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| 3 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons? | Discussion | Unfinished_user_na | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:14 PM |
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| 4 | Male puberty needs to be celebratedI mean, I'm not opposed to the idea. Making it directly related to sexual maturity seems a bit weird, but whatever, I love celebrations so the more festivals parties and celebratory rituals we can squeeze in to our lives the better. So the one problem that I could see, is that there is a clear markation for women and girls, that us guys don't really have, in menstruation itself. One day when they are already mature enough to understand what it means, it happens, and there's very little chance of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/26 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Do you think most guys suffer the consequences of the actions of the few that are dangerous?The funny thing is, even though OP would probably disagree with me, I would consider a good portion of the things he's actually saying as feminist. He may be averse to the word. But his statement comes down to, "I wouldn't help because they are a woman, I would help because they are a human being". Although the way things are worded is a bit "I don't see race", his heart seems to be in the right place. His other comments and even the thread itself, simply asks the question of IF good men are jud… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/26 02:42 PM |
| 2 | As a guy, the "mysoginists" are not that succesful as you all make them out to beIf we're going to be this pedantic about statistical terminology and the rules of causation as though exchanging personal experiences and opinions were worthy of the same scrutiny that a published paper would need, then I think we could all use a reminder of the limits of any statistical survey or experiment. The statistical finding or determination is only relevant to the specific demographic being studied. There are a plethora of other confounding factors involved in determining whether or not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 04:11 PM |
| 18 | Some women or some feminists only say that MGTOW men should actually go their own way, because they think only losers are MGTOW.What do you mean by stop trying to fob people off on those men? I think I agree with you, but I'm not quite certain. Do you mean x man is mgtow, but women in x mans life keep trying to fix him up with women that he isn't interested in or attracted to? If so, yeah, 100% with you. Anyone who has publicly declared they aren't interested in dating, for whatever reason they may have, shouldn't have to constantly remind friends that they aren't interested in that and fend off their attempts at being a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Guys are to blame for expensive datesTotally unrelated to dating, but a $50 meal for two at TGIFridays is offensive on its own. I'd honestly rather pay $100 on a date at a moderatly priced, locally owned restaurant, just so I wouldn't have to eat that terrible Sysco brand reheated chain food slop or drink the sugar water with a quarter shot of vodka they call a beverage. When you take into account the pain and suffering of the disappointment I'll experience when I realize that I paid good money for microwaved trash, the more expens… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 01:01 PM |
| 8 | If you had to create a male influencer to poison the well of RP/BlkP/“Manosphere” content by being endlessly cringe and worthy of criticism, how would they be any different than Andrew Tate, Myron Gains, and Clavicular?Damn dude. This thread is going over like a hot turd huh? People are really bad at following hypotheticals here, but you are also being kind of insufferable with your semantics. I read the other comments so I'm going to cut to the chase for you. Yes, I agree, especially with Tate. There isn't really anything I could think of that would make for a more cringe influencer than him, without becoming obvious that they are a plant. Tate sits perfectly on that line of so fucked and cringe that it's har… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 09:38 PM |
| – | Males are sexualised too, just through expectation rather than objectificationAlright, but let's look at this a little deeper for a second, and compare it to something like internalized msyogny amoung women. If OP's premise is true (and I definitely do believe that it is) then you're asking men who have internalized the gender roles they have been raised in and had shoved down their throats from a young age, to dismantle the gender roles that they have been carrying since damn near birth. I know that's not a terrible thing to ask, and is actually exactly what I believe we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 04:59 PM |
| – | Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?Ok, yeah, I went ahead and looked at your past comments, and this was definitely not "a joke" made in good faith. Making yourself into a strawman definitely fits the rest of your posts. I retract my earlier kindness by assuming good intentions. Go ahead and fuck all the way off for us. K? Thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 09:39 PM |
| 8 | Age gap posts regarding “power imbalances” ignore that young women have (by lightyears) the most sexual power of any groupYou had me at free hot pockets, lmao. That is a very nicely thought out and balanced list though. I don't really see anything in there on either the pros or the cons sides to poke any holes in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 09:13 PM |
| – | Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?Sorry if it seemed like I was coming for you (this sub can certainly get spicy, and I am sometimes guilty of having a certain amount of snarkiness when I disagree with people). It's interesting the way that figures of speech like that work sometimes. In the US, when "why not" is used directly with a positive answer (why the hell not? Sure, why not?) its generally not being used as an actual question. It's usually something more along the lines of "yes, I don't personally see any reason why I wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 08:52 PM |
| – | Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?Oh.....my dude.....no..... I'm so sorry.....but..... Just no. Online white knighting won't get you anywhere, first off, but even if you were just looking to get some positive engagement from the feminist/left/blue side of the debate, you need to actually understand the nuance of what your trying to argue. Otherwise you just come off looking dumb (or like you're pretending to be on the side of an argument you disagree with to intentionally make bad arguments to trick people into agreeing with you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 08:20 PM |
| – | Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?Great answer dude! Seriously. We are on opposite sides of the value spectrum, but I 100% respect the fuck out of this answer. Having a partner with shared values is so important to a relationship actually working and solves at least half the problems that this sub bitches about. You recognize that, and you weren't even haughty or judgemental about this fictional person not sharing your values. That's not insecurity at all. That's self knowledge and awareness. We need more people like you in here… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 07:51 PM |
| – | Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?Oh! So OP is taking "yeah, why not" as an actual question as opposed to a figure of speech! That makes sense I suppose, I've just never seen anyone try to answer that phrase as though it's an actual question. In that case, I wonder if English is perhaps not OPs native language. That would explain them taking what is a common figure of speech in English (or at least America, I couldn't tell you if it's used the same in the U.K. or not), as well as the seeming cultural disconnect between OP and th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 07:32 PM |
| – | Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?And? You asked a question about whether or not the general reader would. This person answered you're question about whether he would and gave his reasoning. Was he intended to answer on behalf of every man on earth? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Are male virginity stats true?Why would I bother to lie on here. I'm married and turn 40 in June so I really don't give two shits what people here think. I have my own theories for why I was so successful, but they are mostly mute now. OLD didn't reach the level of use it's at now until after I was married (tinder wasn't even a thing yet), and people still went out to bars and partied pretty hard at that time. I also grew up in the punk scene, where social pressure is sort of reversed. There's more social pressure in counter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 01:22 PM |
| 2 | "Hot guys be assholes to women!" Well that ain't youI don't think anything they said is antithetical to blue pill, despite the fact that "blue pill" is essentially just kinda anything that's not red or black pill, as opposed to any sort of organized group or ideology. I am pretty sure most people know that lookism is an extent phenomenon. It doesn't take a sociologist to recognize that conventionally attractive people are treated better on average and have more opportunities than non-conventionally attractive people. That does nothing to dismantl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 05:11 PM |
| 11 | Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why?Because a lot of people, specifically from the current red side of the debate would understand "it should go both ways" as the girls are taught to cook, clean and be submissive while the boys are taught to protect provide and disguise weakness. Essentially teaching people how "to treat a partner" can easily be interpreted as using social structures and institutions to enforce traditional gender roles as the correct way to treat a partner. You haven't actually been all that clear about exactly wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 09:48 PM |
| 1 | People belive Men have not done everything to justify hating on themI wouldn't really consider any of your examples as attempts to give advice. Most of those are just insults. I never said everyone is nice. Lots of assholes out there in every group. I stand by my opinion, but you have to separate the people who are trying to advise you in good faith from those who are just trying to get under your skin for sport. I would also add that if someone truly can't wrap their head around someone being undesirable due to factors they can't control, then advice based arou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 01:38 PM |
| – | Women who prefer men without facial hair are creeps.I don't think there's enough people who are that against shaved bits here for this to really kick anything off. Your tailoring yourself a fight with a vocal minority in a space where that minority doesn't spend much time. There's other places you could post this that would get a rise out of people, but on here, your only baiting a few regular users who are going to be able to see right through this. Body hair preference is what it is. People should shave what they want and date people who shave … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 06:13 PM |
| 1 | People belive Men have not done everything to justify hating on themYou know you do actually make some decent points here. Especially the main character energy barb I tossed at you. I sometimes get a bit sassy in my opening comments with people, but you're responding in good faith, so I will as well. Our views may be less far apart than it seems. I agree with your Carlin quote, it actually gets to what I was trying to say pretty well. you don't need intent to make a conspiracy, you need to be raised in the same environment in the same schools and work in the sam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:29 PM |
| 2 | People belive Men have not done everything to justify hating on them"You are assuming good intentions It's not. It's an attempt to find any small credible reason to divest yoirself of responsibility to care. That is inevitably thebintent when the person talking is a man." I'm a guy, and it seems to me your jumping to more complex conclusions about people's intent then anyone really has. Big "I'm the main character energy". And you're assuming bad intent, when realistically there is no real intent at all. People aren't set out to make your life worse, their not s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/26 04:46 PM |
| 17 | Do women have a thing that they want to be the only one a man does it for?I'm a dude, but from my experience with some of my ex's, they do NOT like it at all if you reuse pet names. It seems petty, but if you called ex 1 pookie, then when you break up, the name pookie is officially dead and out of your vocabulary. If you call your next gf pookie and she finds out you used to called your ex pookie, all of the affection and feeling of being special will not only be gone (along with pookie being a new anger trigger word) so will all of the pleasant memories of being call… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/26 01:20 PM |
| 1 | "If monogamy didn’t exist in society, wouldn’t most women end up pairing only with the most attractive men, creating a large underclass of men with no hope of dating prospects" what do you think?I'm saying that I agree with your content and the point that you're trying to get across, but that the other poster, whom I generally disagree with, is technically correct. It's pedantic, but it's going to work against you and cause people to disregard what you're trying to say. I'm not trying to argue against you, but I am pointing out where you made a mistake in the context of a debate, because I would like to see more strong arguments from your (and my own) view point in here, and you're maki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 11:18 PM |
| 2 | "If monogamy didn’t exist in society, wouldn’t most women end up pairing only with the most attractive men, creating a large underclass of men with no hope of dating prospects" what do you think?So, I am pretty sure I understand what you're trying to get at, and I don't disagree with you or what you're trying to say, but it's not quite coming out clearly in regards to the rest of the conversation. I'm not at all in favor of forced monogamy, or one sided polygamy. Both dehumanize women, treat them as commodities, have the potential to be extremely abusive situations, and are absolutely vile cultural constructs. I think that everyone should do whatever makes them happy in their own lives,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 08:50 PM |
| 5 | "If monogamy didn’t exist in society, wouldn’t most women end up pairing only with the most attractive men, creating a large underclass of men with no hope of dating prospects" what do you think?Lmao, I'm dieing over here. I am your opposite, a godless blueish pill guy with a serious distaste for religion (and a general dismissive hand wave to all spirituality,) you right though. Afghanistan is probably one of the worst examples they could have chosen. It's actually sort of interesting that happened though. I think people jump to the modern, liberal, Western poly community when polyamory is mentioned, but if you include marriage and move the topic to polygamy, thoughts jump to ultracons… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Monogamy DiscussionThat's fair. I had a feeling I was reading way more negativity into what you said than you actually intended. Thanks for the clarification of what you meant. I totally agree that an OPP in a poly set up is wrong (and is really just set up for one person's pleasure and control). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Monogamy DiscussionI don't know what made you think that specifically. They didn't say anything to indicate whether or not they would be jealous, and if they would be, they know enough to not pursue it anyways, so why would it even matter? I think it's worth acknowledging that he is talking in theory (he would enjoy having a harem) but not trying to attain a harem, before we judge him as a hypocrite simply for saying that it would be fun. I agree with him. It WOULD be fun to have a harem, if all parties felt the s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doThanks. I am a man of many opinions, but I try to think holistically about things when I can. To me, it's important to remember that outside of the ultra-rich and powerful, most people are just trying to live their lives. No one is the bad guy in their own story. Even people with what I hope we can agree are objectively bad opinions, such as white supremacists, are trying to build what they think will be a better world. They are objectively wrong, but not even self identifying neo-nazis wake up … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doNow THAT is a whole separate can of worms, and one of the problems with any type of specified/non-intersectional activism. When I first saw the response on my push notifications, it ended after punching up being silly, and I didn't expect the remainder of the response to be such a good and acute observation. You're 100% not wrong. Black men (and women) are a marginalized community. White women (and black women) are a marginalized community. Things get really really complicated when the interests… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 09:01 PM |
| 10 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doThey are saying it's his literal job, as in, he is being paid for it (well, if it's Dubai, he may not be paid.... but THAT is a whole different conversation on a whole different problem that has more to do with Dubai's love of using slave labor than anything gender related) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 05:43 PM |
| 12 | Men should be able to treat women like objects the same way women doI mean, you can do anything you want, but people can and will still judge you for it either way. It's up to you whether you care about those particular people's judgments. The same thing applies to the things you see posted. Some people do judge those women for that, like in this very thread. It's just that the women who post things like that really don't care what people like the people here think about it. If you're asking if it's "right" for them to do that in an ethical sense or a sense of c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 05:36 PM |
| – | Socializing IRL is overrated IMO especially if you are ugly/neurodivergentOh, no offense taken at all, lol, I know what I am, and you're not wrong about it. I am all of those things. And because of the shameless part of it, I am, thoroughly unashamed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 07:20 PM |
| – | Socializing IRL is overrated IMO especially if you are ugly/neurodivergentHey, that's ok man. If you just don't like socializing, that's ok. No judgement coming from over here. Shameless, boisterous, reckless, engaging. Those would all definitely be apt words for me, absolutely. I fit one of the ways men are expected to be pretty well, I have confidence for sure. I don't have any aggression or even really any assertiveness though. I can be an absolute push over if someone approaches aggressively. Unless I'm in a group and know I have back up. I've caused a few physica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 06:15 PM |
| – | Socializing IRL is overrated IMO especially if you are ugly/neurodivergentI think you might be trying to move friendship too fast. There's definitely a period where you do need to keep to relatively shallow topics, but deeper conversations can be had later on, once people are more comfortable with who you are. It's hard to figure out when you've crossed that threshold from over sharing aquaintance to actual friend though. I also wonder if your perhaps focusing on the wrong parts of behaving in public. You've mentioned manners and formalities a few times, and I mean, I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Most examples of good male role models still covertly represent traditionally masculine ideals of unachievable levels of wealth, status and success that harm men's mental healthAre there any men, in fictional media or otherwise, who you DO think would be good male role models? I see the point your making, and I don't fully disagree. I don't think any of these men are BAD role models, but I think there are more accessible positive male role models that don't get as much attention as they should in discussions like this. I have a few examples that I like to lean on personally. Because they usually come up in discussions about how traditional masculinity doesn't automatic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/26 05:56 PM |
| 2 | What responses from men do you really long for, when expressing your beliefs, opinions and experiences both here on PPD and in the offline world?I'm not sure what any of that has to do with the topic being discussed. I couldn't care less what her race is, or what red pilled her. Especially as someone who is not red myself, the event that led her to disagree with me on the philosophy of gender dynamics, along with her race, literally couldn't have less to do with the topic. OP asked people what they want to get out of discussions with people they disagree with here. Her statement pretty much just came down to "I don't want anything that I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/26 07:07 PM |
| 3 | What responses from men do you really long for, when expressing your beliefs, opinions and experiences both here on PPD and in the offline world?Did you like receiving those chest thumps? Sure I would write it off as some internet tough guy bluster, and it would probably be more amusing to me that I pissed someone off bad enough to make them take that much effort out of their day, but that's just me. Even if a threatening message is clearly not a real world threat, it's still unpleasant for most people when they receive them. I don't see how the person you're responding to is in the wrong for wanting people to not send violent threats. S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/26 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Would you marry a woman who would not take your last name?OR whoever wants to get rid of theirs. When I got married, I floated the idea of taking my wife's last name, but she is not friendly with the side of her family that name came from, so she was eager to leave it behind. I am ambivalent towards my own, so we went with mine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/26 05:28 PM |
| – | What's so bad about being friends with women anyway?That all makes so much sense. So you have women as acquaintances and just keep some distance, and have reasonable excuses for not getting closer (I don't know WHY I was thinking people were out there just saying "no, I don't hang out with women", lol). Some of what I was trying to say got crossed there. I meant that a higher number of women are friends with me than are friends with my wife. There is not a human being on this planet that I'm closer to than my wife, so not that different there. I'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 03:14 PM |
| 1 | What's so bad about being friends with women anyway?"My experience has been that when a woman has great interest in interacting with me, it tends to mean she's into me, because usually women are very guarded about men, and only seem to bring the shield down when they are very attracted to a man, from what I've observed" Nice! It's great to talk to someone else that's not angrily single in here. I think our differences in experiences probably all come down to culture. Since hanging out regardless of gender is the norm in the punk/goth scenes, to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 07:08 PM |
| 1 | What's so bad about being friends with women anyway?That's a tough question, and is also why I mentioned that it's also OK to walk away from a friendship if it hurts you. Sometimes it can't be helped and in those cases you have to take action to protect your own emotions. Being able to be friends with women for the sake of friendship doesn't mean you have to be or stay friends with every woman. For me, I always tried not to emotionally invest in anyone at all unless we'd gone on at least three dates. I would also recommend shooting your shot fair… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:14 PM |
| 2 | What's so bad about being friends with women anyway?So.... why is John choosing to give that much time and emotional energy to Lena and the others? Does he give that much time and energy to his male friends? I have at least 10 good female friends. I don't give any of them that kind of time or effort. I don't give them any more effort than I do my male friends. I don't pay for them any more often than a male friend. When I do pay for them, I expect them to hit me back with a free meal or some drinks later on, just like a male friend. I certainly d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 04:10 PM |
| 2 | No way most men are friends with a rapistI did not - yeah, your right, I just looked at back at the comment, and you said people. My bad. Alright. I'm not trying to be dense, but I honestly am having trouble finding the three points you're looking to debate. I was responding to the assertion that that is what people are saying when I don't see people saying any of that myself. That said, I can't refute that I do get off on tangents pretty bad pretty often, so, sure I'll give it to you. Just. Help me out and relist the three points you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:39 AM |
| 1 | No way most men are friends with a rapistI gendered a conversation that you had already gendered there bud. Specifically because I DON'T think "call out your friends more" is an actual solution. For men or women. You introduced it in the first place as gendered. Yes, you brought up that women don't walk the call out walk that gets talked, and I neither agreed not refuted that point, because I don't think it's a viable solution to begin with. I'm not going to pick apart who is doing enough and who isn't for what I see as a non-solution.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Courting's not a scam, its an effective strategyYeah, my understanding of stoic was always closer to emotionless to the point of bordering on psychopathy.... Or if you have feelings just...bottling them up. Like the old school, traditional, boys don't cry or express things, permanent grey rock type. I suppose I should probably look further into the writings of the actual stoics more, because your analogy sounds much more appealing and much more.....me...than I really ever thought. A boat, not a rock....I really like that one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 10:53 PM |
| 1 | No way most men are friends with a rapistI really don't see it that way. I have had friends that turned out to be rapists. For years in my 20s I hung out with an older guy (late 40s) who was actively molesting another mutual (male) friend and had been since that friend was 16. The mutual friend never said anything until he was 36. This was going on under my entire friends groups noses for over 10 fucking years! But that's not MY fault, or any of my other friends fault, or the victims fault. The fault is completely on that old PDF file.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 10:35 PM |
| 1 | No way most men are friends with a rapistI think that's kind of implied. The fact that statistically all men (actually all people with a decent sized social circle at all, of any gender) are very very likely to know a rapist (while not knowing they are a rapist), isn't implying that everyone is a scum bag for knowing a secret rapist. It's not implying that they choose friends poorly. It's not implying anything negative about them. The fact that it's so wide spread across society is kind of an out, because if it was your fault for knowi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Courting's not a scam, its an effective strategyIs this that positive red pill thing I'm always hearing about but never seeing on here? You use some of the lingo and cite some people that I don't really respect (like mystery), but you're take is....100% correct. I usually hate the term keeping frame, because I'm not a stoic dude by nature. I'm extremely expressive in general. However, I'm really really hard to flap. I express and communicate, but I don't really get mad or let things going wrong get to me, I just go with the flow. If that's wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 05:10 PM |
| 5 | Hair transplants are gender affirming care, and should therefore be subsidized in countries with socialized healthcare.Ok, that's fair. I know reddit and the world are much larger than just the U.S., but complaining about horrible health care is usually an American pass time, lol. I couldn't tell if you were from an actual civilized country where they care if your teeth explode, or were just one of those folks who are so invested in their American exceptionalism that they will pull bullshit out of their ass based on zero experience and present it as fact to defend the American way. And hey, even if you're better… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 11:40 PM |
| 6 | Hair transplants are gender affirming care, and should therefore be subsidized in countries with socialized healthcare.Are you in the U.S.? Most health insurance doesn't cover ANY of those things in my experience, at least over here. Hell, my wife and I have really really good insurance through a state job that covers just about everything with 0 deductible, AND we pay extra for dental insurance. When my wife needed a double root canal about 6 months ago, even with dental insurance added to the best health insurance plan in NY, we still had to pay about 3 grand out of pocket out of pocket. Even dental work to ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Hair transplants are gender affirming care, and should therefore be subsidized in countries with socialized healthcare.How has it been debunked? Has there ever been a truly material raise on taxes for the ultra wealthy in the past? Like anywhere? Any historical precedent we can use as a model for how people might act if we did? I'm asking in good faith, because I honestly don't know, and I'd really like you to be right. Corporate and wealth taxes were significantly more sensible in the past, but I think changes and tax hikes moved fairly slowly and followed the increase in productivity pre-Reagan's massive tax c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Hair transplants are gender affirming care, and should therefore be subsidized in countries with socialized healthcare.I do feel better, thanks for asking. As much as I disagree in general with you, at least you're consistent with your stance, which seems to be a generally traditional conservative viewpoint, both socially and fiscally. It's almost rare to meet someone who still holds the full conservative picture. I can understand where you're coming from, even if I don't want the same things for the country. I respect that your views are aligned and make sense together, even if I don't share them. I completely … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 06:29 PM |
| – | Hair transplants are gender affirming care, and should therefore be subsidized in countries with socialized healthcare.God. I hate everything you have said in this entire thread, through multiple comment streams. I do not like you. My beliefs and desires are antithetical to your politics. The thing I hate even more though, is that at least as far as drastically increasing the taxes on the wealthy, you're unfortunately correct. They would leave, and they would take their businesses and wealth with them. We can debate on if that would actually be a bad thing, it would certainly have some pros along with the obviou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 05:15 PM |
| 4 | It’s smart for a man to stop being friends with a women after she rejects himI mean, I don't NEED anyone's friendship to thrive, but it's a lot more fun to have more people around, at least for extroverts. I don't think either option is weak-minded though. It's not weak to be able to just move on from reflection gracefully as though it's no skin off your back. It's not weak to have or want female friends. It's also not weak to disconnect and walk away if you know that it won't be that easy for you to shrug off and it's going to cause you mental stress. That's just taking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 12:57 AM |
| 7 | Q4W: How do you reconcile the average man's experiences with your observations?Partnered man who spends time arguing with randos on Reddit about gender relations dating and politics, here specifically. I'm normally a bit conflict averse in real life, but I come here to seek out conflict and fight with people I'll never meet in real life, and don't really like at all. I don't think I'm going to change any opinions, nor have mine changed. We are in all way too entrenched in our sides for that to happen. But because I don't really care about what anyone here thinks of me, I a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 12:39 AM |
| 7 | Have you ever been with a man that had a pocket pussy or other sex toys?I think this is a big one. Back when I was in highschool, someone bought me a pocket pussy as a joke gift. I think I used it a total of two times, because when it comes to solo play, it is just more hassle than it's worth. Felt... Moderately better than a hand, but nothing like sex. And then you're finished, covered in lube, with a slippy sloppy hand and a tube full of seman and lube, that you now have to take to a sink and clean out and dry so it doesn't grow mold. Jorking it by hand, cumming i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 03:52 PM |
| -3 | Are male virginity stats true?So.....I honestly don't quite know how to quantify my thoughts on it. I am sure that the 80/20 rule most likely does apply to online dating and swiping. In real life though.... I've done well. Too well for it to be fully true. I've been with well over the average number of women most men will sleep with in their lifetime, but I cannot reconcile that fact with the 80/20 rule. There is just no way I'm in the top 20% of men, even less so when I was sleeping around before marriage. I'm skinny fat on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/25 05:09 PM |
| – | If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"?Ooooooooooh. I knew the term cap, but for reason didn't connect the emoji to the word cap. It just went straight to hat, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 04:59 PM |
| – | If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"?What is the blue hat? I didn't understand this reference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 03:55 PM |
| 4 | "The juice isn't worth the squeeze anymore." Is it for women?If morals should override desires, then who's morals get to define what is and isn't acceptable? There is no mass agreement on what morals are correct, so in the case of a society that prioritizes a single set of morals, over personal choice and the persuit of happiness, who is it that gets to dictate how everyone else lives and who has to be forced into living by a set of morals they don't believe in? I would expect based on your statement that your morals and my morals differ in quite a few wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/25 06:32 PM |
| 0 | We need more two-way empathy, not sympathyI gotta say....from a very blue individual...I don't really disagree with any of this. A legal and regulated sex industry is better for just about everyone except for actual traffickers, pimps, and John's that use the fact that prostitution is illegal to the detriment of sex workers. Sex workers: no longer have to risk arrest, can enforce trade boundaries, can use police and other public resources if a client tries to push for more than they paid for, harms them beyond their consent, or tries to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 05:47 PM |
| 3 | If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for?Because those types of looks are what they are culturally into, what they appreciate and admire on others, and what they want to feel like. A good analogy that isn't as gendered as "provocative" clothing, is alternative/punk/goth fashion. Let's use goth, because the generally understood notion of the fashion can be pretty wild. For this example, let's use a straight goth guy. I've known quite a few straight goth guys who put a ton of effort into their appearance. Big hair, full face of make up, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:50 PM |
| 2 | If you women can despise/hate men but still date & have sex with them, because "sexuality isn't a choice", why do you question men's heterosexuality when they despise/hate women?Thank you. I know. I always over write responses. It's just sort of how I talk on here. Honestly, I think I just like the written equivalent of the sound of my own voice. My whole post history is full of fucking novels about bullshit. I'm aware of the flaw in my communication style, but I don't really care enough to change it. It definitely helps pass the time at my day job by using up 30 minutes to write a single comment. Speaking of....oh boy, here I go rambling again! I actually have called w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/25 09:17 PM |
| 0 | If you women can despise/hate men but still date & have sex with them, because "sexuality isn't a choice", why do you question men's heterosexuality when they despise/hate women?So....I agree that those comments need to stop....but.....Are you all really so dense that you are taking those comments literally at face value? I had to scroll all the way to the bottom to find a single person acknowledging that these comments are meant to be insults, not actual advice or solutions. "Go date men then" isn't being given as an actual solution or suggestion. It's not a double standard, because there is no real advice or belief behind it. Would it be a double standard if you told … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/25 05:35 PM |
| – | How many dates should a woman wait to have sex, in your opinion?I mean....I disagree that those are the only two choices for men, but we probably also have different definitions of simping and sloppy seconds in general so idk ... I agree with the rest of your statement. We are in uncharted waters especially regarding the rise of OLD and apps as a major force in dating. I agree that it's not your fault, even if I disagree with your reactions to it, and that like any other reasonable sentient person you do have an obligation to yourself to be your own advocate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 04:35 PM |
| 0 | Do you actually lower sexual attraction when it comes to a guy you see as relationship material?Wanting to be the best, or to improve your skills and knowledge of what she likes until you are is admirable. Not being able to be with someone who you aren't the best for already, that's insecure. Preferring virgins because there's no competition to be the best (because that's what you implied in the original post, you didn't say it directly, but you definitely implied it) that's insecure. You're making statements that sound consistent (you desire to be the best, you need to know that that desi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:05 AM |
| 5 | If you hate women nagging about cleanliness, just date slobs.I could be considered a slob when left on my own about many things, but my ass hole is clean as a fucking whistle. People that don't use bidets are just wrong on so many levels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Do (some) women realize what going after masculine men means?Interesting. I suppose I've always had a bit of a negative opinion of stoicism because of the way it's often depicted as being an immovable, emotionless, stone of a man who never shows weakness or expresses themselves. Also because of the way it's pushed as a hard-line necessity by the red pill folks. The way you describe it, I could get behind. I guess I'm more stoic than I thought. I do have a lot of emotions, and I'm not usually afraid to share them, but a lot of my choices of when and what t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 05:02 PM |
| 6 | Do (some) women realize what going after masculine men means?I actually don't disagree with the crux of your point. I don't think you can blame people for being attracted to whatever they're attracted to, or having whatever standards they might have, but I do think that looking for someone with traditionally masculine traits is likely to come with the down sides of traditional masculinity (it's hard to be both stoic and in touch with your emotions, for instance) and the expectations of traditional femininity. And vice versa (I'm pretty femmy for a dude. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 09:27 PM |
| – | An example of a double standard, and women not realizing their capacity to harm men's mental health.Yes, small hands is generally considered to be tied to small penis. The same way people connect big feet and big dicks. It's not actually biologically connected at all, but growing up in the 90s, the myth was always that if you make an L with your hand, and then draw a straight line from the tip of your thumb to the tip of your index finger it will be roughly the same size as your cock. It's not true, of course, but that is what many dudes grew up with and is what the small hands jabs are meant … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 01:26 AM |
| 8 | Despite what women tell you they are the biggest enforcers of stereotypical masculinityI don't have any problem with what was said originally or the way it was said. I'm just saying that that's the reason that it tends to get people who would otherwise agree with you angry, even though it's a perfectly reasonable thing to say. I actually very much do agree with you. When things like patriarchy are discussed, I'll be the first to agree that women uphold it just as much or more than men. Despite the term being about systemic male dominance, it is not (today's) men's fault. The avera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 03:52 AM |
| 18 | Despite what women tell you they are the biggest enforcers of stereotypical masculinityThat's because they frame it as women not knowing what they really think, feel and want as opposed to people in general not knowing what they really think, feel, or want. Us guys are just as guilty of lacking self reflection and understanding as the ladies. It's the same thing with guys that want a pure untouched virgin who will instantly turn into a depraved nymphomaniac for them and them alone. They also don't know what they really want out of a partner. People in general suck at knowing thems… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers can21 and up because it is a very intense live show that features nudity and violence. They may do some 18+ but when it's as much of a show as they put on, it's better to be safe then sorry with age restrictions. Piercings are a very different pain to a canker sore. When the needle is actually going through, it hurts more, but it's a sharp quick pain that actually goes away pretty quickly followed by a rush of endorphins and adrenaline that makes you feel pretty great. The needles are exceptionally… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers canGen's answer would change depending whether she was in character or out of character, but either way, it's 80's punkers, you are unlikely to here them express respect for anyone. Out of character, she would likely give the same type of answer as anyone else in the scene. That they love and care about the men that are close to them and part of their lives, but that respect is earned and not granted to someone by virtue of their gender. You know the equipment is sterile because it is done just as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers canI answered in the other comment, but if she was just pulling random people on stage and doing that, then yes. In reality she is doing it to human beings who have expressly volunteered, days ahead of time, and signed multiple waivers for the experience, so no, not really. She is doing performance art on willing participants with prior knowledge and consent, in order to shock and make herself look evil. I am ok with things like that going both ways though. For example the porn star who is planning… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers canSame way that a professional dominatrix can torture men for money. Or a band or side show can have a live suspension (where people pierce themselves with large gauge flesh hooks and then hang themselves from the hooks using a winch) as part of the show. She isn't just pulling random people from the audience to do this to. This is something that people sign up for ahead of time, and sign waivers to do. No one is getting surprised by this happening to them. They all have provided signed forms of c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 02:24 AM |
| 4 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers canThat's fair. I hear you. I still disagree that discussing periods is inappropriate. It's not titillating or designed to excite. It's not like she is showing it or throwing a used tampon at the crowd (L7 at Lollapalooza). It's just a reality that some people find icky. It doesn't hurt little boys to know that women have periods. The worst it will cause is a what's a period question, and that can be answered easily enough without even getting into the birds and the bees talk. "Well little Jimmy, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers canChrist no, lol. GG is probably the biggest name out of the three acts I mentioned, and he was more infamous than famous. He was known enough to be a guest on Jerry Springer and to have a plot line in Married with Children about a band that is clearly a parody of him, but that's about the height of his success. He was never anything near popular and was pretty widely hated, even by punks, his key (only) demographic. So nowhere near the popularity of Olivia Rodrigo. However, it's up for interpreta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 10:42 PM |
| 5 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers canAlso, in the opposite direction, if you want a better example of women's debauchery than talking about their (non-sexual) period on stage, you have the genitorturers. A female fronted, Femdom themed, very horny hard core sleeze punk band. Gena (the singer) has been known to bring male volunteers on stage to torture during the show, and has gone as far as sewing men's months shut live on stage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Female performers can get away with more than male performers canI hope I don't regret turning you onto the following bands but..... They will definitely go a long away to providing counter examples. Iggy Pop is mild compared to some of the things that were happening in the 80's punk scene. GG Allin - called his genre of punk Scumfuck rock and roll. He was a self hating alcoholic, and a drug addict, who would be the first to brag to you that he was an unlovable irredeemable piece of human waste. During the average live show he would be very likely to: be full… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Do you think men who can’t attract women are losers?You have my sympathy. I remember the first girl to grow breasts at my middle school back in the late 90s. She got it so bad. Her last name rhymed with Slutsmen (it was one letter away) which certainly didn't help her out one bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 05:32 PM |
| 0 | Why do S.I.M.P.s tend to be men, but PickMes tend to be women?Fair assessment, lol. That would definitely align with the standard use of pick me much better than my example. I know the women that are branded as pick me's have definitely internalized the mysogeny of the cultural forces around them, and are not faking their beliefs. However, I would argue that there are far less forces of cultural misandry baked into society for male Pick Me's to internalize in the first place. I'll grant that they could simply be internalizing the false premise of "being th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do S.I.M.P.s tend to be men, but PickMes tend to be women?I agree with you, I'm a feminist myself, I never struggled tremendously to find a partner or get laid from the start, and I've only become stronger in my beliefs since getting married. I also kind of agree with him though. I think 90% is a wildly high estimation of insincere male feminists, but I don't think it's an insignificant percentage either. I think we've all met the guy who spouts feminist theory in public, but talks over women to do so, and treats his girlfriend line shit. I'm hard pres… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Women feel they are the same value as any guy they have sex withIt's not exactly that systematized, but if a compatibility score were to be carefully constructed and implemented it could lead to better potential matches for long term success. There's a lot of issues in trying to do so though. Several OLD sites have tried (most notably OKcupid.... Are they even still around? I'm probably showing my age here), and I don't know if that actually helped them work better or not. There are a few major obstacles to make this sort of thing actually work. First and fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Is the reason reason for the explosion of female teacher on male student sexual harassment is because of feminism ?After reading through those, I actually breathed a sigh of relief. The most recent number that they are all citing is 11.7% but the majority of that number is from teachers making inappropriate or sexual comments, and only about 1% are other forms of misconduct (kissing/inappropriate touching/inappropriate digital messages outside of class). I'm in no way saying that it's ok that over 10% of k-12 students are subject to inappropriate comments about their bodies, but it's much easier to swallow t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 02:24 AM |
| 1 | Is the reason reason for the explosion of female teacher on male student sexual harassment is because of feminism ?Well that's a fucking bleak statistic. Do you have a source for that study? I'm not asking out of disbelief or looking to argue against your point. 10% is just ... Wildly high and disturbing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Men need to stop asking women about Penis Size preferences because it's a completely pointless discussionInteresting take. As a submissive guy who is brimming with confidence (now at least) I often wonder how I got to be the way I am, so I love this type of kink analysis. I definitely did have an inferiority complex growing up. I was bullied pretty bad in school, mostly by other boys. It's interesting though, how once a fetish or kink takes, there's really no changing it. I in no way shape or form have an inferiority complex any more, but I get off on being treated like I was back then. Maybe part … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/25 03:46 AM |
| 3 | People need to stop throwing the word "predator" aroundLol, yeah, I'm trying to be nice and leave some benefit of the doubt for all the what if-ers out there, but you're right. If you are 30+ and exclusively hitting on girls that can't legally drink, you're a predator. Still a far cry from turning 30 and swearing off sex outside of committed relationships though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 09:35 PM |
| 3 | People need to stop throwing the word "predator" aroundWow..... That is a leap! No need to have premarital sex? Yeah, I'm going to make sure I'm sexually compatible with someone before I make any sort of long term commitment. That goes for if I'm 20 or 70. I'm actually all for commitment (if anything, I spent my 20s too ready to commit). The milk for free analogy is fucking gross! Great job reducing women to the same level as animals, making sex comparable to a commercial product, and equating the value of a woman to what they are willing to provide… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 09:00 PM |
| 5 | People need to stop throwing the word "predator" aroundNah, I gotta agree with the others. I'm as blue as they come, but you really can't dictate other people's sexual and relationship preferences or you really are being just as prescriptive and closed minded as the reddest trad pill dingus out there. This is putting a lot of your own personal hang ups on what is appropriate for adults on others. I'm happily married, but if something happened, I wouldn't be looking to jump right into another long term thing, but I'd still be looking for casual conne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 07:35 PM |
| 6 | It’s ok for straight women to only want to date straight menHey, those aren't my standards, but I can't fault someone else for what does or doesn't interest them sexually. I can surmise that they might not be someone I would personally like (such as the examples that you used) but I can't fault them. Here's the problem. Sexual attraction is a much bigger deal to most people than food choices. For someone who only eats chicken nuggets (and believe it or not, I have a few very autistic adult friends who do only eat chicken nuggets), they may not enjoy eati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 11:28 PM |
| 10 | It’s ok for straight women to only want to date straight menYou can say that. It looks shitty when you write it out like that, but those are all acceptable things to have as standards. I think almost everyone, even the handicapped, would agree that dating a handicapped person has its own challenges and isn't for everyone. Age? As long as they're not children, you do you. Most dating apps let you set the age range on a slider, so it's hardly controversial to filter potential dates by age. Does not matter how old you are, your standards and preferences are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:25 PM |
| 2 | It’s ok for straight women to only want to date straight menYou sure it's the same guys? You are kind of in the middle, philosophically, so I think you manage to rub both sides of the debate the wrong way for different things, and then receive push back from both sides, even though you're only ever talking about your own personal preferences. Personally, I think you're just fine. I don't fit your preferences for men at all (not Bi, but definitely experimented with guys a lot in my 20s, super non traditional, pretty fem for a straight guy, etc) and you do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why do you misunderstand or malign well-intentioned dating advice?I think it may be a mismatch about what arena what tactic is being used in. If you are trying to meet people in large, high population and high turn around areas. Large clubs, tourist traps, major cities where there is a decent chance you will meet someone once and never see them again, yes numbers game all day. Trying to attract a date from a niche community however, if you shoot every shot, you're most likely to hit your own foot. You have to infiltrate the community as a whole first. Now, I'm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 06:06 PM |
| – | Q4M- Why don’t men believe the women who express that the fit and strong photo on the left is sexy, sensuous, sensual, broad, masculine, and generally better looking and more arousing to her than the photo on the right?Agreed. First pic gives slightly chubby Chris Pratt vibes. Not all the way back to parks and rec Pratt, but like .... First Guardians of the Galaxy Pratt. His hair looks fuller, the beard helps, and the smile looks more genuine. Second pic gives ultra ripped Paul Scheer vibes. The lighting that you mentioned makes him look balder. The lighter hair color looks like thinner hair. There is also a weird shadow going on with his lips that reads as a gap in his teeth at first glance. I would also gues… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 09:45 PM |
| 6 | Admitting something I have noticed as a woman myself: Many women take it really personally and get annoyed if an attractive man ends up dating someone below his "league" looks wise. Is it the same for men?As an oblivious dude, don't discount the fact that he may have been oblivious to what she was trying to set up. I have had many a cup of coffee in my life that was meant to be more without knowing that there was even a chance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Redpill men need to raise their standardsWhat do they say about people who pick flights over the Internet?...... Because I do it purely for fun and entertainment...... But I'd like to know what people say about me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/25 01:32 AM |
| 1 | What is the ideal Redpill Relationship?Pretty sure it's just because it's a public forum. Plus you self identify as a woman hater, but have unusually egalitarian, coId and distant, but egalitarian, views. Your sending people on quiet a trip. Woman hater, but equal in your expectations of both genders. For a detached independent relationship style, but against the alpha beta dicotomy. Your making people disagree, agree, disagree and agree all in one statement. I want you to know that I think you're a strange duck, and your ideal is fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 10:25 PM |
| 4 | What is the ideal Redpill Relationship?Pretty sure it's just because it's a public forum. Plus you self identify as a woman hater, but have unusually egalitarian, coId and distant, but egalitarian, views. Your sending people on quiet a trip. Woman hater, but equal in your expectations of both genders. For a detached independent relationship style, but against the alpha beta dicotomy. Your making people disagree, agree, disagree and agree all in one statement. I want you to know that I think you're a strange duck, and your ideal is fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 10:25 PM |
| – | CMV: if you’re born ugly as a guy there’s very little you can do to compensateAnd we're the ones not wanting to be take the supposed truth pill.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 10:55 PM |
| – | CMV: if you’re born ugly as a guy there’s very little you can do to compensateI'm torn. I know a man who I would definitely say is inherently ugly (and a sexual predator). Over weight, lazy eye, kinda greasy. An unholy combination of cursed with physical defects and a lack of concern for hygiene/appearance. Yet somehow, this dude pulls women half his age and managed to steal my best friends girl out from under him, even though he was nearly 40, my friend was 20 and his gf was 19. You might notice I don't call him a friend, because he's not, he's a fucking creep, but at th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Are you okay being the man she settled for? Does is matter if you disgust her?Can I ask how old you are? I'm 38, and I've observed major major changes in the acceptance and appreciation of different types of women's bodies since I was a kid in the 90s/ teen in the 2000s. Maybe it's more obvious to me, as someone who has always been into larger bodies, but it is probably one of the largest cultural shifts I've personally observed. J-lo was famous for having a large ass (it's tiny by today's popular ass standards), Kim K would have been dragged in the media as too fat. The … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Are you okay being the man she settled for? Does is matter if you disgust her?That has always been my impression as well, hence my surprise and delight at the assertion that preferred method to tackle the issue is wider acceptance and positivity for all that we can all work on together. (I still think he's wrong about the goals of the majority of posters that complain about standards, but on the chance he is right, I would personally celebrate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 12:52 PM |
| 2 | Are you okay being the man she settled for? Does is matter if you disgust her?Interesting, maybe they should at least hint towards that, because it usually seems to be framed as women are wrong about their high standards and need to fix them, as opposed to society and media has set an unreasonable example for men's body's and we as a culture need to work together to fix it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 12:45 PM |
| 4 | Are you okay being the man she settled for? Does is matter if you disgust her?Is this really the argument that is being made when people on here cry that women need to lower their standards? Because this is the most reasonable take I've ever seen those points used to promote. Like seriously, yes, more reasonable representations of male bodies in media, akin to the current body positivity movement is totally something worth discussing and supporting on both sides of the colored pill aisle. I completely agree that that sort of representation can and does influence taste, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 11:16 PM |
| 6 | What responsibility should men and women have respectively?So..... If your argument is that male protection is potential or preventative by virtue of a male presence being enough of a threat to keep danger away, what is the potential danger they are preventing or on guard against? (Seeing as the likely answer isn't bears..... Then you shouldn't be offended by women that would choose them in a fictional debate if you are assigning value to men as protectors) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Submissive men and dominant womenI mean .... I'm 6ft 1 and very very loud. I have no indoor voice when I get excited and am sometimes unaware that I'm being inappropriately loud in public. So I definitely have 2 out of 3 of your usuals. Assertiveness I'd say I'm...normal? Like on a scale from 1 being too afraid to make a phone call and 10 being the type of guy who commands a room and takes whatever he wants I'm a solid 5. Maybe a 6. Like I'm not afraid to approach or engage strangers in conversation, and I make friends easily b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/25 12:13 AM |
| 5 | Submissive men and dominant womenSo I've been thinking on your original question. And honestly, I think "submissive" men are the reason that submissive men receive such a stigma. I know you are going to understand exactly what I mean, even if most of the people here don't. The community has just as much a problem with fake male subs as it does with fake male doms. Look at any subreddit centered primarily around femdom content and you can see it first hand. You even got one in these comments (Mr pick me if you're in Florida). Ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 11:42 PM |
| 4 | Submissive men and dominant womenNah, I'm pretty fucking fem, a sub, and confident as fuck. It's less about masculine energy and more about being unapologetically yourself and kind of outgoing. Sucks for introverts that are subs though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Submissive men and dominant womenNice. I think you'd agree that's not necessarily the majority in the community though. I would be ok with trying a 24/7 dynamic, so long as it was under the bounds of monogamy on both parties. I don't share, I get jealous, and I have no fun playing with a harem dynamic. I have a 24/7 mindset towards my wife though, even if it's not necessarily reciprocated or put into hard limits. It's just sort of built into my world view at this point. My wife is naturally a Dom in her personality, but is some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Submissive men and dominant womenYeah, I mean, it's pretty close for most couples that are like us. Sometimes we have normal sex, sometimes I get "tortured" for fun and arousal. The everyday life stuff is also somewhat outside the fetish, and is just sort of how my personality normally is. You could just take that as me being predisposed to being a sub though. Yeah. That's pretty much it for most people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 08:36 PM |
| 12 | Submissive men and dominant womenI'm going to assume you are actually asking this in good faith. I'm a submissive man. It's generally a fetish and not a complete lifestyle. Most of the time, things are just normal. Very very very few D/s couples are in a 24/7 power exchange type situation, so I guess you could call it occasional extracurricular bedroom activities? There are those who engage in 24/7 play, but it's far from the majority. There are other things that are common outside of the bedroom that might be noticable, such a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 08:16 PM |
| 4 | "Legality does not equal morality" actually it precedes itI'm a guy with long hair, lol. I probably should have clarified, my avatar can definitely be deceptive. Either way, I'm not really against, against them. Like I said, I think there is a lot of nuance in the conversation, and even though I don't like them per se, I don't think they should be dismissed out of hand and also gave a good deal of points on why there shouldn't be any sort of restriction against them. If anything, I'm sort of in the middle on them. It's a grey area, ya know? Some are fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/25 02:41 PM |
| 3 | "Legality does not equal morality" actually it precedes itShe's half wrong though. Random onlookers will look and judge, especially if it's a big age gap, but that's about it, nothing that will affect your life any more than wearing a weird t-shirt. I find the entire conversation here interesting and fairly nuanced, and strikes me as a sort of catch 22 on how or even if it can be handled on a society wide level. I personally think age gap relationships with younger people in their early 20s dating people more than 10 years older then them are unhealthy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/25 02:18 PM |
| 5 | LGBTQ, Feminist, and Body Positivity movements should be men's greatest allies.Consenting to gender roles is fine no matter what the roles are. People that naturally fit into traditional gender roles aren't wrong to continue to follow the roles they always have. Traditional guys that want trad wives/and women who want to be trad wives, should not feel like they are under any obligation to change, just because the umbrella of behaviors that are acceptably masculine or feminine is expanded. I think this is where a lot of more traditional types get defensive and lash out at t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Men: What do you bring to the table?My brother in unnecessary Internet arguments. You are being just as ridiculous as the red pill folks who try to dictate that every one secretly wants a trad wife conservative life style. I am personally very much like you in my marriage. My wife and I always cook together. She enjoys it more than me, but I also feel like a useless lump if I'm just sitting while she works on things around the house. We both work full time and are both tired come meal time so we do it as a couple, even if I'm just… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: Would it be a red flag for a man to remain single because he couldn’t find any woman who met his standards?That part of it is not what you want to advertise. Even if you're talking to someone who would fully meet those standards, she doesn't need to know why you didn't click. saying it bluntly makes you look like either A. You're a loon with ridiculous standards or B. You're trying to gas her up by putting other women down. Both are a bit sus. Stating it the other way "no one has really clicked for me" makes you look patient, thought out in what you want, self aware, decisive, and maybe even a bit my… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 02:31 AM |
| 19 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.I think there is a disconnect here in what (or more importantly when) "the bar is in hell" is used for. Obviously I can't speak for everyone on the left/blue team. There are idiots on both sides and I'm sure you have actually gotten some very bad advice/takes from some people. My opinion is just based on the observation of the situations in which it is most often used. In general, when people talk about "the bar" at all, it is usually in response to a woman who is complaining about her boyfriend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 05:32 PM |
| – | The common retort of “let women be delusional it only hurts them” is disingenuous and ignores the very real implications of hypergamy and inflated standardsYou're arguing with people who agree with you but use different words, my dude. The "best for you" comment was confirming that bio essentialism is bull shit because everyone's best is different and sometimes changes over time. People are stuck on your use of "best" and I understand why. Normally "best" would be used by someone who supports bio essentialism and feels that there is an objective best. Your using the term, but disagree with bio essentialism, which makes the term vague and confusing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 03:24 AM |
| 5 | Women can be attracted to you but until they see another girl interested have no interest in pursuing or being receptive to engaging with youI mean.....the same principal is still at play...... Just on a micro-level. If you've even spent time as a friend with a woman who falls into the 9/10 range, then you've probably seen how awkward some people become around them. How some people (men and women) stare or treat them noticably differently, and how that can be kind of embarrassing. You've probably also seen how they actually get approached less than slightly less attractive friends because people are intimidated by them. Social proof … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/25 02:04 PM |
| – | Sex is a need.None of the higher levels of Maslow's pyramid beyond the first two layers are are needed for survival. <image> It is a hierarchy of needs for someone to be able to reach self actualization/fulfillment in life. You're welcome to disagree with it if you like, but my real point is that it's not this sub just making shit up. It's an accepted psychological theory, not even just the pop pseudo-science evo-psych bullshit that this sub normally falls back on. It's literally psychology 101 and is taught … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 06:15 PM |
| – | Sex is a need.They're not talking about just randomly deciding on the necessity of needs here though. Maslow's pyramid or Hierarchy of needs is a well established phycological theory/tool. It's not this sub. It's widely accepted phycology. It is also not based on how much of something you need, so much as how soon you need it. The base of the pyramid is clean water, food, and shelter. As you move up the pyramid you get to the less immediate needs, social needs etc. the top point of the pyramid is self actuali… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 02:12 PM |
| 2 | To be an exception, you have to actually be exceptional.Then you should be very very careful around them. Period. Even just weed. I love drugs, and a lot of the dangers around them are a bit over blown, but if you're predisposed to mental health issues or have a large chance of developing them due to genetics then it's just not worth the risk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 10:29 PM |
| 1 | To be an exception, you have to actually be exceptional.No problem. I love to talk about drugs. Your method is the same as what my method was and it worked out fine for me. I personally don't think it would be the best way to meet new people. It's more something fun to do with people you already know and trust in my opinion. I do, however, think that for a lot of the less adventurous folks in here, it would be worthwhile to try. Not because it will get them laid, but because they will have fun regardless, it will get them some experience, and probabl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 10:12 PM |
| 1 | To be an exception, you have to actually be exceptional.Not directly, no, but it does lower your inhibitions a lot. Acid, mushrooms, any psychedelic has a lot of effects outside of what is shown in media. Besides the visuals, which aren't like straight up seeing things that aren't there so much as it looking like everything that should be still is moving, you get a massive body high where everything feels good, your senses especially your sense of touch feel sharpened, your inhibitions are immensely lowered. It doesn't make you want to have sex with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 08:21 PM |
| 4 | To be an exception, you have to actually be exceptional.Taking acid at a rave is definitely safer than paying an escort, and cheaper, and you don't have to deal with the fact that they are only with you for money. Acid is not really a very dangerous drug, unless you already have an underlying mental condition. As someone who takes heroic doses of psychedelics fairly regularly, it doesn't make you go insane. You don't end up with crazy deluded thoughts like movies make it out to be. You won't suddenly think you can fly and jump off a building, you won… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 04:16 PM |
| -2 | Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing.While I completely agree with you, and you are correct, I can understand why someone would make the argument. The "red" side of this sub is full of people that use bottom of the barrel tik tok rage bait accounts as examples of how women date and think. The examples that I see used often are just as, if not more so, deviated from the actual way normal people think and act, than the people in this sub that use the examples given by OP. It seems to me that what's good for the goose is good for the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/25 10:13 PM |
| 13 | Men improving themselves wont fix the dating market, women need to lower their standards.But..... She's not ok with doing that.... Because she's not doing that now. She is happy with her standards which have already been met, as per her mentions of her husband. Things already worked out fine for her. Her argument was that if she was forced to lower her standards (which again, she didn't need to do, since she found a partner who meets them) that she would rather be a prostitute than a wife to someone who she isn't attracted to or who doesn't meet her standards. Seems logical enough t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/25 05:21 PM |
| – | Why does honesty never work when dating women?Hell, I'd take that one step further and say most people, men or women, don't really know what they want. Especially out of others in a relationship. Most people are guided by a combination of the relationships they've seen in their lives growing up, and the relationships they've seen in media. So people try out different dynamics with different people until they find one that fits them (in other words, they date). Every relationship that isn't what they want is not just learning why the other p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/24 01:45 PM |
| 6 | The Red Pill perpetuates itself by setting men up to failIt sounds like he's actually talking more about the black pill then the red pill. I personally lean way more blue, but most of the red pill folks, even if I disagree with them on most philosophical views, are not the forever alone fatalists that this makes them out to be. That's the incel/black pill view. Even though they bitch a whole lot of shit, red pill is intended to be about self improvement Red pill, as I've come to understand it here, is more about maximizing your chances by trying to em… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/24 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Seems like the women that men here actually want wont go 50/50 on dates.That's a great system. Any system where all participants are happy with it is a great system. My wife and I don't have separate money. My income and her income both go into the same our money account. That's a great system for us. Other people's mileage within any given system may very. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Seems like the women that men here actually want wont go 50/50 on dates.I'm not saying it's a good strategy, or that it works. It is certainly not a guarantee of safety, but it does at least help them filter out the super traditional types who are going to insist on paying or feel like their masculinity is under attack if they don't. It also only makes sense if you want to avoid heavily traditional partners. It's just another reason that some women have given for their personal instance on going 50/50 in my past. I've personally never cared who paid. When I was dati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 06:55 PM |
| 4 | Seems like the women that men here actually want wont go 50/50 on dates.I've also encountered a good deal of women that want to go 50/50 specifically because they don't want to give someone they don't know yet any sense of entitlement over them. Not that paying for a date should entitle anyone to sex, but enough people think so and behave accordingly that it's turned some women off of accepting any sort of generosity, including insignificantly small gifts, until they have built up enough trust in the person's character. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Seems like the women that men here actually want wont go 50/50 on dates.Christ on a cracker. You're both right and both saying essentially the same thing. The key item that you mentioned but is being ignored is that she has her own income and can afford some of the high end clothes she likes. The other person also specifically mentioned people wearing clothes they can't afford. The two of you are talking about two completely different types of people. On the other hand, your GF probably does have somewhat expensive tastes (for example you're not going to Denny's as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 06:04 PM |
| 0 | People are so weird when it comes to the porn industry and it just makes them sound weak or insecure about sex and their own sexualityI agree with you on almost all of your points, but also think that it is a topic that both sides of the political spectrum are very pearl clutchy about for their own reasons. I also think that the pearl clutching and anti-porn arguments only serve to make the industry itself worse. We agree that porn isn't going anywhere, however, if we keep demonizing the entire concept of porn, all that's going to do is keep ethical people, or people concerned with what people think about them. People who othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/24 05:54 PM |
| 20 | The Lily Phillips situation is yet another hit to how men perceive women.It also goes further than that. The social media algorithms thrive on negative reactions. They know what is going to piss you off and they show you more if it intentionally because it keeps you engaged. This creates the illusion that a large number, if not the majority, of people believe things that are bad takes from people that don't really represent the average person's beliefs. This illusion is increased by the amount of people that simply scroll and like things in their feed without critica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/24 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Men are held to a higher/more rigid standard of masculinity than women are for femininity.God damn. That is a hard question. I don't really try to convince them so much as I usually just kinda write them off and avoid contact with them most of the time. I should probably try harder there, for my trans friends, but they are some of the hardest folks to argue with. Their agreements are all based on concern (even though it's really just pearl clutching) so they are fighting from what they think is the high ground. I can't use my best arguments all the time because they are people who ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/24 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Are you really "doing it for yourself"?I personally think validation is the wrong word some of the time. I'm a guy, but I also wear makeup at times, style my hair, and put a good deal of thought into my fashion choices and outfits. I'm also firmly punk/goth so my choice of outfits is just as likely to bring social stigma and repulsion as it is validation. The reason that I say validation is not the correct term, is because the feeling I get when I put together a really sharp outfit that will receive social validation is the same as w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/24 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Many Men Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting.LMAO, I'm right there with you. Self deprecation can be a ton of fun, and if we were in why other sub, I would have assumed it was joke. Round these parts though, you never know when your talking to someone who honestly thinks they look like some sort of cave goblin. You can DM me if you want, I can take a look at your writing, but I can't promise to be much help as I'm just a very effeminate dude with real long hair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Many Men Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting.Don't be so hard on yourself WhatTheyWanttoHear. I'm sure you're not that ugly, bud. It's important to remember that being attractive is also subjective. When I say that it's obvious that attraction matters, I mean that you have to be attractive to that person, not attractive in any generalized way. The women you dated were attracted to you. Even if you don't see why, they saw something worthwhile in you that they wanted more of. There's all sorts of people attracted to all sorts of things. Fat,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 11:36 PM |
| 4 | Do People In LTR's Agree With Dating StereotypesInteresting. I like this train of thought. Before OLD became the main way people found partners, the same people who fail at dating were still there, but the actual dating pool was smaller, so you might run into a (nongender specific) shit person or two at the bar, but once you've filtered them, they stayed filtered. With OLD, not only is the pool vastly expanded, so that every shit person is on there and you have to deal with every douche & douchette from every bar rather than just the ones at … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Many Men Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting.You're both.... Right and wrong? She's right that there are women who don't have looks as their main criteria, but most do, and a personal anecdote doesn't apply as reason when talking about large groups (or if it does, it is immediately invalidated by an opposing anecdote that must be given the same credence). Your right that looks are usually an important factor in finding a date. They aren't everything to everyone, but they mean a lot to a lot of people. That said, using an example of a perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Why is it that every time someone suggests men raise their standards or communicate their desires early to avoid relationship pitfalls, there’s always pushback? Instead of taking the advice, it seems like there’s an endless list of excuses not to do it.Some do, some don't, just like anybody else. My wife does, and that's the important one to me, but before I was married I did pretty well. Not like Don Juan taking a different girl to bed every night well, but I have spent more of my life in relationships than not. I went through probably 6 or 7 long term relationships (defining long term as being a couple for 6 months or more) with a healthy number of flings and one night stands in-between. The longest stretch that I was single and not getting … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/24 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Why is it that every time someone suggests men raise their standards or communicate their desires early to avoid relationship pitfalls, there’s always pushback? Instead of taking the advice, it seems like there’s an endless list of excuses not to do it.Different types of people have different downsides, no bodies a perfect baggage free all upsides stepford bot. For me personally, I'm not naturally the most traditionally masculine of dudes. I'm miles from stoic, easily excited, and generally shameless. I set off every gaydar in a five mile radius. I'm comfortable with me though. I also have a good deal of baggage from my youth and a snarky, spiteful personality. I think most niche people carry a good deal of baggage with them, trauma is often t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/24 03:10 PM |
| 1 | "Bar for men is on the floor" - Is this a real statement or just a tongue in cheek phrase meant to aggravate men?You're absolutely correct! The Internet does exactly that, it takes a one off, and blows it way out of proportion, and both sides of the debate are equally guilty of it. The men that are applying the arguments from the the worst parts of Twitter to all women are the exact same phenomenon. Personally, I take statements like "the bar is on the floor" as just people venting about a specific situation. It's equivalent of seeing a dude who is clearly being played and saying something like "my brother… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/24 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that every time someone suggests men raise their standards or communicate their desires early to avoid relationship pitfalls, there’s always pushback? Instead of taking the advice, it seems like there’s an endless list of excuses not to do it.Personally, I think most people, regardless of gender are pretty dumb, and oblivious to the reasons they do most things. Full stop. I don't think women are dumb. I think people are dumb. George Carlin had something to say about the average person and how their being average necessitates that about half of us are even dumber than that. My faith in humanity is not exactly high. That said, yes, I do think they are oblivious to the reasons they like or want certain things. However, no one is going t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/24 01:52 AM |
| 5 | Why is it that every time someone suggests men raise their standards or communicate their desires early to avoid relationship pitfalls, there’s always pushback? Instead of taking the advice, it seems like there’s an endless list of excuses not to do it.I don't know if you're being snarky or earnest here. But yes. A more egalitarian man IS less compatible with the majority of women. I would say that every single individual human being is not compatible with the majority of other human beings though. It would be way easier to have a successful long term relationship if they were. Most people are incompatible for romance with each other. It's why it feels important or special when you find/if you find someone who is. The truth is that the idea th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/24 08:33 PM |
| 4 | Men are held to a higher/more rigid standard of masculinity than women are for femininity.How would you suggest they do so? Feminism is a pretty big umbrella full of smaller fragmented groups with different beliefs. For example a TERF is a type of feminist (the worst type), but they have very little in common with a progressive 3rd wave feminist, and neither side of that debate gives a shit what the other side has to say. No progressive is going to be able to convince a TERF that trans people are valid, and likewise no progressive is going to hold space for TERF views. 2nd wave and 3… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/24 09:42 PM |
| -3 | Men who’ve given up on dating, what’s the point of convincing internet strangers you made the right decision?Ok, yeah, I did kind of glaze over that part. I mean if you want to tell on yourself for being a douche bag go for it. For what it's worth, you don't actually sound unreasonable. Given the fuller description that I ignored, you're still basing your expectations on reality. There's a lot of communication from the other side of the equation that you're describing. You are describing receiving feedback throughout the conversation that she has interest, that she agrees to come back to your place, su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Men who’ve given up on dating, what’s the point of convincing internet strangers you made the right decision?I honestly can't tell if you're being intentionally thick or are just missing the point of what the other person is trying to say because their snark to explanation ratio is off. I think it might actually be the second and that you are not understanding what is meant by "expected" in this conversation. No one is saying flirting or talking to women with the intent to sleep with them is wrong. The word expect is where you're getting caught up in things. I'm going to be generous here, and assume yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/24 07:05 PM |
| 3 | If in today's society, sex is not expected in a relationship, then faithfulness should not be expectedDon't worry about me, it was over a decade ago, I'm very happy, and it's not something that keeps me up at night. I'm not beating myself up. I regret my actions and the my inaction which led to them. I faced pretty much zero consequences for it. Sometimes life just happens and even if you do something shitty, all you can do is move forward. In retrospect though, I am able to look back and say yeah, that was the wrong move. You're right that I was trying to take the path of least resistance, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/24 06:28 PM |
| 6 | If in today's society, sex is not expected in a relationship, then faithfulness should not be expectedIt's not so much that hers were important, but in the end, the result was the same for me for either way, but much worse for her. It's like you're in a room that you want to leave, but someone is blocking the door. You could look them in the eye and push them slightly and they'll step aside, or you can hit them with a bat and trample them on your way out. Either option results in you leaving the room, so it's cruel to pick the bat and trample, when a slight push would have given the same results… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/24 02:29 PM |
| 9 | If in today's society, sex is not expected in a relationship, then faithfulness should not be expectedCheating is often a cowards way of breaking up. I'm man enough to admit that it's something I did to someone in the past because I was too much of a coward to hurt her and end a relationship I was unhappy in. The result was that I hurt her way more than I would have if I had just grown a spine and broken up with her. I regret it. My life worked out fine, I don't regret not being with her, but I regret how much unnecessary pain I caused her by being a coward. She didn't deserve that. It was a lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/24 02:58 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Women are far more violent towards those they have power over vs menI don't argue that all women are angels, I didn't think most people do, but there can be an observable bias at times on sites like this. I also don't agree that men, or anyone, in power has motivation to help men, or anyone else besides themselves. I don't trust authority, and generally have a suspicion of ill intent for anyone who willingly seeks out positions of political power. No truly ethical or good person would want to govern, with all the bull shit that comes with it, that means in my mi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/24 07:13 PM |
| 10 | CMV: Women are far more violent towards those they have power over vs menI think it would be safer and more fair to simply say people are violent. I would have no argument against that whatsoever. Because they are. Outside of gender, race, class, and any other distinction, deep down underneath it all, people, as a species and a concept, just plain suck. I love individual people, even ones I disagree with. I will gladly sit down and have a beer with just about anybody, and one on one I'll usually find something to like about them. But strip away the individual faces a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/24 10:47 PM |
| 19 | CMV: Women are far more violent towards those they have power over vs menThat's ok. We can gloss right over the statistics. You've already had that argument with a bunch of other people, no need to rehash. Then we have your lived, but anecdotal, experience. Without any checking or discussion of validity necessary, we can give the benefit of the doubt and assume complete honesty. That however can be countered with anyone else's lived but anecdotal experience that has been the opposite, because their anecdotal evidence has to be given the same benefit of the doubt. As … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/24 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Why do you personally hate or dislike The Red Pill?For the psychology change, so did mine, but not in the same way. My emotions toned down from teenage end of the world levels to manageable levels. I'm not an emotion bomb of a teenager, but I still feel things quite strongly at 38, and I get excited easily. I truly enjoy getting excited and would hate to have to hide or muffle my natural enthusiasm for things. I have great reasoning skills, but I didn't really become any calmer. I am not a stoic by default. It might be worth noting that I don't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 03:53 PM |
| 16 | Why do you personally hate or dislike The Red Pill?I couldn't have said it better myself. I am someone who is very much not the traditional vision of what a man should be, who has been very successful with women as an adult by going by my own whims and throwing gender expectations away entirely. It wasn't always as easy for me as it is now. The only reason I had any traction with girls in middle/highschool is because I was able to find third spaces and date girls from other schools. I can't help but think of how much harder that would have been … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 03:51 AM |
| 1 | There are rational reasons for working class men to dislike female empowerment; Women irrespective of their living conditions or ideology will always be hypergamous. There is no egalitarian utopia at the end of the female empowerment rainbow, just more male disposabilityIt's a travesty these days. Kids can't even begin to earn their keep. The only thing to do with them is start a family YouTube channel and let them mine the clicks. But it doesn't satisfy the children's souls like the mines. The true mines. Where boys become men and girls become men and men become wolves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/24 08:01 PM |
| 2 | There are rational reasons for working class men to dislike female empowerment; Women irrespective of their living conditions or ideology will always be hypergamous. There is no egalitarian utopia at the end of the female empowerment rainbow, just more male disposabilityThey yearn for the mines...... "Please Father ... Let me mine" they say....... But father refuses and they are forced to simulate their natural urge to mine with Minecraft and Roblox..... Let the children mine! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/24 03:41 PM |
| 2 | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsI am an old drug user that survived. I would say the danger level of coke depends a lot on whether we are talking about using it today or say....5 to 10 years ago, and how well we know the source. Pre-fentanyl coke was relatively safe to use recreationally as long as you didn't make a nightly habit of it, and the high price made doing it often enough for an addiction very expensive. I still saw people pull it off and do enough to sand blast through their septum, but I could never wrap my head ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/24 02:07 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADChrist, you know reddits a fucking shit show when I come to this cesspool to feel better by seeing the same old arguments rather than looking for someone to argue with. Thanks for being the only subreddit that is exactly the same today as it was yesterday. I needed to see this bullshit as a break from all that other bullshit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/24 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Has TRP affected your willingness to date?Read the quote. Out of 100 couples, having sex at an undisclosed frequency, using condoms incorrectly (the definition provided for condom use included inconsistent condom use, which would mean occasional intercourse without protection), 15 were pregnant within one year. The instance of failure isn't even 15% because the average couple is having sex far more frequently than once a year. As I've said, mathematically this is not how you find an actual probability, but if you want to use the incorre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/24 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Has TRP affected your willingness to date?That is a bit misleading. I see what they are saying, but it is definitely poorly explained. So, this sample accounts for incorrect use, which is good, because you have to account for incorrect use in real life. Because people are dumb. The data they are presenting becomes too vague and causes confusion because of the way study is conducted. The sample is 100 couples, having sex at an unlisted frequency, over the course of one year. Within that year, 15 of the couples had their contraception fai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Has TRP affected your willingness to date?So I agree with your actual points, but as a pedantic numbers nerd, I have to tell you that that's not how statistical percentages and probabilities work. If the real world effectiveness of condoms is 85% it means that each time you use one, there is an 85% chance it works. If you use one 100 times, it does not mean it will fail 15 of those times. It means every time you use a condom, there is a 15% chance that it could fail. You could use 100 condoms and they could fail 100 times. The probabili… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | q4a: is sex a need?I agree that puberty releases the drive to have sex, but the social stigma of not achieving it comes from society. I'm not saying we should decrease the desire for sex. The desire is definitely biological. That's why I include destigmatizing sex work to make sex itself more available to less desirable people without shame being involved for any of the parties. We have lots of desires that don't cause these types of mental health issues when we don't fulfill them. The most damaging parts are a re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/24 02:37 PM |
| 3 | q4a: is sex a need?You actually ask some interesting questions here. I think it's pretty observable from the outside that sexual frustrations can have a major influence on some of the things you mentioned (confidence, sense of belonging). I'm not 100% in agreement with one, and I'm not sure what you mean by others (efficacy I would argue is less correlated, as there is a good deal of great art inspired by sexual frustration. Intimacy, I'm just not sure what you mean) but I also don't fully refute. How much sex is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Curious what women view as "good guys"Idk. I think that's the point. If you're really into drugs, a drug dealer could be a good match. Good isn't objective. The "average woman" doesn't exist, or at least not in this way. There's too much variation in preference and life style, even among average people. The best you could do from this type of data collection, is try to find and emulate the most common answers, but I think you'll find that very often, even after taking out the fringe data points like drug addicts, one average person'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do men pursue women with traits or lifestyles they don’t approve of once they are in a relationship?I think the way that you come at the idea of dancing actually may be from your style of dance background. Pop & locking and Breaking both take a considerable amount of actual skill and require a certain degree of practice to get good at and maintain your skill level. I think the situation would be similar for other types of dance that are more skill based like ballet, ballroom (the LGBTQ heavy, voguing, dips & spins, floorwork, catwalk/duckwalk variety of ballroom, not the may I have this dance … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 04:51 PM |
| 11 | Why do men pursue women with traits or lifestyles they don’t approve of once they are in a relationship?Nah, as a guy who likes dancing, it's a totally different vibe. So for personal context, I'm an old punk/goth guy (yes they are two different subcultures, yes I have been and am an active part of both of them individually), who spent a significant amount of my 20s in a goth club. Now, for context, goth dancing is..... Well.... Not really very sexy. You're probably doing a little shuffly two step, step kick step kick, (described as kicking the Smurf, because you look like your fighting off an att… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/24 07:03 PM |
| 4 | Men arent hated for having preferences. Its when theyre being creepy assholes about it.I respectfully disagree with part of what you're saying, but I feel like your general idea is overall sound. I personally encourage everyone to have standards that fit what they want, and to only date people that meet them, even if that means being single for longer. I don't know if men are really encouraged to lower standards that much, but I'll take your word for it, there's a plethora of bad advice out there so it's not that much of a stretch that that's just a bit of bad advice I missed out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/24 09:33 PM |
| 2 | If Spongebob didn't teach you marine biology, you shouldnt be using fiction to talk about women’s attraction.For what it's worth...I don't think they were saying that YOU spend your whole life online. They were saying that the men that you witness using 50 shades as proof of what women like spend THEIR entire life online. I mean we're all here to fight as a generality, but I think this one is actually on your side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 05:04 PM |
| 4 | There is more to personality than being niceInteresting side note to this regarding doing favors for people. I read a study recently on the topic and it turns out that asking someone for a small favor actually works better than doing them a favor for increasing your importance in someone's memory. They forget that you did them a favor, but asking them for a favor gets remembered, because now they have done something for you and invested a small amount of time or effort, and they will remember that. Not as a burden or anything like that, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/24 02:18 PM |
| 5 | The idea of men needing to be "nice" really needs to die alreadyBeing actually evil is somewhat effective for almost anything in the short term. No one would be evil or do evil things if being evil wasn't an effective means to an end. So, statistically speaking, that tracks. It's important to remember that no one is the bad guy in their own story though. Even Hitler. No one thinks they are really the evil one. If you just want to get laid, and that's your only goal, being more actually evil might do it. However, it does it at the expense of others. And every… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Your cohabitating spouse or SO should have their own bedroom.Huh. That's interesting. I can't imagine not having an aesthetic preference for anything. So in that same situation, I always try to let others pick first to be gracious, but in the back of my mind, I got one that I secretly want. Usually green, purple or black, followed by blue, then red, then anything that's not yellow. If pressed, I couldn't tell you what it is about those colors that makes me more drawn to them. I just like the way they look more than others. Do you have other aesthetic pref… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Your cohabitating spouse or SO should have their own bedroom.Just for.....aesthetics I guess. Like alright, say we're playing a bored game and there are four colors available. Blue, red, green, yellow. Of course you didn't really care what color you are, no one does, but when you just look at them, there's got to be one that you enjoy looking at more than the others. One that maybe you subtly hope no one else picks while you insist everyone else picks first. Like.... Favorite color is not a life or death thing that most people care about at all.... But we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 07:03 PM |
| 4 | Your cohabitating spouse or SO should have their own bedroom.To tie it back to the original post though. OP is valid in his desire for his own bedroom. The person who responded is valid in her desire to share a bed with her partner. This is probably one of those questions we should all ask ourselves to help figure out what kind of lifestyle and relationship we want. The best part is, there's no wrong answer to the question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 07:08 PM |
| 4 | Your cohabitating spouse or SO should have their own bedroom.That's fine dude. You're perfectly valid in those choices and probably have a better resale value than us available when you want to move. We are both ultra maximalists, so for us heavily decorated and customized is an understatement. We live in a highly themed mad house of ultra personalized design choices. The room I'm sitting in currently has one wall pink, one wall snot green, one wall aquamarine, one wall with mid century las Vegas style pink flamingo and starburst wall paper, an orange cei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 06:36 PM |
| 9 | Your cohabitating spouse or SO should have their own bedroom.I agree with her. I don't think sleeping in the same bed is required for a relationship. I just think it's required for a relationship with me. I like to cuddle. I like to wake up with my wife. If she has to do something early and let's me sleep in, I wake up sad because I didn't get to enjoy the morning with her. Nothing wrong with feeling differently though. I've known people that hate touching others when they're trying to sleep, it keeps them up, or makes them too sweaty and uncomfortable, s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 04:57 PM |
| 4 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everYou're going to the wrong parties & clubs. What you are describing sounds like a trendy or want to be trendy mainstream club. That's not your scene. This gentleman advised going to a pub that you enjoy the music at. Not the club. Clubs may have that hot people energy, but at the pub, half the people are real ugly. Guarantee you'll do better than the 60 year old half dead bar fly who pretty much lives there (but you should talk to him anyways, cause that dude is actually pretty cool, and he knows… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 01:22 PM |
| 1 | What is the appropriate response for a gamer bf/husband to his woman that protests his hobby?You'd be surprised how many stupid people there are out there keeping up the boomer beliefs and myths even though they are way too young to be that gullible. Never underestimate the stupidity of those around you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 09:03 PM |
| 0 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendI included the parentheses because I personally think it's usually intentional as well. To me, it's not so much me giving them grace as it is allowing them an out. In the off chance that someone is listening and would take the advice, I want to leave them the chance to say to tell themselves that they are part of the unintentional crowd rather than having to argue with people over their intent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 08:33 PM |
| 3 | What is the appropriate response for a gamer bf/husband to his woman that protests his hobby?I don't disagree with you that what is actually being seen is an anger and emotional regulation issue rather than a gaming issue. It's just that games, especially competitive online games, are often a trigger for those types of people's anger. I don't think the gaming is the actual problem and I didn't think games caused the problem. I love games, my wife and I are currently half way through our second run of boulders gate 3. People who don't play games don't see it that way though. A lot of peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendI think a lot of this type of advice also is being misinterpreted (either intentionally or accidentally). The point of the it isn't to stop people from approaching, it's to stop them from getting in their own way. If you are naturally awkward socially, that is most likely magnified when you're "on the prowl" for women. Not going into a conversation with direct intention is a way to try and help you not be awkward. To stop you from being too forward too quickly, or getting yourself mentally hung … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 03:57 PM |
| 22 | What is the appropriate response for a gamer bf/husband to his woman that protests his hobby?What game they are playing and how it affects their mood is also an element that can be at play. Someone who plays single player or co-op games with a narrative, and remains calm if they lose is going to be a different case then some one who plays competitive online games, trash talks their opponents, and throws their controller or lashes out at you when they lose. When people think about gamers as a generality it's the online controller chucker that comes to mind first. People want to avoid the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 02:31 PM |
| 8 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?Hard disagree on those being things all men want. Virginity: teaching someone to have and enjoy sex is not something I want in a partner. I much prefer someone who knows what they want in bed and can communicate it. I despise religion, and place 0 value on inexperience. I am their partner, not their teacher. Youth: there's some appeal, but as a 38 year old, I don't think I'd want to be with anyone under 30, it would be difficult to relate to them about anything and they aren't done with their 20… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Only "Successful" Lives are ValuedI'm interested in your non-freewill based framework. Would you elaborate on what you believe drives our fates if not free will? I don't disagree, by the way, I'm just interested in what alternate framework you follow. I think about it in what I call "the lil' guys" theory. So, we are made up of cells that essentially function like little independent organisms, in a larger co-op (being the body). They send the signals that reach our brain, they receive the signals from our brain, hell they make u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/24 05:27 PM |
| 4 | Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue?Ok, fair enough, lol. I didn't mean to assume your definition of personality, I was more addressing the entire concept. You and I agree on personality then, but I think there are a lot of other people that think good personality means nice person. As for the paragraph about my background, it was just to illustrate where my view comes from, in being adjacent to some people that I would say are actually objectively bad, but not really being bad myself. I had hoped to imply that some of the "bad bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue?Do you think "bad boys" are... As a rule... More physically attractive than other guys? They're not. The other mistake you're making, besides forgetting that physical attraction is a baseline requirement, is misinterpreting what is meant by a "good personality". A good personality and a good person are not the same things. The good personality you're describing is, kind, polite, respectful, etc. these aren't what people mean by a good personality, it's what they mean by being a good person. A go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 12:57 PM |
| 5 | Blue pillers and Red pillers agree on somethings, one of which is "The guy has to wait his turn"What makes you think this man has ever been an incel? He seems like he's fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/24 10:39 PM |
| 2 | Modern dating problems would be better if people were not okay with sharing.You can be. I would argue that being exclusive without being committed is just the first step of being in an exclusive relationship. I meant commitment in the sense that two people are committed to being exclusive with each other, not that they are committed as in truly invested in each other and ready to be in it for the long haul. Being exclusive, in my usage, would be the first commitment that a couple makes, but there are different levels of commitment, if you follow what I mean. Your point … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Modern dating problems would be better if people were not okay with sharing.I see, sorry, I got confused about what we were talking about again because of the general vagueness of the original post If both parties are onboard with it, then yes, of course. I have no problem with other people's ethical non-monogamy. It is a perfectly valid choice of lifestyle. It's not for me personally, but I don't judge other people for that. Some of my close friends are ethical non-monogamists, so believe me when I say I meant no disrespect or erasure. You are correct I was just thinki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Modern dating problems would be better if people were not okay with sharing.Fair. In my opinion, the dating multiple people period should be fairly short. Liking someone isn't always black and white. I don't think it needs to be instant, but if you're looking for something serious, it shouldn't be an extended period of time. Like if you're more than three or four dates in and it's still in that phase and no one is even talking about getting out of it then something is wrong and it's probably not going to happen. I agree that it's shitty behavior to string someone along … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Modern dating problems would be better if people were not okay with sharing.Are they? I wouldn't want to be exclusive with someone who wasn't committed to being exclusive as well. Or else we're just using the word differently. I think we're on the same page and we're just looking at semantics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Modern dating problems would be better if people were not okay with sharing.Oooooh. Like the period of time when people are dating but not exclusive? That's..... Not sharing people though, it's Just kind of how you decide if you want to become exclusive. No one wants to jump into exclusivity with a stranger. Why would they want to? I mean sure it's an awkward phase of a relationship, but how else is someone supposed to decide if they want to be with some one. Damn, what a confusing post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 04:29 PM |
| 7 | Modern dating problems would be better if people were not okay with sharing.I don't think he's talking about ethical non-monogamy. He's talking about the myth that all of the women in America are only sleeping with the top 20% of men. It's not true, but it's a commonly held view here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 02:47 PM |
| – | Ladies, how come your tastes in fiction, contradict what you say you want irl?People read romance novels for the same reason anyone reads any fiction, to be entertained. A lot of romance is female centered, so the Mary Sue protagonist self insert character is most likely to be good, because good and normal is what most people can relate to. Therefore it's up to the love interest to bring in the story's conflict. The female protagonist always falls in love with the "good" one from the bad boy tribe. Those negative traits are often seen as something that the love interest o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 11:48 PM |
| 3 | Do you choose your s/o according to her SMV?I think they were just hopping onto your comment because it was the top one to try and get visibility and encourage OP rather than actually commenting on what you said. Like the worries that OP has about ageing were influenced by red pill rhetoric, but everything you said is about as middle of the road as you can get. Reasonable, reassuring, and realistic. It's a bit cringe to use the up votes of an unrelated comment, and causes confusion like this, but their heart seems to be in the right place… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 03:16 AM |
| – | You Can’t Argue your Way to Success in DatingI can sort of see your point on the conscience, but it's not really like jimminy cricket. It's not objective, and the average person doesn't even realize when they are utilizing it. Because of that, it can be pretty easily ignored or fooled. I kind of feel like it's a flawed concept in general if it even exists in the way we conceptualize it. Or else I don't really have one either, but I do definitely experience guilt, empathy and an array of other emotions if I've take actions that might hurt p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 01:01 AM |
| – | You Can’t Argue your Way to Success in DatingFascinating subject! Sociopathy and morality in the selection of a partner I mean, not referring to you as a subject. I would actually venture to say that being a literal sociopath would make choosing who to date based on morality much easier. The excuse for the rest of the population is that we are swayed by emotions and illogical attractions in a much stronger fashion. You're able to think more logically about who you are selecting because of your sociopathy. For the rest of us, the illogical … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Its "Old Fashioned" to expect your wife/Long term GF to do "household chores."It's not just unattainable for most. It's unhealthy. The home cook route is very very pricey, so I'll knock that one out of the running right away, but even if you could afford the cheaper option to eat at a restaurant daily, it will fuck your guts up something fierce. Food from restaurants, even nice restaurants, is absolutely loaded with salt and other things that taste great, but will harm you in excess, unless your paying restaurant prices for an undressed salad frequently. I'm miles from be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t love romantically either, they’re just coming from a place of scarcityFair. I didn't know if there was something else in his public persona that I hadn't seen. I'm a hopeless romantic, but losing that much in a divorce that messy would probably make me bitter for quite a while. I wouldn't personally jump into a 2nd marriage if I was in his shoes, but it's hard to imagine that much money and if/how it would change me. I still think it might be that he's just bored of how easy it can be for him, and rich enough that a loss, even at that volume, isn't enough to touch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t love romantically either, they’re just coming from a place of scarcityOk, I was just curious. I am not exactly a Bezos fan, I don't dislike him enough to try and avoid the convenience of Amazon, but I'd rather not find myself on his side of most arguments. My bias against that much accumulated wealth definitely makes it harder for me to see his human factors. I actually appreciate your view that some guys are just naturally more predisposed to being blue or red. I don't buy the alpha beta Evo-biology parts, but I do think that there's a predisposition among men an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Men don’t love romantically either, they’re just coming from a place of scarcityWhat gives you that impression (other than him getting remarried)? None of us know enough about him in his personal life to do much more than speculate, so it's all just kind of guessing. I personally find it hard to believe someone who is willing to make the kind of business decisions that can make you that wealthy is meek, afraid of taking advantage of people, or would be likely to put anyone on a pedestal as better than him. He bought a giant penis shaped rocket to go to low/sub orbital space… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t love romantically either, they’re just coming from a place of scarcityBezos is an interesting case actually. You're right that with the amount of money he has he could be drowning in strange. So the question becomes why. There's several possibilities. 1) as you suggested, he's just got a beta mindset. This is probably the most red answer. I don't agree with you on this being the likely answer, and don't really believe in the entire alpha/bets framework, but it's worth considering. 2) He would rather have a full time partner that he can depend on then a harem. This… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 01:47 PM |
| – | Do you at least recognize being told you're dangerous just because you're a man is wrong?Honestly, it can be. You're going to get people mad at you for saying it, but it's not like anyone is gonna come kick your ass. People get mad at them for saying the opposite too (as this thread shows). So you tell me if you're joking and I'll believe you. I'm an old punk, going on 40. The culture I'm from is not the same as current punk. Not to say that one is better than the other, I don't want to fall into the "back when punk was dangerous" trope, but I am very used to people being offensive … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/24 12:22 AM |
| – | Do you at least recognize being told you're dangerous just because you're a man is wrong?I'm not judging whether it's good or bad. Just putting the practice, or at least it's most common use into context. Your right that it didn't originate with social media. Intentional subversions of norms have been around forever. As an old punk, I see a lot of it as a reflection of the fuck you attitude towards social norms and traditional values that counter culture has always lead with. The type of women I know personally who use, or would use those types of hashtags do so in the manner I desc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 07:03 PM |
| – | Do you at least recognize being told you're dangerous just because you're a man is wrong?This is probably going to be a hot take, but the point of these types of hashtags are often, in my opinion, an intentional subversion of the more common socially acceptable misogyny of the past. Everyone wants to compare it to making these statements about black folks, but it's more like making the same type of statement about white people. Using the type of stereotyping and racism that black folks have normally experienced against whites is often used as satire to send up and mock racists and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Do you find it sexist when people say "Man up!"?For me personally, it's much better. There's less baggage attached to it for me. I also feel it's used much more as a term of encouragement in Mrs. Maisel, like "break a leg." Interestingly though, now that I think of it. I'm less offended by the term "nut up" then I am "man up", even though it's also often used in the same mocking way. I associate "nut up" with hanging out with skater friends in highschool, trying to pressure each other into trying bigger ramps or stupid pranks and stunts. Wher… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 01:36 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Do you find it sexist when people say "Man up!"?I'm just as offended, if not more so, by a man saying it as a woman. In both cases it's trying to box me into behavior that doesn't come naturally to me, and implying that there is only one way to man. Even if it's with empathy, as others have suggested, it's still based on the concept of "I did it, so you should do it too, or else you're failing at being your own gender." Fuck all that noise, and fuck gender roles all together. I agree that it is very much a light version of faggot though. Give… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 04:26 AM |
| -2 | People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naiveI mean, on one hand, right on man. I get it. I personally think all gender roles are bullshit. On the other hand, that's just the way things are and there's not much any of us can do about it but deal with it the best we can. All anyone can do is choose the best way to navigate it for themselves. You can choose not to participate in romantic endeavors, you can adapt a strategy and practice to fit the expected role well enough to get by, or you can throw the whole gender role concept out the wind… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/24 01:09 AM |
| 0 | People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naiveWhat the fuck are you even talking about, lol. Are you saying that timid nerds who are afraid to talk to women don't exist? Guys that stumble over themselves around girls and don't know how to talk to them? Talk to more women is advice for them. If you're comfortable around women, it's not good advice for you. Do you think I'm saying that all men are afraid of women? Because I'm not, but that's the only way you're response relates to my comment what so ever. I agree that women should approach mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/24 12:20 AM |
| 3 | People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naiveIf you are already friends with or have been Friends with a decent amount of women in the past, the talk to more women advice is not for you. The point of it isn't to get a date through numbers game, it's to humanize women and help take away the I'm scared of girls energy that some guys have. If you're red pilled or black pilled, it's likely going to just frustrate you, because you already avoid putting women on a pedestal. The advice to talk to more women could help a blue pill style guy who is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Why do women dislike video games and men who play them ?That's fair. I have no horse in this race. All I was trying to say was that the reason the dude was being so defensive to a new person talking about nail art was because he was still carrying the energy he had from arguing with you. It wasn't my intention to place any sort of stance on you or to comment on the value of either of your opinions. Even though I didn't mean to attribute anything to you, I did say that you were coming from an anti-games sentiment. I should have been more neutral with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/24 10:26 PM |
| 4 | Why do women dislike video games and men who play them ?I can answer for him on this one. It was because the person before you in the thread was speaking from an anti-games perspective and he was already primed to defend gaming. You jumped in with a side track to the conversation, which is fine, but he was already in argument mode and carried the sentiment from the previous part of the conversation onto you as a responder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | At point would you acknowledge a man's efforts are sufficient and the environment he is in is the issue?Well. That's....perfectly understandable. I totally misread your tone. This subreddit has me constantly primed to argue, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/24 11:33 AM |
| 6 | At point would you acknowledge a man's efforts are sufficient and the environment he is in is the issue?Why is that such a funny idea? It seems perfectly normal to me. I've both pretty much done exactly this, and have had other people of both genders approach me to make unsolicited recommendations. It's not hitting on anyone, but it creates an avenue to start a conversation, that has absolutely zero pressure to continue it. It's literally just small talk, and totally something I do if I'm next to someone at a bar waiting for the bar tender, and they seem chatty. It can be done in a completely non-… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/24 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe shit tests are real?Agreed. Absolutely. A good % of people suck, regardless of gender race or creed, and this place is no different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/24 12:54 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe shit tests are real?Frankly, all shit tests are toxic, even the mostly harmless kind. I'm not trying to refute your definition with mine. I just find it interesting how different the definitions can be while still agreeing that they are dumb as hell. Some shit tests are especially toxic though. Even though I've only encountered that level of toxicity once, that doesn't mean it's not out there. I could be lucky or the type of women in into might not use these types of tests as much, or a million other explanations. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/24 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe shit tests are real?It seems like everyone's definition of a shit test in this thread is different. Your examples seem particularly cruel. I find it hard to believe that this is something all or even most women do. I've been with a variety of different women in long and short term relationships and I only encountered behavior that matched your definition in one of them. I've always seen them as things like the stupid relationship tests that have been going viral on tiktok. Take the bird test for example. The partne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/24 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Why men today struggle in datingHell yes! This is the fucking answer. It even includes all of the qualifiers. It doesn't paint all women as a monolith, or insist that there is only one way to be an attractive man. "Be attractive to your preferred demographic or don't get them". It's the whole answer to this fucking pill debate summed up into a single sentence. Beautiful. Of course this requires some work, you have to know what your preferred demographic is, you have to know what that demographic finds attractive and know how t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Telling men to 'be kinder to each other' is quite hypocriticalWhen I was in my teens & early twenties, it was more "well..... I tried .....way too hard". I had some absolutely primo blunder years material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Telling men to 'be kinder to each other' is quite hypocriticalYou are very wrong on this. It's not a choice. To say that someone could choose to be gay implies that gay people could just choose to be straight as well. Which is offensive and is the philosophical idea behind gay conversion therapy. When I was in my early 20's, I actively tried to be bi. Not because I had trouble getting women, but because I was super goth/punk, and a good majority of my friends were queer. Enough people had called me faggot growing up that I thought maybe they were right. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 04:04 PM |
| 4 | If all men prefer young women what should wifed up women do after the age of 40?I can't speak for this guy or anyone but myself, but I will absolutely have wife goggles when my wife hits 40. That said, she's 38 now and she is objectively attractive and gets hit on constantly so it's not like the goggles have much work to do. She's pretty fucking amazing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Isn’t it immature and weird for a woman to be turned off by a man voicing his sexual desires first instead of physically trying them?It's because women aren't a monolith. They all have their own preferences and styles for how they prefer to be approached. There is no universal right way. Rather than get stuck in the weeds of arguing about if the statistical majority of women do or don't like verbal communication when it comes to sex, just decide what approach works for you and self select for the type of woman who is reciprocal to it. One of my biggest gripes with the red pill is that it touts itself as universal advice with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Women are hypocritical for rejecting coffee datesI see your point, but I don't think anyone here is talking about Chad or kissless Billy. They are talking about fuckboy Joey. Fuck boy Joey does OK with women. He's not a 10 that can just invite a girl over and get laid, but he is decently successful at dating. Fuck boy Joey wants to be what you think Chad is and doesn't actually want a relationship, so rather than inviting 5 girls to his house or one to a 3 course dinner, he invites 50 women to coffee. He doesn't want a relationship, just sex, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/24 02:06 PM |
| 7 | Women are hypocritical for rejecting coffee datesRegardless of weather or not it's hypocritical, and even though as others have pointed out, some women are chill with coffee dates, it's a weak opening move. Another guy explained the reason that coffee dates don't get a good reaction about a decade ago, and I think it made sense. It's not that coffee dates are too cheap, it's that they are too low key. Hear me out. I know we are looking for low stakes, and fairly low key, but a first date should also be some what interesting. It's well known, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/24 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.You're not wrong about the actual root cause of the linguistic shift. It is definitely a result of the left becoming mainstream and not a coordinated effort by anyone, but it's still fascinating to look at as a cultural observer. The only thing you're wrong about, is saying that the rigidness of the left is a new thing. It's not. For as long as I can remember the left has always had a huge problem with self destruction. There is no unity among the various splinter groups on the left. The left ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.You make some very good points. No one is a perfect paragon of correctness, especially when different interest groups cross each other. Myself for example, I'm most invested and passionate about women's issues and queer issues, so when those interests butt heads with other cultural interests, I side with the things I'm most passionate about. I'm sure you could think of an example where I would step across lines that would get me labeled as some sort of phobic to defend those other interests. Tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 01:40 PM |
| 3 | There’s really no point to every man doing self-improvement because women have relativist attraction. There will always be a hierarchy of reshuffling winners and losers even if men have objectively raised the floor.I don't think that's surprising. E-sports pros grind the same game for ridiculous amounts of time to be best in the world. I highly doubt that the games they play are even fun for them anymore. That sort of locked in grind is the same mind set and self discipline that's needed for fitness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.Did I ever say we were nonconformist? I know a lot of punks would disagree with me, but counter culture is pretty conformist in general. I try to be brutally honest about what the punk lifestyle really was/is, the good and the bad. Punk is definitely conformist. Isn't every niche culture? Why shouldn't we be? I came to punk the way most people do, by not fitting in to begin with. I tried.... Desperately.... To fit in when I was much younger, but failed miserably. I didn't grasp masculinity well … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.I never would have guessed....you? Unkind to trans folk? What an unexpected surprise. I do hope that. The damage your side has done to the supreme Court is already profound, and I'm pretty sure any American with half an oz of brains or humanity hopes the same thing. I'm pretty insulated regardless at this point though. I'm a white, straight, cis, male, married, home owner with my own business. I'm well known and well liked in my community. Unless your team resorts to straight up arresting people… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.Nothing's stopping you from enjoying the same stand up comedy as has always been around. Oh shit though.... Your right.... Things were way better when people found punching down funny.....when people regularly yelled faggot at me in the street for daring to wear eye liner.... I'm sure they were just joking.....funny funny times back then..... The good old days when Chappelle could make millions mocking trans folk because people thought it was a funny joke.... The people who tried physically assa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.So am I. I agree that the world is getting softer. It already has become softer, and in my book that's a good thing. There's no reason the world should be hard just for the sake of being hard. Fuck you and your ilk who want to turn back the clock. It's too late, you lost. The cat is not going back in the bag, bring on the fucking softness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 09:02 PM |
| 0 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.That's...ahh... Quite a take there buddy. I disagree that right wingers becoming the new edge lords is directly tied to woman's suffrage, but maybe, in the most round about way possible, my theory is similar to yours, but from the opposite view. Historically, the left wing has always had the grasp of coolness, but the right wing served as arbiter of what was normal and acceptable in society. Over the past 10 to 20 years, that has changed. People in general have become kinder, more accepting, les… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.Ahhhhh, I see what you were saying before. Yeah, it's not so much like it was exclusively punks. I guess I should expand my statement to the general counter culture youth. There was always a ton of over lap between the punk scene, the goth scene, the general alternative scene, even the indie scene, so I tend to block it all off under one umbrella, but yeah, I think we're on the same page. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.Fair point. I'm biased because it's the counter culture I came up in, so perhaps I give it too much credit. I personally would argue that punk was the first counter culture to take being intentionally offensive to the level it's at today, but that the angry, self alienating spirit was carried into it by the many previous counter cultures that came before it, probably most strongly from beatnik and other jazz cultures. I think it skipped right over the hippies for the most part, they wanted to we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 04:30 PM |
| 10 | Much of the disconnect in discourse here arises from women's lack of social awareness and inability to parse online male communication.This is actually one of the things that pisses me off the most about the right leaning manosphere. I am an old punk and the punk culture that I came up in had the same communication style, and still does in it's own ways. In the 90s and and early 2000s (well after the "back when punk was dangerous" days of the 70s & 80s) punk was way more gratuitously offensive. Doing or saying things to get a reaction out of people was like a sport. It also served to scare away people that didn't understand the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 12:55 PM |
| 2 | Who are you picking?I'm not the person you're replying to, I'm a guy and I'm not Ace, but I have friends that are. There are different.... How do I word this.... Levels or flavors of asexuality out there. Think of asexuality not so much as a single spectrum, but as two spectrums grouped together, one representing sexual desire and attraction, the other representing romantic desire and attraction. People can be asexual romantics (low to none on the sexual desire spectrum, normal to high levels in the romantic desire… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Who are you picking?I think you're both right. From what it looks like, he IS suffering from some form of body dismorphia, and is suffering from mental health issues. Making these kinds of posts won't be help, especially in a sub like this that is full of aggression, bitterness, and bad faith arguments. It doesn't hurt anyone but him either. That doesn't invalidate your points though. All of the things you mentioned very likely are the root causes of the said dismorphia, especially the treatment of dick size in the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 01:04 PM |
| – | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.Ignore my delete. I responded to the wrong comment. Agreed that it's a stupid and ineffective way to go about a relationship or anything else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 03:58 PM |
| – | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.I wouldn't use the same words, and my reasoning has nothing to do with getting back at women, expecting transactional sex, or even changing the dating landscape, but sure I guess. I just don't think people should allow themselves to be used and scammed. It doesn't benefit anyone. It doesn't increase the guy's chances of getting with her, it likely hurts his ability to get with other people. It doesn't help women, it just perpetuates the mentality that women in general are gold diggers and increa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.So. I'm on your side on this one, it's not a need that is any one else's responsibility to fill. That said, you actually can get physically desensitized from jerking it too much, which won't happen with actual sex. Not because of anything psychological or from getting bored, but even with lube, masterbation stimulates different areas of the penis than sex would. Poor jerking technique, like gripping it too hard, can result in difficulty maintaining an erection during penetrative sex because the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 01:02 AM |
| 12 | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.If any one asks you to pay their phone bill and you don't want to.... Don't. I'm pretty far to the blue pill side, but are ... Are you guys seriously paying women's bills before a relationship has moved past the point that you're regularly sleeping together? Unless you're in a real, serious relationship there is no reason you should be paying someone else's bills. Pay for a date, sure treating someone to dinner or a movie or something is reasonable, it's also perfectly fine to go Dutch, or to al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 12:34 AM |
| 2 | The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all.That's some heavy stuff to get over. Summer must be particularly bad for you. You have my sincere empathy. I know things have changed and body mods have become more acceptable in general, but as a 30 something as well, I'm from the same generation where they were not socially ok. If it helps, part of the reasoning for doing it comes from the same place that fuels your disgust, which I imagine is also coupled with fear (not of the person, but of what associating with the person could cause others… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 05:52 PM |
| 2 | The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all.You would NOT like me in real life, lol. I'm covered in tattoos and piercings. I get it though, I'm not for everyone, and I completely understand how if they gross you out conceptually, it could be difficult to even be friends with someone like me due to being distracted by seeing (or trying to avoid seeing) the things that grosses you out no matter how nice or fun I may be. You can't help what makes you feel gross, so I take no offense. I hear you in regards to the angry phase. A lot of the peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 03:11 PM |
| 5 | The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all.Partially agreed. Not matching up with the reality of what a person can get can definitely cause people to adjust them, or they can choose not to and be alone. Both options happen sometimes, and what option someone goes down is just their personal choice. Neither option is wrong per se. Sometimes, standards and tastes change on their own and there is no reality check involved. Even if you get people who are up to your standards regularly, they are still likely to change over time. People natural… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 04:50 PM |
| 6 | The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all.That's a good point, lol. I used quotation marks because one person's fat is another's average, but I was also inconsistent with my use of quotes, and forgot that I had started out with them by the time I finished writing my comment. Looking back, I think I am also confused by my own use of "fat" here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 04:37 PM |
| 21 | The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all.Right? This whole conversation is stupid. All standards are by their very concept personal. There is no such thing as having too high standards. If someone isn't attracted to "fat" women, then they shouldn't date them, if they don't like kids then they shouldn't date someone with kids. It doesn't matter if they are rich, poor, fat, slim, ugly, or handsome. If someone doesn't meet their standards, they shouldn't date them. No one should be in a relationship where they are ashamed of their partner… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 02:10 PM |
| 5 | Why is this sub so puritanical? Why no recreational drug use at all?Completely disagree. It's super controversial. Tons of people love vice. I love vice and find it extremely attractive. I personally find "purity" and innocence very off putting. I am like your opposite. I find religion reprehensible. I would turn down a girl for still being a virgin, even if she was down to go to bed right away, because I do not want the pressure of being her first or teaching her how to do adult things. I like a partner who knows what she wants and can articulate how she wants … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Why "just date someone from your social circle" is often poor advice for nerdy, socially awkward, sexless men and why cold-approaching as many women as possible is betterWhy not both? I see no reason you can't cold approach people at appropriate locations while also building a new friend group that would expand your social possibilities. Dating strategies aren't exclusive. You can could approach at bars, build a larger social group, work on yourself, hit the gym/find a better job/work on you're style, try new hobbies, work on being comfortable and confident with being yourself publicly, all at the same time. Why put all your eggs in one basket in regards to dati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkI completely disagree with you. There is nothing predatory about hiding that you don't drink. If you're specifically targeting people that are so drunk that they are incapacitated, or using non-alcoholic drinks to try and increase it speed up someone else's drinking to get them drunk then THAT is predatory, but it doesn't become less so if you're also drinking. Not drinking does not make non predatory, consensual sex predatory just like being drunk doesn't make predatory behavior any more ok. Be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Women's high standards are mostly talkNot really. People care way less if you drink then you think, if you're not going to judge them for drinking. The sprite trick is more for people that feel out of place or self conscious about the fact that they're in a bar but not drinking. If not drinking in a drinking spot makes you self conscious that will affect your confidence, how well you socialize, and how much fun you have. The sprite trick is more for tricking yourself into being at ease, than tricking other people into thinking you'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 04:57 PM |
| 5 | Women's high standards are mostly talkThat's fair, however, I would argue that different bars all attract their own specific demographic. The demographic that you find at a trendy night club on the main strip of a city is not the same demographic you will find at the dive where the local punks and hipsters drink, which won't be the same as the Irish pub down the way, which won't be the same as the country western bar. The key is to find the bar that has a scene that fits the demographic that you jive with. Unless the demographic you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 10:12 PM |
| 11 | Women's high standards are mostly talkYep. The things is, most adults drink, even if it's just a bit, and when they socialize and are open to meeting new people is when they want to have a drink as well. These people complain that there's no place to meet people that doesn't involve drinking, but even if someone made a place like that, most people wouldn't go. It's tough if you don't like to drink, but nothing is stopping you from ordering a sprite with a slice of lime (looks like a gin and tonic so you don't have to feel pressured … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Is "having a social circle or group" always a +1 ?Not to mention, and correct me if I'm wrong, but a lot of red pill/dating strategy is about numbers, yes? Like, the strategy isn't for me, I did just fine being my self, and I disagree with a lot of the elements that are inherent in its biggest proponents, but I don't like the average person, so I don't feel the need to appeal to them. I speak to my niche and that worked great for me, but I aknowledge that not every one is as lucky as me in regards to a lot of things. However, if we are working … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Is it really so bad if virgin guys are forced to go for women with experience?This is good advice for anyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Is it really so bad if virgin guys are forced to go for women with experience?Yeah. It sucks. This was not my personal experience, but I've seen it happen, mostly from the POV of female friends who are debating whether or not they want to take that leap with someone. I mean, it's not fair to ask a person, woman or man, to take on that burden if they are not comfortable with it, but it definitely puts most guys who are still a virgin past like 22 at a pretty step disadvantage, which especially sucks if they are already hyper fixated on getting laid and losing their virgini… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 07:26 PM |
| 0 | Is it really so bad if virgin guys are forced to go for women with experience?I think it goes even deeper than finding the energy unattractive. Because of the romanticized idea of virginity, and the importance that is socially attached to the person who was you're first, a lot of women I know would hesitate not because they find the person unattractive, but because they didn't want all the baggage that comes with being someone's first. Most women I know want to have sex before getting really serious with someone, because for most people sexual compatibility is a metric th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Why do non-religious people care about marriage?Accountant here. The tax benefits are pretty substantial and can result in a thousands of dollars per year in tax savings (or an increased refund). As was mentioned the ability to include you're spouse on insurance plans is also pretty big deal. Even if neither of you have insurance through an employer, the cost of an insurance plan on the marketplace for a married couple is significantly less than the insurance costs for two individuals. You also are able to combine credit and assets when apply… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/24 10:41 PM |
| – | ““I think it is you, the women who have had the most diabolical lies told to you,” - what are your thoughts on the Harrison Butker commencement speech scandal?I see. That makes total sense and I generally agree. There are some people that are very very lucky to enjoy their work enough that they would keep doing it (I'm not one of them, lol) but that is exceedingly rare. Even with people that really love what they do, I think most of them would still take that deal and put that passion into doing the same things but as a volunteer so they could do it their own way, on their own schedule without being beholden to anyone else's profit. Thanks for acknowl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 09:12 PM |
| – | ““I think it is you, the women who have had the most diabolical lies told to you,” - what are your thoughts on the Harrison Butker commencement speech scandal?There's still a major leap of logic you're making here. A woman who does not want to be a mother, does not like kids, or is not suitable to be a mother is still not going to want to be a mother even if she is paid. Some women who are on the fence but concerned about the economics of having kids might be more likely to step away from their jobs in order to become mothers if the financial risks and costs were lessened and subsidized, but not all women. In your scenario where the pay is given for d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 07:12 PM |
| – | Do you find overly political women (particularly super left leaning) a turn off?I think I follow your thought process. The politics don't make the person, but they can work as a gauge to see how well their goals are going to align with your own. In a way though, what I'm referring to as values you may be referring to as goals. Like if you want kids and want them to have a stay at home mom, having an LTR with a far left, child free, career driven woman in the hopes that she'll change is not going to help you achieve your goal. I think we're mostly saying the same thing thoug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 05:10 PM |
| – | Do you find overly political women (particularly super left leaning) a turn off?That seems like it's for best for both parties. A long term relationship between someone who is conservative leaning and someone who is far left leaning is going to be a bad time for both of them. People act like politics are just disagreements on government, but they go deeper than that. They likely bleed over into the person's beliefs about other things that are far more closely tied to lifestyle. Things like religion, gender roles and divisions, gender composition of friend groups, desire to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 03:59 PM |
| 2 | How often does being the “backup plan” lead to a successful new relationship?I agree with you. I also don't think relationships are as calculated as people in this sub make them out to be. I've definitely met people that seemed interested while I was in a mediocre relationship and thought "if only the timing were different". At the time I was too afraid of being single to leave a functional but unfulfilling long term relationship, that lead to things being way worse in the end but that's another story. That said, what I think of as being a plan b is the same thing other … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 12:49 PM |
| 4 | How Much appeal does being a Policeman give you?God damn! U.S. guy over here, I absolutely hate the cops, and everything they stand for, but guaranteed retirement after 15 years? I'd be jumping in line to join the academy. 25 years? Nah I'll stay in accounting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/24 01:14 AM |
| 2 | What is your most arbitrary “deal-breaker” when contemplating a serious relationship w/someone?I have a shit ton. Not liking at least some of the same types of music I like. Not being into punk/goth/alternative culture of some type. Believing in any type of god whatsoever. Wanting kids. Following or expecting me to follow traditional gender roles. Not being ok with moderate recreational drug use. Being anywhere but left of the Democrats on the political spectrum. Being a picky eater. Being submissive in bed. Pretty much they all boil down to this. if you're normal, not a part of a subcult… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/24 07:50 PM |
| 1 | The terms boys will be boys and man up are very misunderstood and not harmfulCome to Buffalo. The bills Mafia is open to all genders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 09:47 PM |
| 2 | The Myth of Tradlife and TradwivesThat's a nice wish. I wish the ones in real life the best too. May they all have a bit of Kimmy Schmidt realness enter their lives. That said, on the other hand, I wish they would make a dark humor based sitcom about 30 plus year old ex Mormon women living in their cars. They could all be parked in the same lot, like a little tiny car town. Different parking lots could have different groups of car people to act as foils or antagonists. Imagine a rumble between the ex mormons that park at the Ral… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 05:04 PM |
| 4 | Why are men like this?Not everything has to be productive. Sometimes it can just be fun. Going to shows, drinking and dancing with my wife, checking out bars, it's all just fun. Likewise, publicly ridiculing those who behave badly is also, just good clean fun. Being drunk doesn't make must people immune to ridicule, the real fun is in doing it loudly enough that other people join in pressure them out of the place. I suppose the reaction of other bystanders is dependent on the scene. I'm an old punk, and I'll be the f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 03:38 PM |
| 3 | Why are men like this?Dude, fuck off. People can complain about annoying, douchebag behavior if they want to. The behavior is annoying. It warrants complaints. Obviously complaining is not going to fix the problem, creeps are gonna creep and ass holes are going to stink, but that doesn't mean we should just cede these places to the idiots and assholes. They don't have some sort of ownership of adult social spaces. We shouldn't reward the behavior by giving shit birds run of everywhere fun. We should punish the behavi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Why are men like this?You've got to be trolling. You're seriously saying my wife and I should not attend concerts of bands we listen to regularly, bars with friends, or public social events where alcohol is served all together due to the chance that some douchebag is going to hit on her? We should just stay home and watch movies every night for the rest of our lives? Being in a relationship with you sounds like it would be the most boring existence imaginable. Why should we sacrifice doing things we want to do and go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 01:48 PM |
| 1 | I think some people here undermine the fact that attraction can grow on an individualTotally get that. If a woman is intentionally acting like she wants more when she doesn't, than that's not a friend either. It's a woman being a manipulative ass hole, and that's something both genders are definitely capable of. My policy has always been that people get one shot at that shit. Like if some is being overtly flirty, and I put out resources to try and reciprocate it in an attempt to turn it into something more, but the answer is no because x reason (I haven't broken up with my shitt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 07:10 PM |
| 0 | Can you provide actual examples of what you guys claim to be the bluepill ?That's fair and fine for you. Maybe it fits better and closer to your regular personality. I know it wouldn't fit for me. I don't like the amount of misogynistic rhetoric that is involved, I don't like the sweeping generalities about all of any group, and I don't like the traditionalist narrative that it takes. I am not an average guy, I'm a bit effeminate, most people think I'm gay on a first impression, I hate kids, I'm anything but stoic, I despise religion and right wing politics. my taste i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 01:15 PM |
| 2 | I think some people here undermine the fact that attraction can grow on an individualMy point is if you consider yourself stuck in the friend zone then you are not actually a friend. Making the "friend zone" a complete misnomer. The being creepy part isn't because she isn't attracted or because of some innate difference in the person. It's the behaviour as judged by an outside third party. The continuation of effort after you have discovered that she isn't attracted to you in the hopes that that she will change her mind is creepy. Trying to set yourself up to be a beta settle do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 12:11 PM |
| -2 | Can you provide actual examples of what you guys claim to be the bluepill ?There aren't any because no one is saying any of those things. As you said, it's a straw man. I think there is also some misunderstanding (whether that's intentional or not) on the red pill side that adds to it. The real blue pill is literally just people are people, and each individual has their own preferences and doesn't act in some predictable manner in accordance to the laws of their gender. But the blue pill is framed as the opposite of the red pill. Therefore to the red pill it must be th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 05:51 AM |
| 2 | I think some people here undermine the fact that attraction can grow on an individualThe question then becomes do you want to be friends with them? If not then go ahead and turn down that offer. If you do, treat her like any other friend. Why would friendship entail being used? Unless you're still trying to make it something it's not and putting in an abnormal amount of resources and energy in for a friendship (what OOP would refer to as trying to force things) You're only able to get used if you allow it to happen. Do you drop bank rolls on your male friends? Do you take them o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 05:09 AM |
| 2 | I think some people here undermine the fact that attraction can grow on an individualPersonally, I don't think that you even need to keep that separation. I have ended up dating quite a few women that I started out as just friends with. I do think your straight forward attitude on it is a good way to be though. It's different from my personal way of being, but it's a totally valid and non shitty way of going about things. My thought is that just being friends is fine, even if you catch a crush, if she isn't into it and you don't dedicate yourself to some misguided attempt to cha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 03:07 AM |
| 4 | I think some people here undermine the fact that attraction can grow on an individualThe friendzone doesn't exist. If a man approaches and is honestly ok with being just friends, even if he would be interested in more, it's not the friendzone, it's just a friendship. It could be more, but it's ok that it's not, because adults can handle not having everything their way and still enjoy someone's company. If he is trying to be friends only because he wants to get into your pants then he's not actually your friend, he's just a guy trying to creep on you. You don't complain about bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/24 11:56 PM |
| 7 | What is causing gen z men to be "pill theory" obsessed?I like your theory on this. I'm an old punk guy, and my arguments usually fall on the blue pill side. When I was younger I was more goth/androgenous, most of my friends were various weirdos and people with various personality disorders. Now I'm old and most of my friends are weirdos or some variation of queer (they're chosen label, not an insult). I think you're right. It's still just the same. In middle school it was goths vs. preps. In highschool it was weirdos and liberals vs. Rich and popula… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/24 03:01 PM |
| 3 | What is causing gen z men to be "pill theory" obsessed?I don't know why, but this comforts me. I was a late college graduate at 37, and it seemed to me that kids don't party the way we used to. They do not do drugs or drink at the intensity and frequency that we did at that age. It makes me happy that at least they are still fucking like we used to. Maybe the kids are gonna be alright. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/24 02:50 PM |
| 5 | If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up?I'm a man, my dude, and this is how I view dating, so nice try on the sweeping generalization. I'd say most people get on my nerves. Can I get along with them? Sure. I'm civil, outgoing, I'll talk to anybody who approaches me. I'm very friendly. But that doesn't mean I like them or would want to voluntarily spend more time with them than I have to. I've known plenty of very attractive women who I could absolutely not be in a relationship with because of their personalities. There's even women th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 05:29 AM |
| 2 | If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up?Can you? I certainly can't. I can't vibe with just any dude as a friend, why would I be able to vibe with just any woman as more than that. And I mean, if you're asking why you can't get with the type of woman you want, it doesn't sound like you're able to vibe with them. If you're just looking to pull, then sure, that can be a numbers game, but if you're looking for a long term relationship that's actually good, you need more than a warm body with opposing genitals. You need to have personaliti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 05:18 AM |
| 0 | If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up?First of all, a job isn't a human being with it's own desires and emotions who wants to be valued on it's own merits. Also, last I checked, not having a girlfriend didn't prevent you from having a place to live or enough to eat, but ok, I'll bite. When you're applying for a job, do you send your resume to every single open position that pays what you're looking for? Or do you look for ones that you have the qualifications for and where you would actually be a good fit in the workplace? I'm not s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 03:51 AM |
| 3 | If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up?I don't interpret this as give up. I interpret it as stop thinking about it so much and be patient. Look at it this way, there is plenty of good self improvement advice in here about being the best you, you can be, but that's not a promise of immediate results. Changing this or improving that isn't going to be a sudden game changer, and if you're doing it just to attract women, you're going to be looking for results and judging whether or not it worked. That's not to say taking the advice and im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 03:07 AM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.The definition of charity, from the Oxford dictionary is as follows: ”the voluntary giving of help, typically in the form of money, to those in need." The key word is voluntary. With charity, we are depending on the good will of others to voluntarily give. Taxes used to care for the vulnerable are not charity because they are not voluntary. This is taking about the state, using it's force to take money, involuntarily, from those who have it in order to use it to care for the vulnerable. It may n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 04:41 PM |
| 0 | Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix datingI think the end of the third question is the one that's important here. "If I don't judge people"! If you don't judge people for not fitting your preferences, then I don't see any problem with having them. Technically, anyone has a right to mock anyone about anything, but if a person isn't a dick about people not fitting their preferences, then it's a dick move to mock them for it. For example, preferring a low n-count woman is fine if you don't slut-shame or get mad about the fact that other pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 07:48 PM |
| 2 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.Can we all agree that being a different person then advertised is a metaphor? Obviously I don't think they literally are a different person. But just to clarify, what I mean is " you are incredibly beautiful, would you do me the honor of allowing me to take you on a date? No? You filthy STD ridden cow! I hope you die alone, go eat another Whopper you fucking jizz crusted ham planet! Who would ever actually want to take you out?" Both parts are bad ( even the initial ask is cringey. The putting o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 10:23 PM |
| 3 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.In my personal opinion, what makes the difference in the two cases, and how they are viewed by outsiders, is how the guy reacts after being rejected. If the response to bring turned down is to accept it, move on, and reel themselves in a bit then they wouldn't be considered a ™nice-guy, they would just be a nice person who is maybe overly generous, but not worthy of judgement. In this scenario most people would feel empathy for them, especially if it was actually a case of being led on. Everyone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Why Should Men Accept Women After Their "Change"?The fact that your response was to try and find out why or if it really is unethical because you care about her happiness rather than getting defensive over the accusation speaks volumes about you as a person/partner. We probably disagree on many things relating to over all sexual dynamics, but that response alone tells me that despite that you are a stand up guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/18 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: Would you ever date a relatively inexperienced man if you liked him otherwise?The question just seemed concerned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/18 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Would you ever date a relatively inexperienced man if you liked him otherwise?There are other ways, outside of sex, to improve confidence and self image, though I understand they may not apply to every part of your life. I don't want to speak too far out of turn, as a guy who lost his virginity early, so if any women would like to chime in and correct me, please do, but the following is my personal take on all of this. Right now you are asking on an anonymous message board, one that is often ripe with conflict on social/sexual/gender issues, so guards are up. People try t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/18 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: Would you ever date a relatively inexperienced man if you liked him otherwise?I think what she (and others in this thread are saying) is if it progressed to that point naturally, it would not be an issue. The reason they are doubtful that they would date a virgin is not sexual performance or prowess in the bedroom not being developed, its because of the personal flaws that likely causes the continued virginity in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/18 07:58 PM |
| 1 | What Happens When Your Wife/GF Catches On to TRP?Like licking a window, lol. Mostly like nothing. I'd compare eating a lightbulb to eating very sharp very thin ice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/18 10:34 PM |
| 1 | What Happens When Your Wife/GF Catches On to TRP?Freak show acts in general are like that. My other acts include swinging a bowling ball from a large gauge septum ring (real, and slightly painful, but not as bad as it sounds), the human bulletin board (allowing people to staple tips to my body (dollar value indicates what part, again real, and painful, but not as much as you would expect)), walking/jumping on broken glass (real trick that's based on technique of how you step, where you step, and knowledge of the correct type of glass, wine bot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/18 06:33 PM |
| 2 | What Happens When Your Wife/GF Catches On to TRP?There's a trick to lightbulb eating. I've done it in a side show act. It's real, but it's not really because of a strong digestive ability or anything like that. It follows the first rule of the side show: what your seeing is real, but it looks way worse than it is. First things first, the choice of light bulbs is VERY important. It has to be an old, CLEAR GLASS, filliment style bulb. If the bulb is white, there is a coating of (I don't remember, I think phosphorus, but don't qoute me) on the in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/18 03:30 PM |
| 1 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?Not that there's anything wrong with an Irish goodbye, but not really what I meant. Think more along the lines of (two or more people) "wouldn't it be bad ass if someone jumped in the fountain" and then saying fuck it and being the first one jumping in the fountain? It's a lame example, but you get my drift. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/17 05:55 PM |
| 1 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?That is actually pretty interesting. I feel the opposite. If I'm face to face I talk fine, because I have to just do it and not think too much, but if I'm writting online, I will reread, edit, second guess, re edit, delete it all and start again, re read, edit again, and then, maybe, post it. This is my third time rewritting this reply and I said pretty much nothing of consequence. How would you rate your ability to just act with out thought? To look at a situation and just say to yourself, fuck… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/17 05:32 PM |
| 1 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?I feel you on the posture for sure, lol. Your written communication skills seem really well honed. Was that more natural to learn? Or is it because it allows time to think, re read and craft a response? Do you think the immediate nature of vocal communication is part of what makes it more difficult? Is your written vocabulary the same as you would use in day to day conversation? Im not autistic, so my understanding is peripheral, but I am anxious, clingy, and sort of creepy when I'm single. I'm … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/17 02:34 PM |
| 1 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?I can see what your saying there. I think how people talk is probably a bigger factor than anyone thinks. Part of that does fall into personality. For example if someone is unable to talk about interests outside of their own, that's a personality flaw. Do you think that people who suffer from that sort of bad vibe could be taught better communication techniques? I understand the disconnect in reading social cues, but sociopaths who have no emotions can learn the technical aspects of body languag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/17 09:04 PM |
| 1 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?I don't know if your agreeing with me that some people just are not any fun to be around and that it's acceptable that they are alone because they repulse people, or that you are saying yes it's unfair that they don't have any romantic success and that it's the rest of the world's obligation to accept them. But as you said, some people just have personalities that repulse people (both men and women) and if you are saying that it is someone's responsibility to bite the bullet and be with them des… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/17 07:26 PM |
| 1 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?Exactly. I sometimes think that we should bring back/update finishing school. I feel like the ability to properly socialize, is a teachable skill. Autism would make it harder to learn because there is a disconnect in how to read other people/emotions but it still is possible (this is of course leaving out severe autism where sufferers are nonvocal, or unable to care for themselves). Sociopaths lack emotions, but they are able to learn in a more scientific sense that when this muscle twitches thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/17 07:16 PM |
| 1 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?I am unsure of exactly what you mean by physical quirks. Like ticks, physical habits/motions/actions, that type of thing? Or physical deformities/handicaps? Either way I wouldn't consider those a part of personality. They are more coping mechanisms or they are involuntary. They certainly would present an obstacle, but there are a lot of people who would be able to look past things like that. What I am referring to as personality are things more like sense of humor, expectations, how they treat o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/17 06:58 PM |
| 4 | when you talk about "men getting laid easily", do you mean without going out, approaching trying and playing the numbers game?I hate to sound ableist, but I mean in these cases, is it really unfair. I'm lead to believe, if you have all that going for you, and your doing.... anything, than your personality has to literally be so insufferable that no one can stand to be around you. In which case why would any one feel a women, or any other human, should be obligated to be involved with them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/17 05:50 PM |
| 1 | TBP = anti-systemetization?More that a haggis isn't all that big. Its about the size of a large grapefruit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/16 02:31 PM |
| 2 | TBP = anti-systemetization?I know a place in buffalo NY where you can get REAL haggis once a year on burns night. A certain friend travels to scottland annually and smuggles it back to the states inside of his bagpipe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/16 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Men of PPD, what would it take for you to date or even marry a single mother?I'm normally way on the blue side of life, but I'm also very child free. So I have to say there's nothing that would make me date a single mother short of putting her child up for adoption. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/16 03:34 PM |
| 9 | Women aged 40+ are now having more kids than women under 20. Implications?I'll bite. How about the Netherlands? Clean group D. No restrictions on female sexuality in the entire region of countries, and they are topping every list for quality of life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/16 08:34 PM |
| 1 | A survey on sexual perspectives and experience.What is your pill - blue Do you have casual sex semifrequently - I'm married, so not anymore, but previously somewhat semi frequently, say monthlyish? Have you had a one night stand - yes Have you been to a night club - yes often Have you been drunk - yes, frequently Have you done drugs - yes daily, and a wide assortment of different drugs. Shortest time between meeting someone and sex - 2 hours Do you lift - no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/16 10:53 PM |
| 0 | Q4RP: Does every man need TRP?What about men who get their rocks off by being emasculated? Who do you think consumes femdom porn, women? I find the dichotomy of kink and gender politics interesting. If a man is sexually gratified via his own submission, and is going out and getting that, is is alpha or beta? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/16 08:13 PM |
| 2 | [Question for men] What is AWALT about you?First background. I am a 30, married, straight, cis white, male, and vary blue pill. I wouldn't call myself a beta, but definitely not an alpha, I don't really consider myself anything, but if we're keeping a frame work of pill terminology, I guess I'd be somewhere between beta and omega. Have you ever left one women for another? Kind of. I used to be a bit of a coward and would stay with people way longer then I should have or wanted to. I usually would leave someone I was no longer happy with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/16 10:17 PM |
| 1 | How do you account for the "x factor"?Humans. We're all hopeless. Every last sad one of us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/16 01:43 AM |
| 2 | How do you account for the "x factor"?There are men who are not attracted to any women ever. I don't even just mean homosexuals, but honestly asexual men. They don't find anyone attractive. You could give my friend brian a choice between a night in bed with any man or women on the planet or a two day old unrefrigerated ham and cheese sandwich and he'd take the sandwich. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/16 11:39 PM |
| 1 | [poll for everyone] what percentage of your friends are not your gender?Male Blue Married straight 30 and I'd say above average number of friends Extrovert I'd say 40% women 40% gay men 20% straight men There's a few women i'd be attracted to if I were single, but not many | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/16 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?This is actually exactly what I was getting at. I understand this perfectly in the logical half of my brain. My kinks color my politics (fortunately as I mentioned before, I plan on avoiding positions of authority, and am not active in anything political) to the point where I don't know what's an honest judgement of a situation and what's my fantasy taking over. It makes me question the authenticity of my support, like the political equivalent of someone who goes to depression support groups bec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?I won't disagree with you there. It probably isn't a good thing how deeply my kinks color my world beliefs. I for one, am releaved that I'll never seek or occupy a position of political power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?No. I am 6ft 1in. Just taller by an inch. Unless she has platforms on (mmmmmm) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?It would. She is larger then a lot of people would prefer. Not a land whale, and vary proportional to her frame. she is a size 18, but she is also 6 ft tall. She carries 90 percent of weight in her ass (which is right where I like it). I've always liked bigger girls (not obese, just bigger, curves in the hips and ass are hypocritic to me). I've had women of all sizes and found out what I like from experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?Sorrey. Fixed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:45 PM |
| 2 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?Thanks. Fixed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?I don't think desiring women is misogynistic, I don't really think there's anything wrong with what I am or do. Those on the more extreme side of blue, I would imagine, would disagree because although I'm not hurting anyone, I'm sexualizing an entire movement, and objectifying pretty much everyone in it, weather they like it or not. Not that its in my control, I over analyze and sexualize just about everything. I've just always found the dichotomy interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?I used this sub not to self flagilate, I just wanted both perspectives. I tend to follow both blue and red subs (one because I agree, one because I like to watch drama) and felt like I somehow had things antithetical to both subs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Blue pill for the wrong reasons?Yes I can. Just give me a few minuets. I was on mobile and it looked formatted. I'll hop over to pc and fix it. Thanks for letting me know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/16 05:19 PM |
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