Unfatdad Archive

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3	Wife left with kid I made this mistake, as have many of the friends that I have who have gone through this. The SECOND that you decided to get divorced she became your adversary. The best approach at this point is to get yourself a good attorney, preferably female. You will find that female divorce attorneys tend to be much more aggressive, especially towards women, than what male attorneys are. They aren't hampered by the idea of not wanting to appear too aggressive towards the poor little woman. Use your attorne…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/09/18 09:04 AM
3	STBX insisting I adhere to her proposed schedule of when to see my son. Get a lawyer, get a mean one, preferably female, and get all of this set down in a legal document. She’s trying to control the entire process. She is now your adversary, treat her as such.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/18 09:08 AM
3	Wife incriminated herself at deposition One of my only fond memories of my divorce was seeing the look of terror on my ex’s face walking in for the deposition, knowing that her 18 months of lies and bullshit were about to be unraveled. That depo is your greatest tool against her now. Good luck!	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/18 09:03 AM
1	My ex-wife keeps me in a regular state of anxiety. If you have an agreement on who is supposed to care for your child at specified times, you’re going to have to find a way to hold her to that. Exactly how you can do that in Canadian courts I don’t know. But she made an agreement and now she’s testing you to see how much you will let her get away with. I would recommend keeping track of the times she pulls this shit and take it back to court. If you’re finding that your lawyer is twiddling their thumbs then either get in your lawyer’s ass or fir…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/03/18 09:12 AM
1	Is it the judge who determines whether or not a divorce goes to trial? Never once heard “fast track”. I hired my attorney based on his reputation as a dad friendly lawyer. His underling was better than he was. I’m still paying him off 4 years later. He bitches but fuck him. Still, I’m not with my ex anymore and I just married an amazing woman last September. So I’m good.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/18 07:52 PM
2	Need advice This. Charge them with fraud.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/18 07:46 AM
2	Is it the judge who determines whether or not a divorce goes to trial? Tell your attorney what you’re willing to agree to. Tell him/her to draw up an agreement and send it to her attorney. If she says no, tell your attorney to get a court date and don’t call you until you have one. Don’t play the bullshit negotiations game. Attorneys love it-they get paid for doing almost nothing. Remember that they work for you and they do what you tell them. She’s doing this to try and maintain some connection, some version of a relationship. Don’t play the game. 1. Make your fin…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/18 07:46 AM
1	Is it the judge who determines whether or not a divorce goes to trial? No shit. MN here too. 19 months of bullshit.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/18 07:41 AM
1	What can I expect, i need to be prepared. Don’t expect to agree on anything. Once you decide to start divorce proceedings she is your adversary. Treat her as such. I made the mistake of trying to be fair at first and got run through the meat grinder until I wised up. Be prepared for her to come after you for everything. She’s already proven that she doesn’t respect you, that’s not going to change.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/03/18 05:36 AM
6	26 yrs Married and divorce is just around the corner First, tell yourself that it’s okay to do this for you. It’s okay for you to be happy. Second, start setting money aside wherever and however you can, where she doesn’t know about it and can’t touch it. Third, don’t have any bullshit thoughts about being nice or doing the right thing. Once you decide to file, you are going to war. You’re going to see a side of your stbx (soon-to-be-ex) you aren’t used to. Fourth, if you’re getting an attorney, go find the meanest, bitchiest female attorney you c…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/03/18 03:18 AM