Upmybuttpleasesir Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
16	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family?	DATING ADVICE	Upmybuttpleasesir	/r/RedPillWomen	22/10/20 09:06 AM
12	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE?		Upmybuttpleasesir	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 09:40 AM
4	How often do you meet a man you are guenuinely attracted to?	Purge week!	Upmybuttpleasesir	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/20 05:58 PM
1	Is the man really ‘The Prize’?		Upmybuttpleasesir	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/20 05:31 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	How do you avoid getting nasty feelings when you see other women being rewarded for doing so little? i have accepted that life is unfair. a lot of people deserve a lot of things but will never get them. sometimes you are one of them. Most Red Pilled response.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/21 07:30 PM
1	Self-improvement ideas for while he's temporarily unavailable? some call it patience some call it time-wasting	/r/RedPillWomen	05/08/21 02:05 PM
1	Self-improvement ideas for while he's temporarily unavailable? some call it patience some call it time-wasting	/r/RedPillWomen	05/08/21 02:05 PM
1	Self-improvement ideas for while he's temporarily unavailable? some call it patience some call it time-wasting	/r/RedPillWomen	05/08/21 02:05 PM
0	Self-improvement ideas for while he's temporarily unavailable? why shouldn't she wait a month for him? becos time waits for no one. rotten eggs dont sell well...	/r/RedPillWomen	03/08/21 10:05 PM
0	Self-improvement ideas for while he's temporarily unavailable? It’s sort of delusional but it’s women’s nature to do this. many women are delusional - as in they think this is fucking Disney land. but they usually dont like to hear the truth, until its too late.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/08/21 10:04 PM
1	Boyfriend is sending mixed signals before first trip together, and I'm lost no ring. no wedding certificate. dont over invest. have a plan b. wasting your youth is not a regret you want.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/21 12:46 AM
1	Self-improvement ideas for while he's temporarily unavailable? Why is this comment downvoted? she is NOT in a realtionship with the guy. She has no obligation to 'be there' for him - she is not his girlfriend. She should get on with her life, and if he comes back to her when he has free time and energy fine...if not, life goes on. yes, she should be getting on with dating other people.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/21 12:12 AM
1	More women should give chances to the men who prefer going Dutch - they aren’t trying to mask their intentions under the guise of tradition/chivalry what a lovely kind heart you have	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/21 11:26 AM
1	More women should give chances to the men who prefer going Dutch - they aren’t trying to mask their intentions under the guise of tradition/chivalry I like part about feeling protected paying for future dates, not so much	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/21 09:28 PM
1	More women should give chances to the men who prefer going Dutch - they aren’t trying to mask their intentions under the guise of tradition/chivalry because I like being generous and it’s a thoughtful thing to do. plus you want her to let you touch her pussy, right.... i mean you dont go around buying ugly/fat girls free fucking dinners, do you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/21 09:27 PM
3	More women should give chances to the men who prefer going Dutch - they aren’t trying to mask their intentions under the guise of tradition/chivalry even considering ending the relationship over you deserve a man who thinks your worth his investment. dont mug yourself, coz when you split up he will pay for some tart who he really likes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/21 09:25 PM
1	More women should give chances to the men who prefer going Dutch - they aren’t trying to mask their intentions under the guise of tradition/chivalry break rules everybody breaks rules for shit they want	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/21 09:14 PM
1	More women should give chances to the men who prefer going Dutch - they aren’t trying to mask their intentions under the guise of tradition/chivalry Why would women need to be compensated for that. she's being compensated for the time/effort/energy she put into doing herself up for the date. time is money	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/21 09:11 PM
1	We are headed for a huge population cliff mainly because men and women have been conditioned to hate each other. Surrogacy is the only logical way to have children. children need mothers...overlooked?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/21 08:26 PM
3	Why am I so desperate to feel loved by guys who don’t care about me? Anxious Attachment Style	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/21 09:53 AM
-1	Aside from single-parents-by-choice, why is it that there's so much hatred for single mothers but complete adoration for single fathers? Does he not choose to insert his penis into her vagina?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/21 09:31 AM
0	For women who want relationships, should they focus on succeeding in their careers or focus on their looks? wow	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/21 08:59 AM
2	For women who want relationships, should they focus on succeeding in their careers or focus on their looks? I need to be physically attracted to my partner. That isn't optional. Thank you for your honesty.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/21 08:52 AM
2	For women who want relationships, should they focus on succeeding in their careers or focus on their looks? yeah, and when she meets this high value qaulity man, she will need to be good-looking to attract him....so she should focus on her looks	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/21 08:47 AM
1	I am about to move in with my bf and I am nervous I really hope this man marries her and doesn’t break this poor girl’s heart. 'hope' is not a method.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/05/21 05:42 PM
7	I am about to move in with my bf and I am nervous If he is paying for 50% or more of the rent/bills, financially providing for you, money can be replaced...her time/youth can NOT youth and time are priceless, that's why one is advised to be careful with this non-renewable resource.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/21 04:32 PM
0	He's an attractive 30 year old that's never been in love. Is this a huge red flag? It's just that people naturally want to bond with people and have relationships, Yes, but that doesn't mean you're gonna be lucky enough to meet someone to bond with who feels the same way about you.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/21 09:01 PM
4	He's an attractive 30 year old that's never been in love. Is this a huge red flag? Why is it a red flag? Inexperience is a problem? You think he'll have trouble relating?	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/21 11:10 AM
1	Do women underestimate the strength of smaller men? I had a play fight with a small/skinny/scrawny guy once, I was shocked by how strong he was. I'm tall.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/21 09:24 PM
6	Important questions to ask during courtship/dating What's your view porn/sexual experiences? No man is going to sit there and say he likes to look at kiddy porn, and sees protitutes when he can afford it - so why ask? They will only answer with what they think she want to hear - not the truth. The point is to watch how a person behaves...words are nothing.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/21 12:55 PM
4	What are some tips for getting to know each other virtually? Be wary of the false sense of intimacy that online interaction may create. Keep in mind that you do not actually know this person. You’ll never know anybody until you get to observe their actions over a period of time. Need to be with him in real life, not online, to get to know him. You need to see how he behaves not only when he’s around you, but when he’s around other people. You never really know anyone until the shit hits the fan (and you get to see how they react).	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/21 12:51 PM
1	To what extent does money/ power increase a man's SMV? Get more than one. Get a roster, girl! You have inspired me, thanks!!	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/21 09:58 PM
1	To what extent does money/ power increase a man's SMV? Good on you for getting out of your marriage with the feminine energy man. Meeting people where they are at is a very wise way to approach life. As women we must not allow ourselves to be duped into the provider and protector role for a man. Ever. Man must provide for and protect woman, and woman of course provide and protect child. That is the natural order of things. It’s so interesting that you describe being feminine as relaxing. Ultimately our energy, femininity, is about being receptive: o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/21 10:31 AM
1	To what extent does money/ power increase a man's SMV? I’d much rather play house and pursue other interests, Women were made to play house. Feminism is a lie.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/21 12:18 PM
1	To what extent does money/ power increase a man's SMV? Thanks for sharing your examples. Interesting point abut men being possessive. I think if a man really likes a woman he will want her to be ‘his,’ - he wants to own her, but not in a controlling way. And when you mentioned that the biker guy ‘couldn’t focus on himself and me at the same time,’ I think his making your safety a priority is also a good sign because it’s him protecting you. Defending you against others emotionally is definitely a big one. And I think that doing practical things like…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/21 11:41 AM
1	To what extent does money/ power increase a man's SMV? I actually know when men are protecting and providing for me and what that looks like What does it look like? I think men should PP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/21 09:05 PM
1	If men want more opportunities for sex, why don’t they put the same amount of effort into grooming, self care and “glowing up” as most women do? unless he's a pansy why should he worry about his clothes and hair? these things dont make him a man, and dont pay the rent so I dont care. what next...men with painted toe nails	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/21 11:15 PM
1	CMV: Men don't care about women's careers. But class definitely plays a role when it comes to dating so what about that tart that married the son of the future king of england...it happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/21 11:11 PM
1	Myth-busting single mothers be mindful of the quality of the man attached to that dick you let in. If he is not suitable to be father, why did you get pregnant? agree	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/21 11:31 AM
1	What makes a positive male figure for children? good and productive behavior. to model good behaviour is not the same as modelling being a man. NO woman can show a boy how to be a man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/21 10:50 AM
1	On dates I often act intensely platonic. I think you’ve kinda answered your own question. You are not on a date to be friends, you are there to enjoy the possibility of mutual attraction. You say you like talking to people, but you were not there to focus on talking to the person. You are there to focus on the mutual attraction, yes? Then do that. Touching is a good point, and I think it’s definitely a way to express interest. But I think the biggest point is what you yourself have underlined: tension. How does such tension come ab…	/r/seduction	16/02/21 05:31 PM
1	Why is lesbian prostitution almost non-existent, yet gay prostitution is thriving? rude and ignorant nice	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 01:27 PM
1	Is ANY contact with an ex unacceptable? Just seems like a mature way of recognizing that even though a relationship doesn't work out, you can still have a platonic friendship exactly. mature is the keyword. people be immature and possessive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 12:54 PM
1	Is ANY contact with an ex unacceptable? I think it’s a mark of emotional maturity if a person can remain friendly with a former partner. Just because they realise that they are incompatible and decided not to have a relationship does not mean they do not have to have a respectful friendship. I think people are insecure to want their current partner to not have ANY contact with previous boyfriends or girlfriends. If you have so little trust in them then why be in a relationship with them? If you are insecure then why not focus on sorti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 12:50 PM
2	What makes a positive male figure for children? I'm pretty sure all of the traits that have been listed here so far could just as easily be demonstrated by a woman. no. the boy child needs to see the man to model himself on. a woman is not a man...so she cant do this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 12:29 PM
5	What makes a positive male figure for children? I started growing into such a stronger person when my mom met my step-dad. lucky for you that your step dad came into the picture. my dad was not in my life and i got nothing...no stepdad, uncle, grandad...nothing	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 12:27 PM
1	Are social class and looks correlated? If yes are onlyfan girls exacerbating wealth inequality it's not gentics. it's stress.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 11:48 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts I don’t expect to ever have a relationship like this Does that mean then that your expectations are unrealistic/too high? I feel same btw. just curious....	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 10:43 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts those women are demented do they dont count	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 10:41 AM
2	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts Women give birth to the entire human race. this not a formidable deed?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 10:40 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts just coz something illegal dont mean peops not gonna do it	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 10:39 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts how often do you think this happens? do you expect to find/create this kinda love?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 01:23 AM
2	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts thats why disney make good money	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 01:22 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts lol devotion	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 01:21 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts harsh world, saw this cute tiny pup on youtube...was just dumped in park	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 01:12 AM
2	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts probably...why not	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 01:11 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts is this the type of love you want?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 01:10 AM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts This is a good question. Maybe looking at our expectations will give us a clue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 02:25 PM
4	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts Women are incapable of providing the love you really want. Can you describe the love you really want? Like you want to be loved for the person that you are? not what you provide... No one is going to love you like your mom...	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 02:00 PM
2	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts (except by family which is unconditional). Family love is not conditional by default	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 01:59 PM
2	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts Yes, but men only love the women they want to bang - is that not a condition?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 01:58 PM
1	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts Unless OP is a child or a pet, love for adults is conditional Even the love for the pet is conditional - people choose the pets that are cute and make them feel good. Some people get a cute pet for christmas...then change their fucking mind	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 01:57 PM
4	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts Women don’t actually love men, they love an idea of us they create. True, but the same can be said for men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 01:43 PM
3	CMV: Most relationships are initiated/founded on covert contracts I’ve never met a woman capable of providing 10% of the love I’d want from a long-term partner. What does the love you want from a long-term partner look like? Can you describe it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 01:42 PM
1	Splitting bills 50/50 contributes to some women being dry down there eeing your partner as a 50/50 roommate and also as the leader of the house is just not possible. well put.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/21 01:49 PM
1	Splitting bills 50/50 contributes to some women being dry down there Men must compensate for their inability to bare children in other ways, which is the protecting and providing role. Exactly. Nothing a man can do will ever compare to what the womb-man can do: push a human being out of her body. So the least he can do is make some effort to provide and protect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/21 01:42 PM
4	Women who make the first move are more likely to end up with men who they actually find attractive female sexuality is reactive to being desired by a desirable man VERY well put.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/21 01:36 PM
5	Women who make the first move are more likely to end up with men who they actually find attractive women don’t want to be more invested in their partner than their partner is in them. agree	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/21 01:32 PM
2	How often do you meet a man you are guenuinely attracted to? lustful attraction for me is something that builds over time attraction only builds over time for me too	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/21 09:31 PM
1	How often do you meet a man you are guenuinely attracted to? I believe you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/21 09:29 PM
1	How often do you meet a man you are guenuinely attracted to? blue moons are rare, sad...	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/20 08:44 PM
1	How often do you meet a man you are guenuinely attracted to? mentally attracted without being aroused? just friends..not lovers?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/20 08:44 PM
2	How often do you meet a man you are guenuinely attracted to? lucky what you find arousing about him?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/20 08:43 PM
1	28F, never had a bf and am feeling defeated she cant build a home and family by herself...	/r/RedPillWomen	28/12/20 02:52 AM
1	A lot of the frustration, anger, bitterness and resentment felt by unsuccessful* beta males boils down to the fact that women have intrinsic value, whereas men don't. ugly women do not have intrinsic value	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/20 09:21 PM
0	Dog walking date as a first date leave the dog at home. no shits, no worries.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/12/20 06:25 PM
3	How to Overcome the Nervousness of Flirting with Men pajamas, no makeup, hair a mess? lol! fact is stranger than fiction.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/12/20 06:22 PM
1	Is there ever any point for a man to be emotionally vulnerable with a woman? only tell the one you're going to marry	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/20 06:34 PM
1	The attractiveness gap is a myth. Men are not less appealing than women because they take less care of themselves, women are just hypergamous. Obese women who don't take careof themselves can get plenty of matches from fit men - delusional	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/20 06:33 PM
1	Should you tell your partner about your past? Connection is self-disclosure. If you can not be yourself and they do not support you in your growth then why bother? Take your time in getting to know someone, and don't pretend to be someone you are not.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/12/20 04:52 PM
2	Male attention on social media - is it valid? If the guy is interested, you will know exactly, if he wants you he wont waste time	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/20 12:24 PM
1	Women have insecurities but do not tolerate insecurities in men. Life is VERY simple. Man and Woman do special dance. Woman pregnant with baby. Man provide and protect his woman and his off-spring. When man and woman make baby man never pregnant. 7 billion people on the planet - every single one delivered by a womb-man. What complicated? You want to be the woman? Act like you bleeding out of your pussy every month? You wanna have morning sickness and swollen ankles? Be a man, if that’s what you are. Why complaining?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/20 06:39 PM
1	Has anybody else noticed that when you are looking for a partner, you don't find him but... I really dont know why you are so cynical - I’ve asked the universe for loads of stuff and got exactly what I wanted, including a fine, handsome rich man: I’m just waiting for him to be delivered. . You know what they say - all good things come to those who…. We just have to be patient, coz the universe has got our backs!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/20 06:21 PM
1	Has anybody else noticed that when you are looking for a partner, you don't find him but... exactly...people dont just fall out of the sky and into your lap. I hate the 'there's someone for everyone.' crap.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/20 06:49 PM
2	Has anybody else noticed that when you are looking for a partner, you don't find him but... some of us are forever alone...	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/20 06:48 PM
1	Does anyone else worry they’re infertile? VERY well put.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/20 06:28 PM
1	What's more detrimental a guy in terms of social development: physically absent father or emotionally absent? neglect is a form of abuse	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/20 10:04 PM
1	RPW truth: appearance is the most important thing you sound clueless and ignorant	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/20 10:19 AM
1	What in your opinion makes a man a man? well put.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/20 10:19 AM
5	What in your opinion makes a man a man? Agency.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/20 10:11 AM
3	RPW truth: appearance is the most important thing dont think you get it. not seeming bitter at all to me. just honest, and realistic.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/20 05:07 PM
4	RPW truth: appearance is the most important thing You’re not even going to get the chance to show off more than looks if they don’t look a certain way, exactly. And actually I'd rather be a pretty bitch who divorces some arsehole and takes his grand piano than a frumpy nice girl who gets nothing.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/20 05:05 PM
1	RPW truth: appearance is the most important thing epecially if you know how to play the game and use what you've got. you know, go for the jugular...	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/20 05:01 PM
5	RPW truth: appearance is the most important thing your story made me laugh. some of these 'ladies' cry so hard they get given grand pianos.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/20 04:59 PM
10	RPW truth: appearance is the most important thing Thank you for saying this. I think the fundamental premise of the Red Pill is seeing and accepting reality for what it is - and then learning to deal with it accordingly, in such a way that allows one to win at the game of life. It has taken me a long time to understand and accept that it really is as simple as men don’t give a shit about how nice I am as a woman. Being nice, intelligent, creative, warm, and funny has not got me a house, husband and baby. Yet I see other women who have flawed ch…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/20 11:04 AM
3	Has "playing hard to get" ever worked for you? finally, someone who knows what they're talking about. thank you.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/20 10:40 AM
3	Does anyone have experience with dating a divorced man with kids? Why bother with someone who's already handed it all on a plate to someone else? All you're gonna get is left-overs/scraps.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/11/20 10:19 AM
3	How to date when you have severly low SMV? Don't talk like you have it all figured out its simply my lived experience	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/20 10:50 AM
1	How to date when you have severly low SMV? Is called being smart about reality. exactly	/r/RedPillWomen	03/11/20 09:53 AM
0	Are my standards too high? All good things fall out of the sky, dont you know? There are no delusional people around here. We just need to be patient, coz good things come to those who wait, and wait, and w....	/r/RedPillWomen	02/11/20 08:51 AM
5	How to date when you have severly low SMV? Thanks for the advice but being kind, positive, and cheerful has little to no impact for ‘ugly’ women.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/11/20 08:37 AM
3	How to date when you have severly low SMV? Stop listening to big talkers who say you can achieve anything and shit like that. Exactly, why so much delusional shit? It’s a jungle out there. Life is a competition. This is not fairy land.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/20 02:54 PM
8	How to date when you have severly low SMV? Your inner beauty will always outshine your outer beauty. This is Disney bullshit. In the real world it is the pretty girls that get almost all of the attention. Men are not looking at the ugly girls saying ‘wow, I love her inner beauty,’ The reality is that most men are shallow, and the inner-beautiful girls get ignored and overlooked in favour of the pretty girls -who get the world handed to them on a plate without lifting a finger. The irony is that the spoil pretty girls are so used to hav…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/20 02:52 PM
9	How to date when you have severly low SMV? Ugliness or just general unattractiveness comes far more from personality and personal confidence than anything else, Girls who are considered ugly, know it because of how men routinely ignore them and choose other women, like their friends or sister, instead. I often hear men online complain that women (they are attracted to) have no personality, hobbies, or anything interesting to say. I couldn’t understand why, when I’m creative (play various instruments), into all sorts of intellectual pursu…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/20 02:43 PM
2	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? thanks for sharing. hope you take care of yourself.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/10/20 01:30 PM
1	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? Thanks for the advice, I agree.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 09:42 PM
1	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? Sounds like you’ve done a lot of thinking and introspection. I see my dad as a selfish cunt. I see my mother as a mentally ill brainless mess that should never be given a pet dog, never mind a baby. I know we should look at our parents and see them as flawed people who just fucked up. Hope you can find peace within, no point in depending on anyone else, most people disappoint.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 12:22 PM
1	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? I suppose everyone’s parents had an impact on them, its how we deal with it and resolve it - in the case of it being a negative impact.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 09:13 AM
2	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? Naturally we would not have been conscious of our desperation, but every child needs their daddy, so what else would we be, when our needs went unmet. Sorry to hear about your mother demonising your dad, my mother did the same thing - she was nothing but bitter and angry. I actually resent her for choosing that man to be the father of her children, yet never having a single good word to say about him. Her bitterness rubbed off on me. I hated my dad, and by extension had that resentment and mistr…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 08:12 AM
2	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? A person is their own individual. Yes, I suppose the point is that I still feel broken.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:59 AM
3	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? Almost every family is dysfunctional in it's own unique way. I don't feel so alone when I realise that most people are damaged.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:57 AM
1	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? I will try to fix any emotional or issues in general associated with my past Yes, I am doing the same. I've been trying to fix myself for the last few years. But honestly I still feel broken.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:57 AM
1	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? I'd tell people if they ask. That's a good point about your dad causing more damage by being present than absent.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:55 AM
2	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? Many of them do not only act desperate but some can become angry and bitter against men in general. I think this is the standard response to being abandoned by daddy. I have been very desperate, and bitter.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:53 AM
1	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? The best thing you can do is figure out if you need go to a therapist and reframe your childhood issues so that they never become a hindrance to your life. I think this is important, that we don't let our past define us.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:50 AM
1	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? a big chunk of people nowadays (if not most) come from single parent households Most people come from a family of some sort of dysfunction, so then its normal. So no need to feel odd, or inadequate.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:48 AM
1	Is it healthy for men to have a high body count? Thank you for telling me this. I will look into the software engineering. I hope all is going well for you.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 06:41 AM
1	Is it healthy for men to have a high body count? Wow, 5 years of weekends! I’m curious, what was the business you managed online giving you passive income? Sounds like something I’d like to do.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/10/20 09:47 AM
3	How do you cope with the stigma of coming from a Dysfunctional Family? Yes, I agree we can’t let others opinions matter that much, but it bothers me that people will prejudge me with out having got to know me, and that I will be considered worthless without being judged on my own merit.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/10/20 09:45 AM
1	Is it healthy for men to have a high body count? 250+ easy how do you manage to do this? sex with strangers? one night stands?	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/20 10:58 AM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Thank you for your optimism. I do think its a good idea to make an effort to meet more men, I had done this before the lockdown using Meet Up, but had yet to meet the love of my life. Honestly I’d already fallen into the pit of despair - when I realised how futile my attempts to be funny, kind, or clever where in an attempt to attract a man. I’m not considered conventionally pretty - and I dont think being charming will make any difference what so ever, men want what they want, and from my exper…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/20 09:39 AM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Also remember that men fall in love quickly, within minutes or hours of knowing you. Thank you for your response, it makes sense. But honestly I’m feeling rather cynical about the whole boy girl thing. I was never one of the pretty popular girls that got attention and I’ve been taken back that my wit, intelligence, warmth, kindness and authenticity are apparently worth nothing to men as a I do not look a certain way. Spinsterhood is a very unappealing idea to me. My life’s dream has to been to c…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/09/20 11:17 AM
3	I did it ... I switched to part time work! you will see that long relationships simply evolve in this way I’ve never had a long relationship so I’m quite naive on such matters. Thank you for the clarification and helping me to understand. I think I understand now that because you are reducing your work hours with the intention of taking on greater responsibilities in your home you will be in a position to improve yours and your partners quality of life, with his income and yours you can afford to work less hours. He’s happy to invest in …	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/20 07:30 PM
6	I did it ... I switched to part time work! I’m trying to understand why your boyfriend is happy to be the breadwinner when you are not his wife, and you are not raising his children. What does he get out of allowing you to work part-time and subsidising your living costs financially? I mean no judgement, it’s just I’ve been sold the ‘men don’t want to be provider and protecter’ horse-shit and I’m trying to reprogram my brain that actually some men do… Is it just the way he is? He’s financially secure, he can well-afford to support you an…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/20 06:02 PM
2	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? makes sense, thank you	/r/RedPillWomen	24/09/20 03:27 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? My parents are still incredibly romantic and they’ve been together for 20 years. My mom has pride in her eyes and my dad adores my mom. You do realise that this is quite rare?	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 11:15 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Sorry to hear that	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:32 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? yes, i meant compromise in the other sense...like always being your true self	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:31 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? You shouldn’t be with someone you just feel meh about I agree, but sometimes people get desperate	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:30 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? You're right, wishy washy is a complete waste of time.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:29 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Why do you have such low self esteem Daddy issues obviously	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:28 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? increase the quality of what is normal to you This is a very good point and good advice, thanks It's all about self-love ultimately	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:27 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Thanks, I will try not to wear a potatoe bag	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:25 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? I agree, genuine, mutual respect is crucial as the foundation of a loving relationship. How can one say that they love another if there is no respect or trust? Also that respect, admiration, and trust are not simply given, but are earned over time based on a persons actions - not words. I think it’s about having standards, based on our own authentic values, and having the integrity to be honest with one’s self so that we raise the bar and keep it up, having boundaries and never compromising who …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 04:42 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Nothing beats that feeling, being looked at with desire and admiration That’s a lovely way that you describe it, I’ve never come close to this experience but I’m sure it’s nice! It was…are you still together?	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 04:33 PM
2	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? What you tolerate is what you get I agree we have to have standards. thanks for sharing	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 03:43 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Thanks for the book link! good bot!	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 03:40 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? you can make a man fall in love with you deeply by showing your respect and appreciation for him But he has to be attracted in the first place, right? Its not like I can walk around having respect and appreciation for men then they will feel compelled to whisk me off my feet… Yes, I definitely want a masculine man. And I agree its important to work on bringing out my feminine energy.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 03:17 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Cherish him my dear. I hope it all goes so well for you!	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 03:11 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Well thanks for the encouragement, and in a sense I admire your positive outlook. But on the other hand I resent what seems to be a Pollyanna view of life. I dont think that there is a somebody for everyone, so why do you say I’ve just got to be patient? Some people will experience love, some will never….regardless of how patient. I control it? How? I can’t make the man of my dreams want me.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 03:10 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? yes, I think its just realistic to not expect whirlwind romance...	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 03:06 PM
2	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Most people where and when? In the world? In your country? This is a good question/point because I think the idea of a Hollywood romance is a cultural thing. When I say most people, I’m thinking of most people in the world. I like the way that you define settling as ‘feelings of resentment towards the other due to lack of qualities’. If both people go into the relationship with realistic expectations and both feel they are getting their needs met then neither will feel they settling. I think the…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 03:06 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Find yourself a partner who is willing to choose to find the best in you This sounds like a good way of putting it, thanks Definitely no disney princess movie going on over here!	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 01:00 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? I dont think he's a love guru! was just a question about realistic expectations...reality... fair point not to compare self to others, but if someone else has it, why not me?	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 12:59 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Usually such twee stories make me feel sick. but I feel happy for you! even though I’ve never loved, or been loved. Maybe coz you are young… I hope you realise how lucky you are…just so you appreciate each other and what you have. Also very lucky to have a rare traditional man.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 12:57 PM
5	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? so its a case of mutal attraction, and mutal effort to cultivate 'love'.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 12:53 PM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? I say the bar is too low if your man does not give you at least one reason to be proud of him Yes, I agree. We must have standards. 'Colbert speaks like that of a wife, not a date.' yes, I'm refering to a committed relationships too. My point is that in reality most people settle. ?	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 11:50 AM
3	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? They may not be the average couple, but they are human like you and me, so if they can experience something - what’s to say you and I can not? I hear cynicism in your voice? I relate to that, so I’m not pointing finger at you. My point is when I look at this couple I see genuine mutual admiration/respect/connection… Not Hollywood woo bullshit. I’m sure she loves being rich and comfortable, and the privilege from being a celebrities wife, but she’s not striking me as some thot the married him for…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 11:39 AM
1	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? Thanks for the clarity. So I suppose it’s a question of vetting/looking for someone who is ‘willing to put in work into self-improvement and into the relationship,’ as well as being committed to doing the work too. I agree that we have to be willing to put in the hard work. Several people in the comments section said that they would like someone to look at them like that; but they didn’t mention the hard work that goes into maintaining such relationship so that they can continue to look at each …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 11:01 AM
3	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? I agree that love can be worked on. I dont believe in Hollywood fantasy ‘love’. I often envy people in ‘arranged marriages’ because it’s about reality not la la land. Yes I agree that vetting is very important. But yes you are incredibly lucky to meet someone that really wants you, especially so early in life. And yes, as we get older we are all getting so cynical - well those of us that have realised Disney is not reality…and not every likely to be. I’ve never had a ‘deep and full of appreciati…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:37 AM
8	Is it realistic to wait for LOVE? You think it's possible to nuture that kind of love if he's not into you like that?	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 10:15 AM