VGIrises Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	Cooking for boyfriend. More often doesn’t mean daily or weekly even and it doesn’t mean he’s entitled to it whenever he wants it. I don’t see a problem with it and it’s a nice thing for a girlfriend to do. I would just be sure you cooking at his place doesn’t become the go-to norm for date nights.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/23 12:45 PM
5	Discussion: "Wife Privileges" Living together- that is the main thing that leads to acting like a wife. Seeing you daily, access to you and your body daily, having you care for him daily, always having you there for emotional support whenever he comes home, having food prepared and ready in the refrigerator, etc. I thinks it’s ok to cook once in a while, be intimate on moderation, do sweet things for him. Doing those things in moderation is what a girlfriend should be doing. But a regular or daily routine is what a wife prov…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/07/23 11:54 PM
3	How soon to cook? Whenever you feel like it is. There’s nothing saying you can’t cook at a certain stage of dating . You can plan a home date and cook. You can prepare a picnic for a date outside. You can prepare a dish or treat he likes and just drop it off to him as a just because gift.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/07/23 06:17 PM
3	Confused on who to “aim” for in LTRs Why not set yourself up to date a man you’re attracted to and have a connection with? Determine what is really important for you to have in a relationship, not the superficial stuff, but why you really need such a partnership. Then aim for men that can give you that. A man doesn’t have to be a HVM in order to treat you right, provide, shower you with gifts and affection, and experience an elevated life with you. Relationships are complicated enough and in my opinion it’s best to aim for someone …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/23 12:00 PM
5	Advice on how to motivate my man. Fascinating Womanhood and it’s sister book The Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood would recommend that you cut back on the jobs and give your bills piling up to your husband to take care of. Yes you both will struggle and will make sacrifices, initially, but the books says this is the way to motivate him to work. It’s drastic but i think it’s worth a try. If you are providing for your household he may not feel the urgency to step up and be a provider. Talking about your struggles in working multip…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/23 12:23 PM
–	Advice on how to motivate my man. Fascinating Womanhood and it’s sister book The Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood would recommend that you cut back on the jobs and give your bills piling up to your husband to take care of. Yes you both will struggle and will make sacrifices, initially, but the books says this is the way to motivate him to work. It’s drastic but i think it’s worth a try. If you are providing for your household he may not feel the urgency to step up and be a provider. Talking about your struggles in working multip…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/23 12:19 PM
1	What is a good career option for someone wanting to be a SAHM in the future? Real estate agent	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/23 12:16 PM
14	Photos of ex? I don’t approve. I feel it is immature and controlling. That’s his history, especially if they are pictures of them together. He isn’t broadcasting her, he broadcasted her in the past. He’s not actively putting her in people’s faces. People have pasts and it’s normal. If you want him to demonstrate commitment why don’t you ask that he update his page to include you and promote the change. My boyfriend requested that I take down photos of my ex on my Facebook. Pics of me going to my only prom. Ph…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/22 05:25 PM
10	Boyfriend doesn’t trust that I will stay in his city. If he’s your boyfriend already that’s not chasing, that’s maintaining your relationship and perhaps in this case seeing if you are even still in a relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/22 04:37 AM
7	Boyfriend doesn’t trust that I will stay in his city. Give him a call. If he doesn’t answer then send him a text that you want to have a call. Please don’t have important conversations via text.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/22 02:48 AM
16	Boyfriend doesn’t trust that I will stay in his city. If you want to seem reliable, you have to show interest and follow through. Show interest by contacting him first, especially on a day that’s supposed to be reserved for relationships. If he is too busy he will return your message when he can. You aren’t interrupting him unless he allows himself to be interrupted. Follow through by giving him detailed plans of your return without him asking. And then show up. But also you have to ask yourself and him if you two can move past the situation and wh…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/22 01:42 AM
13	Can sarcasm ever be feminine? I think it is never feminine to use sarcasm in a way that is to intentionally make fun of someone or make them feel small, especially a crush. But sarcasm that is playful and done in a teasing manner can be feminine and alluring. Nothing unfeminine about being playfully witty at the right moment, which can cause laughter or seduction. The trick is knowing the difference and being able to execute.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/11/21 12:12 AM
10	my boyfriend wants to start a family with me and live our lives together, but not marry me My boyfriend subscribed to RP ideology but doesn’t want marriage. Pretty much like your boyfriend, he has a horrible example of marriage from his parents. However, he does want all the benefits of me being his wife. In my situation I told him that’s fine that he doesn’t want marriage, but he’s not getting the benefits of what I believe is what comes with marriage. For example I’m not living with him and I don’t plan to unless we are married. Have you had a real talk with him about how its strang…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/12/20 07:27 PM
6	My boyfriend gets agitated easily and I don’t know the best way to calm him down. This may be hard to understand, but there isn’t anything you can do to change his feelings and help him relax. What you can do is give him space and tell him how his behavior towards you makes you feel. By giving him space I mean don’t constantly ask what’s wrong, you already know what’s wrong. He doesn’t want to talk about it and you have to be supportive of that. By telling him how you feel, I mean don’t just say it’s not fair. Tell him that when he transfers his agitations towards you it make…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/20 05:55 PM
10	Husband privilege is what to you? That’s kind of the point... it benefits me. If he is ok with getting a bad deal then so be it. If he doesn’t like it he can move on. If he wants more commitment from me he knows what kind of commitment I need from him. I’ve been married before, I’m not in a rush to do it again or put myself in a situation that makes me feel trapped in case I want or need to break up with him. Not every boyfriend is husband worthy, or even long term boyfriend worthy, and strict boundaries help keep that in perspe…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/20 03:30 AM
1	What is you guys thoughts on prenup marriages? As a way for a man to make sure your their for him and not his resources, and that if you do get a divorce protecting his interest. I do not have a problem with a prenup as long as it’s fair to me, whatever that means to me in the moment I sign it. And I probably won’t sign the first draft he sends me or the second. Our different lawyers would finalize a draft together that makes us both feel secure. In fact, having a prenup before marriage seems better than trying to hash it out during an emotional divorce. It should make divorce easier.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/20 07:13 PM
6	Husband privilege is what to you? It depends. You can always choose to share more and do more at anytime. My point is that he as a boyfriend doesn’t have the right and can’t expect you to share more. Someone may feel better about sharing more with a boyfriend or when engaged and that’s ok. As long as it’s her choice and it is done freely without effort and without stress. But I believe a person has to decide what is the boundary they are comfortable with and firmly stick to it. I would not let a man put a ring on my finger in or…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/20 06:42 PM
18	Husband privilege is what to you? To me husband privilege is the right to access me, my time, my energy, my financial benefit, and my support “on demand”. Boyfriends don’t have the right to any of these and any that I choose to provide are extremely limited. Boyfriend- he gets to see me when I’m available and when I’m in the mood for his company, and that includes any intimacy. He has no idea how I spend my free time except for what I care to share with him. He has no authority on how I run my household and my life and I don’t r…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/20 12:23 PM
9	To cohabitate or not before marriage? I don’t fully understand the RPW mindset yet, but I’ve told my boyfriend on the second date that I have no interest in living with a man and playing his wife without the title and benefits of actually being his wife. I only said that because he stated his boundaries upfront and what he was looking for in a relationship and so I stated mine. 3 years later I still reaffirm my boundaries whenever he mentions how great it would be for us to live together. After 3 years of dating and living separatel…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/20 10:28 AM
2	Boyfriend potentially wants to find a job elsewhere 4 months isn’t a long time in my opinion for you to uproot your life just to continue to date him and see where things go. I wouldn’t move for a man unless we were married or engaged at the very least. You don’t have a solid commitment from him. Its hard, but you still have your life and have to look out for your best interest and what makes you happy. If that’s staying, moving, moving on, encouraging him to stay it move, etc. As for advice, I say don’t get too invested. Maybe even consider brea…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/11/19 02:56 PM