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| 44 | FR: Applying the Basic Principles of Game for Consistent SNLs | Field Report | Upgrayedd_U | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 09:56 PM |
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| 3 | Divorcing because of infidelity. But why do I forget that?It's most likely a trauma response. Some things are so far outside of our normal experience of how we see a person that we struggle to integrate the new information with the old. Instead we block it out. We keep moving forward, focused on the next thing. This happened so often with me in my marriage that my counselor recommended I keep a journal and a voice recorder to capture my experience immediately after it happened. It eventually lead to the discovery that I was being manipulated and abused… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 01:05 PM |
| 3 | Make sure your marriage is over before you start pursuing a divorce.And I'd agree. 100%. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Make sure your marriage is over before you start pursuing a divorce.This is terrible advice. You don't know another person's internal state. Don't judge them by their intentions (which you can never truly know), but by their actions. If your wife threatens divorce, implicitly or explicitly, the smart move is to start preparing yourself right away. Worst case scenario is that you prepared yourself for an outcome that never came to pass. But more often than not, you'll be saving yourself a lot of time, money, and energy on the back end by taking these steps right … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Relying on dating appsGo build something. Ideally something allows for you to gain skills in an area you personally enjoy, but also makes it easy to meet women. Dancing, cooking skills, and group fitness are things I would rate highest on that list. But there's 1,000 other things that could work for you. Edit: For more context, doing things this puts you in a place where meeting women is easy, but it's not the main focus of your life. Done right, it ultimately leads to where that feeling you describe (where neediness… | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Keep yourself #1Not OP, but I've been there. Maxed out at around 7 in the months following my divorce. Down to 3 now. It's both harder and easier than you think. Rotation: Any woman I can call up and have in my bed within the same week is in rotation. Meeting women is absurdly easy if you have your stuff together and come at it from the right state of mind. Online dating, gym, meetups, bar hopping, shopping. Women are literally everywhere. You just have to have the balls to ask them out. Mine was about 80% onli… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/25 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Smash for a Relationships?Been there, done that. It's 100% not worth the risk. Look up enthusiastic consent and make that a minimum standard for engaging in sex. For bonus points, try to figure out ways to incorporate this into your dating practice. I will straight up tell women that I'm a big fan of enthusiastic consent and that I won't proceed towards sex unless I get an enthusiastic yes from them. Men wildly underestimate how much women value safety at every stage of the relationship, especially on the first few dates… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Self-Improvement is Making me Worse with WomenThis is a bad take. Self improvement is not your problem. I'm 44 years old and have been on a journey of continual self-improvement for the last 20 years or soon. And I do very well with women as a direct result of this journey. My sense from reading this is that your lack of results stems from a combination of these three things: Your ego: The giveaway is the comment about your roommate. Why does his results matter in this? Because part of you thinks you're better than him. And its been my expe… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 08:08 PM |
| 3 | 50 first dates, they all say no "spark"Yeah, sure, but here's the thing. Pretty much every guy women go on dates with is horny. So what makes you different? Relationships are a mutual exchange of value. Women already know what you want from them. What they're trying to figure out on a date is what you have to offer them that makes it worthwhile for them to have sex with you. Is it money? Good conversation? Stability? Good sex? The chance to bang an unusually hot/fit/large guy? When a woman says there's "no spark," what she's really s… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 04:41 PM |
| 2 | 50 first dates, they all say no "spark"You've got a shit attitude, that's why. Your whole post is dripping in condescension towards women. If we can pick it up from a single post, I guarantee the women you're dating are picking up on it, too. We could give you tips all day, but it be a waste of time right now. The question you need to answer first is, why do you want to sleep with women if you don't even like them? And conversely, why would they want to sleep with you? | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 02:52 PM |
| 2 | FR: Applying the Basic Principles of Game for Consistent SNLsYep. I'm the same way. Used this exact strategy for years to build up my social network/skills. And it's the first thing I go to if I'm in a deep slump or in a new city. Crazy how people forget that 90% of this is just showing up and doing the work. I can't even count the number of times I got a quick hookup, sometimes leading to LTRs, just by deciding to get off my butt and go outside. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 01:02 AM |
| 5 | FR: Applying the Basic Principles of Game for Consistent SNLsThe best way, by far, that I've found is to be a Yes Man for a year or two (Yes Man (film) - Wikipedia)). Basically, just say Yes to every social opportunity that presents itself. Go out for 4 or 5 days/week. Pick up some new hobbies. Travel to new places. And talk to people everywhere you go. When in conversation, practice extending conversations for longer and longer periods of time. Have a handful of basic questions to open with and learn some patterns for extending conversation. The easiest … | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 04:26 PM |
| 0 | Teasing: The most important seductive skillWatch this space. I'm actually working on it right now. | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Teasing: The most important seductive skillThis x100. I never consciously tease women. It does happen unconsciously sometimes. Just as a natural part of a conversational flow. But it's nowhere near being the "most seductive skill." I wouldn't even rate it in the top ten. This reads too much like an inexperienced guy rehashing old pua topics vs a experienced guy being genuinely new topics to the conversation. | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 02:44 PM |
| 4 | For beginners: 7 fundamental lessons I learned to improve my datingYou're getting downvoted to hell and back, but this is actually the truth. I've scored an unreasonable amount of ONS in the last few months while barely touching my dates at all. The sub is full of groupthink and severely lacking in independent thought from guys who've actually gone out and learned this stuff through practice and not just theory. | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 12:21 AM |
| 1 | What are your sticking points while on 40s?I consider fundamentals to be anything you're doing to set yourself up for a good life, independent of your pursuit of women. So, basically generic self-help stuff. In this list, I would include: Physical health and grooming Growth mindset Quality education (college) or job training Decent job and money management skills Good mental and spiritual health Good baseline social skills After that, I would add in dating-specific stuff. This list would include: Friendly (non-sexual) cold approaching Be… | /r/seduction | 18/06/25 09:30 PM |
| 7 | What are your sticking points while on 40s?Not sticking points, per se, but time and energy are the biggest limiting factors by miles. Switched over from tech to sales in my early 40s. Pay and benefits are better, but workload is much higher. Find it hard to break free enough to put in the time and energy I'd like towards networking, socializing, and dating. Specific to dating though, I'm living proof that if you work your fundamentals in your 20s, dating and "seduction" become dead simple in your 30s and 40s. My dating apps are maxed ou… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 02:59 PM |
| 2 | Scenario for non-white dudes out thereTrash take. I'm a non-white dude. 50+ likes/matches each across multiple dating apps. Currently taking a rest break from a weekend-long play party doing shit that I didn't even know was possible just a few years ago. You need to stop being a negative and just start doing the work. I'm not gonna give advice here, because you don't need anymore. The sub is full of great info already. It's just populated with a bunch of guys who are looking for the easy way out. But there isn't one. At some point y… | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 10:52 PM |
| 37 | Im 36, im having success with milfs 45-50+, i think its because of my age and physique, how is dating gonna be when im older like 45+ will it be harder or easier? Would be interestingwith some insightsI don't know WTF any of these guys are talking about. Mid-40s here. In decent shape. Got many more options than I have time to pursue. Mostly fit gym bunnies in their mid-30s up to late 40s. Keep it up and you'll be fine. Edit: I'm down to talk strategy if you want. Edit 2: Some strats that have worked for me: Fundamentals: The three most important things are a good job/financial situation, fitness/style, and social competence. You don't really need "game" per se. But you should be comfortable t… | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 04:55 PM |
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