UselessCynicism Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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-1	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. While I agree that your two points are probably the reason in a lot of the cases, I assume it could also be that the women is really insecure and (or maybe even because) her partner is really attractive, so proposing an open relationship gives her some feeling of beeing in controll. But I agree that one should just break up, if their partner suggests it. In every case its just gonna bring drama.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 03:55 PM
1	Ladies, be honest: is a guy wearing apple watch/smart watch a turn off on a first dates? I never really thought about that, and for me it seems somewhat trivial, but I also tend to overthink things that others think of as trivial, so I will answer it seriously. I personally would say that it neither would turn me off nor would turn me on, at least not in any sexual sense. I assume if I would pay attention to him wearing a smartwatch or not, it would either give me a positive or a neutral impression, depending on why he wears it. Like if he would wear it to get reminded of his tasks …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 12:54 PM
1	Women claim to be into personality but judge everything Not that I don't believe you, I mean it's clear that some women on Tinder are that naive (remember the Brad Pitt scam), but if you have one, I'd still like to see the source for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 08:14 AM
11	Women claim to be into personality but judge everything I don't think my opinion should be dismissed on the virtue of whether i like a pretty woman or not. But regardless of whether you think it should be that way or not, it relativizes your opinion to some extend. If you wouldn't date an ugly 40-year-old woman with a body shape of an inverted triangle (no butt/no hips, high WtH ratio, average breasts, but broad shoulders like a man), then your last sentence about men accepting women wholeheartedly would be a lie. I'm not like 60 years old so a 25 ye…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 07:58 AM
16	What's One Thing you Like About the Opposite Sex Your facial hair. Not just beards but also that most men have nice, full eyebrows and eyelashes. They give your faces a nice contrast and make your eyes appear deeper.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 05:02 AM
5	Why don't women just use a chore chart in the home? Funny that you suggest that. I actually do keep track of household chores on a board. My household chores. I have sometimes a hard time to remember what I have to do. This became especially clear to me when my partner told me that he often feels like he has to remind me to do things or do them himself. So I started to look for things that helped other people in my situation and put a magnetic whiteboard on the wall of my room. But I didn’t put the responsibility onto him to find a solution for m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/26 03:10 AM
1	Why don't women just use a chore chart in the home? expect give them money during the dating stage (paying for their meals) You don’t give them money. You give money to someone else, which is then used to pay someone to make a meal for you and the woman. At most, you could say that you spend money on her, but you are not giving it to her. Besides that, at least in my experience, most men insist on paying for the woman’s meal or drink on a date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/26 01:57 AM
4	Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid. I wanted to make sure that you don’t think telling someone to “man up” is a valid way to address the fears and trauma of men. Due to the way you didn’t format your reply I thought there may be a direct connection between the two of your sentences had and you may think thats the case. Since you agreed with me on the fact that thats not the case, there is nothing left to debate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 03:19 PM
10	Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid. But that just leads to the man hiding their fear insteat of losing or overcoming it, doesn't it? Isn't that the problem with the whole “man up” thing?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 02:26 PM
1	Is it ok to hate women who do not understand men? I honestly think it's wrong to actively resent a group or even hate them because they don't fully understand another group. It’s different if someone just ignores or even invalidates the experience of other people or if they just don’t care. In that case, I can understand why you would feel resentment towards them. The same goes for women who think men are not understanding because they are not willing and are doing it out of ill intent and uses this as a reason for treating men worse than women…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 11:39 AM
–	Why be a single mom? It’s very easy to tell if a man would be a bad father, or even absent How? I don't have that much experience with men and I don't have children. So I really don't know what clear signs indicate that a man would be a bad father. Besides him literally saying that he doesn’t want kids or things like being a drug addict, of course. Like especially if it is the first child, how can you predict how they act?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 11:43 PM
14	Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated? Why would a woman who is into vintage car restoration talk about their negative impact on the environment, and why would a woman who enjoys riding motorcycles get upset about how dangerous it is? That would be like me watching “Predator” and then getting mad that there’s too much action and guns. Or are you talking about women who have heard about these things but are not actually interested in doing them as a hobby?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 09:42 PM
2	Women wouldn't hate men so much if they were attracted to them I have a coworker whose ex-girlfriend apparently tried to set his house (or rather, his father's house) on fire. What stopped her was the police, because she had told a friend, who then called the police, so they were already waiting at his house. He said he only woke up due to the flashing police lights outside his window, after they had already taken her into custody. I'm telling this story because I think it doesn't matter what gender the person is when they try to set you and your house on f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 04:40 PM
8	Women wouldn't hate men so much if they were attracted to them Biologically, socially, statistically speaking, however way you wanna put it, my question wasn’t unreasonable to ask given the circumstances You can rationalise it as much as you want, but asking such a question a potential victim is incredible tactless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 03:25 PM
12	Women wouldn't hate men so much if they were attracted to them You do realise that your comment is an excellent example of victim shaming? Furthermore, although men have a higher potential for aggression, without provocation most men, just like women, do never feel such intense anger that they (attempt to or succesfully) murder people. And if they do, it is not only because of higher testosterone levels.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 03:16 PM
3	Why do women seem to not have many things to talk about? Most mens hobbies around me (and I worked only in men dominated fields) revolve around team and motor sports, cars, gym, gaming and cooking. Most womens hobbies around me are painting, sewing, baking, reading books, makeup and fashion. In my experience there is nearly no overlap in activities women like and those men like. So I actually wonder where you meet all these women who take on mens hobbies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 05:13 PM
1	How did you meet the last 5 guys you had sex with Work - meet him when we both were 17, had sex with him at 19 School - meet him when I was 20 and he was 22, had sex with him at 21 I’m 27 now and besides that I didn’t had sex with anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 11:32 AM
2	Q4W: Have you ever done anything romantic for anyone? My boyfriend likes it when I surprise him with cooking something, so I do this sometimes. Same with baking, mostly things with sourdough, which includes at least two days of planing. Sometimes I buy him gifts, like expensive bubble baths, because he prefers baths to showers. I hope these count as being romantic. And I’ve only done these things being in a relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 03:16 PM
1	What’s the common preference in modern dating for women , traditional roles or equal partnership? TLTR: For my country and my social circle, I would say: If you want children, opt for a more traditional relationship; if not, choose a more equal approach. From what I observed around me, it mostly depends on if the couple wants to have kids. If not, then they have more modern relationship dynamics. If they want kids, they mostly want a more traditional partnership. This observation is more or less unrelated to age. Also, most women with children around me still work at least part-time, with th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/25 03:37 PM
1	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? I’d wager the majority of women, even. Thats probably true. Nearly every one of my female and most of my male friends had their first time with their first partner and I also only had sex inside the 2 committed relationship I were/am in. Not that it really matters anymore since OPs already said that he actually wants a virgin even if he isn’t one himself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/25 01:40 PM
1	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? Yes. I wrote this comment before reading the OP's replies. It's a little disappointing that there are so many men who are hypocritical regarding this matter. It certainly won't make it any easier for OP to find what he's looking for. Especially since the fact that he already had sex will most likely cause him to get rejected by women who are still virgins due to their religion. And this group probably includes most of the attractive women in their mid/late twenties who are still virgins.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/25 01:32 PM
4	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? Looking for someone of either gender who hasn’t had sex by that age Why are you and so many others here talking about her having to be a virgin? Maybe I'm misunderstanding because English isn't my first language, but in his question, OP doesn't say she has to be a virgin, he talks only about LTR. He even wrote “ons and flirts/hook ups not counting so much”. Seriously, could someone explain it to me, because I've read his post five times and I'm so confused.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 12:30 PM
5	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? I assume your best changes to find such women is in church and some comments here confirm this assumption. And if I’ve understood it right, you don't necessarily want her to be a virgin, so I could also imagine that some women who studied something very time consuming, like medicine or law, fit your description. Simply because they didn't have time to have sexual relationships outside of casual. For the sake of transparency, I must add that the few women around me who are good looking and with w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 12:03 PM
2	Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One? No. I suppose I wouldn't mind being treated like a man if I were a man (I don't really know and will never find out, since I'm a woman), but if I were exactly the same person(especially physically), I would simply have the worst of both worlds.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 10:17 AM
-1	The lesbian divorce rate debunks a lot of the complaints wives have about their husbands Funny how women want marriage more than men Do you have a source for this claim? All research from recent years that I have seen has shown that men in general place much more priority on marriage than women, and that boys also consider marriage more important than girls.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/25 07:07 PM
30	Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them. men answering the same question tend to say things like “I just love her,” “I feel peaceful around her,” “she is herself,” “I am drawn to her.” The second answer isn’t even about her, but about how she makes him feel. The condition is that he feels peaceful. The last one says the condition is being drawn to her. That means most likely that she’s attractive to him. And most men are attracted to fit and thin women, so women staying fit and not eating too much is a condition. Also most men lie answ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 11:52 AM
1	Would you date a bi man? and 3. Yes Depends on what you mean with experimenting. But Probably No. Maybe I am wrong but I assume that most people who say they „experimented“ with their sexuality are promiscuous and did so in a causal way. For different reasons it makes me uncomfortable to imagine that my partner had a promiscuous past, regardless of the gender of the people he slept with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/25 01:00 PM
–	Q4W: Why do you think being a hive mind is a bad thing? On a list of most ridiculous questions I would put OPs closely behind „Why do men think being a human-purse is a bad thing?“, and „Why do women dislike it when I call them fuckable dishwashers?“	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/25 09:36 AM
2	What do women like about going out on a date? But even then, half of the answers wouldn't be this, since there are cultures where it isn’t as common to go to a restaurant for a first date. In my country it’s much more common to go on walking dates, because a restaurant is a bad choice for getting to know each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/25 02:01 AM
–	Q4W: Why do you want to marry and date men, given that the majority of women are not attracted to the male body? You are correct. Most women under his post commented that they were never aroused by a mens body alone, but not that they had never been aroused by a man in general. Many simply said that they need to have talked to a man before.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/25 11:03 PM
5	Male lonliness is self inflicted What's ignorant is assuming you women go through what we go through. Yeah, you are right, I don’t know what you go through, not you as an individual or your gender. I am neither a man nor am I black, I also don’t live in the US. But I have to ask what exactly qualifies you, a man, to say that you know what women are going through? You don't know what really being lonely is or knowing that the world is against you. I am a black man living in a gynocracy I am a autistic woman living in an ableist …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/25 01:14 AM
12	Male lonliness is self inflicted I don't disagree entirely. When you have friends, you obviously feel less lonely than when they don't have any relationship at all and it makes the time pass faster, but romantic relationships aren't just about sharing problems and doing things together. At least for me, it's just a different level of connection, and I don't think any platonic relationship could ever fully substitute for the lack of romantic love.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/25 11:50 PM
1	We need more two-way empathy, not sympathy it's always best to sandwich criticism with compliments I agree, I took part in some courses to improve my communication skills and there we also learned that to criticise someone, we should start with something positive, then say the things that need improvement, maybe even with a suggestion, and at the end say something positive. I think that works great if it’s about something specific (e.g. a presentation, one person or a workgroup). But I think in cases like the post that you are referencin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/25 03:30 PM
1	We need more two-way empathy, not sympathy I personally think less that it weakens my argument if I declare my empathy but that it seams performative, if that makes sense (like “I understand you, but [follows with a 300 word essay of reasons why the other person is wrong”). Even if I mean it honest it reads like it’s fake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/25 11:53 AM
1	Why do you guys insist that a woman's income and career doesn't matter, while also complaining about women "settling" for stable providers? Modern gender roles focus in women being worse in every single aspect that is not related to money, more mental illnesses, more demands, more hostility, more annoying, more loud, etc. I know that modern women are encouraged to be louder and that most of these are bad traits (hostility, annoying, demanding) but how do you think modern gender roles focus in women having these traits more? And isn’t it a good thing that women with mental illness get more often diagnosed and treated? I figure that h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/25 02:55 PM
1	Do you know what makes a good gf /wife? While there will be variation between specific things that individual men like, general speaking I think what makes a women a good girlfriend/wife for a man is that she adds something positive to his life and puts some effort into the relationship. A little more specifically I think a lot of men would say that a good gf/wife is supportive (that could be about his hobby’s, on a emotional level, with daily tasks, giving him a feeling of safety, financially, et cetera) should be attracted to him ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 02:48 PM
0	"Women are just as horny, they just have safety/shame issues" doesn't check out with women not being tormented by sexlessness. Or married men have more external reasons that motivate them internally (especially in the form of children) to be successful in their careers and stay healthy. However, it is probably a combination of the higher social value placed on married men, luck (due to genetics, but also the social class/family into which they were born), and internal motivation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/25 12:09 PM
1	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Wear make up But that won’t really help a man who is looking for a LTR. I know many women who wouldn’t even date a man who gets his nails professionally done, these women also won’t accept a man who does makeup, even if it’s just a little bit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 01:38 PM
-1	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Most of the things you listed only help women who search for something casual, since we have to take off our makeup, pushup bras and high heals. And in the case of a hookup men can also wear makeup (a little bit concealer and contouring) with investing the same amount of time and probably less money and they could also wear something like platformers (like Robert Downey jr. does it). But I have to agree about the part that it is much more work for men to reach a body that is generally seen as de…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 01:34 PM
3	Women are instructed to believed "all men bad" by other men I disagree, I think it’s just like when parents say that you shouldn’t talk to strangers. They hear bad things in the news and then they get worried. Or they remember how some of the other men/boys talked about women/girls and what they would like to do to them when they were the same age as their daughters. But I think a women should be really careful if said men calls it misandry to take precautions against the behaviour they would warn their girlfriend/daughters about (like not going out afte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/25 04:44 PM
1	If I could guarantee you that 1 out of every 40 guys you approach is your ideal man, would you start cold approaching? Why or why not? a 2.5% probability of finding your ideal man, does not guarantee that you find him in your random draw of 40 Of cours it does, since OP gave us his guarantee. Also he guaranteed that out of 40 men I approach one will be the ideal man and not that every man has a 1:40 possibility to be the one. So, if I only ever approach 40 men, one of them has to be the ideal men. And I only need one ideal man. Consequently I would never approch more then 40 men. Like obviously thats not how reality functions, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 07:02 PM
1	If I could guarantee you that 1 out of every 40 guys you approach is your ideal man, would you start cold approaching? Why or why not? Oh okay, I already felt like I got to far with the whole hypothetical situation while I was typing. the majority would reject you immediately (and sometimes very cruelly) I sometimes lack a bit of creativity, so what does cruel mean here? Would this only include verbal things and no physical attacts? Would it be something like men screaming through the entire train station, how arrogant I must be to even think that I'm good enough to end up with him? Or that his only response to my attempt to ap…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 04:31 PM
6	If I could guarantee you that 1 out of every 40 guys you approach is your ideal man, would you start cold approaching? Why or why not? If I would be single, It would depend on whether the majority of men who are not my ideal partner would just reject me or if I would have to meet them for a while to find out that they are not my Ideal partner. In the first case, sure. If it is the second case, I am not so sure, because for some reason I need a long time to find out if I'm really attracted to someone (In case of my Boyfriend it was 4 Months). So if I'm unlucky and the ideal man is the last one out of the 40 that would be a prett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 02:46 PM
11	Women are dependent upon strange men for their safety, security, and comfort Atleast she has another option? But does she really have that option? If any company provides its services to half of its customers without charging them, it will sooner or later go out of business. Perhaps that applies to the top of women in terms of attractiveness, but I at least don't know of any businessman who would provide services to an average woman in exchange for sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 09:41 AM
5	What do you think about the idea that most women won’t date a bisexual guy? Do you think it’s true? Tbh, I'm not sure, but I don't think it would make a difference. It's probably something similar to the way some men would never knowingly sleep with a trans woman, even if they don't want children or it's just for one night. It doesn't matter if she had her sex changed and her facial and body features have been surgically feminized. The woman could have been exactly his type initially and behave as feminine as she wants, it wouldn't change anything. The moment the men would find out she's MTF, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/25 11:26 AM
75	What do you think about the idea that most women won’t date a bisexual guy? Do you think it’s true? I know some women who say they wouldn't date a man who has had sex with another man. They say the problem isn't necessarily that these men are attracted to other men, but rather that they don't like the idea that their boyfriend had a penis inside him and that they would lose respect for him. I still can't quite understand the mental process behind this. The only thing I've noticed is that the same women also tend to have a problem with men showing “too much emotion” (whatever that means) and ge…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/25 08:34 AM