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Exactly. Every woman goes through a honeymoon phase where you'll be in bliss.....then the honeymoon phase ends and then she will start with the usual, "so what do you mean toe me?" or similar type of language......basically meanings he wants you to get more "serious" with her. When that type of language starts, it is best to make your way to the exits and quick.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 11:51 PM
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I have a vasectomy and only do friend with benefit relationships or short-term relationships. Absolutely nothing serious. For many men, I think the big hurdle is to learn to realize that you don't "own" a woman. Doesn't matter how pretty you think she is. Just accept that you can only be with a woman for a certain amount of weeks/months before you need to go your separate ways.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 09:31 PM
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It is a stupid idea overall because there is no benefit to a man getting married. You know what benefits a man? Staying single, just dating, never cohabitating, dump anyone who isn't making you happy. Don't have kids either because you're basically playing Russian roulette. Men have very few paternity rights but have a massive financial responsibility for kids. Don't do it, get a vasectomy and just say no.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 08:42 AM
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It is more of a problem with men not finding women that are suitable to their interests and women in general being more selective to others. The vast majority of decent women are scooped up quickly and the rest......well, you're better off not dealing with them because of their toxic AF personalities. It just makes the overall experience very unenjoyable. Hell, even I have effectively abandoned dating and I don't really care about real sex anymore. I am not a virgin and have had lots of sex when…
/r/MensRights21/12/22 10:18 PM
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😂 holy crap dude that is rough. I've been with a few nutso women like that. I had my weekends of fun with them before discarding them. All were fun and attractive but only fuck was the entitlement through the roof. I remember I was at one chicks house. She went to the bathroom and while she was away I saw an opened credit card bill on the table that had something like 53k remaining balance.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 09:31 PM
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No kidding. I noticed a lot of men get married entirely due to pressure from society or their girlfriend. Most dudes are happiest when dating and don't want that to end so they cave into the demands.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 07:47 PM
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As others have said, child custody and getting divorced is what maximizes billable hours for the legal profession. Lawyers have a vested interest in making sure families are broken up and people are divorcing. That's why many law firms heavily fund feminist organizations. Take notice very few people are funding "don't get married" advocacy organizations. Abortion groups get heavily funded but that's only due to funding of feminist organizations.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 07:33 PM
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Sounds like a short marriage. In this case just divorce and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 04:53 PM
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I never got married but have been broken up with many times while dating due to "can't commit" or whatever nonsense excuse. I lived with a woman for 3 months and saw how much of a disaster that was. What I realized is that the dating phase (especially honeymoon phase) is the best relationship style to be in simply because women are trying to impress you. Once you move in together, that's when the mask falls off. Personally I prefer just dating a woman for 6-12month and then breaking up. Not movi…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 04:50 PM
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anything super valuable that is obviously your items you make them go "missing" before she makes them go missing.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 04:34 PM
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This is what I've noticed as well. Older women are more often than not damaged women. If you compare that to a younger women who has dated less, she is more optimistic about dating and can actually feel true love. Older women who are divorced, single mom often had bad relationships and they'll project those bad experiences on to the next guy. They will have built a 10 ft high wall for you to climb and will force you to "prove" yourself. The young attractive chick just opens up the front gate and…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 05:48 PM
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Agree with this but the problem is once you're living together she will likely slowly start changing the rules to make you pay more, buy more stuff, whatever. Then how are you suppose to push back on that? It gets harder. That's why I think the cohabitating idea is just dumb.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 05:39 PM
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Couldn't agree with this more. The best relationships I would describe as friends with benefits. If the relationship breaks down, you can simply move on very easily with no legal ramifications. If you want sex, you can impose that on the relationship and ensure that is a consistent aspect of the relationship. If the sex stops, you can just break up and fine a new person to be with. I have no idea why men would ever marry or cohabitate to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 05:36 PM
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That's why it is dumb to the be one actually fighting. Don't fight other people's wars. Period. If it were me, I would have just fled the country at the start of the war.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 11:03 PM
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There are many women out there that like giving it. None of them are married. None.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 08:29 PM
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Also there is very little to no risk for the person complaining the false allegations.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 08:20 PM
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Don't get married, don't have kids, don't cohabitate is the best defense and protest.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:22 AM
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Bingo, this is absolutely the problem. The prosecutors go after DV claims even with zero evidence, just mere allegations are enough to destroy someone's life. In the quest to punish domestic violence offenders, we've essentially suspended due process and that's the biggest tragedy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:20 AM
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The dude looks like some super woke beta male honestly that white knighted for this women "to do the right thing". Then he got fucked in the end. Lesson to the other gentlemen out there In his last facebook post he mentioned the reason for his suicide was because of false DV claim by his wife and the courts destroying his life. His job put up on unpaid admin leave until the case was fully resolved. Could take years.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:15 AM
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She is just fucking with you. No, that's not how it works lol Pre-marital assets stay pre-marital which includes a house. She gets a cut of the equity appreciation from date of marriage to divorce date though, so she will get something but probably nothing that you can't buy her out of.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:12 AM
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SIMPs are the bigger problem than women. They're often sex craved and deranged.
/r/MensRights06/12/22 12:50 AM
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I'll leave my response as this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tldGgGFe194
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 07:06 AM
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There are also some other options. You can agree to pay the CS and alimony but once the divorce case is settled and you have your money. You can leave the country and go to another country that does not enforce foreign alimony or child support. The family court isn't going to send Interpol after you to pick you up.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 06:23 PM
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If you have a good woman, I wouldn't leave. Good women these days are extremely hard to find, especially when they are loyal to you and treat you right. Grass isn't always greener and when you burn a bridge, it is hard to restore that bridge. You may end up in a worse situation long-term.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 09:39 PM
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lmao, seriously. You do it because you want to learn a skill, information or get a degree so you can get that money. If you want that money, you have to work hard for it.
/r/MensRights21/11/22 11:37 PM
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lmao, what a fricking idiot. Everyone knows to avoid single moms at all costs.
/r/MensRights21/11/22 11:35 PM
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That's the funny thing as well. Women's entire dating strategy is to basically be passive but do something to get attention but now giving women attention has become so politically controversial.
/r/MensRights21/11/22 11:19 PM
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LMAO, yup. I've approached plenty of women in my life, always turned down. Only had success later in life when I was more established in life but by then, why even bother? The women I had met had lots of baggage with them that I didn't want to deal with at all. Single mothers, "trauma" from past relationships, financial issues and so on.
/r/MensRights21/11/22 11:11 PM
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Not much you can do. Sure hope you made her work during the entire marriage and won't get shafted with alimony. If not, you might be totally fucked financially speaking. You can make new friends. Probably time for you to start doing that if you are lonely.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 10:35 PM
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Still takes lots of effort to do that though.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 11:49 PM
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100% facts
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 09:29 PM
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Exact same philosophy and I love it. No serious relationships anymore. No moving in together. I have a vasectomy so no worries there. Life is good. No more drama and mind games!
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 09:28 PM
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Learn something new honestly. The best hobbies are the ones where you can eventually turn into a side hustle, like construction stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 09:23 PM
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Divorce. The kids will understand.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 07:29 AM
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Get the devices and see if the password is saved. Install a keylogger app on the device if the password isn't saved.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 06:16 PM
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If she is physically abusing you, setup a camera somewhere and record the incident. Act to the camera and be overly dramatic. Never touch her or do anything to provoke her. Just let it play out. Then walk out of the home and call police. When police arrive, SHOW them the video of the altercation and tell them you don't feel safe with her in the house. They will arrest her and then you file for a temporary restraining order against her. Now your lawyer has a massive case against her that he can u…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 06:12 PM
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I'm just used to seeing naked women in porn that have prefect body in every shape. 30+ y/o women have fat, folds of skin on their ass, their skin looks blemished. More often than not these older women have had so many toxic experience with men that they bring this baggage into the new relationship. Way too much baggage to me be bothered with it. Right now my life is perfect in every respect. Good career, good money, nice amount of retirement money saved up. I'm not going to risk that for anythin…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 07:23 PM
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Even the ugly fat women don't put in effort lol!
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 07:03 PM
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Same here. I don't actively flirt anymore at all. I put in zero effort to date. Women do not approach me in the romantic sense. The thing is that I don't really feel any "loss" of connection to another person. I've done the sex, dating and relationship thing in the past and I guess I'm just over it? These days I'm pretty content with just jerking off to porn and focusing on my career, hobbies, investments and so on.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 07:00 PM
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I don't date anymore. It just requires too much effort honestly and let's face it, the vast majority of women want to be courted (as in spend money on dates with them) before even considering sex. There are very few women out there that want to have sex just for the fun of it. I don't care about going through all the dating gymnastics to learn about her interests. I don't care what her favorite movie is or what she thinks about on political topics. These days I just jerk off to porn and that doe…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 06:57 PM
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Letting her be SAHM is like intentionally stepping on a landmine.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 05:29 PM
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Yes it is true and based on income/asset disparity. Never marry poor women.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 12:08 AM
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Men can opt out by not having kids. The fertility rate is below replacement levels already so if more men opt out of having kids it starts to become an even bigger issue.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 08:53 PM
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Yeah, good point. I did notice that when I was in college. More programs were aimed at women.
/r/MensRights09/11/22 06:07 PM
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The debate would then shift to are "Men are unfairly preventing women from having families and this is wrong!"
/r/MensRights09/11/22 05:51 PM
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Does this possibly explain why more women go to college compared to men? Women will get higher grades through privilege and biases (that help them). Ultimately, it makes them have a more competitive college application compared to the average person.
/r/MensRights09/11/22 05:50 PM
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Get a temporary restraining order to get her out of the house :)
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 11:41 PM
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Don't fall on your sword like a fucking idiot.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 11:41 PM
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Yes it is true. If she files tro against you and follow it to the letter of the law otherwise it will fuck you big time. If you need something from the house only do it with sheriff escort and make sure the sheriff writes a report for you so it will cover your ass. If you are in a toxic marriage try to covertly move your stuff to a storage locker (get a friend to lease it for you so it stays off your name). Make copies of all important stuff and don't leave anything at the house where she can fu…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 04:23 PM
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So then would you agree that friend with benefits or just dating is a far superior relationship style? Everyone lives separate and handles their own business. Only meet up to have some dinner and bang. No need to do the marriage thing anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 11:08 PM
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but boy did she sure rush into marrying him knowing he was a celeb and had big money
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 11:03 PM
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belize has some of the best asses in the world I've heard 😎👌
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/22 05:32 AM
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The mask always drops in court.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 06:50 PM
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Yeah if you can show the stock was earned prior to marriage the judge will classify it as separate. You just have to do the work to show it is separate.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 06:49 PM
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Just go to another country that doesn't enforce foreign child support.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 06:40 PM
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The family court is precisely why I will never have kids. Pointless.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 06:37 PM
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I can't even do the dating thing 😂I simply do not care what her favorite color is, her political opinions, where she works or literally anything else about her. Dating is extremely boring.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 06:18 PM
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Nothing wrong with that. You can get sex without a relationship if that is what you want. I've given up entirely on relationships and IRL sex. I just masterbate instead and that gets the job done.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 06:17 PM
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As a man, the simple fact is to realize that the amount of women who actually want to be a good wife is very small. Most women just want men to pamper them with gifts or free labor and them not having to put in any effort.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 05:39 PM
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Don't move out. Convince her to move out!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 06:15 PM
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get divorced immediately. 4 years is not a long-term marriage. You'll get hit with alimony and some asset split of whatever is left at this point. Force a sale on a house. If it isn't in a sellable condition just lower the price. A flipper will probably buy it, fix it up and resell it. Let them do all the work so you can get out of this mess. Don't date or fuck women at work unless you want to risk losing your job or falling victim to a sexual harassment lawsuit. That's why you don't date women …
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 06:13 PM
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She fucked around and found up Literally
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 08:10 PM
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Read into tro and do it. There is literally no down side to doing it but massive upside to doing it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 08:16 PM
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If you know she is going to play dirty then beat her to it. You should also play the victim card. When you serve her also go to the court and get a temporary restraining order to force her out of the home. Contact the police when you get her served and see if you can have an officer present. Use all legal options.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 06:35 PM
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You have to be honest with yourself. If you are having an emotional affair then you should never be in a marriage. Just stay single then you can do whatever you want. Does she make more money than you? Read up on the divorce laws in your state to see if you would benefit financially from staying married. If you don't then just agree to an amicable divorce and proceed.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 06:18 PM
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Ouch man, she doesn't work? So no sex and she is a moocher. You're going to be royally fucked in the divorce court. You made a biggg mistake marrying this woman. but you should still get divorced because the longer you stay married, the worse the "divorce penalty". As the others have said, play it out as nothing is happening but you need to start prepping immediately for divorce. Have an action plan in place when you serve her the papers and record everything.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 08:22 AM
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Unlikely she would have her cash in a money market fund. High net worth people have cash management programs that will allocate their cash to something that gives a higher yield. Maybe 1-2%.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 10:27 PM
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Yeah me might get something from the appreciation of the assets, dividends or interest for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 09:53 PM
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She probably structured it all in trust accounts and had it iron clad rubber stamp by some top family law attorneys.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 08:51 PM
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Wouldn't mind chipping in a few bucks so this guy can go to mexico and have a massive orgy there.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:55 PM
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Completely agree. Most men are completely sex motivated that everything else gets put to the side. Biggggggg mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:54 PM
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He knew her for a month before marrying her. Need I say more?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:17 PM
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The marriage is short-term so there is no reason to stay even one day longer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:15 PM
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Yeah pretty sad. Lots of guys like this too.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:13 PM
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I've seen this happen all the time. Dudes that have had lack of affection from females for most of their life. Then these low value women show up later in life (when their looks start to fade) with a fuck ton of baggage but now they give the guys they would NEVER date in their youth a "chance". The guy thinks he is just lucky now to get this woman and thinks he is happy go lucky. Reality is only reason she is with him is for money or to have a free slave laborer. It is honestly really sad situat…
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:11 PM
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Yup or at the least she has social media with dudes in her DMs she know she can jump to easy.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:08 PM
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Case in Point #292 as to why you never get serious with single moms. Single moms will ALWAYS put themselves and kids first and anyone else in line is far far down the list. I can't believe you married this woman too. Beyond stupid. Get a divorce. This woman is only using you for money and doesn't care about you at all.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 04:06 PM
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No doubt. Every man should read up on the various mental illnesses and flee when you see any signs of it. Schizos, paranoids, BPD, anything cluber B disorder etc.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 03:54 PM
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Yes. If you want to do something like this you basically need to launder the money and disguise where the money went. If the court sees that you were "spending" the money on reasonable stuff that has no long-term value then you won't be asked much about it. Anything that you bought that holds value then they will want to split. Usually it is stuff like cars, boats, house - large assets. Anything you bought after you got married is considered marital - even if you earned 100% of the money.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/22 04:36 AM
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Marriage has nothing to do with love and commitment. Either someone loves you and commits to you or they don't. It has to happen organically and the two people have to be sincere about it. Marriage is just a piece of paper from the state saying your married. Your own story even proves this out. Just because you got married doesn't mean your ex husband loved or committed to you. He bailed in the end. Your ex husband is a fool. If he didn't want kids he should have just got a vasectomy. Best ROI a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 10:36 PM
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Heard they're effectively worthless. You still need to get her to agree to the post nup terms in the divorce. If she doesn't then all she has to say is she was forced to sign it and it will get tossed easily. Post nup has same issues as pre nup where it can get tossed out.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 08:48 PM
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No because that might escalate the situation but it could be something worth looking into. Consult a lawyer before you do it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 08:33 PM
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Marriage is purely about money. Whoever has the lower income or assets is the person benefitting most likely.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 08:16 PM
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Run far far away. Never marry anyone with huge income or asset disparity.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 08:13 PM
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Exactly. It doesn't hurt to call the police and see what they say. Worst they say is nothing they can do and leave but it will sure shake up the son of a bitch and send a message. Could be enough pressure to have her move in at his place. Think of this guy as a chess piece you can play to your advantage.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 06:40 PM
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Yeah that's a dirty trick that gets used often. TRO is heavily abused these days.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 06:35 PM
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If a dude does come over you can just play it cool with him and try to get him to have her move into his place. Then in court file for abandonment and then after convince him to marry her to eliminate any alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:51 PM
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Do a "home repair" and put a new WiFi in the wall of the house. Connect the security cameras to the new WiFi. Play it off as if cutting the WiFi shuts down the security cameras.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:49 PM
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Make sure to record everything and video it too. If police come, show them the video. Police are guys too and don't want to be played for a fool. Make sure to enable time and date stamp on the video.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:45 PM
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Just sell the house and unwind everything honestly. Housing prices are at a peak anyways and going to decline over the next couple years.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:44 PM
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If the guy comes, tell him he is trespassing and get the police involved if he doesn't leave....but don't do anything that she can blackmail you on. If a new guy comes, try to convince him to have her move into his place. Also encourage him to marry her after the divorce is final. That will eliminate any alimony. Play the game to win. SHE IS REPLACABLE.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:38 PM
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Don't pay shit until you are legally required to. Cut the nice guy bullshit bro.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:37 PM
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She is your enemy now. Never take advice from the enemy. She can leave if she can't tolerate it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:36 PM
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Don't pay anything. Simply book a flight abroad to many of the wonderful destinations in other countries and reestablish your life there. Just make sure you go to a country that doesn't enforce foreign child support/alimony payments.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 05:21 AM
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Yeah she said something like "I was bored watching the same TV shows and movies all day long" lol.....meanwhile people out in the real world are working these jobs in brutal hot sun, sweating, getting injured and maimed on the job and then you have this lady here. The level of entitlement and delusions of grandeur at the same time are amazing to see really. Only in hindsight did she see how great her previous live was....something which will likely never come back for her, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 05:17 AM
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Love it!
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 05:15 AM
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Yup exactly. That's what I took from the post as well. The only compliments this lady had for her ex-husband was that he was a good provider and brough home the money, paid all the bills etc. She had nothing good to say about him from an induvial point of view. When she struggled in the dating world and only found men who wanted sex and were never going to be the provider, she suddenly realized that she was royally fucked and had to keep her shit paying job. Kind of funny actually how that worke…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 05:14 AM
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Yup exactly and then you get double-fucked over because she is a stay at home (no income) and you're the breadwinner - all of which gets imputed into the divorce settlements. So you end up having to pay her even though she was fucking around during the entire marriage and doing didly squat at home. Ridiculous.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 05:11 AM
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Pretty amazing, right? She basically told you straight to your face that all you are good for is as a provider. She said that like it was a compliment too lol. No mention of good you are just as a human being or for your personal attributes. Only concerned about you as a "provider". So what happens if you get sick and become disabled? She will jump the coop faster than you would believe.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 10:05 PM
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She is trying to turn you into some sort of cuckhold situation where she can fuck dudes on the side but still have you pay all the bills.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 09:17 PM
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There was a post in there if I recall correctly where a woman said her biggest mistake was divorcing her husband. The husband was an average dude but a good man who worked a lot. She was a stay at home with no kids. She ended up becoming unhappy and her friends encouraged her to get divorced and be "free". So that's what she did but the big problem was after she divorced, she struggled to pay her bills and find meaningful work. She ended up working some low-end service job that she ended up hati…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 09:07 PM
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If you want to get divorced and she isn't happy then you are likely in a good position. Most important thing is to be amicable since lawyers are expensive. If you can convince her to leave and be amicable about it then you're in a good position.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/22 05:19 PM
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