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Very transactional view of sex. Which isn’t wrong lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:12 PM
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Counterpoint: Many athletes have to pay competitors to train against them. I’m not sure if this is the case in ping-pong. But it is in combat sports. Top fighters typically pay their sparring partners. You’re right in part that sex isn’t like a house. But it could be seen as a service in some contexts. Like a massage. “Happy ending” and all lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:42 AM
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You’re missing the point. I’ll rephrase. It’s not that you’re saying average too much. It’s that ‘average’s in your thesis abstracts a specific set of factors, to which you extrapolate a broader assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:40 PM
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I think you’re throwing around the word ‘average’ a lot. You mention uni, social life, corporate hiring, etc. Within that class of people, yeah, you have a point. In middle-class to upper-middle-class communities in secularized western countries women will have a social advantage in many cases in those realms. Particularly from the ages of 15-35. Coincidentally, this same group is overrepresented on Reddit. I wouldn’t say any of that is ‘average’ though. The person you replied to brought up a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:26 PM
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No one asked you to. Just pointing out that your observation isn’t that insightful because the ‘difference’ here is more theoretical than real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:55 PM
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TLDR: there’s a difference between fucking for a bag and fucking for indoor plumbing I don’t disagree entirely but you’re painting is as if it’s 100% binary when really there’s a huge spectrum between these two extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:49 PM
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‘Using your better economic position to secure a woman’ and ‘competition isn’t as bad’ is the same thing with different words. Or rather, the former is a subset of the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 09:39 PM
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Culture, language and legal status. I said this in my previous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:06 PM
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Illegal? Definetely not. Just saying there’s a slight difference in dating a cashier from Kansas vs a cashier from Thailand if you do get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:31 PM
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Again, ‘basic human needs’ is also subjective. Even the things you’ve listed are highly contested, like mental safety and medical care. I remember reading a headline about how the UN (?) or someone declared broadband internet a human right. As if having a 100mbps download speed is the true key to survival. It’s an interesting thought experiment but in practice there’s no such thing as consent that exists in a pure hypothetical vacuum. People will enter relationships for a multitude of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:18 PM
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There’s a lot of truth to this. Poor in the U.S. typically implies obesity, bad habits, etc. Poor in a western country is hardly poor in a historic sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:48 PM
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What is the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:47 PM
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I don’t disagree but ‘easy and realistic’ is doing a lot of heavy lifting here. Those are extremely subjective qualifiers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:46 PM
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I’m all for passport bro’ing but the best argument I’ve heard to highlight the difference is that the poor person in a rich-poor gap at least has a cultural/language connection and maybe even some family if they’re in their home country. Whereas with the love visa the foreigner is way more dependent on the SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:44 PM
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I would have a problem with a sibling marriage despite ‘consent’
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:20 PM
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Sex is absolutely economics. Except sex isn’t economics you aren’t getting opposite sex attention abroad because of relative “purchasing power,” yall are getting attention because you are exploiting poor women in poorer countries. You aren’t getting opposite sex attraction because of <economics>, yall are getting attention because <economics, but with pejorative adjectives> That’s what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:20 PM
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Also, men preferring women in their twenties can also be explained by biology, but I doubt you would accept that explanation. I would. What's the point you're making? Also, pregnancy is not the only risk. Assault, grape, STD's (men get them, but many STD's affect women way more), etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:50 PM
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This is true but I'll add it goes both ways. A woman being interested and sexual will make a guy fall in love with her. After the first heartbreak and getting laid a few times guys will realize she needs to potentially be a good partner/mother/etc. and not just be available.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:06 PM
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Off the mark again. Men aren't the gender with the in-group bias. Women are the ones who never disagree with each other. The draft has been abolished in my country. I have dual citizenship and it's hardly enforced in my secondary country.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:02 PM
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Men fight the most. In wars, negotiations, elections, etc. Part of the reason why there’s a pay gap is precisely because men fight harder than women to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:48 PM
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That’s a fair point. We’re an intelligent species and so there’s an intellectual component as well. Those relationships tend to be more equal. When there is no potential of having kids. I think of those older couples with adult children from previous marriages who get together to make travel cheaper and because it’s nice having someone else in the house. Still, it’s a major factor. Even if you’re having sex recreationally the biology is still present and it’s hard to override.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:01 AM
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Well, yeah. The actual response to this is that a lot of feminist positions aren't as popular as you probably think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:47 AM
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Nothing is stopping this right now except for a lack of political will.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:26 AM
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I live in a conservative country where the sexual revolution doesn't exist the way it does in the US or the West. And you know what? Cosplaying as a feminist man and bagging women and getting sex was literally a lucrative Pua tactic lots of men applied years ago, since it became more known and eventually got stale. So if women really felt ick toward unmacho men, these men couldn't draw women in like they do. What country?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:21 PM
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Which is why this exercise is pointless. These dynamics (or at least some/most of them) exist because of biology. If men incurred the same risk as women during courtship/sex then the dynamics would already be different. This is like asking if you would still work your job if you had to pay your employer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:19 PM
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This makes sense and doesn't contradict the original post. OP is very obviously young. In those childless age brackets with softer life responsibilities women have an advantage. Among the divorced crowd men will have an advantage. Particularly if all kids are already had.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:12 PM
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10% is actually pretty nuts once you apply it. In a population of 45 women and 55 men, let's say all but 5 women are paired off to one man. That leaves 5 women and 15 men. 1 to 3. Another way of saying it is that 75% of the singles are men, which is close to the dating app / nightlife imbalance lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:07 PM
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Which categories of women are you excluding from your calculations to account for the disparity between your claim and reality? In developed countries men of dating age outnumber women of dating age. A good rule of thumb is there's always about 3 fertile men for very fertile woman. Makes sense from nature's POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:03 PM
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I have never understood this. Supply and demand. Hope that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:01 PM
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They shouldn't. If a woman wants something specific out of a relationship with a guy, I'd advise her to listen to other women who were able to attain that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:14 AM
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do you see your life as holding some value? Outside of that yes. I have hobbies, love my friends and family, feel respected at work, etc. But none of that is inherent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 09:35 PM
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It’s the worldview that makes the most sense to me. I don’t see myself as a violence object but I do know that I have that inherent value in that regard as a young healthy 20’s something male. If push came to shove the military would draft me. I could make a lot of money right now if I chose to destroy my body working at an off-shore oil rig, or as an underwater welder. Similarly, a mid-20’s woman might have trouble getting her career to take off, or achieving whatever niche goal she’s pursuing.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 07:31 PM
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I read somewhere that men are violence objects (soldiers) and women are sex objects (bio reactors). In the most cynical of worldviews this make sense. As a guy you will have inherent value when it comes to doing jobs with a high risk of death/mutilation, namely the armed forces. Every society needs soldiers to defend itself from outsiders and laborers to build things. Women will have inherent value when it comes to procreation, because society needs as many uteruses as it can get its hands on to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 06:31 PM
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Santa Claus isn't real
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:03 AM
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Thanks, And you're right. People tend to be negative about their standards
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:13 AM
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I agree with all of this. I'll add that in college you should join a fraternity. It's one of the best things you can do for your social life as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:57 AM
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I hold myself to all the same standards and I meet them. Also, I think my standards are pretty fair (not that fair is even really a thing in the dating world). They're all something you anyone can reasonably achieve with work and effort. Unlike say height or race.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:50 AM
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I've been thinking about this lately lol. Anyway: College educated (preference is in something useful, but virtually any completed accredited education will do) Not overweight Not a single mom Religious is fine, but not waiting until marriage Okay with moving to a new place (I've met a surprising number of <25 year olds who are dead set on never leaving the region they grew up in) Doesn't do any drugs harder than alcohol or weed (Ex did happy shrooms occasionally, so idk. I certainly wasn't happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:35 PM
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In most countries, the average BMI is above 25. That's so depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:28 PM
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I refuse to believe this happened in America. It's almost the exact opposite where I live. I told a guy with a 30 BMI he was overweight and he's like "nah, I could lose a few but I ain't fat"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:20 PM
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That does sounds like a pattern. Alcohol being involved makes things murky since it does mess with people's actions and recollections. It sounds like he can't handle his liquor and gets grabby? The social dynamics I involve myself with, and that I have seen, are a little more complex. Realistically, men get pre-vetted in my social circle, which is why this hypothetical is difficult. I'm older now, but back when I hosted functions with alcohol, I wouldn't allow guys I didn't know partly for this …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:38 PM
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In this instance these three women don’t know one another. This is an unrealistic scenario if we're talking about friend groups. That's a factor, sure. But women have a very strong in-group bias too so it's not much different from if they were her friends. The slogan is believe women, right? When they accuse someone of sexual assault, who's going to even question her? The cards are so stacked against the men in title 9 offices, politics, professional sports, musicians, etc. Should I just accept …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:17 PM
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most rapists never get punished or even questioned They get punished in the court of public opinion. Even if they don't convict in a court of law, as a guy, you're shit out of luck if you get accused. You likely lose your job, friend group, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:09 PM
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This happened in my friend group. One of the girls tried lecturing us about one of the guys who did something at a party and why we shouldn't be his friend anymore. But she is also the very opinionated type to say stuff like "fuck Ronaldo he's a rapist" when we're all just chilling and watching soccer. So no, I didn't take her seriously. No one did. Multiple women never disagree with each other either, that's something to take into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:07 PM
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Yes, but probably not the M apart. I hooked up with a 42-year-old once when I was 24. I thought she was in her 30's. She thought I as in my 30's. But I played it cool and she didn't mind. She had no kids/marriages/divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:05 PM
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Is this even possible? Why are UMC, skinny or fit young men not having success? It does not make sense. Because of the ratio in that lifestyle. I'm literally the demographic you described. I make 6 figures, 25M in a STEM hybrid/WFH career. My industry is overwhelmingly men (because we lowkey want to make money and be successful). Because of this, all the hobbies/events/social life in the metro area I live in are predominately other young men who work in this industry. Do you know how many single…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:12 PM
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Dinaric alps has highest average height. Although Scandinavians are pretty tall as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 11:37 PM
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It’s not a matter of want. It’s also a matter of risk and danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 07:14 PM
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I agree with you. There's a certain combination that can hinder it, but it has to be the perfect storm. It's usually a mix of being a minority, short, male, from a conservative household, and going into a very intensive field that requires all your time and attention such as medicine. But most people don't hit all those attributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:56 PM
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Clubs don’t discriminate on beauty. You’ll get less attention for sure but believe me, there’s plenty of ugly women at clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:32 PM
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I too would love that. How do I get all that free stuff? Your flair says UK. I'm assuming London? But even if it's not, it should work pretty much anywhere. Go to Google or any other browser Look up "clubs near me ladies night" Pick a venue and go to that venue during ladies night Sometimes it doesn't have to be ladies night, a lot of clubs have no cover/discount drinks for women year round. But it's case-by-case. A good tip is calling or DM'ing the club on Instagram asking about their cover/dri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:48 PM
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Women, on average, aren't as intimidating as men. Not to say no woman has ever gotten handsy or inappropriate at a club though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:46 PM
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Yes they do? Why is that unhinged? I said sounds unhinged. I've never been in a relationship where one "goes through" a phone. I have nothing to hide, but it's not like my gf will scroll through my pictures or old text messages whenever I hand her my phone. And I don’t understand your second sentence I think that when it comes to the hanging out with exes conversation, a lot of women (usually younger) fall into the trap of thinking they have no control over who they hang out with. I think that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:45 PM
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Men need to be real. You would love to get into the club for free with no cover charge, discount/free drinks, etc. But you would not like the harassment, the gropes, and the wall of dudes bobbing their heads with a beer in their hands staring at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:04 PM
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you have unfettered access to her phone should you require it? Do people ever offer that? Sounds unhinged. Also, no such thing as not purposely when it comes to friend groups
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:56 PM
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I genuinely do not care about how most people see my relationship. If that opinion comes from someone I respect, it would shake me. If it comes from one of those people who are like "why do all the men suck at dating??" it wouldn't bother me at all. I do think the "brutal with men, kind with women" evaluation/attitude is true. It's a bit overstated, but it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:55 PM
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A non-porn example is How I Met Your Mother. An adorable nerdy guy (Ted Mosby) can walk into a dive bar and just approach a hot woman (who is there alone) who will enthusiastically go on a few dates if not a ONS after a few lines of chit chat. Men love relationships with attractive women but desire an easier entry into them. That’s the male fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:09 PM
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The difference between 100k and 200k is huge. I’d say after that is when it starts to become marginal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:35 PM
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I don't think there ever will be a united men's movement. We live in a very individualist society, and I don't agree with a lot of your premises. Like disparate sentencing. Men commit more crimes than women, of course they'll be incarcerated more. Or expectation of killing spiders. What exactly can be done about it? There are one or two battles I think can be won though. Like affirmative action. I dislike the idea that women get subconscious/conscious benefits in hiring/promotion because a small…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 11:12 PM
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No one on reddit understands what average means. The funny part is that everytime someone replies saying "Well, not all! I know xyz that doesn't abc" They don't realize they're making the point for the person they're replying to. Exceptions make the rule. If you point out an exception because you think it's worth mentioning, then that means the rule does exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:30 PM
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This is a good question but for an honest answer you can’t ignore that it’s not a symmetrical situation between men and women. On average, men initiate the seduction process. And women reciprocate. This is true in all cultures. Exceptions exist but that only proves the rule. So it feels dishonest for women because it’s a bait and switch. They thought they were in the friend market, but turns out that they were using that as an in for the romance/sex market and now they lost what they had to begi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:54 PM
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Men have a slightly longer window compared to women. I wouldn’t bank on it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:09 PM
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I’m surprised you haven’t had that experience. Using women to recruit is a common strategy since they’re more approachable. This is true for everything, not just tech organizations. Charities for example tend to table with women because they’ll raise more money. There’s a meme I saw once about how LinkedIn is sort of a reverse dating app, it’s attractive women getting left on read by nerdy programmers. Once you’re “in” it’s certainly different. Climbing up the ladder is not the same as getting y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 02:59 AM
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I love this take. You know what you're talking about. Working in tech has made me both more feminist and anti-feminist. I don't like the bullshit women deal with exclusively because they're women, like the condescension, harassment, etc. But I also hate the implicit bias paired with the DEI excess that leads to an unfair environment. In the US things seem to be kept to a minimum, despite how the culture screams the loudest. I feel like South America has more sexism. Never worked in Europe, so ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 01:50 AM
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Thoughts on Boogie2988’s 20-year-old girlfriend? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 07:01 PM
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This is spot on. I went to a technical school and was dumbfounded at the amount of extremely attractive women working as recruiters for tech companies. Some of them were sharp, and I don’t want to detract from that. But a lot of them were obviously eye candy and just repeated shit like “yeah, there’s two rounds of interviews. It’s good to have 2-3 side projects on your GitHub” I can’t even blame them. The nerdy guys who are good at programming will gravitate to that company because of those wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:40 PM
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Yeah, but the conditions have to be just right. Not me, I do relatively better irl. But in my friend group - engineers in the suburban midwest - there are some guys who figured out how to "hack" the system. Raising your elo on the algorithm via good pics, paying the sub, proper swiping, etc. is actually easier than going out and meeting women naturally (for them).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 02:34 PM
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Indeed. I'd also annihilate all mosquitoes if I could. I'd significantly curb toddler maulings and a lot of diseases like Malaria.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:34 PM
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I like small dogs. Daschunds are probably my face. All pit bulls should be exterminated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:31 PM
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Conceptually, it's the same. People start feeling invisible as they age. Just the amount of articles and blog posts on how to cope for women is way higher than for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:52 AM
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I googled 'invisible woman syndrome' Then I googled 'invisible man syndrome' Lmao Well, actually to be fair, it's an interesting read for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:41 AM
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I then went on tiktok and did a research Yeah well I went to the local burger joint and 'did' a restaurant review. I will submit it to the Michelin guide shortly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 12:54 PM
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For the record, I agree with your original point above. A lot of guys think being ignored in their younger years is somehow torture or whatever. I don't agree with those guys, and holding on to prior failure only leads to bitterness and resentment. However, But I've never seen women complain that men don't pay attention to them C'mon now. Here is an example of that. Women do complain when men don't pay attention to them. In this particular scenario, she said it was "One of the worst things about…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:18 PM
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Interesting thread on redscarepod. Man is chatty and attentive with woman who is a regular at his store. He has a crush on her and asks her out. She says no. He is no longer chatty and attentive. There are two competing ideas in that thread: He is acting ungracefully for being cold and standoffish with her She is acting ungracefully for expecting the same level of pre-rejection attention This seems like a point of contention in modern dating culture. I lean towards the second idea. Also goes to …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 05:46 PM
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Even non-religious communities will be extremely dogmatic. If you decide God isn't for you then seek out some secular non-profit, they'll all be about beliefs anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:33 PM
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"Normal guy" who follows H3H3. hmmm The first one, but you're presenting two strawmen here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:39 PM
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No, it's a private company. 'Fair' is so subjective it's pointless to talk about. The reason they have that is because the app with the most women will be the most successful. They're catering to them, not the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:38 PM
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It's become a trendy excuse for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 12:23 AM
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If they're not, they're probably aware and know why they're single? Maybe? Depends. Some women are definitively self-aware enough to understand, and humble enough to admit it. Others are less so. Singlehood is different for young men and women, and this is something the RP'ers (sort of) get right. It's also different for everyone, so gauging your position has to be something very individualized.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:20 PM
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and the hotties from CT that come down from the metro north. You include CT but not Jersey City commuters? JC has a lot of babes form what I've seen
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:13 PM
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There's no way you can assess the dating environment over a weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:12 PM
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Another rant post about affirmative action, but I just never understood it for gender. This is my most inkwell-ish belief and I know it triggers a few of the posters here. I support it for race, because at least there's a generational poverty argument to be made. But rich people and poor people have daughters. It's an equal distribution and poverty isn't carried by chromosome. Do women just like math less than men? Nature vs nurture? Does it even matter? Will engineering ever become an even rati…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:09 PM
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Fewer women than men on the internet in general. Also, probably something to do with the nature of this subreddit as a discussion board for gender, particularly dating. I don't imagine a lot of younger single women care to discuss dating algorithms and gender ratio of cities. If she does, it's probably because of strong feminist beliefs. Though, it's not always the case. I will say, we don't have a lot of diversity in terms of men either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:07 PM
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Yup. Did it because I like it, I'm decent at it, and it pays well. My real passion is geopolitics, but statistically speaking you have to be kind of dumb to go for an IR degree. Not a STEM supremacist, but not far from either. It has definitively shaped my worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:03 PM
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Yes, How I Met Your Mother was one. Some goofy dork who's really into Star Wars and wears band shirts + flannel + jeans isn't actually killing it. Though, Ted Mosby did have a good career, so there's that. Also, in the show hot women would just walk into a bar alone and you could approach them and get their number after 1-2 sentences? Lol okay. Go to a bar and it's mostly dudes. Probably like 30% women, and most of them are accompanied. The single ones are protected by her her friends and probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:24 PM
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I also don't think we have to have an opinion on everything That is correct. But when you want to have an opinion on something, you're allowed to have it. Don't fall for that trap of believing you're not allowed to because you haven't personally experienced something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:49 PM
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I'm pretty sure foreigners wouldn't be able to really understand what's going on Right, because it's not like the world became massively globalized in the last few decades and the exchange of information is near instant 🤔 Appeal to authority. Stop watching Hasan and H3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:11 PM
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As a non Jew and non middle eastern, I don't feel qualified to have an opinion. That's dumb. You're allowed to have an opinion on things. Do you have a link to Hasan/Ethan crying?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:04 PM
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Affirmative action - whether explicitly mandated by law, or simply practiced via tacit institutional/social pressure - really saps the amount of sympathy I have for a lot of groups who grieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:00 PM
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Leftism isn't a coherent ideology. It's really just whoever is poorest = good guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:52 PM
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Depends on the demographic. At my age this is becoming truer But depending on the group they'll let attractive young women get away with a lot. Collective simping if you will
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:12 PM
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Those are a lot of metrics. Opinions being valued, being interrupted less, who gets to make the plans, etc. I think something like making plans guys have an advantage of. But say at a party women will get more attention, drinks, etc. If you want to get autistic about it we can measure it as engagements per hour or something measured by implicit invitations to converse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:56 PM
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That's part of it. The hottest, tallest, most assertive, most intelligent, etc. people will always have more presence in these situations But gender is one of those factors. People give hot young women so much attention
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:27 PM
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Q4A: Would you rather: Have a lot of leverage in nearly all social situations at the expense of being cat called and harassed and sent dick picks Have no inherent value in nearly all social situations but you get to be mostly left alone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:11 PM
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It changes definition depending on who you ask. Like most sociological "systems" it's really just subjective terminology that makes you see what you want like a Rorschach test. It's subjectively real
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:10 PM
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Do you actually live in Adelaide? Come to the American midwest where everyone is overweight. Also, it's rude to point out that people are overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:04 PM
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'Approach' is such a broad term, idk what it means I have never gone up to a woman at a mall and done a 'cold' approach where I tell her she's beautiful within the first 30 seconds like the PUA's do. I have talked to people in public, but rarely. Have def talked to women at bars and clubs with sexual intent. Not sure what counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:14 PM
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So it was a joke? Damn, depending on the location I would fly out to see you guys fight fr.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:55 PM
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This and the comment you replied to are so deranged. I love this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:49 PM
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Banks wish imprudent clients wouldn't default. Clients wish greedy banks wouldn't be so stingy. The teacher wish rambunctious kids would settle down. Kids wish their mean teacher would be chill. Businesses want lower taxes. The state wants more revenue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 08:45 PM
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Sure, but cheating isn't rape lmfao And she didn't just stfu and take the money. She declined to testify. Wonder why, hmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:16 PM
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Court is too risky. Going for settlement is a viable legal strategy. Raise hell on social media then use that as leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:15 PM
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Alright, you dismiss advice plus you're on steroids. You are unsalvageable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:14 PM
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LeBron is arrogant. I dislike him for leaving Miami after overpromising rings + his politics He calls half the country ignorant with his 3rd-grade reading level broken AAVE
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:13 PM
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It's a way of saying "Sorry to everyone involved. I don't want to ruin my PR but I didn't rape her. My image is worth more than the settlement"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:11 PM
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Inspired by recent comments: Equating a sexual assault allegation with actual sexual assault is particularly cringe. Especially against rich male athletes who stand to lose a lot of money even in a court settlement. Some do happen. Others are so obviously staged like Neymar. Here's a really interesting take but just because someone says something happened, doesn't mean it did :O
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:10 PM
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Okay, I didn't know that. Still, trim your nails, get a haircut and iron your shirt. Wear a chain and maybe a ring. At least a watch. Are you actually on roids?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:07 PM
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Neither did Kobe The case was dropped after Bryant's accuser refused to testify in the case. Love it when internet people assert an allegation as fact of matter
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:05 PM
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Allegations. Male athletes are disproportionately accused. The case was dropped after Bryant's accuser refused to testify in the case Hmmm A separate civil suit was later filed against Bryant by the woman. This was settled out of court and included Bryant publicly apologizing to his accuser, the public, and family, while denying the allegations. Yup, very common. Just pay the fine and get it over with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:05 PM
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He can improve tremendously with a skincare routine, weight loss, a shirt iron, nail clippers and better fashion sense (maybe some accessories). He has a good frame and good hair (needs a haircut though). With 6-8 months of work he'd look much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:01 PM
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Lebron is a great player with a shit personality. Kobe was more likeable imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:58 PM
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There's no such thing as fairness in dating and sex bro, get real You can meet women irl. School is a great place. After that it's harder but not impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:52 PM
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Was this comment inspired by mine? Looks like I provoked some thought, I like it! And yes, I used them for about 1-1.5 years. Was looking for anything really, open to casual and longer-term. Wasn't as disastrous as some guys make it seem. Having said that, I only used them because I thought it was a good avenue. Probably won't use them again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:45 PM
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I think bars and clubs are terrible. Actually, I made a post about this. However, you lost me at calling women broken, delusional, narcissist, etc. I can never empathize with that line of thinking about any group of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:39 PM
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Because of (perceived) inequality. It causes a visceral reaction. What the guys don't realize is that it's a different market. Seeking casual sex / relationships online from men is fundamentally different from seeking casual sex / relationships online from women. There is no perfect analogy but it's like complaining that there are more people interested in Italian cuisine than Peruvian cuisine. You can pour in a bunch of money into a Peruvian restaurant and it'll be great. Is it upsetting if a M…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:35 PM
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They have a right to be frustrated, but I think it's pointless. Try another avenue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:21 PM
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Bad assumptions. You expand a lot of time and mental health with the apps. If you redirect both those valuable resources to irl then the odds aren't 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 PM
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I don't like this take because mods, who I guess think like you, subjectively decide something isn't "productive" enough and lock it. What's even the point of reddit? Only to have the correct, sorry "productive" discussions?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:47 PM
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I don't really feel a lot of empathy for men on dating apps, if any at all. If you get your feelings mental health hurt on those but continue to use them idk what to tell you. On the other hand, the fact that the Tinder mods have to lock threads where women post their stats is equally cringe. No no, can't have an honest discussion about that either, 🥴 the jannies don't like the ideas being thrown around
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:40 PM
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Seattle is more guy heavy, Atlanta more lady heavy. https://www.bestplaces.net/docs/studies/solocities_gap1.aspx You should always improve SMV but you're being so simplistic lol Go ahead though, make your money. Work in an oil rig in the Dakotas. You'll make so much bank and have so little sex lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:33 PM
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Picking a job based on the friends you can make there is kinda dumb, though. I totally disagree. The people in or not in your life is a huge determinant of your quality of life. I absolutely think that you should pick a job based on who you can connect with it. Professionally and personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:26 PM
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Yeah but diminishing returns. A guy making 70k in Atlanta working for a consulting firm probably dates more than generic Amazon AWS worker #64171 trying to get through the Seattle Freeze despite making 140k
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:12 PM
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There's more nuance to that. I started out as a computer nerd but quickly realized how depressing and shitty it is to work in a hardware lab all day. And your indian electrical engineering friends aren't exactly conducive to a social life. I transitioned to a BI role and I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:05 PM
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This is exactly the mindset that I think men have that'll cripple them dating-wise. Want to make money? Go into software and grind leetcode 10 hours a day. You'll make a shit ton of money. But all your coworkers, their friends, the city you live in, the clubs you go to, etc. will be a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:03 PM
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Q4M (and women too tbh): Should your social life be a factor when picking a career? Conventional wisdom says that's a dumb thing to consider. But honestly, in post-covid society a lot of your friends are work colleagues. This is especially true in big companies/firms that are more tech-oriented. You're going to have a better time socially and dating as say a lawyer in Atlanta than as a software engineer in Man Jose.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:54 PM
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Men are the majority of politicians, but that doesn't account for all power. Especially cultural and social power. How many politicians have XY chromosomes is a bad measure. The main grievance is that men aren't seem as a demographic that goes through any hardship. Women are. Minorities are. LGBT+ are. Working-class people, students, etc. You have to go to anonymous internet forums to hear male grievances. Not that I disagree that men are responsible for their own problems, but I'm explaining wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:34 PM
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Also, social gatherings are a lot more fun if you date within a social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:58 PM
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When talking about things like race inequality or gender inequality there's a common line from politicians that goes something like, "This is everybody's problem. All fair-minded Americans should be concerned with this" It's the idea that you can't just leave it to xyz community to solve their problem, that institutions - particularly government - should step in. It's why we see DEI, affirmative action, etc. The opposite side of this is that you can't just throw around policies and social progra…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:57 PM
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A, and it's just more realistic anyway. I'd rather have one good night of sex than two mediocre nights of sex. Specially because I probably won't to go as much on night two.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:50 PM
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Your mileage may vary. Online dating has never worked out well for me, but it has for some of my friends. Meeting people in real life - especially women - isn't easy depending on your circumstances. It takes a lot of effort to build a good social circle that is conducive to dating. That same amount of effort could be use on optimizing the hell out of your profile and getting results like that. I think it's a matter of preference. You either need to be top 20% in looks/pics for OLD to work. Or to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:06 PM
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I tried before for a few months but couldn't adapt to the sleep schedule. After work/classes. It's also nice to 'blow off' steam.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:31 PM
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Data is easily manipulated and often lacks context. I think it's harder for guys to date in new unique ways, and you don't need to recite numbers for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:19 PM
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Okay yeah, but you're taking the most extreme r-slur example of this. Of course I don't want to think about the graphic details. The thought of my girlfriend with someone else is highly disturbing to me. But I'm also pretty much indifferent to the fact she's had sex before. We both have a history, most people do at this point. The important thing is being satisfied sexually in the current relationship. Also, women are also bothered by the thought of their man with someone else too. You would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:02 PM
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An opportunity to shoot your shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:50 PM
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Dating once you have an 'in' is not hard. What's brutal for straight men are those gap in between relationships/opportunities. Hard to generate any traction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:23 PM
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Not at all. This is one of the areas I feel very bad for women in. A lot of shitty creepy people can't keep their hands off others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:44 AM
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The highest status is a wife with a side business that loses money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:23 PM
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I don't disagree, my uncle is way above average and life worked out for him (he also put in the work required). But I think you're exaggerating the numbers a bit and forgetting some axes. Which is what I said. 50 year old men can peak financially and resource wise to entice women to date them but not physically unless they're in the 1-3% of looks. He's aged well but definitely not 1-3% well. More like top 20-40% I'd say. But the two factors that should get brought up with looks and resources in …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:11 PM
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I guess. But the scenario you're describing is the bad case scenario, or at least average. I have a player older uncle who has slept with countless women and has the pictures to show for it. He's a surfer, does ironman's, overall beach bum / nature vibe etc. He does do cool shit and has met women that way. And he has money, though he said he didn't enjoy driving a Mercedes so he traded it in. Granted, he's been married twice and doesn't live in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:04 AM
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Men who use resources directly on women are retarded. Raw looks aside, I think a common scenario is older guys with an abundance of time and money using that to do cool shit which in turn get them more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:30 PM
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Seems like you have a preference for white-collar workers. Ngl I agree. Well, at least the reasonings you listed. Among white-collar workers, I'd avoid people in academia for soft sciences and non-profits. I like people who don't base their entire lives and careers around ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:17 PM
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I don't think people start consuming RP content with an end goal in mind. I started consuming that content when I was 16-ish trying to figure things out. I had no experience. I wasn't a pushover, but definitely not a player. I was absolutely captivated by how seemingly offensive/edgy some of the ideas were. Things I had never been exposed to before. In my mid 20's now with a few relationships under my belt. I see a lot of the stuff that's bullshit/exaggerated/ineffective/irrelevant within the 'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:19 PM
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A lot of people do say this. RP'ers and healthier versions of masculinity allude to this. Take dating out of the equation, a lot of self-help people specifically mention that at some point you have to have accomplished something. Jordan Peterson (I'm not a fan of but this bit is good) put it very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:30 PM
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In my home country we carry fake phones too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:25 PM
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Yes. Especially the guys. Go to any place that's a hotspot for social interaction and you'll see it's overwhelmingly male. Why do you think clubs charge a cover (or sometimes a more expensive one) for guys and not for women? Even for private events it's so much harder to get women to come out than it is guys. They're flakier and less committed. The truth is women are more in demand than men are, at least socially. One of the RP grievances I wholeheartedly agree with. Not sure how it is in Irelan…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:00 PM
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I agree with you that ratio irl sucks ass. It's one of the consequences of dating app culture, women have less incentive to leave the house. However, it's better in the sense that it's more realistic. If you build up a social circle, or even talk to people when you're out, you can skip the messaging/awkwardness and build chemistry immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 03:14 AM
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Camera on but muted. Not chowing down, more like nibbling and sipping coffee.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:48 AM
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Happy. How happy are you. Sure, but dissecting this makes for great discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:25 PM
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Is it rude to eat during online class? Just snacks, not a full on meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:07 PM
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Good comment. I'll add this is especially true in extremely heterogenous societies such as the US and Western Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:52 PM
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You're totally right. Gymnastics is a good example of one that is actually better to watch women's if not at least equal because of the dexterity and flexibility required. Though, I suppose that one is kind of hard to pinpoint because it's so many different sports to watch as one. The ones that require upper-body and core strength like parallel bars or rings I think men is betters. But the floor routines and high beam are women's. It's an interesting thought experiment for sure. You seem to know…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:06 PM
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my boss, for example, is a pretty “manly man” in his 50s and he was glued to the women’s soccer World Cup. Funny you mention this one specifically, because I watched the women's WC final. I have to say, the quality of play was very good compared to just 4 years ago. Obviously not at the same level as the insane Argentina-France men's final, but much better than I thought. And my gf (she was a D1 athlete) pointed out something that I have to admit is true, the women dive way less than the men. In…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:19 PM
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I suppose one way to look at the sports/athletics thing is about effort rather than the end result? Yes, and I respect the athletes who put in the work. But sports are entertainment as well, so the end result is what matters. Especially because we're all in the arenas chanting or watching on TV and yelling. We don't think "damn, she put in a lot of work, thus it's fun to watch!", We think "Wow, I can't believe Messi kicked that into the upper 90, that's fun to watch" I think that's why women spo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:47 PM
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Anything physical related. I will never cry at women athletes being paid less. It's like complaining that the local part-time clown who performs at birthday parties doesn't get paid as much as a performer at Cirque du Soleil. Same sport, but completely different categories. On the flip side, the whole 'How could she slap!?' thing is dumb to me. Men are way stronger. To clarify, you should never lay your hand on anyone to hurt them, and I do feel bad for male domestic abuse victims. But there's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:43 PM
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Yeah like I said in my other comment, that's a fair distinction. But it's also a really thin line. increasing chances of getting hired is effectively 'being' hired
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:27 PM
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https://economics.yale.edu/sites/default/files/marley_finley.senior_essay.pdf Not some random incel, this is a Yale study
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:04 PM
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I mean women that honestly want no children but they don’t hate children These people are far and few in between. Look at the childfree subreddit. It's constant gloating and hating of kids, comes off as project and an insecurity. So in your hypothetical, don't think anything of them. But the people who advertise that they're child free are cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:44 PM
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Yes, so what? Being assertive and decisive is attractive in men and unattractive in women. It's the way the world works and I suggest embracing it because it won't change anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:38 AM
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Shared interests, language, culture etc. are nice things to have. But they come in second place to shared values, goals, and ambitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:35 AM
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But just having this much interest in analyzing straight dating dynamics and arguing with teenagers about it on Reddit. Eh, I've seen weirder hobbies. At least this is one that makes you think about the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:31 AM
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Unverifiable claim, how convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 10:23 PM
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Two different ideas. Or at least passport broing is a subset of geomaxxing. Geomaxxing could include moving out of the suburbs to cities known for favorable ratios like Chicago or NY. A lot of young people do this and dating is usually only part of a multifactorial desire to go somewhere fun for your youth. Passport broing is more deliberate. Going out of the country for a foreign bride specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:12 PM
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Yes, but I guess it wasn't just 'laid' since we got into a relationship after the first night. Women will help you out but they have to know you, respect you and most of all trust you. They take pride in setting up their friends in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:50 PM
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Quality vs quantity
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:19 AM
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Why would any women go on dates when she has 20 friends she could go out with every night? /u/benzbugatti because women aren't that different from men in this regard. They get fed up with their friends occasionally and enjoy going out with a nice man. I love my bros, and they love me. But hanging out with them 5 nights every week would get tiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:19 AM
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Yeah, race matters a lot. "Controversial" I guess, but that's what online dating is. You're literally a set of quantifiable/classifiable attributes. I dated a black girl for like 6 months. She was attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:43 AM
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Why does the millionaire buy the Mercedes and not the 200k miles 1996 Buick?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:04 PM
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Hope I'm not too late. Read Manliness by Harvey Mansfield. It's more theoretical and abstract, but it'll give you a full answer to that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:06 PM
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Yeah. She even acknowledges this, but shies away from listing anything objective. Men are objects, it's good to make lists about them. Women are not, how dare you think of them as objects with attributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:37 PM
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This is a good article, but she should've included bullet points for what grown-up women need to have lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:25 PM
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My male relatives on dad's side are mostly tall. On my mom's side they're average (American short). One of them has a somewhat shitty marriage to an obese woman he got pregnant when he was young and she was skinny. The other is twice divorced and has slept with over 200 women, probably 250 at this point. I still think height is an American thing given the basketball/NFL culture. I also think Americans don't see themselves as fat, which is disgusting to me. My player uncle is an ironman athlete. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:11 PM
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I'm tall for a latino at 5'11" (180 cm). Funnily enough, one of the best takes I've ever read on this sub has been about height. It is true in my opinion. Latino women still do care about height, but you're better off being blonde/blue-eyed. I have green eyes so that was a plus in high school back when I lived down south. We're all socialized differently. Also, talking purely physical. The personal characteristics still apply, i.e. confidence, no autism, etc. Are your friends dating latino women…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:00 PM
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Cultural values.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:04 PM
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I don't believe in epiphanies, so there wasn't one event that led me to taking a pill. I have an average background. Parents are upper-middle class latino and I grew up in the US + back home. So I guess that influenced my views a little. But many people are like that. I just like being able to discuss things without censorship. Especially dating/gender dynamics, since there's a lot of hysteria around it. I like some of the redpill ideas, but disagree with many of them. Same for blue. I dislike i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 02:18 PM
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'Men do it too' isn't a stage of denial. Do you not agree that men also want adventurous women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:36 PM
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OG redpill was your father/uncle/older brother giving you dating advice your mom/aunt/older sister would dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:53 PM
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Giving blowjobs is a pick-me thing? 😂 That's called having sex I can't believe this is real. I feel sorry for women who also think not limiting compliments is pick-me. I'm glad you learned to become a functioning loving adult. Have fun with your new boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:32 PM
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Their willingness to: Pay for premium Work and rework images until they're perfect Be on multiple dating apps. Not just the big three, but lesser-known ones as well. Spam swipes and messages all day long On my side: Be social Live alone and host things. Not just hosting, but managing/directing the social interaction Constantly make new friends Being okay with negative social interaction. i.e. rejection, kicking out toxic people from social circle, awkwardness etc. Here's a funny anecdote: A frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 10:08 PM
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The US is still plurality protestant. No way you're having trouble finding religious men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 09:41 PM
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I have a few friends who kill it in OLD. I think they played it perfectly and the algorithm snowballs them. I'm like the only guy in our friend group who meets women irl. I've had way more success irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 09:39 PM
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I think people in general can get a little jealous of past partners. Especially young people. For obvious reasons, we're naturally competitive and we build other people up in our heads and put ourselves down. My comment was more of how men get jealous v. how women get jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:58 PM
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Friends, plenty. Close friend, one. We were best friends in high school. We bonded over her figuring things out with her boyfriend, and me with my girlfriend. Both of us got dumped. Never thought of her as anything other than a friend. But, if you're close friends with someone of the opposite sex, and you're both single, feelings develop. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong, or has a bad definition of 'close'. Anyway, I moved to another country so never pursued that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 09:09 PM
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Those are all attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:35 AM
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I'm not as blackpilled as most of the posters here. But truth told that is the life of a guy. We don't have as much inherent value (or less cynically, "leverage") as women in the early years of dating. We do need to compromise to even gain the experience to learn to not compromise. Or be single and stunted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:21 AM
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Because the math doesn't work out. I have trouble meeting single people of the opposite sex these days. I have enough experiences like the ones you mentioned (not jealousy, just incompatible values), but it's easy to get stuck in the mentality of "I need to compromise to have a relationship at all".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:03 PM
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Not inherently a deal breaker, but it's hard to meet well-calibrated people in STEM under the age of 30. The guys are very autistic and hard to be friends with. The women aren't much better, they either: 1) Let themselves go because the ratio is so favorable for them they'll always get attention 2) Have no personality whatsoever, because the ratio is so favorable for them they'll always get attention I like people who work in healthcare. They're more fun and properly socialized. The women are a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:00 PM
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I treat them kindly. Pregnant women are doing a service to society, continuing the propagation of our species. It's our job to at least give up the seat on the bus, though it's been years since I've been on a bus. Also, comedy is edgy and retarded. Most comedians are absolutely trash and aren't funny, just political. Their 'no punching down' rule is dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:48 PM
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Ah, true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:28 AM
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romantically love What's romantically love vs. just love? Unsure why you added that modifier.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:50 AM
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My advice? Move out of NY /u/luna_sunflowers It's a common consensus that NYC is terrible for women given how few single men there are. I've heard this repeated online and irl. She mentioned she's in engineering. If she gets a job in the bay area she'll have her pick of nerdy tech guys. Or the pacific northwest, and she'll meet a bunch of Amazon/Boeing/Microsoft/etc. men. Or Austin or the research triangle in NC for tech. Or the Detroit Metro area for automotive guys. There is no shortage of are…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:21 PM
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Can I introduce her to my parents? Do I see myself on a vacation with her + my brother and his fiancé? Those are the things that matter to me personally. Every guy is different but I'm willing to bet that the determining factor for most guys is long-term compatibility. Seems like women who don't like casual sex and don't want to be pumped and dumped anymore (FDS) unanimously think that solution is postpone sex for some/long time. Like her 'easiness' is the main factor. Something tells me men don…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:30 PM
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Growing up in a traditional household isn't as traumatizing as you currently think it is. It'll end when you turn 18. Sounds like your dad probably has standards for your brothers that he won't hold you too either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 12:00 AM
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It's not actually two x chromosomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 11:59 PM
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Some guys are very poorly socialized and raterded. I think this is more common among guys who spam approaches (Insta DM's, on the street waiting for an Uber, etc.) Their thought process is: 1) I need to play the numbers game to increase my chances. Thrown enough shit at a wall some of it will stick -> 100 approaches with 1% chance will net me a 1.0 2) To play the numbers game I will lower my standards to increase aforementioned chances. 3) Rejection from lowered standards = hurt. This is because…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 11:58 PM
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Ideally conception should involve consent. A lot of society considers having sex as consent to all the consequences. I find it hard to argue about that. Liberals' definition of reproductive consent is "Okay, I had sex in the past. But I don't want to deal with the repercussions now"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:29 PM
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Good points, but here's the way I see it: The social/dating demographic of any city will typically be young transplants. In NYC this will be more or less the same. At least similar enough to be able to connect. The variance arises when looking at all demographics, particularly older/family. In that case yeah, an African-American barber in Harlem might not have in much in common as a Bangladeshi taxi driver in the Bronx.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:04 AM
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No. But a Bronx transplant hipster has quite a bit in common with a Flatbush transplant hipster.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:31 PM
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Turkey
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:24 PM
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Geomaxing is moving to improve your dating. For me it's not just dating, it's life quality in general. Weather, culture, jobs, etc. play a part in it. But yeah, as a young single guy I do want a better social life and living in Detroit metro area kind of cucks me in that regard. I've lived in Miami, but as a kid though. Is it any different as an adult? I'm fluent in Spanish btw
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:24 PM
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Not in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:23 PM
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First of NYC isn’t NY. Also NYC isn’t Just NYC. Fair. Hell just take Brooklyn’s cultures. Williamsburg isn’t, Dumbo, which isn’t Hells Kitchen, which isn’t Flatbush, etc, Nah, too specific. I think there's a diferrence between Manhattan and outer boroughs. but not really a (noticeable) difference between say Bronx and Flatbush. At that point you're too hipster
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:23 PM
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I'm just lazy. Fix that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:21 PM
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I'd say the 'relevant' cultural regions of the US are: Boston, NY, New England, Midwest, Chicago, Mid-Atlantic, DC, South, Atlanta, Miami, SoCal, NorCal, PNW, Texas (city), and Southwest. Obviously you have to make a point to distinguish regions from cities. Cincinnati is culturally Midwest, Chicago is its own culture. I know I'm missing a few like Appalachia and great plains but those are not even relevant. Among those, what would be the best city for a single guy to geomax? I know it's depende…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:56 PM
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You have good hair and a solid build. But please trim that beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:50 PM
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People with easy majors study abroad more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:45 PM
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Yes. Not only am I in the US, but I'm in an obese are. We are responsible for giving the world Lizzo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:21 PM
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I'm genuinely attracted to women who can speak a second language. Preferably not Spanish bc that one is kind of easy. But better than nothing! But I feel like that's too high of a standard. I'm having trouble finding single women who are simply not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:02 PM
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Fat people are unsightly. Same energy as those people who are concerned with the 'bigoted reactions to terrorism' instead of the terrorism itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:57 PM
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I understand why fatpeoplehate was a subreddit at one point. It's because like minded people can actually congregate somewhere in a society that ostracizes them. I don't understand why we as a society harp on things like height, skin color, age, sex, etc. Yet, weight is taboo. It's something you only really talk about on internet forums and whatnot. I am unironically fatphobic. I keep it to myself because it's 'rude' to point it out. I only bring it up with other gym-going friends who think like…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:52 PM
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There was a 'gamer' girl in my friend group. To her credit, she was physically attractive, at least for an American woman. But she had one of the worst personalities I've ever encountered. Literal Twitch narcissist. Plus, she genuinely sucked at the games she played. I think socially inept guys construe what gamer girls actually are. They just have one interest and want a woman to share it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:46 PM
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I love America and American institution but I thoroughly agree with this. I go outside and I see disgusting people on the daily. Someone who is thin, educated and can speak more than one language is a rarity here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:53 PM
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Yup. Few reasons: 1) Biologically, our genes literally birth more men than women to account for the high mortality rates of males. Tribes that produced more Y chromosomes lasted longer. 2) Immigration is mostly male. This is true for blue-collar low-skilled work like Hispanics coming to work the fields, all the way to Indians coming here for software engineering. Ratio is a very underrated aspect of the discussion. That's just the general ratio. For dating don't forget that: Younger women date o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:09 PM
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If they did, they’d see that most men and most women are quite beautiful. I love this attitude. I'm a people person as well and like people who are nice and take care of themselves. Physically and mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:25 PM
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Midget wrestling enjoyers are really overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:14 PM
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I don't think any guy is someone all the girls want. I always thought Sergio Ramos was particularly attractive. At least before he got a comical amount of tattoos.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:13 PM
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I think the "ugly guys" thing is overstated by women. They tend to be pretty friendly when judging each other and harsh when judging men. Here's a typical attitude about it. I'm willing to bet the women were nothing spectacular themselves. In truth, most men and women are average. Agree with you on that. However, if you want to find ugly men, go to midget wrestling. Most people there are ugly and stupid, and it's a sausage fest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:10 PM
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Yeah, being in a technical field in a technical city will kneecap your dating life. I think that's reflected in the dating apps. After all, those looking to put themselves out there and date tend to be young transplants with enough disposable income to do so. In SF this demographic is tech dudes. How is your in-person social life? Like someone else said, this could be an algorithm boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 03:56 PM
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Bad take. Political opinions don't have to be reflected in dating preferences.
/r/AllPillDebate14/06/23 11:56 PM
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I don't live in VA anymore. Speedway was better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:46 PM
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I agree. It feels like in America having any sort of opinion on body weight is seen as a negative. Which is funny given how height-obsessed this country is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:46 PM
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I stop by there to get gas and use the restroom. But everything else sucks. The coffee, the water, etc. Too much carbonate corn syrup, high trans fat foods, etc. The people who unironically eat anything from that disgusting hot dog rollers tend to be morbidly obese with deformed characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:45 PM
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I hate 7/11 so much. The people in it are particularly disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:24 PM
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I think you're right. It's not even that much about height or looks (thought they help). I think it's about being culturally aligned ('whitewashed' but without the pejorative connotation). An Indian guy who grew up in the suburbs of New York is not at all comparable to someone who came here from India on a visa and is studying CS with a thick accent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:22 PM
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It's amazing how I read this online but my live experienced is literally the opposite. I was hanging out with my friends this Friday and some of my girl friends were telling me how I shouldn't express this interest because it could scare off women for being "fatphobic" even if they're fit themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:18 PM
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Autistic is one thing. Down Syndrome.... idk
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:15 PM
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When I think of quality of life, I think of being able to walk around alone at 3am. Apparently that's a huge privilege and one of the major advantages of being a male!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:11 PM
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Every college town and every city has the same distribution of attractive and unattractive people, same distribution of fit and fat people. What a bad take. Do you unironically think UCLA is going to have the same distribution of attractive:unattractive people as Marshall University? Actually, no need to pick extremes. VT and Radford are already good examples of radically different student bodies. Geography, style, degree offering, weather, price, etc. are all huge factors that will influence th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 12:08 PM
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Just googled Valerie Solanas. Almost died of cringe. What is your age in numbers?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:54 AM
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Which town? I guessed Radford because there's a lot of chubby women their since there's a military base nearby. They also "play the Hokies in basketball" but they're not in the ACC, which is why I assume you worded it that way. I'm actually kind of curious lol. Harrisonburg? Not sure JMU plays us in basketball though...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:50 AM
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Radford?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:33 AM
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Have you tried it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:33 AM
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It's sensory overload. How is it awkward?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:03 AM
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I was reading the thread earlier about whether men are attracted to overweight girls and most said stuff along the lines of they aren't gf material and they wouldn't be seen in public with them. Seeing as there is so many overweight women out there its a bit out of touch to say you are repulsed by overweight girls yet you claim to have "low standards". Thus is the modern dating scene. Fr though, there's a lot of talk about how women don't need a man to support them these days and therefore the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 10:21 AM
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No, I'm 24 Sort of? I knew she was religious and sex was off-limits. Didn't think it would be that big of a deal until she started feeling like a friend I'd go out and make out with
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:27 PM
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6 months. What does "not overweight" mean for you? I'm sure there's a cutoff somewhere. It's hard to describe it since everyone is a little different and carries weight differently. I'll say this though, whatever 'overweight' is to me, it is a much less generous cutoff then whatever midwesterners think it is. It's not a gender thing either. A former friend of mine would unironically look at me and say "Dude, I could lose a few pounds, but I don't think I'm fat". He's 250 lbs, even at 6'3" and ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:16 PM
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I am single once more. Just broke up with my now ex girlfriend, and it was really amicable. Though I don't think we'll realistically remain friends since we have no overlap and met online. Lol, this is not going to be fun as a 24 year old male in the suburban Midwest (not Chicago btw) working in engineering. I am probably going to have to change both these things within the next year if I want a shot at a good social/dating life. I learned quite a bit though, and at least I have long-term post-c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:01 PM
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I remember one first date I went on with a catholic vegetarian. She wanted someone who was traditionally catholic, but also a liberal. She was very personally conservative and one of her Hinge pics was her at March for Life. She had an anti-Republican prompt as one of her text things. I asked her about her opinion on Justice Barrett (they graduated from the same school) and she hated her. Not sure what hyper-niche demographic of men would appeal to her. Personally religiously conservative but al…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 03:00 PM
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There's a really good 4chan post about how someone did this on a college campus, hundreds of approaches per year, dozens a week. He started to get a reputation because he was too autistic to realize the entropy from a social system that is practically closed. Everyone knew him as the weird guy who would approach girls at a bus stop or something. I never found that post again though. Shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:46 PM
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Mean while, software engineers tend to be concentrated in "tech hubs". This causes these areas to have many people all earning high salaries, with high costs of living, etc. So despite earning a lot and being highly educated, a developer does not really stand out from the crowd. I felt that. I'd also add that software engineers are disproportionately online, so that's where a lot of the complaining is coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 07:52 PM
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I'm from europe, I walk and bike a lot as a commute so maybe it'd be different for people from usa? This makes a big difference. The average person in Europe gets some exercise from walking. Also, there's less junk food in Europe. Commutes in the US are largely car-based. Even going to the store requires you to drive to the nearest strip mall. Paired with junk food at drive-thru's, you can get into the habit of consuming high-fructose corn syrup while literally sitting down. This builds up over …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:22 PM
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What a bad take. Any grifter of any ideology can be accused of preying on lost people. Same could be said for the transgender movement. The accusation is indirect. The practice in the article is direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:16 AM
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I'm happy for women. Valued for who they are and what they accomplish. Men, for what they accomplish.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:23 PM
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Women trust women more than men trust men. I literally stated that. But 'blindly' is an exaggeration. I don't agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:13 PM
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This is mostly true. Though, there is 100% a mainstream movement to elevate women for career stuff. 'First woman CEO of xyz!' is a celebrated achievement.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:08 PM
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Both. As you've correctly pointed out, RP does overestimate the number of people who have a strong pre-selection bias. Plenty of people make decisions based on the traits themselves. The issue with your example is that you selected a celebrity. An actor at that lol. His attractive traits are very apparent. Pre-selection is more significant when talking about normal people. If everyone is roughly the same level in terms of attractiveness, education, income, etc. then being known for having a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:00 PM
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To be fair, it depends on the setting. In a purely social setting, yeah, having women around is more valuable than a master's. But professionally and what not then the value comes more from the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 11:37 PM
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I'm usually the one to plan stuff. Have my own place right next to downtown, so pregame quite a bit. Know how to grill pretty well, so me and my buddies have done a few bbq's on the beach. Wine is my absolute forte though, I love wine and am pretty knowledgeable about it. My favorite nights are potluck nights. And it's not just the material stuff. I think I'm a pretty good time. Tend to be outgoing, funny, etc. Not as much as others, I'm not the most charismatic guy in the world, but I'd say abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 08:24 PM
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I never said they were boring because they're women. That's sexist, boring people are boring people. The point I'm making is that boring unimpressive women have value to me for the social proof. Boring men don't even make it into my social circle anymore. What do they provide?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:53 PM
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Ever since I found Fresh and Fit and subsequently went down this interesting and somewhat entertaining rabbit hole, some songs and shows that I watched/listened to before, have altered meanings now. The glass has shattered Can you give an example? I'm pretty sure I know what you mean but I love hearing other people's experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:07 PM
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Yes, obesity increases the risk of some health conditions. Being underweight does as well. “Being underweight was associated with excess mortality as compared to all others”. False equivalency. Obesity accounts for more deaths than all other ED's combined. It's like looking at car accident deaths vs deaths while walking. Also, I 100% do care about the collective health of people, since we're trending towards a more leftist society where everything is subsidized. If I have to pay for other people…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:48 PM
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Yeah, I love this country but the obesity culture really bothers me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:42 PM
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When I think about it, I don't really admire any of my (current) lady friends. I respect them out of decency, but not out of admiration like I do some of my guy friends. If they were guys, I wouldn't be friends with them because I think they're boring to be around and unmotivated. I can't think of a single deep or interesting conversation I had with any of them in the past year. Maybe one. I can honestly say that I like having them as friends because of the social proof that knowing women gets y…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:40 PM
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Yeah, a higher N count is typically better. You can account for more variation and you have to do less data cleaning at times. But it's also dangerous because a very high degree polynomial can lead to overfitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:38 PM
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What OP meant is youth. You can tell because they brought up height. Height and age the closest thing in terms of what men/women fetishize. Just like how guys are salty about height women are salty about age. "Omg, you're literally dating a child" is a common insult from 24-27 year old women when guys their age date someone 18 <= age <= 22/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:36 PM
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So many people are lost and they find dumb ways to fill the void.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:34 PM
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My boyfriend just turned down a spot on a semi-pro soccer team. The league they’re in is really a feeder league to professional teams. He’s pretty upset and he’s trying to act like he’s okay. I’m pregnant and I know that’s why he turned them down but he’s acting like it has nothing to do with his decision. This sounds like the plot of a European or South American movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:17 AM
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I think these dynamics exist everywhere. But the US, and to a certain extent the UK, experience it more because of cultural factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:11 AM
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What do you find inconsistent about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:11 AM
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I pick it up most of the time. She almost always offers though, so that's key.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:09 AM
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This lacks nuance. You can feel empathy and envy at the same time. I don't envy women when it comes to walking around at night. Or having to take a car to a mechanic. I do envy women when they get pulled over by a cop, or try to put themselves out there. How are the two mutually exclusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:08 AM
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It was in high school and it was like my second or third date ever. Met a girl at model UN and we hit it off really well like 2-3 weeks before winter break. Coincidentally, we were both going to be in the UK (I lived in a South American country at the time) for that break. Had our first date in London just walking around and doing touristy shit. London eye, St. James Park, etc. We were like 16-17 at the time. She became my first long-term gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:05 AM
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Men try very hard for a while, but if they are not successful getting women, they get disenchanted and go into videogames, self-improvement, workaholics, studies, etc. Most men don't have an entry point to meet single and available women, and places where they can see them (such as supermarket or work) discourage such interactions heavily. My situation exactly. OP knows what he's talking about. I would disagree that men with women are "selfish". That's part of it, but I think there's a huge imba…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:59 AM
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There are totally acceptable time and places to approach women. They just don't happen to include a lot of eligible dating-aged women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 05:55 PM
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What part of the Midwest did you live in? Curious because reserved with a dry sense of humor describes most of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 05:53 PM
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Sometimes I get jealous if they are more successful than me or something because for some reason I compare myself a lot to other women when it comes to that sort of thing That makes sense. The thing is, OP is asking a good question but from a male perspective. Men tend to get jealous if they think their partner had a more fulfilling/exciting/romantic sex life with an ex. I think women get jealous too, but not as much as it relates to sex acts. More like "Wow, your ex was a singer?" type of thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:13 AM
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This is the rational response and I would like to say the same about myself. But are you really immune to jealousy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:45 AM
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I agree, but it's not a "false demand for women" There is certainly more demand for women than men. Even among women lol. You have to accept that in some dating arenas, if you're an educated fit man, your match isn't an educated fit woman. Either settle, choose to stay alone, upgrade your stats, or find another dating market. No one is forcing you to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:41 AM
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This "I was lied to!" idea from TRP is a way to shift blame onto others. Or at the very least it's exaggerated. I was actually told to watch out for abusive/lying women by my Mom of all people. She got mad (in private) after I told her some stuff about my first girlfriend. She felt I had been mistreated. My dad was more chill. But honestly, I received a general hands off approach from my parents when it came to women. And as the oldest of three brothers I particularly had to figure it out all by…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:30 PM
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That's awesome man. What events did it lead to?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:48 AM
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Oh, I'm definitely moving soon(ish). The place I currently live in is not for me. I'm not into cars enough to justify living here. Everyone is so shut in. Also, I don't have a problem meeting people in general. I have more friends than I can keep up with. I'm active in my community. My issue is meeting single women my age. I meet one like maybe once a month. Standup comedy is kinda cringe. I haven't taken classes but I went to a few shows. Again, mostly older people and the younger ones are alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 11:17 PM
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"Meet people in real life" I'd like to know exactly, in extreme detail, step-by-step how to meet and escalate with people in real life after graduating from college. Because everywhere I go it's usually either a sausage fest, everyone is older/married, or in their pre-selected group of friends. Usually a combination of the three. I met my current girlfriend on a dating app because it's bleak every time I step outside. Granted, I live in a shitty midwestern region.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:54 PM
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Real life has cons --- you need to be part of a social circle where (a) it's acceptable to fraternize with women in a romantically intentioned way (dwindling amount of those spaces) (b) new women are added with regularity and (c) you have high (enough) social status in; then, you also need to (a) realize that because your reputation is at stake with every new interaction, you must proceed with caution, which means that (b) the courtship will move at a much slower pace than you might like. This i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:47 PM
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Are you a man or a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:23 PM
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Yes, I want a woman to have a career. But I still expect to be the primary breadwinner. I wouldn't care if she made more money though. In other words, I want her to have a career, but I don't expect her to put in as much work as me. Pursuing masters, leave of absence, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 05:30 PM
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I think alternative aesthetics do matter a lot less. Being a skater is cool and rebellious at 16, but long term it's cringe. You're right that the change starts becoming noticeable at around 25. I think this is why RP is concerned with AF/BB. Having said that, I don't think a mindless capitalist robot is any attractive either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 02:14 PM
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I'm 24. I think 18-30 is attractive. But it honestly depends. Just purely physically speaking (feels a little weird typing that out lol) I've seen overweight 22 year old people with crow's feet and 26 year old's who look 21. I think a lot more of beauty than you think is under your control. Weight is a big one because of how much it ages you. All things being equal in terms of weight, skin care, etc. I honestly probably couldn't tell you who is more attractive between 18-30. Having said all that…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 02:00 PM
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Sure, but it also helps to acknowledge the issues women face. Empathy goes both ways. Also, 'ruptured relationship between genders' is extreme. This isn't some breaking political border conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:50 PM
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The video poorly reflects on him, especially if the dog medicine part is true. You're right that it's one instance, and Hilary's family chose to release the worst snippet. There's probably a lot more to the story, as is the case in every single marriage. I will say though, only having one car when they really could've afforded two is telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:30 AM
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I agree, but different thing. Individualist for trendy stuff. But younger people tend to still feel like kids and tend to value other people's opinions more because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 10:19 PM
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I'm an early/mid 20's guy. Yeah, preselection/socialproof (they're the same thing) is very important. If a man is standoffish or even rude to a woman, how likely is she still going to be attracted to him just because he has been preselected by another woman? Impossible to answer this theoretical question. Men being standoffish or rude have a hard time building social circles / dating and thus aren't preselected by definition. If the man has been preselected by a “low-quality” woman, such as one …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:30 PM
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Depends. Hard to make broad assertions like this. I think in younger cohorts any remotely attractive woman will have guys disguised as friends who are obviously interested in her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:44 PM
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Bullshit take. Reading Marx into everything is cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:01 AM
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This is pretty accurate lol. Cynical, but true. I feel for everyone, because everyone is an object to be consumed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:00 AM
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How old are you, and what environment are you in?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 12:05 AM
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It's obviously not that bad irl. It's fun/interesting discussing these underlying dynamics and I haven't found any other sub that is dedicated to this niche topic. That's why I'm still here. But as usual redditors tend to stay stuck in the same 4-5 topics and become really vitriolic about it, that's the biggest downside. If you're 23 and getting triggered just reading about it, I highly suggest you go out there and try to amass some real life experience. It'll make you more resilient overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 01:28 PM
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Penis size. I get being insecure about height, race, income, etc. All those are pretty relevant but your donger doesn't really come up in real life discussions very often, nor in the flirtation process.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 11:37 PM
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Men are far more accepting in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:29 AM
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Meetups etc are a good way of making friends and forming communities. But in very specific scenarios. In my experience, any 'public' venue that has a social aspect to it will be overwhelmingly male.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:21 AM
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This is a quality post. You're wasting it on reddit lol. I'll just say though, for a lot of people the approach begins with figuring out what you're not versus what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:44 PM
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This is a very good point that is very true. But what you're missing is that men are like this because it's the way we're socialized to approach dating. We constantly have to play the numbers game and make bids because otherwise we see no success. If you have no options you start to want anything. Nerdy girl, church girl, party girl, whatever. Dating app, club, friend group, whatever. We have to think in broad general terms because our approach has to be broad and general. I'll argue that while …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:36 PM
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All things being equal I 100% would prefer a woman with a career or at the very least solid career prospects. Wanting some sort of housewife strikes me as internet LARP or something deeply religious / old fashioned. Having said that, I have no idea where to even find women with good careers. My own workplace is so overwhelmingly male. The handful of women who are not old/married must have unlimited options. Not to mention; don't shit where you eat. Then in the apps most of the women work as serv…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:20 PM
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Probably the former. Someone who has always been lonely and frustrated likely has issues (though honestly, this is really common post-covid). But the real question you're asking is about n-count. How does it align with the sentiment of it in RP philosophy. My take as a 24 year old guy is that I don't obsess about the specific number that much like some of these redpills guy do. But I agree with the underlying value. A woman who has been in multiple relationships, has kids, probably a house at so…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:13 PM
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There are definitely scenarios where everyone can be the winner. True. But when it comes to attraction it's measured relative to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:47 PM
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what would his social life need to look like for him to not even need dating apps to date ? A big enough group of extroverted people who are committed to socializing. But the key is that the group needs to have a good gender balance. I have a great social life and can go out three times a weekend if I wanted to. But all my friends are guys, so dating through that is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:21 PM
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Doctors are a rare breed. They tend to be really intense in their 20's-30's because of their absolute bonkers. Drug abuse, manic episodes, chronic sleep deprivation etc. is pretty common. I have a friend finishing up his residency, and he's a self-admitted sexual deviant. I don't see him settling with a woman who's prudish, even if he has the opportunity to do so. Also, even if you're not 'fucked up' as a doctor, it could be just preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 02:28 PM
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Broad generalizations but I do agree. Guys would do a lot better with more education instead of spending another 10 hours per week at the gym. Women would do better if they lost a little weight instead of "I'm bubbly and doing my masters!". Obviously I still think men should hit the gym and women pursue educations. Talking strictly dating-wise here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 02:09 PM
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Ok well, that's two big factors that most people on this board can't relate to. STEM is majority men, so when you do go into it for college (or I guess 'University' since you're European) you will meet plenty of guys. There are more women in the arts and humanities so men have an easier time in those cases. Dating is different in every culture. But one consistent factor is that college is a great environment for socializing since you're meeting a bunch of people naturally. I didn't even get into…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:57 PM
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I've seen some women line up multiple dates in a row. But I'm willing to bet there's some exaggeration in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:30 AM
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You're in STEM and finding it difficult to meet guys? What? Online doesn't count, especially at 19. And it's not about who has it 'easier'. Do you even talk to anyone in your classes / study groups / dorm hall etc.? I'm curious as to what your social life looks like because it has to be abysmal if you're genuinely not overweight in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:20 AM
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Why do you think YOUR single? You're* I'm not single anymore because I got lucky with the algorithm. But by far the biggest factor was opportunity. I know it's because I'm graduated and working in a specific industry now. Work, gym, events, etc. are all easily 80% guys. Most friend groups are mostly guys, even the ones I met through lady friends. "Go outside and touch grass" Dude, I go outside and all I see are stroads and cars. I can count the number of single women my age I've come across 'org…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:53 PM
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Hung out with some people, but didn't go out to a bar. Once you finish education your social life dries the fuck up. Pfft, tell me about it. It's particularly bitter because I was pretty social in undergrad then I moved for a job in a STEM field. Complete eye-opener.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:08 PM
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I relate to 100% of what you're saying. I'm literally in the library right now doing homework (and procrastinating) and my friends are making plans to go out and drink. I don't want to go out tonight at all, but I know it'll diminish my social circle little by little.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 09:58 PM
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I wonder how many who answered women are trans. I notice that on the internet (at least esoteric debate forums) a good 20-30% of 'women' are physiologically male who transitioned but don't mention it under the assumption we all collectively share the progressive gender paradigm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:29 PM
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I'll bite. Not 30 but in my mid 20's. In the early career spot a few years after college. I don't really care about age, because I'm starting to understand the whole "it's not looks it's attitude" comments I read online from older guys. The women I've dated who are in the same spot as I am do seem jaded. As if working for a few years has completely drained the fun out of them. I'm not even sure where to meet them anymore. They don't really seem to go out or respond on the apps. Conversations wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:54 PM
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I think you're thinking of it the wrong way. Assuming there's no fundamental self-esteem issue, a lot of guys don't hesitate to do so. I think it's a lack of opportunity that is contributing to the decline you're alluding to. I'm in a specific scenario that makes meeting people, but particularly women, difficult. It seems like there's not enough receptive young people seeking to connect with others, so I don't get many chances to ask women out outside of grinding the difficult apps. I know a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 05:26 AM
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What does "putting yourself out there" even mean? Be specific because otherwise discussing this is useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:30 PM
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We're heading towards it whether you personally do or don't want to live in that world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 04:06 PM
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There's no breaking point, that's accelerationist cope. I'll make some predictions regarding relationships though: In 200 years the nuclear family won't exist anymore. Much less local communities. Society will just be a clusterfuck of people who have relationships with others, live with some of them, and have children with some. The law will turn into a complex web to keep up with this and sort out issues like guardianship, dependency, etc. Standards of beauty will be taboo. Actually, asserting …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:54 PM
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Dude, have you seen what the average Appalachian looks like? You're comparing one of the most obese regions of the United States with one of the least obese countries in the world. I'm astounded you would unironically type out the comment you just did.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:31 PM
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How has being Brazilian affected your views on dating/romance?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:04 AM
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I don't "choose" it, that's the point I'm making. I'm average in sociability I'd say. But literally, where do I meet women? Most of my friends are coworkers, and my coworkers are 80%+ men. Gym is mostly guys, pickup sports are mostly guys, bars/clubs are mostly guys (and a terrible environment to meet people in general). The funniest part is when I do meet and befriend women, most of their friends are guys too lmao. Even women complain about the ratio where I'm at.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:51 PM
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If you seriously manage to avoid women in all these areas of life, that says something about you I have women friends, but I'm going to be real with you, I completely disagree with this. I work from home at an engineering company in a rural state. I also go to school online. The amount of women I meet on a monthly basis is like 2. Men on the other hand, I'm with them all the time everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:23 PM
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Ok, nice sarcasm. It's not so much not care what the other person might think or feel. I mean shit, if they're my friend of course I care about their well-being. But I cannot be content with regret. Conversely: Of course! Who cares what you think or feel, you've gotta look out for number one - the decorum of the social group! Never express your desires, this is a good strategy, and I recommend you pursue it to the fullest extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 05:18 PM
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Not indulge, but if I'm interested I'll let them know and then take it from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 04:35 PM
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I ignore them, carry on normally, and the feelings always go away eventually Are they feelings or did you just find them attractive? I cannot let go of feelings without a resolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 02:17 PM
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I 99% agree with you. Maybe breaking down dynamics to this level is an autistic thing, but it's worth it. Rant incoming: A generalized truth I've come across in life is that if there is potential for a relationship to form, then it's hard (impossible) to remain good friends with the opposite sex. I've had a lot of good women friends but: Either me or her or both were in a relationship Explicitly not looking for anything (really this was only in college) Attraction mismatch All of these deal with…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 02:11 PM
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You can have the best conversations with coworkers then never get invited to stuff outside of work and get brushed off when you try to make plans. Do you really get brushed off? I relate to no one taking initiative. But when I take initiative people follow along.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:27 PM
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Some, particularly those in my pledge class. I've called a few of them and went to visit once. I'm pretty confident I could reconnect with most though. I think guys can typically go long periods of time without talking and still consider each other friends. Not to think too much into it, but what's interesting is that some of my PC brothers moved in together after college since they got jobs within the same metro area. Some are roommates but all live in the same apartment complex. I moved to a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:19 PM
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I was in a fraternity in college. It was closer to 60-70, and I guess "close" is a little bit generous. But yeah, easily 50+ people I knew well enough and could hang out with individually. Probably a good 10-15, my pledge class, were close close. Then a good ~10 friends outside of greek like who I maintained connections with from dorm living freshman year were also close close.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 06:58 PM
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Yeah no shit sherlock. Where to find women friends who will do this? I have plenty of women friends. You know what the funny thing is? Even they complain about how hard it is to make new girl friends. One even said she just likes hanging out with the guys more. Hell, one of them straight up told me she "doesn't really have any friends" when trying to get me to invite her to some stuff. This strategy 100% worked in college. But ngl I kinda laughed at your advice. "Just find hot women to introduce…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:23 AM
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Trust me, you don't know life until you lived in a city where 60% of people your age are female. Then you move to a place where 70% are male. For real. There's so much theory thrown around on this sub. But really the deciding factor throughout my life above all else has been ratio. I don't even think city demographics matter a lot. It's more of your immediate surrounding. If you're in college, your major/clubs/dorm/friend group will matter. If you're working, then it's the coworkers you hang out…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 03:00 AM
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It can work either if there is none of it runs both ways. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:50 AM
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Why when women begin to dominate a certain field do salaries in that field become less competitive? More people getting into a job will suppress the wage for that job. It's not exclusively a woman thing though unless you believe those propaganda articles. The same is true for fields that saw a net influx of of workers, including (mostly male) immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:50 AM
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Bruh, barely. Wasn't a lot of PUA developed back in the bar days? Back when it was normal to go to a bar alone and talk to strangers? I want some practical real world advice for the following predicament: Single guy who graduated college and works from home at an environment that is mostly male.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:46 AM
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But for me, a huge problem is that the Red Pill holds this to be an absolute truth. The assertion that TRP ideas are universal is definitely one of the problems, I agree. Though, a lot of the more level-headed guys will concede that they talk about statistically significant observations, not ubiquitous explanations. Another one is the urge to argue topics online and cite a bunch of studies and shit. Just take the principles and apply irl. I'd like to see some more tangible and applicable takes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:31 AM
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I have not had women friends expect these things from me. At most I've given them rides to the airport, just like I give my guy friends occasionally. Yeah I do think it's hard for a single man and single woman to be good friends without one becoming attracted to the others. But you don't need to simp for any of your friends like that unless you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:17 AM
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That's a very very broad question. I can't even possibly begin to answer it unless you narrow it down a bit. But I think I know what you're getting at so I'll try: Latin America is quite a bit more 'conservative' in some senses. Gender differences are embraced way more than anglo countries. There are festivals where guys jokingly dress as women and vice versa and it's not seen as offensive but rather as humorous. The main languages (mostly Spanish but also Portuguese in Brazil) are gendered. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:37 PM
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This is such a bullshit take. South American countries are predominantly Catholic and most abortions are illegal. Yet dating and hookups are notoriously easier there. In fact, all of Latin American society is wayyyy more sexual than anglo pro-choice societies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 07:23 PM
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This has been my experience as well. Previously successful and now it's dry out there. Granted, I graduated college, went into a male-dominated industry, etc. HOWEVER, I'll echo what some of the users have said. Everyone sucks at conversation. Everyone sucks at socializing. That's one of my issues with the manosphere and redpill in general. It's easy to say that women are putting in no effort. Yes, there's some merit to that, but I think it's sexist because to be honest, I had to start cutting g…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 07:18 PM
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That's the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:13 AM
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It's a factor because people treat genders differently. It's not just about choices. Like I wrote for the other guy: In general men are just less 'in-demand' socially. You get less invites, less conversations, less interest in the vast majority of social spaces. Public events, private events, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:19 PM
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Actually, no. I think that men refusing to open up and be emotionally vulnerable is something men have to take responsibility for. Yes, society 'ostracizes' men in that way but c'mon, you still bear most of the responsibility. I'm vulnerable with my friends and encourage the same from them. I mean in general men are just less 'in-demand' socially. You get less invites, less conversations, less interest in the vast majority of social spaces. Public events, private events, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:19 PM
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This is totally bullshit. Loneliness doesn't only depend on gender but it is totally a factor in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:48 PM
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I agree I hate whiners. It's not just 'luck' though. It's systemic luck, i.e. opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 07:53 PM
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Aight, so my (mini) high school reunion went pretty well. I was the fittest, had the best job, etc. One of my best buddies from then is married now lmao. One girl had a decent glow up, but she was always pretty hot. She laughed at my jokes and did the arm touch thing. Do I go for it? She just got out of a 5 year relationship so I think I can sell it as a rebound discrete one off fling since I'm only temporarily back home for vacation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:12 AM
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This gets brought up like everyday. Probably some of both. Things in life don't always have ONE argument behind it. Yes, some people (I would actually say probably most in this case) care about trafficking, abuse, etc. But yes, I can totally see a subconscious resentment of sex work as a way to bypass courtship. Also, I think there are some moralistic conservatives who think sex is a sacred thing and shouldn't be devalued and commodified.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:04 AM
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Gonna meet up with some high school friends for the first time in like 5 years. Haven't seen them since I started college. Is there where we measure our glow ups? Should I brag about my job? One of them is literally married. The other one is still in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:29 PM
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I believe you but that doesn't answer the question. Where do you meet women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:48 PM
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100 lbs overweight, under 6 figures and own place? There has to be a catch. Where are you finding your dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:27 PM
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Link the article, I bet it's the NYT. The answer to your question is that whoever wrote this gave an accurate description of many traditional relationships - men do income-generating work, women are homemakers. But they apply an unfalsifiable moral framework to this by saying "her work and dedication still seen as lesser and easier". This is not true. Seen as lesser and easier? By whom? A patriarchal sexist strawman? While this boogeyman may or may not exist, it's not a fundamental truth. I know…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 01:45 PM
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i can dislike (or even hate) that people only treat me a certain way because they consider me to be conventionally attractive, while also using that attractiveness to my advantage. i can also feel that way and still personally enjoy my own beauty. That's a succinct summary. While this is probably not as true as exercising for guys, I think it's a good analogy. I like fitness, but also dislike that if I were too fat/skinny I would have less 'presence'. So out of curiosity - since you also mention…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 01:36 PM
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Ok, I thought you were a yuppie. I mean this in the least offensive way possible, 3 degrees and 2 jobs isn't the "overachiever" brag you think it is with the full context you have provided. Once you get a real job (not that nanny/server isn't respectable employment) I'm guessing in DC? things will get easier for you. Having said that, best of luck to you. It seems like you're working on your goals and as a healthy educated person you're already in the big leagues. No doubt find what you're looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:36 PM
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Umm if I’m an over-achiever, why exactly wouldn’t I be picky? You absolutely should. But there's no way you're simply not looking in the wrong venues. Assuming your self-description is accurate, where are you sourcing your dates? What industry do you work in? 3 degrees and 2 jobs? Be real, are you a high-earning a yuppie? Or are you collecting humanities degrees and working retail? I would kill to meet a thin 24-year-old woman at least working on something above a bachelor's (or planning to with…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:00 PM
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Bars will not be what you expect my guy. I highly recommend you go to some for the experience. But don't think it'll be like How I Met Your Mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:50 PM
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In the US, if we have socialized healthcare, then I will absolutely want to vote on these things. I don't want my tax dollars to be used for fat people. I don't trust lawyers and ethics panels. That's also undemocratic. You can't just 'leave it to the experts'.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:57 PM
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Standard as in my country it’s part of healthcare that everyone has access too, as part of the government healthcare system, and it carried out like any other procedure. It’s not some massive debate topic. It’s just a thing that happens. What country are you in? Netherlands? And it’s not controversial within the medical community. A few critics out of millions does not make a topic controversial. Fair point I guess. Idc. Now address the point about the democratic process. I have never heard a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:48 PM
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It’s not controversial in the rest of the developed world. False. Other developed countries have abortion laws, often time stricter than the US. It’s a standard part of medical practice for a variety of reasons. How tf do you even substantiate a claim like this. 'Standard part of medical practice'. Yeah okay, anything that is elective isn't. Also, 'standard' is dumb af. Trepanations were 'standard' practice at one point. Even within the medical community it is not controversial. Also false. I ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:36 PM
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Your edit is a good take. What this sub fails to mention in age-gap relationships is that they're not all equal. 18 F and 30 M guy will probably be abusive indeed. I've seen 16 F and 25 M guys which I think is disgusting. On the other hand, I have an uncle who is in a 25 F - 50 M relationship (when he's not dating 3 women at a time). I can't blame him, but older women including my mom and aunts sure do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:30 PM
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In the USA TODAY abortion is now being made illegal again in multiple states. This one doesn't fit the others. Abortion is a controversial medical procedure like a lobotomy and people feel strongly about the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:18 PM
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The point of the OP is that this gender disparity is across the board in any context. Even for private dinner parties/gatherings, women are less invested and more flakey. Yup, this has been my experience. TLDR is that gender disparity is uneven across the board (except for a brief period in time in college if you're in the right social circles). Which renders the whole "go touch grass" and "meet people irl" advice useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:21 PM
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Yeah, I'm starting to see the picture. My lifestyle is great, but I talk to like 0.3 new single women per week. 0.015 of them are viable lmao. Looks like I'm doubling down on gym and getting better photos next year. Any tips for professional photographers?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 03:17 AM
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This is what it seems like. I have a high-quality circle of guy friends. I'm pretty fit currently but I'll be reasonably optimized in like 6 months. Pro pics + membership + introduce her to solid guy friends seems to be the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:17 PM
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Exactly the same at my school and my chapter. No rules on the books about it (though, other chapters did) but the sheer amount of pressure and 'shaming' if you brought guys and no girls was insane. Everyone made an effort to shotgun invites to the women in their classes, clubs, etc. and append it with "invite your friends too!". Friends of brothers on an ad hoc basis. Single guys lmao no chance. Though, this strategy doesn't work after graduation. Most of my guy friends today put in no effort an…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:13 PM
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Book clubs are great. My local library hosts them online though LMAO. Which is exactly what I'm talking about. Modern society is so isolating. Yoga is fun. Spirituality events are not for me. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:39 PM
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Disagree. It's a chicken and Egg situation. I'm forced to be contrived because the ratio is bad. Not the ratio is bad because I can't let go. The nights I've let go and had an "open invite" (I'll drop plans in all my group chats / invite everyone) it almost always ends up being overwhelmingly nerdy guys. The nights it's a balanced event is where I went out of my way to over invite women and under invite guys. Funnily enough, one of my friends started dating another friend after one of these cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:38 PM
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Where do you "go"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:10 PM
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I appreciate your perspective. That was the case for me as well in undergrad. But like I said, I was in a frat and in general that was a college bubble. I think I made an effort to develop a social circle outside of my STEM major and that lead to a healthier balance. The gender bias ticked way up after graduating to an unprecedented level (to me anyway). Most of my extended friend group bonded because we all work for the same company + a few gym bros we met along the way. So 90% guys. It's funny…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:06 PM
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Bars aren't impossible. I've gotten a few numbers and Insta's. Following up is really really hard though. Spaces like school, extracurricular clubs, social circle of friend groups are better generally I think. But generally when women say OLD "isn't real dating" and tell men to go meet women irl, they do tend to underestimate some of the things you've described. There's a reason girls get into clubs for free lol Yup. Thanks for putting it succinctly. I mostly work from home for an engineering fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:58 PM
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Being comfortable socially is the key in almost every meeting people situation. Yes but with an asterisk. Genuinely having fun in my experience is the key socially. But like I mentioned in another comment, if you want to date and meet people then the other key is hanging around a bunch of socially calibrated well-meaning people in a mixed gender group. At the very least the keys are tied.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:55 PM
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This is true. The amount of attention I get when hanging out with some girl friends is way higher than if I go out with a bunch of guys. That's not the only factor, but easily the biggest factor. Having a good time and luck are tied for second. Focusing on having quality girl friends is important. Introducing them into your social circle is difficult I've found, but that's another topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:53 PM
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It's hard to find quality open minded guy friends. All they do is smoke weed and play video games. This guy and his girlfriend were super chill, even if they're vegetarians.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 05:53 PM
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Haven't tried that. It's on my bucket list, there's some nearby.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 04:36 PM
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The first one is an expensive scam designed to damage your rotator cuffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:07 PM
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Yeah. I actually enjoy Yoga. I hate dancing. One local franchise I went too with my vegetarian tame impala ipa friend (we got a week of free yoga) was really nice. The instructors were great, the hot yoga studios were amazing. Both the men and women looked really attractive (for the most part lmao) and were chill to be around. Too bad the actual membership is pretty expensive. My gym also has yoga and I go there quite a bit. People are a bit older on average. Though, it's impossible to strike up…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:04 PM
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Are dancing and yoga really the only irl activities with a good gender ratio?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:49 PM
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My take is that abortion doesn't really matter. I've dated in a country where abortion is illegal but it was a hell of a lot easier to get laid, and I've struggled to date in a blue state in the US. Culture matters a lot more than law. Also, data collection seems flawed. Didn't disclose how they sampled their group.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:57 AM
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So if I plan to start my own family with a woman I meet. Then hopefully she also sees that I may be a great family man, because for a lot of us, that’s the point right? I agree. I'm also really family-oriented and that's my end goal. Actually, I really appreciate how you think because so far it seems to be all the exact conclusions I've come to. But I'm going to be a little cynical and cruel, and add a stipulation I don't see mentioned often: The feeling is I want to be "good enough" to start th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:03 PM
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And the most important in my mind any man who seems to be upset or spiteful that he’s more attractive today then he was in the past instead of being cool with the women who now find him attractive. There’s soo many men who seem to want to punish women today because the women when he was younger didn’t like him, rather then recognizing that this new women here today in front of you finds you attractive. Easier said than done lol. Bitterness is a one way street. Knowing you didn't really get the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:50 PM
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That's a good question, you didn't come off as brute at all. You're probably just misunderstanding my objective. It's like you said. It's about parsing and processing interpersonal relationships. But I'll also add - interpersonal relationships as it relates to the sexual dynamics between the genders For that reason I want the woman perspective too. That's why this place is better than TRP, ASKTRP, etc. Those are all just echo chambers. The differing perspectives here add to the thoughts. Having …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:37 PM
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Parsing and processing interpersonal relations is a hobby of ours. Not to do the whole "weh male are victims" sthick again. But I find it absolutely fascinating, and a little envious, that for you this is just a hobby. For me it's literally a necessity if I want to have a shot at all of a romantic life after college.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:10 PM
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Correct, but then you went on to distinguish between poor and rich, but it's not that simplistic. Can't read Marx into everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:38 AM
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I work now and know a lot of people still hanging out with high school friends /childhood friends occasionally. Hell, I still see some HS friends when I go back home. It's rarer but it makes a difference personally knowing at least one person in a city.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:36 AM
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The poor and the rich have completely different partnering strategies. Yes, but imo education/industry is more of a factor. A plumber can make more than a lawyer these days (especially factoring in the debt), but it's not raw income it's the type of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:27 AM
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30's, I'm not sure. What I see is that a lot of guys will have their hometown friends, then the friends they made in college. In their 20's many go back to their hometown to work and reconnect with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:24 AM
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This just in, its easier to find people when the dating pool is larger and you are near people your age. Its got nothing to do with "male dominated" its to do with "population density". Totally disagree. I'm near a bunch of young single people my age, but they're mostly guys. Such is STEM.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:06 PM
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Yup, you've got it. Particularly painful when you do the opposite: go from big city to smaller suburb. Can't change your view since there's nothing to change. Though, I will add it's not just the population size but also the culture. Seattle is almost twice as big as Miami, but has the infamous Seattle freeze. Miami is known for being a sensual place. But yeah overall, size and ratio are really important.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:06 PM
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It's only controversial because of religion, which we're not supposed to use to make laws. This is so naïve. You can use whatever justification you'd like to craft legislation. Traditional Orthodox Christianity is as valid of a reason as Radical Communist Feminism to think "I will vote XYZ because I believe in ". The outcome of a vote is what matters, not the subjective reasoning behind it. Prohibition of theft stems from Judeo-Christian values. You're not free from religion then either. Religio…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:01 PM
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That's too simplistic of a take. It's the right attitude, but the chances of you and someone else "getting along and both liking each other" goes up if you do/are some things. There's no way to reconcile your belief with common self-improvement advice. What do you even think the point of advice is? Yeh the RP charts/graphs are cringe but so is your take.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:28 PM
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Sort of unrelated but I don't care about the dimorphic dynamics of abortion too much. Responsibility, consequences, shame, murder, religion, liberation, autonomy blah blah blah I wanted Roe v. Wade gone because we live in a democracy and in a democracy people should vote for things. Not have them decided by judges. Abortion is a thing. A medical procedure to be exact. A controversial medical procedure. Things should be voted on, and that includes things like controversial medical procedures.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:16 PM
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I think people are much better off taking things like human relationships as they come as opposed to trying to force fit them into a social science that isn’t even trying to. I agree with your conclusion but don't understand why you believe drawing parallels to economics is wrong/bad/dehumanizing/incompatible. You mention it yourself, economics is a social science. Just like sociology, psychology, history, anthropology etc. It studies people in social settings, and dating is a product of social …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:13 PM
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I lived in South America for part of my life and half my family is Argentinean. Yeah, technology is the same but the culture isn't. I """struggled""" (different type of struggle, really) way less in SA than the US. Argentina has one of the biggest machismo cultures in the world btw, and I actually think that's mostly a positive. Your current guy is a feminist in name only. Nowhere near comparable to the US in my opinion. Either way, I don't think If you struggle there, you are going to struggle …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:49 AM
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He absolutely has a point and he obviously meant West as Anglo-West.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:58 PM
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Deflated social value. I don't get invited nearly as much to places/things as I'd like. I have to take the initiative for most social interactions, individually and as a group. Tough to make friends, even tougher to make friends with women. Have to pay more for public events (which usually suck for meaningful connection). Hell, it's amazing how night and day the difference is if I go out with just the bros vs. a mixed group. The amount of engagement I get in the latter is insane. Shit gets old t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:19 PM
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5'5" 180 lbs is pushing it. I see your point that some women carry weight well (as do some men), but that's a pretty extreme example. I'm 5'11" 185 lbs and I'd say I'm not a skinny guy. Any examples besides the one you don't want to link?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:52 PM
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How much of the toxicity in the modern dating world is because people are constantly, compulsively comparing themselves to the people around them? The adverbs you used here are more important than "comparison" itself. Comparison is a great tool that can help you tremendously. But you need to employ it occasionally, realistically, and with the objective of learning. Redpill: Compares with resentment, bitterness, and with the goal of finding injustices over solutions. Bluepill: Does not believe in…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:29 PM
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I know there's a "curvy" aesthetic and I can see how it might be correlated to culture. But obesity is just gross. I imagine you're referring to the Calvin Klein ad. It's disgusting and I'm positive that the people in charge did it because the woke points outweighed the visually pleasing points.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:11 PM
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Not sure I agree that they’re “attracted”. Seems more like those men are desperate. They need their dick wet so hard that they’re willing to fuck a fat girl but only in secret. The number of guys who are genuinely attracted but don’t want to deal with the “crushing social stigma” is probably pretty low. And in that case, they’re pussies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:46 PM
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I see a lot of young overweight couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:40 PM
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This thread gets posted every week. For good reason I guess, it's a sore point. I think it's just a difference of communication, because really, it depends. Is it, "Nah, I've tried it before and I don't really like it. Wanna try something else?" Or is it, "Yeah, it was pretty good. But I don't wanna do it with you because I like you too much." Same 'scenario' at face value but vastly different connotations. I've experienced both in my life. I think that a lot of redpillers don't see how they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:09 PM
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Let me concede upfront that I understand that there are some relationships that are completely lopsided. Usually among young unexperienced couples where on member is pussy/dick-whipped. But for the average relationships I don't think you can quantify those gains. Do you ballpark it or is it like "damn, she's gaining >5% more out of the relationship than I am, that's a problem"?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:21 PM
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How is it that you don't even consider the possibility that both can gain from a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:15 PM
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Yes. I like ideas in general and while not as addicting as stuff like partisan politics, it's fun to 'discuss' gender as sort of a sub-genre of it. Especially because unlike politics, gender has its application irl. The important thing is that there is fruitful debate without the pressure of being politically correct/taboo. If you browse TRP or the manosphere forums you'll run into some of the most retarded takes ever, many of which were clearly typed up to be purposefully edgy. On the other han…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:50 PM
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Lol, I forget people can't read sarcasm on the internet. I was agreeing with you. Being a man or a woman is fundamental, and as you say, it affects the way you're brought up. Not only that, but I'll go a step further and say that even fully transitioned people will never be their transitioned gender "fully" outside of progressive circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:31 AM
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Probably. That's why these internet forums exist in the first place. For all the cringe and exaggeration, it's at least a space where people can talk honestly about gender without the inhibitions of polite society (or worse, political correctness lol) because of anonymity. Having said that, because of anonymity there's a lot of bullshit, confirmation bias, deliberate bad-faith, etc. Also, it's not like previous generations lack intellectual curiosity (and cynicism). I'm sure most guys have had t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:29 AM
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A little transphobic, but I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:24 AM
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There’s a lot of value in conserving things without “idk the pastor said it was good lol”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:36 PM
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