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Very transactional view of sex. Which isn’t wrong lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:12 PM
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Counterpoint: Many athletes have to pay competitors to train against them. I’m not sure if this is the case in ping-pong. But it is in combat sports. Top fighters typically pay their sparring partners. You’re right in part that sex isn’t like a house. But it could be seen as a service in some contexts. Like a massage. “Happy ending” and all lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:42 AM
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You’re missing the point. I’ll rephrase. It’s not that you’re saying average too much. It’s that ‘average’s in your thesis abstracts a specific set of factors, to which you extrapolate a broader assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:40 PM
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I think you’re throwing around the word ‘average’ a lot. You mention uni, social life, corporate hiring, etc. Within that class of people, yeah, you have a point. In middle-class to upper-middle-class communities in secularized western countries women will have a social advantage in many cases in those realms. Particularly from the ages of 15-35. Coincidentally, this same group is overrepresented on Reddit. I wouldn’t say any of that is ‘average’ though. The person you replied to brought up a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:26 PM
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No one asked you to. Just pointing out that your observation isn’t that insightful because the ‘difference’ here is more theoretical than real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:55 PM
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TLDR: there’s a difference between fucking for a bag and fucking for indoor plumbing I don’t disagree entirely but you’re painting is as if it’s 100% binary when really there’s a huge spectrum between these two extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:49 PM
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‘Using your better economic position to secure a woman’ and ‘competition isn’t as bad’ is the same thing with different words. Or rather, the former is a subset of the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 09:39 PM
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Culture, language and legal status. I said this in my previous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:06 PM
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Illegal? Definetely not. Just saying there’s a slight difference in dating a cashier from Kansas vs a cashier from Thailand if you do get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:31 PM
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Again, ‘basic human needs’ is also subjective. Even the things you’ve listed are highly contested, like mental safety and medical care. I remember reading a headline about how the UN (?) or someone declared broadband internet a human right. As if having a 100mbps download speed is the true key to survival. It’s an interesting thought experiment but in practice there’s no such thing as consent that exists in a pure hypothetical vacuum. People will enter relationships for a multitude of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:18 PM
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There’s a lot of truth to this. Poor in the U.S. typically implies obesity, bad habits, etc. Poor in a western country is hardly poor in a historic sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:48 PM
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What is the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:47 PM
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I don’t disagree but ‘easy and realistic’ is doing a lot of heavy lifting here. Those are extremely subjective qualifiers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:46 PM
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I’m all for passport bro’ing but the best argument I’ve heard to highlight the difference is that the poor person in a rich-poor gap at least has a cultural/language connection and maybe even some family if they’re in their home country. Whereas with the love visa the foreigner is way more dependent on the SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:44 PM
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I would have a problem with a sibling marriage despite ‘consent’
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:20 PM
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Sex is absolutely economics. Except sex isn’t economics you aren’t getting opposite sex attention abroad because of relative “purchasing power,” yall are getting attention because you are exploiting poor women in poorer countries. You aren’t getting opposite sex attraction because of <economics>, yall are getting attention because <economics, but with pejorative adjectives> That’s what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:20 PM
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I agree with this but it goes both ways. Men shouldn't give gendered advice to women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:26 AM
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Sure, in a political arena this is true. I’m talking about daily life. At schools, in the workplaces, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 09:00 PM
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Also, men preferring women in their twenties can also be explained by biology, but I doubt you would accept that explanation. I would. What's the point you're making? Also, pregnancy is not the only risk. Assault, grape, STD's (men get them, but many STD's affect women way more), etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:50 PM
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This is true but I'll add it goes both ways. A woman being interested and sexual will make a guy fall in love with her. After the first heartbreak and getting laid a few times guys will realize she needs to potentially be a good partner/mother/etc. and not just be available.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:06 PM
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Off the mark again. Men aren't the gender with the in-group bias. Women are the ones who never disagree with each other. The draft has been abolished in my country. I have dual citizenship and it's hardly enforced in my secondary country.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:02 PM
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Men fight the most. In wars, negotiations, elections, etc. Part of the reason why there’s a pay gap is precisely because men fight harder than women to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:48 PM
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That’s a fair point. We’re an intelligent species and so there’s an intellectual component as well. Those relationships tend to be more equal. When there is no potential of having kids. I think of those older couples with adult children from previous marriages who get together to make travel cheaper and because it’s nice having someone else in the house. Still, it’s a major factor. Even if you’re having sex recreationally the biology is still present and it’s hard to override.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:01 AM
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Well, yeah. The actual response to this is that a lot of feminist positions aren't as popular as you probably think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:47 AM
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Nothing is stopping this right now except for a lack of political will.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:26 AM
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I live in a conservative country where the sexual revolution doesn't exist the way it does in the US or the West. And you know what? Cosplaying as a feminist man and bagging women and getting sex was literally a lucrative Pua tactic lots of men applied years ago, since it became more known and eventually got stale. So if women really felt ick toward unmacho men, these men couldn't draw women in like they do. What country?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:21 PM
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Which is why this exercise is pointless. These dynamics (or at least some/most of them) exist because of biology. If men incurred the same risk as women during courtship/sex then the dynamics would already be different. This is like asking if you would still work your job if you had to pay your employer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:19 PM
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This makes sense and doesn't contradict the original post. OP is very obviously young. In those childless age brackets with softer life responsibilities women have an advantage. Among the divorced crowd men will have an advantage. Particularly if all kids are already had.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:12 PM
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10% is actually pretty nuts once you apply it. In a population of 45 women and 55 men, let's say all but 5 women are paired off to one man. That leaves 5 women and 15 men. 1 to 3. Another way of saying it is that 75% of the singles are men, which is close to the dating app / nightlife imbalance lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:07 PM
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Which categories of women are you excluding from your calculations to account for the disparity between your claim and reality? In developed countries men of dating age outnumber women of dating age. A good rule of thumb is there's always about 3 fertile men for very fertile woman. Makes sense from nature's POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:03 PM
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I have never understood this. Supply and demand. Hope that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:01 PM
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They shouldn't. If a woman wants something specific out of a relationship with a guy, I'd advise her to listen to other women who were able to attain that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:14 AM
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do you see your life as holding some value? Outside of that yes. I have hobbies, love my friends and family, feel respected at work, etc. But none of that is inherent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 09:35 PM
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It’s the worldview that makes the most sense to me. I don’t see myself as a violence object but I do know that I have that inherent value in that regard as a young healthy 20’s something male. If push came to shove the military would draft me. I could make a lot of money right now if I chose to destroy my body working at an off-shore oil rig, or as an underwater welder. Similarly, a mid-20’s woman might have trouble getting her career to take off, or achieving whatever niche goal she’s pursuing.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 07:31 PM
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I read somewhere that men are violence objects (soldiers) and women are sex objects (bio reactors). In the most cynical of worldviews this make sense. As a guy you will have inherent value when it comes to doing jobs with a high risk of death/mutilation, namely the armed forces. Every society needs soldiers to defend itself from outsiders and laborers to build things. Women will have inherent value when it comes to procreation, because society needs as many uteruses as it can get its hands on to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 06:31 PM
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I agree that men should approach more in person. But you're ignoring social entropy. I'm not all that concerned with being called creepy, I'm concerned with using reputational capital. Every approach you make carries external consequences. If you're at a bar and you strike out with someone, not a huge deal. Sure, some people saw you (and women are very observant of body language). But new people will walk in and out soon and the turnover rate is high. You can go and talk to someone else. In a hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:06 PM
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Society as a whole doesn't value you. I think society does value people, but it does so brutally honestly. Society, which is just a term for all of us collectively, only values each of us as much as we can offer it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:19 PM
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I strongly disagree with this so much. I have more friends than I can handle. It's just that adding another engineer gymbro to my friend group won't exactly help. The issue I have, and a lot of my buddies have, is meeting women. It's true that I met my last girlfriend though friends. But that was a coincidence after 2 painful years of dating apps. Almost felt like a fluke.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:18 PM
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That statistic is often cited, but I think it's misleading. The Pew isn't a bad source/institution, and in fact they're transparent about their process. It's self reported, of dating app users, and oversampled for suburbanites and lgbt people. The underlying point is true for sure, guys struggle a lot in dating when they're younger relative to women. But that statistic is probably stained by struggling men more likely to use dating apps, women overstating the seriousness of their relationship, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:13 PM
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Santa Claus isn't real
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:03 AM
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I just wanted to add that context is often left out of the 'picky' discussion. When people complain, they're usually complaining about perceived unfairness. Like men complaining that an overweight lady can be picky on a dating app in a way that a guy even with rock solid abs probably can't. No shit, there's an asymmetry because it's an asymmetrical market. Dating apps have a supply and demand problem (I wouldn't even really describe it as a 'problem', just a reality, but I digress). However, I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:50 PM
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Thanks, And you're right. People tend to be negative about their standards
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:13 AM
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I agree with all of this. I'll add that in college you should join a fraternity. It's one of the best things you can do for your social life as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:57 AM
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I hold myself to all the same standards and I meet them. Also, I think my standards are pretty fair (not that fair is even really a thing in the dating world). They're all something you anyone can reasonably achieve with work and effort. Unlike say height or race.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:50 AM
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I've been thinking about this lately lol. Anyway: College educated (preference is in something useful, but virtually any completed accredited education will do) Not overweight Not a single mom Religious is fine, but not waiting until marriage Okay with moving to a new place (I've met a surprising number of <25 year olds who are dead set on never leaving the region they grew up in) Doesn't do any drugs harder than alcohol or weed (Ex did happy shrooms occasionally, so idk. I certainly wasn't happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:35 PM
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In most countries, the average BMI is above 25. That's so depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:28 PM
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I refuse to believe this happened in America. It's almost the exact opposite where I live. I told a guy with a 30 BMI he was overweight and he's like "nah, I could lose a few but I ain't fat"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:20 PM
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Cruise?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:16 AM
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College towns serve a very unique demographic. The normal dating economic rules do not apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 05:07 PM
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Assuming these are RSVP's? It's a solid ratio. Ime less women show up than invited. More guys show up than invited.
/r/seduction22/05/24 11:27 PM
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Men aren't smarter than women, so it doesn't make sense that they get more promotions into top roles than women do. Men aren't smarter than women. But men are more motivated to seek high-paying jobs. Our value depends on it. Also, you need to be more specific than that just 'smarter'. There are different types of intelligence. Some types of intelligence (like spatial visualization) that are more conducive for certain fields (like engineering) and will lead to higher paying jobs. Other types of i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:04 PM
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Leadership won't reflect the masses. A lot of people are interested in basketball, but interesting how the NBA teams are almost composed of tall people 🤔 More generally, assuming that this is a 'problem' that 'doesn't make sense' and needs to be fixed is also extremely ignorant and entitled. 50-50 gender split, but suicide rates aren't 50-50. That's not a problem though, is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:53 PM
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There was zero affirmative action or “special treatment”. You're either blind or arguing in bad faith. You said you're in California right? Here's some special treatment you'll get to benefit from once you graduate: California's Women on Boards (SB 826) law, passed in 2018, requires publicly traded corporations with headquarters in California to have at least one woman on their boards. Companies that don't comply may face fines of $300,000 per unfilled seat. Just in case, I'll explain it logical…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:21 PM
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I kind of doubt that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:16 PM
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Yeah, they are. Men - on average - are willing to shove their heads into a physics textbook for 4 years to get a top paying job. Those companies still fight tooth and nail to recruit women though. WiC, etc. That's not to say there are no good women engineers. I've met quite a few whom I respect. I'm just talking averages here. Walk into a CS class vs a Psychology class
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:15 PM
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Are you in the US? What industry? With no context your comment is useless
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:13 PM
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You're twisting the point. It's not that black and white either. They do get advantages. Not an automatic preference. If I were a woman with the same skills/experience I have now as a man, my career would be easier because I'd be more in demand in my industry. However, if I were a woman without the skills I have, then I wouldn't be in demand. I'm assuming you're in college by how naive you sound and your inability to understand the difference between a tiebreaker as a soft preference and hard/ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:12 PM
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That's not even legal, unless you're outside the US. Unless it's an unofficial mandate or some weird bona fide position.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:06 PM
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But there are ppl stopping women from doing wall street / ceo jobs. Such a dumb fucking take. It's obvious you're young or don't work a corporate job. There is so much upward pressure and affirmative action in the form of DEI and ESG. Companies will literally receive more money/grants/funds/popular appeal if they hire women at higher roles. "Ppl stopping women from doing wall street jobs" lol okay bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:53 PM
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I don’t want to have to be working full time straight away because my partner can’t carry the financial strain. But according to this sub this makes me materialistic and unreasonable when I’m really just trying to be practical? Different scenarios. Read my other comment. You are literally the opposite of what (some) men tend to complain about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:23 PM
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It's not unreasonable. Actually, I think it's one of the better standards to judge someone by. Especially if men claim to be 'traditional'. It is kind of stupid though when really career-oriented women care so much about men's careers. Like a woman attorney working 80 hour weeks. She already makes enough. And as a man I would not want someone with literally no time available to be a mother to my children. I think that's why you occasionally read articles about how 'hard' it is for white-collar w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:21 PM
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That does sounds like a pattern. Alcohol being involved makes things murky since it does mess with people's actions and recollections. It sounds like he can't handle his liquor and gets grabby? The social dynamics I involve myself with, and that I have seen, are a little more complex. Realistically, men get pre-vetted in my social circle, which is why this hypothetical is difficult. I'm older now, but back when I hosted functions with alcohol, I wouldn't allow guys I didn't know partly for this …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:38 PM
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In this instance these three women don’t know one another. This is an unrealistic scenario if we're talking about friend groups. That's a factor, sure. But women have a very strong in-group bias too so it's not much different from if they were her friends. The slogan is believe women, right? When they accuse someone of sexual assault, who's going to even question her? The cards are so stacked against the men in title 9 offices, politics, professional sports, musicians, etc. Should I just accept …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:17 PM
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most rapists never get punished or even questioned They get punished in the court of public opinion. Even if they don't convict in a court of law, as a guy, you're shit out of luck if you get accused. You likely lose your job, friend group, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:09 PM
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This happened in my friend group. One of the girls tried lecturing us about one of the guys who did something at a party and why we shouldn't be his friend anymore. But she is also the very opinionated type to say stuff like "fuck Ronaldo he's a rapist" when we're all just chilling and watching soccer. So no, I didn't take her seriously. No one did. Multiple women never disagree with each other either, that's something to take into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:07 PM
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Yes, but probably not the M apart. I hooked up with a 42-year-old once when I was 24. I thought she was in her 30's. She thought I as in my 30's. But I played it cool and she didn't mind. She had no kids/marriages/divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:05 PM
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Is this even possible? Why are UMC, skinny or fit young men not having success? It does not make sense. Because of the ratio in that lifestyle. I'm literally the demographic you described. I make 6 figures, 25M in a STEM hybrid/WFH career. My industry is overwhelmingly men (because we lowkey want to make money and be successful). Because of this, all the hobbies/events/social life in the metro area I live in are predominately other young men who work in this industry. Do you know how many single…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:12 PM
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This is a good post. Life isn't fair and that's it. Just world fallacy. To answer this though: do you plan on asking women exactly how long they waited to sleep with every previous partner, everything they did in bed and then demand they do all those things and more with you? This is my main question here. I think a lot of men have a fear of being settled for. No guy wants to be a safe option, where a woman seemingly settles down with him for pragmatic purposes. Men want to be sexually desired, …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 11:42 PM
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Dinaric alps has highest average height. Although Scandinavians are pretty tall as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 11:37 PM
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It’s not a matter of want. It’s also a matter of risk and danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 07:14 PM
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Well what's your definition of "meaningful"? That's subjective. There is a lot of demand for barista jobs. You can absolutely work hard in that, or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:13 PM
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Well, that's not entirely fair either. Plenty of women are extremely hard workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 03:41 PM
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Q4M; do you like chasing and competing for women? Is it thrilling? Life is a competition and I certainly embrace that. I'm not afraid to compete but I'm judicious about it. I stay away from the women who are like "I had 8 dates in the last week. I'm currently screening for having children." Having said that, I'm always trying to improve myself, even now in a relationship. Q4W do you believe men are competing for you? How do you feel about it? I know you asked women, but let me just say that wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 03:38 PM
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I just had the realization that whatever the most profitable field is will always be majority men simply because of the inherent drive we have to garner external value. For the next ten years I imagine it'll be the AI/ML space. Before that it was just software engineering in general. I know that in previous generations being a lawyer was it. We even had a "golden age of dentistry" at one point. It'll always change. I'm not for sexism in any industry, but "men chase profit more than women" is rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 03:34 PM
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This is good advice but it needs to be balanced out with the advice that you can't change people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 10:56 PM
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I agree with you. There's a certain combination that can hinder it, but it has to be the perfect storm. It's usually a mix of being a minority, short, male, from a conservative household, and going into a very intensive field that requires all your time and attention such as medicine. But most people don't hit all those attributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:56 PM
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Nothing useful came up Doubt it, I'll help you find one. They are a thing in the UK. Just give me the city I go clubbing a lot, I have to pay like everyone else because they don't randomly miss out on profit. That's not how it works. You're being purposefully obtuse. Clubs make money off people. But not equally. Clubs make a lot of money off men, so they want to bring men in and have them spend money on drinks. Best way to do that is by bringing in women, since that's how you entice men to come …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:57 PM
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Clubs don’t discriminate on beauty. You’ll get less attention for sure but believe me, there’s plenty of ugly women at clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:32 PM
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I too would love that. How do I get all that free stuff? Your flair says UK. I'm assuming London? But even if it's not, it should work pretty much anywhere. Go to Google or any other browser Look up "clubs near me ladies night" Pick a venue and go to that venue during ladies night Sometimes it doesn't have to be ladies night, a lot of clubs have no cover/discount drinks for women year round. But it's case-by-case. A good tip is calling or DM'ing the club on Instagram asking about their cover/dri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:48 PM
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Women, on average, aren't as intimidating as men. Not to say no woman has ever gotten handsy or inappropriate at a club though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:46 PM
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Yes they do? Why is that unhinged? I said sounds unhinged. I've never been in a relationship where one "goes through" a phone. I have nothing to hide, but it's not like my gf will scroll through my pictures or old text messages whenever I hand her my phone. And I don’t understand your second sentence I think that when it comes to the hanging out with exes conversation, a lot of women (usually younger) fall into the trap of thinking they have no control over who they hang out with. I think that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:45 PM
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Men need to be real. You would love to get into the club for free with no cover charge, discount/free drinks, etc. But you would not like the harassment, the gropes, and the wall of dudes bobbing their heads with a beer in their hands staring at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:04 PM
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You're correct, but there's 'sub-markets' so to speak. The average Swedish woman isn't going to date a migrant from the middle east. I bet if you look at younger cohorts of (ethnically) native Swedes it'll be pretty balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:01 PM
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you have unfettered access to her phone should you require it? Do people ever offer that? Sounds unhinged. Also, no such thing as not purposely when it comes to friend groups
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:56 PM
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I genuinely do not care about how most people see my relationship. If that opinion comes from someone I respect, it would shake me. If it comes from one of those people who are like "why do all the men suck at dating??" it wouldn't bother me at all. I do think the "brutal with men, kind with women" evaluation/attitude is true. It's a bit overstated, but it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:55 PM
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Right, and the guy above has a point. Finding single women is hard, it’s a skill. They are not in traditionally social places. You just pointed out that they’re 1/2 the population and gave no real alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:51 PM
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This is a dumb comment. 50% of population yeah, lmao. But there’s an infinite amount of variables affecting distribution. 50% of the population is under 5’10”. But a short guy in the NBA might as well be Bigfoot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:18 PM
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You need to create your own ratios. Make friend groups but carefully balance out the invites so there’s plenty of women and properly socialized men. If a dude (or even a lady) starts bringing a bunch of nerdy guys around, cut them out of the group. Maybe hang with them separately.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:16 PM
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A non-porn example is How I Met Your Mother. An adorable nerdy guy (Ted Mosby) can walk into a dive bar and just approach a hot woman (who is there alone) who will enthusiastically go on a few dates if not a ONS after a few lines of chit chat. Men love relationships with attractive women but desire an easier entry into them. That’s the male fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:09 PM
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Yeah! Corruption, competing interest and inefficiency don’t exist! You should definitely spend your time ensuring taxes are spent how you want them to be spent than fending for yourself. It is the most rational course of action to take
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:16 PM
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True, but I think the modern version of it isn’t about status at all. I could befriend some tech executive who works a prestigious job and makes bank. That’s status. But it probably won’t help my dating life like befriending some working class barista who has a lot of single girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:01 PM
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Society provides for your needs? That’s naive. You provide for your needs. You should do your best to not rely on society because it is not guaranteed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:46 PM
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A little psychopathic but a lot of the value of people nowadays is who they can introduce you to. Fundamentally, a mid person who can introduce you to a lot of cool people is worth more than a cool person with no friends. Obviously, in practice, cool/interesting people will have more social connections to other cool/interesting people. I think the same is true for the dating market. If you’re a young guy trying to do irl meet-thru-friends dating, you really need to maximize for single women. Eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:43 PM
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I get how passport bros are cringe in a way. But being offended that guys discuss differences in women? Lol, most guys do that. At least the ones with experience dating outside their culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:38 PM
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The difference between 100k and 200k is huge. I’d say after that is when it starts to become marginal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:35 PM
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I agree with this, but your age gap relationship won't get hate. You're 30. The hate usually comes when one of the parties is 18-25 and the other is older. Typically the woman is the younger one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 11:29 PM
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Sure? I understand that sometimes there's societal pressure to be funneled into feminine/masculine careers and I don't want anyone discriminated against for their sex. HOWEVER, I also think discrimination is overstated. I do not believe that engineering or teaching will ever be 50/50 male/female. There are natural biological discrepancies that will affect this outcome, and that's okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 11:18 PM
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I don't think there ever will be a united men's movement. We live in a very individualist society, and I don't agree with a lot of your premises. Like disparate sentencing. Men commit more crimes than women, of course they'll be incarcerated more. Or expectation of killing spiders. What exactly can be done about it? There are one or two battles I think can be won though. Like affirmative action. I dislike the idea that women get subconscious/conscious benefits in hiring/promotion because a small…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 11:12 PM
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I think career is a tough balance for the ladies. I think most white-collar guys want some career. I don't think a lot of professional men would seriously be okay with dating say a server or something equivalent (not that those are bad jobs, just talking about dating classes here). But, famously, the higher-up women struggle to find guys who are higher and above. There are so many articles about this. Some of it is self-imposed. My white-collar manager married a blue-collar guy in the trades. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:47 PM
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This is an amazing case study. Proves so many of the ideas discussed on dating forums: A good career isn't a huge bonus for women, it's only a marginal benefit. Dark-skinned women are like short guys. Short women and tall women go for tall guys. White dudes and black dudes go for lighter-skinned ladies. A lot of negative dates and a woman retains the "I have value!" attitude. A lot of negative dates and a man asks "do I have value?" Having said that, she is in London. Isn't that one of the bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:24 PM
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I thought that was an ad and was waiting for the real video lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:20 PM
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Yeah but neither does the classic 2012-2016 era redpill. I haven't met many guys who focus on dread game or shit tests anymore. I think internet discourse around socializing/dating has changed significantly over the last few years. I think three big changes happened: COVID. Duh. Tech became emboldened. Back in the day censorship was quite rare. Saying stuff like "OP is a f*ggut" was constantly on the front page and subreddits like coontown were allowed to exist on the basis of free speech. Nowad…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:54 PM
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No one on reddit understands what average means. The funny part is that everytime someone replies saying "Well, not all! I know xyz that doesn't abc" They don't realize they're making the point for the person they're replying to. Exceptions make the rule. If you point out an exception because you think it's worth mentioning, then that means the rule does exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:30 PM
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Damn, I never realized this until now. Totally makes sense. As a guy, I tend to respect other guys even if they're logically my competition. I'm also repulsed by guys who put no effort into life. What's the reasoning behind this? My guess is that - evolutionarily - even men aren't solely individualist and see better success when hanging out with better men. i.e. I'd rather go out with a charismatic fuckboy who knows ho to dress than some nerd redditor
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:25 PM
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This is a good question but for an honest answer you can’t ignore that it’s not a symmetrical situation between men and women. On average, men initiate the seduction process. And women reciprocate. This is true in all cultures. Exceptions exist but that only proves the rule. So it feels dishonest for women because it’s a bait and switch. They thought they were in the friend market, but turns out that they were using that as an in for the romance/sex market and now they lost what they had to begi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:54 PM
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Men have a slightly longer window compared to women. I wouldn’t bank on it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:09 PM
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I’m surprised you haven’t had that experience. Using women to recruit is a common strategy since they’re more approachable. This is true for everything, not just tech organizations. Charities for example tend to table with women because they’ll raise more money. There’s a meme I saw once about how LinkedIn is sort of a reverse dating app, it’s attractive women getting left on read by nerdy programmers. Once you’re “in” it’s certainly different. Climbing up the ladder is not the same as getting y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 02:59 AM
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I love this take. You know what you're talking about. Working in tech has made me both more feminist and anti-feminist. I don't like the bullshit women deal with exclusively because they're women, like the condescension, harassment, etc. But I also hate the implicit bias paired with the DEI excess that leads to an unfair environment. In the US things seem to be kept to a minimum, despite how the culture screams the loudest. I feel like South America has more sexism. Never worked in Europe, so ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 01:50 AM
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Yeah. You also probably need a fair amount of charm and charisma. There’s ability involved in using your looks optimally That’s what RP doesn’t get
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 09:16 PM
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Right, I agree. Women don’t automatically get money for free. Much less all women. That’s a bitter redpill fantasy. Having said that, being a young attractive woman is one of the strongest advantages you can have these days. It’ll open an insane amount of doors and denying this is dumb too. /u/TheMedsPeds , this is what the “process” you alluded to looks like. Not an invoice for a vacation or constant free drinks, but a set of subtle subtle advantages Become a waitress if you want to break that …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 07:09 PM
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Thoughts on Boogie2988’s 20-year-old girlfriend? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 07:01 PM
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Server at $500 per day? Yeah, being an attractive young attractive woman will help you there. Women earn more tips than men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:43 PM
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This is spot on. I went to a technical school and was dumbfounded at the amount of extremely attractive women working as recruiters for tech companies. Some of them were sharp, and I don’t want to detract from that. But a lot of them were obviously eye candy and just repeated shit like “yeah, there’s two rounds of interviews. It’s good to have 2-3 side projects on your GitHub” I can’t even blame them. The nerdy guys who are good at programming will gravitate to that company because of those wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:40 PM
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Yeah, but the conditions have to be just right. Not me, I do relatively better irl. But in my friend group - engineers in the suburban midwest - there are some guys who figured out how to "hack" the system. Raising your elo on the algorithm via good pics, paying the sub, proper swiping, etc. is actually easier than going out and meeting women naturally (for them).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 02:34 PM
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Indeed. I'd also annihilate all mosquitoes if I could. I'd significantly curb toddler maulings and a lot of diseases like Malaria.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:34 PM
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I like small dogs. Daschunds are probably my face. All pit bulls should be exterminated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:31 PM
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Here's some advice to you young guys who are spending the holidays back home with your parents and are bored out of your mind browsing reddit: Learn how to manage friend groups. Set that as your new year's resolution. It'll do you better than lifting or skincare (though, those are important too). Host events, but don't invite awkward/weird people to events. Women feel comfortable hanging out when there's other women around. Why are fraternities so successful? They have a filtering process (bids)…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:07 PM
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Go if you enjoy rock climbing. I went on a guest pass and it was fun, but I would not get my own membership. It's very clearly full of young millenials who were in need of a hobby and chose this. Yes, there were a lot of tech bros who weren't really climbing and just eyeing the women. Most women there were in a relationship already or lesbian. One good positive is no fat people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:55 PM
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Those stories are sad. Financial insecurity will exacerbate these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:53 PM
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Ok, maybe they're way better, I was being a little facetious when I compared the two. But I don't think being "skeptical" is enough either. The peer review process is deeply flawed, and academic studies are also produced to make people angry. Typically left-leaning progressives in the soft sciences. Like the 1-in-3 study of women experiencing sexual assault. 1) It was survey data. Surveys obviously lead to participation bias, inaccuracy, etc. 2) The peers in the peer-review process agreed that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:19 PM
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I'd rather be a guy if I'm walking home at night. I'd rather be a woman if I'm applying for a job/promotion at a Fortune 500 company.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:13 PM
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I agree with your point. Most personal data is bad. There isn't much difference between (edited) drunk street interviews and the average peer-reviewed paper from a university's psychology department. Particularly because all the "peers" agree with each other. Double-blinded studies that include objective quantities are the only thing I trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:08 PM
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Inequality in social dynamics: 😊 Inequality literally anywhere else in society: 😠
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 08:45 PM
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Yeah, but there's a utility aspect to it. I'm into skincare.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 08:44 PM
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I think that's a good attitude. But as someone who also enjoys "reading about dating and relationships" I think a better overarching philosophy is that exceptions prove the rules. You shouldn't search for ironclad logical truths. Search for patterns instead. Understand that when anyone brings up an anecdote, i.e. "Well, I like short bald guys" / "I like obese women with children" it's precisely because these things are so rare that it's worth mentioning them. There's no set number, but if someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 07:35 PM
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Conceptually, it's the same. People start feeling invisible as they age. Just the amount of articles and blog posts on how to cope for women is way higher than for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:52 AM
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I googled 'invisible woman syndrome' Then I googled 'invisible man syndrome' Lmao Well, actually to be fair, it's an interesting read for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:41 AM
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We've reached a stasis I feel. All the actual equality stuff is done, voting, right to property, etc. The rest is 'glass ceilings'. I think a subset of left-leaning people will complain about the lack of women CEO's, Presidents, Engineers, etc. and thus identify as feminist. But that's kind of silly because while women aren't on top, they're also not on the bottom: deaths, homeless, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:10 AM
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I then went on tiktok and did a research Yeah well I went to the local burger joint and 'did' a restaurant review. I will submit it to the Michelin guide shortly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 12:54 PM
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For the record, I agree with your original point above. A lot of guys think being ignored in their younger years is somehow torture or whatever. I don't agree with those guys, and holding on to prior failure only leads to bitterness and resentment. However, But I've never seen women complain that men don't pay attention to them C'mon now. Here is an example of that. Women do complain when men don't pay attention to them. In this particular scenario, she said it was "One of the worst things about…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:18 PM
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while also having one of womens only advantages, which is their sexual selection power. I want the affirmative action too! Don't forget that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:06 PM
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Interesting thread on redscarepod. Man is chatty and attentive with woman who is a regular at his store. He has a crush on her and asks her out. She says no. He is no longer chatty and attentive. There are two competing ideas in that thread: He is acting ungracefully for being cold and standoffish with her She is acting ungracefully for expecting the same level of pre-rejection attention This seems like a point of contention in modern dating culture. I lean towards the second idea. Also goes to …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 05:46 PM
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This is an accurate comment and I agree with pretty much everything you said. The last bit about right-wingers "speaking leftist" is particularly true lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 06:57 PM
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No. The article does a good job of analyzing polarization on the gender divide. But it doesn't make the case that people don't date across ideologies. Guess what, conservative guys like women who have sex before marriage. Liberal women like guys who pick up the check. And guess what, this hypothetical couple is probably generally apathetic about politics. I'm been more right-wing than all (but one of) the women I've dated, including my current gf. I'm voting Republican next election and she'll p…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 06:55 PM
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Precisely. There's a reason why a lot of women love generalizing men when it comes to SA and violence. They'll even say 'younger' men sometimes. And I'll even say they're not wrong. But there's a very obvious categorical subset that goes unnamed because it's not socially acceptable to point it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:39 PM
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When you get to a certain level of success, you get tired of hearing people make excuses. You even give people the tools and the knowledge to become successful and they sit on their ass and do nothing with it. I like this. Reminds me of a Nietzsche quote about nobility: —the noble man also helps the unfortunate, but not—or scarcely—out of pity, but rather from an impulse generated by the super-abundance of power
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:35 PM
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What is fair though? I like your point about empathy. But what percentage of men should be getting laid for it to be 'fair'? How many women CEO's in tech for it to be 'fair'? Should Israel only be allowed to use the same tech that Hamas has so it's 'fair'? What if all soccer players had to use the same cleats?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:33 PM
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If it were up to me, racial affirmative action would be: Narrow I think there is one group that really got fucked over with history and intergenerational poverty. I support AA for black Americans who are descendent of slaves, not 'BIPOC' in general. Why should an immigrant receive any preference just because they share the skin color of someone whose ancestors were discriminated again? Limited in time At some point everything has to be equalized. I don't know when that point is, but I would impl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:30 PM
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Alright, I've come to the conclusion I'm a social Darwinist. I don't feel bad that large portions of men are lonely with no support network. I don't feel bad that women will never achieve the same level of success as men in business, engineering, politics, etc. I don't feel bad that Israel is stronger than Palestine. I don't feel bad that there is inequality in this world. Pointing out that inequality is just stating a fact. Saying there shouldn't be inequality is an opinion. To me it's like poi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:09 PM
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Even non-religious communities will be extremely dogmatic. If you decide God isn't for you then seek out some secular non-profit, they'll all be about beliefs anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:33 PM
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Well, I'm sure some MRA's/RP's argue in bad faith, but I'd rather not assume people's intentions either. But they're not trying to have that discussion, they're trying to find something they can easily point to and say "men are suffering the most in society and no one cares" Doesn't feminism do this? Like, they point to the lack of women Engineers/CEO's/Senators/Presidents and grieve about that and say "women are suffering the most in society" I don't really identify with MRA's/RP types. Especia…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:14 PM
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I'm not trying to make it a competition, I'm just asking. I think homelessness is an interesting sociological point precisely because you can look at it in so many ways. I think the number of men who are homeless shows a certain level of apathy for men, which is a source of grievance for MRA's/RP/etc. But it's also undeniable that women are more vulnerable in this predicament. So preference for resources isn't unfounded.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:31 PM
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Q4A: Would you rather be a homeless man, or a homeless woman? And why?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 09:50 PM
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I'm not defending passport bros, and I think it's a bad lifestyle. But it makes logical sense. If all the jobs in your country suck don't you just up and move to a more favorable job market? If all the prospective partners in your country suck why wouldn't you just up and move to a more favorable dating market?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 11:33 AM
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I love our post-modernist sense of ethics and morality. /s Here's a front page editorial from a premier news outlet just absolutely shitting on men. I wonder what the reaction would be from the New York Times if you tried to triangulate the subset of men who have "drug and alcohol issues and aren't present" 🤔 Amazing how some groups are so criticizeable and others aren't. "Punching up" amirite? Having said that, I agree with large portions of this article.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:22 PM
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She was a nurse, he was military and then became an electrician. I see this a lot. My current manager's husband is an electrician. Idk what it is about that trade specifically lol but it seems like it produces a lot of inter-collar marriages. They also have a very conservative union so maybe that's related?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:44 PM
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"Normal guy" who follows H3H3. hmmm The first one, but you're presenting two strawmen here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:39 PM
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No, it's a private company. 'Fair' is so subjective it's pointless to talk about. The reason they have that is because the app with the most women will be the most successful. They're catering to them, not the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:38 PM
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Depends on how much older. The older guys in my family including my dad wouldn't understand the dynamics today. On the other hand I have a 30 year old friend who has given me the best advice in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:49 PM
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I don't think certain groups are as oppressed as they claim. Actually, I think the word "oppressed" gets thrown around to easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:46 PM
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My lesbian friend was ticked off (more like borderline apathetically annoyed) that her girlfriend said Andrew Tate had some good takes. It's funny because her gf is very clearly the top/masculine/man in the relationship lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:44 PM
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Real world work experience is too valuable early on. Much better to get your foot in the door and have a line on a resume than the 2 cycles. Also better for your maturity. If you really want a sabbatical, I'd work 1-2 years (save some more money too why not) then go abroad for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:27 PM
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A city I used to live in (not in the US) straight up told people not to enable the homeless. The city said it had more than enough resources to deal with it the issue, so if they were on the streets they were probably criminals who wouldn't abide with the programs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:25 PM
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Yes on both counts. Slavery, segregation, redlining etc. have had a lasting impact and I wish the right would acknowledge this. Single parent households, truancy, culture of violence, etc. also have a current impact and the left should acknowledge this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:48 AM
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Okay, but that's an outdated anecdote. Today there's overwhelming support for women in STEM, and women get access to more career fairs, groups, etc. Being a woman in STEM is a celebrated achievement worthy of hashtags on linkedIn. And yet every upper-level CS class I had was almost entirely men, and industry isn't much different. Is there a difference between men and women in engineering like there is between short and tall people in basketball? Maybe it's an interest thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:47 AM
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Not technically, but certain groups do worse than others and that can largely - though not entirely - be attributed to historical factors. And I'm not exactly a bleeding heart liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:35 AM
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That, or service. I have a soft spot for people who risk their safety/lives for others. Even if they come from a rich family.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:34 AM
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AA will always exist. It's just a matter of what type of AA.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:21 AM
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I really dislike gender-based affirmative action because: Poverty isn't carried through chromosomes like it is through ethnicity. At least with race there's a generational poverty aspect to address. \2. It's inconsistently applied. No one bemoans the lack of male sociologists, but everyone hates the fact that men excel at software engineering. It's funny too because women outpace men so hard in college admissions. Lol but they somehow choose to study useless shit at far greater rates? Fucking pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:13 AM
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He is not my ideal guy, but hey, I’m trying to be open minded and give guys a chance. (He doesn’t know who Gary Gensler is for example lol) The post you linked to was written by a male. He word for word told me “I’m too old and my body count is too high”. And he's not even that smart. He didn't say that 'word for word', obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 10:04 PM
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Distribution of age differences in hetero marriages. Notice how it's not a normal distribution centered on men being slightly older. There is a drop off when women get older. Not sure wtf this is called, gamma distribution? Idk, I got an A- in statistics. The point is this dropoff suggests a hard cutoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:59 PM
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Bubble wrap is cheaper and probably more durable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:56 PM
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I don't think that many men marry down in age significantly. So I'm not sure how much this matters. Oh but they do. Like I said, statistics can be manipulated for ratios. But this is solid. Over 40% of relationships the husband is 2-9 years older. Almost 50% if you include 10-14 years older. Over 50% if you include 15+. Only 1/3rd the couple is within a 1-2 age range on either side. I'm here, but most males in my family are not. C'mon now, it's not even a normal distribution that is centered aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:52 PM
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It's harder for both, but the take is that it's relatively easier for men and relatively harder for women when compared to themselves 10-15 years prior. Also, imo divorce isn't really baggage the same way kids. Unless you're religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:30 PM
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It's a combination of factors, just like it's not one singular thing that makes dating easier for women in their 20's. What you're 'missing' is: Men date down in age. Women date up. Setting aside the extremes that generate social debate, I think it's fair to say more men are willing to date a much wider age window than women. Women tend to date like one or two years younger max, but with a much higher ceiling. So doing the math, older guys have more options, and women have less options, numerica…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:26 PM
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Everyone should always be wary of their surroundings and do their best to avoid danger. No one should gaslight you otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:09 PM
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I've never been to Thailand specifically but dude has a point. Americanized versions of foreign cuisines are best. They have all the ingredients/spices but give you sizeable portions and actual fucking protein instead of just carbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:40 PM
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Feminism really is one of those catch-all ideologies. All the threads on that sub about female privilege have the perfect response: achsckually, female privilege is a bad thing because it still stems from seeing women as non-equals. Okay girl, give me some of that benevolent sexism! Fuck yeah I want better tips, special career resources, flirting my way out of tickets, entry/inivitations to social venues, etc. Damn lol, all these -ism ideologies really do a good job covering their blind spots. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:19 PM
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I like the idea of it but in practice the community forms around pretty silly things and the rules get pretty whacky.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:03 PM
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Haha set to private. What pussies. Once you have kids your priority becomes them, otherwise you're a morally bad person and a failure of a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:02 PM
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It's become a trendy excuse for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 12:23 AM
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How is a white pill brutal?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 08:04 PM
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Confirmation bias, the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 08:03 PM
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If they're not, they're probably aware and know why they're single? Maybe? Depends. Some women are definitively self-aware enough to understand, and humble enough to admit it. Others are less so. Singlehood is different for young men and women, and this is something the RP'ers (sort of) get right. It's also different for everyone, so gauging your position has to be something very individualized.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:20 PM
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and the hotties from CT that come down from the metro north. You include CT but not Jersey City commuters? JC has a lot of babes form what I've seen
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:13 PM
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There's no way you can assess the dating environment over a weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:12 PM
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Another rant post about affirmative action, but I just never understood it for gender. This is my most inkwell-ish belief and I know it triggers a few of the posters here. I support it for race, because at least there's a generational poverty argument to be made. But rich people and poor people have daughters. It's an equal distribution and poverty isn't carried by chromosome. Do women just like math less than men? Nature vs nurture? Does it even matter? Will engineering ever become an even rati…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:09 PM
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Fewer women than men on the internet in general. Also, probably something to do with the nature of this subreddit as a discussion board for gender, particularly dating. I don't imagine a lot of younger single women care to discuss dating algorithms and gender ratio of cities. If she does, it's probably because of strong feminist beliefs. Though, it's not always the case. I will say, we don't have a lot of diversity in terms of men either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:07 PM
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Yup. Did it because I like it, I'm decent at it, and it pays well. My real passion is geopolitics, but statistically speaking you have to be kind of dumb to go for an IR degree. Not a STEM supremacist, but not far from either. It has definitively shaped my worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:03 PM
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Eh the first three are romantic. The last is just because she loves dancing queen lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 02:49 AM
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Astor Piazzolla, The Euphoria soundtrack, Mac Miller's Divine Feminine. One time Abba album lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 02:04 AM
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It's funny, when I was younger (highschooler) and was exposed to Redpill/manosphere I cared a lot about dating dynamics. I just wanted to get laid and succeed. Now that I'm older and have gotten laid / in a relationship, I find the men's rights aspect a lot more interesting. Getting pussy to me isn't important. Not getting passed up for a promotion because I'm in a male-dominated field is more relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 01:49 AM
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I do not agree with /u/Peacesquad I am happy with my girlfriend and the thought of being with another woman does not entice me. I physically cringe when I come across an old picture of me with an ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:51 PM
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Como isso funciona em uma república? Nos states, as frats tentam manter a proporção (o "ratio") em favor dos homens. Ou seja, convidar mais mulheres do que homens pra festas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:42 PM
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You're saying 'looked at a couple' but your original comment said 'hear about a couple dating' So I'm assuming you meant there's a baseline familiarity of the couple being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:05 PM
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Not as often as women do. Men aren't as brutal when it comes to judging men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:53 PM
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😂 that's funny but I wouldn't advocate for it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:49 PM
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Good instinct on the bag. Letting them in is risky, but I guess you have a plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:37 PM
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Yes and no. The guys with glasses and cargo shorts are probably not getting into the party. But it's more fundamental than just looking lame. They could become brothers, but that would require effort. Effort to pledge, effort to pay the dues, and most of all the effort to socialize yourself and become part of the 'in' crowd. often men aren't "shut out" from having a social life, they shut themselves out. As a young guy I think men go through unique challenges, but I also despise how little effor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:33 PM
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Presumably beer that they needed to transport without raising suspicion.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:28 PM
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What do you think? Would you ask them?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:24 PM
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Q4M You're a pledge in a fraternity, and you are the 1st shift doorman for tonight's toga party. A group of 3 guys you vaguely know from class pull up. They are all wearing glasses and cargo shorts. One of them is carrying a backpack. Using their slightly below average social skills, they try to convince you to let them in. Even offering money. Do you let them in?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:20 PM
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Yes, How I Met Your Mother was one. Some goofy dork who's really into Star Wars and wears band shirts + flannel + jeans isn't actually killing it. Though, Ted Mosby did have a good career, so there's that. Also, in the show hot women would just walk into a bar alone and you could approach them and get their number after 1-2 sentences? Lol okay. Go to a bar and it's mostly dudes. Probably like 30% women, and most of them are accompanied. The single ones are protected by her her friends and probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:24 PM
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Yeah that's a fair point. Unions usually negotiate many employees to one or a few employers. Dating is a many-to-many relationship with varying overlapping needs and wants. But I still think the dating market mirrors this to some extent. No one disputes there are more men than women on the market. I would argue that this is why a lot of frustrations exist. Why some standards like height, income, etc. are more relevant than ever. My take is that in some environments, like frats, the ratio is arti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:42 PM
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I see what you mean but Nordic countries are hard to analyze. The entire country already acts like a union and decreases the amount of cheap labor. Some moreso than others, like Norway vs Sweden. Also, not all unions are the same. A union of high-skilled workers might want things like pay transparency. Unions like the UAW are fighting for the existence of jobs themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:35 PM
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Right. Same thing with unions tho lol Also, I'd argue that while it's definitely about keeping things within your own group, there's a broader idea of greek vs. non-greek males. i.e. dudes from frat abc might party with dudes from frat xyz, but neither of the set of dudes will (usually) let in a guy who's not affiliated That's sort of besides the larger point. My bigger point is that it's one of the spaces in modern America (and Canada) that manipulates the ratio. OLD is all guys. So are a lot o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:32 PM
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Serious question for all those who talk about 'collective standards': How do you feel about labor unions? I think it operates much the same way. Individually, it tends to devolve into a race to the bottom if all the (similarly-skilled) employees have to underbid each other to get hired. You can artificially inflate the value of said employees with a union. The equivalent of this would be a club that only allows certain males in, like a fraternity party in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:16 PM
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they simply just don’t realize how men actually treat other men Well said. Like women when get salty when they friendzone a man and then he 'becomes distant'. Well, yeah. That's the default state.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:13 PM
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I don't disagree lol. Lizzo is a disgusting human being even though she's objectively pretty successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:49 AM
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I believe that. Too dig deeper I would say that; Women are very harsh on themselves, but nice with other women. Man are nice with themselves, but harsh with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:30 PM
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That's a good point. It's a very poor sample size and a terrible anecdote I guess lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:14 PM
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Kind of got lost in your example because Tracy and Stacy rhyme lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:11 PM
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We're all educated with degrees beyond bachelors. I don't think any of us are that monkey brained. She's attractive, but so is he. I can't convey all of the context because we've known each other for years. But I don't think I've ever in my life heard a woman say "he was out of her league". Always the opposite. Come to think of it. I think guys say "she was out of his league" more often as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:10 PM
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Curious, what argument did they have for this gal to be out of the dude's league? That's what I tried to figure out. The gal in question is certainly attractive. Probably more than the dude, but really not by much (and I'm a straight guy, so that probably affects my assessment). For some context, the dude tried to make a move on the friend who criticized him. It was a complicated situation because they worked together, but we were all friends, etc. He 'apologized'(?) and we're all good, but I gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:07 PM
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Same. I feel iffy about it sometimes. Personally, if it were just a note or something I might throw out. But for example, an ex left a love note on a book she gave me. Do I just throw out the book? Another wrote something on a drawing/painting she made. Do I throw out art as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:45 PM
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I was out with some people last night (yes on a Sunday). Two guys, two girls. My buddy, my gf, and another lady friend. We all know each other and are good friends. Conversation turned to a recent breakup within the friend group. Nothing contentious, the guy just has to move states now that he finished residency. They ended on good terms. Anyway, the girls were like "Omg she was way out of his league." Me and my buddy were like "what??" and just laughed. They're both good people. But he's a doct…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:43 PM
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I support affirmative action in some forms. It does make sense in certain contexts. I'm just saying it's hard to have sympathy for a lot of the talking points. Like when feminists on my campus are all "oh, it's so hard to be a woman! You've never experienced it, blah blah" Really? There's a massive push to hire as many of you gals as possible in certain fields. Males are less in demand. By virtue of being a woman you have some really nice perks that others don't, which offsets some of the grieva…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:54 PM
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I also don't think we have to have an opinion on everything That is correct. But when you want to have an opinion on something, you're allowed to have it. Don't fall for that trap of believing you're not allowed to because you haven't personally experienced something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:49 PM
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I'm pretty sure foreigners wouldn't be able to really understand what's going on Right, because it's not like the world became massively globalized in the last few decades and the exchange of information is near instant 🤔 Appeal to authority. Stop watching Hasan and H3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:11 PM
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As a non Jew and non middle eastern, I don't feel qualified to have an opinion. That's dumb. You're allowed to have an opinion on things. Do you have a link to Hasan/Ethan crying?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:04 PM
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Affirmative action - whether explicitly mandated by law, or simply practiced via tacit institutional/social pressure - really saps the amount of sympathy I have for a lot of groups who grieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:00 PM
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Leftism isn't a coherent ideology. It's really just whoever is poorest = good guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:52 PM
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Q4M: To those who have gone to college in the US. What do you think of Greek Life? Have you ever considered joining a fraternity? What is your social life like? Do you think it would've been any different if you had joined one?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:28 PM
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You can't. Any algorithmic change would only be marginal. You need people to want to be in a relationship. At some point it's not the infrastructure that is lacking, but the mindset of the people involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:22 PM
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This sub is pretty good in terms of diverse opinions but it's still pretty bad because it's reddit. Reddit itself will never have the unfiltered discussion of the early 2000's internet because of the admins.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:19 PM
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Governor of California appointed a woman to be interim senator for the late Feinstein's seat, fulfilling his promise. In all seriousness, this will become a trend. A lot of higher institutions will simply state that they are in fact looking for a certain race / gender a priori then finding an individual to fill that. I grew up being bombarded with HR and DEI training about unconscious bias and how recruiters respond more to "white-sounding" or "male" names. My socialization literally runs contra…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:23 PM
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How have right-wing men turned against all women? This comment conflates incels online with the actual right-wing of establishment politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:12 PM
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by 2033, i will write a book about the “settle down girl” What will be the point of the book? Lori Gottlieb already wrote one that sounds like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:11 PM
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Austin is a liberal bubble in a red state. Don't think it's about being 'creative'. It's a tech hub and the seat of the government, which distinguishes it from the rest of the state. Which is actually pretty cool, you get a nice blend. The best of both worlds. Also, I'm sure there's a creative scene there, it's just not what it's known for. But Austin would be great to date because there's a surplus of men, so women have a good time there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:36 PM
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European takes 'everything is bigger in Texas' to heart 😂 Though, you'd have success in Austin and Houston for sure. If you want tall guys go to the Midwest. There's less competition and the culture is more European.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:18 PM
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Right, and that feeling of "if this one uncontrollable attribute was any different we wouldn't be together, damn" isn't great. But I think there's a difference in character among women on how they approach their preference, which again is a valid thing to have. Earlier this year I went on a date with a woman who made fun of her professor for being 5'3". Even though I met her height requirements I thought that was dumb. I was too horny to end things, and she ghosted me anyway, but looking back on…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:07 PM
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Yes But they're also often wide and not in a good way. Too much dairy. The worst part is that it's culturally rude to point out that people are fat, especially women. Lizzo is a product of my state.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:56 PM
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And you are all absolutely entitled to that preference, but man am I glad my gf and her friends/family don't think like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:44 PM
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5'6" is already technically tall for a woman, in the US. Average is 5'4", but I think it depends on region. I'm in the midwest so everyone here is large. On the coasts people are shorter and it's more diverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:44 PM
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GF (5'7" - 5'8") says she feels bad for short guys, how women typically just want someone taller but even shorter women go for taller guys. At 5'10" - 5'11" I'm not insecure about my height at all. Especially since I grew up outside the US so standards of beauty are different. But as a guy I get the occasional thought of how my (romantic) life would've been different if I were significantly shorter. Still, massive green flag though. Also funny now that I think about it because her stepdad is sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 04:30 PM
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Depends on the demographic. At my age this is becoming truer But depending on the group they'll let attractive young women get away with a lot. Collective simping if you will
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:12 PM
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Those are a lot of metrics. Opinions being valued, being interrupted less, who gets to make the plans, etc. I think something like making plans guys have an advantage of. But say at a party women will get more attention, drinks, etc. If you want to get autistic about it we can measure it as engagements per hour or something measured by implicit invitations to converse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:56 PM
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That's part of it. The hottest, tallest, most assertive, most intelligent, etc. people will always have more presence in these situations But gender is one of those factors. People give hot young women so much attention
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:27 PM
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Q4A: Would you rather: Have a lot of leverage in nearly all social situations at the expense of being cat called and harassed and sent dick picks Have no inherent value in nearly all social situations but you get to be mostly left alone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:11 PM
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It changes definition depending on who you ask. Like most sociological "systems" it's really just subjective terminology that makes you see what you want like a Rorschach test. It's subjectively real
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:10 PM
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Do you actually live in Adelaide? Come to the American midwest where everyone is overweight. Also, it's rude to point out that people are overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:04 PM
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Oh, pharmacy program sure. But for school overall it has to be male, no way. Unless your school is some outlier
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:22 PM
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Government data confirms it's mostly men. In fact I would say the Chinese international students at my uni were mostly female No way, I genuinely don't believe this unless you tell us which university you went to. Chinese and Indian are so overwhelmingly male and stem. I'm Brazilian and my school had a few international Brazilian women but mostly guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:08 PM
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Quick search shows that it was 56-44 for F-1 and M-1 visas. I'm actually surprised, thought it was even more men. ANd yeah, I'm pretty sure. Anyone who went to college in the US knows this lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:06 PM
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Part of why dating is so fucked up is unironically because of brain drain. I'm not talking about poor people from third-world immigrating to the first world for jobs, that's always been around. It's mostly male but they're older and don't partake in the culture that much. I think rich young people from third-world countries immigrating to first-world countries, especially for school and early career made it even more lopsided. These immigrants are mostly male. They participate in the culture sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:51 PM
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A lot of women think one bicep curl will turn them into the hulk.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:29 PM
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It's amazing how a lot of overweight women I know loved Barbie, and all of the normal weight ones were like "meh, funny but wouldn't watch it again".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:16 PM
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'Approach' is such a broad term, idk what it means I have never gone up to a woman at a mall and done a 'cold' approach where I tell her she's beautiful within the first 30 seconds like the PUA's do. I have talked to people in public, but rarely. Have def talked to women at bars and clubs with sexual intent. Not sure what counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:14 PM
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If liberals acknowledged they have no idea how much support for public transit would skyrocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:12 PM
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It's actually kind of well made. They balanced it out with a mix of: 1) Decent people who are a little awkward or in a certain situation 2) Insane entertaining people Otherwise the show could just be loser American guys going for poor third-world women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:24 AM
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I guess the only real exception would be actually independent women, but that's so rare and usually not what people are talking about I think you're the one who has a weird idea of what independence is. If you want to get autistic about it, it's better to be reliant on a faceless corp than a partner who can turn negligent/abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:09 PM
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I guess. They're pretty painful to look at tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:52 PM
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90 day fiancé is wild Obviously the directors pick the best footage to show us but some of these people are so unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:45 PM
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If there's one thing I'm genuinely sexist about it's driving. Women, on average (doubt many of you guys even understand what 'mean' or 'median' means), are worse drivers than men. I feel bad for the curbs of our country.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:29 PM
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Waking up at 1pm isn't that fun Drinking some coffee in the weak morning sun and knocking out tasks is fun
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:04 PM
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So it was a joke? Damn, depending on the location I would fly out to see you guys fight fr.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:55 PM
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This and the comment you replied to are so deranged. I love this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:49 PM
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Depends on the type of intelligence. Women don't get wet if you can solve partial differential equations. On the other hand, if you read a handful of Danielle Steele novels she'll be all over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:13 PM
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I think you should try this. Not because it's a good idea, but because of how bad of an idea it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:11 PM
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No, but smart men are. The average dude doesn't even wear sunscreen. I got called a f*ggot by a guy for wearing cologne. He is no longer my friend. The bar is still low. Getting into skin/hair improvement lowered my opinion of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:59 PM
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What moisturizer did you use? It might sting, especially if it's a higher concentration of hyaluronic acid and it's your first time applying. Having said that, check for ingredients you might be allergic to. It is acid and might feel as such, but it shouldn't be unbearable. Also, always patch test.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:48 PM
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Lol, that would be a caricature of marriage even in the 1800's. Of course you want to get married, most people do. What was described isn't marriage, it's the the borderline worse hypothetical parts of terrible relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:38 PM
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Simply using testosterone at 200mg is a lot, but a lot of people are on that as a therapeutic dose their entire lives. You generally don't cycle off/on TRT Yeah, but guys in their 40's when their normal levels drop. Your body is getting used to it, if you stop taking it your levels will tank.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:36 PM
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Ok, so the problem is semantics? I guess you're not drunk because you will just never stop drinking
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:27 PM
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The other day you said this was causing hormonal acne
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:21 PM
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Here's a height take: Height serves as a bonus on the tall side. Height serves as a requirement on the short side. Almost like reLU activation function. Being tall won't guarantee attraction, it just makes it a 'bonus'. A stronger weight in a multivariable function. Being short may snip your chances, like multiplying the function by 0. In English: For many women, being shorter than her is a deal breaker, regardless of everything else. The inverse isn't true though, being taller isn't a deal make…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:14 PM
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The steroids are destroying your skin bro, Please stop cycling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:08 PM
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Women like intelligence for sure. But I'm not sure IQ is very representative of that. These tests are just good at testing your logical reasoning, quantitative and spatial aptitude, etc. Being able to carry a conversation and assert a well-thought out opinion - especially on interpersonal and broader social matters - is what is attractive to ladies. Not being able to identify patterns in shapes and shit like you would an IQ test, though that is certainly a type of intelligence. Also, that study …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:03 PM
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Yes, but 1) Not that much older 2) It's usually more of a situationship RP thinks a 20yr-old is going to marry a 50yr-old. No, barely happens. BP thinks 25yr-olds aren't interested in a 35yr-old. Actually, quite common. A friend of mine said she hooked up with a 36 year old guy with recently. 'He even had a daughter lmao. I liked older guys but they can't be old enough to be my dad'
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:55 PM
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Banks wish imprudent clients wouldn't default. Clients wish greedy banks wouldn't be so stingy. The teacher wish rambunctious kids would settle down. Kids wish their mean teacher would be chill. Businesses want lower taxes. The state wants more revenue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 08:45 PM
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There is none. That word doesn't apply. Maybe you meant etiquette?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 08:07 PM
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But then my surgeon submitted my photos to my insurance and they had to go throw up in the nearest trash can before replying No way this happened. Really? So the question isn't what women would prefer, because women dislike my face either way ... Here's the thing. The more you take steroids, the more you fuck up your face. You'll get wrinkly quickly. Those androgens are destroying your skin. So it's not just "one or the other". it's that one detracts from the other Look at Larry Wheels and how h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:03 PM
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So it seems like you have options. Clearly not cheap and not easy. But they list what you should do. Why would I ever stop taking steroids to clear up my face, which is still going to look like shit Because an oddly-shaped face with dewy skin is better than an oddly faced shape with shitty skin. when I can make my body look amazing And I'm glad you're going to the gym man. I do too. But you're projecting male desire on women. Women don't drool over nice bodies like men do. That's not to say they…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:42 PM
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They didn’t have evidence beyond a reasonable doubt after all. According to the juries, that is the case indeed. The public disagrees, but once the jury renders a decision then yeah, there wasn't evidence beyond a reasonable doubt. Conveniently, you named two very controversial cases where the public and juries aren't aligned in opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:39 PM
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Of course you don't look like that, look at his ironed shirt. His good skin and good hair. That's all changeable though. You can get good skin if you lay off the roids and moisturize. Yu have good hair, just cut it. Watch this channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7pH4mejU7E&t=234s&ab_channel=BrandonBalfour
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:29 PM
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His AAVE is from growing up with a single mom in poverty. If anything, his rise has been more impressive given that context. Half of being good at basketball is just having the right genes for wingspan and height. And yeah bro, it's unlikeable. Neither my parents speak English as first language, but I'm not ever going to say "They was". it's "They were".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:25 PM
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Are you serious? It is, genuinely, a parody comment I would make to someone who looks like this. You can't wear "Bling" if you look like the most nerd tech-ey imaginable. It's ridiculous advice. You wear things that actually completement you, not things that clash with what you look like. Okay, and you immediately assumed I was talking about gold chains. Why not wear a watch? It'll complement a techy/nerdy look and help. Also, iron your shirt dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:23 PM
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Too political and arrogant The least you could do is have good English before calling others ignorant
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:23 PM
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If someone stole your car and you name the person who did it to police they’re going to arrest that person and at least question them. What sort of comment is this? What is your age and where do you live? The likeliest result is they write up a report and that's it. The (thankfully) few incidents I've had were just this. At best the police will tell you "thanks, we will use this to justify additional patrolling in xyz area" Unless you have video evidence with clear identification then it's unlik…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:22 PM
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Sure, but cheating isn't rape lmfao And she didn't just stfu and take the money. She declined to testify. Wonder why, hmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:16 PM
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Court is too risky. Going for settlement is a viable legal strategy. Raise hell on social media then use that as leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:15 PM
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Alright, you dismiss advice plus you're on steroids. You are unsalvageable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:14 PM
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LeBron is arrogant. I dislike him for leaving Miami after overpromising rings + his politics He calls half the country ignorant with his 3rd-grade reading level broken AAVE
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:13 PM
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It's a way of saying "Sorry to everyone involved. I don't want to ruin my PR but I didn't rape her. My image is worth more than the settlement"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:11 PM
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Inspired by recent comments: Equating a sexual assault allegation with actual sexual assault is particularly cringe. Especially against rich male athletes who stand to lose a lot of money even in a court settlement. Some do happen. Others are so obviously staged like Neymar. Here's a really interesting take but just because someone says something happened, doesn't mean it did :O
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:10 PM
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Okay, I didn't know that. Still, trim your nails, get a haircut and iron your shirt. Wear a chain and maybe a ring. At least a watch. Are you actually on roids?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:07 PM
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Neither did Kobe The case was dropped after Bryant's accuser refused to testify in the case. Love it when internet people assert an allegation as fact of matter
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:05 PM
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Allegations. Male athletes are disproportionately accused. The case was dropped after Bryant's accuser refused to testify in the case Hmmm A separate civil suit was later filed against Bryant by the woman. This was settled out of court and included Bryant publicly apologizing to his accuser, the public, and family, while denying the allegations. Yup, very common. Just pay the fine and get it over with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:05 PM
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He can improve tremendously with a skincare routine, weight loss, a shirt iron, nail clippers and better fashion sense (maybe some accessories). He has a good frame and good hair (needs a haircut though). With 6-8 months of work he'd look much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:01 PM
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Lebron is a great player with a shit personality. Kobe was more likeable imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:58 PM
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There's no such thing as fairness in dating and sex bro, get real You can meet women irl. School is a great place. After that it's harder but not impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:52 PM
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Was this comment inspired by mine? Looks like I provoked some thought, I like it! And yes, I used them for about 1-1.5 years. Was looking for anything really, open to casual and longer-term. Wasn't as disastrous as some guys make it seem. Having said that, I only used them because I thought it was a good avenue. Probably won't use them again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:45 PM
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I think bars and clubs are terrible. Actually, I made a post about this. However, you lost me at calling women broken, delusional, narcissist, etc. I can never empathize with that line of thinking about any group of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:39 PM
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Because of (perceived) inequality. It causes a visceral reaction. What the guys don't realize is that it's a different market. Seeking casual sex / relationships online from men is fundamentally different from seeking casual sex / relationships online from women. There is no perfect analogy but it's like complaining that there are more people interested in Italian cuisine than Peruvian cuisine. You can pour in a bunch of money into a Peruvian restaurant and it'll be great. Is it upsetting if a M…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:35 PM
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They have a right to be frustrated, but I think it's pointless. Try another avenue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:21 PM
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Bad assumptions. You expand a lot of time and mental health with the apps. If you redirect both those valuable resources to irl then the odds aren't 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 PM
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I don't like this take because mods, who I guess think like you, subjectively decide something isn't "productive" enough and lock it. What's even the point of reddit? Only to have the correct, sorry "productive" discussions?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:47 PM
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I don't really feel a lot of empathy for men on dating apps, if any at all. If you get your feelings mental health hurt on those but continue to use them idk what to tell you. On the other hand, the fact that the Tinder mods have to lock threads where women post their stats is equally cringe. No no, can't have an honest discussion about that either, 🥴 the jannies don't like the ideas being thrown around
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:40 PM
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Some beliefs, yes. She often says that she loves it when I take charge and decide things. She likes just 'doing whatever you tell me'. Though, she initiates things occasionally and doesn't mind doing so. In other ways no. She's independent, has a good career, opinions etc. Salary-wise she has a higher base but I have better long-term prospects. She likes getting all dolled up occasionally, but now she's "comfortable" and always steals my sweatpants. Not sure if there's anything you want to know …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 06:26 PM
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Honestly, yeah. It strikes me as the equivalent of a guy hyper-fixated on tits for example. Common in high school but you'd assume they grow out of it later. And I say this as a tits guy. I love big nicely shaped breasts. I love my girlfriend's rack. They're perfect, and I will gladly admit it's a preference. But I didn't seek that out, nor would it be a dealbreaker to me if she had A cups. Women are allowed to have whatever standards they want mind you. Anyone is. I'm not losing sleep over it, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:42 AM
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Caught up with a high school female friend of mine. We always got along well because we would help out each other out with our respective SO's back in high school. Naturally we got to talking about dating, ex's etc. Height came up and she said it's a 'must' for him to be taller and could never be with someone shorter. Surprised me because she has always been very mature and open-minded, even if she's on the taller side herself. Brutal. Even worse is that we come from a South American country so …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:28 AM
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Yes, but that came later in life. But for whatever reason, maybe biological or maybe it's the way we are socialized, us men are more insecure about being good at sex and being exciting. If I had to guess why it's because it's easier to be more understanding, empathetic, listener, provider than it is to be hot, exciting, adventurous and sexy. So we use that to measure if we're being settled for. FWIW, my girlfriend is the best sex I ever had. And she told me I'm the best she's ever had. She also …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:37 AM
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Seattle is more guy heavy, Atlanta more lady heavy. https://www.bestplaces.net/docs/studies/solocities_gap1.aspx You should always improve SMV but you're being so simplistic lol Go ahead though, make your money. Work in an oil rig in the Dakotas. You'll make so much bank and have so little sex lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:33 PM
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Picking a job based on the friends you can make there is kinda dumb, though. I totally disagree. The people in or not in your life is a huge determinant of your quality of life. I absolutely think that you should pick a job based on who you can connect with it. Professionally and personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:26 PM
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Yeah but diminishing returns. A guy making 70k in Atlanta working for a consulting firm probably dates more than generic Amazon AWS worker #64171 trying to get through the Seattle Freeze despite making 140k
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:12 PM
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There's more nuance to that. I started out as a computer nerd but quickly realized how depressing and shitty it is to work in a hardware lab all day. And your indian electrical engineering friends aren't exactly conducive to a social life. I transitioned to a BI role and I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:05 PM
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This is exactly the mindset that I think men have that'll cripple them dating-wise. Want to make money? Go into software and grind leetcode 10 hours a day. You'll make a shit ton of money. But all your coworkers, their friends, the city you live in, the clubs you go to, etc. will be a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:03 PM
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Q4M (and women too tbh): Should your social life be a factor when picking a career? Conventional wisdom says that's a dumb thing to consider. But honestly, in post-covid society a lot of your friends are work colleagues. This is especially true in big companies/firms that are more tech-oriented. You're going to have a better time socially and dating as say a lawyer in Atlanta than as a software engineer in Man Jose.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:54 PM
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Men are the majority of politicians, but that doesn't account for all power. Especially cultural and social power. How many politicians have XY chromosomes is a bad measure. The main grievance is that men aren't seem as a demographic that goes through any hardship. Women are. Minorities are. LGBT+ are. Working-class people, students, etc. You have to go to anonymous internet forums to hear male grievances. Not that I disagree that men are responsible for their own problems, but I'm explaining wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:34 PM
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Q4M: how often are you concerned you'll seem like you're trying to make a move on a friend? Never ever. If I make a move they'll know, guys who try to wear a girl down are simps. Once in a blue moon a woman will think I'm trying to hit on her when I'm not, but that's more embarrassing for them tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:04 PM
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Also, social gatherings are a lot more fun if you date within a social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:58 PM
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When talking about things like race inequality or gender inequality there's a common line from politicians that goes something like, "This is everybody's problem. All fair-minded Americans should be concerned with this" It's the idea that you can't just leave it to xyz community to solve their problem, that institutions - particularly government - should step in. It's why we see DEI, affirmative action, etc. The opposite side of this is that you can't just throw around policies and social progra…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:57 PM
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A, and it's just more realistic anyway. I'd rather have one good night of sex than two mediocre nights of sex. Specially because I probably won't to go as much on night two.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:50 PM
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Your mileage may vary. Online dating has never worked out well for me, but it has for some of my friends. Meeting people in real life - especially women - isn't easy depending on your circumstances. It takes a lot of effort to build a good social circle that is conducive to dating. That same amount of effort could be use on optimizing the hell out of your profile and getting results like that. I think it's a matter of preference. You either need to be top 20% in looks/pics for OLD to work. Or to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:06 PM
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I tried before for a few months but couldn't adapt to the sleep schedule. After work/classes. It's also nice to 'blow off' steam.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:31 PM
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Data is easily manipulated and often lacks context. I think it's harder for guys to date in new unique ways, and you don't need to recite numbers for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:19 PM
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Okay yeah, but you're taking the most extreme r-slur example of this. Of course I don't want to think about the graphic details. The thought of my girlfriend with someone else is highly disturbing to me. But I'm also pretty much indifferent to the fact she's had sex before. We both have a history, most people do at this point. The important thing is being satisfied sexually in the current relationship. Also, women are also bothered by the thought of their man with someone else too. You would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:02 PM
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An opportunity to shoot your shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:50 PM
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Dating once you have an 'in' is not hard. What's brutal for straight men are those gap in between relationships/opportunities. Hard to generate any traction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:23 PM
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Not at all. This is one of the areas I feel very bad for women in. A lot of shitty creepy people can't keep their hands off others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:44 AM
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I think you're overstating the amount men get made fun of. Most people are apathetic both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:16 PM
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We definitely won't have some sort of revolution or anything. I can totally see our politics changing because of it. Like in Korea with their animosity towards feminism and what not. I feel like that's happening to some extent in the US already, but will speed up in the next few years. Mating crisis is a symptom, not a cause though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:13 PM
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Those are mostly exceptions though, can you can find a lot in history. Like Israel requiring women to serve. But I'm talking about the general rule here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:31 PM
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Only PTSD I need is a Pretty Thang Sucking my Dick
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:42 PM
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That's a great analogy because both are unnatural lifestyles as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:28 PM
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The highest status is a wife with a side business that loses money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:23 PM
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Well, the one who said "the same thing" was right at least. The cringe one was the one who said "I like to think all women are high value women". But yeah, i get your point. The first question was answered directly and confidently. The reaction to the second questions shows the in-group bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:07 PM
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Yes. let me clarify when I say I lost empathy, I don't have empathy for guys who complain about loneliness or lack of direction in life. I don't think the government should spoon feed you purpose either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:48 PM
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I explicitly said I'm not an MRA. I don't seek to change it or anything. Actually I embrace it. My philosophy is that you should compete as much as you can because you'll have a better life the more successful and stronger you can make yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:44 PM
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It's the third most upvoted post of all time on this sub. It's a good post but kind of emotional. The wikipedia page on it is better: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_expendability
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:42 PM
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The male disposability post is great. Or depressing? Idk, I can't get it out of my head. It explains so much stuff. It explains why the birthrate slightly favors males, why there's greater male variability, why we're the ones who get stuck with backbreaking jobs, go to prison more, etc. I guess some guys read that and become 'enlightened'. My reaction was I just lost empathy. As a guy, my core function would've been to protect my tribe from other attacking tribes during wartime, and kept the vil…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:23 PM
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Case by case. A roider with one cycle under his belt is probably a more salvageable body than Nikocado Avocado. A young overweight person is easier to fix than Rich Piana.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:09 PM
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Well, a lot of women's desires are determined socially. More so than men's at least. Women consider what their friends and family will think about a partner when choosing one. Men do tooo, but not as strongly. And that's a RP belief. So logically, if you change what society at large believes, then you are indirectly changing their desires. I agree that it's probably a waste of time and embarrassing in many ways, but it makes logical sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:15 AM
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The most successful gorillas shower 19 times a day and have 7 hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:51 AM
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Befriend the people you work with. Work towards a career pivot while trying hard at your current job. A healthy mix of gratitude + competitive mindset has been fulfilling in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:49 AM
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I’ve been telling him that I don’t compare sexual partners (which I don’t typically do) My fiancé has been trying to get me to tell he is the best lover I’ve ever had. From a purely physical/sexual chemistry, this isn’t exactly the case. Two logically exclusive claims lol, unless you really put a lot of weight on that word "typically"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:47 AM
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Unpopular opinion: I think women having a lot of (genuine) guy friends is a green flag. Hear me out. You know the dynamic of how women hate it when their guy friends have a crush on them? And then they get offended if the guy grows distant after rejection? I see this on Instagram pages all the time. On internet forums, BP say it's dehumanizing because men only see women as sexual objects. But the retort from RP is that women aren't entitled to friendships. I think there's truth to both. But feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:32 PM
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However I’m not convinced of the idea that “all the good ones are taken” That's why I said unique situations. Good people do get divorced, or become widowed, etc. and go back on the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:28 PM
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At that age cohort, the dynamics on the apps are different. It's usually below average people or people in unique situations. She's not dating the top x% of all men. My thoughts is that in this scenario a probably mid woman is dating a few lucky mid guys. How many people should women date so we’re not seen as too picky? I see the point you're making, but 7 dates in less than 2 months is still pretty good though. Actually, it's fantastic. How many dates did those guys have in the same time window…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:03 PM
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Theoretically, would it be possible to quantify certain aspects of the dating market just like we do with the economy? GPD, Gini coefficient, etc.? I know there's a lot of statistics floating around, but I'm talking KPI's here, Aggregate intimacy The relative difference between men/women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:59 PM
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I'm going to play a little devil's advocate here. I definitely do think women get harassed out in public wayyy too much. 100% spot on people asking you for money. The traffic stuff is spot on. One time a dude wanted some money because he "watched" my car on a public street I parked in. I didn't have any and he wanted me to send it through some app, but I literally didn't have a bank account in that country. But I just want to continue the analogy because I go back to my home which is third world…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:46 PM
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You're taking starfish a little too literally. Yeah in missionary there's not much movement unless it's some nice hip rubbing. It's more of a term used to describe women who are bad in bed. Insecure, no participation with hands, no sounds, never offers to be on top, etc. My first gf hated taking her bra off, didn't like oral either way, only liked it with the lights off, and only in missionary position. Granted this was hs, so I was also pretty bad lmao. But even in missionary the woman can grab…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:45 PM
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This article doesn't provide much data, but they make some additional good theoretical points. Like how couples don't spend a lot of money. The optimal ratio would be hard impossible to control for and honestly anything between 55:45-65:45 for women is ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:33 PM
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Is it really 3:2? Do you have a source for that? Curious to read about it. My fraternity used to aim for that as well. But as long as it was more women than men it was g
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:22 PM
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This is like the fifth time you said that lmaoo I post on both, but this sub is definitely the worse of the two
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:20 PM
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Some clubs are free. There's one near me that's free admission for all and it's pretty good actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 07:13 PM
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That's how I started dating my girlfriend. Knew of her then went on a night out with friends as a group. You're right, a pre-established group of friends who enjoy dancing is ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 07:11 PM
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Never seen admission based on hotness at nightclubs. Only heard about it at frat parties. Ladies either get in free or reduced cover. Do they not have that where you're from?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 07:11 PM
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Seems like sex tourism is different from passport bro. Don't passport bros want a long term spouse?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:44 PM
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I'm convinced nightclubs are the most degrading environment. You as a guy have to pay a $10-20 cover (more in some places) for a chance to enter the establishment. You get taxed because the owners understand how badly you want to get in and monetize it. So you pay, go in, and then compete with every other group of 3-4 single guys who had the same brilliant idea that Friday. The women get in for free, but the price they pay is being the product. On some nights they might want to be go for their f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:43 PM
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I'm not defending passport bros but this is such a bad misunderstanding of America lol. The US has pretty much every ethnicity in the world. But after 1 or 2 generations everyone sort of converges into an overweight blob that spends a lot of time sitting in a car and watching television. The only difference is that the 1st generation will be hardworking immigrants of whatever their original demographic is. 2nd generation will be American but still speak the mother tongue. 3rd generation and they…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:26 PM
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I don't disagree, my uncle is way above average and life worked out for him (he also put in the work required). But I think you're exaggerating the numbers a bit and forgetting some axes. Which is what I said. 50 year old men can peak financially and resource wise to entice women to date them but not physically unless they're in the 1-3% of looks. He's aged well but definitely not 1-3% well. More like top 20-40% I'd say. But the two factors that should get brought up with looks and resources in …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:11 PM
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I guess. But the scenario you're describing is the bad case scenario, or at least average. I have a player older uncle who has slept with countless women and has the pictures to show for it. He's a surfer, does ironman's, overall beach bum / nature vibe etc. He does do cool shit and has met women that way. And he has money, though he said he didn't enjoy driving a Mercedes so he traded it in. Granted, he's been married twice and doesn't live in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:04 AM
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Men who use resources directly on women are retarded. Raw looks aside, I think a common scenario is older guys with an abundance of time and money using that to do cool shit which in turn get them more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:30 PM
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Seattle is pretty bad in general. I've heard similar things about Manchester but someone would need to confirm. No idea about Vancouver.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:23 PM
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Seems like you have a preference for white-collar workers. Ngl I agree. Well, at least the reasonings you listed. Among white-collar workers, I'd avoid people in academia for soft sciences and non-profits. I like people who don't base their entire lives and careers around ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:17 PM
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Bro, the pussy in gender studies is pretty bad. Psychology majors are the best source. Bio and neuroscience too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:47 PM
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Sure, and that's great. I think everyone should do things for themselves, go to work and be active. But you're divorcing male attention from other stuff. It won't just be "approaches" that dwindle with time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:04 PM
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What do they actually study? Left-wing politics and other facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:02 PM
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Do you guys consider this subreddit gender studies? In a way I do. And I totally mock real gender studies, the type you can get degrees in. I just like talking about gender and gender dynamics without the inherent ideological pressure from academia. Sometimes I think this is what gender studies should've been.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:58 PM
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It's called invisible woman syndrome. I can't stop seeing it these days. Women get less attention overall, whether it's romantic, platonic, professional, etc. You can definitely remain relevant in a career setting. You just need to compete harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:52 PM
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I'll play some devil's advocate and say that I've seen some women virtue signal being pro-male. On Instagram, irl, etc. Not as hardcore as male feminists, but they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:46 PM
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I wasn't being to mean to anyone. My point is more about the women who want to finish in bed but make no effort to do so then shame men for being bad. Men can be bad lovers, and it's obvious when they are. My point is that women can also be bad lover, it's just less obvious when they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:40 PM
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Sorry to hear that your parents were hand off, I hope your childhood was okay. Haha, I appreciate the concern but I had a great childhood. They were hands off in that way. I think they were a bit shy themselves regarding anything sexual. But they were very much loving parents who gave me an upper-middle class lifestyle. Do you think you would have felt more comfortable speaking to your parents about this stuff if sexuality wasn’t so stigmatized growing up? No. Actually, I grew up in a very sex-p…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:38 PM
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Why did the red pill need to tell you that being a pushover won’t help you rather than your parents or just life experience? My parents did to some extent, but they were largely hands off. Never had the talk, etc. I think people are more influenced by their friends/internet these days than people admit. For better or worse, they've replaced religious figures/church. Experiences did shape me ultimately, but I sought out redpill to deal with those situations or explanations for them. I talked abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:51 PM
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Is that really what you got out of my comment? Read it again a few more times.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:36 PM
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I agree with everything you said But I'm talking about guys I know who consumed specific things. Mark Manson, arr TheRedPill etc. There's a lot of "normies" who don't even know what reddit is but have consumed what is essentially RP content clothed in self-improvement language as you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:57 PM
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I know guys who are successful and believe in those things. But their mannerisms, looks, frame, etc. are all traditionally masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:56 PM
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Hooked up with my current gf the first night we met. Met via a friend. Made out at a nightclub that was near to my place. Walked home and hooked up. Not sure if that counts because we're still dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:55 PM
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Yes, lol. What made you think I didn't? Went out and implemented the 'tricks' a.k.a. the good part of the manosphere: Don't sit across, sit next to her Don't wait until the end to make a move, touch her and kiss her midway Take her to more than one place Took me a while to learn these things, but it felt natural and she did her part of being receptive. This made the end easy. "Wanna go back to my place? I'll text you the address"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:40 PM
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Good distinction. Settling = compromising standards Settling down = starting the next phase of life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:36 PM
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My friend got me into a nightclub for free because his friend knew the owner. I dressed up really well, borderline try hard but it worked. Started talking to people and some woman kept touching my hands and asking about my rings. Asked her to dance but really only danced for like 30 secs before making out all night. Got her number and set up a date later.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:35 PM
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He moved there to 'teach'. I need to know what field lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:30 PM
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What's funny to me is the variance of males that have delved into manosphere content, whether it's positive or toxic. Two guys I know have read Mark Manson's Models. One is socially awkward and obsessed. The other, while not a player, is chill, confident and successful. Same height, same ethnicity, similar upbringings, but two different outcomes lol. The biggest player I know told me about his younger days browsing RP content on reddit. Has 50+ bodies and would bring a new woman to our hangouts …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:28 PM
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Not sure if I'll be able to find it. A quick google search turned this up and it's kind of the same idea. Might not be the same person though. I remember distinctly that someone asked her advice on it and she said something like: "Men have an advantage over women because they've been masturbating for years. They know what they like. Women don't, but expect men to know their bodies better than they do" My gf literally said "I know my body better than anyone" and I knew that was a green flag
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:22 PM
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I don't think people start consuming RP content with an end goal in mind. I started consuming that content when I was 16-ish trying to figure things out. I had no experience. I wasn't a pushover, but definitely not a player. I was absolutely captivated by how seemingly offensive/edgy some of the ideas were. Things I had never been exposed to before. In my mid 20's now with a few relationships under my belt. I see a lot of the stuff that's bullshit/exaggerated/ineffective/irrelevant within the 'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:19 PM
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I have no idea what Entourage is but How I Met Your Mother is sort of the guy's version of Sex and The City. Ted Mosby is a goofball who watches Star Wars, wears band t-shirt + jeans and is moderately artistic but consistently pulls dimes in dive bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:09 PM
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I agree. But the OP is realizing something that all men go through, just wording it poorly in a cringe post. It should take a reasonable amount of effort to make her cum. If it takes forever and she can't or is bad at communicating her desires then that's bad too. A lot of guys beat themselves up for it, and young women love joking about how bad men are in bed. But many women expect you to make them cum when they can barely do it themselves. There's a bit somewhere from a female feminist sexolog…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:06 PM
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A lot of people do say this. RP'ers and healthier versions of masculinity allude to this. Take dating out of the equation, a lot of self-help people specifically mention that at some point you have to have accomplished something. Jordan Peterson (I'm not a fan of but this bit is good) put it very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:30 PM
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In my home country we carry fake phones too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:25 PM
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I don't "love" it. But it's amazing how much people let themselves go. After high school and after college. Completely disgusting. On the flipside, some people do glow up. I respect them for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:50 PM
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I don't disagree. She's well-connected and charismatic. Helps that she's from the area so she's had 20+ years of building connections. Men can and do build similar connections if they're also savvy. But the assumption that's baked into your statement is that it's just as easy for guys to build these types of social connections as it is for women, all else equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 02:40 PM
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Depends from guy to guy. Dating apps aren't impossible but you have to play it smart and optimize. Same for night life. I think best long term is really social circle. It takes a while though. Quantity is bad, but quality is higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 02:37 PM
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Engaged co workers are among the loneliest demographic there is ime. How old are you guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 02:08 PM
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Backstage is just backstage. I'm sure it happens a bunch though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:48 PM
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What? Read the article
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:46 PM
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Haha, the two aren't connected. The reason he brings it up is because the point he makes is that the left doesn't have empathy for men unless it's a pre-approved subset of men. I've actually made that point here a bunch of times, but the mods have the no racially charged content rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:32 PM
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'healthy' is so subjective there's no possible way to answer this. I like Captain Nascimento from Tropa de Elite
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:29 PM
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My gf somehow got free tickets + backstage passes to a medium-sized concert from one of her friends. I remember an article one of you guys linked about unfuckable hate nerds written by a self-proclaimed leftist. One of his bits was about women's social power/privilege: They will have entry into places—private clubs, backstage after a show—young men can only press their noses against. Haha well, here it is. I have to admit it's accurate. Whatever, I get to enjoy it too now.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:27 PM
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Yes. Especially the guys. Go to any place that's a hotspot for social interaction and you'll see it's overwhelmingly male. Why do you think clubs charge a cover (or sometimes a more expensive one) for guys and not for women? Even for private events it's so much harder to get women to come out than it is guys. They're flakier and less committed. The truth is women are more in demand than men are, at least socially. One of the RP grievances I wholeheartedly agree with. Not sure how it is in Irelan…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:00 PM
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I agree with you that ratio irl sucks ass. It's one of the consequences of dating app culture, women have less incentive to leave the house. However, it's better in the sense that it's more realistic. If you build up a social circle, or even talk to people when you're out, you can skip the messaging/awkwardness and build chemistry immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 03:14 AM
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Camera on but muted. Not chowing down, more like nibbling and sipping coffee.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:48 AM
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Interesting actually, thanks for linking this Funny they analyzed Trump and Clinton though haha
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:48 AM
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One thing that annoys me about men is they're - on average - very self-centered. In conversation a lot of their comments start with "I". Women (at least non-hinge women) are good at asking you follow-up questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:41 PM
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Happy. How happy are you. Sure, but dissecting this makes for great discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:25 PM
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You're not really making the point you think you are. First of all, you can succeed in one are of life while failing in another. This is a common modern grievance from guys and it was mine for a while - excelling at school, career, gym, finances, etc. but not at dating. The opposite also exists, though it's less common these days. But really, you can be failing at one or more vectors while succeeding in others. Secondly, like someone else pointed out, the ability to have sex with hot people isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:23 PM
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Is it rude to eat during online class? Just snacks, not a full on meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:07 PM
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Dude, if you're a plantation slave I think there are a lot of things you would be more bummed out about than a girl rejecting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 05:03 PM
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This is a good point. Women dominate several industries as well. It's funny how it's really only the male-dominated ones like finance and STEM that need 'fixing'. Aren't more women becoming doctors and lawyers these days? I wonder if anyone wants to 'fix' that into the proper ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:56 PM
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This is a tougher sell every year. If women receive an overwhelming amount of support and still don't come out ahead, I fail to see how the discrepancy isn't natural aptitude instead of 'social and cultural barriers', which I do agree exist as well. I mean hey, there aren't a lot of shorties in basketball or thin people in sumo wrestling. Ever had Italian sushi?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:51 PM
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Good point. But not as dramatically as desires I guess. One feels more fickle. Like I said, I'm a wants guy, just playing devil's advocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:45 PM
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Need implies more security and stability. Want is more volatile since wants can change at any time. But I agree want is more fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:23 PM
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It just doesn't sit right with me that other people get twice (or more) the opportunity I do despite putting in equal work, even if it's unacceptable to say this in 2023. Btw, the irony of your comment. If equality is being 'coddled' to, I'll gladly take it. I mean hey, they're being 'coddled to' at the moment and you're celebrating it. So it can't be all that unrespectable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:21 PM
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France's Rixain Law is the most aggressive example of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:16 PM
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So they are handouts? Or are you just using that to connote a pejorative existence of these benefits? Is affirmative action a positive or a negative in your opinion? Or does it depend on the recipient?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:07 PM
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I feel really bad for women because they get harassed, catcalled, followed, etc. more than men. But the whole "muh workplace sexism" falls on deaf ears. If I could choose, I'd rather be a woman in the workplace than a man these days, at least in the US/Europe. Exclusive resources, employee groups, scholarships, positions, etc. for women? Women achieving C-suite is notable and encouraged? Sign me up! I'd love to have all that tacit support for an immutable fundamental characteristic assigned at b…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:59 PM
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The funny part is Hasan Piker used to be a classic bro-style PUA. Then he found out being woke twitcher was more profitable. Ethan Klein was similar. Just a regular content creator who made vape nation vids and prank vid critiques. Then he discovered the algorithm rewarded the woke. Every single creator he listed also preys on loneliness. They just do so differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:56 PM
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Good comment. I'll add this is especially true in extremely heterogenous societies such as the US and Western Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:52 PM
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Right, as a mod, I get it. And you guys have done a good job with this sub so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:45 AM
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This is a bad rule with all due respect, since race is extremely relevant to dating. Especially in the US. It should be no racist/bigoted content. 'Racially charged' is too broad
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:36 AM
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You're totally right. Gymnastics is a good example of one that is actually better to watch women's if not at least equal because of the dexterity and flexibility required. Though, I suppose that one is kind of hard to pinpoint because it's so many different sports to watch as one. The ones that require upper-body and core strength like parallel bars or rings I think men is betters. But the floor routines and high beam are women's. It's an interesting thought experiment for sure. You seem to know…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:06 PM
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my boss, for example, is a pretty “manly man” in his 50s and he was glued to the women’s soccer World Cup. Funny you mention this one specifically, because I watched the women's WC final. I have to say, the quality of play was very good compared to just 4 years ago. Obviously not at the same level as the insane Argentina-France men's final, but much better than I thought. And my gf (she was a D1 athlete) pointed out something that I have to admit is true, the women dive way less than the men. In…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:19 PM
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I suppose one way to look at the sports/athletics thing is about effort rather than the end result? Yes, and I respect the athletes who put in the work. But sports are entertainment as well, so the end result is what matters. Especially because we're all in the arenas chanting or watching on TV and yelling. We don't think "damn, she put in a lot of work, thus it's fun to watch!", We think "Wow, I can't believe Messi kicked that into the upper 90, that's fun to watch" I think that's why women spo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:47 PM
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Oh I wasn't awkward at all. Everyone who refused to get vaccinated is equally ignorant, regardless of race. It's the media that puts on kiddy gloves for certain demographics because I guess it's an 'analytical tool'. You sound like a sociology major.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:33 PM
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Nope. First off nobody says anything about "100%" justified. People might try to couch the hesitancy in historical context, but that's different than condoning it. Oh okay, whatever. 99% justified then? 80%? You get my point, I don't mean that in the most literal sense. '100%' is poor wording, whatever. More importantly; "Couch the hesitancy in historical context" is condoning it my friend. That's what couch means actually, to reframe something euphemistically. They're not two separate ideas. Ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:26 PM
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Oh but they're not. Vaccine skepticism is a great example. If you're a minority you are 100% justified in not taking the vaccine because "given muh history you are right to be weary!" White people who didn't want it were ignorant rednecks. Sexual assault is another one. With media, internet, academia, gov, etc. being all overwhelmingly progressive-leaning I don't really think UMC white males dictate the culture of public opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:10 PM
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'Stealing valor' is more used in a military context. There's no valor involved in being porn in a poor community. Middle class and UMC white dudes are doing fine in school. This is often used as a percussor to justify discrimination against them. Statistically they do fine (as a group), but in the court of public opinion they're in the minority precisely because of attitudes like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:01 PM
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I linked her a study showing that hiring managers literally prefer women resumes and will call them back for interviews 41% more (in the coding industry) Then her response was "this doesn't prove women have an advantage! Only that they get additional help throughout the process!"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:51 PM
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It's amazing how race can change the optics of an assertion. "Women are spoiled and self-centered" is incel speak. "White women are spoiled and self-centered" and you might as well be one of those Lizzo-looking bloggers of color. "Men have it hard in education" is an MRA take. "Black men have it hard in education" you sound like a Democrat. Why can't Americans discuss anything without qualifying race first?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:47 PM
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They butchered the name of that castle.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:45 PM
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Anything physical related. I will never cry at women athletes being paid less. It's like complaining that the local part-time clown who performs at birthday parties doesn't get paid as much as a performer at Cirque du Soleil. Same sport, but completely different categories. On the flip side, the whole 'How could she slap!?' thing is dumb to me. Men are way stronger. To clarify, you should never lay your hand on anyone to hurt them, and I do feel bad for male domestic abuse victims. But there's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:43 PM
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It's impossible to prove that someone was hired solely for being XYZ characteristic. Even if that is the case, the hiring managers would never let that info see the light of day. But there is objective proof that those XYZ demographics get help every step of the way. For what reason? By definition, diversity to increase XYZ. "Where's the proof that jurors in the Emmet Till delivered the verdict without considering race? 🥴🥴 So far you only linked studies showing the deep south was racist in the 1…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:41 PM
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I linked it in my other comment. The number is closer to 41% more desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:30 PM
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Yeah like I said in my other comment, that's a fair distinction. But it's also a really thin line. increasing chances of getting hired is effectively 'being' hired
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:27 PM
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Fair, but you didn't use 'solely' in your original comment either Women and minorities are sought after for diversity reasons. This doesn't mean some random woman or black guy will be picked off the street and offered a job at Microsoft. But it does mean that effectively, the market equivalent of an 80% technically qualified white male is a 60% technically qualified woman/minority (not real numbers, just illustrating my point) Which is a huge source of grievance and makes the entire victim claim…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:20 PM
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https://economics.yale.edu/sites/default/files/marley_finley.senior_essay.pdf Not some random incel, this is a Yale study
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:04 PM
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Women and minorities in STEM have access to resources that white males don't. SHPE, NBSE, WiC, etc. This is an objective advantage because it increases your exposure to employers. Sometimes the advantage is even more explicit, like companies that have a policy of bringing women/minority-named resumes to the front. Granted, most companies will only hire you if you pass the minimum technical requirements. That's the great equalizer. If you're a woman or minority, you're wayyyy more likely to secur…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:03 PM
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Probably to add validity to the claim that they're adding commentary.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:06 AM
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It's a way to repost other people's content by 'technically' bypassing intellectual property laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:00 AM
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I mean women that honestly want no children but they don’t hate children These people are far and few in between. Look at the childfree subreddit. It's constant gloating and hating of kids, comes off as project and an insecurity. So in your hypothetical, don't think anything of them. But the people who advertise that they're child free are cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:44 PM
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Yes, so what? Being assertive and decisive is attractive in men and unattractive in women. It's the way the world works and I suggest embracing it because it won't change anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:38 AM
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Shared interests, language, culture etc. are nice things to have. But they come in second place to shared values, goals, and ambitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:35 AM
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But just having this much interest in analyzing straight dating dynamics and arguing with teenagers about it on Reddit. Eh, I've seen weirder hobbies. At least this is one that makes you think about the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:31 AM
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Even in a presumably progressive subreddit the guy making the 'right' point has a nice physique and the guy making the 'bad' point is ugly. This is the importance of looking good.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 02:14 PM
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Unverifiable claim, how convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 10:23 PM
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I don't disagree per se, but you're assuming male attention is all equal. Yes, male attention on average is at an all-time low. However, the higher quality individual attention from high-quality males will always be in demand. It's up to you to become higher quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:13 PM
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Two different ideas. Or at least passport broing is a subset of geomaxxing. Geomaxxing could include moving out of the suburbs to cities known for favorable ratios like Chicago or NY. A lot of young people do this and dating is usually only part of a multifactorial desire to go somewhere fun for your youth. Passport broing is more deliberate. Going out of the country for a foreign bride specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:12 PM
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Yes, but I guess it wasn't just 'laid' since we got into a relationship after the first night. Women will help you out but they have to know you, respect you and most of all trust you. They take pride in setting up their friends in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:50 PM
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One thing I find annoying about women is how they literally never disagree with each other. I'm talking among friends obviously, not some female politician or something. Sometimes half their conversations are just rewordings of things like "Yeah, you're right, your mom/roommate/coworker is not being reasonable at all." I swear to God, sometimes the complainer friend is talking at the listener friend, and the listener friend literally shuts her brain off until the complainer friend stops talking.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:22 AM
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Quality vs quantity
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:19 AM
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Why would any women go on dates when she has 20 friends she could go out with every night? /u/benzbugatti because women aren't that different from men in this regard. They get fed up with their friends occasionally and enjoy going out with a nice man. I love my bros, and they love me. But hanging out with them 5 nights every week would get tiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:19 AM
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This is a beautiful comment. Okay, probably not the same as literally Hitler being spanked, but you're 100% right about everything else. Lizzo isn't popular because she has talent, she's popular because her being fat and obnoxious is a statement. It's satisfying to other fat loud women seeing one of their own on TV.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:26 PM
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No set rules, ask her out when you feel it. But, at the same time, most women seem to hate when their male friends confess feelings. Pretending to be her friend is bad. Being her friend before asking her out is okay. And if you're in group 2 and she complains, then screw that person. Think about it. Imagine being offended that someone is into you, lol. I would recommend not waiting to long, otherwise you get compartmentalized as a friend. Very very few times have I seen the "be friends first" th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:56 AM
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Now let’s back to our topic , having more females than males doesn’t increase your chance of getting laid Blows my mind that people assert this. Runs contrary to every social environment I've been a part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:53 AM
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It makes sense that the ratio is slightly higher for men. Men die earlier and go to war more often. Fischer's principle applies, but tribes that had slightly more men were more evolutionarily successful. But that was back in the day when you would pillage the village next to you and take their resources. I think modern society would benefit from a 1:1 ratio, or maybe like 95:100. Not to be inc3ly but men could use a bit of a boost in terms of baseline value imo. That's what clubs/frats/companies…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:51 AM
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Yeah, race matters a lot. "Controversial" I guess, but that's what online dating is. You're literally a set of quantifiable/classifiable attributes. I dated a black girl for like 6 months. She was attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:43 AM
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Why does the millionaire buy the Mercedes and not the 200k miles 1996 Buick?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:04 PM
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I think fraternities are the closest thing to a sexual union that men experience. I want to write a post about it but it would be fiercely autistic. The idea is that men have less value in a dating setting and there's a prisoner's dilema going on, i.e. "Oh he won't pay for the date? I will! I'm 6'3" btw" A race to the bottom. But if men unionized and collectively raised their standards, just like labor unions do, this wouldn't happen. Frats are sort of like that in the sense they give bids to gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:01 PM
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Hope I'm not too late. Read Manliness by Harvey Mansfield. It's more theoretical and abstract, but it'll give you a full answer to that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:06 PM
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I totally agree. The points were good. And I do think some of them were for women. But the one about being thin or being a leader? C'mon lmao. Men going to the gym to life all those weights is indicative of body dysmorphia. Everyone feels pressure to look good. As they should imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:24 PM
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But Gloria's speech was one huge motte-and-bailey. The movie bundles common complaints with feminist complaints, and sells it all as feminist complaints. I enjoyed watching it, but it's a cheap strategy to get a lot of viewers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:13 PM
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Mods here have been mostly good. I'm just asking for a reasonable take.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:38 PM
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Yeah. She even acknowledges this, but shies away from listing anything objective. Men are objects, it's good to make lists about them. Women are not, how dare you think of them as objects with attributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:37 PM
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Amazing how "Men commit more crime" is accepted in bluepill/feminist circles. And indeed it's an objective reality. But say: "__ Men commit more crime" and now it's a racist conspiracy within the same liberal circles. Can any bluepill flairs explain this? Is it not an objective statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:32 PM
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Yeah, but 'conventionally' is one of those words that are objective in theory and subjective in practices.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:29 PM
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This is a good article, but she should've included bullet points for what grown-up women need to have lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:25 PM
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I had Barbie womansplained to me. My small Ken brain couldn't possibly grasp deep complicated ideas such as "being thin but not too thin" or "be a leader but don't be an asshole" Apparently, those ideas apply to women and women only and men just simply don't experience any pressures on their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:11 PM
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My male relatives on dad's side are mostly tall. On my mom's side they're average (American short). One of them has a somewhat shitty marriage to an obese woman he got pregnant when he was young and she was skinny. The other is twice divorced and has slept with over 200 women, probably 250 at this point. I still think height is an American thing given the basketball/NFL culture. I also think Americans don't see themselves as fat, which is disgusting to me. My player uncle is an ironman athlete. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:11 PM
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I'm tall for a latino at 5'11" (180 cm). Funnily enough, one of the best takes I've ever read on this sub has been about height. It is true in my opinion. Latino women still do care about height, but you're better off being blonde/blue-eyed. I have green eyes so that was a plus in high school back when I lived down south. We're all socialized differently. Also, talking purely physical. The personal characteristics still apply, i.e. confidence, no autism, etc. Are your friends dating latino women…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:00 PM
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Cultural values.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:04 PM
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I don't believe in epiphanies, so there wasn't one event that led me to taking a pill. I have an average background. Parents are upper-middle class latino and I grew up in the US + back home. So I guess that influenced my views a little. But many people are like that. I just like being able to discuss things without censorship. Especially dating/gender dynamics, since there's a lot of hysteria around it. I like some of the redpill ideas, but disagree with many of them. Same for blue. I dislike i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 02:18 PM
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'Men do it too' isn't a stage of denial. Do you not agree that men also want adventurous women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:36 PM
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OG redpill was your father/uncle/older brother giving you dating advice your mom/aunt/older sister would dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:53 PM
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Giving blowjobs is a pick-me thing? 😂 That's called having sex I can't believe this is real. I feel sorry for women who also think not limiting compliments is pick-me. I'm glad you learned to become a functioning loving adult. Have fun with your new boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:32 PM
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Yeah, when divorce was introduced/normalized, it led to a huge uptick in those who wanted it as well as those interested in it. A bit of an overcorrection at first. I think it peaked in the 80's/90's. The following generations have a more reflective divorce rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:25 PM
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I love eating pussy and would do it more if my jaw didn't literally start hurting
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:12 PM
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Their willingness to: Pay for premium Work and rework images until they're perfect Be on multiple dating apps. Not just the big three, but lesser-known ones as well. Spam swipes and messages all day long On my side: Be social Live alone and host things. Not just hosting, but managing/directing the social interaction Constantly make new friends Being okay with negative social interaction. i.e. rejection, kicking out toxic people from social circle, awkwardness etc. Here's a funny anecdote: A frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 10:08 PM
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The US is still plurality protestant. No way you're having trouble finding religious men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 09:41 PM
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I have a few friends who kill it in OLD. I think they played it perfectly and the algorithm snowballs them. I'm like the only guy in our friend group who meets women irl. I've had way more success irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 09:39 PM
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I think people in general can get a little jealous of past partners. Especially young people. For obvious reasons, we're naturally competitive and we build other people up in our heads and put ourselves down. My comment was more of how men get jealous v. how women get jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:58 PM
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Friends, plenty. Close friend, one. We were best friends in high school. We bonded over her figuring things out with her boyfriend, and me with my girlfriend. Both of us got dumped. Never thought of her as anything other than a friend. But, if you're close friends with someone of the opposite sex, and you're both single, feelings develop. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong, or has a bad definition of 'close'. Anyway, I moved to another country so never pursued that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 09:09 PM
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Unpopular opinion, but yeah, befriend the women. Ideally, there's something about them you'd like to be friends with, but I understand if you wouldn't be friends with them otherwise. The best social proof is: Women you get along with Women you pretend to get along with Men you get along with Men you pretend to get along with
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:54 AM
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Those are all attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:35 AM
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I'm not as blackpilled as most of the posters here. But truth told that is the life of a guy. We don't have as much inherent value (or less cynically, "leverage") as women in the early years of dating. We do need to compromise to even gain the experience to learn to not compromise. Or be single and stunted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:21 AM
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Because the math doesn't work out. I have trouble meeting single people of the opposite sex these days. I have enough experiences like the ones you mentioned (not jealousy, just incompatible values), but it's easy to get stuck in the mentality of "I need to compromise to have a relationship at all".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:03 PM
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You are deliberately misinterpreting my point. Meeting people IRL is more exciting and fun than meeting people on OLD. Not that it's significantly easier. Just more validating in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:21 PM
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Yes if there is a definite amount of time apart. Indefinitely, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:09 PM
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I did the meme, I got laid. A few times in the past few weeks actually, which is pretty insane considering how long my dry spell was beforehand. Got some new perspective in bed lol, but nothing groundbreaking. What's most surprising to me is that most of the guys I know are apps-based. Sex is an ego boost, yes, but sex arising from in-person socialization unironically feels better. I have two friends who didn't even approach the ladies in our social circle. Both literally waited until they match…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:08 PM
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What did he do? Quick google search says something about texts
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:01 PM
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Not inherently a deal breaker, but it's hard to meet well-calibrated people in STEM under the age of 30. The guys are very autistic and hard to be friends with. The women aren't much better, they either: 1) Let themselves go because the ratio is so favorable for them they'll always get attention 2) Have no personality whatsoever, because the ratio is so favorable for them they'll always get attention I like people who work in healthcare. They're more fun and properly socialized. The women are a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:00 PM
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I treat them kindly. Pregnant women are doing a service to society, continuing the propagation of our species. It's our job to at least give up the seat on the bus, though it's been years since I've been on a bus. Also, comedy is edgy and retarded. Most comedians are absolutely trash and aren't funny, just political. Their 'no punching down' rule is dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:48 PM
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Ah, true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:28 AM
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romantically love What's romantically love vs. just love? Unsure why you added that modifier.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:50 AM
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My advice? Move out of NY /u/luna_sunflowers It's a common consensus that NYC is terrible for women given how few single men there are. I've heard this repeated online and irl. She mentioned she's in engineering. If she gets a job in the bay area she'll have her pick of nerdy tech guys. Or the pacific northwest, and she'll meet a bunch of Amazon/Boeing/Microsoft/etc. men. Or Austin or the research triangle in NC for tech. Or the Detroit Metro area for automotive guys. There is no shortage of are…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:21 PM
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Can I introduce her to my parents? Do I see myself on a vacation with her + my brother and his fiancé? Those are the things that matter to me personally. Every guy is different but I'm willing to bet that the determining factor for most guys is long-term compatibility. Seems like women who don't like casual sex and don't want to be pumped and dumped anymore (FDS) unanimously think that solution is postpone sex for some/long time. Like her 'easiness' is the main factor. Something tells me men don…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:30 PM
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Enthusiastic 6 over a starfish 8 is more realistic. 3 is a bit too low. It's a good question and something guys experience a lot. However, I think the use of the number system encompasses her enthusiasm. A bitchy 10 is not a 10 to me. A 6 with a good attitude can become an 8. Of course, there's a limit to it too. A 2 needs to lose weight and take care of her skin before she works on her attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:34 PM
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That's because it is. 'Conservatives' as your thinking about it probably don't even browse the internet. Center-right is where it's at. You get to shit on social programs, international "orgs", dumb left-wing ideas but you don't have to be all cringe religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:42 PM
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Lizzo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 12:01 AM
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Growing up in a traditional household isn't as traumatizing as you currently think it is. It'll end when you turn 18. Sounds like your dad probably has standards for your brothers that he won't hold you too either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 12:00 AM
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It's not actually two x chromosomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 11:59 PM
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Some guys are very poorly socialized and raterded. I think this is more common among guys who spam approaches (Insta DM's, on the street waiting for an Uber, etc.) Their thought process is: 1) I need to play the numbers game to increase my chances. Thrown enough shit at a wall some of it will stick -> 100 approaches with 1% chance will net me a 1.0 2) To play the numbers game I will lower my standards to increase aforementioned chances. 3) Rejection from lowered standards = hurt. This is because…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 11:58 PM
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In a way I kind of feel bad for young women. In the last 2 years I've hardcore put myself out there, and I mostly ran into other young guys. Co-ed sports, writing groups, rock climbing, golfing, pool, beach, trivia, culture groups, cafes, libraries, festivals etc. So so many hobbies and events it's honestly just a blur. It seems like young women are really into social media consumption and reading alone at home. Sometimes into stuff like crocheting/embroidery or plush collecting. Maybe it's a bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:33 PM
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The satisfaction of going to the gym far outweighs the temporary pleasure of stuffing your face with fast food.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:30 PM
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Women, on the other hand, aren't that easy to find unless you know where to look. Where would that be?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 05:32 AM
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Friday night grilling is a vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:40 PM
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Ideally conception should involve consent. A lot of society considers having sex as consent to all the consequences. I find it hard to argue about that. Liberals' definition of reproductive consent is "Okay, I had sex in the past. But I don't want to deal with the repercussions now"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:29 PM
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Court can't do that. Race isn't on the same legal level as legacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:44 PM
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That's the one I've been seeing I guess. I'd like to see the breakdown of what the degrees are in. The total number of degrees is not entirely useless. But mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:37 PM
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For undergrad I imagine? STEM undergrad + MBA is a killer combo
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:34 PM
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The reason why I bring up the education thing is because I constantly see the point that "women have beat men in education!" Really? Because from my perspective women need all the help they can get. They need their own job fairs, their own scholarships, their own Women in Engineering/Finance/Computing/Business/etc. groups on campus. When I hear that women fare better in education than men, it has to be a distorted average. I mean, we live in with an education gap for women but a wage gap for men…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:26 PM
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I can totally see that. I'm not familiar with the history of teaching so I'd like to learn more about how it took such a downturn as a profession. Thank you for the example and not some ignorant regurgitation that pulling wires in the 50's is the same as modern system design.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:24 PM
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Medicine and law are two exceptions. I totally agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:10 PM
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Such a cope. Programming back then isn't what it is now. Back then it was menial. All you had to do was turn knobs and plug/unplug shit. As computer systems improved, extreme specialization and hardcore math became required. You're going to need another example for that assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:09 PM
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When people say women are winning the education race, they just mean more women go to college right? Because all the useless majors I see are full of women, and the useful majors are full of men. Law school might be an exception. But that one deliberately requires making a poor financial decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:04 PM
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I'm surprised this guy is "on the left" after bringing up the trans point. But he's absolutely right. Being a woman must be a lot more fun. I see it as a guy. The amount of attention and free shit they get is insane. No wonder some mentally ill people will literally try to become one. Obviously if I said that irl people would think I'm an inc&l + transphobic. Here we have a literal lefty journo saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:00 PM
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Not real wrestling lol It's 'professional wrestling'. More like a performance. Same thing as WWE but with midgets. It as fun to watch, but I'm not doing it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:05 PM
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I think a lot of those women grow out of it. So they end up being "worth it" later on if: 1) Guys realize that a lot of them go through a 'bad girl' phase in their own way. 2) Leaving that phase - for either gender - doesn't result in being jaded and cynical. I think a lot of people get angry at the thought of getting someone who's a shell of their former selfs. They want their partner to bring energy and enthusiasm to their relationship, even if it's not the first. For guys it's usually sexual,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:00 PM
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I went to midget wrestling and there weren't ANY single women! Every girl there was there with their boyfriend. The gender ratio is so fucked 😠 how am I supposed to meet people?? Good job reddit, the only advice you can give is "meet people in your hobbies", okay well, there you go!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:51 PM
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Good points, but here's the way I see it: The social/dating demographic of any city will typically be young transplants. In NYC this will be more or less the same. At least similar enough to be able to connect. The variance arises when looking at all demographics, particularly older/family. In that case yeah, an African-American barber in Harlem might not have in much in common as a Bangladeshi taxi driver in the Bronx.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:04 AM
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No. But a Bronx transplant hipster has quite a bit in common with a Flatbush transplant hipster.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:31 PM
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Turkey
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:24 PM
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Geomaxing is moving to improve your dating. For me it's not just dating, it's life quality in general. Weather, culture, jobs, etc. play a part in it. But yeah, as a young single guy I do want a better social life and living in Detroit metro area kind of cucks me in that regard. I've lived in Miami, but as a kid though. Is it any different as an adult? I'm fluent in Spanish btw
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:24 PM
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Not in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:23 PM
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First of NYC isn’t NY. Also NYC isn’t Just NYC. Fair. Hell just take Brooklyn’s cultures. Williamsburg isn’t, Dumbo, which isn’t Hells Kitchen, which isn’t Flatbush, etc, Nah, too specific. I think there's a diferrence between Manhattan and outer boroughs. but not really a (noticeable) difference between say Bronx and Flatbush. At that point you're too hipster
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:23 PM
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I'm just lazy. Fix that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:21 PM
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I'd say the 'relevant' cultural regions of the US are: Boston, NY, New England, Midwest, Chicago, Mid-Atlantic, DC, South, Atlanta, Miami, SoCal, NorCal, PNW, Texas (city), and Southwest. Obviously you have to make a point to distinguish regions from cities. Cincinnati is culturally Midwest, Chicago is its own culture. I know I'm missing a few like Appalachia and great plains but those are not even relevant. Among those, what would be the best city for a single guy to geomax? I know it's depende…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:56 PM
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You have good hair and a solid build. But please trim that beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:50 PM
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You can join a sports league. It won't be super social. Mostly everyone will show up, play, then leave. It'll be a sausage fest guaranteed. It's obviously not a great way to make friends like people think it is. But it's there and it's not hostile. In fact, they're usually looking for men who can make the time commitment to play the entire season. It's nice to have that camaraderie.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:47 PM
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People with easy majors study abroad more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:45 PM
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But working in DC is a dime in a million Yeah, keep telling yourself that. Couldn't hack it in the private sector, go to DC.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:23 PM
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I almost died of cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:14 PM
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I idolize literally all of them. I literally finished Sotomayor's My Beloved World last month. Your friend is likely a dummy. I've worked in DC, and I don't worship "Ivy-league attorneys" They're a dime a dozen. Lib or con
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:14 PM
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"Religion first" is a cope when you disagree with the outcome. For anyone reading, ACB, Scalia, etc. jurisprudence comes from strict interpretations of the law. They think text matters more. In short, it's more "narrow" than what we call "purposivism", practiced by Ginsburg, Breyer, etc. They have a more generous reading of the law and think intent matters more. Religion, or lack thereof on the other side, plays no role in their rulings. Maybe as a personality trait there is some overlap, but de…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:56 PM
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Why should people know your name unless you provide something of value to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:27 PM
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This is a very ignorant take but it's not uncommon. "Religion first" Lmao, go read their rulings. I sincerely doubt you have ever read a scotus opinion from start to finish. What did you major in in college?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:25 PM
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Start creating. You're part of the upper middle class somehow. I'm assuming like most redditors it's a STEM career. Create something with that and put it on your website, that you've create. Or write a book, or a blog. Anything. It'll breathe meeaning into your life. Also, you're autistic so you already have an advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:04 PM
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I do idolize some women, but 'coincidentally' they're women that other women hate. I really like Amy Coney Barrett. I think she's extremely intelligent, I align with a lot of her legal views, and I think she was able to successfully balance a family life with an amazing legal career. Easily one of the top minds in our country. My first Hinge date ever was with some pro-life girl who graduated from Notre Dame. She hated ACB.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:55 PM
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Where are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:41 AM
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Yes. Not only am I in the US, but I'm in an obese are. We are responsible for giving the world Lizzo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:21 PM
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Exactly what I'm talking about. I can tell you're a Twitter lib because that muh training weeks 'argument' (it's closer to an AI-generated talking point) is ignorant and inaccurate. First of all, police training varies from state to state. Not sure how anyone can assert a certain timeline when it's different everywhere. Secondly, yeah. I've talked to Argentinean police officers and they're barely literate. I just handed him a $20 to get out of a ticket. Here in Michigan I got pulled over because…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:11 PM
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I'm genuinely attracted to women who can speak a second language. Preferably not Spanish bc that one is kind of easy. But better than nothing! But I feel like that's too high of a standard. I'm having trouble finding single women who are simply not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:02 PM
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As someone who has lived in South America, I think police in the US are among the most well educated/trained in the world. The thing is the liberals and progressives who criticize the police are pretty ignorant. They're just smart enough to use big words like "systemic", but they lack any perspective that's not on Twitter. I do think there are bad cops for sure, like those in the Tyre Nichols murder. Those guys deserve to be locked up. Having said that, fuck genuine criminals too. They don't get…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:00 PM
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They are visual terrorists who cause harm to my mental health. Stop denying my lived experience. Downvoted and reported.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:01 PM
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Fat people are unsightly. Same energy as those people who are concerned with the 'bigoted reactions to terrorism' instead of the terrorism itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:57 PM
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I understand why fatpeoplehate was a subreddit at one point. It's because like minded people can actually congregate somewhere in a society that ostracizes them. I don't understand why we as a society harp on things like height, skin color, age, sex, etc. Yet, weight is taboo. It's something you only really talk about on internet forums and whatnot. I am unironically fatphobic. I keep it to myself because it's 'rude' to point it out. I only bring it up with other gym-going friends who think like…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:52 PM
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There was a 'gamer' girl in my friend group. To her credit, she was physically attractive, at least for an American woman. But she had one of the worst personalities I've ever encountered. Literal Twitch narcissist. Plus, she genuinely sucked at the games she played. I think socially inept guys construe what gamer girls actually are. They just have one interest and want a woman to share it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:46 PM
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I love America and American institution but I thoroughly agree with this. I go outside and I see disgusting people on the daily. Someone who is thin, educated and can speak more than one language is a rarity here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:53 PM
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Yup. Few reasons: 1) Biologically, our genes literally birth more men than women to account for the high mortality rates of males. Tribes that produced more Y chromosomes lasted longer. 2) Immigration is mostly male. This is true for blue-collar low-skilled work like Hispanics coming to work the fields, all the way to Indians coming here for software engineering. Ratio is a very underrated aspect of the discussion. That's just the general ratio. For dating don't forget that: Younger women date o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:09 PM
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If they did, they’d see that most men and most women are quite beautiful. I love this attitude. I'm a people person as well and like people who are nice and take care of themselves. Physically and mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:25 PM
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Midget wrestling enjoyers are really overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:14 PM
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I don't think any guy is someone all the girls want. I always thought Sergio Ramos was particularly attractive. At least before he got a comical amount of tattoos.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:13 PM
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I think the "ugly guys" thing is overstated by women. They tend to be pretty friendly when judging each other and harsh when judging men. Here's a typical attitude about it. I'm willing to bet the women were nothing spectacular themselves. In truth, most men and women are average. Agree with you on that. However, if you want to find ugly men, go to midget wrestling. Most people there are ugly and stupid, and it's a sausage fest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:10 PM
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In college, a lot of the women I knew would bring their girlfriends to parties/hangouts. After college, it seems like women just bring themselves. Like they have no gal pals, ever. Anyone else relate to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:04 AM
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I have countless male friends and some I'm really close to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:56 AM
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It's a democratic issue. Wht did people vote for? that should be the law.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:07 PM
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I don't have much sympathy for that though. You should go to college.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:53 PM
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I don't think most people let alone most women argue you need to remain friends. Can you link that post? I bet it was a 19 year old. It just stings for women because (I presume) for them it feels like, "Shit, I'm actually not the great conversationalist/companion/tennis buddy/friend I thought I was. Men like me for the potential of sex and relationships" Women having male friends is extremely validating and I've seen memes about it on Instagram accounts lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:53 PM
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I think college is more nuanced than that though. I went to a tech school with a 'bad' ratio but got laid there way more than I do now despite having my own place/car/income/etc. and looking much better lmao Here's the thing: 1) You have to account for all the foreign students. This demographic alone can be like 90% men. All the Chinese and Indian students coming here to study CS have their own social spheres. So you can knock off like 2-4% on the men's side 2) There are bubbles within college w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:50 PM
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Funny thing is my uncle said the exact same thing of his city (not in the US). Dude is a complete player. He has an immaculate personality and is decent looking for his age. But I think him being educated in a target rich environment is a huge factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:36 PM
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In the last few months a lot of people irl have brought up 'the ratio' unprompted (though, we were talking about dating). One of them even mentioned NYC specifically as having surplus of young single women, and this is a pretty liberal/feminist friend of mine lol. Previously this is just knowledge that gets contained to dating forums. I think a lot of 'normies' are tuning into this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:27 PM
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Good point, but you're also missing the fact that the US is extremely diverse. All the example you listed, Scandinavia, Eastern Europe, etc. are very homogenous. The US is literally all the cultures and people at once. This leads to a lot of pain and confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:19 PM
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Yes, some people do. But you bring up a fantastic point. Reddit loves to pretend you can just talk things out all the time. Not even close to the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:15 PM
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but I think a significant portion of both men and women here are just in pain and venting rather than any real desire to find common ground I'm totally willing to find common ground with anyone, but some of the takes heres are wild. As in they are literally the opposite of what I genuinely experience irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:11 PM
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Locked, lmao. Also: The women, overwhelmingly, are vibrant, well-dressed and put together, dynamic, mostly seem to have easy conversation I'm curious to know what the average BMI is at these events. Some women are extremely generous judging other women. They unironically think Lizzo is attractive and 'vibrant' because she sings and wears colorful dresses. But really, she's absolutely disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 05:45 PM
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Ok thanks, that makes a lot of sense. Yeah, women my age don't ask those questions at all lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:30 PM
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They're not conventionally attractive at all. Actually, both are kinda short. They are kinda exceptions though, for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:29 PM
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This is still not specific enough. Amazing how I can't get an answer besides "you have more money". Does money come up like an interview question during the date? Are you meeting women at HOA meetings?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:23 PM
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Yeah, SF seems like it would be a hellhole in particular. Not just the tech stuff but the social scene paired with the politics. I've read both online and heard in person that NYC is amazing for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:18 PM
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I do know that in the workplace, which is why I specifically mentioned it. I'm asking how it translates to dating, specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:12 PM
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Not specific enough, that's very obvious. How have your interactions with others changed? Do people just respect older guys more?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:06 PM
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What do you guys mean specifically when you say it gets easier for men as they get older? I've heard this in real life too actually. Once from my uncle who has been with 250+ women, and again from my 30-year old friend who's at around 50. Both source most of their hookups from dating apps. Do women just respond to you more as you get older? Are they less flaky? I can't imagine 30+ year-olds have lifestyles that allows them to meet single people constantly in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:02 PM
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Yeah, being in a technical field in a technical city will kneecap your dating life. I think that's reflected in the dating apps. After all, those looking to put themselves out there and date tend to be young transplants with enough disposable income to do so. In SF this demographic is tech dudes. How is your in-person social life? Like someone else said, this could be an algorithm boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 03:56 PM
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There is, just not for pledges. Safety thing. They don't know how to handle it yet. We still gave them beer though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:53 PM
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Like 11 or 12ish? One of them I met through work. I am definitely not attracted to her but she's overall chill. She started dating one of my friends when they met at a party of mine. Nothing came out of that. Never met anyone through her. Another one is a little older and I've known her for a while through work as well. She's dating another friend of mine who's 30+. She has a bunch of (kinda lame imo) hobbies and is constantly doing stuff. I've joined occasionally, but all her friends are guys. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:47 PM
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Respectable. I also heard Canadian Universities have a different Greek life vibe, so not sure what to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:33 PM
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What's the point of discussing anything ever? I like to get other people's opinions. Having said that, you're right that we need to be wayyy more specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:17 PM
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Didn't realize you spoke for more than yourself. Post your SAT score and current bench press.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:16 PM
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No doubt. My point is just how much of a disconnect there is from online advice with my real lived experience. I need to know the lifestyles and daily routines of people giving me this dogshit advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:09 PM
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By whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:08 PM
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Nope. Loser GDI's who couldn't hack the pledge will tell each other that. No gay shit and no hard alcohol are typically the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 05:59 PM
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Got invited to a party tomorrow. I will go because my friends are there and I like hanging out with them. But I would be willing to bet upwards of $5,000 that there will be zero single women who show up. I just can't make that bet irl without sounding like a deranged incel. I know this because I used to throw parties all the time and saw how hard it is to have a balanced ratio after college. Inviting women is like pulling teeth, and you have to under invite guys. The guy hosting it made it an op…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 05:56 PM
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Availability does.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 05:48 PM
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Oh, I see. I'm too young for that. Taylor Swift did come for a concert up here recently. I'm going to see Thundercat in a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:36 PM
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Lol, I got that as well. Someone on this sub is spamming it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:31 PM
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Cure for what? Michigan is easily one of the worst states in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:30 PM
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Bad take. Political opinions don't have to be reflected in dating preferences.
/r/AllPillDebate14/06/23 11:56 PM
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Based solipsism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 09:20 PM
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I don't live in VA anymore. Speedway was better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:46 PM
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I agree. It feels like in America having any sort of opinion on body weight is seen as a negative. Which is funny given how height-obsessed this country is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:46 PM
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I stop by there to get gas and use the restroom. But everything else sucks. The coffee, the water, etc. Too much carbonate corn syrup, high trans fat foods, etc. The people who unironically eat anything from that disgusting hot dog rollers tend to be morbidly obese with deformed characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:45 PM
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I hate 7/11 so much. The people in it are particularly disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:24 PM
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I think you're right. It's not even that much about height or looks (thought they help). I think it's about being culturally aligned ('whitewashed' but without the pejorative connotation). An Indian guy who grew up in the suburbs of New York is not at all comparable to someone who came here from India on a visa and is studying CS with a thick accent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:22 PM
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It's amazing how I read this online but my live experienced is literally the opposite. I was hanging out with my friends this Friday and some of my girl friends were telling me how I shouldn't express this interest because it could scare off women for being "fatphobic" even if they're fit themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:18 PM
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Autistic is one thing. Down Syndrome.... idk
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:15 PM
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When I think of quality of life, I think of being able to walk around alone at 3am. Apparently that's a huge privilege and one of the major advantages of being a male!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:11 PM
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Every college town and every city has the same distribution of attractive and unattractive people, same distribution of fit and fat people. What a bad take. Do you unironically think UCLA is going to have the same distribution of attractive:unattractive people as Marshall University? Actually, no need to pick extremes. VT and Radford are already good examples of radically different student bodies. Geography, style, degree offering, weather, price, etc. are all huge factors that will influence th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 12:08 PM
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Just googled Valerie Solanas. Almost died of cringe. What is your age in numbers?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:54 AM
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Which town? I guessed Radford because there's a lot of chubby women their since there's a military base nearby. They also "play the Hokies in basketball" but they're not in the ACC, which is why I assume you worded it that way. I'm actually kind of curious lol. Harrisonburg? Not sure JMU plays us in basketball though...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:50 AM
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Radford?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:33 AM
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Have you tried it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:33 AM
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It's sensory overload. How is it awkward?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:03 AM
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I was reading the thread earlier about whether men are attracted to overweight girls and most said stuff along the lines of they aren't gf material and they wouldn't be seen in public with them. Seeing as there is so many overweight women out there its a bit out of touch to say you are repulsed by overweight girls yet you claim to have "low standards". Thus is the modern dating scene. Fr though, there's a lot of talk about how women don't need a man to support them these days and therefore the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 10:21 AM
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Jackpot to larpers online. No way she'd even go for some chronically online obese 4chinner either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:38 AM
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No, I'm 24 Sort of? I knew she was religious and sex was off-limits. Didn't think it would be that big of a deal until she started feeling like a friend I'd go out and make out with
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:27 PM
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6 months. What does "not overweight" mean for you? I'm sure there's a cutoff somewhere. It's hard to describe it since everyone is a little different and carries weight differently. I'll say this though, whatever 'overweight' is to me, it is a much less generous cutoff then whatever midwesterners think it is. It's not a gender thing either. A former friend of mine would unironically look at me and say "Dude, I could lose a few pounds, but I don't think I'm fat". He's 250 lbs, even at 6'3" and ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:16 PM
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I am single once more. Just broke up with my now ex girlfriend, and it was really amicable. Though I don't think we'll realistically remain friends since we have no overlap and met online. Lol, this is not going to be fun as a 24 year old male in the suburban Midwest (not Chicago btw) working in engineering. I am probably going to have to change both these things within the next year if I want a shot at a good social/dating life. I learned quite a bit though, and at least I have long-term post-c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:01 PM
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Can't even imagine. I used to take 5mg when I broke my arm, dwindled down to 3mg, then nothing. Now I split the 3mg into half once in a blue moon and this happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 03:50 PM
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I take 1.5mg of melatonin and I wake up like 1.5 hours later than I normally do. Insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 03:22 PM
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Not sure. For context, I'm 24. So I'm still in that post-graduate era where all of my friends from college have graduated and now we're in the 'real world'. We all sort of moved away for jobs and I think everyone is feeling lonely. Judging from social media some of my friends have absolutely let themselves go, while others are just getting better by the day. One who reached out to me I think was sending out a feeler. I'm one of the few guys who is on 'her level' so to speak. I don't mind, she's …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 03:21 PM
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No one I know have had partners who died. Well, except one girl from high school who's ex died in a freak ski accident. Some women have hit me up already lol. I don't take offense to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 03:12 PM
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I remember one first date I went on with a catholic vegetarian. She wanted someone who was traditionally catholic, but also a liberal. She was very personally conservative and one of her Hinge pics was her at March for Life. She had an anti-Republican prompt as one of her text things. I asked her about her opinion on Justice Barrett (they graduated from the same school) and she hated her. Not sure what hyper-niche demographic of men would appeal to her. Personally religiously conservative but al…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 03:00 PM
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From whom? I respect stay at home parents, my mom became one despite multiple degrees and even more languages. But not sure who should've paid her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:47 PM
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It helps, but it's not the determining factor. I guess it's easy to argue your own case, but I went from having success to struggling. I had solid mixed-gender friend groups in high school and that put me at a significant advantage in college. Had a solid mixed-gender friend group in college, but then I moved to a suburban area where the top employers are engineering companies. I imagine someone who didn't have much success in high school and college but got into the right groups upon graduation…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:24 PM
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There's a really good 4chan post about how someone did this on a college campus, hundreds of approaches per year, dozens a week. He started to get a reputation because he was too autistic to realize the entropy from a social system that is practically closed. Everyone knew him as the weird guy who would approach girls at a bus stop or something. I never found that post again though. Shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:46 PM
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A lot of possible different reasons. Could be irritation, an immune, disease, allergic reaction, etc. He needs to go to a dermatologist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:34 PM
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Correct, bomb Russia. Caring about people is a all well and good, but it's like putting a band-aid on a wound when chemotherapy is the cure.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:33 PM
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In what?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:30 AM
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Mean while, software engineers tend to be concentrated in "tech hubs". This causes these areas to have many people all earning high salaries, with high costs of living, etc. So despite earning a lot and being highly educated, a developer does not really stand out from the crowd. I felt that. I'd also add that software engineers are disproportionately online, so that's where a lot of the complaining is coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 07:52 PM
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When I was younger and more naïve, I would tolerate flakiness the more attractive she was.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:12 AM
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XX chromosomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:10 AM
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Ngl, I didn't realize there was a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 05:09 AM
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I'm from europe, I walk and bike a lot as a commute so maybe it'd be different for people from usa? This makes a big difference. The average person in Europe gets some exercise from walking. Also, there's less junk food in Europe. Commutes in the US are largely car-based. Even going to the store requires you to drive to the nearest strip mall. Paired with junk food at drive-thru's, you can get into the habit of consuming high-fructose corn syrup while literally sitting down. This builds up over …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:22 PM
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Damn, good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:50 PM
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We haven't really talked about it in depth lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 12:57 PM
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You're probably right. I think I'll express my thoughts/desires to her first then see what's up. Then make a decision from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 12:57 PM
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Correct. I don't know how to explain it but she's really conservative. Doesn't feel right to be like "soooo, where's the sex?" Especially given we haven't had it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 12:45 PM
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"Seeking" something better would mean having to get on the apps since I meet no single women in my day to day. That would feel like cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 05:23 AM
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I wouldn't say 'wasting' it. Seems utilitarian. She enjoys it, gets to build experience being with an older guy, and I pay for most things because she's a student. I get experience, respect, and enjoyment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 05:22 AM
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Weird how you chose the one soccer star who dated trans women lmao. Also, Messi is the goat and has been in a committed relationship with some girl he met as a kid or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:37 AM
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What about student loan debt? Given they finished their degree of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:34 AM
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Requesting advice. I'm in a relationship I think is likely incompatible in the long term. I want to stay because I fear being lonely and absolutely dread going back to the apps. Not just the apps but I have had minimal luck trying to find dates in the absolute sausage fest that is my industry/friend group/region of the country. I don't want to be the cause of someone else's pain. And it's not like I don't enjoy being around her. I like her company but it's not as mind-blowing as I though it'd be…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:30 AM
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What a bad take. Any grifter of any ideology can be accused of preying on lost people. Same could be said for the transgender movement. The accusation is indirect. The practice in the article is direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:16 AM
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Quite a bit. Seems like half the time I click on a user's profile here on reddit they're trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:21 PM
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I'm happy for women. Valued for who they are and what they accomplish. Men, for what they accomplish.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:23 PM
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Women trust women more than men trust men. I literally stated that. But 'blindly' is an exaggeration. I don't agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:13 PM
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This is mostly true. Though, there is 100% a mainstream movement to elevate women for career stuff. 'First woman CEO of xyz!' is a celebrated achievement.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:08 PM
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But you're ascending to full time student within a definitive period of time. Guess I was a NEET between high school and college. And summer vacations as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:04 PM
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So you're not really a NEET. You just haven't started school yet. I've always interpreted NEET to be indefinite.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:01 PM
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Both. As you've correctly pointed out, RP does overestimate the number of people who have a strong pre-selection bias. Plenty of people make decisions based on the traits themselves. The issue with your example is that you selected a celebrity. An actor at that lol. His attractive traits are very apparent. Pre-selection is more significant when talking about normal people. If everyone is roughly the same level in terms of attractiveness, education, income, etc. then being known for having a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:00 PM
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To be fair, it depends on the setting. In a purely social setting, yeah, having women around is more valuable than a master's. But professionally and what not then the value comes more from the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 11:37 PM
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I'm usually the one to plan stuff. Have my own place right next to downtown, so pregame quite a bit. Know how to grill pretty well, so me and my buddies have done a few bbq's on the beach. Wine is my absolute forte though, I love wine and am pretty knowledgeable about it. My favorite nights are potluck nights. And it's not just the material stuff. I think I'm a pretty good time. Tend to be outgoing, funny, etc. Not as much as others, I'm not the most charismatic guy in the world, but I'd say abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 08:24 PM
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I never said they were boring because they're women. That's sexist, boring people are boring people. The point I'm making is that boring unimpressive women have value to me for the social proof. Boring men don't even make it into my social circle anymore. What do they provide?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:53 PM
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Ever since I found Fresh and Fit and subsequently went down this interesting and somewhat entertaining rabbit hole, some songs and shows that I watched/listened to before, have altered meanings now. The glass has shattered Can you give an example? I'm pretty sure I know what you mean but I love hearing other people's experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:07 PM
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Yes, obesity increases the risk of some health conditions. Being underweight does as well. “Being underweight was associated with excess mortality as compared to all others”. False equivalency. Obesity accounts for more deaths than all other ED's combined. It's like looking at car accident deaths vs deaths while walking. Also, I 100% do care about the collective health of people, since we're trending towards a more leftist society where everything is subsidized. If I have to pay for other people…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:48 PM
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Yeah, I love this country but the obesity culture really bothers me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:42 PM
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When I think about it, I don't really admire any of my (current) lady friends. I respect them out of decency, but not out of admiration like I do some of my guy friends. If they were guys, I wouldn't be friends with them because I think they're boring to be around and unmotivated. I can't think of a single deep or interesting conversation I had with any of them in the past year. Maybe one. I can honestly say that I like having them as friends because of the social proof that knowing women gets y…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:40 PM
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Yeah, a higher N count is typically better. You can account for more variation and you have to do less data cleaning at times. But it's also dangerous because a very high degree polynomial can lead to overfitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:38 PM
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What OP meant is youth. You can tell because they brought up height. Height and age the closest thing in terms of what men/women fetishize. Just like how guys are salty about height women are salty about age. "Omg, you're literally dating a child" is a common insult from 24-27 year old women when guys their age date someone 18 <= age <= 22/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:36 PM
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So many people are lost and they find dumb ways to fill the void.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:34 PM
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My boyfriend just turned down a spot on a semi-pro soccer team. The league they’re in is really a feeder league to professional teams. He’s pretty upset and he’s trying to act like he’s okay. I’m pregnant and I know that’s why he turned them down but he’s acting like it has nothing to do with his decision. This sounds like the plot of a European or South American movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:17 AM
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I think these dynamics exist everywhere. But the US, and to a certain extent the UK, experience it more because of cultural factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:11 AM
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What do you find inconsistent about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:11 AM
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I pick it up most of the time. She almost always offers though, so that's key.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:09 AM
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This lacks nuance. You can feel empathy and envy at the same time. I don't envy women when it comes to walking around at night. Or having to take a car to a mechanic. I do envy women when they get pulled over by a cop, or try to put themselves out there. How are the two mutually exclusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:08 AM
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It was in high school and it was like my second or third date ever. Met a girl at model UN and we hit it off really well like 2-3 weeks before winter break. Coincidentally, we were both going to be in the UK (I lived in a South American country at the time) for that break. Had our first date in London just walking around and doing touristy shit. London eye, St. James Park, etc. We were like 16-17 at the time. She became my first long-term gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:05 AM
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Men try very hard for a while, but if they are not successful getting women, they get disenchanted and go into videogames, self-improvement, workaholics, studies, etc. Most men don't have an entry point to meet single and available women, and places where they can see them (such as supermarket or work) discourage such interactions heavily. My situation exactly. OP knows what he's talking about. I would disagree that men with women are "selfish". That's part of it, but I think there's a huge imba…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:59 AM
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There are totally acceptable time and places to approach women. They just don't happen to include a lot of eligible dating-aged women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 05:55 PM
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What part of the Midwest did you live in? Curious because reserved with a dry sense of humor describes most of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 05:53 PM
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Sometimes I get jealous if they are more successful than me or something because for some reason I compare myself a lot to other women when it comes to that sort of thing That makes sense. The thing is, OP is asking a good question but from a male perspective. Men tend to get jealous if they think their partner had a more fulfilling/exciting/romantic sex life with an ex. I think women get jealous too, but not as much as it relates to sex acts. More like "Wow, your ex was a singer?" type of thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:13 AM
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This is the rational response and I would like to say the same about myself. But are you really immune to jealousy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:45 AM
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I agree, but it's not a "false demand for women" There is certainly more demand for women than men. Even among women lol. You have to accept that in some dating arenas, if you're an educated fit man, your match isn't an educated fit woman. Either settle, choose to stay alone, upgrade your stats, or find another dating market. No one is forcing you to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:41 AM
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This "I was lied to!" idea from TRP is a way to shift blame onto others. Or at the very least it's exaggerated. I was actually told to watch out for abusive/lying women by my Mom of all people. She got mad (in private) after I told her some stuff about my first girlfriend. She felt I had been mistreated. My dad was more chill. But honestly, I received a general hands off approach from my parents when it came to women. And as the oldest of three brothers I particularly had to figure it out all by…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:30 PM
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That's awesome man. What events did it lead to?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:48 AM
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Oh, I'm definitely moving soon(ish). The place I currently live in is not for me. I'm not into cars enough to justify living here. Everyone is so shut in. Also, I don't have a problem meeting people in general. I have more friends than I can keep up with. I'm active in my community. My issue is meeting single women my age. I meet one like maybe once a month. Standup comedy is kinda cringe. I haven't taken classes but I went to a few shows. Again, mostly older people and the younger ones are alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 11:17 PM
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"Meet people in real life" I'd like to know exactly, in extreme detail, step-by-step how to meet and escalate with people in real life after graduating from college. Because everywhere I go it's usually either a sausage fest, everyone is older/married, or in their pre-selected group of friends. Usually a combination of the three. I met my current girlfriend on a dating app because it's bleak every time I step outside. Granted, I live in a shitty midwestern region.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:54 PM
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Real life has cons --- you need to be part of a social circle where (a) it's acceptable to fraternize with women in a romantically intentioned way (dwindling amount of those spaces) (b) new women are added with regularity and (c) you have high (enough) social status in; then, you also need to (a) realize that because your reputation is at stake with every new interaction, you must proceed with caution, which means that (b) the courtship will move at a much slower pace than you might like. This i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:47 PM
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Are you a man or a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:23 PM
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Yes, I want a woman to have a career. But I still expect to be the primary breadwinner. I wouldn't care if she made more money though. In other words, I want her to have a career, but I don't expect her to put in as much work as me. Pursuing masters, leave of absence, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 05:30 PM
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I think alternative aesthetics do matter a lot less. Being a skater is cool and rebellious at 16, but long term it's cringe. You're right that the change starts becoming noticeable at around 25. I think this is why RP is concerned with AF/BB. Having said that, I don't think a mindless capitalist robot is any attractive either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 02:14 PM
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I'm 24. I think 18-30 is attractive. But it honestly depends. Just purely physically speaking (feels a little weird typing that out lol) I've seen overweight 22 year old people with crow's feet and 26 year old's who look 21. I think a lot more of beauty than you think is under your control. Weight is a big one because of how much it ages you. All things being equal in terms of weight, skin care, etc. I honestly probably couldn't tell you who is more attractive between 18-30. Having said all that…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 02:00 PM
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Sure, but it also helps to acknowledge the issues women face. Empathy goes both ways. Also, 'ruptured relationship between genders' is extreme. This isn't some breaking political border conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:50 PM
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The video poorly reflects on him, especially if the dog medicine part is true. You're right that it's one instance, and Hilary's family chose to release the worst snippet. There's probably a lot more to the story, as is the case in every single marriage. I will say though, only having one car when they really could've afforded two is telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:30 AM
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That's true. I need to be less harsh. I think a lot of working people only have the means to travel domestically or maybe to Canada/Mexico. Would line up with them being overweight as well since it has a strong correlation to class. Actually, I do like Disney world, I used to live in Miami so we visited at least once per year. I just think it's supposed to be a family event. I don't understand making it your personality, especially for DINK couples. But you're right, just swipe left and move on …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:12 PM
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I agree, but different thing. Individualist for trendy stuff. But younger people tend to still feel like kids and tend to value other people's opinions more because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 10:19 PM
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They can win in court, but culturally Disney is taking a big fat L. I used to live in Miami and I love the parks, don't get me wrong. I'm not boycotting their movies either. But culturally, yeah their whole LGBT thing is cringe as fuck. I loved DeSantis for picking a fight with them over that, even if ultimately some Federal Court 'technically' rules for Disney.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:51 PM
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Are those numbers really tanking though? I'm center-right and DeSantis is among top two choices. He seems to me to have all the good from Trump without the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:48 PM
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No, the professor part is fine. It's just really rare to find someone with a PhD who is a well-calibrated person. Studying for like a decade without ever going into industry usually makes people more immature. I have some friends who graduated before me but never left our college town because they went straight for PhD's. Those guys have total peter pan syndrome and bad finances. Never bought a car, don't know what an IRA is, etc. Nearly every single humanities PhD I've met is a political activi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:47 PM
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What a horrible take. The reason you think Disney is winning is because their main audience, obese millennials, rule the internet. Speaking of Disney, one thing I hated about OLD were the overweight women with a picture at Disney. The equivalent of scruffy fish guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:35 PM
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Yeah, bachelor's minimum, master's preferred, and a PhD is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:34 PM
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I'm an early/mid 20's guy. Yeah, preselection/socialproof (they're the same thing) is very important. If a man is standoffish or even rude to a woman, how likely is she still going to be attracted to him just because he has been preselected by another woman? Impossible to answer this theoretical question. Men being standoffish or rude have a hard time building social circles / dating and thus aren't preselected by definition. If the man has been preselected by a “low-quality” woman, such as one …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:30 PM
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Depends. Hard to make broad assertions like this. I think in younger cohorts any remotely attractive woman will have guys disguised as friends who are obviously interested in her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:44 PM
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Bullshit take. Reading Marx into everything is cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:01 AM
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This is pretty accurate lol. Cynical, but true. I feel for everyone, because everyone is an object to be consumed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:00 AM
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How old are you, and what environment are you in?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 12:05 AM
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It's obviously not that bad irl. It's fun/interesting discussing these underlying dynamics and I haven't found any other sub that is dedicated to this niche topic. That's why I'm still here. But as usual redditors tend to stay stuck in the same 4-5 topics and become really vitriolic about it, that's the biggest downside. If you're 23 and getting triggered just reading about it, I highly suggest you go out there and try to amass some real life experience. It'll make you more resilient overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 01:28 PM
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Penis size. I get being insecure about height, race, income, etc. All those are pretty relevant but your donger doesn't really come up in real life discussions very often, nor in the flirtation process.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 11:37 PM
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Men are far more accepting in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:29 AM
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Meetups etc are a good way of making friends and forming communities. But in very specific scenarios. In my experience, any 'public' venue that has a social aspect to it will be overwhelmingly male.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:21 AM
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This is a quality post. You're wasting it on reddit lol. I'll just say though, for a lot of people the approach begins with figuring out what you're not versus what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:44 PM
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This is a very good point that is very true. But what you're missing is that men are like this because it's the way we're socialized to approach dating. We constantly have to play the numbers game and make bids because otherwise we see no success. If you have no options you start to want anything. Nerdy girl, church girl, party girl, whatever. Dating app, club, friend group, whatever. We have to think in broad general terms because our approach has to be broad and general. I'll argue that while …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:36 PM
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All things being equal I 100% would prefer a woman with a career or at the very least solid career prospects. Wanting some sort of housewife strikes me as internet LARP or something deeply religious / old fashioned. Having said that, I have no idea where to even find women with good careers. My own workplace is so overwhelmingly male. The handful of women who are not old/married must have unlimited options. Not to mention; don't shit where you eat. Then in the apps most of the women work as serv…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:20 PM
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Probably the former. Someone who has always been lonely and frustrated likely has issues (though honestly, this is really common post-covid). But the real question you're asking is about n-count. How does it align with the sentiment of it in RP philosophy. My take as a 24 year old guy is that I don't obsess about the specific number that much like some of these redpills guy do. But I agree with the underlying value. A woman who has been in multiple relationships, has kids, probably a house at so…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:13 PM
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There are definitely scenarios where everyone can be the winner. True. But when it comes to attraction it's measured relative to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:47 PM
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what would his social life need to look like for him to not even need dating apps to date ? A big enough group of extroverted people who are committed to socializing. But the key is that the group needs to have a good gender balance. I have a great social life and can go out three times a weekend if I wanted to. But all my friends are guys, so dating through that is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:21 PM
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Doctors are a rare breed. They tend to be really intense in their 20's-30's because of their absolute bonkers. Drug abuse, manic episodes, chronic sleep deprivation etc. is pretty common. I have a friend finishing up his residency, and he's a self-admitted sexual deviant. I don't see him settling with a woman who's prudish, even if he has the opportunity to do so. Also, even if you're not 'fucked up' as a doctor, it could be just preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 02:28 PM
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Broad generalizations but I do agree. Guys would do a lot better with more education instead of spending another 10 hours per week at the gym. Women would do better if they lost a little weight instead of "I'm bubbly and doing my masters!". Obviously I still think men should hit the gym and women pursue educations. Talking strictly dating-wise here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 02:09 PM
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Ok well, that's two big factors that most people on this board can't relate to. STEM is majority men, so when you do go into it for college (or I guess 'University' since you're European) you will meet plenty of guys. There are more women in the arts and humanities so men have an easier time in those cases. Dating is different in every culture. But one consistent factor is that college is a great environment for socializing since you're meeting a bunch of people naturally. I didn't even get into…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:57 PM
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I've seen some women line up multiple dates in a row. But I'm willing to bet there's some exaggeration in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:30 AM
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You're in STEM and finding it difficult to meet guys? What? Online doesn't count, especially at 19. And it's not about who has it 'easier'. Do you even talk to anyone in your classes / study groups / dorm hall etc.? I'm curious as to what your social life looks like because it has to be abysmal if you're genuinely not overweight in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:20 AM
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Why do you think YOUR single? You're* I'm not single anymore because I got lucky with the algorithm. But by far the biggest factor was opportunity. I know it's because I'm graduated and working in a specific industry now. Work, gym, events, etc. are all easily 80% guys. Most friend groups are mostly guys, even the ones I met through lady friends. "Go outside and touch grass" Dude, I go outside and all I see are stroads and cars. I can count the number of single women my age I've come across 'org…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:53 PM
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I don't envy how women have to be concerned for their safety, health and well-being way more than men, but I do envy the abundance of opportunity and being in-demand. I'm sorry you went through that. A friend of mine was roofied once and I wanted to take her to the woman's center but she refused. Must've been an awful experience. "I take pride in being very good at filtering out people" Congrats though, hope everything works out. After a few years of searching I think I finally got something but…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:03 PM
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Follow up thought but I also think a lot of women avoid places that are known for being places to "meet women" because he know there'll be men there eyeing us or hitting on us. It's why I avoid bars and clubs. That's part of the point I'm making, yes. I understand why bars and clubs are sausage fests. But even for private day-time events women are flakey and un-invested relative to men. And yes, it goes back to women not seeking anyone out. If you're not looking for anything you end up staying i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:56 PM
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Yeah, she's also tall, attractive, white, college educated, family-oriented/unwoke, and fit to be fair. So it's doesn't align with the RP theory of how unattractive women can bag any guy either. She has plenty of qualities guys seek. She has a self-admitted bitch shield which <my friend> euphemized as a "tendency toward abruptness" and they've embarrassingly argued like an old couple a few times already. But she's a very sweet person once you get to know her and has treated me very well as a fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:50 PM
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I envy your dating experience. Not bitter about it, I hope you enjoy it and I won't lose any sleep over it. But damn, 1 year actively looking is long enough you felt like sharing that. Oh well, you can't have everything in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:40 PM
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Not arguing anything, just providing my experience. I'm in the American suburbs. If you're backpacking across Europe and running into hip open-minded people then I don't doubt for a second you can't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:35 PM
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So what is it like for the women who are okay with navigating the dick pics / weird messages? Because this really goes against what I see irl. Another friend's gf (now fiancé) one time started bragging about how " <my friend> was picked from a batch of 11". I thought that was disrespectful and I'm sure she's exaggerating a little. But the message was "I picked him, the best, from a group of suitors, tournament bracket style 😎", and she's proud of that. That friend is 6'5" and a homeowner. I've h…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:57 PM
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Progressive gender beliefs are analogous to fundamentalist religious beliefs. Telling progressive parents to not do that is like asking practicing Jewish parents to not circumcise their kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:48 PM
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Going on puberty blockers is not reversible either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:44 PM
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I got an explicit "if you're interested in being more than friends" once in college. More often (relatively often) a subtle "so what are you doing this weekend?" Never a concrete "Hey do you want to X at Y time?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:42 PM
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Talk about mortgages and credit cards. Never fails.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:37 PM
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I wanted to share an anecdote with you guys who love analyzing social/dating dynamics. I have plenty of friends irl, at least 3 different circles I hang out with consistently. Mostly guys though of course because I'm an engineer and I met all of them via work or gym. One of my friend's gf's (they met on Cringe) invited me to her lake house for a BBQ. Awesome, get to spend the day grilling, chilling, listening to music and swimming. I'm not kidding - every single person in attendance (except her …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:36 PM
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Hung out with some people, but didn't go out to a bar. Once you finish education your social life dries the fuck up. Pfft, tell me about it. It's particularly bitter because I was pretty social in undergrad then I moved for a job in a STEM field. Complete eye-opener.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:08 PM
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I relate to 100% of what you're saying. I'm literally in the library right now doing homework (and procrastinating) and my friends are making plans to go out and drink. I don't want to go out tonight at all, but I know it'll diminish my social circle little by little.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 09:58 PM
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I wonder how many who answered women are trans. I notice that on the internet (at least esoteric debate forums) a good 20-30% of 'women' are physiologically male who transitioned but don't mention it under the assumption we all collectively share the progressive gender paradigm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:29 PM
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I'll bite. Not 30 but in my mid 20's. In the early career spot a few years after college. I don't really care about age, because I'm starting to understand the whole "it's not looks it's attitude" comments I read online from older guys. The women I've dated who are in the same spot as I am do seem jaded. As if working for a few years has completely drained the fun out of them. I'm not even sure where to meet them anymore. They don't really seem to go out or respond on the apps. Conversations wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:54 PM
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I think you're thinking of it the wrong way. Assuming there's no fundamental self-esteem issue, a lot of guys don't hesitate to do so. I think it's a lack of opportunity that is contributing to the decline you're alluding to. I'm in a specific scenario that makes meeting people, but particularly women, difficult. It seems like there's not enough receptive young people seeking to connect with others, so I don't get many chances to ask women out outside of grinding the difficult apps. I know a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 05:26 AM
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What does "putting yourself out there" even mean? Be specific because otherwise discussing this is useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:30 PM
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We're heading towards it whether you personally do or don't want to live in that world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 04:06 PM
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There's no breaking point, that's accelerationist cope. I'll make some predictions regarding relationships though: In 200 years the nuclear family won't exist anymore. Much less local communities. Society will just be a clusterfuck of people who have relationships with others, live with some of them, and have children with some. The law will turn into a complex web to keep up with this and sort out issues like guardianship, dependency, etc. Standards of beauty will be taboo. Actually, asserting …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:54 PM
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Dude, have you seen what the average Appalachian looks like? You're comparing one of the most obese regions of the United States with one of the least obese countries in the world. I'm astounded you would unironically type out the comment you just did.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:31 PM
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How has being Brazilian affected your views on dating/romance?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:04 AM
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I don't "choose" it, that's the point I'm making. I'm average in sociability I'd say. But literally, where do I meet women? Most of my friends are coworkers, and my coworkers are 80%+ men. Gym is mostly guys, pickup sports are mostly guys, bars/clubs are mostly guys (and a terrible environment to meet people in general). The funniest part is when I do meet and befriend women, most of their friends are guys too lmao. Even women complain about the ratio where I'm at.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:51 PM
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If you seriously manage to avoid women in all these areas of life, that says something about you I have women friends, but I'm going to be real with you, I completely disagree with this. I work from home at an engineering company in a rural state. I also go to school online. The amount of women I meet on a monthly basis is like 2. Men on the other hand, I'm with them all the time everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:23 PM
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Ok, nice sarcasm. It's not so much not care what the other person might think or feel. I mean shit, if they're my friend of course I care about their well-being. But I cannot be content with regret. Conversely: Of course! Who cares what you think or feel, you've gotta look out for number one - the decorum of the social group! Never express your desires, this is a good strategy, and I recommend you pursue it to the fullest extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 05:18 PM
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Not indulge, but if I'm interested I'll let them know and then take it from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 04:35 PM
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I ignore them, carry on normally, and the feelings always go away eventually Are they feelings or did you just find them attractive? I cannot let go of feelings without a resolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 02:17 PM
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I 99% agree with you. Maybe breaking down dynamics to this level is an autistic thing, but it's worth it. Rant incoming: A generalized truth I've come across in life is that if there is potential for a relationship to form, then it's hard (impossible) to remain good friends with the opposite sex. I've had a lot of good women friends but: Either me or her or both were in a relationship Explicitly not looking for anything (really this was only in college) Attraction mismatch All of these deal with…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 02:11 PM
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You can have the best conversations with coworkers then never get invited to stuff outside of work and get brushed off when you try to make plans. Do you really get brushed off? I relate to no one taking initiative. But when I take initiative people follow along.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:27 PM
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Some, particularly those in my pledge class. I've called a few of them and went to visit once. I'm pretty confident I could reconnect with most though. I think guys can typically go long periods of time without talking and still consider each other friends. Not to think too much into it, but what's interesting is that some of my PC brothers moved in together after college since they got jobs within the same metro area. Some are roommates but all live in the same apartment complex. I moved to a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:19 PM
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I was in a fraternity in college. It was closer to 60-70, and I guess "close" is a little bit generous. But yeah, easily 50+ people I knew well enough and could hang out with individually. Probably a good 10-15, my pledge class, were close close. Then a good ~10 friends outside of greek like who I maintained connections with from dorm living freshman year were also close close.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 06:58 PM
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Yeah no shit sherlock. Where to find women friends who will do this? I have plenty of women friends. You know what the funny thing is? Even they complain about how hard it is to make new girl friends. One even said she just likes hanging out with the guys more. Hell, one of them straight up told me she "doesn't really have any friends" when trying to get me to invite her to some stuff. This strategy 100% worked in college. But ngl I kinda laughed at your advice. "Just find hot women to introduce…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:23 AM
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Trust me, you don't know life until you lived in a city where 60% of people your age are female. Then you move to a place where 70% are male. For real. There's so much theory thrown around on this sub. But really the deciding factor throughout my life above all else has been ratio. I don't even think city demographics matter a lot. It's more of your immediate surrounding. If you're in college, your major/clubs/dorm/friend group will matter. If you're working, then it's the coworkers you hang out…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 03:00 AM
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It can work either if there is none of it runs both ways. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:50 AM
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Why when women begin to dominate a certain field do salaries in that field become less competitive? More people getting into a job will suppress the wage for that job. It's not exclusively a woman thing though unless you believe those propaganda articles. The same is true for fields that saw a net influx of of workers, including (mostly male) immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:50 AM
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Bruh, barely. Wasn't a lot of PUA developed back in the bar days? Back when it was normal to go to a bar alone and talk to strangers? I want some practical real world advice for the following predicament: Single guy who graduated college and works from home at an environment that is mostly male.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:46 AM
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But for me, a huge problem is that the Red Pill holds this to be an absolute truth. The assertion that TRP ideas are universal is definitely one of the problems, I agree. Though, a lot of the more level-headed guys will concede that they talk about statistically significant observations, not ubiquitous explanations. Another one is the urge to argue topics online and cite a bunch of studies and shit. Just take the principles and apply irl. I'd like to see some more tangible and applicable takes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:31 AM
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I have not had women friends expect these things from me. At most I've given them rides to the airport, just like I give my guy friends occasionally. Yeah I do think it's hard for a single man and single woman to be good friends without one becoming attracted to the others. But you don't need to simp for any of your friends like that unless you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:17 AM
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That's a very very broad question. I can't even possibly begin to answer it unless you narrow it down a bit. But I think I know what you're getting at so I'll try: Latin America is quite a bit more 'conservative' in some senses. Gender differences are embraced way more than anglo countries. There are festivals where guys jokingly dress as women and vice versa and it's not seen as offensive but rather as humorous. The main languages (mostly Spanish but also Portuguese in Brazil) are gendered. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:37 PM
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This is such a bullshit take. South American countries are predominantly Catholic and most abortions are illegal. Yet dating and hookups are notoriously easier there. In fact, all of Latin American society is wayyyy more sexual than anglo pro-choice societies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 07:23 PM
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This has been my experience as well. Previously successful and now it's dry out there. Granted, I graduated college, went into a male-dominated industry, etc. HOWEVER, I'll echo what some of the users have said. Everyone sucks at conversation. Everyone sucks at socializing. That's one of my issues with the manosphere and redpill in general. It's easy to say that women are putting in no effort. Yes, there's some merit to that, but I think it's sexist because to be honest, I had to start cutting g…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 07:18 PM
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That's the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:13 AM
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It's a factor because people treat genders differently. It's not just about choices. Like I wrote for the other guy: In general men are just less 'in-demand' socially. You get less invites, less conversations, less interest in the vast majority of social spaces. Public events, private events, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:19 PM
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Actually, no. I think that men refusing to open up and be emotionally vulnerable is something men have to take responsibility for. Yes, society 'ostracizes' men in that way but c'mon, you still bear most of the responsibility. I'm vulnerable with my friends and encourage the same from them. I mean in general men are just less 'in-demand' socially. You get less invites, less conversations, less interest in the vast majority of social spaces. Public events, private events, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:19 PM
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This is totally bullshit. Loneliness doesn't only depend on gender but it is totally a factor in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:48 PM
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I agree I hate whiners. It's not just 'luck' though. It's systemic luck, i.e. opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 07:53 PM
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Aight, so my (mini) high school reunion went pretty well. I was the fittest, had the best job, etc. One of my best buddies from then is married now lmao. One girl had a decent glow up, but she was always pretty hot. She laughed at my jokes and did the arm touch thing. Do I go for it? She just got out of a 5 year relationship so I think I can sell it as a rebound discrete one off fling since I'm only temporarily back home for vacation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:12 AM
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This gets brought up like everyday. Probably some of both. Things in life don't always have ONE argument behind it. Yes, some people (I would actually say probably most in this case) care about trafficking, abuse, etc. But yes, I can totally see a subconscious resentment of sex work as a way to bypass courtship. Also, I think there are some moralistic conservatives who think sex is a sacred thing and shouldn't be devalued and commodified.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:04 AM
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Gonna meet up with some high school friends for the first time in like 5 years. Haven't seen them since I started college. Is there where we measure our glow ups? Should I brag about my job? One of them is literally married. The other one is still in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:29 PM
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I believe you but that doesn't answer the question. Where do you meet women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:48 PM
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100 lbs overweight, under 6 figures and own place? There has to be a catch. Where are you finding your dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:27 PM
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Link the article, I bet it's the NYT. The answer to your question is that whoever wrote this gave an accurate description of many traditional relationships - men do income-generating work, women are homemakers. But they apply an unfalsifiable moral framework to this by saying "her work and dedication still seen as lesser and easier". This is not true. Seen as lesser and easier? By whom? A patriarchal sexist strawman? While this boogeyman may or may not exist, it's not a fundamental truth. I know…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 01:45 PM
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i can dislike (or even hate) that people only treat me a certain way because they consider me to be conventionally attractive, while also using that attractiveness to my advantage. i can also feel that way and still personally enjoy my own beauty. That's a succinct summary. While this is probably not as true as exercising for guys, I think it's a good analogy. I like fitness, but also dislike that if I were too fat/skinny I would have less 'presence'. So out of curiosity - since you also mention…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 01:36 PM
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Ok, I thought you were a yuppie. I mean this in the least offensive way possible, 3 degrees and 2 jobs isn't the "overachiever" brag you think it is with the full context you have provided. Once you get a real job (not that nanny/server isn't respectable employment) I'm guessing in DC? things will get easier for you. Having said that, best of luck to you. It seems like you're working on your goals and as a healthy educated person you're already in the big leagues. No doubt find what you're looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:36 PM
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Umm if I’m an over-achiever, why exactly wouldn’t I be picky? You absolutely should. But there's no way you're simply not looking in the wrong venues. Assuming your self-description is accurate, where are you sourcing your dates? What industry do you work in? 3 degrees and 2 jobs? Be real, are you a high-earning a yuppie? Or are you collecting humanities degrees and working retail? I would kill to meet a thin 24-year-old woman at least working on something above a bachelor's (or planning to with…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:00 PM
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Bars will not be what you expect my guy. I highly recommend you go to some for the experience. But don't think it'll be like How I Met Your Mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:50 PM
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In the US, if we have socialized healthcare, then I will absolutely want to vote on these things. I don't want my tax dollars to be used for fat people. I don't trust lawyers and ethics panels. That's also undemocratic. You can't just 'leave it to the experts'.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:57 PM
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Standard as in my country it’s part of healthcare that everyone has access too, as part of the government healthcare system, and it carried out like any other procedure. It’s not some massive debate topic. It’s just a thing that happens. What country are you in? Netherlands? And it’s not controversial within the medical community. A few critics out of millions does not make a topic controversial. Fair point I guess. Idc. Now address the point about the democratic process. I have never heard a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:48 PM
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It’s not controversial in the rest of the developed world. False. Other developed countries have abortion laws, often time stricter than the US. It’s a standard part of medical practice for a variety of reasons. How tf do you even substantiate a claim like this. 'Standard part of medical practice'. Yeah okay, anything that is elective isn't. Also, 'standard' is dumb af. Trepanations were 'standard' practice at one point. Even within the medical community it is not controversial. Also false. I ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:36 PM
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Your edit is a good take. What this sub fails to mention in age-gap relationships is that they're not all equal. 18 F and 30 M guy will probably be abusive indeed. I've seen 16 F and 25 M guys which I think is disgusting. On the other hand, I have an uncle who is in a 25 F - 50 M relationship (when he's not dating 3 women at a time). I can't blame him, but older women including my mom and aunts sure do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:30 PM
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In the USA TODAY abortion is now being made illegal again in multiple states. This one doesn't fit the others. Abortion is a controversial medical procedure like a lobotomy and people feel strongly about the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:18 PM
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The point of the OP is that this gender disparity is across the board in any context. Even for private dinner parties/gatherings, women are less invested and more flakey. Yup, this has been my experience. TLDR is that gender disparity is uneven across the board (except for a brief period in time in college if you're in the right social circles). Which renders the whole "go touch grass" and "meet people irl" advice useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:21 PM
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Yeah, I'm starting to see the picture. My lifestyle is great, but I talk to like 0.3 new single women per week. 0.015 of them are viable lmao. Looks like I'm doubling down on gym and getting better photos next year. Any tips for professional photographers?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 03:17 AM
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This is what it seems like. I have a high-quality circle of guy friends. I'm pretty fit currently but I'll be reasonably optimized in like 6 months. Pro pics + membership + introduce her to solid guy friends seems to be the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:17 PM
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Exactly the same at my school and my chapter. No rules on the books about it (though, other chapters did) but the sheer amount of pressure and 'shaming' if you brought guys and no girls was insane. Everyone made an effort to shotgun invites to the women in their classes, clubs, etc. and append it with "invite your friends too!". Friends of brothers on an ad hoc basis. Single guys lmao no chance. Though, this strategy doesn't work after graduation. Most of my guy friends today put in no effort an…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:13 PM
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Book clubs are great. My local library hosts them online though LMAO. Which is exactly what I'm talking about. Modern society is so isolating. Yoga is fun. Spirituality events are not for me. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:39 PM
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Disagree. It's a chicken and Egg situation. I'm forced to be contrived because the ratio is bad. Not the ratio is bad because I can't let go. The nights I've let go and had an "open invite" (I'll drop plans in all my group chats / invite everyone) it almost always ends up being overwhelmingly nerdy guys. The nights it's a balanced event is where I went out of my way to over invite women and under invite guys. Funnily enough, one of my friends started dating another friend after one of these cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:38 PM
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Where do you "go"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:10 PM
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I appreciate your perspective. That was the case for me as well in undergrad. But like I said, I was in a frat and in general that was a college bubble. I think I made an effort to develop a social circle outside of my STEM major and that lead to a healthier balance. The gender bias ticked way up after graduating to an unprecedented level (to me anyway). Most of my extended friend group bonded because we all work for the same company + a few gym bros we met along the way. So 90% guys. It's funny…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:06 PM
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Bars aren't impossible. I've gotten a few numbers and Insta's. Following up is really really hard though. Spaces like school, extracurricular clubs, social circle of friend groups are better generally I think. But generally when women say OLD "isn't real dating" and tell men to go meet women irl, they do tend to underestimate some of the things you've described. There's a reason girls get into clubs for free lol Yup. Thanks for putting it succinctly. I mostly work from home for an engineering fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:58 PM
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Being comfortable socially is the key in almost every meeting people situation. Yes but with an asterisk. Genuinely having fun in my experience is the key socially. But like I mentioned in another comment, if you want to date and meet people then the other key is hanging around a bunch of socially calibrated well-meaning people in a mixed gender group. At the very least the keys are tied.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:55 PM
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This is true. The amount of attention I get when hanging out with some girl friends is way higher than if I go out with a bunch of guys. That's not the only factor, but easily the biggest factor. Having a good time and luck are tied for second. Focusing on having quality girl friends is important. Introducing them into your social circle is difficult I've found, but that's another topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:53 PM
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It's hard to find quality open minded guy friends. All they do is smoke weed and play video games. This guy and his girlfriend were super chill, even if they're vegetarians.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 05:53 PM
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Haven't tried that. It's on my bucket list, there's some nearby.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 04:36 PM
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The first one is an expensive scam designed to damage your rotator cuffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:07 PM
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Yeah. I actually enjoy Yoga. I hate dancing. One local franchise I went too with my vegetarian tame impala ipa friend (we got a week of free yoga) was really nice. The instructors were great, the hot yoga studios were amazing. Both the men and women looked really attractive (for the most part lmao) and were chill to be around. Too bad the actual membership is pretty expensive. My gym also has yoga and I go there quite a bit. People are a bit older on average. Though, it's impossible to strike up…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:04 PM
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Are dancing and yoga really the only irl activities with a good gender ratio?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:49 PM
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My take is that abortion doesn't really matter. I've dated in a country where abortion is illegal but it was a hell of a lot easier to get laid, and I've struggled to date in a blue state in the US. Culture matters a lot more than law. Also, data collection seems flawed. Didn't disclose how they sampled their group.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:57 AM
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So if I plan to start my own family with a woman I meet. Then hopefully she also sees that I may be a great family man, because for a lot of us, that’s the point right? I agree. I'm also really family-oriented and that's my end goal. Actually, I really appreciate how you think because so far it seems to be all the exact conclusions I've come to. But I'm going to be a little cynical and cruel, and add a stipulation I don't see mentioned often: The feeling is I want to be "good enough" to start th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:03 PM
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And the most important in my mind any man who seems to be upset or spiteful that he’s more attractive today then he was in the past instead of being cool with the women who now find him attractive. There’s soo many men who seem to want to punish women today because the women when he was younger didn’t like him, rather then recognizing that this new women here today in front of you finds you attractive. Easier said than done lol. Bitterness is a one way street. Knowing you didn't really get the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:50 PM
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That's a good question, you didn't come off as brute at all. You're probably just misunderstanding my objective. It's like you said. It's about parsing and processing interpersonal relationships. But I'll also add - interpersonal relationships as it relates to the sexual dynamics between the genders For that reason I want the woman perspective too. That's why this place is better than TRP, ASKTRP, etc. Those are all just echo chambers. The differing perspectives here add to the thoughts. Having …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:37 PM
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Parsing and processing interpersonal relations is a hobby of ours. Not to do the whole "weh male are victims" sthick again. But I find it absolutely fascinating, and a little envious, that for you this is just a hobby. For me it's literally a necessity if I want to have a shot at all of a romantic life after college.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:10 PM
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Correct, but then you went on to distinguish between poor and rich, but it's not that simplistic. Can't read Marx into everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:38 AM
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I work now and know a lot of people still hanging out with high school friends /childhood friends occasionally. Hell, I still see some HS friends when I go back home. It's rarer but it makes a difference personally knowing at least one person in a city.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:36 AM
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The poor and the rich have completely different partnering strategies. Yes, but imo education/industry is more of a factor. A plumber can make more than a lawyer these days (especially factoring in the debt), but it's not raw income it's the type of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:27 AM
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30's, I'm not sure. What I see is that a lot of guys will have their hometown friends, then the friends they made in college. In their 20's many go back to their hometown to work and reconnect with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:24 AM
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This just in, its easier to find people when the dating pool is larger and you are near people your age. Its got nothing to do with "male dominated" its to do with "population density". Totally disagree. I'm near a bunch of young single people my age, but they're mostly guys. Such is STEM.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:06 PM
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Yup, you've got it. Particularly painful when you do the opposite: go from big city to smaller suburb. Can't change your view since there's nothing to change. Though, I will add it's not just the population size but also the culture. Seattle is almost twice as big as Miami, but has the infamous Seattle freeze. Miami is known for being a sensual place. But yeah overall, size and ratio are really important.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:06 PM
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It's only controversial because of religion, which we're not supposed to use to make laws. This is so naïve. You can use whatever justification you'd like to craft legislation. Traditional Orthodox Christianity is as valid of a reason as Radical Communist Feminism to think "I will vote XYZ because I believe in ". The outcome of a vote is what matters, not the subjective reasoning behind it. Prohibition of theft stems from Judeo-Christian values. You're not free from religion then either. Religio…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:01 PM
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That's too simplistic of a take. It's the right attitude, but the chances of you and someone else "getting along and both liking each other" goes up if you do/are some things. There's no way to reconcile your belief with common self-improvement advice. What do you even think the point of advice is? Yeh the RP charts/graphs are cringe but so is your take.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:28 PM
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Sort of unrelated but I don't care about the dimorphic dynamics of abortion too much. Responsibility, consequences, shame, murder, religion, liberation, autonomy blah blah blah I wanted Roe v. Wade gone because we live in a democracy and in a democracy people should vote for things. Not have them decided by judges. Abortion is a thing. A medical procedure to be exact. A controversial medical procedure. Things should be voted on, and that includes things like controversial medical procedures.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:16 PM
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I think people are much better off taking things like human relationships as they come as opposed to trying to force fit them into a social science that isn’t even trying to. I agree with your conclusion but don't understand why you believe drawing parallels to economics is wrong/bad/dehumanizing/incompatible. You mention it yourself, economics is a social science. Just like sociology, psychology, history, anthropology etc. It studies people in social settings, and dating is a product of social …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:13 PM
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I lived in South America for part of my life and half my family is Argentinean. Yeah, technology is the same but the culture isn't. I """struggled""" (different type of struggle, really) way less in SA than the US. Argentina has one of the biggest machismo cultures in the world btw, and I actually think that's mostly a positive. Your current guy is a feminist in name only. Nowhere near comparable to the US in my opinion. Either way, I don't think If you struggle there, you are going to struggle …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:49 AM
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He absolutely has a point and he obviously meant West as Anglo-West.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:58 PM
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Deflated social value. I don't get invited nearly as much to places/things as I'd like. I have to take the initiative for most social interactions, individually and as a group. Tough to make friends, even tougher to make friends with women. Have to pay more for public events (which usually suck for meaningful connection). Hell, it's amazing how night and day the difference is if I go out with just the bros vs. a mixed group. The amount of engagement I get in the latter is insane. Shit gets old t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:19 PM
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5'5" 180 lbs is pushing it. I see your point that some women carry weight well (as do some men), but that's a pretty extreme example. I'm 5'11" 185 lbs and I'd say I'm not a skinny guy. Any examples besides the one you don't want to link?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:52 PM
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How much of the toxicity in the modern dating world is because people are constantly, compulsively comparing themselves to the people around them? The adverbs you used here are more important than "comparison" itself. Comparison is a great tool that can help you tremendously. But you need to employ it occasionally, realistically, and with the objective of learning. Redpill: Compares with resentment, bitterness, and with the goal of finding injustices over solutions. Bluepill: Does not believe in…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:29 PM
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I know there's a "curvy" aesthetic and I can see how it might be correlated to culture. But obesity is just gross. I imagine you're referring to the Calvin Klein ad. It's disgusting and I'm positive that the people in charge did it because the woke points outweighed the visually pleasing points.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:11 PM
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Not sure I agree that they’re “attracted”. Seems more like those men are desperate. They need their dick wet so hard that they’re willing to fuck a fat girl but only in secret. The number of guys who are genuinely attracted but don’t want to deal with the “crushing social stigma” is probably pretty low. And in that case, they’re pussies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:46 PM
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I see a lot of young overweight couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:40 PM
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This thread gets posted every week. For good reason I guess, it's a sore point. I think it's just a difference of communication, because really, it depends. Is it, "Nah, I've tried it before and I don't really like it. Wanna try something else?" Or is it, "Yeah, it was pretty good. But I don't wanna do it with you because I like you too much." Same 'scenario' at face value but vastly different connotations. I've experienced both in my life. I think that a lot of redpillers don't see how they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:09 PM
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Let me concede upfront that I understand that there are some relationships that are completely lopsided. Usually among young unexperienced couples where on member is pussy/dick-whipped. But for the average relationships I don't think you can quantify those gains. Do you ballpark it or is it like "damn, she's gaining >5% more out of the relationship than I am, that's a problem"?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:21 PM
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How is it that you don't even consider the possibility that both can gain from a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:15 PM
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Yes. I like ideas in general and while not as addicting as stuff like partisan politics, it's fun to 'discuss' gender as sort of a sub-genre of it. Especially because unlike politics, gender has its application irl. The important thing is that there is fruitful debate without the pressure of being politically correct/taboo. If you browse TRP or the manosphere forums you'll run into some of the most retarded takes ever, many of which were clearly typed up to be purposefully edgy. On the other han…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:50 PM
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Lol, I forget people can't read sarcasm on the internet. I was agreeing with you. Being a man or a woman is fundamental, and as you say, it affects the way you're brought up. Not only that, but I'll go a step further and say that even fully transitioned people will never be their transitioned gender "fully" outside of progressive circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:31 AM
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Probably. That's why these internet forums exist in the first place. For all the cringe and exaggeration, it's at least a space where people can talk honestly about gender without the inhibitions of polite society (or worse, political correctness lol) because of anonymity. Having said that, because of anonymity there's a lot of bullshit, confirmation bias, deliberate bad-faith, etc. Also, it's not like previous generations lack intellectual curiosity (and cynicism). I'm sure most guys have had t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:29 AM
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A little transphobic, but I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:24 AM
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There’s a lot of value in conserving things without “idk the pastor said it was good lol”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:36 PM
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