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Field ReportUsefulWalk4/r/askMRP06/08/21 03:43 PM
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UsefulWalk4/r/askMRP14/04/20 10:56 PM
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I feel like you have a point that I'm missing. Me too. I'm not quite sure what the best way to explain it is. I went thru a similar thing where I was SURE that I was writing for myself. I also thought I was so very clever with my observations and understanding of the "doctrine" of MRP. Thing was I wasn't getting the results I wanted. For me, I had to write to myself, I mean really myself (in a journal) to clear up the contradictions. It's amazing the different shit you'll write to yourself when …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/23 05:58 PM
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What an incredibly odd coincidence.
/r/askMRP12/04/23 04:25 PM
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Emphasized increasing the acta to verba ratio Bad ass dude! Nice work, keep this up and things will improve. ​ I don't think I have the childhood toxic shame that is described in that book, but I do have a pattern of adult shame, self-criticism and self-justification I didn't think so either. I ended up with a therapist and long story short it doesn't really matter. I had a case of "perfect" child syndrome that manifested itself just the same. The important thing is identifying those behaviors a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 03:35 PM
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What is it you're seeing that makes it seem as though I wrote it for someone else? It's just a vibe really. Your OYS is full of what appears at first glance to be "introspection", but I had a similar issue of disguising "justification for others" as introspection. This OYS was not navel gazing for me. To me, navel gazing is excessive writing about the general subject. In you case personal observations of the OYS process. I'm sure these are your honest thoughts regarding the OYS process and I'm a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/23 07:52 PM
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I post in OYS for the feedback I get. When I post late in the week I get less useful feedback than when I post early. Last week I added some stuff late which I didn't get useful feedback on, hence posting twice. I think you should give some thought to why you felt the need to DEER here. Do you do this in real life? I'm not saying your wrong about feedback, I just think you should consider why you felt compelled to explain your position. Also, post in OYS for yourself, the feedback is typically o…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/23 09:05 PM
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It didn't hit profoundly in any away. Once upon a time I had this same experience. I suspect you need to look at things from a different view point. The book certainly applies to you, you've just haven't been open to admitting it to yourself. MIW, has you pegged 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/23 08:55 PM
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OObs. My man, fogging right there in the comments. killingtheblue makes an excellent point of actually owning some shit rather than navel gazing. You aren't vulnerable in the least, your entire OYS is still written with the reader in mind. Maybe you don't want to OYS your fitness, but to me that's a pretty good sign you should. I'd recommend you write about what you have done to improve this week, in the past tense. It cuts thru the BS of philosophical musing and hopeful to do lists. What did yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/23 08:52 PM
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Thanks for the lecture, I think OP will do just fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/23 08:36 PM
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I don't know, it seems like he's probably swallowed quite a few things.
/r/askMRP08/02/23 09:18 PM
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I came for the fat jokes.
/r/askMRP27/12/22 11:32 PM
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Good luck brother!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/22 04:41 PM
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The lack of stats is just opsec. Bullshit! What your wife's going to read 5'3" 374lbs and say "Oh yeah, that's my Johnny, I got him now!" Lie about your height by an inch and BOOM plausible deniability. Jesus man, you can't be this stupid.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 09:02 PM
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are all impermanent states. Also we have two very young kids. This line of thinking caused me a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering. If you think your 37 year old wife is about to be on the upswing I think you've miscalculated. The only correct answer was she makes you happy despite it all. It'll certainly get worse over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 05:44 PM
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Her bitchiness and disagreeableness mixed with her postpartum bod are not doing it for me. She also dresses like shit, no bra because breastfeeding. No interest in looking hot for me. So I am not into it. Why are you with her still?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/22 08:42 PM
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I don't know why I am able to hold the frame with Mary but not Sarah Dat juicy pussy
/r/askMRP14/12/22 08:32 PM
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at 19% I look decent tbh but still feel like a fat shit for my own standards. I'm not an expert on Men's feelz, but I think you feel like a fat shit because you ARE a fat shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 05:50 PM
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OHP - 70lbs Yuck Squat - 165 Double Yuck lifts are pretty weak Yep I need to better own my shit. Yep I am try to be consistent with my responsibilities. Triple yuck, how old are you? 37? That ends up being a situation where I take out a screw driver and other tools to fix something, get halfway done and leave it there for a few days until I can finish. Gross My wife gets fed up after a few days and passive aggressively puts away my tools and makes a point to tell me. Good for her. I have not ini…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 05:46 PM
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That is the best link I have ever read. Can we invite that guy over to MRP? We could use some more of that. ​ You can probably only change those things one at a time. I'm not sure I agree with that one, but the point remains the same, do the work, the results will come. You are getting stronger, but it takes time. Carry on.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 10:52 PM
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however compound interest should be factored in I think that's a fallacy. Compound interest should apply equally in the investing and in the hypothetical 18% CC payment. The CC company's 18% interest is compounding as well. As for the 401K, that's a more complex calculation. That factors in ROI, employer match, and the deferred tax benefits. 401K or Credit Card payments is a legitimate debate in my opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/22 03:39 PM
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Figure out what annual interest rate your credit card charges and then make an assumption on what you might earn in the stock market or other investment vehicle. My best guesses would be 18% interest for the credit card and say 10-12% for the stock market. In this example you'd be 6-8% better off with the credit card which is meaningful. Now you could do better in the market, but on average it's unlikely (it's also possible to lose money here). As for the CC the 18% interest savings is guarantee…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 03:42 PM
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However I’m open to differing opinions. I think the most honest answer here revolves around what your credit card interest payment is. If you are paying 18% or something, it's pretty hard to beat that as a guaranteed ROI.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 10:51 PM
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Needs improvement: Everything. I suck. Gosh, I wonder why you wife isn't attracted to your irrational confidence, you sound sexy to me. BTW: Suck less! and stop talking about how much you suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 05:28 PM
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I’ll go somewhere else with my bullshit. Personally I hope you keep your bullshit here. I think this forum has men that can provide value on a wide range of topics beyond sexual strategy. I also think everything is loosely related to sexual strategy. Finances for example, not being up to your ears in debt can help. Lifting advice, obviously lifting can help. Generally not being a fuck up can help.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 04:04 PM
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Good to see you back brother! Hope everything not mentioned is going well. Sounds like you are all in on a pretty good sized risk on the business. Personally, I'd snowball those debts instead of investing for retirement. Your ROI on $$$ and piece of mind will be much better when you get your debt load under control. This statement is correct: My goal is to eliminate my credit card debt as quickly as possible by reducing my spending and saying “no” to just about everything I think I “need” until …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 04:01 PM
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I thought 5'11&3/4" was notated as 6'1"?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 11:39 PM
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So maybe I'm a nice guy, but I didn't quite fit the prototypes in nmmng. It doesn't matter I think since I still have a bunch of habits to change either way. You hit the nail on the head here. Everybody is a little different, but it's a common thread that the tools in NMMNG help you change those counterproductive habits. When I first started, I skimmed NMMNG and decided that "none of this shit applies to me". That was my ego lying to me and I had no idea how much I needed the help on that sort o…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 04:16 PM
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OH BOY, you've got a long journey ahead of you if you stick it out. You don't even realize how jacked up you are. You DEER on reflex, but you aren't a Nice Guy, ok, good luck with that. Do yourself a favor and pretend you are a Nice Guy and act accordingly, you'll thank me later. I was going to tell my friend, Ragnar, to take it easy on you because your new, but then I read your OYS and he did take it easy on you. Be honest, how spot on is his "authority over how you spend your time comment"?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 05:37 PM
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I don’t want this to sound sarcastic: if I knew what to do or what not to do, I would have fixed things a long time ago. I'll take that at surface value. With that said then, this speaks to your communication style. You might want to consider revising it. You see you DEER'd a bit there. Don't want to sound sarcastic... don't know what to do.... You are explaining yourself to me, but not really. Not sure how best to explain it, but circling around the subject and preemptively defending yourself a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 05:17 PM
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What they say about STFU and DEER is right. I mean "congratulations", but what took so long to sort this out? ​ How's it coming on hanging out with male friends more? STFU is great and all, but what else are you working on? Honestly, STFU is pretty easy, it's really actually just doing nothing, so again I ask what are you doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 05:38 PM
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They were almost all prison sex jokes and good ol' fashioned name calling, but comedy is about timing and I've missed my moment now. This place has gotten soft apparently.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/22 10:54 PM
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"Gained a few pounds of muscle mass" Sounds pretty scientific.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 04:32 PM
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Working on getting her back into her consistent routine of gym, yoga and consistent wake times. Naturally athletic and good physique but needs encouragement and validation from time to time to keep her going. Working with her to get her out of a toxic job she is currently in. Took some time to get her to stop complaining about her job, not bring up the drama and get overwhelmed by it. Stuck true and stated that I didn’t want her to bitch about it. Right now, she is exploring different paths and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 04:25 PM
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if it was just her being lazy I would know what to do. But this is not something she could possibly fake Sure. I'm sure everything will turn out just fine for the two of you. It seems like you are off to a really fantastic start.
/r/askMRP08/11/22 11:38 PM
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I feel it is a polite thing to do if I cold stop someone in the middle of the day I bet that got her hot. I hear chicks dig polite nice guys. Told you before, but you need to up your game. Credit for the balls, but that approach is just dumb. No sorrys, no I found you attractives. You should re-try some of the stuff from Day Bang, I know you think it's cheesy, but these chicks think you are creepy or pathetic. Sure, if you try enough approaches you'll stumble onto someone desperate, err, I mean …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 11:05 PM
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But he likes food even mostest.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 10:51 PM
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So set a deadline for your goal, "Divorce by 2040 or 2041". That should solve this issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 10:47 PM
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If I ever ended up in jail, I'd end up being friends with all my cellmates. Come on man, you can't just go around throwing softballs like that. Do you know how hard it was to lay off all the obvious jokes?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 10:30 PM
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38.4 years He's on 'Europe' time rather than 'US' time, perhaps that's the answer, maybe it's kinda like the metric system.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 10:21 PM
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working 50-60hrs/week in US times (we live in Europe) You guys got a different clock over there or something. Seriously, what does that mean, 'US times'? ​ You should read Ragnar_Daneskjold's comment 10 times a day for a month.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 10:20 PM
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Asking the truly important questions. This is the shit that keeps me up at night.
/r/askMRP07/11/22 09:59 PM
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Nice write up, I like rule 9, it is effective. ​ you guys are free to she it up again Booo.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 09:43 PM
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I cannot think of a reason for this depression except not being able to fulfill a desire to travel due to work commitments and financial goals. Doubtful. Maybe there is a more obvious problem in your life that lead you to land at MRP? Maybe a different desire you've been unable to fulfill? I think Tyred's comment hit it on the head. Talk to a therapist regularly, you clearly need someone to talk to. Keep lifting and exercising as much as you can. Do everything possible to fix your sleep. I've us…
/r/askMRP02/11/22 11:51 PM
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I married a multiple alpha widow which confessed to me that she settled with me even if I’m not her type. NEXT
/r/askMRP02/11/22 11:30 PM
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I FUCKING LOVE all this Gotta love the balls, but the games a bit off I think. You look nice isn't a very solid opener in my experience. ​ **I saw Horn's note below and I'm skeptical too. At least his OYS is interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/22 04:29 PM
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Ever hear of OYS?
/r/askMRP28/10/22 11:10 PM
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Well, what are you going to do about the lack of game? Have you thought of starting an OYS thread?
/r/askMRP24/10/22 11:35 PM
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Sounds promising. I hope those pan out. Keep us posted, it'll be interesting to hear the final results. I'd guess that those leads are 10X better than whatever you got before since it's self screening.
/r/askMRP24/10/22 03:14 PM
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I really plan on keeping doing what im doing regardless of the outcome ... I just dig these activities and they make me happy and fill me with urgency and life. Getting closer. Just be aware of it and keep a focus on your priorities. You need to find ways to de-prioritize your focus on your wife, it is still an issue and a blind spot.
/r/askMRP19/10/22 11:13 PM
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Hausofedd, you should re-read this thread. Maybe read it every day for 3 months. You see the challenge you are facing is that you are doing all of this for HER. It's a covert contract and you know it. The problem is you now know enough to know better so you are doing some mental gymnastics trying to convince yourself and us and everyone else that it's all for you. You see your words betray you: In terms of sexual strategy this seems great in getting new sexual options but luke warm in terms of e…
/r/askMRP19/10/22 06:48 PM
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Rule 9 I'm sure 20 SHE's is a totally healthy number for an OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 04:16 PM
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Sounds like you are in a good place on this. I like where your head is at. Good luck with it!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 03:15 PM
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I think age 12 is too young to say "fuck it". Kids change so much between 12-18. They almost totally reinvent themselves, maybe even more than once. Personally, I wouldn't give up on helping your daughter overcome some of her issues. Life will give you opportunities to help if you make yourself available. For total clarity, I'm not recommending you pour yourself into this problem or obsess over it, but it's clearly important to you since you mentioned it. My recommendation would be just be there…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 11:04 PM
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I think you mistook OYS, Own Your Shit, for list all your problems, weaknesses, and errors. You should re-write your entire OYS. What are you going to do about all of these complaints? Or better yet, work on addressing them even if it is only in some small way and then write about that (what you did) next week. I'll give you an example: I haven't been consistantly lifting recently, but still eating like I am bulking. I am feeling borderline fat and I am trying to decide if I want to cut or keep …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 04:36 PM
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Anxiety -- I only had the appointment today, but I'm leaning towards flat out denial and carry on as normal. I tried that strategy. It worked great until it didn't work at all. I'd recommend leaning into and actually taking some time to think about the shit that's bothering you. Maybe journal, write that shit down, acknowledge it, and then carry on. In my case ignoring it turned out to be a really poor long term strategy. ​ Shit. I guess I’m not as bulletproof as I thought. Almost no one is, str…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 04:29 PM
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How old is your daughter?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 04:22 PM
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I agree with you, but I also think it could easily be re-written to say this: No idea, but the focus on it is due to it being "not his fault". ​ For the record, I think he should proceed with whatever he thinks is the correct approach to the SSRI issue, BUT I think that should be a secondary (or 3rd or maybe even 99th) priority and he should instead focus on other stuff that is more within his control.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/22 04:11 PM
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What do you think it says that the only meat in your whole report was about your wife's prescriptions? Maybe you should pick one of the other cut and pasted headers and write 2 or 3 meaningful paragraphs about that and see if it helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/22 06:03 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/ Sidebar should be visible on the right -----> If you can't see it try this guide. The OYS thread is Own Your Shit. Here's a link to last weeks. A new one is posted every Tuesday. It's for you to work on yourself and hold yourself accountable. The Herpes thing sucks, but I promise you that you have bigger issues. I also promise you life gets better if you work at.
/r/askMRP03/10/22 11:48 PM
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I'm not sure what you mean bud? I don't want yo have oneitis I think you don't even realize that you do. The words "My future wife" combined with white knighting on her behalf betray you here. Personally I think you'd benefit from considering that. But, then again, I'd think you'd benefit from an OYS thread and I also think there's a shit load of other things you might benefit from, but that's for you to decide. ​ Yeah transmission is always a risk but hearing from a lot of the RP men here has g…
/r/askMRP03/10/22 04:22 PM
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If I were you, I'd try putting that shit on your Tinder profile. HSV2 positive. Own it, see what happens. That's frame. If you wait for the right moment to spring it on a girl or tell her later or worse yet don't tell her at all you are wasting your own time. Put in your profile and maybe you'll stumble onto some cool chicks with the same issue. If nothing else, you'll save yourself a ton of wasted messaging.
/r/askMRP03/10/22 03:54 PM
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I'm 41 not looking for oneitis & I would feel terrible knowing that I gave it to my future wife 1+1=0 Try being honest with yourself.
/r/askMRP03/10/22 03:50 PM
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Rule 7 Bro!
/r/askMRP03/10/22 03:47 PM
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You can keep trying, but you aren't drawing me into that debate. If I have to choose a side, I'm choosing yours here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/22 03:35 PM
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I don't think we disagree. My thought was to divert his attention to improvements, lift, sidebar, STFU for now. Any theoretical discussion of readiness or capability was merely an attempt to getting him thinking how that actual conversation might look in real life (my guess really bad). I was in no way making the endorsement that this strategy would ever be a good idea, but it's certainly not now. In the long run it's still probably futile, in the short run it's a certainty.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 07:18 PM
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I am/was trying to come up with an approach that isn’t complaining; rather, it’s direct and assertive about what I want and it’s outcome independent (or supposed to be). You think you are capable of pulling that off? I doubt it. My bet is you'd come off as complaining, whining, passive aggressive, and you'd back off it the second she reacted emotionally. If you disagree, I'm all ears. As for a better approach. Lift, sidebar, STFU. My vote: let it play out organically!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 03:55 PM
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I think you know better than that. I'm commenting for myself around one of my own weaknesses. And perhaps I misunderstood PD's message. But my point was the bold part. Complaining about sex never works, and complaining about your needs for it is gross and weak. Reading his stuff back I see some other less poignant stuff. My point was don't do the FMOFY, don't even waste anytime day dreaming about it. OP needs to work on improving himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 03:51 PM
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It wasn't rhetorical. You said it yourself: she does not add value In that case WTF are you doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 03:48 PM
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I'll quote Persimmon_Dazzling's - OYS this week: A couple of learnings that I have gone through personally that everyone already knows from the sidebar. Complaining about sex never works, and complaining about your needs for it is gross and weak. Stating a need is maybe different. The difference is whether you’re trying to assign homework and then rely on mommy to fix it for you. Using words to initiate and escalate sex can work, but not if they are full of self doubt, or rely on the woman to ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 10:57 PM
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That's good, because it comes off a bit like, "I'll show her, I'll draw naked women". You could have picked trees or animals, but you picked the female form. Now, all that's left to is to hold frame which it appears you are doing OK at. I first batted it away, then asked her what is actually making her uncomfortable to no tangible answer, and then went anyway. That's basically the idea. I like the pressure flip in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 10:53 PM
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I intend to say something like, "Having a satisfying sex life is important to me, and I intend to have one. I'd like it to be with you, but if that's not in the cards, then I'll have to figure out another solution." I prefer the ambiguous / open-ended approach (could mean divorce, could mean plates, idk) over the more blunt, "FMoFY" (or softer variations) because I don't think drawing arbitrary lines in the sand are going to be productive. Do you think you are ready for this? Or just day dreamin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:57 PM
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“why are you so pissy today?” I stared her down Shoot that doesn't sound pissy at all, what's she thinking? Curious for suggestions. Be fun or at least stoic. Use FutileFighter's suggestion below. A good way to avoid appearing pissy is by not being pissy and staring people down. I’m curious if anyone has ideas. Who gives a fuck, develop some frame. last week I committed here to doing some male bonding I had not prioritized for too long. Busy-ness at work would have cancelled that if I had not co…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:50 PM
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33 YO 173lbs 15% goal 180 10% How tall?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:35 PM
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But my going to this class is apparently becoming an issue to my wife, she got in a stormy mood about it. I first batted it away, then asked her what is actually making her uncomfortable to no tangible answer, and then went anyway. Is this like soft core porn or going to a strip club? I am getting off on the presence of another woman in some sense, not sexually, but in that I feel liberated by it and more at peace. So no, it’s not like browsing Instagram thirst traps to get turned on. But it is …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:34 PM
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Fix-the-man beat me to it. Eat a whole pizza dude. You are starting to look skeletal. Good on you for getting less fat. Now eat enough to build up some actual muscle on that frame. With the TRT it shouldn't be that hard, but you'll need some calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:30 PM
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I can't believe I'm asking this, but tell us more about your wife. Does she provide value in ways that you didn't mention?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:27 PM
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My discussion with u/UsefulWalk4 last week along with some discussions with friends and family, I have decided #1 priority should be to get the $2000 emergency fund saved ASAP. I still have a desire to start investing but understand that my house is on a rocky foundation and that is what I need to fix first and foremost. So $200 out of my steady paychecks will be set aside for emergency fund and any extra money earned will be funneled into there as well. Income tax in Feb/March will make up the …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:16 PM
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I get where you are coming from on the clean eating. Carbs aren't the enemy. There are lots of options that aren't processed crap. IMO, you need to add some healthy carbs to achieve your goals, particularly gaining weight. Track the calories for a while and you will see how difficult it is to hit 3000 without some carbohydrates in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 05:06 PM
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I tend to eat a lot of protein and vegetables. It's pretty hard to get to 3000 calories on protein and veggies. I think you need to re-think your strategy. Are you actually tracking your calories daily?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/22 03:52 PM
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Thanks. I see it now, I'm not sure how I missed that. I even reviewed it to double check.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/22 03:46 PM
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Could it be that you are still attractive enough? You were 98th percentile. Where do you land now? Personally I agree that the confidence is of primary importance and it probably shows thru you OLD profile.
/r/seduction23/09/22 04:36 PM
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Mayor Game is the last thing for you to worry about... Totally agree. Baby steps Futile Fighter. I also agree with everything else you said. ​ There is a reason why "Social" is before "Game" on the sidebar. I'm really curious on where you got this. I agree that should be the order of his focus, but I don't see anything on the sidebar about "social". Could you elaborate as to which materials you think cover social?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/22 04:13 PM
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Everyone says Lift, STFU, Sidebar because that's the basics. The bare minimum to get anywhere. You won't get any pats on the back for doing those, but they are necessary. When I think of Rambo I always picture the dip shit who goes home and tells his wife how it's going to be or demands that she start fucking x times per week immediately. The other image is the guy who starts spinning plates, but doesn't have the frame to handle it if he gets caught. Going too fast isn't possible in my book, doi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/22 05:17 PM
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Happens to everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/22 04:02 PM
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You can say this is thinking, not doing, but I sat down and wrote out a MAP from today Level 2 through Level 8. I have the same instinct of everyone to race through this as fast as possible, and some angry Rambo, so I’m trying to pace myself and focus on lifting, STFU, and reading. Open to suggestions. My suggestion would be to reply to my comment with whatever your next "ACTION" is (maybe level 2 or whatever that is from your written MAP). Then once you commit in writing here, make sure you do …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/22 04:01 PM
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I am not 100% firm on this plan and may adjust to just putting all savings in the emergency fund asap. I just like the idea of investing now and never looking back. I think you should be 100% firm. I like your plan and I think it is well thought out. I'd say the key really lies with the extra $200. If you can really save the extra $200 and put it toward credit card debt that'll add up pretty fast. That's why I like the auto payments so much, they are concrete, difficult to circumvent. The remain…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/22 03:51 PM
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I like your writing. I'm hoping you start an OYS thread. In the meantime, read, lift, and STFU. The lifting part isn't really optional. As for your recent dilemna: When I came back, the problem had resolved itself for the time being. Your biggest problem was DEERing, but your second biggest problem might be revealed in this comment. The problem had resolved itself? Only to return again? I don't live with you and that turn of phrase has me worried about when it'll pop back up again. Did you fix i…
/r/askMRP20/09/22 10:46 PM
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You mean: the one who cares the least has the most power? I swear I heard that somewhere.
/r/askMRP20/09/22 10:39 PM
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Don't read the Cliff notes first.
/r/askMRP20/09/22 10:37 PM
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I had a few instances where I started to open my mouth and report to my girlfriend about things or try to convince the soon to be ex of things. I didn't, but noticed that I was starting to become comfortable and letting my guard down That's called STFU, did it really take you 55 OYS to discover it?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 10:32 PM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 10:29 PM
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Now that I'm on my own, I'm mostly ignoring her, but calling now and then to have someone to talk to and get things off my chest. Part of me that is still reluctant to let go and be totally psychologically alone, but it seems like the more honest/honorable way to do things. No moral judgements here, but what are you doing? Are you leading her on or are you just partially in. If I was in your shoes, I'd have some issues here. Maybe she's cool with things as is. It's not your job to protect her, o…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 10:27 PM
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I found MRP and lurked for a while, and now I’m sharing publicly for accountability and suggestions. Congratulations on starting. The real point of OYS is doing things. I wouldn't have even replied except you finished with "STFU and lifting are helping." which gave me a glimmer of hope for you. What can you do in the next week to improve your weaknesses? Since NMMNG was like a biography, have you worked thru the BF exercises? What else from NMMNG can you implement and try out right now? Do some …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 10:00 PM
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Looks like a pretty good week. Lose weight, check (down 2 lbs.). Create budget, check (and auto savings, even better). Make more money, check (passed test and set goal to Door Dash) If you continue to put up these results week after week for a lengthy period things will be very bright for you. I only have about $400 give or take a month left over towards savings and debt. I set my checks to have $100 go into savings account and $100 into investment account. What are you doing with the other $200…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 09:49 PM
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I noticed that "What you are doing" is a lot of shit that has nothing to do with sexual strategy and "What you are not doing" is all about sexual strategy. Why would you guess that's the case?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 09:09 PM
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6' 3" 168LBS - Lost 10 pounds in body weight. Lost strength as well. I've been training regularly for a couple weeks but not eating enough. What's going on here? Eat a whole pizza man.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 08:55 PM
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Here's another clump of saved TRP and MRP posts: user/FereallyRed/submitted
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/22 05:50 PM
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That's a very tough hand you've been dealt. I feel terrible that you'll have to deal with it. Here's the good news, you've gotten some really solid advice from this post. My main take away: Control what you can control. There is bound to be a lot you can't control going forward, but reading these response there is a lot that you can control. Focus your energy there. We'll all be rooting for you!
/r/askMRP16/09/22 05:11 PM
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First: r/askMRP 2nd: OYS 3rd: Grow up 4th: WTF
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/22 05:01 PM
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I told her she's been grumpy and whining a lot so I've just been focusing on work and myself. I told her She's been grumpy and whining a lot so I've just been focusing on work and myself. FTFY. This is a good example of when to STFU. Acta no verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 05:47 PM
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it's twice the size as it was when I did my last field report. Is that on number of members? Seems pretty slow on the OYS threads. Might be a bunch of inactive members, I'm sure the guys who joined and then flamed out just keeps adding up. I see a lot of OYS that say this is my 2nd or 3rd account.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 05:43 PM
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Is this place better or worse than it used to be? Definitely worse. No new content, hardly any new thought lately, less useful dialouge. Shit, we don't even have flair to help sort out the dumbshits any more. ​ As I got near the end of Dread I found out there is a real chance that this stuff is disappearing. It's getting harder and harder to find all this stuff. I think it's a worthwhile project to preserve the thoughts, articles, and ideas. It's a bit like picking for needles in a haystack at t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 10:23 PM
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Step one is realizing you are fat and broke Step two is re-hashing how the fuck you got here. Step three is figuring out how to begin un-fucking yourself. I think you realize, but in your current position you are almost certain to get in a jam that is likely to be a catastrophe (like the lose your house variety). If I were in your shoes I'd figure out what expenses I could cut and do it yesterday. Also, I'd take good care of that car because you might be driving it in 2030 at that rate. Only goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 10:17 PM
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6'0" and 175 lbs “stout.” At 6', 175 you are certainly not "stout". It's possible to be "jacked" at that combo, but since you don't lift weights I'm pretty sure that's not you either. I think the description you are looking for is "skinny fat". Human_Ad_422, maybe if you spent more time lifting heavy shit you wouldn't have time to sit around gnawing on your fingernails. You got some serious issues brother. I think demonstrating a consistent willingness to attend the gym and lift heavy weights mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 07:53 PM
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My wife and I go to couples therapy once a month (at her request). At times it's difficult not to DEER at least to some extent because of the nature of it As I'm sure you know basically no one around here recommends couples therapy. With that said, I think this could be an opportunity to practice your skills. DEERing is really a problem because a nice guy will typically be justifying his behavior. (Think seeking approval of his behavior). While you are in your therapy sessions think more about s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 07:40 PM
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I spent more time this week realizing how much this girl was negatively impacting my overall life. You are pretty lucky. Imagine how difficult this lesson could be to learn if you were married. You've got an opportunity at a fresh reset. Congrats!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 07:26 PM
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As Guerillajayne pointed out, top priority is to stop being fat. BUT I'll add a second priority which is almost as critical. Stop being in debt and living on the edge of financial crisis. Current income is 50,000 annual. I live in the Midwest so low cost of living. The last two years I have amassed a lot of debt. $10,000 in credit cards, $30,000 car loan, $143,500 mortgage. ... do not currently have any money saved for emergencies and have all this debt to now pay off. Yuck, that's a mess. How m…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 07:19 PM
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You guys will probably tear me a new one, have fun. Well, this is a bit of a steaming crap pile, so.... I reread the OYS instructions. Good. Your whole OYS reads like you are a victim of circumstances. Are you doing anything to help yourself? What's your plan? Also, what does this refer too? I don’t know a reliable source for the answers I seek on fixing my “stiff legs”
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 07:05 PM
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Of course, that's all horse shit. Well, you got that much correct at least. As for the question of "Did you fuck?" I'd say it's paramount to why you are here. I could make the argument that everything else in your OYS is irrelevant. If you wanted career, fitness, or goal setting advice you could probably find a better forum for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 05:18 PM
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What's your priorities? You seem more interested in acronyms and housework than in lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 05:11 PM
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I would be inclined to believe you, but then I scoped out your OYS and I see shit posted about your lifts, so I'm left to ask. Do you even lift bro?
/r/askMRP05/09/22 05:06 PM
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Damn, I wish someone would write one up.
/r/askMRP05/09/22 04:41 PM
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Me too. askMRP has disappointed lately, but this post will keep me checking for at least the next 6 months. You literally couldn't make this shit up. Well, SBIII probably could.
/r/askMRP05/09/22 04:40 PM
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Strong lifts 5x5
/r/askMRP23/08/22 03:45 PM
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Well, you could get your dick gold plated. Come to think of it, that's probably a bad idea, I doubt any of the ladies would see it.
/r/askMRP19/08/22 07:00 PM
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I don‘t currently think I am. Focus on that.
/r/askMRP08/08/22 07:26 PM
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So why not move on? This is my biggest question for myself. Do I really love my wife, and our marriage, the way I say I do? Or am I just afraid - of losing that connection, of things not working out as a single guy, of money problems, of "being the bad guy"? I think it's mostly fear, at this point. I love my wife, but our relationship doesn't meet my needs. Just like with my employees, I'm selling out my values in order to protect someone else's feelings, and that's not fair to anyone. At the be…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 11:19 PM
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I feel you. The same happened to me. Yeah, you're basically me. Not sure how much of my stuff you've read, but I've read nearly all of yours back when, and yeah basically the exact same guy. It sounds like the same old plowhorse bullshit...except that now, you're plowing the field some dudes on the internet told you to plow. Could be. Thing is what I was doing wasn't working at all, so what's a man to do? Something different of course. In this case, I'm literally following a blueprint suggested …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 11:11 PM
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Thanks for sharing that. That's probably the kick I needed right now. I keep wondering "why isn't this working still". Makes sense to me to double down for while.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 11:00 PM
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OYS # 95: Been away a bit. Just trying to work on myself and doing stuff. Trying to avoid overthinking. Stats: Mid Forties, married 15+ years, teenage kids. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP, PFP. Physical: 6’2”, 177 lbs. 10-11% BF. DL 350# X1, Squat 275# X 4, Pinned Bench 215# X 6. I’m a little stalled on lifts. I’ve plateaued a bit. My cut has extended almost forever as I just can’t seem to lose that last little bit …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 06:14 PM
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my mind just kept slipping back into a negative and anxious place; ‘she doesn’t want to sleep with me’, ‘this is weird’. I'm not an expert on the how's and why's like Horns, that's why he wrote the instructions and I just reported on how it worked out. With that said, I think there is a lesson for you to learn here. Perhaps it is your negative mental thoughts that are creating the negative reactions? If you go back and read Horns original comment you'll notice something. He said: Can you try som…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/22 12:15 AM
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After reading UsefulWalk4's FR, I decided to try this technique. It went horribly LOL, gave off creepy vibes I'd like to know more about this. Can you give me a mini-field report on how it went down. The fact that you think you gave off "creepy vibes" is probably the issue. Worrying about what vibes you put off wasn't part of the technique, I think the point was to get out of your own head. Tell us more, maybe we can diagnose a little here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 11:55 PM
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Shit man, I knew it. Last week you were peachy and now here we have a new epiphany. I knew you had more to say last week!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 11:30 PM
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Paging u/usefulwalk4 who is you in six years if you take the patient route. Don't do it! Go balls out. ​ I don't normally waste time on OYS1 dudes You know I wrote up a lengthy essay for this guy, but I choose to delete it and take your advice. His OYS is a steaming shit pile and he'll dance for years if he doesn't shift course completely. So close to his target, but on the wrong path entirely. Wonder how I know that.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/22 06:06 PM
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I'm not sure why your response is along the lines of "This is all very interesting BUT let me tell you about this great screwdriver I have.". I'd say it's more like, "I've got this screwdriver, it works great, but I can't understand why I'm having so much trouble with this particular NAIL I'm using it on." ImpatientZen might then drop in and asking me why the fuck I keep wasting so much time and energy on the one stuck nail when there are so many other things I could be doing with all my tools I…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/22 06:26 PM
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Agreed, it's often what's left unsaid that is most important.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 08:27 PM
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See you do have frame dude. You are a titanium framed, Nice Guy, who believes this stuff down to his very core. Quote of the year in my book, take your upvote. This thread has been surprisingly illuminating. I'm not really sure why "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is included on the sidebar. It's nice guy dynamite. The challenge for me is calibrating. This shit IS the stuff that netted me the majority of my successes in life. I tend to highlight my failures and shortcoming son MRP, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 08:17 PM
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I can't help but wonder ... Are you as satisfied as you indicate? I truly hope the answer is yes. My sense says that you aren't, but I could just be projecting my own shortcomings upon you. Typical MRP, come for the diet/exercise accountability and get a face full of unrelated feedback. (As for the cut, have you considered maintenance calories and making improving those lifts your top priority?)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 07:52 PM
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Well this is hitting a little too close to home today. ​ Eventually I decided that the whole "its all your fault" mantra is really not a particularly useful way to look at life and ditched the lazy cow. How'd you make the jump. I'm assuming you started this process with the assumption that you'd be content once the ex had her mouth ready at zip down. What changed?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 07:32 PM
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As for the sex I'm with Sepean that if she doesn't put it in her mouth automatically when you zip down your frame isn't there yet. I'm tagging Sepean on this one, because I'd love to hear his thoughts. He was commenting on R316's frame over a half decade ago. Curious how much has changed since. And yes, Resolutions and I are essentially the same guy. He started first, I was instantly drawn to his posts due to the vast similarities.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 12:17 AM
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Good to see you back. Seems like a lifting and diet post, so we'll have to trust everything else is peachy. You won't like this, but that first photo, all I see is a skinny fucker. I almost like the look better in #2. Food for thought. They say you can't out lift a bad diet. I'd say you can't out diet shitty lifts either. What's your lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 07:10 PM
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Principles of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie: FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES FOR HANDLING PEOPLE Don't criticize, condemn or complain. Give honest, sincere appreciation. Arouse in the other person an eager want. SIX WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU Become genuinely interested in other people. Smile. Remember that a person's name is to that person the most important sound in any language. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Talk in terms of the other per…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 08:26 PM
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Something about this thread instantly rubbed me the wrong way. That makes it pretty clear to me that there's something I need to explore here. Indulge me if you will. In reverse order. "Only two years" betrays a fundamental misunderstanding of how long this process takes. Most dudes turn things around in six months, twelve tops and then either disappear or stay and comment on others to internalize the material further. You are on year 5(?), still stuck in phase 1 trying to act like you're in pha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 08:25 PM
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Define straightforward. He didn't understand what you wrote, therefore it wasn't "straightforward".
/r/askMRP08/06/22 10:33 PM
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unscientific lifting usually do more harm than good Nope, just lift, stfu, and sidebar.
/r/askMRP08/06/22 10:31 PM
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It might be worth his while to ask himself what he's devoting that attention to. And if its worth the value he thinks it is. That might be the biggest understatement since 400BC.
/r/askMRP08/06/22 10:29 PM
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Oh brother! I hope that victim puke got it all out of your system. Outside of "Read Map" I didn't see one thing you are did or even are intending to do to unfuck yourself. What's you plan, maybe consider Lift, STFU, Sidebar and start a proper OYS next week?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 08:17 PM
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I'll play along. 1) STFU and brevity (could've been DEERing too) 2) Searching for "magic bullets" 3) Getting drawn off track on my own priorities That's my best guesses.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:52 PM
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So, you are either a skeletal concentration camp resident or you are a the worst case of skinny fat ever. I wish I could go back in time and retract my initial agreement, because Blarg was right, I probably just enabled you to say you are in an OK spot. To be crystal clear, the body fat % is really only a sideline item of interest. The point is your body composition is terrible. To be "normal sized" for your height would be something like 175 lbs. Focus on getting there.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:17 PM
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Hope Moist-Bath reads this far down. Maybe he's already done the calcs on the Strongur website.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:52 PM
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Religion is weird, man. Sure enough. And that manifested in me as always focusing on what I lacked, what my weaknesses were That's what I see. I'm actually not that different in this aspect. If you can focus on your ability it helps. You clearly have the ability to overcome what you lack, to achieve in spite of your weaknesses. Nobody is perfect, it's the ability to overcome that signifies achievement in my book.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:29 PM
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http://www.strongur.io/body_fat_calculator/
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:05 PM
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I'm trying to imagine how you could have any body fat at 5'11", 151lbs. What's a skeleton weigh? I've also never heard of Renpho. Certainly no disagreement that he's skinny fat and a giant mess from a physical standpoint.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:04 PM
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Happy to get you thinking. I could see the difference in the writing this go around. I only picked out one example of your former writing style, which is a major improvement. One thing I'm doing less of is holding back my thoughts and opinions because I don't want to rock the boat or seem judgmental. Potential re-wording: I'm expressing my thoughts and opinions more openly. I'm no longer worried about rocking the boat or seeming judgmental. All in all the difference in tone was stunning for me. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:38 PM
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I don't really think the 18% is accurate. Then why'd you post it? That said, I tend to agree. Try Strongur.io or Navy Method. Might be a better baseline to start with, either way, pick one and stick with it. Regardless of method, you've got some work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:28 PM
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I think you've gotten the jist of what I was trying to say. Two interesting side thoughts. I really don't feel like I'm "quite there" yet It wasn't really what I was getting at, but I've been discussing "there" with Blarg lately. You'll never be "there", in fact there is no "there". It's all a process, life is a process, there is no destination. As I said, it's a sideline to the more important points I raised above, but think you might find that mindset helpful as well. I'd say Mormon upbringing…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:53 PM
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I got kind of queasy from all the dick sucking you had to hedge this with. Well, somebodies gotta suck it I suppose. I was vaguely aware that RPeed lifts like 2X what I do before I picked this "fight", I'm also fully aware of that MRP approved badge, so it what is, I respect him from previous interactions so I said so. If that makes me a dick sucker, I guess I am. If you have notes to share then do. I was pretty conscious of my DEER at the time I wrote it. I felt it was worth putting it out ther…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:33 PM
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As always on this sort of thing, we agree more than we disagree. I look at it as comparable to STFU. There is nothing magical about squatting. True, there's also nothing magical about STFU. This “tear down and rebuild the muscle”/“add weight to the bar” is an extremely reductionist model of the human body. True, STFU is also an extremely reductionist model of Red Pill communication. To me STFU is a relatively simple way to get guys to stop shooting themselves in the proverbial foot by saying stu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:10 PM
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This confuses me even more. I'll admit I had to look up an Anderson squat. Looks pretty bad ass. And after doing some googling to educate my dumb American ass on the metric system, those are some big numbers. I guess I don't understand the point you are trying to make. I thought you were anti-squat. Care to educate me on your opinion?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:05 PM
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Dang man, I respect the hell out of you, so I'm somewhat hesitant to engage here. My experience on this subject is so 100% diametrically opposed to yours that I feel compelled to reply for the lurkers who may come by this chain. At the risk of DEERing, I'll explain my position in the interest of "men exchanging notes". First my credentials: Nothing too impressive here, but here's the stats. Aged 45, 6’2”, 178 lbs. 10.7% BF. Dead Lift 350# X1, Squat 275# X 6, Bench 225# X 6 Personal backstory: Se…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:04 PM
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The body was absolutely not meant to squat. I dunno. How else do you cop a squat to take a shit in the woods? Even getting up from the toilet requires a proper squat. When it comes to overloaded weight, I'd concede the point that you can get in trouble. That's why I'd say "start from an appropriate weight". ​ As for the rest, resistance is resistance and a shit physique is a burning building you should be racing to escape by the fastest means possible. There's more than one way to skin a cat. I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 05:24 PM
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I'd say tell him to eat a pizza, but the 18% body fat just leaves me puzzled.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 05:19 PM
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I was told to do fast, explossive movements, and use the "rebounds" of the body Yikes Nowadays I prefer to do slooow movements when doing barbell exercices You will do much better with this. You'll gain more strength with less risk of injury. Leave the crossfit shit for 20 year olds.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:41 PM
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I’m not sure why you old dudes with fucked up joints are always in such a hurry to squat and deadlift. I'm not so sure about that one RPeed. I'm older and have some seriously fucked up joints. Squats and Deadlifts have significantly improved my quality of life and taken some strain off my fucked up joints. Now I would agree with "Hurry", there's no rush, you need to build up and start from an appropriate weight. Not a great plan to try for a max squat right out the shoot if you've never lifted b…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:39 PM
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Well, it's not that I'm not confident so much as it is fighting off the beta shit goblin/imposter syndrome/failure mindset or whatever else you want to call it. (emphasis added) I would have wrote that as: I'm actually quite confident. I'm working toward maintaining (or increasing) that. Do you see the difference I'm getting at? ​ We've all got our moments of self-doubt and hamstering and that fight is probably never well and truly finished. It's true, we all have our moments of doubt and fear. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 12:26 AM
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I guess my point is you shouldn't have to try that hard to muster up your confidence. Maybe go back and read OYS 1 and compare yourself to that guy. You've done some work since then, that guy is pretty capable, it's stunning to be that he needs to do some parlor tricks before working out to tell him he's good enough to do it again. Do whatever you need to keep things rolling, but I see a situation where a guy should be overflowing with confidence and isn't. That's the part I don't quite comprehe…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/22 03:53 PM
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That's a solid answer. I've suffered from the same associations, so I totally get that. The part I struggled with was sorting things into "good" and "bad". It's more nuanced. Perhaps working hard for the man, especially when you are about to quit is foolish. Perhaps it's still a solid investment in you future. When I read NMMNG, I overreacted a bit with the "fuck that, what's in it for me". It was important for me to ascertain whether I was "being a high achiever and a top performer" for others …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/22 03:45 PM
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Because if you read 20 books that all point to a conclusion, you should do that conclusion. BUT...no one said you had to be logical in your life I see you concerns about recency bias crystal clear. I appreciate the added verbiage of my last "20 books" as it points out a recency bias beyond UM. My eyes are wide open. what if the bear isn't really hungry? You might say "well then it wouldn't eat". And then I'd look at you with a huge shit-eating grin and say..."wouldn't it?". I'm not sure whether …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 06:03 PM
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Do it. It's a choice and it's available right now. I see the negative language you use, it's very important. If you write that stuff, surely you think it frequently. What you think becomes what you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 03:50 PM
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I started the sidebar and at first I was just a dancing monkey -- I wanted to just correct all my shit behaviors and have it done right away. All Mrpers are like that. I focus too hard on failure. And I have had some stunning ones. Don't we all brother. I've spent far too much time focusing on how "wrong" I am instead of understanding what WISNIFG spells out a lot -- errors are just errors. We all make them. We're human, so what? Now, we're getting somewhere. That's basically the point of WISNIF…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 11:59 PM
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Interesting. I've never really considered "visceral fat" before. I've always been a naturally skinny guy and I've had visible abs relatively recently, so I've been surprised that they didn't just pop back out. My last bulk took me to 193, so maybe I added some visceral fat around that area. It looks mildly bloated. (It's all relative, I'm sure many fat guys would kill for 10% BF, and I certainly can't pinch an inch at this point). That was my plan for the cut was to create a runway for another b…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 05:34 PM
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Last week I said something about going after purple-pilled goals -- after some more thought, I was totally wrong in saying that. I wasn't going purple-pilled, I just didn't have my priority and focus on me like it should be. Now it is. What changed? How are you different so quickly? Or are you simply telling yourself this should be the case and hoping it sticks?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 05:03 PM
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Interesting. I've done pretty well financially and I've always taken the approach of being a top performer regardless of circumstances, it's part of my identity, I'm a top performer. It's always led to extraordinary opportunities for me. Things like someone offering me an opportunity and saying something like, "man remember our time at XYZ under that toxic leadership? You shined even under than shit show, I really need you to help me at ABC company". Your mileage may vary. I'm not saying I have …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 04:55 PM
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There's no doubt I'm deep in my wife's frame. So, what is your plan to remove yourself from your wife's frame? Why are her thoughts and feelings SO important to you? These aren't rhetorical questions. You don't need to answer to me, but you NEED to answer these for yourself if you hope to progress. It's not really a boundary issue for me. Isn't it though? If you were one of my teenage children, I'd give you a motivational lecture on respecting yourself or no one else will. How are you any differ…
/r/askMRP02/06/22 04:48 PM
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This is a fascinating discussion guys. I feel lucky I got tagged into it, makes me wonder what other useful dialogue is taking place on 2 month old posts. I was going to sit back and observe, but I just can't help myself. But right now, if you were to look into her mind, do you ultimately care what she thinks? Or are you good either way? The question then is: Are you continuing to stay out of her head and not communicate because you know you used to do it for validation? But if you're not seekin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 04:19 PM
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just conscious to not go the extra mile to be a top performer I'm curious about the rationale here. Care to expound on that?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:56 PM
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Where was your ATV when you got back? ​ didn't want to risk another Rule 9: Good call, your instinct was correct this is rule 9 material. Perhaps spend some time considering why you keep getting rule 9'd and why you might not want to spend so much time and energy focusing on your wife's actions? What do you think about that? ​ I was beyond butthurt. I was pissed. I considered packing up and leaving. When she got in, I told her I was pissed. I also told her that I must not have made myself clear …
/r/askMRP01/06/22 12:23 AM
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OYS # 94: I mostly want to recap my progress on my 60 Days of Dread tasks this week. Thanks again to SorcererKing for running the DoD. It was fun to participate and got me thinking and evaluating things that I otherwise would have ignored or not focused on. 60 DoD Week 1&2 Lifting & Nutrition: My goal for both weeks was related to my cut. I wanted to hit 178lbs. and 10%ish body fat. Mission accomplished. Week 3 Hygiene: To Do: Dentist, Body Lotion, consider teeth whitening. Callouses. Mission ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 07:18 PM
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Thanks for taking the time, if nothing else I feel much better about myself and my understanding of what you were trying to express to me. But to make a decision based wholly within the realm of that one perspective is like trying to draw a straight line with one data point. Well, even I'm not that short sighted. I know better than to place Unchained Male as an end all be all. I often speak in absolutes to provide clarity, but I don't see things in absolutes and I'm quite sure you understand bot…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 07:18 PM
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Well, Shit. I thought I was understanding what you were laying out. Hopefully, I'll have a solid plan in place by the completion of the process. ...the fuck? We just talked about this flawed logic I guess it flew over my head. My impression was: UM lays out an approach to making a life plan. My approach might be somewhat different based on my personal experience and preferences, but there's really no way to know my approach precisely, until I " Get to the place where you're face to face with tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 03:18 PM
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"I'm attacking this by" I'm attacking this by pouring thru the UM book as quickly as possible. Other than the odd comment here and there my plan has been to finish UM and the related "thinking" before returning to MRP at large fully. Both Zen and Ragnar, called me out for not finishing it and I don't disagree with them. So, I plan to finish it before re-engaging fully. That's my action to keep moving forward. Hopefully, I'll have a solid plan in place by the completion of the process. You need t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 10:37 PM
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I'm curious why you chose not to respond and what it means to you. Hit too close to home I guess. I read it, even watched the Brian Regan video. I also started to type up a response and then stopped. My friend, Ragnar, seems to have an ability to find my soft spots. Between Zen's comments, Ragnar's, and my discussion with you I've been reeling a bit. The thing that really got me was: Doesn't matter why but this is more putting it off bs. You ever seen this Brian Regan joke. That's what it sounds…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 05:30 PM
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Glad to see you are thinking it through. Mike Michalowicz talks about paying yourself a realistic salary for the role you're in, and then making everything else fit around it (generalising very broadly here). I like this approach, especially 6 years in. If after 6 years or let's say 7 years you can't pay yourself a marketable strategy you NEED to rearrange things significantly. Maybe leveraging your time with an affordable assistant will allow you to get to 130%, that might allow you to grow to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 05:04 PM
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Second that. I think these DoD segments provide value to guys who follow thru with them. The value in just getting guys thinking about different aspect can be life changing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/22 11:59 PM
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I don't have a "my dick is bigger" story Oh thank God, I thought you were going to be one of those quote your salary guys. ​ I make just north of $120k in salary Wait, what? Are you bragging about your mid-sized dick? I fail to see how including your salary was pertinent to getting advice or stating your goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 07:29 PM
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Team - With the office space sorted, last year I put on a very junior employee with the thought that I could train him up. But after 7 months he was only slightly more capable than when he started and was nowhere near covering his own wage. I let him go earlier this year and it's been just me ever since. This was an expensive experiment, but the learning is that I need a senior professional who can get up to speed fast. ​ I don't have the capital in the business to go out and hire a senior perso…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 07:25 PM
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I see ego, bitch. That's the first thing I saw when I read this comment last week too.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 07:10 PM
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By insisting on that I am looking for the security blanket / excuse of being prepared instead of taking action. That's it precisely. I did the same thing. If you really want to do more sales calls or more follows up, just do them. I used high standards and perfectionism as an excuse to avoid action. I'm not really sure why I did this and in retrospect I don't think it matters. Just start making a habit of doing the thing you know needs done and the results will be amazing. I haven't made a sales…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 07:08 PM
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The actual call doesn't take long, 10 mins. It's the prep that takes time. Thinking it through, I am likely setting too high a bar in my prep expectations. The overwhelming expectations of it is stopping me from doing it regularly. This why I asked. In my experience, which sounds remarkably similar, I was procrastinating on the grounds that I needed to be properly prepared and "have a reason to call". I switched my mentality, the call was a check in. Just "checking in to see if you need anything…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 12:08 AM
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Northern Facing, I'm with Zen. You need to fight for a better deal. You'll regret being a pushover if you are stuck with this. If I were in your shoes, I'd meat with your lawyer (or the second opinion) and figure out a "FAIR" settlement. Offer the wife the "FAIR" uncontested settlement, take it or leave it. If she doesn't accept I'd go contested. Be realistic on what you can expect and what is actually important to you and structure that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 05:44 PM
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144 lbs 179 for me, Today might be the day. ​ Proactive client calls is habit I want to build. I say it is a priority, but I don’t take the extra effort to make it happen Serious question: How long does the actual call take?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 05:31 PM
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I was usually unable to attract the ones I really wanted. Looking back I think I can now explain why that was. I could effortlessly maintain the interest of the ones I didn’t value because my behavior seemed to demonstrate high value and abundance. The ones I really wanted lost interest because I acted in needy unattractive ways toward them. Pretty much sums things up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 05:19 PM
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Been a while since I weighed myself at my regular time and conditions so I just defaulted to posting my traditional weight. I find the scale results move around a bit for me day to da So many mouth noises my friend. DEER. Do you see it? It's excuses for some reason. this morning was 145 That's pretty good. Down 2. I'm at 179, almost there. I could eat an entire horse at this point. I feel like I'm starving. One pound to go, I actually considered skipping today's lunch I'm so close, but I need th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 06:56 PM
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You'd probably save a bunch of money on strength coaching by being consistent. +1
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:37 PM
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147 lbs Still?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:36 PM
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60 Days of Dread was on game like last week. Did you do any research of your own or was the first step to ask others?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 08:42 PM
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Fair enough. I've heard some guys survive bans longer than 3 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:54 PM
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Nearly three weeks. It's kind of funny I've been busy with shit to do, so it's been hard to carve out time. Guess I've made some progress on that front. That's not an excuse, it's just a fact. The SOB is 421 pages long and although my frame has improved I can't handle dragging a 1.5" thick stack of papers with Caleb's thoughts home, so I'm reading in my spare moments at my office. I'm only like half way finished.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:53 PM
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For the record, I didn't think his comments deserved a ban. I thought calling him a "bitch" was punishment enough. I'm not for silencing anyone (well almost anyone). Nearly every comment I make is to help crystalize my own views, so I'm definitely in favor of more discourse. I'd propose lifting his ban. I'd also like to retract my "counterproductive" comment, obviously I was wrong, although, that's still how I felt at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:46 PM
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where it'll get real dark It's been real dark, for as long as I can remember. It's gotten slightly lighter over the last couple of months. I finally feel like I've got some degree of control over my situation one way or the other. I've been poking at you to just ditch the bitch, but don't do it from this angry place That's essentially what I meant when I said I'm a work in progress. I'm still sorting myself out, that's not a place to make big decisions from. Have you no BS really done the exerci…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:39 PM
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Perhaps I'm overly sensitive to the pedalization of women given my personal track record of doing so. That said, I guess my primary irritation with the "moralizing" from the new guy was that it was combined with: OYS is for you, not for others Which is 100% true, but ... Zen had just mentioned: Jesus fuck. I write up a FR on my stuff over the last six months and my use of fucking standard RP nomenclature for the females is the only thing poked at. I forgot how useless the comments to my shit on …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:02 PM
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Well, honestly I evaluated your opinion as a violation of Rule 3, "No Moralizing". If you are offended by derogatory language, this might not be the place for you. As for your credentials, I tend to value the opinions of people with experience. People who are older, people who have done more OYS's, people who have experienced stuff, people who've demonstrated knowledge and wisdom in previous comments, people who no longer live with their parents. It's nothing personal.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:47 PM
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To be fair, I think it's a little of both. I doubt Zen's ready to come back to humanizing women to a greater degree, but that's his decision to make. All these dudes are doing is asking him to explore that. And that's doing him a solid. I think that's true of most of the guys. A handful of comments rubbed me the wrong way because they came dangerously close to Rule 3, No Moralizing. There's no place here for moralizing in favor of the Blue Pill and protecting the feminist imperative, IMO. I do a…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:37 PM
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I totally agree. Time will run out, this is the sort of analysis you need to do on literally everything until you are content with where you are financially. You are a younger guy, so I downgraded your time spent driving vs. your money saved, but the point remains the same. For example if you work 4 hours at your current job for say $20 an hour you'll earn $80, but if you spend an hour driving each way that's actually 6 hours. Now let's say in example 2 you work 6 hours for $15/hr, then you'll e…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:27 PM
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What happened, did the hysterical bonding stop? Or is it like that dude whose wife starts blowing him in the lawyers office when they're about to sign papers - makes you even angrier that NOW she finally does a little bit of effort? Still bonding, if not quite as hysterically. Decent frequency, but certainly not "on tap". As for the "even angrier" part, I'm trying very hard not to allow that to creep into my mindset, but I'd be lying to myself and you if I didn't admit it crosses my mind from ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:15 PM
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Well... good luck with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 03:43 PM
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That's why all (almost all) of us found MRP. I'd love to have a survey on this, I kind of think you could eliminate the almost all part.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 10:56 PM
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I just let it build up in my account. If you are building up a meaningful amount you should consider how to best allocate those funds, ie. where/how to invest. ​ I will also start setting aside 10% for an emergency fund. Isn't this essentially the same as what you've built in your account? ​ I'm just looking for something that gets 30+mpg, not picky on anything else for this purchase. I am looking at cheap and cost effective. Sounds like you are on the right track. If you are as far away as you …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 10:52 PM
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Omured, I feel like I've read this thread before. I probably even made a stupid metric system joke. These guys aren't wrong, your progress is slow for some reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:48 PM
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I don't know, I think the keys R U L E 9 are all rubbed off on 3KL's keyboard. For sure the lot of us MRPers have a shit load of issues, but I hold that most of them result from imaging women as a scarce resource. Most OYS's would benefit from using the word "bitch" or "bitches" everytime they want to refer to she, her, or my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:45 PM
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Im peeling layers of delusion off every day. You sure about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:37 PM
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Lifts Writes a bunch of shit that isn't lifts. Me Happily stops reading and moves to the next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:37 PM
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Is it? To me it was more the plow-horse, save-a-hoe shit, which I don't attribute to CC's but just hardwiring plus Promise Keepers For me, it's 100% this. I guess there was a CC in that I thought life would magically deliver what I wanted, but if you go that deep down the rabbit hole everything is a covert contract. I used to feel guilt about everything that I didn't do "the right way". I'm starting to get to: ​ then start wondering how the fuck you could feel guilty in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:31 PM
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except some sleep stuff That's been going on for a while. Do you have a plan to improve it? I had assumed you'd sleep like a baby once the divorce was behind you. ​ I spend a lot of time in this category (recreation) these days, total reversal from a year ago. Thank god! Between this and the male friends you've addressed two major concerns.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:23 PM
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I'd never thought I'd say this...can you chill with the "bitches" shit? I find Zen's use of "bitches" to be endearing. The largest problem I see at MRP is the pedalization of pussy, especially of guy's wives. I find the dehumanization of women refreshing in comparison to worship I see in so many OYS. And I don't think it's entirely coincidental that a former plow horse for the matrix uses the word 'bitches' to perhaps emphasize the point that there are billions of women on earth and they aren't …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:17 PM
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Zen this is precisely the same thing I thought when reading it. Not exactly your style to drop in with an "everything's cool" post, couldn't help but wonder if there was more there in what was unsaid.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 07:02 PM
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Bitch please! You posted OYS #1 last week and now you are telling flaired dudes how to do it. Please insert you own derogatory expletive in this sentence for me, you can go ahead and use something maximally offensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 06:59 PM
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Wow, you really got 'em riled up this morning Zen. I can just see it coming Rule 87, no derogatory language. then this place is even bluer than I thought I spend too much time here, it's precisely as blue as you thought. As for this: Jesus fuck. I write up a FR on my stuff over the last six months and my use of fucking standard RP nomenclature for the females is the only thing poked at. I've got some thoughts and so do a few others. Looks like you more than most will have to sift thru the useles…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 06:57 PM
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It's a fine line on the "Gloom and Doom". The sky is always falling if you read enough materials. As you know, the sky isn't always falling, but sometimes it does fall or at least rain heavily and being prepared is essential. Do I think we are headed toward hyper-inflation and we'll start burning cash to stay warm. No. Do I think we are in for prolonged double digit inflation. Yes, and that's likely bad enough. Contingency planning in finance is clearly the most challenging. For some reason, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 05:18 PM
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I currently save 0% of my money for the long term Yuck This week I will be setting up the 401k contribution with my employer, and figure out whatever percentage that is left over needs to go into my own investment account to make 10%. I will also start setting aside 10% for an emergency fund So you are planning on going from 0% to 20% overnight. What drastic spending changes are you planning on making? I'll give you a hint, this is the ENTIRE recipe to get ahead here, focus on reducing spending.…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 04:32 PM
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Bitches that putter around at home all day, wilt. Curious to hear more about this, don't they all wilt regardless.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 04:25 PM
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Why merpers, irrespective of what they want in their woman life and whom they choose, don't legally divorce is beyond me. It's the purple pill. Horns & Ragnar can describe their amazing lives and yes it would be true that they have carved out these amazing lives through sheer force of their will. But I find it impossible to believe statements like: But what I've found is that my wife, being a SAHM, becomes an agent in my life to create just as many opportunities for freedom as /u/Impatientzen Wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 04:23 PM
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I am a fan of raw dogging, and that's not the safest way to spin plates. Not sure you need a marriage license to go raw dog. I've heard you can get a steady plate and solid STD panel and do the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 04:07 PM
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This is a great convo. Kinda like with sex, people will very emotionally use money and their approach to money as a way to symbolize their values: "look at how fancy/frugal/cunning/adventurous/disciplined/successful/virtuous I am" Much like sex, guys are fucked up for all kinds of reasons that don't actually related to the sex/money. Much like the nice guy doesn't get sex, the outsized spender doesn't get financial abundance and doesn't understand why. Think about all the potential reasons your …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 12:06 AM
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I forgot to comment on: u/Sorcererking asked me to comment on the impending debt market collapse and the bubble of everything. I'm not familiar with these because I don't pay attention to the doom and gloom stuff but that doesn't mean it's not coming. Good on you for not paying attention to the "Gloom and Doom" stuff. I think everyone here should consider what rampant inflation is doing to there current plans and what they are going to do to adapt. It's a serious problem and not some fanciful co…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 05:06 PM
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Ah, finally the DoD that I can say "I'm good". Or am I? John D. Rockefeller was once asked by a reporter, “How much money is enough?” He responded, “Just a little bit more.” I fallen a bit asleep on the finances end of things, it's probably lowest on my list, but there's always room for improvement. I've got some ideas for a new, meaningful side project/investment that I'd like to work on (no I won't share what it is). I'm also currently putting in some work to further automating the primary bus…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 05:03 PM
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That's a good list. Here's some links that I'm aware of. Pook: https://bookofpook.com/ (Also on the sidebar) Roissy Link: courtesy of Fereally Red https://www.reddit.com/r/FereallyRed/ Chateau Heartiste became almost unreadable. Some with Roosh's blog. Come to think of it u/FereallyRed has some pretty good resources at his page: r/FereallyRed Roosh link is below in comments As for Mystery, well it's a mystery, probably best to just read SSS's breakdown for starters. Amazing to me Zen how you are…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 04:17 PM
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You are saying the right things. ​ I’m fucking up on selfish easy mode Couldn't have said it better myself. If I were you I'd reflect on why you can't even be selfish in easy mode. By many accounts, I'm one of the slowest studies in here, one of the most selfless nice guys, and even I'd drop your girl in a heartbeat without kids. Something to think about, why do you stay? I'm not saying leave or answer that question to me, but answer it for yourself. Do you stay because she makes you happy or so…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 03:45 PM
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My comment about thinking you struggle with this is based on what I remember from you around Dec/Jan. You’ve maybe changed some behaviors and I haven’t kept up. 100%. My 'struggle' seemed to be tougher or at least last longer than most. I'm still forcing myself to be uncomfortable with sacrifice, it's currently against my nature. Essentially I'm still fighting my nature to avoid sacrificing myself for others, I'm winning the struggle more often than not.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 03:38 PM
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There’s a part of me that doesn’t want to get what I want. Wow, that's next level nice guy stuff, even for me. Red Letters you can sacrifice yourself for others as much as you want to, but no one will care or appreciate it. As Ragnar mentions, it's the darnedest thing, your women will tend to appreciate you acting selfishly more than selflessly. There is no honor or glory in allowing yourself to sacrifice and be miserable. Best to kill this mentality ASAP, I promise there is nothing there, I've …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 10:54 PM
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Well that's good news, congratulations! You need to perform your "newbie mission" this week and then up it into conversation next week. Keep upping the ante each week until you are successfully approaching women whenever you want. I'd say this should be a very high priority for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 10:33 PM
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Can someone link me up to the sidebar? Im having trouble finding it. Jesus fuck! I'm setting the initial betting odds of success at 99,000-1.
/r/askMRP06/05/22 04:25 PM
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Own_your_shit_weekly_may_03_2022
/r/askMRP06/05/22 04:20 PM
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Hey, you do you, but in my humble opinion you'd benefit tremendously from an OYS thread of your own. Just in our couple of comments I've noticed some DEERing, ego and validation seeking issues that maybe you don't see. And if you truly don't have anything worthwhile to say then how is it that you are making progress?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 04:18 PM
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Sometimes I get the point, but fail to act as such. I find that in those moments having someone point out that I'm a fuckin' moron who can't seem to STFU helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 04:14 PM
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An inability to STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 04:11 PM
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I’ll try and be brief Section 9 is about brevity. Hmm.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 04:10 PM
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Hey Dude, I feel for you, but this is just a victim puke. Sounds like you are getting divorced. Hope that's what you want. This really isn't a question or even a field report (FR would have implied that you tried some sort of MRP technique and were discussing the result). I'm humoring you because this seems like a life altering event and frankly you appear pretty clueless. You didn't ask, but your prescription is Lift, STFU, sidebar, and OYS weekly. The divorce won't fix anything that's wrong wi…
/r/askMRP06/05/22 04:02 PM
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The picture really puts this post in perspective. Jesus, I didn't click on the picture the first time thru. Looks like we found the keys to getting laid regularly, just land yourself an HB2. She'll be so happy she got a husband that 2500 lays is in your future, double that if you pour on the attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 03:47 PM
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B.b.b.but, but, but, buuttt .... SBIII are you trying to tell me that I should have better things to do than to contemplate my wife's menstrual cycle? I get the point. Much like solving my sexual frequency problem couldn't happen until I stop focusing on it so intently this problem is likely the same. My main goal is be attractive/don't be unattractive and I can't imagine anything much less attractive than worrying about this particular subject. With that said, I still can't help but observe som…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 03:43 PM
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I didn't talk to people until high school. Like...at all. Took me almost a decade and a half to go from social retard to guy who can at least speak to people normally. I don't doubt the veracity of that claim, but I still find it unbelievable. Not to butter you up, but you seem like a natural. I wholeheartedly support your "cheat code". While I didn't use it for speaking to people, it applies everywhere. You get better by doing stuff, by trying. Yes, sometimes that includes failures, but those h…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 03:35 PM
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Approach anxiety is real and you need to kill it in baby steps. Read the links above, including Day Bang for some help. You are not married correct?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 05:42 PM
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Day Bang is out of print, I picked up a PDF copy here.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 05:39 PM
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I like the self-reflection and perhaps you are beginning to see it, which is the first step to fixing it. You have to admit there is a problem before you can fix said problem. ​ I concede I dropped mine without much pushing If you drop your frame without much pushing, what kind of frame is that? And more importantly if your first reaction is to DEER when confronted with a random stranger on the internet (in writing, and knowing that you were likely to be criticized) how do you think you react to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 05:33 PM
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Nice write up, it's a great starting point for guys wanting to study up on game. It's an important aspect and I'm sure it's a very challenging aspect for the anti-social set out there. I forgot about Day Bang, I read that one and it's a pretty solid building game for dummies model, if you can tolerate the juvenile mentality displayed throughout his step by step plan will build a reasonably sound foundation. I huge portion of having "game" is being charismatic. I can't imagine having to start tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 05:17 PM
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That's the challenge with the Dancing Monkey routine. You are doing the right things for the wrong reasons. Should you game and kino your wife? Well, it depends, do you want to game and kino your wife? If you enjoy it, then you should do it regardless of whether it results in more or less sex. If you do it to get sex, then you are on the wrong track for 2 reasons. #1, its a covert contract. #2, which Horns was getting at, hypothetically you are the prize. When you get sex, you make it sound like…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 10:57 PM
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Read it back dude. And your Kino and Game are covert contracts.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:10 PM
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You seem genuine, so I'll throw you a bone. SBIII picked at your frame because you come off as a whiney, validation seeking bitch. What did you do when he poked, you DEER'd and tried to protect your fragile ego. You'll get nowhere until you fix that. As for this: I found myself at the gym alone one night so did my last DL sets with my shirt off. It was killer. I'd ask for your permission/approval, but fuck you, I don't need it. I'll own it. You should spend some time thinking about why you felt …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:05 PM
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I can overhead press your entire body. Yeah, but when are you going to post an OYS of your own?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 07:54 PM
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you're 5'7 and 140 lbs Thanks. You know I'm too dumb for the Metric System. I was going to comment on his picture, but then I saw the kg's and thought, naw, not worth the effort, someone else will tell him. And yeah, I'll confirm, his physique is not that great. Could it be worse, sure, but it could also better and be worth posting a photo of, maybe once every 5 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 07:52 PM
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How do I handle my wife being playfull, teasing, laughing at my silly jokes. We are seperated - she sleeps in a child's bedroom (2nd week) and he by me. Thus far I only played along but no kino. WTF Man! Seriously, read that back. Are you English as a second language? This is the worst, low effort post in the history of askMRP. How do you expect to get any feedback with all the relevant details removed. You are lucky these guys had the time to check your post history to rip you a new one. You ar…
/r/askMRP03/05/22 07:40 PM
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Game is not talked about often enough I totally agree with this statement. In fact comments like Sorcerer said, "I hope you've been utilizing those resources." are pretty common, but honestly there really aren't that many resources at MRP devoted to it. The only mentions in the side bar are Steel's breakdown of the Mystery Method and the 60_dod breakdown. Everything else kind of meets at the intersection of game and frame. We probably need a paint by the numbers, "Game for Autists Guide", becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 07:30 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/uc7s8m/own_your_shit_weekly_april_26_2022/ OYS thread, get to work.
/r/askMRP02/05/22 04:00 PM
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I'd delete out if I was you.
/r/askMRP02/05/22 03:45 PM
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I tried, I really did, but it was too long even for me to fully skim. I think it is a new record for longest post without saying anything.
/r/askMRP29/04/22 11:34 PM
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I'm not a professional nutritionist, but in your shoes I'm sure I'd eat for bulk to maximize those newbie gains (they don't last forever). I can't believe that at 165 you'd look overly "fat". I'd bulk, add muscle, then worry about a cut later or at a minimum finish that cut pronto. I'd think you'd need to get to 175-180 just to avoid looking really skinny.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 11:39 PM
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At 6', 165, I'd venture to guess you should gain 20-30 pounds. At 19% Body Fat, obviously you need to lose weight. This implies that you are seriously lacking muscle mass. I'm 6'2", 181, but around 12% BF, also lacking muscle mass. I guess my advice is stick with your high volume program and gain some muscle mass on those newbie gains. What do you do for nutrition?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 08:11 PM
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I'm sure that's a fine program. I'm personally partial to the Stronglifts 5X5. It's deadly simple which really helps eliminate excuses. I think the volume is perfect for beginning lifters. One side note, eventually you'll have to move to an intermediate program, but I think SL 5X5 is a good fit for you and your issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 04:41 PM
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30yo, 6'0, 165lbs, Married 4 years, 1 kid under 2.BF~19%. Squat 200lbs, Deadlift 230lbs, Shoulders 90lbs, Bench 125lbs. 6'0, 165lbs, 19% body fat. This doesn't check out to me. How skinny fat are you? What program are you running?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 04:30 PM
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I'm excited for this one. Just what I needed a good excuse to update my threads. I'm going to buy some more stuff. New sneakers are in order. I'm also going to order another Stitch Fix, which I kind of enjoy because it takes me out of my comfort zone, often way out of my comfort zone. Like Blarg said it's advisable to work outside of your comfort zone, it allows you to grow. Stitch Fix sends you stuff with little input, so you are forced to try things you'd walk right past in the store. After ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 04:27 PM
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As I stated in my OYS #1, a dead bedroom got me to the NMMNG forum in 2010. I think you might have missed the lead. This guy found NMMNG in 2010, but he still has trouble with STFU. In the long run you are right his MAP is to simply keep his mouth closed, nothing in, nothing out.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 04:13 PM
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Thanks for DEERing that for me, now I feel better. I'd say machine press, machine rows, leg press, and kegels are the foundation of any great lifting plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 11:47 PM
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using a routine I wasn't ready for which led to the injury Could you elaborate? I'm curious, plus I've got some injury experience, which may or may not be helpful or relevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 11:43 PM
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Ha. Laughed out loud at that one. People in my office are asking what's so funny.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 05:17 PM
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100%. This is something I struggle with because I have a specific goal in mind with my current SO. It's hard for me to break free from this when I still think my specific goal is achievable Here's an analogy. You are on a road that will take you close to your goal, but will never get you there. You need to back track and take a different road. This different road may or may not get you to your goal, but I promise you your current path will not.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 05:13 PM
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Most people will stop inviting you after you knock back invites several times consistently. ... Quick way to lose friends. Underrated evaluation. I'd guess that a fair bit of the damage that appears in MRP's sad "SOCIAL" headings is due to this very problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 05:06 PM
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I did not let that neediness for validation come out of my mouth. Instead I dropped it on MRP's front door. I just had to talk about it somewhere!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 05:04 PM
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I agree, now that we've lured, JCX_Pulse out of the wilderness, maybe we can get an update.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 05:02 PM
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How about Bench, Squat, and Deadlift your body weight? Should be an easy goal to attain, lose weight, get stronger, or ideally a combo of both. I'm in no way an impressive physical specimen, but I can lift your body weight and I weigh 183 pounds at 6'2", why can't you? You aren't hurting your back because you lift heavy, you are hurting your back because you are overweight and weak. I think you should focus more on your training.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 04:58 PM
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Fun/Social: Pulled the trigger and hosted three guys for a Whiskey Adoption night last Friday night. The key was doing it, not my usual approach of waiting until the perfect time or until I was perfectly prepared. Went well. Most important thing was that I was much more relaxed as a host than I used to be, let people enjoy themselves, let myself enjoy the event. Some people could come, some couldn’t, some brought stuff, some didn’t, none of that matters and I can’t control any of it anyways. Thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 04:51 PM
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Frame is not caring what other think. Frame is only caring about what you think. Learn how to handle a basic shit test. There's books and articles, you can STFU, AA, AM, yada, yada, bottom line is you shouldn't let it bother you, clearly it does.
/r/askMRP27/04/22 04:20 PM
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Oh, FFS, there is so much to discuss here. I think 3KL, hit it primarily though. Not only Rule 9, but you are living in her head. Oneitis doesn't even begin to cover it. Your plan = Become attractive. That's it. For like a year. Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Be attractive list: Keep lifting, improve that body, put on some muscle mass. (btw wtf is a Sumo DL, just DL) Practice game on other women, do some approaches. Do something fun. Have something better to do than watch Netflix and actu…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 04:11 PM
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Should've left it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/22 05:59 PM
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had a mini "heart attack" so decided to take the week off to be safe Jesus Man. I think staying alive is priority one for you. Take it easy on the weights. I'm all for exercise and lifting, even in your case, but keep focused on doing it safely. Ease into it. Get your medical situation sorted first.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/22 03:47 PM
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Well... You're not wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 05:30 PM
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Bummer, I'd work on rectifying that pronto. I'm pretty sure that Smith machine will cause issues on some of those lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 05:29 PM
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I realize from your comments (and u/threekindsoflucky) that I need to bring a sense of urgency to my actions. Good because doing one thing completely is much more effective than thinking about doing 3 things. I look forward to hearing about what day Whiskey night is and how at least 10 of those calls went by Tuesday. That's the kind of mentality you should adopt. I love a good race, now I can't wait to hit the scale at today's workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 03:54 PM
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I liked this comment better that your OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 03:50 PM
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Is she incapable of handling her own affairs? Presumably, she's an adult, capable of making decisions. It's not your job to "protect" her from Visa issues. I'm not saying don't mention it to her, or don't help her with it, but that is her issue. Especially since you aren't married. If you want to Travel abroad do it. If you want her to come, invite her. If you want to stay once her Visa expires that's your call. I'd say it's on her to avoid getting stuck in a country she doesn't want to be in.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 03:43 PM
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You got the point. It's two paths and they are surprisingly disconnected. Path one is leading a fun and exciting life (like you said, right now). Plenty of people do this on next to nothing. Visit Travel Zoo, you can travel for peanuts if you are flexible. Path two is for "security". Wealth tends to build security rather than fun and excitement. I'd be the last person on earth to discourage you from pursuing wealth and passive income, but I think it's important to know that it won't bring any en…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 03:37 PM
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I hope you do. Here's your personal invitation to next Tuesday's OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 03:27 PM
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I'm skeptical of scales. I like Navy Method (measurements) or Strongurio (based on weights lifted). Either way, it's just an honest measurement of your progress. Just pick one and then keep using it to measure progress. They are all flawed, but your changes will show up over time and that's the point. I'm personally a fan of Stronglifts 5X5 for new lifters, because it's so easy to follow. If you are worried whether you can stick it out, 5X5 is a good choice. I've heard good things about Greyskul…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 12:02 AM
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(all lifts on a Smith Machine) Yuck. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 10:41 PM
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Oh, I've calculated it - 37% (Navy). It's so far out of the reference range, it's not worth mentioning. It is worth mentioning. It's terrible, we all agree, but if you come back in a month at 32% I'll know and more importantly you'll know you are getting there. It is incredibly important. How will you measure success? It'll get more important as you get closer to your goal. Regarding the lifting, it's the easiest, simplest, lowest hanging fruit. You have to execute that or you really have no cha…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 10:39 PM
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I agree. Not caring about what his wife was thinking is what worked for him. He enjoyed himself and she decided to join him, nothing more.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 10:27 PM
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a dead bedroom got me to the NMMNG forum in 2010. Paging ImpatientZen, looks like redside_up and I have a challenger. I'm still defining my mission. In the meantime I'll use u/RStonePT's temporary mission suggestion from here: Be a high value man with options. That seems like a good starting point to me. So... BF%: Fat as fuck. First we measure it, then we fix it. Calculate it for next week. What's your TDEE? Also, what's this: Partly from having taken two weeks off You are on OYS #3 and you ski…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:44 PM
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Lifts : SQ:5x78Kg (171lbs), BP:5x64Kg (141lbs), Row:5x67Kg (147lbs), OHP:4x43Kg (94lbs), DL:6x108Kg (238lbs). & Skipped the gym last week, out with the family for Easter holidays I think those two things are related. Your lifts should be improving faster. Building some muscle would really help burn some of that fat off. The vast majority of your OYS is dedicated to "Physical" and that part appears to be a mess. Where else is your focus?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:18 PM
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I landed a client that is, frankly, out of my league. I'm no expert on your qualifications Oobs, but this doesn't seem like an ideal way of framing what otherwise appears to be a success.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:11 PM
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Sex with me is a chore. Why is that?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:06 PM
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It's good to be 20. You should do a full routine, it'll do wonders for you. Look into Strong lifts 5X5 for a good starter. You should be doing those 5 lifts regularly, I think nearly everyone agrees.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:04 PM
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I can't exactly move us abroad and then, if she gets stuck out there, shrug and say, "oh well, have a nice life" and move back to live my amazing life by myself. Why not?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 08:53 PM
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I want to be wealthy enough to live a fun, exciting life How does being wealthy tie to a fun, exciting life? I'm all for passive income, go for it, it's a great idea. Thing is you have a covert contract on the finances too, being wealthy doesn't corelate the way you likely think it does. Serious question, how would being wealthy lead to living a fun and exciting life for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 08:53 PM
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Read it a few more times, Along-The-Reeds. It sounds to me like you got to DNGAF for a second on this one thing. Your natural reaction will be to try to recreate it, like Ragnar points out, it won't work. Maybe spend a minute reconsidering what "killed the starfish"? Did you accidentally do something attractive?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 08:47 PM
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Reading: I have not made much progress here recently. I have started reading The Way of the Superior Man, and Models to explore the idea of polarity, a concept that DirtyNuke mentioned several times that helped him. I started reading Sex God Method to get some ideas to be better at sex and try things that I might enjoy. Are you reading 3 books at the same time? ​ Whiskey Adoption night It's a clever idea, did you set a date yet? Send out invites yet? ​ I want to double my business over the next …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 08:39 PM
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OYS # 93: Stats: Mid Forties, married 15+ years, kids. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP, PFP. Currently re-reading UM. Physical: 6’2”, 183 lbs. 12% BF. DL 350# X1, Squat 275# X 4, Pinned Bench 215# X 6. For 60 DoD, I’m really focused on pushing my cut to 178, +/-10% BF. I’ve been targeting 2000-2100 calories with 200 g of Protein. It’s been tough, I’m hungry. Had a few slips for Easter and a night over at our friends.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 06:35 PM
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Perhaps more so than any of the other weeks, the hygiene week asks you to really step outside of your own ego and really see yourself. This is why I think 60 DoD is so cool, it prompts you to think of things you possibly weren't thinking of. My hygiene is pretty sharp generally, I guess I'm a bit of a dandy. Anyway, let's go thru the checklist anyway. Do you look slovenly? No Is your haircut shit? No, I just mad a dramatic switch a year or two ago and I've now got it dialed in with length, produ…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 06:06 PM
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First off, Jesus fuck. I hope you take the value you just got and use it properly. I always appreciate all the feedback I get from Stoney. He's blunt, which I appreciate because I can be dense, so no sense dancing around with niceties. Glad he puts up with my shit. Which reminds me; If I were to guess as to why, it's your stupid plow horse brain fighting you when you try to set goals for you, because you aren't this dumb. You just can't be. I like to think of myself as pretty smart. High IQ, adv…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 05:56 PM
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How's it a Rule 9? He only had two more sentences in his wife's stats than he did in his personal stats. What's the proper ratio if not 60% wife/40% yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 05:34 PM
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Nice write up Blarg. Very comprehensive guide, if you didn't find it in there, you don't need it. It's also nice reminder that if you Do The Work, you can achieve whatever your BF% goal is. Anyone who doesn't has only themselves to blame. I'm sufficiently motivated to hit my sub 10% BF goal. Gotta drop 6 pounds I figure. 6X3500-3600= 21000-22000 calories. 22000/60 days= 366 deficit per day, round up to 500. TDEE of 2750-500=2250 per day. 2250 calories - non-negotiable.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/22 04:34 PM
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So, I had to google SMART goals to determine what you meant, at first I thought you meant "not stupid" goals. Specific, Actionable, Achievable, Relevant, Timebound. Got it, not nebulous. So, here's my challenge. Those 4 things I mentioned are honestly, deep down, what I want out of life, a mission so to speak. I spent years coming to terms with an honest answer there. I've achieved business and financial success, my kids aren't fuck ups, I worked my ass off for those things (often accidently usi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/22 03:54 PM
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this is textbook hysteric bonding, won't last forever. Well, guess I'll try to make this the new normal. ​ it's best to use the past tense for your reports in the future. I have a difficult time using the past tense. All the day to day interactions seem so meaningless. Stuff like, "I left my dirty dishes in the sink and my wife was a bitch about it." just seems trivial. I know these are the things that make up life, but they seldom seem worthy of writing about or getting feedback on. As for the …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 11:58 PM
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Took your time getting to that conclusion. This is good. You still have some way to go to accept these new mental models. But you've made a big step in the right direction. It's tough, I seem to have the hardest time going from understanding and accepting a mental model to actually IMPLEMENTING in a meaningful way that changes my course. I feel like the only real big step I've made in the right direction recently was creating a standard for myself and enforcing it (being willing to walk away fro…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 06:05 PM
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Ah, I once again display my ignorance of the Metric System.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 03:10 PM
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I found a (somewhat) regular weekly pickup basketball game and showed up. Yeah! I love it when dudes realize they can play basketball. I shut the nuclear test down by flipping the script and going on the offensive (something I never do). Snot bubbles and tears ensued, and then it was over. An unsolicited BJ happened the next night, and I led it to PIV sex (this is supposed to be shark week) and observed some sluttier-than-normal actions. Suppose it's a coincidence? What's next? Where we going fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 10:58 PM
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Still lurking? Thinking of making an OYS post yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 10:49 PM
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Same, I feel freed to utilize my energy differently. Of course, that option was available the entire time, but ...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 10:38 PM
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I thought it was jump number 18,612. No one ever accused me of moving too fast. It's all a matter of perspective I suppose. Even as I write this I suppress doubt on my ability to sustain things. Guess we'll have to see if I make the second jump too?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 10:36 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 10:35 PM
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Good. Here's some light reading: Killing_the_ego To be honest, I prefer a short OYS, but it has to be on point with What you Did. Yours was tough because the one section you worked on was lifting and it was mostly excuses and didn't list your actual lifts. I'd list them, you'll get better feedback. Also, list your program (upper/lower) in more detail. Try to find something concrete to work on. You are working on NMMNG, they've got exercises, try one and report back on it. Or pick your weakness a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:08 PM
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How do you lift 182 and 121? What plate combination?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:56 PM
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Yikes dude! My first OYS was like 10,000 words of puke. This is all you had to say. Do you approach everything you do in life with such low effort?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:41 PM
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I got a pretty severe character critique from a longtime friend. Was it accurate? Be honest with yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:40 PM
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Wow, nice response. SBIII takes the time to give you the best responses you'll receive and that's TIRING to you? WTF. btw... ​ 5'9, 205lbs, I'm not under 12% bodyfat. Yeah, no shit sherlock. You might not be 20% BF, in fact, I'm pretty sure you aren't. Why'd you pick 12% as your measure. WTF. btw... ​ Why didn't you post your lifts? Oh, that's right... ​ Lifts went fine. Then why do you need a coach? WTF cause btw.... ​ I make minimum wage. I do not own a car. I have a drivers license that is go…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:30 PM
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While I'm glad this was focused on you, I still have to ask, what's the status of the LTR?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:15 PM
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I don’t know if anyone else remembers. Everyone who read his OYS's remembers him. Too fantastical to be made up? ​ Doesn’t matter though, I didn’t eat the donut. Smush the donut, rub the butthole, pitch the business. Doing things is better than not doing things. Fuck yeah, I'm ready to run thru the wall too coach!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:11 PM
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OYS # 92: It's been a few months. Stats: Mid Forties, married 15+ years, kids, 6’2”, 185 lbs. 13% BF. Lifts: DL 340# X2, Squat 290# X 5, Pinned Bench 215# X 6. 891lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP, PFP. Success: Finally, some success related to sex with the wife. I reached a new point in my journey 5 weeks ago. I finally said ‘fuck it’ and gave up on fixing shit with the wife. Shit meaning q…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:07 PM
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What I Want: Six pack abs. Probably around10% body fat. Why I Want It: I want to prove to myself that I can get there again. More importantly, I want a great base to start a bulk in about 90 days. Method to get there: I’ll take my diet seriously. I’ll go all in. Current TDEE: 2750 Caloric goal from nutritionist: 2600 New caloric goal: 2100-2200 Current state: 6’2”, 185, 13% Body Fat Goal: 6’3”, 178, 10ish% body fat This is also a mental exercise for me, I tend to take a cautious approach, use mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 03:54 PM
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I am going to have some fun and stop being so serious at home How? Specifically?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 09:29 PM
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Too much thinking, not enough doing Apparently that's the theme of the OYS thread this week. At least you recognized it. BUT, then you wrote this shit pile and hit submit. You knew you a had shit week of doing nothing, maybe tell us how you are going to fix it? Or skip and come back with some action next week? What are you going to "just do" this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 04:07 PM
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You are still letting your ego lie to yourself my friend. I was going to list a bunch of examples, but I honestly think it would just upset you if I did. Simply put, you are accepting small improvement as if you fully achieved your goals. Sure, you paid some lip service to improving your week points, but you said it yourself, you didn't really do much to improve them.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 04:03 PM
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You still ended up writing so much about what you want, instead of what you did. It almost like "watch what she does, not what she says". Watch what you actually do, it will tell you a lot about yourself. I would recommend saving the "figure things out" bit until you see the results of your actions. Fuck yeah! I hope Sparkling_truth reads this every morning when he wakes up.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 03:58 PM
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I FEEL like I am being raped. ... This is in reference to her not getting off Well my theory was off somewhat. I'd recommend nuking that shit if she says it again. Something like well, I don't want to have sex with someone who feels like they are being raped. Another option, if she's being even somewhat playful with it, would be to play it off like she has a rape fantasy. Either way, that shit would be a red line for me, not tolerable. Golf, fishing, basketball, playing music. Find some ways to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 03:37 PM
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See. This shit is 6 months old and it's basically the same conversation. What else do you want from life?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:19 PM
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So, what exactly did she say? I'm not trying to get you hammered for it, but I do have a point about it. I read thru your history briefly and I have a theory, but I need a little more detail on what she verbalized first. As for my OYS history, I'm glad it's been helpful. I think the biggest lesson to be learned there is that it can't be about your wife, it has to be about you. You can only fix yourself. You cannot control what she does or how she feels about things. Obviously focus on the basics…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:03 PM
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Every unhappy wife is a rape victim... truer words have never been spoken. Ask me how I fucking know. I'll bite. How do you know?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:30 PM
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I'll translate that for you SBIII. Lifts: Beginner/Novice GZCLP = Close enough to zero to be a rounding error
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:26 PM
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What are my goals and priorities? I want to build a deep life, one that is focused on things that matter to me and that avoids wasting attention on things that don’t. I see this as the process of finding a path for myself and actively walking it. What the fuck does that mean? Deep life? Things that matter? What specifically? ​ Specifically, I want to Amplify Action: Ohh. Look I don't disagree, but typically it's best to decide the goal, the intended result, the best methods, and then amplify act…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:19 PM
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Not at this rate.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 04:56 PM
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The next step is to be more specific. Your thought process is on point. I'm interested to hear your conclusion and then see some action related to that conclusion.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 04:02 PM
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Ah fuck, I thought I was bad, but Redside_up has been at it longer than me. I wholeheartedly agree with the problems associated with the "boil the frog" MAP. I still hold that don't go Rambo was the worst advice I ever received. I think the classic trainwreck drunk captain is an easy fix compared to this. I also think that the Captain's archetypes doesn't address this model; the high performing nice guy. He's likely similar to the career Beta, but with some important differences. The 'high perfo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 04:15 PM
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What is actually important to me? This all came about as a result of me posting that I had started three books but not finished or continued reading any of them. When I was called on that I said I would carve out time to do that (i.e. create a time block). That didn't happen so that prompted me to look more closely at what I am actually busy with. I want to be able to read, reflect and implement by taking action based on what I read. The first step would be to do that with Atomic Habits. I have …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 03:43 PM
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That was a thoughtful breakdown of your own inaction. My question would be are you going to finally change these habits now that you've thoughtfully analyzed the issue? Once I am aware of my current habits, I can start to build new ones. And what is it that is actually important to you? Because you didn't say. Maybe reading since you mentioned that or lifting because you mentioned that. Come to think of it, lifting was really the only consistent thing you did this month, but you didn't mention y…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 04:54 PM
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What weights are you actually lifting? And for how many reps? ​ You see the problem with what you've listed is it's hypothetical. It's nearly impossible to actually lift any of those weights, the plate combinations simply don't exist. Better to post what you are actually lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 09:24 PM
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SQ - 146lb BP - 134lb DL - 153lb OHP - 57lb Serious question, what plates do you use to get to 146 pounds, or 134 pounds, or 153 pounds, or especially 57 pounds. Is that the bar and two 6's? ​ Also, I agree with Horns, maybe go Rambo. Or at least do something this week. Your OYS is "My lifts are pathetic and odd numbered, I tried RP a few years ago, I'm hoping to go to the gym, but don't worry I won't go Rambo". Just do something bro!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 08:00 PM
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I'd recommend eating like a mf while you lift heavy (bulk). Plus one on this. roboKevoX, your lifts aren't there yet, you should probably focus on bulking and building up those lifts for now. Worry about the cut later. I don't do the Metric Systems, but some simple napkin math tells me you can barely lift your own weight. Should be tons of room for improvement. Bulk until your lifts start to slow or plateau.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 07:35 PM
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How do I upvote this twice?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 07:27 PM
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Hi, I'm new here but I'm experienced. Missed you brother. Did you get your girl to second base with all the "good advice" you received?
/r/askMRP18/03/22 05:51 PM
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Yeah, but I'll be pulling some seriously hot chicks for a 59 year old. I'll start stocking up on Cialis now just in case. That's what they mean by Divorce prep right?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 05:31 PM
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I've yet to see one (1) merper, including some stalwarts, who doesn't jump into monogamous LTR with one of the first bitches to touch their dick post-divorce. I look forward to the opportunity of being that guy for you Zen.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 04:50 PM
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In my head, not posting OYS right when things are becoming clearer would be like stopping my lifting because I’m at the physique I want. FUCKING BARF, please go grab some Cialis and lazily jerk your dick off elsewhere. Oh and by the way the Cialis is definitely a psychological issue. You should probably consider the how's and why's and guilt or whatever else issues that contribute to that before telling us all you've arrived.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 04:49 PM
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MRP has a tough locker room type atmosphere, it can be jarring. The thing is it turns out the best advice comes from guys like SBIII. He's harsh, but he's also usually right. It's uncommon in life for people to stated the truth without concern for your reaction or feelings. You've come a long way. I understand what a great achievement overcoming the PIV issue was. BUT there is more my friend. Keep working and you have great possibilities. Try to release the ego and take a minute to consider peop…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 04:40 PM
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I do continue to keep working on myself. ... As things have turned out for you, I guess I will do the same Covert contract. Don't improve and become more attractive in hopes of curing her sexual repression with your ultra high SMV. Bad plan.
/r/askMRP18/03/22 12:05 AM
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If I am stepping on my dick and being stupid, then please let me know. You are stepping on your dick and being stupid. It's a problem you can't solve and will likely get worse over time. Ask me how I know. You should move on if she's unwilling or unable to provide the things you want out of a relationship. Changing her is typically a waste of your time.
/r/askMRP18/03/22 12:01 AM
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Hey man! I'm glad you've returned from exile. Seriously, I am. And I'm super stoked for you, that "Full sexual intercourse is now on the menu" I know it's a big step and I applaud you. BUT You'll get a lot more benefit from soaking in SBIII's comment and reflecting on it rather than questioning it or explaining yourself. I'm sure you think you've come all the way, but you've merely just started your journey. Took you nearly a year to take the first step. Don't congratulate yourself just yet, get…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 06:34 PM
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After being here a while, I think "shit tests" is one of the things that gets confused the most. I like the term 'fitness test' better, although shit test rolls off the tongue easier. I think lots of guys don't get nearly as many 'fitness tests' as they think. STLCubs97 has been married nearly 20 years, she's made most of her judgments at this point. Managing your kids screen time likely wasn't the shit test he thinks it was. Maybe she just hoped you would handle your shit? Now maybe she's dropp…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 06:28 PM
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'I'm insulted' I'm insulted implies too much value to her behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 06:04 PM
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Sounds like a DEER to me. ​ I like to do things "my way" ... and am willing to pay the price for it. Glad to hear you are willing to pay the price, because from my vantage point you are really doing it the hard way. Dropping the fat would have tremendous life benefits beyond what seems immediately obvious. I'd venture a guess that you are DEERing that you DNGAF because it's hard. It sounds like an excuse. Do what you want with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 05:54 PM
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I like Starting Strength 5X5 for you, for a while still. Your lifts don't seem to be too far along yet. You could probably do with some arm auxiliary work, but I'd stick with the 5X5 until progress plateau's.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 05:49 PM
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The fake it till you make it post had me thinking about this some more. Fake it till you make it isn't about becoming something fake, or something that isn't true to yourself. It's about getting your reps in to uncover parts of yourself that might be repressed or not yet fully formed. I like the mentality shift here. You are becoming the new you. You are uncomfortable, but that doesn't mean you are faking it. You are simply changing. No one accuses the guy who just starts working out of faking i…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 05:47 PM
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Maybe rest for a while. Like maybe a couple of days. After that get back to it, even if it has to be light duty. Rest is over rated.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 05:35 PM
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Cut and paste is NOT your friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 12:23 AM
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Certain moments in one's journey call for certain tactics and methods. One of the moments I moved forward most was when WAS banned for 600 days. My first thought was WTF am I going to do without an MRP OYS and accompanying feedback. It took a while in the wilderness to realize that was the point, I wasn't growing because I'd become dependent on the feedback and the validation I received from implementing certain things. As for why I'm OYS on my own at the moment, I'm thinking, absorbing, solidif…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 12:21 AM
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I'll read this as "are you nuts dropping deadlift?" I'll drop the weight to 135, and film myself. You read it right. Film it, watch it yourself, post it to the stronglifts reddit or r-fitness. People will comment. I post mine to You Tube for my coach and people comment even when I don't want them too.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 04:57 PM
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At the risk of DEERing, I'll answer the question. Are you just getting validation from contributing to other's OYS No. I had this conversation with a flared, senior MRPer, because I was concerned about it. I'm fairly certain I'm just working on solidifying my own ideas. I've been OYS' on my own and in a different venue. showing you've improved your own situation Never said that one, I'm as bad off as ever. Hopefully, I'm achieving some mental clarity, but my wife's still as icy as ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 04:28 PM
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I have the habit of saying my inner monologue out loud. That ends now. That's the basic idea, don't DEER, avoid the urge to share your inner monologue. Talk way less. Adding activities is good too. You'll get better at the verbal techniques as you use them more, but for now your goal is stop saying things that hurt your position, just say less, don't defend, excuse, explain, rationalize, just say as little as possible. You'll be amazed how much less conflict you'll have after a short period of d…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 09:50 PM
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I'm not a Doctor or a PT so take it with a grain of salt, but I do feel pretty strongly on this issue. I've made much bigger mistakes not lifting because of injuries than I have performing the movements. You have to check the ego and drop weight, perhaps all the way to no weight, but continuing the movement, in this case squats, thru pain and injury will help with range of motion and maintaining strength. If you can't do body weight squats yet than that is your goal, do isometrics and and assist…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:27 PM
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Guess you took it for granted, huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:03 PM
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Now we're getting somewhere. So you can focus on STFU. Seriously, stop saying stuff that undercuts yourself. Maybe hold off on the 'enforcing boundaries' for now, clearly your verbal techniques aren't working anyway. Also, don't feel the need to "keep things fun even when I'm seething inside", it's not your job to make things OK or fun. Just seethe inside quietly, to yourself, by yourself. Instead of talking spend this time thinking about ways you might be able to crawl out of this mess. STFU is…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:02 PM
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That something else, for the time being will be training, nutrition and fixing the shit around my house that I've been putting off. Best shit I read all day. Focus there. Maybe next week I'll get to read about how you lifted 4 days, calculated your TDEE, and fixed the rusty shed latch or some shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 07:53 PM
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That was Sparkling Truth and unfortunately you, Zen, and I scared him away with a few sparkling truth's of our own. He was making some progress too, too bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 07:35 PM
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You are correct that it shouldn't be your sole focus, so you got that bit right. My concern is you dedicated over half the words in your OYS to "I'm not worried about sex". So, basically your OYS was boilerplate, boilerplate, lip service to lifts and nutrition, one fucking line "speaking kindly to yourself" and then 60% about sex aint shit. How are you planning on progressing exactly? You ARE angry about or you wouldn't have written so much about it. It's OK, it's normal. You're thinking in the …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 07:29 PM
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I'm thinking we may have had this conversation before. My lifting coach convinced me to get over the "I can't do such and such lift because, blah, blah, mouth noises" mentality and shift to a "what can I do" mentality. In your case, can you do a body weight squat? If so, start there. His philosophy is dropping the lift entirely is a sure fire way to stall/lose progress. You'll have better results if you continue with the movement within your abilities.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 07:19 PM
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during deadlift fucked up my back It's most likely that your form sucks. On track with frequent showers & grooming Jesus man, suck less. I know it's only OYS3, but you are better than that right?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 06:27 PM
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Noted. I will do something about it this week. I like it, go do something small, write about it next week. But DO IT, no matter how small it needs to be to happen. Seriously talk to the cashier if that's the best you can muster for now, it's about progress. It's actually hard for me to say anything good about myself ... I won't be an ass about it next week. This good reflection as well. I'm a stranger on the internet and I could tell you were insecure with those comments, think about how people …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:54 PM
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I had a pro nutritionist help me. Basically it boils down to weigh things and then guess as necessary. For example, you eat paella, you weigh it, you don't know how much percentage everything is so you guess. 5% rice, 20% chicken, 20% shrimp, 10% vegetables. You should be able to get approximately right. Long story short though, stop stuffing your face, eat less. You know where the actual problems lie, the tracking is just a way to keep yourself honest.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:33 PM
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Knee recovering. ... Squats out. What's the story on the knee?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:24 PM
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Paging Ragnar Daneskjold. SufficientNorth posted a picture and it's worth a 1000 words. I agree with Zen, you're thick dude, your mass is great, time for a serious cut. ​ “I have earned the right to do whatever the fuck I want.” Only problem here is that I don’t know if I fully believe this yet Believe it brother. You were born with this right, it's up to you to implement it. That's a great article you linked, you should read it everyday until you believe it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:18 PM
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Cut and paste is not your friend here. Write up some original shit each week. ​ Last girl you flirted with who isn't your wife- Can't Remember How about you fix this week. Go to the grocery store and speak to a women. Hell, go to the grocery store, buy a pack of gum and then flirt with the cashier if you have to. She's required to stay at her station, so you don't have to worry she'll flee (my apologies to the cashier girl in advance). Two things you do that make you a good catch- A genius-tier …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:05 PM
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Height: 5’7 And weight? I'm not saying it's easy to lose weight, but it is simple. If you sewed your mouth shut for a week would you lose weight? Of course. You've reached a point where you need to make a choice, what's more important to you? Losing weight or eating for comfort? It's up to you. There's all kinds of mental tricks and support out there, but ultimately it's up to you and the solutions are simple. Fitness Lifts (FtFy) Thanks for posting your weights and lifts, it really makes easy t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:51 PM
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MISSION Find a squat rack. ​ Blarg gave me an awesome tip now that sex was back on the menu but none of my two initiations succeeded. His tip was to make sure she knows I know that sex is back on the menu and then don't initiate for a week. That was last week, so somehow I don't think you followed the advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:37 PM
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That's my mission too. For some reason I now feel validated.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:32 PM
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and I'm worried about sex? Are you really not worried about it now at OYS3? Or are you saying that for some other reason? I know it's why we all start here And you are over it already? Sure you aren't just angry?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:29 PM
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Yeah jeez, Horns, he makes a shit ton of cash and he used to be the shit. What the fuck? He's really good at DEERing too, so you should really ease up on him.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:26 PM
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I don't list everything I have read in my OYSs, but only the current readings and the ones just finished. I have read all linked posts and articles on the entire sidebar, several of them twice, some many times. I have read most of the books listed. DEER much? I lifted twice last week (out of four lifting days planned). Before that, I haven't missed one single lifting day in 7 weeks, except for one where I had tweaked my back. Are you making the point that you are disciplined or not disciplined, …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 08:26 PM
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Ah fuck! I should really just check post history before I waste my keystrokes. One year ago looking for lifting tips and he LOST a pound since then. FFS. Guess he'll be back next year, "Married, dead bedroom, still a virgin, 5'10", 169, wife cheated, she wants a divorce now, what should I do?"
/r/askMRP16/02/22 08:05 PM
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Thank you - I am grateful that you take time out of your day to write me. I feel the community. You are welcome. Tons of guys here at MRP invested many hours trying to help me figure it out. Commenting on your OYS helps me solidify the things I learned along the way. I feel like stretching and/or massage is the solution rather than surgery. But I don’t know for sure - hence doctor who I am hoping will do an X-ray. Certainly no downside to having a doctor comment on a diagnosis. I went to a doc f…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 07:56 PM
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I don't want to behave that way. So going forward I am going to just say "I'm stepping out." Good plan. It is indeed uncomfortable and perhaps I am trying to convince myself. I highly suspect you are trying to convince yourself. That's Ok. You can feel the need to explain yourself, but you can still choose to not do it. Soaking in that feeling is how you will get comfortable avoiding the DEERing that you are naturally inclined to do. Acknowledge it's there, but don't let it choose for you. My 2 …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 07:46 PM
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I think user/UrMyRagdoll/ might have actually found a unicorn. Not too many chicks love being crushed by a fat guy. I do think adding an actual photo would shut a lot of guys traps.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 10:12 PM
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I'm a little worried about over-training on deficit Fuck Overtraining
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 10:07 PM
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I notice a big portion of your mission is financial, which is fine. Rather than put out a number goal that appears to be there for ego validation, I would suggest focusing on the process. What is your process/plan for achieving your financial goals? What did you to improve that this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:49 PM
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She seemed apologetic afterwords and again reiterated that she enjoys physical affection just again timing issues. Doesn't matter, the damage was already done. Keep working on STFU, avoid doing damage to your SMV by keeping your mouth shut. Tuesday – 2 shots of whisky Saturday – 1 beer Sunday – 2 shots of whisky, 5-6 beers (super bowl) Monday – 1 beer That seems like a fucking lot for a guy with the stated goal of: "Goal is to be drinking only once a week (Saturday or Sunday) and only a have a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:57 PM
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Great in bed WTF, really?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:42 PM
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I was thinking the same thing, it was cute at first, it's not any more. I can't even imagine how the wife is taking it. I'd probably pull a knife on him if I was her. Oh wait... shit ... my bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:40 PM
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I'd summarize it as "STB is starting to get it, his wife is having trouble adapting, but at least STB can be stoic during her shit fits." There was a lot of SHE in there, but I didn't see anything pointing to the fact that she was committing to changing anything. Carry on.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:35 PM
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I'm gonna give you a one time cheat code here: When PIV is back on the menu, make sure she knows you know it, and then dont initiate for a week after. Dont even show interest. Just be busy. This isnt a repeatable thing. It's a one time mind-fuck. No initiations or even heavy implications for a week. You'll live. I'm super interested in seeing how this plays out if he tries it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:06 PM
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I dunno man. This sounds like you were trying to write about some break thru or main event or something, but it doesn't read like that to me. Reads more like "Wife threw a shit fit and I didn't make it to the hardware store in time". It sounds good that you were stoic about the whole thing, but what's the point of this novel?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 07:38 PM
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I like you, you are my favorite new poster at this point. So what I thought was a written truth by myself, when I looked more closely was not true. That's your ego holding you back. Half the time you won't even be able to identify the lies you tell yourself. Here's some light reading, Killing the Ego. You've clearly learned a lot this week, but remember, doing_things_is_better_than_not_doing_things. Your OYS this week is philosophical, that's understandable, it's a lot to take in. You have to ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 07:21 PM
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I ... don't feel the need to ... explain myself. Are you sure about that? I know that's the right thing to say and feel, but are you trying to convince yourself? It's a fine line, it'll be uncomfortable for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 07:00 PM
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She probably doesn't mention the anal though! I'm guessing she just says something like "in college I wouldn't even take my bra off" and his hamster does all the work that says baby was a virgin.
/r/askMRP15/02/22 06:56 PM
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She's a special virgin, catholic snowflake!
/r/askMRP15/02/22 06:54 PM
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How do I get my power back? Break the engagement. You can't handle it. Work on you instead. ​ Basically, I'm cringing even thinking about me right now. So am I, so is she. So, what to do? ​ Here's an angle to try: Tell her she deserves better and that you are breaking it off to work on bettering yourself maybe someday you'll be ready. Also, tell her you'd love to date her in the meantime if she wants. See what she says. You'll instantly have 100% of your power back, you probably won't have a GF,…
/r/askMRP15/02/22 06:53 PM
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I love that the response to "Have you actually done anything?" is to reply that I'm skinny, I read some books and watched some videos. Guess he's trying hard to prove your point. OP probably should have gone with STFU or told you to fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 06:45 PM
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But I don't know how much of the issue is (and it's probably a bit of all): * I just pick women who are actually not what I want. * My own shit, ego, resentment, fear etc. * Monogamy is not my thing. Hmm.... This got me thinking. Maybe this actually means: ​ I just pick women who are actually not what I want. Maybe you settle for the first decent opportunity that presents itself and then latch onto as if it's the only chance you'll ever get? Monogamy is not my thing. Maybe this is just an excuse…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/22 03:54 PM
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He gets some thing right for sure and for a guy who's literally drowning with no clue as to what to do the 12 levels of Dread feel like a life jacket amongst the ocean. In my opinion the Dread Levels create a Gigantic Covert Contract of improvement for sex, especially if you only progress with the thought of making your wife come along (trust me I know). Here's a more eloquent breakdown. Critique of 12 levels of dread Your main take away should be the you need to think critically on EVERYTHING y…
/r/askMRP11/02/22 11:13 PM
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Posting this dumb shit question isn't helping with any of the things you claim to be focusing on though. Wait you mean posting this dumbass novel isn't the same as STFU. I thought STFU meant Say Things that are Fucking Useless? OP, this is the best you'll get, next time save it for your weekly OYS. And cancel Valentine's day, but not after you already bought the stuff, ffs.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 10:56 PM
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Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 06:13 PM
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Nice ego check. I'm optimistic for your future now. I'm excited to see next week's OYS, hopefully you have it framed differently.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 05:22 PM
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my wife had much higher SMV. ... and wife was stunning Oneitis, either you weren't a 7.5 our your wife is supermodel (in which case, post some photos), or more likely your bullshitting yourself and have serious case of oneitis. ​ having such a hot wife as "mine" proved to myself and others that I was worth something. I had to be worth something right?? Look at the quality of woman I can pull. Right? Validation issues too? To be fair, I think you've began to realize these problems, but you have m…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 05:12 PM
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Totally agree. All of this is true, irrespective of my LARPing comment. Don't want to leave anyone with the impression that I disagree. Links dead, here's an alternate: 16 Commandments of Poon
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 08:43 PM
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Yes, thanks for the correction (I fixed it above). According to google the ideal chest to waist ration is 1.6:1, something to consider if you are 1:1.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:44 PM
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Not bad for a first OYS. DON’T SAY ANYTHING UNATTRACTIVE. Keep your mouth shut. There is a lot of strength in that. This was the best bit. Drinking way too much. And this has even been dialed back some. Have a drinking problem and it is something I need to be continuously mindful of. Even had to go to therapy for a bit because of it. Goal is to be drinking only once a week (Saturday or Sunday) and only a have a couple of drinks. Why even fuck around with alcohol at all at this point? I watch por…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:39 PM
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I asked her which of the various new sexual activities I had introduced in the past month were the most and the least effective in arousing and exciting her. This should be interesting. Maybe you've stumbled onto some new Red Pill revelations for us all. I'm sure your wife will say all the right things. while not being truly autistic You sure bro?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:31 PM
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Might be WTF because your waist and chest measurements should not be equal. Or maybe he just giggles at the mention of the word nipples.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:28 PM
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This is good advice for most guys anywhere on their journey. Go fishing and play a little catch-and-release... it keeps you sharp, and there are three benefactors. You. Your woman. And the lonely girl you hung up wet. & I mostly agree. I'm in the mostly agree category too. This isn't bad advice, guys should get a check on their market value. For guys with gigantic ego's, like me and Proto there is also a huge risk here, because: this new bitch, who knows nothing of your bullshit, buys the LARP I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:26 PM
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OP, I was thinking the same thing as SBIII. How the fuck are your lifts 10KG? I don't know shit about the metric system, but I'm pretty fucking sure that's a negligible amount of weight. Plus nobody Squats and OHP's the same weight. What's the point of all this criticism? There's about ZERO chance that you are 17% body fat, when I first read 6'4" 225, 17% body fat, I thought this guy must be strong as fuck, but I guess not. You've got a gigantic ego protection problem. Read this comment, maybe w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:17 PM
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I'm interested in your back and forth with u/BostonBrakeJob. Did you delete your previous posts?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 05:19 PM
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I've read it and I agree. Talk about Frame. ​ Deep, deep down ask yourself, “Who do you want to be?” Not what, but who. I’m talking about figuring it out for yourselves, ‘What makes you happy?’ You have to think outside the box. That’s what I believe after all. What’s the point of being on this Earth if all you want to be is be liked and avoid trouble? We have so many rules in life about everything. I say break the rules, not the law, but break the rules. I remember that after I was finished wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 04:36 PM
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Triple yikes, this one is worse: https://www.reddit.com/r/downbad/comments/rncrol/yall_look_into_rmarriedredpill_and_tell_me_if_all/ OP, should be shot on sight.
/r/askMRP07/02/22 04:44 PM
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I thought Rule Zero was paramount? Rules 2, 3, 4, 6, and certainly 9 are in play too.
/r/askMRP07/02/22 04:41 PM
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Funny. It's incredible the career Arnold had after starting in that masterpiece. The bears don't stand a chance now!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 03:58 PM
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Nice job. You've come a long way. I'm glad you ended with: I have so much left to do. Otherwise I would have had to kick you in the nuts. Nice bear by the way, I like how you slid that into the before photos. I noticed you needed 2 before shots to tell the story.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 11:39 PM
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I don't know much about you, but the fact that you are already looking for plates to promote says a lot. It's a scarcity mindset. I'd try to avoid finding one to promote in your shoes. Like: "Plate #6 is killing it, she's good in bed, reliable, hot, cooks me dinner every time I come over, she's so good I might have to promote her." Rather than the current: "2 plates, not sexual, should I promote or I hope one will be promotable." Try to get a full slate of plates that are actually sexual and try…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 08:10 PM
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Also, IVE SAID IT BEFORE STFU has more to do with you not saying stupid shit. Couldn't agree more!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 08:01 PM
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That's a good start. Cut and paste is an efficient way to make it look like you put in the work. Here's the deal, no one here cares if you look like you are working. You need to do some deep introspective thinking and decide what are your weaknesses and what can you do to improve them.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 07:59 PM
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I’m blaming my wife for fucking up my happiness and holding me hostage with emotional manipulation every time I try to get free Read up on the anger phase, it'll pass eventually. Once you are done being pissed at your wife, you'll be pissed at yourself. You've locked yourself in with your own mental restrictions, it's not your wife. I read once that it is a prison of your own creation.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 07:26 PM
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I take the eat a pizza challenge pretty seriously. Seriously, go eat a whole fucking Pizza this weekend and report back on Tuesday. If you can't do that, we can't help you. I did it. I almost puked, it was horrible, but you know what I wanted to prove to myself and everyone here that I was serious. I'm still a bit of a skinny fuck, but I'm 6'2" and weigh over 50lbs more than you, what does that tell you? ​ Eat the fuck out of next week & work out 3 times It's incredible how simple your path is, …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 07:18 PM
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Holy fuck, calling u/HornsOfApathy 6'2", 130 pounds, 2%BF Can you help this guy with the Eat a Pizza link?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:24 AM
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Interested in spinning plates and eventual promotion of a plate incumbent upon her providing value. Is there a plate? A wife? Two plates or an LTR? It's kind of an odd statement the way I read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:21 AM
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Of course you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:19 AM
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Nah, he came to MRP for the workout advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:18 AM
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Cut and paste is not your friend. Spend more time thinking about what's actually wrong with you and your life. You've got some pretty coherent thoughts here, but when I went to look at OYS #1, it's the exact same words. stop yelling This should be a pretty easy goal to accomplish, you need to spend some time thinking about better approaches. No complaints about work Then why write about it? This isn't a book report for class, write about shit that matters to you. Read this: Understanding_the_ang…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:16 AM
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SBIII, we need more of your comments. That's the second funniest thing I've ever read on here. I think you know what the funniest was. I'm going to go yell at my fridge now cause it's lunchtime.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:36 PM
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Yeah, I figured you'd pick up on my plan here. I'm commenting primarily on items that fit with my issues, obviously I'll follow up with guys in ways that help them too, but I'm commenting as much for myself as anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:08 PM
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It's still easy, it'll get hard later. If you instill good discipline now, you'll get there faster and be more prepared later. I like your mindset, you aren't wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:14 AM
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I did get a picture of a badger at about 5' away once. It's still my favorite. I've got a handful of fish pictures, one of a buck, and one of my Dad, outside of that, I can't really be bothered. No judgement though, I like staring at a steamy pile of berry filled shit as much as the next guy, I just don't like dragging the camera out. Each to their own. Now if Koan wants to post a pile of bear shit to his Tinder account I think that would be sending the right kind of DNGAF message.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:12 AM
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Focus more on your mindset and less on her mindset. Focus on these: I still DEER way too much: How are you going to address this? Be more attractive : Too generic, how? Get home projects done: Good, do stuff. Find an outside hobby: Good, how? did you narrow it down yet? Find and eliminate covert contracts: Did you find any yet? State my needs overtly : Good, keep doing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:25 PM
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Where's your lifts? I agree with Blarg, you need to tune up that Mission statement. Nothing wrong with being a good father and husband, but that's really your mission in life? Be competent? Low bar I'd say, plus it's totally focused on others rather than yourself. Be honest with yourself on what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:13 PM
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Squats, I phrased that badly. Thank God, I was worried I'd wasted 6000 words last week. I look 15-18% Seems fair. No issue with using the consistent measurement of the cheap calipers, just know you'll need sub 10% or maybe even 8% to get the look you really want on those. ------- And really, I'm now seeing another significant parallel. The mindset thing above is much more important. I've been there, you don't want to hurt her feelings, you're hoping it will improve on it's own (it won't), and yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:06 PM
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the low-hanging fruit has been picked & Stats: 6', 220 lbs, 23.3% BF (scales) - down 1.39 lbs (0.32%) this week Lifts: DL 264 x 9, SQ 198 x 8, BP 154 x 13, OP 110 x 8 I have good news for you. You are wrong. You are still dropping a pound and a half a week, it's still low hanging fruit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:51 PM
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Koan said it best: This is a shitty mindset. It’s scarcity, it’s qualifying myself to others, it’s not being the prize. And it’s ruining my experience. Also paraphrasing Koan, It's a poor mindset, framed for the approval of others. But then again, I hate taking pictures. I don't think of the outdoors as rare and sacred, I think of my time as rare and sacred and taking pictures almost never adds to the joy of my experience. So, I guess I'm biased.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:44 PM
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AR has been doing negatives (or visiting the international space station), I think. Fuck this is hard to do: Lift stats from ~2mos ago: DL 315 BP 185 SQ 225 OHP 100 Current lift stats: DL 185 BP 135 SQ ?? OHP 80 but, it's even harder to have the balls to post those two lines next to each other on MRP without a plan to fix or even so much as an acknowledgement that he needs a plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:37 PM
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I'll say what I think everyone, including you, is thinking. Your new 1.5 years LTR probably isn't going to work out. SO... Since you have nothing to lose, how about you try this: Tell her point blank, "Man this isn't what I was expecting when we agreed to move in together. I figured we'd be fucking like rabbits all the time and I also I didn't know you'd be all clingy, not to mention you spend more money than I'm comfortable with" ..... then STFU and see what she says and how she reacts. What's …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:26 PM
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Fuck. I'll give this another try. squat 175*5 – pain, going to stop squats Why? Did you try 135#? Or the bar? Or body weight squats? Figure out where you are and build from there. 6’ 195lb, BF~12% Do you look like this guy's before photo? What's your BF% based on bodyfat-visual-representation? & I have been with current partner for 1.5 years, we moved in together 4 weeks ago and it went downhill Wow. That's pretty bad dude. I would have thought with the first collapsed relationship you'd be smar…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:19 PM
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Fuck pictures! Live life. 100% this: do it because you're the shit, your adventures are awesome, and you care about it Don't go camping to get good pictures for your Tinder profile FFS.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:53 PM
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Yes, it's very important to negotiate fair terms when arranging your covert contracts. FFS
/r/askMRP01/02/22 08:45 PM
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Fuck man, You dont want us answering that. It's right there at the top of the askMRP page. How about you go over to MRP, start an OYS thread, Lift, STFU, read the materials on the sidebar, and work on yourself for a while? Or you could ask rando's on the internet whether you should leave your wife with very minimal context. Start here: Steels_guide_to_married_red_pill
/r/askMRP01/02/22 08:35 PM
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Re court Yeah, I get all that. Wish we could help. Best I can say there is keep focused on doing everything you can do within your control. Things will work out. I know with kids and custody it's tough, but a bad outcome isn't necessarily an end. There's always room in child's life for a good Dad. Just focus on what you can do and stick with the process. I don't know anything about your ex, but most Mom's will make room for a good Dad if they aren't threatened or feel like they'll be undercut. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 05:15 PM
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whatever the fuck you're doing is not working at all Yep, I agree, he's fucked!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 05:16 PM
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I like this version better: I recently made a note about myself: "I allow my wife to be emotionally abusive and controlling, I listen to everything she says even if it's a very negative view of pretty much everything, for some stupid fucking reason I argue loads, I'm walking on eggshells (actually got this one yourself OP , but why?) not to make her angry every day, I put on weight, I'm fat, I don't trim my dick hair, we hardly ever have sex, because I'm addicted to porn. I was like this before …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 05:08 PM
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This is good, now you are seeing it. Next step is to actually internalize these thoughts and act without the influence of the ego. ​ I expect things to work my way. I never really had to work in school and was always good at sports / work etc and so I expect to just be able to turn up and be good. Life doesn’t work like that. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. Thing is you want to control what you can. Focus on better, not good. If things would fall in place and be good, some effort on …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 04:46 PM
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Pretty much. FWIW, I checked the ego some, then I checked it again, but to really get it out of the way you have to release it. I mean truly release it, let it go. It's terrifying. If you are like me you are using your ego as a protection measure. To protect yourself from other peoples judgments or your own failings or shortcomings. Here's a snapshot: Let's use the squat this time. So, you are squatting 155# at mostly full depth, maybe you have to drop down to 130# to get clean, full depth relat…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 04:40 PM
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Ha, I had that bad boy listed at 355#, if I had listed 300# you likely wouldn't have noticed the discrepancy. If you hadn't intervened I'd probably be doing 1/8th squats at 500lb by now.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/22 05:02 PM
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At a certain point you need to make some choices and decisions about what's important to you. Ever thought of starting an OYS thread instead of posting these dumbass, wife focused stories onto askMRP?
/r/askMRP24/01/22 04:44 PM
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You don't have to put up with shit or bad behavior, period. OP, could draw a boundary (or leave) at any point if he wanted to. (Now whether his wife would give two shits about his boundary is an entirely different question.) Having your shit together certainly helps avoiding shit. It also helps with respect, which makes others more likely to respect your boundary. OP's got a handful of problems: He doesn't have his shit together His wife doesn't respect him (because he doesn't have his shit toge…
/r/askMRP24/01/22 04:40 PM
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Yeah, RStonePT & that deleted account author are soul mates or twin brothers or something. Similar mindset. BTW, thanks for putting that link out there, it is an oldie but goodie!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 05:06 PM
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FWIW, I was doing 10 reps of weighted chins with a 45# plate. In retrospect, I was flinging every muscle in my body at it in an effort to clear the bar. Now, I'm doing slow and controlled, perfect form. SLOW and CONTROLLED. They are so much more difficult and they actually work the back muscles you are targeting. See how many slow, controlled, perfect form you can do a body weight and start from there. If you take the ego out of the process your body will tell you when to add weight. The body we…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 03:07 PM
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Honestly, I just got my head kicked in over and over and just gave up. Admitting it's actually an issue is the first big step. I kept having guys tell me ego, ego, victim, ego, and I'd agree, but not really. Once I finally realized that, YES, my entire personality is basically a mask to cover over insecurities (and make other like or respect me) it started to peel away. Best I can say is identify the places where ego is influencing your actions (basically everywhere) and start to make other choi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 02:58 PM
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I'm not sure how much you'll glean from my history. Maybe just read my dumb, defensive, comments to the quality advice I received. I read thru some more of your stuff and I do see the parallels that Zen points out. Namely the ego. Here's an example from your exchange with Dunlop: ​ Re external validation, you could be right here. I tend to think there is 30% that and 70% I literally am judged by others right now. Psychologists, lawyers and judge etc all are actively judging what I say and do and…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 12:03 AM
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Jerry, glad you got laid twice, but fuck man, what is this? Who's story is this? I don't really like your wife, so I don't want to hear all about her day. Try writing it from your perspective next time. Good on you for making yourself scarce and enforcing some boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 11:15 PM
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Glad it helps. I've unfortunately got a ton of experience on the "injury/pain" front. Biggest thing I learned is that it is really easy for an injury to totally set you back when it doesn't have to. Now, I'm not saying you aren't injured, I'm just saying I've learned thru my own injuries (and their related total shutdowns) that persistently doing something and continuing movements actually helps recovery (much to my surprise). I've also learned that you can make great progress without adding tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 10:54 PM
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If you are happy with your body comp, that's cool. If you aren't, IMO it's your something with your programming. Your overall strength level just isn't there for the time you are putting in. I'd actually have rather heard that your discipline was weak and you missed a lot of workouts. Maybe Dunlop's right, maybe it's your T levels. Whatever it is, you'll never hit your goals for body comp without figuring out a way to increase strength in a meaningful way. Maybe it's T, maybe it's different prog…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 03:21 PM
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Calipers are probably the most honest way to track for progress. I'd just add 8 to whatever they give you. I missed the Knees over Toes program first time I read your OYS. That looks like a great set of movements to help with the squat. I've got some experience with "Not being able to squat". I ripped up my knee a few times and had the doc tell me not to squat, ever. Bad advice. Luckily last time I dislocated the knee I got a better PT. She started me with bodyweight squats, literally sitting do…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 03:13 PM
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Zen's pretty sharp on these things, so hopefully he'll chime back in on the body comp issue. My take is you are likely fine either way bulk or cut, BUT you've got to work hard to work toward which ever you choose. Personally, if I was in your shoes, I'd get some professional help on your programming. You've done a great job of dropping fat, I presume this is from disciplined nutrition. Are you applying the same effort and focus to lifting?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:01 PM
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Looks like fix-the-man beat me to it. 6’ 195b, BF ~12% What the fuck? strongur.io/body_fat_calculator says you are 20.7% body fat. I tend to agree, you are shorter than me, weigh more than me, and your lifts are SHIT. ​ Squat 130*5 (squat has always been a problem for me) What's the problem with your squat? (That is not a rhetorical question, seriously, why is it a problem?)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:18 PM
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Congrats on the promotion, but what the fuck is this? Save us all the screen space, if you don't want to OYS then don't OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:11 PM
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Zen's pretty likely to tell anyone with those lifts to focus on bulking up. OP has a complicated story. He was super fat, but never strong, he's lost like 80 pounds. That said, here's a comment I made to him 5 months ago when his lifts were BP: deload 115x5; BS: deload 125x5; OHP: 105x4; DL: 240x4. So in 5 months his OHP hasn't moved, his Dead Lift has dropped 5 lbs. On a brighter note, he's made decent progress on Bench and Squat from nearly zero starting points. I can't explain the lack of pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:08 PM
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So, you talked to a girl? Is this your first time? I'm kidding, kind of. Good work on breaking out of your shell a little bit. Your story really was as simple as you spoke to a women for 15 minutes. That's good, but you should do it more so it isn't a revolutionary event. I like your OYS as it seems your self-reflection is pushing you to some progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 04:49 PM
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OP, it says volumes about you that your first reaction to discovering the Red Pill was to post this dumpster fire. Lift, side bar, STFU (emphasis on the SHUT THE FUCK UP part). ​ Can you elaborate the backbone part? Why? Seems like you've understand pretty well. I take her verbal abuse sometimes wife as she knows I won't say much back I just go to my room (like a kid?) I really lack in the communications department people easily put me down ​ I've started working Good, there is no quick fix or e…
/r/askMRP17/01/22 06:32 PM
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So, you are saying forever Blue Pill's use of the word SHE is an issue? Maybe he's too focused on her side of the story rather than himself? Also, I've now got a bunch of burned out pixels on my monitor from the bright lights.
/r/askMRP17/01/22 06:25 PM
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Alright JERRY! Now we're getting somewhere. Nice job with Buffett Girl. Just having the balls to take the seat with her was huge. I knew I blew it. Hate to break it to you, but you didn't blow it. It's a bit of a numbers game, you've started playing. At 5'6", 145lbs and "My hair looked awful. I don't smell nice. I stuttered when I talk. I don't project a high SMV." you'll need to dial up quite a few more women than some guys. BUT, if you do approach 100 women with similar shamelessness, you'll g…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 06:05 PM
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You are starting to think a little more clearly here. I'm sure this particular situation will clear up for you. Choosing #3 looks something like enforcing a boundary, since you set the whole thing up. You should do some work on the deeper issue of being Mr. Nice Guy. You care waaaay too much about your wife's feelings and relationship with MIL. That's for them to work out. If you get dragged in, enforce your boundaries, which it appears you are set to do in this case. Your real problem is that y…
/r/askMRP06/01/22 04:22 PM
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I've got a ton of experience with injuries (unfortunately). I think the tendency is to attempt to go back to 90% or 100% of the original weight once you feel a little better. I've had better luck since I checked the ego and realized that being able to do the movement consistently is much better than forcing a heavier set that might cause a setback. It would be worth seeing if doing some extremely light loads causes any next day pain (if so you likely have a severe injury). Professional help on f…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 05:48 PM
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Everything online says to just avoid ANY painful lifting and give it lots of time (like 4-6 weeks total?). My Rehab guy (and several PT's) I've worked with are big fans of continuing the movement. One of the mistakes people tend to make is reading "avoid ANY pain" for "avoid ANY painful movement". Are you able to perform those movements with no weight or perhaps the bar? I had serious impingement issues related to bench press. My PT asked me: "So you can't even Bench 5lb dumbbells?" Well of cour…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 04:27 PM
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Oob, that's a great write up. Where can I read more on this subject? Do you know of any articles? I'll go back to TWOSM and see what I can find, but I'm interested in exploring this dynamic a bit more. Notice, that I'm not trying to relieve the tension with her. Trusting the hamster is about letting that tension build without it either exploding or you saying things to permit it to be swept under the rug. Nice Guy me hated the tension and would say almost anything to bring it down (usually, "I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/21 11:18 PM
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I've been dealing with indifference from my wife for quite some time. This seemed like a break from the indifference finally. My theory is that this was a major shit test to see if I would fall back in line with an over the top request she picked up when watching her friend. Basically the opposite of indifference. ​ Thoughts?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 03:33 PM
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Yeah, I guess I do know what this was. Guess I was just shocked at her quick pivot on behavior. I'm all for dealing with something different, indifference is pretty hard to work with. I'm equipped to deal with a shit storm of shit tests now. Almost anything is better than a downward spiral of mutual indifference.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/21 05:04 PM
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It’s not necessarily a need it’s more something that I would like to do. So, dig into the WHY's. Why would you like to take care of your parents. It's seems highly likely to me that it's some nice guy covert contract about what you SHOULD do or otherwise influenced by the way others will react to it. If that's it, don't do it. I'm guessing there's only like a 1% chance that you actually want to take care of them for your own benefit. It's classic nice guy stuff. You are going to have a really di…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/21 05:00 PM
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I stand by the recommendation. After reading your description, I'd had heavy weight lifting 3X a week. Nothing to lose, right? It takes a while to build the habit, but I think once you do it will help.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/21 04:53 PM
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There's no honor in suffering The Bible Be able to financially take care of my parents. Become free. but I don't want to make them feel bad. I don't want me taking action and starting my own business to reflect to them their insecurities I was also wallowing in it with an air of nobility. . I would end up in relationships where the other person clearly didn't give a fuck and I would still allow myself to remain in it. Double down on nice guy behaviors. Be treated like shit. Have my boundaries st…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 10:10 PM
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I'm not a doctor or an expert on depression, but have you tried lifting? It's a great mood booster for me and many of the guys here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 09:59 PM
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Then I got what I wanted gifted to me on a silver platter. What was this?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 09:55 PM
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OYS # 88: Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 187 lbs. 12-13% BF, just started a cut. Lifts: DL 330# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 210# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP, PFP. Break: I took a little break from Reddit and weekly OYS the last few months. I also cut some other time wasters. Trying to reset my focus a bit. I found that I had wasted a bunch of time on Redd…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 08:48 PM
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OHP 70lb 3x5, BP 116lb 3x5, DL 242lb x 5 Yuck I can't drive (yeh I'm 30+ and I can't drive) Double yuck! which my wife especially likes Who gives a fuck? I'm not getting the displays of affection that I want from my wife Wonder why? Needy bitch much? very, very rarely get complimented on my looks, Read up on Validation
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 12:08 AM
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Just checking back in to reiterate something from last week. You've been given a GIFT, don't squander it. none of this would've happened. I would've remained in my past situation That's the gift. Now you've also got the gift of these smart dudes helping you set a course. Good on you man.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 11:58 PM
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What was the opportunity cost of your mistake? Fucking Gold!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 11:49 PM
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Lucky Bastard!!! His wife fucked another guy, some guys get all the luck. I've been trying to talk Zen into fucking my wife so I could build up the nerve to Kill the puppy. In all seriousness, he's got a point and you KNOW it, just can't fully admit it. Why does that make me lucky? Because it's made it so much easier to detach, not care, and prioritize myself after seeing AWALT slap me in the face? It's a gift take it as such.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 04:37 PM
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I know what I have to do. Why do I have a sneaking suspicion that you won't do it anyway?
/r/askMRP01/12/21 07:57 PM
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I found myself wondering if I regret the way things have gone You gave yourself a week (well actually 2 now), time to move into the "what's next" phase. I mean.... ​ There has been no shortage of frame testing, and that’s been great, because without testing I couldn’t know frame is solid. Yeah, it's your frame, you left. I don't know what more "frame" you could have. Look, I get it, it's going to take some time to move on. From my point of view it seems like you could help yourself move on more …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:22 PM
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Statistically speaking planes are significantly safer than cars. Automobiles just give the Illusion_of_control (wiki). I actually find it helpful to remember than I have absolutely no ability to control the situation so no amount of worry will help. Have a nice trip man!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:16 PM
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This doesn’t feel like a victory. Seems like it to me. Because: I’m leaving to chase a vision And that's all that matters, so what if wasn't 'perfect', you've taken the hard step and moved on. Good on you. Next OYS, you can talk about the next steps on chasing that vision, for this week, celebrate the victory.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 05:23 PM
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I'm not familiar with the metric system. Is that like 3 plates?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 05:15 PM
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Oh Christ! You are me, with a slightly more receptive wife. Ragnar, my friend, you are talking in circles. I was away for a few weeks, so apparently I missed a ban, but with two weeks of thinking you came back with this? Your whole OYS is jargon, thoughts, notes, and mental masturbation. It looks familiar, are you sure I didn't write it for you? You need to focus on "doing", what you are going to do, what you did, specifics. I can tell you for sure that no amount of philosophising will get you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 05:05 PM
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Much like MRP, the FIRE community has it's share of retards. It's a set of TOOLS, especially the ERE set. Don't eat paint still applies. If you make $15k a year, you'll be a pauper, regardless of your savings rate. If people use their TOOLS and increase their income: BOOM then you get magical results, saving 90% of a lot, adds up quite quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 04:33 PM
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You think the yard sub is going to give you better advice than your same posting of this shitty scene in OYS will yield? Sadly, it has. OP has gotten tons of undeserved responses.
/r/askMRP17/11/21 04:46 PM
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It is and if you are like me you'll find that none of the terrible stuff you might imagine will actually happen. Worst case a small argument, which honestly reduced almost immediately, I actually had more arguments while suppressing my thoughts. Good luck man.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 09:14 PM
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We agree. As you point out, scrapping two pennies together and living off nothing, can if fact get you to the Fuck You money point. So many think they need $1m or $5m or $10m or some magic number upon which they become free. The entire thing rest upon a cultivated attitude. You change the mental model and you are set free. You have the option of saying F you at any point. And yes, I'll agree that a sufficient amount of capital is very helpful for feeling, safe, secure, and empowered. It helps, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 09:06 PM
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You came up today over at MRP. Our "class" or something. Thought I'd drop you a note. ​ Hope things are well!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 08:55 PM
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That's the right path. It can be uncomfortable. I think my comment in my OYS was possibly the first time I truly realized, wow, I'm not faking it anymore. Perhaps a mental shift would help you? You said yourself, why would you care about her (or anyone for that matter) judgements? You are entitled to your own opinion whether it's crap or not, it is your opinion. I would suggest you cast your opinions out there freely and let people make whatever judgments they want. I believe you'll find that pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 08:53 PM
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I think that's typically the crux of most nice guy's issues with their wives (and sometimes other people too). My guess having never read any of you writing would be that you are afraid of how she'll react to what you do, what you say, how you handle almost anything. Essentially, you are in her frame all the way down to worrying about how you say things. Trust me it's a bad place to be. Best advice would be to really push into the verbal techniques in NMMNG and WISNIFG. Start saying what you mea…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 08:06 PM
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Son, breakthrough. Finally. After 4 years I can finally own my shit with my son. Fuck yeah! That's what I've been waiting to hear all this time. God damn it, now you've got everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:59 PM
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That's cool. Now don't go soft on us just because you had sex at least once. Seriously though. Congratulations, kids are a game changer in so many ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:51 PM
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Fuck you money is power. But, it is not. It's the illusion of power for some people. It really doesn't change nearly as much as you think. As for ERE, exoskel10 is right about that one, there's tons of quality info in there on how to change your financial mindset to remove money's negative effects on yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:25 PM
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I told ImpatientZen that if I wanted to, I could retire and not work ever again. This is actually something I want to do now, but I’ve been avoiding the decision.. I'm in a similar spot. I've been working in and on my business for 26 years (can't believe the number has gotten that big). I'm sticking around for many of the same reasons as you. And also largely because I'm scared of what else I would do with myself. Good on you for taking the bold path, I know that wasn't and easy step to take. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:22 PM
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OYS #86 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 183 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 200# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Back lifting after two weeks off, luckily strength is still largely intact, stamina is currently terrible. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP. Finishing PFP. COVID: So, I contracted Covid and was sick the last few weeks. We passed it…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:13 PM
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Hey Zen. I got hit with a family wide case of COVID that's put me away a few weeks. Everyone's fine and on the mend. It also comes in handy as an excuse for "no progress" to report. I'm not confident that I'd have good progress to report anyway. Truth is I'm scared shitless by the whole concept. On the one hand I know that's likely what I want, on the the other I'm terrified of the negatives and unknowns. I'm like 51/49, I'd much rather be 100/0 or at least 80/20. I wish I shared your certainty …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/21 08:36 PM
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Brother, I'm going to come at this in the most giving and sincere manner I can, hopefully you'll see it as such. I'm not trying to take pot shots at you. ​ you have no idea of the skills I had to learn and the effort I had and have to Really? I have no idea after 80 OYS? You are not a unique snowflake. What are you doing to kill that ego of yours? ​ I just don't like to settle So why are you? ​ what I'm even complaining about? Well, it seems to me you have plenty to complain about, but you'd be …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 04:34 PM
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I don't want to hijack Sparkling_truth's thread here, because I would sincerely like for him to answer the question of whether his 25+ sexual escapades included putting his dick in side his wife's vagina. ???? ​ But this - your reaction here. You just might be on the path to getting it. Wish I could join in this overreaction, but somewhat unfortunately I think I've "gotten it" all along. I just have to truly internalize that "IT" applies to me. I'm actually kind of a selfish dick naturally, I've…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 04:01 PM
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That's fair enough. As you said, you likely possess the frame to try on whatever you want and exit smoothly. You'll likely never forget that you are a recovering nice guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 03:48 PM
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Nice to hear an update. Truly glad to hear life is good. That's a quick track back from injured to 1100#+. there's real ride-or-die potential there Ugh, old habits die hard I guess, glad to see you recognizing it yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 05:31 PM
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OYS #85 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 200# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP. Reading PFP. Attorney: I went to my attorney appointment. Nothing too ground breaking was discovered. I have a good idea now of how financially uncomfortable a split would be. The attorney I met wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 05:12 PM
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Well that's a new low point for me personally, being lumped in with OP is pretty rough. As for Sparkling_Truth, I can confirm what Zen says. Personally, I think your fucked beyond all hope, but I wish you luck. 28, no kids, wife that isn't interested, you should bail, but maybe that's just me. For some reason this month I totally went back to my old self. Old habits are hard to die. That's so confusing and disturbing. ... WHAT THE FUCK. What are we doing here exactly? Are you reading the sidebar…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 03:36 PM
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You are quite right that creating a life outside of my marriage has been a weak spot and I need to continue working on it. For what it's worth, while I didn't literally go camping last week. I did do a day hike and spend an entire day working on the hobby car away from home, so I did have some progress this week on this aspect. ​ urgently begin using the most advantageous feature of MRP which you haven’t fully embraced IMO Anything outside of "create a life outside of marriage" standout as advan…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 08:08 PM
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84 OYS and you still can't say what you want You and I both know what I really want. We both also know that is highly unlikely to actually happen for me. So the real crux of the problem is crafting an alternative vision and then going after it. And yes, I'll be the first to acknowledge I've been slow to adopt a replacement vision. ​ As for training dropping 10lbs while maintaining lifts means bodycomp has improved so that's good. This is true by definition of the Strongur Method. I'm thinking of…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 07:59 PM
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I think Jerry is fogging you 3KL. It's an improvement, but he should consider his strategic imperative I believe. Perhaps he would have been better off with: "You are probable right I do talk about my wife too much." Asking Mods for Rule 9 bans tends to get them, it's true in real life, just as it's true in this sub-reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 08:52 PM
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My OYS was short this week because there just isn't much more to say. Getting the appointment set was a big step of action for me. I'm not sure how to evaluate all the conflicting emotions it caused within me. I tend to believe strongly in doing the thing you fear most, eat the frog so to speak. My big challenge on this one is that I'm so uncertain of that course; I've also learned that this uncertainty is typically telling me something important. My appointment was pushed until tomorrow so I'll…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 08:48 PM
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You're going to nuke your marriage and have no idea what you want. To be fair, I know exactly what I want, I just haven't been able to achieve it. I'm trying my best to come to grips with the fact that I'm highly unlikely to get what I want and create a new plan to get something else that I might find satisfying. For those who haven't been following along, what I've honestly wanted all along was to salvage my relationship and get her to come along, particularly in terms of a gratifying sex life.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 07:50 PM
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OYS #84 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 200# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP. Reading PFP. Divorce: I was able to get an appointment set for an attorney tomorrow. It proved harder than I expected mentally and with actual logistics. I was assigned a female attorney at the fir…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:28 PM
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Goal for next week: Initiate once. Jesus Jerry, you have a knack for setting the bar low. I sincerely hope you initiate tonight if haven't yet this week. Daily might be a tall task, but weekly should be pretty easy. ​ You think to much. Just initiate.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:12 AM
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Can confirm
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/21 03:58 PM
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Thank you! Fucking finally! I was starting to get pissed that oobertas wouldn't use his button.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:26 PM
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I like squats and deadlifting, maybe I'm just being a scared pussy about it when I'm underneath the weight. Your words, not mine. My guess would be that you could put in more effort on these two lifts. I suspect the guys who are really killing it in the gym and physique aren't saying stuff like: My legs and butt are already pretty large so I'm not losing sleep over it You've got some complacency that I recognize. That's why I keep prodding you on this front. I think you are telling yourself deep…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 12:06 AM
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I love how nearly all of Jack's "posts" are obscurely buried in comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 04:55 PM
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I just added PFP to the reading list. Not sure why that one never got added to the cue, might be the positioning down there at the bottom of the sidebar. I'm currently reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, it's a fine book, but it's really not giving me much in terms of emergency medicine at the moment. Five? I'm assuming that's intended to be something along the lines of just get it done. That's the plan, intending to have it scheduled by the end of the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 04:47 PM
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saw pr's everywhere Well that's what matters. I would think that lower rep ranges would typically drive new PR's. When I transitioned out of 5X5 I hired a trainer and nearly all of my rep ranges were lower than 5. I've previously done 195 in 5x5 Any thoughts on my your squat numbers dropped? Typically at those lower weights you'd expect a more linear improvement. Only reasonable explanations for drops would be dramatic change if form (better quality/depth) or an injury. How often do you squat? s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 04:41 PM
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Well, honestly I didn't notice it much since our last discussion. In the last year or so, I've improved tremendously day to day managing the way my Ego influences my decisions. I went back to read our previous discussion and found this helpful comment: Narcissism is a failure to distinguish the self from not self. Ego is the protection of an image or model of the self. Either can be useful or destructive in varying degrees or contexts. I do still hold the image or model that I should be better t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 04:33 PM
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/r/askMRP13/10/21 04:22 PM
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/r/askMRP12/10/21 11:22 PM
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You referring to this one?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:43 PM
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I can pretty much see that I had a big stall or plateau at the end of June when I switched from 5x5 to the Maps Anabolic program,and I’ve just gotten to the end of that so now I’m going into a 3 day PPL split that’s going to include all the 5x5 lifts with some ancillary activities. I’m going to start with 4 sets of 6 reps for October, then 3 sets of 10 in November, then back to 4 sets of 6 in December I'm not a trainer or anything, but how did you hatch up those rep counts? Also, what's with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:31 PM
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That's interesting to hear your take on this. I've always read that advice and thought what the fuck, who just gets up and hits the bar after they've gone to bed. It's bizarre, but deep down, I also just wondered or "am I just a pussy who's scared to upset his wife" because no one seems to question the logic on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:11 PM
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OYS #83 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 190# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP. Update: I spent last week on family vacation. It was a bit surreal. I’m detached. My wife seems detached too, not sure if that’s a reaction to my vibe or that’s just how she’s been. Now that I’m mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:49 PM
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I am very aware. I thought that discovering that was challenging and I also thought the mere discovery would change things. The actual challenge has proven to be the struggle to push thru that programming and to do things differently. I hope that one day it will become a new, natural habit (new programming).
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 06:47 PM
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Pretty much. Making it MY OWN time has clearly been a weakness. It's improved a shit ton since I started this process, but I still struggle to truly not care what others think about my use of time, especially my wife. My frame was to always be doing the right thing, productive things, things that were good for my family (and lots of that was due to me using others reactions as my measuring stick). It ran pretty deep and it's been a struggle to flip it entirely. Programming is the best way to des…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/21 11:26 PM
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It's good advice. I've been away so I wasn't able to respond or implement, but I'm leaning into sorting out whatever is holding me back from doing some of my own things. More to the point, I'm just forcing myself to do things. I'm keeping some notes in my personal OYS log about things I want to do or would do if and just forcing myself to make some of them happen. I'm really not sure what I'm afraid of, I think it's mostly years of cognitive training that I'm trying to break free from now. I've …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/21 04:28 PM
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Yep, I left the first "sex therapy session" for my wife practically doing cart wheels. Mrs. UW and the therapist both agreed that Mrs. UW need to step up her game, treat me better and most importantly fuck me much more frequently. That day's "big win" was the least valuable thing I've ever received. Still makes me sick thinking about it and how naive I was. I discovered the red pill soon after.
/r/askMRP11/10/21 04:20 PM
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My point is to really consider what kind of raw material you're working with here. Don't settle for decent. Go for amazing. This is where I truly struggle. This whole "process" would be moot if she was simply worthless. My wife's got many good points and was certainly great raw material in the first place. Now she's a middle aged, post wall woman with 20 years of grudges and judgements. Had I possessed the tools originally maybe it would have been bliss, but that no longer matters. All that matt…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/21 04:16 PM
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It's a good chance to begin to build a frame. This is bad advice: I would let all that shit out during therapy But this is good advice: I think STFU during therapy sessions will not be very beneficial You'll have to practice a more sophisticated brand of STFU with a dose of Stoicism. You'll need to have control over the shit that comes out of your mouth. It's STFU 201, hopefully you've already practiced STFU 101. It actually could be a good practice opportunity for you, try to engage in the conv…
/r/askMRP01/10/21 09:47 PM
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OP, Cloudy_Pirate & ICM have the right answers here. Nothing good can come from it. I have a story years back, similar to tombtomb, only my therapist and wife agreed with me, it's was all her fault and she needed to change some things. Notice I'm still in MRP trying to fix myself. I "won" the therapy session and benefitted ZERO from that. Maybe just agree to explore the criticisms you receive in your own counseling sessions separately.
/r/askMRP01/10/21 09:40 PM
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no one can help you implement the fortitude required to push through it I'm going to test that theory and report back to you in a few months. Maybe this is the last little kick I need to summon the fortitude: Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. I have no reason not to let the chips fall, I find the status quo wholly unacceptable, so honestly what do I have to lose at this point. Between picturing myself in your shoes discussing the D/s relationship or laying out some of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 09:25 PM
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I’m pretty sure it’s the 1,000 foot rope everyone’s always talking about. That's fucking hilarious. Nice field report.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 05:42 PM
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Because you're pushing me here, like a man would, being completely vulnerable and asking for help. You read it correctly, that's where I'm at. ​ I think your entire world will change when you let the chips fall. I think this is the take away. I've got to be willing to let the chips fall where they fall. I'm going to stick to my twofold plan (plus 1 now) and see where that takes me on mid-January timeline. Prepare for divorce quickly Work on myself and truly implementing all the concepts as fully…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 05:35 PM
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Fuck man, I dunno. I need to make a decision. No, you don't. That was really the whole point of my "imagine suggesting divorce" mental exercise. Thread the needle. That is the only decision you can make right now. I get it, but I've been trying to thread that needle for awhile now. Can I do some things better? Sure, that's what I meant by #2, keep working on myself. I guess that's me still trying to thread that needle. Perhaps I'm slower than most or perhaps my wife is a tougher case than most (…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 12:37 AM
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Totally agree, 100%. Currently it's the path I can imagine to unlocking myself from the "imaginary prison". I'm working on that, but for whatever reason I'm struggling to overcome the "rules" I've created for myself in my head. My current plan is twofold. #1) Prepare for an imminent nuke. #2) Keep working on myself and those hangups. Currently, I am unable to be fun, flirty, and initiate frequently with my wife. I'm just not feeling it. Maybe it's butthurt, maybe it's lack of attraction on my pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 03:13 PM
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I CAN judge my behavior That's it!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 11:24 PM
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Good call, you'll feel better once you have the conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 08:43 PM
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Yeah, I guess the simple answer is just go do more of that stuff. I'm not sure what's holding me back. I just need to force myself to plan and do some things.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 05:49 PM
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Become a better judge. I've gotten a number of comments like "Great, keep shitting on yourself" or whatever indicating that I'm too harsh or low self esteem or something. Thing is I'm being a harsh judge because #1) My gigantic ego needs to be kept in check and #2) I'd want to fall into "welp, I'm good" otherwise. I'll judge when I'm good, I'm not currently "good", might never be. Be your own judge. It's fine if you lean on MRP to keep you accountable, but It's to keep you accountable to yoursel…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 05:47 PM
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So, when are you having the conversation?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 04:25 PM
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I agree. The thought of being divorced sounds so freeing. I can't quite pin down why though. Obviously the possibilities are endless from a sexual perspective, but what I can't figure out is why I would let influence other aspects of my life. I would go camping/hiking more often. I would go to more car shows. I would travel more alone. I'm sure those statements are true, I just can't quite figure out why I can't just get myself to do that stuff right now. Some combination of fear and programming…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 11:01 PM
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I disagree with this a little bit. I'm curious, which part? For me it's up to you to judge yourself on everything. You get to choose what's important, what's not important and how that's measured. You shouldn't get ripped because I said so, you should do it because that's what you want (or not). Anything in there you disagree with? ​ At the beginning of my "why won't she fuck me" google journey, I had all the silly nice guy ego stuff. I was a 36 year old millionaire on a forbe's lists with what …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:57 PM
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Sort of. Two things stand out to me in your responses. #1) You need to be your own judge. Don't let tantric Athol Chad Deida be your mental point of origin. What do you want? What are you willing to do to get it? #2) It sort of corelates with #1, but you vacillate between paths. One minute you want to cut to 10% body fat, the next minute you are having 17 cheat days or drinking 10 beers or whatever. You have to decide for you, what are your priorities? If you decide you want to be fat Thor and d…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:02 PM
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supremelummox read my comment above. You are the hopeless case I was referring to. I should have saved my ink for you. If you do some work, you'd likely benefit from the process.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 06:14 PM
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You said it yourself: fix-the-man put about as much effort into his response as you did into your OYS. Do you think the path to progress is by putting in about as much mental effort as it takes to type "no effort"? I'm pretty sure you won't be back next week, but on the off chance some other hopeless case stumbles onto this comment: You actually have to put some effort into your OYS thread to get anywhere and even then it's hard ass work trying to sort out what you are doing wrong. You've clearl…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 06:12 PM
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What I really want is to leave no stone unturned relating to pushing out to my greatest potential. & While I ate a lot at a few meals and drank plenty the wholetime, I cut out a ton of calories on other days which evened things out a little more. The act of "even things out" is totally counter to "leave no stone unturned".
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 06:02 PM
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Nice job Jerry. Now you're building. ​ I haven't told my wife about the job You aren't obligated to tell her right away or proudly show her your grade. Be careful here, because I would guess that part of the reason you haven't told her is because you are afraid of how she will react. Figure out your plan ASAP and tell her ASAP. Go into the conversation knowing what you want and what is an acceptable outcome for you and then draw the line wherever you decide. Nice job, I'm fucking pumped!!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 05:53 PM
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OYS #82 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 190# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. My back is jacked, haven’t been able to squat or DL heavy for a week. Luckily bench is unaffected. I have a ton of injuries that are striking back all at once, the back, my left knee, my left shoulder, and my foot are all pretty rough and affecting day to day activities. I need to up the stretching, walking, …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 05:48 PM
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I'm willing to put the work in. "Can anyone help me avoid the work?" ​ I'm looking for a safe person to guide me on my journey. You aren't likely to find a helper with so little personal effort involved, if you do, they are unlikely to actually be of any value. ​ Motivated career beta I doubt it, but if you actually are, you'll post an OYS thread, lift, and STFU.
/r/askMRP28/09/21 05:15 PM
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Am I seeing double? Is this ubermensch34?
/r/askMRP28/09/21 04:14 PM
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Which also means that you will need leave that baggage behind when you move on. I will be able to do that to a certain extent, I'm always more of a moving forward sort of guy, it doesn't pay to dwell on the past. The baggage will always be there, but it doesn't have to affect you day to day. (probably, hopefully, maybe, we'll see) That's the shit I need to own at the moment. I need to focus on improving my lot in life which requires nerve and some action on my part to end this negative situation…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/21 04:14 PM
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Thanks for the reply. The word that really stands out is "constantly" justifying. I have a problem DEERing, I thought I was mostly cured. It seems more likely I'm constantly doing it so I don't notice it. Thanks again for the kick.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 03:09 PM
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The good news is both of those things are within your control. For small wins you could frame the job hunt into # applications/resumes submitted or to getting any job regardless of how mundane. Get specific. Comments like "my days were mostly spent" tend to be BS and a cover for inaction. What did you do specifically. I applied for 5 jobs each day for a total of 35 days. "Mostly spent" tends to mean, sat around the house thinking about how I really need to get a job. What do you think the hold u…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 10:59 PM
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Ok, I read thru my post a few times. I'm still not seeing it in that material. My verbose comment was an attempt to be cocky funny and apply a negative assertion to your criticism. I get it didn't help reduce the appearance of my ego, but as for the main post, I just don't see it. You clearly saw or read something that struck a nerve and pointed to you that I'm full of shit. Hoping you'd be willing to enlighten me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 10:48 PM
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hopefully where you can be at peace with the whatever outcome you decide I've been working with this as my mental model for a long time as it relates to my relationship. It's a fallacy. The viewpoint of "I did all I could do" doesn't fit into a neat box, it's more like "Is any additional input worthwhile at this point." If it's a pass/fail grade, mines going to be a fail, I doubt I'll ever be fully at peace with that. You said it best, it's complicated: Perhaps a non-binary mental model with out…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 10:39 PM
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It does, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 10:06 PM
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I really don't give a shit whether you get a job or not. I'll admit that I tend to agree with the guys who say just get any job, it'll be good for your confidence. I'm more concerned with your negative tone and the fact that you'll accept that beratement from your wife like you deserve it. I don't care what you did (or didn't do), no one deserves that. I'd like you to focus on standing up to your wife if she tries to treat you like that and I'd also like you to focus on finding some small wins. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 05:00 PM
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I don't know, I guess that I need to reflect on that. Any suggestions? My top priorities have been working on conquering my fears (of my wife and all the uncertainties of the future that are related to that) and removing my nice guy tendencies (which has gotten better, but still needs plenty of work). Ego hasn't been on my radar for a long while, so I haven't given it any thought until just now. I think your seeing something that I'm not looking at.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 04:55 PM
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Wow, the parallels are eerie. I can totally relate to the fear being the one piece holding everything together. And I can also totally relate to that being a terrible reason to continue with something. otherwise leaving was just quitting or running away I've made numerous comments about short circuiting the process and I think this is really what I meant. I had to win. I had to be a success at this, other guys did it so I should be able to as well. Why? It's futile as you mentioned. Thanks for y…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 04:51 PM
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10% is pretty intense. I was just reviewing your OYS for BF%'s of the past. I think I'd go for sub 15% by the end of the year and then create a new goal. You've been stuck in the high teens for far too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 10:44 PM
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You’re stronger than I. Not sure I'd interpret this the same way. Perhaps more tolerant than you? Stronger, I'm pretty sure that's a no.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:49 PM
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Jerry your post makes me sad. Job hunting hasn't come to an end. But I can't close the deal yet. About the school, I gave the idea a run. It wasn't a bad idea. It might open up a new opportunity. (her idea that you hated last week) I collect my courage and give her a soft no. I ended up getting an earful I stfu. I was bombarded with demeaning yells. I was useless I was an embarrassment for her I was a disgrace to my family Goal for next every (ftfy) week: get a job. I'm not even sure where to st…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:47 PM
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Did good. Lost 5 lbs and 2% on my body fat calculation Good week, it's long term consistency that will win the day though. What's your long term goal on BF%? ​ The things I’ve learned about creating an environment that’s a fun ‘escape’ for your wife to come get away from her anxiety has been extremely helpful What are you doing to create the 'escape'?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:30 PM
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When I'm afraid to do something I go into a tailspin of intellectualizing everything and lose objectivity. Likewise, I suppose that's why Zen pinged me. ​ I've known for a while now that I'm leaving You've said this before, is there anything else that's holding you back at that point or is it full speed ahead?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:15 PM
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you are finally noticing a glaring lack of frame Pretty sure that was the intended implication and I agree. My previous frame was "I'm doing all this to save my marriage". My new frame is still rather weak, something like "I'm not doing anything to save my marriage, what am I gonna do for myself". It's not a rock solid vision and supporting frame, it's really just I broke the old frame and decided to actually start building something new after all this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:12 PM
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Note how she ran in after of you. Not to interact with you but to present herself to you to pull you back in and give you nothing. She is all about her and all about hers. She willingly take your future in exchange for nothing. To date, you've been willing to give it. Fuck. Ouch. Never really thought about it from that perspective. She's was probably like "I presented myself to him", why didn't that work this time? The next bit in her play book is to give me a couple of pity lays. She'll be real…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 07:49 PM
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Conveniently, my youngest will be 19 and graduating High School in 2028. He just needs to stop being Nice and start matching the investment from his wife (which means, essentially nothing). That's the real meat of the situation. I've given my last fuck on this situation, it would be very difficult to get any additional investment from me now. It took a while, but that would be sunk cost now, I can only control my actions going forward. One of those actions can be ejecting well before presenting …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 07:45 PM
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Dude, you talk. A lot. Yes, I can be quite verbose. How can you be giving so much advice while simultaneously judging yourself so shitty about what you're advising on? Well, I've spent a sizeable chunk of my days for the last 5 years studying these materials, if I'm too scared to use them in my own life, the least I can do is point out the obvious shit when it pops up. I'll leave the heavier theory to guys who are more wired in than I am. Truth is, you have X many days or hours left alive. What …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 07:35 PM
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I think that you're angry. I am, I'm angry, disappointed, and bit butthurt still. I think it's normal. I had a girl cheat on me in High School, still makes me a little angry when I think about it, I mostly don't care because it was so long ago and I almost never think about it, but I'm still a little angry if I consider it. I'm not sure I'll ever not be angry about my current relationship. I'm angry at myself that it didn't work, angry at all the red pill truths I never knew, angry at my wife fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 07:23 PM
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OYS #81: I’m gonna be free and I’m gonna be fine. Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 190# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Set new PR’s in Deadlift and Bench again this week. I fucked my back up on my last set of Dead lifts yesterday. I’m in a world of pain at the moment, hoping it isn’t serious and subsides quickly. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchai…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 06:09 PM
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It's clear you still want a marriage with this woman to work and you should accept that. I want to be a pro athlete and a male model too, but those aren't happening. I'm lumping marriage working in with those unachievable goals. I'm done trying on that front. It's not an outcome I know how to create. "what about postponing seems like a good strategy to you?" 1) I can get my logistics properly sorted 2) I can implement strategies that minimize the financial complications. It'll be expensive, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 05:58 PM
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First thought is no, but that just angry, sex-deprived me talking. There are plenty of aspects where she's been quality and I do like here so I'd prefer to do as little collateral damage as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 05:53 PM
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Pro tip. It's incredibly difficult to have extra marital fun be discovered if you aren't a complete retard. Actually even if you are. You'll be amazed You keep telling me that. Maybe I'm just paranoid. So far, I've been able to totally by-pass the "in public" element thru some dumb luck. Likely not sustainable, generally probably going to need to get a cup of coffee or something to kick things off. I'm terrified someone I know will see me. Give yourself three months to get the paper work sorted.…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 05:51 PM
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No, but I did some research on who to visit. Not quite the same, but I think it's an important choice. I need to find someone with skills well beyond, "I calculated your child support and split your checking account 50/50"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 09:49 PM
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Funny you wrote that back, because that occurred to me as I was reading your previous response. Seems like a system that works well for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 10:23 PM
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Pretty good stuff here, thanks. Who are the quotes from? My current mindset is much more like, "I never imagined it get to this, I'm gonna push this red eject button now." Obviously not a very sturdy foundation, like those above. I would consider moving forward with cautious trepidation to keep everything from blowing up in your face. I was kind of thinking this way. I don't want to fuddle around for years again, but letting things soak in for a week or two while I regroup is probably in order. …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 09:54 PM
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How the fuck have you been at this shit for almost two years and still not recognize the most blatant biggest covert contract. I guess I'm pretty thick headed. Even in MY OYS #1 I said "This whole process has probably been one gigantic covert contract (improvement for sex), probably still is." I'm not unaware, I just haven't figured out what to do with that knowledge. I have decided finally to stop trying to change her or "do it for her". are you willing to nuke your marriage? Honestly, I'm stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 09:35 PM
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OYS 81 - still a dancing monkey, still very angry, now no plan. OYS 82, the monkey has retired his dancing shoes, he's still pretty irritated that no one appreciated what a great dancer he was, he going to go do something he enjoys more. I fucking hate dancing anyway (literally and figuratively). It’s not as hard as you are making it. So I 've heard. I had a vision of this analogy earlier: I just don't get how so many people struggle financially to get ahead, they've go the information, they jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 09:06 PM
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Steel's guide is a masterpiece. It contains links to nearly every relevant MRP article out there. How do I know? I've read it and the links more times than I can count. That makes me a knowledgeable idiot. I'm going to throw the puppy outside and leave it there. I've got other things to do and I have no idea how to go about training that little bitch, I read the guide, but it didn't work when I tried to implement it. Dog still keeps pissing on me. In all seriousness, I read thru the guide again,…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 08:02 PM
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Wow, I wonder what the 19 year old super model think about that belly when he whips it out. Makes it pretty clear he's doing some other things well.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 07:32 PM
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Thanks. I've got no idea why it's so difficult to get all that thru my thick skull. I appreciate the feed back, it should be simple, I'm overcomplicating things again.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 07:31 PM
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Makes sense to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 06:42 PM
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Right now. I'm done with the Dancing Monkey routine, I've given up on the wife entirely. She's not coming around and I'm done trying to control that. Any thoughts on where I should channel my anger/energy?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 11:45 PM
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Alright, that's a pretty solid start on the mission specifics. Now you just need to take some steps every week to move them forward. Follow thru and you'll be one of the most interesting dude's here. so I'll be asking someone to video it next time. Your form probably need to work. Judging from your Squat vs. Deadlift numbers you probably aren't squatting to depth (guess how I know that one?) Get the video and post it to r/fitness or r/stronglift and get some feedback. I'm going to see a lawyer a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 11:01 PM
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I think if I could inhabit some of you guys body, as long as you're fit enough, I could get your women in line in about 10 days Wish you could, because I'm clearly not getting the results I desire on the front. Are you going balls out now in your relationship too? No cheat days? Or are you on kind of a lull... Letting yourself have a few days here and there? Some cheat days? They are probably ALL cheat days, because I still haven't figured out how to navigate the waters properly. I feel like I'v…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 10:25 PM
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Yeah, but what's your end goal? Are you trying to read as much as possible to be a Red Pill expert to start a consulting business? Or are you reading to make yourself better? If it's the later than what's your focus, what's your goal? I'm not demanding an answer or anything, but I just notice a kind of floating quality to your OYS. Which maybe means you are at peace with where you are, but my guess is you are not really pushing toward anything in particular. Could just be my perception, only you…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 10:17 PM
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Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 10:13 PM
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Dips, pullups, and muscle ups, the core of a solid shoulder recovery program.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 10:05 PM
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I'm rule 12ing myself. Ragnar you'd be much better served to listen to Horns advice than mine. I get what you're saying on trying to reduce of bad habits - but the only way I know men succeed here is that they go balls out, or they don't. Horns is an unequivocal success story, I'm a work in progress at best. Go balls out. What have you got to lose? Cheat days are over-rated anyway. FWIW, I nearly puked when I choked down the whole pizza. It was a commitment exercise I ran when I first started my…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 07:27 PM
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Thanks for the reminder not to "show her", I'm sure it'll be tempting as I'm admittedly still a little butthurt. It's hard to flush years of "effort" without a little butthurt. It's a sunk cost now though. Now's the time to craft the how, when, where of what my future will be.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 07:19 PM
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There's a lot of ugly fuckers out there. Yep, that's my point. I think too many dudes walk in here and read the success stories and expect the same. If your grilles all fucked up there's only so much you can do, you aren't likely to pull supermodels and if you do it'll be because of your ultra tight game, not because you are physically attractive. Then there's the physically attractive guys that are with land whale. Points to an entirely different set of issues. I think it would clarify things m…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 07:13 PM
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For me a "cheat day" is one margarita or beer. I've had 8 this year. You right, but I still hold that Ragnar will be a fuck ton better off if he drops from 13 cheat days a month (WTF) to 1 or 2. After reading his OYS last week, I'm worried he might scare off the 13% BF goal thinking he's got to be perfect forever. I did have a Little Debbie Cake in 1988. Plus you are the one who told be to Eat a Pizza. I guess skinny fucks get to "cheat" more.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 07:04 PM
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will have less to do with what makes medical sense or would best help me and more to do with whatever arcane insurance rules I fall under Fuck that! Take responsibility for your own health, you already realize the Doc or PT is more worried about getting paid. Own it. If there was a treatment you needed to feel better would you really by pass it because insurance won't cover it? When I was going to the PT my Ins said "no more visits allowed", I asked the PT, do you think I should continue? Her an…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:33 PM
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Love when dudes include the wife weight I've got no idea what my wife weighs, I'm not even sure I know how tall she is. I'm maybe with in an inch or two on that. 5'5", not fat, but not rail thin either, cute, but aging. Maybe this should be mandatory to the stats. I always wished we included a selfie and one of the wife too. It would tell us a lot of what we need to explain things.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:24 PM
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I let my wife take the lead again. She wants me to go back to school. I said yes because I don't want to be caught in a fight. Now I regretted what I said. Good news is you are allowed to change your mind, it's right there in the assertive bill of rights. Even better news, now that you've changed your mind, you've got a minute to get your wits about you on how/what you'll tell your wife regarding your changed mind that way you'll avoid DEERing when you tell her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:20 PM
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The ‘rare’ days I have where I cheat a little on eating because of whatever excuse that I tell myself are not actually rare. I’ve had 13 days in the last month that seemed to be some kind of special occasion or get together. I agree with Horns, but I'll also recognize that this is a big step in the right direction for you. Since last week you clearly did some reflection upon what was holding you back. That's a step in the right direction. As Horns points out, if you really want to be a bad ass y…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:17 PM
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Lots of talk about porn and validation in here. & I covered my thoughts on that topic in the post: Timeline: Escaping Sex for Validation and Quitting Porn I'm pretty sure there is a heavy dose of correlation here. Hopefully, it's guys reading the post and realizing it applies to them rather than just using the jargon, because they heard Horns say it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 06:10 PM
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I will resume lifting once I mastered a muscle up. Dude? WTF? Seriously? You are aware that muscle ups are very difficult and advance right? You are also aware that muscle ups are a novelty act and not a muscle builder in and of themselves right? My goal is joining the 1000lb club. So, using your train of thought, my new strategy is: I'm not going to lift anymore until I join the 1000lb. club. I'll resume training once I've mastered the 1000lb lifts. This is one of the worst strategy explanation…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 05:43 PM
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OYS #81: The “What the Fuck am I doing?” edition Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 185 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 190# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Set new PR’s in Deadlift and Bench this week. Squat’s been suffering with some severe knee pain. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, Unchained Man, Day Bang, most articles on MRP. Sex: No fucking this week. 3 weeks in a row now. Rule 9 tri…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 05:35 PM
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That dude is still fucking hilarious four years later. Timeless classic.
/r/askMRP13/09/21 07:20 PM
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If you woke up tomorrow and sex was on tap with your wife, what would you do? Live happily ever after? Is that what MRP is about for you? Yes. I'd love to sit here and comment how superior I am to that, but the truth is, yes, that's what I really want. Probably points to the key of why I still fall so easily into my wife's frame (or more precisely why I frame everything around my wife). Figure out who you are, who you want to be, and own it. I did and I have. I'm that guy who desperately wants t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/21 07:17 PM
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I'm glad that I didn't spend 2 years trying to fix something that was unfixable. Tell me about it! BTW, love the mission, it's fun, specific, and seems attainable. I'd consider addressing those mission goals more directly in your OYS. What are you doing to move toward those specific goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/21 06:56 PM
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Are you considering speaking to the same lawyer again? Hello no, at least not about this subject. Perhaps, you liquidate some illiquid assets, stash cash, monitor your relationship with your children tracking who needs what from you, prime your wife, figure out where the negotiation points are etc, etc, etc. The asset in question is a business that encapsulates a huge % of net worth. Only two available options are make her a co-owner (not happening) or full buy out (incredibly expensive). It's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/21 06:53 PM
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"but...but...I did the things. I did everything the internet men told me to do, and you still won't have sex with me?" Pretty succinct summary of the last few years. Pro and con list is a teapot move Not sure what a teapot move is, but I think I get the point. For what it's worth, it wasn't really a pro's and cons list, I just stopped and thought about things (particularly value added) for the first time since we first started dating and the net value wasn't positive. A real man makes a needs an…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/21 06:48 PM
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I tried to, it was a shit show, he mostly gave marital advice. I'd certainly need to address that aspect. I've frequently heard the advice of "everyone should have papers ready". I'm just not on board with that, when I get papers drawn, they'll be promptly delivered. That aspect is certainly a MAJOR deterrent. I'll have to suffer from serious financial ramifications as serious portion of my wealth is tied up and highly illiquid, my understanding is I'll have to essentially pay cash to keep those…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 11:48 PM
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All your writings are whiney nonsense and and empty jargon. I see your point about jargon. I could have given 15-20 clear examples of my "basic shit" and "small selfish things", frankly they were all boring and uneventful, stupid shit like, No! I won't cook you an egg while I cook mine. You can have the pan when I'm done." I took your advice of a few weeks ago and really leaned into using the basic tools and practicing assertiveness rather than just STFU. I've mainly been using amused mastery be…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 11:38 PM
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100%, you are totally on point. I made a big push in the past to "get out at night", but I was doing it for the wrong reasons and in a Dancing Monkey kind of way. I really do want to display a bit of dread to my wife at this point and communicate be it directly or indirectly that the big red button is on my mind. If she wants to do anything with that info that's her call, but I'd feel better in the long run giving a little fair warning (only for my personal piece of mind).
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 11:24 PM
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I would not even consider that type of conversation until you meet consistent hard no's with simply picking up your car keys, saying you are going out, and leaving, preferably at night and on the weekend. Thanks, this is the advice I needed today. I've done a shit job of getting out at night unexpectedly, weekends are OK, but I've let my previous conditioning guide me on what my nights typically look like. Realistically I've surrendered my frame on this aspect and I am still falling into the shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 11:05 PM
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I nuked my marriage. I said I wanted a divorce, and my wife ran for the hills. I spent a couple of nights away from home. After the first night , she had packed up some of her shit. After the second time, she had acquired an apartment. Despite her tears, hurt feelings and accusations, she moved away from me as fast as possible. So nonchalant. Was that you plan? Or did it sort of just happen?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 04:45 PM
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People have no intrinsic power over me. It’s the external structure that I believe that gives them all the power they have, and with that knowledge, I can take all the power away. I have to believe to be manipulated. It's all in my control. This is really good, now what are you going to do with that information and your newfound control. Your OYS is so similar to my mentality, I could have cut an pasted it. You know this, but there are no silver bullets. Steady progress is the only way to create…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 04:41 PM
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That's awesome. Were those previously archived? Are there more like stonepimpletilists and whinemoreplease?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 04:20 PM
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Yep. I guess I better read those articles about spinning plates while married again. They were a far fetched curiosity when I first read them. I need to make some logistical and tactical decisions on this front ASAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 04:16 PM
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Plus it's actually doing her a favour in letting her know where you guys stand. I never really thought of that aspect, it's true there's an opportunity to communicate my distaste for our 'situation' in each of those interactions.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 04:13 PM
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I'm done selling myself to her. She's demonstrated no desire to sell me on herself. Ending of this story is starting to appear inevitable.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 04:09 PM
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When are you going to become the reason you visit this sub? A more precise wording of my statement would be "my initial reason for visiting". You know the old saying, "come for the sexual strategy, stay for the self actualization." I've become much more ME focused in my time here. It took me a long time to understand that "aspect" of MRP was essentially the entire nugget. Anyway ME wants to have some regular sex still. My marriage isn't solving that need, so I'm evaluating where my marriage fits…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 04:08 PM
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Well, I'd be lying if I said that aspect doesn't make me angry and frustrated, but the 2 weeks part is insignificant. I'm on OYS 80, I've been thru 30-40 similar or worse dry spells in that time period, so this one's not a major frustration in and of itself. I'm trying to stay balanced and rationale as I decide what my next steps are. I've been hoping all along that she would come around and things would be good or at least better. I've been able to realize that I don't/can't control that. That …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 11:27 PM
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Thanks for the elaboration. I'm entering the "I am ready to walk" phase of my journey. This visualization and description should help me cultivate that mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 09:57 PM
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I really appreciate your longitudinal external assessment. I'm happy if I can contribute even in a small way on your journey. There are lots of things that are going well. Mostly boring though. That's life really. How can you make those things slightly more satisfying for you? Focus on that stuff, who cares if it's a boring read?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 09:52 PM
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OYS #80 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 185 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 325# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 190# X 6. 875lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, several others, most articles. Unchained Man. Currently finishing up Day Bang. Basic Shit: I’m focused on creating opportunities to practice the basic tools in NMMNG & WISNIFG. Small selfish things: I’m continuing with my quest to do at least o…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 09:49 PM
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Imagine yourself at that pool party. Instead of everyone thinking: "look at Ragnar, he doesn't look half bad, didn't he used to be a fat fuck?" What if instead they thought: "Whoa! Who the fuck is that guy? Why is my wife over there grabbing his bicep?" That's the difference, and you are right it's about 1000x different.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 04:35 PM
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I'm at 13% and I feel like a fat fuck! Go back and take a look at that photo that Blarg had the other day. Do you look like that? Then why are you content? It's up to you to decide what you are content with, but it doesn't sound like you are actually OK with 20%, you are settling, because it's way better than before. All due respect, losing 50 lbs. is a major accomplishment and you should be proud, but it's kind of like running 25 miles and not finishing the marathon. You said it yourself: I kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 04:31 PM
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I think that it will always be there to an extent, but you don't have to let it define you or your OYS for that matter. You went from being ... some guy whose mental models were all jacked up with this age old trauma constantly in the forefront. an unplugged guy who recognized his problems and worked on them while working around the trauma An old guy who's mostly got his stuff together, has clear mental models but still dwells on this trauma. Look I don't know you real well, but I've read many o…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 04:25 PM
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That's incredible, that's the first time I saw this post. Jesus Blarg! And welcome back dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 11:17 PM
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At the wedding there was lots of memory dredging. Seeing people and relatives I hadn't seen in years, then reminiscing about old times; and then the event was in the town I grew up in, left to go to school and where years later she met Chad. I'm surprised that after all these years of OYS and flushing this out of your system your mind still takes you here so frequently. I wish you would allow yourself to move totally away from this decades old problem, you deserve to live clear of frequently nav…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 11:05 PM
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I have no shirtless events to look forward to and be disciplined about so I’m preparing mentally for this to get a lot harder in the coming months instead of easier This is not the best mental model for success here. It should be two weeks on, one week off. Look you are at 20% Body Fat at this point, maybe make your goal to really look good for shirtless events next Spring. Shoot for 12% or something specific. You should be disciplined enough by now to have a longer term goal than next weekend's…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 10:48 PM
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You're one of those "I can curl more than I can bench" dudes, eh? That can't possibly be a thing? Plus he's doing 30 pushups, must be a misprint. ​ worry more about technique than the weight OP, 100% this. I'd recommend seeing if you can get a trainer for a few sessions if you can afford it. If not get on You Tube and study and then video yourself and post on r/Fitness or r/Stronglifts, I'm nearly positive you'll have trouble sorting this on you own.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 09:43 PM
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Goals Good, something concrete to work with. Building muscle mass and achieving good looks How by going to the gym 2X weekly and backing off? Acquiring the abundance mentality How? I saw nothing applicable. Are you planning on thinking it into existence? Internalizing that I'm the shit You sure about that? Lasting longer in bed At least you kind of dove into this bit. ​ Focus on things you can control and can improve. Example 1: I am working on acquiring abundance mentality, this week I did 20 a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 09:36 PM
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Wow, I removed the S, H, & E from my keyboard for no reason? ​ This should be interesting, but Fellas just because you can doesn't mean you should.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 09:27 PM
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she can mate guard me, but I wont' be doing that Great mentality. My mental shift to "I'll throw in the horse, too" has been internalized in my mind, and shows in my actions. Can you elaborate on this analogy? I mean I think I get the basic idea, but what's complete visualization you are doing here?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 09:23 PM
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Cam Winston is right. JohnnyBravo011 try this: Push_yourself_into_her
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 09:17 PM
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His writings still appear to be out there, just the user name associated shows "deleted". Can't search for them using his name though. Or easily verify he wrote them.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 09:12 PM
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Start with this great article by Sepean: execution_focus_and_self_evaluation Your OYS doesn't tell us much about what your basic problem is? It makes it sound like your marriage and sex life are fine or better, but I'm assuming you didn't stumble into MRP based on fitness goals and doing some light reading on assertiveness. If my assumption that you've got some marital issue is correct, you'd do good to try to pick a skill to work on (like the article articulates much better than I could) and re…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 06:18 PM
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I only want to be me And that's enough. I'm sure we could round up 100+ references if you don't believe me. My Mom and Dad split when I was about 15. I was always closer with Mom, she was a SAHM and Dad worked his ass off so we never saw him. I would have bet the house that I would end up closer to Mom after the divorce. BUT she was kind of a bitch, and kinda bagged on Dad all the time, and really Dad was pretty cool about the whole thing and just made himself available and open. He treated me l…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 11:41 PM
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I am not sure my wife is as attracted to me as I am to her and I'm working on coming to grips with that. I would assume your plan would be to make yourself more attractive? 18% body fat certainly leaves some work physically. I'd say you need to make it your mission to get to that PT and get that knee into lifting condition. I can tell from your writing that your mental models still have some improvements to be had, but I didn't see any mention of it other than the breaking free exercises. My mar…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 11:27 PM
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And never forget the champagne of victory) That's some funny shit. It's all about holding your boundary and staying on point. Yeah, somehow I set my sight on "not getting in a fight" as the target. I won't lie, it's nice to be able avoid a fight now and then, but now I've got to set some boundaries and defend them.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 11:01 PM
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OYS #79 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 185 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 320# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 190# X 6. 870lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNGX2, WISNIFGX2, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, several others, most articles. Unchained Man. Currently finishing up Day Bang. NMMNG/WISNIFG: I’m going back thru NMMNG & WISNIFG and working on breaking free exercises and actively seeking challenges to implement. I’m naturally assertive on ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 05:13 PM
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I picked up a free PDF of Day Bang online. I think it's out of print now. He's got some fantastic conversation techniques in there.
/r/askMRP27/08/21 04:43 PM
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Hopefully you picked up the message this time. I can't tell though. The point is to fuck the way you want to fuck, maybe she'll like it. If she doesn't enjoy it, that doesn't matter at least you did. Seems like neither of you are enjoying it much in the current format, switch it up and stop worrying about what she thinks about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/21 04:29 PM
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You got really lucky here, you got some GREAT answers. Read them over and over again. Your looking for the right buttons to push. The answer is there are no buttons. Get out of your wife's head, stop predicting her reactions, and work on becoming more attractive.
/r/askMRP26/08/21 04:08 PM
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Thanks, that helped.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 03:56 PM
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Well, you've struck a bit of nerve, so I'm sure you are onto something. you haven’t started to use the basic tools I'll have to admit this has some validity, that's why I went back and read NMMNG & WISNIFG on my trip, to improve my basic skills. I've gotten much better, but I'm sure there is work to do. Any specific tools or actions you feel I should focus on improving as my mini-actions? As pathetic as the small selfish things list is, it's helped keep me accountable to make progress and de-con…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 11:24 PM
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Not sure I follow? You talking about my relationship with my wife or before my wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 11:10 PM
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Day Bang is a rough read, I still haven't finished. But, I do have to admit, he's got some great "tactics" in there that got me thinking of stuff I had never even considered. They are really relevant in all conversations and not just in pick up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 04:25 PM
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Pussy or anything isn’t a magic pill. I knew this, it's still surprising in real time. You still are being the victim looking outside yourself for validation. I totally get the the "looking for outside validation" part, guilty as charged and I'm working on killing that mentality. Could you elaborate on the "victim" part? You've mentioned that verbiage to me in the past and it was clear what I was doing to complain about the actions of others. What in the current report led you to the victim conc…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 04:23 PM
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Had first practice about an hour ago. It went well. That's awesome man, glad to hear it. You found one of the big keys too, kids like games and competition. If you set up the "games" properly, you get the needed work completed with engagement. Sounds like you are going to be a great coach. I'm recognizing a creeping belief that I have arrived at some finish line The bad news is there is no finish line. The good news is you are making progress. As for the weights, it sounds like your lifts are li…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 04:20 PM
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but I assume that he is talking about a wife who is turned on I think you missed the point. You should really go back and read the article again carefully. When_was_the_last_time_you_fucked_your_woman? Go ahead. Yes, now. I'll wait. .... OK, did you catch this bit: When I began my journey I didn’t really fuck my wife hard and fast and ravish her. Maybe every once in a couple months. I thought that she wanted good and passionate sex that would give her emotions. I was only partly right. I was fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 11:19 PM
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I was too long winded I've been working on getting comfortable in silence sometimes. Are you talking to fill the space? Brevity is an art. (or maybe your ex was just a bitch with a short attention span?) my girl ... tells me to keep talking That's a pretty good sign she's interested and you aren't talking too much. I'm currently reading DayBang, which is a brutal read, but there are some really solid conversational tools in there. As example, getting her saying yes, or pivoting the conversation …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 11:09 PM
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I'm torn on this, but here goes: BP: deload 115x5; BS: deload 125x5; OHP: 105x4; DL: 240x4 Is that shit in metric units of some sort? Problem is I'm dealing with this contract about how I've done the work, so why isn't my wife a thirsty girl? I don't want to shit on you, It's great you've dropped like 65lbs. You are a rock star for that progress, but you are nowhere yet. You need to work at getting those weights up, seems surprising they are so slow, normally fat guys are pretty strong, have the…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 10:45 PM
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using this inflated self esteem Did you ever consider that perhaps, you've only just finally properly calibrated this element? Perhaps, it was deflated for no reason all along? Ditto on the kids, let me know when you figure that shit out. Interesting that having two from a previous marriage doesn't remove this feeling.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 10:05 PM
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Guess I got wordy again this week, over 10,000 characters continued: ​ Enthusiasm: I’ve struggled to give an answer to the “what do you really want” question. Truth is I’m just scared to put it out there. I really want a sexually interested and available wife who displays some interest and attraction. I haven’t gotten that in the slightest. I’ve gotten somewhat regular starfish this week, but I get the impression that Mrs. Rule 9 is doing me a favor each time. I’ve considered my options and the …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 09:41 PM
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OYS #78 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 185 lbs. 11.8% Navy. 12.5% Strongur method. Lifts: DL 320# X2, Squat 285# X 5, Pinned Bench 190# X 6. 870lbs total calculated lifts. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, The Game, several others, most articles. Unchained Man. Currently finishing up Day Bang. I also did a heavy re-read on WISNIFG & NMMNG this week. Abundance: I wasn’t going to write about it for fear of getting doxed or the info getting spread, but I realized…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 09:40 PM
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+1
/r/askMRP19/08/21 05:54 PM
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I'm trying like hell to move from #3 (but what will she think?) to #5 (that's what I do now), I make it as far as #4 sometimes, but I give too many fucks and find myself slipping back into worrying what she's thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 10:26 PM
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If you can't open the archive link, here's a new reddit version: Validation_needs_that_can_poison_your_sex_life
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 10:21 PM
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The perfect is the enemy of the good. You've got a perfection disorder just like me. Focus on good and building on that, perfection only exists in theory. How's your game going for you? Depends on what aspect. If you mean whole life situation, it is still generally "not good", but if you mean actual "game", today I tripped and fell into surprise abundance. It was an enlightening taste of what I've been missing. My head's spinning at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 10:11 PM
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jesus christ! For the record 600 days was approximately the appropriate length. Long enough to make me stop and take a second to think. Had I received a 30 day ban, I would have returned just as retarded as I'd always been. special guy(TM) Well, I am the prize after all.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 09:32 PM
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I’m already applying other places. And redid my resume Perfect, focus there, the why's don't matter. Just execute a plan to remove yourself to somewhere better. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 07:22 PM
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CAREER - (ID APPRECIATE ANY FEEDBACK ON THIS ONE.) Here's my 2 cents on that aspect. I still have a panic attack almost thinking about having to give my two weeks. Because you need the job at this point. Keep you head down and go get another job. Why quit now? Oh, that's right, you've got a revenge fantasy to screw your boss by walking out. All this to protect your ego. Go find a job and then quit. The situation sounds really shitty, so maybe you should get on with the search.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 05:56 PM
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Realising that I am always aiming at 'transformation' to the detriment of tweaking was pivotal. It allows me to make changes much faster. In addition, knowing this helps me to transition from different disciplines with far less friction Realize this: Life is a journey, not a destination. For many of your issues (lifting, finances, career) PROGRESS is the key word. Think of your progress as a snowball, as you continue to roll it, it's size will increase. Yes occasionally chunks will fall off, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 05:49 PM
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I mucked things up with gas station girl. ... I was way too forward and eager. Thinking back, whenever I show too much interest and don’t let girls "win" me over, they all get too full of themselves. Have you read Day Bang? I'm reading it now, it's full of good strategies to have 'productive' conversations without being too forward. Basically using elderly chat and lying back waiting for her to display interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 05:31 PM
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OYS #77 I’m back: I’ve returned to MRP after being banned for 600 days. I was angry and frustrated about the ban initially, but over time came to understand why I was banned. My OYS had become a walking, talking Rule 9 violation. While I learned to skillfully avoid the word “Rule 9 Violation”, the entire theme of my OYS was oriented on what I could do to change my wife’s behaviors and actions. I think the time away has been beneficial because I was able to identify some weaknesses that I was hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 05:17 PM
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I'm using RPE currently. Rate of Perceived Exertion. Same basic deal as RiR. It's a good method, I'm not disagreeing with the guys who say there are more optimal programs for advanced lifters. I have never done it so I DO have to go google it Yep, so did I and probably everybody who implemented something new. After you spend a couple thousand hours in the gym lifting, spending 5-10 minutes googling stuff to optimize your program doesn't seem difficult at all. When simply dragging your ass to the…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 04:57 PM
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You've got it correct. It's a great base to use so long as you are still progressing. I like 5x5 because it is pretty damn easy to do and stick to. almost zero thinking needed just go in and do the things. Exactly, no one is ever going to say "I didn't work out today because I could decide what my reverse pyramid should look like or I forgot to google RiR" It's simple that's why it's effective. Add in some accessory work and keep going until your progress stalls. Carry on.
/r/askMRP12/08/21 04:30 PM
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I think this overlooks the biggest hurdle for our 'noob' lifters. Most are doing nothing and so full of excuses that it is sickening. Are there more sophisticated programs that could theoretically get a lifter from 'noob' to 'advanced' faster. Absolutely, yes. BUT, the noobs don't need sophistication, they need simplicity. 5X5 is dead simple and removes nearly all the excuses for failure. Show up, do the work, watch your linear progression, build confidence, repeat. Eventually they'll have to sw…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 04:25 PM
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fine for a noob, but not ideal for intermediate. This is the basic takeaway on 5X5, it's limited once you become intermediate or higher. For the novice lifter I think it is the best program, especially if a person is the typical retard we encounter here. This typical 'novice' will have bigger issues with sticking with the program, getting confused at how/what to do, and make tons of excuses about why they fail. 5X5 solves most of these excuses, you just show up. 5X5 is dead simple and effective.…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 04:18 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/p1l42y/own_your_shit_weekly_august_10_2021/ Weekly thread on MRP. Please read the guide before posting. And then start doing some work on your own.
/r/askMRP12/08/21 03:53 PM
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Do what you fucking want to. OP, this is the advice you need. Your looking for the buttons to push on the wife bot, but it doesn't work that way. You'll continue operating in her frame so long as you adapt your behavior according to how you think/hope she will react. Read this series on frame, a_practical_guide_to_building_frame, and then try to develop one. For example, your SO, asks you "Who the fuck is texting you in the middle of the night". Here's your options: A) Play it straight, "My budd…
/r/askMRP11/08/21 06:03 PM
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Sorry. Sounds like my comment got misinterpreted. I'm on the Patreon. It's the best $5 per month I've ever spent. I was actually trying to send some retards to your site, because I highly recommend it.
/r/askMRP10/08/21 05:57 PM
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the retard sandbox instead of the value-oriented subreddit Lots of love for askMRP from you this week. Not everyone can afford to do their retarding in your Patreon. We gotta put our marginal shit posts somewhere.
/r/askMRP10/08/21 04:52 PM
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Personally my favorite widow is Black Widow. Good news for you OP, is that you can be the King of the sandbox you like to play in. No one else seems interested in the menopausal treasures you covet. It's actually good news!
/r/askMRP10/08/21 04:49 PM
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Could be, your radar for my BS is much better than mine. I had felt some sense of pride of having stopped chasing validation in the form of sex from my wife. Several guys have pointed to cold approaches as a way to find abundance. That's the thought process at least. Hasn't provided one iota of validation yet, but I could certainly see how it could. My mentality is see what's out there and how I actual stand in the sexual marketplace. As for the daily initiations I got fed up with the rejections…
/r/askMRP09/08/21 11:55 PM
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Ah, that's just banter UW. Then I stand corrected. As for the rest of the plan I have no doubt of your ability to execute anything you decide and follow thru with. Sounds like you've made your plan and your decision, follow thru being the only bit remaining.
/r/askMRP09/08/21 11:46 PM
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Yeah, it's crap. I had much better frequency when I was initiating every day, but I got sick of the shitty excuses and constant rejections, so I choose another route and focused on other stuff. I'm currently working cold approaches on other women, we'll see where that leads.
/r/askMRP09/08/21 05:42 PM
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aural sex That's incredible. I guess everything is "a thing".
/r/askMRP09/08/21 05:38 PM
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she's so fat I don't know if she'll squeeze into 2022 See, Wookie, this is the bit about your situation that I don't get. My hang up is I can't seem to get over the fact that I think my wife should be redeemable. You, don't think yours is redeemable, and yet you stay. I don't get it. ​ Also, I'd listen to Zen if I was you. He's calling your BS. That's a pretty solid life plan you put together and yet none of it has anything to do with actually leaving your wife or fixing your sex life. I get wor…
/r/askMRP09/08/21 04:06 PM
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This is true OI That was the most interesting bit of the whole thing. I was more prepared to accept a rejection than I've ever been, so much so that I really wasn't even thinking about that. Really only thinking about execution. When I read the original comment and decided to try it, it seemed plausible for some reason and I never contemplated rejection. My only thought was "experience", I was committed to "experience" whatever this resulted in.
/r/askMRP06/08/21 04:59 PM
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Hat tip to you obviously, thanks. You posted a similar set of "paint by the numbers" instructions for me specifically last December, worked that time too. Obviously there is something there related to body language and the way I carry myself in other initiations. I'm sure this is a MAJOR problem for most guys here. I'm curious to see how it'll go when I run it again. belong in the main sub and not the retard playpen I'm currently banned from the main sub and therefore live in the retard playpen.…
/r/askMRP06/08/21 04:53 PM
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What should I do? Depends. What do you want to do? You see, you are missing the primary point of all this. Start with what you want to have happen. Do you want her to stay in a different state? ...Tell her not to come, stay in other state. Do you want her to join you? ...STFU and let her join you. Do you want a Divorce? ...Get an attorney and get one. Do you want to stay married and have a great marriage? ...Ah, that's the one isn't it? There's a sub-reddit for that, but you see it requires a lo…
/r/askMRP05/08/21 04:51 PM
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Or missing a limb? Just one?
/r/askMRP30/07/21 11:17 PM
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Our relationship is really going great now, thanks to MRP. Enjoy the ride. Go with your gut STFU and move on. If your relationship is great than it doesn't matter. Nothing good can come from bringing it up. Best case she says no and you still live with doubt and the realization that you basically told her it's OK with you.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 05:50 PM
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There's always the thought of using her as a "sparing partner", but she doesn't sound very interested or interesting, so might not be worth the squeeze.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 11:31 PM
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I get caught up with wondering how much of it is me. Probably almost all of it. You've got some serious issues, they just ooze from your post, but I didn't come here to shit on you. Your situation is really fucked up, it's going to take a ton of work to fix, if you read that paragraph of yours I pulled and stand by it, you should seriously bail, she won't be worth the work. Now, on the other hand, if you read it and think, meh, I was just pissed that day, I don't believe those things, then maybe…
/r/askMRP22/07/21 11:22 PM
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What sidebar material did she find exactly? A book or two? Or MRP, or did you blab about the whole entire fight club scene when she found a crumb? Just curious.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 11:00 PM
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She was awful. BPD, cutter, had previously tried killing herself etc. I came to not like her and also resent her quite a bit. Eventually married her, but that was more me settling... My wife though - not too interested. Clenches up when I touch her etc. We fight a lot. Shes very aggressive, aggressive, and can't handle stress for shit. Her lashing out pushes me away, I don't like her. I'm for sure not meeting her needs in the emotional department. But I don't really care or want to.... I want it…
/r/askMRP22/07/21 10:55 PM
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Focus more on improving your life while you're young. Don't put so much mental energy into this BS. You give way too many fucks Solid gold here. I've walked your path. You care way too much about this one girl. She sounds annoying. If you find her and her behavior annoying you should remove your time and attention. If you stay with her and continue to feed this cycle, you'll just end up creating a monster. Are you spinning plates? I'm trying to understand if there's a flaw in my frame or actions…
/r/askMRP20/07/21 05:59 PM
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I want to do more things Just do them then. Do you think I should worry about loading too much onto her Do YOU think you YOU should worry about overloading her? It's you call, if you are overloading her, fix that. If not go do your thing. Taking a little time for yourself shouldn't be too hard. She's an adult, theoretically she could survive a few hours without you. Just be sure that you aren't asking for permission. Sorry if my grammar is a bit off. Why, who give AF, your grammar's fine, never …
/r/askMRP08/07/21 06:16 PM
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Bro, you need to learn to STFU. Why are you proactively DEERing? if you are anti pat leave that is fine, you do you man from where I am sitting for the most part it has helped produce a net improvement on my life. - I am looking forward to going back into the office though as I would like to see my co-workers again in person and get out of my house more but is that pat leave or fucking covid? Red-sfpplus never gave his opinion, so why are you debating him? You should think about that. Seriously,…
/r/askMRP29/06/21 04:29 PM
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Makes you confident you can handle being alone (not my issue) Not my issue either and also forces you to own up to how little your woman is providing to your life (very much my issue). This on the other hand, very much so. This is an extremely uncomfortable reality that I'm really just beginning to grasp. The thing I treasure most has almost no value. I think I'm scared to really understand the lack of value being provided. So I guess the next bit is arriving at: Which then helped me not Feel Gu…
/r/askMRP18/06/21 05:19 PM
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So, what do you mean? This: It both helps the guilt and also to clearly see what she is and isn't providing. I've always viewed our domestic tasks as "things I do" and "things she does". She cleans, I mow the lawn. She's primarily responsible for managing the kids schedule, I work and actually make the real money, etc. I'm concerned maybe I'm owning her shit if I hire one. That said maybe it would reduce the complaining. With all that written out, I'm realizing that I'm basing the decision mostl…
/r/askMRP18/06/21 12:04 AM
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Hey Zen. Did you have success with hiring the maid? My wife seems to think that cooking and cleaning makes her irreplaceable, which we both know actually tallies up to a few thousand of spending to make up for. Just curious how your wife reacted to adding the maid. I'm a little reluctant to replace her on the handful of things she does in satisfying fashion. Curious what your thoughts are.
/r/askMRP17/06/21 05:13 PM
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Just discovered MRP 2 weeks ago. How about you hit the sidebar for a while. ----->>>> Sounds to me like you're looking for an easy solution, you are going to have to work the process and OYS. Horn's is probably right, but it doesn't matter, start working on you. ​ Literally signed up for a gym on Friday And they didn't give you the Mr. Universe yet? See what I mean, it's Tuesday are you expecting results already?
/r/askMRP09/06/21 08:05 PM
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I remember reading something (I think it might have been here or mrp) where a guy was basically fucking wives in his neighborhood during bbqs. That was RED.
/r/askMRP09/06/21 08:00 PM
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Jesus Man, what a train wreck. I think that's the longest post I ever read and I still have no idea what YOU want. Do you want to be divorced? Yes, you're all set. No, it might not be too late, she'll get over the fact you showered and wore contacts. Would you like to help her retain her Visa for some reason? Yes, then make some arrangements. No, than Fuck her do your thing. TLDR: Your blind spot is you don't know what the Fuck you want!
/r/askMRP04/06/21 11:56 PM
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Jesus you don’t even have the frame to wear contacts or shower. Wow!
/r/askMRP04/06/21 11:49 PM
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Good answers. I especially like #2.
/r/askMRP11/05/21 08:53 PM
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start by defining what you don't want in your life ABOUT YOU So what's your answer to that one?
/r/askMRP11/05/21 07:45 PM
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This is bullshit. You know it. I know it. We all know it. Which part? The action part presumably? You're not gonna do shit about cancelling your vacation. Never said I was. I went, I had a great time. It was a few meaningless days of fun, I'm glad I went. It also does nothing to change my situation going forward. You're not gonna do shit about having standards. Ah, now we're at the meat of the situation. Your standards comment resonates with me. Much like you nothing triggers me more than lack o…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 07:24 PM
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This is the classic dilemma of a man fulfilling his needs. We all know it so I'll come right at it with you. It's OK for your need to be taking care of your Son for now. I know that's important to you. I'm not recommending you set yourself on fire (I'm not above that though, you've read enough of my posts to know that), but you can sacrifice yourself for your Son's benefit for the time being. I don't claim to fully understand your situation, but I do know this isn't the first mention of this Fat…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 07:01 PM
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I'm sure there was a ton of important shit in that OYS. Nice job. I'm working on being a selfish A-hole so here's what stuck with me: Normal pants fit my waist but were too tight in the butt and legs. Shirts that fit me in the shoulder area were too big and baggy in the waist. So I took the clothes to a tailer and had them adjusted. . I'm having these exact issues. You've motivated me to find a tailor. The previous few times I've worked with one, they were mostly shit and just hemmed up the ankl…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 06:44 PM
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Deal. March 24th.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:59 PM
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Thanks for the perspective. I never really contemplated how damaging that "why" could be. Although this particular "why" went better than normal, because she could tell immediately that she crossed a boundary and pissed me of and that particular "why" was mostly rhetorical. You're right I'm not interested in her insight. No, nope not doing that is a better approach. Great analogy on checking endlessly checking the slack too. That's a good visual for me to use going forward. I'm captaining the bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:58 PM
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If it's anything like the past; we'll have a lovely time for a few days, acting just as I think a couple should. Then we'll return home and everything will be back just the way it was. Only difference this time is I'm not going into the trip thinking a few days of "normal" will fix the rest. Way back when I mentioned that I saw only 2 options: leaving and waiting it out. You mentioned how unimaginative that was and listed cheating, prostitutes, and few other ideas. All these months later here we…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:17 PM
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There's your new business idea W&S! Like a travel club for F@gg*ts that don't know how to have fun on their own. Take our money spend half of it on a good time, keep the other half.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:14 PM
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Acting Micro. This is exactly where my OYS ended up this week. Stop looking for a "moment" or "destination" focus on the process. It's great advice I received today and seems to apply to you in spades. see how that works out for the next 2 weeks I love it, I'm making a list of some Micro tasks to tackle myself. Let's follow up and see how are results end up.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:12 PM
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I've read Walden and I can relate deeply to the quote and the mindset. For me it wasn't a great place to be. It was filled with self sacrifice and martyrdom. Like, no one could be that retarded right? I think I've got you beat on this one. OYS 62, 3 years of lurking before that. I'm just now waking up. It's OK. The past doesn't matter, the only path forward is the future. Focus on making your best future, whatever that it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:08 PM
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You run a delivery-service for your family, spend the day volunteering, yet can't even hit your macros. The bolded is the more important here. How do you explain that to yourself? I'm a self-sacrificing f@gg*t who doesn't know how to take care of himself first (or even at all sometimes). How do I justify it? I can't. I put it in the OYS as such because I was pissed at myself, my OYS report is much more important to me at this point than any of that other stuff, but yet there I was rushing thru i…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 03:02 PM
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I want to be invited on this trip!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 11:43 PM
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Bars, nightclubs, strip club, blow, splurging. ... spent $1,000 in a night. It was fun. See this is what my next OYS needs to read like.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 11:42 PM
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OYS #62 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 187 lbs. 11% Navy Method, looks higher to me. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Lifts: Shoulder is really rough, so I’m doing low weight, high reps set for bench and OHP. Working my PT Exercises for scapular movements. Forms looking good on all major lifts according to lifting coach. Nutrition: I still suck at tracking. Read: MMSLP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP, Pook, RM, TWOTSM, several others, most articles. NMMNG: Re-reading …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 11:35 PM
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Gonna get my T levels checked this week. Can't hurt, could help a lot. Right now ... a cocktail of fomo and quiet desperation Hey, so you know I can relate, but there's a path to a better way. Could be just pursuing your other interests selfishly while trying ignoring the issues with the wife, could be turning things around, or it could be leaving. Any of the three should be able to get you out of quiet desperation mode. How's your progress on things coming? I know you haven't been on here much …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 10:21 PM
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True enough. I've often contemplated whether my continual denial of my fulfillment is actually of any benefit to the kids. My best guess is no. Surely there are pros, but I think the cons outweigh them and that's not even factoring in my own pros list. I've got 2 boys, what blue pill lessons have they already learned from my sacrifice? Probably not doing them any favors with some of my issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 10:08 PM
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That was a thought compelling read. Some applied, others didn't, the whole thing made me uncomfortable. It's a tough choice, damned if you do, damned if you don't sort of thing. Guess that's the thought process that leads to my wishful thinking. This is the crux of my dilemma.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 07:28 PM
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I'm generally a pretty confident guy, I'm pretty sure I'll recover quickly from the dumping on myself. Still got plenty of that Ego to kill, I've really just scratched the surface of admitting it's an issue at this point. Might need to continue self deprecating for a while to finish the kill. You and I are wired similarly in a lot of respects so I'm sure that ICM's writings will resonate with me too.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 06:24 PM
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It's really just an issue of maintaining your frame and avoiding ego protection. I'm sure it'll be more difficult for you than most, but it's still the same basic principle. You do what you want to do and then you DNGAF (don't give a F*ck) about what others say or think. It's your ego telling you need to fight back and defend yourself. Bullies love it when people defend themselves verbally, it gives them material to work with. I'm sure its a challenge, come post in OYS and work toward improving …
/r/askMRP08/03/21 06:19 PM
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I know it. I've read it. I try to convince myself I'm there. I'm not there yet. Unfortunately, that probably seeps into every interaction with my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 05:27 PM
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Yep, same page then. General vibe of wishful thinking is a great way to put it. I've mostly fulfilled my end of the covert contract, now I'm sitting back wishfully thinking I may receive some rewards. Probably a good time to start pondering some what if's. Like what if that rope is cut or what if that suckers a million miles long. How long am I willing to go on? Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 05:25 PM
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Look man, I'm not in your shoes so I can't fully relate, but you seem pretty self aware to me. You might have some extra challenges, but everyone's got their own stuff. You've also got all the same challenges as most guys here. Holding frame and avoiding doing stupid stuff to protect your ego are common themes. Don't let a few knuckleheads prevent you from participating and making progress. Be open minded, most guys are trying to help, even the knuckleheads.
/r/askMRP08/03/21 05:22 PM
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You vacillate between Covert Contract It's all a gigantic covert contract, we both know it. I'm fully aware of it now. I really am trying to un-fuck myself though, it's not easy and I'm not always doing it for the right reasons. I'm also trying really hard to prioritize myself and my needs which brings me to: started to figure out to have fun for me somewhat without guilt... But that's really fundamental Yes, I've just come to this realization recently, perhaps in the last two weeks. I'd read it…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 05:17 PM
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Have you considered that this may never happen? Yes. I'm actually sitting at probably won't happen at this point. I'm focusing on completing my recovery from Nice Guy Syndrome and killing the remainder of my gigantic ego (and especially all of his protection mechanisms). And that at some point it may just be a deal breaker for you? And in the right circumstances, you might act on desire have sex with a hottie on impulse? It could happen, I'm capable of handling the fallout. My main problem here …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 04:40 PM
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Well, I'm still working toward un-fucking myself. The further along I get the more shit I seem to find. I was damn near perfect when I started (at least I thought so). I can tell I'm closing in on it. How she fits in at this point I can't say. I just need to finish cleaning up my own mess before worrying about that mess. I hear the message you are sending.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 08:54 PM
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Good Looking Man gave you some nice reading material to get started, but the most important piece is to START. Go post something to this week's thread or make Tuesday's new thread your goal. Either way get STARTED. OYS is where the work happens, the meaningful interaction is truly there.
/r/askMRP05/03/21 06:09 PM
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Well, I'm going with "Be The Asshole", but I'm pretty sure the Nice Guy is on the Assholes' hit list so they go hand in hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 06:06 PM
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Maybe this was a long way of me saying you're a pussy. I was mentally mapping out my responses to the questions as I read thru this, but you pretty much boiled it down here at the end. Not 100%, not entirely, maybe not even mostly, but I'm still somewhat concerned with my woman's reactions which makes me a pussy. I'll own it. I'm working toward fixing it. I think the challenge is difficult and takes time. I suppose I could just flip a switch, but we've got decades of interactions which set up ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 06:04 PM
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My take on #8 is pretty much the same. No, I'm not going to pick up the sales clerk in front of my wife. But, Yes I am going to be funny, charming, and engaging to all the sales clerks (typically even the dudes) because that's what I do. Doesn't matter if the wife is around. I'm doing my best to have my wife's presence have no impact on how I act or what I say. My two highest priorities are working on murdering the Nice Guy and improving DL#3. I'm thinking I need to dedicate some time to #6 too.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 04:16 PM
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So how do I improve my "pull game"? In the example above, I'm confident, hot, ripped (I'm feeling pretty good on all 3 points). I tilt my head and she typically does nothing. Much like tipping my head at brick wall. I think it's partially an attraction thing, but I've noticed some signs of her coming around on that front. Also seems like she comfortable, really comfortable, so it's therefore easy for her to take things for granted. I agree that my push is fairly close to 'full retard' mode. My m…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 03:52 PM
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Not going to lie I had to go to the search bar for "Pull Game". I found a 1000 references, but nothing approaching a definition or how to article. I even went over to TRP to see what I could find. Could you explain the difference? ​ Here's a breakdown on my status of the Dread Levels, I've dabbled all the way up to level 8.5. Weak spots are 3 & 6. The 12 Levels of Dread Dread Level 1: Shit Tests I think we’re good here. I wouldn’t say I always enjoy them, but I lose no worries over these any lon…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 10:47 PM
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I would recommend deliberately initiating when you think there is no chance. Good tip. I've done this, but only minimally. This would allow the "move on" part.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 03:51 PM
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In stead of trying to figure out which combination of buttons to push on the wife-bot in order for sex to pop out. Story of my life, hilarious. I was proud of my initiations, primarily because my goal was to initiate strongly, so I was proud to achieve that goal. Some where along the way I moved the goal post to successfully initiate and then became discouraged at the failures. When I describe the current weak initiations it's because they are much lower effort that previous, which I think gives…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 12:10 AM
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Well that's a great list. Yeah, I think so too. It's probably even more pathetic to have a list and not pursue most of it. I think the guys who "can't think of a list" are just afraid to admit to us or themselves or whatever for fear of being judged. I appreciate the two pieces of advice and I am doing my best to implement. Last week I went on a snow mobile trip, wasn't at the top of my list, but let's be honest whatever was on top wasn't going to get selected so I just did what was available. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 07:42 PM
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Cam's on the money here. No need to move, we're almost there.
/r/askMRP03/03/21 07:35 PM
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Thanks for the reply. I can definitely see how fear and anger are two sides of the same coin. I like the Neo analogy, I'm pretty sure those bullets won't kill me you KNOW they won't, small but important difference on perspective. Now I just need to find it in me to remain as cool calm and collected when my moment comes.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 07:29 PM
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I'll give the bar hang a try, it feels better when I'm hanging anyway. As for the second. Are you talking about a scupula squeeze or am I misunderstanding. I went to the PT for the shoulder for about 6-8 months last time. I think what fixed it was lots of rest, not benching, and the scapula squeezes. All of the other exercises had little to no effect in my untrained opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 07:25 PM
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I love it here actually, so I'm not going anywhere. I'm not quite as pathetic as it sounds. I've got things I'm interested in, but I've spent decades prioritizing others to the point that my compass got broken. I've obviously prioritized my wife's needs and wants, but also my kids too and I run a good size construction firm and I've always prioritized the wants and need of that organization. And I volunteered for a non-profit that relates to the kids, once they found out I'm great at running shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 06:36 PM
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I’m starting to know what abundance feels like… Nice work and congrats on the progress. Was this conversation as easy for you in real life as it appeared on paper? I could almost imagine myself having the same conversation with my wife, but I was filled with anxiety and insecurities (guessing that's why I haven't had it yet). I was just wondering if you had any of the same or it was really as clear in the moment as it presented in writing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 06:04 PM
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It's fair criticism on the initiations. I've continued to initiate more days than not. I had some success back in December, I've been on an epic dry spell since, it's knocked my confidence and screwed with my head somewhat. Guess I expected somewhat linear progress or at least that I was moving the results in the right direction. Constantly getting shot down and not even trying are both pathetic in my book, this train of thought always leads to my GAFMOFY vision and talk. I'll STFU, at least for…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 05:56 PM
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Like WHAT? What's the plan? Well, lately I've been extremely busy. Between work, some (lots) volunteer work, the significant amount of extra time spent on working out and reporting for working out I've been pretty cooked. The honest truth is amongst all of that has been steady dose of time wasting and distraction. A huge chunk of that is directly correlated to sexual frustration and my ongoing fixation with 'fixing it'. My plan is to free up some space by killing some of the time wasters, use th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 05:28 PM
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OYS #61 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 187 lbs. at least 11% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Lifts: My lifting coach came back with my first form review. For squat the comment was great form, excellent depth. This is good news, seems I mostly self-corrected my form issue before my first submission. Now it time to push some weight to see what I’m actually able to lift with good depth. As for bench, I’ve got some issues there. Working on a few m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 05:59 PM
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Nice post. Now action to back it up?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 05:19 PM
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Oddly, I no longer struggle with a shitstorm from the wife. The spine is still taking a little bit of time to grow. I suppose it is a reluctance to upset the apple cart, probably just an ingrained habit I need to drop. I'm going to focus on the fact that a spine can be grown overnight. What's holding me back except for myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 04:48 PM
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you can't do that, but you can be different today. excerpt from my oys: I cannot change anything that occurred in the past, none of it matters. My only path is what’s now and what’s ahead. I know it, I need to live it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 10:51 PM
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Solid advice, I've been giving that some thought. One month for every year of marriage or something. Probably best left for when I stop being a bitch entirely, not just part way.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 10:41 PM
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I'm pretty sure everyone here who has read even one sentence of my writing is aware of two things. #1 I do value it so much. & #2 I'm willing to do ANYTHING. So I think it's fair to say I CARE way too much. I've got so much dissatisfaction built up it's caused a lot of trauma, but by way of little cuts. This frog is boiling so to speak. I've occasionally fantasized about having something terrible happen, something that would shake me loose or free me. Guess I'll have to find a way to free myself…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 06:22 PM
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Yeah, that pretty much sums it up. I don't want to be an asshole, I'm a NiceGuy! I read that link, it hits home. I've got just start doing other shit and stop worrying about her. She really doesn't deserve "my gifts" at this point. I'm pretty much hard wired to put her and the kids first. I need to re-wire things pronto, because the current mindset has me going nowhere. As for the pillow forting I was having some decent success with the approach you mention, but it sort of fell apart with her su…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 06:04 PM
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You don't see any issues with the entire way you've framed this entire thing? She, she, she I exist in her frame more often than not. Trying to fix it, couldn't answer that question with out admitting it. You're a fucking idiot. You recognize you're a fucking idiot - but you do it anyway. So this trip is our annual anniversary trip. I typically enjoy the trip, so I don't want to say "no, we aren't going this year", but I recognize the difficulties. W&S can you throw me a bone here? What should I…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 05:50 PM
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Sadly, this is precisely the same as the ratio's I'd give. All of my 'privacy objections' were pretty much me not wanting my ex-girlfriends stalking me and upsetting my special snowflake. Man I want to go back in time and kick BP me's ass!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 05:44 PM
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6'2" 186 11%. I'm 5'11'' 186 11% I think the extra 3" makes me a bean pole in comparison. Squat is killer Not really, my form sucks, I've been focusing on adding depth and slowing my tempo. My upper body is weak and long and injury riddled. I'm relatively strong on the lower body. I'm working on these shortcomings. Zen turned me onto Barbell Medicine. I'm working with a trainer and a nutritionist to make more progress hear. I've been using the navy method for calculating body fat % as it isn't s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/21 10:30 PM
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proactively killing initiations ... What does this mean? She'll lay things on pretty thickly when she knows I'm going to initiate that night. The old classic example is honey, I have a headache. She'll start stating how "incredibly tired" she is hours before we go to bed. Her favorite is shark week, buys her a week and a half. She's really careful to point out when older kid will be up later than us doing homework or something too. It's possible it's partially my perception of these comments, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/21 10:18 PM
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I think one thing you should consider (right now) is why you choose to spend an inordinate amount of time and energy chasing anyone at all? It's a fair question. I'd like to answer that I've got better things to do, but I think it boils down to a wants and needs thing. I'm not getting the minimum amount of sex to meet my needs. It kinda makes chasing it similar to not getting enough food or oxygen to meet your needs, it becomes a priority. I 100% arrived at MRP to polish up a sexual strategy to …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 04:30 PM
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True enough, doesn't really matter it's all subjective. I drink the bold and strong stuff. It's a large espresso, so not quite the same product. Good stuff, pricey though. It's jacking up my sleep a little and making me jittery, seems to build up over time. I'm scaling back for time being.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 04:25 PM
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I feel the same, I'm likely to look better in five years than I do know. I'd guess same ball park for 10-15 years. Plenty of options out there. Which brings me to the point... All this is really just a sideline to my greater issues. I'm spending an inordinate amount of time and energy chasing a reluctant declining asset. I'd be lying if I didn't at least acknowledge some of those truths.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:33 PM
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Their site says 130-200mg depending on the variety. 90mg for the half caf. I tend to prefer the stronger/darker blends. Probably why I like it so much, all that caffeine.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:29 PM
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Interesting, I had to google how much my Nespresso coffee has in it. Looks like around 150-200mg per cup. I typically have 2 cups, seems like too much for me. I'm trying to go one cup per day, but I also really like coffee and the energy I get from caffeine.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:10 PM
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I take it you already fiddled around with grip width, tucking elbows, shoulders all that stuff? This is where I'm hoping he'll find something. I tuck my elbows tightly and work with a narrow grip. Helps a lot. I could crush a diamond between my scapula they are squeezed so tight. Not sure on shoulders? Rest resolves the issue, but holds back progress obviously.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:07 PM
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My wife is still very beautiful and relatively fit, she looks young for her age. It's not trending in the right direction though, she's post wall. She won't be more attractive in five years than she is now. I've seen what's out there, there's always another option. I've had her on a pedestal (pretty much since we met), I'm moving away from this. She's off the pedestal now. My main angle with that comment is I want something that is in the past. It's somewhat akin to wanting to be a pro athlete a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:04 PM
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I'm about as pro-marriage as you'll find around here. I think getting married can be a great thing and I think most (if not all) of the struggles are related to guys weakness and lack of frame. That being said, I'll offer you a concrete piece of advice. Get to work on the ASAP fix this now plan. You only have 2 months. If you can't get your situation in place as positive one by then you should give considerable thought to postponing or cancelling. There's literally millions of fish in the sea. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 08:58 PM
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Funny. I just closed mine. I just find it to be noise. I mostly agree, but I think for me (and AR likely) not having one was about much more than avoiding noise. That's one of the reason's I'd list when people asked why I didn't have one, but realistically there was much more to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 08:50 PM
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Yeah, I'm riding the thin line between pushing it to far and calling it off. You said something to the effect of "we'll find out if you have an actual issue or if your just a pussy who can't get his newbie gains". I'm trying to follow the experts advice for once instead of thinking I always know better. We've discussed it, I'm monitoring it for getting worse. Week one was worse, week 2 a little better, week 3 not so great. We'll see what week 4 brings. I'll stop short of fully wrecking myself, l…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:17 PM
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opened a facebook account This blows my mind. I just realized that realistically the reason I never opened one was exactly my fear of being trapped into conversations in my wife's fragile frame. It was like nuclear STFU before I even knew what STFU was. I just refused to participate in people's primary method of communication because I was afraid of my wife's reactions. Can't believe I never put this together on my own. Maybe I'll open one too.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:10 PM
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cleaning up caffeine intake I'm on this too. I've noticed I've been anxious and jittery in the morning so I'm reducing my intake. So far it's just left me dragging. Any thoughts on what the key's been to creating the crisp energetic feeling? Just putting all those aspects together?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:02 PM
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Fucking hilarious!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:00 PM
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Small example: her: “do you think [my friend’s girlfriend] is pretty?” Me: “yeah, sure” her: “well that’s fucking great maybe you should be with her then” followed by some other bullshit that typically* would result in a day-long argument (DEERing on my part the whole time) You are in a great position dude. I let stuff like this literally wreck my marriage for years. Simple things like this one. Do you think Scarlett Johansson is pretty? Well, yes of course pretty much everyone agrees. Then she …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:48 PM
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Roleplay gives her plausible deniability that she is not really a slut. Just pretending to be one. This is gold. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm going to work toward softly implementing a little of this. Maybe I can get my wife to ease out of her prudishness this way. The plausible deniability part really hit home. Thanks Horns, Thanks good_looking_man you've open my mind a bit this morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:36 PM
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Yeah, I resemble that remark. I've been there. Racing toward that again with my new program. I'm interested to see how my trainer deals with my shoulder pain that's creeping in. I'm following the program, but it's got me headed to lifting only forks soon if it's not modified. Either need less volume, lower weights, more rest, or better form from what I can tell. Here's hoping he has the answers that I've been unable to identify.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:30 PM
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OYS #60 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 186 lbs. at least 11% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Lifts: The volume on my new training program is tearing me up 2 different ways. The pressing is killing my shoulder and the other volume and difficulty has me dragging severely. Combined with some other difficult lifestyle factors the last couple of weeks have been rough. Nutrition: Working on perfecting this habit. Getting better, but I’m still short …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:25 PM
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I always loved that Henry Rollins quote. You either lift it or you don't, that parts pretty black and white. This mindset got me in a bit of difficulty with my form. Trying to lift "more" every week got me cheating a little subconsciously. Guess I'm just moving to the next step. Ego is a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/21 05:49 PM
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This is the ultimate one foot in front of the other. I'm just going thru the process. I don't have time to reflect on how much it sucks or how much I hate it. Doesn't matter, just keep weighing shit. Can't count Macros without doing the work. This is a do or do not situation. I've decided do. One interesting note, I've been weighing everything, but not adjusting what I eat for the first two weeks. I'm almost exactly spot on my calorie goal. Maybe I'm a good intuitive eater? Doesn't matter, I got…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 12:42 AM
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This is in large part why you hired BM Indeed, can't wait to get my form review back. I'm almost hoping for a "major issue" because that would be an easy fix. We'll see. I already learned my personal tempo sucks and my 5X5 just encourage me to pile on weight by degenerating my form. BBM hasn't even told me this, it's just been made obvious working thru the initial programming. The less you masturbate, the stronger your desire to initiate, the stronger it is communicated. Yep, and I'm sticking to…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 12:39 AM
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which is never linear I might write up a post on that someday once I see this thru to the other side. It seems to come in clumps. I guess sometimes you just need to be ready to change yourself. No amount of reading gets you there until you decide to do something differently. I know it's about the men, not the situations. Mr. Nice Guy couldn't bring himself to say we've got some really pathetic MF'ers out there, most of whom already quit last year.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 11:13 PM
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Yeah, that's the one I'm using. I just need to get used to it. My wife cooks a lot of homemade stuff, which is great, but difficult to enter. Packaged stuff is very simple with the scanner.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 10:34 PM
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Glad to hear confirmation here. I can do anything for a couple of months. Hopefully I'll have some relevant data and a good visualization on portions by then. Tracking and entering would be a great way to cut calories. Several times I've looked at some food and decided, nah, it's not worth it. Too bad I'm trying to add calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 10:24 PM
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Shoot, if I'm near the top of the Class we've got some really sad situations out there. I think I'm finally starting to figure out a few things at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 10:22 PM
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I'm about a week and a half in. I do hate it so far. I was thinking along the same lines, I'll likely utilize it to see what I'm currently eating, make some adjustments to that if necessary and then abandon it. At the end end, I should be better informed on how many calories I'm eating and what my rough Macros are.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:47 PM
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I DNGAF what you think That's good and you shouldn't, we don't know each other. Once Zen pointed out the similarities I can't unsee them. Your Ego is so huge that you can't even admit many of your shortcomings. Your thought is you don't have them. I rationalized many things which held me back significantly. I defended my comments and actions because I didn't think I made many mistakes. I was wrong, so are you. I'll try my best to give you a clue in the right direction (you'll probably ignore it,…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 05:59 PM
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OYS #59 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 186 lbs. at least 11% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Lifts: Week two of coaching, at least I was more comfortable with the ‘what to do’ part. I’m worried the upper body volume will jack up my shoulder. On the plus side the upper body muscles are showing a noticeable size increase after only 2 weeks. Hopefully I can maintain the volume. Nutrition: I hate weighing stuff. Do guys actually do this for extend…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 05:44 PM
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You are DEERing. Define Excuse Explain Rationalize Yep, you hit them all. Maybe consider why you'd care take explain or rationalize this to me. Someone hit me with a comment not long ago. What's the strategic initiative in explaining yourself to me? How does this help you? Pick something to work on instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/21 06:12 PM
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ancient resistance, He's spot on here. Your OYS is a total piece of shit. MRP isn't about how she feels or how you feel. It's not a place for catharsis or venting. It's a place to actually do shit! Focus on what you are going to do, or better yet what you did this week. As for the OYS 1, it's true, you'd be better off to approach this from square one. Maybe re-read the basic materials? What are you doing to change yourself. FWIW, I don't really care if you leave your wife or not, you do you, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/21 04:50 PM
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fucking her is like I imagine what fucking a sister & I want my wife to genuinely enjoy my cock inside her. Well that takes the cake! That is the two most incongruous things I've ever seen written on MRP. Simply Amazing! Read those comments back to yourself. More thoughts below on Zen's comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/21 04:42 PM
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I got a little of this hysterical bonding last weekend. Hot sex on the hotel patio in full view of the main entrance. Normally too modest to fuck with the kids asleep behind closed doors, then BOOM one comment about 'why are we exclusive' and suddenly we're banging in public. Weird. I was hoping for Hysterical Frequency rather than one time Hysterical Adventurousness. Lawyer's office story is solid gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/21 06:11 PM
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This is interesting I've never heard of this phenomena, makes sense though. Hasn't been fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/21 06:05 PM
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100% better than before. I'm glad for your comment because I can see I've only just graduated to a more sophisticated way to worry about what she thinks. I'm way less worried, but I guess the real trick is to actually not care what she thinks. Baby steps.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 10:31 PM
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Any chance that you were reluctant to tell her about your barbell medicine coaching because you know that you have a covert contract buried underneath? Hadn't thought of that, but it's as good a reason as any. I was fairly proud of the way I handled it. (Not so proud that it was something to be strategized and handled. Should have been a non-item.) The conversation went something like my deadlift wasn't progressing so I got a coach to help. That's what I wanted to do. All in all pretty open. I t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 10:25 PM
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Honestly I think a big portion of this was focused on me actually enjoying it. I greatly prefer having sex when it takes a while. Our last go was incredibly short. I'm sure my internal hamster is in there somewhere worried about what she thinks that it was short. Many years ago I used to be really worried about whether she enjoyed it, I've long since taken the approach that this doesn't happen much I'm going to enjoy it as much as I can. Whether she enjoys it or not doesn't really seem to have a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 10:06 PM
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Good article, thanks for the link. You’re DEER-ing because you’re scared, I’m not sure exactly what but I’m just pointing out your weakness that your writing reveals. I read it back. I was definitely DEER-ing. I have no clue what I'm 'scared of', but if I've learned anything it's that I'm slow on items of self reflection. Tried to read the DARE don't DEER article, but it looks like it was deleted. Guess I should reflect on why I would feel the need to DEER here and how I could better respond.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:54 PM
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The 5X5 program prescribes a 5# increase every workout. I wouldn't recommend 10#. Don't let your ego take over. Adding 5# will get too heavy much more quickly than you'd expect. Follow the program, stay consistent. If you follow the program that implies you'd add 390# by the end of the year. Take it slow. Good luck. Can't wait to see how you do in next weeks OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:37 PM
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Goal is to get to that point where you are confident, and stuff that goes counter to it is either amusing, interesting or irrelevant or how that definition of frame goes. It's funny since avoiding narcissistic rage wasn't even on my radar, but I've actually improved a lot on reacting in an amused or indifferent way. Notice I say improved, not good. I was mildly aware of these tendencies, but now that's in full view too, should be helpful for killing the ego. If you find yourself wanting to post …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:34 PM
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She didn't ask, but I knew 100% that conversation was coming the very instant that I first pulled the thing out. I figured that my preference was to have this discussion on my time line. Really not a big deal. It's good advice and I've made quite a study of STFU; honestly people really aren't that interested in what I'm saying (or anyone else for that matter). I have a tendency to be secretive and not open, so I figured a more direct approach was the correct move for me on this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 04:20 PM
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I'd recommend reporting them as your 5X5 working weights going forward. Like Squat 5X5 115# this week and then Squat 5X5 120# next week as an example.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 10:55 PM
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Well that's actually good news. You should be able to pile on weight 5#'s at time for a long period. Are those quoted lifts your actually working weights or estimated maxes?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 10:53 PM
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Well that pretty much checks the boxes. Interesting parallels between this and Mr. Nice Guy. Covert Narcissism Checklist The more covert form of pathological narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is not expressed the same way in every individual, but there are typical patterns that are very common. If you see many or most of these attitudes and behaviors in a person you know, you’re probably dealing with someone who suffers—and makes others suffer—with covert narcissism. Is pass…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 10:37 PM
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being triggered/angry when the world doesn't recognize your greatness Well that one hit home. You probably knew it would. Might be a good challenge to your ego to publicly post your poundages. You are still pretty far gone if you hamster yourself out of it. I will. I didn't figure it was any assistance to anyone to know that I squatted 225, 8X at an RPE of 6 with a 3.2.0 tempo. (Maybe your interested since you were the one who turned me onto BB medicine, but otherwise no one cares). I have no me…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 10:30 PM
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Perfect program choice in my opinion. How many weeks in are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 10:16 PM
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You have the power to be happy and confident, make that choice. stop being so scared because you can handle life. I have a difficult time reconciling things sometimes. When I first found the red pill I was extremely confident and pretty happy. You know, except for that one thing. 99% of people I know would probably stunned to see any admission of weakness or doubt in my OYS. What I can't reconcile is that I'm still pretty confident, but I've torn that down in an effort to kill my ego. That confi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 08:16 PM
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That's good advice, I understand that I could say almost anything to my wife and most of it would have little to no long term affect. I don't know why it affects me so much, but I guess it doesn't matter. I just need to reprogram myself to realize I really have almost nothing to actually worry about. It's not as if she'll leave me if I misspeak or take a disagreeable position and realistically if she did how much worse off would I really be. I just need to truly internalize these known facts.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 08:04 PM
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What program are you running with your lifts? That paragraph was a little more enlightening, but it lacks specifics and reads a bit like a MRP vocabulary test. Your OYS will benefit you more if you put yourself out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 08:01 PM
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Personally I think a big part of it is the "unmovable position". You are trusted and valued and when you offer an "unmovable position", well shoot GLM must be right he sounds unmovable and confident. When the response is "maybe we should do the kitchen, or maybe we shouldn't, I dunno, there's just so many variables, such as timing, What do you think? Oh yeah after hearing your opinion I think we should probably do it, don't you think". This type of decision making invites second guessing. My gue…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 06:36 PM
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Just a question...what's the worst thing that will happen if your wife didn't agree with the things you shared (ie scale and nutrition program)? Literally nothing. I guess my thought process would be that she would judge me or something, but who cares? What would that judgement be? He takes to good of care of his body or he's trying to become attractive or ??? It's ridiculous that this affects me at all, but it does. I literally thought on it all weekend, like should I share or not and how. I di…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 06:29 PM
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Height: 6ft Weight: 234lbs Squat - 125lbs Bench - 155lbs Overhead Press - 95lbs Deadlift - 155lbs Bent Barbell Row - 90lbs Ouch bro. My fifteen year old kid out lifts you on 4 out of 5 lifts and he weighs 108. His name isn't even Chad. Your squat and bench press are where you really need to get to work. You should be plenty strong to move these along quickly. You should probably start tracking your food, if you really don't lose weight by lifting and running then your diet is jacked up. How old …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:55 PM
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Good progress on the work section. Now that I know I was spot on in my initial take on your working situation, I wish I had expressed myself more clearly at the time. I'll give you a tip about the CEO, he's just a dude like you struggling to make his way with insecurities like everyone else. Shit, maybe he's even on MRP too? Tip is: You are good at your job and capable of more, make yourself the solution to the CEO's problems and your limits are endless. To whatever extent that they don't choose…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:45 PM
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Bench 240 Squat 250 Deadlift 280 Yeah that's not congruent. Wonder if his arms are thicker than his legs?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:34 PM
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Here are several of the things my wife was convinced we needed NOW. Seems like you are good with all ideas, so it's just a matter of how/when. I always struggle as my wife's got an endless list of shit I don't want to do. Trying to navigate that as gracefully as you did this is my goal. There's always something to be said for the "unmovable position". Things tend to go your way when you you take one.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:32 PM
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Hey you are good here. You don't need to be married to OYS in MRP, but you do have to own your shit. I'm purposefully not giving you any tips here. Keep posting, but you mostly know what you need to do. DO IT!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:27 PM
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My dick is hard less often, I’m thinking about sex less often. Same here and Alphalfa Sprout and I have this unfortunate bit in common too. My timeline for Porn is a bit longer, but some of the changes are unsettling. Hoping my clarity helps me master MRP field theory next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:24 PM
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OYS #58 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 186 lbs. at least 11% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Lifts: Yes, I lift. I started my Barbell Medicine coaching. I probably won’t report much here going forward. I have to write a novel for them so that’s probably enough accountability. First couple of workouts were tough. Tempo work, pauses in lifts. Tons of volume. All very uncomfortable and brutal on my ego as basically everything made the lifts harde…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:18 PM
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I agree, I too lack confidence on whether I can actually lead my wife to where I want. It's at least partially out of my control. I think there's also a big dose of scared to deal with the potential consequences for me. I keep telling myself that if I go thru with it and get caught, I could just say "what did you think would happen", but it's not true or at least not as powerful as I'd like to believe. I do not have the frame to own it beforehand or after if I was caught. I'm also fearful of wai…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/21 11:57 PM
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make certain that I truly understand the correct path to follow going forward to insure that my continuation of putting one foot in front of the other doesn’t just lead to more years of wasted effort by still walking in the wrong fucking direction Honestly I am terrified that I'll walk in the wrong fucking direction some more. I think I'm figuring it out, but the path hasn't become clear as day to me. & All of which have been generously and accurately explained to me repeatedly by the men of MRP…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/21 11:48 PM
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This has been an interesting experiment in social dynamics and understanding just how passive almost everyone is. I'm not really scowling too badly. I've always been a head nod guy, but upon reflection, it was something I did to terminate the eye contact without looking weak. Now I'm just owning, I'm staring you down, if you nod I'll nod back and smile. If you smile, I might even say what's up, but what I'm not doing is meekly looking away. Scowl implies looking like I want to fight, which isn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/21 03:15 PM
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You don't sound like much fun to have sex with. So I re-read my post a few times to parse what triggered this comment. After reading the article I'm sure you are correct that sex is tied up with validation clouding whatever actual desire is there too. After several re-reads I still can't identify what I said that clued you in on this aspect.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/21 03:08 PM
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Hey thanks for the lengthy reply. You read the situation correctly. I could hear your fake conversation in my wife's voice when I was reading it. I KNOW that you are right about me being justified in whatever I do next. Doesn't make it any easier. That's one thing I've had right all along, I'm making that particular choice based on my standards, I don't need justification. Why did you feel so terrible? 1) All this work and I haven't improved my goal for my sexual strategy much. 2) I could have j…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/21 12:42 AM
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Can't wait!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 05:48 PM
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Yeah "plow horse" was a bad choice of words. I guess what I meant was I've plowed up to this point and at this point I'm LARPing as a plow horse sometimes to avoid changing too dramatically. I'm systemically removing myself from the plow horse dynamic. Instead of showing up and saying 'screw it I'm sick of all this' I'm trying to be more measured. I appreciate the feedback because I hadn't really considered it. I want a few things and they aren't congruent (or at least don't appear to be), so I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 11:41 PM
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Gotcha. I won't put us there, you have enough to do, I don't need to waste your time banning me for shit I understand. I'm feeling less whiney about this subject as time goes by. I'm certainly not over it or past it, but I've internalized that I'm doing this to myself. No sense complaining about self inflicted wounds unless I'm talking to myself. I've come from "this sucks and I can't do anything about it" to "this sucks and what am I going to do about it".
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 05:01 PM
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I liked your work section this week. One thought though: I will likely fail in this attempt I'd frame this differently. You said it yourself, you are the Golden Boy. If they don't accept your proposal to take the new position that's their loss. You are the Golden Boy on a steady march to bigger and better things. You don't fail. Of course you have speedbumps and set backs along the way, but those are largely a result of things out of your control. I think this is analogous to judging yourself on…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 04:17 PM
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That's my only option. There isn't an easy button here that solves my problems. I think that's part of what was holding me back for so long. My ego told me that I'm close, I'm nearly perfect, it's just this one little issue (sex). I'm pretty much fully immersed now, I'm no longer dabbling in this fishing for easy solutions and tips and tricks. It's hard mode now and the only two choices are quit or take the next step forward. I'm not quitting.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 03:59 PM
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Here's the dirty secret - you don't actually have to fuck other people. You just have to be able to project that you would - because it will seep through your interactions and your body language. Yep. That's a big reason why I'm so frustrated with myself on this one. First, I couldn't STFU and keep myself out of a conversation I didn't want. Secondly, I didn't have the frame (BALLS) to own the comment after I said it. I meant it, I've been thinking about it seriously, but I was too much of a chi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 03:53 PM
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Yeah, sadly snitches get pats on the back now a days. You handled it correctly based on the framework in place today. Bonus points that daughter is happy with results, that's what you truly wanted anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 03:47 PM
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You're doing good. There is an entire cottage industry of people arguing the details of fitness routine optimization. It's mostly all noise. Some things are certainly better than others, but it's really pretty simple to get decent results. Lift heavy stuff regularly. Pick a routine you can maintain consistently. You are doing heavy compound lifts 4-5 times a week, you'll get good results initially, once you need different or better programming you'll know at lot more about yourself and what work…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 12:09 AM
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Hey. Welcome to the suck. I was actually glad to hear this. I feel like the guy in Shawshank Redemption climbing down the sewer pipe, only when I get to the end, I've found myself in another pipe with more sewage. I haven't really reported in my OYS, but avoiding making any overly dramatic evaluations of my progress has been a focus. I can't afford wild mood swings on how I'm getting it or not getting or not progressing. I did what I did yesterday, I'll improve some more today, and then repeat. …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 10:29 PM
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Very good, I was expecting significantly less organization. If you are following thru nearly as well as you organized this response, you'll kill it. I'd recommend inverted bodyweight rows for achieving that first pull up. My son just recently did his actual first pullup and the bodyweight rows were extremely helpful, he had much more difficulty with the negatives. Nice job, my only thought is be careful with all that volume, it's great if you can handle it over time, but don't let that burn you.…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 10:05 PM
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Yeah, I actually skipped coaching at the T-Ball level. Most of the parents aren't ready for their kids to take some consequences yet and they are all standing there every practice. We took our teams starting the next year. Once the parents leave we bring out the hard balls and start playing catch. No better way to learn to use the glove than getting bruised with hard ball. I found most of the parents are happy to have someone actually willing to discipline and toughen up there kids. Great times,…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 05:30 PM
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That's awesome. I've worked the 15 year old in helping with the 12 year olds, but the age gap is too small. Should work great with the Tballers. Hey at least they are throwing Soft rocks at each other right?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 04:52 PM
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Besides losing weight what are you doing to achieve that pull up? What program are you running?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 04:44 PM
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Wow, never thought I see another Horns OYS. First world problems. I don't think anyone is ever truly "satisfied" with their situation and if you were that seems like it would create discontent anyway. My Son's final year of Little League is about to start and we're fired up. He's a big kid, I'm actually a little worried he might injure someone on the tiny field. Good luck in T, it's God's work at that level.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 04:41 PM
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P.s I will be out of OYS until I read the basics well and have a better view over myself. I would recommend continuing your OYS to hold yourself accountable for what you are actually doing. Doesn't have to be long, just report your progress for yourself. It gives you a cue each week to evaluate what you actually did. Might even get some feedback along the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 04:33 PM
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Nice work with the daughter situation!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 04:26 PM
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OYS #57 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 186 lbs. at least 11% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Lifts: Squat 355# X5, Deadlift 275# X5, Row 180# X5 (I moved back to weighted chins, 10#, 25#, 45#), OHP 120# X5, BP 180# X 5. I officially signed up for Barbell Medicine training. I have to wait up to week for my programming. I also got their nutrition package. Still waiting, I think I get my programming tomorrow. Currently Reading: Day Bang & NMMNG. …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 04:23 PM
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Makes sense. I guess I better get moving on that reread of NMMNG. Clearly I get the concepts, but am having trouble really fully implementing them in practice. Funny how I never would have thought this would be a major point, I was reluctant to even read the book in the first place. Pretty sure that's why it didn't take properly.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 05:28 PM
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Hey it's your OYS. You do you, but you will not make any progress until you admit that you have some issues. None of this stuff exists in a vacuum. When I started my OYS after wasting several years I realized something was wrong, but I didn't know what so I just worked the process. Still finding shit that I thought I was good on. Your Ego is killing you. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 05:06 PM
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Funny thing is the weak responses like "nah" or "I don't look at other girls" or whatever actually generate more bullshit questions or general "uneasiness" for you. When you answer an honest strong answer she'll ease up, likely immediately. Possibly with one follow up to make sure you are actually strong enough to own it. It's a scary cliff to jump off, but once you do, you'll be so much happier.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 04:55 PM
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Yeah, removing the "sprinkle some alpha on it" mentality is really where I need to go. I've wasted too much time trying to make some "tweaks" hoping to shortcut the process. Letting fear of change and laziness hold me back from more dramatic changes. I do feel a little bad for the wife as there's plenty of incongruence on my part which I'm sure causes her cognitive dissonance. (I don't really feel bad, but I am aware of my responsibility here) Thanks for the links that'll help, I need some remin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 04:50 PM
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Ugh, read up the alpha. Somewhat discouraging and fatalistic. Guess I was hoping for a how to guide. Should've know better on Rationale Male. I need to pour over the archives and find some material there. Time to value myself and focus on doing what I want. I need to remove "she" from my priorities list.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 08:58 PM
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50 Shades of Grey wishes they had Horns around to write the follow up series.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 08:53 PM
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I'm suggesting that you'll need to tackle some other issues before you can get where you want to. I thought I was too smart and had shit figured out too. Reflect on this: Been pretty successful at going through the MRP program & I'm a guy who fucks his hand. Doesn't sound like a very successful sexual strategy to me. YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF AND THE SOONER YOU ADMIT IT THE SOONER YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD. If you refuse to start an honest and open OYS you'll likely never progress. Your choice... Ask…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 08:50 PM
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changing the dynamic by removing yourself isnt done for the purpose of changing the dynamic, it's done because your time and attention is better spent elsewhere. If she so chooses to then change because she's uncomfortable with the new dynamic...awesome. But to you, you're just doing what you're doing for the next best dynamic within your control. This is pure gold. I need to internalize this one. I keep hoping I can control her, if I could just push the right buttons. Time to start looking for …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 08:36 PM
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Hey pussy, how about you start doing what you want, and not doing what you don’t want. Tell her no, don’t feel like talking about it. If she persists, go do something better. She’s not entitled to your time, she has to earn it. Read WISNIFG. 3 years here dude?? I'm starting. I'll admit it's slow, but telling her I'd rather not is big progress for me. I spent way too many years thinking "oh this is great another opportunity to negotiate some desire, that'll fix it." Bad mentality. look at her act…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 08:12 PM
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I've been working hard on turning down the beta, things you mentioned like less ILY, selfish things like the radio and the pizza, and simply saying no to relatively easy requests. Less affection too. As you are well aware, this has been hard for me and my nice guy programming. I'm also sure you are aware that I've likely only just dipped my toe in these waters and I need to dive in entirely. Thanks for the up the Alpha link, I'm going to read that one right now. she has decided the second she se…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 08:01 PM
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That's right I seem to remember that mention about the pages of soft-core porn. Something like I picked her up, put her down, moved her from this position to that. I think it's a fine line.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 07:51 PM
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I don't get why this is so hard for OP. You've come to far or probably didn't even let yourself fall that far. I'm closer to this mindset. I think this holds back at least half the guys trying to figure things out. He's scared of his women and her reactions.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 04:21 PM
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I think this is one of the biggest difference between guys who are struggling or making progress. I used to be terrified of these kind of comments. I'd think what's the perfect comment that get me out of this hot water without rocking the boat. SufficientNorth you already that there is no answer to this that calms things down. It's a test to see if you have the balls to admit that yes there are attractive girls at the gym. Honest truth is a good approach. I started by dabbling in with comments l…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 04:18 PM
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Wow. That comment would be an above average post. I think mine's like this too, if I could just get to that next damn step. So motivating.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 04:12 PM
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This is me 3 years ago, but without the basic ability to STFU. Well and I didn't jack off to fat chick or midgets either. Good luck dude, you're screwed! Your ego will kill you, you won't make any progress, your focus is all wrong. You think you've got your shit together, but your probably the guy in here who is the most fucked up. But your ego won't even let you admit that's there is something wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 04:08 PM
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What's Rule 13? It's a proven fact that fresh air promotes longevity.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 03:58 PM
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OYS #56 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 185 lbs. at least 11% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Bought a scale so I can report actual weights, I’ve been estimating since gym closed. I vary from 183.6-187 so far, surprised how variable it has been, that wasn’t in line with my past experiences. Lifts: Squat 355# X5, Deadlift 275# X5, Row 180# X5 (I moved back to weighted chins), OHP 120# X5, BP 180# X 5. I officially signed up for Barbell Medicine …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 03:54 PM
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"I shouldnt get emotional" is an unproductive goal. I agree, I choose my words poorly. I can't let my emotions affect my behaviors (at least in significant swings) is a better statement. I am certainly aware that you cannot control having emotions, your reactions to those emotions are controllable. Either way it all points to: Just execute your MAP methodically
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/21 08:23 PM
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I definitely had to wrap my brain around some new realizations the last few weeks. My thoughts got a little irrational, but that's probably normal. My OYS two weeks ago was such a piece of garbage that I didn't even post it publicly. I guess that was smart to STFU, but also I was protecting my ego (and avoiding a ban). I hadn't even considered the contentment and it's correlation to sex until my convo with dust2dust, but it's likely there. I wasn't all that satisfied with the experiences, so I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/21 05:27 PM
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The quote about spazzing out totally makes sense when you pull in last week's OYS. I was definitely spazzing out last week, pulled it together a bit this week. you’re banging 2x week Unfortunately this is pulled out of historical context. I've banged 2X in a week somewhere between 2 and 4 times in the last year. Most weeks were zero bangs. Maybe it's progress maybe it's not. It hadn't occurred to me, but my relative calm might be subconsciously related to this. I've received the same feedback fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 11:46 PM
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Sounds like you've identified your problems pretty well. If lifting is a priority for you, which I think it should be, I'd find a way to add a 3rd session per week. Mine's written in stone, Monday, Wednesday, Friday, always. You can tweak your programming a bit if the frequent squatting really gets you. Maybe Squat 2X weekly, once heavy, and once lighter. If you commit to the 3X weekly workouts, then just pile on the calories. I think you can make progress here pretty easily. Your age is an adva…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 11:32 PM
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Hey, had to go searching for your OYS. You should really post more frequently. Your comments are on point, but I think you could benefit from others feedback on your specifics. I came looking for the lifting stats primarily. I was 6'2" 165 just a few years ago, so I may have some thoughts for you here, but I need a little more info. How long have you been doing your 5X5? Is it progressing steadily? How consistently and frequently are you lifting?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 05:55 PM
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You’re spazzing out. Relax. I'm curious what drew you to this? I felt about 1000% percent more calm than last week. How’s the social life? Social life isn't great, lacking diversity would be the best description. My wife and I primarily hang out with one couple. COVID is a convenient excuse in that realm, but not entirely at fault. My guy friends outside of the youth sports realm don't hear from me often. Try focusing on killing the anxious feelings. Recognize they don’t help. Trying, I'm very i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 05:43 PM
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Nice work on all points! Except: When Female Employees Feel Bad I Feel Guilty You accidentally wandered into my wheel house here. Who gives a fuck if she's female? You aren't trying to have sex with her right? Some of the very best employees I've had were females, but in my experience it makes no difference in the way they are supervised. emotional torrents and venting Yuck! I don't want emotional torrents or venting from any of my staff. I don't know what type of work you supervise, but in my e…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 05:34 PM
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All the smartest minds seem to be lined up on the other side of this one. Let me know if your reflection settles anything for you on this one because I'm sure as Fuck not closing that door or picking up the broken glass. If I really want the door closed, I'm more likely to go tell her to grow up and go close the god damned door. Maybe I'm missing something too, please tell me if you figure it out. Disclaimer: Yes, Jerry's in a different situation than you and I, he should close the door and take…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 05:14 PM
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Day Bang isn't a re-read for me I'm on the first take. So far I've found it very immature, but admittedly it addresses areas that aren't my strong points. Here's my reading list: Sidebar readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP, Pook, Rational Male, How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World, and TWOTSM. I think my top priority for a re-read is NMMNG or WISNIFG. I believe that my Ego probably held me back on those two. I kept thinking, "this doesn't apply to me". I'll have to re-read to be sure, but I b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 10:24 PM
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Congratulations. You've gotten yourself a great dose of validation here. Not only from the wife, but the MRP'rs too. It's well deserved and you are making progress. I know not checking for the package is a lot harder than it sounds. As you mentioned your brain is still messed up keep moving forward in baby steps. Read up on validation; this one by Man in the world and others.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 07:08 PM
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pressure flip move is to tell her to "be tighter" then NOT cum at all... Yeah that would send a SLIGHTLY different message. Uncle Jerry and I both wish we were in position to pull off that boss move.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 07:01 PM
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OYS #55 Stats: Mid Forties, married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 185 lbs. at least 11% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December 2020. Lifts: Squat 355# X5, Deadlift 275# X5, Row 180# X5 (I moved back to weighted chins), OHP 120# X5, BP 180# X 5. I’ve had an initial consult with Barbell Medicine and am discussing setting up a program with them. Clearing up some how’s, why’s, & when’s before starting. Hoping to improve form and accelerate progress. Been working on squat depth. Currentl…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 06:53 PM
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Wrote an article specially for me Horns? Thanks! I guess the challenge Idiots like me have is we KNOW (or are at least pretty sure) that the committed forceful initiation is getting shut down too. I for one am choosing the painful path of putting myself out there directly and getting shot down. At least it's out there, it's not a joke (and it is certainly not funny), but at least my intentions are clear. Yes, the rejection hurts, but let's be honest, so does not really putting it out there fully…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/21 07:01 PM
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Good on you. Sounds like you've properly reflected. Glad you found religion too! I also find that the super shitty shit test seem to come when my wife is right about something. Doubly frustrating when I compound not owning my shit properly with being unable to deflect the shit test. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 11:28 PM
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I'm thinking the answer here is slightly more complicated. You tried STFU, she put you in a position where the only way to STFU was to go totally autistic STFU, which would have been better, but ... I think maybe consider what Horns said. Maybe you nuke that shit right out of the gate next time. Look I don't claim to have the precise answer for your situation, but you are bound to get the same or similar shit test again and I don't think you are ready. You knew you should simply STFU in the mome…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 05:18 PM
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Thanks for the detailed breakdown. Part of my struggle is that I think I'm confident or at least I thought I was confident. I'm only now really becoming aware of how much I seek validation and how it affects my actions. I've been aware of my covert contracts, but tying that to a victim mindset is powerful. I'm not a victim, that's weak. I have control over my reactions, I've known this, even preached it to others, painful to realize that I've let it creep into my psyche, thanks for the kick. It'…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 11:18 PM
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Thanks Owl. Good timing on replying. I'm in a bit of a dark place lately, your message helped bring me back to a more balanced mindset. I like the advice about calculated thought regarding my time. ​ Hope things have been busy in a good way. Best-
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 10:40 PM
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The problem, of course, is that this is OYS 54 not OYS 5. This is why I'm pissed, I should be locked down by now. I know better, but I'm also pissed at my wife, If SHE would just come around, I'd be passed this. BS way to think, I know it, just can't seem to fix it. your goals.. family dinners with your kids, grand kids, etc. Well that and an abundant sex life. One's weighing much heavier than the other lately. You are right, it's validation, I'm likely seeking validation from there and from sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 10:31 PM
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The finish line keeps moving away and IT PISSES ME THE FUCK OFF!!! It's a journey, not a destination. You'll never be finished, but I think you know that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 09:32 PM
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So how would you handle that test if you had a do over?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 09:28 PM
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Zen I agree with Man in the World, she's practically begging you to show her the way. Why do you suppose the star fish is so wet? She's embarrassed self conscious and submissive. She needs you to show here the way. I think she needs reassured that she's doing better, especially when she's enthused. Getting up and leaving probably sets her back even further. Read up. Time to lead her. depressive_and_anxious_wives_transformation_and/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 09:20 PM
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Thanks. Solid advice, I know the negative stuff gets you nowhere. Confidence isn't normally something I have any issue with. Been reflecting lately and it's been discouraging. Maybe passing the 1 year mark on my OYS triggered it, doesn't matter I need to flush it. Hadn't really thought about it, but I have been giving my time too freely. A tiny patch of affection from her end and I basically gave her a reset, I think that's why I'm pissed. I just put a note on my desk that simply says "Increase …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 09:00 PM
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OYS #54 Struggling. I’m stagnant, I’m making slow or no progress lately. I thought I was making some progress with a break thru to frequent sex, but it dried up and with it went my self confidence and drive to push forward. The excuses and rejections have been demoralizing. I know that I need to be my own judge, but let’s be honest, I’m here trying to polish up my “sexual strategy”, the rest of it is just gravy that’s part of the process. It’s a bad mental model, but insert an analogy about thir…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 05:32 PM
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I almost wrote this exact comment Zen, the two don't seem to square. best sex I’ve had in years zero enthusiasm Unless it's just all been so bad that some tiny incremental progress in quality was achieved. You mentioned it's "slightly" better. What's holding you back from making it much better?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/21 11:58 PM
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And then UsefulWalk tucked his tail between his legs and went back to his cave to reflect on his life. I had some rebuttals/defenses in mind, but decided this is a good chance to practice STFU and realize that you've been right about me over and over again, so my time would be better spent re-reading and trying to implement. --------------- Read up on Greyskull LP. I'm really worried that my shoulder can't hold up to that much pressing, 3X weekly. (When I say really worried, I mean 100% will put…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 11:16 PM
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Hopefully you learned the really important lesson buried in here. Well I took away two things from the ban. First while I successfully avoided she statements, it was still about her. As for the ban extension, a much better technique would have been stop & reflect on why I was contacting you in the first place. Pause, think, STFU and figure out what I'm hoping to accomplish. Bad day, bad timing and I fucked myself over pretty well in the process. I do have the power over having sex and I ceded to…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 04:44 PM
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No need to be sorry. I need you guys to call me on my BS. I've got plenty of people who tell me how great I am in real life. That doesn't help me get better at all. Your squat comment is totally on point. I read "Fuckarounditis" and it totally change my entire workout mentality about a year and a half ago. A couple of weeks ago I was researching RPT (Reverse Pyramid Training) and I stumbled back on Martin Berkhan's page. I was struck by this quote " Excited about squatting because you’re gaining…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 04:14 PM
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Jesus Jerry! You haven't fucked since she had the baby?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:33 PM
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Personally I find index funds to be fantastic, but not generally "playful" I tend to preach quality financial advice when drunk too.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:25 PM
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when you internalize that there is no "end" or "right way", and that life is what you make of it. That pretty much sums things up. Easier said than done it seems.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:19 PM
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Even, "So you really like coffee too?" It's funny how just spitting out any words will get things started. You can't carry the conversation with witty one liners like "you like coffee too", but most the time the other person is just as excited about an opportunity to interact as you are. Often times they'll pick up the slack for you. I'd challenge yourself to start with nothing if you go blank again.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:14 PM
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shed some more Nice Guy programming. Good on you Zen. Think I might borrow this as one of my themes for a while. The programming runs deep, it's best to keep exploring how to reverse it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:09 PM
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Here's how it all started (results in bold): Excerpts from OYS # 1: "175 lbs." Gained ten pounds at least. Lifts: Squat 5x5, 245# (now up to 355#’s) Relationship: Good first mate, decent friends, basically zero sex. Things have gotten bad. I’ve been so disappointed on this front that I’ve got to the point that I truly DNGAF. (I still give way too many Fucks). Intro/Background: I decided that I’ve been doing this whole thing half ass, so I’ve decided to go all in. First step is starting an OYS. (…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:00 PM
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OYS#52 BANNED: Back from my lengthy ban. I got a 14-day ban, so I argued about it like a dumbshit. Ended up with over six weeks in purgatory. Missed you fuckers, oftentimes I feel like you guys are the only people on earth who can relate to the shit I’m wading thru. Break thru: The day of my ban I posted a mini field report with a day-to-day blow by blow of examples of my action plan in action. Primary goal to push thru firmly and unrelentingly until I’m fucking my wife again. Too many wife stat…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:00 PM
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Solid progress on your lifts! Thanks! enjoy her It's a good perspective on things. Why would I do anything else?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 11:00 PM
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Can you go away for a weekend? Seems like a covert contract for me, if I do this. I see you mentioned about sex not being the sole intention, but trust me, for my wife and I this is a CC. Plan ahead a little, help create the conditions for it. This is more suitable even though I'm left sorting thru her an excuse for everything. Danger for a CC here too, but at least it's not an elaborate, expensive CC. This stuck in my head when you said it last week or the week before. But good job kino and ini…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:57 PM
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I've been vary pleased with SL 5X5, I think it helped take me from beginner to intermediate. I skipped up to somewhat higher weights to start, while still leaving plenty of room to pack on more weight workout after work out. It is squat heavy, if you do it your squat will improve. I'd recommend starting with a very easy weight, maybe halfway between recommended and actual. Before doing SL's I was doing mostly 3X10 as my rep range vs. the 5X5, I got much stronger quickly. Biggest reason for the i…
/r/askMRP10/11/20 10:43 PM
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Zen, Thanks for the input. In all probability your definition of "pushing hard" is probably pretty tame. Thanks for this in particular. I'm pretty sure this is true. I've conformed to her frame for years. This framework makes for a pretty tame definition of sexuality. I'm working thru the mental hurdles of reframing things. This is a timely reminder to push even harder, probably still well within normal bounds. I've read both posts, but not recently. My mind is ripe for fully understanding conce…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:35 PM
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Also it really seems like you still have a fucking massive covert contract about you doing all this work and her not fucking you. Quick study, you sure you didn't read OYS 1-40? I've posted my actual 5X5's up until now, figured I'd mix it up. I'm pretty stoked with my Squat Progress, hit 300 actual pounds on 5X5, that got me wondering what I could lift hypothetically. I lift alone, so I don't push 1RPM. I do love her. Sexual energy has been pretty weak, but I'm hyper focused on it now. You're al…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:27 PM
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Good to see you OYS this week. See you next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:59 PM
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Thanks Aloha! I do really appreciate the time. I've got no one IRL that I can discuss this shit with on any meaningful level. HOA and you investing the time is truly appreciated. Should have said, I'm coming to terms with it. I know the fairy tale isn't happening and I'll have to write a different script. Seeing that the bits of the Road Map are becoming clear bit by bit, it only makes sense to remain calm and chart a course as information becomes known to me. Thanks again for the encouragement.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:44 PM
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It was my most honest answer. Emotional warfare? Perhaps. Peddling influence? Maybe, although that really wasn't why I said it. No I don't, would have been a blatant lie. My response was congruent with my feelings. I suppose I could have answered yes or not replied. Both would have felt disingenuous. Less and less everyday would have been an honest answer too, but that seems even more loaded than the first. My answer was butthurt and probably best left unsaid, but after going with an unscripted …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:38 PM
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My wife is replaceable Yes, she is. And I'd probably be happier and more fulfilled in a variety of ways. I would be Ok, and I would improve over time. No doubts. Guess I'm reluctant because I know that new and improved life would never be the one I imagined (with the intact Disney family), that's only possible with her. Guess that's why I'm scared, scared to give up on that, but I've come to terms with it. I'm close. Maybe if I exist in this 'close' state for a while it will come together on it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 06:43 PM
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So based on the fact the I've got no conception of what you are trying to differentiate between "eject" and "Nuke" I'll make the assumption I'm failing to see something. Obviously, I understand the differences from a vocabulary standpoint, I just don't get the practical difference here. What would a HVM of authenticity do if he's made it clear his first priority are his needs, and they keep not being met? My answer is eject immediately, so ... ​ There are multiple posts about this from over the …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 06:23 PM
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OYS #41: Stats: Age 44, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Currently Reading: Day Bang Lifts: New estimated one rep maxes: Squat 335#, Deadlift 295#, Row 215#, OHP 125#, BP 180#. That shit’s just hypothetical, but that’s what the 1RPM spit out. My Squat’s been improving steadily. A reply in last week’s OYS pissed me off right before my workout last week. Despite still being sick and feeling shitty in general I busted t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 05:36 PM
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I do think I understand. Implementing that understanding is more difficult. My finger is over the nuke button, it's really just a matter of time at this point. My challenge is what to do between now and then. Horn's was pretty clear, " You don't HAVE to blow it up, dumbfuck." And deep down we all know I don't want to. So I guess I'm struggling on how to "put myself first" given my circumstances. My brain immediately goes to " walk away from a relationship that isn't meeting your needs". Short of…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 04:38 PM
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Pathetic as it sounds, but it would almost be a relief to find that she had chopped down my "imaginary infinite decision tree". Make things easier than me selfishly pursuing what I want. Alas, that's not my path here. My involves pushing thru rather than being shoved.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 12:06 AM
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I guess I'm having trouble transitioning. notice again I did not say go have sex with other women, rather - be a man capable of doing that without hesitation.... I think I'm there. Not in an overconfident way, but if our marriage ended lack of sex isn't even remotely on my "concerns" list. You seriously need to go reread the post again knowing this new context - Why you must be willing to nuke your nuclear family Read it and all the comments and the links including your_womans_most_wonderful_gif…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 12:04 AM
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Hey Rust I just read your OYS and went back into your OYS history a bit. What are you here for? What's the S in your OYS? I saw a lot about organizing and productivity, but surely you didn't come to MRP for the organizational tips. What your issues? Any she issues? Normally dudes drop 800 she's for all I know your married to a he. ​ Also, did I mention I hate guys who can say this with a straight face: even though I haven't barbell deadlifted in about 3 years, I was still able to pull 365 lb. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 09:29 PM
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Thanks Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 09:19 PM
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Thanks Zen. I think I took DL 3 a little too literally. I'm doing OK with DL 1, but looking back probably just beginner level. I shut down all shit tests, which is cool, but I haven't pissed her off or pushed her, I've only just made her back off and retreat to her corner. She's just a girl. Yep. Rumor is there are 3.5 billion girls out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 09:18 PM
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I'm going to try again because you're clearly invested. Thanks for taking the time on the detailed comment. I'm 100% all in, I'm solving this shit, no matter what. I think I'm seeing a little more clearly now. Doesn't really matter how well I do on the overall if I don't commit to that one thing and face it head on. Kind of like running a hot rod car without wheels. Everything is on point, why won't it go? maybe she'll want to fuck me when she see's how busy and important I am and realizes that …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 09:14 PM
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I'm not a Doctor, so my advice is only anecdotal. My surgery was a disaster and my Doctor said it was 100/0 slam dunk. They no longer perform "Lateral Releases" because they've proven useless. Advice I received post surgery was basically don't squat, don't leg press, stop skiing, baby your knees so you'll have them when your old. Worst advice I ever received. Flash forward to a few years ago. I dislocated my knee again (the good one this time), I go to the PT. She's smart, she starts me on easy …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 04:41 PM
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It's 11/3/2020 bro! not 2019, but I understood the chart anyway. I couldn’t be more proud of myself. I stayed lifting for a year Nice work sticking with the lifting habit for a year. The bad news: Your lifts kinda suck and your progress has been slow. The good news: Now that you have a lifting habit, you can devote year two to doing it right. And with your minimal progress you should still be able to squeeze out some easy newbie gains. (I've got some experience on a shitty first year of lifting.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 11:07 PM
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It's terrifying the first time you actual try it, but literally just STFU, don't say anything. As Horn's put it "Let it play out. It's scary. But what's the worst that will happen? A woman who doesn't fuck you, take care of your kids, or is attracted to you.... leaves? That's the worst outcome." Some might argue you'd be better off. It's weird, her initial reaction will be more angry, with significantly more mouth noises, eventually she'll stop. It's no fun arguing with a brick wall. If she says…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 10:55 PM
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Forgot to mention, it is the added leg strength that holds everything together and reduces pain over time by stabilizing ligaments and tendons.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 10:14 PM
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I squatted my way out of my patella tendon issues. Back in the day the Doc cut mine to and shortened it to help avoid kneecap dislocations (didn't help). I've got some tendonitis on the bad one and worse on the good one. High quality squats with good form helped me work thru it. Wish I had realized 20 years ago working thru the pain was the solution to the pain. I feel awesome now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 10:11 PM
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Thanks for taking the time. My thoughts ... You don’t appear to have any passions or joy in your life. It's fair criticism, I'm battling an extended bout of melancholy. I've got some passions, but they certainly aren't pure joy. I've been hyper-focused on success since I was a young adult. I hit the mark mostly, but lost my way on the fun part over the years. I tend to enjoy whatever I'm doing, but pure joy... nah. My guess is that sex makes you feel desired or good about yourself (validation). …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 10:04 PM
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I'm in a pretty fucked up place mentally so bear with me. My Mom died yesterday. Prior to that my brain was all fucking tied in knots trying to sort out some solutions to my shit pile of a life (so close but so far away). I struggled for 3 years without an OYS column because I figured I was smart enough to sort this shit on my own. WRONG! I started an OYS column figuring I'm smart enough to sort this shit our with some help. So far, WRONG! Do I think activity and accomplishments will solve my pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 05:42 PM
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This is a stupid fucking argument. ​ Learn to STFU. +1
/r/askMRP04/11/20 11:23 PM
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I call BS on that too. Just lift and STFU. Who cares what your BF% is at this point. Don't defend your lifts, they suck. Get better at your lifts, the BF% will take care of itself if you work to get strong.
/r/askMRP04/11/20 11:21 PM
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You're doing nothing. I think this is inaccurate. I’m a pretty busy guy, if anything too busy. I’m CEO of a successful business. I’m President of a large Little League organization. Until recently I was President of a large Home Owner’s Association. I run another unrelated set of youth sports travel teams. I helped my female friend run in our local election last night (still don’t know the winner yet). I spend much of my time investing and trading in stocks and other investments. I’m working on …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 04:08 PM
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On the whole your post reads like a guy who is 41 and feeling resentful that he didn't go full TRP and have his fun before he got married. Now you want to run out and abandon the nuclear family but you feel guilty for whatever reason. +1
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 08:17 PM
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New Mustang GT here. It makes me happy for a few minutes every time I drive it. Does nothing to fix that hollow spot I'm trying to sort out though.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 08:15 PM
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You're no different than any other man here I read Zen's whole monologue and I was thinking ... Shit this sounds like the thoughts that run thru my head. Then you write that comment. And what if I told you that this idea you have is just a manifestation of your inability to still deal with all the things around you in the world that you can't control - but instead of admitting that and taking the ego loss - you think freedom is taking your ball and going home - not willing to play the game? This…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 08:12 PM
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OYS #40: Stats: Age 44, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Currently Reading: Day Bang Lifts: Squat 5x5, 300#, Deadlift 1X5 285#, Row 5X5 185, OHP 5X5 125#, BP 170# X5. It’s been a shit week, missed the whole week with a nasty cold. I felt terrible yesterday too, but I crunched out a shitty workout. Feeling slightly better today, so tomorrow should be close to normal. Sex: I’m way too focused on sex. It’s my mission. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 06:08 PM
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Yep, that's my problem. Mine's OK, looks perfect from afar. Really easy to stay, not so easy to be prepared to Nuke. I've got some personal experience fighting the torture. It's OK to be 'good', you don't have to be perfect. The perfect is the enemy of the good. My advice is try to flush those 'shoulds' as soon as you think of them. If you don't love the idea, forget it immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 05:28 PM
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I have onitis for the family unit we had, I had the blue pill dream for (1) love and (2) the family unit. These are two different but interrelated things. (1) I miss believing in that love and what I have replaced it with feels somewhat empty, in the past I have made progress here but it is a stumbling block for me. (2) I also miss the family unit and life I believed we would have, while I realize it was a myth, I still wish it wasn’t. I liked my role as a father in a family unit, I liked having…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 12:02 AM
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This hits home for me. I'm currently crafting my best version of a FMOFY speech. Framing it as my vision for my life seems like a much stronger perspective. I am the prize after all. Good luck on your pitch, seems solid.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 10:23 PM
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Hoping my conversation looks more like the second. I totally see the point dust2dust is trying to make. I don't disagree with the premise, you can't negotiate genuine desire, period! When I come home reeking of McDonald's takeout, she'll know that I asked her to cook first. I'll be able to smile and say "What'd you expect?"
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 06:28 PM
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Yes, interesting indeed. This occurred to me when typing my OYS and contemplating my situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 06:24 PM
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OYS #39 (revised after going back and re-reading and getting proper count): Stats: Age 44, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Currently Reading: Day Bang Lifts: Squat 5x5, 300#, Deadlift 1X5 285#, Row 5X5 185, OHP 5X5 125#, BP 170# X5. Yesterday I missed my first day of lifting since I bought the squat rack. I’ve got a nasty cold, so I took it easy. I did get some pullups in. Sex: I’ve got some sexuality issues. I’m gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 11:50 PM
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I've got some experience on this topic. I've almost entirely overcome this way of thinking several years ago, so I have experience on both approaches. I mistakenly believed that a less assertive approach (typically passive aggressive because I couldn't let other's laziness or stupidity slide) would somehow take some of the sting away from my comments. In the long run it did the opposite and people are more perceptive than we give them credit for. Also, they don't perceive the things you want the…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 06:38 PM
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It's a good plan. Stick with it. Here comes an unsolicited opinion from a random stranger on the internet. Not trying to be a dick, but you give off a significant "butt-hurt" vibe. An example is my poorly worded comment about your BF stats. What you said was correct, but my take away was "wow, I really struck a nerve with this guy". If I see it as butt hurt (I don't know you and I don't really care about your BF%) imagine what she sees. Likely even if you were able to get to a point where you ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:56 PM
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Hey Man, that's fair. I didn't choose my words precisely. They are not ALL suspect. My estimation with never having seen you is that two of them are in the correct range and two are outliers. All this distracts from my point. I and others have noticed the 4 measurements in the past. You should really just pick one an use it as your measuring stick. It's your life and your OYS, if you enjoy taking multiple BF measurement per week go for it. My observation is that perhaps time (and OYS words) migh…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:37 PM
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If those are you actual lifted weights for your 1 rep set you aren't so bad off. Are those the weights you are going to attempt this week? Or the the weights you actually lifted several weeks ago? Either way, stick with the plan, it works. 19 squat reps is just an enormous #.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:42 PM
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I started reading Day Bang and will be working on studying PUA. I'll try to implement some stuff on my wife. Why don’t you stop being a pussy and game/kino your wife? I'm going to give this one a serious answer. I've mostly quit gaming and kino on my wife due to my perception of her utter lack of receptiveness. Basically, if I was a bar and the chick I was hitting on was clearly not interested I'd move to another option. Only problem, I've put myself in a bar with one chick and therefore closed …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:39 PM
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Well the good news, is you should progress quickly with 5/3/1 The 13 and 19 reps range should disappear as you progress. If you can squat something 19 times, you are not close to a plateau. What are your #'s on your actual 1 rep (ie. 95% of your 1RM)?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:25 PM
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Yes and when your a man with no options either your balls explode or you give in. I read the advice in someone else's thread (maybe Listerine's), implemented it, and soon discovered the covert contract I'd set up for myself. I since realized the point was "you get to feel what its like being a man who wants to fuck because you want to fuck". At least I learned these two things on my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:16 PM
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Are you retarded? It's become apparent this answer is yes. If this is all about you, then why the fuck does it matter to have this conversation? You ARE trying to negotiate desire. It's important to me that I make this clear to my wife again. I whined, bitched, moaned and everything else you'd expect BillyBeta to do about our sex life for years. Then I STFU for 2 years. It's possible between the STFU and weak initiations that she thinks I've lost interest. Most of all I need to make this asserta…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:11 PM
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I thought the same thing. 4 versions of BF% calcs that all seem suspect. Even you said as much. Just pick one.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:26 PM
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Oh, oh, I know this one.. mine. Knowing the answers and internalizing them are two entirely different things. You're smart enough to figure out the answer HOA was looking for, but do you really believe it? What are you going to do to change it?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:25 PM
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I took Horn's advice of not "jacking off until you get your dick wet". My balls have since exploded.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:23 PM
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What program are you doing? I highly recommend Stronglifts 5X5 for your situation. No way you should be doing DL X13 and Squats X19. 5X5 is a simple easy progression that will get you stronger quickly. Great for noob gains.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:20 PM
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Forget her. Worry about YOU. What do you bring to the table. Fix that first.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:15 PM
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allows me to be home at night ... Why would that be a good thing at this point? 27% BF Put the sandwich down. Seriously. excuse to stop lifting at all If you aren't lifting you don't get to eat. Eat less calories and lift something, keep walking. Do some stretches to help the elbow. Lift light for now, get out of the house. Keep up you OYS'ing.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:13 PM
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OYS #32: Stats: Age 43, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Currently Reading: Day Bang Cut: Cut’s over. I’m a little disappointed in the end result. I’ve got a little stubborn fat on the lower belly covering what would be the bottom of a six pack. The upper abs were clear and it definitely looked trim, but not quite what I remember. I’ll cycle back with some bulking for 2+ months and see how that goes. I noticed my arm…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 03:27 PM
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Seems like a decent strength builder for Forearms. I do a similar one with a bat, holdover from the baseball days.
/r/askMRP20/10/20 03:22 PM
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I can't "pull up" my way out of forearm tendonitis I had the same problem with forearm tendonitis radiating from the elbow due to DL, Farmers walks and Pull ups. I started using a really simple stretch and it went away entirely pretty quickly after suffering for about a year. Stretch is arm out pull fingers back. Here's a video link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQpskjE937M I do it overhanded more, video shows underhanded. I highly recommend it, it help resolved a very serious issue quickly f…
/r/askMRP19/10/20 11:45 PM
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Hey I know that there's been a ton of "how to hobby" and "how to be social" posts over the years. I've read just about all of them. Barracuda's thoughts simply seemed post worthy to me. I feel he put it into a simple concise description that would motivate some of the boys. I don't need the post. I read the comment. I think it's too bad it's lost in the OYS, where most of the low effort fucks won't find it. Probably don't even know they should be looking for it. PSA to boring guys Couldn't have …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/20 03:05 PM
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Fair point I guess. This won't get you very far here. Or really anywhere. So I decided to make it a process. Do what you think will work, but I'd think focusing on how fucked up things are would accelerate that process.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 05:42 PM
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Since you’re putting your needs last, why are you complaining about them not being met? You’ve listed lots of reasons/excuses that are more important. Guess I'm DEERing the situation. Do you think you might be over looking something? Yes. Half the time I think I'm overthinking, but often I wonder if I'm just missing some little thing. I think it really boils down to Horn's comment that I'm unwilling to nuke my nuclear family. I'm trying to convince myself I'm willing, but deep down, I'm uncertai…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 05:27 PM
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I would make it clear to her that a mutually satisfying sex life is a requirement of a marriage with me. I have in the past. Obviously, since we're having this conversation I was full of shit. You probably don't need me to tell you how much power this gives my words at this point. Guess that's why it's hard mode, it's not easy to unfuck yourself after you've been digging deeper for a couple decades. 2 of 2
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 05:23 PM
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Keep working those dread levels I guess. Not a very inspiring start, but I get the reluctance. This is because you still are not willing to nuke your nuclear family ... promise you this: she reads through it. All the time. I guess I've invested so much of my identity and self worth into my nuclear family I'm struggling to be willing to push the button. I'm sure its true that she's aware of this. My unwillingness basically makes the whole effort a Dancing Monkey program. Dread in your case should…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 05:22 PM
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Regarding the initiations: the vast majority of the initiations are at bed time. I know you're supposed to initiate all the time, but with kids, work, life bed time initiations are the reality. Makes leaving basically impossible. You've rejected me, so now i'm going to the gym at 11PM or I'm going to go build a table in the garage. Something isn’t right with your situation, should have some progress after 6 mo. I have lots of progress on myself. Almost zero progress on my relationship. And yes I…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 11:35 PM
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Good shit man. Boring guys - here's how you get out of the house and make new friends and hobbies. You should make a post of this. It's a SAD state of affairs, but way too many of us have lost our way. It's not that hard, do something you think is fun. This subject needs more attention!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 05:48 PM
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Get out of your head, and hers. Great advice here for Glorious_Walrus999/. You are thinking way too much. Reading every event as a key indicator for life in general. None of it is important. Observe things, but stop trying to make life changing assumptions.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 05:42 PM
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OYS #32: Stats: Age 43, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Reading: Read essentially all side bar materials plus some. Secured a PDF copy of Day Bang to read. Cut: Vacation wasn’t great for cut, too many Rum Punches and good meals. I’m refocusing now that I’m back, but I had intended to shift workout routines and go back to piling on calories. I don’t want to get stuck in the middle. Still have very visible results fro…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 04:59 PM
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Here's hoping a little public OYS will help you go from good to great. These guys will certainly let you know if it sounds like BS. I took about 3 years to start an OYS too, but my story was mostly failure even though I thought I knew everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/20 06:59 PM
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Curious why you started your OYS now, pretty late in the game. I started MRP 3 years ago because shit was fucked up, problem is I didn't fix things on my own. Surely there's more to your story than things were F'd up, I fixed my shit and now I'm going to OYS now that everything is hunky dory. It's up to you what you want to share, but I think you might be holding something back. Glad you are getting involved. PS Height and weight check out with mine, wanna swap lift #'s?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 09:09 PM
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It's a great article. Totally on point, just nothing new to me. I agree 100% with everything man_in_the_world said.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 08:50 PM
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I was working the DB bench for a while, but I don't currently have access to DB's. So far I've made significant progress with the high rep low weight approach. My BP is always strongest right before the Impingement shuts it down entirely, very frustrating. I'm learning to manage around it. My wife does provide a lot of value in other areas, but not enough that I'm willing to exist in the friend zone forever. Thanks for taking the time to read my stuff and comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 08:49 PM
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Found this one over at r/sex r/sex/keeping_sex_alive_with_a_lowlibidograyasexual_wife/ Is that the post you were referring to? Or does he have a similar MRP article I'm missing. This one is a great intro for non-RP initiated people, but didn't stick too much for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 04:30 PM
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Thanks for the comment. You are right my BP sucks, believe it or not it's really improved lately. My issue is a pretty bad shoulder impingement that is exacerbated by bench press. I've been doing a ton of scapular work and pressing high reps and low weight. It's improved a lot. I'll check out the Nuckols program. Always interested in new info. Very little out there on improving your press while working around impingement. you know, you always have an excuse. I find this disappointing and unaccep…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 04:16 PM
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OYS since December, so I'm guessing that's where you starting getting serious I was actually extremely serious about things when I first took it up essentially 3 years ago. As you might imagine that particular monkey danced really well. Even made a little progress on arousing interest in the wife, but alas he was just a monkey dancing for his female. Too bad he didn't OYS so his monkey friends could call him out on his BS. Certainly stalled my progress (Highly not recommended) They say 1 month f…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 04:13 PM
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I'd second Blarg's advice. Make the most of those warm up sets. Also, make sure to do one with somewhat heavy weight. Challenging, but light enough to actually go slow and do it properly. Also, I never really got the arm issues with the squat. They are really just there to balance the weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 03:41 PM
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Eat a whole Pizza!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 03:27 PM
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I figured. Just didn't want ManImproving to get the impression that you are tiptoeing around the woods hoping to bump into a buck inside of 50 yards. That's a pretty tough game to play.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 03:15 PM
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OYS #31: Stats: Age 43, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Cut: Cut is going well; fat is still just melting away. I need to find a scale so I can update BF%, because it’s much lower than before. I’m going to cut to sub 10%, I want the totally visible abs for at least a moment. They are starting show clearly. I’ll fatten back up once I’m done. Lifts: Squat 5x5, 290#, Deadlift 1X5 285#, Row 5X5 185, OHP 5X5 125#, BP 155…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 03:03 PM
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I'd say the hardest part is estimating range. Takes a lot of shooting at random targets to get your internal range finder down. It's hard as fuck to get big game within 30 yards Two words: Tree Stand
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/20 10:50 PM
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Don't know that RUCCE is very catchy; like DEER and STFU, but the principles listed are solid. So many guys just look uncomfortable. Tense, nervous, self-conscious, basically the opposite of your list. I've started just observing others when I'm even mildly uncomfortable. They mostly look mortified, no eye contact, fidgety. Oddly, I find this very calming. However nervous I find myself the other person is either more nervous or totally oblivious.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 05:59 PM
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Sepean, excellent Article! For the beginners stumbling in here who wish to practice some skills what would you say are at the top of the list? My thoughts would be: 1) STFU STFU and you 2) Game 60DOD_game & practicing conversations with strangers. 3) Fogging Of course you do 4) Agree & Amplify, Amused Mastery read WISNIFG
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 05:20 PM
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Johney careful or you might end up with JCX_Pulse's flair! Who wouldn't love you!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 04:29 PM
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We keep daring them to fail. And they don't. I keep daring her to succeed. And she doesn't. I suppose the question is how long do I allow that to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 08:23 PM
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I read it when you wrote it and just re-read it. 100% on point. That's what's been holding me back. From the post: willing to say, "Look cavewoman. You ain't cutting it. I'm going to give you first shot here - but if shit doesn't change to meet my needs, I'm going to the line of cavebitches outside to get what I need. No hard feelings. That's where I'm at. I'm turning up the pressure and working my way out. I hope she stops me on the way, but if she doesn't I'm out. Your woman will become selfis…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 05:36 PM
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I can't believe I'm about to give this advice... but you need to work up the dread levels. Just please for the love of God be aware of the covert contract. I think this advice is on point for my situation. When I first arrived, years ago, before I started posting my OYS I dove head first into 12 L of Dread. Sweet a road map! Just what I was looking for. Didn't work. Why? Gigantic Covert contract. Doing it for her and her alone. I recently read the post saying the same thing, I learned the hard w…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 05:35 PM
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But will it be what you want? Do you even know how to search for and elicit that? What I really want is for that 1000' rope to tighten up and my wife and family to come along. This is what's holding me back. I've been waiting and hoping for that one outcome. I'm beginning to come to terms with the possibility that option just doesn't exist for me. I'm trying (with maximum effort) to internalize that the stay plan is the go plan. As a family man with family values, I'm struggling. It's a limiting…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 02:29 PM
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It's not unusual for sex to lull and be weaponized around this time from what I've seen. I'm leaning toward the simpler explanation that she's just not attracted to me, but maybe that's Rambo talking. My old thought process was that she must have a low libido, she's saying all the right things. I no longer subscribe to that explanation. Had to look up push/pull to develop an understanding. Are you playing push/pull well? Or are you all push? All push. Spent over a decade in pull mode. I naturall…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 11:11 PM
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I think it's time you get back to reading. No idea why you're not. Johney and 3kindsofLucky suggested I clear my head up about 3 weeks ago. Basic recommendation was my head was (is?) filled with all kinds of craziness and I'm tripping over my own BS. I have felt more clear headed since I paused. you couldn't actually get your needs met elsewhere I think I could. Maybe I'm lying to myself. My problem is I dug myself a big ass hole with a bunch of Blue Pill oneitis behaviors over the course of yea…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 09:43 PM
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I suppose I could, but I prefer not to. #1, when I'm at home I've got better things to do than fritter away my time on technology. #2, I'd prefer not to talk about fight club 100%. I'll admit that my frame probably is questionable as to how it would handle a "what is MRP" conversation, especially given my tentative situation. I see no upside to posting at home. I'm pretty sure the majority of dudes who don't have their shit on lock down are in the same place.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 04:31 PM
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But SBIII, you should wear a mask outside to protect me and my feelz! Maybe you could stay home for 6 weeks (or months), so I can feel more secure too? Give up all your personal liberty for me, is that too much to ask?
/r/askMRP22/09/20 03:30 PM
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The British Cigarettes sitting at home are afraid to post in front of their wives. This particular "Brit Cig" is able to go to work and thus continue posting. I don't have the frame to explain MRP Reddit to my wife; I'd venture I'm ahead of many in that regard and it's still not remotely in consideration. I don't talk about fight club. That's how I would explain a lot of the inactivity. Imagine the regression going on out there for these poor saps.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 03:11 PM
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OYS #31: Stats: Age 43, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Lifts: Squat 5x5, 285#, Deadlift 1X5 285#, Row 5X5 185, OHP 5X5 125#, BP 155# X5. I fucking killed it in the gym my last two workouts. Just crushed it, I feel like a beast. Bench Press is slowly progressing. Continue with scapular work. Squats were crushed. Sex: Zero. Pump hasn’t been primed in nearly a month. Initiation: Yes 20/21 weeks. I’m working on elimina…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 03:04 PM
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Am I the only one having trouble sorting thru Discord? Is it all live chat and videos?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 08:47 PM
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I think TDEE is about 2800 calories. I haven't been weighting and measuring, but in addition to lifting heavy; I've been eating heavy. No legitimate calorie count, but I'm I'm sure it's 4K plus. My "cut" isn't very sophisticated, I'm skipping breakfast on non-work out days, eating smaller portions, and limiting snacks. No protein bars on off days either. I'm hungry all the time at this point. Any fat should melt quickly. I've got a great metabolism, always considered myself a hard gainer. Probab…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 08:32 PM
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I'll check out Barbbell Logic. Can't hurt. Thanks for the lead. add weight until I hurt myself or ground myself into dust That's basically where I'm at. I'm motivated to keep going, but progress has slowed, I'm tired, and getting injured. Gotta work smarter at this point. Point taken on the cut, but it's time. I need a break from stuffing my face and eating an entire pizza. Lifts are stalled anyway. I think the minor reduction to my overall strength won't damage my lifts too much. At this point,…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 08:00 PM
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I wasn't very familiar with Rack Pulls, so I googled it. I understand the movement. What's the purpose (reasoning or advantage)? Most of what I read was based on a sticking point. My biggest issue is strength of the initial pull. Secondary issue is strains at the top of the pull. Ie. I'll strain an ab muscle near lock out on very challenging sets sometimes. Grip is also starting to cause problems. Not sure what's holding me back from contacting a strength coach, seems like a great idea. Guess I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 10:45 PM
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That one is hilarious. Does he get added to the ILYBINILW list too?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 10:22 PM
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My daily life does not revolve around her. Too bad OP's banned for life, maybe he would have caught the Key in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 10:12 PM
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I think the back pain and other nagging injuries were caused by a combo a rough youth and too much sitting with bad posture. I do a yoga routine once or twice weekly, sometimes it helps, other times it tweaks the back more. Probably beneficial overall. "I didn't notice" would be a great way to start a lengthy DEER session about what I am and am not able to see. She's the anxious type, typically the best play is to not engage.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 10:07 PM
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I was checked late last year. I forget the specific #'s, but it was well above normal. I was actually disappointed, who doesn't love a quick fix. I'll get re-checked at my next physical, but it doesn't appear to be an issue. The deadlift's most likely stuck due to the combo of back pain and less than ideal form. Bad posture contributes to the back and scapular issues. I'm working on it diligently. Seeing a Chiro/PT and religiously performing the PT exercises.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 09:51 PM
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if she was fucking you like a porn star, would you feel the same way? The only honest answer to that is no. I'm pissed because my Dancing Monkey covert contract isn't working. I get it. I just don't know what to do about it. It's become pretty clear she's not really all that attracted to me. I've got options, not in the immediate sense, but I'm sure it wouldn't be that tough. I can't escape the mentality of hoping she'd come along. I'm basically ready to move on. I'm left with 3 options, stay, g…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 09:47 PM
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They're calling our bluff and probably right. They're calling our bluff and probably right dead wrong! Fixed it for mine. 6 months ago you were right, but I've come to the crossroads.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 08:45 PM
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I've put a full pause on Red Pill Theory Reading. Makes sense to me to free up time and clear my head. I'm reading Bigger, Leaner, Stronger for enjoyment and knowledge. It's timely too because I'm doing a shift from Strong Lifts to a different program. I probably only spent 45 minutes reading this week, so that's not a great excuse for not "doing". I've been pretty busy with my extracurricular activities lately. I do need to make a point of scheduling/including more things simply because they ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 05:59 PM
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OYS #30: Stats: Age 43, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Lifts: Squat 5x5, 285#, Deadlift 1X5 285#, Row 5X5 185, OHP 5X5 125#, BP 145# X5, still bad. Continue with scapular work. My deadlift is stuck, I’ll read up on ways to progress. Initial thought is more volume. I squat 3X weekly (15 sets), while DL is prescribed as one set 1X weekly in SL, time to move on. Probably need to perform a form check too. Maybe, see a …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 05:41 PM
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I can be very judgmental of people in my head, maybe I’ve brought that from childhood I think I used that as a way to cope, I am trying to change that though and be more open to people and who they are. This is quality introspection here. Now what are you going to do with this revelation?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/20 11:33 PM
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Today she told me she enjoyed giving head to her kids father and not me. And if I wanted that then I needed to act more like him. Ouch, that's some of the worst shit I've ever read on her. I'd fucking leave her ass ASAP if I was you, but your call. Where's YOUR OYS? Read the sidebar, do the work. Don't let anyone disrespect you like that, ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/20 11:30 PM
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afaik, there are protected plants in the USA. Not where I'm from. Must be in California. I'm leaning more toward Tyred's point. Even most BP guys wouldn't tolerated that kind of BS.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/20 11:13 PM
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Cool story, not sure what the point was though. wild flowers he has just picked. (Was legal back then.) Jesus Christ, what kind of country do you live in where picking flowers is outlawed? Jeez.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 05:14 PM
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My recommendation is too continue eating a surplus and get whatever lifting or body weight work in that you can. Run Sprints, lift rocks, do push ups, do pistol squats, buy some 5 lb weights, that might be enough anyway. "simply maintain" is code for "quit trying". Is the situation ideal? No. So are you going to quit or try? I'm guessing from your DEER response the answer is quit.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 05:04 PM
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Steels_guide_to_married_red_pill It's all right there. If anything it's too detailed and hold's your hand too much. It also take about a month to read all the links. Do you know how I know? Point is you have to do the work, it sucks, it's work, but if they aren't willing to read some shit on Reddit to fix their fucked up lives they will really shrivel when it comes time to actually implement this shit. That's the hard part.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 11:59 PM
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you think it's all about fixing your life but it's about fixing YOU Second this. The deeper I get into this the more I realize that I need fixing. Initially I was looking for tips, tricks, or a really good Dancing Monkey Attraction Plan. That's not how it works. I am looking to find a woman to settle down with and raise a family Easy Champ, take some time to get yourself strait first. Read up on Oneitis. You've got it an you haven't even met her yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 11:50 PM
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6'8". Wt 176 lbs. BF 14%. I've decided to simply maintain rather than bulk for the time being. WTF? Your 6'8"! Why are you OK with 176lbs. scrawny? I'm 6'2", I weigh more than you, and people constantly mention how thin I am. You must be really skinny. Eat More! At least try to improve. Are you saying that because you think you can't bulk?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 11:43 PM
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#Worst Flair Ever
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 11:37 PM
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Good choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 08:21 PM
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OYS #30: Stats: Age 43, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. No scale, I think the weight is up and the BF% is down, but I’ll have to either get a scale or borrow one. Lifts: Squat 5x5, 275#, Deadlift 1X5 285#, Row 5X5 185, OHP 5X5 125#, BP 145# X5, still bad. Scapular work is paying off, so far I’ve been able to increase my Bench Press without too much shoulder pain. Heading to the warehouse Gym on Labor day was a nice …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 08:17 PM
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This is an excellent primer on developing frame. It happens over time. Be patient, trust the process, and do the work. Eloquently written post! Especially timely for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 04:45 PM
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Pretty much. I've been lying to myself or at least looking the other way up to now. It's been a "stay" plan. Realistically the stay plan has been a gigantic covert contract that said if I improved enough the relationship would be fixed in the process. I'm just coming to terms with the fact that the "go" plan is the more likely option at this point. Deep down I don't want the "go" plan and I'm struggling to surrender on the stay plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 10:53 PM
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I knew when I wrote it that someone would call me on it. I called myself on it, I see the excuses. I know that I "deserve" what I get, I also "feel" like I deserve more. My feelz aren't really important except that I recognize they are holding me back. That's why I left it in, it's there whether I admit it or not. You don't want it. You just kinda want it. I understand where you are going with this, but I do want it. In an unhealthy all consuming kind of way. Getting rid of my anger and ego is h…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 06:59 PM
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It's suppose to be fun. Go, live, and see what happens ... you might actually enjoy yourself. Seems logical and easy. It used to be easy, for some reason I struggle, doesn't sound that hard to have fun, but here I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 06:47 PM
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I'll give it a shot. I'm willing to try virtually anything at this point. I'm stuck in the mud. Can't seem to move forward. I'm willing to do anything at this point except for accepting the status quo. I figure planning on killing the puppy might get my mindset in a better position than it currently sits. I've been approaching everything with the goal to save my marriage. It is so ingrained that it will take drastic measures for me to undo this mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 06:45 PM
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Nice first step. See you next week!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:27 PM
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+1
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:23 PM
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And that's just red-sfpplus
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:22 PM
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Cheers!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:15 PM
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OYS #29: Return from exile edition: Last OYS, I got banned for Rule 9. Over the months more and more “She” creeped into my OYS. Let’s be real, it’s about her, it’s always been about her. The whole MAP, mission, process has been a gigantic covert contract to get my wife to have sex with me. I’ve been a dancing monkey and I’ve known it and pointed it out repeatedly along the way. Obviously, I need a mindset revision. So here’s the game plan: The Go Plan is the Stay Plan: I’ve got that backwards? T…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:14 PM
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OYS #28: exile edition #1 Stats: Age 43, Wife 40. Married 15 years, kids 6’2”, 184 lbs. 13% Navy Method. Working on MRP over 3 years, OYS since December. Lifts: Squat 5x5, 255#, Deadlift 1X5 275#, Row 5X5 155, OHP 5X5 115#, BP 130#, still bad. I’m loving being back at lifting, it changes everything. My back’s been rough and my shoulder impingement is creeping back in. I really wish I could just lift heavy without complications. I need the outlet, backing off weights sucks and stops progress. Sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:05 PM
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Don't do it. You aren't ready, you might never be ready. Normally I wouldn't comment on a post with so little personal effort put it, BUT this is a big moment in your life. If you go thru with it now you'll regret it forever! Just tell her you aren't ready to get married yet and see what happens, it won't be pretty, she'll be angry. The alternative is decades of misery and regret. Have the uncomfortable conversation. Just say, "I've been thinking... I'm not ready to get married" She'll ask "Why"…
/r/askMRP14/08/20 05:31 PM
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Yeah, maybe sidebar and lift.
/r/askMRP14/08/20 05:11 PM
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Do it! And STFU!
/r/askMRP12/08/20 07:43 PM
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Good point. My covert contract on my liability is that I will undo my years of beta behavior with a change in my behavior. I don't owe her anything, I'm doing it for me, so I suppose I've mostly unpacked the covert contracts on this one. I think awareness is a huge step in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 05:28 PM
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In the moment I was thinking "your not dragging me into your covert contract". Too many years of reinforcing bad mental models makes me partially liable for her Covert Contract. Sadly, I've probably given her good reason to believe she's struck a deal. You can bet I won't be making breakfast the morning after next time, just in case. Old me probably would have tried to negotiate a sex for breakfast deal moving forward. Yuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 10:45 PM
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Well, I made a couple of mistakes. Sticking around was one, but the bigger one was engaging. Had I just STFU and continued about doing what I was in the middle of the whole affair would have blown over in under 60 seconds. Since I choose to get involved it drug on and on. My fault. Lesson re-learned. When I initially started working on STFU I was using it to buy time to GTFO and leave the scene. Now I typically just ignore the mouth noises or make an occasional grunt or "I see" comment if I'm in…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 10:26 PM
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Great, I look forward to the next update. Won't happen overnight, but you need to work on increasing those weights over time. Highly recommended to OYS report your program choice, SL5X5 or otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 10:21 PM
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I'm about to patent amused STFU. It's amazing really when you stop talking and stop thinking about what to say, how amusing the entire one-sided conversation can be. I'm so much more perceptive now that I'm not looking for a witty quip all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 10:17 PM
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I was able to Prime the Pump a little last night and it was well received as usual. Now it's up to me to continue priming the pump more frequently and not let my shitty game and bad initiations get in the way of having a better sex life.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 05:40 PM
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Keep moving forward, obviously I've got my own issues, but sometimes you can see others more clearly. The time has come to shift your mental model away from being angry (at things like an "anniversary"), you are ready to make the shift and look forward (or to Now). It's a decision. It's time for you to decide to actually move on. The sands are running thru the hour glass either way. You are ready! In this example decide what you'd like your anniversary to look like and then make it so. Want it t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 05:38 PM
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I started saying it to myself in my head Ask her to do something for you. Will implement both.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 04:54 PM
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Thanks, helpful comment. Sometimes, I'm just not feeling it. I've been feeling like implementing more AA & AM is the "next step", but really STFU just works with my personality most times.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 04:37 PM
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fear of what might be next for me. It's all up hill from here for you. Do the work, lift, side bar, STFU. Make plans for your life with out your wife. Your situation is more jacked up than most; you should find this freeing, she switched rooms, you are free to do as you please.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 04:33 PM
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Not fapping makes me less docile, hornier and makes me cum much quicker when I actually fuck. Still better than being drained every day from fapping, so when you actually get to fuck, you take forever to finish and it just gets embarassing. I used to engage in "tactical fapping", ie jerking off when I was kinda sure there would be no fucking anyway, so I wouldn't shoot too quick just in case I got lucky the next day. No more. The goal is to fuck almost as often as I used to fap. PE shouldn't be …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 04:24 PM
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