feel is remotely possible right now. You are emotional, and devastated. This book will help you protect yourself and your future right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:44 PM
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This was breathtaking. Thank you for posting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:40 AM
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As a young teen, I went to the movie theatre with my friends. Once the movie started, a middle aged man sat beside me, in the only open seat at the end of our row. I was effectively trapped, and he began to masturbate. I was horrified, but managed to begin laughing. He was so offended that he left. I’ll never forget that experience. Men are disgusting animals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:42 AM
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Thankfully, I moved away when I turned 18 and supported myself through college and a master's degree. I even went overseas for a few years. What I've noticed since finishing my upper-level degree in the counseling field, is that my mother has grown more and more unstable, irritable, jealous, and attacking. For some reason, my continued existence brings about a deep sense of insecurity and frustration for her. She's always been hateful, racist, bigoted, and entitled. But in the last couple of yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:34 AM
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I hope to feel this same movement and clarity in my journey. Thank you. What you said resonates deeply with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:24 AM
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Waiting around for that magical happy ending has been a heartbreaking waste of time. I'm nearly 30 and my mother is still harboring resentment for mistakes I made as a child. It's actually pretty disturbing. I guess I never truly realized how much she hated me. I've spent much of my adult life trying to love and forgive her for her own mistakes while working on myself through therapy and a fulfilling education and career. I'm realizing how much easier my life will be now, to let them go. No long…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:17 AM
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When my Sicilian nan died, we found out that she’d designated that everything be split equally among her adult daughters. And should any of the daughters die, the other sisters will inherit the portion. And when they all die, and if there is remaining money, it skips their husbands and goes to granddaughters. My nan didn’t take any shit, and my pap was a HVM. But she always had a fuck you fund, and she never wanted the women in her family to be without anywhere to turn due to financial dependenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:34 PM
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Well, yeah. 14 shots of local anesthetic into my cervix, loads of blood and agony later, the doctor was able to remove it. In pieces
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:34 PM
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Having an IUD placed when you haven’t had children is horrible. I had the copper IUD removed after 3 years and because it became embedded. I had a slew of reproductive health issues during and after it was removed. I do not recommend it to any woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:14 PM
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He can’t fathom someone else wanting to marry you, because he doesn’t want to. When a man wants you, he will want to marry you and won’t make his feelings a secret. I never could have imagined that this was true. I dated someone that never wanted to marry me too, told me I wasn’t marriage material. It haunted me. Then I met the man that I love today, who has made it abundantly clear that he wants to be my husband. I also just want to say, be gentle with yourself. You mention that you weren’t the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:18 PM
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I was derailed by a man that was divorced and 5 years older than me. I was strung along by him from ages 22-26. Finally, I realized the only way I could escape the toxic situation was to find a situation so much better than him, that I’d have to leave. I began applying to overseas schools and finally managed to land a masters program. Leaving him and living in another country for 3 years changed my life irrevocably. I’m amazed by how much better my life became when I changed my mindset to being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:05 PM
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Report him to the authorities for threatening and harassing you. This is outrageous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:26 AM
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This is disgusting and discouraging. Stop the planet, I want to get off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:52 AM
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This guy is hilarious. Thanks for the laughs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:00 PM
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This was a horrifying watch. I felt physically ill. I shared it onto my social media platforms. Enough with porn consumers being the norm. Anti porn must become the mainstream again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:11 PM
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As an expat that brought two cats overseas with me and back, this guy has no idea what he’s talking about. She has every right to be concerned for her cat. Moving overseas is an enormous decision. Her kitty has been there for her longer than this ding dong of a boyfriend, and seems to bring her a ton of joy without expecting anything unreasonable in return. The cat has a strong bond with her, and she has the same with her cat. What kind of a loser thinks he deserves to come between them? And whi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:08 AM
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I would really like to help you, because some therapies are just ineffective. If you know the modality that this person uses it would be useful. Psychoanalysis is brilliant for deeper more thoughtful work, as is integrative therapy. I would avoid behavioral therapies as they tend to focus on functioning rather than deeper introspective work. One way to vet is to have a phone call before the initial meeting. I always ask them for some of the literature they might suggest to clients. It helps me s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:12 AM
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It’s disturbing. Because they know that deep down inside there is something very wrong with it. But addressing what is wrong with it requires empathy for the forced performers, and would result in a sickening sense of guilt for the viewer. He’s shutting it down because he refuses to address it, and deal with the repercussions of viewing it with eyes wide open
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:02 AM
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Undoubtedly. Many of them watch it when they wake up, and before falling asleep every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:00 AM
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This website might be my favorite for education, facts and rethinking and reshaping about the dangers of pornography for both the viewer and those being exploited. https://fightthenewdrug.org/about/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:56 AM
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Someone on here posted an amazing FDS anthem by Peach PRC called Josh. Check it out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:41 PM
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I’m gonna have nightmares about this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:55 PM
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This nonsense is deplorable. The only thing the partner has to come to accept, is that the cheater chose to cheat on them. It was intentional. They did it because they could, because they wanted to. And that is so much harder to accept, than to pontificate on end about how both people supposedly are to blame for one person’s blatant choice to disrespect, lie, and betray another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:30 PM
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Hey girl, what you’re going through right now is painful because you’re in the in between space. I cannot recommend this more to you right now. Buy the book “leave a cheater, gain a life”. Available on Amazon. You can buy the kindle version and read it on your phone or laptop. Start today. You will not be able to put it down. It saved my life and it will absolutely transform yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:12 PM
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This is a great piece on the atrocities of the BPD diagnosis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:39 PM
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This really hit me very hard. I suffer from endometriosis. It took me years to get a diagnosis. I have been dismissed and diminished by so many practitioners that I thought perhaps I was making it all up in my head. I’m scheduled for an extensive surgery end of this month. When I told my pick-me mother that I was having a somewhat intensive surgery she said “Why are you even having that done?” Like it was elective! My surgeon looked at the internal photos that were taken from my last surgery and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:21 AM
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“I was trying to do xyz” “I will try, but no promises” The word “try” has been eradicated from the responses that I allow into my relationship. There is no trying. Either you’re going to do it with every intention of succeeding, or you won’t do it because it inconveniences you. “Trying” straddles the line of “I want it to seem like I’m doing it, but I will likely fail because know I can just say at least I was trying”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:55 PM
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This is revolting. I want to protect young women so bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:49 PM
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I actually sleep in a separate room from my guy. My sleep has improved exponentially as a result. While I miss out on those before sleep cuddles, I wouldn't give up this freedom for anything. I also have a weird pet peeve, where I hate being spoken to right as I'm waking. And when we slept together, he was always awake and ready to chat and say good morning, which really set me off. Now? I wake up in my own time, and I don't have to answer questions the second my eyes pop open, or pretend to car…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:29 AM
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I couldn’t disagree with you more. The guy isn’t important. Your friend is important. Don’t wink at a guy and give him some unnecessary sense of importance. That’s ridiculous. You’re literally giving him a reason to follow and find your friend. Absurd! He doesn’t matter. You’ll notice that in my examples, the scrote isn’t even acknowledged. Your examples just do not ring true of FDS values. We don’t even give scrotes the time of day. The block and delete energy should flow through you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:41 PM
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Easiest way I’ve found is to say “Omg! So and So just got here! Let’s go!” Or I will ask my friend if she can help me find the bathroom, and we’ll leave together. I’ve had guys get very aggressive with my friends in clubs and I just cut in, point down vaguely at my ring finger and suggest that she is my fiancé. Another one: run up to your friend and say “I can’t find my phone! Can you call it?” Easy excuse to rush off and help a friend find their lost phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:42 AM
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No. I dated a contractor and we saw one another every 90 days. I was faithful and committed to him, and for all I could tell, he was too. I could not have been more wrong, or more blindsided. When Covid started, we were together in my city about to leave on one of our overseas trips. And due to lockdown, we got quarantined in my apartment for ages. It all became so apparent that he wasn’t the man I thought he was. I found evidence of BDSM websites, hundreds of messages between him and other girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:47 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing this, I’m binge watching her videos with my boyfriend now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:13 AM
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I let myself get treated by my guy. I used to profusely thank him, or tell him “no it’s okay” when he wanted to buy me something I clearly wanted. Now? I don’t hesitate when he offers to take me shopping for new clothing. I point out exactly what I want at the gardening store and don’t worry too much about the price, because I know it makes him swell with pride to get me what I want. In my pickme days I was so concerned with being low maintenance that resulted in guys being pretty low effort. Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:29 PM
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Thank you all for your comments. I’m planning my exit now. It was a gut punch today to realize that this isn’t the only thing he does to leave me feeling unsettled and on edge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:13 AM
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I just had the nauseating realization that my current boyfriend does something with this energy. When we are headed somewhere, he will just start the car and begin driving before I've had a chance to put on my seatbelt, organize myself in the car, and get directions. Almost every time we go somewhere I'm rushing to get directions while he impatiently drives off in the wrong direction because they wouldn't load fast enough. He also arrogantly will insist that he knows the way, and then when he's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:26 AM
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Great video, thanks for posting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:52 PM
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I had a guy shove one of my cats off the bed because he thought we were going to have sex. My cat was asleep too!? I kicked him out so fast it made his head spin. Spent the night holding and caressing my cat. Who needs a LVM anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:42 PM
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I left the theatre so angry and my skin was buzzing. I specifically told my bf not to touch me for a while and he understood. Neither of us could sleep and we ended up laying awake in separate rooms. It had a massive impact on us, so I totally get why it left you angry and emotional. It reminded me of Gone Girl, or Girl on a Train. Those books left me so angry because they articulate the death by a thousand tiny cuts that women endure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:02 PM
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When a man hates you, he will demean and criticize everything you do. This is the kind of guy that will give her a hard time while she's in labor. And make her feel like absolute shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:04 PM
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Promising Young Woman rocked me to my core. Saw it with my boyfriend and we both cried in the theatre. We had a ton of deep conversations about consent the following days and I think something powerful was catalyzed by that film. I tell everyone I know to go and see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:41 PM
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Men are disgusting. I don’t want to live on this planet anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:27 AM
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“Sex controlled my life” = I chose over and over again to place my sexual gratification ahead of my interpersonal relationships and commitments. And I used my fame to entice unwitting participants to continue my depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:08 PM
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I have been finding a lot of mainstream media and television nauseating with the many references and outright scenes of rape and sexual coercion. While some might say it brings the issues forward into the light of day, it feels gratuitous and disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:34 AM
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Thankfully he’s a police officer and it’s required
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:10 AM
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When I was a young pickmeisha, I dated a guy a few years older than me that refused to brush his teeth regularly. It drove me insane. I would do all of the things she mentions in the post, including using humor like "Hey I'm bored, lets go brush your teeth!" And if I demanded that he get out of bed to brush his teeth, he would have a full on tantrum. The only solace I take in remembering this, is thinking of him in a mask during this pandemic gagging on the smell of his own foul breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:38 AM
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That is horrible. I’m so sorry. I hope you were able to recover enough to go after and succeed in your career and interpersonally again after that devastating blow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:13 PM
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This hurt to watch. I’ve been her, and it’s almost impossible to leave. The only way I managed it was to apply to an overseas masters program. I had to want something more than that relationship to finally leave. I’m so proud of her and I think her vulnerability is to be cherished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:25 PM
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With a friend, I listen carefully. I might suggest gently that it doesn’t sound like they enjoyed the experience and that it wasn’t funny. If I’m with a client (I work in psychotherapy) I carefully uncover what that experience meant for them. And what it means now, in a space where they don’t have to laugh or pretend it was alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:17 AM
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There is always truth in humor. And often it is a vehicle for processing and integrating otherwise irrevocably painful experiences. Sometimes as a woman you’ll start to tell a “funny story” in the company of other women and it begins to focus in the retelling as abuse. So many women are unaware that they’ve framed their trauma as a joke or no big deal, or something that just happened one day. Your frustration is reasonable, but there are nuances to communication that deserve your quiet reflectio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:46 PM
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Get rid of him. Plain and simple. If he doesn’t take any pride in his breath and teeth, you can be sure he is neglecting other areas of hygiene and health too. Do yourself a favor and next him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:27 AM
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If you’re able to reach out to her please do. We need to support women that need FDS. It sounds like she can be saved from the next stage of a disturbing age gap where she’s nursemaid to an aging man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:55 PM
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I think what really got me, is that after calmly explaining that she would not play maid and entertainer to his guests, and following through..... he had the audacity to interrupt her soak 6 times that evening. Guys that make it their business to come in on your shower time, yoga time, work time, phone calls with other people etc are the most toxic. They can’t even spend a little time with themselves, and have to incessantly interrupt your alone time. Its reminiscent of a child that demands atte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:43 PM
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My guy got me tickets to my favorite band in the country I used to live in. He knows how much I miss my friends there and wanted to support me visiting them this year when it’s safe. We both got dressed up and went for brunch at my favorite French place. It was a divine day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:19 AM
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The thief series by Megan Whalen Turner. You will not regret this series. Especially the second book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:00 AM
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Cannibalism fetish flashbacks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:47 PM
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Getting “butt crumbles post” flashbacks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:41 PM
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Dated a guy that told me he was divorced. I moved in with him and turns out.... he wasn’t! When the divorce was finalized I found him bawling upstairs on the bed, wanting me to comfort him! The audacity, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:29 PM
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I suffer from this sleep disorder myself, and I would be beside myself if my husband and father of my children did something to trigger it for a laugh. It’s legitimately terrifying. People with this disorder have numerous other co-occurring conditions. He’s heartless and cruel. What a disgusting person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:05 PM
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Great post. This concept comes from the stage in childhood when children develop 'object permanence'. Like when a ball goes under the couch, it doesn't disappear, but it is no longer visible. It's a massive step in development when children can begin to perceive and understand that just because the ball is no longer visible, it does still exist. This is vital for children developing a sense of individuality from their mothers as well. Just because your mother isn't in the room, she still exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:00 PM
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I find there is enormous and largely unfounded levels of hope in the families of LVM that you will be able to turn him around and get him to settle down and commit. Their disappointment is similar to yours in the ending of a relationship. But they’re stuck with the LVM as a family member, and thankfully you are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:24 PM
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My chest aches reading this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:45 AM
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What’s especially disturbing is that women from nearby countries are being abducted and sold to these greedy men that can’t get a Chinese wife. So they buy a foreign wife/slave. The increase in human trafficking due to the unequal population of men and women in China is staggering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:10 PM
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