TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

VNM0601 Archive

View 0 posts and 83 comments by VNM0601 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
3

Gross.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/10/25 05:08 PM
3

Great -- just another thing to fuel my anxiety since the divorce is out of my control.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 05:31 PM
4

My ex and I celebrated a romantic Valentine's Day in Feb-2023, then in May-2023 she tells me she's not in love and wants to end things, lol. We have since then done ZERO therapy or counseling sessions. Just express lane straight to divorce. The whole "til death do us part" has turned into "til death do us part or until I decide I'm done with it". The institution of marriage has crumbled for me. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 05:27 PM
2

Yeah, for sure. That’s why our split has been very amicable despite the hurt I’m feeling. There’s mutual understanding. But there’s still more to come because we’re still living together (because we get along and this helps us both financially). But I think we’ve got another year until we have to move apart and I don’t think I’m ready for that yet.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 06:22 AM
5

The lesson is that you didn't set boundaries for yourself. You lost your identity in the course of the relationship because you made everything about her. I did the same. I bought into the mantra "Happy wife, happy life" and ultimately deferred everything to her because I just wanted to keep her happy. In return, she felt like all of the decision-making was on her (because I just wanted her to be happy so I went with whatever she wanted) and that put a heavy burden on her. I've realized how I do…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 09:42 PM
1

Ross Geller?
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/25 10:54 PM
1

Wow. What a petty person. The more stories I read on here the more I realized how much easier I have it. My STBX and I get along. No arguments. We go out and eat at places. We even took a trip to New York. It's just that she's fallen out of love and doesn't want to even try to fix things. But we've decided that we will have to maintain a good friendship to make things easier for the kid. She even told me she wants no child support or alimony. Just 50/50 custody. But for some reason, I can't seem…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 10:34 PM
1

Amen, brother. We still haven't split, so I haven't even started to experience what it will be like to be away from him half the time. That's been the biggest thing I've had trouble making peace with amongst this whole mess.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 05:21 PM
2

I'm with you. I got one kid through her, and he's my life. I will never regret the relationship. I just resent the way she ended it and gave us no real fighting chance to even try to salvage anything.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 05:00 PM
1

That's how he got into this mess in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 12:38 AM
1

It's pre-selection. Another woman has already done the work needed to vet you, and because she's with you, it must mean you passed the test.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 07:34 PM
3

I'm hoping to be the same as you on this. My STBX and I "split" 2 years ago when she told me she wasn't in love and she felt like we had grown apart, and she's right. I don't agree with how she went about handling the breakup because I said we needed to go to therapy or counseling, regardless of whether we were to reconcile or divorce, and she refused, and she went on to hurt me. But we are still living together and splitting the bills. We have a 3-year-old boy, and we are trying to do things in…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 07:18 PM
3

You don't need proof. She wouldn't be hanging out with some new guy and not be hooking up.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 06:59 PM
2

It’s exactly that. Social media has convinced them to not stay in any relationship where they’re remotely unhappy. Never mind that happiness isn’t some threshold that once you cross it then you’re going to be happy for life. It’s constant work. And it comes and goes. There needs to be effort. Of course, for women, even if they’re remotely attractive, the opportunities seem endless. They don’t have to put in any work to get the attention and validation they want from men. So for them the jump bet…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:51 PM
8

This is my biggest issue -- accepting the 50% loss of time with my son. I don't care that now I get to spend more quality time with him. I want to go to sleep and wake up with my son in the damn house until he's grown enough to be on his own. That's how I grew up. I've seen my parents fight through the downs and enjoy themselves through the ups. None of this "Oh I'm unhappy in this moment of our lives so let me just nuke the fuck out of everything we've built so I can get short-term gratificatio…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 09:10 PM
5

True. They can and do make up a bunch of lies to make the man look bad.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 12:19 AM
22

What is this shit with women being the ones who want out AND they want to the kids too? The audacity.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 07:30 PM
2

This process made me reflect on my values, which I had never done. And I mean, dig deep. Not just surface-level. Mark Manson, the author of the famous self-help book called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, now has a podcast called Solved by Mark Manson. He just released his first episode, and it's on values. It's about 4 hours long and they dig deep into what values mean, how to find them, and how to live by them. I highly recommend it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 07:15 PM
2

I need some advice. Because I’m having the biggest issue trying to convince myself that I’ll be able to befriend the ex’s new partner. It hasn’t happened yet cause we’re not divorced yet but I know it will eventually happen. I don’t know why I have this feeling like I’d consider myself to be a chump if I were to befriend the new guy. But I know it would just make life easier because the alternative is constant anxiety and stress about who he is and how he’s influencing my son.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 05:49 AM
1

Oh, dang. Okay, then that makes sense. lol
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 10:47 PM
8

My wife is the same. She is constantly on IG/Snapchat, where they are fed a bunch of propaganda and manipulated to think that they could have a better life with someone else. Some just may. There are 8 billion people on this planet. When you find the right person, there is automatically someone better for you. Do you just keep hopping from one man to another until... what? Where does it stop?
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 03:58 PM
13

This is it. It’s the attention and validation they get from other men. Of course other men are going to find you attractive because they haven’t experienced you yet. This is what’s wrong with society. The onus being on men to both approach, charm, and provide has brainwashed many generations of women to not value their current relationship because they have so many other options waiting for them at the click of a button. Oh you’re slightly unhappy? Must be the man you’re with and not because of …
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 02:51 PM
4

Yup. She was likely putting on theatrics to buy herself more time to figure out how she can get what she wants out of it, regardless of how it crushes you. They're selfish. My STBX is the same.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/25 06:36 PM
2

Thanks for this, bud. I just got a new gym membership but what's been holding me back is the lack of knowledge for what I'm doing. I don't want to go there and look like an idiot. This guide helps a lot!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 08:54 PM
2

Interesting. I'm a work-from-home dad and have been for 2 years (our son is 3). But my ex isn't being toxic or mean towards me, so it seems 50/50 is on the table. Realistically, I'd love to have him 100%, especially since I didn't ask for any of this, and she wants a divorce without doing a single session of therapy to try and work on things. But at the same time, I don't want to keep my child from seeing his mother. If she wants to be just as involved then there isn't much I can do without stoo…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 08:51 PM
1

I know I'll get downvoted for this, but I, for one, welcome them in the sub. I don't want it to turn into some echo chamber for the brokenhearted. I'm on this sub a lot and rarely see any toxic comments from women. The way I see it is that the ones who are lurking or participating here are just trying to gain a better understanding of the emotional side of men and what we deal with in a divorce. I don't see why we should get all worked up about it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 06:38 PM
2

How did you manage to secure 85% custody?
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 06:24 PM
5

Bingo! My STBX has driven me nuts with this. She asked for space, so I gave it to her. She then asked why I wasn't putting in any effort, and I told her because she asked for space. She told me that it showed I didn't care to save the marriage. I told her, "I need to hear you say the words 'I want to work on the marriage' or 'I want to save the marriage. " Long story short, she refused to change her mindset to working on the marriage, and now we're headed to divorce, without any therapy or couns…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 06:23 PM
2

You certainly have a way with words. Incredible!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 06:11 PM
6

These women both rely on men (as providers) and destroy the very men they seek provision from. Incredible.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 05:31 PM
6

It's called betrayal. You silently quit the relationship and start the grieving/mourning process, all while having a loving and caring partner next to you. And then, when you're good and ready to move on, you drop the bomb on the partner and leave them broken in your wake. Fuck anyone who does this.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 05:27 PM
4

"man up" is the exact reason why men suffer so much in society. Terrible advice.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 05:56 PM
5

There's absolutely no point in getting married. Move in and be together. A marriage license is simply your agreeing to allow the courts to dictate what happens to you in the event there is divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 07:29 PM
5

Amen!
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 12:53 AM
1

It's not even that we haven't done anything wrong. It's that the mistakes we have made do not justify a divorce or losing our familyhood. My (STBX) wife just straight-up told me she wasn't in love and she wanted a divorce. No therapy or counseling. No chance of reconciliation whatsoever. She's got issues, too. Plenty of them. But somehow she's made this whole thing about me and my mistakes.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 11:42 PM
3

For men, it's "til death do us part". For women, it's "til death do us part or I change my mind."
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 11:30 PM
3

She's buying a house with someone she's only known for two months? Either she's known and been with this guy much longer than that or she's lost her mind. And that says more about him than it does about her, too. Does he just trust to buy a house with a woman he's known for 2 months? That's insanity.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 11:11 PM
6

It's not that I'll never trust another woman again. It's that I don't want to trust another woman again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 11:07 PM
2

I really hope I can achieve this level of comfort with this idea. Because at this moment, I am so uncomfortable and heartbroken at the thought of not having my kid sleep at my house every night. It's ridiculous that this sort of shit gets forced on us. I didn't do anything to justify or warrant a fucking divorce. I appreciate you taking the time to write back!
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 08:52 PM
3

How did you cope with losing half the time with your child? Family is one of my biggest and strongest beliefs. I was raised in a household with very strong family values and with the belief that you do whatever you can to fight and keep your family. But obviously the reality of things isn't that. My wife gets to divorce me and take half custody of our child. I cannot seem to fathom giving up that time with my kid. He means everything to me. How did/do you manage?
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 06:15 PM
3

Exactly. It's only going to make the next guy more insecure.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 09:07 PM
2

I’m with you, my man. I’m the same way. Growing up, I remember my grandpa used to always say “every house needs the sound of a child’s laughter” and this shit hits me every time. I want a family. I want us as a unit. Kids are not meant to be split from their parents. The concept is wild to me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 10:35 PM
5

What a stupid system we have to worry about. They can just walk away when they feel like it AND completely shit all over us over the course of however many fucking years. Betrayal and heartbreak aren’t enough for us to suffer through. They have to fuck us financially too. Pathetic.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 07:01 AM
1

This is exactly how I feel right now. My STBX has no idea just how much shit I tolerated. How much I bit my tongue. How manipulative and emotionally abusive she was. How childishly and immaturely she handled disagreements. We lasted as long as we did because of my patience. Granted, I rolled with the punches to my detriment. But I can't imagine other men will have that same level of tolerance towards her. And she's been the same person since I met her yet she claims "she's grown". Cool. Go ahead…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 07:35 PM
2

She had 90% of what she needed but was missing the 10%, now it sounds like it’s the other way round… so just remember for every one thing you did wrong, that she will use to justify, there was 100 things you did right. It's true. We're praised [hardly, if ever] for the good things but crucified for the wrongs.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 07:18 PM
2

The thing for me is that she's shown a great lack of commitment. Even if we somehow find our way back to each other in the future, I don't think I can trust her commitment again. When you hit a rough patch, you're supposed to both show up and work toward reconciliation; not bail the moment you're unhappy.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 07:12 PM
8

I don't think I'll be able to ever date again. This failed marriage has made me lose complete trust in the entire institution of marriage. I know, I know. Don't swear off marriage just because of one woman. But I honestly can't fathom ever committing to anyone again. It's not worth the potential pain of dealing with a heartbreak.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 08:16 PM
1

Amen!
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 08:19 PM
4

Social media has played such a pivotal role in changing the minds of these women. It's fooled them into thinking that they could do better. You know what? Maybe you could do better. But as soon as you find better there's automatically someone else better suited for you out there. Where does it stop?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 08:16 PM
4

That's because she's full of shit. She didn't stop loving him 2 years ago. It's just that she changed her mind "overnight" or met someone and doesn't want to admit that because it would make her look foolish. My wife gave birth to our boy in December of 2021. She quit her job to stay with the baby the first year. In February of 2023 we celebrated Valentine's Day and she expressed how much she loved me and how much I meant to her and how happy she was to have me in her life and how blessed she fe…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 08:13 PM
5

This is how I realized my STBX wife was full of shit. Every time we sat down to talk about the issues plaguing the relationship and for me to try and convince her to go to therapy and work on the marriage instead of just nuking everything we've built, she'd come up with two more new reasons she hadn't mentioned before. I don't have evidence of this but my gut knows it to be true -- she's got someone else. You don't just check out of the relationship entirely and cite every flaw in the other pers…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 07:56 PM
6

It's a straight-up betrayal. They silently quit the relationship but continue to lie to keep things civil while they work through figuring out how to get out.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 05:52 PM
3

I feel you, bud. I'm getting close to 2-years of no sex while we work through the bullshit. I'd love to have a one-night stand and go crazy. I haven't been with any other woman besides my wife for 10+ years. But I'm also too mentally drained to commit to anything else. I don't know how long it will take for me to recover but I imagine it will be years considering the hurt and trauma she's caused.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 05:46 PM
9

Usually it’s because someone, like a friend or a family member who has gone through an ugly divorce themselves, will get into their ears and encourage them to fight for more.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 03:07 AM
2

Men: "Til death do us part" Women: "Til death do us part or I fall out of love" That's how this shit works. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 10:04 PM
2

I long for the day when I feel this way. Right now, the thought of losing my kid half the time is absolutely destroying me and I don't know how to handle it. I figured that time is an invaluable resource. We have so little to spare before they grow into teenagers/adults and want nothing to do with us (half-jokingly). And then we have our own lives and work and sleep. After it's all said and done, how little time are we getting with our kids at such crucial ages in their lives? The loss of that i…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 12:19 AM
1

Lol, this gave me a good chuckle. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:01 PM
6

The difference is that women can edit their profiles in such a brutally honest way because they have so many options to choose from. There are way more men looking for women on those apps than women are looking for men. From what I hear the ratio is like 1000:1 or something ridiculous.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 06:58 PM
16

Because women are not as committed as we men are. When we say “til death do us apart” we mean it. What they mean when they say it is “til death do us apart or until I fall out of love.” And they usually quiet quit the marriage before they actually tell you. It’s more convenient for them to continue sucking the resources dry and to have a loving and supportive husband with them while they move on from the relationship. I’ll never commit to another woman again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 07:53 AM
1

Exactly. That’s my goal.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 09:35 AM
1

Lol. We haven’t hired anyone since 2020. We’re a very small team (4 of us) and the CEO rarely fires anyone and no one quits so there’s hardly any open positions in our department.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 09:35 AM
2

I work at a software company doing customer service. Our CEO is amazing. He’s overpaying me for this position and he and I both know this so I’m capped at making more but man I have it so easy. I’m trying to find something to do on the side from home but that’s been tough to find. So many scams online.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/24 07:29 PM
3

We haven’t divorced yet. Just separated but living together. I work from home and my job is literally zero stress. I have no supervision and about an hour worth of work. I’m chilling the rest of the day at home with my 3 year old boy. I gross $100k so after taxes and all I take home about $4200 a month. I’m terrified of being on my own. I live in California. Moving to a different state is not an option. But getting a new job seems like the right choice but that scares me too because the comfort …
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/24 03:33 PM
4

I’m in the same position. This has been the hardest truth to accept. I no longer care about losing my wife as much as I do about losing half my time with my child and watching my kid get along with some other father figure in his life. I don’t know how people do it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 03:49 PM
1

God damn it! This was so poetic.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 07:24 PM
9

Fucking Amen! Social media ruined everything. The sanctity of marriage is dead. Vows mean nothing when the woman can just up and leave because things got rough or she got bored. And it sucks doubly for us men because we're the ones who have to approach women, be attractive, be charming, carry good conversation, and provide/pay for them throughout the entirety of the relationship from the start til the end. Women just have to open their DMs or put themselves out there and if they're even remotely…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 03:56 PM
5

But you can’t force them into counseling. You’re not going to get an honest effort from them. They’ll just fake it and when it inevitably fails to work, they’ll be like “well, I tried.” And still end up leaving.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 02:10 PM
1

Ugh, I'm sorry to hear. It's the absolute worst. It seems to me that men are more committed than women. Women will stay for as long as they benefit from the relationship. They will move on to the next person as soon as they've taken all the resources from you and no longer need you. I know this is a bad generalization and I'm not trying to say that all women are like this, but my experience personally and from the people around me, has been this way.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 06:22 PM
3

I'm not too far from you, my man. Over a year ago my wife told me she was no longer in love with me and she wanted separation (not legally, just space to think about things). We still live together and we have a 2.5 year old boy. She kept telling me how she fell out of love because she didn't see any effort from me (buying her flowers, planning date nights, etc.). Mind you, we both made mistakes but nothing of that caliber where we would need to split up. After last year's separation she kept te…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 03:22 PM
6

This is so spot on. I’m going through that right now. My wife asked for separation claiming she fell out of love because she feels like after having a baby her goals, views on life, and personality changed. And she’s not allowing me a chance to adapt to meet these expectations. She just claims we’re different and want different things now, and that we should be focusing on coparenting only. It’s been 3 months and I’m still shocked and can’t accept the fact that she’s so unwilling to work on thin…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 06:54 AM
1

Sure, I'd be interested to look into that. But also, it's difficult for me to show her the person she fell in love with because she's constantly pushing me away. It seems any attempt to do any of that falls short because she's unwilling to put her defenses down. She never had defenses up when we met. But we are taking it slow and trying to avoid making knee-jerk reactions to it all, so hopefully in time, we will be able to find that spark again. I appreciate it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:14 PM
1

What sucks about all of this, and this is how divorce messes kids up, is that the kids don’t get a choice in the matter. If they’re scheduled with one parent that weekend and instead want to hang out with the other parent because the other parent has something fun planned that the kids would love to be a part of, the poor kids are forced to stay with the parent they may not want to be with that weekend. I understand that’s it’s not good for kids when parents stay together merely for the kids, bu…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 11:28 PM
1

I honestly don’t know. I don’t want to give myself a false sense of hope. We live together and have a 17-month old. We’re friendly with each other but we’re essentially like roommates. I’m just taking this time to work on myself and strengthen my bond with my boy. If it works out then it does if not then I can’t really force it. She claims her feelings have changed. I find it odd but it’s not uncommon.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 04:58 AM
3

Although right now she's only asked for space and time to think things over and I haven't reached a point of separation/divorce, I've been reflecting on where things went wrong and holy shit, it makes me cringe at how blind I was to not see the signs. It hurts; not being able to go back and fix things. Even though she did things to me that were hurtful, I internalized it and forgave her without even bringing it up.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 07:19 AM
4

How long have they been together? Remember, grass will always appear greener on the other side. Give it time and let them get out of the honeymoon stage. Then you’ll know. Plus, how do you know how great they are? Are you basing it off pics you see online or something? Never use that as proof of anything. People will only post picture perfect moments to their social profiles. And especially if she’s out to make you jealous. She will pretend everything is happy-go-jolly. But it may not really be …
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 02:20 AM
1

That man is insufferable.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/11/21 06:10 PM
1

Dumb bitch.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/10/21 05:50 AM
3

Indeed.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/10/21 04:20 PM
3

Yup. I came here looking for this comment. The resemblance is uncanny.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/10/21 03:48 PM
1

And imagine how nasty she was that even for $20 she wasn’t worth it.
/r/PussyPassDenied02/07/21 02:16 PM
6

And I’d get behind you. Threesome!
/r/PussyPassDenied13/03/21 05:33 PM
6

Exactly. I paid for a ton of our outings when my wife and I were dating before getting married. Albeit, I'll be honest--it's so nice having a joint checking account now and not worrying about any of that.
/r/PussyPassDenied02/03/21 04:00 PM
8

This is what I came here for. Grapefruit is the winner for me. So good!
/r/PussyPassDenied02/03/21 03:53 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter