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RantUpset_Sky_8485/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 10:23 PM
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Upset_Sky_8485/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 03:18 PM
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Yeah, our mothers instilled those values in us, and yet, it seems we must suffer for them.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 08:25 PM
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Agreed. I called out a fair amount of bullshit, but backed off more than called it out. Pretty much for the reasons you stated. My sister pointed out that her husband always calls out her bullshit, and that women need "to be put in their place" (her words, not mine), or they won't respect you. I see too late that being a sheepish pussy because I didn't want to rock the boat (oten enough) was a mistake of grand proportions.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 06:51 PM
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I really wouldn't count on this administration for doing anything remotely like that... unless you make millions and refer to it as "Female Divorce Tarrifs," I can't see that crossing any RADARs.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 01:29 AM
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My way with words has rarely served me well in life 😁
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 04:49 PM
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I'm not even divorced yet, but haven't been laid in about 3 years. I do want to knock some boots, preferably soon after divorce. Despite being separated for few months, I won't cheat... plus, I don't need to complicate my life while still married. That being said, I'm definitely not ready for any emotional commitments whatsoever. Been damaged enough by the STBXW. But yeah, I do want to meat-stab some pink.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 03:52 PM
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Possibly! Was any mention of "it looks like a child's bedroom exploded in here!" taken as an attack against helicopter parenting? ...so "protective" even straight forward "let's clean this up" is viewed as a criticism of either the children or that "parenting" style I mentioned. Cool. The kids might be traumatized if made to clean up after themselves. Instead of putting them through such clear abuse, let's just buy them another plushy they don't need... that will forever exist in the living room…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 06:28 PM
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All these other comments make me feel justified in my beliefs that I lived with a hoarder who did nothing but cook, watch tv / zombie stare into her phone (such repulsive behavior for a gen-x), and made me feel guilty for having expectations. Like, oh good... another day of getting off work and coming home to a place full of frivolous purchases, and what looks to be the (step) kids bedrooms things scattered to every possible corner of the house. Never again. F**k that life.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 08:28 PM
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Spot on! That's how narcissistic wives do their thing. Tangentially related: the lyrics of this Puscifer song are hitting me strong in these divorcey times. Hope it comforts anyone else https://youtu.be/F7xhLpJiL1k?si=qpCAoHVTHZcHgLVE
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 10:26 PM
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This was my thinking as well, though I'd love to be as petty about things as the STBX. Separated for a couple months, and my Netflix profile is already deleted.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:54 PM
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This. Don't wait. Don't trust her. Give her zero benefit-of-the-doubt on being anything less than self-serving.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:49 PM
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I would call that out to your attorney. Show zero mercy. She is clearly not your friend, nor has your interests in mind. Typical narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:45 PM
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Same, broski. 6 years thrown away, and all the stress and anxiety sent me back to the smokes. Thanks, my STBX. Glad the state I'm in doesn't needa 6 month waiting period. "Yeah, pretty sure I want out ASAP." I'm scurrying to get all the financial paperwork filled out, but right after that, IT'S ON! ...then waiting weeks for the lawyers/ court to do their part.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:22 PM
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When the wife left about few months ago, I was cleaning out the garage and came across this wooden placard thing someone bought for our wedding... i threw it into the fire pit and watched it smolder to ashes. Cathartic.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 05:00 PM
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I didn't move any of her stuff to my storage. She got a tinier storage unit than myself, which also costs more (she has no money). Hers is full, and she has more crap to store (mild hoarder), complains she can't afford hers. Complains she can't afford her rent. Awwwww, shucks! .. not sure if she expects sympathy or what. Maybe she should've planned her exodus a little better.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 03:25 PM
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Anyone who chooses some imaginary god over a spouse isn't worth anyone's time. Be thankful. Let her find some maga cult zealot.fanatic that believes in stana-clause-for-adults and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 01:29 PM
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Actually, I wrote in recent past tense. She came around this weekend, and we and her friends did a final cleaning. The house is empty and should hit the market this weekend. Filing is in progress. She won't contest either, which is cool of her... or just typical of her apparent hands-off approach to marital matters.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 01:44 AM
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That's pretty heartless 😞
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 01:08 PM
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For giving me zero notice and moving out about 7 weeks ago, leaving me with no help in the mortgage, bills, cleaning this place up (selling the home), home repairs (mostly minor stuff to ready for sale), trying to sell home in practically winter, obliterating the idea I had ingrained would be my future. Dated off and on for 33 years, married for six, and up and deletes that life. I've already got attorneys engaged to file. I don't want my wife back for all those grievances (and then some). Nope.…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 12:27 AM
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"Yes, I'd like to counter with a discovery of all the worthless Temu bullshit purchases my wife made."
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 06:51 PM
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Impulsive, too. I'm not sure she thought this maneuver through very well. Moved out, stayed at a friend's for a couple weeks... no plan for where she'd live. Hood apartments now, because that's all she can afford. Rented a storage unit... full of her impulse purchases over they years. And yet 65% of the stuff in the house is still hers. Does living life operating on impulse actually work for people long term? [insert sexist remark here].
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 12:02 AM
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A good one that i read on this thread a few weeks ago hit home [paraphrasing] "There is no equity of love earned with women." Yep! Just like that: moved out a few weeks ago with no warning.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 11:39 PM
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Sounds familiar. 6 years of paying for a better life for her and my two step kids, and I get left alone with a house I hate (selling) and having to buy and move into a new home... right in the middle of Fall weather getting colder. Not as cold as a woman's heart, but getting there. At least I'm not a utility anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 11:34 PM
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Nope. Trying to get myself divorced. No poon action in about 3 years. Bring on the vulvas! (After I'm officially divirced).
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 08:46 PM
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Yeah, I've always leaned towards lawyering up. She's never been married before... previous kids are just two baby daddy's, so she's got no experience there beyond child support. I don't think she intends to screw me over, but a) Illinois (f*ck this state), and b) she's poor, and grew up poor, annnnd: Poor people are often desperate people because they're financially retarded people. Definitely filing. Going to try the mutual route, and if she wants to contest anything, f*ck her. Try affording an…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 06:18 PM
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So, in Illinois, mediation is a requirement, which that firm can do for us as well. It is expected to be a mutual split. I feel like I've got waaay too much going on to navigate this myself.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 03:30 PM
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This was one of my biggest issues with my (moved out) STBX. Spent like there was no future to retire for. Frivolous purchases. Poor people stay poor by spending like poor people do. I'll be glad when I can start contributing more to my 401/403b, which I'd backed off due to her "I'm poor folk with dumb math skills and live for the here and now always because I'm not logical and make every decision based off of emotion." Can't imagine the credit score damage this country bumkin room temperature IQ…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 05:26 PM
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The hours a day she spent watching mindless fucking idiot IQ videos on FakeBook certainly helped nothing. I spent a lot of time doing hobbies. I've got no time to sit by for dumb videos made by extra chromosomed genz/millenials, or sit on a couch hanging around while 5 back to back episodes of Real Housewives of Atlanta streams. Fuck that existence. I don't want a divorce, but I don't want that life more. Not the only problem, but I would describe my STBX as an addict of "dumb people media."
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 05:37 PM
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That's where I'm at. Wife of 6 years moved out 3 weeks ago (two step kids, as welI). She even said "I think we just need time apart." Nope! She made a choice. Those were just some crap soften-the-blow words. Lots of pain. I need to file before her! Got a consultation with an attorney coming up soon. No takebacks!
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 04:20 AM
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So many things.. I'll be filling soon, so not divorced yet. Here's the basics: Married almost 6 years; two step kids; dated off and on since I was 17. I'm 50 now. Less than a year in: her sister dies. She never really recovered from this. We were going to marriage counsellings, her idea. She thought we (I) could use it, having never been a parent/step parent before. Her intentions were good, but as a genx male, my opinion of therapy is: fucking useless. That's aside the point... back on track.. …
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 05:37 PM
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The hurt. The hurt motivates me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:22 PM
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Wife just moved out the Friday before Labor Day, and took my step kids (obviously). I'm not even divorced yet (I'll be filing soon), but I have zero desire to stay in a mostly empty 4BR house in a hick-town I hate. Definitely moving as soon as shit settles down. Already boxing things up with that in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 10:00 PM
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My sister kept her exes last name after her divorce. To me it was a pride thing "change your last name back." To her it was "but so much paperwork to do that." Laziness IMO.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 05:34 PM
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Admittedly, I'm generally ignorant in the laws of divorce matters, but does the cheating thing not come into consideration in the courts? 56/44 seems like some bullshit to a cheater to receive. I'd think 10% would be more than fair to a cheating CU Next Tuesday.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 11:20 PM
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Yeah, step kids made the house look like a dumpster full of candy wrappers and toys exploded in the house. Like that for 6 years! Any time I would suggest (calmly or out of frustration) cleaning that shit up, I'm the bad guy. Zero respect for me working my ass off, paying for a 4 BR house, and expecting it not look like my late crazy grandma's hoarder house. How dare I have expectations?
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 11:09 PM
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Thanks, man. It wasn't the only issue, of course, but I had a feeling those events were the final nails in the marriage coffin. The worst part is 6+ years of attachments to the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:53 PM
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Agreeing with the "raising kids in a stable environment." This Friday before Labor Day, my wife moved out. I have two step kids 17 & 10. The 17 yo dropped out and got a GED. The 10 yo recently started going to school in the town his dad lives in, thus around only on weekends. Once those two things happened, I pondered: could this be the end? A couple weeks later and: yep. FML
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 06:44 PM
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"I think we need time apart." "Nope. You made a choice. If it's to the point of you moving out, we're never getting back together."
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 03:43 PM
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This last Friday before Labor Day, my wife of 6 years moved out, took the step kids as well. I'm missing them dearly, but, I'm going to file for divorce soon. I dont want it to end, but despite all the pain and anguish, I figure: if you move out, F*CK YOU! Done.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 03:39 PM
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Hey, man. I sent you a lengthy chat and messaged your inbox. This happened to me on Friday. You're not alone. I hope my perspective helps. Feel free to DM me!
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 09:46 PM
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