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FIELD REPORT UpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:04 AM
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FDS HUMORUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:42 AM
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STRATEGYUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:28 PM
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FDS MEMESUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:00 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:00 AM
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SEX STRATEGYUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:17 AM
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FDS MEMESUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:16 PM
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NAH, SISUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:20 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨UpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:27 PM
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#JustHVMThingsUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 11:16 AM
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LEVEL UPUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:20 AM
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LEVEL UPUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:04 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:41 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨UpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:51 AM
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DISCUSSIONUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:35 AM
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DUMP HIS ASSUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:01 AM
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QUICK TIPUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 12:27 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨UpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:30 AM
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QUICK TIPUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:32 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYUpbeatIncubator/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 03:21 PM
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It's deffo a type. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:51 PM
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Thanks for this, it's pretty much consolidated some stuff I was wondering. His dad always has to be right and says what he is thinking even if it's stupid and not helpful. Nothing is ever good enough for his mum and she's got a lottt of opinions about others 💀💀💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:38 PM
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A boot up the ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:56 AM
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Agreed. It's too easy to get emotionally (or physically as we keep seeing) hurt, and it's just not worth it. No judgement, just worried about a girl's safety. It would be nice if girls could just hook up with no strings but that is not the world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:49 AM
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HAHAHA I've had this one too. Like you say, it's like 'why are you even noticing/ saying something??' so weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:14 AM
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Thanks for sharing. I had this one too. The thought processes of these guys is just weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:43 AM
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chicken pasta would be a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:27 AM
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I think the first time I said something (think it was the first time) he told me it was nothing to worry about and he was just observing it. The other times he phrased it in such a way where it was like 'oh what is that?'. It's really hard to commuincate how 'low-key' his comments were, and so that's why only on reflecting it's become obvious to me it was a pattern of behaviour. Think I was also trying to kid myself I didn't care what he said when he made dumb comments like that, so why should i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:26 AM
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Yeah I think a three strike rule is a good idea. Everyone says awkward shit now and again, but this definitely had a pattern to it. Thanks for your insights, sis! (also chicken pasta is amazing).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:11 AM
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THIS. lmaooooo. These guys I cannot. Good you gave him a dose of his own medicine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:03 AM
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Thanks <3 I feel like I've been conned my entire life with the you need a relationship narrative ngl. Because of that narrative it feels like the percentage of happy relationships and HVM should be way higher than it is. It's such a relief to see and realise as a woman in this century and this part of the world I can go without a man financially, legally and socially without something awful happening to me (makes me wonder if those were the reasons most women went along with the whole relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:01 AM
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Thank you for sharing. It's awful isn't it? Like you say, I wouldn't DREAM of ever pointing out something unless I was concerned for their health. Totally agree. I feel much more comfy now letting myself love myself just as I am, rather than just subconsciously waiting for the next 'point out' all the time. Done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:49 AM
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'there comes a time where you just gotta stop social distancing' and that time is when you get so desperate you'll risk your grandma dying to bang a ZVM 💀 NAWWWW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:05 PM
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Don't you stop the whole being mean to girls you like when you're 12?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:15 PM
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Trust me, this guy would have lasted maybe a year and a half if his heart wasn't 100% in it. The emotional toll of going through that and coming out the other side once she is stable and THEN still sticking is amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:05 PM
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I am doing great now, but it lowkey brings me out in a cold sweat to think how easily it could have happened. Some hard stuff came up which delayed the wedding which let me see how he was under pressure (hint: not good) and basically I got myself outta there. My rules are now do not marry anyone until they have been with you through something difficult and you have lived with them for two years. Period. So many guys just bail when things get difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:01 AM
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Yeah, they just want the ego trip. it's nothing about improving the situation, helping people improve themselves or holding up the truth. BIG PASS TIME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:04 PM
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This happened to meee *sad trombone sound* Minute they think you are theirs, them standards be like a slip and SLIDEEEEEE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:52 PM
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We all need diana energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:39 PM
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Be honest about them in some way and see how quickly that claim implodes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:00 AM
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This. And this is why in the past shitty men made sure we couldn't legally own stuff or get jobs that would mean we could afford to support ourselves. If they kept the road narrow, we were forced into doing whatever they wanted. Don't ever let women's rights slip, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:33 AM
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THIS. Omg, I did a double blink when I read that. It's so fucking childish. I CANNOT. EVEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:30 AM
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Omg, same. This is so common now. The woman does everything and the man is the shittest pet ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:07 PM
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Thanks for the book suggestion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:50 PM
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THANK GOD I WAS GETTING WORRIED THERE NGL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:36 PM
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You are what you eat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:35 PM
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I'm dead. This is too good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:32 PM
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Yeah, I won't deny it either but oh my gosh this is just so uncomfy to watch jfccc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:59 PM
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MY GUY. Why do people keep up these weird fantasies to themselves with how accepting and tolerant they are (a complete abuse of these words btw. Not being a doormat or wanting loyalty does not make you intolerant). This seems so dysfunctional and they are both insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:59 AM
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But girlssss remember one night stands and hook ups are totally fun and safe and empowering : ))))))))))))))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:44 AM
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I want to laugh and cry at this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:35 PM
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Why do I want to bother dating again? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:29 PM
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Then when it really goes to shit some days later when they have had their head stuck in the sand the whole time. 'Why didn't you say something?' lmaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:20 PM
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I am so glad to find other women have this experience. It's gaslighting pure and simple. 'I don't want an argument.'... like my guy, we are having a discussion that is slightly uncomfortable, but necessary, and I am on OUR side. How to tank your self esteem 101.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:05 PM
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Oh they can cry in porn, but only in that hot way. Puke. But yeah, any confrontation or raising of concerns is 'nagging'. I had this issue with my ex. He went to the perma defensive the minute I raised an issue and I had never ever raised my voice at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:01 PM
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THIS. Play it how it is, not how you want it to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:00 PM
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reminder: to these men you are and should be a warm sex doll, not a biological being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 12:27 PM
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*Minus yourself when you tap into proper self care and love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:33 AM
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The biggest breakthrough for me was letting go of how things should be or what I should have done. I had pickmeisha behaviour in my teens and early 20s. You shouldn't be hard on yourself -- from birth we have been sold so much bs about how women should be, not just from 'trad' sources, but from even the progressive side selling us shit like one night stands are good for you. Advertising and media is a whole other pile of crap too. It wasn't your fault at all, it just is. You are not any better o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:26 AM
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This is the issue, you can't ever know. He can lie about it. You might go as far as checking his devices, but he may have another you don't know about that he watches this shit on. Do you see the issue? You need to make peace with the fact you will never ever 100% know. I get this is uncomfortable, but that is how it is. The most you could do is get to know him a bit better and ask him what his views are on it, but then again you can't be sure he's telling the truth. He could tell you what you w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:16 AM
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Yeupp. The hard truth is that most men should be passed over by all women. I'm not denying these men their basic humanity when I say that (which is what scrotes try to suggest), I'm saying this for the welfare of the women who may have a relationship with him. If a man sorts his dysfunctions out, fine, but most never ever will nor will even acknowledge they have them. This is why it's so important to make peace with the idea of being single, otherwise you start bargaining your self worth and sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:16 AM
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They can only experience life in relation to them. It's that egotistical and shallow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:08 AM
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It's delusion and entitlement. It's all ego. And bingo, you got it so well in your last paragraph. This is why it's so important to spread the word of FDS with our sisters and remember by lowering our own standards and depth of self love we are making it harder for other women out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:07 AM
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It's sad, but it's reality. Supporting other women, honest self-reflecting and calling stuff out for what it is is the best we can do at the moment. The main thing is to realise is it isn't our fault, which like you say is the default at the moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:45 AM
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This so much. If you use someone else as a measure of your worth it always ends up fucked up. PERIOD. (edit: I also want to expand this. Not just boyfriends, but your teachers, family, peers, people at work. The sooner you unlearn your conditioning to be agreeable and make yourself 'worthy', the better your life will be. This isn't you being selfish, this is you prioritising your welfare and loving yourself. I highly suggest that everyone seeks out one of these self-esteem workbooks and take a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:44 AM
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I'm going to level with you sis. You won't ever be 100% sure about the fetishes or inner thoughts of any guy you ever date, ever. I'm not being a downer, that is just reality. It's a risk you take when you date anybody. How many times do you hear 'I never would of thought he'd do something like this' on this forum for relationship stuff when this sort of issue comes up? The best thing you can do is steer away from any major red flags -- teen porn (though tbh id steer away from any porn watchers …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:42 AM
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I've come to accept this and with no salt, just literally accepting REALITY, and I am getting to a point where I feel safer and more comfortable being single forever or potentially being in a relationship with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:05 PM
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Literally the only exception I can think of Napoleon when he was in Egypt. He declared that “everywhere, the rapist is a monster” and ordered that “anyone guilty of rape would be shot.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:30 PM
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Lemmie just fucking throw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:18 PM
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Sorry what these men have done to you. I wish you healing and happiness. I wanted to chime in on your comment as it resonated with me. 'I was abused and neglected by my pieces of shit parents, paedophiles can smell that a mile off and we become targets.' A woman I know said she grew up feeling like she had 'Abuse me' written on her forehead. It seemed like event after event of male abusive behaviour. It's so true. Paedophiles are literally predators. They look for easy targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:15 PM
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Yeah there's a reason you never heard about it. The USA are the good guys, remember? Armies try so hard to bury this shit. I'm proud that you searched it up by the way, thank you. I know its uncomfortable, but we need to acknowledge these atrocities. Anyone else who doesn't know, look it up. You owe it to the women, men and children who suffered to not deny their reality. It's purposely brushed aside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:58 PM
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Yeah, there are SO many instances throughout history where the 'liberators' rape the victims too. I don't know who I'd have faith in if my liberators treated me as bad as my captors. What is worse is these heros are still celebrated. Gross. There is nothing glorious about war. I had a friend who was young during stuff going nuts in Georgia (as in next to Turkey) in the 90s and he said he knew a guy who visited prositutes who would sell for a bottle of cola and some tomato/cheese bread. How the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:49 PM
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Or what the Americans did in the My Lai Massacre. Honestly the list would take up books if we were to consider all of human history, and that's just the stuff that was recorded. Humans have not fundamentally changed and that is why it's so important to be mindful about who you let into your life and to take action if anything threatens your freedom. There is so much joy and beauty in the world, but denying the ugliness is a recipe for disaster and denying a reality that many (espeically women an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:41 PM
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This. We need to remember it has never been goodies vs. baddies. Men in war are fucking awful. I read something about soviet soldiers raping women in a maternity ward and from then on you realise civility is a veneer for a lot of human beings. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:06 PM
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You are so much stronger than you think you are, sis. Acceptance from yourself and acknowledgement by others is such a crucial step forward in healing from this. Shower yourself with the love you deserve. I was groomed underage by an older man and I told my therapist some years later 'oh I've had 2 boyfriend after him, but he doesn't count.' She made me realise that I had to accept that he did count and he was once a boyfriend of mine. I find it so clear I was trying to minimise and not accept w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:32 AM
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You're so welcome, sis. Routine changed my life FOR REAL. Don't beat yourself up though if you miss stuff now and again, but try make yourself do that workout or eat that meal even if you don't 100% feel like it (you'll thank yourself afterwards). Soon you'll flow with it without even having to think about it. Sleep, good diet and excercise are the basics. Focus on those first before asking too much else of yourself x :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:24 AM
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I think a lot of it has to do with if the person can self reflect or not (which thankfully a lot of people can). If you're not willing to look at your own pattern of behaviour and weigh that up against your upbringing (bad or good), you are really liable to cause issues for other people if you are dysfunctional. Like you say though, for some it is so easy for them to excuse their own behvaiour.. but sometimes they just don't even want to look at their issues and it's the women who are trying to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:40 AM
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Breakups are painful. The pain won't kill you. Pain avoidance will make for a really unhappy life. The more you embrace pain and uncertainty, the less power it has over you. As for what else to do, I would put down a routine. Start even just a 10 min exercise daily or start a 30 day yoga challenge (this does wonders for mental health). To get you through the hump of this and settle your anxiety, maybe find a big chunky tv series and binge it. Make sure you eat well and sleep well. I would also s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:31 AM
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This. Plus, even if someone is damaged as a result of the above examples, it is not YOUR responsibility to fix them or make them a happy person. That is on them. Your wellbeing and safety comes first. One of my favourite sayings goes something like: 'You can't keep someone else warm by setting yourself on fire.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:24 AM
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Even worse than that he's being taught he can abuse, and it doesn't really matter. Not even if it's his own sister. It's like his parents are denying him the chance to embrace and process the fact he did wrong. They are more concerned about no fuss and LOOKING like good parents. It's so selfish of them. The whole thing is so sad and messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:20 AM
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See I wouldn't be so sure he would directly tell you. Maybe if he wants to appear strong and in control to you, he would see any potential issue with his dad as a sign of weakness and 'unmanly', so he would avoid it. To me that seems like a weak excuse, and hes still making his dad the main issue. I would be upfront with him about it. You not calling me is making me feel x. What is going on? Is there something you need or want to tell me? Please explain to me why you feel your dad is such an iss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:49 PM
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Honestly, and this is just gut feeling, I think he might be legit scared of his dad. The no boundaries when coming into his room is a BIG red flag. I wouldn't be suprised if there was more serious abuse going on if your bf is just 'no sorry, can't do it'. How old are you guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:40 PM
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Sorry for any misunderstanding, I didn't mean to suggest that's not what you meant by it, I meant it in how skewed a way they see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:24 PM
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I LOVE how this vibe is becoming more mainstream. No more toptoeing around LVM and NVM who can't take care of themslves properly and make it our job. You do not need a relationship to be a fulfilled person. It is icing on the cake. Never ever forget that and never let NVM take away that freedom from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:32 PM
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Spirituality and religion are completely different things (took me a while to get my head around this). In simplest terms its an awareness of being -- with it tends to come self enquiry, being grounded, empathy. I am really butchering trying to put this across, but it is not about believing God or ascribing to religion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:34 PM
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The sad thing is is that this kid KNOWS he did something awful and like you say instead of helping him face reality and mend the damage he has done, it's been brushed aside. These seeds of justification are literally what he needs to go to a therapist for so he can get them dissolved and be fully aware of his actions and then he can ensure he doesn't do harm to other women in the future. There is a slip of not 'fixing' this (I in no way wish to minimise the abuse the sister has faced), but heali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:29 PM
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Holy shit women's self worth needs to stop hinging off a dysfunctional male mind. These men are not well and their judgement is blitzed and ungrounded. Just because porn watchers make the vast majority of men now does not make it natural or right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:52 PM
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It's not even being merciful, it's full blown denial and self-serving. If they loved their kids they would seek therapy for all involved NOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:30 PM
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This. He needs to realise that that's not his call to make and that may be the case if he wants to face it or not. His parents need to wake the fuck up and let him get proper counselling for his dynsfunctional behaviour... what fucking planet are they on??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:29 PM
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Awesome. We see so many red flags that we forget the green ones. This is also a great key to use in self reflection and for self improvement. These are HVW traits too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:23 PM
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Honestly I despise nasty Pickmeishas more than shitty men. All women are your sisters. How could you? (Okay, maybe to clarify better I don't hate the woman, but I hate the state she is in -- I would have hoped that as a woman herself, she would identify better with a fellow sister. I think there has to be a level of responsibility as well, especially when it's to the point of trying to drive another woman to suicide, otherwise we might as well say no one has any free will. I think it goes withou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:08 AM
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Oh okay. Lemmie just do some acceptance and self reflection rn... 'Hey butthole' 'Yas, queen?' 'Scrote with mental backflip syndrome thinks you're too close to Vagina.' 'My queen, that sounds like a youproblem™.' 'C O R R E C T' A creature whose anus is near their vagina like lmaooo. What do you want instead? The magic portal birds have where it's their butthole and vagina at the same time? like whhhaaaat 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 08:54 AM
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Yup, it's horrific. It reminds me of weird boys teasing animals. Yikes Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:05 AM
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warning system... more like unintended self-protection system. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:00 AM
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AHHH, THE FIRST BLOOD OF THE HUNT. NOTHING LIKE IT. Yeeekies, and men wonder why women often describe their behaviour as predatory. IT'S A MYSTERY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:24 PM
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Do it. Even if she tells you to f- off, you could be the difference between a guy abusing her or not. She's clearly on the fence. Offer a sister a hand, even if she doesn't know it's best for her to take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:47 PM
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Like if she thinks this is what a decent guy looks like, I hate to think what a bad one is...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:42 PM
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'Gently requesting' 💀 Such a gentleman. She obviously has a gut feeling that it's not right for her. God, I want to shake her awake. Just makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:40 PM
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Great insights. Yeah, genuinely modest people are a wonderful energy to be around. They are excited about their subject, not themselves in relation to said subject. I've also found circles around big prizes/awards (esp literature and art) are similarly mega yikes magnets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:20 PM
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You must get a lot of interesting perspectives on this issue with your work. 'bigger the front, the bigger the back' I gotta remember that one, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:56 PM
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That's why they can't wait for those realistic AI sex dolls 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:49 PM
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I think I cringed into the shadow realm. What a pathetic man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:18 PM
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You're right, sis. That ain't fair on lemons :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:02 PM
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5) smash his Xbox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:58 PM
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DUHRHHHH EXCUSE ME. WHAT IS AN BOUNDARIES? Holy moly, this guy has the emotional IQ of a goddamn lemon. What a NVM. Also what a fucking control freak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:16 PM
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Every girl needs an irl FDS gang. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:15 PM
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Yeah exactly, it's my opinion. I never said you had to agree with it. I was merely voicing my concerns and how some people may interpret this message and the potential issues with it. I am well aware of sub rules, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:50 PM
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Eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. We don't need to play them like they played us. Of course they owe a lot, but their whole worth isn't defined by how they make a woman feel. That was what made me feel uncomfortable and it would make us hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:38 PM
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Oh yah them rights. I forgot it was their gender until super recently that could get raped in a marriage legally, couldn't own property, couldn't get an education, was purposely paid less for the same work. REAL HARD DONE BY TBH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:03 PM
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this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:35 PM
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All of modern media says so. Magazines, tv, adverts, talkshows, social media etc etc.. the whole idea that a main aspiration in life is to be famous. The whole thing is a trainwreck. Glad you see it for what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:28 PM
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Damn, that must have been a surreal experience. The cult of the celebrity is weird as fuck in itself. There are a bunch of authors I like espeically and out of interest I'll look at their twitter feed and 8/10 it is the most red flag and self-absorbed shit. An actor is NOT the nice guy in the film he was playing, an author or artist is NOT the embodiment that profound work you love. Like CEOs tend to be sociopaths, celebs tend to be off the rails too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:00 PM
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This idea that male celebs are default HVM is the biggest lie out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:52 AM
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Putting up with shit and going against your gut is not a sign of how much you love someone. We need to stop clouding 'tolerance' and 'understanding' and 'being realistic' with this misogynist, gaslighting bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:04 AM
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tmi, but probably was the most exciting thing about it for him. Fuck this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:57 AM
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This legit made me queasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:56 AM
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You never know someone. It is all projection (close to reality or nowhere near close). period. I feel for her so much. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:48 AM
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I make a point of telling my sisters, little cousins, younger girls that I am around that if they ever need anyone to talk to about something scary or weird they can ALWAYS come to me, no matter what it is or if they think they have done something wrong. So much abuse goes on for young girls because they feel they have no safe adult to talk to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:53 PM
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Please, talk about it if you have the time to here. I for one really want to hear your opinions and how you feel about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:38 AM
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To think women have died defending her right to have an opinion in the first place. Nice way to take a massive dump on the sisterhood. Classy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:32 AM
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When it comes to stuff life this, have a real think about who the intended viewer is. This isn't a thought, this is a public broadcast. On the surface it seems like it's meant to be directed at other women but it is 100000% meant to be seen by men and in the process appeasing them. For the pickmeisha, the whole life experience is seen through the narrow lens of male approval. It is so utterly fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:14 AM
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Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I have to agree about the porn. It has well and truly fucked over a generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:34 AM
14

This. It's been shown as well that women have higher emotional intelligence. That gut feeling means SOMETHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:15 AM
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A lot of women think that getting married = a transformational event for the man and so this is him showing he will commit to stepping up. NAH SIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:26 AM
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No one is perfect and we all have a past. What weak men want is for women to pick on each other and judge each other as this keeps us divded and weak. Here, as long as you own your shit (which you are) you deserve every happiness. I sincerely mean that. My biggest advice is facing it with acceptance. Trying to wish your past was otherwise will only make you more uncomfortable because that is not reality. I would highly suggest some CBT therapy and self esteem courses/ books. ​ Another tip: confe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:19 AM
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If there were no pickmes, we wouldn't have half the shit we do. Top tier brainwashing. Imagine valuing your appeal to ANY man over your safety or the safety of another woman. WHAT THE FUCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:15 AM
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Thanks for putting it so well, you are right. Women are expected to race to meet where men are not coming close enough. We are guilt tripped into it ugh. COMING CLOSE TO SLAMMING THAT SINGLE FOREVER BUTTON.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:12 AM
27

Omg how pickmeisha do you have to be to act out the first bit? 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:56 AM
12

The weirdest thing is that in discussions I always come from 'okay I want us to have a supportive great relationship together. That would make me so happy' place, but then he would always turn it into an us vs. each other competition. I have no idea if it was a defensive mechanism or what, but holy shit why is 'being right' more important that having that close relationship. AHHHH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:53 AM
15

I guess it's always been like this though... expect in olden times you were 'doing the right thing' by not leaving your wife. SO HONOURABLE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:24 AM
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You can’t imagine how many times in shock I’ve discovered that a few of the guys who had been flirting with me had just taken off their wedding ring. When I go out now, I immediately look at men’s ring fingers for a tan. How do these guys have no shame?? I beat myself up about dumb shit for years and these grown ass men are just cruising around behaving like this. I DON'T GET IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:23 AM
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Think porn has well and truly thrown a spanner in the works. The number of HVM guys before it was low, but now porn has probably halfed that HVM percentage. It's so insidious and has wormed into modern culture. Would take a really strong man to actively be like 'this could give me a blip of pleasure, but no this isn't good or right, so I'm not watching this' and only do it for that reason, rather than to get kudos (which is why most men do anything..).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:21 AM
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I'm legit proud of you for cutting it off. It's so tempting to just go along with it because they make it so fucking uncomfortable. There are so many things with guys (not in just a relationship way, just day to day life) where I have just gone along with stuff because of how they make you feel uncomfortable. You trust the and then bam, weird vibes out of nowhere. I am over upholding this dysfunction I've been conditioned to go along with so I don't make things 'awkward'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:15 AM
18

what a fucking nagging bitch, amirite boys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:12 AM
17

So sorry to hear that, but I am not surprised at all. I cannot imagine the trust issues and mental fallout from somoene behaviing like that. And same, the so sweetness almost makes it worse. How so you know when that shows they would put your welfare first? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:11 AM
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wanting loyalty and respect = strict. BRUH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:54 PM
172

Has anyone noticed this thing in the past idk 5 years or so where guys in relationships make EVERYTHING a game they have to win/ justify??? It was like this with my ex and it drove me up the fucking wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:45 PM
83

Stay single and make strong platonic relationships with other women of all generations. They will give you so much more unconditional love and support than this dating shitshow we find ourselves in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:28 PM
59

Same shit with me. A 'good guy', but scratch the surface and they are up to the same nasty shit which gives you that horrible feeling in your stomach. Over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:27 PM
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I used to be so positive and romantic. Even without the porn, the amount of lying and mental gymnastics men do freaks me out. Soooo many of my mom's friends (including her... thanks dad) have had their partners cheat on them. Like a freakish amount. I wish I was upping this up, but I'm not.... the 50s hit and bam, 'duhhhhhhhrrr im sorry i was feeling sadbrains so instead of sorting out my shit i lied for years and projected durrhhhhhh.' It's been shown as well if a wife gets sick, a man is way m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:23 PM
2

It's like having a blindfold being taken off isn't it?? Congrats on your own level up journey. You don't need someone else to tell you you're good enough, you MUST think you are good enough and give yourself the love you give others first. This isn't a preference, it's a must for good mental health. I am so excited for me and this amazing life experience we have (and there's nothing selfish about that... fucking bye conditioning about feeling bad when it comes to wanting to put myself first)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:14 PM
12

Oh sorry jp, lemmie correct that for ya. 'That only changed WHEN IT BECAME ILLEGAL TO RAPE CHILDREN WHO HAVE NO AGENCY AND WHOSE FRONTAL LOBES HAVEN'T EVEN NEAR FULLY DEVELOPED YET.' Like another poster pointed out, this wuz history is so wrong in most cases too. Bleh. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:48 PM
5

So is cardiac arrest when they inevitably can no longer put up with your bs and dump your misogynist ass? WHAT IS THIS LOGIC LMAOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:46 PM
19

YES! Shovel out all this porn and 'sex work' shit. Ever since it really started creeping into 'feminism' the past decade or so, it always gave me the weirdest feeling in my stomach but I could never explain or express it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:54 PM
72

*gets the flamethrower* FULFILL THIS, BITCH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:20 PM
149

just vibin = I relinquish all adult responsibility so this is all on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:49 AM
80

Are they 14 or 35? Who knows they all act exactly the same. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:52 AM
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DON'T MAKE ME FACE MY DEPRAVED WAYS, WOMAN. I AM GREAT. WHY WON'T YOU DATE ME??? REEEEEEE etc. etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:50 AM
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haha, we're a hivemind. Glad you could see yourself in it : ) I think it goes to show how a) common this is and b) it's the default to have a happy life single if you do it properly and take care of yourself. Said it once, I will say it again. This Bridget Jones ending where she is single and sad is such BS. She didn't need a man, she needed some therapy and some crossfit!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:56 AM
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That is beyond LVM, that is NVM. No guy who respects you would put that sort of pressure on you. Gross. Dump him sis. There are way better guys out there who wouldn't dream of asking you this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:48 AM
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The big word here is 'feel'. I'm sure you are wanted and loved and attractive to someone (pretty is completely subjective and looks are only a small component of being a person). You need to work on your self esteem. I recommend CBT therapy, YT self development videos or a self esteem book which sets you excercises. You need to get out of negative feedback loops with how you feel about yourself. If you're not eating/ sleeping/ exercising properly yet, do that first. you'd be surprised how much o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:43 AM
23

Omg his comeback was so weak hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:36 AM
11

Preach! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:44 PM
29

This. If you think he'll treat you any different you need to take your ego and desperate attitude out your ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:44 PM
51

I hate it when women crap on other women like this. B-But he will be so different with me tho unlike that previous wife of his... uwu puke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:31 PM
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So. True. Holy shit your comment got me so riled up. lol Ladies, do not get comfy with how things are. There will be a generation of entitled manchildren who will quite happily throw your rights under a bus to get to the good ol' days. If you ever have a chance to stick up for your rights or help fellow sisters at home or abroad, do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:28 PM
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After 10 days?? Don't know if you girls watch 90 day fiance much, but that is JUST like what Geoffrey did with Varya this season. Launch the proposal on them as a test to see how much they 'love' you (no woman in her right or healthy mind would accept being put on the spot like that). Same narcissistic behaviour. ALSO 'interesting thing to do' SIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:19 PM
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We are raised to think that there is someone out there for everyone and it all ends up a 1+1= 2 game. Honestly, never thought I'd say this... but older I get I realise that most men are scary and depraved as fuck when given the chance and there's a minority that are deserving of a woman's relationship and attention. No one has a right to a girlfriend or a wife as we have been told up until VERY recently in human history (and still so in a lot of countries).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:14 PM
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HAHAHAH. Love this. I love how guys jump on the average/ best of men as a way to represent themselves without considering they themselves may be below average or nowhere near close to a woman who really puts the work in with fitness. It's like these guys who are like WELL GUYS AGE LIKE WINE. LOOK AT LEONARDO and are in total denial of the fact they are wayyy more likely gonna be a potbellied baldo no one gives a second glance at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:09 PM
16

Mmmm, material things. So good for plugging the void. Said no one ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:58 PM
14

They take it personally. They see it as a rejection of them and a bash to their ego because you wouldn't want them. It's pretty scary for insecure guys when women are happy on their own!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:15 PM
19

What a gronk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:40 AM
23

Being with someone 'who is unable to process their emotions is EXHAUSTING' ding ding ding. This was it for me. So much wasted time, energy and care.. for what? Real love starts from within. Being in a relationship is an add-on to a fulfilling life, not a requirement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:48 AM
14

FATALITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:15 PM
6

Something similar happened to me, sis. I thought by running away from everything I would be free of it, but that's not how it happens. It was trippy to look around at people I knew seemingly way ahead in life whilst I was still stuck in the exact same mental bog. The turnaround and benefits soon come if you are willing to improve like you are; wishing you all the best. You'll smash it! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:53 PM
17

yup, it's either outright manipulation or a sign of emotional immaturity. Either way, it's time to lay it up into the dump bin woowoooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:59 PM
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Passive men are not HVM. If it's a regular occurrence, imagine having that dynamic in a more serious relationship. NOOOO. Past behavior is the best indicator of future behaviour. Dump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:12 PM
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b-but the nerds are the tragic heros! They aren't just losers!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:36 AM
2

human sacrifices started popping up then too yayyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:22 AM
1

If we were left to ourselves, just a community of women we'd be letting our hair go wild dancing naked under the moonlight around a fire. sign me up, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:21 AM
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Interesting post! In my experience video games with a lot of guys has been a means of escape and avoidance. It means they don't have to address difficult things in their life that they should be and they often sink hours and hours of their free time into it -- an hour or two, fine... but your only hobby really and for 6 hours and to the detriment of your relationships and sleep? nah. This is coming from a girl who quite likes gaming!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:59 AM
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This. Also taking into account how much porn and worrying new societal norms has probably twisted up a bunch of potential HVMs. Make peace with not finding a HVM and resist the urge to settle, because there is just a good chance you won't come across one at the right time and place. Like OP says, it is just a numbers game -- some amazing HVW are going to go without if they stick to their standards. This is just reality, but you can still have a fulfilling life full of love, just not with one sig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:54 AM
1

I know... like, okaay sure totally get an hour or two a day but like allll your free time most days? it's so unattractive and unproductive aaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:30 AM
1

Always go with your gut, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 07:03 PM
32

This is so true. What is more is those other people will eat up your time, your energy, your space. Focus on being strong and making peace with being alone. The rest will follow in a healthy way <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:20 PM
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My observation has been that USUALLY women internalise trauma (self harm, self doubt, low self esteem, etc) and men take it out on others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:02 PM
5

THE POWER OF CHRIST COMPELS YOU! *whips out the holy water*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:20 AM
8

I wouldn't call it 'dumb' though, cause that suggests they are not capable of figuring it out. Calling it willful ignorance is perhaps better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:00 AM
23

THIS. Honestly until someone gets a life-threatening illness or has lost a job, etc, you have no clue what sort of person you are with. Hard to hear, but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:56 AM
6

We gotcha, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:55 AM
56

It terrifies me how many men (not just romantic) in my life have been a-okay with going along with really fucking awful things to lie about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:41 AM
40

this idea that women should look like boys with bolt on hips and tits is just the weirdest shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 07:52 AM
10

It's a great word <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:40 AM
17

likes to be used as furniture = sometimes bothers with proofreading his intro = never
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:28 PM
70

What a fucking gronk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:26 PM
25

hormones, insecurity and needing those kids NOW makes you do weirdass shit 💀 aside: do you ladies see a pattern where the woman (late 20s/ early 30s) breaks up with a longterm boyfriend (like yearssss) and then within a year or two she is having a kid with another guy and it feels they barely know each other? This seems to be happening a LOT around my neck of the woods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:20 PM
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I think a lot of it is down to wanting kids and just hoping for the best. Know a lot of women in the late 20s and early 30s having their first kid with someone that makes me go 😬😬😬 The rest is down to low self esteem and not really knowing what they want. ​ as for your question, I'd say at least 50%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:25 PM
42

Marfan syndrome????? LMFAOOOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:07 PM
11

Thank you for sharing, Grimes. That was beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:38 PM
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What do you think ladies? 'FDS, OPEN UP! TIME TO GO, SIS!' 🚨 👩 👵👩‍🦰 👩‍🦳🚓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:56 PM
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Yes, I've seen both sorts; it was very different, it's safe to say. Both my grandparents had a lovely marriage as far as I know. My now very old and unfortunately slightly demented grandad still remembers to give my grandma a kiss on the forehead before he goes up to bed everynight. He loves her so utterly. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:49 PM
11

okay, lemmie rephrase that. 'You got to watch me eat a burger you paid for on my time. Can I have anal now?'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:46 PM
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What is with these guys putting in their star sign after writing a bunch of mad shit. I keep seeing it and it cracks me up 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:25 AM
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Damn this is so sad. Like she said she is only just 30.. imagine how much more fulfilling and happy her 30s could have been without this shitbag :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:45 AM
8

oh shit, shots fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:31 AM
54

🤡 okay I spent $12 on u can i get anal now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:01 AM
66

The art of seduction has new war paint. ​ Oops, they have pretty shitty editors over there. Lemmie fix that for you. The art of exploitation has new war paint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:08 PM
44

Also what the fuck is this 'find something that makes you stand out' shit. The language used and the vibe is so disconnected from reality. You can feel her trying to do all these mental backflips to rationalise her shit life choices. SIS YOU ARE PRETENDING YOU ARE UNDERAGE FOR PEDOS. THIS IS AS LOW AS IT GETS. YOU AREN'T TRYING OUT FOR A JOB INTERVIEW. STOP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:44 PM
25

You're really brave. So many women just stick their head in the sand. Thanks for sticking up for yourself and the sisterhood. x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:41 PM
29

So sorry you had to go through that. That terrifies me. I don't get how so many guys are lacking in a conscience. It's utterly disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:35 PM
47

You can't put a price on little girls. I hate how this is becoming so normalised. It's a race to the bottom at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:23 PM
43

but she gets money though so... uwu 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:11 PM
53

Thanks for letting the team down, ladies. Stay classy. 💀 'It might sound gross' It is gross. Fucking own it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:52 PM
17

wonderful comment <3 It's such an enpowering mindshift to 'love from a distance'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:16 PM
2

pretty amazing what scrotes can come up with when they rub all 6 of their braincells together at once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:52 PM
49

KINKSHAMING IS MY KINK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:38 PM
62

Abuse and dysfunction is so hot AMAIRITE GUYS? (/s fucking obviously)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:08 PM
42

Pickmeisha on steroids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:08 AM
1

Awesome. People need to know they don't need to put up with dergradation and low standards just because it's become normalised <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:01 AM
8

Just a brief thought of mine. I think almost every mythological hero/ god I can think of from numerous cultures, i.e the epitome of 'alpha', has a significant woman (named) in his life. If humans thought alpha = 'not tied down' this would not be the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:44 AM
85

At least your roommate isn't expected to fuck you. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:14 PM
244

Oh she doesn't see you as a meal ticket, she just sees you as a M A S S I V E S C R O T E .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:02 PM
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Exactly, sis. You've come out a stronger, better woman. Proud of you! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:45 PM
3

B R U H
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:39 PM
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lvm: WOAH, WOAH, I DIDN'T MEAN ACTUALLY DO IT fds: 🎉 👵👱‍♀️👩 🎊 👩‍🦱👩‍🦰👩‍🦳💖 lvm: NOW LOOK HERE I TH- *this comment has been removed for breaking sub rules*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:27 PM
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Man.... Ladies, this just shows you need to look out for all those buzz words/ phrases that are supposed to enpower you being thrown back at you as ammo. 'Caving in to societal pressure'... my arse. Just cause you've heard it in a good context before doesn't mean it applies everywhere, not even when the man who claims to care about you uses it. Go with your gut EVERY DAMN TIME. Be careful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:03 PM
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Sis, don't eat trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:55 PM
9

Of course not. He definitely didn't deserve you and well done for stepping up for your family. Be kind to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:02 PM
19

You've leveled up! There is so much you can and will achieve with this new mindset. I'm so excited and happy for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:29 AM
4

Exactly, just because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD. The fuzzyfeelgood /= healthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:45 AM
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Yes. 🙌 If he can't function without it, his tiddy-heroin addled brain that isn't that fussed by female exploitation ain't worth your time, 'a pretty nice guy' or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:04 AM
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I'd say that sounds like a NVM (negative value male) cause I can't for the life of me see what value or positivity he could have brought to your life, sis. Seems like just a lot of pain instead. Sorry you had to put up with that shit and glad you got out of there x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:59 AM
87

What a damn queen <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:54 AM
43

This. Living together is such a different ballgame and there is SO much stuff you learn you couldn't know beforehand imo. Just when you start to live together, be sure he's a HVM and have a mental rope round your middle to pull you out if it all falls to bits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:51 AM
7

Wow, that was some nice nasty, manipulative addict talk he had 💀 And good for you for confronting him. <3 Women not doing so just perpetuates the normalisation of this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:45 AM
7

Great post, Namtara! Think kindly pointing out the correct term if an OP has mislabeled is the best way to go :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:41 AM
17

The 'just communicate' has evolved straight from 'give him a chance'. LVMs still want women to just put up with their shit and Pickmeishas want to hope. Remember ladies, bending over backwards for a guy whilst he can't commit to you is not evident of the fact you love him. Shows you don't love yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:31 AM
9

These losers will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to imagine themselves as the poor tragic hero of their great life story... 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:24 AM
15

but sisss, JUSt GivE hIm A ChANce...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:32 PM
84

And they say romance is dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:05 PM
2

Yup. Your gut feeling has been right all along, sis. We have been fed a whole load of shit and hypocrisy-- that's why it has never felt right. It's time to wake up and stop going along with this nonsense. Focus on being healthy and listening to your heart, not the pressures of what should be acceptable and expected. Great to have you with us <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:44 PM
22

Lord, please send us some HVMs to elbow drop that rise 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:38 PM
78

The scrotes should be happy. Women are meant to be great at cleaning up trash according to them, right? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:10 PM
149

This natural thing is such bullshit. It's what makes me eye roll the most. I forgot how our ancestors had access to unlimited, hardcore, degrading pornography. 🤪🤪🤪 Before porn, if you wanted to be frisky, you had to use your imagination or go out of your way to get sex/stimulation and get alllll the social interactions, judgement and consequences that came with it. This no consequence, secretive, anti-social, unlimited, degrading stuff is ANYTHING but natural. The human brain ain't wired to deal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:45 PM
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Wow, your own flesh and blood. An innocent little baby. Speechless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:37 PM
12

Think women have been made to think that 'taking care of others' is anti-feminist, which is utter garbage. Like of course we shouldn't be forced into being a man's bangmaid and be made to have children, NO BRAINER, but we are social creatures and thrive off caring and nurturing each other. Of course it's a spectrum though and it varies from woman to woman. Embrace your desire to look after something, even if it's not kids, don't see it as a weakness. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:28 PM
11

Sis, he is deffo 27 and 6ft 4 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:21 PM
8

THIS. Become a plant queen like Poison Ivy <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:19 PM
12

Realistic opinion, sis. Infatuation =/ love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:19 PM
28

This is 100% truth. I always say cultures that hate women keep them isolated, uneducated and pitted against each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:14 PM
10

Sir, this is a Mc Donalds drive thru....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:55 PM
13

Thank you for the recommend, illusion! The scrotes are in big trouble once women figure this out. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:11 PM
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Holy moly. You have LEVELED UP. <3 Wishing you all the best in this new chapter of your life. This man wanted me to move in with him, he wanted to propose. I legit winced. You didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged a whole-ass cannonball, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:02 PM
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It's funny. We often hear talk about wanting someone to love us, but I think it's a real thing (especially for women) if we can't give our love. I sometimes work with kids with special needs and they brighten up my world. I love them. A pet or volunteer work is a great place to park that nurturing impulse. Romantic and sexual love are just a couple of forms of human love; platonic and nurting love should not be forgotten or underestimated. He's just a nice guy, but not relationship standard for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:39 PM
15

Slam dunk, exorcist. Like why the fuck should women feel guilty about men making them uncomfortable? IT'S SO FUCKED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:47 PM
9

You're welcome. And yeah, I think 🚮 should be the universial block button. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:44 PM
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/u/pickmieshaexorcist has it, OP. I completely see where you are coming from; however, you cannot give guys like this the impression that this is okay or works. It's not on you if he can't respect boundaries. Best case scenario, if you block he might actually learn that this was a stupid thing to do and not try it on another woman. If he shit talks, anyone with more than 3 braincells will wonder why that is and put 2 + 2 together. You have nothing to be ashamed of or sorry for. Agreeableness can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:39 PM
72

Block. Any response validates this totally not acceptable behaviour and gives him what he wants -- a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:22 PM
24

THIS. And op, you need to live with someone to really know what they are like. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Enjoy the current moment, but don't get ahead of yourself and stay mindful. edit: I also realise you have a kid. Please be ever so careful if he does ever move in with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:30 PM
40

This screams 'please validate my depravity'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:17 PM
6

We can all improve and all support each other <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:06 PM
30

(I understand English isn't probably your first language, so I apologise in advance for any misunderstanding) Lying out of insecurity isn't HVW behavior, sis. You've learned your lesson, so now put it behind you. There was other pickmeisha stuff going on there, but don't fret about him and what he did and didn't do. This is obviously not ever going anywhere apart from making you worry over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:52 AM
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Exactly. The main thing is you make clear and stick to your true standard, whatever that is. For some women that very well might be just a silver ring with a cute pearl on it, BUT she doesn't get sister points by saying she loves him soooo much because she doesn't mind it's not a 'fancy' ring. That's Pickmeisha af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:23 AM
5

If your partner is a HVM who values and respects you, then I think marriage can be great. Remember, we are all different. Some women aren't that fussed about boyfriends, period... others are quite romantic and would really like to grow alongside a HVM and have a wedding with all the trimmings. The main thing is you are honest with yourself about what YOU want and be aware if you are bending over backwards to please people who don't deserve it. Personally, if my MIL was a HVW, I would love to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:50 AM
6

So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:32 AM
8

You know he would if he could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:16 AM
11

well, they do say men are the true creative gender 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:16 AM
11

Proud of you for leaving a relationship that was not healthy for you. We got your back, Mei <3 Of course you will be torn and sad. Ending relationships is never easy and there will be a lot of mixed feelings. The best thing I have come to terms with is that I can appreciate someone as a person, but can see they are NOT good for me to be in a relationship with. Take it a day at a time and you will find your feet. Get stuck in with some new skills, books and plenty of self-care x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:51 AM
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cuz that's what makes some stuck up women uncomfortable about porn, isn't it? It's not their face they are jacking off to... so this is a biiiig compliment. /s 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:44 AM
3

awesome, printer! Have fun with it and be honest with yourself. Your standard is your standard <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:33 AM
40

THIS. They lower a standard for a bro so their own shitty behaviour can be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:31 AM
14

I got another one! be so fucking stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:29 AM
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denial isn't just a river in Egypt... 💀 It's classic Pickmeisha behaviour. I'm an exception, I'm special enough for it to be different, I'm better than other girls so thats why it's not the same for me. 'So many subs still push the “love his porn addiction away” narrative.' Yeeeikes. Think I'll stick with the love and respect yourself out the door narrative! Yeah the mods on here are great. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:11 AM
2

Grown, decent, and self respecting men do not allow themselves to be flooded with images like that. ​ thanks for sharing. 100% <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:05 AM
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Well, sis. You found that porn you could 'watch together to get into the mood' and hey, good thing there's 'nothing wrong with having it'.. what's the issue? 💀 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:14 PM
10

I'd focus on healthy and happy first and foremost. This is a naturally attractive state, no matter what age you are, and it benefits you which is the main thing. So eat well, sleep well, exercise and have your basic hygiene down. This goes a long, long way and will be well enough for a great deal of HVM men. I would get yourself to a place where you wear whatever makeup you want, but you aren't feeling less of a person if you need to go out without it to get some milk from the store. ALWAYS wear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:41 PM
2

'The more you suffer for him, the more you love him' is one of the biggest relationship lies and betrayals women have ever been dealt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:08 PM
74

Oh hellyah, I would LOVE to pay money to have my state of being mansplained to me. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:47 PM
10

Welcome home, sis <3 :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:55 PM
132

SIS, I JUST HAD MY DINNER. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:07 PM
23

YES. Every woman needs her FDS crew. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:48 PM
3

they are often run by “addictions therapists” who make a living off keeping women stuck in toxic relationships Holy shit, some people have no shame 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:41 PM
5

Thank you for sharing your story and good on you for leaving. <3 This 'what do you expect' shit is terrible and seems so common. No sister should have to settle for a half limp and AWOL dick if it can be avoided. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:38 PM
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You're so strong for walking out of that situation; so many women just try, try, try and think it will get better. The no change is one of the worst parts with stuff like this. They lose a woman who loves them, but it doesn't make them reconsider their behavior at all. It's a sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:19 PM
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Well, the obvious answer is get help and work on your mental health issues (if you aren't already) and try make friends, but I completely understand it is not as easy as that. What is your fear about being single? Do you feel your bf is the only thing validating you, even if you guys aren't happy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:15 PM
3

Lovely reply, persephone, as always 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:52 PM
13

It's a bumper harvest today. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:50 PM
111

'the love of my life, my best friend, the man I trust with my life' never existed, sis. I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:46 PM
23

Roberto you are killing me today with these memes 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:44 PM
2

So happy you found someone who respects your standards, shell. I agree with everything you say. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:23 PM
4

When men ever are the protectors, it's to protect women from other men. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:46 PM
1

Volunteering is great! Give that a go if you can. You'll feel good you are making the world a better place whilst at the same time improving your social skills :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:44 PM
10

Women need to be on their guard because a lot of LVMs and pickmes irl and online will tell them it is EXACTLY that they are not 'very attractive, fit and giving plenty of sex' is why there is an issue, rather than to face up to the fact their tiddy-heroin is messing up a lot of guys and their partners lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:16 PM
14

This. Far too many of my female friends and relatives (and I'm sure it's happened to guys who have not told me) have been sexually abused by 'mom's new boyfriend', be it just sneaking a look at them undressing to full blown hands-on molestation. The growth of single moms dating and the normalisation of CP will make for hell. I weep for these poor children. I wish I could take them away somewhere safe and rescue them all. I honestly suggest to single moms not to have boyfriends live with them unt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:09 PM
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yup, 100%, sis. If he can't drop it, he's addicted and ain't worth it. If it's 'no big deal' then why is it such a big ask to stop? (hint, cause it is a big deal) added in a little edit, thank you -- came in with the more hardcore stuff in mind, but you are completely right. This applies to so much more and it shows how porn has crept into every aspect of our damn lives...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 02:50 PM
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My standard is porn-free, 100%. My main point is that if he can't drop it (and he should), he's not worth being with. My examples are the more severe form of the addiction and the issues you face with living with any sort of addict. edit: though I've now edited in the more softcore stuff to be included, cause damn the more I think about it porn is bloody everywhere..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 02:01 PM
53

We need an exorcist up in this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:42 PM
21

Oh we're getting there alright. Plus it will seem so overwhelming to deal with (which it increasingly is) it will just become an 'oh well', as long as it's not my kid attitude. Honestly the more we slip down this slope, the more I don't want children (and I think they are wonderful). I don't think I could bring them into this mess and let them be exposed to all this depraved shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:24 PM
20

'He agreed and let me throw away his box of VHS porn tapes. The next day he actually went out to the dumpster and searched for them.' Speechless. Thank you for sharing. That must have been so tough. Porn is so insidious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:14 PM
25

THIS and holy moly, ladies, can we stop thinking our happiness is not worth as much as the man's happiness. 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:24 AM
23

You're a whore if you put out early, you're a game-playing prude if you wait until you're comfy. You can't play this rigged game. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:19 AM
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The TLDR of these films is basically a woman can have everything, but nothing is as fulfilling as sacrificing yourself to a man of any standard 🥰 FDS be rolling up to that wedding at the end, smashing through the cake. 'GET IN THE CAR, SIS, WE GOTTA GOOOOO' 👩 👵 👩‍🦰👩‍🦱🚗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:50 AM
31

Yup, so many older female figures don't touch the subject because it's awkward.... but man they would say something if they realised how scary, confusing and isolating it is for young girls these days :( I remember maybe a year or so into a relationship with my ex (I knew he watched porn when I was out or lowkey browsed it at his computer. I was a cool gf okay 💀)...and one day we watched it together and got to it and I had never had sex with him so aroused before. Our sex up until then was aight…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:37 AM
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Thanks for sharing, sis. Glad you can see this for what it is now. <3 'inexperienced' more like not groomed properly yet 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:20 AM
23

THIS Women need to start calling themselves out on making really bad relationship decisions. If the sign says this 'THIS DOG BITES' and you keep trying to pet it, then...💀 Like ya boi Einstein said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:13 AM
25

Same. Porno mags are gross, but it's legal aged women...you can 'get' it... but when you know someone you care about is sexually aroused by abused children it makes me want to literally throw up. There is no coming back from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:53 AM
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I think men's porn use is so compartmentalised. It doesn't surprise me at all she had no idea. They can be watching a woman get choked during sex on their phone, but if the 'real world' needs attention, they just swipe it away and act completely normal. I feel so bad for the woman you are talking about. I cannot even begin to contemplate how she felt. This also reinforces my fear of the fact you can never ever really know someone unless they choose to bare all; a lot of people are much happier h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:49 AM
49

men are not ‘satisfied’ with generic child pornography and demand violent and exploitative content.” ​ I am just so fucking done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:47 AM
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Ladies... can you imagine. Like REALLY imagine? You have found someone you love, you have a great relationship. You're cooking a cake one weekend and your phone died so you go into your bf's office to do a quick google search. You click on a tab to bring up the browser and THIS sort of shit pops up. I have no idea how I would ever fully heal afterwards, but this is the exact sort of situation a bunch of poor women are going to find themselves in in the coming years. The days of finding the stack…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:40 AM
1

LMAO I saw incels saying attractive women don't need FDS because they're busy being cam girls. That is some... new level of mental gymnastics 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:15 AM
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I saw that and I could barely process it. You are completely right and I agree. Poor baby and mother, breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:36 PM
15

They compartmentalize the shit out of their degenerate behaviour is how. The shitty outcomes of his side-piece-situation can't POSSIBLY come into contact with the gf-situation. ITtS JuST Not pOssIble. It's that arrogant, short sighted, selfish and WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:18 PM
50

except now it comes with a free STD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:53 PM
17

'sir, please, you've been babbling to a smudge of lipstick on a sheet for ten hours now and your mgtow friends are worried about you.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:32 PM
41

But I like it when bangmommy does everything for me : (
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:31 PM
24

'Excuse me sir, this is a Wendy's drive thru...'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:26 PM
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women: so anyway, LVM are someti- invado-man: SO YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT ME, RIGHT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:09 PM
26

Roberto, why you gotta make me ugly wheeze like this? 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:08 PM
5

chocolate milk is too high effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:04 PM
12

There are not enough comments saying 'this is him coping, but at the moment it's not good enough to support you.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:29 PM
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one day in a lifetime of many nice days to play tennis > comforting your wife who has JUST miscarried. She's a human being and your wife not a fucking brood mare, FUCKING HELLLL. ​ ALSO re: him coping, of course he can go play tennis. JUST NOT NOW. Sometimes we have to do things that make us uncomfortable because we are adults and we supposedly care about the people we made vows to. An uncomfortable 24 hours of comforting would mean the world to his wife, and he can't even do that. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:27 PM
7

Grapefruit <3 and if you listen real closely you can hear those scrotes mining away... 'You fucking biiiiiiiitch' 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:18 PM
2

Yup, it's great to see it's a pretty basic formula of manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:15 PM
8

This took me the longest time to get and made me so sad when I realised. The man I loved and who declared to love me wasn't forgetting stuff I had mentioned previously or wasn't getting it because I was all over the place -- he just wanted me to shut up so nothing had to change because it suited him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:13 PM
2

champagne sis, y you gotta make me want to laugh and cry at the same time. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:07 PM
45

Gonna have so much storage space in my house after spring-cleaning out all that scrote audacity. 🧹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:00 PM
6

I imagine it more as a salt mine loool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:36 PM
6

I hear ya, sis. Had the EXACT same situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:04 PM
8

Cook, you're spitting true facts all over my thread, hun. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:33 PM
85

What kind of Gaston shit is this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:22 PM
9

This. 100% When relationships go wrong and ill partner choices are made, it takes over everything else and that could have been time when you were happy single. Like you say, it's the clear choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:08 PM
14

Women wanting autonomy over their own bodies.. THE AUDACITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:55 PM
3

make it out of age appropriate women. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:47 PM
63

This terrifies me. I am not exaggerating when I say most of my mom's circle of friends have ended up having their husband cheat on them in middle age. And these are 'respectable' men. Can you imagine a woman having your child, looking after you and your family unit, and then you kick all that respect for her and yourself to the kerb because you can't grow the fuck up. 😒 I'm sure there's amazing marriages out there, but the Russian relationship roulette seems too damn risky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:33 PM
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It's a mix of that too I think. I also think because so much media never ever EVER shows women having hair that seeing them with it is a shock (therefore 'wrong', even though it's a natural state). It's so fucking stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:46 PM
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And he admits he feels terrible cheating on his girlfriend... SO IMMA DO IT AGAIN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:53 PM
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I don't have them bookmarked but a google search will bring up most of it, though the main issue for me is the effect it is having on teen brains because they haven't fully formed yet and the stuff they now have access to is so much more violent and extreme (that generation I was talking about is only just reaching adulthood atm, so mark my words some weird shit in studies will pop up soon). The general consensus seems to be the more you see, the less buzz (be that positive or negative you get).…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:15 PM
21

Nooo, there's nothing wrong with my tiddy-heroin 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:17 AM
0

Putting down other women is where we as a gender keep shooting ourselves in the foot. If we get this sorted out the LVMs are gonna shit their pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:11 AM
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This shit has always happened... least women have the option to get out now. Good on that kid for doing that though. That takes serious guts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:10 AM
47

GOTTA COOM TO FEEL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:07 AM
12

The game is rigged 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:58 AM
37

If only Friendzone was a mining colony on some remote moon somewhere...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:40 AM
52

I read that as 'animated' pubes and just about screamed. It's all about power and ego. Girl shaved = she made effort (AND SO SHE SHOULD) for me because I'm god. To his mind why does he need to make any effort/ change for her when he's already perfect? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:10 AM
62

True intimacy is dead by and large. Intimacy = 'high maintenance' Me = out of here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:06 AM
32

This. The sort of bitchy HS girls vibe you got in 90s chickflicks is seen more in men than in women now. YEEIKES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:48 AM
2

Nah, mom cooked for him before he moved into his gf's flat. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:49 AM
43

Struggling more does not mean you are loving harder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:46 AM
3

Welcome sis <3 Share with your sisters so we can all level up together 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:33 AM
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Its unfeminine... which is why literally every adult female on the planet has it. /s 😒 Body hair is a big selfesteem control thing men have over women, this sort of disgusting reaction doesn't surprise me at all. Do whatever you want with your bodies sis, but don't ever shame your unshaven sisters. You're playing right into the LVM control shit. ​ *razor companies be running to the bank with double profits* 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:31 AM
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They are God's gift, didn't you know? But yeah, it's ridiculous. The amount of good friends I've seen expected to become bangmommies with nothing given back has gone way way up. I think that's the big difference with men and women. There are so many LVM men that literally have NO SHAME with minimum contribution or their ego made out of papiermache really makes them think their overweight, underemployed, rude, pornsick ass is worth any girl's time. FUCKINGGG HELLLL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:23 AM
17

yup. That's a whole red flag salad right there...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:12 AM
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This shit is so widespread that women think they need to put up with it. Also if you say anything you've got 'jealousy problems' and if you're even luckier you get a whole strawman argument about he wouldn't care if you watched porn with hot guys in it (BUT YOU DON'T SOOOOOOO, EASY FOR HIM TO SAY THAT).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:11 AM
17

Rapey af 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:43 AM
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getting some big sugar and tobacco industry vibes... 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:39 AM
44

I like how theses scrotes always start their posts with 'my lovely gf', as if that will make them look like any less of an asshole. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:36 AM
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As long as it's not their chicks tho.... it's different okay.. uwu 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:19 AM
2

I am glad you appreciate the layers to the meme <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:48 AM
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It's the only thing scrotes deserve.🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:35 AM
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This. And another thing about his post which is utter bs. ALL the 18 year olds girls I knew were interested in you know, other 18 year olds..maybe plus a few years? Not 30... 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:24 AM
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HOLY SHIT. This one totally skipped my mind, but I've had this one too. Yuck, yuck, yuck and at 15. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:16 AM
15

Yup, and it's a way of trying to creep in beauty = porn. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:15 AM
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'A virgin woman in her youth is at her absolute highest value' she's worth about 5 cows and maybe a few goats on top of that. Sorry, your measurement system is out of date. Please update to the 21st century.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:09 AM
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You aren't his mom. If you've tried reasoning with him and he ain't meeting you halfway, it's time to gooooo. 🚗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:03 AM
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🤮 It was the same for me. You do that nervous laugh but on the inside you feel like you just stuck a fork in the mains socket. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:57 PM
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Exactly. And make it all about them and their preferences, nothing to do with how women looking for partners understandably find that preference CREEPY AS FUCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:53 PM
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You can stumble right back to where you came from, bud. You don't need to explain yourself and frankly I don't want to hear it if it has anything to do with 'borderline underage girls'. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:46 PM
28

Blegh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:31 PM
3

R U N N I G
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:15 PM
3

<3 you got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:14 PM
20

The inevitable continuation of this bitchfest he will go on will probably measure at about 6ft 1 if printed out 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:59 PM
27

It teaches cope skills for Pickmeishas. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:55 PM
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Why aren't you supportive of your bf playing videogames for 8 hours a day? You just sound like a controlling bitch tbh. Have you not tried communicating with him? You'd probably embrace his porn use more if you watched it together. 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:50 PM
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THIS. OH. MY FUCKING. GOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:33 PM
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woman: says in plain English what she actually means and needs. man: SO WHAT YOU'RE TRYING TO SAY IS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:33 PM
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Beauty and the scroteeeeee 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:17 PM
6

omg 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:41 PM
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I can hear his ego screaming from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:42 PM
17

Do it. I love that idea <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:00 PM
32

'Do you want some fries with that cope, Pickmeisha?'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:31 PM
28

Guys say we envy them, but honestly it's not that. I see they are beautiful and that's not the issue, the issue is this lowkey dread, sadness and wanting to puke feeling. That was someone's little girl :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:25 PM
3

Try distance her from your life then. Trash friends are trash friends and you don't need to keep her in your life. You do you and don't give her anymore thought <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:44 PM
20

The amount of people who have kids within their first year if not months of trying out living together makes me want to AAAAA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:34 PM
16

If FDS ever gets uniforms I vote for this 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:31 PM
14

Honestly I used to hold onto so much hate and resentment for girls like this, but then I realised they are usually like that because they are broken and deeply unhappy. Legit try feel bad for her, cause at the end of the day she is a fellow sister who has been totally fucked up by this male-attention competing ratrace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:30 PM
44

I'd say it takes a good two years AND living with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:50 PM
46

Get me off this ride. I'm so sad I'm not even shocked by this. Sorry you had to deal with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:35 PM
7

I felt like I was having a stroke whilst trying to read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:34 PM
24

They are insecure and envious of your confidence. She obviously can't value herself alone and needs a man to validate her as a human being. *sad trombone sound* 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:21 PM
23

I'm sorrrrry 😂 Yes! That's the alternative universe version. It's canon. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:56 PM
17

Thank you for sharing your experience, Tilly. <3 You're tough to recognise and get through that. But yeah, it's ridiculous the expectations men have about having children. It reminds me of a child who wants a puppy and then gets surprised and resentful when they need to walk it everyday. Like wtfffff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:46 PM
11

Great post, thank you. And yes we do know already, but I gotta feeling what we know now is just the tip of the iceberg... 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:42 PM
49

I've never managed to put it into words, but you've got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:36 PM
95

That's not true, they've been playing a shit ton of League of Legends. (I kid... sort of... 💀)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:35 PM
2

I call these guys 'boner-trees'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:28 PM
15

<3 We've got this, sisters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:24 PM
77

The fucking hubris to think any of this is attractive and then blame women for not being attracted. It's cause we have jobs and can vote now, didn't you know? /s (Great post, btw. Thank you)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:57 PM
59

🙌🙌🙌 Why the fuck are we putting up with this? I'm using the bar to pole-vault out of this joke of a scene byeeee. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:44 PM
84

What's hilarious is you're supposed to be Bridget Jones crying into icecream doing this lifestyle and I'm the happiest I've been in ages 😂 I'm like okay... suppose this being lonely boohoo shit LVMs talk about is meant to kick in anytime.... anyyy day now.... yup.... uhuh.... anyyy moment now. plot twist, if you do it right all that sad single lady stuff is BS 🤡🤡🤡🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:08 PM
10

I think you're responding to the wrong person. I actually agreed with your point, but it doesn't solve the problem of general culture shifts like I outlined in my post. e.g Porn will have taken a lot of potential HVMs and fucked them up, making them fewer and far between. That's just reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:53 PM
29

I mean, she has a point but yeahhhh it's a bit more complicated than that unfortunately 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:22 PM
87

100% Women need to stand their ground on this. You are not being old fashioned, you are not being prude, you are not being demanding. You are asking for basic commitment and support because you are not a 🤡 and any man who will not provide you with this is not father material. ALSO thinking you can change or trap a man by getting a kid off him is degrading yourself and just utter madness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:19 PM
178

YES. Women need supportive communities and every single culture that hates women tries to make sure they can't do that. Older women, middle aged women, teens and girls need to look out for each other and educate each other. We need to stop bitching about each other and not see other girl's downfalls as us getting ahead. It's so bloody toxic and is feeding right into the LVM low bar bullshit. I think one of the biggest fears women have is being lonely (there's a reason why LVM's go straight for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:15 PM
137

<3 Thank you for your thoughtful comment. This has been knocking around my head for the past year or so. At first I thought I was just getting jaded, but then I when I sat down and thought about it it has clearly gotten poorer. The effort bar keeps dropping and normalisation of and the accessibility to the perverted, creepy shit gets worse. We are not being demanding nor prudes and we need to stop listening people telling us that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:58 AM
16

We wish it was a 'normal life', more like a living dumpster fire life. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:47 AM
58

100% Love this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:34 AM
34

Even ten years ago it wasn't like this. Anal was still considered a bit out there. jfc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:23 AM
70

Vanilla sex is no longer default, it's basically now a fetish in itself. I feel so sorry for teens/ young women who are too insecure and naive to say no to this shit in their formative relationships :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:47 AM
61

This is such a fucking male thing. I DID A THING. NOTICE ME PLEASE. REWARD ME PLEASE. Women just get on with it like they have for millennia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:42 AM
21

That's because men are going above and beyond!! Don't you know? They contribute their amazing self to the relationship as required, whereas women... who gives a fuck about them, their feelings or their personality. They are useful by doing stuff for their relationship. /s How the fuck did standards get so low?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:41 AM
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Man that makes me sad af. Glad you're out of it now though, sis. It's like a mild version of when women get cancer and shit like that and the men are like IT'S NOT AS TIDY AS IT USUALLY IS WHAT IS UP WITH THAT > : ( Worth noting the new bfs who make you a cup of tea when you're sick or will pick up some coughdrops etc on the way back from work without being asked. It says a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:41 PM
12

If you can, have him socialise with female siblings, cousins or daughters of your friends. It is so important that early on boys do not see girls beyond their mom as 'other'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:32 PM
15

OUCH. no, thank goodness, but I am familiar with the sort that pull at your nipples like they are made of fucking elastic. jfc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:19 PM
17

THIS. WHAT THE FRICK IS THIS?? Also, another thing this highlights is how this is stuff that looks good for men, but does nothing/ feels actively bad for women. It's like shaving ALL your ladyhair down there off. It is so damn itchy and uncomfy. Fuck that. the U-bend as a name for that pose? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:16 PM
3

<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:11 PM
6

I like that lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:06 PM
339

Bangmommmyyyy I want more food :'( Sis, you need to stand way back and fire this loser out the airlock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:56 PM
37

'You're better off alone than chained to a lvm esp having children with one.' THIS and this is the open secret that manipulative LVMs don't want you knowing. That's why it's always 'you're lucky to have me', 'no one else would put up with that' and 'no one would love me more than you.' The truth is you could have an amazing life which doesn't hinge on them or their opinion at all, and it terrifies the shit out of them. Really agree with the point with kids. Kids are like dropping anchors, it's n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:55 PM
140

You can picture him holding back tears as he types out that smiley at the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:43 PM
12

Exactly. It's like dirty pervert flashers in public. Exact same shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:29 PM
3

HA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:28 PM
16

Jesus this is some Othello shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:03 PM
29

that's one type... but the other is like OKAY IMMA PEEL BACK THAT CLITORAL HOOD AND TRY RUB THIS AWAY WITH MY DRY THUMB LIKE INK FROM A WHITEBOARD 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:56 PM
9

🤮 adding it to the list...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:47 PM
412

That table looks 4 inches shorter than it said in the profile...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:15 PM
41

I'd just be super petty and go straight for the jugular. 'Yeah, babe true... but those pornstars also get to ride 9 inch dicks so...😬'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:10 PM
30

Yeah, like what is that about?? Is it a power thing or what? I am genuinely curious what that's meant to achieve. NGNUUUUUUH I have a peepee u make go hard hard. look at my peepee i am soooo proud of my hard peepee and u were the cause of it so u must want to see. it. 🤪🤪🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:56 PM
13

Exactly. The goalposts change depending on what's happening. A lot of guys want all the nice things about marriage and none of the responsibility i.e for you to be their bangmommy. Pickmeishas want to be 'different' and for guys to like them so they go along with this self-inflicting degradation. PUKE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:45 PM
40

omg. fuck this. yes. I'm editing this in... *patpatpat* i gave u three pats on the boobs now u give me bj for 10 mins. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:25 PM
79

Man: is so freaking confused when she's not super keen for you to cum on her face. b-but honey, all the hot pornstars love that! woman: 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:51 AM
43

It was in a relationship in my early 20s (naive and wanting to please) with a guy a little bit older. It was the usual he tried a bit more at the start, but it eventually got to the point where it was completely one sided if I wanted any sex. You know how there's that saying if you drop a frog in hot water it goes wtf and jumps out, but if you gradually heat it up it doesn't notice and gets toasted? That was me. This sexual dynamic also tanks your self esteem and gives you really skewed feelings…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:45 AM
6

Of course! I don't disagree with that at all. You'd hope by the time engagements are coming around the partner would know what she expected and if he wasn't comfortable with that he would have got lost way before then 💀 These 'humble' pickmeishas are making everyone miserable, including themselves. AND YET THEY STILL GO THROUGH WITH IT. AAAA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:23 AM
32

Speaking from experience, count yourself lucky. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:11 AM
12

Right?? Don't let the door hit your ass on the way out 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:49 AM
11

I just think of Claude Frollo from Hunchback of Notre Dame EVERY. TIME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:47 AM
14

See how he doesn't actually present any argument? Just insults? That's how you know you gottteeeem. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:39 AM
46

😂 omg That's so good. Standing there clueless with their limp-rod 9000. Well that's how I'm gonna start referring to it! There's even an emoji with a poor 'what the fuck do you expect me to do' fish on the end of it. 🎣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:30 AM
33

Women are supposed to just be glad that someone found them attractive enough to fuck. No more demands thnx. 🤮🤮🤮 (But yes, it pisses me off. And no, this is not enpowerment. Lowkey freaking me out now that 'vanilla' lovemaking is becoming somewhat of a fetish in itself because it's no longer the usual go to.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:23 AM
45

Keep it nautical. Seaslug 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:13 AM
19

Look after your sisters, ladies! Get involved in overseas sponsorship if you can. These poor girls need all the help they can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:10 AM
18

Awesome. <3 True HVM. Don't forget, ladies, that a LOT of LVM will just leave when you get that illness and you can't be their bangmommy anymore. Lovely article on the topic that will make you scream into the void.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:08 AM
41

b-but the girls in my VR pron really like my peepee tho :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:04 AM
85

THIS. When men view porn they are the ultimate starfish. Their coombrains get really confused when they have to do anything after initiation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:03 AM
36

b-b-but that's so old fashioned of you. 🤡 🤡 🤡 Wowee wow, a woman should expect stability and commitment when pregnant with your child? And they say men have the audacity /s But really, amazing observation. I too must agree with it from personal experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:58 AM
26

This proposal is not near okay enough for ANY woman, not even ones who DON'T want elaborate proposals. Even going to a nice park on a beautiful day and then treating her to a nice dinner and getting her some flowers would have been 784658346584353 times better. This 'proposal' could have literally been swapped out with him saying 'Hey, did you put the washer on?/ pick up the dry cleaning' and it would not have felt out of place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:51 AM
157

All I can see is the 'this is fine' dog cartoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:25 PM
19

PREACH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:36 PM
8

nintiesbaby has replied perfectly. Lead by example and support your sisters. If it feels helpless, remember how far as a gender we have come when it comes to personal freedoms. It's incredible. Things do change, but you can't give up or let what rights we have won be dismantled. You're right -- forcing things down people's throats rarely works. When women start to see communities like this are supportive and have their best interests at heart, they'll come around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:53 PM
28

Yup. It's so different. ALSO what the hell is 'new society' meant to mean?? You mean a society where women don't owe you their time, attention or body? YEEEIKES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:28 PM
2

No worries. : ) You've cracked the code, queen! Any man worth your time won't expect you to jump through hoops to prove you are x, y or z to them. Be kind, honest and yourself. The rest will follow naturally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:00 PM
25

Omg that 'lol' at the end is so roasty, toasty passive aggro I could cook off of it.👩🏻‍🍳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:51 PM
2

You're welcome! I understand that and I hear you. A lot of their dreams and thoughts may be related to significant others, but if past relationships have taught me anything it's the importance of not trying to make myself feel better and more 'whole' by being with someone. Remember there is a very good chance you could just get any old boyfriend now and still not feel right; just having the same circumstances as your friends won't make your dreams and thoughts like theirs or any more relatable. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:44 PM
5

This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:10 PM
80

i cri everytim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:05 PM
9

I'm sure you ladies are holding up the Gemini team for him, don't worry. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:13 PM
67

Cultures that hate women keep them uneducated, isolated and pitted against each other. Do the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:09 PM
11

HE IS A GEMINI THO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 04:41 PM
38

A scary numer of men confuse being aggressive with being assertive. Big yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:24 PM
49

I can't imagine how terrifying it must have been for them. So sad and disgusting. Remember, if a man ever lay hands on you, even if it was 'just once', you can expect it to escalate. Get out. A good man never ever lays his hands on a woman. No exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:13 PM
94

I like how after all that mad shit he adds he's Gemini 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:33 PM
80

Yup. Marriage at 18 means courtship must have started happening at a much younger age. It's grooming plain and simple with an age gap like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:17 PM
55

those mean vulnerable little girls stealing my monies :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:13 PM
13

Honestly I'd just have fun with it and go for full flooding therapy approach -- buy some makeup, buy a dress, watch some oldschool movies with HVMs helping out cool heroines (lots of nice period dramas with this vibe). If you get a kneejerk reaction with say, looking at the lipstick and going 'EUCH. FEMININE AND NOT COOL.' then really ponder on that feeling -- why is that? What exactly about this is making me uncomfortable? Mull it over, then set it aside. It will take a while to untangle yourse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:44 PM
34

There is so much to unpack here but I'm finding it hard to type out inbetween my dry heaves. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:33 PM
40

Ah, my LVM favourite. My job requires me to be in proximity to you so that definitely means I'm interested 🙃 Good on you being assertive with the gifts. That's not easy. If he keeps giving you shit I would strongly consider taking it up with HR/ the boss and just let them know what's been going on. Never underestimate a weak man's ego and how butthurt they can be when you knock it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:48 AM
35

What a lucky girlfriend he has. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:34 AM
6

'I enjoy my life' -- then you are absolutely fine. You don't have to have had a partner to be a happy, fulfilled human. If having any partner was the sure way of things being great and normal, the divorce stats would not be as high as they are. You have the main thing down which is family, sense of purpose and interests and a good social network. As long as you are taking care of yourself, it's all good. Maybe you'll find someone, maybe you won't. As long as you feel fulfilled and enjoying thing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:27 AM
23

Proud of you for calling it quits when you know deep down it's not right for you. It's a difficult thing to do and shows you're much stronger than you think . I am not being dramatic when I say having this time to be single and work on yourself will make for amazing formative growth. Cut out all fwb stuff (it's a distraction at best and highly detrimental to your self-esteem and emotional state at worst). Here are some little tips off the top of my head: Get a planner/ journal if you haven't got…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:42 AM
8

As I get older I realise that a lot of guys have very stong opinions on things they know nothing about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:24 AM
56

He's 32? If I didn't know the age I would have said that was the behaviour of a 14 year old 😬 Life is too short for this sort of shit. You guys are clearly not suited for each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:22 AM
30

'I thought watching you play would be much better than all this porn. Could be exciting :)' I'd rather have a root canal, bud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:13 AM
28

People who say this either are shitty guys who hope to get that 'chance' one day when their partner gets a whiff of their false promise shit, or are women who are desperate to believe that one day with enough chances their own LVM toad will magically poof into a HVM prince... cuz you know, she's so understanding and supportive 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:07 AM
3

It's a real shock, isn't it? I too had that idea for a long time that men were hardwired protective. It really hit me when I got older that a lot of men in the world aren't that bothered by women/ child suffering and in some cases if given the chance are pretty okay with inflicting it. I look back on a lot of my younger years with unease because I feel a lot could have happened to me since I just assumed the men around me were good (had some uncles that turned out to have abused their toddler da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:18 PM
9

Amazingly put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:39 PM
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