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And im the same, but i can emphatize with others who can't
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:44 PM
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Stooping to their level and generalizing in the other direction is disingenuous
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:27 AM
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Or just someone who's willing to go on a date and find out if they're actually compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:50 AM
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Correction: "most men have disdain for pseudoscience regardless of the demographic that believes in it"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:23 PM
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It'd be one thing seeing it from a historical perspective, but legitimately believing pseudoscience isn't something i'd consider respectable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:07 PM
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I could say the same thing about believing the earth is flat
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:56 AM
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As long as she doesnt have a beard/mustache and also basic hygiene, i dont care. Hell, i think women should keep their armpit hair cuz its functional.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 03:34 AM
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Not to mention, purchasing power has decreased, which prevents more ppl from having enough disposable income to go to festivels, events, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:03 AM
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It'd be more accurate to say politicians or the rich than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:01 AM
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Im on the same boat
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:56 PM
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This is probably the most useful from that study since the median is better at ignoring outliers The authors of a 2019 articleTrusted Source found that the median number of times people who were cohabiting or married had sex was three times per month. Married or cohabitating couples are more likely to have sex more often than people who are single, divorced, or widowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:28 AM
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There is a need, just not for you it seems. A lot of people want to date others with the same values as they have, and if this type of investigation helps filter out people who don't have the same values, thats good on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:10 AM
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Many women who do not want to physically give birth may also like this option with their partner
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:31 AM
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The majority of women on old i have seen have wanted hookups. I know studies say men partake more than women and also that its overall declined for both genders. So im lead to believe more people are just not trying to date or hookup at all and the ones that are tend to lean on the hookup side.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:58 AM
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The problem is ppl having tht requirement when they themselves don't meet it. This goes for anything, really
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:08 PM
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Im sorry you had to go through that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:27 AM
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I also agree that external influences do have an effect on who we find attractive or what we're comfortable with. It's why more representation in media is a good thing, and if we only showed a specific type of person as being desirable, that will influence both men and women's preferences as well, especially when they're younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:54 PM
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What do you mean by training?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:58 AM
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Id say skip the wedding or have a small one and spend more on the honeymoon. Weddings are personally meaningless to me. Same thing with things like graduation ceremonies imo. They dont do anything for me and only reason i would take part is for other ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 10:52 AM
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What we need more of is empathy. No one likes their experience being invalidated even if the general trends dont reflect their experience. I personally try not to make broad statements because I understand that the ppl itll hurt the most are the ones it doesnt apply to and are stuck with the label.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 07:23 PM
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It definitely helps provide more context, such as possible interpretation of data. I'd say not having any data is probably better than using bad or cherry-picked data to support your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 07:15 PM
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I think theres 2 main considerations Power dynamics Risk vs. reward For 1, a manager making moves on a subordinate or vice versa will likely create problems, and im sure there are other power dynamics for whoever is in charge and can fire the other person. Not to mention the risk of special treatment which the company wouldn't like For 2, if you're working as a general fast food worker, there isn't too much risk since there are generally a lot of job openings. However, if its a dificult to get t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:43 AM
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I remember reading the stats on gender pay gap for the US and SK. In the US, if you account for same hours worked, same job, and same experience, the pay is almost identical (98 cents for every dollar earned by men). In SK, even after accounting for it, women earned around 80% of what men earned. So, i think it makes sense for a womens movement to promote equal pay, negotiating skills, etc in SK and if thats what the feminist movement there promotes, im for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 07:11 PM
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cause damage to the social order By doing what?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 06:09 PM
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Work if you want to risk your job Crossfit if you want to join a cult. The other ones like the gym and rock climbing are usually fine tho but its a mixed bag for asking someone out. Volunteering and festivals are probably fine. Board Game Cafes and trivia may be alright depending on the ppl and costs. Also have to consider if theyre even available nearby.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:59 AM
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This sounds like a chatgpt response
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:58 AM
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I dont think the same people who believe in 1 believe in the other as well. If they do, i agree that they are hypocritical
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 07:55 AM
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If the guy is unemployed or low-income, theyre going to be ignored for better options in a bad economy because they are risky
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 07:58 AM
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Yeah, i don't separate sex from love and could not date someone that does
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 08:08 AM
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Good good, Let the hate flow through you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:57 AM
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In this economy, #3 could be asking for a lot, especially for men still in school or early career
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:54 AM
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I've never dated. I have tried dating apps but never even got 1 like lol. I've been clear I dont want hookups since im only interested in something serious, and that's probably disadvantageous for me, but Im not going to change values that are important to me. I'm probably going to have better chances in person but I've decided that I want to focus more on my own growth right now so its not that im giving up as much as im pushing it back since its not a priority. My main focus is my career and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:05 AM
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I do like playing around with chatGPT, but take what it says with a grain of salt because it can be pretty inaccurate, which makes sense since it's limited to trained data and can't access the internet. Also, just by framing questions a certain way, it will definitely give wrong answers, especially when you ask it how it reached its conclusion step by step.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:19 AM
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Rock paper scissors. If its a tie, youre together now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:01 AM
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I think thats fair since we can only have so many close friends logistically speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:32 PM
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Just providing some stats for the US if anyone was interested. Keep in mind this is for married people, not all ppl in relationships: In general, men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey(GSS). But this varies by age Among ever-married adults ages 18 to 29, women are slightly more likely than men to be guilty of infidelity (11% vs. 1…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 02:39 AM
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Honestly, a lot of comments here are from people who need therapy, both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:53 AM
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As I see it even an immoral war, it's an obligation. At what point does the moral obligation kick in? If you have family on the other side?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 04:11 AM
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Basically, they see women as only a means to an end, that is, to get sex. They do not care about her enjoyment or wants/needs. If she wants a relationship, he'll be opportunistic and lead her on just to have sex. The reverse also does occur with promiscuous women leading men on. Generally, younger folk will do this because they havent matured but it carries on into adulthood for many since the behavior is rewarded, hence why I'm reluctant to generalize just young people or virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:15 PM
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Its always the people that only care about sex when it comes to women and nothing else regardless of whether they are a virgin, younger or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 05:04 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:35 AM
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Best take on PPD so far. But then again, a lot of ppl here just care about sex and not LTRs so im not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:35 AM
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My bad, didn't notice the tag. Also is "Automod, please" a bot command or something or are you telling me to reply to automod?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 08:42 PM
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You dodged a huge bullet
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:51 PM
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Like not losing potential mates
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:15 AM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:27 AM
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an interest in adhering to "traditional gender roles" "Traditional gender roles expected differences in roles for men and women: men should be responsible for livelihood, therefore are more likely to be assigned work-related roles; women should be responsible for the family, therefore are more likely to be assigned domestic roles. Egalitarian perceptions hold that roles should not be segregated by gender. Men and women might hold equal roles at work as well as at home. Transitional perceptions l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:28 PM
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I dont drink anymore cause im trying to lose my belly No need to diss books bro. I dont usually watch sports though because I prefer playing but I get the appeal, just not for me. Fighting should be a last resort. I've seen too many people end up with brain damage because they were baited into a fight. It just burdens family and friends when your the injured one and need taking care of so you have to choose your battles wisely. Deescalate when possible, stand your ground if theyre threatening so…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:38 AM
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Honestly, people just don't introduce their friends/acquaintances to each other often enough anymore despite the fact that it makes for a better relationship due to being in the same circles. Only downside is if they break up which imo is one of the reasons ppl are reluctant to do so. I think you're doing enough though. On the other hand, there is a stigma against people who are virgins which likely makes them insecure and more likely to stay single. Hard to destigmatize as an individial but you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:15 AM
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I do not wish to be horny anymore, i just want to be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:04 AM
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By high IQ, do you mean above average? The bell curve for men amd women's IQ is nearly identical so regardless of your orientation, you would be immediately reducing your pool by half. Not saying thats a bad thing necessarily. Just for fun, here are some stats on people who are looking for relationships vs something casual in the US and education: 31% of adults are single which is split evenly between men and women although only 29% of people who are straight are single. depending on demographic…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:38 PM
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Id say its not men or women who have control. Its big business, politicians, and the rich who do and theyll take advantage of any social norm to make sure their pockets are full. We're all just commodities tricked into blaming each other because we're modeling social issues only through the lens of gender. The typical man is not in control and framing it as if they were would only serve to antagonize them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:07 AM
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This is why I cant agree with most "feminists." They reframe everything to blame men rather than acknowledging there are multiple causes perpetuating bad behavior. I will also never take the term "toxic masculinity" or "patriarchy" seriously unless they are an academic using it appropriately which most laypeople dont do and instead use it as a buzzword to mean "men bad"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:54 PM
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Most recent example I saw was someone talking about how men can get dejected if they don't "get" a relationship. And a commenter swooped in and pounced on that "get" by saying "HAH! You reveal your true feelings, this is why you guys don't get girlfriends, because you think partners are something to be owned". Would it be strawmanning or is there a more appropriate word for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 10:23 PM
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Median is a better measure of center when it comes to large outliers. Not sure what the data says though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 09:23 PM
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Same, i dont value promiscuity and do not seperate sex from love. Im not interested in changing other peoples values or my own so these "debates" dont really matter to me although i hate the generalizations being made.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 09:16 PM
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Yeah, i guess its just safer to not get married then
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:05 PM
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Thats fair, but I think there are a lot of single people more capable of raising a child well than we generally assume without it turning into a "broken home". I would hope that they can be vetted well enough so a situation like yours doesnt occur. So yeah, a focus on stability as you said makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:39 AM
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Theres definetely a stigma but with increase of single households i think its going to be more normalized although I think it should already be accepted for families that live in a single household since grandparents can help out as they would normally. I do think that non-traditional family structures can also provide the love and stability that children need.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:31 AM
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For adoption, id say 1 parent is better than none. For surrogacy, im leaning they shouldnt do it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:17 AM
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Im inclined to agree except in the case of adoption. If this guy can actually take care of a kid and be responsible then that kid will fare a lot better than being in an orphanage or fostered by parents who just want the money involved. Wanting to be a parent isnt a bad reason and im sure there would be background and house checks to ensure they are fit for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:15 AM
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Probably prenup which a lot of women dont like because then "you dont believe the relationship will last." If you dont agree on it now, you probably wont later and then the courts will make that decision for you which will probably drag out costing both parties even more due to attorney fees. Its not a romantic thing to talk about but its necessary for a mature relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 05:01 AM
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I think its the fact that you didnt mention the 1/3rd rate of abuse is mostly from a partner, not random people. There are also other assumptions being made here so you're going to have to take that 6% with a heavy grain of salt. Estimates published by WHO indicate that globally about 1 in 3 (30%) of women worldwide have been subjected to either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime. Most of this violence is intimate partner violence. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:49 AM
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Neither gender is a monolith. This thread is full of people who are against promiscuous behavior for both men and women. Whats wrong with non-promiscuous people trying to date each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:33 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 11:05 PM
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Thats pretty damn ableist.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:48 PM
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You have been omniliberal pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 08:29 PM
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And invasive thoughts arent you, they just come and go. Your are the thoughts that you acknowledge and the actions you take.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:10 PM
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Depends on your values and people you're regularly exposed to. But regardless, theres not much actionable advice apart from being constantly paranoid which isnt great. Bare minimum, you need a good filter and good communication about boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:03 PM
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As a man, i wouldnt want to have sex until i know the other person is commited to a LTR with me so waiting until after we go through several dates and decide we're compatible, our world views align, etc makes sense. If a woman thinks the same as me, they would view someone who wants early sex as incompatible, which is fine. Go find someone who will readily have sex with you instead of pressuring people to change their values. On the otherhand, if theyre being hypocritical in their values or inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:19 AM
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Shadowboxing or heavybag workouts, hiking, riding bike or skateboard, practicing volleyball spikes against a wall (or tenis, etc.), any body weight workouts...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:18 AM
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The term often implies either a lifelong socially monogamous relationship or a stage of mating interaction in socially monogamous species Of course, humans do have nonmonogomous relationships so pair bonding is only applicable to studies that look at monogomous relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:19 AM
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And guys are told by society that theyre value goes down if theyre a part of a "sausage fest"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:16 AM
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Im a dude and my friend (also a dude) was used for sex when he wanted a relationship. So yea, i definetely understand not wanting to have sex on the first couple dates and waiting for the relationship to be moreso exclusive. Otherwise, opportunistic ppl lie about wanting a relationship when they really just wanted a hookup. This way, they usually just leave for soneone else who's more willing to have sex immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 06:45 PM
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You think there is no biological basis to dating/sexual norms? I never said that there is none. Fortunately we're an intelligent species that can reflect on what we want and change our behavior to get it rather than defaulting to our base instincts. Of course, we still have societal pressures constraining our autonomy. Why would humans be the one and only exception? They are not. Its rare for the opposite but not nonexistant in nature. See Phlaropes, seahorses, etc. Regardless, this is all just …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:30 AM
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Men are usually the initiator becase of gender roles assigned by society but society is changing and women who dont want to initiate are just not communicating what they want which is a huge disadvantage as most men value transparency instead of relying on assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 11:22 PM
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What is pink pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:24 AM
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She might not be comfortable with tht. I think the rating is good enough as long as you take it with some grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 01:11 AM
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A women sided with you against another woman therefore internalized misogony /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 08:41 PM
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The disadvantage occurs when nonpromiscuous women get with promiscuous men who already have expectations from previous experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 07:03 PM
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