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RantUsually_lurks12/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 12:00 AM
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I went from 248 to 189. I ate mostly keto, and drank white monster’s and vodka, and went to the gym twice a day when I didn’t have my kids or a date. I’m up to 215 now about a year later and am eating normal, drinking less and only gym when I don’t have kids or my significant other around.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 03:34 PM
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File the report. I didn’t and it has cost me so much money, time with my kids, and I don’t know where my case will finally end still even though I’m divorced and moved on. If I had called when she broke things, hurt me, and allowed the kids to be hurt I wouldn’t have gone through all of this nearly as hard as it has been.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 06:57 AM
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I’ve been taking probiotics and that has helped a ton, I normally get pretty gassy mixing cheese and booze but that has helped a ton.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 04:21 PM
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I farted for the first time with my new gf kind of on accident a couple months in. It was loud. Like a shotgun blast. It was a combination of steak, pizza and appetizers mixed with a whole weekend of cocktails and sore Abs. The result was not smelly, but very loud. She laughed so hard she almost fell off her makeup chair. She’s a keeper so far :)
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 02:23 PM
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Because I needed it to continue to work which paid her spousal support and child support so it was in her best interest. A motorcycle is not a requirement though and may be considered different. I saw your other question as well- dating is fine, but if you go over the top and it gets blasted all over social media your ex may resent you and it may cause other issues. Be smart.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 06:14 PM
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I had to buy a car, it went fine.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:11 PM
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I think there is a tier list, sexual assault and a murder suicide combo I would put a little above just suicide but yes.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 05:32 PM
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Depends on your state of residence but both states I’ve dealt with this in, you can show proof of transaction to the department of child support and they accept it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 04:43 AM
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Don’t get a job. Delete this post. Keep your business and don’t leave.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 04:21 AM
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lol shut up.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 09:16 PM
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You should look up the child support laws in your area.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 01:35 PM
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If I quit the state will continue to charge the child support. First I will become homeless, then I will lose the custody I do have. Then my ex will either go homeless or move the kids in with her boyfriend. None of those things are on my okay list right now so I will keep showing up every day and stay at the top of my performance.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 04:23 AM
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I have two years before a child support change is possible, and that will likely establish too much history of payment for me to be able to lower my responsibilities.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 09:49 PM
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No, I took a high paying job that I hate when I was married to put my family in a better place. It was a job I was comfortable with because I could get us out of debt, make double payments on the house and build savings. Now that I am not married, I don’t want that. I want time to spend with my kids on my custody days. I want to travel more. Instead I’m stuck in a glass box or a metal box for 10-14 hours every day, because if I quit I will be held responsible for a child support bill that I cann…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 08:37 PM
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I am in this exact situation and the court has decided that my income prior to me leaving is what my responsibilities are calculated off of. I will be working in this shit hole for years.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 06:45 AM
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It’s 100% a thing. I even called my ex out on it when she started liking and sharing videos of absolute trash content dedicated to tearing down relationships instead of building them.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:15 PM
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Call a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 01:17 AM
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We were acquaintances for years, and shared memes somewhat regularly. A few weeks after me and my ex separated I noticed he had disappeared from my social media when I tried to send him a meme. Found out two days later he blocked me because they were hooking up. Oh well.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 04:52 PM
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Every situation is different. Radical acceptance of the other person being whatever the bad thing is and forgiving it one day at a time is what I’ve been trying. It’s hard.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 11:49 PM
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I struggled my first time as well. It took a lot of work and I was also very embarrassed. I was with the same woman for 11 years and I felt like I was cheating, felt guilty, and had some mental hang ups I had to work through. Made it happen the third try and have been doing good since then.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:06 PM
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I called every person I thought I had as a friend and most ignored my calls. It was not great. I got very drunk and had some very not okay thoughts. The next night I had sixteen people reach out and the support was overwhelming. I don’t know who spread the news but I went from Kurt Co-Blam to Superman over night when it came to support. I joined a gym, got my apartment cleaned up and decorated, and started chasing a new woman. Pretty soon I got more custody. Just had a fantastic weekend vacation…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 07:48 AM
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I have never experienced anxiety or similar related symptoms until my divorce began. It has been an absolute nightmare for me to have to learn to new coping mechanisms as a normally calm and confident man. I am now happy to be free of that woman and her horrible behaviors. The anxiety is getting less, and I have tools to deal with it. Check this out Stress video It was really frustrating to me because I was a business leader, a father, a husband and leader. She took it all away and made me dance…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 03:03 PM
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I just hit that point. It took a long time for me, years of emotional abuse and degradation added up. Finally I realize that person who used sex as tool to control me is actually an obese, animal hoarding slob and if we hadn’t been married I wouldn’t have taken a second look at her in public.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/25 02:34 AM
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Is it in your agreement that you split child care costs or can bill during your time as child care?
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 01:39 PM
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Exactly. We share pics of the kids all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 06:10 AM
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Yeah. Mine loved the “I am only reacting to you!” But would use the nuclear option in response to a minor issue.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 02:06 PM
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Ah yes. The angry wife stock phrase book is real I believe.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 02:03 PM
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Pros and cons list is where I would start.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 04:57 AM
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Enjoy yourself man!
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 06:44 PM
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Yeah I never wanted the divorce, until I was actually out and away from my ex. I wanted it to go back to how it was when things where good, but it was so many years of bad I didn’t even realize how crushed I was anymore. It’s better now for me. I just have to help them now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/25 06:36 PM
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My daughter keeps telling me to watch parent trap with her and she will show me how to fix us. Absolutely heartbreaking.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/25 05:41 PM
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I understand your frustration. But I probably would have just kept walking when you went on the walk.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 05:39 AM
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