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| 1 | The Idea That "Men Should Pay For Dates Because Men Tend to Do Less Housework" Is You Admitting You Treat Men Like a MonolithThis isn't the reason why. I honestly dont know the exact reason men pay. I'm assuming it's because it used to be taboo for women to work. Women couldn't even open a bank account and it was ultimately very difficult for women to have money of their own, so the man had to pay. It's just a tradition that carried on, even though its no longer necessary. It is, what it is. At least, that's my theory. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/26 12:00 PM |
| 10 | What do women truly think about masculinity?My observation is that women care less about certain things than men do. Your average woman is going to look at the total package. I find that being tall and muscular has allowed me to break the ice with women and obviously given me an advantage, but it's not enough to gain, or keep, their interest. The shorter man with rizz is going to stand a better chance than a tall man who doesn't know how to behave around a lady. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/26 06:52 PM |
| 10 | What do women truly think about masculinity?I consider myself to be a masculine man. The fact that Im 6'3, 225 lbs, with abs that are visible in the right lighting, isn't what makes me masculine. It just means that I look masculine. You could argue that lifting heavy weights, regular cardio, and eating a somewhat clean diet contributes, because it means that Im handling my health; However, I think the most masculine thing about me is that I don't rate other men's masculinity, nor do I worry about other men's achievements, unless they are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/26 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Simps have ruined the dating world.Being chivalrous isn't Being a simp. Its being a gentleman. Most men will not stay with a woman who never pays or at least treats them like they're obligated. I always paid for the first few dates, but I'd leave if she didnt return the favor within the first couple weeks. I think it all comes down to what you're looking for out of the relationship. Both people need to bring value to the relationship, otherwise it wont work. Correct me if I'm wrong, but my view on the red pill ideology is that th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/26 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Theres nothing wrong with porn, the industry is the problemI used to think the same thing, until I gave up porn. Even amateur porn can throw off your mind. I watched a lot of porn when I was young. I decreased the amount of porn that I watched after I became sexually active. After all, why would I watch others, when I could use my imagination to relive what already happened and possibly make small adjustments to make it better. Over time, my wife lost her desire for sex and would just offer duty sex every week or two and this destroyed my self esteem. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 01:02 PM |
| 1 | There's an overlap between men who struggle with dating and irreligious conservatives.I might also add that conservative women tend to be more willing to date liberal men, than liberal women would be to date conservative men. I'm not trying to generalize, but it's been an observation of mine. It also depends on what type of conservative we are talking about. I'm liberal and my wife is conservative. I have conservative friends, but I used to have more before Trump. The issue wasn't that they voted for Trump or even were MAGA, but the reasons why. A few of my friends became extreme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/26 01:05 PM |
| – | Progressive women suddenly know who the “losers” are when it comes to datingI think what you're failing to realize is that your values are just different than the average woman. It's not that progressive women think of you as a loser, but they would rather be with someone who supports the things that are important to them. I just want to point out that we have never had a progressive system, so it would be impossible to have achieved or failed under that system. None of our presidents have been progressive, a very small percentage of congress is progressive, etc. I live… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 12:12 PM |
| -2 | Red pill failed menYou've got it backwards. I'm a married man, I'm doing my best not to win these women's hearts. Have you actually met a feminist? I have. In fact, before I was married, I dated a few. I was in a relationship with a couple of them and I met their feminist friends. The one thing these feminists had in common was that they didn't hate men, in general. They hated certain men and the things they do, but none of the feminists that I met showed any signs of hating men. Of course, a small number of women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 12:44 PM |
| -12 | Red pill failed menWomen don't hate me, because Ive always made a habit of treating them right. Women hate men that behave a certain way, think certain things, and do certain things. If you aren't guilty of any of this, than women dont hate you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Even men think men are the problemMy take is that there are some problems caused by some men and some problems caused by some women. The worst examples of humanity always get the most attention. We also mainly focus on the issues harming our own community and only pay attention to the worst, if anything, affecting others. Very few men and Very few women are actually doing anything inherently bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Many women say that if a woman rejects a man, he should accept it and move on, never trying again.It seems to me that there is either a miscommunication or you didnt read what I actually said. I said that I do take no for an answer and leave it at that. I've never invite myself to sit and beg after being told that she's not interested. For context, the one and only time that I did try again was based on the way thay she said no. She said that she was getting over a break up and she's not interested in dating anyone right now. I waited over 6 months and in that time we got to know each other … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 04:40 PM |
| 8 | Why don't men speak up more about male rights?I speak up all the time and don't get canceled, because I also speak up about the rights of others. Sure, I am often getting my words twisted or misunderstood on Reddit, but, with exception of getting banned on Reddit, people dont usually get canceled unless they are saying things that enough of us see as dangerous or deranged. People typically get labeled as incels because they've become radicalized. They complain about women not liking them, which is a valid reason to be upset, but then often … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 01:12 PM |
| 1 | The debate about age gaps in relationships reveals the double standard of blue pillers.Not all blue pillers think the same and are often misunderstood by red pillars and vice versa. I do think its creepy in most cases for a 40 year old, of any gender, to date an 18 year old. I think it's less creepy for a 52 year old to end up with a 30 year old. Same age gap, but the 30 year old has more life experience and isn't likely being taken advantage of. When I was 20, I dated a former classmate who was the same age. She broke up with me, because she got engaged to a man in his 40s. She k… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 12:39 PM |
| – | Red pill "logic" applied to men shows the absurdity needed.Im not going to debate this because it's absolutely true. Did you see that Jubilee debate with Dean Withers, that had him debating 20 women who thought women can't lead and shouldn't vote because of their period? And that one lady, who talks like a disney princess, that kept accusing him of misogyny and mansplaining, while simultaneously arguing that women aren't competent? I was laughing my ass off at their claims, but it's really not funny. Enough people believe this crap, or at least pretend … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 12:22 PM |
| 2 | Many women say that if a woman rejects a man, he should accept it and move on, never trying again.Did I use feminist buzzwords or try to make something a trap? I dont understand, please elaborate. I just told them that they said no and I took them at their word. I do think that as long as no one is being pestered relentlessly or harassed, that asking again after an extended period of time shouldn't be an issue. Especially, if something has changed in the meantime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Many women say that if a woman rejects a man, he should accept it and move on, never trying again.I've always taken a no as a no and moved on, but I can't tell you how many times I've been rejected by a woman just to have her reach out later to ask why I stopped pursuing her. That real men keep trying to woo the woman. At that point I've already lost interest, because I don't have time for these games. Women that play games like this are far less attractive than those that don't play games. The only time I tried again, I felt like her no was more of a not right now. Its not a good time. We h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 12:04 PM |
| 0 | Men gotta stop getting offended because woman don’t want them.I think the trick is to at least appear to be that positive guy that people want to be around, not be afraid to make a fool out of yourself in a fun way, and to work on the things that you can, so there's less to reject you on. The reality is that most women's ideal man is literally only 0.6% of the population. Which I view as an advantage, because most women are going to have to make a few concessions and focus more on the total package. That's why most of my short friends are in a relationship… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:43 PM |
| 0 | Men gotta stop getting offended because woman don’t want them.I'm a man, who has been rejected for not having certain physical traits that women want, but I think giving up is irrational. Even if many women didnt want me, some did and eventually became enthusiastic about being with me. There's nothing wrong with having a type, even if that's not me. My philosophy has always been to not worry about those that don't want me and focus on finding those that do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?I had to go back and reread what I wrote and I can't see what drove you to this conclusion. It doesn't really matter, but Im just curious about what lead you to think this. To summarize the way that I actually think, an unfulfilling sex life is difficult to deal with, but true love is more important. Even though I feel like I need quality sex about 4 times per week to truly feel okay, it's much better being with someone you have a real emotional connection with, than having lots of great sex wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?There was a time that I was considering moving into the guest bedroom downstairs until she was willing to listen to what I had been trying to say for years. Eventually, she allowed the conversation to happen. She has PCOS which causes a hormonal imbalance and during the conversation I mentioned that she shou talk to her doctor about the issue. Her primary said that she needs to talk to her gynecologist, but in the meantime, she has fixed her attitude around the issue. I told her that I appreciat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/26 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?You've got it all wrong. I love my wife. We have an unfullfilling sex life, but I'm not so one dimensional that I'm going to stop loving her over mismatched libidos. I absolutely would not live with a dead bedroom, but I'm not going to leave the woman that makes my life complete, over an issue that she's at least putting some effort into. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/26 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?This isn't entirely true. We are driven and motivated by sex and I do kind of envy men that aren't; However, my wife is my best friend and the second most important person in my life, next to our son. She helped me through the hardest time of my life when my girlfriend, at the time, decided to break up with me when I was dealing with what was supposed to be a terminal illness. She visited me in the hospital everyday for a year and helped me with my recovery and made me go back to the hospital wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 12:13 PM |
| 2 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?Yes, if I wear the right shirt. Ive been lifting weights since I was 12, so I get looks if im wearing a form fitting tshirt. The lady at the local Panda Express smiles and gives me an extra scoop of Orange Chicken if Im alone, but doesnt do it if my wife is with me. I get hit on by women every once in awhile, but I get approached by lots of men...lol. I also constantly run into an ex girlfriend, almost every week at Costco, who's always trying to hook up, even though I make it clear that it cant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 05:17 AM |
| 3 | Why don't unattractive men want to completely eradicate their libido?Im not unattractive, but my wife has lost her libido. Ive been balding since I was 17, but Ive always taken control of the things that I can control. Now Im a bald man, with a nice body, a good personality, who still gets looks from women that I don't care about, but can't turn on my own wife mainly due to hormonal issues and having a child to take care of. Im fine without hair. Ive accepted it and have had a hell of a dating life before I decided to settle down, even without hair. I had talked … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/26 04:18 AM |
| 3 | There are no blue pill influencers for men because the lies don't workI think the bigger problem is that we don't understand each other and just make baseless claims and assumptions about things that we dont understand. The reason that blue pill doesn't have dating influencers is because we don't need them. Being myself has worked very well. I never had any problems getting women to date me. I've run into a couple of ex-girlfriends within the last couple of years and they both wanted me back. I dont need Andrew Tates terrible advice, because I and all of my blue p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/26 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Men shouldn’t have to be hypermasculine providers in order to get into relationships.You've got it all wrong. I worked at a grocery store when I met my wife. I had plenty of relationships before her. Now, I deliver furniture. Most of my gen Z coworkers have girlfriends. Virtually all of us have wives or girlfriends and, with the exception of 2 guys, the ones who havent had at least had a relationship within the last year. We all have a wide range of height and masculine traits. None of us are high earners, but some are with high earners. The difference is that none of us believe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/26 05:28 AM |
| 4 | I feel like many women complain about not being able to find a “good guy” or steady man but are having sex way too early on.Ive always been relationship minded, but would lose interest after about 4 dates if things didnt seem to be at least trending towards sex. I'd never pressure or coerce anyone into sex they didn't want, but I honestly cant feel a romantic connection without sex. I think her problem is that she's looking for men who's goal is to sleep with lots of women and aren't looking for a relationship. Typically, most of my relationships started with sex on the 2nd or 3rd dates and I pursued a relationship t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/26 12:47 AM |
| 1 | As a man who struggled to orgasm with partners, I really think the discourse around orgasm gap is unfair.Ill have to reread what I wrote, because I agree with everything you've said and I meant to refer to the short term. But gooners masturbate a lot, otherwise they wouldn't talk about their gooning being something that they enjoy doing. Porn can cause psychological issues. It doesn't always, but if someone treats it like a hobby, kind of like gooners do, it will absolutely harm your mind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/26 10:11 PM |
| 3 | As a man who struggled to orgasm with partners, I really think the discourse around orgasm gap is unfair.Im not going to dismiss what your saying and act like there isn't something psychological happing. However, I think gooning is the main reason. A person's masturbation habits can desensitized them and I've learned after overcoming my own porn addiction that porn is terrible for your mind, if youre going to try and have some sort of sex life. My wife and I have mismatched libidos, so, even though I very rarely watch porn, sometimes I masturbate too much and cant cum from sex. For example, we have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/26 12:24 PM |
| 0 | If roughly half of Gen Z men have no hope of ever getting married and having children, how can anyone be surprised they're being radicalized?I've never had casual sex nor did I want to. I might have had a problem with marrying a former porn star or prostitute. Im honestly not sure. Otherwise, her body count would have to be astronomical for me to care all that much. The only time I cared had nothing to do with the sex itself. After I started dating my wife, her ex-fiance started dating her friend, so he was around her friend group. He would talk to her like she was property and I had a huge problem with that. I had to pull him aside … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Men have no sympathy towards womenIm not saying that there aren't a lot of red pill people out there. Ive known a few redpill people since before, I believe, people referred to their perspective as red pill. I just think its less than people here think. That being said, not everyone searching Andrew Tate is red pill. Ive searched Andrew Tate to see if I can find credible sources verifying claims from less reputable sources. Also, not all of his content is Red Pill. He's made fitness content and, since I've been a bit of a gym br… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Men have no sympathy towards womenI don't think the red pill and black pill are as big as you think. I suppose geography plays a role, just like it does with politics. It may be big in places I've never been to. However, I only see it in a few subs on reddit. It seems like virtually everything I see in most of Reddit is more than likely posted by people with blue and purple pill ideologies and a few, including this one, are a safe space for views that most of us men don't have. I honestly don't see what the red pill and black pi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 01:33 PM |
| 1 | If roughly half of Gen Z men have no hope of ever getting married and having children, how can anyone be surprised they're being radicalized?She asked for the names, so I gave her the names, until she made it clear that she couldn't handle the answer to her question. As a result, she has an incomplete list. She thinks my body count is 6, but I've actually slept with 9 different women and received oral from 2 others, but it didnt go any further than that. I also know that she lied about her body count, because she told me that I was number 3, but has let it slip that she slept with 2 other guys, on the rebound, and gave a handjob to 1… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Men have no sympathy towards womenYou can't read posts and comments in this sub and think this is how the average man feels. This sub seems to be full of men who have struggled with women and are angry about it. They feel helpless, hopeless, and all around radicalized. Many of them seem to have the time to comment all day everyday, so they do. They do it so much that you start to think that they are most men. In reality, there are actually very few of them. The difference is that they're more outspoken about their views and not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 12:00 PM |
| 1 | If roughly half of Gen Z men have no hope of ever getting married and having children, how can anyone be surprised they're being radicalized?I personally never cared about body count as long as she doesn't have any std's. Ive slept with my fair share of women when I was single and I don't want to be judged for it. When my wife asked and I got to the 3rd name that wasnt her and I hadn't named the 2 names that she already knew about and she started freaking out. I had to leave a few names out to keep the peace. I know it matters to some, but I dont see why. When you meet a women with a lot of experience, there's a strong possibility th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 01:30 AM |
| – | Inability to attract a woman isn’t always bad personality.I somewhat agree, but also believe that everyone has at least a few matches that would be at the very least willing to give them a shot. They just need to find each other. The people who dont have any chance are the ones who have unreasonable expectations or have just given up and become radicalized. That doesn't sound romantic, but it gives someone a chance to let their personality take over. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/26 04:51 PM |
| 1 | JP Morgan executive suing for defamation will have chilling effect on male victims.False accusations do ruin lives. I don't see why that's up for debate. Even if she wins all legal and civil cases, the guy comes out publicly admitting he lied, etc., some people will still believe that she's guilty or may not want to do business with her because of the optics. I know absolutely nothing about this case other than she's rich and good looking, so I won't comment on the legitimacy of the claims. I also don't tend to have a positive opinion on people in high places, because they usu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/26 11:55 AM |
| 3 | If roughly half of Gen Z men have no hope of ever getting married and having children, how can anyone be surprised they're being radicalized?I don't want to argue with or disrespect you. You're obviously struggling with your situation and I can respect that. I feel like you don't feel worthy and Im telling you that you definitely are worth and deserve love. You should never convince yourself otherwise. It's true that women like tall and good looking men, but they also like confidence and positivity. Young women need to learn what they don't like before they know who they want to be with. If you can work on yourself, improve the thing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/26 08:39 PM |
| 3 | If roughly half of Gen Z men have no hope of ever getting married and having children, how can anyone be surprised they're being radicalized?Im only saying this, because I think you have every right to be happy and the ability to do so, with the right attitude. We are a civilized society and alpha/beta are just labels that mean nothing. Most women describe their ideal man as someone who barely exists (approximately 0.6% of men). Which means there's an opportunity for normal guys who know how to set themselves apart, because 0.6% of the population couldn't possibly be enough to pleasure 100% of women. That being said, you are good eno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/26 07:55 PM |
| – | If roughly half of Gen Z men have no hope of ever getting married and having children, how can anyone be surprised they're being radicalized?I'm a Xennial and it honestly seemed like this when I was young. I had no problem getting dates, but that's all most women wanted to do when they were young. Most of the women that I dated were more focused on achieving their future career goals and enjoying youth, then settling down. Then they either achieved their goals or gave up and decided that they were ready to move on to the next phase in their life. The percentage of women waiting longer to settle down possibly increased, but you're all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/26 12:27 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing morally wrong with the af/bb strategy.Its probably split down the middle with some divorced men have the traits and others are divorced, because they don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/26 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Klay Thompson proves the RP theory has alot of truthsAndrew Tate has to buy women. Andrew Tate is teaching you the most beta shit ever, because it's forced masculinity. He makes videos saying that we all have problems, than proceeds to complain about his problems and continues by telling you that the difference between you and him is that he doesnt complain about his problems, after you just listened to him go on a shirtless rant complaining about his problems. Of course, there are feminists who do hate men, but they are rare. Almost all feminists… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 12:01 AM |
| 0 | Klay Thompson proves the RP theory has alot of truthsRP is a cause. If a man meets a woman, gets her to agree to a relationship and that man requires her to obey him and doesn't support women having the rights that made feminism necessary in the first place, than that man better be good looking and have about $30 million dollars in the bank. Otherwise, very few women would put up with that unless they are raised that way from childhood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Klay Thompson proves the RP theory has alot of truthsIf this is true, than why do none of my friends that I would consider red pill have wives or girlfriends and almost all of my blue pill friends do. I suppose this is too small of a sample size for it to be used as real world evidence, but it's still enough to get my attention. They always complain about how they can't find a woman who is okay with the way that they think or the politicians that they support, yet they never seem to find the correlation that their opinions are unattractive to most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 12:38 PM |
| 9 | Klay Thompson proves the RP theory has alot of truthsWith all due respect, most red pill men don't have the "value" that Klay Thompson has. For the average man, red pill ideas are the biggest reason why many of them can't get laid or find a woman willing to stay in a relationship with them. You may view it as Klay Thompson having options. I view it as him either not having self control and/or respect for his (ex) girlfriend. He should break up with her before moving onto someone else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 03:53 AM |
| 2 | The recent Sophie Rain situation proves that the sexual revolution only benefits elite men, and does not empower womenIm guessing that the person depositing the money in her account is her financial adviser, who she hired to make a lot of money into a lot more. On Piers Morgan uncensored she said that shes made investments and opened at least one business. At this point, she's already made generational wealth and could stop at any time if she didn't enjoy what she does. I'm not defending only fans. A lot of people can't control themselves around porn and are causing themselves great harm by paying for only fans… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/26 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Being a provider male is simpingYou're right on both. You didn't mention family and I just assumed. It's absolutely simping if they pay for everything for someone they dont even live with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Being a provider male is simpingI wouldn't say providing for your family is simping. If the reasoning to do so is at all motivated by status, than it is absolutely simping. If a man (or woman) has the means to handle all the bills on a single income and this frees up time for their spouse to take care of the kids and household, than thats between them to decide. In my house, we both work, we both are responsible for cooking, cleaning, and childcare, and I handle most (but not all) of the household expenses because I make more.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 02:21 PM |
| 0 | Men don’t care about MenThat's true to a certain extent and something I didnt consider when I made my comment. However, I doubt too many soldiers were fighting for mens rights specifically. Women fight in the military now and probably would have if they were allowed. Women werent allowed to run for office nor were they allowed to vote, so they had zero representation. To this day, politicians and the supreme court are still stripping women of their rights, even though women have also shed blood for freedom. Some women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 02:44 PM |
| 0 | Men don’t care about MenBy moral right I mean that we have the rights that we should have. For example, we shouldnt have a right to sexually assault women, to commit domestic violence, to release pornagraphic material including revenge porn without their consent, unsolicited dick picks etc. Some of this, I believe, is actually legal, but i'd argue that it shouldn't be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Men don’t care about MenI think the bigger issue is that we disagree on what rights we need and what rights we don't have? Historically and recently, women have had to fight for rights that us men were just given. Im open to being proven wrong, but I personally can't think of a single moral right that us men dont have. Im all for empowering my fellow man and being there when Im needed, but Im not going to have another mans back if hes behaving in a manner that doesn't align with my values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 04:35 AM |
| – | Giving a woman false signals to get laid is the male version of being friendzonedWe've been together for 20 years and married for 17 of those years. She makes it clear that she's in love, so what exactly was I supposed to hear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Giving a woman false signals to get laid is the male version of being friendzonedHow? I gave her the choice, which gives her the power. She told me that she was looking for a relationship, but said that she wanted to just be friends with me. Nobody forced or pressured her into anything. I simply said that if our goals are too far apart, than I'm going to leave so I can find someone else who wants to be with me. It turns out that when faced with the reality of me leaving, she actually did want to be with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Giving a woman false signals to get laid is the male version of being friendzonedIf this is true, than why do most of the redpill men I know have trouble with women and the blue pill men don't have any trouble at all. I only know one redpill man who was a girl and she has terrible anxiety. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Giving a woman false signals to get laid is the male version of being friendzonedI gave her a choice and she made her decision. 20 years later, we're in love and have a kid together. It's fine that she had her doubts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:02 PM |
| 3 | Giving a woman false signals to get laid is the male version of being friendzonedI had more goals than just wanting to fuck her, though. If she told me that she was open to a potential relationship, but made me wait a little longer, than I would have been okay with that. I just didnt want to have to listen to her complain about other guys that she thought were better than me. Sex is great, but it gets better when you know what each other likes and you both care about each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:56 PM |
| 0 | Giving a woman false signals to get laid is the male version of being friendzonedIt's very simple to avoid being friendzoned. My wife actually tried to friendzone me in the beginning. As soon as she said that we should just be friends, I told her that I already have friends and that if this isn't going to lead anywhere, than I'd rather just go my separate way. She got upset that I didnt want to be her friend, but I respect myself too much to stick around and watch her be with other men. I told her to think about it and call me if she changes her mind. She initiated sex a cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 07:48 PM |
| – | Women are too underqualified to give dating advice to straight men.It's not accurate anyways. We dont need to have our brains stimulated to get in the mood, but sex is terrible and honestly worst than no sex at all, if she just lays down and lets you have sex, without triggering anything in our minds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 05:57 PM |
| – | What's the point of a penis if doing oral on it is considered coercive and misogynistic?My wife never seemed to have a problem with it, until we got married. Now, she doesn't act like it's coercive or misogynistic. Just something that she doesn't want to do anymore. Once every few months she'll perform oral as foreplay, but I doubt Ill ever receive an actual blowjob again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/26 03:53 PM |
| 2 | If sex work was truly a job as any other, we would have no problem promoting it for high schools studentsI have the unpopular opinion that most, if not all, sex work should be legal, including prostitution. Sex work is one of those things thats going to happen whether or not it's legal. When its legal, it can be taxed and regulated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 10:59 PM |
| 0 | The left are hypocrite when it comes to menWith the right, every accusation is often a confession. I'm not so dense as to make generalizations that everyone on the right, or even a majority, do this, but it is very common. Especially amongst politicians and conservative media. In your case I'd say it's true. There's a lot to unpack here and I'm pretty sure that at least some of what you said has your fellow right leaning/red pill types wondering how you came to the conclusions that you did. Who cares about the draft? It's not like we are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Is there a way to make dating fair for men ethically - without reducing the rights of women, or challenging the autonomy of others?For the record, Ive never had casual sex nor was casual sex ever a goal of mine, so I wasn't speaking from that point of view. I agree that in the scenario of casual sex, the woman shouldnt need to have input from a man who hasnt invested any part of his emotional self to her. If a woman gets pregnant from casual sex, than I doubt the man would find out, anyways. I'm strictly speaking from scenarios that I could have potentially been in. I've never had sex with a woman who wasn't at the very lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 07:23 PM |
| 0 | Is there a way to make dating fair for men ethically - without reducing the rights of women, or challenging the autonomy of others?I personally dont see why many men make a huge deal about the unfairness of dating. When I was single, I definitely thought the first few dates were unfair, since I had to plan and pay for everything, even if she made more than I did. However, after that, the woman would typically offer to pay for things and at that point wouldn't hold it against me if I let her. She would also start discussing her ideas for dates. I never really thought about the rights and autonomy of women back then, but I su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 05:07 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Who said that? Life happens. It's not a gender issue. People have a right to change and people have a right not to be happy about it. I suppose we all have a right to react however we decide to react, but the question we need to ask ourselves is what kind of person do my decisions make me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 06:03 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Making a big deal about something is absolutely pressuring someone into doing something that they don't want to do. If my wife does something that she isnt into, because I want it, isnt immoral. Having her do something because the way you'll react if she doesn't is absolutely immoral. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:11 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"How would this work if people change or lose their interest, over time. Some people will also pretend for awhile before they decide that they don't want to pretend anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:07 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"Some do and some don't. Just like some men. Not me. My interests all stayed the same, where as my wife changed a lot as she's aged. That'sfine. I used to think that only women changed, but r/marriage is full of women complaining that their husbands lost interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:04 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"It feels terrible, because these are things that I never stopped wanting and in some cases, such as blowjobs, would have been deal breakers early in the relationship. I would never pressure her into doing anything, beyond mentioning that these are things that I miss, and then leaving it up to her whether she'll do those things from time to time to make me happy or make her own decision that she's not going to do it. Obviously, the things that she can't do arent up for discussion, but I personall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 04:07 PM |
| – | Women don't owe men "sexual equality"People and their interests change. My wife used to do things with me that she no longer does. Some things, like riding on top, are things that she can't physically do anymore and never actually enjoyed in the first place. She's also lost interest in doing other things as she aged. The same could be true from one relationship to the other. It feels terrible, but its her right to decide what and when she is and isnt willing to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Male obsession of being "hookup worthy" yet saying only the hottest can get hookupsI used to be fairly good looking when I was younger (Im 44 now) and I never managed to have any hookups with women who I hadnt already previously been in a relationship with. I had sex on the first date once and it wasnt uncommon for my date to want sex on the second date, but it typically didn't happen until the 3rd or 4th date. I did hook up with ex's fairly often though, typically after breakups. I also had a roommate, who was average looking, who only did hookups. He wasnt very tall, had que… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Men shouldn't approach women unless the woman has "genuine desire" for the man.One of the examples I gave, for things I used to do, was to give a quick and polite compliment, thank her for making me smile, and then walk away, leaving her alone and giving her the choice whether or not she's going to do anything about it. Most women would be flattered. At the very least, they've all dealt with much worst. Everyone is worthy of love and no one specific woman is obligated to give that love, but how will you know if she's interested if you don't approach her. Sometimes, you wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Men shouldn't approach women unless the woman has "genuine desire" for the man.I believe I mentioned in my comment that some of this may be outdated; However, one thing will never change. You stand absolutely no chance if you cant get her attention. Women have always had the upper hand in dating. Every woman has been fighting over the same few guys for probably as long as their have been women. That part hasn't changed. The things that used to work don't necessarily work anymore, but being bold gets her attention. It may not be enough to get the date, but its enough to get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 07:47 PM |
| 4 | Men shouldn't approach women unless the woman has "genuine desire" for the man.The funny thing about human nature and attraction is that we automatically are more likely to find attraction to others that have shown attraction to us. That's not to say that this always creates instant attraction, but it improves your odds. The point I'm trying to make is that some women won't think about desiring you, until they find out that you desire them. If they are available, they will usually put in some thought even if they weren't thinking about it before. My opinions may be outdate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 01:08 PM |
| 2 | Men shouldn't approach women unless the woman has "genuine desire" for the man.How will you know if she desires you if you don't talk to her. Ive been married far 17 years, so O havent done anything like this in a couple of decades. One thing I used to do was bring my own chair to a table and ask if this seat is taken. This had pretty good success. I also used to say hello, in passing, and tell her that her smile made me smile. Thank you for that. And then I would keep walking. This didnt have great success, but two ladies basically told me that if I ask for there number t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Blue Pillers here are probably more misogynistic then the Red Pillers.A lot of people here are actual women haters and some others will make the claim that disliking a few specific women makes you an actual woman hater. My personal opinion is that I don't think anyone should be silenced, unless what they say crosses some extreme threshold, but even then I don't know where to put that line. I think fact checking is more beneficial than censorship. Although, I guess that wouldn't work here since everybody is mostly just stating opinions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/26 01:49 AM |
| 2 | If TRP wasn’t true, there wouldn’t be such immediate resistance to and censorship of itWith all do respect, Left wing ideology pushes fact checking over censorship. Im not trying to.make the claim that there are no examples of leftists ever pushing censorship. Obviously, as within any group, some do. However, no one is more guilty of censoring his political opponents than Donald Trump. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/26 12:11 AM |
| 0 | Blue Pillers here are probably more misogynistic then the Red Pillers.Of course there is no across the board ideology, but I personally believe that there is a basic ideology for both blue pill and red pill. Typically, my personal belief is that Blue Pill men are less likely to believe in traditional gender roles whereas Red Pill Men see themselves as the head of the household. I don't feel that it is my right to have any control over my wife and that we must split up the household duties, such as cooking, cleaning, and childcare, in a way that benefits both of us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 01:24 PM |
| 6 | Blue Pillers here are probably more misogynistic then the Red Pillers.I think your point is inaccurate for the sole reason that you obviously dont know what you're talking about. None of your points are actually part of the blue pill ideology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 11:42 PM |
| 1 | “Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex.Non sexual romance is important, but so is sex. There's nothing wrong with thinking that. I love my wife. I spend most of my time with her providing non sexual romance. She has basically lost her libido. I still love her, but Im honestly losing my damned mind. I used to think that sex wasn't important until the quality and quantity dropped below a level that I am just biologically not made to handle well. A man can want love and still have sex be important. I love her more than I love myself, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 10:26 PM |
| 1 | What do you actually want women to do?Women should do whatever they want and feel comfortable doing. There are unreasonable expectations that society places on both men and women for the sole purpose of control. If none of us gave in, than these expectations would disappear and we'd all be a lot happier. Men aren't allowed to have any emotion other than fine, otherwise they will be judged harshly by almost everyone. If we're sad, we're a pussy or gay. If we're angry, we're a hot head. We're not allowed to cry or even be happy withou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/26 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Being horny is not being lonely.In my case, I would say that having a wife gives me access to less friendship. It's true that I have access to more people, but no time to actually talk or hang out with any of them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/25 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Red pill is much better for the avg manI'm 43. You're absolutely right and I think you should do whatever is necessary to give yourself the best chance. My friend can't control his height, but he controls the things he can. He eats right, works out, and dresses nice. He approaches women like him asking them out is the greatest thing to ever happen to them and somehow he makes it work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:30 PM |
| 4 | Red pill is much better for the avg manI didnt mean to imply that its not a disadvantage, but it's not always a deal breaker. My friend doesn't take rejection to heart. He keeps trying and he achieves his goals. I myself went bald at 17 and Im assuming that I have been rejected plenty of times because of it. I still had success with women. Lots of women wont date short men, but lots will. You just have to find the right women and go for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:03 PM |
| 5 | Red pill is much better for the avg manWhat does treating my wife as an equal have to do with being beta? If social media and YouTube has taught me anything, its that Alpha males are mostly soft and insecure dudes that don't have the confidence to be themselves. The rest are trying to profit off of teaching these soft and insecure dudes how to pretend to be alpha. I would say I'm neither alpha nor beta. We dont live in the jungle. There is no true Alpha or Beta. People come to me for guidance and advice fairly often and I lead by exa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 10:49 PM |
| 3 | Red pill is much better for the avg manI'm going to stay as far out of the politics as I can and stay focused on the topic at hand. Even though red pill and blue pill do seem to follow party lines. As a blue pill male, I can assure you that It's not necessary to force control to have a healthylong term relationship. Control is a personal choice and if it works for your relationship and she's actually happy being controlled, than I'm happy for you both. I just don't see how anyone could be happy being treated like a subordinate anywhe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Red pill is much better for the avg manI didn't use the word tyranny. Thats your word, but in some cases I think it fits. If you have to make a woman feel powerless to command her respect, that means that she doesn't actually respect you. Personally, I feel like it's a sign of weakness and a tactic that only people who lack the ability to actually lead will use. A true leader will lead by example and inspire those around them to be better. I've treated every woman that I've been with as an equal partner in the relationship and Ive be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Red pill is much better for the avg manI think you have it backwards. Blue pill men will typically ask a woman out and respect her decision. When I was single and I'd get rejected, than I'd ask out someone else. My observation of the redpill ideology, is that redpill men can't function without control. Without control and success redpill men often give up and become incels and that mindset only makes the rejection worst. I have a friend who's 5'4 and gets laid all the time, because he's confident and funny. I did pretty well for myse… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 04:56 PM |
| – | The duality of man - Man can only value women as either family or objects of sexual desire. The objects of sexual desire become human to man only when he can be their sole owner.You don't seem to know me at all. I only want to sleep with my wife. I can be platonic friends with a woman and am never inappropriate with women who are not my wife. I will own up to sexualizing my wife, against her wishes. I admit that I can't help it. Of course I look at other women, but as a married man I don't want these other women. I also never cared what a woman's body count was. I only cared that she didn't have any diseases that I might catch and that she was going to be loyal to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Would you guys do "duty sex" if women needed it but you didn't ?My wife and most of my ex girlfriends used to want sex more than I did, at least in the beginning of every relationship. The only reasons that Ive ever given for rejection was that I'm physically unable to perform and if it just seemed like it was a chore for her. Even if I was too tired to get hard, I was always willing to go down on them 100% of the time, if that's what they wanted. If my wife ever gets her libido back, that offer still stands. Honestly, I feel the duty sex is more for her, th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/25 04:26 AM |
| – | Men who claim women are "boring" what makes them "boring" and what makes you more 'interesting' or 'fun' to be around?I don't think this question is for me, because I don't think women are boring. However, I do get bored doing the stereotypical things that many, if not most, women seem to enjoy. It comes down to different priorities and interests. I'd rather watch the game whereas my wife has no interest in even giving me the opportunity to watch the game, unless we're there in person. She thinks watching sports are boring, but I enjoy it, watching sports news talk about the game that I just watched, and then e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 03:35 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Men would be disgusted if women were as sexual as they wereI disagree, based on the fact that most men don't act inappropriately around women they don't know. The one's that do just stand out more and make the rest of us look bad. My wife gets upset when I act in the exact way I want her to treat me. I have been approached aggressively by gay men multiple times and the only time I had any problem with it was when a customer of mine was getting a little too handsy and grabbing my arm, feeling my chest, and complimenting my muscles. The rest of the time i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 02:42 PM |
| 4 | How are women who enjoy casual sex “being used?”Good question. You're not being used. You know what you want and you do it. Some women get tricked or coerced into sex that they wouldn't normally agree too and they are absolutely being used. You want the sex to be casual, so its just people, who dont understand, speaking with confidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/25 12:20 PM |
| 1 | If men love women unconditionally, then the dickpocalypse will never happenI wouldn't call it unconditional love for women in general. I will do certain things for a complete stranger, such as stand up to another man who's mistreating a woman. Men and women both have our strengths and weaknesses. We can both benefit each other if we work together. Parts of what you are saying is inaccurate. Such as, I will do and risk anything for my wife, even though she doesn't have sex with me very often anymore, but I wouldn't have grown this attachment if she didn't do it often in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 01:31 AM |
| 1 | I am sick of hearing about being stuck in the FRIENDZONE from menI don't think of this as settling. She had every right to not want a relationship, just like I had a right to move on if things weren't going to progress the way I was hoping they would. That's not settling. That's giving her a choice and honoring whatever decision she made. Settling would have been just accepting friendship, knowing that I wasn't good enough for her. In her defense, at the time I was fresh out of a full year in the hospital and survived something that I wasn't supposed to. I ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 02:44 PM |
| 19 | I am sick of hearing about being stuck in the FRIENDZONE from menMy wife tried to friend zone me during our 3rd date. I told her that I have friends and I don't have time for any new friends who aren't my girlfriend. I told her that she has to make a choice. Either be my girlfriend, hook me up, or I'm leaving. She got offended that I didn't want to be her friend, but I explained that if I waste time with someone who isn't interested in me, than I'm going to be too busy to find someone who is. She definitely seemed upset with my response, which is funny, since… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 01:39 AM |
| – | Men should just listen to women now and stop approachingI've been married 17 years, so my views may be outdated. I used to approach women all the time. Sometimes, it's unwelcome, but other times it's fine. Just don't be creepy and leave if she seems uncomfortable. Some women appreciate a man being bold and others dont, or just aren't interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 04:14 AM |
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